Why Do Smart People Struggle With Anxiety?
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- Опубликовано: 7 июн 2024
- What is it about smart people or highly intelligent people that causes them to deal with anxiety on a daily basis? How is it that these capable high-achievers can figure out so many things in their lives, but somehow they can’t get their heads around this?
That’s what we’re talking about in today’s video. Be sure and leave me a comment to let me know your thoughts on this topic!
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-- Why Do Smart People Struggle With Anxiety? --
You are smart, you are capable and you have figured things out.
You’ve had some success in life -- maybe even a lot of success -- but somehow you can’t seem to figure this out.
What is it?
ANXIETY.
a.k.a. chronic worry.
a.k.a. a persistent sense of not-quite-right-ness.
a.k.a. a general cloud of never enough-ness that follows you everywhere.
a.k.a. that dark and lonely ache of being stuck and frustrated and feeling like a no-good has-been failure no matter how much you achieve.
It seems like no matter what you do, no matter how much you learn, and no matter how hard you try to wrangle your thoughts…
That persistent sense of unease, that deep sense of foreboding, that giant knot in your gut just won’t let go.
In fact, rather than you getting a grip on your anxious feelings, it feels like the anxiety has a grip on you!
Why is this?
Why is it that smart, capable, successful high achievers can have their dream life on paper but still deal with anxiety or anxious feelings that won’t go away?
That’s what we’re talking about in today’s video. I’ll cover:
the surprising stats on the link between intelligence and anxiety
what “high intelligence” actually is (hint: it’s not your IQ)
the reason you smart people often feel different from “normal” people (what is normal anyway?)
and what you need to know about resolving these anxious feelings for good
Click play to watch and be sure to leave me a comment to let me know what you think!
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Thanks for watching! What's YOUR experience with experiencing anxiety in your life?
Where are you located?
mine started as a child and as an adult got more severe, went on xanax for a long time, weaned off but still struggle with it.
struggled for over 20 years, deep thinking isn't always a good thing, I wish I could turn it off.
I feel like I'm always in an adrenaline rush. always uncomfortable in my skin, feeling fear & anxiety. even when it lowers, its's always there, like a vibrational tremor.
Seems like the more I express my intelligence (BA, MA, PhD, professorship, writing, etc), the more anxious I get, and I also have a lot of sensory issues and allergic rhinitis.
I’ve come to the conclusion, that my severe anxiety makes me appear smarter than I actually am. Because of the over analyzation and hyper self awareness, you are able to perceive things others don’t; draw conclusions that others would not expend the brain power in doing.
You sound pretty smart to me lol
I think this is quite true.
For me generalized anxiety disorder and depression destroyed my life.
I'm very smart , and too stupid at the same time ..
Can't find my goal ..I get bored easily , can't overcome my mental struggles ,
I wish I was NORMAL just like average people ..they study , work ..love routine , small talks and boring tasks , that's why they succeed . 🙄
You just described me!
@@FireWork-nc8ib
This is truth 🤝💛
I feel most intelligent people feel as if THIS way of Life is not the true way we, as humans, were designed to live...
This is what belies the feeling of disconnect.
is it really though ?:P you bring up an interesting point. To me my anxiety is debilitating yet im also highly gifted in almost every thing I do. It is almost as if life balances a person out, yin yang.
I absolutely agree with you. There is no ‘mental health’ issues in indigenous tribes. Civilised societies isolate individuals way too much, hence feeling disconnected from everything and everyone around you and soaring rates of anxiety and depression.
Yeah that's why my friend lives ves in a shed with nothing perfect health
@@remon563
Hmm...That sounds as if its either a glimpse inro your narcissism or you're lying to yourself!
Or perhaps, both!
For how can a contemptuous, corrupt, Dog-eat-Dog Society "Balance" anyone?
This was Man-made :
Manufactured & constructed out of power & greed and as far away from being Natural as can be imagined!
Sure it didnt start-off this way but the gnawing grips of domination has surely seethed its way thru as Slavery never ended- it just evolved to encompass US ALL.
School , college , boring job ..
This ESTJ world isn't for me .😢
“Smart people attend to data differently” - absolutely makes sense now. Thanks for these videos, you’re amazing!
Thanks, Sangeetha, I appreciate you watching!
What if we developed this hyper attention/intelligence because of trauma where we coped by being hyper attentive!? Makes sense. Thank you
What if, indeed. It makes sense to you, so what was the point of your comment?
@@PostPatriot self analysis is not constant and you can not change the nervous system over night
@@TheNuclearBolton but it CAN change right? We aren’t stuck like this?
@@TheNuclearBolton No shit captain obvious. At the time, I asked why the commenter made the comment just to answer themselves. It's illogical.
It's also a little dumb to answer a question meant to be meditated on like it needed some youtuber to answer its for everyone.
This !!!
I’d rather be stupid and tranquil than smart and carrying around this feeling of a hot poker/elephant foot on my chest forever.
Don't you just admire those people who seem blissfully unaware? They always seem a little dense too, LOL but I'm always just a bit envious of them.
Well, being “stupid and tranquil” can actually kill you. I prefer to be smart than dumb.
@@cor3944 nah, true idiots seem to flourish and that’s the paradox.
@@piperhurtado4945 no paradox at all. I don‘t want to be a - useful - idiot, being manipulated by others to their goals. And by the way, „stupids and tranquils“ can also get driven into anxiety by fearporn BECAUSE they are STUPID!
If I had a dollar for every time I said "I wish I was stupid" we could all retire.
My experience with anxiety has been a 12 year struggle to keep myself functioning. In that time frame I have done therapy, meditation, weight training, running, biking and medication. While I have had temporary windows of resolution from my anxiety I inevitably end up starting to fall back into my old habits and constantly searching for solutions to my somatic and emotional symptoms that keep returning. I have always been hopeful that I might find some lasting relief to this irrational anxiety that plagues me, but I feel like I will never be free of this inappropriate anxiety so I can fully enjoy my life again, it is very frustrating mentally, physically and emotionally.
Hey same here. Wishing you the best. Things are going better each time around as I get more skills. The negative feelings return but my ability to cope, communicate and find support improves. I hope the same goes for you.
Try magnesium citrate. Google an article by dr Mark Hyman on magnesium
I have never heard someone describe in such vivid terms the very things I have experienced most of my life.
I found your channel only a few days ago and the polyvagal theory is the thing that finally made my life make sense to me. When I am stressed I know the feeling is in the body and yet the people around me insisted on adressing my thoughts, which ofcourse only frustrated me. I have begun to try to reconnect to my body and I feel so much better already! I am cautiously hopeful for the future for the first time in years, and am ready to find more meaning and less anxiety in my life. Thank you so much for your work!
That's wonderful to hear, Nox! Thanks for watching and for sharing your experience.
That is exactly how how feel. The horrible feeling starts in my body since i was a child, even in happy times, it didn't make sense. Where did it come from?, and if i said something about my feeling people used to laugh and say: why you so worry about?, relax is all in your mind. Until now i am 38 years old and with severe physical symptoms in liver and most of my organs now and when i heard the polyvagal theory yesterday actually, it made sense. Not sure how to reconnect to my body. How do you do that?
@@yasnitac82 It's such a shame that it isnt a more widespread theory yet! I hope you can find ways to feel better.
For me, I tried the somatic meditation videos and found that it really made me relax my muscles and I really just felt the need to move around. Since then I make sure to pay attention to what my body is doing and how it feels. I wiggle my toes, correct my posture, listen to whatever I can hear, let my gaze wander around the room etc during my regular daily activities. I tune in to my senses where I would otherwise tune out and do things automatically like a zombie. It has felt very intuitive to me.
@@Nox934 Thanks so much for you reply, i really aprecciate it . I've been trying to practice the present moment, where i focus in what im feeling or sense in the present moment. For example if im washing the dishes i try to feel the water in my hands, the texture of the plates, etc. Also when i cought myself in the automatic thinking i try to focus in the present moment. I haven't feel much relieve yet but i hope that should help. Thanks for your recomendations =) x
@@SukieBaxter Video made a lot of sense in understanding myself & how I attend to data all around me creating my anxiety. So, I know this video is a year old, but I couldn't find any link to an application & maybe it expired. Says the link is broken & my browser says unsafe in the URL bar.
I'm from Pakistan. My father passed away when I was 10, and I developed religious OCD after that.
All of my school, college and university life ,which is supposed to be the best period of one's life, was a tormenting experience.
After getting to know that all my devotion towards my god was just a disease called OCD, I turned to atheism but now without god I've fallen into existential crisis and severe depression. Also since an year I'm struggling with severe depersonalisation/derealization, nothing seems to be real, none of my experiences seem real. It's scary!
Nothing in life seems to carry any meaning and does not feel fun anymore.
But your channel gives me hope that I can again be on track for a happy, healthy life.
thank you for sharing your story. i can see that you are seeking answers and that is a good sign even thought things are painful and difficult. it is a loving and brave thing to question and seek this for yourself.
I hope you can find some solidity in your life. These days, nature is my sanctuary. Perhaps it bring you peace as well.
Please look into Jesus.
Tariq Ali is from Pakistan and his parents were quite unusual because they were atheists. His stories about his religious education are truly funny. He came to appreciate the cultural aspects of his religion and heritage, while finding a kind of peaceful place spiritually, without needing to be certain about the things that no one knows. And he is such a great writer!
I can understand your experience, and just to let you know, you're not alone. My advice is for you to read more about history (I used to hate history in school) but I came to realise that history helps us tremendously at understanding the full human experience. You got into existential crisis after disbelieving in God, read history to understand why you're feeling like that, why did humans create religion, religion isn't actually a bad thing, it exists for a very specific reason related to human nature. Read the history of religion and Philosophy. Trust me it'll open your eyes. I'm pretty sure you're feeling all these feelings because you lack a lot of answers and I think in reading human history (especially Philosophy) will help anchor you back to reality, because your previous religious reality has been shattered.
Omg you’re a lifesaver!!!! I’ve been painfully going through my spiritual awakening for 2 years, chakra clearing, shadowork your practical exercizers are awesome. As a former dancer, at age 51 I felt I am falling apart, super successful biz lady ... I”m writing a book/movie Gaslight Harmonies on being a victim of a narcissist, domestic violence, empath, spiritual awakening , parental alienation, as all I suffer from PTSD and my adhd “diagnosis” is really more likely Mensa... anyways, love you girl!!!
So you’ve been using quack therapy then
@@MrCostaC
If it helps what does it matter?
@@jmc8076 - because it spreads to other people who won’t benefit from it because it doesn’t work. That’s why.
Because smart and successful people are often a bit of control junkies so sense on uncertainty freaks out out, plus there is an underline fear of failure, even if it is not rally failure but i think it hits them even harder.
I think that the need to control is a coping mechanism for underlying feelings of uncertainty and unease. I don't necessarily think that all smart people are inherently control junkies, but those who experience chronic, low-level anxiety may find that a sense of control mitigates their discomfort.
@@SukieBaxter I think you are right Sukie. How do we deal with this almost OCD controlling behaviour ?
among people diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder, high IQ scores were associated with high levels of worry👍
Left handed People have a High IQ' also too and 60% of the Left handed have GAD Anxiety/OCD/IBS/PTSD/Health Anxiety ( when Healthy )..
Daily Dose of Medicine - yep!
@@LOVERLYBLUEEYES Interesting! Thanks for sharing those facts!
@@LOVERLYBLUEEYES Should I learn to write right handed then? Because I match almost all of those things you mentioned except IBS.
IQ of 156 seems such a curse. I wish I could turn off those spinning thoughts 🤯 At least I’m right handed! 🤦🏼♀️
This makes so much sense to me. Thank you so much for naming what I have struggled with for years. I have never heard anyone describe my thought patterns so accurately. What calming and lovely scenery of the walk too. Thank you for this gift.
I agree. This little video meant a lot and made some serious connections for me.
Since my anxiety has been high, my allergies have increased as well so it's very interesting that you mentioned that in this video. Wow.
Oh yes stress causes all these I do recommend nettle tablets though wile you lower stress
Love the way the video starts with just a organic motif. I like the way it blends with the topic and just mundane walking 🚶♀️, nature and the natural ambiance. Great job 👍🏼
Fascinating - you communicate these areas of psychology so effectively. Love the chatty accessible manner - Thanks
For some reason, your upload attracted me somehow and I clicked the video and watched it. I can say that your explanation describes my whole situation related to anxiety. Sometimes, I was really worried about my such high level of anxiety and thought that am I at the threshold of depression... But, now,
I know that it is a common phenomena among the some group of ppl.
Really appreciate your video... Thank you...
By the way, thank you for your channel. Your perspective is so on point and digestable. I have recently become a certified Trauma Informed Care Champion here in Ohio. I have already tagged so many of your videos for the people I work with and serve, to tap into. Keep on inspiring. You have a new lifelong fan of your channel.😃
I have no words to thank you. How u inspired and helped me to cope up with the anxiety curse i have. I really really appreciate your work. Keep up the good work.
Gratitude releases anxiety. If you feel that all you do depends on you, when have you done enough to be valuable? Anxiety! What is enough? What is meaning of achievement? Anxiety!
Gratitude
What an utterly fantastic person. Thank you so much for this content 🥰❤️🔥
Wow I just discovered your channel yesterday, when I was driving home from work and had a huge panic attack and stooped the car at the parking lot. Then I listened to some videos and the attack was gone. This was absolutely warming. I hadn't this kind of relief for weeks 🥰😍😍thank you
Lots of love from germany🇩🇪
Important info... regarding anxiety; it can have huge implications across a range of contexts. Ledoux has done some great work on anxiety and the relation of anxiety and various other physiological and psychological outcomes. Also, Sian Beilick has produced some valuable work in regards to anxiety / excessive anxiety and sports and academic performance. Good video!
This is excellent content! Thank you.
Thank you so much! I’m a succesful academic in my 50’s, and my anxiety is higher than ever 😢 You explained everything so well, it gave me a lot to think about.
It did look like a beautiful day! Well, my first ever experience with anxiety occurred in college. It wasn’t because of the workload and the pressures of school. Instead, I began experiencing major panic attacks due to the passing of my dad. He passed away the very morning of my first day in college. It was the most difficult experience I ever had to deal with. I continue to struggle with this loss but I have been able to control the anxiety. I’m at peace with my mental health. It’s all about perspective and self love.
I wish you could keep on producing these videos. You really are the best therapist
It looks so beautiful where you live, I can't believe it!!! Thank you for your wonderful and fascinating videos ( I have only recently discovered your channel so I have listened to about 5 videos and I am going to listen to the whole lot!!).
Love this outdoor video and your amazing wisdom❤
So I'm TOO smart! Considering my anxiety... I wish I was a little dumber. Thanks, again, for the work you are doing, and sharing.
Wow I just had a major Aha-Moment because I had no idea that synesthesia is a thing! 😅 I was all, whoa, so this isn’t a weird thing about me seeing numbers and vowels and people in colors?! That was very enlightening, thank you! I came to your channel because I deal with CPTSD and also ptsd after a mild covid-19 infection and a laparascopy shortly after that so trauma is still in my body. I do trauma therapy (lifespan integration) but also do my “own” work, which lead me to the polyvagal theory that makes lots of sense and your excercises turn out to be incredibly helpful. So thank you! Your content is much much appreciated! 🙏🏻💜
I am 53 and I still suffer from anxiety. I am a very intense and detailed person. I have vivid dreams every day.
Me too. All you said. I am also 53. 🤔
Sukie I am realky thankful to you. ❤
I admire the effort you put into your videos 🙏 i just started the body based exercise to the vagus nerve & i hope this would be some help to reduce my anxiety symptoms.. Many thanks for your help
You’re welcome and thank YOU for watching! 🙏
I specialize in working with the underserved special needs of divergent populations and I include gifted people, empaths, intuitives and psychics in this, I am really happy to see this and loved it. All of those things apply to me too. Thanks for contributing your take to the conversation.
Thank you for taking me outside today, 100% rain in my neck of the woods this morning!
As a lifelong resident of the Pacific Northwest, I know how important it is to take advantage of those few non-rainy days in the winter! I hope that you get some clear skies out your way soon.
@@SukieBaxter hehe how funny, that’s where I’m at! We should have some sunny days here soon. ☺️
@@nicoleonfeels Too funny! I'll look forward to the sunshine!
Thank you for your channel !
Thanks a lot for sharing !
You’re a gem. Thank you.
I just found u I’m loving the content it helps me. Thank you 🙏
You are so welcome, Liz, I'm glad you found your way here!
Hi Sukie - It was just yesterday (Dec 20, 2020) that I felt anxiety while sorting through old clothing and I didn't know why. I had thought there was self-criticism occurring through memories being triggered by the clothing items. Through that journalling, I rediscovered my feelings of being trapped in my current location - in my apartment, it feels like I'm living above my parents which is unpleasant for myself. It's not all bad, kind of like having exposure therapy.
From there, I learned about what you're referring to - the constant pursuit of the next goal(s). One of my solutions, as I'm practicing it, is to be happy in the now, with what I have. Being grateful for things like my own washer and dryer, walls to keep out the elements (especially with winter here now - happy Winter Solstice ;) ) and enjoying the small day-to-day achievements. New goals will keep coming, such is life and being ambitious. Yet, for myself, it helps to view life as a place to play, rather than viewing it as "things to be achieved" because that leads to feeling like life's a prison - constantly pushing to get things done; that's reflected in our culture too.
As for the clothing - I finished it off this morning and monitored my body's reaction. Still had to pause and breath / slow down at times and it became more enjoyable as a house cleaning / organizing activity for a more comfortable environment - something that slipped away from me over the years from a fast paced lifestyle.
I love this, D.D. Thank you so much for sharing. Yes, it's hard to be here in the now and grateful for what we have, but also so essential. Thank you for watching and being a part of this community.
"it helps to view llife as a place to play". What an amazing an potentially life changing perspective. Good luck and thanks for sharing!
Hi Sukie, I've only just found your channel and I'm so glad I did, I'd really be interested in helping if that's at all possible? Thank you so much for such an amazingly informative and validating video.
As Charlie Brown said to Lucy during his therapeutic session ... "That's it!!" Thanks for addressing this. It explains a great deal for me.
I just discovered your videos I hope you come out with more videos. Your videos so far are helping me alot and I've only been at it for about a week
Sukie, you are amazing. Tried to book a call but that link isn't working. What you said about feeling unease... doom... i've dealt with that for years primarily at night... would love to connect, you're brilliant!
Hi Sukie I’ve just discovered your videos and am finding them so informative and reassuring, especially the comments section. I just wondered whether you could talk about cortisol and how it’s responsible for a lot of our ‘bad’ feelings, for example it’s probably the hormone responsible for the horse seeking water. In humans, if our basic needs are met, how do we switch it off? Thanks for your excellent teaching 👍🤩
I agree with you about IQ being problematic, but it was valid for you to use it the way you did here. Having a high score on that test is a particular performance that our society labels as "successful." Without labeling the person who had that performance "intelligent," we can talk about the correlation between that performance and pervasive anxiety.
Saving my life girl🙏
That’s a really informative video Sukie. I’d recommend you adjust your audio level between segments to make them equal. Nice scenery. You’re lucky to be close to the Ocean like that 🙂
Overthink is both Blessing and Curse to Human Mind 🥴
I found You through your other video about the vagus nerve and anxiety.
So this is my second video I'm watching of yours, and I feel like you are a friend. There's something about You❣️ that resonates with Me✌️😊
Nice to meet You! ((HuG))
I am really glad you came to warwick schillers podcast so I discovered your videos. I am exactly the person you describe and it really helped me :)
Good! I'm so glad you found your way here, Stefan!
luv yaaaaaaaaao, for de words yaaaaaao begun dis vid !!!
Thank you! Multiple chemical sensitivity #mcs to chemicals in perfume and fragrance too!
Come from traumatic childhood. Wondered if I developed anxiety pattern from that. I've noticed the link between my allergies and my anxiety. Becoming more aware and doing things like exercise, meditation, spending time with friends is helpful. Also a hot shower before bedtime helps me to sleep better. Understand it causes histamines to come to surface and stop forming.
Just found you this week....thank you...alot of your talk & my tensions are coming together....your very calming also...how can you have any problems waking that beautiful beach...😄
It's lovely there, right? I'm glad you found your way here!
Hi there, 😢 Now, here's the exciting part: the program is almost ready for launch! I'm projecting completion between July and August this year (there were some unexpected delays, but we're back on track).
Thank you...
Strong link between hypermobility, anxiety and intelligence
I struggle with RA,why do they say this disease is brought on by Stress or Trauma, when it is actually believed to come from poor gut health?Anxiety is something I deal with often.Anxiety seems to come when everything is perfect, almost like things are to perfect and something is going to go wrong, and one doesnt know what is going to go wrong, and the not knowing is what heightens the anxiety
Yes, physiology is complex. Gut health is very important. One thing to know about stress is that if your body gets stuck in autonomic arousal (fight or flight or even the shutdown response) then digestion can be impaired. So, that's one factor to consider. There are others, of course, such as nutrition, gut microbiome, etc. But the long and the short of it is that everything is all connected and nervous system health is imperative to mental and physical well being -- in addition to other factors, of course.
@@SukieBaxter I am in South Africa, age 48, my Doctor told me today, RA cant be healed through having correct gut microbiome, I have started Lectin free diet, these Doctors can be so backward only believing in modern medicine and chemicals
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Well, I'm no doctor, but I've never known a healthy gut to worsen any health condition. It may not resolve RA symptoms completely, but I imagine it could only improve your overall health and wellbeing.
@@tailsntrails thank you, I am also in that process
Thank you
Very interesting. As a side I’m not a fan of labels. IMHO too many now. FWIW:
“The ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence.
Thought is so cunning, so clever, that it distorts everything for its own convenience.”
- Jiddu Krishnamurti
Let's appreciate the view ✨❤️
Beautiful place
Thanks, I love it here!
I just found your channel yesterday and have been binge watching your videos. I'm curious to know your opinion on how gratitude affects the body and nervous system. I'm talking deep gratitude that involves emotion and changes in the body, not surface gratitude that we just skim over with a quick "thanks"...I know that is sort of off topic as your approach seems to be more releasing trauma emotion through physical means...I'm curious how gratitude accumulates in the body and nervous system over time, and if that somehow can help regulate stress reaction in the body?
Great question, sare. I have been interested in the research on gratitude practices and from what I've read, gratitude shows many positive effects for both mental and physical health. However, it seems to affect people differently depending on how they are wired. There is also some research that over-emphasizing gratitude practices like journaling can sort of "numb" people to the effects. And gratitude can actually cause a person to stay in a bad situation rather than leave it because they fail to acknowledge toxicity when they're only allowing themselves to look at the positive. I think that genuine gratitude -- not that which is used to gloss over uncomfortable or unpleasant emotions -- is extremely beneficial and helps to create that sense of safety that allows us to access more joy, happiness and connection to other people. But contrived or forced gratitude probably doesn't do much to benefit us, and could potentially be harmful.
@@SukieBaxter Absolutely agree with your thoughts on gratitude.
Once you got to the "meat" of your question, this video really struck a nerve with some epiphany. For me, it also crosses over with those of us with "empath" personalities (in it's psychological definition--I'm not too keen on the new age-y definitions.)
Like someone else pointed out below: ignorance is truly bliss. Intellect opens up some ugly doors to the world and it's workings and this can be downright difficult to process slowly and without negative emotion creeping in. If you add "empath" traits into the mix; this over-processing generally becomes completely toxic.
Because ignorance really is bliss. That saying is spot on. The more complexity in your thinking the more you can find things to stress/worry about. Sometimes I wish I could be dumb. Life seems a lot simpler for them.
I have pretty severe OCD and perfectionism.
I also now have dysautonomia in the form of POTs I am so interested in your course
Im definitely stuck in hyper arousal. Im always anxious
Hey Amber, sorry to hear that you're dealing with these symptoms. I look forward to talking with you and learning more.
@@SukieBaxter i sent in an application, I'm excited to speak with you!
Where can I find more resources on the 12 week program for Nervous System Hygiene? The video is 2+ years old and that sounds like something I would benefit from greatly.
Yes agree more intelligent can also be hypersensitive to other peoples emotions as well...Theres also research with stem cells showing mothers can pick up on there childrens emotions around the world etc....I seem.tp.have hyper awaremess ..We are also not designed to sit all day and may be anxious with EMF etc..
The feeling in my chest / uneasiness is literally the worst thing ever I can't live the rest of my life like this
Mine too 😢
Know the feeling.
Constantly health based anxiety about things that aren’t happening to me. CT scans pick up nothing and bloodwork is all good the only thing I haven’t done is a brain mri or eeg.
Much of this makes sense, and relates to my Masters thesis, however, after leaving a home filled with toxic mold, I completed a full battery of allergy tests, only to discover I had none, not even seasonal pollen allergies, which so many people seem to have…Nothing! So, I’m wondering if that is a disqualifying factor in this theory? Other than somatic reactivity, in the form of allergies, I relate to all else, and am highly physically reactive in other ways, such as tickling, touches, patellar reflex, etc. So, was just wondering what you thought along those lines? Thx.
Because they think too much because they are always trying to understand and over analyze everything. But I know that’s too simplistic.
Wow beautiful area you live in 👌
Oh wow, I didn't know that how i feel/think has a name "synesthesia"! I have that since i was a little girl and now im 60 wondering and curious about it more than before... I associate numbers and colors to ppl with their age and personalities and vice versa.... Now i have to go and do my research anout that 😊🙏
A thick person does not worry and remember
In regards to a deep understanding on appreciation I highly recommend the work of the Stanovich Lab. Recently Stanovich, West and Toplak developed the RQ- Rationality Quotient. Intelligence is important but so is rationality- they are different constructs. Good video Sukie, as always!
Sorry, this is unrelated but I'm wondering if you know anything about having constant tension in the forehead? I've had it for a long time and it's annoying. There are rare occasions when it goes away for about a day and the feeling is mentally clarifying. I was thinking that it may be related to my anxiety, so I'm planning to work on relieving it.
Not unrelated at all. Chronically tight muscles are a sign of nervous system activation. We all have some tension, of course, or we'd be puddles on the floor. But we can get "stuck" in habitual patterns of holding muscle tension in our bodies due to stored stress or simply habit. Interestingly, there have been studies which injected botox into facial muscles related to brow furrowing where researchers observed a decrease in depression for the patients receiving the botox. So yes, there is evidence that releasing tension in facial muscles can shift emotional states. (For the record, I am not recommending botox injections, merely referencing studies that used that method.)
I guess the course is full as the page said there are no openings. Am I correct?
Do you have any advice for post covid brain fog. It comes and goes and sometimes cycle is off days long of fog and fatigue.
Jim Carrey felt the monster inside, he does it in slow motion part of real life comedy routine.
I have slow COMT enzyme (slow breakdown of dopamine, norepinephrine and epinephrine). Always have to do diaphragm breathing and vagus stimulation, and if I don't I get slightly psychotic, and having light panic attacks.
Have a lot of food intolerances, also POIS.
Not really a mensa member☺, but what's interesting is that if I'm not intellectually stimulated, my anxiety goes crazy.
Fast COMT is called "The Warrior", and slow COMT "The Worrier". Slow COMT is associated with high IQ. What's also intersting is that it slow COMT is more associated with ADHD than fast COMT. Too high dopamine in the prefrontal cortex leads to overthinking, and high norepinephrine leads to restlessness (high adrenaline as well). What's even more interesting is that people with slow COMT have 60% greater risk of cocaine dependence than people with fast COMT, and are also more likely to have good response to amphetamine. Schizophrenia and bipolar disorders (too high dopamine) are associated with these substance abuses (as well as ADHD).
Charles Linden is the best resource on anxiety. Anxiety is disordered fear response and only occurs in people with creative intellect. The only way out is through manipulating the data received by your senses through intellectual engagement with consistency. You're on the right train of thought.
I am smart and I am capable
I know you are not a psychiatrist, but it would be great to hear your take on the trauma and damage done by Narcissistic parents. Mostly, I would like to know what you see that the key symptoms are of the children parented by a narcissist. What advice is best for the victims to receive? Because these patterns and damage done to their identities are very limiting and costly to their quality and success in life. What kind of bad conditioning happens the the nervous system and typical scenarios that might expose or trigger the problematic responses and inner turmoils.
You present interesting ideas in this video. Do you believe that some of this anxiety is a learned behavior? (I am reminded of the notion of nature vs nurture in education. Yes, I'm a retired educator.) Many of us are high achievers/perfectionists because we were "pushed" to achieve by parents, etc.
On another note - there was an interesting article in the WSJ last month in which it was mentioned that scientists are going to research the notion that anxiety in some individuals might be related to a probiotic imbalance within the body. (This is especially interesting for those of us diagnosed with IBS & anxiety.)
I definitely think gut health is related to a lot of things. It's not my specialty, but I do agree that it's a factor. As to whether anxiety is learned behavior, I'm not certain. I read about a "study" (I'm not sure it was actually meant to be that) where some people raising foxes started to only breed the ones who showed no fear of humans. They killed the other ones, which is horrible. But anyway, what they found was that the foxes who exhibited low fear eventually took on puppy like characteristics. I think it was curly tails and their coats changed color. When they examined their brains, they found an underdeveloped amygdala -- fear center. So they were selectively breeding for an underdeveloped portion of the brain. That would point more toward nature than nurture. But, of course, when we are children, our brains are developing a crazy number of synapses very passively (i.e. we don't have to do anything actively to mold our very plastic brains). So there is undeniably shaping going on. I tend to think that there is somewhat of a combination of nature and nurture, but what we nurture will impact our nature (i.e. our actual brain structures) through neural plasticity. Of course, I'm speculating here. I'm not really sure how we would study this definitively.
You seen really interesting
That makes a lot of sense . All the intelligent people I know of have allergies . One person I know of who has a higher IQ than most says it's because they think outside the square and question things so much more or even over think.
My anxiety is causing increased blood pressure which I feel I shouldnt have as I'm not overweight nor eat badly. My doc feels it's whitecoat hypertension. I struggle to come off my low dose blood pressure medication and this is frustrating for me. I don't want to accept this. What can I do pls.
For me, I think it's a two-pronged problem. There is a hypersensitivity that sets off my nervous system in unhelpful ways, so it goes beyond being motivating or galvanizing to causing overload and shutdown. It feels okay then to downregulate what I would describe as vagus nerve irritability over things I really don't need to worry about.
But I also think intelligent people have the perceptiveness that perhaps others are lacking to worry about legitimate concerns when other people are blowing them off: an economy that's about to go bust, climate change, a coming pandemic, etc. (A metaphor from The Big Bang Theory: ruclips.net/video/PWBfJr2kxhc/видео.html)
The clip here brings up another issue: Penny lacks the resources to deal with her problem, so she ignores it and it gets worse. Scarcity of time and money make personal problem solving impossible in many situations, but it feels wrong if you're intelligent to simply stop worrying about whatever that problem is. I suspect intelligent people suffer more cognitive dissonance in these kinds of scenarios. In some cases, you're confronted with the problem all day long, so you might feel better after doing some technique to calm your nervous system, but an hour later, you're reminded of the issue again. So, you go through these roller coastering cycles of anxiety. It feels trite and well... foolish to say, "I'll just worry about what I can control" or "I can control my attitude" as you face catastrophic situations where you really have no options.
Is it better to let yourself go into shutdown (a dorsal vagal state), when the only other option is to stay in constant sympathetic activation? Do intelligent people have a harder time downregulating all the way to a ventral vagal/social engagement state because their brains keep telling them, "It's really not fine?" Are we mares on high alert when the rest of the herd thinks it's okay to just keep grazing?
Your questions make sense. It kind of seems like we are mares. My sister is complete opposite of me & pays no attention to most things my brain can't turn off. She is a year younger than I am. We were raised in a home with a rageaholic, alcoholic dad & my parents constantly fighting whenever they were around each other. My dad, I later figured out in my life, suffered from PTSD from the Korean War as well as from train accidents as a RR engineer because of people who try to beat trains or go around crossing gates & then get hit & killed. Happened several times to my dad & he brought all of that pain & trauma home. My sister seems to be unfazed as if she has no idea about the family chaos & how it could cause me so much trauma. She is not what I would call highly intelligent. I have 5 other living siblings as well & one of my older sisters has suffered from the family trauma as well but made great progress except where her physical body is concerned. She was also the source of much of my trauma when she tried to kill herself at the age of 16 & I shared a bed & a room with her. It terrified me.
Anyway, I'm no therapist or expert, although I do have a Master's Degree in school counseling & retired as an elementary school counselor to take care of my mom in a nursing home these last 5 years after her stroke. She died in Feb quite unexpectedly. She was doing fine at the age of 92 aside from her stroke effects. Her mind was good. I am just beginning to realize after finding Sukie's videos all of the stress my nervous system has been under, while realizing I faced constant triggers while caring for my mom. My system kind of went into shock once she died. I am single with no kids & live alone. I am really having to adjust in this empty space in my life.
About a month ago, my stomach had a constant gnawing on the inside & I thought it was all anxiety going straight to my gut, which I'm sure it was, but there was clearly something wrong. I have suffered from gastritis in the past. My gastro was worried about a peptic ulcer. I have an endoscopy next month when I go for my 5 yr. colonoscopy check. I have altered my eating habits and am taking a natural supplement I found for my stomach which is helping. I am also working on calming my nervous system down. It has helped, but as you said, at some point you are back to square one. So, I get what you are saying. Can we really get our sensitive nervous system's calmed down to a degree where it is not always a constant battle or are we simply the mares in life?
@@barbs1298 I really appreciate your story. It is compelling, thought-provoking and sincere. Thank you for this.
I had big problem with anxiety
I dunno???
I'm still trying to figure it out.
Hope this video helps
I clicked the Appy button and the response was "a critical error on website." Not sure what that means but I would.like to apply
Being hyper aware = hyper worried. 🤯
Practicing Kriya resolves anxiety, restlessness, and depression. It builds deep calm from which you realize both the internal and extra bodily peace native to Self, which in turn alleviates an overly active brain's stress inducing misperceptions (not native to Self). Kriya methodically tones the endocrine and nervous systems, so as to integrate body and mind with one's innate nature, unconditioned being, which in turn intelligently regulates body and awareness, so as to avail health, poise, and a happy life. It is the divine yogic science.
I am doing Kriya yoga as well
It changes the brain. I agree with everything that you've written.
I would be.interested to hear your thoughts on Holographic reality and the relation to workings of the human mind.
This is an extract from my unwritten book (as yet) regards to fear of flying to Britain from.New zealand 2003 accompanied by my son whom also suffered the same distress. So i explaned to my son that each and every fear of flying i place in one single wooden box. To do this was to dissemble all aspects and components of this particular collection of fearunderestimsted4. Assigning these thing's to a single box percieved impossble until i realised that my mindset was being measurably underestimated and that holographically it can be as large an area it needs to be and thats when the whole concept becomes an issue of trust.
Sounds interesting. It's not a practice I'm familiar with.
I have panic attacks but i can function. Gets worse @ the doctors ( I was a nurse 45 yrs) Too much information. I am aware of what can go wrong as we were trained to observe & act when things go wrong. I get a bit dizzy,, stomach upset my b/p will b elevated & I get a headache. Not matter what I do , deep breaths, meditate before the appointment. I had to retire early as I was a wreck & could not work. Also some crowds cant to to costco.
Polyvagal theory - people need sense of „safety“.
Truth!
In my experience, the only thing that works is meditation and kriya yoga.
How interesting. I am doing Kriya yoga meditation with Yogananda. It has pulled me through lot's of stuff. It changes your brain. I just can't miss a day and I haven't. Meditation, sitting in the silence absolutely necessary. Thank you for posting
@@barbaracooling8301 Happy to hear about your experience! It's the same for me, I tried literally everything before and nothing worked. Same with my acne even!