you can lead a horse to water.... i've never really dated a fellow believer. they always wind up holding my faith against me and say they don't want to raise a child to believe in God.
I just ended it with a man who is an atheist. I am in the very beginning of my walk with God, and after learning about being unequally yoked, I realized him and I arent meant to be. It hurts a lot, but I know that God has better plans for me.
@@beautifulqueen3887 Same here! my question is how can someone believe in the father and not the son... even the devil believed in him. Anyway I just want to let you know it may hurt now but trust that God just helped you dodge a bullet. God bless you !
@@tasiaowens. I'm an atheist and I would never marry a christian woman because I don't want my future children to learn Christianity at a young impressionable age until they get older and make the decision on their own to become one. And even if she told me that she had no intention to take them to church she might change her mind so it's best for me not to marry a Christian woman.
So how then do you expect them to find Christ and be saved when all the “Christians” run away? What good would it do to take the light out of the tunnel?
Oh man, my marriage is completely unequally yolked😔. I grew up in a christian household was saved as a teenager. my mother and father warned me to not be unequally yolked..i didnt listen..i had God on the back burner when I met my husband. Lived in sin with him, got married and now I see why its a bad idea. I love him..we have 2 children together been together 10 years married 7 but he is not saved..he was simi raised/ brainwashed with the JW beliefs. Please pray for our marriage and his salvation.
I dated someone who used me and at the time I strayed from God. I learned from that and moved on. Fast forward I met someone and was almost used again only this time I turned to God and saw all the signs before! Trust in God and not in your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5-6 Thank you for your video. Keep up the good work!
I’m glad someone else commented on your tarot reading too. That’s occultism, which is satanism. Look up Steven bancraz on RUclips he does great videos on the topic. You need to get saved if you aren’t already. Got pulled me out of the occult, he can save you too ❤️ please heed our warning sister
Thank you so much. You can be with a Christian and still be unequally yoked. I was engaged last year but i broke it off. He could not lead me spiritually and unwilling to grow with me. We had different values. You really hit the nail on the head for me with this one. I didn't think anyone would ever understand my decision because he's a good guy. I felt the Holy Spirit pulling me in a different direction and he wasn't ready for what I was being called to do, but i still want to go with the Holy Spirit so I dumped him.
@@Shikswanjiks this is from quite a long time ago but I hope you’re good and I hope you made the right decision and went with where you felt the Holy Spirit was guiding you. I too spent 4 years in a sort of relationship with this guy, he was so great, but we were young and both of us made many mistakes, but at the end of it all I became reborn and he didn’t, and he didn’t understand my love for God and things fell apart. You just cannot force it to work when you’re unequally yoked, as much as you want it to. I was depressed for quite a long time about my situation, I was cowardly because it took me so long to end, I second guessed my self endlessly, and I felt so guilty for letting him go because we did love eachother. But I don’t believe I was the one God had for him and he was not the one God had for me. Some nights I still feel the guilt of it. It weighs on me. But God has gotten me through the depression and I feel much better than I did a year ago. I hope you are doing well as well. Pray endlessly and make all of this known to God
The Lord brought me to this and completely confirmed what I was believing and thinking and gave me my strength back. I broke off my engagement last month because of the conflicts religiously and the Lord told me leave. I questioned myself deeply and contacted him tonight and it was war. I was heartbroken but I am so loved by God that He had the doubt shut down again with this. On to healing. Thank you! God bless!
I'm in that situation right now. I feel I have to break up with my fiancé as he has no interest in being saved. He has no idea that I'm going to do this but I see all the warning signs. It's going to devastate him and hurt me deeply. I wish I hadn't let it go even this far and I could avoid the hurt.
@@gillianstewart8442 I am in exactly the same situation. It’s been very tough to get his far with my fiancé, but rightly or wrongly I still have hope. She’s reading the Bible, but I can see that she isn’t moved by the word. She’s trying her hardest to understand so I still have hope. I will keep praying for her and hoping and hold out as long as I can last. But at some point before taking the next step I am going to have to ask her if she thinks Jesus is a liar, lunatic, legend or Lord. Her answer will make or break it 😰
Finding somebody who is as strong in their faith is very important to me. This was good at pointing out what to look for. thank you. I want somebody who motivates me spiritually.
Not just women bro. I’m a dude with this exact problem I literally just prayed tonight with her and my 3 year old son. The prayer was miraculously answered right in front of her eyes and i was dumbfounded when she was completely unaffected God help me .
@@robotsrule5051 same 😔..keep praying brother..i know its hard, as im typing im having to realize to take my own advice....the waters are rough, keep God as ur Captain
I understand you brother, Don’t forget that you are the spiritual leader of your household and this challenge should bring you closer to the Lord. Pray for her unceasingly just as the Lord Jesus prayed for Peter, keep on pouring into her without trying to change her. I find myself falling many times in this trap. And the Lord will transform her from inside out (1 Corinthians 2:11). Remember, she’s made holy through you. 👍🏾
I know I'm unequally yoke in an almost 11 year marriage. I'm finally growing closer to God and studying the word more and diving into church and fellowship why he's watching the game or whatever. It don't bother me much because we respect each other's views. I know we could be better in so many ways but this journey I'm on now is mines alone. Sometimes I can talk to him about God and sometimes I can't. He's the man for me and if God wants him to change, He'll change him. That's not my job. If you been married long enough, you know where I'm coming from. My job is to be a wife and love him inspite of. Hope this helps someone.
Same. I'm in a 16 year relationship. I had my own moment where I was ashamed to go back to church because we had a child out of marriage. Been back to church and worshipping for 8 years now. Married. My 3 kids and I attend alone. My husband and I talk about different verses together (I'm reading and don't understand). He has brought up some he remembers as a kid. He let's me sing and worship. He let's me be me with the Lord. And I let him be him. His purpose is so different than mine. I serve people through meals, hugs, cleaning, and listening. He serves people by fixing cars up, their homes, and he reaches out to other men going through divorces or loss of a child. He may not pray out loud. But when he closes his eyes or tears well up, I know Gods working. My husband isn't necessary equally yoked in spirit by some people. But in all honesty we balance together. I'm teachable;) I read the Bible he doesn't. But how can he remember so many verses? Makes me proud he's going in the path the Lord intended. May not be my path I imagined, but this is one is way better to watch❤ Like we just discussed about songs we seen on our daughters phone. He said our values are the same in our ultimate end goal (keep filthy music from her and have respect for herself) but how we want to attain that isn't the same. But not necessarily wrong either way 🤔
Exactly what I needed to hear, thank you! I was with a man for 30 years and finally got up the guts to say if we're not putting God 1st in our marriage, I'm unwilling to live the rest of my life the way the past 30 years have been. Our divorce became final April this year. I am now free And looking for a man who 1st and foremost loves Jesus and what hes done for us. I'm not desperate, I will not settle again and I'm not in a hurry. Thank you for that beautiful message!
"And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” - Matthew 19:9 Applies to wives divorcing their husbands too. Not trying to condemn you--just trying to speak the truth in love.
@@blazinge4207 I hear what you’re saying, but it’s more edifying in context. Jesus was answering the Pharasees who were testing him in the law. Because Jesus fulfilled the law, we are not under the law. Jesus came so we could learn how to walk in the spirit which is why he also said, if you lust after a woman in your heart, you have already committed adulatory. So, it’s not about the actions because actions are the fruit of the heart. Which is why a divorce decree could be given for hardness of heart. Christians should stop making the NT the new law. It defeats grace. It’s Gods grace that softens the heart and prepares you to walk in the spirit. And you will know them by their fruit. The fruit of the spirit does not sprout from a hard heart, but through Gods grace and mercy.
After making so many mistakes and suffering from an unequally yoked situationship I have finally come to understand I must commit myself to somebody equally yoked and only that. That or nothing. Sometimes I feel a little fearful though that I may never meet anybody, perhaps that maybe God won’t have a husband for me and I’ll die never having a true relationship, and I’d have to accept that and trust God if that is the case. I do hope though that one day it will be in God’s will for me. We’ll see
This was really good. I’ve been thinking about this for the past year or so because the Bible doesn’t talk about how you can be unequally yoked when both people are believers
different "values" is a huge red flag. people I would highly recommend everyone read 1001 questions to ask before u out get married. and ask yourself the questions in writing
This is why we each individually need to cultivate fellowship with Jesus daily to grow in our relationship with Him, which will help bestow on us wisdom for when the flesh of our flesh comes along and we will know if they’re the one or a distraction sent by the enemy. Thank you, Allen Parr! As a recently-saved single 26 year old: your content has exponentially grown my knowledge as I read His Word.
RIGHT!!! He is not able to relate to you or interested in the same growth. That'S so important. Because your partner is the one person that should accept, support and encourage every part of you. It doesn't have to be his favorite thing to do, but if he has no interest it will become a problem. THANKS SO MUCH FOR SHARING ALLEN!
Thank you for your teaching. I have recently split up from a non Christian and wasn't sure if I have made a mistake. Thank God for answered prayer. Amen
I’m a husband in a tumultuous relationship, hanging on by a thread at this point! I’m really struggling to keep it afloat with me going in one direction and my wife going in another. I have been spiritually growing, gave myself to Christ about 5 months ago but my wife is rebellious of committing and growing with me! It’s hurt so much because I wanna share with her the wisdom I’m gaining from Bible study and being in fellowship So your 1st example is the opposite of what is going on in my marriage.
I cannot thank u enough!! I have searched and searched for years for these kind of answers and u are one of the only ones I have found. ...Thank God for u
This is a very difficult topic for me personally because...my last relationship was over 2 years and when we met we both were Christians & not living fully in our walk. However, we grew together and rededicated our lives to Christ. Down the road he treated me like crap! Now, I’ve met someone who actually wants to be understanding of a “higher power” what he calls and more about faith. He’s not against believing. He just hasn’t had that personal experience with Christ. He actually admires me and treats me well. MY POINT IS...I struggle with this topic and it often makes me upset because so many times in the church..the so called “saved” men are the ones that will not live up to the standard God has called them. I’ve seen it with my preaching father and others and we are so quick to say don’t be unequally yoked but it’s beyond that...it’s about someone respecting you and loving you for you. I know Preachers who abuse their wives. We need to also understand that many women in the church are NOT meeting men outside the church for no reason. This is occurring because often times men outside of the church are found to have solid morals and be great loving husbands as well. I’m not trying to go against scripture but I’m trying to fully understand our interpretations of unequally yoked. What’s the sense of marrying and being equally yoked just to have your spouse cheat, abuse etc? At the point it wasn’t a relationship with God even in the forefront.
i just got out of relationship like this. I'm having a tough time really understanding this also. my ex and i just broke up. he says that we are unequally yoked. i am a new believer, but according to my bf he believes im not growing fast enough to his standards and thinks you should be doing x,y,z as a Christian. i told him, i do believing serving my community and helping others, but i do not believe that's what makes you a Christian. my focus now is more of having a personal relationship and god. Since he thought i wasn't going fast enough we broke up, and we were only dating 7 months. I don't feel like he was really patient with me or loving because all i got was constant criticism, and judgements. So i can see where your coming from when it comes to finding men outside of the church.
@@Bombshellgaming_ hi, I think your experience might help me, if you want to share. When you came to God did you want to live like the Bible says, or did it was a slow process? my GF is a new Christian as well, she says she got close to God like a year ago, but she doesn't see sin as sinful and constantly tries to seduce me to sin.
Fr. It’s like non-Christians are more Christian than many “Christians” out there that disrespect anyone that disagree with them. It makes you wonder and feel confused about that verse
I was being courted by this God fearing Man, he knew scripture word for word. We would pray together, study together, saving ourself for marriage both of us living by the word. BUT he had this anger of rage that would come out n it scared me so much that when he'd call or come around I would feel a sense of fear. I was scared of him. He would justify his anger using scripture but it didn't feel like "love" to me. I decided to cut him off n man this man insulted me badly even while using scripture n all I said was "I think you're emotionally unstable n it scares me" ( I was trying to be open about my feelings but honest n respectful ) , I responded with, "ok" at the end even after threatening me that " if I were there no one would be safe" (what kind of God fearing man says that?!) I was just shocked n quite frankly I would be going against the word by replying back negativly . Now I've met someone who want to learn about God, is a believer , respects me n my faith, agrees to wait until marriage BUT doesn't know how to "lead" ..... is that ground to define it as unequally yoked? Tough call. All we can do is pray n ask for a revelation from God.
Simple and the best way that this have been told to me I've been in church most of my life and I've never had a clearer version of this topic before but I do now! God Bless your Ministry
Yes I'm glad I saw this video today because I been learning and following the Word of God for about 12 years now and all this time I thought God was saying to not be unevenly yolked (as in eggs) I wasn't thinking yoked. But anyways its a blessing that's why God says don't be wise in ur own understanding 🙂 thank you Allen Parr for your illustration
Dude - this was so awesome. Thank you. I really like the way you explained things. Very logical and brings a lot of peace to me as a single person. If I’m unequally yoked it’s just gonna be filled with tension . For real dude such a blessing 🙏 I am applying this to my friendships too.
See this is hard for me. Im constantly trying to grow in my relationship with God while I was in a relationship. We have different values on all fronts but we can always compromise. Yet I prayed to God if I should continue with this relationship. I got a huge no. And now Im caught between trusting in the Lord or continuing my earthly relationship. So this video is a blessing to hear tbh
This is so relevant in every area of the relationship I'm presently in. Sadly, he doesn't see it and is continually unwilling to hear me when I reference scripture because he feels that I'm preaching to him. Thank you so much, these are all incredibly powerful points and covers every aspect to identify whether we're truly in a right relationship. God bless you and I'm a new subscriber.
Because you ARE preaching to him. Non-believers have made their decision. It does not help your case to quote to us from the Bible. When you need to make a point, try to find some way that doesn't involve scripture.
Thank you for your very helpful video and to the point! This spiritual discernment really needs to spread more! Most books and articles I go through focus on things like premarital sex and missionary dating but I think what this video addresses will focus on a more common and difficult problem to solve beyond "being saved", church attendance and baptisms. May you continually serve our Lord faithfully Allen & Team and receive His eternal reward for this :)
My husband will not go to church or listen to the word it’s so sad because he’s missing out on so many blessings. But I pray and keep my faith and I keep reading the word. I really don’t let it worry me anymore after 25 years of marriage I wish I would have known earlier.
I am talking to A beautiful girl right now. We are both born-again Christians who love eachother. We share the same core doctrines, and we have very simaler, general, goals and visions. As in, we both want to live for God, spread his love, and to love everybody. This is so amazing, and praise be to God for all of that!
I agree 100% and I am learning what to look for. This has also helped me when I get tempted to date a non believer: To connect with an unbeliever is to place yourself on Satan's ground. You grieve the Spirit of God and forfeit His protection. Can you afford to have such terrible odds against you in fighting the battle for everlasting life? {12] - {AH 67.1}
I agree greatly! Ahh..like a tall glass of cold water on a hot summer day! It hit on different levels too, God bless you brethren for posting this one! 🙏🏾🕊🔥
Please pray for my husband’s salvation xx He was brought up as a Lutheran but never talks about God or anything to do with the Bible. I married him when I had backslid 😢. I am now in a great place in my walk with God. I pray continuously for his and our children’s salvation.
Thank you for explaining this. I never fully understood this ‘unequally yoked’ concept. There is a Russian fable called the swan, pike and crawfish which teaches this idea too: they all have the job of towing a cart, but all pull in different directions, and the cart stays put. God bless you and your channel
I recently got saved amd my husband is still a non believer;the tension in our marriage is insane and im really struggling with the divide.were even atriggling woth having a conversation because were so different now
This was very helpful, thank you. I want someone committed to their walk with Christ. Seeking Him first. Our purposes need to align. I trust in God’s timing 🙏
This concept is very universal, it isn't restricted to religious beliefs but to all life values that guide us, such as health, knowledge, and wealth. Use this concept wisely to its full potential.
Wish I saw this 10 years ago before I got married 😕 .... things went from bad to worst and has now come to end . Looking forward to what God has in store for me .
JUST OBEY GOD’S WORD. I’m unequally yoked and struggling in my marriage, I love my husband and I pray for him. I wish divorce was an option because it would be easier and I don’t know if he will ever surrender to God. I know I have to deal with the consequences. I feel lonely, discouraged in my walk, misunderstood, resentful, and like my fatigue is never lifted. I’m only happy when I’m in the word.
Hi thank you THE BEAT ALLEN PARR for this message..I'm currently separated from my husband we have different views all this hit me makes sense as to what's been going on apart from other issues between us after couple years into marriage was when i repented and apply the word of God in my life/christian life through Christ Jesus and he's more worldly and doesn't understand it even though he says he respects it but we have different views in paths we want to take pray for me and my daughter who is 5 years old and my husband still as well even though we are separated I just hope I didn't make a bad decision in doing so...to continue my journey/walk with the Lord❤I'm kind of early in my walk somewhat but learning and want to grow mature spiritually for God to always guide me into all truth protect my family not be led astray...God bless you and your ministry.
I am interested with a girl who believes in God but isn't christian or really thinks about God much. Idk what to do she is a very moral and trustworthy person and a good friend for many years. We like each other and talk every day.
Thank you for sharing! I am actually in a bit of a problem. I dated a guy who said he was an atheist but something inside me told me to keep getting to know him. Fast forward 6 years and now we are engaged, he’s been to church with me, and now believes in a higher power and willing to learn more about God, pray with me, and even asks me what I’ve learned and encourages and supports me with praying and going to church. So I think we are in good standing but we are unequally yoked? I don’t know what to do and I keep praying about it as our wedding is coming up soon. Also for more context, I have been on and off with my relationship with God, but through this past year, I’ve grown closer to God. So in wonder why am I am in this situation of this isn’t what God wants for us.
for everyone whos in an unequally yoked marriage. i would say pray pray pray!!! pray so hard and all the time that the holy ghost will unharden their hearts and allow them to see and hear the truth. i am dealing with this right now he is a believer and a good man. but does not let god and the bible lead him but only pastors who can also be mislead them self. may god be with all of you. 🥰
Great practical wisdom my friend and fellow Christ follower. I'm single now and the next woman I date will definitely be a committed Christ follower. Peace.
Yes what you said is. Good . I’m in a unequally yoked relationship. I’m praying and asking even if I should devolve the relationship but I do see changes happening. Thank you
Oh wow thank you. God just answered my question! That's what I thought! #1! But my mom told me I'm too picky, no wonder I'm single, and, pastors I've asked about this, haven't answered the #1!!!
I’m in a relationship with a woman who is great and I truly believe she has/wants a relationship with Jesus but has the thinking of prayer is the only aspect she kinda needs. You hit it on the head with the Bible being the thing that I believe is the guide by which we follow but she does not. It’s a very sad thing cuz I love her very much but I’m torn and it might come down to letting her go and it’s tough!
good information. Christian, its possible to be unequally yoke with another christian. open your eyes, cause these are the most difficult to notice or even if you notice it, is easy to close our eyes to it thinking it can change. The word is clear. God knows best. Either one will drag the other. plus is difficult to not have your husband beside you, worshipping together, participating in church ministry together...so listen to the word of God, ask for guidance.
I disagree. Did you see the description of what being yoked actually is. If you have someone who believes but doesn't value a relationship with God, and lives on the fence and the other person lives for Christ and does everything to glorify Him, that is most certainly being unequal spiritual. Thus unequally yoked.
So this resonates deeply with me, unfortunately. When I first met my husband... I was very devoted about my faith. We talked on the phone before meeting up to 5 months... and i would go on and on about my faith in the lord and my passion, I was literally involved in a faith group that conditiond us to become missionaries. And he I guess looking back on it now...'played along' Because that was 18. Many ups and downs on both ends between 18 and my current age 25. I had a foundation of Christ and raised in the lord...and he wasn't. Part of me wants to leave him because hes not a spiritual leader. One that I need at this point of my life. But then... part of me is like "yo I know God expects so much out of me...and because I know I dont meet his standards...would I want him give up me?" Idk But I'm leaning towards seperation. But the problem is I'm young. 25...the same desires of a young widow in which God urged for widows to get married. My family lives in a whole different city. I want to go deeper with it.... but it may not be appropriate. But I'm really asking from a place of just idk. It's really frustrating because I dont want to feel like im choosing my husband over God. But idk maybe I need to have faith and know he will take care of the things I fear imma be at a loss with. Seperation to me is neccessary at times.
Love, let me try to summarize this as much as I can cuz if I go too much into this, I could do a whole 12 page essay on this😂. But I’ve experienced the same struggle as you trying to live my life right for God, trying to be acceptable to him, especially within a relationship I had with an unbeliever. I’m here to tell you that there is freedom in Christ. Now this part is kind of theological so bear with me here. Some people believe in the stance of positional righteousness vs practical righteousness. Which basically in a sense means when you get saved you are ”positionally” right with God. But then there is “practical righteousness”, which is the pursuit of becoming righteous in our lives, pursuing to live a life without sin. I went through so many resources before I finally discovered how this whole mindset, although it sounds good and godly at first, it’s actually not biblical and not scriptural. I actually highly encourage you or anyone else reading this to do their own research on this doctrine that’s widely accepted in churches today, and I think you’ll find it very interesting. Anyways, my point is to say I’ve come to the conclusion that when you get saved, you are righteous not based off of works in any point of your life but based off of what Jesus Christ has already done for you. Righteousness literally means “being accepted by God.” Honey, the moment you get saved and you’re cleansed of your sins by Jesus’s blood, from that moment you were accepted. You can’t become any more “accepted.” Now I know people will take what I say out of context and think that I’m saying go live a life however you want and ur in Christ now so whatever u do is fine. That’s absolutely not what I’m saying. My intention is to change the mindset, to change the goal. Rather than putting a life of righteousness as you’re top priority, which technically our righteousness is nothing but filthy rags, but my point is instead of focusing on that, you focus on your relationship with Christ, focus on getting to know Him and love Him. And as you grow closer to Him, the outworking of that relationship will transform your heart to give you His desires and His intentions and His convictions. There is freedom in Christ. Don’t let anyone make you a slave to sin. You’re no longer bound to the law, a list of dos and donts. Your call is to abide in Christ, in His love, in your identity as a daughter of God, and to live that out. And that is the high calling of God. P.S. this is a link to to an article I found on how people rip the “unequally yoked” verse in the Bible out of context to create a rule or a “sin” that was never intended to be a rule pertaining to marriage. I hope you read it and it gives you the comfort of knowing you are not living against God’s will for your life just because you are in relationship with an unbeliever. Now is it wise for believers to be in union with each other? Of course! It’s always worth considering the person in regards to how they’ll influence your relationship with Christ. Because Christ is and should be the main love of your life. And typically, I find that when two Christians come together in marriage, they often edify each other and build each other’s relationships in Christ. I am all for Christians marrying each other and I encourage it. But although believers marrying is the most ideal relationship, biblically, the scriptures don’t support the notion of this “all or nothing” mentality that other Christians tend to have. It is not a sin to marry an unbeliever. And even if someone disagrees with that, let’s take it one step further being that you’re already married to him, this isn’t even an issue of whether or not you should marry him, it’s an issue regarding whether or not to stay with him after marriage. Most Christians actually agree on this, which is nice lol, that Paul calls people who are already in marriage with an unbeliever to stay with them, in case you might be the one to bring them to Christ. But if they’re the one to leave you because of your faith, then yes he says to let him go. Otherwise, if they choose to stay, there is no arguement being made on your necessity to leave him for the sake of Christ. I hope these words and resources bring you encouragement and I’ll keep you in my prayers, love. 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 ESV To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? Link to article of “unequally yoked” verse being taken out of context : sermons.faithlife.com/sermons/221657-ripped-out-of-context:-unequally-yoked Link to short video explaining the false doctrine of positional and practical righteousness: ruclips.net/video/dAkL3AB2Y7Y/видео.html
@@amandamei8004 I wanna delete this now because I'm 26 now and things have gotten so much better in my marriage. He's not perfect and neither am I! He has spiritually changed and prioritizes the his relationship with God.a whole lot more..and he literally plays a Bible scripture almost everyday while he's at work for me via alexa. He gets on me if.i forget to.pray and if he has an issue with me....he prays for me. Idk what happened but he did a major 180 and really being that man I need him to be! I feel so blessed. I guess I shouldn't have complained and took it to God cuz he said complain about nothing but everything prayer supplication with Thanksgiving. I was also pregnant when I wrote this
@@amandamei8004 You should totally write more. I'd read all you have to say! Better than most established blogs I've read, and your writing is a response to a comment!!!!
I'm wrestling with this right now. I'm uncovering some worldly tendencies and focuses in my girlfriend and am unsure if I just need to continue to lead her and she will mature and come to change her focus with time or if maybe we aren't a good fit. She definitely loves God but she is more focused on materialism than I'd like to see if I'm honest. She seems willing to listen to me when I want to steer us to the word of God and his ways but I'm a little concerned.
Can you pray for me, Allen? I’m having issues with my fiancé. She is a Full Gospel Pentecostalist and I’m a Southern Baptist so you can definitely tell we have our differences. From the beginning of the relationship she said that she would go based on God’s Word and if I could show her what she’s doing is wrong based on scripture then she would change. Would you pray specifically for her that she would be open to God’s Word and changing based on what I share to her from scripture and for me as I do so? I will say this I use your videos that God is always inside to tell her the truth and I love your channel and how you are willing to tell the truth when others are afraid to! God bless you and your ministry my brother in Christ!
What can be done if you believe you are unequally yoked and already married? According to a lot of the things you said in this video, is pretty much the issues we're going through. I love my wife very much & I'm working on the things/scriptures you mentioned in your other video,(Husband Role In A Marriage). Thanks for your videos, God bless you
I used to go to a church with older people. One lady in our church had to ask her husband's permission to attend church. Sometimes she'd get up and witness about how easy it was getting to get permission 🤣🤣🤣. I used to shake my head "inside". I have commitment issues because I feel like few men are "sold out" to follow God and I can't trust them to lead correctly. The key word in saved or unsaved is "values". They must be alike or matching.
With all due respect 2 Corinthians 6:14 has nothing whatsoever to do with marriage. In context, Paul is talking about moving away from a pagan value system to that of Jesus. Also we should judge our fellow brother and sisters in Christ by what he did for us on the cross not how they are in a particular spiritual discipline or how “spiritually mature” we deem them based on our own arbitrary standards of what spiritual maturity looks like. When we start judging people that way we are walking in pride not in the love of Christ. Also I believe your spouse and their purpose should always come before your own and ideally they should feel the same way.
I came to know Christ after my marriage and I am in an unequally yoked relationship and this describes exactly what I am going through. My hope is in God and I know He has a plan for my life and my marriage. Thank you for videos, may God continue to bless you!
I come to you God and I pray that you undo this retched link chaining me to a non-believing, secular woman. I made a mistake back then and I have moved on but the Devil is trying to use sick sexual warfare to harm me as I try to do big things in my life. I won't let it stifle my growth or take my joy away. 😁😁😇🙏 Lord I know that nothing is impossible for you. I leave this problem in your hands. I know you will bless me with someone better in the future. 🙏
A car has two left tires and two right tires: Situation 1 (equally yoked/balanced) The tires on the left side and the right side are inflated with the same amount of air The car drives straight when aimed straight The car is equally yoked Situation 2 (unequally yoked) The tires on the left side is fully inflated The tires on the right side are fully deflated The car will not drive straight when aimed straight, and will deviate from the path The car is unequally yoked The car can have all inflated or all deflated tires - both sides just need to be the same in character, so that the car will be balanced so that it moves in the direction that the driver is pointing towards. An equally yoked arrow will hit the bulls eye because it is balanced. An unequally yoked arrow will deviate from the bullseye and miss, although it is aiming at the bulls eye just like the equally yoked arrow is.
With all due respect Timothy, even many adults in the Body of Christ are missing the point on "marrying or being unequally yoked". Sadly, there is an ignorance because it's not being taught or reproved in the church as it should be. I believe this should be taught as a basic principle because it has a huge impact on life and family. In addition, it is a stumbling block to many UNbelievers as it can weaken a believer's witness.
Praise the Lord and good evening. The Lord put this scripture on my heart while I was @ work last night. So far, my study of this verse seems to lean toward dating or marriage. I am wondering, however, if following this teaching more or less keeps us from effective ministry, especially witnessing? Really appreciate some insight on this subject.
there are many christians only by Name but not born again-spiritfilled, once the Holy Spirit in us bares witness that the Partner is also spiritfilled, then there is no unequally yoked.i don´t believe in "lukewarm" "Christians" ...either they are really born-again or not. hot or cold!
@@craigime you don't understand, there is no such thing as lukewarm christians Hot: accepting Jesus and living the holy command = Saved Cold: Accepting Jesus but has carnal problems = Saved but unprofitable Lukewarm: Thinks is a christian but didn't accept Jesus and have a poor, blindm wretched and naked spirit = Unsaved
Would you talk more about what a man who has this quality of “spiritual leader” looks like? How does that show up practically? I want to be able to identify men who can lead spiritually in dating, but I’m not sure exactly what I’m looking for.
I can’t take it! All this knowledge, sound doctrines and awareness. Where was all of this before? The church really needs to do a better job in the area of relationships and start helping singles become more equally yoked. Prayers for this to become my own ministry🙏🏽🙌🏽Amen
"The greatest thing a man can do for a woman is lead her closer to God then himself" can't remember who said it but it true❤
Amen
Love
you can lead a horse to water....
i've never really dated a fellow believer. they always wind up holding my faith against me and say they don't want to raise a child to believe in God.
No you lead yourself first how can you know where to lead the woman of you aren’t close to him yet.
Unless she is unwilling to submit her husband. At that point she cannot be led because she wants to lead.
I just ended it with a man who is an atheist. I am in the very beginning of my walk with God, and after learning about being unequally yoked, I realized him and I arent meant to be. It hurts a lot, but I know that God has better plans for me.
I just ended a relationship too he believes in god not jesus, and he don't pray had to let it go....
@@beautifulqueen3887 Same here! my question is how can someone believe in the father and not the son... even the devil believed in him. Anyway I just want to let you know it may hurt now but trust that God just helped you dodge a bullet. God bless you !
@@tasiaowens. 👏🏾
@@tasiaowens. I'm an atheist and I would never marry a christian woman because I don't want my future children to learn Christianity at a young impressionable age until they get older and make the decision on their own to become one. And even if she told me that she had no intention to take them to church she might change her mind so it's best for me not to marry a Christian woman.
So how then do you expect them to find Christ and be saved when all the “Christians” run away? What good would it do to take the light out of the tunnel?
Oh man, my marriage is completely unequally yolked😔. I grew up in a christian household was saved as a teenager. my mother and father warned me to not be unequally yolked..i didnt listen..i had God on the back burner when I met my husband. Lived in sin with him, got married and now I see why its a bad idea. I love him..we have 2 children together been together 10 years married 7 but he is not saved..he was simi raised/ brainwashed with the JW beliefs. Please pray for our marriage and his salvation.
How are things looking for your marriage as of today?
I hope all is well! God bless you!!! 😊
God can still, can, and will restore.
I dated someone who used me and at the time I strayed from God. I learned from that and moved on. Fast forward I met someone and was almost used again only this time I turned to God and saw all the signs before! Trust in God and not in your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5-6
Thank you for your video. Keep up the good work!
Been there too....my eyes are wide opened now
I’m glad someone else commented on your tarot reading too. That’s occultism, which is satanism. Look up Steven bancraz on RUclips he does great videos on the topic. You need to get saved if you aren’t already. Got pulled me out of the occult, he can save you too ❤️ please heed our warning sister
Thank you so much. You can be with a Christian and still be unequally yoked. I was engaged last year but i broke it off. He could not lead me spiritually and unwilling to grow with me. We had different values. You really hit the nail on the head for me with this one. I didn't think anyone would ever understand my decision because he's a good guy. I felt the Holy Spirit pulling me in a different direction and he wasn't ready for what I was being called to do, but i still want to go with the Holy Spirit so I dumped him.
You are so brave. It's good that you listened to the Holy Spirit. Thank you for your testimony.
I hope things are going well for you now and that the Lord will bless you with an amazing husband if He hasn't already xx
God help us
Hey...
Am in this situation right now...I had to call things off and it was so hard but we were unequally yoked in terms of our values and purpose...
@@Shikswanjiks this is from quite a long time ago but I hope you’re good and I hope you made the right decision and went with where you felt the Holy Spirit was guiding you. I too spent 4 years in a sort of relationship with this guy, he was so great, but we were young and both of us made many mistakes, but at the end of it all I became reborn and he didn’t, and he didn’t understand my love for God and things fell apart. You just cannot force it to work when you’re unequally yoked, as much as you want it to. I was depressed for quite a long time about my situation, I was cowardly because it took me so long to end, I second guessed my self endlessly, and I felt so guilty for letting him go because we did love eachother. But I don’t believe I was the one God had for him and he was not the one God had for me. Some nights I still feel the guilt of it. It weighs on me. But God has gotten me through the depression and I feel much better than I did a year ago. I hope you are doing well as well. Pray endlessly and make all of this known to God
I wish I would've had STUDIED God's wisdom in my 20's 😑
It's never too late to go deep in God's word!
Mellomoon Haze So do I!
THE BEAT by Allen Parr Mr Allen I'm getting demonic attacks from posting on v this video page. can you respond please thank you 😳.
That is awesome! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for sharing your perspective Mellomoon Haze!
Same here
The Lord brought me to this and completely confirmed what I was believing and thinking and gave me my strength back. I broke off my engagement last month because of the conflicts religiously and the Lord told me leave. I questioned myself deeply and contacted him tonight and it was war. I was heartbroken but I am so loved by God that He had the doubt shut down again with this. On to healing. Thank you! God bless!
I'm in that situation right now. I feel I have to break up with my fiancé as he has no interest in being saved. He has no idea that I'm going to do this but I see all the warning signs. It's going to devastate him and hurt me deeply. I wish I hadn't let it go even this far and I could avoid the hurt.
@@gillianstewart8442 I am in exactly the same situation. It’s been very tough to get his far with my fiancé, but rightly or wrongly I still have hope. She’s reading the Bible, but I can see that she isn’t moved by the word. She’s trying her hardest to understand so I still have hope. I will keep praying for her and hoping and hold out as long as I can last. But at some point before taking the next step I am going to have to ask her if she thinks Jesus is a liar, lunatic, legend or Lord. Her answer will make or break it 😰
It’s one thing to be seeing someone who middle of the road it’s another to be with an abject disbeliever
Finding somebody who is as strong in their faith is very important to me. This was good at pointing out what to look for. thank you. I want somebody who motivates me spiritually.
Why, does it always seem like the ones you want are never the ones who are of the same spiritual levels
what if you do, and they don't believe you are on their level spritually? Then what?
I thank the Lord for you because I get to learn these lessons in my 20s.
Not just women bro.
I’m a dude with this exact problem
I literally just prayed tonight with her and my 3 year old son. The prayer was miraculously answered right in front of her eyes and i was dumbfounded when she was completely unaffected
God help me .
robotsrule 😦 sorry to hear..i can totally relate, unfortunately. Ill pray for u all
BAM 24 thanks
It’s never ending
@@robotsrule5051 same 😔..keep praying brother..i know its hard, as im typing im having to realize to take my own advice....the waters are rough, keep God as ur Captain
robotsrule right with you 😔
I understand you brother,
Don’t forget that you are the spiritual leader of your household and this challenge should bring you closer to the Lord. Pray for her unceasingly just as the Lord Jesus prayed for Peter, keep on pouring into her without trying to change her. I find myself falling many times in this trap. And the Lord will transform her from inside out (1 Corinthians 2:11).
Remember, she’s made holy through you. 👍🏾
I know I'm unequally yoke in an almost 11 year marriage. I'm finally growing closer to God and studying the word more and diving into church and fellowship why he's watching the game or whatever. It don't bother me much because we respect each other's views. I know we could be better in so many ways but this journey I'm on now is mines alone. Sometimes I can talk to him about God and sometimes I can't. He's the man for me and if God wants him to change, He'll change him. That's not my job. If you been married long enough, you know where I'm coming from. My job is to be a wife and love him inspite of. Hope this helps someone.
Same. I'm in a 16 year relationship. I had my own moment where I was ashamed to go back to church because we had a child out of marriage. Been back to church and worshipping for 8 years now. Married. My 3 kids and I attend alone. My husband and I talk about different verses together (I'm reading and don't understand). He has brought up some he remembers as a kid. He let's me sing and worship. He let's me be me with the Lord. And I let him be him. His purpose is so different than mine. I serve people through meals, hugs, cleaning, and listening. He serves people by fixing cars up, their homes, and he reaches out to other men going through divorces or loss of a child. He may not pray out loud. But when he closes his eyes or tears well up, I know Gods working. My husband isn't necessary equally yoked in spirit by some people. But in all honesty we balance together. I'm teachable;) I read the Bible he doesn't. But how can he remember so many verses? Makes me proud he's going in the path the Lord intended. May not be my path I imagined, but this is one is way better to watch❤ Like we just discussed about songs we seen on our daughters phone. He said our values are the same in our ultimate end goal (keep filthy music from her and have respect for herself) but how we want to attain that isn't the same. But not necessarily wrong either way 🤔
Yhoo
thank you for sharing. I was very discouraged by other comments
Exactly what I needed to hear, thank you! I was with a man for 30 years and finally got up the guts to say if we're not putting God 1st in our marriage, I'm unwilling to live the rest of my life the way the past 30 years have been. Our divorce became final April this year. I am now free And looking for a man who 1st and foremost loves Jesus and what hes done for us. I'm not desperate, I will not settle again and I'm not in a hurry.
Thank you for that beautiful message!
"And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” - Matthew 19:9
Applies to wives divorcing their husbands too. Not trying to condemn you--just trying to speak the truth in love.
🤔
@@blazinge4207 I hear what you’re saying, but it’s more edifying in context. Jesus was answering the Pharasees who were testing him in the law. Because Jesus fulfilled the law, we are not under the law. Jesus came so we could learn how to walk in the spirit which is why he also said, if you lust after a woman in your heart, you have already committed adulatory. So, it’s not about the actions because actions are the fruit of the heart. Which is why a divorce decree could be given for hardness of heart.
Christians should stop making the NT the new law. It defeats grace. It’s Gods grace that softens the heart and prepares you to walk in the spirit. And you will know them by their fruit. The fruit of the spirit does not sprout from a hard heart, but through Gods grace and mercy.
After making so many mistakes and suffering from an unequally yoked situationship I have finally come to understand I must commit myself to somebody equally yoked and only that. That or nothing. Sometimes I feel a little fearful though that I may never meet anybody, perhaps that maybe God won’t have a husband for me and I’ll die never having a true relationship, and I’d have to accept that and trust God if that is the case. I do hope though that one day it will be in God’s will for me. We’ll see
This was really good. I’ve been thinking about this for the past year or so because the Bible doesn’t talk about how you can be unequally yoked when both people are believers
I'm still scratching my head...in my relationship I guess I'm the one who need to grow...this was a good guide
different "values" is a huge red flag. people I would highly recommend everyone read 1001 questions to ask before u out get married. and ask yourself the questions in writing
We read that one before we got married. Excellent read.
LOL! Enjoy staying single!
This is why we each individually need to cultivate fellowship with Jesus daily to grow in our relationship with Him, which will help bestow on us wisdom for when the flesh of our flesh comes along and we will know if they’re the one or a distraction sent by the enemy.
Thank you, Allen Parr! As a recently-saved single 26 year old: your content has exponentially grown my knowledge as I read His Word.
this gave me a wake up call...
Thanks so much honesty4eva, I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thanks again for taking the time to watch. God bless honesty4eva,
RIGHT!!! He is not able to relate to you or interested in the same growth. That'S so important. Because your partner is the one person that should accept, support and encourage every part of you. It doesn't have to be his favorite thing to do, but if he has no interest it will become a problem. THANKS SO MUCH FOR SHARING ALLEN!
Thank you for your teaching. I have recently split up from a non Christian and wasn't sure if I have made a mistake. Thank God for answered prayer. Amen
I’m a husband in a tumultuous relationship, hanging on by a thread at this point! I’m really struggling to keep it afloat with me going in one direction and my wife going in another. I have been spiritually growing, gave myself to Christ about 5 months ago but my wife is rebellious of committing and growing with me! It’s hurt so much because I wanna share with her the wisdom I’m gaining from Bible study and being in fellowship
So your 1st example is the opposite of what is going on in my marriage.
Add me ruclips.net/video/kQeUNcFzdfI/видео.html
Read 1 Cor 7:12-16
I can’t imagine how beautiful it is to be saved during married life, nor how hard it must be to realise the unequal yoke with your soulmate 😢
amazing analogies and geez the sad thing is a lot of marriages are unequally yoked then. sad
I cannot thank u enough!! I have searched and searched for years for these kind of answers and u are one of the only ones I have found. ...Thank God for u
This is a very difficult topic for me personally because...my last relationship was over 2 years and when we met we both were Christians & not living fully in our walk. However, we grew together and rededicated our lives to Christ. Down the road he treated me like crap! Now, I’ve met someone who actually wants to be understanding of a “higher power” what he calls and more about faith. He’s not against believing. He just hasn’t had that personal experience with Christ. He actually admires me and treats me well. MY POINT IS...I struggle with this topic and it often makes me upset because so many times in the church..the so called “saved” men are the ones that will not live up to the standard God has called them. I’ve seen it with my preaching father and others and we are so quick to say don’t be unequally yoked but it’s beyond that...it’s about someone respecting you and loving you for you. I know Preachers who abuse their wives. We need to also understand that many women in the church are NOT meeting men outside the church for no reason. This is occurring because often times men outside of the church are found to have solid morals and be great loving husbands as well. I’m not trying to go against scripture but I’m trying to fully understand our interpretations of unequally yoked. What’s the sense of marrying and being equally yoked just to have your spouse cheat, abuse etc? At the point it wasn’t a relationship with God even in the forefront.
i just got out of relationship like this. I'm having a tough time really understanding this also. my ex and i just broke up. he says that we are unequally yoked. i am a new believer, but according to my bf he believes im not growing fast enough to his standards and thinks you should be doing x,y,z as a Christian. i told him, i do believing serving my community and helping others, but i do not believe that's what makes you a Christian. my focus now is more of having a personal relationship and god. Since he thought i wasn't going fast enough we broke up, and we were only dating 7 months. I don't feel like he was really patient with me or loving because all i got was constant criticism, and judgements. So i can see where your coming from when it comes to finding men outside of the church.
@@Bombshellgaming_ hi, I think your experience might help me, if you want to share. When you came to God did you want to live like the Bible says, or did it was a slow process? my GF is a new Christian as well, she says she got close to God like a year ago, but she doesn't see sin as sinful and constantly tries to seduce me to sin.
Fr. It’s like non-Christians are more Christian than many “Christians” out there that disrespect anyone that disagree with them. It makes you wonder and feel confused about that verse
@@lionsmusic004if she’s not leading you closer walk away
I was being courted by this God fearing Man, he knew scripture word for word. We would pray together, study together, saving ourself for marriage both of us living by the word. BUT he had this anger of rage that would come out n it scared me so much that when he'd call or come around I would feel a sense of fear. I was scared of him. He would justify his anger using scripture but it didn't feel like "love" to me. I decided to cut him off n man this man insulted me badly even while using scripture n all I said was "I think you're emotionally unstable n it scares me" ( I was trying to be open about my feelings but honest n respectful ) , I responded with, "ok" at the end even after threatening me that " if I were there no one would be safe" (what kind of God fearing man says that?!) I was just shocked n quite frankly I would be going against the word by replying back negativly . Now I've met someone who want to learn about God, is a believer , respects me n my faith, agrees to wait until marriage BUT doesn't know how to "lead" ..... is that ground to define it as unequally yoked? Tough call. All we can do is pray n ask for a revelation from God.
Simple and the best way that this have been told to me I've been in church most of my life and I've never had a clearer version of this topic before but I do now! God Bless your Ministry
Yes I'm glad I saw this video today because I been learning and following the Word of God for about 12 years now and all this time I thought God was saying to not be unevenly yolked (as in eggs) I wasn't thinking yoked. But anyways its a blessing that's why God says don't be wise in ur own understanding 🙂 thank you Allen Parr for your illustration
Dude - this was so awesome. Thank you. I really like the way you explained things. Very logical and brings a lot of peace to me as a single person. If I’m unequally yoked it’s just gonna be filled with tension . For real dude such a blessing 🙏 I am applying this to my friendships too.
See this is hard for me. Im constantly trying to grow in my relationship with God while I was in a relationship. We have different values on all fronts but we can always compromise. Yet I prayed to God if I should continue with this relationship. I got a huge no. And now Im caught between trusting in the Lord or continuing my earthly relationship. So this video is a blessing to hear tbh
Never comprimise with Jesus.
praise God that Jesus is touching your heart and revealing truth to you! God bless you and Jesus died on the cross for your sins!
God loves you so much
I have the same thing.. and i prayed but never reallt gotton my answer if its a no or a yes😢
Trust the Lord. 🙏
This is so relevant in every area of the relationship I'm presently in. Sadly, he doesn't see it and is continually unwilling to hear me when I reference scripture because he feels that I'm preaching to him. Thank you so much, these are all incredibly powerful points and covers every aspect to identify whether we're truly in a right relationship. God bless you and I'm a new subscriber.
Because you ARE preaching to him. Non-believers have made their decision. It does not help your case to quote to us from the Bible. When you need to make a point, try to find some way that doesn't involve scripture.
Thank you for your very helpful video and to the point! This spiritual discernment really needs to spread more! Most books and articles I go through focus on things like premarital sex and missionary dating but I think what this video addresses will focus on a more common and difficult problem to solve beyond "being saved", church attendance and baptisms. May you continually serve our Lord faithfully Allen & Team and receive His eternal reward for this :)
Wow this is so deep and provide clarity of being unequally yoked. Very informative!
My husband will not go to church or listen to the word it’s so sad because he’s missing out on so many blessings. But I pray and keep my faith and I keep reading the word. I really don’t let it worry me anymore after 25 years of marriage I wish I would have known earlier.
I am talking to A beautiful girl right now. We are both born-again Christians who love eachother. We share the same core doctrines, and we have very simaler, general, goals and visions. As in, we both want to live for God, spread his love, and to love everybody. This is so amazing, and praise be to God for all of that!
I agree 100% and I am learning what to look for. This has also helped me when I get tempted to date a non believer: To connect with an unbeliever is to place yourself on Satan's ground. You grieve the Spirit of God and forfeit His protection. Can you afford to have such terrible odds against you in fighting the battle for everlasting life? {12] - {AH 67.1}
You break it down so simply. I never thought about it like that. Thank you for your teachings and motivation.
You are VERY welcome Artemus! So glad you watched it and found it helpful.
I agree greatly! Ahh..like a tall glass of cold water on a hot summer day! It hit on different levels too, God bless you brethren for posting this one! 🙏🏾🕊🔥
My God I needed this!!! So much clarity! Thank you!
I actually really needed this as I've been struggling with this topic! Thank you for posting!
Please pray for my husband’s salvation xx He was brought up as a Lutheran but never talks about God or anything to do with the Bible. I married him when I had backslid 😢. I am now in a great place in my walk with God. I pray continuously for his and our children’s salvation.
Beautiful calmness. I could pay attention this time. Calmness appreciated.
Thank you for explaining this. I never fully understood this ‘unequally yoked’ concept. There is a Russian fable called the swan, pike and crawfish which teaches this idea too: they all have the job of towing a cart, but all pull in different directions, and the cart stays put. God bless you and your channel
Realized I’m in an unequally yoked situation, and found this 😢
I am in an unequally yoked marriage I chose my will instead of my fathers Jesus Christ forgive me my King
Are you able to share your story with me?
This video is an eye-opener in many ways.
Thanks for this!!
God bless you more sir!!
I recently got saved amd my husband is still a non believer;the tension in our marriage is insane and im really struggling with the divide.were even atriggling woth having a conversation because were so different now
Samee :(
This makes me want to cry
Why do you say?
Same I feel like crying too. Jesus help me :(
I’m bawling my eyes out for days now
I know its depressing. I'm crying now. I wish we had solutions. Just like when a doctor give a diagnosis we wanna know what we can do to treat it.
This was very helpful, thank you. I want someone committed to their walk with Christ. Seeking Him first. Our purposes need to align. I trust in God’s timing 🙏
This concept is very universal, it isn't restricted to religious beliefs but to all life values that guide us, such as health, knowledge, and wealth. Use this concept wisely to its full potential.
You nailed it, so true. I've lived half a century and what you said is all very true.
Wish I saw this 10 years ago before I got married 😕 .... things went from bad to worst and has now come to end . Looking forward to what God has in store for me .
This helped alot for me i am married to agnostic who tempts me to sin alot and turn away from God
JUST OBEY GOD’S WORD. I’m unequally yoked and struggling in my marriage, I love my husband and I pray for him. I wish divorce was an option because it would be easier and I don’t know if he will ever surrender to God. I know I have to deal with the consequences. I feel lonely, discouraged in my walk, misunderstood, resentful, and like my fatigue is never lifted. I’m only happy when I’m in the word.
Hi thank you THE BEAT ALLEN PARR for this message..I'm currently separated from my husband we have different views all this hit me makes sense as to what's been going on apart from other issues between us after couple years into marriage was when i repented and apply the word of God in my life/christian life through Christ Jesus and he's more worldly and doesn't understand it even though he says he respects it but we have different views in paths we want to take pray for me and my daughter who is 5 years old and my husband still as well even though we are separated I just hope I didn't make a bad decision in doing so...to continue my journey/walk with the Lord❤I'm kind of early in my walk somewhat but learning and want to grow mature spiritually for God to always guide me into all truth protect my family not be led astray...God bless you and your ministry.
this video answered so many questions i had
So glad it did Labelle!
Thanks so much Labelle Beauty, I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thanks again for taking the time to watch. God bless Labelle Beauty,
I am interested with a girl who believes in God but isn't christian or really thinks about God much. Idk what to do she is a very moral and trustworthy person and a good friend for many years. We like each other and talk every day.
Powerful and encouraging . Praise God Almighty for the enlightenment 🙏🙏🙏
If you can not say amen say ouch! Ouch! Bless the Lord for His Holy word. Thank you brothrr. Very Best Life begin, Shawna Jones
Thank you for sharing! I am actually in a bit of a problem. I dated a guy who said he was an atheist but something inside me told me to keep getting to know him. Fast forward 6 years and now we are engaged, he’s been to church with me, and now believes in a higher power and willing to learn more about God, pray with me, and even asks me what I’ve learned and encourages and supports me with praying and going to church. So I think we are in good standing but we are unequally yoked? I don’t know what to do and I keep praying about it as our wedding is coming up soon. Also for more context, I have been on and off with my relationship with God, but through this past year, I’ve grown closer to God. So in wonder why am I am in this situation of this isn’t what God wants for us.
for everyone whos in an unequally yoked marriage. i would say pray pray pray!!! pray so hard and all the time that the holy ghost will unharden their hearts and allow them to see and hear the truth. i am dealing with this right now he is a believer and a good man. but does not let god and the bible lead him but only pastors who can also be mislead them self. may god be with all of you. 🥰
Thank you for this subject! I know first hand what it is to be unequally yoked! I thank God for wisdom and understanding! God bless you!
Thank God for your wisdom. I am still learning and growing
You're welcome Cory Jackson! Thanks so much!
Great practical wisdom my friend and fellow Christ follower.
I'm single now and the next woman I date will definitely be a committed Christ follower.
Peace.
Yes what you said is. Good . I’m in a unequally yoked relationship. I’m praying and asking even if I should devolve the relationship but I do see changes happening. Thank you
What ended up happening
@@leticiaalvarez97 she’s has come to know the lord .
@@harryloibl5183 are you still together? That’s amazing news
thank you so, so ,so very much...I have never heard such a specific video like I have on this
Oh wow thank you. God just answered my question! That's what I thought! #1! But my mom told me I'm too picky, no wonder I'm single, and, pastors I've asked about this, haven't answered the #1!!!
This man speaketh the truth
dealing with this right now bless you for this video we were to get married on june and i believe its a sign
I am clicking like on many peoples excellent videos and You Tube is not counting it! Just thought I better share.
Thank you so much for this teaching!! I wish I had known this 15 years ago...
BRILLIANT!!!! So amazingly put with clarity. Thank you!
Wowwww this REALLY opened my eyes to some really really serious things that I was trying to not see😔
I’m in a relationship with a woman who is great and I truly believe she has/wants a relationship with Jesus but has the thinking of prayer is the only aspect she kinda needs. You hit it on the head with the Bible being the thing that I believe is the guide by which we follow but she does not. It’s a very sad thing cuz I love her very much but I’m torn and it might come down to letting her go and it’s tough!
good information. Christian, its possible to be unequally yoke with another christian. open your eyes, cause these are the most difficult to notice or even if you notice it, is easy to close our eyes to it thinking it can change. The word is clear. God knows best. Either one will drag the other. plus is difficult to not have your husband beside you, worshipping together, participating in church ministry together...so listen to the word of God, ask for guidance.
So happy that someone considers difference in spiritual maturity as being unequally yoked.
Yes!
two Christians can not be unequally yoked. That is only for a believer and an unbeliever
I disagree. Did you see the description of what being yoked actually is. If you have someone who believes but doesn't value a relationship with God, and lives on the fence and the other person lives for Christ and does everything to glorify Him, that is most certainly being unequal spiritual. Thus unequally yoked.
instantly ... I love you my brother
Ha, thanks man! God bless,
So this resonates deeply with me, unfortunately. When I first met my husband... I was very devoted about my faith. We talked on the phone before meeting up to 5 months... and i would go on and on about my faith in the lord and my passion, I was literally involved in a faith group that conditiond us to become missionaries. And he I guess looking back on it now...'played along'
Because that was 18. Many ups and downs on both ends between 18 and my current age 25. I had a foundation of Christ and raised in the lord...and he wasn't.
Part of me wants to leave him because hes not a spiritual leader. One that I need at this point of my life. But then... part of me is like "yo I know God expects so much out of me...and because I know I dont meet his standards...would I want him give up me?"
Idk But I'm leaning towards seperation. But the problem is I'm young. 25...the same desires of a young widow in which God urged for widows to get married. My family lives in a whole different city. I want to go deeper with it.... but it may not be appropriate. But I'm really asking from a place of just idk.
It's really frustrating because I dont want to feel like im choosing my husband over God. But idk maybe I need to have faith and know he will take care of the things I fear imma be at a loss with.
Seperation to me is neccessary at times.
Love, let me try to summarize this as much as I can cuz if I go too much into this, I could do a whole 12 page essay on this😂. But I’ve experienced the same struggle as you trying to live my life right for God, trying to be acceptable to him, especially within a relationship I had with an unbeliever. I’m here to tell you that there is freedom in Christ. Now this part is kind of theological so bear with me here. Some people believe in the stance of positional righteousness vs practical righteousness. Which basically in a sense means when you get saved you are ”positionally” right with God. But then there is “practical righteousness”, which is the pursuit of becoming righteous in our lives, pursuing to live a life without sin. I went through so many resources before I finally discovered how this whole mindset, although it sounds good and godly at first, it’s actually not biblical and not scriptural. I actually highly encourage you or anyone else reading this to do their own research on this doctrine that’s widely accepted in churches today, and I think you’ll find it very interesting. Anyways, my point is to say I’ve come to the conclusion that when you get saved, you are righteous not based off of works in any point of your life but based off of what Jesus Christ has already done for you. Righteousness literally means “being accepted by God.” Honey, the moment you get saved and you’re cleansed of your sins by Jesus’s blood, from that moment you were accepted. You can’t become any more “accepted.” Now I know people will take what I say out of context and think that I’m saying go live a life however you want and ur in Christ now so whatever u do is fine. That’s absolutely not what I’m saying. My intention is to change the mindset, to change the goal. Rather than putting a life of righteousness as you’re top priority, which technically our righteousness is nothing but filthy rags, but my point is instead of focusing on that, you focus on your relationship with Christ, focus on getting to know Him and love Him. And as you grow closer to Him, the outworking of that relationship will transform your heart to give you His desires and His intentions and His convictions. There is freedom in Christ. Don’t let anyone make you a slave to sin. You’re no longer bound to the law, a list of dos and donts. Your call is to abide in Christ, in His love, in your identity as a daughter of God, and to live that out. And that is the high calling of God.
P.S. this is a link to to an article I found on how people rip the “unequally yoked” verse in the Bible out of context to create a rule or a “sin” that was never intended to be a rule pertaining to marriage. I hope you read it and it gives you the comfort of knowing you are not living against God’s will for your life just because you are in relationship with an unbeliever. Now is it wise for believers to be in union with each other? Of course! It’s always worth considering the person in regards to how they’ll influence your relationship with Christ. Because Christ is and should be the main love of your life. And typically, I find that when two Christians come together in marriage, they often edify each other and build each other’s relationships in Christ. I am all for Christians marrying each other and I encourage it. But although believers marrying is the most ideal relationship, biblically, the scriptures don’t support the notion of this “all or nothing” mentality that other Christians tend to have. It is not a sin to marry an unbeliever. And even if someone disagrees with that, let’s take it one step further being that you’re already married to him, this isn’t even an issue of whether or not you should marry him, it’s an issue regarding whether or not to stay with him after marriage. Most Christians actually agree on this, which is nice lol, that Paul calls people who are already in marriage with an unbeliever to stay with them, in case you might be the one to bring them to Christ. But if they’re the one to leave you because of your faith, then yes he says to let him go. Otherwise, if they choose to stay, there is no arguement being made on your necessity to leave him for the sake of Christ. I hope these words and resources bring you encouragement and I’ll keep you in my prayers, love.
1 Corinthians 7:12-16 ESV
To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
Link to article of “unequally yoked” verse being taken out of context :
sermons.faithlife.com/sermons/221657-ripped-out-of-context:-unequally-yoked
Link to short video explaining the false doctrine of positional and practical righteousness:
ruclips.net/video/dAkL3AB2Y7Y/видео.html
@@amandamei8004 I wanna delete this now because I'm 26 now and things have gotten so much better in my marriage. He's not perfect and neither am I! He has spiritually changed and prioritizes the his relationship with God.a whole lot more..and he literally plays a Bible scripture almost everyday while he's at work for me via alexa. He gets on me if.i forget to.pray and if he has an issue with me....he prays for me. Idk what happened but he did a major 180 and really being that man I need him to be! I feel so blessed. I guess I shouldn't have complained and took it to God cuz he said complain about nothing but everything prayer supplication with Thanksgiving. I was also pregnant when I wrote this
@@mary1stcor15v1-4 really happy for you! That’s so amazing and encouraging to hear! God bless your family❤️
@@amandamei8004 You should totally write more. I'd read all you have to say! Better than most established blogs I've read, and your writing is a response to a comment!!!!
@@mary1stcor15v1-4 I think you should leave it. Reading your story from before to now gives me hope and will others too! Thank you for the update!
I'm wrestling with this right now. I'm uncovering some worldly tendencies and focuses in my girlfriend and am unsure if I just need to continue to lead her and she will mature and come to change her focus with time or if maybe we aren't a good fit. She definitely loves God but she is more focused on materialism than I'd like to see if I'm honest. She seems willing to listen to me when I want to steer us to the word of God and his ways but I'm a little concerned.
Can you pray for me, Allen? I’m having issues with my fiancé. She is a Full Gospel Pentecostalist and I’m a Southern Baptist so you can definitely tell we have our differences. From the beginning of the relationship she said that she would go based on God’s Word and if I could show her what she’s doing is wrong based on scripture then she would change. Would you pray specifically for her that she would be open to God’s Word and changing based on what I share to her from scripture and for me as I do so? I will say this I use your videos that God is always inside to tell her the truth and I love your channel and how you are willing to tell the truth when others are afraid to! God bless you and your ministry my brother in Christ!
Thank you. This was eye-opening
What can be done if you believe you are unequally yoked and already married? According to a lot of the things you said in this video, is pretty much the issues we're going through. I love my wife very much & I'm working on the things/scriptures you mentioned in your other video,(Husband Role In A Marriage). Thanks for your videos, God bless you
I heavily rely on 1 Corinthians 7:12-17. I will be praying for you and your marriage. ❤️
This was so good! Thank you for this video
I used to go to a church with older people. One lady in our church had to ask her husband's permission to attend church. Sometimes she'd get up and witness about how easy it was getting to get permission 🤣🤣🤣. I used to shake my head "inside". I have commitment issues because I feel like few men are "sold out" to follow God and I can't trust them to lead correctly. The key word in saved or unsaved is "values". They must be alike or matching.
No matter what "PUT GOD FIRST"
Matthew 6:33
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
With all due respect 2 Corinthians 6:14 has nothing whatsoever to do with marriage. In context, Paul is talking about moving away from a pagan value system to that of Jesus. Also we should judge our fellow brother and sisters in Christ by what he did for us on the cross not how they are in a particular spiritual discipline or how “spiritually mature” we deem them based on our own arbitrary standards of what spiritual maturity looks like. When we start judging people that way we are walking in pride not in the love of Christ. Also I believe your spouse and their purpose should always come before your own and ideally they should feel the same way.
I came to know Christ after my marriage and I am in an unequally yoked relationship and this describes exactly what I am going through. My hope is in God and I know He has a plan for my life and my marriage. Thank you for videos, may God continue to bless you!
Ask the LORD to SPEAK to you
I come to you God and I pray that you undo this retched link chaining me to a non-believing, secular woman. I made a mistake back then and I have moved on but the Devil is trying to use sick sexual warfare to harm me as I try to do big things in my life. I won't let it stifle my growth or take my joy away. 😁😁😇🙏
Lord I know that nothing is impossible for you. I leave this problem in your hands. I know you will bless me with someone better in the future. 🙏
I'm with you brother
A car has two left tires and two right tires:
Situation 1 (equally yoked/balanced)
The tires on the left side and the right side are inflated with the same amount of air
The car drives straight when aimed straight
The car is equally yoked
Situation 2 (unequally yoked)
The tires on the left side is fully inflated
The tires on the right side are fully deflated
The car will not drive straight when aimed straight, and will deviate from the path
The car is unequally yoked
The car can have all inflated or all deflated tires - both sides just need to be the same in character, so that the car will be balanced so that it moves in the direction that the driver is pointing towards.
An equally yoked arrow will hit the bulls eye because it is balanced.
An unequally yoked arrow will deviate from the bullseye and miss, although it is aiming at the bulls eye just like the equally yoked arrow is.
Awesome.....will encourage the highschoolers in my church to watch this video!
With all due respect Timothy, even many adults in the Body of Christ are missing the point on "marrying or being unequally yoked". Sadly, there is an ignorance because it's not being taught or reproved in the church as it should be. I believe this should be taught as a basic principle because it has a huge impact on life and family. In addition, it is a stumbling block to many UNbelievers as it can weaken a believer's witness.
I needed to hear this.👏. Mr Allen you rock.
Praise the Lord and good evening. The Lord put this scripture on my heart while I was @ work last night. So far, my study of this verse seems to lean toward dating or marriage. I am wondering, however, if following this teaching more or less keeps us from effective ministry, especially witnessing? Really appreciate some insight on this subject.
I seeked t
an answer. Prayer answered
Thank you
I need this in my life. Not happening now but will change soon.
Wait, I need to hear more!! What if you’re already married to this person?
there are many christians only by Name but not born again-spiritfilled, once the Holy Spirit in us bares witness that the Partner is also spiritfilled, then there is no unequally yoked.i don´t believe in "lukewarm" "Christians" ...either they are really born-again or not. hot or cold!
Bettina Suarez Jesus Himself refers to lukewarm Chrisitans in the book of Revelation-- so of course there are..
@@craigime you don't understand, there is no such thing as lukewarm christians
Hot: accepting Jesus and living the holy command = Saved
Cold: Accepting Jesus but has carnal problems = Saved but unprofitable
Lukewarm: Thinks is a christian but didn't accept Jesus and have a poor, blindm wretched and naked spirit = Unsaved
Would you talk more about what a man who has this quality of “spiritual leader” looks like? How does that show up practically? I want to be able to identify men who can lead spiritually in dating, but I’m not sure exactly what I’m looking for.
Wow great massage
I can’t take it! All this knowledge, sound doctrines and awareness. Where was all of this before? The church really needs to do a better job in the area of relationships and start helping singles become more equally yoked. Prayers for this to become my own ministry🙏🏽🙌🏽Amen
I was. Cut it off 2 weeks ago it hurts Bad.😔
This is exactly what I needed!!!