how to SURVIVE and THRIVE in your 20's... the fool guide
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- Опубликовано: 26 авг 2024
- This week on Fool Coverage Manny and Laura AND Tyler dive deep and give advice on how to survive your 20s. They talk about the 5 key areas of life, including money & work, love, friendship, family, and fitness/food!!!
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it’s fool friday!!!!!!! my fav day
Mine too! 😍
Good great video God bless you all supportive and helpful family looking great as usual great video God bless you all supportive
Nice video looking adorable and beautiful
Amazing and adorable 💓🥰💓💓🥰 great 💘🥰 keep smiling and keep growing up ❤️😍🥳 stay safe and healthy
Great success hatsoff to u
Great makeup look
It is in fact my favorite podcast!
Love it babessss🫶🏼🪔🪔🪔🫶🏼
Mine too!!!!!! I just love Fool Coverage!!
Don't Have kids in your teens. Makes you're 20's way easier. Don't settle for any partner, no matter what (pressures from family, friends, the partner, yourself. Love, circumstance) You have your whole life ahead of you and don't need to be miserable even if a situation feels permanent and too hard to escape. Every day you spend not working on yourself, your life, your dreams, your health is a day wasted that you'll look back on and wish you had started sooner. Have fun. Keep a journal and take pictures/videos. Things you think you could never possibly forget, you will.
VIDEO IDEA: this conversation reminded me of a game you can buy at target called “we are not really strangers”. it’s a three level game where the questions get super deep as you go up levels and it gets you super introspective (questions like “how can i earn your vulnerability” or “what is a dream you’ve given up on”)!! would love to hear the three of you play this game :))))))
Yaaasss!!!! So for this
I, too, would like this 🙋🏽♂️
Yessss
omg yes!!! such a deep and introspective game! :D
Had to say for Manny: after only 2 weeks of meeting my now husband of 7 years, he knew I caught the flu and he brought me soup to the door as a surprise. I was shocked that someone would just drop something off for me w no expectations just to be nice. I had never been treated that a man. 100% a defining moment for our relationship. What you did wasn't cringy and I hope some day you're with someone you can express yourself fully with.
I never leave comments, but (this is for Manny) I want to say that I don’t think that what you did (leaving the flowers and soup) was cringe. It was brave, sweet, and loving. If anything, it’s sad that you didn’t get the love you deserved in return!
Thanks for always working so hard and creating great content for us
Honestly same, I would do the same and I think it just shows who you are personally
I thought the same thing! Its something I wish would happen to me .
I agree! I think it was a really thoughtful thing to do!
Yes! I have a friend who is caring and always does gestures like this and it seriously speaks on her character.
I agree. I think it was really sweet and thoughtful. I would appreciate the effort someone put into doing that for me.
I feel like a FOOL bc the whole time watching this I heard a beeping noise and was like "damn how is no one addressing the fire alarm with a low battery??!" AND THEN I REALIZED IT WAS MY FIRE ALARM. 😩 love y'all ♥
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OH MY GODDDDDDDDD
i’m 25 now, so i’m still in my twenties, but man, oh, man….. i put so much pressure on myself in my early twenties. i remember trying to find “my purpose in life,” and it crushed me because i could never figure out the answer. now that i’m older, i’m convinced that it’s old-fashion thinking. my purpose in life is to just vibe. life is always changing, so having just “one purpose” is insanity! but no matter what you do, always make sure to have fun and relax. that’s my purpose.
In your 20s, when something bad happens it feels like the end of the world. The one thing I wish I knew is that the hardships will pass. In my mid 20s, I had 2 miscarriages and then at the time found out my now ex husband was cheating. I honestly thought I had nothing to live for. Thank God for a friend who was overly concerned for my well being. I now have an amazing husband and 3 beautiful children. This too shall pass is a real thing. I know no 20 year old is going to listen to this because back then I wouldn't have either and just thought my life was over. You never know what the future holds and at your lowest point, it can only get better.
I’m 23 and very much appreciate this video haha
I’m 23 and I’ve been trying to stick with this mentality but you sharing your experience has really help. It’s nice to know you’re not alone (though I don’t have experience with miscarriages, I’m so so sorry you went through that)
Thanks for sharing, seriously
Laura, it literally melts my heart any time Ty talks to you. The fact that he is so good at being a supportive husband and that he's able to keep his ego out of it when he compliments you or says anything about you, I just can't 🥺Its so obvious that you two really love each other.
This is relevant to me.I just turned 24 and I got my first job after uni in May and had to quit due to mental health challenges and the toxic work environment. I'm moving back home and have to start from scratch. I'm broke and it is what it is 🤷🏽♀️. I'm just happy that I'm still young with no kids so I can make it work. Please pray for me though 🙏🏽
Tyler clutching his pearls when laura said she had other relationships is EVERYTHING. 🤣
Also, I’m 31 and still don’t know what to do with my life. So there’s that. Lol
Same at 32 lol
30 & same lol still feel 22 inside
@@mayraz5625 girl same lmfao
@@mayraz5625 Same here I am 33 and still feel 26 plus still haven’t figure out what I want hahaha but being a single mom of a soon to be 11 year old I am just keeping it together with a smile n’ being grateful💯🫶🏻🤗
I’ve definitely learned that sometimes people need to to be selfish with their time and energy. On that same note, how to not be offended when someone is not willing to give up their time and energy for you because maybe that’s something they need to protect for themselves.
The word Laura is looking for is ADVERSITY! 🎉
I was literally screaming it in my car on my way home from work 😂😂
lol came to say the same
Yes!!
Yesssssssss
Something i’ve learned, pay attention to how you feel when you interact with someone. A friend, family member, romantic partner. Is it good or bad? When you leave their presence - are you drained or happy? And no matter what you’ll always be okay!❤️
Love hearing you guys get deep! As a soon to be 31 year old, I couldn't agree more with everything said. My biggest regrets for my 20s are not saving money and not loving and respecting myself more. One of the things I relate to the most is that blood-relations doesn't need to be family. Toxic people are not required to stay in your life forever just because you're related to them. If you have positive people around you, you will be so much more happy, which will allow more room for growth and success
I’m currently 28. A few things I’ve learned especially lately, is how important it is to connect with each other on a human level. And to be nice, respectful and PATIENT with each other. Say hi to people you see around you, and ask how they are. You never know how much that can really mean to someone or even to you. A family thing i learned is to not be too hard on your parents for not teaching you properly or being there for you. They were going through their own things too and didn’t have the capacity to also take care of your needs.
Thank you for reading. Love each one of you fools ♥️
As a 22 y/o trying to figure my life out, this has been one of my favorite episodes by far! It’s nice to know that I’m not the only person trying to figure life out.
I think Laura’s point on motivation was pretty good. Overall I think motivation comes and goes in waves. The true key is being consistent even on the hard days.
Laura is so right. You never know how short life is. Losing a parent in the blink of an eye is gut wrenching.. Much love to the fool fam. ❤️
Exactly! By the time i was 41 I had lost both parents and I'm an only child. I felt so alone and NEVER thought I would be without my parents that young.
@@Shaynesss I understand since I lost my mom 3 years ago. I'm also an only child. It's tough since I was in my late 30's at the time. I feel your pain!
Im 21 and I work like a dog not lying. I make as much money as I can to support my self and my RUclips channel. I wouldn’t put as much work as I do, if I didn’t love it. I appreciate hearing this so much. I always hear consistency is key. I’m proud of me, I’ve gone through so much and had to grow up so early. And I know one day it will all be worth it. Thank you so much for this!
When Tyler, Laura and Manny all said "call your Mom!!", I thought of the video Laura shared when her Mother passed. I was crying so hard watching the video and then I paused the video and called my Mom! I was still crying while talking to her and I just let her know how much I loved her and how wonderful of a Mother she is. So yes, if you are still able to, CALL YOU MOM!❤️
I am 25! & so far what I have learned is SAVE! If you can’t wear the clothing item more then 3 ways don’t buy it. If you can’t buy something twice you can’t afford it! Trying not to buy meaningless stuff, it’s hard but worth it! I live in NJ and it’s extremely expensive especially North Jersey where I live, trying to move out! So save save save!
I am also 25 and in a couple months 26, and that first note…. Is the hardest for me! 😂
FULLY agree that 30s are the greatest years. When I was a teen/in my 20s I really thought 30 was old but I swear once you turn 30 it’s like a switch goes off. I’m so much more confident in who I am, I don’t care if people find my interests “weird,” and I’m financially able to actually go and do the things I enjoy. I’m ready for this to be my best decade yet 😊
"Moving comes from motivation." This one REALLLLYY resonates with me. I've ALWAYS, for as long as I can remember, had such a terrible time with motivation. I'm always saying, "I need something to motivate me..." but what you said makes a hell of a lot more sense. Even now, I've been so unmotivated after having my third baby...... 8 months ago 🤣 I take care of most of the house but never my own room and it drives me insane because I want it done I just don't have the motivation....ever. All of what you guys said were absolutely great but that one is the one that stuck with me. It'll be the words I'll be repeating to and reminding myself whenever I need to get something done but have a million excuses to avoid it.
I’m 3 years into my 20’s and I’m ready for my 60’s thank u
You ain't seen nothing yet lmfao I'll be 39 in September and when I was your age I was struggling so much with drug and alcohol abuse as well as being in abusive relationships! I'm sober now but it took me a long time to get to this point. My body is destroyed from many years and drug and alcohol abuse. So much so that I now have a bad liver and many health issues. So I REALLY feel like I'm 100 most days!LOL! Best of luck to you Katie!
Oh I feel that but it TRULY does get better. The best advice I can give you is to learn about everything and anything as much as you can and keep finding your passions! It’s what makes life worth living 💖
Adversity: difficulties; misfortune.
"resilience in the face of adversity"
This is the word i believe you were looking for :)
Love the podcast ❣️
Yess I think so too.
This episode is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m 23 years old and I have a successful lash business. I took a leap, got out of my comfort zone and bought salon suites. I’m currently struggling so much to get the permits and paper work done. I keep making so much mistakes on the documents and paper work. My stress levels have been so high since I’m managing my lash and suites business. After working 10 hours a day 5 days a week, countless hour hold phone calls, long drives to the city, emails, and responding to my clients etc. I’ve been so negative but now I see that it’s just a part of the process and it’s time for me to f up. I know the end result will be great. Thank you guys for this video 💗
This episode was absolutely incredible! Sometimes, light hearted funny episodes are needed, and sometimes like today, a deeper conversation is needed. As someone in their early 30’s, it was nice to take an introspective trip back to my 20’s with you guys!
I’m in my late 20’s and honestly it’s been the most stressful and confusing time. For a good chunk of my 20’s I spent most of my time working 2 jobs to be financially independent but the past 4 years got me nowhere besides creating horrible eating habits/ sleep habits. Now I’m going back to school for better opportunities and quitting one job has made such a difference. Like Laura said you will go nowhere if you stay in your comfort zone.
What i tell everyone in the late teens going into their 20’s is to travel. Travel as much as you can because once those kids come it’s very difficult to do.
I love this so much. I’m 26 and these 20 something’s are kicking my a$$ honey!
love you guys so much!❤️❤️
Love Life Story: my fiancé and I met when we both were in community college. He told me right away after the semester was done he was joining the military. I didn’t expect for our relationship to continue but we enjoyed spending time with one another before he left. 6 months into our relationship he left for basic training. I stayed in college over 1000 miles away. He signed a 6 year contract so we had a long stretch ahead of us. Everyone told us we were crazy for staying together while he went in and I stayed in our home state finishing college. They said our relationship would turn unfaithful and we would never work. During his 6 year contract he was stationed always over 800 miles away and deployed for 8 months twice. We never lived together but we would always make it a point to visit one another every other month when he was stateside. 3 years into his contract i graduated with a teaching degree and decided to take a job in our hometown. This meant we would continue staying apart but long term it made the most sense. We also made it a point to wait to get married until he was out of military and we were together. 6 long years later he is now out of the military this month and he is packing up his home in SC to move back with me in my home I bought for us last year in our hometown. Our love story is so so unique and beautiful. It took a lot of work but we always prioritized our needs and future over what everyone else said wouldn’t or would work for us. The point is, if people are telling you what you want to do is impossible, you probably are doing the right thing for you!
I have so much respect for Laura!! She is such an inspiring and admirable person!! ✨🥺
First I just need to say wonderful podcast and Manny I LOVE your shirt!!
I'm still chugging along through my 20s and 5000000% agree with the advice! So far my 20s have been the most difficult and challenging years of my life. I've learned so far that a good support system can carry you through the hard times including losing part of that support system - it has been the key to helping me achieve the heights I want to achieve! One of my brothers passed away in 2020 and it is devastating, it always will be, and losing him helped me refocus on the relationships in my life because the people I love are more important to me than *anything*. Call people up, send them a quick text to tell them you're thinking about them. Ask for advice, ask for help - people who love you are happy to hear from you, even if you think you might be annoying!! I'm still working on prioritizing my health, but imma get there yall ❤️
Such a great episode!! I’m 27 and I’ve struggled on every topic so hearing this today was a reminder that it only gets better moving forward. Thank you all so much for bringing encouragement and positivity to today’s episode (y’all always do but this one specifically was EVERYTHING)! ❤️
I’m 25 and I have 2 kids. Having children has completely changed my life, my mindset, how I view myself, etc. In lieu of healing and finding your identity in your 20’s, just know that this NEVER ends! You will be learning yourself and healing at 30, 40, 50.. 80, 90!You don’t have to shy away from love, from having children, from chasing your goals, from taking care of yourself until you’re “better”, or understand yourself “more”. I used to not take care of myself or get dressed until I lost weight. I used to think I couldn’t be loved until I learned to just hurry up and heal and love myself! This behaviour was self-loathing and I was stuck in a loop of not feeling worthy because I didn’t know enough yet, didn’t heal from trauma, didn’t feel worthy of caring for myself. But working on yourself is a life long journey. And it takes courage to show up how you are TODAY. This mindset allowed me to be proactive in caring for myself, and actually doing the learning and loving I deserved.
It’s okay to not “know” yourself yet and to still embrace all you are, and take chances, and love others… and it’s okay to recognize that learning and growing is what life is about!
I’m about to turn 28 on August 10. Perfect timing that this episode came out! Very insightful 💜
So cool! Happy early birthday! I’m turning 28 as well on august 18! ❤️♌️
Crummy jobs, bad relationships and being broke during my 20s was so good for me. At 34 I’m so much more confident, successful and fulfilled after going through some rough times.
I wish this could’ve came out 10 years ago! 20 year old me would’ve and should have had this advice. I was with the wrong boys (because they were definitely not men). I strayed from family. As I’ve gotten older and as I am nearing my 30th birthday (in January), I look back and want to slap myself silly! I hope people entering their 20’s or just starting their 20’s listen to this advice! It’s so important. ❤️
Thinking the same thing over here!
I feel youuu 💕 my mom always says you lived and you learned, don’t beat yourself up over it.
Just finished listening to this on Spotify. Such a great episode!!❤️ I’m turning 25 next month and needed this!!
Tyler saying “you are who you hang out with” has been something that was always drilled in my brain from my mom since a young age just with a different phrasing
“If you lie down with dogs, you’re gonna get fleas”
And remembering those words have saved me from toxic situations too many times to count.
Omg I love this podcast so much. I’ve been telling my husband I really want to try creating those personalized party favors for birthdays cause they’re really in and I told him I just hate change and I’m so scared of the unknown or trying to do something new & just hearing what you guys talk about in the beginning with change and careers I felt like you guys were LITERALLY speaking to me! Def gonna try and pursue this new venture! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Would love to hear your take on tackling your 30s! #thirtyflirtyandTHRIVING
I love that you all are always taking the “working class” or 9-5’ers into consideration. ❤ we know that what you all do is still hard work, if not harder at times, but I love that you keep us in mind and realize that our lives are not all the same when you’re talking about certain things. 🙏
definitely agree with Laura on the family advice! Toxicity is toxicity regardless of who it comes from & you have to do what’s best for your life/happiness
I’m 25 with 2 babies, husband, mortgage all the above and I can’t stress enough how much health and exercise has helped with postpartum and my mental health. 1000% need to wake up everyday and move my body so I can be the best momma to my babies and the best wife
My twenties were the best and worst days of my life. I struggled with mental health issues but I learnt so much. I’m now 32 too and I absolutely love being single, living on my own and just being the best version of myself ❤️
As someone turning 30 in a few months, all I can say is you are constantly learning. I remember thinking 30 was so old and thinking I would have everything figured out by then. I am here to say that I still don't know what I'm doing and that's okay. But I am so looking forward to my thirties. Here's to growth 🥰
Honestly love it when it’s all three of you! I love seeing the love and laughter between Tyler and Laura and the relationship you both have with Manny is just so fun! I love how close you all are and you guys make me laugh every time!
No cause this video is absolutely everything 🤍 I’m always gonna come back to this one.. I’m someone who’s really never had anyone, no friends no family & no one to talk to, so absolutely loved listening to this in my apartment while making breakfast. It was like I had friends or family around 😭
as someone who is almost halfway finished with the 20s this was soo helpful! love you guys 🫶🏽❤️
I never comment but I just wanna say I enjoy Ty on the podcast! He asks all the good questions that I want to know . Loved this episode! Very helpful ❤
i'm 25 and something i am currently having to learn is stop holding onto people who would never hold onto you... i feel like we spend a lot of time holding onto friendships just because of the time we spent with those people... i'm having to learn that just because someone was right for your life then doesn't still mean they are now and by continuing to hold onto these dying relationships it's building way more resentment and ruining the view i had on these people... but if i just let them go when the universe was telling me to i would still hold the memories of them dear to my heart and would have appreciated that time a lot more and the role they played in my life.
As someone who is a few short month from entering my 20's this is so helpful. I'm so nervous but this makes everything a lot less scary
You’ll be good girl! Just be intentional with all your decisions, your decisions decide your future. I believe in you!
So I’m actually a 22 year old, married with a 1 year old baby girl. I have had to go through ending some of my strongest friendships due to what you guys were saying about them bringing me down. My highschool days were much different from who I am now.. I still have a lot of work to do on myself, but I believe that ending these friendships, and finding myself has helped who I’ve become today! I’ve still got a lot to learn as I have just barely been in my 20’s, however 23 is coming up quick and I’m excited for what’s to come! Thank you all for the encouragement to figure out myself ☺️☺️
Manny- leaving flowers and soup was SO SWEET and more people need to be like that. ❤
Great advice!!! I heard this once & it's always stuck with me cuz it's sooo true....."The definition of insanity is doing the exact same thing, & expecting different results!" 💯It ain't gonna happen!!! U should be EXTREMELY proud of yourself Laura & how far you've come, totally succeeded & doing it my your damn self!!!!!! 👏👏🥰🤗♥️
I love my family but my dad specifically was very toxic. At 17 I graduated and moved out and never came back. And I dont regret it. And I feel like our relationship was better because of it. He grew, and I grew. And we were able to step back and gain perspective
I love this podcast more and more every time I watch it. I love the three of you chilling talking about real life!! I'm also in my 30s so seeing how different our journeys are but still having the same type of experience of learning, growing, finding your way into being an adult. Love it all!!
Manny, you were so honest and vulnerable in this episode, loved it 🫶🏻
I’d LOVE an episode with Ty and Laura about their relationship and how they grow and develop as a couple (sorry Manny: LOVE YOU) I’m 29 and with my fiancé for 13 years so it would be nice to hear some tips 💕
Iam a young at heart, mind, body (ok, not as much body) and soul about to be 65yr old BEAUTIFUL, THRIVING WOMAN. The best advice I can give is practice and put in the time and effort to continue to discover something new about yourself and others. Trust yourself, challenge yourself, have the courage to remove toxic people from your inner circle, be kind, loving, encouraging and accepting of yourself and others. In life, I have found there are only 2 states of being....growth or decay. Continue to be in the question about your purpose and make sure your actions are in alignment. Practice balance, practice self love, and be mindful that words matter, and actions speak louder than words. One last piece of advice, celebrate your wins daily, and if you dont feel like you had a win, dig deeper as they are ALWAYS there.
OOH I need this. I’ve been vlogging how I’ve been struggling thru my 20s. Ya girl needs all the help she can get 😅😅
I am 20 and I have already learnt that CHANGE IS A CONSTANT! It is scary especially cause I'm spending so much time on working with myself after moving to another country for uni and a break-up, and listening to this episode I realise that I will always grow and change and I will have new things every day to work on and to deal with. I am excited to look back at myself in 10 years!
Love you guys xx
ONE HUNDRED PERCENT when Laura started talking about toxic family 👏🏼
Not joking: I wrote a page worth of notes. I have been really struggling in the first 3 years of my 20’s - I currently have no friends, still in a comfortable job (not my career) since I was 18, still live at home, single, and unsure of where to go from here. For a while I thought it was just me as I saw so many people I knew post on instagram all of their huge friendship groups going out but I know it’s not just me. Feeling stuck, anxiety and fear is such a real part of your 20’s that you’re never warned about. Plus, the pandemic didn’t really help. Thanks for giving me some reassurance that I am actually doing okay and things will work itself out xx
It’s so funny that y’all are talking about this. Must be a sign for me to get out of my comfort zone. I have been struggling trying to figure out what to do with my life for a long time. I’ve been at the same job for 4 years since i graduated and I have been miserable for a long time. I’ve always been so scared to try something new. This past week I finally decided to put in somewhere else. So wish me luck! I love you guys!
I love these type of podcast topics, specially since some of us are still struggling with toxic relationships.
I’ve recently got ghosted by a decent size group of friends because one of them didn’t want to have a grownup conversation with me about her time management when it came to us two hangout.( ditching me for her boyfriend most of the time, never telling me when she will be late, or attend at all) I’m currently a single mother that works and is perusing architecture school. I literally just wanted for her to acknowledge that I can’t be waisting my precious time waiting for her response. It hurts because she’s been my bff since 6th grade but she didn’t want to confront our situation and decided not talk to me after I told her I needed to time apart to work on my life. She took it in a wrong way when I said that she want reliable when it comes to time management with our relationship. I helped her with adult task like applying for health insurance, taught her how to do her own taxes, and I offered to help fill out her FAFSA and college application. At the end of the day I’m the villain and she made sure that group friends knew that. Just because I wanted her to get out of her comfort zone and level up, and for me give there to help her.
Now I know my worth and I will never let anyone bring down to that level again.
I’m striving in life just by myself, I acknowledge my worth and will never let this happen to me again. Time is too short to let people bring you down like that.
This was my favorite podcast yet. I’m only 18 about to be 19 and I’m trying to be as prepared as possible for life so this was great!
I truly believe that you have more than 1 life. When you die, your soul will eventually be put into another body someday and you'll live another life. Love you guys a lot.
I learned that people don't have to agree on everything to get along, just because we don't agree on a few things, doesn't mean we can't be friends
I love Laura’s humor so much. You guys are so refreshing. I can’t wait for a relationship like Laura’s and Tyler’s bruh
This alone is motivating. I just turned 27 and lost my job last year. I never saw myself leaving, only moving up and up the ladder there. I haven't found a job I can mentally be okay at. If I do, they pay garbage even with all my experience. Jumping jobs after losing my long time job, I ate up all my savings and barely make it. Luckily leaning on my mom for rent because I'm 4 months behind. I do not know what to do y'all.
Manny looking ceeewttttt with that see thru black shirt over the white tank loving it!
I love this episode, I’m in my mid twenties and still unsure about a lot of stuff but something valuable I have figured out is absolutely boundaries, like Manny said, about leaving friendships. I’ve done it, it sucks, but it has benefited me MORE being out of friendships than in them.
I’d love a podcast on some advice on entering your 30s; your fears, dreams, thoughts, preparation. What you expected Verses how things are going things like that!! I’m having a crisis as I’ve turned 29 and feel unfulfilled in my life 😓
Personally this is my favorite episode you guys have done. I fall victim to always feeling I’m not where I’m supposed at this stage in life, but hearing your own testimonies helped me understand that the way I feel is totally normal and in fact part of the journey to finding my way through life. This episode was so relatable and I appreciate the advice you guys have to give. Fool overage is my favorite podcast ever!
I have a similar story to Laura:
I got with my husband when I was 15 and he was 17. I was a freshman in highschool. My senior year of highschool he was in the military so we did long distance, and he also proposed so I was engaged as a 17 year old. We got married right after highschool and I moved in with him. I always tell my single friends that my story is not an example to follow. Getting married so young typically does not work out and now that I’m older I definitely see why. We have many different beliefs, and really had to work through some hardships trying to reconcile that. We are also more codependent on each other as well. Like it is definitely hard for us to find ourselves and our own friends since we do everything together. We had our first baby a year ago and am celebrating our 5 year wedding anniversary this year and are doing better than ever, but there were definitely a hard couple of years when we first got married ❤️
This is an episode I will have my 13, soon to be 14, year old listen. Growing up is not the same as it was for us. So I feel like even teens need to hear these things easier in their life. And sometimes if they hear it from somebody else besides their parents it might click I their brain. I love you 3. You guys are awesome.
Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. There's nothing wrong or shameful with needing therapy or medication. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for making your mental health a priority.
As Laura said just bc someone is your blood family doesn't mean you have to keep them in your life. The only blood family in my life is my dad, older brother, and uncle. Family friends are more family to me than my actual family. If someone is draining you and not enriching your life you're not obligated to keep them around.
This is more geared towards women but don't shrink yourself down to make others feel more comfortable. As women we've been conditioned to not make a fuss, to smile and be agreeable, to not rock the boat. Fuck that. Don't sacrifice your own happiness and sanity for the sake of anyone else and making sure they are comfortable. You and your thoughts and feelings are just as important as anyone else's.
Sometimes you are going to be the bad guy in a situation. Learn how to own up to your mistakes and take responsibility for when you hurt people. And if someone tells you that you hurt them, you don't get to tell them you didn't bc your intentions were good or bc you would feel differently in the same situation.
Be kind and have patience and compassion. You never know what someone is going through in life that they aren't talking about. Smile at a stranger, hold the door open for someone, buy the coffee for the person behind you in the Starbucks drive thru. You have no idea what one random act of kindness can do for someone. You might be the person that made someone feel seen and gave them the strength to keep going.
You never stop learning. Be open to new thoughts and ideas. 2+2=4 but so does 1+3. Your ideas, thoughts, and ways are not the only ones out there. Don't be so resistant to change. It's not always a bad thing.
I enjoyed this episode soooooo much! ✨🙌🏻 i always love when you guys just speak from personal life experiences and not so much random internet tea
In my 20s I had my daughter and I lived and learned and I wouldn't change anything for the world but its hard to single a parent and I I'm glad that my family's was there for me during that time
You are so right about letting go of people. My childhood best friend is extremely toxic to the life I want to live and the parent I want to be and I didn't realize how much she was influencing me as a person until I cut her off. I thought I could be who I wanted to be and still allow her to be who she wanted but that is so far from the truth.
My advice is to learn what is worth your time - much like you guys said - but it also applies to picking your battles and learning when to listen and when to take action
starting my 20s and I can say that I have never been happier. Hustling, working 2 jobs, getting an education, not dealing with toxicity, I have never been more at peace with my mental health. Can't wait to see what's next;) loved this episode
I'm currently wrapping up grad school and am finding it hard to stay motivated for the final push. But I think I needed to hear this. I needed to hear that the difficulties will make it worth it. Thank you.
Love this so much! I’m almost 31 but love these perspectives. I relate to Laura so much. Very inspiring 💕 love you guys!
Great episode. I wish I had a lot of this advice when I was in my 20's. Now I'm 44 and just starting to really find myself... definitely missed the "peaks and pits" this week though.
i needed this bad today, i’m 25 dealing with depression and body issues, i just lost an old friend from highschool to suicide, i’m hating myself, i’m working a money hole serving job but not saving as much as i should, growing up latina, and thinking i want to be married and have babies right away. i’ve been with my boyfriend since i was 21 and it’s hard to remind myself that we can grow together while growing as individuals. finally accepting i don’t need so many friends, the friends i can count on my hand are finally my nourishing friendships. i need to know to slow down, and take everything as it goes and enjoy it.. 💗
The part about setting boundaries with family, hit me hardddd. My parents live 90 mins away, and never come to see me and my family. But I truly believe if I put my foot entirely down and didn’t allow them to step in and out my daughters life they would try to come down more often. Just weird. My first Mother’s Day my mom came into my house smelling like cigarettes with my newborn hoping to hold her… I told her she could shower and change clothes and she refused and made a big deal about it. I feel sick I ever let her near my child again.
Love love loved this episode! I’m also in my 30s! 33 next month. Not married, no kids and I’m working on being the best version of myself… physically, mentally..etc. I’m happy with where I’m at. I understand what Manny said with not feeling like you’re in your 30s. I tell my friends all the time that I’m 32 and don’t feel like it. I still feel like I’m in my 20s. Keep sliving y’all! 💕
Love that $1000! That is GREAT advice. Always have a lil something because life happens and you don’t want to be left in a bad situation. Especially when you don’t have anyone or any good people in your life. Coming from an abusive relationship survivor.
I agree that 20’s is for hustling and figuring out what you want! I’ve tried sooo many different things. These are the years where we get to have so much drive 🤍loved this episode!
Well fool fam I’m 40!!!!(just turned 40 in April;)) and I love this podcast I’ve been thru my 20s I’ve past my 30s and guess what I’m still figuring everything out and I’ve came to the conclusion that we never fully figure everything out, it’s a myth that creates anxiety, we are here to live life and enjoy each and every decade as we want to live it, as long as your trying your best you are living your truth. Don’t be afraid to live out loud speak your mind be who you really are because life goes by to fast to live someone else’s life! ❤️ I’m so happy with all the stages of my life and people that are happy are better humans to other people💋just a thought 💭
In my cubicle at work, I laughed so damn loud when Manny said Athletic 😂 follows it up with Adavin? 🤣 I DIED
I heard someone say one time that you are not “30” you are also still 29,28,27, so on.. and it’s soo true! Reminded me of that with this
Friendship in your 20s really hit home for me right now. I’m 25 & have been feeling a bit like a square peg in a round hole and no idea where to start.
More conversation around putting that energy out there, what you guys did & what you’d advise someone not in the social media space too would be massively appreciated if an ep lends itself to that please!
So I’ve been in my 30s for 8 months and I totally agree! It’s the best time of my life so far 💖
This was one of my favorite episodes! Loved the topics as someone who is in the same age group lol as a 32yo mom of 2 I agree with all of your thoughts on these topics ! 😍🫶🏼
My viewpoint on love is similar to Laura and Ty's because I got married at 19 and today is my 11 year anniversary! However we jumped right into being together 24/7 a year into the relationship.