One more thing, ladies: don’t think that a man is more valuable or impressive than you simply because he has wealth. Remember that you have value and worth also. Don’t let anyone be demeaning or condescending towards you.
I cringed throughout because I know people who do this or have done this in the past. The key is humility and treating everyone as an equal, not trying to get whatever from someone. Thanks Myka, lovely video!
A huge no-no as well : if you try to boast about your ex , especially if it's been a C list or reality show celebrity, and end up talking on and on and on about him or her for ages, or even worse showing pics or youtube videos. You might get the reaction one of my friends got at a very chic, quiet restaurant to crown it all : the person just got up after the starters, thrrew on the table enough notes to pay for the bill, and added : " I've never played second fiddle, never ever will. Get over your trashy ex , don't waste fine men's precious time ! Adieu !". She was so ashamed, everybody had witnessed the scene, she left in tears. Needless to say she NEVER mentioned her ex on any date since.
I think that asking anyone, whether wealthy or not, what they do for a living when you first meet is rude. There are so many reasons why this can make anyone, from really poor to really wealthy feel uncomfortable (like if someone is in between jobs or just lost one, for someone who normally receives rude feedback [like for being a housewife], feeling sized up for how prestigious your job is/isn’t, for getting the same annoying comments-“you’re a lawyer?! You must be smart!”, etc.) There is so much more to talk to people about outside of their net worth. Maybe you already made this video, but it’d be nice to give people ideas of what they can talk about instead when meeting people. Thank you for your wonderful video, Myka. I love how you help us to be better🌹
Great video Myka. I personally think these tips apply to all people. For example I am not a high income earner by any stretch of the imagination. But I have had friends, strangers, associates ect ask/make these same inappropriate comments. Asking me what I do for a living, how much I earn, them ordering the most expensive thing/ just expecting me to pay for them, and the absolute worst for me personally, coming to my home filming my décor without asking ( such an invasion of privacy) wanting to touch all of my stuff, wanting to go through my wardrobe and asking me how much everything cost, literally everything, no seriously everything in my home! I am so much more careful now of who I invite over. Manners have nothing to do with income you can live in a shelter and display high respect for yourself and others , you could earn a lot and not have any manners, they can not be brought but they can be learned and developed for everyone. I wish more people worked on manners. I am a constant work in progress, and I am striving to better my etiquette. I cant wait to learn more from you, and the books I am reading.
As always your advice is so wonderful. I feel we should never ask another whom we just met, “so what do you do for a living”? Let them open up about that as it can be a bit too intrusive. ❤
When I was young I was sooo impressed with men of money. Now I have my own money and I’m not impressed. I’m impressed by someone with like interest or a talent I don’t have. Life is funny.
As to posting pictures of somebody's property and possessions: on top of bad style it poses a safety issue. Criminals also use Instagram. And nobody appreciates friends who attract them to their property. 😂
I saw Spamalot years ago w/a friend and her "successful" date. As I went to buy the silly rabbit souvenir he offered to pay for it. I insisted no, but he insisted yes as I looked so joyful when I saw it ..so I gave in. 😂
I have heard similar comments before about asking the person you are dating to buy you something. It stuns me that people would actually do that; I think it is beyond rude regardless of how influential a person is or is not. In fact, I feel that way about several of your suggestions.
I grew up in the South (not from a wealthy family) and it was drilled into my head that "nice" people NEVER accept gifts of jewelry or clothing from someone they aren't married to or related to.
Myka, this is really an informative video. Some of these mistakes would seem a little more obvious than others, such as asking how much an item costs (as if you're there to procure it) or taking photos (without consent)-- a definite turn off. Yet, other mistakes, as you've well said, aren't as well known. Thanks for bringing them to our attention!
If a wealthy man makes his time to go on a date, expect you to split the bill at the restaurant, sending you email or card after the date for gratitude to test if you are a gold digger or independent or kind e.t.c 👉 he is a narcissist! Red flag 🚩 if his first test is not willing to pay, your first test should be he willing to pay. The man is always the one who has to prove first!
My goodness! Just found you by the way, Mika and I love your channel! I just have to tell you I am dumbfounded that people actually make these kind of mistakes. I am from a very small town middle class town is Massachusetts and I cannot imagine being so clueless and rude. Yikes!
It still blows my mind how all of this isn’t just considered basic common sense. All of this is cringe worthy regardless of how much wealth anyone has.
Like do people actually ask someone to give them gifts? Wow. I approach going out for a meal as I am paying for myself whether or not I am. One never knows. Filming someone's house??? Seriously? I just can't even imagine doing this stuff.
This is really a funny video to me. I grew up where you had to wait for a phone call to get asked out. Everything was done on the phone. There was no social media no computers.😊
You know, I'm not wealthy, but I find these things offensive to me. I always knew when they ask what do I do, they were trying to find out how much money I have. Just because you dress well, doesn't mean you have a lot of money. It just means you have good taste.
My opinion is that, I find this video and the comments being borderline and moving away from etiquette advices. It feels to me that many of the "setting"/questions described are valid only for USA (NA). In Europe, to the question "what do you do for a living" I would switch to an immediate "thank you and good bye" answer (not on the spot but very quickly the date would end). When it comes to ordering champagne, when and if it would be adequate, I would expect that my guest would wait to be prompted before selecting it. Cultural bias most likely.
Excellent points! The way you describe things is so amazing! I love your outfit, btw! The sleeveless turtleneck especially is so elegant and beautiful!
Actually, these tips are common sense. Old money is never talked about, is taught to all growing up. The problem rears it’s ugly head when people with new money, nouveau riche, feel like they have to throw their money around and try to impress others talking about it. That is totally Bad Behavior. Thanks for your review!
What is the best way to handle a situation where a wealthy man is in a boutique (that is way out of your price range)with you that you just strolled into on the street with no purchase intent. After you looked around a bit and are ready to stroll out he casually says, "did you see anything you liked?" or "aren't you going to get anything?" (First or second date situation)
This happened to me all the time when I was a student and guys with careers would just assume that I spend all my time eating out at nice restaurants, too.
I’m not wealthy but I detest that question “what do you do for a living”. I feel like I’m being sized up and judged. So I just say “I’m a hooker” and that ends it rather promptly.
Right ! Until you said pay 4 yourself on a date,,,,, When a lady does that,,,, desperate vibes are picked up by him... However,,, in a committed relationship / marriage. Sure , then I can see. Your father gave you poor advice on that one,.
One more thing, ladies: don’t think that a man is more valuable or impressive than you simply because he has wealth. Remember that you have value and worth also. Don’t let anyone be demeaning or condescending towards you.
Best advice ever.
It is a question of balance and respect. Men and women both bring something different in a relationship.
@@AndroidSpirit I totally agree.
Period.
Before that, just make sure you do have value.
I cringed throughout because I know people who do this or have done this in the past. The key is humility and treating everyone as an equal, not trying to get whatever from someone. Thanks Myka, lovely video!
A huge no-no as well : if you try to boast about your ex , especially if it's been a C list or reality show celebrity, and end up talking on and on and on about him or her for ages, or even worse showing pics or youtube videos. You might get the reaction one of my friends got at a very chic, quiet restaurant to crown it all : the person just got up after the starters, thrrew on the table enough notes to pay for the bill, and added : " I've never played second fiddle, never ever will. Get over your trashy ex , don't waste fine men's precious time ! Adieu !". She was so ashamed, everybody had witnessed the scene, she left in tears. Needless to say she NEVER mentioned her ex on any date since.
I think that asking anyone, whether wealthy or not, what they do for a living when you first meet is rude. There are so many reasons why this can make anyone, from really poor to really wealthy feel uncomfortable (like if someone is in between jobs or just lost one, for someone who normally receives rude feedback [like for being a housewife], feeling sized up for how prestigious your job is/isn’t, for getting the same annoying comments-“you’re a lawyer?! You must be smart!”, etc.) There is so much more to talk to people about outside of their net worth.
Maybe you already made this video, but it’d be nice to give people ideas of what they can talk about instead when meeting people.
Thank you for your wonderful video, Myka. I love how you help us to be better🌹
Great video Myka. I personally think these tips apply to all people. For example I am not a high income earner by any stretch of the imagination. But I have had friends, strangers, associates ect ask/make these same inappropriate comments. Asking me what I do for a living, how much I earn, them ordering the most expensive thing/ just expecting me to pay for them, and the absolute worst for me personally, coming to my home filming my décor without asking ( such an invasion of privacy) wanting to touch all of my stuff, wanting to go through my wardrobe and asking me how much everything cost, literally everything, no seriously everything in my home! I am so much more careful now of who I invite over.
Manners have nothing to do with income you can live in a shelter and display high respect for yourself and others , you could earn a lot and not have any manners, they can not be brought but they can be learned and developed for everyone. I wish more people worked on manners. I am a constant work in progress, and I am striving to better my etiquette. I cant wait to learn more from you, and the books I am reading.
As always your advice is so wonderful. I feel we should never ask another whom we just met, “so what do you do for a living”? Let them open up about that as it can be a bit too intrusive. ❤
When I was young I was sooo impressed with men of money. Now I have my own money and I’m not impressed. I’m impressed by someone with like interest or a talent I don’t have. Life is funny.
As to posting pictures of somebody's property and possessions: on top of bad style it poses a safety issue. Criminals also use Instagram. And nobody appreciates friends who attract them to their property. 😂
I saw Spamalot years ago w/a friend and her "successful" date. As I went to buy the silly rabbit souvenir he offered to pay for it. I insisted no, but he insisted yes as I looked so joyful when I saw it ..so I gave in. 😂
Who the hell takes photos of peoples home 😂😂😂 that’s actually crazy
I have heard similar comments before about asking the person you are dating to buy you something. It stuns me that people would actually do that; I think it is beyond rude regardless of how influential a person is or is not. In fact, I feel that way about several of your suggestions.
I grew up in the South (not from a wealthy family) and it was drilled into my head that "nice" people NEVER accept gifts of jewelry or clothing from someone they aren't married to or related to.
Oh wooow. I love this. Can you also make a video about tips, dos and donts on seeing or meeting wealthy potential networks/friends?
Myka, this is really an informative video. Some of these mistakes would seem a little more obvious than others, such as asking how much an item costs (as if you're there to procure it) or taking photos (without consent)-- a definite turn off. Yet, other mistakes, as you've well said, aren't as well known. Thanks for bringing them to our attention!
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If a wealthy man makes his time to go on a date, expect you to split the bill at the restaurant, sending you email or card after the date for gratitude to test if you are a gold digger or independent or kind e.t.c 👉 he is a narcissist! Red flag 🚩 if his first test is not willing to pay, your first test should be he willing to pay. The man is always the one who has to prove first!
PLEASE do a video on how to stay elegant and classy with a newborn! To date, I don't believe anyone on YT has broached this topic.
Great points! You would think that majority of those should be common sense but they not always are
Thank you!
This is so helpful even outside dating aspect, as many of these you’d say so innocently
My goodness! Just found you by the way, Mika and I love your channel! I just have to tell you I am dumbfounded that people actually make these kind of mistakes. I am from a very small town middle class town is Massachusetts and I cannot imagine being so clueless and rude. Yikes!
The last point was my favourite on gratitude thank you. :-)Getting curious about next week now. :-)
Next week’s video is super fun! ✨🙌
I love this video. I learned something new from this.❤
One mistake is when people show that wealth is novelty. Act like that car, that restaurant, whatever, are nothing new to you.
It still blows my mind how all of this isn’t just considered basic common sense. All of this is cringe worthy regardless of how much wealth anyone has.
I’ve caught my girlfriends filming a guys house for her Instagram story so so many times 😳😭 it’s so common. Anything for social media…
Like do people actually ask someone to give them gifts? Wow. I approach going out for a meal as I am paying for myself whether or not I am. One never knows. Filming someone's house??? Seriously? I just can't even imagine doing this stuff.
If people didn’t already know all this, they shouldn’t be leaving the house
Thank you I appreciate it you making this video
One more thing: Name dropping is also a big no-no ladies!
This is really a funny video to me. I grew up where you had to wait for a phone call to get asked out. Everything was done on the phone. There was no social media no computers.😊
You know, I'm not wealthy, but I find these things offensive to me. I always knew when they ask what do I do, they were trying to find out how much money I have. Just because you dress well, doesn't mean you have a lot of money. It just means you have good taste.
My opinion is that, I find this video and the comments being borderline and moving away from etiquette advices. It feels to me that many of the "setting"/questions described are valid only for USA (NA). In Europe, to the question "what do you do for a living" I would switch to an immediate "thank you and good bye" answer (not on the spot but very quickly the date would end). When it comes to ordering champagne, when and if it would be adequate, I would expect that my guest would wait to be prompted before selecting it. Cultural bias most likely.
Excellent points! The way you describe things is so amazing! I love your outfit, btw! The sleeveless turtleneck especially is so elegant and beautiful!
Thank you so much!!
Actually, these tips are common sense. Old money is never talked about, is taught to all growing up. The problem rears it’s ugly head when people with new money, nouveau riche, feel like they have to throw their money around and try to impress others talking about it. That is totally Bad Behavior. Thanks for your review!
You would think they would be common sense, but so many of these behaviors seem common!😮
I totally agree that they are common sense regardless of how much money a person has or doesn't have.
Great advice 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻Thank you 😘
What is the best way to handle a situation where a wealthy man is in a boutique (that is way out of your price range)with you that you just strolled into on the street with no purchase intent. After you looked around a bit and are ready to stroll out he casually says, "did you see anything you liked?" or "aren't you going to get anything?" (First or second date situation)
Following this answer because this is exactly what happened to me!
This happened to me all the time when I was a student and guys with careers would just assume that I spend all my time eating out at nice restaurants, too.
I answer that I am considering future gift ideas.
wondering about this too!
Ps. Loved your nail colours. What are you wearing? 💅 :-)
Gees I've done some of these mistakes
I’m not wealthy but I detest that question “what do you do for a living”. I feel like I’m being sized up and judged. So I just say “I’m a hooker” and that ends it rather promptly.
Oh my God, I hate also when man is asking me what do I do stupid motherfuckers this is the silliest question
😆 I like this.
I also hate it when m asked the question😮
Thank you very much
Wealthy people will only speed money on other wealthy people
Dating mistake 0. Limiting beliefs about wealth/ wealthy people😀
Not true.
These are tips for anyone! ;)
Exactly 🥰
"And put your garbage IN the GARBAGE CANS, folks, I can't stress that enough."
More videos like these!
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I can't believe women would actually do these things! It is so classless & tacky!
Right ! Until you said pay 4 yourself on a date,,,,, When a lady does that,,,, desperate vibes are picked up by him... However,,, in a committed relationship / marriage. Sure , then I can see. Your father gave you poor advice on that one,.
Especially see this when girls include a man’s watch in a picture but not their actual face. It’s all for show 🥲
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