Thank you so much everyone's support. But I didn't make this video for advice. I'm getting very close to removing this video as I'm tired of the negative comments. I purely made this video to update everyone on what's happened since my last video as I know I was in a bad place and a lot of people were concerned. I wanted to let them know I'm still here and still battling on. If I wasn't trying to spread the message trying to get other blokes out there to speak to their mates about not being okay I wouldn't be making these videos. These are extremely private conversations I'm sharing with everyone & don't need all this hate for trying to help others. I appreciate the positive responses and support but I don't need negative advice. If you don't have anything positive to say please don't say anything at all. I'm coping with this in my own way and I don't need to be told what to do. I won't be making anymore of these videos because there's been more negative feedback than positive. I was only trying to help inspire other men to speak out but it's gotten out of hand
I feel like camping is the best way for stress relief also. I also split with my partner and lost my 2 elderly dogs recently. It's hard to deal with the emotional stuff. I think its brave that you have spoken out and super helpful to others struggling. Hope to see you out there sometime 😊
I lost my husband of 30 years so I get the lonely feeling. I found having a dog pulled me out of the rabbit hole. Good on you for trying to find out who you are. Huge respect. Xx
mate this might come across as very blunt but if you constantly think that your happiness can be found from someone else or being with someone, or having to think constantly that youre lonely because youre alone - I dont think you will every be happy. Let go and go within my friend - once you wrap your head around that, life is far much easier.
It ain’t weak to speak. Thank you for being so real. Life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and having creators, such as yourself, show that to those who watch.. helps those going through it too, to know they aren’t alone.
I believe it's important to always be open and honest with my audience. No point only sharing my highs. Social media is full of highs. But you are only seeing people's highlight reels. Exactly what they want you to see. Which makes you feel even worse about yourself because you question why isn't my life that perfect?
You certainly have nothing to complain about. I'm a single dad, homeless, injured to the point I cant walk alot of days, so it means I can't work, almost all my friends have committed suicide or died or left for some other reason, I have absolutely no family around, but I wake up every day, breath the fresh air, pick up some weight and keep living my life to the best I can. Don't be co depending on anyone, not woman or anything because no woman wants to babysit a full grown man. You have to be comfortable being by yourself and living your own life or it will keep slowly eating away at you inside. Take it from someone way way worse then you. Be a proud auzzie, be strong and push forward!
We are on your side. Love the camping although don’t get to do it. I am 74 yrs old and get what you are saying but while you are lonely it is better to be so until a woman can be right for you. We will be praying for you , depression is a sod but we can be comforted and overcome. Your honesty is refreshing and do not ever feel you have to apologise for it. You are in God’s creation, He made it for us so draw from you as you already are. Love dear one.❤️🇦🇺🦋
Your son is a wonderful young man. Be very proud of him. Hang in there. It all takes time. You are getting ahead, one step at at time. Greetings from Victoria.
I spent 10yrs in jail for stupid chiuce i made in my early years and spent 18mths in isolation on my own no hunan contact only gaurds and honestly it made me so strong and now i kniw i dont need anyone but myself and now ive been free for years now im a father and if i fidnt go jail i wouldnt no how strong id be now because it made ne see everything in a positive way and made me the strong minded person i am today and made me see life alot diffrent so yeah dont worry about things ya cant control no point just hurting yaself ya need to find yourself before ya can be happy so yeah everyone has struggles and goes backwatds its hiw we stand up and fight that defines us
Oddly you have been in my thoughts over the months - thank you for the update. You are right - I think your boy is going to be alright. On a side note - this is not professional advice but worth considering. You have had a number of what I would call traumatic breakups. No matter how tough you feel you are - no one is made of stone. Its worth considering checking in with a therapist and making sure your pain regarding previous losses is squared away before starting the next relationship. With a doctor referral you can get up to 10 sessions a year for a cheap price. A foundation built on sand will not stand. Make sure you are getting in a relationship with someone because of them - not just because you are lacking companionship. Thats my view. I hope you will consider it even if its disregarded. Fingers crossed for the future.
Great comment! I agree that going to the doctor and getting medication isn't the answer to this predicament, but going to the doctor and being on a mental health plan is certainly a step in the right direction! You're lonely - but you are also dealing with traumatic separation and loss. Loss isnt always death. Loss can be connection; connection with family, connection with friends. Speaking with a counsellor to help you unpack these feelings and building strategies to work through them moving forward WILL help you with enjoying your own company. It WILL improve your connection with new acquaintances moving forward. It WILL clear some head space and lift some of the weight off your shoulders. I don't suffer from depression, but there are days I feel depressed. Its tools I've gained from speaking with a professional, totally un-biased 3rd party mental health worker which have made a massive difference for me as a Man, a husband, and a father. 100% worth it - and you've got nothing to lose...
Incredible. I was just thinking of you -yesterday it started, out of nowhere, I began to wonder how you are now. (Haven’t listened to the whole video yet-i thought my comment would get swallowed up by all the others if I didn’t write quickly. And I wanted you to know you were being thought of.) Quite extraordinary. I will listen to the rest now mate…
Same hey. It's also incredible how one human can touch your life. I hadn't heard of this guy before that video, yet i occasionally wondered (hoped) everything worked out. Now I'm going to watch the rest of the video as well.
Ot is indeed. Its the language of the heart that does it, i think. And , I’m glad you wrote this to me also and ket me know you gad the sane response to our friend here in his struggle. Thank you
I watched your other video so is good to see an update. I lost everything too years ago and now wander around in my old caravan towed by my 1971 F100 so can totally relate to the stress of maintaining an older car! Glad you found a place to live...I'm way to used to living in my caravan and my nomad life now to do the share house thing but glad it's working out for you. As for the sadness and grieving what you've lost... I felt like that too for the first couple of years but it does get easier over time. I'm 55 and been on my own now for 10 years. Best of luck to you and your channel. My channel is a mix of my crazy road tripping life and like yours, raw stuff when I'm struggling and not feeling OK too so I appreciate other RUclipsrs out there keeping it real. Big hugs to you 🤗
Your living the dream travelling full-time 😀 I lived out of my hilux for 2 months when I first moved here. But I can't afford to travel full time yet so I need a home base unfortunately. I still plan on full-time travel in the future even if I have to work on the road to keep me going
At the end of the day just do what you feel is good for you. It takes strength to speak out about what is going on. This is your journey and I hope you find your happiness 🙏🏼
You’ll be alright mate. Sometimes it’s good to be alone and have that time to reflect and better ourselves. Don’t be depressed, just throw yourself more in to the RUclips thing if that’s what makes you happy. You said that you lost your family over it so it must mean a lot you you. Happy birthday and all the best!
Keep strong Brother.. won’t be long before you are blessed with a partner. Big man upstairs always looks after good people like you. Can’t wait to see the new rig. Stay strong 🙏🏻💪🤙🏻
Hey mate, Rebecca from over the ditch here. Sometimes we have to sit with our thoughts and really, really have a good hard think about what really makes us happy. Strip back all the crap, and make decisions on what truly makes us happy. You can have a new job, new car, new super yacht, new private jet, new private island, but none of that means anything if it’s not fulfilling your soul.
Hey man, I know I'm only thirteen and I'm yet to experience these sorts of bad things that just come with being an adult but I understand your story man and I only wish you the best, much love brutha from qld
Your too smart to end up in a situation like this. Your probably the only 13 year old who left a sensible comment, probably the youngest comment on here at all. I left this guy very good advice many months back but he is not the sort of person to know when to act on good advice! Perhaps time will tell.
@izzzzzz6 sorry mate but it was hard to read through over 7,000 comments & every one with advice. I couldn't follow everyone's advice. I'm doing my best
@@Campingdownunder Thankfully, you didn't try to follow everyone's advice. That would be so hectic. Advice should only be given on the premise that the person receiving the advice can choose to take it, or not. We are not dictators of how you should live your life. You are a grown man with a grown son, so you can make your own decisions. All you are looking for is a little support while the load is heavy. That's okay to need that support, because we all need it at times. We are here for you. I can see you are making inroads into your situation and things are definitely looking up for you. Well done! All the best.
@@24JJ821 sometimes people need a wake up call or they stay stuck in the situation they created for themselves. I'm no different. He had many options but decided to stay in the middle of nowhere where there are few opportunities to unlock his scenario. I gave many options and i will now go back and find them as Campingdownunder is replying in this thread of comments. Perhaps it will be of use. Do you prefer nobody ever gets any advice? We would never get anywhere if we didn't learn from each others mistakes and discoveries!
Hey mate you’re spot on in what you said which is a very positive way to think. When things get bad I always remember what my mother used to say ‘things can only get so bad but eventually things get better’. Look at all the positive things that are happening to you and focus on that. You can’t control everything so make the best of what you have and enjoy life the rest will follow
Hey mate, I’m looking forward to following your journey with these videos and seeing you Come through the other side and happy again. Stick in there and don’t forget to pray!
Happy birthday for yesterday, one step at a time. I'm glad things are starting to fall into place for you. Can't wait to see your new car and build. Stay safe.
Good to see you doing better. I know this feeling I joined the Army when I was 22 and I could only get home at Christmas time and sometimes around Easter. I did this for 13 Year and it really hit me hard around the 10 year mark. Thankfully, I met someone around this time and now we are happily married and have a son. Anyways Happy Birthday and I wish you and your son the best.
I have a dog now. Am married 44 yrs, and I am alone, so I have a dog, to go camping with and I love it. The missus will only go camping in the camper with me once a year and only under duress, so I go on my own with my dog, you are not lonely with a dog, and you can give all your love to it. One day, you personally will be walking down the beach with your dog, and you will meet your future partner, I have seen it many a time in my past.
Hey brother, thank you for the video! Your videos are not sugar coated. They are raw, brutal and emotional. Remember there are many men going thru the same thing. I’m currently camping out in Tasmania on my own and no one to please except myself. I always thought I needed someone else in my life but now happier to be on my own. If you can, stop ruminating as this can undo you. If you’re lonely, turn on the radio for company.You are not a victim, you’re a survivor! Respect! 👍😄❤️
We’ll put together vid, not an easy video. I’ve suffered the Black Dog and it’s surprisingly difficult to shed. I’m on the better side of it now but not completely finished with it. I thought your son articulated himself well and that’s a credit to you and his Ma and Pa. I’m looking forward to your next vid. Stay strong, stay together and stay safe. 👍👍
The youtube videos I tend to enjoy are the ones where people seem to be genuine about themselves. Anyway, it's 1am over here and I'm watching this update and glad you're still around.
Good to hear from you again. Keep hanging in there mate. From my 56 years of life so far, I know life can be brutal and not fair but as time goes on things do change and its so worth staying for the ride. You are a fighter like me.
I feel and understand your pain. Its a heartbreaking place to be and a lot of us are getting exactly what you are saying. Family are everything. Keep plodding one, one day at a time, be careful of too much isolation, at times the loneliness can get to you.
Beautiful and heartfelt words there mate. Every bloke who is willing to admit they are struggling makes it just that bit easier for the next bloke to ask for help. I would still suggest you consider seeing a psychologist, not for meditation, but just someone to help you talk through things. Look forward to seeing your content when you’re ready for it
Happrly birthday mate, very proud of your boy explaining his side of things on video too mate, seems like a smart kid! Im glad your employer is on board with helping you, sometimes it is just the support that you need
Hi Happy Birthday for yesterday.My Son was 51 On the 19 April,the day before you ,So just keep going one day at a time.Cheers and also watched your first Video
Good on you mate, It all works out in the end, I think your every 3 months idea with your boy is a great idea and as you have a tight father son relationship it will go along well, as will the rest. Thumbs out to your employer too! Looking forward to seeing you having some positive experiences this year and may see ya on the road sometime! (I'm also a WA based camping enthusiast)
I'm glad thing are on the upswing for you. What a great update. I just saw my son for the first time in 5 years on Saturday...panic beyond paranoia attacks...full day driving around...laughter and awkwardness. Glad your son is on board and he's told you what he wants. Your square foot of space around you can grow now. See if you can at least speak to a shrink at least once a month...just talk...up swing...up up up
Happy to hear things are on the up n up. Being a single person can be hard when you're older but you get used to it. I'm so used to doing things my way that it's probably safer to stay single. 😆
Happy birthday for yesterday mate, really hope it was the best day u could make it. 🍰 🎉 🍻 Please don’t go basing your happiness in life, primarily around finding that special person to share it with so u can enjoy it? Life is so damn short & so damn precious, you blink & it’s gone? let alone wishing it away longing for “that special” person to come along & share it with? Life is a pure blessing in itself!! just enjoy every minute of your journey mate, no matter what & im confident that special person will come along, when the time is right !! Enjoy & stay positive 🤞🏻 Big hugs🤗
Hey mate, happy belated Birthday! I know it's tough right now but things will get better. Trust me. My story is similar to yours, quite uncanny actually. Give us a shout if you need a yarn mate 👍
I’m hearing you mate. I’d love to be out camping also, but life isn’t allowing me to do that. I keep running into roadblock after roadblock. But I’m staying strong and keeping my hours in focus.
Happy birthday mate. Good on you for opening up and sharing your thoughts, that's a rarity these days. This might not be what you want to hear, but you'll have trouble attracting a woman when you're not content just being single/alone. I spent most of my 20s single (after a 3.5 year relationship ended) and later met an amazing woman who I'm still with today almost 10 years on and now we have a beautiful 2 yo son. You'll find you'll meet that special someone when you are not "looking", trust me. When a man is content with just being himself, women are naturally attracted to you.
Happy Birthday mate, good to hear there's been positive progress. Your son seems like a great young man. Also perhaps consider joining something like the State Emergency Service over there, you can learn a ton of skills and qualifications, meet positive people (hangout with nice women nudge nudge) and get to do great things for the community. Cheers for the update brother. 👍
I haven't listened to it all yet but yeah I can't live life without camping too. It's the best. All the sounds of nature and if in the rainforest it is so good! Hope you are ok. Listening to the rest now. I will subscribe.
Happy belated birthday 🎉 I'm so glad to see that things are moving forward for you all be it slowly. Sometimes slow is good. I,m sure I commented on your last video, that I too was suffering badly with depression etc. I've just weaned of my medication which got me through the toughest time. Now that I'm off the "happy pills", I'm doing well with little depression. The rest I can do on my own! I've since retired from work as my boss went belly up and closed the business. I was luck as I could access my superannuation having turned 62. I had the same issues with my 2002 Hilux, always fixing something! I ended up trading it in on a 2012 Colorado that was a clean slate to build up the way I wanted. I just did my first trip away for a couple of days with my daughter and a friend of hers. What a difference it makes when you know that you can travel with confidence in the vehicle! I'm looking forward to seeing your new vehicle and the build you have planned for it! Keep smiling and going forward with life!
Jeez. You’re story sounds almost the same as mine. Riverland to WA now back in the Riverland. Lost everything all gone. But good now. Hard decisions and work. It does get better love life again still single but way better. Keep going is all I can say. Somehow it gets better.
Wow very small world lol. Glad to hear it's working out for you 👍 I lived in the riverland most of my life. I definitely didn't want to die in the riverland without exploring more of Australia. We only live once
Hey mate, you are not alone, you have yourself. It will take time after having that family life, but there are other ways of living. It doesn't change your connection with your son. People can lose connection with themselves in families. You will grieve and heal and start to feel whole, just takes time.
I feel for you life isnt simple thats for sure ive been through a tonne of sit over last 12 years on medical merry go round it aint the same as youre sittuation i found that if i follow what my heart brain and soul tell me and push through with attitude as positive attitude will always give you the altitude to soar like an eagle wish you all the best dude one day at a time 👍🇦🇺
Keep on keeping on mate. Great video and I hope things improve further. Glad to hear you’re making mates here. If it’s ever any help I’m always up for messenger or other chats. I’m actually in Busso this coming long weekend, maybe I’ll bump into you somewhere. You’re welcome to come have a few beers where I’ll be with the family at one of the caravan parks. On ya mate.
Mate, dont want to sound rude or anything but by the sound of it your going to end up continually being with some sheila just because you dont want to be alone and end up right back at the beginning. Its what got you in the position your at now. The sooner you realise you dont necessarily need a women in your life the better your life will be... Trust me.
Humans are biologically tuned to want companionship in life with a meaningful partner. Its not fun to be alone. Some can be without, but most struggle without it.
Absolutely. What did the last shallow woman do to you. Women will use you and spit you out. You were born alone and grew up single, what the hell has changed that you now say you can't handle it?
Happy birthday for the other day and it’s great that you and your son have come up with a plan to see each other. He sounds like a grounded dude 👍 happy to hear you have a new Hilux coming, you deserve it Paul. Best of luck to you 🤟🥂🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺
I went thru same thing mate years ago i was in melb son in qld we got to see each other prob twice a year now we both live in same town, you have a smart lad must take after you, dont stop doing doing what you want to do
Hey mate, through-out my whole life I've never been able to make one good friend long term. I'm 27 now so doubt it will ever happen, so I get that lonely feeling. Getting behind cars and 4wds has gotten me thru most of it I think, I don't have much advice but congratulations on the new Hilux they're awesome love driving the one at my work plenty of power.
Nothing wrong with keeping your friends circle small mate. A lot less drama that way. Back in south Australia I really only had 1 mate I'd catch up with every week with & we didn't meet until I was in my 30's. You never know when you'll meet new mates 👍
It looks like mate that you’re around some good people and it’s good to see you’re still making RUclips videos mate but just do one thing. Make sure. Take good care of yourself and catch you on the next video mate. 👍🏻🇦🇺
So glad things are looking up for ya mate a partner will come along soon enough personally I’ve been alone 9 months it’s total shite at times but I just don’t want to do the online dating again it’s too hard I’m just not ready so I throw myself into doing what i love the rest will happen when it happens I know what you mean re the not sleeping case in point 4am right now typing this. I’m chuffed to bits for you you deffo sound and look far more positive stay strong mate all the best
You are doing better than a lot of people these days. Keep going. Focusing on helping others and the community and less thinking of what you haven't got, is really good for the mind. Nobody is bombing us (at the moment), so us Aussies have a lot to be grateful for. You still have your arms and legs, not stuck in a hospital or jail... so life is really looking up mate.
Thank you so much everyone's support. But I didn't make this video for advice. I'm getting very close to removing this video as I'm tired of the negative comments. I purely made this video to update everyone on what's happened since my last video as I know I was in a bad place and a lot of people were concerned. I wanted to let them know I'm still here and still battling on. If I wasn't trying to spread the message trying to get other blokes out there to speak to their mates about not being okay I wouldn't be making these videos. These are extremely private conversations I'm sharing with everyone & don't need all this hate for trying to help others. I appreciate the positive responses and support but I don't need negative advice. If you don't have anything positive to say please don't say anything at all.
I'm coping with this in my own way and I don't need to be told what to do. I won't be making anymore of these videos because there's been more negative feedback than positive.
I was only trying to help inspire other men to speak out but it's gotten out of hand
I like this down to earth content, I'm pushing on too ,and would love to chat any time, I like and subscribe
I feel like camping is the best way for stress relief also.
I also split with my partner and lost my 2 elderly dogs recently.
It's hard to deal with the emotional stuff.
I think its brave that you have spoken out and super helpful to others struggling. Hope to see you out there sometime 😊
You do what you need to. It takes courage to try and inspire others. *hugs*
Our job should be to support your channel and pray for you mate, not give you advice. Keep going and thanks for sharing.
I lost my husband of 30 years so I get the lonely feeling. I found having a dog pulled me out of the rabbit hole. Good on you for trying to find out who you are. Huge respect. Xx
Keep going brother, it does get better.
mate this might come across as very blunt but if you constantly think that your happiness can be found from someone else or being with someone, or having to think constantly that youre lonely because youre alone - I dont think you will every be happy. Let go and go within my friend - once you wrap your head around that, life is far much easier.
Here here!
What’s ya best advice to get to that point though mate? Asking genuinely as a young buck
It ain’t weak to speak.
Thank you for being so real. Life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and having creators, such as yourself, show that to those who watch.. helps those going through it too, to know they aren’t alone.
I believe it's important to always be open and honest with my audience. No point only sharing my highs. Social media is full of highs. But you are only seeing people's highlight reels. Exactly what they want you to see. Which makes you feel even worse about yourself because you question why isn't my life that perfect?
You certainly have nothing to complain about. I'm a single dad, homeless, injured to the point I cant walk alot of days, so it means I can't work, almost all my friends have committed suicide or died or left for some other reason, I have absolutely no family around, but I wake up every day, breath the fresh air, pick up some weight and keep living my life to the best I can. Don't be co depending on anyone, not woman or anything because no woman wants to babysit a full grown man. You have to be comfortable being by yourself and living your own life or it will keep slowly eating away at you inside. Take it from someone way way worse then you. Be a proud auzzie, be strong and push forward!
Not a competition mate
@justindilger6996 Well said
Great words. I'm sorry to hear about your situation 😢.
You do more than me and I have the luck of owning a home and physically well?
We are on your side. Love the camping although don’t get to do it. I am 74 yrs old and get what you are saying but while you are lonely it is better to be so until a woman can be right for you. We will be praying for you , depression is a sod but we can be comforted and overcome. Your honesty is refreshing and do not ever feel you have to apologise for it. You are in God’s creation, He made it for us so draw from you as you already are. Love dear one.❤️🇦🇺🦋
One step at a time.
WA is a great place to call home. There's so much to explore and see here and we're a pretty friendly bunch 😊
Your son is a wonderful young man. Be very proud of him. Hang in there. It all takes time. You are getting ahead, one step at at time. Greetings from Victoria.
I spent 10yrs in jail for stupid chiuce i made in my early years and spent 18mths in isolation on my own no hunan contact only gaurds and honestly it made me so strong and now i kniw i dont need anyone but myself and now ive been free for years now im a father and if i fidnt go jail i wouldnt no how strong id be now because it made ne see everything in a positive way and made me the strong minded person i am today and made me see life alot diffrent so yeah dont worry about things ya cant control no point just hurting yaself ya need to find yourself before ya can be happy so yeah everyone has struggles and goes backwatds its hiw we stand up and fight that defines us
Excellent comment.
Oddly you have been in my thoughts over the months - thank you for the update. You are right - I think your boy is going to be alright. On a side note - this is not professional advice but worth considering. You have had a number of what I would call traumatic breakups. No matter how tough you feel you are - no one is made of stone. Its worth considering checking in with a therapist and making sure your pain regarding previous losses is squared away before starting the next relationship. With a doctor referral you can get up to 10 sessions a year for a cheap price. A foundation built on sand will not stand. Make sure you are getting in a relationship with someone because of them - not just because you are lacking companionship. Thats my view. I hope you will consider it even if its disregarded. Fingers crossed for the future.
Thank you for your concern 🙏
Great comment! I agree that going to the doctor and getting medication isn't the answer to this predicament, but going to the doctor and being on a mental health plan is certainly a step in the right direction!
You're lonely - but you are also dealing with traumatic separation and loss. Loss isnt always death. Loss can be connection; connection with family, connection with friends. Speaking with a counsellor to help you unpack these feelings and building strategies to work through them moving forward WILL help you with enjoying your own company. It WILL improve your connection with new acquaintances moving forward. It WILL clear some head space and lift some of the weight off your shoulders.
I don't suffer from depression, but there are days I feel depressed. Its tools I've gained from speaking with a professional, totally un-biased 3rd party mental health worker which have made a massive difference for me as a Man, a husband, and a father. 100% worth it - and you've got nothing to lose...
Incredible. I was just thinking of you -yesterday it started, out of nowhere, I began to wonder how you are now. (Haven’t listened to the whole video yet-i thought my comment would get swallowed up by all the others if I didn’t write quickly. And I wanted you to know you were being thought of.) Quite extraordinary. I will listen to the rest now mate…
Thank you very much 🙏 I haven't felt up to filming much since that video. But things are slowly improving. Just going to take time
Same hey. It's also incredible how one human can touch your life. I hadn't heard of this guy before that video, yet i occasionally wondered (hoped) everything worked out.
Now I'm going to watch the rest of the video as well.
Ot is indeed. Its the language of the heart that does it, i think. And , I’m glad you wrote this to me also and ket me know you gad the sane response to our friend here in his struggle. Thank you
Hey I must be on the same channel , your video I was thinking about and the sequel popped up . Hope your ok man !!!!
strange how those sorts of things happen. There is more to the universe than we know
I watched your other video so is good to see an update. I lost everything too years ago and now wander around in my old caravan towed by my 1971 F100 so can totally relate to the stress of maintaining an older car! Glad you found a place to live...I'm way to used to living in my caravan and my nomad life now to do the share house thing but glad it's working out for you. As for the sadness and grieving what you've lost... I felt like that too for the first couple of years but it does get easier over time. I'm 55 and been on my own now for 10 years. Best of luck to you and your channel. My channel is a mix of my crazy road tripping life and like yours, raw stuff when I'm struggling and not feeling OK too so I appreciate other RUclipsrs out there keeping it real. Big hugs to you 🤗
Your living the dream travelling full-time 😀 I lived out of my hilux for 2 months when I first moved here. But I can't afford to travel full time yet so I need a home base unfortunately. I still plan on full-time travel in the future even if I have to work on the road to keep me going
Happy birthday for yesterday man
At the end of the day just do what you feel is good for you. It takes strength to speak out about what is going on.
This is your journey and I hope you find your happiness 🙏🏼
You’ll be alright mate. Sometimes it’s good to be alone and have that time to reflect and better ourselves. Don’t be depressed, just throw yourself more in to the RUclips thing if that’s what makes you happy. You said that you lost your family over it so it must mean a lot you you. Happy birthday and all the best!
Keep strong Brother.. won’t be long before you are blessed with a partner. Big man upstairs always looks after good people like you.
Can’t wait to see the new rig. Stay strong 🙏🏻💪🤙🏻
Sending you love & hugs, Happy Birthday for yesterday.
Can’t wait to see your new car, you have so much to look forward to!
Hey mate, Rebecca from over the ditch here.
Sometimes we have to sit with our thoughts and really, really have a good hard think about what really makes us happy.
Strip back all the crap, and make decisions on what truly makes us happy.
You can have a new job, new car, new super yacht, new private jet, new private island, but none of that means anything if it’s not fulfilling your soul.
Exactly right 👍
Glad to hear from you again. Happy birthday mate. All the best.
Good on you for sticking it out. I'm so happy that you're making waves in your new life😊
Happy birthday Mate! Keep on keeping on! That's all you have to do, it's only going to get better from here on.
From New Zealand, sending much care and love.
Good things come in good time when least expected.
Hang in there, have faith that things will look up and great to hear from Ben!
Hey man, I know I'm only thirteen and I'm yet to experience these sorts of bad things that just come with being an adult but I understand your story man and I only wish you the best, much love brutha from qld
Your too smart to end up in a situation like this. Your probably the only 13 year old who left a sensible comment, probably the youngest comment on here at all. I left this guy very good advice many months back but he is not the sort of person to know when to act on good advice! Perhaps time will tell.
@izzzzzz6 sorry mate but it was hard to read through over 7,000 comments & every one with advice. I couldn't follow everyone's advice. I'm doing my best
@@izzzzzz6 Well if that's not a controlling personality for the kid to see lol. Caring advice is given out of genuine kindness, with NO conditions.
@@Campingdownunder Thankfully, you didn't try to follow everyone's advice. That would be so hectic. Advice should only be given on the premise that the person receiving the advice can choose to take it, or not. We are not dictators of how you should live your life. You are a grown man with a grown son, so you can make your own decisions. All you are looking for is a little support while the load is heavy. That's okay to need that support, because we all need it at times. We are here for you. I can see you are making inroads into your situation and things are definitely looking up for you. Well done!
All the best.
@@24JJ821 sometimes people need a wake up call or they stay stuck in the situation they created for themselves. I'm no different. He had many options but decided to stay in the middle of nowhere where there are few opportunities to unlock his scenario. I gave many options and i will now go back and find them as Campingdownunder is replying in this thread of comments. Perhaps it will be of use. Do you prefer nobody ever gets any advice? We would never get anywhere if we didn't learn from each others mistakes and discoveries!
Your not alone brother, thankyou for making these
Hey mate you’re spot on in what you said which is a very positive way to think. When things get bad I always remember what my mother used to say ‘things can only get so bad but eventually things get better’. Look at all the positive things that are happening to you and focus on that. You can’t control everything so make the best of what you have and enjoy life the rest will follow
Hey mate, I’m looking forward to following your journey with these videos and seeing you
Come through the other side and happy again. Stick in there and don’t forget to pray!
holy moly, you look a lot better at least. Happy to see your situation have improved, and something feasible for you to build upon! Best of luck!
Thank you 🙏 I'm definitely feeling a lot better than I was back then. Still got a long way to go but I'm staying positive
Much love brother, keep pushing through and doing you! Clearer skies are ahead🫶👍
Happy birthday for yesterday, one step at a time. I'm glad things are starting to fall into place for you. Can't wait to see your new car and build. Stay safe.
Good to see you doing better. I know this feeling I joined the Army when I was 22 and I could only get home at Christmas time and sometimes around Easter. I did this for 13 Year and it really hit me hard around the 10 year mark. Thankfully, I met someone around this time and now we are happily married and have a son. Anyways Happy Birthday and I wish you and your son the best.
I have a dog now. Am married 44 yrs, and I am alone, so I have a dog, to go camping with and I love it. The missus will only go camping in the camper with me once a year and only under duress, so I go on my own with my dog, you are not lonely with a dog, and you can give all your love to it. One day, you personally will be walking down the beach with your dog, and you will meet your future partner, I have seen it many a time in my past.
I’m so happy that things are looking up for you 🔥 that camping spot looks awesome 🤩
Good to hear that things are looking up mate..! Cheers for the update.... Stay strong...!!! And happy bday, my bday was on the 17th April...
Hey brother, thank you for the video! Your videos are not sugar coated. They are raw, brutal and emotional. Remember there are many
men going thru the same thing. I’m currently camping out in Tasmania on my own and no one to please except myself. I always thought I needed someone else in my life but now happier to be on my own. If you can, stop ruminating as this can undo you. If you’re lonely, turn on the radio for company.You are not a victim, you’re a survivor! Respect! 👍😄❤️
hope everything is going ok for you!
sending you my best mate
We’ll put together vid, not an easy video. I’ve suffered the Black Dog and it’s surprisingly difficult to shed. I’m on the better side of it now but not completely finished with it.
I thought your son articulated himself well and that’s a credit to you and his Ma and Pa. I’m looking forward to your next vid. Stay strong, stay together and stay safe. 👍👍
I’m glad things have turned around a little and your situation is improving
The youtube videos I tend to enjoy are the ones where people seem to be genuine about themselves. Anyway, it's 1am over here and I'm watching this update and glad you're still around.
Good to hear you have a new car coming mate and I'm sure things will come good for you pretty soon 👍🤗
Good to hear from you again. Keep hanging in there mate. From my 56 years of life so far, I know life can be brutal and not fair but as time goes on things do change and its so worth staying for the ride. You are a fighter like me.
I'm rooting for you... that one fine day all this struggle will change to good things 🙏✝️ you've got a friend here if you ever come to England 🏴
Rooting in Australia has a completely different meaning. The picture in my mind has me laughing in stitches 😅😅
I feel and understand your pain. Its a heartbreaking place to be and a lot of us are getting exactly what you are saying. Family are everything. Keep plodding one, one day at a time, be careful of too much isolation, at times the loneliness can get to you.
Beautiful and heartfelt words there mate. Every bloke who is willing to admit they are struggling makes it just that bit easier for the next bloke to ask for help.
I would still suggest you consider seeing a psychologist, not for meditation, but just someone to help you talk through things.
Look forward to seeing your content when you’re ready for it
Happy birthday for the other day mate 🎉🎉 keep pushing on mate you got this!
Thank you 🙏👍
You get me every time Bro !! Can’t put my finger on it but yeah. All the Best ✊🏼
Happrly birthday mate, very proud of your boy explaining his side of things on video too mate, seems like a smart kid! Im glad your employer is on board with helping you, sometimes it is just the support that you need
Happy birthday mate 🎉🎉 Chin up, all the pieces of the puzzle will fall into place for you before you know it 👍
Hey matey... happy birthday for yesterday.... stay strong and positive... things will work out for you in the end.... take care :)
Thank you 🙏
Sending our love bro!
Happy Birthday 🎉 for the other Day
Its nice to see that things are slowly coming together for you
You will find some One
Safe Travels
Hi Happy Birthday for yesterday.My Son was 51 On the 19 April,the day before you ,So just keep going one day at a time.Cheers and also watched your first Video
Thank you 🙏
Good on you mate,
It all works out in the end, I think your every 3 months idea with your boy is a great idea and as you have a tight father son relationship it will go along well, as will the rest.
Thumbs out to your employer too!
Looking forward to seeing you having some positive experiences this year and may see ya on the road sometime! (I'm also a WA based camping enthusiast)
Happy bday 🎉
Join the gym mate . It will help u immensely..❤
Keep strong mate, and don't be embarrassed by being honest and having the courage to be open.
I'm glad thing are on the upswing for you. What a great update. I just saw my son for the first time in 5 years on Saturday...panic beyond paranoia attacks...full day driving around...laughter and awkwardness. Glad your son is on board and he's told you what he wants. Your square foot of space around you can grow now. See if you can at least speak to a shrink at least once a month...just talk...up swing...up up up
That's awesome you got to see your son after so long mate 👍
happy birthday, you sound a lot better than the last video...
Sorry to hear. Don’t give up.
Good on you mate keep going with what you enjoy doing.
Happy to hear things are on the up n up. Being a single person can be hard when you're older but you get used to it. I'm so used to doing things my way that it's probably safer to stay single. 😆
I hope things pick up for you mate, the only good news I can pass on is from rock bottom everything is an up. Stay Gold
HAPPY BIRTHDAY brother let the past go and think about the future and love life!!
I’ll be here for ya. If ya wanna chat ✌️❤️🤙
Best wishes!!!
Happy birthday for yesterday mate, really hope it was the best day u could make it. 🍰 🎉 🍻
Please don’t go basing your happiness in life, primarily around finding that special person to share it with so u can enjoy it?
Life is so damn short & so damn precious, you blink & it’s gone? let alone wishing it away longing for “that special” person to come along & share it with?
Life is a pure blessing in itself!! just enjoy every minute of your journey mate, no matter what & im confident that special person will come along, when the time is right !!
Enjoy & stay positive 🤞🏻
Big hugs🤗
Hey mate, happy belated Birthday! I know it's tough right now but things will get better. Trust me. My story is similar to yours, quite uncanny actually. Give us a shout if you need a yarn mate 👍
I’m hearing you mate. I’d love to be out camping also, but life isn’t allowing me to do that. I keep running into roadblock after roadblock. But I’m staying strong and keeping my hours in focus.
gutsy stuff mate i know this feeling youve just gotta keep going
Happy birthday mate. Good on you for opening up and sharing your thoughts, that's a rarity these days. This might not be what you want to hear, but you'll have trouble attracting a woman when you're not content just being single/alone. I spent most of my 20s single (after a 3.5 year relationship ended) and later met an amazing woman who I'm still with today almost 10 years on and now we have a beautiful 2 yo son. You'll find you'll meet that special someone when you are not "looking", trust me.
When a man is content with just being himself, women are naturally attracted to you.
Happy Birthday mate, good to hear there's been positive progress. Your son seems like a great young man. Also perhaps consider joining something like the State Emergency Service over there, you can learn a ton of skills and qualifications, meet positive people (hangout with nice women nudge nudge) and get to do great things for the community. Cheers for the update brother. 👍
My support for you bro
Know how you feel mate. You're a great bloke
I haven't listened to it all yet but yeah I can't live life without camping too. It's the best. All the sounds of nature and if in the rainforest it is so good! Hope you are ok. Listening to the rest now. I will subscribe.
Happy belated birthday 🎉
I'm so glad to see that things are moving forward for you all be it slowly. Sometimes slow is good.
I,m sure I commented on your last video, that I too was suffering badly with depression etc. I've just weaned of my medication which got me through the toughest time. Now that I'm off the "happy pills", I'm doing well with little depression. The rest I can do on my own!
I've since retired from work as my boss went belly up and closed the business. I was luck as I could access my superannuation having turned 62.
I had the same issues with my 2002 Hilux, always fixing something! I ended up trading it in on a 2012 Colorado that was a clean slate to build up the way I wanted.
I just did my first trip away for a couple of days with my daughter and a friend of hers.
What a difference it makes when you know that you can travel with confidence in the vehicle!
I'm looking forward to seeing your new vehicle and the build you have planned for it!
Keep smiling and going forward with life!
Thank you for your comment 🙏👍
Jeez. You’re story sounds almost the same as mine. Riverland to WA now back in the Riverland. Lost everything all gone. But good now. Hard decisions and work. It does get better love life again still single but way better. Keep going is all I can say. Somehow it gets better.
Wow very small world lol. Glad to hear it's working out for you 👍 I lived in the riverland most of my life. I definitely didn't want to die in the riverland without exploring more of Australia. We only live once
All the best mate
Hey mate, you are not alone, you have yourself. It will take time after having that family life, but there are other ways of living. It doesn't change your connection with your son. People can lose connection with themselves in families. You will grieve and heal and start to feel whole, just takes time.
Onwards and upwards brother, always here for you ❤
I know you are mate and I appreciate it 👍 even though your moving away aswell 🤣🤣🤣
I feel for you life isnt simple thats for sure ive been through a tonne of sit over last 12 years on medical merry go round it aint the same as youre sittuation i found that if i follow what my heart brain and soul tell me and push through with attitude as positive attitude will always give you the altitude to soar like an eagle wish you all the best dude one day at a time 👍🇦🇺
I think of you muchly mate! 🤍
Keep on keeping on mate. Great video and I hope things improve further. Glad to hear you’re making mates here. If it’s ever any help I’m always up for messenger or other chats.
I’m actually in Busso this coming long weekend, maybe I’ll bump into you somewhere. You’re welcome to come have a few beers where I’ll be with the family at one of the caravan parks.
On ya mate.
Feel free to shoot me a message on instagram mate 👍 I quite often catch up with people passing through for a 🍺
Mate, dont want to sound rude or anything but by the sound of it your going to end up continually being with some sheila just because you dont want to be alone and end up right back at the beginning. Its what got you in the position your at now. The sooner you realise you dont necessarily need a women in your life the better your life will be... Trust me.
Amen. He’s caught in a loop!
True. (Female here) I've been single for about 10 years now and much happier for it, till the right guy comes along.
Humans are biologically tuned to want companionship in life with a meaningful partner. Its not fun to be alone. Some can be without, but most struggle without it.
Absolutely. What did the last shallow woman do to you. Women will use you and spit you out. You were born alone and grew up single, what the hell has changed that you now say you can't handle it?
@@southofthestickshe won't .. hopefully for him.
Happy birthday for the other day and it’s great that you and your son have come up with a plan to see each other. He sounds like a grounded dude 👍 happy to hear you have a new Hilux coming, you deserve it Paul. Best of luck to you 🤟🥂🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺
Thanks mate I really appreciate it 🙏👍
Mate, add 20 years to your age, trust me it can be worse. But I'm still here, oh diddums.
Hey mate been alone for years as well. I am %100 alone and sad. I know your story well. Craig from Queensland.
Sending love mate. 🤙
We're on our own from here on out
Hold your head high brother, you are a great MAN & FATHER!
I went thru same thing mate years ago i was in melb son in qld we got to see each other prob twice a year now we both live in same town, you have a smart lad must take after you, dont stop doing doing what you want to do
Thanks for sharing your story mate 👍
Hey mate, through-out my whole life I've never been able to make one good friend long term. I'm 27 now so doubt it will ever happen, so I get that lonely feeling. Getting behind cars and 4wds has gotten me thru most of it I think, I don't have much advice but congratulations on the new Hilux they're awesome love driving the one at my work plenty of power.
Nothing wrong with keeping your friends circle small mate. A lot less drama that way. Back in south Australia I really only had 1 mate I'd catch up with every week with & we didn't meet until I was in my 30's. You never know when you'll meet new mates 👍
It looks like mate that you’re around some good people and it’s good to see you’re still making RUclips videos mate but just do one thing. Make sure. Take good care of yourself and catch you on the next video mate. 👍🏻🇦🇺
Appreciate it mate 👍
So glad things are looking up for ya mate a partner will come along soon enough personally I’ve been alone 9 months it’s total shite at times but I just don’t want to do the online dating again it’s too hard I’m just not ready so I throw myself into doing what i love the rest will happen when it happens I know what you mean re the not sleeping case in point 4am right now typing this. I’m chuffed to bits for you you deffo sound and look far more positive stay strong mate all the best
keep fighting mate
G’day Ben. Do whatever your heart desires. You’re at an age where a person is just starting to lay their road of life. Nice to meet you mate 👍
Keep moving forward. Things will only get better over time. What new car did you purchase?
I don't want to reveal too much yet but it's another Toyota. I wouldn't buy anything else 😀
You are doing better than a lot of people these days. Keep going. Focusing on helping others and the community and less thinking of what you haven't got, is really good for the mind. Nobody is bombing us (at the moment), so us Aussies have a lot to be grateful for. You still have your arms and legs, not stuck in a hospital or jail... so life is really looking up mate.
You will be 👌 remember old mate Dracula 🧛♂️ he said “My friends are the shadows and my own thoughts 💭”.