My oldest is 15 and we experienced a lot of what you said around age 12-13. The most important thing you said was don’t let them pull away. Some days the emotions are so big, that the best thing you can do is let them talk and let them cry, listen to them, and let the math wait if necessary. It will pay off tremendously in the teen years because they will know they can trust you with anything. ❤️
I feel like we are going thru this exact same thing!! My daughter is 12 and I feel everything you are talking about. I also feel blessed to be able to be homeschooling her. A good friend told me to fight on my knees more than I fight face to face with her. Great advice...pray over her, pray along side with her, intercede for her when she can't. Hang in there momma, God gave her to you. He knew this season would come and knew you would be the best to disciple her into the women God wants her to be❤
Thank you for being so transparent💕 As a Mama to adult children. Rest assured that all the things you're doing during these critical years will come back to them. They may step away from reason and follow the world....for a time. They will come back to your teachings, love and respect. Stay the course, don't give in!!
So true! I am definitely seeing this in my 17 year old. He is coming back around to thinking mom might be kind of cool and worth listening to. ❤️ My youngest is now 10 and she is my hardest preteen and only girl. My 2 boys didn’t have as hard of a time as she is.
SUCH a great video! You’re so right about staying involved in their lives! So many people think “teenagers like to be alone” but there is a balance to be found there. Whether they know it or not, teens still need their parents. Rules without relationships end in rebellion so it’s super important to keep growing your relationship with your teen to help avoid rebellion. I think this is my favorite video of yours! Great job!
A Place to Nest I agree. I LOVED this video so so so so so much. I love watching you too, Becky. I think you and Ashlee should do a collab update vídeo regarding this topic. It’s so needed nowadays. I specially love that both of you are of the Christian faith. There are so many RUclipsrs but very few Christian ones.
Preteen years have been harder than teen years for us too! You're doing the right thing by staying close to her and keeping communication going. Hang in there, it gets easier.❤
Thank you for this video. My daughters are 7 and 9 and I can already see the emotional rollercoasters and negativity that come with the preteen years. One negative attitude brings everyone down and hurts our homeschool day. Your advice to reiterate their beauty and strengths really resonated with me. Thank you for your wisdom! Praying for you during this difficult season ♥️
The thought of this age/stage coming my way makes me sad sometimes lol. Not in some crazy, devastated way but we might not know how each of our kids will handle the hormonal side of things, there is no avoiding them having to figure out more of who they are/what they stand for/dealing with insecurities. And natural consequences can definitely be more painful at that stage. I wish we could protect them as parents through all that but we can’t. It’s hard to think about lol. I think we need a follow up video about the PERKS of preteens 😜
Ashlee, as the mother of a girl I completely understand wanting to protect them from the things we felt and had to go through as a child. But I assure you that she has an amazing role model 💜 she’s going to go through things but I just know that god is going to lead you to be what she needs and when she needs it. A gift that you and I didn’t have at that age. What a gift that is! You’re a great mother and I have no doubts that they will get through this phase and be amazing adults themselves!
Your transparency....wow! It is so easy to see the best days you have and not realize you have bad days also! Your children are extremely well behaved but I thank you for letting us know that your family isn’t perfect. I don’t have a preteen yet, far from it actually but I will hold this video close for when it comes which will unfortunately be all too quick! Thanks again! Much ❤️
I agree wholeheartedly. We very easily believe the lie that everything our child projects was our fault. I love how you explain our roles as to come alongside them and steer them back in the right direction. I have Galatians 6:9 put up in many places in our home as a constant reminder - mostly for myself.
I needed this so much this week! My soon to be 12yo is all over the place with her emotions lately and I am so emotionally spent just trying to figure out how to guide her through this season . I do feel at times that it is a reflection on my parenting but then I try to remind myself that it's hormones 😂 so glad to hear that it is "normal" with what we are going through. Thank you for helping me not feel alone during this tough season. You're the best!
Best video to date. Totally agree with it all. My daughter is 15 and I have realized she is her own person and I can’t make her think what I want her to think or believe what I believe. It can stink sometimes.
So good and encouraging! I have a 10 year old daughter and I feel I am just on the brink of this, and your words confirmed that. So I need to know how to handle it myself now, so I am prepared for the next few years. I will say this past winter I did a small group with my daughter. A few of her other friends whose moms are my great friends, we met once a week at 7am at a coffee shop and worked through the book "Lies Girls Believe" by Dannah Gresh. This book was the breakthrough we need as a mother/daughter. Highly recommend! And my daughter has referred back to this book so many times. Thank you for being so real and encouraging in this video!
This is a great video. I have three daughters, 10, 13, 15...My 15-year-old is settling into her own. My 10 and 13-year-olds are going through similar things as to your daughter. They are all different and have different reactions to things, but the common issue is all the hormones and changes they are going through. Self-confidence is so hard at this age. It is hard to teach them how to feel confident in the things they do, extra encouraging is so important. Decisions and Consequences they make & see first hand is helpful. Thank you for this video!!
Wow. Wow. Wow. This was literally the best video in the world. I have a 13 year old son and 10 year old twin girls. Our son seems like he’s starting to calm down with his emotions a little, but one of my twin girls has kicked it in high gear. Her emotions are all over the map. She cries over everything. Yesterday she threw a “tantrum” and cried for almost 2 hours. I literally felt like I had a 3 yr old again. 😬 It wore me out mentally. She’s been fighting all day every day with her other siblings. It’s really been taking a toll on me. I know what you mean by just feeling emotionally drained. I can so relate to every single thing you mentioned in this video. I can’t tell you how much this video just speaks to my heart. I appreciate you so much for posting this. Now to dry my face from the ugly crying lol. Thank you again for sharing your heart with us. 💛
My girls are 10 and 12 now and I have been having a better time now than when they around 8 and 10 years old at public school. It was not fun at all when they were at school between the peer pressure and drama with friends. My girls always say that they want to be kids as long as they can. I let them play and be themselves. We have rules at our house regarding TV and technology and those rules are very clear. We are very conservative and that is the way they have been raised. We travel frequently and they interact with people from all walks of life and backgrounds. That gives them a lot of confidence. We put value in our family first and we are very open in conversations. We share our feelings and I must say that our relationship with each other is better than ever. We let them get involved in most of the decision making in our household from purchasing a house to buying groceries. It’s a very sensitive age but we have to find our own ways to understand and not to make a big deal about it. I would not even mention to them that they are going through stages because they are not mature enough to understand and they can only get pretty confused. Thank you for another great video.
My oldest is 10 so I'm not quite to this point in parenting, but I love how you said that your job is to just put her back on the right track by speaking truth into her life. That is solid advice!
This video was very helpful. My kids are not close to being preteens (still have 5 years to go with my oldest) but knowing these things ahead of time has given me perspective. Especially the Sally Clarkson insight of ages four to fourteen being crucial in development. Thank you so much for sharing. On a totally unrelated note, your hair looked awesome in this video. 😁
I am just entering this stage with my almost 12 year old daughter. My daughter sounds very much like yours, as she has always since she was 5 been complimented on how mature she is for her age, yet she is still so innocent because we have been very intentional in filtering as well. This age scares me to death and I just feel like I'm going to mess it all up. I am so very blessed and I know she has a good foundation and has put her trust in the Lord, but watching her doubt herself and figure out her life breaks my heart sometimes! Lately she has asked to go back to a mainstream school because she feels she is missing out. Have you experienced this with your daughter? I almost want to let her go just so she can see the grass is not greener, but another part of me wants to just play the mom card and tell her that homeschooling is the best option and what I believe in. Thanks for a great video, very encouraging!
I’m in the heat of it right now as well and I’m with you on staying the course and helping regulate. I definitely go to battle through prayer especially with self expression and watching her go through pain and hurts
I know this video is a little old but I found it at just the right time. Thank you so much for sharing. You are right, us Moms don’t talk about this enough. ❤️❤️
When your son gets more into this stage I would love to hear if there are any differences you’ve noticed (difference in struggles etc) as well as differences in how you’ve had to approach things. It seems like a good amount will be the same but not all. I am a mom of all boys, I know what it was like for me during this stage (a lot of body image and beauty comparison struggles), but it just seems that boys might have some different struggles.
Boy mom here, I needed this video so much. I honestly feel God led me here tonight as I was just talking to him and telling him how lost I'm feeling right now. My boys are almost 12 and 10 and homeschooling and parenting has been such a struggle this year. Thank you for sharing.
soooo good to hear another mama's struggle! My oldest is also 12 and ......sigh....as you said....it's emotionally exhausting! Galatians 6:8-9 has been a great comfort for me the past couple weeks! We will reap, if we don't grow weary!
Oh Ashlee, you are so so very right. Those outside influences are more powerful that I think many realize. Three kids here from your age down, each almost a decade a part. Outside influences with the oldest, from the public school system to family and friends has fed a beast I don't think they realized. We are still struggling with having a relationship with her from that damage. Certain beasts have been fed by others that have turned into some pretty bad habits and personality traits. She in the process has sucked in her sister. Middle daughter was such a joy to be around and happy and innocent (still kind of is innocent) until she hit about 14. That is when things started to spiral downwards. With encouragement from her older sister, it has made being around her difficult at times because she starts acting like the oldest if around each other a lot. There was some outside interference with the middle too besides her older sister. She was in PS as well. Sometimes a parent's values are at polar opposite ends of the spectrum from what the school is pushing. The last one will be 13 in a few short months. So far, so good. But, I think it is different because things are different for boys. Not only with being a boy, he is a much more intuitive child that really dances to his own tune. He is so not a follower, but he isn't necessarily a leader either. He is wise beyond his years, but still really pretty innocent. He is also the only child that has been homeschooled. He did start out in PS, but we pulled him days before 2nd grade. We also have cut ties from most family because they are so toxic. So for him, I think that makes a huge difference. We have our moments and our tug of wars so to speak with him. But overall, he is almost always happy.
I have 6 kids. For me the hardest years started around puberty but peaked in the late high school years with my oldest. I think it varies child to child. I am thankful that after a very hard end to the high school years with my oldest daughter, she eventually came around and went back to being the loving person we knew she was deep down. We will never be able to predict or control every outcome and decision our children make as they get older, but truly it is not always a reflection of your parenting! I think in the vast majority of cases kids come back around to the foundation we have laid. It may not look like how we live our life exactly, but if they are living their lives ethically and with kindness, that’s awesome!
Thank you for your transparency! My son is 14 and things seem to be settling down. I can totally relate with the struggles during the pre teen years. Thank you for sharing your life with us !!😊
Also to add to my comment, thank you for mentioning not letting them pull away. My 13 yr old son and one of my 10 yr old twin girls have been begging me to put them in school. My son says he “hates” homeschooling and he’s afraid he’s missing out on experiences at school. I have honestly thought about allowing him to go back, but this video really brought some clarity to my mind. You’re so right... these years are so important and I agree that putting him in middle school now would probably not be the best plan. Especially bc we tried that a year and a half ago and it did not go well at all for him. Anyway, I’m really glad you mentioned that in this video! Thank you!
I have a 10 year old daughter that’s developing early and when you said that we can’t stop those bad thoughts and struggles with self and body image 🤯 i needed to hear that. It’s been hard to see her struggle with that but we pray that she stays firm on the rock ♥️ 🙏🏼 thanks again for the tips and being honest!
You are such an awesome speaker! I have been thrown into single parenting not by choice. I have 5 children from 25-12. EXHAUSTING is an understatement. I have been homeschooling for 9 years and I thought by HS, my children would have a more solid faith and respect. In my case, that has not been how it’s happening. Things were so bad with unkindness towards siblings and disrespectful towards me so I put put in public school when he was in 8th grade. I regret it. He is an extremely gifted athlete with all the talent to go to a D1 college but maturity wise....idk now have 3 still at home and it is a struggle!!!!! They are 14, 13, and 12. All boys and one girl (the youngest). I also work from home so things are extremely busy on a day to day basis. When I heard you repeat something from Sally Clarkson, I became so discouraged (not intended to bring on guilt). The informative years are from 4-14. I feel like I have failed :(. I often ask the Lord what to do. I have to be patient and BEING TIRED IS NOT AN OPTION. Consistency is a huge problem for me. I do not have a huge support group. We do attend church regularly and the men definitely speak to my boys but they cannot stand it. I cannot even believe I’m sharing all this so publicly. If you feel led, anyone reading this, please pray for us. Ashley, you are doing an amazing job!!! I will pray for your continued strength ☺️
This was encouraging! We are raising big kids and little kids at the same time and it is exhausting at times. I agree with what you said- appropriate consequences, spending plenty of (one-on-one ideally) time with them, having them take a break when emotions are running too high...and persevering in the Lord overall. There are days that can be so discouraging, but in the end we will be thankful if we don't give up. I already have moments where I look back on the way I parented and have regret (because of parenting in anger). My prayer is that I would be faithful to reflect Christ and parent biblically and not just be reactive to the way they are behaving. One last thing- while I agree that these years are crucial, it can be discouraging to think that by age 14 they are sealed and set for the rest of their lives. I know that I have grown and matured tremendously since the age of 14 and the Lord is never done with us no matter our age. So maybe keep that in mind, but don't lose hope if your child over 14 isn't exactly like you were hoping. :) I know you weren't saying it was too late, but I've heard that said before and found it a little discouraging, like I had already missed the boat. Thanks so much for you honesty here, Ashlee!
Thank you so much for this video, Ashlee! My daughter is 9 and I have 7 and 3 year old sons. I am definitely getting this life giving parent book. We are our kiddos greatest role model and advocate and I feel like anything we can do to help them through this phase is so worth it! ❤
Such a great topic and video! We have a 12 year old and almost 10 year old daughters and a 7 year old son. My girls' bad attitudes definitely impact my typically happy son. My tone and energy level/intensity is a major impact during the storms and I love your point about constant reassurance. One thing we have struggled with is our oldest wanting a cell phone so badly because her friends at church have one. She is the youngest of her peers there that go up to almost age 14. I'd love to hear your thoughts about cell phones!
@@GraceandGrit My in-laws gave our oldest an iPod touch for her birthday a couple of years ago. It's been a learning process for both her and us and a trust challenge. But it has also made her younger siblings envious at times. I've heard psychologist, Meg Meeker, recommended "dumb phones" if your child really needs a phone. But I think this area is one that we will have to fight hard for because that outside world will flood in and the spiritual battle is real! This can also be an area of trust, training, and responsibility. Better to train them while they are under our roof, than to think they'll manage without training.
I have boy/girl twins who are 12 and boy oh boy, I 100% relate to the changes you are experiencing. This pre-teen-toddler phase is very tiring. I agree fully to keep them close and not give them reign to pull away. These are the years that count so much. Some parents are way more relaxed and give permissions I would not be comfortable with and visa versa, some parents are so strict that they are likely to have a rebellion on their hands. I am trying to always find the balance of allowing some freedoms both earned and gifted without compromising our primary goals for holy living. So tricky when the world around us offers such different ideals. I’ll be praying for you Ashlee. We need so much to be the village for one another! It’s so strange as you open up the windows of your home for us to get to know you on this channel. It can feel to me the viewer like I am getting to know so much about you like we’ve known each other for a good while and I remember you don’t know me from Adam LOL. I am thankful; however, for your channel and appreciate your openness. Praying for you from Ontario Canada in this season you are facing. Facing it together but a country apart 😉🌸
Thank you for this excellent video. My son is now 14. Things are much better this year but last year, mostly the beginning of last year were very difficult. We began homeschooling for the first time with 7th grade. I had to implement discipline measures similar to what Ashley shared and along with that I made a star chart for positive behavior. After 10 stars he could choose something fun such as a visit to Fro Yo, an outing to the movies, going out to lunch or receiving an item from Amazon. That worked very well for him. Self regulation was a struggle I would have him exercise or talk it out, raking leaves helped so much. Working so closely and being around each other so much really made honesty super important. I also had to learn to respond and not react to him. I had to learn to self- regulate too and to stay calm.
Thank you so much for this video! 🙌 Keep them coming! As a homeschooling mom to a 13, 12 and 10 year old I feel like I am in the trenches with you! These have been the hardest years of parenting! It is emotionally draining but also totally rewarding to see glimpses of who they are becoming! I constantly think of the song 'You're Gonna Miss This' to get me through.😂
I don't know why, but it seems like it's usually the mother who gets most of the attitude from their teenage/preteen daughters. Something about that mother/daughter dynamic is just really challenged in those years. I know for me personally, my mom and I butted heads every single day. I think it has a lot to do with as you get older, you start to realize that your parents aren't these perfect people that you thought they were growing up, and that mixed with the high emotions of that age is just earth shattering. I know me and my mom still struggle with some of the scars left from that time, our relationship never completely healed after it, but that may be due to being completely different people. I will say, the biggest struggle seemed to be that I felt very judged by her and just didn't feel like she was a trusted person I could go to.
@@GraceandGrit I didn't know that, sorry to hear that for you. You feel like you may sometimes put yourself under more pressure to do well during this time to make sure she has that mother/daughter relationship that you lacked? I know for me, my daughter is only 2, but I already worry so much about our relationship
Hi, Ashley. Thank you for this wonderful video, actually all your homeschooling videos. I just want you to know that the ministry you are leading here on RUclips has been a compass for me in my homeschool journey (3 years now) with my son who is now 9. I am a silent watch but take away so much from your experiences. Thank for all that you do for this community, you are greatly appreciated. May God continue to guide and bless you and your family.
Thank you so much for being open and honest. It's so hard to be a homeschooling mom to preteens. It's such a tricky age to parent and then to add in all the time together and added stresses just makes for a big transition. Your look in this video is beautiful the fall vibes are perfect! Good luck with all the changes
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I have a 10 year old and I see a lot of what you are talking about. He is not your typical boy ...he is very mature...tall and very smart and his attitude reflects that maturity for good and bad. He has started to have his moments. So this video comes in handy. Just yesterday as hr was having one of those I can't concentrate days and being smarty pants I was thinking how time out no longer workd and how work will be better ...then I see this on your video which tells me that is the right way to go for discipline. I agree with you is challenging and tiring but I am also glad Im here to go through it with him. Ty Ashley for sharing.
My daughter just turned 9 and we are already catching a glimpse into this stage. It has been HARD. She is also a stereotypical first-born so she is already stubborn and hard-headed as it is, but this is like new-level stuff 😅 Thank you for this video!
I’m not there yet but I’ve watched my sister in law parent 3 of her 4 kids in this stage. Two of them are in high school now and they are definitely more pleasant people and have moved past that stage now.
Such an excellent video! My oldest is also 7th grader, although a boy, and I have an 11 year old girl and 4 other youngers...but! This is a great video! Thanks for being honest and sharing your story and heart. Big hugs as we navigate this together ...
The struggle is real lol....I actually just enrolled my just turned 12yr old daughter in our small local Waldorf school because I just could not handle it anymore, she is taking up %99 of my time and energy and I have 3 other kids so it was not fair on them. Luckily we have this as an option, it is not cheap but its a gentle, loving environment that is very much inline with our values and is very much focused on protecting the developing person so I think they are probably in a better position to provide what she needs right now...I did my best and will bring her home later (the school only goes up to 13-14) but right now that is just what we have to do to survive, they are like energy vampires sometimes!!
I would have gave you 10 thumbs up if I could. This was so so beneficial as I have a 13 soon to be 14 year old and a 11 year old that is displaying all the characteristics you mentioned. It's reassuring to know your not alone. Also a big thanks for the ideas on useful discipline methods. Thanks for sharing Take care
We are in this phase with my 11 yo son. But our battle is he is very opinionated. So much so that I've found myself not saying or doing something because I don't want to hear his mouth. My sil even called him out on having strong opinions on me buying jewelry. I have been reminded I am the parent and I am supposed to discipline him in love. So he has been told, he can voice his opinion of we are asking him or if it's something that directly affects him, otherwise if it's a decision I am making as an adult or as his mom, or my husband makes, his opinion does not get a say in our decisions. Parenting is rough
Such a great video!i need to be better at affirming my daughter , and I loved your methods of discipline. We use some of them in Our home but I liked the serving one a lot!
You are so beautiful.... It motivates me to get ready for my day before homeschool starts bc if i dont than i find myself in pjs all day lol i love hearing new ideas with parenting
2 books I recommend to you... Nurture by nature - understanding your child's personality type. No Longer Little- parenting tweens with grace and hope Please check them out on Amazon. Please please give them a chance and maybe talk about them in future video if you found them helpful. You're an amazing mom and I agree with all that you said here.
Oh my goodness, you just put it all into words. And, my daughter is only 8!!! Satan has his claws in our relationship right now and, unfortunately, I think I'm letting him win. 😓
Thank you for sharing!we have four girls and one boy lol. We are not there yet but it’s good to prepare for the future and it also makes me cherish today even more!
My biggest struggle with parenting right now is my 9 and 10 year boys fuss and fight all the time. I feel like I'm out of ideas on what to do, but I'm still trying its just exhausting!
grace we do use apple cider vinager for anything involving words such as lieing or mean hurtful words it gives my kids an acutal taste if you will when they are being mean I spray it in there mouth and ask them if those words tates good we have seen improvement with all expect my oldest he is our most stubborn one. now most times all I have to do is say do we need the ewwy and they start to think about what they are fixing to do or say
This question is completely off topic, but I've been want to ask and it kinda TIM as well. How do you handle working out on your cycle week? I'm not tampon or cup person and I have quite a heavy flow. I assume you have great tips for this being you struggle with PCOS I think that what you called it. I don't have that but I've had 3 c-sections and a tubal litigation. I just feel like it some messy and I'm so tired on the week of my cycle, but I don't want to derail my progress and fitness.
Wow Ashlee, you have no idea how badly I needed this video. My eyes literally welled up as I was watching. I have a 15 year old daughter & a 13 year old son. I knew I was in for it with my daughter b/c she’s just like me, lol. However, my son.....boy that’s been a hard one to deal with. He was always my sweet, sensitive, peacemaker. Now....not so much. I still see glimpses of it, but some days I just have to walk away from him & it just feels like he hates me. I know he doesn’t & I know it will pass, but boy do I get what you’re saying about it being exhausting. To top it all off, dear old Dad decided to hit the road about 4 years ago, so not only am I dealing with it alone, but my kids get the added insecurity that their father doesn’t want them. Obviously, that causes massive destruction to a child’s self worth, especially with a boy. It causes so much anger, ya know? Anyway, I agree with 100% of what you said. I’ll pray for you, you pray for me & we’ll hang on for the ride together, lol. Ty for this video.
Kelly Albertson praying for you mama and your kiddos hearts. I was one who came out of a situation that sounds similar and as long as you continue to champion for them they will be ok! ❤️
Also, I recommend the book Brainstorm by Daniel Siegel. It goes into the neuroscience behind brain development. This is the same author as the Whole Brain Child, which is one of my top parenting books.
There was a book you posted recently about having the talk, but I didn't catch a screen shot of it. Can you share again? I don't think it was the one from the Good and the Beautiful
This is off topic but we're having issues with community sports and the kids being bad influences and also being mean/rude. Any advice on where to find good friends? Homeschool groups didn't work out for us, we are taking a break from those.
My oldest is 15 and we experienced a lot of what you said around age 12-13. The most important thing you said was don’t let them pull away. Some days the emotions are so big, that the best thing you can do is let them talk and let them cry, listen to them, and let the math wait if necessary. It will pay off tremendously in the teen years because they will know they can trust you with anything. ❤️
I feel like we are going thru this exact same thing!! My daughter is 12 and I feel everything you are talking about. I also feel blessed to be able to be homeschooling her. A good friend told me to fight on my knees more than I fight face to face with her. Great advice...pray over her, pray along side with her, intercede for her when she can't. Hang in there momma, God gave her to you. He knew this season would come and knew you would be the best to disciple her into the women God wants her to be❤
Beautiful and wise words 🥰
Amen!
Thank you for being so transparent💕 As a Mama to adult children. Rest assured that all the things you're doing during these critical years will come back to them. They may step away from reason and follow the world....for a time. They will come back to your teachings, love and respect. Stay the course, don't give in!!
Kimberly McMurry Thankyou for your encouragement sweet friend! It’s so valued!
So true! I am definitely seeing this in my 17 year old. He is coming back around to thinking mom might be kind of cool and worth listening to. ❤️ My youngest is now 10 and she is my hardest preteen and only girl. My 2 boys didn’t have as hard of a time as she is.
So so so love that you touched on the idea to NOT completely let them pull away from you by letting them be.
SUCH a great video! You’re so right about staying involved in their lives! So many people think “teenagers like to be alone” but there is a balance to be found there. Whether they know it or not, teens still need their parents. Rules without relationships end in rebellion so it’s super important to keep growing your relationship with your teen to help avoid rebellion. I think this is my favorite video of yours! Great job!
Thankyou Becky! You’re a few years ahead of me, so I love gaining wisdom from you
A Place to Nest I agree. I LOVED this video so so so so so much. I love watching you too, Becky. I think you and Ashlee should do a collab update vídeo regarding this topic. It’s so needed nowadays. I specially love that both of you are of the Christian faith. There are so many RUclipsrs but very few Christian ones.
Preteen years have been harder than teen years for us too! You're doing the right thing by staying close to her and keeping communication going. Hang in there, it gets easier.❤
You have no idea how much I needed this video today ... thank you for your honest truth really does help
Thank you for this video. My daughters are 7 and 9 and I can already see the emotional rollercoasters and negativity that come with the preteen years. One negative attitude brings everyone down and hurts our homeschool day. Your advice to reiterate their beauty and strengths really resonated with me. Thank you for your wisdom! Praying for you during this difficult season ♥️
Loved this video! I'm going through the same with my almost 12 year old son, it's such a tough season. The attitude and emotions are so so hard!!!!
Diary of a Homeschool Mama yes😢
The thought of this age/stage coming my way makes me sad sometimes lol. Not in some crazy, devastated way but we might not know how each of our kids will handle the hormonal side of things, there is no avoiding them having to figure out more of who they are/what they stand for/dealing with insecurities. And natural consequences can definitely be more painful at that stage. I wish we could protect them as parents through all that but we can’t. It’s hard to think about lol. I think we need a follow up video about the PERKS of preteens 😜
Ashlee, as the mother of a girl I completely understand wanting to protect them from the things we felt and had to go through as a child. But I assure you that she has an amazing role model 💜 she’s going to go through things but I just know that god is going to lead you to be what she needs and when she needs it. A gift that you and I didn’t have at that age. What a gift that is! You’re a great mother and I have no doubts that they will get through this phase and be amazing adults themselves!
Offbeat Momma Saga appreciate you 😭
Your transparency....wow! It is so easy to see the best days you have and not realize you have bad days also! Your children are extremely well behaved but I thank you for letting us know that your family isn’t perfect. I don’t have a preteen yet, far from it actually but I will hold this video close for when it comes which will unfortunately be all too quick! Thanks again! Much ❤️
Amy Grant ❤️❤️❤️
I agree wholeheartedly. We very easily believe the lie that everything our child projects was our fault. I love how you explain our roles as to come alongside them and steer them back in the right direction. I have Galatians 6:9 put up in many places in our home as a constant reminder - mostly for myself.
Veronica Esterhuyse amen! ❤️
I have a 9.5 YO girl so I enjoyed watching this video so I know what I'm in for. I like that service idea for a correction tactic.
I needed this so much this week! My soon to be 12yo is all over the place with her emotions lately and I am so emotionally spent just trying to figure out how to guide her through this season . I do feel at times that it is a reflection on my parenting but then I try to remind myself that it's hormones 😂 so glad to hear that it is "normal" with what we are going through. Thank you for helping me not feel alone during this tough season. You're the best!
Best video to date. Totally agree with it all. My daughter is 15 and I have realized she is her own person and I can’t make her think what I want her to think or believe what I believe. It can stink sometimes.
C T Thankyou!
So good and encouraging! I have a 10 year old daughter and I feel I am just on the brink of this, and your words confirmed that. So I need to know how to handle it myself now, so I am prepared for the next few years. I will say this past winter I did a small group with my daughter. A few of her other friends whose moms are my great friends, we met once a week at 7am at a coffee shop and worked through the book "Lies Girls Believe" by Dannah Gresh. This book was the breakthrough we need as a mother/daughter. Highly recommend! And my daughter has referred back to this book so many times. Thank you for being so real and encouraging in this video!
byaorn we are reading that!
This is a great video. I have three daughters, 10, 13, 15...My 15-year-old is settling into her own. My 10 and 13-year-olds are going through similar things as to your daughter. They are all different and have different reactions to things, but the common issue is all the hormones and changes they are going through. Self-confidence is so hard at this age. It is hard to teach them how to feel confident in the things they do, extra encouraging is so important. Decisions and Consequences they make & see first hand is helpful. Thank you for this video!!
Wow. Wow. Wow. This was literally the best video in the world. I have a 13 year old son and 10 year old twin girls. Our son seems like he’s starting to calm down with his emotions a little, but one of my twin girls has kicked it in high gear. Her emotions are all over the map. She cries over everything. Yesterday she threw a “tantrum” and cried for almost 2 hours. I literally felt like I had a 3 yr old again. 😬 It wore me out mentally. She’s been fighting all day every day with her other siblings. It’s really been taking a toll on me. I know what you mean by just feeling emotionally drained. I can so relate to every single thing you mentioned in this video. I can’t tell you how much this video just speaks to my heart. I appreciate you so much for posting this. Now to dry my face from the ugly crying lol. Thank you again for sharing your heart with us. 💛
Hugs it’s so tough!
My girls are 10 and 12 now and I have been having a better time now than when they around 8 and 10 years old at public school. It was not fun at all when they were at school between the peer pressure and drama with friends. My girls always say that they want to be kids as long as they can. I let them play and be themselves. We have rules at our house regarding TV and technology and those rules are very clear. We are very conservative and that is the way they have been raised. We travel frequently and they interact with people from all walks of life and backgrounds. That gives them a lot of confidence. We put value in our family first and we are very open in conversations. We share our feelings and I must say that our relationship with each other is better than ever. We let them get involved in most of the decision making in our household from purchasing a house to buying groceries. It’s a very sensitive age but we have to find our own ways to understand and not to make a big deal about it. I would not even mention to them that they are going through stages because they are not mature enough to understand and they can only get pretty confused. Thank you for another great video.
My oldest is 10 so I'm not quite to this point in parenting, but I love how you said that your job is to just put her back on the right track by speaking truth into her life. That is solid advice!
This video was very helpful. My kids are not close to being preteens (still have 5 years to go with my oldest) but knowing these things ahead of time has given me perspective. Especially the Sally Clarkson insight of ages four to fourteen being crucial in development. Thank you so much for sharing.
On a totally unrelated note, your hair looked awesome in this video. 😁
Amber D where did you find Sally Clarkson’s insights of ages four to fourteen? I need to read or listen to it, I love her!
Awe Thankyou friend!
Ashlee, where did you read the Sally Clarkson quote? Do you remember which book? 😁
Megan Goodall life giving parenting book. It’s linked in the videos description
Grace and Grit thank you!
I am just entering this stage with my almost 12 year old daughter. My daughter sounds very much like yours, as she has always since she was 5 been complimented on how mature she is for her age, yet she is still so innocent because we have been very intentional in filtering as well. This age scares me to death and I just feel like I'm going to mess it all up. I am so very blessed and I know she has a good foundation and has put her trust in the Lord, but watching her doubt herself and figure out her life breaks my heart sometimes! Lately she has asked to go back to a mainstream school because she feels she is missing out. Have you experienced this with your daughter? I almost want to let her go just so she can see the grass is not greener, but another part of me wants to just play the mom card and tell her that homeschooling is the best option and what I believe in. Thanks for a great video, very encouraging!
I’m in the heat of it right now as well and I’m with you on staying the course and helping regulate. I definitely go to battle through prayer especially with self expression and watching her go through pain and hurts
Melanie Riddle so hard
I know this video is a little old but I found it at just the right time. Thank you so much for sharing. You are right, us Moms don’t talk about this enough. ❤️❤️
When your son gets more into this stage I would love to hear if there are any differences you’ve noticed (difference in struggles etc) as well as differences in how you’ve had to approach things. It seems like a good amount will be the same but not all. I am a mom of all boys, I know what it was like for me during this stage (a lot of body image and beauty comparison struggles), but it just seems that boys might have some different struggles.
Megan Goodall definitely will report back
Boy mom here, I needed this video so much. I honestly feel God led me here tonight as I was just talking to him and telling him how lost I'm feeling right now. My boys are almost 12 and 10 and homeschooling and parenting has been such a struggle this year. Thank you for sharing.
soooo good to hear another mama's struggle! My oldest is also 12 and ......sigh....as you said....it's emotionally exhausting! Galatians 6:8-9 has been a great comfort for me the past couple weeks! We will reap, if we don't grow weary!
Also....your comment...."Help me, Jesus!" Amen! I'm saying that daily! ;)
Oh Ashlee, you are so so very right. Those outside influences are more powerful that I think many realize. Three kids here from your age down, each almost a decade a part. Outside influences with the oldest, from the public school system to family and friends has fed a beast I don't think they realized. We are still struggling with having a relationship with her from that damage. Certain beasts have been fed by others that have turned into some pretty bad habits and personality traits. She in the process has sucked in her sister. Middle daughter was such a joy to be around and happy and innocent (still kind of is innocent) until she hit about 14. That is when things started to spiral downwards. With encouragement from her older sister, it has made being around her difficult at times because she starts acting like the oldest if around each other a lot. There was some outside interference with the middle too besides her older sister. She was in PS as well. Sometimes a parent's values are at polar opposite ends of the spectrum from what the school is pushing. The last one will be 13 in a few short months. So far, so good. But, I think it is different because things are different for boys. Not only with being a boy, he is a much more intuitive child that really dances to his own tune. He is so not a follower, but he isn't necessarily a leader either. He is wise beyond his years, but still really pretty innocent. He is also the only child that has been homeschooled. He did start out in PS, but we pulled him days before 2nd grade. We also have cut ties from most family because they are so toxic. So for him, I think that makes a huge difference. We have our moments and our tug of wars so to speak with him. But overall, he is almost always happy.
I have 6 kids. For me the hardest years started around puberty but peaked in the late high school years with my oldest. I think it varies child to child. I am thankful that after a very hard end to the high school years with my oldest daughter, she eventually came around and went back to being the loving person we knew she was deep down. We will never be able to predict or control every outcome and decision our children make as they get older, but truly it is not always a reflection of your parenting! I think in the vast majority of cases kids come back around to the foundation we have laid. It may not look like how we live our life exactly, but if they are living their lives ethically and with kindness, that’s awesome!
Thank you for your transparency! My son is 14 and things seem to be settling down. I can totally relate with the struggles during the pre teen years. Thank you for sharing your life with us !!😊
Also to add to my comment, thank you for mentioning not letting them pull away. My 13 yr old son and one of my 10 yr old twin girls have been begging me to put them in school. My son says he “hates” homeschooling and he’s afraid he’s missing out on experiences at school. I have honestly thought about allowing him to go back, but this video really brought some clarity to my mind. You’re so right... these years are so important and I agree that putting him in middle school now would probably not be the best plan. Especially bc we tried that a year and a half ago and it did not go well at all for him. Anyway, I’m really glad you mentioned that in this video! Thank you!
I have a 10 year old daughter that’s developing early and when you said that we can’t stop those bad thoughts and struggles with self and body image 🤯 i needed to hear that. It’s been hard to see her struggle with that but we pray that she stays firm on the rock ♥️ 🙏🏼 thanks again for the tips and being honest!
Gaby R it’s so hard!
You are such an awesome speaker! I have been thrown into single parenting not by choice. I have 5 children from 25-12. EXHAUSTING is an understatement. I have been homeschooling for 9 years and I thought by HS, my children would have a more solid faith and respect. In my case, that has not been how it’s happening. Things were so bad with unkindness towards siblings and disrespectful towards me so I put put in public school when he was in 8th grade. I regret it. He is an extremely gifted athlete with all the talent to go to a D1 college but maturity wise....idk now have 3 still at home and it is a struggle!!!!! They are 14, 13, and 12. All boys and one girl (the youngest). I also work from home so things are extremely busy on a day to day basis. When I heard you repeat something from Sally Clarkson, I became so discouraged (not intended to bring on guilt). The informative years are from 4-14. I feel like I have failed :(. I often ask the Lord what to do. I have to be patient and BEING TIRED IS NOT AN OPTION. Consistency is a huge problem for me. I do not have a huge support group. We do attend church regularly and the men definitely speak to my boys but they cannot stand it. I cannot even believe I’m sharing all this so publicly. If you feel led, anyone reading this, please pray for us. Ashley, you are doing an amazing job!!! I will pray for your continued strength ☺️
I am praying so hard for you. Thankyou for sharing your heart with me
This was encouraging! We are raising big kids and little kids at the same time and it is exhausting at times. I agree with what you said- appropriate consequences, spending plenty of (one-on-one ideally) time with them, having them take a break when emotions are running too high...and persevering in the Lord overall. There are days that can be so discouraging, but in the end we will be thankful if we don't give up. I already have moments where I look back on the way I parented and have regret (because of parenting in anger). My prayer is that I would be faithful to reflect Christ and parent biblically and not just be reactive to the way they are behaving.
One last thing- while I agree that these years are crucial, it can be discouraging to think that by age 14 they are sealed and set for the rest of their lives. I know that I have grown and matured tremendously since the age of 14 and the Lord is never done with us no matter our age. So maybe keep that in mind, but don't lose hope if your child over 14 isn't exactly like you were hoping. :) I know you weren't saying it was too late, but I've heard that said before and found it a little discouraging, like I had already missed the boat. Thanks so much for you honesty here, Ashlee!
Thank you so much for this video, Ashlee! My daughter is 9 and I have 7 and 3 year old sons. I am definitely getting this life giving parent book. We are our kiddos greatest role model and advocate and I feel like anything we can do to help them through this phase is so worth it! ❤
Such a great topic and video! We have a 12 year old and almost 10 year old daughters and a 7 year old son. My girls' bad attitudes definitely impact my typically happy son. My tone and energy level/intensity is a major impact during the storms and I love your point about constant reassurance. One thing we have struggled with is our oldest wanting a cell phone so badly because her friends at church have one. She is the youngest of her peers there that go up to almost age 14. I'd love to hear your thoughts about cell phones!
M L I’m currently going through that too! We haven’t given her one yet. Not sure when we will
@@GraceandGrit My in-laws gave our oldest an iPod touch for her birthday a couple of years ago. It's been a learning process for both her and us and a trust challenge. But it has also made her younger siblings envious at times. I've heard psychologist, Meg Meeker, recommended "dumb phones" if your child really needs a phone. But I think this area is one that we will have to fight hard for because that outside world will flood in and the spiritual battle is real! This can also be an area of trust, training, and responsibility. Better to train them while they are under our roof, than to think they'll manage without training.
I have boy/girl twins who are 12 and boy oh boy, I 100% relate to the changes you are experiencing. This pre-teen-toddler phase is very tiring. I agree fully to keep them close and not give them reign to pull away. These are the years that count so much. Some parents are way more relaxed and give permissions I would not be comfortable with and visa versa, some parents are so strict that they are likely to have a rebellion on their hands. I am trying to always find the balance of allowing some freedoms both earned and gifted without compromising our primary goals for holy living. So tricky when the world around us offers such different ideals. I’ll be praying for you Ashlee. We need so much to be the village for one another! It’s so strange as you open up the windows of your home for us to get to know you on this channel. It can feel to me the viewer like I am getting to know so much about you like we’ve known each other for a good while and I remember you don’t know me from Adam LOL. I am thankful; however, for your channel and appreciate your openness. Praying for you from Ontario Canada in this season you are facing. Facing it together but a country apart 😉🌸
This comment made me tear up. I’m so thankful for viewers like you ❤️😘
Thank you for this excellent video. My son is now 14. Things are much better this year but last year, mostly the beginning of last year were very difficult. We began homeschooling for the first time with 7th grade. I had to implement discipline measures similar to what Ashley shared and along with that I made a star chart for positive behavior. After 10 stars he could choose something fun such as a visit to Fro Yo, an outing to the movies, going out to lunch or receiving an item from Amazon. That worked very well for him. Self regulation was a struggle I would have him exercise or talk it out, raking leaves helped so much. Working so closely and being around each other so much really made honesty super important. I also had to learn to respond and not react to him. I had to learn to self- regulate too and to stay calm.
Thank you so much for this video! 🙌 Keep them coming! As a homeschooling mom to a 13, 12 and 10 year old I feel like I am in the trenches with you! These have been the hardest years of parenting! It is emotionally draining but also totally rewarding to see glimpses of who they are becoming! I constantly think of the song 'You're Gonna Miss This' to get me through.😂
I don't know why, but it seems like it's usually the mother who gets most of the attitude from their teenage/preteen daughters. Something about that mother/daughter dynamic is just really challenged in those years. I know for me personally, my mom and I butted heads every single day. I think it has a lot to do with as you get older, you start to realize that your parents aren't these perfect people that you thought they were growing up, and that mixed with the high emotions of that age is just earth shattering. I know me and my mom still struggle with some of the scars left from that time, our relationship never completely healed after it, but that may be due to being completely different people. I will say, the biggest struggle seemed to be that I felt very judged by her and just didn't feel like she was a trusted person I could go to.
Cortney Smith hugs my mom is an addict so I never experienced a healthy mother daughter relationship either
@@GraceandGrit I didn't know that, sorry to hear that for you. You feel like you may sometimes put yourself under more pressure to do well during this time to make sure she has that mother/daughter relationship that you lacked? I know for me, my daughter is only 2, but I already worry so much about our relationship
Hi, Ashley. Thank you for this wonderful video, actually all your homeschooling videos. I just want you to know that the ministry you are leading here on RUclips has been a compass for me in my homeschool journey (3 years now) with my son who is now 9. I am a silent watch but take away so much from your experiences. Thank for all that you do for this community, you are greatly appreciated. May God continue to guide and bless you and your family.
Thankyou it means so much
Thank you so much for being open and honest. It's so hard to be a homeschooling mom to preteens. It's such a tricky age to parent and then to add in all the time together and added stresses just makes for a big transition. Your look in this video is beautiful the fall vibes are perfect! Good luck with all the changes
Lauren Johnson you’re so sweet, Thankyou for that sweet compliment
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I have a 10 year old and I see a lot of what you are talking about. He is not your typical boy ...he is very mature...tall and very smart and his attitude reflects that maturity for good and bad. He has started to have his moments. So this video comes in handy. Just yesterday as hr was having one of those I can't concentrate days and being smarty pants I was thinking how time out no longer workd and how work will be better ...then I see this on your video which tells me that is the right way to go for discipline. I agree with you is challenging and tiring but I am also glad Im here to go through it with him. Ty Ashley for sharing.
My daughter just turned 9 and we are already catching a glimpse into this stage. It has been HARD. She is also a stereotypical first-born so she is already stubborn and hard-headed as it is, but this is like new-level stuff 😅 Thank you for this video!
One Blessed Mess my daughter sounds similar!
I’m not there yet but I’ve watched my sister in law parent 3 of her 4 kids in this stage. Two of them are in high school now and they are definitely more pleasant people and have moved past that stage now.
There’s hope!
Such an excellent video! My oldest is also 7th grader, although a boy, and I have an 11 year old girl and 4 other youngers...but! This is a great video! Thanks for being honest and sharing your story and heart. Big hugs as we navigate this together ...
The struggle is real lol....I actually just enrolled my just turned 12yr old daughter in our small local Waldorf school because I just could not handle it anymore, she is taking up %99 of my time and energy and I have 3 other kids so it was not fair on them. Luckily we have this as an option, it is not cheap but its a gentle, loving environment that is very much inline with our values and is very much focused on protecting the developing person so I think they are probably in a better position to provide what she needs right now...I did my best and will bring her home later (the school only goes up to 13-14) but right now that is just what we have to do to survive, they are like energy vampires sometimes!!
I would have gave you 10 thumbs up if I could.
This was so so beneficial as I have a 13 soon to be 14 year old and a 11 year old that is displaying all the characteristics you mentioned.
It's reassuring to know your not alone.
Also a big thanks for the ideas on useful discipline methods.
Thanks for sharing
Take care
This was great Ashlee! Thank you for sharing your heart and your honesty.
K Loves Thankyou!
I'm not there quite yet but you inspire me so much and I've loved listening through your trials and struggles. You're doing an amazing job! ❤
I’m on the verge of the preteen years and this was such a great video- so helpful!!
We are in this phase with my 11 yo son. But our battle is he is very opinionated. So much so that I've found myself not saying or doing something because I don't want to hear his mouth. My sil even called him out on having strong opinions on me buying jewelry. I have been reminded I am the parent and I am supposed to discipline him in love. So he has been told, he can voice his opinion of we are asking him or if it's something that directly affects him, otherwise if it's a decision I am making as an adult or as his mom, or my husband makes, his opinion does not get a say in our decisions. Parenting is rough
Such a great video!i need to be better at affirming my daughter , and I loved your methods of discipline. We use some of them in Our home but I liked the serving one a lot!
Beautiful. Thank you! I love what you said about being thankful for being with them and being their compass!
You are so beautiful.... It motivates me to get ready for my day before homeschool starts bc if i dont than i find myself in pjs all day lol i love hearing new ideas with parenting
2 books I recommend to you...
Nurture by nature - understanding your child's personality type.
No Longer Little- parenting tweens with grace and hope
Please check them out on Amazon. Please please give them a chance and maybe talk about them in future video if you found them helpful.
You're an amazing mom and I agree with all that you said here.
krla stmyr thanks for the reccomendations
I really needed to here this. My 12 to 13 year old boy has been testing us big time.
Oh my goodness, you just put it all into words. And, my daughter is only 8!!! Satan has his claws in our relationship right now and, unfortunately, I think I'm letting him win. 😓
Thank you for sharing!we have four girls and one boy lol. We are not there yet but it’s good to prepare for the future and it also makes me cherish today even more!
Loved this! Thank you so much for sharing, you have really blessed me with the confidence to hang in and not pull away ❤️
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We’ve raised 2 boys and 2 girls. Girls are the most difficult.
It sounds like you’re doing a good job.
I need to hear this encouragement! Thank you so much for this video mama!
Thank you thank you! Ashlee, i had to hear this message today!
My biggest struggle with parenting right now is my 9 and 10 year boys fuss and fight all the time. I feel like I'm out of ideas on what to do, but I'm still trying its just exhausting!
My daughter is only 8 and we are already going through this 😐
Love you, Ashlee. Thanks for the amazing content always.
Love this!! You speak with wisdom and truth. Thank you.
Amber Williams appreciate that!
love the service idea I am creeping up on the preteen stage my oldest is 9 I am going to try to do that with my kids now
Loved this video!!! Thank you thank your for sharing!!!!!!!!!
grace we do use apple cider vinager for anything involving words such as lieing or mean hurtful words it gives my kids an acutal taste if you will when they are being mean I spray it in there mouth and ask them if those words tates good we have seen improvement with all expect my oldest he is our most stubborn one. now most times all I have to do is say do we need the ewwy and they start to think about what they are fixing to do or say
I would love a review of the book you're reading, or a compilation of parenting books that you have found helpful.
This question is completely off topic, but I've been want to ask and it kinda TIM as well. How do you handle working out on your cycle week? I'm not tampon or cup person and I have quite a heavy flow. I assume you have great tips for this being you struggle with PCOS I think that what you called it. I don't have that but I've had 3 c-sections and a tubal litigation. I just feel like it some messy and I'm so tired on the week of my cycle, but I don't want to derail my progress and fitness.
Creekside Homeschoolers I workout through it and use the above mentioned products to do so
Bambody period panties from Amazon. Best things every and really work!
Wow Ashlee, you have no idea how badly I needed this video. My eyes literally welled up as I was watching. I have a 15 year old daughter & a 13 year old son. I knew I was in for it with my daughter b/c she’s just like me, lol. However, my son.....boy that’s been a hard one to deal with. He was always my sweet, sensitive, peacemaker. Now....not so much. I still see glimpses of it, but some days I just have to walk away from him & it just feels like he hates me. I know he doesn’t & I know it will pass, but boy do I get what you’re saying about it being exhausting. To top it all off, dear old Dad decided to hit the road about 4 years ago, so not only am I dealing with it alone, but my kids get the added insecurity that their father doesn’t want them. Obviously, that causes massive destruction to a child’s self worth, especially with a boy. It causes so much anger, ya know? Anyway, I agree with 100% of what you said. I’ll pray for you, you pray for me & we’ll hang on for the ride together, lol. Ty for this video.
Kelly Albertson praying for you mama and your kiddos hearts. I was one who came out of a situation that sounds similar and as long as you continue to champion for them they will be ok! ❤️
Ahhhh! Sally Clarkson! Are you reading the Life-Giving Parent? It might be my favorite parenting book
Sirena Tobin same!
This video was so encouraging, thank you!
What a great video... thank you. I love the service punishment.
I have a 13 year old son very hard times.
This video makes me think of TGTB Maturation unit - have you used this with your daughter in your homeschool?
Agreed. Thanks for this...❤️
Great video!! 💗
Thankyou!
This was great video!
Loved the video. Thanks for sharing with us.
Hi Ashlee, I am a few years from preteens (yay!) but I appreciated your thoughts. Also, I was wondering where the green cardigan is from? Thank you!
Also, I recommend the book Brainstorm by Daniel Siegel. It goes into the neuroscience behind brain development. This is the same author as the Whole Brain Child, which is one of my top parenting books.
Old navy!
Thank you
There was a book you posted recently about having the talk, but I didn't catch a screen shot of it. Can you share again? I don't think it was the one from the Good and the Beautiful
Domestic Chaos Coordinator yes it’s linked on my amazon page. Body book.
@@GraceandGrit thanks!
Such a great video...thank you for your transparency and for sharing! Would you mind sharing the name of Sally Clarkson’s book? Would love to read it.
It’s linked in the description box
Grace and Grit Thank you!
This is off topic but we're having issues with community sports and the kids being bad influences and also being mean/rude. Any advice on where to find good friends? Homeschool groups didn't work out for us, we are taking a break from those.
No advice just keep trying different things. Unfortunately rude people are everywhere we go, but I understand leaving when it’s too much!
What age would you say this all starts to happen? My kids are 7.5 and almost 6. I’m dreading this!
11-12
Love this video and I also have and will continue to have Help me Jesus moments! :-)
Same here!
I admire your strength so very much. Do you have any book recommendations that pertain to this topic? Thank you for your wisdom ❤️
Just a little recommendation. "Lies girls believe" by Dannah Gresh. So good.
The one posted below as well as life giving parent. Linked in the description
I’m sorry. I don’t know how i looked over that. Thank you.
Kimberly Keith no problem!
What's the name of the book by Sally Clarkson?
Joypontious linked in the description
What parenting books do you recommend?
Stefanie the Bible:) and anything I’ve read that I’ve enjoyed is linked in the description on amazon.
I knew you’d say the Bible first! And I agree. I will check out your link. Thank you!