Let me also add that here in the Philippines respect is given to everyone particularly to the elderlies simply because we are inculcated with the notion that we respect people because we are respectable people. And to be disrespectful means disgracing your parents, your family, the people who nurtured you.
Yes! I always say this to foreigners. Everyone deserves respect, but if you expect to be treated like a king and I have to earn your respect, you automatically lose it. Bec respect can be lost through no one's fault but your own
The day a CR attendant at the NAIA opened a Handicapped stall for me, sanitized the seat, went on all fours to mop the floor and turned on a fan to dry it to prevent falls, I felt emotional, taken care of. I have not been home for over 20 years and I felt welcomed by this kind act and respect. I can’t imagine this happening for me in America. I have tears right now.
I agree John. I live in California. Life in the US is fast paced, too much emphasis on materialism, and people easily complain. There's no family values. People are proud, forgetting to care for others. But as a Fil-Am, I've instilled Filpino values to my children, esp respect to elders & family. As well as humility. Somehow, I'm still grateful. It's my wish to retire in the Philippines.
I appreciate you sharing. There are so many Filipinos leaving to other countries everyday from the Philippines, and I get the promise of more money is alluring, but there's so much more to life than material things. Perhaps that's easy for me to say because of my situation, though I think it's worth thinking through what really matters in life.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat off course there are lots of comparison between this two countries obviously U, S is bigger and the better would say infrastructure or Something in medical facilities, But why you coming here in the 3 world if your not like the country, you just go and pack your bags.
Maybe this is a little different because as a Filipino living in Australia carries with me some degree of traditional respect for the elderly. At one time I offered my seat to an elderly lady in a train ride and she yelled at me like she’s not that old. So I just backed off and smiled. 😂 I think she not ready yet but one day she might. I still think I did the right thing.
That's some Australian loony there. Anyone offers me a seat, I take it and say thanks. Sometimes, I ask young people for the seat they are occupying which is labeled for disabled and older people, when my arthritis is acting up.
@@FouSurLaColline WOKE idjits. If someone is trying to be nice,ya should not be nasty to them. Say thanks and take it. Or smile and say no thanks. Women want respect but then they turn down the respect and then wonder why no one respects them . 😑Not even Jesus Christ can figure them out.
The 3 things I really notice are kindness, peace, and respect. To me the number one thing is peace! I just can't put a high enough value on the amount of peace I feel when in the Philippines which is what draws me back.
We have this trait of giving respect to the position if the person does not deserve respect. It goes a long way in keeping social relationships calm but on the flipside, resentment can build up. Good thing everyone has friends and family to keep us sane.😂
So true. I had a culture shock when i moved to canada. I went to highschool and kids would come to classes late with food eating in front of teachers. We would never dream of doing that in the ph as a highschool student. We treat our teachers like authority/ 2nd parents.
The word that came to my mind was kindness. There is so much pure hatred in America... it is truly sad what America has become. Hopefully another six months and I'll be on my way to Cebu/ Dumaguete. The truth is, America has removed God from society. The Philippines still has a strong respect for the Creator. Christmas beginning in September going strong through December is proof of this. I love your Channel, John. Thanks for all you do! Mark, in Dallas.
Actually, America is religious that is why it is drenched in hate and fragmentation. The Americans in Dumaguete are vloggers and they fight each other online. Because they brought their culture and attutude in a small very religious town.
i can say it in two words … “big thanks” for appreciating the Philippines the people and the culture. Me as a filipino live here in the US im so happy to hear that from american who’s one of the happy living right now in the Philippines. God bless you sir!
Everything starts in the home. Filipinos are very strict disciplinarians elders do not tolerate children yelling, throwing tantrums, talking back, and yes, that "mano po" culture all that instill respect and orderly behavior. 🇵🇭❤️
I see that, though at the same time I've seen kids running around or young kids even hitting their parents without the parent doing anything. Do you think this is changing with younger parents?
Filipinos as a family unit is pretty much stronger compared to the US. Family values are pass on from generation to generation. Respect is always the first lesson to learn as a kid so mutual respect is always practice in every household. We carry that value wherever, whenever we are either inside or outside our home as we grow old.
Thanks John As always, a very interesting topic. I am also trying to study the history and customs of the Filipino, since I live on the island of Mindanao, I am studying the language a little, as well as their traditions, Now, as a Ukrainian refugee, I have the opportunity to go to America, but after reading and talking on the forums of bloggers living in the Philippines, I don’t really want to go to America
Where do you live in Mindanao if you don't mind me asking? I'm in Davao City for business sometimes. I think it helps to have a US passport and opportunity to go there when you want, but for everyday living I'm grateful to live in the Philippines
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat of course Let's meet I live on the island of Samal, it's two hours away from Davao America won't give me a passport, just for 3 years I can work there and I think that's all
if able. still do try to get a US visa. if denied multiple times, pretend a sour grape mind set and try canada. else try to travel OZ or NZ or neighboring asean
no casual crimes in subways, no streets filthy with human poop and drug and paraphernalia, no rampart car theft and break ins, almost no hate crimes, not many karens (Karens in the US are on another level, it's stupid), no mob robbery of luxury stores, no thieves having "shopping sprees" in grocery stores
In California, there is a law that if you steal less than $1000 it's just a misdemeanor charge not a felony. So, people are going inside the department store and loot the store.
If a Karen was dumb enough to raise her voice and scold ordinary people in the Philippines, there would be guerrilla warfare that would blindside her and make her want to go back home where people would rather confront her face to face. She wouldn't know how to handle people making ugly remarks behind her back that she just wastes time and never gets things done as she wanted. She wouldn't know why she just has no traction unless somebody will take the time to educate her on how the country won against Spain, the Americans, and the Japanese invaders.
True. The Philippines maybe considered a poor country. But we have the human decency to be kind, respectful and considerate. We have a genuine faith in God. Which I think is lacking in Western countries
Youre so right down to it sir. Also a prominent pastor who used to live in the Phils.said that the real talent of Filipinos is not singing. Aside from resilience they are very hardworking people. Family is second God being first too.
This makes sense. From an outsider, I feel like the culture in the US is all about gaining respect, that respect is something that is earned either through financial wealth, dominant personality, dominant race, etc. It is romanticized in your Western dramas, wherein protagonists are praised for violent acts. In the Philippines, you inherently deserves respect until you do something to lose that respect. That’s why it’s rude to raise your voice in public, or to be mean to people below your stature. It happens in dramas, but rarely happens in real life. That’s also the reason why we’re not very direct people. We’re afraid of offending people, of appearing rude - being rude means being uncultured.
That's interesting. I spent some time in Denmark, and there are some similarities and some differences of attitude. In Denmark, people generally act with respect - taking care to be kind regardless of a person's social status. There, respect is also something given to everybody until you lose it. The difference is in how respect is shown. In Denmark, there is no deference. Children are taught to use the first name of their teacher in the classroom, and nobody is considered better than another because of their position or age. Danes are also very direct in ways that can seem rude for people who come from less direct cultures. There is a reason they are so direct - they regard indirectness as rude, it wastes a person's time so is considered disrespectful. They also see it as a kind of lie. For them it is more polite to say to a friend - "you stink, go and take a shower" than to waste their time hinting about the wonderful antiperspirant you bought last week - "would you like to try it?"
I lived in a few countries, Philippines is definitely the place I love living in the best. For me , people ( culture) makes a place. The people are great here!!
Humility, respect for elders, and self-respect plus the social ramification of acting stupid in public are the reasons Filipinos treat others with kindness and compassion. Add to that our religious upbringing, where parents actually follow what they preach to their children. And so, there's this ever-present feeling, even as adults, that we do not want our family to be embarrassed of how we behaved with others. Family reputation is so valued, and family pride is a shared responsibility. At sixty, I still think when I'm tempted to cuss others when they are being rude to me -- "oh my God, my parents will be so ashamed of me if they learn I did about what I'm about to do." Or, "my siblings will disown me."
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat: it starts with family culture. If you are generous and tender with your family, you bring the same attitude to others, including to foreigners.
John, I would add more of what you say about Respect? Here in the Philippines, you can't hear small children calling to older people by their names but we address that with Kuya, Ate, Nanay, Tatay, Lolo, or Lola...Not like in Western countries where even the small kid only calls your names even if you're very old enough..Hehehe...
But here in Ifugao, yung tribong Ifugao, mga bata di din sil ng aaddress ng uncle, auntie kuya or ate, lolo lola, sasagot sila pg tinanong mo, makikipag usap sila but without address kaya mga elders nlng nag aadjust tuturuan nalang sila.
May kumpare akong taga Ifugao hindi naman ganon ang pagka kwento n'ya sa akin...Actually may tawag nga s'ya sa ate n'ya di ko na lang matandaan..Sabi nga n'ya nong nasa Tesda pa kami bilang mga testing officer, na natatawa s'ya sa salita nila kasi para daw silang mga ibon may halo din daw na Ilokano pero konti lang...Hehe...
Such a heart warming opinion for us Filipino's, thanks!! The virtue of RESPECT is instill in us Filipinos as we opened our eyes to the world. Thanks for highlighting one of our common traits, I never knew it gives a big impact to foreigners.
what i missed about my country that dont have here in japan is that in the philippines, neighbors are like your family❤ when you see each other outside you greet each other, you talk a lot, you laugh a lot , we help each other a lot, and for some reason you know them on personal level, while here in japan we are living in the same house for 10years and know nothing about our neighbors aside from their face😅 we dont even know their names. just family names because its in their gate.
@@marilynmoriones5056 diba. nakakamiss yun. kahit na sabihin mong nagkakaroon ng away kung minsan eventually magbabati rin. parang magkakapatid na lalo na kung natagal na kayong magkakapitbahay.
Yes sir I agreed with you. I am a Filipino. Most of my life spent in the Philippines but when I get married my husband brought me here in the USA. When I came here I had no problem adjusting, I felt like similar to the culture I grew up back home very welcoming but after 10 years in here I noticed the changes. There are more don’t care kind of people which I am sad. In my own opinion I think the respect is still there but they don’t want to show it because of lack of love for each other. As a Filipino people we believe that love is the most important thing because of love you cares ❤
I understand it's changed in the US especially last 5 years. I'm hoping it will change back. I think you'll find things have changed in the Philippines especially post pandemic in ways that are challenging. But still a great place to live.
Those things that you said, are sadly the things a lot of Filipino kids nowadays are trying to get rid of from their DNA as a consequence of bad influence from social media or radical groups. Some even sees it as a sign of weakness or intimidation, so to shake off the stereotype, they show no respect. However, finding the right balance between politeness, respect and assertiveness is what parents should teach to their children.
People that are sensitive need to grow thick skin when someone disrespects them; stand your ground respectfully that usually diffuses the situation and make the conversation transactional.
It's a tiring way to live but that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about living in a culture where having a thick skin with these things isn't necessary to begin with. Something is broken if it's needed
Thank you John. I truly appreciate the good words. I live abroad for 40 years now but Philippines is where my heart is. Soon I will go back home and live the simple life. More power to you and your family. God bless😊
husband speaking age 80 - John, my Filipino wife and I are starting our 47th year of marriage. We were pen pals for 5 1/2 years, this being in the early 70's. My first trip to Cebu was 1979 with a new wife. So much has changed since that first visit. Friendly, kind and very helpful as well as respect for anyone older than you are. My wife is of the Ceniza Clan, she was a teacher in Mandaue ( until I gave her early retirement ) We currently have a home on Mactan Island, Vistamar Resort where currently we spend 5 months a year. We still have a home in Everett, Wash. ( 30 miles North of Seattle ) Heading back this Nov. 15th. 2023.
Wow, congratulations on 47 years together. Thank you for telling me more of your story. I would love to interview you and/or your wife if you were willing.
@@janetceniza8091 I'm in Davao City currently for business but typically live in Cebu City. You guys are in Mactan Island I believe from previous comment?
Yes - we are on Mactan Island, Vistamar Resort , just up the side road from Mactan New Town. We will be there the middle of Nov. thru the end of March 2024.@@WatchCaliforniaExpat
I remember My Mom ( bless her soul ) upon arriving from America for our younger Sister's wedding, embracing my young daughters tightly and said.. " ohh how l Miss you all !!.. I DON'T WANT YOU TO EVER GROW UP IN AMERICA!! ".. THIS was during the 1980's.. One can imagine what America now is 😮😢
I can proudly say that paying respect is a major rule every Filipino parents sets to their child because in that way parents were not afraid that their child will not get harm when their not around or when they were outside our home basic recpect and kindness is something that thought inside every Filipino home and also caring to each other is one also...
What you said about the US about having more to offer, consumerism at its finest and unfortunately, that's also the root of the unhappiness and anxiety. So many choices, so many things you need to get or own or achieve..in PH, it is all about valuingvwhat's more important and going back to the basics - this is also the reason why we are resilient and welcoming and happier in spite of all the limitations. People strive here to have a comfortable life - not necessarily to be rich or be millionaires. You can ask Filipinos what they want to own..they'd tell you house, business, etc..anything connected to family but I doubt hardworking Filipinos have signature handbags or sports car as their top goals - almost everyone like something that can also make their family and friends happy or share/benefit from that success. The difference, I think, is more on the values. In PH we are more family oriented values vs individualistic values in the US. That is why it is ingrained to Filipinos to be respectful - the way we treat our elders, the way we treat our friends, customers, guests..it all roots fron that affinity to being family oriented - valuing the sense of belonging, embracing and making one a part of that family/society - until you prove that you dont deserve it. That' s where the respect roots from because otherwise, we wont care. However, it isn't always perfect and this has some toxic effects too..but nonetheless, I think that sense of valuing connections and compassion makes it easier for us to be happy in spite of the things we lack because at the end of the day, when you think of it..which is more priceless and can make you happier? Your relationships/connections/family or your mansion, your status, etc? I think we can pretty much can find the answer to that in our societies.
Great content John. Thank you. Another interesting factor with the US is the prevalence and style of divorce and how much it tears families apart. I think if you look at that factor it has a lot to do with the deterioration of the American family unit since roughly half American marriages go through this.
Because why would we disrespect the elders or other people? Being respectful is a basic manner and being rude reflects on the way our parents raised us. Kindness is always better and more convenient than being Karen.
My cousin who is married to an American they used to live in Thailand because of work now they're back in the states but her husband don't feel secure everytime she goes out alone because what's been happening over there
Yeah I am from California to and I cant wait to get back to the Philippines Yeah sure we have a lot to offer here But all of the crime and too many shootings The philippines reminds me of what the US use to be back in the 50s People in the Philippines are a lot more friendly then here in California they will say GOOD MORNING back to you Not In calif LOL they just walk right past you like you never said a word
In addition to respect for elders (and other people) and obedience to lawful authority, one other trait that I instilled in my 3 children from the time that they were toddlers is COMPASSION, especially for the poor and under-privileged, for the natural environment and for animals. We carried out for 22 straight years an annual sharing caravan every Christmas eve that brought food and other basic necessities to dirt poor homeless folks around Manila. This was the only kind of Christmas Eve activity, not the traditional lavish Noche Buena feasts, that my children grew up with until their 20s for I believed that the only way for them to become compassionate to others is to actually see the squalor, poverty, hunger and homelessness that envelopes many people, many eating out of garbage bins and trash piles. From one sleigh (car), we grew to as many as 20 sleighs at one point with other parents tagging along their kids to be exposed. An Augustinian priest from India who joined one of our runs confessed to me (not the other way around huh?) that while he had seen much poverty in his own country, this was the first time that he came so close to the really destitute ones. We were not the only ones doing this, there were many others we saw doing the same. We'd cap the usually 4-hour caravan before sunrise with an early Christmas day breakfast of hot choco, bibingka and puto bumbong at Aristocrat Restaurant, Roxas Boulevard along Manila Bay.
I admire your care and can relate. My grandfather took me to Skid Row in Los Angeles when I was young to expose me to true poverty, and I took my kids to feed the homeless and bring presents to kids whose parents couldn't afford to give them Christmas presents to have a sense of how many struggle.
Im an expat from UK ...moved to Philippines after marriage in 2018 and been here ever since, there is a certain love and respect you feel for this country and culture... unlike where I was from where I would usually not feel safe just going to a shop at night because of the hoodie culture in UK, in PH everyone is your tita tito , lolo or even lola even if you only met them once .. they always give you respect you dont find elsewhere ... it can be exspensive in PH compared to other countries but you learn to adapt... good video ... My life is a lot better here but there is also the requirement to take your spouse to cexperience where you come from ... in my case ... one day i do dread lol but ill take her ..
Life is about living and loving and sharing with people. Without experiencing people, we are no different from a plant. In philippines, that is what we do best, live, love, share
Respect, humility and kindness and apply to everything in your life but filipino was so resilient and thats what make us different from other plus the culture of giving,kindness,fun loving etc adds up to the sauce.
Your video has caused me to think a lot about my Filipino wife and me making a visit back home to America in the near future. We were married for 12 years now. I am 77 years old and living here steadily for the last 18 years. My wife is 62 and would like to see what America is like. Respect is something your article brought out. She has a Filipino friend who is inviting us to join her and her husband in California for a visit. My family came from Wisconsin and I would like to fly to Wisconsin while in the US. The Problem is that my brother, Niece, or son can't or won't help us in any way to make our visit pleasant. They show little interest in helping us. After being away for so long, I no longer have a car or a driver's license there. Public transportation in the states is very poor at best. Not like the Philippines. I could just go to California and skip Wisconsin. This would mean that I could die here without having said goodbye to my family there. I can see what you are saying with respect when they have very little in their own families. I am only living off my Social Security income so I have no saved up savings. Is this added expense worth it in the long term?
I feel for you. I think your experience is common. Filipinos do everything to help their family, even being OFW or not going to college to provide for younger siblings to be able to. It's really different in the US. You could go to California and invite family to visit you there since you are traveling so far from the Philippines. I know even plane tickets to the US are expensive these days. Where do you guys live here if you don't mind me asking?
The US is going to disappoint you Sir. The cultural difference is significant from 18 years ago. Politics and the pandemic have polarized the country. We have a generation of narcissists', superficial and apathetic toward others. The high cost of housing and drug addiction resulting in mental health issues have created mass homelessness in every major city in the country. If family, showing your wife the hometown or visiting your parents gravesite is of sentimental value for you, perhaps a couple of days in Wisconsin may be doable using a modest hotel and Uber (US version of Grab). It's heart wrenching that your own Son won't assist you. Best wishes and safe journey.
This "respect" comes from the Filipino people's humility. More Pride means more "disrespect" : of parents, of teachers, of elders, of people in authority, of people who disagree with one's ideas. Pride is the #1 root of all conflict: between individuals, between groups of people, even between entire races, nations, and religions. Greed is only #2.
Thank you for your video Sir. It is always our prayer that we Filipinos continue to uphold the Word of God. It is our declaration from generation to generation because I believe that the love of God will bind every family and it is manifested in our community, church, neighborhood, schools and as a nation. Today, it is a big challenge to live like Christ but it is always our choice to do so.. Basically if God is absent in the family, chaos is expected. May the good Filipino traits, character and attitude continue to impact people wherever each one goes local or abroad. God bless everyone.
I think I agree... In general we Pinoys like to make other people comfortable and at ease in our own place. We know we make do with a lot of things that other people especially foreigners may not necessarily be comfortable with... so we try to help them adjust, adapt and blend in easily... that's all!! Yes... Its kindness redounding to respect...
Here in the Philippines our sons and daughters do not have to leave the nest until they want to. And when they do, we make sure that they are strong enough to make it on their own no matter if they are 18, 30 or whatever... and they are welcome to come home anytime. Having been given this care by our parents we in turn see to it that we are there for them in their sunset years. This is so in most of Asia.
Empathy is huge among us, Filipinos, too. Maybe it's an extension or another form of respect. Whatever, it's a very rare trait that I hope stays with us forever.
For me its the love in the Philippines. I do realize from listening to other channels that I was extremely lucky to find the partner I did. But I absolutely see what you are talking about. He has now been approved by USCIS and I've already been warning him that here (this will sound bizarre to some I think) we have to be more careful. In Cebu and in Carcar and in Sibonga - we could be and were totally ourselves. We held hands in public, we went to Seaside mall with some of his family to buy his engagement ring. His priest even said he would perform our wedding if he were permitted to. His mother hosted a big engagement party to which everyone anywhere near his home came. NO ONE CARED. Here, most would not care, but those who did might very well become violent. I didn't put that down to respect, but to historic culture - but I do realize listening to you, that it is a manifestation of respect. Thank you for opening my eyes to that. To be honest, if we could have gotten married there, and if the medical care on average had been a bit better, we would have stayed there, my retirement and passive income would have given us the best of all lives - but it was not to be, and we want to be married, so he will be here in a few months (we were together there for half a year). I have never been happier, but I do worry about what America might do to him. He is so shy and quiet and gentle (well educated too). Thank you for the channel.
I was in line at departure area in NAIA , maybe around 100 people Befoe me waiting for ticketing When a guy pulled me over and Directed me to a station to hasten My ticketing. I was suprised anf Ask him why? Your a senior. . you Dont need to stand that long.
my age also attracts people to direct me to the front of the line. at one queue, between five to ten people spoke with me to do that, a couple of security guards, maybe three of those in the queue with me, they would make a beeline straight toward me because the line was long and they were just worried about me, it's really wonderfully ingrained in the culture, thank You, Lord Jesus
I'll be in Chicago tomorrow, where this is still true. Twin cities, too. Milwaukee not so much. Calling people by their first names kept in about ten years ago, and I find that grating.
Having visited P.I 5 times when I was in the Navy, then returning to marry my girlfriend in '95, then one final time when I had to return for her funeral (was waiting for her visa to be approved when she died), every Filipino I met was kind and respectful. They don't yell or cuss or anything like an American would. Great folks. I would like to go back there again some day, perhaps to retire. Going to look into it.
Filipinos are great people. Would like to emigrate. I am cash-challenged for now, but things will break loose someday. Just in the last 30 days, I am thinking more and more about Phlllipines and Filipinas, . After years of well, nothing, all my plans cratering, I went thru several dark nights of the Soul, it just seem like things are pointing me back here for some odd reason. We'll see what happens.
Thanks for talking about this, that a way to say respect for the filipinos, some of my family members live in the US, i am filipino and greatful that you respect our culture and who we are
We go further than to say Yes Ma'm/Sir by uttering from the bottom of our hearts, from the young and to the adults, elders (eg. followed by KUYA or ATE), co-employees to employers, neighbors, strangers, first acquaintances, regardless of tacit authorities, positions or ranks observed, color or race, perhaps we are colonially subservient or odedient to tradition, we always say more to answer an inquiry or question with utmost respect, we say Yes "po", Ma'm/Sir _____ (name of the person shown respect) or "Opo" Kuya/Ate_____ (double politeness expressed) Automatically followed by Salamat po ng marami! Sir John with emphasis on the "very much" for being grateful, the follow through of politeness with matching island smile, a tap, a shake of hand or a warm hug
I’m a Filipino currently living in the US, your initial comparison imho is akin to apples and oranges. Remember that the Philippines is a developing country so in terms of the amenities, conveniences, efficiencies in several sectors will not be on par with a developed country in the West like the US for example. So foreigners, esp from developed countries, who come to my country shouldn’t really expect the same level of economic and social services they have in their own countries. Sure there are pockets of seeming economic prosperity and conveniences in urban areas like BGC or Makati or Davao City or Cebu City but there are still more places that are in a state of poverty and in need of economic advancements and social services. But I agree with your thoughts on Filipino respect. In general, we are a respectful people and we are non confrontational. But let me share my opinion as to why we have this trait. It all boils down to family values and religious beliefs. That respect comes from valuing the teachings of our parents. After God, family is the most important foundation of every Filipino’s life. It’s what makes us respectful and resilient. Of course, there are also dysfunctional Filipino families but you’ll find that no matter how dysfunctional a family is, when it comes to tribulations i.e. financial loss, illness, death, they come together as a family, to help out or pay their respects. It may sound cliché, but for most Filipinos, blood remains thicker than water, not necessarily out of loyalty but more about respecting our roots. And as a Filipino living here in the US for a long time, these strong family ties and filial bonds are the stark differences I see and experience. I remember having quite a culture shock when I first got here and at learning one co worker friend hasn’t talked to his brother for more than a decade and I asked if they had a fight and he said no, it’s just that they live different lives and don’t pry into each other’s affairs. And that’s okay, he added. As the eldest brother in my family, I couldn’t imagine not talking to all my siblings for that long and not respectfully pry into their lives. Lol. But kidding aside, I also value and respect American individualism and independence. And I think Filipinos can learn a lot and be more confident from having a bit of these traits without sacrificing our family ties. Lastly, I think materialism plays quite a role in why Americans tend to be disrespectful of each other as well as the recent divisive political climate. That’s unfortunately getting worse. This is why I’m making plans to go back to the Philippines for good. Anyway, I’m sorry if my comment is quite long. Your video and views encouraged me to share my opinion about your topic. Thank you for sharing your insights about my country.
What I watched from the movies of US and Philippines..simply like this: Philippines:..Mom ,Dad stay with us ,,we will take good care of both of you when you aged ..😊 US:..I'm 18 we are going out of here ...find a job. Mom ,Dad We can't take care of you...we will take you to the home of the aged😢
That's one thing I noticed about the US... small things or misunderstandings will almost always blow up instantly. I believe the Philippines is hotter than the US but the heads of many Americans are hotter 😅
Also a lack of respect in the netherlands from my experience. The us sounds like the Netherlands in that respect. Currently in boracay left manila yesterday. The Philippines is simalar to my birth country that people do respect each other on the isle of man
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat I agree the west has major social spiritual and economic problems resource problems. People are atomised in the west. Addicted to short term relationships and consumerism. Short term share payments and short term governments. Woke madness. Climate vanity. Philiponos are still making babies! No demographic collapse here. my bais is toward the provinces as I'm a hill billy. Less traffic and pollution. Slower pace. Iloilo is ok not as intense as cebu or manila. Not a fan of pollution and intense traffic. Broacay is laid back super friendly clean and beautiful. I like Philippines it's none confrontational laid-backck reserved. When the world gets rid of oil and gas Philippines will be heaven on earth ✌️ Filipinos love tootin their horns😅
I agree with you John when you said you feel anxious when you're ready to leave for the US. I am the same way every time my time to fly back to the US gets closer. Why I feel that way I don't know. Thank God we are retiring there in less than a year.
I agree, Filipinos have a basic respect they give to strangers. Rare are the people who waltz around acting entitled and claiming that their respect needs to be earned. Filipinos show respect by default and what you do could elevate or lose that respect.
Wait a minute at the 4:00 mark you said you don't hear anyone raising their voice. Have you ever been around 5 or 6 Filipina women cooking and getting ready for a party. Good grief you can hear them from a mile away 😂😅.
We are a noisy people. When we meet, we say hi loudly, laugh loudly, talk loudly. We go to parties and we party loud. Our fiestas are loud. Even our wakes and funerals are loud. Thats when you know there are filipinos in airports and other countries. We are just so happy to be together, see someone familiar, even when we meet for the first time and will soon part.
I love being a senior here in the Philippines! We seniors are given priority in queues everywhere like groceries, bathrooms, airports, government facilities, public transport, etc. The younger ones just do it automatically without complaints. Not to mention senior discounts in restaurants, airlines, transportation, hospitals, hotels etc. From birth we are taught to greet, respect & care for our elders, a value passed on through generations. I would be terrified to grow old in the USA.
Asian culture plays a great difference in the PH, Korea, Japan where you find respect is a dominant trait for the elderly you rarely find in the west. Respect start in the family tradition and handed down through generation a person carry with it wherever he go.
FilipinonAmerican here, naturalized citizen in the US. If we can just transfer the American standards when it comes to infrastructures like garbage collection, access to good water, monitoring of air pollution, freeways, cemented and wider streets, consistent sidewalks, health services especially for Medicare people, etc. Access to public transport, trains, buses, etc. ❤️ that about the U. S. Overall, Americans are friendly on a level that’s comfortable. Corruption among public elected officials, officers, workers, contractors, subcontractors is deep in the Philippines. For example, a road is newly built, but next, week, it’s pulverized. The budget for that project has already be stolen. That’s all I can say… told to me by a relative. That’s why the Philippines people need more courage to expose this… minimize stealing, and effectively discipline those who steal from the government. There are young elected politicians that are honest. Hats off to them. The Filipinos need more of them. 😊
It is not only the act of respect (that of bringing one of your hand to th forehead). It is predominant in Tagalog speaking Filipinos to end their sentence with the word "po" which signifies respect particularly parents, to those older and or to people in authority.
They do, and as I mentioned there's a lot of great doctors and nurses here. Though most hospitals don't have comparable technology compared to US hospitals. I'm not saying that to be rude, but I believe it's true.
The reason for Filipinos to be respectful is because since grade 1 at 4-3 years old there's a subject called mother tounge and esp, it teaches how important it is to be human to others and also how we should respect our mother tounge it also instill it till grade 10 where it changes to kpwkp but teachers still teach esp quotes, also in college
One peculiar thing about Phils is the "marites ' character.Its about our quite nosy neighbor,workmate or even a relative.A marites can be very toxic but it also has its advantages as they act as CCTV..in the neighborhood so if bad things happen like burgary or something ..you don't have to worry coz our marites neighbors will always be there to the rescue.Theyre also news gatherers and. Reporters so I guess aside from tv and social media..it's the cheaper ways to get information 😂😂😂
Well its true. Its the reason why the ISIS bomber got caught in the Philippines, the neighbor was suspicious of the activities and told the police. Our police relies on them.Tolits too.
Seems every expat that is replying feels the same. I’ve lived here a year and a half. Hard to find one word to describe the difference. Respect fits the best. The one word for the US is entitled. Everyone thinks they are entitled just because. Not here. Sure you have levels of income but respect is even. Kind of reminds me of America in the late 50s and early 60s. I wouldn’t trade this life I have now.
Americans say respect is earned , not given. In the Philippines it's the other way around - it is automatically given and it's for you to lose it.
It's a better way. Thank you for sharing
You nailed it. 😁😂 Very well said
Let me also add that here in the Philippines respect is given to everyone particularly to the elderlies simply because we are inculcated with the notion that we respect people because we are respectable people. And to be disrespectful means disgracing your parents, your family, the people who nurtured you.
Yes! I always say this to foreigners. Everyone deserves respect, but if you expect to be treated like a king and I have to earn your respect, you automatically lose it. Bec respect can be lost through no one's fault but your own
The day a CR attendant at the NAIA opened a Handicapped stall for me, sanitized the seat, went on all fours to mop the floor and turned on a fan to dry it to prevent falls, I felt emotional, taken care of. I have not been home for over 20 years and I felt welcomed by this kind act and respect. I can’t imagine this happening for me in America. I have tears right now.
Thank you for sharing this story
Hahaha, may be they say........bahala ka sa buhay mo
Pinoys are nice grp just dont mix govt and poltics in us or we will turn us into (mostly) power tripping, lazy, corrupt etc.
3 Words that strikes my mind when I heard Philippines ~ Faith, Family and their sense of gratefulness..
Yes I agree 👍
I agree John. I live in California. Life in the US is fast paced, too much emphasis on materialism, and people easily complain. There's no family values. People are proud, forgetting to care for others. But as a Fil-Am, I've instilled Filpino values to my children, esp respect to elders & family. As well as humility. Somehow, I'm still grateful. It's my wish to retire in the Philippines.
I appreciate you sharing. There are so many Filipinos leaving to other countries everyday from the Philippines, and I get the promise of more money is alluring, but there's so much more to life than material things. Perhaps that's easy for me to say because of my situation, though I think it's worth thinking through what really matters in life.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat off course there are lots of comparison between this two countries obviously U, S is bigger and the better would say infrastructure or Something in medical facilities, But why you coming here in the 3 world if your not like the country, you just go and pack your bags.
If the family is mixed, get the best of both worlds, that would be very very nice
@@WatchCaliforniaExpatFilipinos can live without toilet paper
@@emersongarcia2179Tabo rules in the Philippines 🇵🇭
Maybe this is a little different because as a Filipino living in Australia carries with me some degree of traditional respect for the elderly. At one time I offered my seat to an elderly lady in a train ride and she yelled at me like she’s not that old. So I just backed off and smiled. 😂
I think she not ready yet but one day she might. I still think I did the right thing.
That's a crazy experience 😂 I offered an elderly woman my seat today traveling in the Philippines and she simply thanked me 😊
@@WatchCaliforniaExpatto😊
That's some Australian loony there. Anyone offers me a seat, I take it and say thanks. Sometimes, I ask young people for the seat they are occupying which is labeled for disabled and older people, when my arthritis is acting up.
I had a similar experience in the US. Offered my seat to a lady who was standing in the train. She gave me a dagger look.
@@FouSurLaColline
WOKE idjits. If someone is trying to be nice,ya should not be nasty to them. Say thanks and take it. Or smile and say no thanks.
Women want respect but then they turn down the respect and then wonder why no one respects them . 😑Not even Jesus Christ can figure them out.
The 3 things I really notice are kindness, peace, and respect. To me the number one thing is peace! I just can't put a high enough value on the amount of peace I feel when in the Philippines which is what draws me back.
We have this trait of giving respect to the position if the person does not deserve respect. It goes a long way in keeping social relationships calm but on the flipside, resentment can build up. Good thing everyone has friends and family to keep us sane.😂
I understand what you mean 💯
I see that too lol
Thanks for appreciating our culture.
So true. I had a culture shock when i moved to canada. I went to highschool and kids would come to classes late with food eating in front of teachers. We would never dream of doing that in the ph as a highschool student. We treat our teachers like authority/ 2nd parents.
I’m straight-up scared of the teachers 😅
I can imagine the culture shock!
I wonder if people are still afraid of teh teachers here or if that has changed?
The word that came to my mind was kindness. There is so much pure hatred in America... it is truly sad what America has become. Hopefully another six months and I'll be on my way to Cebu/ Dumaguete. The truth is, America has removed God from society. The Philippines still has a strong respect for the Creator. Christmas beginning in September going strong through December is proof of this. I love your Channel, John. Thanks for all you do! Mark, in Dallas.
Thank you you Mark, I appreciate your kind words and kindness is also definitely something that permeates Filipino society too.
The problem is that God in America has been used as a mechanism to hate others, and faith has been politicized.
@@PSCA1988 100% correct. Thanks for your comment.
Actually, America is religious that is why it is drenched in hate and fragmentation. The Americans in Dumaguete are vloggers and they fight each other online. Because they brought their culture and attutude in a small very religious town.
@@PSCA1988 You are being naive to think that religion is only like that in America, a more sophisticated society with western logic and great pizza.
i can say it in two words … “big thanks” for appreciating the Philippines the people and the culture. Me as a filipino live here in the US im so happy to hear that from american who’s one of the happy living right now in the Philippines. God bless you sir!
Thank you Arvin! I'm grateful to live here.
Everything starts in the home. Filipinos are very strict disciplinarians elders do not tolerate children yelling, throwing tantrums, talking back, and yes, that "mano po" culture all that instill respect and orderly behavior. 🇵🇭❤️
I see that, though at the same time I've seen kids running around or young kids even hitting their parents without the parent doing anything. Do you think this is changing with younger parents?
Filipinos as a family unit is pretty much stronger compared to the US. Family values are pass on from generation to generation. Respect is always the first lesson to learn as a kid so mutual respect is always practice in every household. We carry that value wherever, whenever we are either inside or
outside our home as we grow old.
As a family unit and society in general I believe that. The one exception is in work culture, there's many challenges.
Human compassion and kindness that is what Phils is full of...
Yes I agree
Agree 100% !! I can't wait to get back to Cebu... The respectful polite culture and people are my #1 reason !!
Hurry back! 😊
Thanks John As always, a very interesting topic. I am also trying to study the history and customs of the Filipino, since I live on the island of Mindanao, I am studying the language a little, as well as their traditions,
Now, as a Ukrainian refugee, I have the opportunity to go to America, but after reading and talking on the forums of bloggers living in the Philippines, I don’t really want to go to America
Where do you live in Mindanao if you don't mind me asking? I'm in Davao City for business sometimes. I think it helps to have a US passport and opportunity to go there when you want, but for everyday living I'm grateful to live in the Philippines
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat of course Let's meet I live on the island of Samal, it's two hours away from Davao America won't give me a passport, just for 3 years I can work there and I think that's all
@@kuyaIhor Sounds great.
if able. still do try to get a US visa. if denied multiple times, pretend a sour grape mind set and try canada. else try to travel OZ or NZ or neighboring asean
no casual crimes in subways, no streets filthy with human poop and drug and paraphernalia, no rampart car theft and break ins, almost no hate crimes, not many karens (Karens in the US are on another level, it's stupid), no mob robbery of luxury stores, no thieves having "shopping sprees" in grocery stores
In California, there is a law that if you steal less than $1000 it's just a misdemeanor charge not a felony.
So, people are going inside the department store and loot the store.
If a Karen was dumb enough to raise her voice and scold ordinary people in the Philippines, there would be guerrilla warfare that would blindside her and make her want to go back home where people would rather confront her face to face. She wouldn't know how to handle people making ugly remarks behind her back that she just wastes time and never gets things done as she wanted. She wouldn't know why she just has no traction unless somebody will take the time to educate her on how the country won against Spain, the Americans, and the Japanese invaders.
True. The Philippines maybe considered a poor country. But we have the human decency to be kind, respectful and considerate. We have a genuine faith in God. Which I think is lacking in Western countries
@joviejanea7977 genuine? Yes, those god loving mistress keepers and mistresses.. 😆 fake beliefs
Appreciate all of your thoughts
Youre so right down to it sir. Also a prominent pastor who used to live in the Phils.said that the real talent of Filipinos is not singing. Aside from resilience they are very hardworking people. Family is second God being first too.
Thank you for sharing!
This makes sense. From an outsider, I feel like the culture in the US is all about gaining respect, that respect is something that is earned either through financial wealth, dominant personality, dominant race, etc. It is romanticized in your Western dramas, wherein protagonists are praised for violent acts. In the Philippines, you inherently deserves respect until you do something to lose that respect. That’s why it’s rude to raise your voice in public, or to be mean to people below your stature. It happens in dramas, but rarely happens in real life. That’s also the reason why we’re not very direct people. We’re afraid of offending people, of appearing rude - being rude means being uncultured.
Appreciate you sharing.
That's interesting. I spent some time in Denmark, and there are some similarities and some differences of attitude. In Denmark, people generally act with respect - taking care to be kind regardless of a person's social status. There, respect is also something given to everybody until you lose it. The difference is in how respect is shown. In Denmark, there is no deference. Children are taught to use the first name of their teacher in the classroom, and nobody is considered better than another because of their position or age. Danes are also very direct in ways that can seem rude for people who come from less direct cultures. There is a reason they are so direct - they regard indirectness as rude, it wastes a person's time so is considered disrespectful. They also see it as a kind of lie. For them it is more polite to say to a friend - "you stink, go and take a shower" than to waste their time hinting about the wonderful antiperspirant you bought last week - "would you like to try it?"
I lived in a few countries, Philippines is definitely the place I love living in the best. For me , people ( culture) makes a place. The people are great here!!
Well said! I agree completely
Humility, respect for elders, and self-respect plus the social ramification of acting stupid in public are the reasons Filipinos treat others with kindness and compassion. Add to that our religious upbringing, where parents actually follow what they preach to their children. And so, there's this ever-present feeling, even as adults, that we do not want our family to be embarrassed of how we behaved with others. Family reputation is so valued, and family pride is a shared responsibility.
At sixty, I still think when I'm tempted to cuss others when they are being rude to me -- "oh my God, my parents will be so ashamed of me if they learn I did about what I'm about to do." Or, "my siblings will disown me."
That's a wonderful positive influence for good in your life.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat: it starts with family culture. If you are generous and tender with your family, you bring the same attitude to others, including to foreigners.
@@beng0327Thank you for sharing
John, I would add more of what you say about Respect? Here in the Philippines, you can't hear small children calling to older people by their names but we address that with Kuya, Ate, Nanay, Tatay, Lolo, or Lola...Not like in Western countries where even the small kid only calls your names even if you're very old enough..Hehehe...
True Tito, thank you for sharing more.
Tumpak. Ang nakakatawa pg ang bata sumagot ng walang paggalang sasabihan, wala kayong asin sa bahay niyo😂
At ang tingin ng nakakatanda sa iyo,Lord para ka ng lulubog sa kinatatayuan mo
But here in Ifugao, yung tribong Ifugao, mga bata di din sil ng aaddress ng uncle, auntie kuya or ate, lolo lola, sasagot sila pg tinanong mo, makikipag usap sila but without address kaya mga elders nlng nag aadjust tuturuan nalang sila.
May kumpare akong taga Ifugao hindi naman ganon ang pagka kwento n'ya sa akin...Actually may tawag nga s'ya sa ate n'ya di ko na lang matandaan..Sabi nga n'ya nong nasa Tesda pa kami bilang mga testing officer, na natatawa s'ya sa salita nila kasi para daw silang mga ibon may halo din daw na Ilokano pero konti lang...Hehe...
Such a heart warming opinion for us Filipino's, thanks!!
The virtue of RESPECT is instill in us Filipinos as we opened our eyes to the world. Thanks for highlighting one of our common traits, I never knew it gives a big impact to foreigners.
Thank you Manuel!
Yes....thank you and God bless you
phil teaches kindergarten, elementary and highschool first hour morning subject everyday is GMRC.. (Good Manners and Right Conduct) 😊
Amazing 😊👍👏
I love that GMRC isa back! ❤
Yes thats true ,hahaha
thank you, Lord Jesus
what i missed about my country that dont have here in japan is that in the philippines, neighbors are like your family❤ when you see each other outside you greet each other, you talk a lot, you laugh a lot , we help each other a lot, and for some reason you know them on personal level, while here in japan we are living in the same house for 10years and know nothing about our neighbors aside from their face😅 we dont even know their names. just family names because its in their gate.
Korek ka nagbibigayan ng ulam sa kapitbahay pag may nangyayari ayon to the rescue ang kapit bahay
@@marilynmoriones5056 diba. nakakamiss yun.
kahit na sabihin mong nagkakaroon ng away kung minsan eventually magbabati rin. parang magkakapatid na lalo na kung natagal na kayong magkakapitbahay.
Maganda talaga kung paano nagtutulungan ang mga kapitbahay sa Pilipinas.
what you said was one of the reasons why a Japanese like mana has move to the Philippines
Your kapitbahay are also mga chismosa. 😂
The most obvious is RESPECT to each other especially for seniors.
Yes for sure
The biggest issue is individualism, which is euphemism for selfishness.
Yes, I hear you on that
Nailed it!
Yes sir I agreed with you. I am a Filipino. Most of my life spent in the Philippines but when I get married my husband brought me here in the USA. When I came here I had no problem adjusting, I felt like similar to the culture I grew up back home very welcoming but after 10 years in here I noticed the changes. There are more don’t care kind of people which I am sad. In my own opinion I think the respect is still there but they don’t want to show it because of lack of love for each other. As a Filipino people we believe that love is the most important thing because of love you cares ❤
I understand it's changed in the US especially last 5 years. I'm hoping it will change back. I think you'll find things have changed in the Philippines especially post pandemic in ways that are challenging. But still a great place to live.
Actually I am from Bohol, I come visit once a year, bought a new house in panglao! And I like it there.
@@paulabergstrom6802 That's a beautiful place go live in Bohol 😊🏖
Those things that you said, are sadly the things a lot of Filipino kids nowadays are trying to get rid of from their DNA as a consequence of bad influence from social media or radical groups. Some even sees it as a sign of weakness or intimidation, so to shake off the stereotype, they show no respect. However, finding the right balance between politeness, respect and assertiveness is what parents should teach to their children.
It is sad anyone would want to get rid of these things, but you mention a great balance.
Thta's TRUE. They give you RESPECT outright as a human being.
Yes ☺️👍
People that are sensitive need to grow thick skin when someone disrespects them; stand
your ground respectfully that usually diffuses the situation and make the conversation transactional.
It's a tiring way to live but that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about living in a culture where having a thick skin with these things isn't necessary to begin with. Something is broken if it's needed
Thank you John. I truly appreciate the good words. I live abroad for 40 years now but Philippines is where my heart is. Soon I will go back home and live the simple life. More power to you and your family. God bless😊
You are very welcome. I'm sure you will be happy to come back home.
husband speaking age 80 - John, my Filipino wife and I are starting our 47th year of marriage. We were pen pals for 5 1/2 years,
this being in the early 70's. My first trip to Cebu was 1979 with a new wife. So much has changed since that first visit. Friendly,
kind and very helpful as well as respect for anyone older than you are. My wife is of the Ceniza Clan, she was a teacher in
Mandaue ( until I gave her early retirement ) We currently have a home on Mactan Island, Vistamar Resort where currently we
spend 5 months a year. We still have a home in Everett, Wash. ( 30 miles North of Seattle ) Heading back this Nov. 15th. 2023.
Wow, congratulations on 47 years together. Thank you for telling me more of your story. I would love to interview you and/or your wife if you were willing.
Where are you located in the PH?@@WatchCaliforniaExpat
@@janetceniza8091 I'm in Davao City currently for business but typically live in Cebu City. You guys are in Mactan Island I believe from previous comment?
Yes - we are on Mactan Island, Vistamar
Resort , just up the side road from Mactan
New Town. We will be there the middle of
Nov. thru the end of March 2024.@@WatchCaliforniaExpat
@@janetceniza8091 Nice area, hope to meet you guys when you are here.
I remember My Mom ( bless her soul ) upon arriving from America for our younger
Sister's wedding, embracing my young daughters tightly and said..
" ohh how l Miss you all !!..
I DON'T WANT YOU TO EVER GROW UP IN AMERICA!! "..
THIS was during the 1980's.. One can imagine what America now is 😮😢
Your mother was wise. I can really understand her feeling.
I can proudly say that paying respect is a major rule every Filipino parents sets to their child because in that way parents were not afraid that their child will not get harm when their not around or when they were outside our home basic recpect and kindness is something that thought inside every Filipino home and also caring to each other is one also...
It is something to be proud of. Thank you for watching and commenting
Thank you so much for the kind words for us Filipinos,our culture,and Country.. You're welcome here in Philippines Sir😊🙏.
Thank you! 😃
In spite of the Philippines' hot humid temperature, Filipinos are still patient, always smiling 😄😁. The barometer Filipinos' patience is so high.
Haha yes that is very true.
Despite
Thank you for appreciating our country and culture, Sir. I wish you more success. God bless you.
So nice of you. Thank you
What you said about the US about having more to offer, consumerism at its finest and unfortunately, that's also the root of the unhappiness and anxiety. So many choices, so many things you need to get or own or achieve..in PH, it is all about valuingvwhat's more important and going back to the basics - this is also the reason why we are resilient and welcoming and happier in spite of all the limitations. People strive here to have a comfortable life - not necessarily to be rich or be millionaires. You can ask Filipinos what they want to own..they'd tell you house, business, etc..anything connected to family but I doubt hardworking Filipinos have signature handbags or sports car as their top goals - almost everyone like something that can also make their family and friends happy or share/benefit from that success. The difference, I think, is more on the values. In PH we are more family oriented values vs individualistic values in the US. That is why it is ingrained to Filipinos to be respectful - the way we treat our elders, the way we treat our friends, customers, guests..it all roots fron that affinity to being family oriented - valuing the sense of belonging, embracing and making one a part of that family/society - until you prove that you dont deserve it. That' s where the respect roots from because otherwise, we wont care.
However, it isn't always perfect and this has some toxic effects too..but nonetheless, I think that sense of valuing connections and compassion makes it easier for us to be happy in spite of the things we lack because at the end of the day, when you think of it..which is more priceless and can make you happier? Your relationships/connections/family or your mansion, your status, etc? I think we can pretty much can find the answer to that in our societies.
Thank you for sharing
Great content John. Thank you. Another interesting factor with the US is the prevalence and style of divorce and how much it tears families apart. I think if you look at that factor it has a lot to do with the deterioration of the American family unit since roughly half American marriages go through this.
Yes been there
Sadly, now Divorce is already on the 1st reading here in the Senate. The evils of the Western world had trickled down to us.
Because why would we disrespect the elders or other people? Being respectful is a basic manner and being rude reflects on the way our parents raised us.
Kindness is always better and more convenient than being Karen.
Kindness is better than Karen. Classic 😂
My cousin who is married to an American they used to live in Thailand because of work now they're back in the states but her husband don't feel secure everytime she goes out alone because what's been happening over there
It's sad to see
Yeah I am from California to and I cant wait to get back to the Philippines Yeah sure we have a lot to offer here But all of the crime and too many shootings The philippines reminds me of what the US use to be back in the 50s People in the Philippines are a lot more friendly then here in California they will say GOOD MORNING back to you Not In calif LOL they just walk right past you like you never said a word
I agree completely. I hope the US wakes up and recovers. We can be so much better than this
In addition to respect for elders (and other people) and obedience to lawful authority, one other trait that I instilled in my 3 children from the time that they were toddlers is COMPASSION, especially for the poor and under-privileged, for the natural environment and for animals. We carried out for 22 straight years an annual sharing caravan every Christmas eve that brought food and other basic necessities to dirt poor homeless folks around Manila. This was the only kind of Christmas Eve activity, not the traditional lavish Noche Buena feasts, that my children grew up with until their 20s for I believed that the only way for them to become compassionate to others is to actually see the squalor, poverty, hunger and homelessness that envelopes many people, many eating out of garbage bins and trash piles. From one sleigh (car), we grew to as many as 20 sleighs at one point with other parents tagging along their kids to be exposed. An Augustinian priest from India who joined one of our runs confessed to me (not the other way around huh?) that while he had seen much poverty in his own country, this was the first time that he came so close to the really destitute ones. We were not the only ones doing this, there were many others we saw doing the same. We'd cap the usually 4-hour caravan before sunrise with an early Christmas day breakfast of hot choco, bibingka and puto bumbong at Aristocrat Restaurant, Roxas Boulevard along Manila Bay.
I admire your care and can relate. My grandfather took me to Skid Row in Los Angeles when I was young to expose me to true poverty, and I took my kids to feed the homeless and bring presents to kids whose parents couldn't afford to give them Christmas presents to have a sense of how many struggle.
Im an expat from UK ...moved to Philippines after marriage in 2018 and been here ever since, there is a certain love and respect you feel for this country and culture... unlike where I was from where I would usually not feel safe just going to a shop at night because of the hoodie culture in UK, in PH everyone is your tita tito , lolo or even lola even if you only met them once .. they always give you respect you dont find elsewhere ... it can be exspensive in PH compared to other countries but you learn to adapt... good video ... My life is a lot better here but there is also the requirement to take your spouse to cexperience where you come from ... in my case ... one day i do dread lol but ill take her ..
I appreciate you watching and sharing. I understand the dreading part haha. Sounds like we are both very content here in the Philippines
Life is about living and loving and sharing with people. Without experiencing people, we are no different from a plant. In philippines, that is what we do best, live, love, share
Respect, humility and kindness and apply to everything in your life but filipino was so resilient and thats what make us different from other plus the culture of giving,kindness,fun loving etc adds up to the sauce.
It's a good sauce. Thanks for commenting!
I love this video. Thank you John. RESPECT, its what everyone should give and crave.
Really appreciate that Greg. Thank you for your encouragement.
Your video has caused me to think a lot about my Filipino wife and me making a visit back home to America in the near future. We were married for 12 years now. I am 77 years old and living here steadily for the last 18 years. My wife is 62 and would like to see what America is like. Respect is something your article brought out. She has a Filipino friend who is inviting us to join her and her husband in California for a visit. My family came from Wisconsin and I would like to fly to Wisconsin while in the US. The Problem is that my brother, Niece, or son can't or won't help us in any way to make our visit pleasant. They show little interest in helping us. After being away for so long, I no longer have a car or a driver's license there. Public transportation in the states is very poor at best. Not like the Philippines. I could just go to California and skip Wisconsin. This would mean that I could die here without having said goodbye to my family there. I can see what you are saying with respect when they have very little in their own families. I am only living off my Social Security income so I have no saved up savings. Is this added expense worth it in the long term?
I feel for you. I think your experience is common. Filipinos do everything to help their family, even being OFW or not going to college to provide for younger siblings to be able to. It's really different in the US. You could go to California and invite family to visit you there since you are traveling so far from the Philippines. I know even plane tickets to the US are expensive these days. Where do you guys live here if you don't mind me asking?
The US is going to disappoint you Sir. The cultural difference is significant from 18 years ago. Politics and the pandemic have polarized the country. We have a generation of narcissists', superficial and apathetic toward others. The high cost of housing and drug addiction resulting in mental health issues have created mass homelessness in every major city in the country.
If family, showing your wife the hometown or visiting your parents gravesite is of sentimental value for you, perhaps a couple of days in Wisconsin may be doable using a modest hotel and Uber (US version of Grab).
It's heart wrenching that your own Son won't assist you.
Best wishes and safe journey.
Thanks a lot on your evaluation about the Philippines. May your thoughts open the eyes of others.
Thank you too!
Thank you for noticing it sir deeply appreciated!
Walang anuman 😊
This is refreshing.. such enlightenment to everybody. God blese you sir.
So nice of you
This "respect" comes from the Filipino people's humility. More Pride means more "disrespect" : of parents, of teachers, of elders, of people in authority, of people who disagree with one's ideas.
Pride is the #1 root of all conflict: between individuals, between groups of people, even between entire races, nations, and religions. Greed is only #2.
Appreciate your thoughts. Selfishness does so much harm too.
Thank you very much and Godbless you🙏
Thank you Lucy. God bless you too
Thank you for your video Sir. It is always our prayer that we Filipinos continue to uphold the Word of God. It is our declaration from generation to generation because I believe that the love of God will bind every family and it is manifested in our community, church, neighborhood, schools and as a nation. Today, it is a big challenge to live like Christ but it is always our choice to do so.. Basically if God is absent in the family, chaos is expected. May the good Filipino traits, character and attitude continue to impact people wherever each one goes local or abroad. God bless everyone.
yes in the days of my grandparents, their generation would speak a blessing to all the children, pagpalain ka nawa ng Panginoon
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I think I agree... In general we Pinoys like to make other people comfortable and at ease in our own place. We know we make do with a lot of things that other people especially foreigners may not necessarily be comfortable with... so we try to help them adjust, adapt and blend in easily... that's all!! Yes... Its kindness redounding to respect...
Its a very good part of the culture
I really enjoy your videos. I think the Philippines is so connected to faith. It's very refreshing. Thx for sharing this.
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Here in the Philippines our sons and daughters do not have to leave the nest until they want to. And when they do, we make sure that they are strong enough to make it on their own no matter if they are 18, 30 or whatever... and they are welcome to come home anytime. Having been given this care by our parents we in turn see to it that we are there for them in their sunset years. This is so in most of Asia.
Yep, quite different cultures in this regard that seems to impact how people also are at work and other areas of life.
Empathy is huge among us, Filipinos, too.
Maybe it's an extension or another form of respect.
Whatever, it's a very rare trait that I hope stays with us forever.
I hope it does too
For me its the love in the Philippines. I do realize from listening to other channels that I was extremely lucky to find the partner I did. But I absolutely see what you are talking about. He has now been approved by USCIS and I've already been warning him that here (this will sound bizarre to some I think) we have to be more careful. In Cebu and in Carcar and in Sibonga - we could be and were totally ourselves. We held hands in public, we went to Seaside mall with some of his family to buy his engagement ring. His priest even said he would perform our wedding if he were permitted to. His mother hosted a big engagement party to which everyone anywhere near his home came. NO ONE CARED. Here, most would not care, but those who did might very well become violent. I didn't put that down to respect, but to historic culture - but I do realize listening to you, that it is a manifestation of respect. Thank you for opening my eyes to that. To be honest, if we could have gotten married there, and if the medical care on average had been a bit better, we would have stayed there, my retirement and passive income would have given us the best of all lives - but it was not to be, and we want to be married, so he will be here in a few months (we were together there for half a year). I have never been happier, but I do worry about what America might do to him. He is so shy and quiet and gentle (well educated too). Thank you for the channel.
I'm happy to hear your story. This is how it should be. It is about respect.
Your one of my fav Phils vlogger because of having the experience of living in Australia plus your got a great vibe and attitude
Really appreciate that Simon. Appreciate your encouragement and support.
RESPECT!
Thank you for recognizing the traditional Filipino culture and the kind words. Awesome! Enjoy your stay in the Philippines.
Thank you my friend!
Thank you so much for this🥰🥰🥰Much love from the Philippines❤️🇵🇭
You are so welcome!
We Filipinos are thought from early age to respect and love the elderly, so when we reach their age we will be respected too..
Good insurance plan 😊
taught.
Kung ano nakikita ng bata yun ang gagawin pagtanda,right?
I was in line at departure area in
NAIA , maybe around 100 people
Befoe me waiting for ticketing
When a guy pulled me over and
Directed me to a station to hasten
My ticketing. I was suprised anf
Ask him why? Your a senior. . you
Dont need to stand that long.
Love that
my age also attracts people to direct me to the front of the line. at one queue, between five to ten people spoke with me to do that, a couple of security guards, maybe three of those in the queue with me, they would make a beeline straight toward me because the line was long and they were just worried about me, it's really wonderfully ingrained in the culture, thank You, Lord Jesus
RESPECT...yes, people show respect to each other, especially showing respect and honoring their elders (mano po). "Blessing".
Yes true
Thank you sir for your kind words about the Philippines 🇵🇭♥️👍God bless you and your family 🙏God bless the Philippines 🙏🇵🇭God bless the USA🙏🇺🇸🙏
So nice of you
Thank you for citing one of the most important values that we Filipinos embedded in our culture 😊❤❤
Of course!!
Filipinos have the ability to live simple life perhaps owing to admission of dignity, but they can be merciful, despite that, and stay focus.
I understand, thank you!
100% agree.We value respect so much.
Thank you for watching and commenting 😊
You're right about that young Man thanks 👍👍
Thank you very much
I'll be in Chicago tomorrow, where this is still true. Twin cities, too. Milwaukee not so much.
Calling people by their first names kept in about ten years ago, and I find that grating.
Hoping the US gets back to how it was with these things.
Having visited P.I 5 times when I was in the Navy, then returning to marry my girlfriend in '95, then one final time when I had to return for her funeral (was waiting for her visa to be approved when she died), every Filipino I met was kind and respectful. They don't yell or cuss or anything like an American would. Great folks. I would like to go back there again some day, perhaps to retire. Going to look into it.
yes, that's how I feel here. Hope you have the opportunity to come back
Filipinos are great people. Would like to emigrate. I am cash-challenged for now, but things will break loose someday. Just in the last 30 days, I am thinking more and more about Phlllipines and Filipinas, . After years of well, nothing, all my plans cratering, I went thru several dark nights of the Soul, it just seem like things are pointing me back here for some odd reason. We'll see what happens.
As from western europe, can agree. The biggest assets in Philippines is the people
Absolutely. Thank you for watching.
Thank you for the nice remarks about Filipinos and our culture 🙂👌💜
Thank you Jhie! My pleasure.
True this. And faith in God. And all the Judeo-Christian and Filipino values that come with that.
Thank you for watching
Thank you. God bless
God bless you too
Thanks for talking about this, that a way to say respect for the filipinos, some of my family members live in the US, i am filipino and greatful that you respect our culture and who we are
Thank you, I appreciate it!
Long live John and Father blesses you more❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much 😀🙏
We go further than to say
Yes Ma'm/Sir
by uttering from the bottom of our hearts, from the young and to the adults, elders (eg. followed by KUYA or ATE), co-employees to employers, neighbors, strangers, first acquaintances, regardless of tacit authorities, positions or ranks observed, color or race, perhaps we are colonially subservient or odedient to tradition,
we always say more
to answer an inquiry or question with utmost respect,
we say
Yes "po", Ma'm/Sir _____ (name of the person shown respect)
or
"Opo" Kuya/Ate_____
(double politeness expressed)
Automatically followed by
Salamat po ng marami! Sir John
with emphasis on the "very much" for being grateful, the follow through of politeness with matching island smile, a tap, a shake of hand or a warm hug
Marami salamat Sir Jerome! Appreciate you sharing more and I appreciate your culture.
Thank you for sharing this!🙏🏼
You are so welcome!
I’m a Filipino currently living in the US, your initial comparison imho is akin to apples and oranges. Remember that the Philippines is a developing country so in terms of the amenities, conveniences, efficiencies in several sectors will not be on par with a developed country in the West like the US for example. So foreigners, esp from developed countries, who come to my country shouldn’t really expect the same level of economic and social services they have in their own countries. Sure there are pockets of seeming economic prosperity and conveniences in urban areas like BGC or Makati or Davao City or Cebu City but there are still more places that are in a state of poverty and in need of economic advancements and social services. But I agree with your thoughts on Filipino respect. In general, we are a respectful people and we are non confrontational. But let me share my opinion as to why we have this trait. It all boils down to family values and religious beliefs. That respect comes from valuing the teachings of our parents. After God, family is the most important foundation of every Filipino’s life. It’s what makes us respectful and resilient. Of course, there are also dysfunctional Filipino families but you’ll find that no matter how dysfunctional a family is, when it comes to tribulations i.e. financial loss, illness, death, they come together as a family, to help out or pay their respects. It may sound cliché, but for most Filipinos, blood remains thicker than water, not necessarily out of loyalty but more about respecting our roots. And as a Filipino living here in the US for a long time, these strong family ties and filial bonds are the stark differences I see and experience. I remember having quite a culture shock when I first got here and at learning one co worker friend hasn’t talked to his brother for more than a decade and I asked if they had a fight and he said no, it’s just that they live different lives and don’t pry into each other’s affairs. And that’s okay, he added. As the eldest brother in my family, I couldn’t imagine not talking to all my siblings for that long and not respectfully pry into their lives. Lol. But kidding aside, I also value and respect American individualism and independence. And I think Filipinos can learn a lot and be more confident from having a bit of these traits without sacrificing our family ties. Lastly, I think materialism plays quite a role in why Americans tend to be disrespectful of each other as well as the recent divisive political climate. That’s unfortunately getting worse. This is why I’m making plans to go back to the Philippines for good. Anyway, I’m sorry if my comment is quite long. Your video and views encouraged me to share my opinion about your topic. Thank you for sharing your insights about my country.
Thank you for your insightful thoughts about your culture and mine. I appreciate you taking the time to share.
Be optimistic. America will rise from the turmoil, in a way it's necessary so we can learn how to sort it out. Love will ultimately win.
I appreciate your perspective. It wouldn't be the first time America has made a big comeback. I'm hoping for that
What I watched from the movies of US and Philippines..simply like this:
Philippines:..Mom ,Dad stay with us ,,we will take good care of both of you when you aged ..😊
US:..I'm 18 we are going out of here ...find a job.
Mom ,Dad We can't take care of you...we will take you to the home of the aged😢
Sadly often true
Thank you for appreciating our culture. 😊♥
My pleasure. Thank you for allowing me to be a guest in your country
That's super important. I agree
Thanks Tim
That's one thing I noticed about the US... small things or misunderstandings will almost always blow up instantly. I believe the Philippines is hotter than the US but the heads of many Americans are hotter 😅
Hahaha I know what you mean exactly
Also a lack of respect in the netherlands from my experience. The us sounds like the Netherlands in that respect. Currently in boracay left manila yesterday. The Philippines is simalar to my birth country that people do respect each other on the isle of man
I think a lot of western countries are suffering from the same problem. How did you like Manila and Boracay?
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat I agree the west has major social spiritual and economic problems resource problems. People are atomised in the west. Addicted to short term relationships and consumerism. Short term share payments and short term governments. Woke madness. Climate vanity. Philiponos are still making babies! No demographic collapse here. my bais is toward the provinces as I'm a hill billy. Less traffic and pollution. Slower pace. Iloilo is ok not as intense as cebu or manila. Not a fan of pollution and intense traffic. Broacay is laid back super friendly clean and beautiful. I like Philippines it's none confrontational laid-backck reserved. When the world gets rid of oil and gas Philippines will be heaven on earth ✌️ Filipinos love tootin their horns😅
@@Goodman849 Great response. Thank you for sharing 😊
I agree with you John when you said you feel anxious when you're ready to leave for the US. I am the same way every time my time to fly back to the US gets closer. Why I feel that way I don't know. Thank God we are retiring there in less than a year.
Yes, its not a great feeling. I'm happy for you that you will be retiring here soon.
I agree, Filipinos have a basic respect they give to strangers. Rare are the people who waltz around acting entitled and claiming that their respect needs to be earned. Filipinos show respect by default and what you do could elevate or lose that respect.
Yes its true. Thank you for watching and commenting.
Wait a minute at the 4:00 mark you said you don't hear anyone raising their voice. Have you ever been around 5 or 6 Filipina women cooking and getting ready for a party. Good grief you can hear them from a mile away 😂😅.
That made me lol. I stand corrected 😂😂😂
Ahahaha 😂
We are a noisy people. When we meet, we say hi loudly, laugh loudly, talk loudly. We go to parties and we party loud. Our fiestas are loud. Even our wakes and funerals are loud. Thats when you know there are filipinos in airports and other countries. We are just so happy to be together, see someone familiar, even when we meet for the first time and will soon part.
that's okay, that means food is coming :D
I love being a senior here in the Philippines! We seniors are given priority in queues everywhere like groceries, bathrooms, airports, government facilities, public transport, etc. The younger ones just do it automatically without complaints. Not to mention senior discounts in restaurants, airlines, transportation, hospitals, hotels etc. From birth we are taught to greet, respect & care for our elders, a value passed on through generations. I would be terrified to grow old in the USA.
I understand you. In the US many people are respectful of elders too though I think this isn't the case in bigger cities
OH GOD BLESS YOU❣️
Thank you God bless you too 😊
Asian culture plays a great difference in the PH, Korea, Japan where you find respect is a dominant trait for the elderly you rarely find in the west. Respect start in the family tradition and handed down through generation a person carry with it wherever he go.
Very true. Appreciate you watching
FilipinonAmerican here, naturalized citizen in the US. If we can just transfer the American standards when it comes to infrastructures like garbage collection, access to good water, monitoring of air pollution, freeways, cemented and wider streets, consistent sidewalks, health services especially for Medicare people, etc. Access to public transport, trains, buses, etc. ❤️ that about the U. S. Overall, Americans are friendly on a level that’s comfortable. Corruption among public elected officials, officers, workers, contractors, subcontractors is deep in the Philippines. For example, a road is newly built, but next, week, it’s pulverized. The budget for that project has already be stolen. That’s all I can say… told to me by a relative. That’s why the Philippines people need more courage to expose this… minimize stealing, and effectively discipline those who steal from the government. There are young elected politicians that are honest. Hats off to them. The Filipinos need more of them. 😊
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
It is not only the act of respect (that of bringing one of your hand to th forehead). It is predominant in Tagalog speaking Filipinos to end their sentence with the word "po" which signifies respect particularly parents, to those older and or to people in authority.
Yes, it's very meaningful. In Davao City where I am currently, I'm interested to see po is used too even if most people speak Bisaya.
Are you still leavin in 90s you still see Philippines that way wow 2023 our hospitals have modern technology all ready
They do, and as I mentioned there's a lot of great doctors and nurses here. Though most hospitals don't have comparable technology compared to US hospitals. I'm not saying that to be rude, but I believe it's true.
The reason for Filipinos to be respectful is because since grade 1 at 4-3 years old there's a subject called mother tounge and esp, it teaches how important it is to be human to others and also how we should respect our mother tounge it also instill it till grade 10 where it changes to kpwkp but teachers still teach esp quotes, also in college
Very good to know
One peculiar thing about Phils is the "marites ' character.Its about our quite nosy neighbor,workmate or even a relative.A marites can be very toxic but it also has its advantages as they act as CCTV..in the neighborhood so if bad things happen like burgary or something ..you don't have to worry coz our marites neighbors will always be there to the rescue.Theyre also news gatherers and. Reporters so I guess aside from tv and social media..it's the cheaper ways to get information 😂😂😂
This made me laugh! That makes a lot of sense thank you for sharing
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat yeah😂
@@francisgracejimenez 😁
Well its true. Its the reason why the ISIS bomber got caught in the Philippines, the neighbor was suspicious of the activities and told the police. Our police relies on them.Tolits too.
We addressed someone as, "Ma'am /Sir "
Yes ☺️👍
Seems every expat that is replying feels the same. I’ve lived here a year and a half. Hard to find one word to describe the difference. Respect fits the best. The one word for the US is entitled. Everyone thinks they are entitled just because. Not here. Sure you have levels of income but respect is even. Kind of reminds me of America in the late 50s and early 60s. I wouldn’t trade this life I have now.
I'm with you on both words. Appreciate your support!
thank you for everything you said. Its too early but I hope you'll have a wonderful Christmas!
Thank you, that's very kind of you to say! Happy future Christmas too!