Someone in my life likes to tell me "comparison is the thief of Joy" & they often compare me to others wanting me to be like other people instead of appreciating my unique qualites.
I love how the "you are doing great" was just Coco's mom telling it directly to the "camera", I feel that in this way, Coco's mom was not only telling that to Chili, but also to any mother watching the show with their child.
As a mother of two toddlers, yes it definitely feels that way. I've also had people tell me this is real life, and it's honestly something that should be said to every mum at some point.
I wonder if part of Chilli's frustrations were with herself for *getting* frustrated. She mentions in a different episode that Wendy, Judo's mom, was actually a huge help right after Bluey was born (cooked lots of food for the family), and I could see Chilli getting into a guilt spiral of "I shouldn't be jealous, Wendy's been so good to us, what's WRONG with me??"
That’s definitely a trait of hers we see in other places too. I’m thinking specifically of Unicorse, where she’s getting annoyed at Bluey for not being able to go to sleep, and is clearly trying very hard to not be annoyed because she knows it’s not a good reaction to something Bluey can’t help.
I also wonder if sone of her frustrations are she feels she needs to do better so she could “pay back” the kindness Wendy gave her when pregnant. So there’s a lot of complex, contradicting feelings that result in competition
There’s also the fact that Judo and Bluey are very close in age, so not only was Wendy good to Chilli, but she provided for them when she would have been pregnant or recovering from childbirth and taking care of a newborn herself. So Wendy becomes a standard to Chilli of what she thinks she *should* be able to do as a mother, which brings in another element of competition. Chilli slips up in her story and says they would finally win against “Judo’s mom. I mean, Judo.” She felt herself needing to compete with Wendy.
I love Bandit’s silent subplot in the background of this episode - going from passed out on the floor, to holding Bluey and a laundry basket and tending to his wife, with all the struggles in between. Beautiful!
to be fair...perhaps he was passed out on the floor in the beginning was because he had stayed up with Bluey the night before and was tired (you do see him later trying to get her to go to sleep).
Chili and Bandit are parent goals. They are always there for their daughters, and openly admit that they don't always have the right answers, but try their best to make them happy all the same.
This was one of the first episodes of Bluey I watched. I remember thinking, "it's just 7 minutes, let's see what everyone's been hyping up about this cartoon." 7 minutes later, I was bawling.
Same here, it was just on my recommendeds on RUclips, I heard good things so I went "eh why not". I immediately fell in love and wanted to watch the whole series.
You mentioned how happy Bluey is at her own little accomplishments (and how Bandit is excited too), but you missed the recurring motif of the episode (so did Chilli!). We’re shown images of Chilli from Bluey’s perspective, and in each scene we see Bluey’s little hands reaching out for her. Bluey loves her mum unconditionally, and just wants to be loved and cuddled by her.
That is actually kind of sad for bandit, right? We have a daughtercand she too is just fixated on me which be quiet challangeing at times. The father, who really does a lot, bribging her to bed, changing diapers, takibg care of her etc may hardly enter her room atm (she is 2 year old). In the episode we see how much bandit does, he is passed out because of sleep deprevation, he helps in the house, he sibgs late at night for bluey and he plays with her, but even at the beginning he just gets tossed aside, for she just wants to see her mom, she learns to walk because of her mum. While my husband would never resent our daughter for it, it can feel frustrating, giving so much love abd always being tossed aside, called to leave, screamed at just for trying to help, while I as the mother can basically yell at her and she will still rather be with me...
@@89taklungit evens out. Mom gets to be part of the furniture sometimes. Ever-present as far as comfort, so dad is more fun and interesting. I'm sure this happens in any dynamic where one parent is the primary caretaker too. Not just the mommy pillar dynamic.
@@89taklung For clarification, babies latch to their mothers earlier than their dads because of feeding, scent, breathing, and voice from where they were for 9 to 10 months before. That's it. They latch to mother because that's where they came from. Bandit doesn't let it bother him. He still adores her and after babyhood she latches to dad as well!
I love that he was just so excited to see Bluey just being a baby. There's videos of me as a baby just vibing and my dad is in the background just being my biggest cheerleader
It's a little thing, but I love how baby Bluey never actually started crawling forward--she went right from backwards-crawling to walking. Despite Chili's efforts, Bluey never even needed to crawl in the end--she just went at her own pace.
I also love the shots of Bluey’s perspective, holding her hands out to Chili. Chili was so worried about Bluey “winning” she was forgetting to actually love her child, until the end. But that’s what Bluey really wanted, and that’s what actually got her to walk in the end.
Every time I hear "you're doing great" from this episode I cry. I'm no parent but I feel like I haven't heard this enough growing up. I'm crying from cartoon dogs lol.
the part of the ep that made me cry was actually when chilli tells judo: “good job, you clever girl.” she finally stopped focusing on her own lack, and was able to appreciate judos accomplishments purely. something about the way judo’s little face lit up, like she was so happy to be recognized…😭😭
It's so heartwarming to know that Chilli ultimately let go of the competitive side of it, and didn't let it spiral into a sort of hateful envy. By complimenting someone else's child, she embodies a true kind of motherly love, that extends to children that aren't her own. I think that's beautiful, since it's so easy for parents to fixate on only the good of their own children. I love that they included that bit between Chilli and Judo 💖
I'm a new parent and finding Bluey (this episode in particular) has helped so much. It's easy, when you're isolated and you see the fast paced babies on social media, to feel like you're doing something wrong. The idea that worth is innate is such an underrated concept ❤❤❤❤
The writer actually said in an interview that he was originally thinking about tossing the script for Baby Race because he didn't think it would go over well. However he asked his wife for a second opinion since it's so heavily focused on a new moms perspective and she deeply loved it, so he kept the script and made the episode.
"Maybe you just saw something you wanted" BLUEYYYYYYYYYYY 😭😭😭😭😭 So profound for a children's show. My 15-month-old absolutely LOVES "bwee". It's one of the two shows he'll actually sit down and watch. I love it so much I've started watching episodes without him. You can tell the creators made this not just for children but for their parents too
I was born in 1971 to young parents. Dad was 21 and mom was 18, and I was born a month before her high school graduation. As a result, I had to be an overachiever to make up for the shame of my birth circumstances. My identical younger twin brothers were treated as special gifts. It took me YEARS until I came to grips with it and started to live on my own terms. I took a much healthier parenting approach with my boys. I’m not a perfect parent, but my boys are much healthier emotionally than I was.
What I especially love about this episode is the artistic decision to have Bella, Coco's mum, talk directly to "camera" when she says to Chilli "you're doing great". She's talking at the audience - to the parents watching. This show is so well made.
"Maybe you just saw something you wanted" never fails to make me tear up. That is such a beautiful scene, short and sweet. The writing for this show is just amazing
There's SO MUCH MORE jam-packed into that episode, like how there were multiple shots from Bluey's perspective of her reaching out to her mum, which was all she wanted/needed, and Chili was too distracted to notice. 🥺🥺🥺
First time parent...with twins and all the time I looked at the milestones while the twins napped. This episode echoed a lot - especially when I would have one twin excelling at a milestone before the other and wondering if I was doing anything wrong. I wasn't. I just had one twin rolling, clapping, sitting up, standing on their own before the other or mastering the skill before the other. It was a fun experience going through this learning experience of running my own race. And I always use the "You're doing great" gif to other mothers, especially the first time mom friends that need to hear it.
one of my absolute favorite episodes of Bluey is "Duck Cake". I feel that it not only has a great message for kids but also shows some of the challenges of early childhood development. Bluey is struggling with a very egocentric worldview and doesn't understand why she should take on extra responsibilities outside of her own thoughts and feelings. It's a wonderful episode that teaches empathy and understanding.
The only thing I push my daughter to be excellent at is being kind and setting boundaries. She's not the best at talking but if you're hurt she'll ask if you're okay and that's what give me joy as a mom.
My oldest started talking very early and he spoke a lot. His brother was more of a grunter and was completely uninterested in baby signing. His motor control was on point though and he took his first steps at 8 months. my mom was like "he needs to be evaluated. He's not talking." as he approached his 2nd birthday. Me and his doctor were both of the watch and wait because he was hitting his other milestones. Sure enough around his 2nd birthday he just started talking and going forward I realized where his brother just says the words the best he can as soon as he learns them, my youngest won't try a word until he's figured out how to stay it as close to correctly as he can for his age. So at his age, his big bro's vocabulary was bigger but his pronunciation is clearer. I love how different they are, and watching them grow up is my favorite thing.
As someone with Aspergers or High Functioning Autism, I have struggled with feeling like I could never socially measure up to my Neurotypical peers my whole life. But then I realized that 'normal' is subjective, and what is 'normal' for me is different from what is 'normal' for others. So I just started being myself and honing my own skills and talents at my own pace, and I don't overthink or compare myself to others' seemingly better life accomplishments as much anymore.
Similar experience here: adhd vs HFA/aspergers, but initially misdiagnosed as “high functioning aspergers” (ie, they didn’t really consider adhd or take social trauma into account, so I wound up with a diagnosis that just didn’t fit at all.) Which, now as an adult? I can see that my “social struggles” were caused by things like the constant bullying and harassment I got from my classmates as an Easy Target (ie, adhd rejection sensitivity and emotional disregulation) + my teachers didn’t like me and poisoned the well for the next year, especially since I was headstrong enough to “well that’s stupid” with Female Socializing vs General Child Socializing (ie, boys got to do and get away with more, and not be bullied so much for their interests.) Fast forward: My social anxiety is now pretty awful (ie, trauma, and disassociating into social scripts vs having the self confidence I can handle myself, but trying to bravado my way through, anyway.) BUT, what I became GOOD at? Better than the neurotypicals at? Body and social awareness. Anticipating needs before they even happen ‘cause I put so much effort into basically restructuring my brain placidity a bit. …granted it’s still exhausting, because I am spending so much more energy to stay Focused/Present in a social situation that I often find Boring unless it’s actively engaging or I can stem on something to keep Focused/Aware and redirect my discomfort (usually a phone or bit of jewelry. Or just that Standard Hyperactive Squirming I just never outgrew no matter how much my teachers hated me for it; if I don’t move, I get vertigo, so.) But, I can do it. I can point out when someone isn’t being fair to someone else. I still feel better when I DON’T have to mask or overcompensate for something NTs don’t have to fight with their brain against + often don’t have this level of trauma/AFE’s in but…I can manage now. (Then stress-nap later but…y’know. That’s what therapy is for hahhh…)
I'm a new mom, and watching this episode was relieving in a way. I interpreted it as Chilli started feeling post-partum depression. She didn't want to be involved in mothers group, felt down, let the house be a mess. she felt like she wasn't doing things right and was failing her daughter. Every child gets to their milestones at different times, they're all different, but being a first time mom, things are overwhelming and sometimes we overthink things. We forget that all that really matters is our babies are healthy and happy.
"We get to this place where we don't let people be. That their worth has to be earned instead of just being innate." Wow. That hits hard. I know it wasn't on purpose, but I think this is a message I internalized from my parents in a lot of ways. Thanks for giving words so succinctly to something pretty complex.
Like everyone else, I adore “You’re doing great,” but the part of this episode that really gets me is the very end, when Bingo says “Maybe you saw something you wanted” as baby Bluey reached for her mum. It’s how I hope my son sees me, and let’s be honest, it’s also a perfect representation of how I feel about him. It’s why when I see him across the room, I can never help myself from running over to give him a hug.
Favorite episode of bluey is definitely Faceytalk. It's hilarious, but also beautifully spoke to parents in a way I didn't expect. Much like the baby race episode!
In America they don’t have the episode on Disney+ but in Australia there is a whole episode about one of the collie dogs having separation anxiety and it explains his anger issues in the show- you should talk about that episode next
This never fails to not make me cry. My parents often say I love you, but they usually say I need to do better. Finally hearing “You’re doing Great.” Is the best thing of my life
For me, that “someone else” _is_ myself. I feel like I’m failing when I’m not progressing. “If I’m not getting better, I’m wasting time, which means I’m getting worse.” It is exactly Baby Race. I feel like I have to reach as many milestones as possible, as quick as possible, to be enough. This was really helpful. Especially that, “All you can do is all you can do, and that’s all you can do.” Thanks.
This episode hit me hard. My son is disabled, so he has been hitting milestones much later than his peers. It’s so hard to see other kids his age doing things that he may or may not ever do. That said, the progress he HAS made has been amazing, for him. He is most definitely running his own race. And I get told that I’m doing great a lot, even though I don’t always believe it.
I love how Chili responds by telling a story. Research shows that one of the most effective ways to teach & connect with kids is through storytelling. And it shows that the storytelling goes just like in the video: with interruptions and questions. Family storytelling has been like this for generations; we tell stories because it works.
Something I wish someone told me when I was younger was that you should only ever compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Comparison is the thief of joy, this puts that lesson down well enough that even a kid can understand.
As a new mum, feeling like I'm constantly struggling, when Coco said "you're doing great", I cried. I feel so much emotion whenever I hear her say that. This episode hits home so much!
I can't imagine anyone more hardworking than a mom! i am sure you are doing great. I feel like so many moms are know will be like, "I felt so bad after work I had to take my kid to this activity or that appointment and instead of making a home cooked meal we had a frozen or we had take out. And then after dinner I made sure they did their homework and I put them to bed and do laundry. I feel guilty for not doing more." I am thinking not doing more? You are literally 100% responsible for another human being besides yourself. How can you beat yourself up for not doing more? And I hope you don't ever beat yourself over the head. I am sure there are days when you put your baby down in the evening and you may look around and think you have things to do like cleaning or laundry but look at it this way? You have those things to do because you are a good mom who is taking care of her baby and making her little one her top priority! Just take a few deep breaths and realize you can't do it all, but you are doing what needs to be done and that is what matters and that is a lot!
One of my favorite Bluey episodes is "Dance Mode." I also love the episode "Dad Baby." Thank you for making such compassionate, uplifting therapy channels Johnathan!
Ngl John got me crying when he said “you’re doing great.”….I’ve tried so hard college/through my career and failed consistently inspite of my best efforts and through out it I never felt I was good enough, that I was last place no matter what and everyone knew it (and some confirmed my beliefs.) and I really needed to hear that back then and now.
This was the first episode I ever saw. I was (and still am) a new mom and worrying about my daughter not rolling over from tummy to back and I worried so much I was doing things wrong and giving my daughter a bad start to life and that I was going to somehow ruin her life because I didn't know what I was doing. A friend of mine made me sit down and watch this episode and I cried. I try hard to celebrate little victories, sadly unlike the doc in this episode my doctor is really pushing that we meet milestones on time and it drives me nuts cause I see my daughter's progress and can see how smart she is. Its hard being a mom, but I'm trying my best and this show helps a lot
As a Australian I just started this show a little late with my autism to name a few disabilities I was crying by the first episode my childhood was full of abuse not nurturing like in the show so amazing ❤
I just watched this episode. I have a non verbal 3 year old, and i felt every emotion chili did, even took him to the doctor like she did. I was raised to be the best, all the time, in everything. Its true i identified by being the best. My son is always happy, and i need to learn that its ok not to be the best...but its so hard
I’m a fist time mom and let me tell you when I saw this episode I cried. I felt exactly like chilly like I was failing my daughter by not teaching her how to sit or crawl but the doctor told me not to worry she will crawl and walk when she’s ready it’s something that can’t be forced and all babies learn at different times. And it’s ok if she’s a late walker, point is she’s happy and healthy. And then when coco’s mom told the camera you are doing great it was as if she was telling me that.
“I was determined to get Bluey to crawl before Judo’s mom. I mean Judo.” It’s like you said, parents want their kids to succeed, not because they believe in their kids potential, but to look like the best parent in the room. Also I really appreciate the moment at 9:46 to showcase how out of touch older generations can be.
I recently became a single mom too 2 boys when my abusive ex walked out in anger like he's done in the past and I finally saw what everyone else saw and told him to not come back this time, and there are days I cry because I'm tired from working more then ever to support them on my own and I feel bad for crying because it makes me think I'm not being strong and I'm messing up but in those moments my mom and my sister will always answer the phone to say, it's okay to cry now because you are doing great and being stronger then you know, its just hard now but we'll all work together to make it easier and those moments make a world of difference
When you paused it right before the end, I almost screamed "YOU PAUSED IT RIGHT BEFORE THE BEST PART WHAT THE ACTUAL F-" it made me so happy when you let it finish
I’m a master’s student in the middle of writing my master’s thesis. I know this video may have been geared toward parents, but when you said “if you’re giving it all you got, you’re doing great. all you can do is all you can do.” I openly wept. I guess I didn’t realize how much of myself I was putting into the work and how little I had left for the rest of life. Thank you for that affirmation.
Hope you had fun watching it. My boyfriend and I are binging S2 and we're having a blast, crying and hollering at most of the episodes ahahah. This show is a masterpiece.
My 3 year old has had a speech delay since it was time for him to talk so this Bluey episode makes me cry EVERY time regardless. But now a video of Jono cementing the message that it's okay is just too much. 😭❤
It’s definitely true that comparing oneself to others leads to misery. Unfortunately, it can be hard to break. I often compare myself to my younger brother. I see him as someone the family has reason to be proud of because he has sporting achievements, was in the newspaper for being able to come out of struggles, is better at socialising, has been able to find stable work and was able to complete courses because of it and isn’t gossiped about behind his back. Meanwhile, my best achievements were out of pity (Mum was in hospital dying/had just died and the school was trying to give me nice things which looking back only feels empty), I was in the newspaper as one of thousands of faces of people struggling with living in poverty, socialising is one of those things that outright terrifies me unless it is specific people, I can’t be in a classroom without panicking because I was bullied all through my school years, am physically disabled and chronically ill so employment is very difficult, and my aunt would always gossip and badmouth me to my best friend’s mum just because she knew me. (Made seeing her, my aunt, at my great-aunt’s funeral awkward - I was able to stay civil and act like all was fine, but knowing she had all those negative thoughts about me…) So, naturally I wonder if Dad has any reason to think of me with any pride at me being his daughter in the same way he can speak of my brother with pride. And it always makes me feel like utter garbage. “You’re doing great.” I need those words. I am not a parent, I am just trying to live. I guess my greatest achievement so far is still being alive, even if I have been meant to die a few times over the course of my life (even right at birth, they managed to revive me quickly though…) or have to combat a litany of dark thoughts on the daily.
When I watched the part where Chilli gets told "you're doing great" I cried so hard. Just watching it again now in this video, I'm crying. As a mom... Those words are so powerful.
They wrote this series so well, and its evident in how easily you seem to be able to make good lessons of the episodes you've picked. I can't wait until you do "Onsies"
I have more than few issues with mental health, and it's hard not to beat myself up about not being where my friends are because of them. Even though I'm currently putting my all into getting better. "Run your own race" is something I really need to learn and really needed to hear. Thank you so much Bluey and Mended Light. Hoo boy. Happy tears, happy tears.
This episode gets me every time. The pressures of motherhood are immense and many and I very often succumb to comparison. If I'm really having a hard time, my husband will ask if I need to watch that episode as a reminder lol. And it works, every time. And I cry every time hahaha.
THANK YOU for doing this episode. It was definitely one of the most hard hitting ones. So intensely emotional and relatable. Please do facey talk!!! and onesies! Very important discussion points.
I love these episodes, Bluey is a great show ❤ I'm not even a parent so the "you're doing great" doesn't hit in the same contexst, but that like just still hit so hard
I've watched this so many times since you released it. I'm not a parent, but I am in a new phase of my life, and the imposter syndrome is real. Your (and Coco's mum's!) compassion is so sincere it makes me cry every time. It also, though, encourages me and helps me keep going when I feel like I'm "doing everything wrong." Thank you for what you do with this episode.
Love this show and this episode as a sister of moms who worry they're not doing it right, and the "you're doing great" moment makes me cry everytime. Also, one of my favorite episodes is "Bin Night" where Bingo is going through things at school and Dad and Mum help her through it
My daughter was crazy early at doing some things, but it wasn't like, Oh, I'm so proud; it was more like, holy crap I have to be more watchful so she can't get herself into danger.
My mom did that thing where she constantly talked bad about her looks. It really did affect my sister and i's internal dialogue and how we learned to talk about ourselves. If your always putting yourself down in front of your kids they'll learn that's how you treat yourself for sure.
This episode breaks me every time I watch it. There are times (quite too often) that I get overwhelmed with the pressures of being a mom, and I often compare myself to other moms who have a better handling of being a mom. I often feel that I'm no good at it, or I lack the patience to be a warm and nurturing mother. But this episode, and my husband, will always remind me that my "trying really hard" is what makes me a good mama. It also helps when your kids tell you how much they love you and how you're a good mama, best feeling in the world ❤
As a child of a therapist, I'm glad to see the use of "therapized." I always used "therapitized," but my mum never picked it up, so seeing the same sort of wordplay used by another professional is very validating. You have reparented me through the mild childhood letdown of my mum not using my very hilarious joke in her daily vernacular.
This is a sweet episode- I didn't like the one where they play in a crosswalk instead of just getting across, but this one is actually heartfelt & makes sense.
This show restored the child in me. One of the greatest shows to ever be created. My wife and I have two kids, almost 3 and 1.5 years, and this episode made us CRY when we first watched it.
This is one of my favorite episodes. As a mother and teacher I see this comparison game so often. My students do it all of the time, as do their parents. It is one of the reasons I love teaching elementary school music. I can encourage and teach my students where they are at, and celebrate each child’s success…at their own pace over many years. On a side note, my younger students loving doing “bum shuffle” as a movement for some of our songs.
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Someone in my life likes to tell me "comparison is the thief of Joy" & they often compare me to others wanting me to be like other people instead of appreciating my unique qualites.
I love how the "you are doing great" was just Coco's mom telling it directly to the "camera", I feel that in this way, Coco's mom was not only telling that to Chili, but also to any mother watching the show with their child.
Or anyone struggling in general
@@HopeGardner3amed 100% agree. I'm not a parent, but that cartoon dog telling me I'm doing great makes me tear up from feeling so validated.
@@emilyprice178 Same
yeah this episode hit me in the feels and I teary every time I watch it.
As a mother of two toddlers, yes it definitely feels that way. I've also had people tell me this is real life, and it's honestly something that should be said to every mum at some point.
I love how Bingo was like “did Bluey ever learn to walk?” As if she doesn’t already know, she’s so invested in the story lol
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I wonder if part of Chilli's frustrations were with herself for *getting* frustrated. She mentions in a different episode that Wendy, Judo's mom, was actually a huge help right after Bluey was born (cooked lots of food for the family), and I could see Chilli getting into a guilt spiral of "I shouldn't be jealous, Wendy's been so good to us, what's WRONG with me??"
That’s definitely a trait of hers we see in other places too. I’m thinking specifically of Unicorse, where she’s getting annoyed at Bluey for not being able to go to sleep, and is clearly trying very hard to not be annoyed because she knows it’s not a good reaction to something Bluey can’t help.
It could also be part of Chili's worry because she may have infertility issues so she isn't sure if she's doing it right or 'best' for Bluey.
The ep where chilli mentioned Wendy helped was “sticky gecko” IF anyone was wondering
I also wonder if sone of her frustrations are she feels she needs to do better so she could “pay back” the kindness Wendy gave her when pregnant. So there’s a lot of complex, contradicting feelings that result in competition
There’s also the fact that Judo and Bluey are very close in age, so not only was Wendy good to Chilli, but she provided for them when she would have been pregnant or recovering from childbirth and taking care of a newborn herself. So Wendy becomes a standard to Chilli of what she thinks she *should* be able to do as a mother, which brings in another element of competition. Chilli slips up in her story and says they would finally win against “Judo’s mom. I mean, Judo.” She felt herself needing to compete with Wendy.
The creators of Bluey really just went "We'll make a show to entertain very young children...and tug at the heartstrings of everyone else."
RIGHT? Hahaha! And boy, do they! :D
Season 2 had gut punches all back to back. You have Baby Race as discussed, Octopus - The fear of not being the fun dad, And Aging Grandparents.
I love Bandit’s silent subplot in the background of this episode - going from passed out on the floor, to holding Bluey and a laundry basket and tending to his wife, with all the struggles in between. Beautiful!
to be fair...perhaps he was passed out on the floor in the beginning was because he had stayed up with Bluey the night before and was tired (you do see him later trying to get her to go to sleep).
Omg I didn’t even really focus on that! He was gettin used to that parenting life lmao, my guy works hard for his family
Watching Bandit struggle as a new dad in the background is the icing on the cake of this episode.😂
Chili and Bandit are parent goals. They are always there for their daughters, and openly admit that they don't always have the right answers, but try their best to make them happy all the same.
I see your comments everywhere! Do we have the same recommended? Lol
This was one of the first episodes of Bluey I watched. I remember thinking, "it's just 7 minutes, let's see what everyone's been hyping up about this cartoon."
7 minutes later, I was bawling.
Saaaame, i was bawling with Onesies and I was just in the middle, like… how dare they to make me cry so hard in so little time? 😂
Same here, it was just on my recommendeds on RUclips, I heard good things so I went "eh why not". I immediately fell in love and wanted to watch the whole series.
Ohhhh it was definitely sleepy time wasn’t it… it was… amazing
@@LetGregorLive is that the one with Bingo sleeping in her own bed for the first time? That one had me crying at how sweet it was
Awwww😢😢😢
You mentioned how happy Bluey is at her own little accomplishments (and how Bandit is excited too), but you missed the recurring motif of the episode (so did Chilli!). We’re shown images of Chilli from Bluey’s perspective, and in each scene we see Bluey’s little hands reaching out for her. Bluey loves her mum unconditionally, and just wants to be loved and cuddled by her.
Bluey: Why did I start to walk in the kitchen?
Bingo: Maybe you saw something you wanted.
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@@theGhostWolfe This is the bit that makes me cry!
That is actually kind of sad for bandit, right? We have a daughtercand she too is just fixated on me which be quiet challangeing at times. The father, who really does a lot, bribging her to bed, changing diapers, takibg care of her etc may hardly enter her room atm (she is 2 year old).
In the episode we see how much bandit does, he is passed out because of sleep deprevation, he helps in the house, he sibgs late at night for bluey and he plays with her, but even at the beginning he just gets tossed aside, for she just wants to see her mom, she learns to walk because of her mum.
While my husband would never resent our daughter for it, it can feel frustrating, giving so much love abd always being tossed aside, called to leave, screamed at just for trying to help, while I as the mother can basically yell at her and she will still rather be with me...
@@89taklungit evens out. Mom gets to be part of the furniture sometimes. Ever-present as far as comfort, so dad is more fun and interesting. I'm sure this happens in any dynamic where one parent is the primary caretaker too. Not just the mommy pillar dynamic.
@@89taklung For clarification, babies latch to their mothers earlier than their dads because of feeding, scent, breathing, and voice from where they were for 9 to 10 months before. That's it. They latch to mother because that's where they came from. Bandit doesn't let it bother him. He still adores her and after babyhood she latches to dad as well!
Love Bandit just quietly being a good daddy in the background during all of this. 😂
He wasn't afraid of being a dad too. How many dads are afraid to handle their kids or commit to being a dad? Bandit is awesome.
@@laiorwyn OMG yes! know he's just a cartoon character but he is an awesome Dad.
I love that he was just so excited to see Bluey just being a baby. There's videos of me as a baby just vibing and my dad is in the background just being my biggest cheerleader
Bandit’s absolute delight at Bluey crawling backwards and making the reverse beeps was the most adorable thing I’ve ever seen, oh my GOD…
It's a little thing, but I love how baby Bluey never actually started crawling forward--she went right from backwards-crawling to walking. Despite Chili's efforts, Bluey never even needed to crawl in the end--she just went at her own pace.
As a mom, this episode hit me hard. It would be awesome to hear someone say “You’re doing great.” instead of a checklist of everything I’m bad at.
You're doing great. ❤🤗
Thank you. 🥹
Your doing great luv
You're (still) doing great. 💛
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ok I lost it at "this isn't legal anymore!!"
I also love the shots of Bluey’s perspective, holding her hands out to Chili. Chili was so worried about Bluey “winning” she was forgetting to actually love her child, until the end. But that’s what Bluey really wanted, and that’s what actually got her to walk in the end.
And it also shows that Chilli was questioning how good of a mother she was when really she was a great mom and Bluey loved her.
Bluey even pushed Bandit out of the way just so she could reach out for Chili instead
Every time I hear "you're doing great" from this episode I cry. I'm no parent but I feel like I haven't heard this enough growing up. I'm crying from cartoon dogs lol.
*We're* crying from cartoon dogs
MOOD!
Same here😭😭😭😭
the part of the ep that made me cry was actually when chilli tells judo: “good job, you clever girl.” she finally stopped focusing on her own lack, and was able to appreciate judos accomplishments purely. something about the way judo’s little face lit up, like she was so happy to be recognized…😭😭
It's so heartwarming to know that Chilli ultimately let go of the competitive side of it, and didn't let it spiral into a sort of hateful envy. By complimenting someone else's child, she embodies a true kind of motherly love, that extends to children that aren't her own. I think that's beautiful, since it's so easy for parents to fixate on only the good of their own children. I love that they included that bit between Chilli and Judo 💖
I'm a new parent and finding Bluey (this episode in particular) has helped so much. It's easy, when you're isolated and you see the fast paced babies on social media, to feel like you're doing something wrong.
The idea that worth is innate is such an underrated concept ❤❤❤❤
Congratulations on your baby!
The writer actually said in an interview that he was originally thinking about tossing the script for Baby Race because he didn't think it would go over well. However he asked his wife for a second opinion since it's so heavily focused on a new moms perspective and she deeply loved it, so he kept the script and made the episode.
@@somethinunameit637 thank you 😊
Mazal tov! You got this!
It was your decision to have plagues. Deal with it.
"Maybe you just saw something you wanted" BLUEYYYYYYYYYYY 😭😭😭😭😭 So profound for a children's show. My 15-month-old absolutely LOVES "bwee". It's one of the two shows he'll actually sit down and watch. I love it so much I've started watching episodes without him. You can tell the creators made this not just for children but for their parents too
"Maybe you just saw something you wanted?" Not me, sitting on my couch, crying. 😭👍 Beautiful!😊❤
I was born in 1971 to young parents. Dad was 21 and mom was 18, and I was born a month before her high school graduation. As a result, I had to be an overachiever to make up for the shame of my birth circumstances. My identical younger twin brothers were treated as special gifts. It took me YEARS until I came to grips with it and started to live on my own terms. I took a much healthier parenting approach with my boys. I’m not a perfect parent, but my boys are much healthier emotionally than I was.
What I especially love about this episode is the artistic decision to have Bella, Coco's mum, talk directly to "camera" when she says to Chilli "you're doing great". She's talking at the audience - to the parents watching. This show is so well made.
"Maybe you just saw something you wanted" never fails to make me tear up. That is such a beautiful scene, short and sweet. The writing for this show is just amazing
I'm so happy you did this episode. I'm not a parent, but I tear up every time at Coco's mom's words
The one episode that never fails to make a mama cry. You should do Double Babysitter next! Discovering new love at an older age after heartbreak
I love this one-the parallel between Bluey giving babysitter putdowns another try and Frisky taking a chance on love again is genius!
There's SO MUCH MORE jam-packed into that episode, like how there were multiple shots from Bluey's perspective of her reaching out to her mum, which was all she wanted/needed, and Chili was too distracted to notice. 🥺🥺🥺
There are days where the "you're doing great" brings me to tears. Sometimes that's all. Mom needs to hear.
First time parent...with twins and all the time I looked at the milestones while the twins napped. This episode echoed a lot - especially when I would have one twin excelling at a milestone before the other and wondering if I was doing anything wrong. I wasn't. I just had one twin rolling, clapping, sitting up, standing on their own before the other or mastering the skill before the other. It was a fun experience going through this learning experience of running my own race. And I always use the "You're doing great" gif to other mothers, especially the first time mom friends that need to hear it.
It always cracks me up when Bingo asks if Bluey ever learned how to walk. 😂
Also when Bandit says, "No, Mum, that's not legal anymore!"
one of my absolute favorite episodes of Bluey is "Duck Cake". I feel that it not only has a great message for kids but also shows some of the challenges of early childhood development. Bluey is struggling with a very egocentric worldview and doesn't understand why she should take on extra responsibilities outside of her own thoughts and feelings. It's a wonderful episode that teaches empathy and understanding.
The only thing I push my daughter to be excellent at is being kind and setting boundaries. She's not the best at talking but if you're hurt she'll ask if you're okay and that's what give me joy as a mom.
Bandit is such a great character.
Also I really love how Bluey started to be a frequent serie of episode analysis. Keep it up! I love it!
My oldest started talking very early and he spoke a lot. His brother was more of a grunter and was completely uninterested in baby signing. His motor control was on point though and he took his first steps at 8 months. my mom was like "he needs to be evaluated. He's not talking." as he approached his 2nd birthday. Me and his doctor were both of the watch and wait because he was hitting his other milestones. Sure enough around his 2nd birthday he just started talking and going forward I realized where his brother just says the words the best he can as soon as he learns them, my youngest won't try a word until he's figured out how to stay it as close to correctly as he can for his age. So at his age, his big bro's vocabulary was bigger but his pronunciation is clearer. I love how different they are, and watching them grow up is my favorite thing.
The baby race episode made me cry. Mom guilt SUCKS! I need a friend like Coco's mom, every mother dose.
As someone with Aspergers or High Functioning Autism, I have struggled with feeling like I could never socially measure up to my Neurotypical peers my whole life. But then I realized that 'normal' is subjective, and what is 'normal' for me is different from what is 'normal' for others. So I just started being myself and honing my own skills and talents at my own pace, and I don't overthink or compare myself to others' seemingly better life accomplishments as much anymore.
Similar experience here: adhd vs HFA/aspergers, but initially misdiagnosed as “high functioning aspergers” (ie, they didn’t really consider adhd or take social trauma into account, so I wound up with a diagnosis that just didn’t fit at all.)
Which, now as an adult? I can see that my “social struggles” were caused by things like the constant bullying and harassment I got from my classmates as an Easy Target (ie, adhd rejection sensitivity and emotional disregulation) + my teachers didn’t like me and poisoned the well for the next year, especially since I was headstrong enough to “well that’s stupid” with Female Socializing vs General Child Socializing (ie, boys got to do and get away with more, and not be bullied so much for their interests.)
Fast forward:
My social anxiety is now pretty awful (ie, trauma, and disassociating into social scripts vs having the self confidence I can handle myself, but trying to bravado my way through, anyway.) BUT, what I became GOOD at? Better than the neurotypicals at? Body and social awareness. Anticipating needs before they even happen ‘cause I put so much effort into basically restructuring my brain placidity a bit.
…granted it’s still exhausting, because I am spending so much more energy to stay Focused/Present in a social situation that I often find Boring unless it’s actively engaging or I can stem on something to keep Focused/Aware and redirect my discomfort (usually a phone or bit of jewelry. Or just that Standard Hyperactive Squirming I just never outgrew no matter how much my teachers hated me for it; if I don’t move, I get vertigo, so.)
But, I can do it. I can point out when someone isn’t being fair to someone else. I still feel better when I DON’T have to mask or overcompensate for something NTs don’t have to fight with their brain against + often don’t have this level of trauma/AFE’s in but…I can manage now. (Then stress-nap later but…y’know. That’s what therapy is for hahhh…)
"All you can do is all you can do." That hit really hard with the situation I'm having in my life at the moment. Thank you.
You're so welcome!
The end makes me so emo. Also idk why, the line “No, I have 8 kids! Wait no- 9” always gets me lol
I love how the show doesn’t sugar coat life just because it’s a “kids show”
Sure, the writers water it down, but only so kids can understand better.
I'm a new mom, and watching this episode was relieving in a way. I interpreted it as Chilli started feeling post-partum depression. She didn't want to be involved in mothers group, felt down, let the house be a mess. she felt like she wasn't doing things right and was failing her daughter. Every child gets to their milestones at different times, they're all different, but being a first time mom, things are overwhelming and sometimes we overthink things. We forget that all that really matters is our babies are healthy and happy.
"We get to this place where we don't let people be. That their worth has to be earned instead of just being innate." Wow. That hits hard. I know it wasn't on purpose, but I think this is a message I internalized from my parents in a lot of ways. Thanks for giving words so succinctly to something pretty complex.
Like everyone else, I adore “You’re doing great,” but the part of this episode that really gets me is the very end, when Bingo says “Maybe you saw something you wanted” as baby Bluey reached for her mum. It’s how I hope my son sees me, and let’s be honest, it’s also a perfect representation of how I feel about him. It’s why when I see him across the room, I can never help myself from running over to give him a hug.
Favorite episode of bluey is definitely Faceytalk. It's hilarious, but also beautifully spoke to parents in a way I didn't expect. Much like the baby race episode!
SAME!!! Muffin is such a ball of chaos and energy XD.
I was so distracted by Muffin's antics in that episode, i completely forgot that Socks was on-screen until she finished her drawing
Same! I love Facey talk 😂
i would rewatch faceytalk anytime im feeling sad, seriously that episode would make me laugh so hard 😂
In America they don’t have the episode on Disney+ but in Australia there is a whole episode about one of the collie dogs having separation anxiety and it explains his anger issues in the show- you should talk about that episode next
Hi, do you remember the name of the episode?
@@darknezfire it’s called Space
"You're doing great."
3 simple words but the impact they can have on people is astounding 😭🥺
This never fails to not make me cry. My parents often say I love you, but they usually say I need to do better. Finally hearing “You’re doing Great.” Is the best thing of my life
For me, that “someone else” _is_ myself. I feel like I’m failing when I’m not progressing. “If I’m not getting better, I’m wasting time, which means I’m getting worse.” It is exactly Baby Race. I feel like I have to reach as many milestones as possible, as quick as possible, to be enough. This was really helpful. Especially that, “All you can do is all you can do, and that’s all you can do.” Thanks.
I'm so glad you covered Baby Race. I tear up every time I watch this episode.
That soft little "Darn this kids' show." :)
8:23 A child’s greatest joy - watching their parents suffer 😵💫
This episode hit me hard. My son is disabled, so he has been hitting milestones much later than his peers. It’s so hard to see other kids his age doing things that he may or may not ever do. That said, the progress he HAS made has been amazing, for him. He is most definitely running his own race. And I get told that I’m doing great a lot, even though I don’t always believe it.
I love how Chili responds by telling a story. Research shows that one of the most effective ways to teach & connect with kids is through storytelling. And it shows that the storytelling goes just like in the video: with interruptions and questions. Family storytelling has been like this for generations; we tell stories because it works.
I don't have any kids but seeing this show everywhere makes me want to watch it
Something I wish someone told me when I was younger was that you should only ever compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Comparison is the thief of joy, this puts that lesson down well enough that even a kid can understand.
"Maybe you just saw something you wanted" 😭 ❤️ 🥰
As a new mum, feeling like I'm constantly struggling, when Coco said "you're doing great", I cried. I feel so much emotion whenever I hear her say that. This episode hits home so much!
I can't imagine anyone more hardworking than a mom! i am sure you are doing great. I feel like so many moms are know will be like, "I felt so bad after work I had to take my kid to this activity or that appointment and instead of making a home cooked meal we had a frozen or we had take out. And then after dinner I made sure they did their homework and I put them to bed and do laundry. I feel guilty for not doing more." I am thinking not doing more? You are literally 100% responsible for another human being besides yourself. How can you beat yourself up for not doing more? And I hope you don't ever beat yourself over the head. I am sure there are days when you put your baby down in the evening and you may look around and think you have things to do like cleaning or laundry but look at it this way? You have those things to do because you are a good mom who is taking care of her baby and making her little one her top priority! Just take a few deep breaths and realize you can't do it all, but you are doing what needs to be done and that is what matters and that is a lot!
When I saw the title, I wasn't sure if it would be about this episode or if it would be about "Mini Bluey" from Season 3!
Oooh that's another really good one! And the lesson is SO great
I had the same thought! lol.
One of my favorite Bluey episodes is "Dance Mode." I also love the episode "Dad Baby."
Thank you for making such compassionate, uplifting therapy channels Johnathan!
dance mode would be an amazing one to cover, as it's all about people learning to communicate their needs. Such an important lesson for children
Ngl John got me crying when he said “you’re doing great.”….I’ve tried so hard college/through my career and failed consistently inspite of my best efforts and through out it I never felt I was good enough, that I was last place no matter what and everyone knew it (and some confirmed my beliefs.) and I really needed to hear that back then and now.
I love the detail if you rewatch it, you'll notice Coco's mom cheering Bluey on every time...because she understands.
This was the first episode I ever saw. I was (and still am) a new mom and worrying about my daughter not rolling over from tummy to back and I worried so much I was doing things wrong and giving my daughter a bad start to life and that I was going to somehow ruin her life because I didn't know what I was doing. A friend of mine made me sit down and watch this episode and I cried. I try hard to celebrate little victories, sadly unlike the doc in this episode my doctor is really pushing that we meet milestones on time and it drives me nuts cause I see my daughter's progress and can see how smart she is. Its hard being a mom, but I'm trying my best and this show helps a lot
As a Australian I just started this show a little late with my autism to name a few disabilities I was crying by the first episode my childhood was full of abuse not nurturing like in the show so amazing ❤
i love that you're STILL doing Bluey - don't stop xoxo
That episode and the mother day play always make me burst into tears.
I just watched this episode. I have a non verbal 3 year old, and i felt every emotion chili did, even took him to the doctor like she did. I was raised to be the best, all the time, in everything. Its true i identified by being the best. My son is always happy, and i need to learn that its ok not to be the best...but its so hard
12:30 The score here gets me EVERY time 🥹
One divisive episode I hope you cover is “pass the parcel” - it’s sparks a lot of discussion between parents.
This episode hit me so hard. My kid was a late walker and I really struggled to accept it
Ok but Bluey’s little giggles are absolutely adorable
I’m a fist time mom and let me tell you when I saw this episode I cried. I felt exactly like chilly like I was failing my daughter by not teaching her how to sit or crawl but the doctor told me not to worry she will crawl and walk when she’s ready it’s something that can’t be forced and all babies learn at different times. And it’s ok if she’s a late walker, point is she’s happy and healthy. And then when coco’s mom told the camera you are doing great it was as if she was telling me that.
“I was determined to get Bluey to crawl before Judo’s mom. I mean Judo.” It’s like you said, parents want their kids to succeed, not because they believe in their kids potential, but to look like the best parent in the room. Also I really appreciate the moment at 9:46 to showcase how out of touch older generations can be.
I recently became a single mom too 2 boys when my abusive ex walked out in anger like he's done in the past and I finally saw what everyone else saw and told him to not come back this time, and there are days I cry because I'm tired from working more then ever to support them on my own and I feel bad for crying because it makes me think I'm not being strong and I'm messing up but in those moments my mom and my sister will always answer the phone to say, it's okay to cry now because you are doing great and being stronger then you know, its just hard now but we'll all work together to make it easier and those moments make a world of difference
When you paused it right before the end, I almost screamed "YOU PAUSED IT RIGHT BEFORE THE BEST PART WHAT THE ACTUAL F-" it made me so happy when you let it finish
I’m a master’s student in the middle of writing my master’s thesis. I know this video may have been geared toward parents, but when you said “if you’re giving it all you got, you’re doing great. all you can do is all you can do.” I openly wept. I guess I didn’t realize how much of myself I was putting into the work and how little I had left for the rest of life. Thank you for that affirmation.
My niece went through every step Bluey took before walking. This was the episode that won me over to watch the whole series.
She rolled too?
Heh. "Through every step"
@@badtothebunny7628 Left, right, forward, backward...
@@Kram1032 Pun unintended
Hope you had fun watching it. My boyfriend and I are binging S2 and we're having a blast, crying and hollering at most of the episodes ahahah. This show is a masterpiece.
What a coincidence I just learned about this today in Psychology class
My 3 year old has had a speech delay since it was time for him to talk so this Bluey episode makes me cry EVERY time regardless.
But now a video of Jono cementing the message that it's okay is just too much. 😭❤
I’m NOT even a parent!! Why do I always tear up when Coco tells Chilli “You’re doing great”? 😭
It’s definitely true that comparing oneself to others leads to misery. Unfortunately, it can be hard to break. I often compare myself to my younger brother. I see him as someone the family has reason to be proud of because he has sporting achievements, was in the newspaper for being able to come out of struggles, is better at socialising, has been able to find stable work and was able to complete courses because of it and isn’t gossiped about behind his back.
Meanwhile, my best achievements were out of pity (Mum was in hospital dying/had just died and the school was trying to give me nice things which looking back only feels empty), I was in the newspaper as one of thousands of faces of people struggling with living in poverty, socialising is one of those things that outright terrifies me unless it is specific people, I can’t be in a classroom without panicking because I was bullied all through my school years, am physically disabled and chronically ill so employment is very difficult, and my aunt would always gossip and badmouth me to my best friend’s mum just because she knew me. (Made seeing her, my aunt, at my great-aunt’s funeral awkward - I was able to stay civil and act like all was fine, but knowing she had all those negative thoughts about me…)
So, naturally I wonder if Dad has any reason to think of me with any pride at me being his daughter in the same way he can speak of my brother with pride. And it always makes me feel like utter garbage.
“You’re doing great.” I need those words. I am not a parent, I am just trying to live. I guess my greatest achievement so far is still being alive, even if I have been meant to die a few times over the course of my life (even right at birth, they managed to revive me quickly though…) or have to combat a litany of dark thoughts on the daily.
When I watched the part where Chilli gets told "you're doing great" I cried so hard. Just watching it again now in this video, I'm crying. As a mom... Those words are so powerful.
They wrote this series so well, and its evident in how easily you seem to be able to make good lessons of the episodes you've picked. I can't wait until you do "Onsies"
I have more than few issues with mental health, and it's hard not to beat myself up about not being where my friends are because of them. Even though I'm currently putting my all into getting better. "Run your own race" is something I really need to learn and really needed to hear. Thank you so much Bluey and Mended Light.
Hoo boy. Happy tears, happy tears.
This episode gets me every time. The pressures of motherhood are immense and many and I very often succumb to comparison. If I'm really having a hard time, my husband will ask if I need to watch that episode as a reminder lol. And it works, every time. And I cry every time hahaha.
THANK YOU for doing this episode. It was definitely one of the most hard hitting ones. So intensely emotional and relatable. Please do facey talk!!! and onesies! Very important discussion points.
I love these episodes, Bluey is a great show ❤ I'm not even a parent so the "you're doing great" doesn't hit in the same contexst, but that like just still hit so hard
Yay!! You did baby race!!! One of my all time favorite episodes ❤
I've watched this so many times since you released it. I'm not a parent, but I am in a new phase of my life, and the imposter syndrome is real. Your (and Coco's mum's!) compassion is so sincere it makes me cry every time. It also, though, encourages me and helps me keep going when I feel like I'm "doing everything wrong." Thank you for what you do with this episode.
Love this show and this episode as a sister of moms who worry they're not doing it right, and the "you're doing great" moment makes me cry everytime. Also, one of my favorite episodes is "Bin Night" where Bingo is going through things at school and Dad and Mum help her through it
"You're doing great,"
That very subtle change of expression, Something tells me John needed to hear that just as much as Chili
My daughter was crazy early at doing some things, but it wasn't like, Oh, I'm so proud; it was more like, holy crap I have to be more watchful so she can't get herself into danger.
My mom did that thing where she constantly talked bad about her looks. It really did affect my sister and i's internal dialogue and how we learned to talk about ourselves. If your always putting yourself down in front of your kids they'll learn that's how you treat yourself for sure.
Honestly something I needed to remember today.
This episode breaks me every time I watch it. There are times (quite too often) that I get overwhelmed with the pressures of being a mom, and I often compare myself to other moms who have a better handling of being a mom. I often feel that I'm no good at it, or I lack the patience to be a warm and nurturing mother. But this episode, and my husband, will always remind me that my "trying really hard" is what makes me a good mama. It also helps when your kids tell you how much they love you and how you're a good mama, best feeling in the world ❤
As a college student who is just trying their best but fails at things, I needed to hear this. Thank you John!
This was the first episode of Bluey i ever saw while babysitting my nephew and wow it hit me like a truck.
As a child of a therapist, I'm glad to see the use of "therapized." I always used "therapitized," but my mum never picked it up, so seeing the same sort of wordplay used by another professional is very validating. You have reparented me through the mild childhood letdown of my mum not using my very hilarious joke in her daily vernacular.
This is a sweet episode- I didn't like the one where they play in a crosswalk instead of just getting across, but this one is actually heartfelt & makes sense.
My favorite therapist.
Daddy Drop Off is my favorite episode if I just look at the first time I ever watched the series. Shot me right in the heart right at the end.
This show restored the child in me. One of the greatest shows to ever be created.
My wife and I have two kids, almost 3 and 1.5 years, and this episode made us CRY when we first watched it.
This is one of my favorite episodes. As a mother and teacher I see this comparison game so often. My students do it all of the time, as do their parents. It is one of the reasons I love teaching elementary school music. I can encourage and teach my students where they are at, and celebrate each child’s success…at their own pace over many years. On a side note, my younger students loving doing “bum shuffle” as a movement for some of our songs.