Hi Rob and Crissie I think I told you. I had a 48 year age gap and we were together 10 years and 2 months. We never had a fight or argument it was a beautiful relación ship .then when she was 33 years old she just lay down on the floor and died . She was never sick it was a brain tumor .that broke my heart its been 2 years now and I haven't dated since she died. I live on top of a mountain with beautiful views . The moral of the store is age dont matter. You guys enjoy your life. Ps all my family and friends turn against me for the age gap .take care and I love your chats 👍
I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful relationship you had, and you have so many beautiful memories. I was luckier on the acceptance issue. There were several family members, and my kids were all highly concerned, and most everyone else was a bit concerned about our 18-year age gap, but all of them came around fairly quickly as we live here in the States with my family nearby.
I'm so sorry brother. I'm 59 & me wife is 74. We met when I was 29 & she was 44. We've been married for nearly 30 years now. I know what it's like to be a widower. I was stationed in the Army at 25, 1st marriage, we're were in Germany when she got cancer & she was gone in 2 weeks when I brought her over from the states. I know how much you love your wife. You can live another woman in a different way whenever you are ready to love again. You don't have to love her the same as your wife. I know, I did it.
Different culture, different possibilities. If she loves him and truly wants to be with him, and the parents agree, it is the beginning of a wonderful love story and life together. Western relatives and friends are irrelevant IF he intends to RETIRE and make a new life in terms of Philippines. Bringing her back to America would be a disaster in every conceivable way. The only other reason why this would be WRONG is if he is not able to give her children, which is not the case.
My uncle married an 18 year old he was 58. They are still married 26 years later. He is on oxygen and mostly immobile but she has been so dedicated to him and it is true love. They never had any children together.
How rare in the West for people to be in love for decades. Relationships in the West are like a poorly written reality show. Kudos to them for forming such a special loving bond. They are an inspiration for others.
my filipina wife and I have been married 32 years, best decision of my life. 21 year age difference. you two remind us of ourselves. you look like an ideal couple, if there is such a thing.
Personally, I think it's great that they both found each other. Not only is their relationship consensual, but it sounds like her family accepts him. This is all that is important. Since when do any of us allow strangers to decide who is right for us to marry? This is a personal decision. As long as no laws are broken, there is no wrongdoing. It sounds like they love each other!
@FlyMeToThePhilippines You're welcome. Thank you both for putting out quality content that addresses important topics for our age-gap relationships, which are common between filapinas and foreigners. My lady has been here in the states for 4 weeks now. She is half my age, and we have certainly been non-verbally judged with disgruntled looks from others
you're exactly right. In the Philippines, age gap relations are very common. It's an accepted part of the culture. Westerners get weird ideas that they have to criticize these relationships, as if their Western hangups are somehow still valid in the Philippines. It makes about as much sense as wearing a heavy winter coat in Manila, because they grew up in North Dakota.
In Shanghai, I went to a bar- talking a lot to the younger waitress ( i was 40). Went to a KTV with her after work and sang in a private room. Next day she text me to meet her at an address at about 400pm. It was at a school. She came out and I asked and she told me 18 years old. She asked me why i like her- she was pretty, tall and spoke english well. We both took a taxi to a spa and both went to get a massage in a room together. They locked the door for the massage. She told me her mother is coming to meet me. After 10 min, I hear a knock and she asked me to open the door to meet her. I opened the door and her mother was beautiful and our eyes locked on each other for 10 seconds but seemed like 1 minute, frozen and both smiling. For the rest of the massage we could not stop looking at each other- she spoke no English. I realized I wanted the mom who is near my age. I knew no good would happen and I stopped seeing the daughter.
Why should she be too young? During most time of human history girls usually married a lot younger like at age 13 or 14. Big age differences were also nothing uncommon until feminism took over.
@@Kimonha Some people still think the earth is flat and there is places that still kill witches. That being said i do get your point and it is generally valid.
53 / 30 for us. Age gap relationships are historically the norm for men of means. Same with economic disparity. The objections are rooted in shaming tactics by older women who are losing potential mates to younger women.
Americans can’t understand that Filipinos have an entirely different perspective. Older, more mature, stable, loyal men are very appealing to many of them. Of course financial stability is important. It’s no different than the stability an American girl seeks other than in the Philippines $2500 per month provides stability where in the US it would require $10,000 to provide a similar lifestyle. Then compare the character of the average Filipina to a western woman…… Filipinas are on an entirely different level. Beautiful, petite, sweet, feminine, loving who takes pride in caring for you and her family. I’ve been dating my Filipina for 1.5 years. I’ve NEVER been treated so well. Ever.
It is nice to see you guys, growing on YT, its more look like day show now, where you add not only facts about your life, but facts from the world and history. I totally, see that in a year or two you will do LIVE show with a groups of participants to do some fun activity, or games. It is always a pleasure to watch you, keep doing and growing!
It seems that shame is used to discourage men from large age gap relationships. Chrissy said that since the Florida man took the girls virginity then he should marry her. That is a traditional view that is seldom practiced today, but it is still in the minds of people. On the flip side if a girl is 25 years old and has had previous relationships does that mean the Florida man is under no obligation to marry? All this is rather vague and has many moving parts to consider. In my opinion shared life goals trumps age, if both people want the same thing then the relationship can work even with a large age gap.
In time she will change a woman nature is to rule a man the advantage she have over you she is older she will treat you like a child when the time is right for her. Listen to Billy Joe song a woman is always a woman to me. Keep your eyes open and thank me later warning 😂😂😂😂😂
My wife is 29 and I am 83. I am American and she is from the Dominican Republic. We have been married for 8 years. She doesn't speak English but I am fluent in Spanish. We live in Panama.
Thanks for sharing Robert. I’m very interested in how the relationship has progressed as you have gotten into your late 70s and early 80s as that’s in my future also
Hahaha great story. I have to say when I met my Filipinas family it wasn’t at the airport, it was at 9:30 at night sitting at their kitchen table. Although I was very well fed, It was in my opinion the 2024 version of the Spanish inquisition . Lots of tough questions and lots of very well thought out answers. On a sidenote, while sitting at the kitchen table, a rat crawled up the wall behind her father 😬 and disappeared out the window, God is my witness ✋.
Dear Chrissy and Rob - Definitely an international topic. Personally, I have never been focused on age, but rather on maturity and behavior. Many younger women today are far more sophisticated and clear-sighted than when I was young, although their life experience has not always followed. So each individual relationship must be evaluated by the couple together. Best regards from Denmark 😇
If two people can find a way to love each other and be happy in this crazy world, espciially in a time of such high rates of depression and suicide in the west, we should really applaud them and be happy for them!!! It's really tragic to hear of so many cases of situations where the families of the someone in an age gap relationship won't accept them, very tragic indeed.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines You're very welcome of course, and the biggest thannks to you for more expecellent content, but it's just my honest feelngs and to me it's very straightforward.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines My dad is about 77 and he's unhappily married (not miserable, just not happy) to my stepmom, and some times i just wish he could be married to a Filipina in her 50s or 60s instead cause i'm sure she'd treat him better and he'd have a lot more fun.
We have a 38 year age gap, and have been together for 13 years. She was 19 when we met but pretended she was 24, I didn't find out for 2 years! She was worried (correctly) that I wouldn't have started a relationship with a teenager. My thoughts at the time was that the age gap in itself was a big enough challenge without it also involving an immature teenager. We met in The Philippines not online or otherwise.
As a man who has an age gap relationship. In Asia it is not uncommon that a young service man marries an older Asian women. In my case my wife is 20+ years older than I and we have been married for 40+ years and still going strong.
Upon reaching the age of 18, an individual assumes the responsibilities and privileges associated with adulthood. This includes the right to vote, the potential for military service, and the ability to incur financial obligations such as student loans. While societal opinions may vary, it is generally accepted that an 18-year-old is considered a mature and responsible adult.
My wife came from Philippines to europe with 3 month visit visa, she was 20 years old when we got married here, in our law there is no reason to ask from parents, 20 is old enough to marry if she wants to. Also when got married here, she got instant 1 year extension to her visa. As soon as we told we have intent to marry, she got the 1 year extension to her visa, then have time to plan the wedding.
My moms uncle married a woman from Russia who was a bit younger than me. That was almost 30 years ago and they are doing great. They just took a cruise.
Very interesting video and thank you. It's helped my head junk with when younger Filipina's hit me up. I'm mid 50s and have been ignoring anyone in their early 20s. I'm headed to Cebu in Sept for my first time, although I might change my ticket to Nov (work stuff) which would allow me to stay longer. I'm looking forward to your next video on Cebu 'oasis'.
Only one big problem is the 18 year old will mature into a different woman at 32, 35, etc. No I am not talking about the filipina becoming westernized, just that I have talked to several who found out this to be true when she moved out.
OK, I’m 62 and I can remember my great great grandmother telling me that her marriage was arranged that when she met my great great grandfather she was 16 and he was 30 and it was an arranged marriage. Her parents arranged that for them so it’s not unheard of, I don’t know why people make such a big deal about
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines So you're thanking someone for sharing a story about a grown man marrying a minor and that he believes it's really no big deal. Glad to see what you condone.
@@Patrick-oy6er seriously I think he is referring to a time and place we don’t recognize today- I don’t say I condone anything- I appreciate the engagement- including yours
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Action speaks louder than word's .....................It's this part that's telling "so it’s not unheard of, I don’t know why people make such a big deal about"
Another great video, thanks Rob & Chrissy! I don't think any relationship is a one size fits all thing. The age gap relationships work as long as both people are realistic about it. I like Chrissys outlook that, at her younger age, she wasn't mature enough to consider a much older man. That would be my concern about dating a much younger woman... but, again, maturity levels should probably be equal. For me, at 68, I wouldn't consider a girl below 20, or even 30. My target age was above 30, and my ldr is 34, who already has a 14 y.o. child. This was very attractive to me, because I have no desire to raise a young child. I wanted a girl that could 'retire' with me and have fun and live life.
The movie Casablanca starred Ingrid Bergman, not Lauren Bacall. Bogie and Bacall made some fantastic films together, my favorites being "Dark Passage" and "Key Largo". Still love those black and white film noir movies! As far as the guy nailing the 18 year old, I say good for them. Not really what I'd have ideally in mind for myself, but to each their own.
Yes, why not? As long as it is legal. But it should be exclusively up to the two people involved and no one else's business. Today totally different cultures, religions, social classes and even any genders can get married. Why should different age be an exception?
Spiritually, according to scripture, he is married because the father approved. A proper wedding is moot at this point. Nonetheless it is necessary. He should marry her immediately because this can be devistating on children spiritually.
Hah, I watched this video as a lark but you mention the exact place I'm moving to next month. Curious what you'll show since I'm moving there due to the weather. My dog, a border collie, can't handle the weather living in Bangkok.
Lining up many prospects reminds me of the shopping mall for singles. The women have 7 stories to peruse and purchase. The only catch is that you go up, wut you can never go back down. Most end up going floor to floor, handsome in first, handsome and kind in the second, handsome kind and good pension on third… finally they end up in the last floor and there are no men. Always wanting more they ended up with none. Across the street is the shopping center for single men. Beautiful women on first. Beautiful women who like beer on the second. There are no other floors because the shopper usually buys on the first.
You guys will laugh: First wife three years older than me. Married for 22 years. Current wife 22 years younger. Married (so far) 25 years. Keep the interesting stories coming! Blessings, MB
It is very endearing how you interact with each other... On the longest age l gap relationship, i have a vague recollection that she drew a pension from his military service well into the 20th century. Gonna look that up. All the best. Tim
I know that there's another celeb that got married to an older guy , but she and her husband passed away , I remember that Anna Nicole Smith was 26 years old when she married her 89-year-old husband
There is nothing wrong with this video, or the topic. However I do take issue with the click-baiting, salacious way in which the topic is advertised on RUclips, and also in the beginning of the video. If you are talented and intelligent and produce quality videos, you will not need to employ click-baiting titles or salacious content.
I agree. I'm a little discouraged with the clickbait titles and the dressing it up to look like other glamorous RUclips channels I like the earlier videos best because it's more down to earth.
Great story. I have a unrelated question. Can u tell Rob what visa you have? I ask because I plan on retiring to Ph in two years. I Don t have 10k for srrv.
There is no one who can select two people and it's the perfect match. Everyone has to choose for themselves. Everyone has to judge if their partner is in for the long haul or not. Anericans love to judge others. I don't know what special power people think they have to decide for others. Like that clerk in KY, wouldn't do her job because she didn't agree with their choice. No one is god and no one should be judging other's choices.
Dude, you are 68!! You look great!! Interesting to hear Chrissy mention the virgin part multiple time. Virginity is pretty much lost as important here in the west. Marrying the fitst person you have sex with isnt necessarily the best thing.
NOPE! The largest age gap relationship in history is between a Somali man who was 112, and his 17-year-old bride, with a staggering 95-year age gap. This remarkable case is reported to be the biggest age difference in the world.
He took advantage of the situation because they believed that he was there because he was serious - not shopping, or doing the sex-pat thing. He should have known better...did he really think that it was going to work with an 18 year old? He broke her heart and let her family down. The fact that he took her virginity was a signal to her that he was going to marry her. He shouldn't have done it unless they were planning to marry... which of course he wasn't.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines - that doesn't mean that you can leave a trail of destruction in your wake. He broke this 18 year old's heart and violated her trust and that of her family. Act with honesty and integrity....that means don't take advantage of vulnerable people. The Philippines is a conservative country, and the "hook-up" culture doesn't exist in the same way as in Western countries. The fact that the family trusted him with their daughter shows that they respected him and thought that he had good intentions as an honourable foreigner. BTW - I've spent a lot of time in Palawan and know Port Barton well. People like him give foreigners a bad name.
I'm going to share this vid with my American Expat ex-friend. I'm in the exact same situation with his daughter and he is really angry to the point of threats. I'm praying he'll be open with his daughter and I. We love each other, so I don't see a problem.
I am 60 years young but I would NEVER date a 18 yr old girl , for me she would have to be 28 to 38 educated Filipina woman and hope it happens someday soon
@FlyMeToThePhilippines CENOMAR should be inquired long before marriage. Should be inquired in early datimg stage, to prove she is of correct age and not allready married. It can have detrimental consequenves if she is allready married (and her husband decides to blackmail for money), or if she is under 16 years old... then can become jailtime. (If american, then the sexual age limit is 18 year in the ph. So if dates+ a 17,x year old in the ph... it can get very messy very soon if anyone complains).
@BradleyT2p2 its a public record certificate. Each person in the ph has a seperate file with their CENOMAR record. It has updated information about that person age, civilstatus (marriage, single, etc), etc. Its public record, so you can contact the gov agemcy to extract her public revord. Or easier would be to get her to show you;) So that is yoir 1st line of "defence" against married people and against undrragr women. Both which could get you into serious problems. Of you involve yourself with a married woman... the legal spouse could file a case against her and you. Leading to hefty fines and even jailtime. Very few file a legal casr. But simce your a "juicy" target you may end up being blackmailed and extorted for money.
Love the show and synergy between both of you. Topics are definitely of interest... and love that fox tail palm behind you swaying away and takes me to that song Sway. Cheers
Rob, someone gave you incomplete information, same as I was told. Age of 12 not true to adults over 18. I later learned it refers to other minors who can have sex with a girl when she reaches 12. Balance of what you said appears correct. A lawyer who is a guest on a very successful respectful channel explained the real laws and history in the Philippines. Minors in public seen by the public can report a minor who seen with adult male. Charges by police can occur just being together! Lawyer on other channel explained when police will allow minor to be adult male. It is very protective laws which can seem draconian actually to immigrants. There is no way adults can have sex with 12 year old in the Philippines without parents' consent legally.
@FlyMeToThePhilippines Just like we all face risk of arrest while dating a married woman in Philippines, we also can face danger of arrest just for walking down the street with a minor alone who may be just be a daughter of our girlfriend. A good cop quickly should sort out no issues or problem exists, but often hours at police station after arrest on the street occurs they secure enough information to suggest or prove you innocent. The law has the best intentions obviously to protect children, but often jealous persons can use it to create stress for immigrants dating a filipina.
The age gap is not really the concerning part here. The most disturbing thing is the lack of respect to an 18 year old's virginity. To go to a foreign country and take a recently turned 18 year old's virginity while meeting her conservative family needs to be handled with more respect. Going to sleep with 2 other women only days later , because you will be bored, while she has to go to high school during the day is not showing respect to the woman at all. Especially as it is insinuated that he was not truthful about what he was doing. Taking an 18 yr old's virginity and then being deceptive about where you are going and what you are doing days later. Anytime half truths or lack of full honesty is used in the beginning of a relationship , it sets up a fragile foundation to a long term one. If one is not honest and open in their intention, and actions, especially with an 18 year who does not have the experience to be aware of these things is very disheartening to hear. I wish them both the best and happiness but I feel the situation should have been handled with more respect to the woman and her family. I am pretty confident the family nor the woman would have given up her virginity to someone knowing they had plans or possibility on visiting and sleeping with 2 more women within the next couple days or weeks.
I'm afraid this video is eventually going to get back to his 18 year old fiance, then what? She is going to find out that he went to meet two other women. That may be the end of his relationship with the 18 year old.
If he made love to her at 18 then later slept with another. There is something wrong here. Emotionally, a persons congnative emotional state is not fully developed until the age of 25. He better be totally upright with her from here on out.
Have you watched on RUclips, FOREIGNER IN THE PHILIPPINES? They've been in a marriage for 10 years. Their ages right now is he's 85 and she's age 35. So a 50 year age gap.
I'm 65 and I don't think I could bring myself to touch an 18 year old. Not because of lack of attraction, but because it just wouldn't feel right for me. I say that without judging people who would bite the apple but such a girl could be my grand daughter. I would feel like I were depriving her of her youth. On top of that she would be a widow before the age of 40. What kind of prospects would I be giving such a girl?
Hi Rob and Crissie I think I told you. I had a 48 year age gap and we were together 10 years and 2 months. We never had a fight or argument it was a beautiful relación ship .then when she was 33 years old she just lay down on the floor and died . She was never sick it was a brain tumor .that broke my heart its been 2 years now and I haven't dated since she died. I live on top of a mountain with beautiful views . The moral of the store is age dont matter. You guys enjoy your life. Ps all my family and friends turn against me for the age gap .take care and I love your chats 👍
Hi Rocco good to hear from you again. Thanks for sharing
I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful relationship you had, and you have so many beautiful memories. I was luckier on the acceptance issue. There were several family members, and my kids were all highly concerned, and most everyone else was a bit concerned about our 18-year age gap, but all of them came around fairly quickly as we live here in the States with my family nearby.
I'm so sorry brother. I'm 59 & me wife is 74. We met when I was 29 & she was 44. We've been married for nearly 30 years now.
I know what it's like to be a widower. I was stationed in the Army at 25, 1st marriage, we're were in Germany when she got cancer & she was gone in 2 weeks when I brought her over from the states.
I know how much you love your wife. You can live another woman in a different way whenever you are ready to love again. You don't have to love her the same as your wife. I know, I did it.
I’m very sorry for your loss and her untimely passing🙏🏼💜
Different culture, different possibilities. If she loves him and truly wants to be with him, and the parents agree, it is the beginning of a wonderful love story and life together. Western relatives and friends are irrelevant IF he intends to RETIRE and make a new life in terms of Philippines. Bringing her back to America would be a disaster in every conceivable way. The only other reason why this would be WRONG is if he is not able to give her children, which is not the case.
My uncle married an 18 year old he was 58. They are still married 26 years later. He is on oxygen and mostly immobile but she has been so dedicated to him and it is true love. They never had any children together.
Thanks, Rex for sharing that
How rare in the West for people to be in love for decades. Relationships in the West are like a poorly written reality show. Kudos to them for forming such a special loving bond. They are an inspiration for others.
@@tryscience 👍
/|\ This, this is what us older guys are looking for.
my filipina wife and I have been married 32 years, best decision of my life. 21 year age difference. you two remind us of ourselves. you look like an ideal couple, if there is such a thing.
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Me and my husband,we have a 21 yrs of age gap..weve been together for 14 yrs, including 12 yrs of marriage.
Congratulations
Personally, I think it's great that they both found each other. Not only is their relationship consensual, but it sounds like her family accepts him. This is all that is important. Since when do any of us allow strangers to decide who is right for us to marry? This is a personal decision. As long as no laws are broken, there is no wrongdoing. It sounds like they love each other!
Thanks for watching Jeff and taking time to share your comment
@FlyMeToThePhilippines You're welcome. Thank you both for putting out quality content that addresses important topics for our age-gap relationships, which are common between filapinas and foreigners. My lady has been here in the states for 4 weeks now. She is half my age, and we have certainly been non-verbally judged with disgruntled looks from others
@@jeffrt3893 Thanks. Sad to hear that
you're exactly right. In the Philippines, age gap relations are very common. It's an accepted part of the culture. Westerners get weird ideas that they have to criticize these relationships, as if their Western hangups are somehow still valid in the Philippines. It makes about as much sense as wearing a heavy winter coat in Manila, because they grew up in North Dakota.
In Shanghai, I went to a bar- talking a lot to the younger waitress ( i was 40). Went to a KTV with her after work and sang in a private room. Next day she text me to meet her at an address at about 400pm. It was at a school. She came out and I asked and she told me 18 years old. She asked me why i like her- she was pretty, tall and spoke english well. We both took a taxi to a spa and both went to get a massage in a room together. They locked the door for the massage. She told me her mother is coming to meet me. After 10 min, I hear a knock and she asked me to open the door to meet her. I opened the door and her mother was beautiful and our eyes locked on each other for 10 seconds but seemed like 1 minute, frozen and both smiling. For the rest of the massage we could not stop looking at each other- she spoke no English. I realized I wanted the mom who is near my age. I knew no good would happen and I stopped seeing the daughter.
Wild experience thanks for sharing
So basically, both relationships worked out.
Why should she be too young? During most time of human history girls usually married a lot younger like at age 13 or 14. Big age differences were also nothing uncommon until feminism took over.
You raise a good point
Agree but maybe not many (older western left alone) female agree hehe
@@Jerome-Philippines Maybe that's historical young girls married to men with power/authority/money?
They used to also think the earth was flat. And they would also kill suspected witches. Things have progressed since medieval times.
@@Kimonha Some people still think the earth is flat and there is places that still kill witches. That being said i do get your point and it is generally valid.
After 10 years in 32 gap relationship I say yes it can work.. but the greatest problem is the jellousnes from philpinas
A lot of truth to that statement
53 / 30 for us. Age gap relationships are historically the norm for men of means. Same with economic disparity. The objections are rooted in shaming tactics by older women who are losing potential mates to younger women.
Thanks for sharing that
Americans can’t understand that Filipinos have an entirely different perspective. Older, more mature, stable, loyal men are very appealing to many of them.
Of course financial stability is important. It’s no different than the stability an American girl seeks other than in the Philippines $2500 per month provides stability where in the US it would require $10,000 to provide a similar lifestyle.
Then compare the character of the average Filipina to a western woman…… Filipinas are on an entirely different level.
Beautiful, petite, sweet, feminine, loving who takes pride in caring for you and her family. I’ve been dating my Filipina for 1.5 years. I’ve NEVER been treated so well. Ever.
Thanks for sharing that Eric
It seems more like 5x as expensive than 4x but I digress
I have found a sincere and trustworthy Filipina, but I was deceived and taken advantage of by several before her.
My 26 yr old was a virgin and I’m 55. We are not only amazing partners but best friends
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65 and 32, she was still a virgin.
My wife is 25 and I am 53. Been together 3 years, all is good!
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Good job!
It is nice to see you guys, growing on YT, its more look like day show now, where you add not only facts about your life, but facts from the world and history. I totally, see that in a year or two you will do LIVE show with a groups of participants to do some fun activity, or games. It is always a pleasure to watch you, keep doing and growing!
Thanks so much, Oleg
Lots of great info. Thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching!
It seems that shame is used to discourage men from large age gap relationships. Chrissy said that since the Florida man took the girls virginity then he should marry her. That is a traditional view that is seldom practiced today, but it is still in the minds of people. On the flip side if a girl is 25 years old and has had previous relationships does that mean the Florida man is under no obligation to marry? All this is rather vague and has many moving parts to consider. In my opinion shared life goals trumps age, if both people want the same thing then the relationship can work even with a large age gap.
Well stated Tim thanks for sharing
Wait...he _took_ her virginity?!? Took, against her will. That is called r@pe.
Or did she _offer_ it and he accepted it?
My girlfriend is 37 years younger than me! She loves me I love her. What else does it matter?
Same as us
In time she will change a woman nature is to rule a man the advantage she have over you she is older she will treat you like a child when the time is right for her. Listen to Billy Joe song a woman is always a woman to me. Keep your eyes open and thank me later warning 😂😂😂😂😂
Great video chrissy and rob. Love watching you to . 😊
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My wife is 29 and I am 83. I am American and she is from the Dominican Republic. We have been married for 8 years. She doesn't speak English but I am fluent in Spanish. We live in Panama.
Thanks for sharing Robert. I’m very interested in how the relationship has progressed as you have gotten into your late 70s and early 80s as that’s in my future also
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines A lot of us in the same boat
Hahaha great story. I have to say when I met my Filipinas family it wasn’t at the airport, it was at 9:30 at night sitting at their kitchen table. Although I was very well fed, It was in my opinion the 2024 version of the Spanish inquisition . Lots of tough questions and lots of very well thought out answers. On a sidenote, while sitting at the kitchen table, a rat crawled up the wall behind her father 😬 and disappeared out the window, God is my witness ✋.
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Dear Chrissy and Rob - Definitely an international topic. Personally, I have never been focused on age, but rather on maturity and behavior. Many younger women today are far more sophisticated and clear-sighted than when I was young, although their life experience has not always followed. So each individual relationship must be evaluated by the couple together. Best regards from Denmark 😇
Hi Bent. Thanks for sharing your feedback 👋
As long as the flags are green, I don't see a problem.
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I'm 68 and I have no problem with this.
Thanks for sharing your thought
Lauren Bacall was NOT in Casablanca. That was Ingrid Bergman.
@@lold6130 I stand corrected
If two people can find a way to love each other and be happy in this crazy world, espciially in a time of such high rates of depression and suicide in the west, we should really applaud them and be happy for them!!! It's really tragic to hear of so many cases of situations where the families of the someone in an age gap relationship won't accept them, very tragic indeed.
Thanks for writing that comment
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines You're very welcome of course, and the biggest thannks to you for more expecellent content, but it's just my honest feelngs and to me it's very straightforward.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines My dad is about 77 and he's unhappily married (not miserable, just not happy) to my stepmom, and some times i just wish he could be married to a Filipina in her 50s or 60s instead cause i'm sure she'd treat him better and he'd have a lot more fun.
We have a 38 year age gap, and have been together for 13 years. She was 19 when we met but pretended she was 24, I didn't find out for 2 years! She was worried (correctly) that I wouldn't have started a relationship with a teenager. My thoughts at the time was that the age gap in itself was a big enough challenge without it also involving an immature teenager. We met in The Philippines not online or otherwise.
Wow thanks for sharing. Congrats
I’m 62- she’s 25 she’s coming USA Tues , hope it works out!!
Richard, we wish you the best
As a man who has an age gap relationship. In Asia it is not uncommon that a young service man marries an older Asian women.
In my case my wife is 20+ years older than I and we have been married for 40+ years and still going strong.
Wow, that’s awesome. Thanks for sharing your personal story.
@@GUITARTIME2024Well, now you have
@@GUITARTIME2024 we know someone exactly similar here in CDO
Upon reaching the age of 18, an individual assumes the responsibilities and privileges associated with adulthood. This includes the right to vote, the potential for military service, and the ability to incur financial obligations such as student loans. While societal opinions may vary, it is generally accepted that an 18-year-old is considered a mature and responsible adult.
Thanks for sharing that
I like this couple and the dynamics between them. I can understand they're happy and compatible
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My wife came from Philippines to europe with 3 month visit visa, she was 20 years old when we got married here, in our law there is no reason to ask from parents, 20 is old enough to marry if she wants to. Also when got married here, she got instant 1 year extension to her visa.
As soon as we told we have intent to marry, she got the 1 year extension to her visa, then have time to plan the wedding.
Peter, thanks for sharing your experience
My moms uncle married a woman from Russia who was a bit younger than me. That was almost 30 years ago and they are doing great. They just took a cruise.
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Any time you find scammers on CF, make sure to report them.
I got to meet the folks at the CF/FV office on my trip last year. Good people.
Good advice
Very interesting video and thank you. It's helped my head junk with when younger Filipina's hit me up. I'm mid 50s and have been ignoring anyone in their early 20s. I'm headed to Cebu in Sept for my first time, although I might change my ticket to Nov (work stuff) which would allow me to stay longer. I'm looking forward to your next video on Cebu 'oasis'.
Thanks for watching Mike. I hope we don’t disappoint you with our next video.
If he has good intentions, why not
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
I have a 90 day rule. I don’t meet the family for the first 90 days. I also have 20 years working abroad and 42 countries under my belt.
Good rule
Céline was only 12 when her future husband became her manager.
I believe that’s correct
VIRGIN for marriage, YES PLEASE!
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Only one big problem is the 18 year old will mature into a different woman at 32, 35, etc. No I am not talking about the filipina becoming westernized, just that I have talked to several who found out this to be true when she moved out.
I believe this can happen quite often
OK, I’m 62 and I can remember my great great grandmother telling me that her marriage was arranged that when she met my great great grandfather she was 16 and he was 30 and it was an arranged marriage. Her parents arranged that for them so it’s not unheard of, I don’t know why people make such a big deal about
So you think a 30 year old with a 16 year old is OK, got it. Tell me you're a Ped without telling me.
Thanks for sharing your personal story
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines So you're thanking someone for sharing a story about a grown man marrying a minor and that he believes it's really no big deal. Glad to see what you condone.
@@Patrick-oy6er seriously I think he is referring to a time and place we don’t recognize today- I don’t say I condone anything- I appreciate the engagement- including yours
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Action speaks louder than word's .....................It's this part that's telling "so it’s not unheard of, I don’t know why people make such a big deal about"
Rob did you mention the age difference between the married couple Anna Nicole Smith and J Howard Marshall of 63 year
No, I didn’t. It’s very interesting and thanks for adding that.
I'm 66 and don't think I could not see myself with a teen but I have no issue with others that do, to each their own I say.
Bryan, thanks for watching our video and sharing your feedback
Correct me if I am wrong, but not alot of expats go to Palawan so chances of meeting a traditional woman there is good.
Yes but population is smaller
Full grown woman… absolutely!
18-25 off limits!
Probably good advice, but then we each have to find our own way
Another great video, thanks Rob & Chrissy! I don't think any relationship is a one size fits all thing. The age gap relationships work as long as both people are realistic about it. I like Chrissys outlook that, at her younger age, she wasn't mature enough to consider a much older man. That would be my concern about dating a much younger woman... but, again, maturity levels should probably be equal. For me, at 68, I wouldn't consider a girl below 20, or even 30. My target age was above 30, and my ldr is 34, who already has a 14 y.o. child. This was very attractive to me, because I have no desire to raise a young child. I wanted a girl that could 'retire' with me and have fun and live life.
I"m 72, my wife is 22.
Good for you
The movie Casablanca starred Ingrid Bergman, not Lauren Bacall. Bogie and Bacall made some fantastic films together, my favorites being "Dark Passage" and "Key Largo". Still love those black and white film noir movies! As far as the guy nailing the 18 year old, I say good for them. Not really what I'd have ideally in mind for myself, but to each their own.
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Yes, why not? As long as it is legal. But it should be exclusively up to the two people involved and no one else's business.
Today totally different cultures, religions, social classes and even any genders can get married. Why should different age be an exception?
Thanks for watching the video and sharing that thoughtful comment
You remind me of the Regis and Kathy Lee show. Good morning Phillipines
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I think Julius Caesar was 53 when he met the 21 year old Cleopatra. It was a fortuitous union but they had genuine chemistry. No one disputed that.
Great share
Spiritually, according to scripture, he is married because the father approved. A proper wedding is moot at this point. Nonetheless it is necessary. He should marry her immediately because this can be devistating on children spiritually.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
I thought I heard that Gary was in the process of getting divorced. That being correct, it is too early to marry.
Hah, I watched this video as a lark but you mention the exact place I'm moving to next month. Curious what you'll show since I'm moving there due to the weather. My dog, a border collie, can't handle the weather living in Bangkok.
Stay Tuned
Lining up many prospects reminds me of the shopping mall for singles.
The women have 7 stories to peruse and purchase. The only catch is that you go up, wut you can never go back down. Most end up going floor to floor, handsome in first, handsome and kind in the second, handsome kind and good pension on third… finally they end up in the last floor and there are no men. Always wanting more they ended up with none.
Across the street is the shopping center for single men. Beautiful women on first. Beautiful women who like beer on the second. There are no other floors because the shopper usually buys on the first.
@@JeffjeffJeffjeff-y4y I have heard this. Enjoyed
You guys will laugh: First wife three years older than me. Married for 22 years. Current wife 22 years younger. Married (so far) 25 years. Keep the interesting stories coming! Blessings, MB
Thanks for sharing that Mike pretty interesting
18 is fine she's an adult
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
It is very endearing how you interact with each other... On the longest age l gap relationship, i have a vague recollection that she drew a pension from his military service well into the 20th century. Gonna look that up. All the best. Tim
Thanks, Tim that’s an interesting factoid
Sertrde janeway died in 2003 still drawing a civil war pension
@@tg213 thats crazy. They married in the 1920’s
Chrissy is such a beautiful and classy lady
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wow! where do you live? it seems so calm and peaceful!
It is! Cagayan de Oro
It's impossible to be in a relationship with someone that does not want to be in it so if you are together then it's alright.
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But stay to work. Elvis Presley also had an age gap relationship.
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I know that there's another celeb that got married to an older guy , but she and her husband passed away , I remember that Anna Nicole Smith was 26 years old when she married her 89-year-old husband
Wow
There is nothing wrong with this video, or the topic. However I do take issue with the click-baiting, salacious way in which the topic is advertised on RUclips, and also in the beginning of the video.
If you are talented and intelligent and produce quality videos, you will not need to employ click-baiting titles or salacious content.
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I agree. I'm a little discouraged with the clickbait titles and the dressing it up to look like other glamorous RUclips channels I like the earlier videos best because it's more down to earth.
Would love to see video tour of your home on mountain looks awesome 👏
Coming soon!
Great story. I have a unrelated question. Can u tell Rob what visa you have? I ask because I plan on retiring to Ph in two years. I Don t have 10k for srrv.
Tourist
29:34 to 30:21
Can you paste the link to the Cebu City video you mention here, please?
Cebu City 2024: Best Place To Meet Filipinas in the Philippines
ruclips.net/video/Sv9KeC0LL88/видео.html
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines 👏👍🙏. I appreciate this. Can't wait to watch.
There is no one who can select two people and it's the perfect match. Everyone has to choose for themselves. Everyone has to judge if their partner is in for the long haul or not. Anericans love to judge others. I don't know what special power people think they have to decide for others. Like that clerk in KY, wouldn't do her job because she didn't agree with their choice. No one is god and no one should be judging other's choices.
Thanks for sharing that
Dude, you are 68!! You look great!! Interesting to hear Chrissy mention the virgin part multiple time. Virginity is pretty much lost as important here in the west. Marrying the fitst person you have sex with isnt necessarily the best thing.
Thanks, Emmanuel I’m blushing
Anna Nicole Smith and J Howard Marshall the second
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Don’t forget Mick Jagger …..
Got a love Mick
I don't know if you're mixing Lauren Bacall with ingred burgman. Lauren wasn't on Casablanca. ✌️❤️
You're right!
philippine heaven for men's
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NOPE! The largest age gap relationship in history is between a Somali man who was 112, and his 17-year-old bride, with a staggering 95-year age gap. This remarkable case is reported to be the biggest age difference in the world.
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In the mid 1990s there were still 7 women collecting their dead husband’s benefits who were formerly soldiers in the civil war.
I heard it on the Paul Harvey show…maybe as early as 1991.
Amazing
well done
Thanks Albert
I am 60 years old and my finpno flance is 17 years old
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That’s wrong and illegal. Your a child predator.
Yep easy 👌 😌
Just seen thumbnail didn't even watch video
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He took advantage of the situation because they believed that he was there because he was serious - not shopping, or doing the sex-pat thing. He should have known better...did he really think that it was going to work with an 18 year old? He broke her heart and let her family down. The fact that he took her virginity was a signal to her that he was going to marry her. He shouldn't have done it unless they were planning to marry... which of course he wasn't.
He actually is planning to marry
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines - that doesn't mean that you can leave a trail of destruction in your wake. He broke this 18 year old's heart and violated her trust and that of her family. Act with honesty and integrity....that means don't take advantage of vulnerable people. The Philippines is a conservative country, and the "hook-up" culture doesn't exist in the same way as in Western countries. The fact that the family trusted him with their daughter shows that they respected him and thought that he had good intentions as an honourable foreigner. BTW - I've spent a lot of time in Palawan and know Port Barton well. People like him give foreigners a bad name.
Age gap is noting but for money and worth
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@@FlyMeToThePhilippines am I right ?
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please explain your thoughts further @tenzinchoegyal4067, it sounds like you have an interesting perspective.
Someone has obviously had a bad experience. Don’t judge us all based on what happened to you.
My worry is that an 18yo will change alot personality wise as she developed...I appreciate your thought process Rob and Chrissy!!
I would have the same concern
I'm going to share this vid with my American Expat ex-friend. I'm in the exact same situation with his daughter and he is really angry to the point of threats. I'm praying he'll be open with his daughter and I. We love each other, so I don't see a problem.
Good luck, Paul And. Thanks for watching our video.
I am 60 years young but I would NEVER date a 18 yr old girl , for me she would have to be 28 to 38 educated Filipina woman and hope it happens someday soon
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If she’s legal who are we to say anything. Good luck to him.
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Didn't 20 something Anna Nicole Smith marry an late 80s old man?
Yes, but she was Playboy Playmate.
George, that was a crazy story
@@dzikijohnny Still a 60 or so age gap
Yeah, but she was as pure as the driven slush
Great as usual !!!!!
Thank you! Cheers!
Did he request a cenomar on her? Better safe than sorry. Cenomar is the #1 thing to request if you are going to date a Filipina.
No, he didn’t but obviously he will need one if he does decide to marry her
@FlyMeToThePhilippines CENOMAR should be inquired long before marriage.
Should be inquired in early datimg stage, to prove she is of correct age and not allready married.
It can have detrimental consequenves if she is allready married (and her husband decides to blackmail for money), or if she is under 16 years old... then can become jailtime.
(If american, then the sexual age limit is 18 year in the ph. So if dates+ a 17,x year old in the ph... it can get very messy very soon if anyone complains).
@@paulruano1903 I've probably watched 50+ phillipines videos and never heard of CENOMAR. Sounds like a background check for marriage in PH?
@BradleyT2p2 its a public record certificate. Each person in the ph has a seperate file with their CENOMAR record.
It has updated information about that person age, civilstatus (marriage, single, etc), etc.
Its public record, so you can contact the gov agemcy to extract her public revord.
Or easier would be to get her to show you;)
So that is yoir 1st line of "defence" against married people and against undrragr women.
Both which could get you into serious problems.
Of you involve yourself with a married woman... the legal spouse could file a case against her and you. Leading to hefty fines and even jailtime.
Very few file a legal casr.
But simce your a "juicy" target you may end up being blackmailed and extorted for money.
Age gaps were common practice all over till 90s 2000s
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Love the show and synergy between both of you. Topics are definitely of interest... and love that fox tail palm behind you swaying away and takes me to that song Sway. Cheers
Thanks for your support
Number 2. I am a 61 year old Florida man, sitting in a hotel room in Phoenix, flying to the Philippines tomorrow and not looking for a young girl!
Safe travels and best of luck
Same 37 exactly
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Hi my name is Antonio Perez a women 18 To 19 Years Old is a women in the USA and you don't need permission at all sincerely yours Truly Antonio Perez
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Im around your age if that makes any difference?
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Rob, someone gave you incomplete information, same as I was told. Age of 12 not true to adults over 18. I later learned it refers to other minors who can have sex with a girl when she reaches 12. Balance of what you said appears correct. A lawyer who is a guest on a very successful respectful channel explained the real laws and history in the Philippines. Minors in public seen by the public can report a minor who seen with adult male. Charges by police can occur just being together! Lawyer on other channel explained when police will allow minor to be adult male. It is very protective laws which can seem draconian actually to immigrants. There is no way adults can have sex with 12 year old in the Philippines without parents' consent legally.
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@FlyMeToThePhilippines Just like we all face risk of arrest while dating a married woman in Philippines, we also can face danger of arrest just for walking down the street with a minor alone who may be just be a daughter of our girlfriend. A good cop quickly should sort out no issues or problem exists, but often hours at police station after arrest on the street occurs they secure enough information to suggest or prove you innocent. The law has the best intentions obviously to protect children, but often jealous persons can use it to create stress for immigrants dating a filipina.
What are his children thinking about him?
Not sure? He said his son was ok and had not told his daughter
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines he is tactical smart to tell his son and not his daughter😀
Sign me up!
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your 68 years old you look like you're in your early 50s you could pass for 50 years old easy.
I read this out loud to my friends. We all enjoyed it especially me ❤️🙏👍
The age gap is not really the concerning part here. The most disturbing thing is the lack of respect to an 18 year old's virginity. To go to a foreign country and take a recently turned 18 year old's virginity while meeting her conservative family needs to be handled with more respect. Going to sleep with 2 other women only days later , because you will be bored, while she has to go to high school during the day is not showing respect to the woman at all. Especially as it is insinuated that he was not truthful about what he was doing. Taking an 18 yr old's virginity and then being deceptive about where you are going and what you are doing days later. Anytime half truths or lack of full honesty is used in the beginning of a relationship , it sets up a fragile foundation to a long term one. If one is not honest and open in their intention, and actions, especially with an 18 year who does not have the experience to be aware of these things is very disheartening to hear. I wish them both the best and happiness but I feel the situation should have been handled with more respect to the woman and her family. I am pretty confident the family nor the woman would have given up her virginity to someone knowing they had plans or possibility on visiting and sleeping with 2 more women within the next couple days or weeks.
Tourist till we marry
Well written comment thanks for sharing your thoughts
I'm afraid this video is eventually going to get back to his 18 year old fiance, then what? She is going to find out that he went to meet two other women. That may be the end of his relationship with the 18 year old.
Possibly
If he made love to her at 18 then later slept with another. There is something wrong here. Emotionally, a persons congnative emotional state is not fully developed until the age of 25. He better be totally upright with her from here on out.
He says that he is and will
How about Anna Nicole Smith ?
Yes, I missed her
Have you watched on RUclips, FOREIGNER IN THE PHILIPPINES? They've been in a marriage for 10 years. Their ages right now is he's 85 and she's age 35. So a 50 year age gap.
I’ll have to check it out
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines They're actually a cute couple. Especially when they give advice to someone who wrote them about their problems.
I watch that channel as well, yes they are a cute couple, and you can tell she is completely devoted to him as a wife!
I'm 65 and I don't think I could bring myself to touch an 18 year old. Not because of lack of attraction, but because it just wouldn't feel right for me. I say that without judging people who would bite the apple but such a girl could be my grand daughter. I would feel like I were depriving her of her youth. On top of that she would be a widow before the age of 40. What kind of prospects would I be giving such a girl?
Thanks for sharing those well considered words