By making these accessible videos you are not only throwing out a life line to the many of us struggling to keep our head above water but also you teach us how to build our own boat , and have some directions for how to steer it toward a place we want to go. What a gift , it has to come from an extraordinarily compassionate heart. Thank you for your huge gift - It is a comfort to know there are caring and impactful people like you. God bless you
Emotional regulation is a process: 1) identify: what emotion it is. Notice them, check them in, name them. Feel into them. 2) pause: calm body and mind instead of jumping to solutions to make the emotions go away. 3) explore: what is the function and purpose of this emotion. What is this emotion trying to tell you. Check cognitive distortions, distorted ways of thinking that make it hard to see our emotions 4) choose: what to do with these emotions. Take action, practice acceptance, etc Emotional processing is a skill that can be learned Emotions are deeper than thoughts or behaviors
I've been asking my different therapists over the years what "processing" your emotions means (they kept telling me I wasn't doing it and needed to) but none of them could give me an explanation that made sense. Your analogy actually makes sense to me, and I feel like such a weight lifted off of me just being able to understand this one thing that has eluded me for so long. Thank you!!!!!
I find it very hard to control my emotions. I get very angry! & Annoyed. & I have a lot of sadness but don't let tears come out much. I've a lot of grief & loss. Also dealt with a lot of huge stuff. Most of the time I don't control my emotions& they are always strong
I just wanted to say how grateful I am for your work and videos. Over the last year I have been dealing with depression and anxiety, and your channel has given me a lot of tools to manage my emotions and understand my feelings better. Please keep helping others the way you do! Greetings from Spain!
"In that moment that little girl learned that her emotion is dangerous , u r not suuposed to have them , u need to supress them or u will get into trouble , so many of us have been taught that emotions r dangerous , that u r not supposed to have tham , u need to push them down or u will get into trouble", .. thank u for that realization 🙏💛
Man I was never allowed to have emotions growing up. Trying to convince my brain it's safe to do so is certainly a challenge. Thankfully I love challenges 😁
Me neither. It has caused me horrendous anxiety - shoved everything down, avoided everything until I couldn’t anymore and I had a breakdown. I feel as though I have relived every experience I’ve ever had and I’ve felt all the emotions I should have had at the time. It has been overwhelming. I’m not through it yet, it has been years and I am exhausted 🥵
@@mithalisanghvi140 it takes time. I had to learn to trust, that was a biggie for me, to accept that not everyone was nasty or hurtful and that we could have differences of opinion without name calling and also to understand that emotions and feelings are actually healthy and not something to run away from. It is challenging but give yourself permission to sit with the feeling, cry if you need to and allow yourself to heal 🙏🏻
Thankyou, I do remember being told that if I didn’t stop crying, that I would be given something to cry about. It would be easy to blame my parents but they had their own issues to deal with, as their own parents were flawed humans too. Thankyou for the inciteful video.
listen, its really good that you're empathetic about your parents feelings too but you can both acknowledge that and hold them accountable for their actions. No matter how much trauma they went through, it isn't okay to justify their actions like that. Its okay to validate your feelings too
I watched all 30 over the past weeks, and then I found this intro. 😂 I’ll watch all 30 again and again until I get ‘there’. From the bottom of my heart and traumatized emotion processing system, I want to thank you for the help you offer. 💝
That little girl you talked about was me. :( I am just now learning to process my emotions in a healthy way. I have a feeling that COVID was the last straw that broke an unleashed anxiety on me. Years worth of unprocessed emotions that I buried or ignored. I hope that this time of isolation will be helpful for me and for anyone going through anxiety.
I've realized just how much I've had to suppress my emotions in the work place to seem 'professional'. The amount of times I would sit at my desk literally biting my lip to stop myself from crying. My new motto for this year is "express instead of suppress". I'm trying to let myself just feel whatever comes up. I also think as a kid, it was easy for adults to tell me that I was being 'bad' if I expressed anger, and I only saw unhealthy anger in the adults around me. As a 30 year old now, I get anxious anytime I feel angry and I have to remind myself that it is okay to feel angry.
The bad part is only on RUclips can I find genuinely passionate helpful therapists like you. In reality most therapist and even psychiatrists can be petty and combative and just way too personal and not professional, which then everyone says well they're just humans too. If you have a deeply chaotic past they either don't believe you or accuse you of embellishing, and eventually conclude you are a story teller, and just a real lack of beleif in your words. Good doctors only exist on digital screens for entertainment.
Just wanted to say thanks so much for your generosity offering this course for free given how the content is so complex and I imagine breaking it all down to explain would have taken so much effort.
Omg I’ve been feeling so anxious and depressed. Tried other programs, books etc and nothing was working. You’re the first person who is saying things differently and it works. Thank God for this, thank you so much.
Well, that's a therapist I respect. By making those videos, she is not just helping countless people to improve their lives. She is also raising her skills as a therapist. Making videos about your work, helps you to refresh your knowledge and even improve it. And it also shows that she knows what she is doing. If I would chose to go to a therapist, I would certainly prefer one that goes the same route.
i think one important thing is to react to things very early. one big difference i saw in school with those who got bullied and those who didnt were those who confronted the bullies almost right away and those who just let it go on and on and on. same things goes with everything you have to attack it early. otherwise it spreads like a cancer.
4 years! And you’re so cute, you thanked us! Thank you!!!!! You are saving and bettering lives out here and spreading your own brand of light- thank youuuu sweet girl
Wow you are a humanitarian. I never learned any of this stuff growing up... and now as a parent I want to make sure my kids grow up knowing how to process feelings. Thank you.
I am really excited about the course on Processing my Emotions. The tools sound very helpful. So happy you're offering this on your RUclips Channel. Thank you so much.
@@TherapyinaNutshell my Dr told me about your videos 2 mths ago, I've been meaning to look this up since the day after she told me back the 9th of April. Thank you for your info, I'll watch all your videos. It's 2am now so just the rest of this for now. I watched black& white thinking before this. That's how I think. I have depression & anxiety for a long time, over 20 yrs
Thank you. After 30 plus years of therapy I've never learned skills like this. It's just something that's not regularly taught. I need to buy the whole course. Thank you
Loved your fish analogy. It made me realize too that by letting it go too long before addressing the problem it not only creates other problems (not being able to work like you mentioned etc.) but it's SO much harder to clean up and get all the stink out. Thank you - I'm very much looking forward to this course!!
I came across your podcast episodes and I can’t believe you have a RUclips channel with videos for free. This is amazing, this is life changing information
Thank you Emma, and Therapy in a Nutshell supporters! I know this isn’t a *substitution* for official counseling help but I think it will really benefit many people
Before you react emotionally, stop and think about what you want to say. Sometimes you'll have to step away from the situation for a moment in order to collect your thoughts and calm down. Write down your emotions. A healthy way to deal with your emotions at work is to put them into writing✔
I just found you. Omg. You have given me hope. I thought you processed emotions by feeling it for a “minute,” making a decision about it, then moving on. What I’ve learned is that worked for a lot of crap. It is not working for losing both my parents after having them 54 years. I also connected with a therapist TODAY who when asked her philosophy on mind body connection got excited…there is basically no other way. I had no idea I couldn’t talk my body into calming down even though I’ve tried grounding. Now that I know it’s from the bottom up, I get it! It’s been a banner day for me in this spiral down and today it took an upturn, in large part to your work here. Thank you very humbly. 🙏
Principle 1: Emotion regulation is a process Principle 2 : Emotion processing is a skill Principle 3 : Emotions are deeper than thoughts and behaviours The emotions procees :- 1) Identify 2) Pause 3) Explore 4) Choose
The knowledge you're sharing is so empowering! Thank you for all that work you're doing. You're making the world a better place. Not just for us who follow you but because with better mental health we have more space for others. It all ripples out...
I’m starting to notice that me not being able to process my emotions has a negative effect on great relationships. The fish processing factory was a great analogy to help me begin.
I found you and shared to everyone who I thought might need it. I'm just stepping into my journey here and I'm not quite ready to jump into therapy. This channel has given me countless tools to start and to see the community you have built, makes me feel not so alone. Thank you from the bottom to the top of my heart ♥
Hey I just wanna say... I am so incredibly grateful for you making this course 💜 I'm in therapy for anxiety, depression and trauma RIGHT NOW, but just by itself isn't helping me enough... & I feel like your content over all (but esp this course) is GREAT on itself, but especially next to already ongoing therapy. Honestly I wish you could also be my irl therapist, as the way you explain stuff and talk just resonates SO.MUCH.BETTER with me than how my therapist explains things. You're so empathic and non judgemental. It really resonates well with me. I'm so glad I found your channel (ironically through a (rather basic and not that helpful) video on neuroplasticity my psych send me) & I cannot express enough gratitude for sharing these things for free, as I am pretty poor and couldn't afford it otherwise... 🙏💜
I've already watched a couple videos from this playlist. Now I'm watching the playlist in sequence, one video each day. Dropping this comment to express my gratitude and loyalty. 💕🌿✨
Thank you so much...... I'm having a hard time. Thank you for sharing gift! May God continually bless you! You are so right we can change our lives with our words. This subconscious mind programming is serious stuff and I am glad to begin the clean up.💙💙💙🤗
Thank you for giving these videos for free. I need to develop these skills and haven't heard them detailed out in practical ways. I'm looking forward to seeing them all.
I love how happy you are at the end of this video. That’s how I feel when I have poignant moments with my second graders as we read together and talk about life.
Thank you so much for posting the 30 main skills!!! Coz I never learnt how to process my emotions I keep draining people around me by talking it out yet you are giving me so much insight I can't wait to binge your videos and take notes.
thank you very much, what you are doing is very noble, especially when mental health is such a taboo in many countries, it isn't possible for a lot of people to access psychiatric or even general therapy. It is really a blessing to be able to get help through internet without any conditions or charges. You are really doing a great job!
thanks for the vid! i just want to say that the old habits of eating/avoiding feelings aren't always bad. and they might be the most effective skills that our brain can think of at that time. and i kinda got the message that my skills are always bad... so for anyone out there who is thinking that they're at fault for not doing the right thing, you're not doing anything wrong, and you're not alone
I'm really really thankful for you providing these essential informations out here. I've been dealing with avoidant attachment for the past years and now that I've identified it, I want to try and walk towards the right path. It goes for true that emotions are us, without them we're nothing.
You are of the few therapists on RUclips that I like. The way you talk to us is so compassive, treating as something normal, the way you express yourself is so human and you feel more like a "calming companion" instead of a "knowing-it- all professional" your explanation are on point
This is only the introduction video but I'm already crying a lot. I have never felt so heard and seen before. Thank you so much for this. You're saving so many lives!
There is great hope in knowing that working through emotions is a skill that can be learned and that not knowing how to process them in a healthy way is not due to some inherent deficiency.
Hello! I‘ve always had a very intense emotional world inside of me. I always was told that I am too much to deal with and have been hurt very often throughout my life. And especially the last few months I started to lose my rebellious attitude and started to bow for everyone. But now I‘ve realised that there are so many beautiful emotions inside of me and I want to accept them again. I‘m going to watch one video of this playlist a day and I‘m really happy that you put these videos out there!
Great! I love that you've been working on them for four years and you're ready to share them and you're excited; Mission Accomplished! Proud and Excited!
Thank you for offering the videos from this course on RUclips, Emma. I have watched all 34 and have taken notes that I re-read and have regularly used the writing prompts mentioned. This has helped me to practice identifying and processing emotions as I strive to release trauma that has been stored in my body for decades. I have learned so much in a relatively short amount of time! I am so grateful for your gift of explaining complex concepts in very understandable terms, for your help in applying these concepts, and for your obvious caring and generous nature. Thank you so very much.
I can't thank you enough for what you are doing! Please keep doing so! You are saving lives! Sometimes big emotions can be so so so hard to handle and that's why i say that you are saving lives! Thank you so so so much! Anytime i find myself in big trouble or someone else in trouble i refer to you or suggest them to watch your playlists! Anytime i feel where to go! I know where to go! It is coming back here that helps! Thank you so so so so so so much!!!!!!!!!!!!😭❤😭❤😭❤😭❤😭❤😭❤😭❤
I am super happy too. I have increasing depression and no one good takes Medicare. I already shot myself in January 2021. So I am trying to help myself w/o overload and w/o supporting family members. Thank you so much Emma.
it’s taken me a long time of faulty emotional regulation to start discovering the correct processes. i often forget what i’ve learned bc i doubt myself. it is so nice to hear someone voicing the feelings i’ve had and providing support for developing adaptive behaviors thank you for how clearly and comfortingly you expressed your expertise
Same! When I learned something valuable and helpful for my severe anxiety, I forget those things and I go back to scrap some lessons I learned and those I forgot. This is the effect of having anxiety and doubt 🥲
I went to a psychologist for 3 years and did a lot of talking. She did talk therapy. Very little was taught to me about processing emotions. Little about coping skills. So I look forward to learning more in this course.
I can’t believe I found this video… You speak about all the problems that make me think I’m destined to hurt people and better stay alone. That I’m unable to love or treat somebody bad. I want to feel as much as posible.
Over the years i have read/researched and learnt many skills around the focus of helping people deal with emotions and self regulation and to help those heal from the "gifts" of the past. Your course and generosity by placing the course free on RUclips and also making the course affordable to all those that want to learn more is truly inspirational. Bless you and and a big heart felt/sent thank you
Thank you for working so hard for many years to not only prepare but then share these amazing knowledge here on RUclips. I am thankful to have you input into my life and am looking forward to see changes in my life and in others when I share what I have learnt . Once again, thank you.
Thank you for sharing this information. I was suffering one of the worst panic attacks in my life induced by alcohol abuse. I was woken out of my sleep by a hallucination of a fork dropping on the ground and hearing a voice tell me they were coming for me. Then I slipped into sleep paralysis which I wrestled out of through prayer.
Thank you! Your videos help people in a country where therapy is just begining not to be a tabu anymore (Romania), is quite expensive and therapists need to learn your kind oh approach, i even send your RUclips channel to my therapist. Thank you, you helped me a lot in the past year with my anxiety and depression. I do have medical suport for my problems :) keep on going the good job!
What an incredible offering 💗 Thank you so much for a) working so diligently on this, b) making it so easy to understand, and c) making it so freely accessible. Many many blessings to you 💗🙏
Thanks so much for creating this course. I'm excited to get started. I know that a course like this isn't a substitute for therapy but making information like this accessible allows so many people to have better mental health. I greatly appreciate you creating this
You'll never fully know how much your passion project is helping people. I appreciate the work you are doing so much. It has helped me tremendously. I'm often either offing the tools I learned from you to anyone struggling or pointing them to your videos if they need more. So even when they haven't seen you or know who you are your work is still helping them. Thank you so much.
Coming across your channel was a sign lol I love these they’re amazing and relaxing! I definitely didn’t grow up expressing emotions or having that emotional connection with my parents. But now as an adult and currently in therapy myself, it’s been tough learning how to be vulnerable and expressing my emotions in a healthier way and just not running away from it. Thank you for you this! 🙏🏽🦋
I learned something already from your intro video! Thank you so much for making this course free and available for anyone. You are a huge blessing to me and to a lot of people ❤️
I'm so happy to find these videos. My mom bragged about "breaking" me when I was little so she could control me. Basically, it numbed me towards emotions for the rest of my life. I'm in my 50s now and just figuring out why I'm different and broken. Its time to change that.
Ms Emma, I saw many videos related to this but your channel is best one, I really like your videos as I am also learning psychotherapy, it's scientific and interesting too!! I will love to learn from you. - from India!
Listening to this introduction made me realize how much I’ve learned to suppress my emotions through the years. I always knew, but I feel like I have a better understanding on the effects on the mind as well as how the body involuntarily responds and causes further derailing when trying to connect with others. Thank you so much for creating this course! I can’t wait to get started ❤️
I enjoy your insight and engaging manners You make this hard work. And I mean work Manageable, processing emotions is really hard when you have never been taught how to Thank you for all the work you do to educate us your audience
Just had an idea... Being numb emotionally after trauma.... its functional managment of the huge loads of negative emotions. Society does not allow emotions at work, at the store, even many families do not allow emotions. Oh, and even in relationships, where emotions are allowed, when there are a lot of them (I mean too too many emotions) no relatively normal person in normal life can manage that many emotions from their loved one. One of the therapists Ive been to - went to her for a year before she retired.... she said to me, that once I begin processing my emotions from my bad and traumatic childhood and from the toxicity in my family of origin, i will never stop crying. And this has proved to be so true - I tear up frequently (outside work) and sometimes even sob for a few minutes and then feel better. The majority of relatively normal people never get it and dont have the time to listen to all of it, so we are destined to go to therapy because that is the only place that we can really share our story in full. And sharing is 50% of the healing process.
Thanks a lot , Emma , for sharing your wisdom in such a natural and down-to earth way. I am sure your teachings make a great impact on a lot of people´s lives. All the best for you and your family.
Thank you so much for this video. I have gained the courage to fire my therapist and look for a new one. I was asking for help and coping skills and dealing with emotions, but when I asked I was told that therapists "aren't supposed to tell you how to live your life". I'm not asking for you to make decisions for me, I'm asking for help to process trauma and emotions in a healthy manor. Me just talking and hearing pretty much no feedback isn't working, it isn't helping. I feel like I have to do all the work myself and it is so stressful. Again thank you for the tips, and confirming my suspicion that I could get more help. (A lot of my trauma was gaslighting, and being told I was wrong).
Thank you so much for this huge, valuable resource - for free. You are so generous. I really love your humble, real, reassuring tone coupled with your wealth of knowledge. So many of these topics hit me right where I need to do work. Thanks again.
Check out the full How to Process Your Emotions course, and 7 other courses, in our membership: courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership
does this link to your courses? i cannot find you through this link, when i search for "emotions' or "therapy in a nutshell"
Yes me either it just goes to the people who sponsored your channel
I’m not sure whether it would be beneficial for me to do the course due to my situation? Can you please read my comment and let me know possibly? ✨👍🏻
Link doesnt follow
She added it in the video description,
therapyinanutshell.teachable.com/p/emotion-processing
By making these accessible videos you are not only throwing out a life line to the many of us struggling to keep our head above water but also you teach us how to build our own boat , and have some directions for how to steer it toward a place we want to go. What a gift , it has to come from an extraordinarily compassionate heart. Thank you for your huge gift - It is a comfort to know there are caring and impactful people like you. God bless you
Well said. I agree with you 100%
I concur wholeheartedly
@@MM-qz9bl if you dunno that maybe you don't need this and should not waste your time
This comment ☝️🙏
@@MM-qz9bl be extremely thankful that you don’t know what it feels like to need this video
Emotional regulation is a process:
1) identify: what emotion it is. Notice them, check them in, name them. Feel into them.
2) pause: calm body and mind instead of jumping to solutions to make the emotions go away.
3) explore: what is the function and purpose of this emotion. What is this emotion trying to tell you. Check cognitive distortions, distorted ways of thinking that make it hard to see our emotions
4) choose: what to do with these emotions. Take action, practice acceptance, etc
Emotional processing is a skill that can be learned
Emotions are deeper than thoughts or behaviors
Thanks for the summary :))
Thank you. I just added this to my notes. :)
Thank you for your kindness. ❤
Thank you.
You cannot process emotions.
Emotions process you.
Overcome your emotions to be free to live your life.
It's things like this that change the world for the better. Thank you so much for making this accessible. I refer you to everyone!! lol
Every day I pray that I can do good in the world! I hope this helps!
You are a blessing!
Ditto....Sharing is caring ❤. Thank you for all that you do
@@TherapyinaNutshell God bless you, dear! 🙏🤍
I've been asking my different therapists over the years what "processing" your emotions means (they kept telling me I wasn't doing it and needed to) but none of them could give me an explanation that made sense. Your analogy actually makes sense to me, and I feel like such a weight lifted off of me just being able to understand this one thing that has eluded me for so long. Thank you!!!!!
The fact that you're making these videos is literally saving lives. You are an amazing human being, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I find it very hard to control my emotions. I get very angry! & Annoyed. & I have a lot of sadness but don't let tears come out much. I've a lot of grief & loss. Also dealt with a lot of huge stuff. Most of the time I don't control my emotions& they are always strong
Yes!
Thank you Thank you Thank you. You turned my life around.
Fr, literally, because I can’t afford therapy and I NEED this.
Life skills like these should be part of the school curriculum from early on. xx
I just wanted to say how grateful I am for your work and videos. Over the last year I have been dealing with depression and anxiety, and your channel has given me a lot of tools to manage my emotions and understand my feelings better. Please keep helping others the way you do! Greetings from Spain!
Thanks Marta! I wish I could visit you! Spain sounds amazing!
Same here! 🙏💜
hola vecina! I'm in Madrid and am also greatly enjoying the series. Thanks to TIAN!
Ditto!!!
Yes I agree ❤
"In that moment that little girl learned that her emotion is dangerous , u r not suuposed to have them , u need to supress them or u will get into trouble ,
so many of us have been taught that emotions r dangerous , that u r not supposed to have tham , u need to push them down or u will get into trouble",
.. thank u for that realization 🙏💛
Man I was never allowed to have emotions growing up. Trying to convince my brain it's safe to do so is certainly a challenge. Thankfully I love challenges 😁
Me neither. It has caused me horrendous anxiety - shoved everything down, avoided everything until I couldn’t anymore and I had a breakdown. I feel as though I have relived every experience I’ve ever had and I’ve felt all the emotions I should have had at the time. It has been overwhelming. I’m not through it yet, it has been years and I am exhausted 🥵
@kathryn4916 @kiracrowley9150 were you guys emotionally unavailable?? If yes, how did you break free of it ?
@@mithalisanghvi140 it takes time. I had to learn to trust, that was a biggie for me, to accept that not everyone was nasty or hurtful and that we could have differences of opinion without name calling and also to understand that emotions and feelings are actually healthy and not something to run away from. It is challenging but give yourself permission to sit with the feeling, cry if you need to and allow yourself to heal 🙏🏻
Thankyou, I do remember being told that if I didn’t stop crying, that I would be given something to cry about. It would be easy to blame my parents but they had their own issues to deal with, as their own parents were flawed humans too. Thankyou for the inciteful video.
@A.K.A I'm sorry about that!
@A.K.A you are loved no matter what
@A.K.A take care of yourself, both you and your daughter deserve that. Be kind to yourself and seek all the support you need.
listen, its really good that you're empathetic about your parents feelings too but you can both acknowledge that and hold them accountable for their actions. No matter how much trauma they went through, it isn't okay to justify their actions like that. Its okay to validate your feelings too
Processing shame, guilt, anxiety, and depression currently. It’s rough. Thank you for sharing this video. Helped a lot!
I am, too. You are not alone in the slightest. Please, just focus on the present. I am here for you.
This is 15 minutes that surpasses what I’ve learned in therapy sessions in 3 years. Bless you!!
Your really great!! My girlfriend and I watch you everyday!! for the last few days. Your saving our relationship and our family! 🙂👍🙂👍
I watched all 30 over the past weeks, and then I found this intro. 😂
I’ll watch all 30 again and again until I get ‘there’. From the bottom of my heart and traumatized emotion processing system, I want to thank you for the help you offer. 💝
That little girl you talked about was me. :(
I am just now learning to process my emotions in a healthy way. I have a feeling that COVID was the last straw that broke an unleashed anxiety on me. Years worth of unprocessed emotions that I buried or ignored. I hope that this time of isolation will be helpful for me and for anyone going through anxiety.
❤️
O gosh, your my twin, lol........SAME!!!!!
Yasssss!!! That last straw. Time to process.
Hope you're doing well 🎄
You don't have an idea how helpful this is. God bless you
Watching this in 2024 when I need it the most
Eating something is my go to reaction too. I feel ya, lol
My sense of taste is not what it used to be.... so eating doesn't do the trick like it used to.😕 Guess I'll be tuning in to learn new skills.
Same
i see your comments everywheree 😭😦we do be watching the same stuff LMAO9
I've realized just how much I've had to suppress my emotions in the work place to seem 'professional'. The amount of times I would sit at my desk literally biting my lip to stop myself from crying.
My new motto for this year is "express instead of suppress". I'm trying to let myself just feel whatever comes up.
I also think as a kid, it was easy for adults to tell me that I was being 'bad' if I expressed anger, and I only saw unhealthy anger in the adults around me. As a 30 year old now, I get anxious anytime I feel angry and I have to remind myself that it is okay to feel angry.
Thanks for sharing! It's something about your calm voice. It comes across so non-judgmental!
Yes, your way of speaking, calm and earnest and soothing plus a smile here and there helps make you real, open and welcoming.
The bad part is only on RUclips can I find genuinely passionate helpful therapists like you. In reality most therapist and even psychiatrists can be petty and combative and just way too personal and not professional, which then everyone says well they're just humans too. If you have a deeply chaotic past they either don't believe you or accuse you of embellishing, and eventually conclude you are a story teller, and just a real lack of beleif in your words. Good doctors only exist on digital screens for entertainment.
Just wanted to say thanks so much for your generosity offering this course for free given how the content is so complex and I imagine breaking it all down to explain would have taken so much effort.
Omg I’ve been feeling so anxious and depressed. Tried other programs, books etc and nothing was working. You’re the first person who is saying things differently and it works. Thank God for this, thank you so much.
Im so thankful that you created this course! There was a point where I didn’t have insurance and couldn’t afford to receive therapy. Truly a blessing!
Oh wow! The first time I experienced “running away” feeling but didn’t let my emotions escape.
Well, that's a therapist I respect.
By making those videos, she is not just helping countless people to improve their lives.
She is also raising her skills as a therapist. Making videos about your work, helps you to refresh your knowledge and even improve it.
And it also shows that she knows what she is doing.
If I would chose to go to a therapist, I would certainly prefer one that goes the same route.
You're like an angel for producing this series, thank you so much. I'm so looking forward to this.
i think one important thing is to react to things very early. one big difference i saw in school with those who got bullied and those who didnt were those who confronted the bullies almost right away and those who just let it go on and on and on. same things goes with everything you have to attack it early. otherwise it spreads like a cancer.
yes!!! Part of knowing your boundaries. I learnt that the hard way. Spot on.
Wow! This is what I needed. I do not know how to deal with emotions. God gives us what we need exactly when we need it. God bless you!
Remember, you only get out of it what you put into it practice the process
4 years! And you’re so cute, you thanked us! Thank you!!!!! You are saving and bettering lives out here and spreading your own brand of light- thank youuuu sweet girl
Wow you are a humanitarian. I never learned any of this stuff growing up... and now as a parent I want to make sure my kids grow up knowing how to process feelings. Thank you.
I am really excited about the course on Processing my Emotions. The tools sound very helpful. So happy you're offering this on your RUclips
Channel. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome!
@@TherapyinaNutshell my Dr told me about your videos 2 mths ago, I've been meaning to look this up since the day after she told me back the 9th of April. Thank you for your info, I'll watch all your videos. It's 2am now so just the rest of this for now. I watched black& white thinking before this.
That's how I think. I have depression & anxiety for a long time, over 20 yrs
@@19783008ful God bless you ❤️
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You're an angel for doing this and probably can't even imagine how many people you help. To say thank you is not enough. God bless you!
Thank you. After 30 plus years of therapy I've never learned skills like this. It's just something that's not regularly taught. I need to buy the whole course. Thank you
Loved your fish analogy. It made me realize too that by letting it go too long before addressing the problem it not only creates other problems (not being able to work like you mentioned etc.) but it's SO much harder to clean up and get all the stink out. Thank you - I'm very much looking forward to this course!!
I came across your podcast episodes and I can’t believe you have a RUclips channel with videos for free. This is amazing, this is life changing information
Thank you Emma, and Therapy in a Nutshell supporters! I know this isn’t a *substitution* for official counseling help but I think it will really benefit many people
Before you react emotionally, stop and think about what you want to say. Sometimes you'll have to step away from the situation for a moment in order to collect your thoughts and calm down. Write down your emotions. A healthy way to deal with your emotions at work is to put them into writing✔
that's true
Which is why journaling is also very helpful
I just found you. Omg. You have given me hope. I thought you processed emotions by feeling it for a “minute,” making a decision about it, then moving on. What I’ve learned is that worked for a lot of crap. It is not working for losing both my parents after having them 54 years. I also connected with a therapist TODAY who when asked her philosophy on mind body connection got excited…there is basically no other way. I had no idea I couldn’t talk my body into calming down even though I’ve tried grounding. Now that I know it’s from the bottom up, I get it! It’s been a banner day for me in this spiral down and today it took an upturn, in large part to your work here. Thank you very humbly. 🙏
Principle 1: Emotion regulation is a process
Principle 2 : Emotion processing is a skill
Principle 3 : Emotions are deeper than thoughts and behaviours
The emotions procees :-
1) Identify
2) Pause
3) Explore
4) Choose
The knowledge you're sharing is so empowering! Thank you for all that work you're doing. You're making the world a better place. Not just for us who follow you but because with better mental health we have more space for others. It all ripples out...
I’m starting to notice that me not being able to process my emotions has a negative effect on great relationships. The fish processing factory was a great analogy to help me begin.
I found you and shared to everyone who I thought might need it. I'm just stepping into my journey here and I'm not quite ready to jump into therapy. This channel has given me countless tools to start and to see the community you have built, makes me feel not so alone. Thank you from the bottom to the top of my heart ♥
Hey I just wanna say... I am so incredibly grateful for you making this course 💜
I'm in therapy for anxiety, depression and trauma RIGHT NOW, but just by itself isn't helping me enough... & I feel like your content over all (but esp this course) is GREAT on itself, but especially next to already ongoing therapy.
Honestly I wish you could also be my irl therapist, as the way you explain stuff and talk just resonates SO.MUCH.BETTER with me than how my therapist explains things. You're so empathic and non judgemental. It really resonates well with me.
I'm so glad I found your channel (ironically through a (rather basic and not that helpful) video on neuroplasticity my psych send me) & I cannot express enough gratitude for sharing these things for free, as I am pretty poor and couldn't afford it otherwise...
🙏💜
I've already watched a couple videos from this playlist.
Now I'm watching the playlist in sequence, one video each day.
Dropping this comment to express my gratitude and loyalty. 💕🌿✨
Thank you so much...... I'm having a hard time. Thank you for sharing gift! May God continually bless you! You are so right we can change our lives with our words. This subconscious mind programming is serious stuff and I am glad to begin the clean up.💙💙💙🤗
Thank you for giving these videos for free. I need to develop these skills and haven't heard them detailed out in practical ways. I'm looking forward to seeing them all.
I love how happy you are at the end of this video. That’s how I feel when I have poignant moments with my second graders as we read together and talk about life.
Thank you so much for posting the 30 main skills!!! Coz I never learnt how to process my emotions I keep draining people around me by talking it out yet you are giving me so much insight I can't wait to binge your videos and take notes.
thank you very much, what you are doing is very noble, especially when mental health is such a taboo in many countries, it isn't possible for a lot of people to access psychiatric or even general therapy. It is really a blessing to be able to get help through internet without any conditions or charges. You are really doing a great job!
How lucky for us that we get to benefit from your 4 year experience and practice here. Thank you is not enough!
thanks for the vid! i just want to say that the old habits of eating/avoiding feelings aren't always bad. and they might be the most effective skills that our brain can think of at that time. and i kinda got the message that my skills are always bad... so for anyone out there who is thinking that they're at fault for not doing the right thing, you're not doing anything wrong, and you're not alone
So excited to start this course! Thank you for making it available for free. I'm deeply grateful. 💐😊
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I'm really really thankful for you providing these essential informations out here. I've been dealing with avoidant attachment for the past years and now that I've identified it, I want to try and walk towards the right path. It goes for true that emotions are us, without them we're nothing.
You are of the few therapists on RUclips that I like. The way you talk to us is so compassive, treating as something normal, the way you express yourself is so human and you feel more like a "calming companion" instead of a "knowing-it- all professional" your explanation are on point
This is only the introduction video but I'm already crying a lot. I have never felt so heard and seen before. Thank you so much for this. You're saving so many lives!
This means alot to me, especially bc it's free and accessible. Thank you for creating and uploading your course.
There is great hope in knowing that working through emotions is a skill that can be learned and that not knowing how to process them in a healthy way is not due to some inherent deficiency.
Hello! I‘ve always had a very intense emotional world inside of me. I always was told that I am too much to deal with and have been hurt very often throughout my life. And especially the last few months I started to lose my rebellious attitude and started to bow for everyone. But now I‘ve realised that there are so many beautiful emotions inside of me and I want to accept them again. I‘m going to watch one video of this playlist a day and I‘m really happy that you put these videos out there!
Thank you so much for making these videos free on RUclips!❤❤❤ I wish everyone could have this training!
Great! I love that you've been working on them for four years and you're ready to share them and you're excited; Mission Accomplished! Proud and Excited!
For some, your course is like a ray of sunlight in a cloudy day. Thank you!
Thank you for offering the videos from this course on RUclips, Emma. I have watched all 34 and have taken notes that I re-read and have regularly used the writing prompts mentioned.
This has helped me to practice identifying and processing emotions as I strive to release trauma that has been stored in my body for decades. I have learned so much in a relatively short amount of time! I am so grateful for your gift of explaining complex concepts in very understandable terms, for your help in applying these concepts, and for your obvious caring and generous nature. Thank you so very much.
I can't thank you enough for what you are doing!
Please keep doing so! You are saving lives! Sometimes big emotions can be so so so hard to handle and that's why i say that you are saving lives!
Thank you so so so much!
Anytime i find myself in big trouble or someone else in trouble i refer to you or suggest them to watch your playlists! Anytime i feel where to go! I know where to go! It is coming back here that helps! Thank you so so so so so so much!!!!!!!!!!!!😭❤😭❤😭❤😭❤😭❤😭❤😭❤
I am super happy too. I have increasing depression and no one good takes Medicare. I already shot myself in January 2021. So I am trying to help myself w/o overload and w/o supporting family members. Thank you so much Emma.
I'm already so impressed and interested, and I've only watched the intro video. Thank you for this incredible resource!
it’s taken me a long time of faulty emotional regulation to start discovering the correct processes. i often forget what i’ve learned bc i doubt myself. it is so nice to hear someone voicing the feelings i’ve had and providing support for developing adaptive behaviors
thank you for how clearly and comfortingly you expressed your expertise
Same! When I learned something valuable and helpful for my severe anxiety, I forget those things and I go back to scrap some lessons I learned and those I forgot. This is the effect of having anxiety and doubt 🥲
@@ins4nutty341 yes! it would be such a funny cycle if it weren’t tragic 😅
I went to a psychologist for 3 years and did a lot of talking. She did talk therapy. Very little was taught to me about processing emotions. Little about coping skills.
So I look forward to learning more in this course.
I can’t believe I found this video…
You speak about all the problems that make me think I’m destined to hurt people and better stay alone. That I’m unable to love or treat somebody bad.
I want to feel as much as posible.
Over the years i have read/researched and learnt many skills around the focus of helping people deal with emotions and self regulation and to help those heal from the "gifts" of the past. Your course and generosity by placing the course free on RUclips and also making the course affordable to all those that want to learn more is truly inspirational. Bless you and and a big heart felt/sent thank you
Thank you for working so hard for many years to not only prepare but then share these amazing knowledge here on RUclips. I am thankful to have you input into my life and am looking forward to see changes in my life and in others when I share what I have learnt
. Once again, thank you.
Im learning how to feel again after giving up my addictions. Thanks for posting and helping me with this process.
Thank you for sharing this information. I was suffering one of the worst panic attacks in my life induced by alcohol abuse. I was woken out of my sleep by a hallucination of a fork dropping on the ground and hearing a voice tell me they were coming for me. Then I slipped into sleep paralysis which I wrestled out of through prayer.
Thank you! Your videos help people in a country where therapy is just begining not to be a tabu anymore (Romania), is quite expensive and therapists need to learn your kind oh approach, i even send your RUclips channel to my therapist. Thank you, you helped me a lot in the past year with my anxiety and depression. I do have medical suport for my problems :) keep on going the good job!
What an incredible offering 💗
Thank you so much for a) working so diligently on this, b) making it so easy to understand, and c) making it so freely accessible.
Many many blessings to you 💗🙏
My feelings exactly! Thanks so much for giving of yourself to help others!💜
Thanks Chonel
Well said. Yes, thanks fir the well arranged and presented info.
Thanks so much for creating this course. I'm excited to get started. I know that a course like this isn't a substitute for therapy but making information like this accessible allows so many people to have better mental health. I greatly appreciate you creating this
I’m so glad I found you. I really need therapy, but I can’t afford it right now, so I am watching this series of videos to help me in the meantime. ❤
Just what I needed ❤️ there’s a backlog of stinky fish on my driveway... 😄
yep! for so many of us!
LOL! 😂 Same here
Me too
I just received my workbook. I'm ready. I value all the encouraging comments I've read, helps me feel connected.
Thank you.
Thank you sooooooooooooo much!! You are a wonderful human being for providing all this info for us for free 🙏 So excited to learn and heal
You'll never fully know how much your passion project is helping people. I appreciate the work you are doing so much. It has helped me tremendously. I'm often either offing the tools I learned from you to anyone struggling or pointing them to your videos if they need more. So even when they haven't seen you or know who you are your work is still helping them. Thank you so much.
Coming across your channel was a sign lol I love these they’re amazing and relaxing! I definitely didn’t grow up expressing emotions or having that emotional connection with my parents. But now as an adult and currently in therapy myself, it’s been tough learning how to be vulnerable and expressing my emotions in a healthier way and just not running away from it. Thank you for you this! 🙏🏽🦋
I learned something already from your intro video! Thank you so much for making this course free and available for anyone. You are a huge blessing to me and to a lot of people ❤️
I'm so happy to find these videos. My mom bragged about "breaking" me when I was little so she could control me. Basically, it numbed me towards emotions for the rest of my life. I'm in my 50s now and just figuring out why I'm different and broken. Its time to change that.
Ms Emma, I saw many videos related to this but your channel is best one, I really like your videos as I am also learning psychotherapy, it's scientific and interesting too!! I will love to learn from you. - from India!
Listening to this introduction made me realize how much I’ve learned to suppress my emotions through the years. I always knew, but I feel like I have a better understanding on the effects on the mind as well as how the body involuntarily responds and causes further derailing when trying to connect with others. Thank you so much for creating this course! I can’t wait to get started ❤️
I enjoy your insight and engaging manners
You make this hard work. And I mean work
Manageable, processing emotions is really hard when you have never been taught how to
Thank you for all the work you do to educate us your audience
my D-1 of exploring this course🥺
Thank you for making this one...
now, I need to go over the whole course...😌🥺
I'm excited & scared at the same time..
Thank you for creating these videos and this course, I appreciate it and look forward to learning and growing!!
Just had an idea... Being numb emotionally after trauma.... its functional managment of the huge loads of negative emotions. Society does not allow emotions at work, at the store, even many families do not allow emotions. Oh, and even in relationships, where emotions are allowed, when there are a lot of them (I mean too too many emotions) no relatively normal person in normal life can manage that many emotions from their loved one. One of the therapists Ive been to - went to her for a year before she retired.... she said to me, that once I begin processing my emotions from my bad and traumatic childhood and from the toxicity in my family of origin, i will never stop crying. And this has proved to be so true - I tear up frequently (outside work) and sometimes even sob for a few minutes and then feel better. The majority of relatively normal people never get it and dont have the time to listen to all of it, so we are destined to go to therapy because that is the only place that we can really share our story in full. And sharing is 50% of the healing process.
I agree 👍💯 with everything you said.
Thanks a lot , Emma , for sharing your wisdom in such a natural and down-to earth way. I am sure your teachings make a great impact on a lot of people´s lives.
All the best for you and your family.
Wow! This is absolutely amazing! Thank you so incredibly much for sharing your extensive knowledge and skills. You truly are a gem!
This is wonderful. Thank you so much for making this information accessible. Your passion and dedication to others is a blessing.
I really really hope I do this. And I really really hope that I can do it. I really really hope this works or at least helps.
Do it! one video/15 minutes a week!
I am super excited to find this course and I am sure that after finishing it I am another person. Thank you in advance
Thank you so much for this video. I have gained the courage to fire my therapist and look for a new one. I was asking for help and coping skills and dealing with emotions, but when I asked I was told that therapists "aren't supposed to tell you how to live your life". I'm not asking for you to make decisions for me, I'm asking for help to process trauma and emotions in a healthy manor. Me just talking and hearing pretty much no feedback isn't working, it isn't helping. I feel like I have to do all the work myself and it is so stressful. Again thank you for the tips, and confirming my suspicion that I could get more help. (A lot of my trauma was gaslighting, and being told I was wrong).
Thank you for these videos. My counselor recommended them. I will be sure to go through all of them, and put it to practice.
Thank you for sharing this course for free... This is boon to mankind!❤️
Lots of love and gratitude from India❤️Emma 💙
Thank you so much for this huge, valuable resource - for free. You are so generous. I really love your humble, real, reassuring tone coupled with your wealth of knowledge. So many of these topics hit me right where I need to do work. Thanks again.