This is so important. I am a gay male therapist (in Canada), and I am very fearful due to some of our politicians mimicking the anti-trans rhetoric and policy. I work with lots of transgender clients who are also very understandably fearful. I think we also need to help cis-women understand that many of these policies (bathrooms, change rooms etc.) are also extremely dangerous for them, as a way of coalition building.
They want to pretend the majority dictates the limits for everyone. They turn women into objects and demand people judge each woman's appearance so only those who pass get to pee.
Jamie, the highlight of the week for me was the lesbian bishop saying ever so gently, trans kids are scared and seeing how such genuine words of kindness was like holy water on a vampire seeing the sneering reactions of shady Vance Melania and Tiffany. The truth to power release reminded me of the 1984 macintosh ad
Dr Jamie, Thank you so much. I am trans, 72 now, I knew it in the 50’s, 60’s 70’s, I thought I was pretty much alone. Now I feel like I was cheated out of my life. Even worse is this threat from the political extremist right.
@@DrJamieTalks thanks,, I try to as much as I can. My wife had a severe stroke 3 years ago and is now doing home hospice. I’ve been taking care of her since..Just a little worn out.
@@rickkojetin5139 I’m a 68 yo trans woman “teenager” who takes care of myself, my girlfriend, and two other housemates/friends who are quite disabled. I certainly understand your position and fears. I chant to the Goddess Tara for strength and support. As Doc Jamie can attest, Buddhism can be a very powerful bulwark in these trying times.
I am uneasy! I am 80, have lived through a lot of nonsense about these issues. I have lived with freighful nightmares, imagining what would happen to me if my friends and strangers alike might do to me if I uttered a word about my thoughts. You give me comfort and I hope enough people don't buy into the phobias being expressed! Bless yo🎉u Dr Jamie, help us to understand this madness!❤❤ 💗🩵🤍🩵💗
I understand what you are saying, but meeting a trans person and becoming friends with them. Listening to their point of view and importantly learning about HRT and how it actually worked is genuinely the reason that I decided to experiment with my gender identity at all. Without her I would probably be another sad "cis" boy that didn't know the self love I could attain. I mean I had a secret desire to be a woman since puberty, but I didn't know it was possible with a few pills a day till I was 30. Every story is different. Love ya. Keep fighting. 🖤🏳️⚧️🖤
For many of us, we are unaware of our gender inclinations until we are exposed to mirroring objects (friends, celebrities, others) who display exceptional gender inclinations. Also, many of us initially lack the language to describe our internal experiences, and when we learn new labels/words to describe our experiences, a lightbulb turns on and AH HA! we finally understand ourselves. :-)
In the late '70s Anita Bryant started the perrenial moral panic of "the Children! Save the Children!" There's no reasoning with that knee jerk panic. Its bunk but... hook line and sinker.
Contrapoints has a whole video tying how the Anita Bryant thing mirrors JKRs stuff today. If you like pro trans long format video essays with a lot of production value put into it. Video in question is the "Witch Trials of JKR" one btw.
Dr. Jamie, thanks so much for being a voice out there for us 🏳️⚧️. Voices in support of us seem to be fadding lately. I'm glad that you're still here for us and that you're a voice against the misinformation that's out there ❤🏳️⚧️💕
I thought it was bad over here in the UK - and it isn't great - but it's nothing compared to what you have going on in the USA. And it's all about politics - keeping people from asking the questions about their living standards that aren't being addressed by politicians by getting them riled up about manufactured crises. It happens on both sides of the pond. I think if people understood that, everyone would live a happier life with the very small exception of those who are really full of hate, rather than just being told to hate.
Wow. I have a lot in my mind right now but let me just thank you for putting yourself out there and speaking up. I know it's not easy. And it's very inspiring. I'm trans too, around 8 years or so into my transition, I agree with everything you said. We all deserve to exist. We're people. We have to stick together and fight back against hatred and injustice.
Excellent message. We must all stand together or we will “fall apart!” I appreciate how much you have helped me to understand gender diversity, my Doctor.
I stand with you but as I am not an American it is from afar. From what you describe it comes from an even older play book. There was a famous quote from a priest or pastor in Germany after WWII, that spoke about how the came for the queer people and and I didn't speak out because I was ok. Then they came for the Jews but again I was okay etc now they are coming for me. Also remember that the Nazis did deals with groups to keep them quiet until them were ready to attack them, so don't feel safe if they haven't come for your group yet
❤❤❤ was told the same story, by the pastor ( now removed) of a church, I attended for over ten years before I- too, left. I say this as an intersex individual, who is also transgender. Perhaps, because I am way older, have had to deal with' such things 'for entire life..am better able to cope.Yet, the speed of & extent of this 💔. Do, have hope- though. Eventually , as in 1939, people will see this for what it is.An assault on 'all rights'.
The pastor in question was Martin Niemöller, a Lutheran. The are numerous versions of the quote, so many that I don't know if anyone knows which is the original. In fact, there may not be an "original" since Niemöller himself noted he expressed the same idea different ways at different times to express the importance of allyship and acceptance of personal responsibility along with his guilt for his failures in that regard before the war. As a footnote, in the most common versions, the first line of the quote is "First they came for the socialists" - but Niemöller would deliberately use "Communists." Apparently, the idea of "coming for the Communists" was and still is sufficiently in the "who cares" category to fail to make Niemöller's point (which was that you should care), so "socialists" became the default common version.
You are on the money, i remember the 70s amd 80s and its a repeat today. In my mine the only reason gay rights were begrudgingly accepted by our social was the aids pandemic. Im sure had it not been for that the gay commu ity would not have the rights they do today. We need to find a vehicle like that to put sociaty in to a" checkmate " position. I think major resource we are over looking is our elder tran community. They tend to come with a curtain perceived credability. As you know Dr Jamie , i am building a erputation as an advocate in my commu ty, and i play heavily on my age. I tried keeping that aspect out at first but because of my lifes journey it seems to hold some wieght.
What about trans woman who started questioning her gender identity when her friend came out as a trans woman? I started my journey of questioning my gender identity when my friend came out. I felt inspired and wanted to explore my gender identity. People have said that I was copying my friend. I don’t believe that is true. I wasn’t even considering being transgender at the time. I wanted to see if I was LGBTQ in general. I know that I have always wanted to be something other than my dead name identity
For many of us, we are unaware of our gender inclinations until we are exposed to mirroring objects (friends, celebrities, others) who display exceptional gender inclinations. Also, many of us initially lack the language to describe our internal experiences, and when we learn new labels/words to describe our experiences, a lightbulb turns on and AH HA! we finally understand ourselves. :-)
This one always irritated me. You are who you are, and only you can figure that out for yourself. Nobody can change or influence you into something you're not, and there isn't a preponderance of peer pressure to be different. If anything, society tries everything in its power to make you conform and be like everyone else. I came out later in life, in spite of a lifetime of everyone and everything, including my own internalized narrative, telling me it was wrong.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150-b9tI can relate. I used to be a Latin mass Catholic and I was told by them that it was in my head and a lot of other stuff and I ended up leaving because they wouldn’t accept me for who I am. Even my parents saying that I can’t be a girl when I’m with them
A good rule of thumb that can take us many places is the idea that "correlation is not causation." I know it can sound like a dry empirical sentiment but it's also something like applies to our lived experiences of social interaction; our experiences of our bodies etc etc. It's easy to conflate the two but also easy to step back and ask ourselves whether we actually understand the relationship between the two phenomena that we're observing - If I could make my friends trans then I'd make 'em all trans, and not just a handful. In fact, I'd visit my extended family a little more and crack their eggs and then the next place I'd go would be the hospitals; schools; prisons; houses of government; and wall street. In fact, folks, if you're reading then I'm probably making you even more trans as you read this and so keep reading and get cuter 💞
Great video...lots of good info as always. One a one on one basis, The best way to gain acceptance and support is to be open about your experiences and stress similarities
I was worried about you, Dr. Jamie, when you didn't post any videos for a few days after Trump took power and began coming out with these horrible and nonsensical policies. It's a relief to see you posting again.
A beautiful, sensitive, humanistic, and truly loving approach to the issue at hand. You are a light-bearer. We are all in this struggle together, wherever we are on the spectrum. Our struggle is, or should be, a source of unity and empowerment. Thank you for your wisdom.
LGB people certainly should know about being marginalized. If anything they should ally with the trans community because of that. I think it hard for LGB people to understand what it means to be trans just as it is for other non- trans people. Unless your are trans you cannot know how it feels to be trans and how anyone can be conflicted about their birth gender. But, I must say we all do not know exactly what it means to be part of most marginalized groups because we are not a part of them. Ultimately it comes down to what is right morally, scientifically, and spiritually. Unfortunately there often is disagreement about that. What LGB share with trans people in terms of their experience are feelings of shame, ridicule, hiding who you are, confusion, conflicts with social acceptance etc. These things alone should convince them to come together with trans people to fight for our rights. I think the biggest obstacle other then understanding is that the LGB community thinks they are better positioned to have their rights protected. They think by allying with the trans community they degrade that position. From this point of view they see no benefit in fighting for trans rights. From that perspective, they are much farther along in their fight than us. Jamie, you are so good to explain to LGB people what the trans experience is all about. IMO, this needs to be done with everyone. I will acknowledge that people outside the LGB community will have an even harder time relating to trans people because of transphobia, basic intolerance, and bigotry. We must have patience and keep up our work rationally and diplomatically to overcome the present climate. It is hard sometime, but is is bound to improve because reason, good sense, and loving acceptance are on our side.
I *NEVER* understood why it was 'acceptable' for girls to be Tomboys and nothing done about that, but it was 'terrible' for boys to be feminine, or why society hated Trans, but tolerated Gay relationships.
Hello hello, I think Julia Serano's 2013 text, Excluded has much to offer to help us to contextualise this issue - at the moment, it feels like I've got a jewel stuck in my mind's eye but let me pull it out and show it to ya 🏳⚧✊♀🏴💌🏳🌈🤟
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This is so important. I am a gay male therapist (in Canada), and I am very fearful due to some of our politicians mimicking the anti-trans rhetoric and policy. I work with lots of transgender clients who are also very understandably fearful.
I think we also need to help cis-women understand that many of these policies (bathrooms, change rooms etc.) are also extremely dangerous for them, as a way of coalition building.
They want to pretend the majority dictates the limits for everyone.
They turn women into objects and demand people judge each woman's appearance so only those who pass get to pee.
Countless women born female have already been harassed, even attacked because they didn't look female enough.
Yes. Thanks so much for this comment. You get the pin!
Jamie, the highlight of the week for me was the lesbian bishop saying ever so gently, trans kids are scared and seeing how such genuine words of kindness was like holy water on a vampire seeing the sneering reactions of shady Vance Melania and Tiffany. The truth to power release reminded me of the 1984 macintosh ad
Yes! That was a powerful moment that moved me too!
Dr Jamie, Thank you so much. I am trans, 72 now, I knew it in the 50’s, 60’s 70’s, I thought I was pretty much alone. Now I feel like I was cheated out of my life. Even worse is this threat from the political extremist right.
I'm sorry you feel like you've lost time. Do your best to live your authentic self today. Today is all any of us really have. :-)
@@DrJamieTalks thanks,, I try to as much as I can. My wife had a severe stroke 3 years ago and is now doing home hospice. I’ve been taking care of her since..Just a little worn out.
@@rickkojetin5139 Sorry to hear that. Stay strong. 💕
@@rickkojetin5139 I’m a 68 yo trans woman “teenager” who takes care of myself, my girlfriend, and two other housemates/friends who are quite disabled. I certainly understand your position and fears. I chant to the Goddess Tara for strength and support. As Doc Jamie can attest, Buddhism can be a very powerful bulwark in these trying times.
Don't forget about us hetero allies. We're with you!
Thank You!
Thank you so much 💓
Thank you!
Thanks to our hetero allies. Thank you!!!
To all het allies out there, this is not a good time to remain silent.
I am uneasy! I am 80, have lived through a lot of nonsense about these issues. I have lived with freighful nightmares, imagining what would happen to me if my friends and strangers alike might do to me if I uttered a word about my thoughts. You give me comfort and I hope enough people don't buy into the phobias being expressed! Bless yo🎉u Dr Jamie, help us to understand this madness!❤❤ 💗🩵🤍🩵💗
You're welcome! It takes courage to live authentically.
I understand what you are saying, but meeting a trans person and becoming friends with them. Listening to their point of view and importantly learning about HRT and how it actually worked is genuinely the reason that I decided to experiment with my gender identity at all. Without her I would probably be another sad "cis" boy that didn't know the self love I could attain. I mean I had a secret desire to be a woman since puberty, but I didn't know it was possible with a few pills a day till I was 30. Every story is different. Love ya. Keep fighting. 🖤🏳️⚧️🖤
For many of us, we are unaware of our gender inclinations until we are exposed to mirroring objects (friends, celebrities, others) who display exceptional gender inclinations. Also, many of us initially lack the language to describe our internal experiences, and when we learn new labels/words to describe our experiences, a lightbulb turns on and AH HA! we finally understand ourselves. :-)
You are a man.
In the late '70s Anita Bryant started the perrenial moral panic of "the Children! Save the Children!" There's no reasoning with that knee jerk panic. Its bunk but... hook line and sinker.
Contrapoints has a whole video tying how the Anita Bryant thing mirrors JKRs stuff today.
If you like pro trans long format video essays with a lot of production value put into it.
Video in question is the "Witch Trials of JKR" one btw.
Thanks for sharing this resource.
Thanks for your love and support towards the community!
Any time!
Dr. Jamie, thanks so much for being a voice out there for us 🏳️⚧️. Voices in support of us seem to be fadding lately. I'm glad that you're still here for us and that you're a voice against the misinformation that's out there ❤🏳️⚧️💕
You're very welcome!
Thank you for the support and wisdom.
Always!
I thought it was bad over here in the UK - and it isn't great - but it's nothing compared to what you have going on in the USA. And it's all about politics - keeping people from asking the questions about their living standards that aren't being addressed by politicians by getting them riled up about manufactured crises. It happens on both sides of the pond. I think if people understood that, everyone would live a happier life with the very small exception of those who are really full of hate, rather than just being told to hate.
Thanks for your comment. I agree 100%
I just want to let you know that as an aroace I stand with transgender people! ❤🩹
Thank You!
thank you for standing up for us.
Always!
Wow. I have a lot in my mind right now but let me just thank you for putting yourself out there and speaking up. I know it's not easy. And it's very inspiring.
I'm trans too, around 8 years or so into my transition, I agree with everything you said.
We all deserve to exist. We're people. We have to stick together and fight back against hatred and injustice.
Thank You! I appreciate your viewership and support! 🥰
Excellent message. We must all stand together or we will “fall apart!” I appreciate how much you have helped me to understand gender diversity, my Doctor.
You're welcome!
I stand with you but as I am not an American it is from afar. From what you describe it comes from an even older play book. There was a famous quote from a priest or pastor in Germany after WWII, that spoke about how the came for the queer people and and I didn't speak out because I was ok. Then they came for the Jews but again I was okay etc now they are coming for me. Also remember that the Nazis did deals with groups to keep them quiet until them were ready to attack them, so don't feel safe if they haven't come for your group yet
❤❤❤ was told the same story, by the pastor ( now removed) of a church, I attended for over ten years before I- too, left. I say this as an intersex individual, who is also transgender. Perhaps, because I am way older, have had to deal with' such things 'for entire life..am better able to cope.Yet, the speed of & extent of this 💔. Do, have hope- though. Eventually , as in 1939, people will see this for what it is.An assault on 'all rights'.
Yes, the historical parallels are concerning to consider...
The pastor in question was Martin Niemöller, a Lutheran. The are numerous versions of the quote, so many that I don't know if anyone knows which is the original. In fact, there may not be an "original" since Niemöller himself noted he expressed the same idea different ways at different times to express the importance of allyship and acceptance of personal responsibility along with his guilt for his failures in that regard before the war.
As a footnote, in the most common versions, the first line of the quote is "First they came for the socialists" - but Niemöller would deliberately use "Communists." Apparently, the idea of "coming for the Communists" was and still is sufficiently in the "who cares" category to fail to make Niemöller's point (which was that you should care), so "socialists" became the default common version.
@@whoviating Thank you for the information
You are on the money, i remember the 70s amd 80s and its a repeat today. In my mine the only reason gay rights were begrudgingly accepted by our social was the aids pandemic. Im sure had it not been for that the gay commu ity would not have the rights they do today. We need to find a vehicle like that to put sociaty in to a" checkmate " position. I think major resource we are over looking is our elder tran community. They tend to come with a curtain perceived credability.
As you know Dr Jamie , i am building a erputation as an advocate in my commu ty, and i play heavily on my age. I tried keeping that aspect out at first but because of my lifes journey it seems to hold some wieght.
I think all our unique life experiences are important in advocacy. Wisdom comes in many forms. Keep up the positive work. 🏳️⚧️💕
If anything, these sort of challenges can help close the rifts in our community and bbc9me an even stronger front
@@Chloedawnknauer Bring on the "antifragility" mindset ❤🔥♦💞💌
Same here!
Thanks!
What about trans woman who started questioning her gender identity when her friend came out as a trans woman? I started my journey of questioning my gender identity when my friend came out. I felt inspired and wanted to explore my gender identity. People have said that I was copying my friend. I don’t believe that is true. I wasn’t even considering being transgender at the time. I wanted to see if I was LGBTQ in general. I know that I have always wanted to be something other than my dead name identity
For many of us, we are unaware of our gender inclinations until we are exposed to mirroring objects (friends, celebrities, others) who display exceptional gender inclinations. Also, many of us initially lack the language to describe our internal experiences, and when we learn new labels/words to describe our experiences, a lightbulb turns on and AH HA! we finally understand ourselves. :-)
This one always irritated me. You are who you are, and only you can figure that out for yourself. Nobody can change or influence you into something you're not, and there isn't a preponderance of peer pressure to be different. If anything, society tries everything in its power to make you conform and be like everyone else. I came out later in life, in spite of a lifetime of everyone and everything, including my own internalized narrative, telling me it was wrong.
@@DrJamieTalksThis, exactly 💯. Non-binary. Thank you.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150-b9tI can relate. I used to be a Latin mass Catholic and I was told by them that it was in my head and a lot of other stuff and I ended up leaving because they wouldn’t accept me for who I am. Even my parents saying that I can’t be a girl when I’m with them
A good rule of thumb that can take us many places is the idea that "correlation is not causation." I know it can sound like a dry empirical sentiment but it's also something like applies to our lived experiences of social interaction; our experiences of our bodies etc etc. It's easy to conflate the two but also easy to step back and ask ourselves whether we actually understand the relationship between the two phenomena that we're observing -
If I could make my friends trans then I'd make 'em all trans, and not just a handful. In fact, I'd visit my extended family a little more and crack their eggs and then the next place I'd go would be the hospitals; schools; prisons; houses of government; and wall street. In fact, folks, if you're reading then I'm probably making you even more trans as you read this and so keep reading and get cuter 💞
❤️🔥DR. JAMIE❤️🔥
Thanks!
Great video...lots of good info as always. One a one on one basis, The best way to gain acceptance and support is to be open about your experiences and stress similarities
Yes! Thank you!
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I am gay and support all LGBTIQ+ community
Thank You!
I was worried about you, Dr. Jamie, when you didn't post any videos for a few days after Trump took power and began coming out with these horrible and nonsensical policies. It's a relief to see you posting again.
Self care first. Advocacy second. :-)
A beautiful, sensitive, humanistic, and truly loving approach to the issue at hand. You are a light-bearer. We are all in this struggle together, wherever we are on the spectrum. Our struggle is, or should be, a source of unity and empowerment. Thank you for your wisdom.
Wow, thank you!
When I transitioned we had no protections.
:-(
LGB people certainly should know about being marginalized. If anything they should ally with the trans community because of that.
I think it hard for LGB people to understand what it means to be trans just as it is for other non- trans people. Unless your are trans you cannot know how it feels to be trans and how anyone can be conflicted about their birth gender.
But, I must say we all do not know exactly what it means to be part of most marginalized groups because we are not a part of them.
Ultimately it comes down to what is right morally, scientifically, and spiritually. Unfortunately there often is disagreement about that.
What LGB share with trans people in terms of their experience are feelings of shame, ridicule, hiding who you are, confusion, conflicts with social acceptance etc. These things alone should convince them to come together with trans people to fight for our rights.
I think the biggest obstacle other then understanding is that the LGB community thinks they are better positioned to have their rights protected. They think by allying with the trans community they degrade that position. From this point of view they see no benefit in fighting for trans rights. From that perspective, they are much farther along in their fight than us.
Jamie, you are so good to explain to LGB people what the trans experience is all about. IMO, this needs to be done with everyone. I will acknowledge that people outside the LGB community will have an even harder time relating to trans people because of transphobia, basic intolerance, and bigotry.
We must have patience and keep up our work rationally and diplomatically to overcome the present climate. It is hard sometime, but is is bound to improve because reason, good sense, and loving acceptance are on our side.
We must lead with compassion. :-)
@@DrJamieTalks Well put. ❤
The thing about trans people is... They love to comment on Dr. Jamie videos. ❤
Aw, thanks. :-)
I *NEVER* understood why it was 'acceptable' for girls to be Tomboys and nothing done about that, but it was 'terrible' for boys to be feminine, or why society hated Trans, but tolerated Gay relationships.
It should also be noted that most of these anti-bathroom and sports bans focus on trans women.
Hello hello, I think Julia Serano's 2013 text, Excluded has much to offer to help us to contextualise this issue - at the moment, it feels like I've got a jewel stuck in my mind's eye but let me pull it out and show it to ya 🏳⚧✊♀🏴💌🏳🌈🤟
Yes, her work is very important and a recommended read for all my viewers. :-)