Trans 101 - The Basics
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- Опубликовано: 29 мар 2017
- Welcome to Trans 101, our brand new series on Gender Diversity! In video one we dive into being Trans, Gender Identity, and what it's all about!
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I still don't get it and I'm trying. How does someone feel more like a man or a woman? Are we talking about the stereotypical things which are assigned to a man or woman? I thought we were past those stereotypes? I am a 'man', but I don't feel like anything other than 'me'. This is what I don't get and want to learn.
i mean... it's kinda _just_ a feeling. if you don't feel a connection to any gender, then you might not _be_ any gender. or you might be. who knows!!! it's a mess, but as long as you're comfortable calling yourself by whatever label you want, then it's fine
Dont think about it man its all just bullshit meant to confuse you
@@RichConnerGMN If it's only identifiable as "just a feeling" couldn't I say I feel like I'm already 70 and want my pension early? Or I feel like I'm from a different country so I deserve a passport and the right to live there? I'm trying to understand too but I can't see how wanting to be a different gender can be anything but based on stereotypes either... 🤷🏽♀️
The reason you don’t get it is because logic is incompatible with stupidity. Stop wasting your time with these clowns. All they are saying is that your status as a man or a woman is determined by your personality traits (if you’re masculine you’re a man, if you’re feminine you’re a woman) which is a sexist lie all by itself. It is the literal equivalent of claiming that I might not actually be a Black woman because because I don’t like hip-hop and didn’t grow up poor. If you know better than that then you know better than to accept this sexist garbage spewed by gender ideologues. They just might have white supremacists beat with how proudly regressive and stupid they are. Besides, Most of these “transgenders” are trans-PRETENDERS anyway, aka basic azz white kids seeking to forge an identity as an oppressed minority. Talk about privilege- when you literally have nothing to worry about in life other than typical growing pains so you just start making up crap to paint yourself as “marginalized”. Pathetic!
@@roweme it’s pretty much a natural feeling that’s just there that stays the same. Like how you naturally like men or women
(Edit) forgot to account for gender-fluid people. I’m not sure how to really analogize that, and I’m not gender-fluid myself. Sorry
Thank you! I’m 71 and this issue got ahead of me so quickly. I really want to get it right and not offend. I will watch this again as you all packed a lot in. Hopefully as time goes on, the world will appreciate the nuances and be more accepting.
Are you kidding me... you've lived all this time and your worried about accidentally calling a boy a girl or a girl a boy are you kidding me
WE LOVE YOU FOR TRYING TO LEARN AND TO LOVE, JANE!
I really want to understand but this raises more questions than it answers for me
Thank you for saying the words I needed to say. I was hoping to understand 😆 more thoughts than answers.
I feel like this is kind of the point though! It’s better to have at least some understanding than absolutely none at all.
I absolutely DONT want to know
@@quanta2770a little bit of knowledge is dangerous. So is a lot.
Well done! I wanted to find a video for my DEI class that helped to effectively describe terms, experiences, and inclusive language. This was extremely well done. Thank you to everyone who participated. Great conversation starter.
Thanks! A member of my family recently has transitioned and I want to be as supportive as possible. I appreciate there’s a video like this!
I want to be as happy as these people in the video seem to be someday. It's proof that acceptance and support for trans folks does wonders for us.
Well, someone hasn't realised this is an advertisement. Ever seen an advert for washing powder where they hurl it across the room in a temper and say it makes their clothes stink? No. Of course these kids look happy - they're trying to SELL you the 'gender' nonsense.
@@crumblyduckling403 chill out and be respectful
@Natsume how acceptance and support for trans does wonder??
@@crumblyduckling403 jajajajaj... I want to be as happy as cereal comercial`s women .....
You will be happy hang ın there
Good day all. I am very confused about what a trans person is. The way they explained it is that is a boy that feels like a girl (meaning a boy born in the wrong body) or am I wrong?
Raises and partially answers the question of what happens when our identity is defined by feelings (or for those evolutionary psychologists out there...chemicals floating around in our head). One of the speakers actually states there is no explicit end or limit to someone on their identity journey. Can't help but think from a science perspective here - if the same individual's gender or "internal sense of self" would in fact be the same if they were raised with different family, societal constructs, experiences that lead to different feelings (chemicals).
Conversely the Christian world view is that your identity exists outside of your feelings/chemicals, "The human heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked, who can really know it?" Jeremiah 17:9 which probably explains with the steady decline or polarisation of the Christian perspective from society we are seeing a corresponding increase in definitions, societal challenges and instability.
Hello! I'm really confused and have been for years please talk to me I want to finally understand all of this. Is there a good forum or a discord or something I could join and talk to people who have a better understanding?
Replies are very welcomed!
Trevor space!
Seek treatment to learn to love yourself the way you are. We don't operate or feed into the thoughts of people with anorexia so they're as skinny as they feel comfortable with. We get them help so they learn to love themselves and so should you!
@ Paola V, I would like to politely say that they would like to talk to someone who encourages talk of gender identity, not one who discourages it. If you would like to have a debate about this, I’m down for it, but I must say that I will not tolerate an uncivil discussion.
@@shausadams9734 Gender identity won't help you down in life.
Developing your character and learning to overcome situations will. These people need to be taught to accept themselves the way they are. Not to want to be something else.
Woman do you pleasure too ???? My a???. i pleasure too ??? Your a???. M. L. D. No Dread locks.
These were a great group of friendly individuals, I enjoyed this positive message and learning about being trans!
@OzarkoBlam no their actually is
And no it's not pretending
I should know
@David Vanpatten wdyk
@OzarkoBlam Transexuals definitely do exist. There's only pretending they don't exist.
Gross
Do i need change my identity card and will it say that im female or trans?
You don't *need* to do anything-- whatever you feel is right for you. ID can vary all over the world, but I know in Ontario Canada that at least some ID has the options of saying M, F or X. I'm non-binary and I'm submitting paperwork for my personal ID to show the X gender marker, but that's my personal situation and you decide your own path. 👍
How should I treat a trans person’s previous identity? Like I generally refer to the previous gender identity like a different person, in the past tense (as if the previous gender identity was a different person that no longer exists). Is that wrong?
Am I transphobic without even knowing?
Halp
it took me the entire video to notice that the person w the purple hair and lipstick has a shirt with korra and asami im crying i love it sm
I'm crying too how they fucked up the show
Yeah! 👩❤️👩🏳️🌈❤️ It's such a lovely sweet detail!
I don't understand, I'm trying my darnest and I do not understand. So because you don't FEEL like your assigned gender, you'll change your whole entire body to fit the gender you FEEL like you actually are? Like a man feeling more like a woman and the same goes for the opposite, or smth, isn't that just a personality thing? Not a gender thing, but just a man liking something you don't usually see a man likes sometimes, a man acting like a woman can also just be because of the media or experiences he absorbed throughout life or he genuinely just took a liking to certain things, like to dolls and pink stuff. It's not that huge of a deal, so I don't get why transgrender is a thing and I'm really trying my best here, I am, but my child brain can't wrap around this whole trans thing.
Rather than gender or sex problem I think it's just how people can and have varying personalities made genetically or by the medias and experiences they had… It's the best I can do to understand this.
You're doing pretty good I think. Gender is a societal construct. We as a society at some point decided that "females" played with dolls and "males" like cars. If you are a male who likes dolls and she/her pronouns, then you're not a male. This is entirely arbitrary and stereotypical. However, unfortunately, we do live in a society. And this society runs on a binary system, whether we like it or not. Almost everyone has lived with this for so long that it is hard to understand that this system doesn't actually make much sense. Afterrall, we're just all humans with three different types of biological sexes. Why does the way we dress and things we like have to matter in that?
To fit into society, we are expected to fit the standard of "male" or "female" boxes. However, if your sex is male but you're not one internally, then you do not fit the box. An error in the binary system. The term to use then is "Trans" (think biology class, when you were learning about cis and trans golgi bodies in Cell). A person whose gender doesn't fit their biological sex is labelled as Trans. They can "transition" into their gender to fit in the other binary box. (or maybe, fit into both boxes, or none at all)
You said gender as a personality thing. To slightly correct it, "it is an identity thing." Being trans is about *who you are* as opposed to *who you are wrongfully perceived by society to be.*
If society considered gender to not be limited to binary then there wouldn't be this conversation at all.
Let everyone be who they are. At the end of the day, if we're all nice and kind to each other, then why do stereotypical gender labels have to matter? We're just people, man. We're all gonna die one day and what's in someone else's pants isn't gonna matter then.
what is the name of the person with the shaved head?
not holly ruclips.net/user/thisisnotHollyfeatured
do you mean that WOMAN in 1:05 ?
>Transgender 101
>Confuses sex with gender in the first 90 seconds
What does sense of inner self mean?
Your body is an avatar, it is that inner self that tells you you are in the wrong avatar. I think thats what it mean. Your body is one way but your inner says its not the same as your body hence dysphoria.
The sense of inner self refers to one's subjective experience and understanding of themselves, including their thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about who they are as a person. For transgender individuals, this sense of inner self may conflict with the gender they were assigned at birth based on their physical sex characteristics. In other words, they may feel like their true gender identity doesn't match the body they were born with, which can cause significant distress and discomfort.
Sense of inner self is like your gut feeling, your vibe, your intuition about who you are at your core. And for transgender individuals, that vibe might not match what society expects based on their birth-assigned gender.
@OWN If you gender is how you feel or think you are how does that make you what you are? Can a person be a feeling?
Imagine being butthurts for people being themselves while not hurting anyone.
What?! No. Let's unpack this. Unfortunately, even in my native Sweden, lol where they tend to be more accepting of us, the suicide rates have still been measured at 19x. We're hurting ourselves.
@@The-Silliest-Billy Imagine laughing out loud when people kill themselves, most likely due to bigotry and people like you.
@@yermomLeslie What?! No. Let's unpack this. I was juxtaposing this particular statistic with your claim that they aren't hurting anyone. Do you not consider Trans people as people? You need to DO BETTER or take off that pfp, pal. De-personing the Trans diaspora with such precarious statements is literally violence. My understanding also is that lol stood for "lord, oh lord". That is my truth and I refuse to stop living it.
@@The-Silliest-Billy Yeah you definitely can read very well. Apparently me criticizing transphobes for hurting trans people and making them more suicidal, and laugh at them for killing themselves because of this, is just me depersonalizing trans people eh?
@@yermomLeslie What?! No. Let's unpack this. You said nobody gets hurt. I simply suggested a new perspective, albeit a difficult one to embrace. YOU are the one denying Trans people their autonomy and personhood by diminishing the gravity of this particular statistic. Do better.
What would be the best way to come out to my parents im 13 and a boy but I feel more like a girl in a boys body and I want to switch to what my true gender is
@@juliehornick609 thank you so much you are really helping me out
@@juliehornick609 after reading what the website has offered im coming out to my larents on Monday
@@Iowanredneck88 my thoughts will be with you! I hope everything goes well, and that you get the support you need and deserve as an amazing young person.
@@juliehornick609 thx you are also an amazing person and I hope that you live a long and happy life I go to others for support and i get laughed at while you help me i have depression bad because of it and you just made my day a lot better
Be yourself in also trying to come out ❤️🥺
I had to rewind the point at 6:35 a couple of times to grasp it. Is the point that it’s correct/better to say “x has a uterus”, instead of “x is a woman”? Surely, right? The point is not to equate “has uterus” with “is a woman”?
Apologies for the dumb question 😅 I have come here for education and am trying my best to understand, as I felt I had a real knowledge gap on this topic.
"Assigned?" Are we assigned ear size, eye shape, hair color, etc? Aren't we all just "born" with features as opposed to assigned? Who does the "assigning" of body parts/features?
Apart from rare hermaphrodites, there are only 2 physical sexes. Male and Female - in EVERY species. I don't care about someone's internal feelings about themselves. It shouldn't affect my interactions with you.
@Arabella Willette A physically white person may may think/feel they’re black but to the rest of the world the person IS white, regardless of their feeling black. It’s their feeling about themselves despite what everyone else SEES. What someone feels about themselves has nothing to do with me. It’s none of my business. People can feel about themselves what they want/need to, it just doesn’t change what PHYSICALLY is regardless of the politically correct terminology/descriptors used by other caring people.
Everyone has their own cross to bear. I feel/think I’m slim but the rest of the world knows I’m not but some may humor me because they are really caring individuals and don’t feel that their “accepting” my view of myself doesn’t impact them. 🤷🏻♀️
@@Earthomo The difference with the example you give here is that if that white person who identifies as black physically altered their appearance to "look black", entered a black community and said "I'm like you now, I understand what it's like to be you because I dress and 'feel' black based on stereotypes I've seen in the world and you must accept this and I want you to call me a "New black" and I've decided that you must call yourselves "Old black"" and the people of the black community took offence, the world wouldn't side with the white person and lambaste the people of the black community for being "racist". They would recognise this was only furthering the oppression the black community has faced from white people.
Whereas women are being lambasted for saying "Don't call me a cis woman, or a person who menstruates, I'm a woman". Or are being called transphobic for saying that it only furthers the oppression of a minority group who have been historically (and are still!) oppressed to force them to change their own identity language to please others. Or we're "transphobic" for identifying that the experience of being a woman is different to the experience of being a trans woman, and we are equal, but different. We're not even allowed to speak out as ourselves, as people with lived experience in the category being debated, without being called transphobic!
The person with the shaved head and amethyst weights is so astoundingly beautiful
North Coast Dweller she looks like a girl. Plus I don't thinks she's a trans woman. She might be a they/them.
ruclips.net/user/thisisnotHolly
they used to have a youtube channel and i'm devastated that they stopped making videos
SpiritDragonite yesss
No. Repulsive.
look at me go
Or an it
I don’t want to attack anyone here but gender isn’t a label. It’s purpose is to say what you have between your legs, not to express your personality. It’s like me being a white person painting myself black and saying I’m a black person, it doesn’t work to me. Again this isn’t to attack anybody don’t get angry at my comment, I’m just saying genders aren’t a label of personality or originally meant as. If you want to be labelled as something else then change your name.
why do you want strangers to know what your genitals are? kinda weird ngl... gender has always been a label, and always will be. we are just changing what that label entails to make it more accepting of those who were forced to not know who they are.
Trans is not the same as personality.
This question will likely create a flame war, but, is it really fair to ask people to identify trans people with the “garden grown” words? If they aren’t part of the English language, wouldn’t those words be just as unknown as, say, Spanish is to an English speaker? Not making a political statement or anything, just curious and trying to learn.
You mean like "he" "she" and "them" ?? We've been using those words since before Shakespeare's time. None of this is foreign if you've gone to 1st grade English class. In every day life, you're not going to need to say "my non-binary demisexual trans co-worker" you're just going to say "my co-worker"
@@yarr0 No, I’m talking about the “Z” pronouns and everything
Hi there, yes entirely fair. in the same way that some terms become outdated and other things are brought into existence language needs to be reflective of the word it's used to describe. In the same way people have had to unlearn words like colored, oriental, mongoloid, calling things "gay" or "retarded." I supposed yes, these words would be unknown but new words are introduced into the lexicon all the time. At one point guacamole wasn't a household term, nor was salsa or even cherry coke but as we recognize them we need to identify them accordingly. Ze / Xe / Ey have actually been introduced into the English language as non-binary pronouns several times but they're not commonly taught because of how repressed/ isolated the trans population has been. You likely don't need to know the names of cheeses they don't sell in your local markets or plants you rarely encounter. When they become part of your world they deserve their own proper linguistic terminology : ) Hope that helps!
@@Sprayfaint I disagree about why neopronouns have had such trouble historically. It's a long time interest of mine.
I've been seeking to get some neutral pronouns established for many decades, long preceding the more recent non-binary identification (my reason was more about feminism and avoiding presumptions of male defaults). There have been LOTS of attempts over the decades (you've probably never heard of "co" and "per" and such, which came and went with few ripples), but each has only been used in some small context - nobody could agree to standardize them, each group made up their own, there was no accumulated momentum.
The recent surge in neo-pronouns also ran into almost the same problems. Except this time, rather than different sets of pronouns scattered sparsely over time and place, there were dozens hitting at once and in effect competing with each other. Again, no ability to agree and compromise and push one consistent set.
It's hard historically to change structure words like pronouns; we add nouns and verbs and adjectives (or new meanings of existing ones) all the time, but pronoun changes tend to take literally hundreds of years to change. When you combine that human tendency with a plethora of proposed new varieties, and expect people to remember every person's individual and *current* preferences, it's a really hard sell, at least among this species. This involves an imposed cognitive load which does not resonate with people as justified. Sure, we can learn whatever pronoun a daughter uses, but for everybody we meet - when many are barely able to remember names? Not going to happen broadly and sustainably.
However, even more recently, "they/them" has gotten by far the most traction I have ever witnessed as an acutely interested participant/observer. This is not a neo-pronoun, it's a variant on an existing usage. Yay!
In my quest to avoid unnecessary he/she assumptions but also communicate well, I settled on using "they" when I could several decades ago. Like "if a user wants to delete their answer, they can click on the red X at the bottom". If done well, few people will notice, and this use of "they" to represent an unknown or unspecified person actually goes back centuries (tho its popularity has varied over time).
The most recent usage has expanded that historical usage to incude a new thing -known persons who identify as non-binary. Semantically, there is a difference between "person of unknown gender" and "person of known non-binary gender". But "they/them" has recently become used for both, a small linguistic innovation.
To be honest, I was rooting for standardizing on a neopronoun set like "zie/zim" because it would preserve the semantic nuance described above and avoid singular/plural ambiguities. I like expressive language. But since no such neopronoun is winning out linguistically, I'm happy enough to have "they/them" as the new standard, and hoping it succeeds for the long run.
But the core reason we may settle on "they/them" is that we as a community have been utterly unable to come to any consensus about a single neo-pronoun set. If we were more cooperative and collaborative, more of a real functioning community, we could do that - and I'd be glad to throw my full support on the new standard as well. This is a historic moment where the language might permanently shift - but only if we could form consensus. Failing that, "they/them" is ok.
I believe that (whether we like it or not) the approach of everybody choosing idiosyncratic neo-pronouns from a large set of options, is going to be in the end a temporary and forgotten historical fad, known someday only to specialists in linguistic history as an amusing quirk of the early 21st century. (Read up on the roots of "okay" to get the flavor of that). But the usage of "they/them" for indeterminate and neutral gender may just stick around for the long run. I'm not advocating this so much as predicting it.
You can't control others, so no, having such an expectation will lead one quickly to disappointment.
You need dysphoria to be trans. If you don't have dysphoria you should not physically transition, you will regret it. Please be careful.
yes i believe you should be careful, but regardless of whether you have dysphoria or not. just because you have dysphoria doesn't mean you should go and do it too, everyone should be careful when deciding things like that. also not all who don't have dysphoria will regret it
Seek treatment to learn to love yourself the way you are. We don't operate or feed into the thoughts of people with anorexia so they're as skinny as they feel comfortable with. We get them help so they learn to love themselves and so should you!
@@MisaChan101 gender dysphoria isn't anorexia. Countless streams of science back up trans people's existence and legitimize their identity. Treatment for trans people is gender affirming care and acceptance. Being trans isn't not loving yourself. Dont be condescending and act as if you have the moral high ground for dismissing everything we know about providing Healthcare to trans people. You clearly don't know what you are talking about, so don't comment on it 👍
@@lixonplays758 no you’re the one who’s wrong here…it IS exactly like anorexia in that it’s body dysmophia. The person experiencing both are perceiving feelings that do not reflect reality. Both of these feelings are beliefs about themselves that are contrary to reality. Affirming a man by telling him he can transform into a woman is a lie. No one can change sex. NO ONE
@@judeesee894 dysmorphia isn't dysphoria and you're literally just wrong countless scientists have proved otherwise lmao
Im not entirely sure how NB people are trans? How are they transitioning into a gender? Arent they trying to be outisde of a gender identity all toghether?
trans* means not aligning to your birth gender.
Well if genders were colors, it might be like going from red to purple. Red isn't purple, and purple isn't red, so while red is very similar to purple, it isn't the same color, and generally needs to be seen as it's own color.
So if you look at it from seeing nonbinary people as just another gender, yes it is possible to physiologically transition into being intersex. It's fairly uncomplicated and simple to do.
+lakon childs
The term "trans" originates from a Latin etymology which means "across". When referencing the term "transition", it describes a process where something changes from one state to another. People who claim to be non-binary do not tend to undergo a solid transition, rather, they usually simply choose to dress slightly differently from most people.
There is nothing inherently wrong with expressing one's self how they choose, but people seem to be conflating gender with self expression. Gender does concern some internal conceptions of an individual about themselves, but it is also a method of categorizing an individual into a biological sex, based upon secondary sexual characteristics. Transgender individuals will usually attempt to undergo hormonal and/or surgical procedures in order to adopt these secondary sexual characteristics in order to be perceived as the opposite sex, even if their biological sex does not actually change.
Moreover, there are some very real biological discrepancies between men and women -- psychologically, actually. This is not indiscriminately true for every man or woman, but there are general tendencies for men and women to possess certain personality characteristics, behaviors, and interests. It is precisely this discrepancy which makes gender dysphoria a very real concern, where someone whose fundamental psychology is not compatible with their physical body.
Perhaps some people who claim to be non-binary do experience dysphoria, but it is also true that many individuals to adopt this label do so on behalf of a political fad. In fact, the same can be said of certain traditional cases of transgenderism; however, there is significantly less repercussion in changing one's wardrobe than changing one's physical body. For some people, non-binary is an easy way to claim the status of "transgender", even if their attempts to actually transition into anything are extraordinarily limited if existent at all. It really overshadows the legitimate concerns of many authentic transgender individuals. I think it important to promote further research into the topic of non-binary identity, but it is important to differentiate between those who truly feel dysphoria versus those who simply wish to dress differently and/or gain political status.
Non binary people are not trans and it’s an insult to real transgender people.
Love your hair video
I really am trying hard to understand this but it just seems to go over my head could someone ANYONE answer a simply question for me so I can become that bit more informed.
I am man so what makes me a man??
do you feel like a man more than any other gender? if yes, then congratulations, you are a man. there are actual (debatable) definitions, but it's kinda like trying to define a number. yeah, you can use the axioms of set theory to define exactly what the number 3 is, but it's a lot easier to just say 3 because everyone knows what it means and there are very few scenarios where a rigorous definition is necessary.
Gender can be anything you want it to be; male and female is not a question of choice.
I wanted to learn about trans fats. But okay. I hear you. LOL
That's a good one!!
@A0 a type of callorie
thanks
I like to explain it like this:
Sex and gender are completely different.
Someone with a penis may identify as a man. Another person with a penis may identify as a woman. And another person with a penis may identify as both and neither!
It’s not the genitalia that makes gender, it’s how we perceive and think of ourselves. The chromosomes and genitalia are under that “sex” label.
I am genderfluid. So at one time I might feel more masculine and sometimes I physically present that way and other times I present neutrally or feminine.
Everyone is different though!
The ‘gender unicorn’ is an incredible diagram that lists a multitude of things and I find it SUPER helpful for those wanting to understand but getting a confused or overwhelmed :)
All right that's it! I'm done I've tried to understand. But when you start telling me that I have to be very careful how I say or what I say I'm out. With all that's going on in the world my attention and help is needed else where. No offense to anyone.
you're just having different emotions. this just solidifies gender stereotypes.
@@blakechristy1472that emotion is gender! :D
only 2 genders/sexes exist
But is that feeling of confusion so strong because it usually happens that we don't seem to be like girls. I want to understand about this
Hey :) A trans woman here - just wanted to tell other trans people everything will be fine. You are valid.
Thanks for the video, i needed it :]
😭💗💙💛💜🖤 Thank you, and 100% back at you!
so are you a woman?
I'm trans as well, I wanted to thank you for this comment because there's been a lot of hate that I've spotted surrounding People like us... It really bums me out, I try my absolute hardest not to let others judge who I am and not let it get me down, I know who I am, and I know nobody can take that away from me, thank you!
@@McMushTrippy You are weak
@@fujiwaranonekobiodrando1257 if you don't like support/trans people, then why are you on a video about the subject? It doesn't make any sense, you're just going around saying random shit lol
I’m asking simply because I don’t understand, no disrespect, but what is the difference between being trans and masculinity /femininity? It seems like these people Identify as trans because they don’t fit into the norms of being a man or woman, so doesn’t that just make them masculine women or feminine men? Is that what it means to be trans? Someone clear it up for me thanks
8 months late, maybe you reaserched info but im gonna respond anyway. Being trans is not about fitting in the stereotype that you think matches your personality or taste in anything. People are trans and transition because their body feels strange to them in the sense that they don't feel its theirs, you can't erase the feeling and the only known non harming way is to medically transition.
@@muumu0 okay, that being said do you believe that you need to have gender dysphoria to be trans then? cuz i would agree with that too but it seems like most of the trans community does not
@@bilawl9359 dysphoria varies depending on the person, maybe you feel dysphoria with your body, or socially or somewhere else but dysphoria is key to transition EVEN THOUGH maybe your dysphoria lowers or increases during hrt for reasons relating to the dosage, how well you take it and even something as basic accepting you are trans. There should be a discomfort that bothers you and doesn't let you live your life because, why would you change if you have don't have that discomfort?
@@bilawl9359 but also some people don't transition or by example identify as non binary and decide they are comfortable with their bodies and thats valid too.
@@muumu0 how is that valid though? What is the reason they choose to identify as non-binary? What is the is the reason that makes them not want to identify as neither man or woman? Is it feeling masculine one day and feminine the other?
"We're expected to act a certain way based on what's between our legs." Like... When? Advanced countries who have time to worry about this stuff have so much freedom to do and act as you please. Gender dysphoria is serious and can lead to so many terrible things, even countless surgeries where the results are always unknown. Please stop pressing for people to embrace such risks and urge them to get help. I've had 2 of the most common surgeries that we have been doing since the 1700s and I still got botched. So many people are regretting/will regret listening to people like this instead of just going to therapy and learning how to cope.
You shouldn't have stopped the video after they said that. Maybe you would have learned something and been empathetic.
@@bcarroll03 I watched the whole thing and even re-watched multiple parts.
@@bcarroll03 I AM empathetic. Things like this hurt the lives of impressionable people.
Yeah you don't have to cut your dick off to play Barbies!
But... they are going to therapy and learning how to cope, and sometimes there is no coping, there is a treatment
So telling someone "be a man!" or "you're such a girl" is wrong, because it forces someone to behave in a way they might not be comfortable with. But telling someone that has feelings of being any other gender than what they are, based on their body, that they are trans is good, despite the fact that you use the same exact gender stereotypes to reach that conclusion? What do you suppose drives a young boy to grow his hair long and put on makeup and dresses, if not to swap one set of gender stereotypes for another? Shouldn't we instead just conclude that gender stereotypes are irrelevant, and shouldn't be used as a basis for determining our behavior or indeed anything in our lives? Is the solution to eliminating the "boxes" of male and female behavior to create a third box to put people into? Couldn't we instead just ignore gender stereotypes and live as we wish, laughing at those who stubbornly adhere to them and pointing out their absurdity? Couldn't we stop "teaching" children that they have accept this new third box, and instead teach them to ignore the entire concept of boxes by living virtuous lives, free from the arguments around gender conformity? I invite you to consider that there is a higher road to be taken that the one presented in this video.
totally agree!!!
I mean that’s what trans is. It is by definition moving outside of the “box” that out sex and society decides to put them in.
@Toddv1 I 1000% agree! ❤️
@@SaintMarianne Not at all. By transitioning from one gender identity to the other you are validating the thesis according to which your sex implies a certain gender, otherwise if you truly believed every human being can do what he wants with his preferences and his personality you wouldn't even care to switch, because your sex would not limit you at all in your actions. What the comment above is saying is true: the entire concept of "gender" is just nonsense, not because it's too complex to understand or too progressive, as the LGBT people usually like to say to make themselves feel better, but because it clearly contradicts itself to the core. If you think gender identity is a thing, it means you belive you can't get long pink hair just because people see you as a male, and you think you need permission from them first, that can be obtained just if you make yourself appear as a female to others. It's an incredibly conservative way of seeing the world, yet it's inexplicably brought on by leftists.
That’s false though. You can absolutely get long pink hair or dress femme and still identify as a man, if you want, that’s part of what breaking the traditional gender boundaries is all about, whether you’re a femboy or a tomboy or a twink or butch or whatever.
Sex doesn’t determine what you are and how you choose to be, our gender identity and how we express it is completely within our control. There’s nothing even remotely conservative about removing birth sex from the equation and allowing people to define gender on their own terms instead, and that’s what transition is all about.
Your energy is infectious, I’m falling in love 🖤 with all of you btw, I’m inclusive
excellent videooo, ur so beautifull, thankss, graciass belles
Those crystal earrings are cool as hell
Amazing job explaining everything ! I feel this video could be shown to someone to help them better understand.Its very simple but still gets straight to the point.Loved how everything was put ! 💓✨💓✨
If you beloved a single thing in this video you are dumb
@Jasmine Parson ofc it'll help you because this video is full of excuses to the crim you've done to yourself
@@dhiachouket9308 did you come here JUST to insult everyone?
@Jasmine Parson Aww, that's awesome! I'm a baby enby*, so this was really helpful too.
*enby = Non-binary (N.B.)
@Jasmine Parson wht d fuck is baby trans do we really need to invent more words which represent gender and goes against biology!!!
i want to come out as trans ftm and i cant find a video that explains what it is that wont confuse my parents RIp does anyone have suggestions
Maybe JammiDodger has videos about that. He has really clear videos about ftm topics
Seek treatment to learn to love yourself the way you are. We don't operate or feed into the thoughts of people with anorexia so they're as skinny as they feel comfortable with. We get them help so they learn to love themselves and so should you!
@@MisaChan101 stop spamming the same crap over and over. It is abundantly clear that you do not understand anything about being trans.
@@yarr0 They don't even understand it themselves 🙄
wtf
Loved it, but I have a few questions, like how are trans people included in sports.
Are there some trans categories or are they included with the cisgender (thankyou) their physical anatomy indicates
Since no one has answered yet, I'll tell you what I know. You'll have to forgive me if it's not that complete!
Binary trans people are included in the categories that match their gender (that is, with cis people). But, from what I've seen, they can only do this if their hormonal levels are inside the average of their group. This is more important in women's categories, because some people feel like permitting someone with a male body to compete would be unfair (by average, male bodies tend to be stronger etc, although not all of them are). This means that, if you're a trans person, it is likely that you'd have to be in some form of hormonal treatment to be able to compete with cis people. (It is my belief that trans people wouldn't want to compete with people of their assigned gender, because that would be misgendering them, but I don't speak for every trans person.)
I don't have knowledge about non-binary people in sports though. Since "women's" and "men's" sports have been so commonly divided by biology and who fits the arbitrary average of male and female, my guess is that non-binary people would be grouped with the people of their assigned gender.
I hope this helps!
I am trans-former
Why do I still not understand
Same here
As a transmasc person, I think the video does not cover the basic basics and assumes and understanding of too many terms and ideas.
Because anyone can dress or act in any way?
Yeah honestly I got even more confused than before
It's ok not to understand at first. learning something new is not always easy. The most important thing to remember is treat people the way they would like to be treated. feel free to watch again, find out more, and definitely talk to those within the community. Ask questions and be considerate.
I have an honest question, and I really don't want to upset anyone or be edgy, just trying to be more informed!
What makes it so that instead of choosing to be male or female, you would choose to be for example non-binary, without body dysphoria?
In case it has to do with social norms, why would you not just choose to behave as feminine or masculine as you prefer at any given time?
I consider myself to have quite a few feminine traits, being a man, and if anyone has a problem with that, it's theirs to deal with if they want to remain in any kind of relationship with me.
Thanks in advance, looking forward to your insights!
I've read your comment several times and I'm not sure exactly what you are asking. I would say that I think everyone should be free to express their gender identity in any way they see fit, with the usual caveat that doing harm to others is not acceptable. So, if you are happy being a man who has feminine traits that is fine as far as I am concerned.
@@MilesDavisKDAB well I guess I'm genuinely asking why someone would choose to identify as non-binary, besides not having to conform to certain norms considered as typically feminine or masculine?
Once again, just trying to be informed 😁
So three things:
1, identity is not a choice, but labels are. To use an analogy, if you were feeling tired, you probably didn't choose to feel tired, but you might choose a way to describe that if someone asked you depending on how you felt, e.g. "I'm feeling sleepy/tired/exhausted."
So for me I didn't choose to be nonbinary, but I did choose to start describing myself as Nonbinary/Genderqueer/Androgyne, because those words best match how I feel. It's kinda confusing, but basically think of it as "born this way", same as sexuality.
2, nonbinary people can have dysphoria. It can be similar to the dysphoria experienced by binary trans people e.g. I have dysphoria around my body being too feminine, which trans men may also experience. It can also be different to the dysphoria experienced by binary trans people e.g. I have dysphoria over not be called by they/them pronouns, and I have dysphoria around not being able to look "feminine in a boyish way". I don't imagine that many binary people would feel like that.
3, gender identity =/= gender roles/norms. I like pop music and the colour purple and having long hair. Doesn't make me a woman. I also like electric guitar and the colour blue and male-dominated STEM subjects. Doesn't make me a man. What I think does make me the gender that I am is the way I want to be perceived. I want to look in the mirror and look androgynous, and I want people to see me as neither a man or a woman.
So to me it doesn't matter what traits you have - if you're happiest being perceived as a man by yourself and by others, you're a man.
Hope that helped!
@@thylacina5989 I see! Thanks for the explanation!
@@thylacina5989 all that Mumbo jumbo goes out the window when identifying a dead body. Your biology determines your gender not your feelings
I know it would seem funny because I'm 60 years old but I truly do not understand what transgender is That's why I'm going to watch this My daughter would laugh if if you saw me post this comment but she tried to explain it and I just got me more confused so I'll give the video a shot maybe I'll understand after watching it I hope
People seem to be saying gender is a social construct, however it seems more accurate to me that *gender roles* would be a construct instead. In my opinion at least people should be able to express themselves and act the way they want without having to change their gender to explain their behaviour. Because a few years back people would say when a boy acts feminine, it would be breaking gender norms. However nowadays people would assert that it means the boy is actually a girl.
What I’m saying is that it seems like people transition because they don’t fit the gender norms of their biological sex. But it is still very possible for a boy to act feminine and a girl to act like masculine?
Secondly, is being transgender a choice or is it something you are born with like gay or lesbian people?
I’m not very knowledgable about gender or sex and I would like some clarification about this… I’m not trying to attack anyone I would just like to understand better :)
So basically a person can do nothing to change their appearance and just claim to be anything they want. Yeah, that will go over real well..... Lol that is exactly why people have concerns about this topic. I used to think they were wrong, but now people like the ones in this video make me see how far that slippery slope is headed. I care more about safety and freedom than I care about hurting your feelings, or whether or not you throw "transphobe" at me. Also, calling it "assigned" gender implies that it's normal not to relate to your genitalia. No. That is highly unusual, as you even admitted. And nobody is 100% masculine or feminine, so the term nonbinary is irrelevant and meaningless.
I don't see how this affects safety and freedom? This is just them expressing themselves in a way that makes them happy. So honestly if using pronouns and acknowledging their gender identity is what makes them happy, then sure I'll do it!
As a cisgender man, I really never got the vibe that the word "assigned" made identifying as the gender you were born with as wrong or abnormal. It's just stating the fact that you just chose to stick with the gender that you were given at birth
And also, I think the term non-binary does have a use and purpose for existing
Well the vast majority of trans people is not gonna do that. Most of is wanna change the outside to match the inside.
@Niqabi Kafira Some really valid points. I want everyone to feel respected but there has to be a line somewhere. Could I commit a crime as an adult but identify as a 12 year old and get tried as a minor (without being classed as having mental issues)? Could I identify as a paraplegic and claim disability benefits? Could I identify as a 70 year old and get my pension early and a free bus pass? Could I identify as someone from a different country and demand I deserve a passport and the right to live there?
@@roweme Fair points, Im here to learn what the other side has to say and hopefully we can come to a consensus as to how to address the concerns of citizens of a country while being inclusive. On a personal standpoint I support anyone's right to present yourself as you see fit if you cannot conform to your "assigned" gender at birth then that's fine too and you are free to do as you wish as long as you are a decent human being and a productive member of society. I do disagree with the point/laws saying that mig-gendering someone is an act of violence punishable by law and sentenceable to prison for speaking what you thought was right on an observation. You can be corrected and educated on the proper pronouns and that's how we move forward as a society but to go to the extreme of imprisioning someone just because of that is a little too much. This will always happen (everywhere around the world) unless people wear their pronouns on their forehead or face, you will be misgendered ALL THE TIME. Does that mean every person who you come across needs to be imprisoned for that, I dont think so. What about formal documentation when someone is writing a paper to a general audience are they conformed to list out every pronoun list that is growing everyday and changing will that person be criticized about what pronouns were used rather than focusing on the topic the person actually wanted to present when the writer had no bias or objection to how a person should live their life. Calling/labelling someone as transphobic for speaking their mind about some of these concerns isn't right either, we're simply trying to find common ground.
Omg the person with the crystal earings im simping
I see a pretty crystal and I just want to eat it
Why do u need crystal earring when u can just shoot up crystal up ur body dat makes more sense to me than someone liking this video.
Ok,now I know a bit more which is good. I know now I am cis gender for example. 3 weeks ago I didn't even know the difference between gays and trans. Honestly still don't quite know exactly the difference but Iwill get there.
There is a lot here in this video alone. A lot of things to understand better.
I think the start of the video covers your point on the distinction between “trans” and “gay”.
My understanding is that:
- the term ‘gay’ is used to describe people attracted to the same sex. So, being ‘gay’ refers to someone’s *sexuality*, ie sexual preference.
- the term ‘trans’ refers to someone who breaks away from the limiting, stereotypical cis male / cis female binary system. That is to say, people who are “born male” or “born female”, and live their whole life happily accepting that gender assignment + gender role. In this sense, being ‘trans’ refers to someone’s *gender* (or gender identity).
Gender and sexuality are of course two different things! And when you have two different factors, it creates not just a spectrum, but an axis. As an example, one person may identify as a straight, trans female. Someone else may identify as an asexual, cis female. Both identify as female, one is trans while the other is cis, and their sexualities are pretty much an unrelated other part of their identities.
Please correct me if I am off base on any of this ❤
I have a question. I'm questioning my gender, and im confused about the concept of gender. Like, I've seen people saying that there isn't clothes/ toys for girls or boy, I understand this. How do you know your gender? Is it like..a feeling? /gen
Dis Will help sooo much for me coming out
i hope you start coming in
@@bastainjames4526 and I hope you staple your mouth shut
*To all of my fellow trans people out there, especially the ones who are struggling:* Please stop scrolling. Drink some water and remind yourself that you will be okay. You don’t need the negativity in the comment section. You are perfect as you are 💜
Watch One Topic’s trans Reddit videos here on RUclips or something. Do anything but linger in the negativity here. Your mental health will thank you for it. Please stay safe lovely and take care of yourselves 💜💖
on a side note, do your due dillengece and research the topic, don't listen JUST to the opinion of trans people as they will always hide certain facts, if you wanna make a NO GOING BACK DECISION make sure you know ALL THE FACTS FIRST
@@yol_n You can always go back, transition isn't a one way path
@@Gahhhhhhhhhhh ah yes a SECOND TRANSITION how wonderful like the first transition isn't already so painful how about a second one?!
@@yol_n Transitioning does have it's share of pain and awkwardness, but my life pretransition was significantly more painful and miserable. If I had not been able to transition, I likely would have committed suicide in the near future. I can't speak for everyone, but that's generally how it feels to be trans. Transition is not always amazing, but it is a relief from the agony of dissociating and faking your life.
The fact that transition sounds inherently unpleasant is a good sign you're not trans, you're lucky not to struggle with that aspect of your sense of self.
The reason the majority of people detransition is because OTHER people made their life miserable while transitioning, be it their parents, their former friends, or harassment from bigoted people like you.
Lucky for you most trans people are responsible.
How do I talk to one of these ppl on this video?
My 28-year-old daughter seems to have no problem understanding this lol maybe I'll talk to her again I went to grade school in the '60s and early '70s maybe that explains my confusion lol
If we are to believe that everything is a construct, then why define it so specifically with how you talk about and express said identity.
TLDR; language is important to people and it helps us communicate our previously undefined experiences better with people who don’t understand.
I love this so much! Thank you for putting it together!
I am a trans woman but I have a question . I have just been diagnosed with stage 2 prostate cancer , do I take the male cancer treatment or should I take the female one?
Treatment for prostate cancer is determined based on a variety of factors, including the stage of the cancer, the patient's overall health and medical history, and the preferences of the patient and their medical team. It is important to consult with a qualified healthcare provider who can provide you with personalized information and guidance on treatment options that are appropriate for you.
If you have any further questions or concerns, please feel free to seek additional information from trusted medical sources or consult with a healthcare provider. Remember, your health and well-being are important, and there are resources available to support you through this challenging time.
This was great but one problem, at 3:45 the person was comparing cis and trans people and it’s a bit offensive to say normal instead of cis like being trans is strange or abnormal
"Cis" is a derogatory term. Learn your history, before you become a victim of it.
@@michaelmaguire5594 What does the word cis mean to you? Because to me and many others it is a simple acronym that is short for cisgender which is the scientific word for someone who l’s gender is aligned (or in other words a person who isn’t transgender or non-binary) with the one they were born with. I don’t see how a word describing your relationship with your gender can be derogatory unless the person saying it is trying to insult a person with the term by saying it with a derogatory intensions or tone.
@@MVCoffin This current display of mass mental illness started with Dr. Money and the 2 boys he treated, David & Bruce Reimer, in the mid 60's. 'Cis' was originally a derogatory term. Anyone who can be led to be confused as to what SEX they are, can be led to believe ANYTHING. Once again, like I stated before, learn your history before you become a victim of it. This is what happens when everyone is running around spewing THEIR version of the truth; the REAL TRUTH gets forgotten in the chatter.
Can I jsut say I love the person with the amythest earrings. the shaved head and earring look is amazing
Yea I love their style :]
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I know, right?? Their style is just gorgeous! 💜
It looks like a genetic experiment gone wrong XD
@@user-jw2ol3dq2z so true 😂😂😂
I wish I oculd find the other videos they are talking about, this is a great one.
Check out their website at the end of the video! The videos are posted there. :)
ruclips.net/video/3xpvricekxU/видео.html for Pronouns
Seek treatment to learn to love yourself the way you are. We don't operate or feed into the thoughts of people with anorexia so they're as skinny as they feel comfortable with. We get them help so they learn to love themselves and so should you!
@@MisaChan101 transitiong for them IS how they get help to learn to love themselves. although not every trans person wants to physically transition, some are comfortable in their body.
@@kiwiparfaits How is mutilating yourself and removing any chance to ever bear children of their own EVER the solution?
When have we ever thought people to change who they are to appease their current state of mind? Did you know that transitioning only makes depression worse???
Lmao some of y’all in the comments are way too concerned about the lives of other people and it shows. 😂
Trans people are beautiful, and you’re only mad because you’re jealous that you’ll never have as vibrant and welcoming of a community as ours.
If you’re seriously that mad about people trying to live a life that makes them happy, I think you should look at how happy you are with your own life. Go to therapy or something. Harassing people on the internet isn’t gonna cure your depression 🤡
So what makes people feel like their transgender? So if a person was born a man, what makes him think that hes a woman? He never was a woman ?! Is it the way they dress? Or is it some toys that they like to play with? Im really confused can someone explain?
Thank you for making this video! I thought I was pretty well informed already, but got some new info!
There is no evidence of any kind for "an internal sense of self" separate from the body. This "internal sense of self" is nothing more than a thought in the brain, which is part of the body. Thoughts just take place in the brain, there is no such thing as a thought separate from a body. The brain-body system is one system, there are no thoughts outside it.
Get your facts out off this delusional channel.
Why are there so many dislikes, are they saying anything wrong?
Nope, just transphobic trolls in the dungeon.
Yes the whole video is wrong
Yes, they're saying you don't need dysphoria to be trans implying that trans is a choice when it really isn't
because some of us aren't part of your cringe, satanic brainwashing campaign.
@@user-jw2ol3dq2z So we should listen to the person who is not qualified to speak on the subject l?
please don't think every transperson is like this, im literally cringing at some of the things they say.
Same here. Don't worry.
Can I ask a question to you guys? I hope asking to you will be useful and informative, unlike the video.
I really don't get the core concept of "gender". I'm biologically a male. Let's say tomorrow I want to paint my nails, make my hair pink and wear makeup. What prevents me from doing that? Nothing, should be the correct and most logical response. In an actually progressive and inclusive society, nobody would feel the need to judge another person based on their sex, and more in general nobody would assume that certain things and behaviors are for men and some are for women, simply because it's clear that sex and behaviors are not mutually implied in any way. In a society like this, where everybody can feel and act as they want and desire, why would anyone feel the need to change sex to get "permission" from people to do and be certain things? If the "masculine" and "feminine" stuff is just a social construct (and it is, in fact) and not an actual consequence of your sex, why validate this construct by switching sex to pair your gender identity with the sex you think it's associated with? I really really don't get it. And please don't elude the question by saying "trans people don't hurt anyone, they just want to be happy", because as you know this topic has many other potential implications on a large scale that should be carefully considered.
Can't wait for more videos!! These are great to show to people who have trouble seeing us for who we are!
No if you are confused about your gender, then what the hell else are you confused about? Do you think dogs are cats and cats are dogs? It's not that hard to KNOW your gender. I'm tired of this movement and people acting like hurt feelings is like murder. You are wrong. Just accept it! Changing EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF DOESN'T CHANGE YOUR DNA!!!!
@ CoopertheTrooper 199300 and yet, you’re more emotionally hurt here by a comment saying a positive thing than the commenter is about your negative comment. Nice work.
@@CoopertheTrooper-xx2rq you are almost understanding it. We know our gender, but people like you keep insisting we are a different gender.
Confused and delusional? That’s what I took from this
this video is so useful and will hopefully help with introducing my family into the concept of being trans so i and my sibling can feel more accepted and comfortable and understood. thank you.
@Cian MacGana what brainwashing???
Brainwashing
What is the meaning of 101
5 in binary
the very basics of something
Why conflate 'gender' and 'sex'? The speakers are confused because they view gender and sex as the same. Sex is simply biology, gender is subjective. Sex is just fact while gender requires a faith-based belief. What about those of us who aren't into faith? We know our sex cos it's just biology but we don't embrace faith. Why exclude us?
I might have been born at night but it wasn't last night. Wake up and smell the coffee.
Im not vet, but I know a dog when I see one. Famous quote directed at Mr. Lia Thomas
I might get some hate for this, but understand that this is not coming from the place of hate, but concern.
I feel like a lot of these people seem to be confusing aesthetics and personality with gender identity. Men and women have been dressing in gender non-conforming ways since forever, it`s part of growing-up and experimenting with your fashion, or being part of different subcultures. Also, by definitions of femininity and masculinity changes throughout cultures and history, what is considered masculine in XXI. century Korea is not the same as what is considered masculine Scandinavia during the viking era. None of that makes anyone transgender tough without having gender dysphoria and having the desire to physically change their biological gender to match the gender they identify with. Bluntly put, unless I at least to some degree want to transition into the another gender (aka want cut off what I was born with and replace them with the opposite genitalia), I am not transgender, sorry.
I somehow feel like trans and gender identify in general somehow became the new fashionable thing for young people to rebel against societal norms with, but being trans is not a subculture or fashion choice like being goth, rocker, Lolita etc., and it can a very painful experience for a lot of actually trans people. It made into "this", is actually quite disturbing.
I am not coming from a place of hate or anything like that, do not misunderstand, please. I fully support the trans community and always have. However, I am worried that there inherent dangers to seeing being trans, nonbinary etc. as a fashion statement or special, to the community and on the individual level as well.
I think you're the one who is confused.
Saying this kind of stuff clearly shows that you *don't* fully support the trans community. You have *zero* say in how anyone else self-identifies. Also gender expression =/= gender identity.
It has nothing to do with personality. It’s just how you feel. It’s like wearing two left shoes your entire life. Pretty fucking uncomfortable. The clothes part is more to help them feel more masculine or feminine to help mellow out the dysphoria.
It's to do with dysphoria, not personality.
if ur not trans don’t give ur opinion on trans issues
@@mars6742 Everyone has a right to their opinion. It’s legal in any country with free speech. I invite everyone to share their opinions on all issues no matter who they are we are all human. :)
My only issue it this works for the trans community but once they try and use this and apply it to all society this doesn't work. You can't impose this onto sports that are by sex. Just because trans live with in a reality where gender doesn't apply doesn't make it true in reality that non-trans or cisgenders live by. I mean no disrespect making this observation, I see the glimpse into the the transgender dysphoria but you can't impose this onto others who don't exist in that world. I am happy you all have each other and are finding a way to manage and express your experiences together, feeling understood is amazing.
Day 1 of learning new language
The degree to which this presentation depends upon and reinforces gender stereotypes is concerning.
Basically, but the definitions used here, I don't think I've ever met a human who is cisgendered, as in completely in alignment with all gender stereotypes. (Watch for yourself, I am not exaggerating how they frame it). So we are all trans. And any young person who doesn't completely identify with the stereotypes is encouraged to consider themselves trans.
That's not helpful to anybody. It misrepresents the trans experience, as well as the experiences of most other humans as a false binary: if you are completely in alignment with every concept your society currently associates with your birth sex, then you are cis; otherwise you are trans. That is not inclusion or good sense.
Agreed. I have yet to hear a definition of "non-binary" that does not reference gender stereoptypes.
Cis: your gender aligns with your sex
Trans: your gender doesn't align with your sex
Non-binary: something that falls under the trans umbrella, but is specific to people who identify outside of the gender binary
Simple as that.
@@hiimapenguin So how is gender described in this video, other than as a set of stereotypes?
Note that it defines cis as completely aligning, but I've never yet met anybody who completely aligns, so I think that makes everybody trans. That is not a service to trans folks, nor to anybody else. I've fought against gender stereotypes my entire adult life, and now I'm seeing them reified as the gold standard.
Do you believe that gender is not binary but a spectrum? If so, then we can logically infer that nobody has a binary gender since that doesn't even exist, and we are all non-binary but rather on a spectrum.
@@zephsmith3499 in a way, yes, gender is a spectrum, but for a large amount of people it is quite binary, thus the binary gender system that is female and male. Also along with what you are saying, sex is also technically a spectrum, with slight (or not so slight) variations between person to person, that's just how it is, does that make everyone intersex? No, it does not. The system of binary and non binary sex and gender is so unfathomably complex, physiologically, that we simplify it down to the nearest binary or non binary, similar to how 1/3x3 is simplified to 1 instead of 0.9 with the 9 indefinitely repeating, of course there are larger leaps than that, but for the majority, that's how it is. To addon, technically all people who were born male are trans, or at least some form of intersex, seeing as we all start out as females until the Y chromosome is activated leading to male genitalia and whatever is Y chromosome specific. Of course, like most things, I have simplified this quite a bit by taking trace variables out and only going with the basics, though it would change very little, if anything, if I include them, it would just be a whole lot more typing.
P.S. anyway, I'm going to go to sleep now and will check to see if there is a response sometime in the late evening tomorrow.
P.P.S. as a side note, gender is how you identify, say a person is AMAB and identifies as male, are cis, but if someone is AMAB but identify as female or other they are trans, the second of the 2 would more specifically be non-binary.
P.P.P.S. this is getting way so long it's lagging my phone so I'll make this short and sweet, sex is how you are identified, gender is how you identify.
@@hiimapenguin Since gender is about socially constructed stereotype clusters, and nobody fits all the stereotypes, I can understand that one simplified model is to think of it as a spectrum. (I personally far prefer to abolish the stereotypes and let people have whatever mixture of stereotyped or non-stereotyped traits they wish, but I nevertheless can understand how the simplified 'spectrum' model would appeal to some people).
Biological sex on the other hand is at heart about reproduction; all else is just secondary markers associated with sex. There are exactly two gametes. There is no third gamete, and no gamete which is 1/4 sperm and 3/4 ovum. The only way for mammals to reproduce is to combine exactly a gamete from each type; not two of the same type, not two of one type and one of the other, exactly one of each. That's as binary as it gets, and biologically this goes far beyond homo sapiens.
Of course, there are sometimes genetic and development errors which cause some of the secondary and tertiary markers typically associated with (but NOT comprising) sex to be atypical. A tiny proportion of humans is born with truly ambiguous genitalia, for example, and this is called "intersex". But intersex people do not comprise a third sex, or produce gametes which are 1/3 male and 2/3 female. There is no spectrum of sex - though one might find a spectrum in such markers as penis size or clitoris size, but those are not sex, they are markers statistically associated with sex. Some people accidentally or deliberately confuse secondary markers of sex with sex itself, and I am familiar with their arguments but find them scientifically unsupported, closer to the old debates about how many angels can fit on the head of a pin - abstract word games divorced from physical reality. None of that wordplay matters to sexual reproduction which still requires exactly one male gamete to fuse with exactly one female gamete, period. No postmodern philosophy changes that binary reality.
Gender does not become binary, or biologically determined, just because some people personally think of it that way; gender is still socially constructed and they are still somewhere on that socially constructed gender spectrum. And sex does not become a spectrum just because some people confuse it with the secondary traits typical of a sex; they are still mammals with no third gamete type nor intermediate gametes for biological reproductive purposes.
I'm not saying this to harm anybody, it's just trying to be rational and thoughtful. These facts are 100% compatible with treating all people (of *any* combination of sex and gender) kindly and compassionately. Being kind and compassionate does not require ignoring the factual universe. Nor does it require us to reinforce gender stereotypes, telling people what social constructions are only for women or only for men. It is not hateful to reject coercive stereotyping. I am advocating acceptance and tolerance and appreciation of human diversity - and also factual honesty, and there is no conflict whatsoever in that approach.
1) Ace representation!!!
2) Doing some research for a trans character I'm writing. Definitely helped. Thanks!
Great video! Looking forward to the Trans 201 course and explaining more about the other/asexual/nonbinary identities (attack helicopters rejoice)!
Any transexual person here to get into contact with? I tried to talk to a friend about it (she ist trans, just more informed) but I appear to have said something wrong and she got very defensive. I am not transphobic in any way, just not educated on that subject and I have struggle understanding it. I never thought about being different from what I am. I'm just me and that's it. Don't really care how I get addressed as.
Hey, I think you should probably just watch all the videos in this series :)
This has been very informative, keep it up guys :D
informative if you want to join them
@@maniac3607 I was just looking for information, you see in my city there is not a lot of knowledge about this
the Korra and Asami shirt is adorable 🥺😍🥰 amazing video 👏🎉
I forgot that shirt is in this video, and thanks for the reminder! 🥰
There is a way which seems right to a man,
But its end is the way of death.
Even in laughter the heart may be in pain,
And the end of joy may be grief.
- Proverbs (you can look up the reference yourself if you're really interested.)
Well, well, well, aren't you just a regular Shakespeare with your cryptic Bible verse. But sorry to break it to you, honey, using a quote from Proverbs to criticize a video about transgender issues is not only irrelevant but also incredibly tone-deaf and insensitive.
Let me put it in terms even you can understand: you're just spouting random Bible verses to try and shame people for being themselves, and it's not a good look. How about you try opening your heart and mind to the experiences of others, instead of hiding behind outdated religious beliefs? Just a thought.
@@own4801 thank you for putting some sense into this guy. I don’t know shit about the bible, and I don’t want to, but I completely agree with you. This guy shouldn’t be here if not to support
This video didn’t help me as it was speaking of consequence instead of development. I want to understand how and why? I want to know why most trans people become the stereotype of their gender? I want to know why gender is even a part of their identity? I have yet to meet a “cisgendered” person who makes their gender their identity or gets offended by incorrect pronouns.
I have so many questions, help me
Was bruda?
Lessons on how to exclude yourself by having some bonkers obsession, so that you can complain about not being included. "It isn't about appealing to other people" was the only part I can agree with. I hope these kids grow up soon.
@ULGROTHA i love you lmao
Okay boomer. 🙄
Yeah. I have slipped into suicidality quite a few times in my life because of how bad my dysphoria can get. Nobody wants this. Please just be respectful and educate yourself.
You're a trans person in denial
@@senseisleepyhead
Zoomer here. Grow up.
We all know who the men and who the women are in this is.
Never cower before a minority who seek to change the way you use your native (ie: your mother 🤪) tongue.
Just relax and be yourself 🙂
You clearly haven't grasped the basics of what it means to be transgender. It's not about changing the way someone uses their "native tongue," it's about respecting the identities and experiences of people who may not conform to traditional gender norms.
And let me tell you, "relax and be yourself" is some seriously privileged advice. Trans people face discrimination, harassment, and violence on a daily basis just for existing as themselves. So no, they can't just "relax" and expect everything to be sunshine and rainbows.
So before you make uninformed and insensitive comments, maybe take the time to educate yourself on the issues at hand. Or, you know, just keep your mouth shut and let those who actually know what they're talking about speak. Either way works for me. 😜
Damn bruh. This is mad informative. Big ups
Big upvote to you Koko Boy
This feels like the gender bending 80’s is back, but it’s been re marketed and rebranded. Having grown up through the the glam rock era, punk, Goth, New Romantics and of course the whole gender bending 80’s, non if this is actually new, apart form the language being used.
There was no denial of biological reality back then. Gender non conformity, breaking gender stereotypes is all about going against gender expectations which is based on your sex.
Once you deny sex exists, well you are not really “gender non conforming”.
What I see now is a movement that promotes gender conformity. “I’m feminine, therefore I must not be a man”. Rather than “I’m a feminine man, deal with it”.
I understand though.
Society can not stand gender non conformity and they were outraged by the gender bending 80s.
They hate masculine women and feminine men. As a butch lesbian, who came out in the 80s, I know only too well what society thinks of women like me. Who don’t conform to gender stereotypes. Who don’t dress for the male gaze. It has told me over and over I am not a real women. However I stand my ground. I will not let society take away my womanhood simply because I don’t conform.
The medical world has largely ignored the female body. Research has revolved around males. Women are treated like mini males, despite our 6500 genetic differences. No matter how I dress, or my sexuality, or how l identify, it won’t change the fact that the medical world doesn’t give a shit about half the worlds population and the more we deny biology, the more we shoot ourselves in the foot and allow the medical world to keep on not giving a shit about Us.
I could pick a few bones about what you say here, but I won't because everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
What I will say though is that you ARE a real woman, and anyone who thinks differently isn't worth your time.
(Spoken by a trans-female and advocate for the transgender community) Stay safe. :)
@@tishwolfsong2869 thank you Tish.
@@tishwolfsong2869 are you sure you are transgender and advocate for transgender community? There's no such thing as real women. Cis women are women, trans women are women. Some where assigned female at birth, some weren't and need external help. We are all valid.
@@muumu0 Precisely my point.
jo Go says "[Society] has told me over and over I am not a real woman." and I'm supporting her position that she is, in the same way as you say "We are all valid", which we are. "real" and "valid" are synonyms. www.thesaurus.com/browse/real
@@allyouneedisperfume758 then technically its a similar struggle. When talking about trans and cis women the main "fact" which transphobes spew is that they're real women because most of them fit a cisheteronormative viewwhich falls in a women being feminine and being heterosexual, and also because they where assigned female at birth.
I am all out to respect everyone's rights. But here is a thought, I don't understand along with the feminist movement, and women complaining about men dominating and taking over all sectors of social life, how is it that women are allowing, now, men to take the only job that no matter how hard a man tries to fulfill he could never fully embrace, the roll of being a woman. So are women ok with also allowing men who want to be women, which they cannot, take their job too?..is it me or is this contradicting?
Respect whatever/whoever a person is/identifies as. Not doing the pro-nouns though. I’ll just refer to you as “hey you!” Cool?
As long as it doesn’t offend the person in question, go for it, bud!
Great video! xx
Heartbreaking 💔. Society needs to accept gender non-conforming people a lot more. It is a social construct. They are not in the wrong body. They do not to be medicated. They do not need to change their bodies. They are beautiful and unique just the way they are.
It is not a social construct it’s biology
Your characteristics could be more masculine or feminine but biology is biology
And that is SCIENCE
@@narcodium I don't deny the reality of biological sex. There is no evidence however for some inner feeling of masculity/ feminity. The idea that you can feel like 'a man trapped in a women's body' or vice versa finds not root in science. Gender is the socially constructed behaviours and expectations that come with being male/ female.
😂😂😂😂😂
The one thing that you can do is leaving the world
One word biology
No
Thank you for educating me. I'm afraid I was very ignorant in the past but now I know more. I'll never understand because I am a straight cis male but I can imagine being hated for being your true self. Everyone should be treated with dignity and respect. Thanks again and now I am going to your website to see more! Cheers!
That’s frightening
No, gender is the role society expects from you according to your sex (male/female), which ultimately you shouldn't have to comply with.
Thank you for this information, very well done and great info!
How does a person know "what's right for them"? Sometimes people do what is "right for them" only to realise afterward that it wasn't "right for them" after all.
That’s the beauty of genderfluidity. Though detransitioning is uncommon, it happens sometimes. And that’s totally ok! As people we grow and change through our life and so does our perception of who we are. If this makes me happy and I’m not harming anyone or myself, why not?
@@copper.canary trans people create the bathroom problem so yes they are harming other people even if not direct harm
People know what's right for them because they freaking feel it in their bones. It's called being true to yourself, something you might not be familiar with. And yes, sometimes people make mistakes, but that's called learning and growing. It's not an excuse to deny someone's identity or invalidate their experiences. So why don't you take several seats and educate yourself on the struggles that trans folks go through instead of questioning their basic human rights? Okurr?
@@own4801 aesthetic changes are not "human rights"
@@yol_n Being transgender isn't just about "aesthetic changes," as you put it. It's about a person's gender identity not matching the sex they were assigned at birth. It's about feeling like you were born in the wrong body, and the emotional pain and confusion that comes with that.
But let's talk about those "aesthetic changes" you seem to be so dismissive of. Transitioning isn't just some frivolous cosmetic procedure, it's a crucial part of many trans people's journeys to living authentically as themselves. And let me tell you, honey, nobody's doing it for funsies. It can be expensive, time-consuming, and downright dangerous in some parts of the world.
So when you say that "aesthetic changes" aren't human rights, you're completely missing the point. Access to healthcare, including transition-related care, is a basic human right. Nobody should have to suffer because they can't afford or access the medical treatment they need to live as their true selves.
I came here to try and understand this whole trans issue and I still don't get it after watching this video?
@mohammad alamin Please elaborate
@mohammad alamin nope we know exactly who we are
@@buttermepancake3613 and that is?
@@jeanniemaycrawford4466 whomever that person says they are
It varies per person
@Cian MacGana it has nothing to do with attention. Quite the opposite actually. The fact that you claim it's about attention shows just how little you know about trans people.
Trans people transition so they CAN be comfortable in their skin as well as many other reasons.
Thanks so much for all the information!
Wonderful video! Thank you!! I feel a little better informed.
What the fuck is there in this video that made u feel better other than u getting brainwashed
@@maniac3607 the video is helping more people learn about stuff that most of society sees as bad, so more people can realize they're not alone and that they can be the gender they really are, and to educate people that aren't trans or nonbinary about it a little because it never hurts to learn about different kinds of people then yourself
@@harlgg most society sees this is as a bad thing because they are smart people
@@maniac3607 I see you refuse to learn. It would be beneficial to you and those around you if you put down the hatred and opened your mind to information.
@@maniac3607 I'm sad for you, I hope you'll understand one day. Living a hate-filled life will only make your life worse