How to Start Therapy!
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- Опубликовано: 13 янв 2016
- I'm Kati Morton, a licensed therapist making Mental Health videos!
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There was a puppy in the room at my first appointment, that was certainly a good ice-breaker.
Okkk im so jealousss
Animal assisted therapy is in my opinion one of the most effective forms of therapy there is.
Woahhh that's sooo cooll
Message *HACKERtoNY22* on ig he’s the best
I want that
I never know what to say in therapy. I just don't understand my own head
Just Monika say that then :)
Years and years of trying and still don’t know what’s happening in there...so how do I tell them?!
Trust me I feel the same.... I just get speechless
Becca -Just Monika- lol 😂 same
They help you understand what’s happening in your head x
Hi! Whoever is reading this, I understand how rough things are right now. I just want to let you know that things will get better, I promise. Keep holding on just a little bit longer. I know you feel like nobody really cares. You're wrong, stop denying it. I care, otherwise I wouldn't be writing this. You're not alone, we may be miles away but we're all going through the same things. Please keep holding on❤️
THEONLYWAYISYOURWAY Keepitup omg female 60yrs old I'm going crazy
Thank you, I want to die but I need to stay a little longer
Mr. Anonymous don't die because that will affect people because they will sink into there thoughts and will think "I could have prevented this" and then depression, stress comes up as necessary especially family members and people who were close to you. You have to overcome thoughts and be strong and fight through because your thoughts can get to you and that point the thoughts are the real problem. I suggest to yell out your problems and emotions when you alone , it helps. I love you even though I don't know you :) stay strong
HELLO FROM 2018) Thanks so so so much for this heartfelt comment I'm going through some hard times and I want t say thank you I was sad and crying a sec ago and now I feel like someone cares and I'm. thinking of going to a therapist for depression and anxiety, soo thank you so much and i know you dont really care and your just doing this to be nice and kind but i feel loved and cared about for the 1st time thanks and have a good night/day
Mr. Anonymous hey. how are you?
My first therapy appointments have been similar. They ask, "what brings you in today?" And the first time, I didn't know how to say a lot so they just asked who I lived with, if I was in school, do I have brothers and sisters, am I working, was I sleeping well...They also just went over things like confidentiality, how I could schedule future appointments and how long appointments lasted. It took the first 2-3 sessions for them to get my full story.
never been to therapy one reason i'm afraid to go. i'm afraid the therapist will say " looks like we are going to have to haul off to a psychiatric hospital
@miki bear the only time they would do that is if you're actively suicidal or tell them you have a plan to end your life. I told my therapist about my suicidal thoughts and did not get locked up 😉
miki bear I go to my first therapy session tomorrow and they are required to say if you harm yourself or others or if you are planning to commit suicide which is why I’m not saying it :). And I was doing research and basically if you admit to planning suicide or self harming they will basically be like “go to a psychiatric center until ur mentally stable” I’m pretty sure ur not required to go but my mom would obviously bring me to a psych place and my family would be furious with me and I’m probably gonna be up all night planning what to say for my therapy session.
Ok update: I looked at it again and they are definitely required to say if u repeatedly self harm or are a threat to your own life or others and can recommend hospitalization
@miki bear why do u hate therapy tho? It's a therapists job to help u in any way possible to make you feel better and to stop you from doing destructive behaviours
miki bear legally your therapist isn’t allowed to tell anyone about anything you say in therapy.
Maybe you can talk to them about why you might be hesitant to actually open up
miki bear ok another update. My therapist was like really bad; my mom is letting us find a new one after I left my last one crying
Your hair looks so nice!!
+titanslayer Yeah, she looks much younger with this hair style.
Only woman would notice that
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Once when about half of the session passed me and my therapist stayed silent for like 20 mins... It was the biggest mental torture I ever had. After my time has ended I just ran from her office..
DramaComedy that happened to me once. I didn't know what to say and it was the worst omg
cheerislife17 Exactly.. I was waiting for her to say something first and she was doing the same.. oh god what pressure it has been
What kind of therapist does that? don't go back
I wish my therapist was like that and not trying to chat me up all the time. I'd rather take it slow and adjust than force some nonsense answers right away
@@suu1998 because this is exactly the problem I came to her with. I'm bad at communication and at that point it was full blown social anxiety. Thank God I'm better now, back then I couldn't even go and buy groceries if I had to talk to the cashier
Was going to leave a comment but seen I already had made one a year ago😂 This issue must still resonate with me.
"Your therapy at your pace" really struck me. I felt a big rushed the last few times I'd ever used therapy and it never occurred to me I should be in control of the pace. Thanks for the tip, much appreciated.
Also new hair style looks fantastic!
The 'coffee and chat' idea sounds amazing! I'm sure we would all love it so much! :) Also, the new do is gorgeous!
+Brigitta Yeah, love the idea as well! :D
It would be totally awesome if you just sat down and shared your thoughts on some things. Amazing video and as always, great advice
I first went to therapy on my fiftieth birthday, and I knew exactly what I wanted to talk about. My mother had died, and I had felt nothing about it-no emotion, nothing. It was just another day. She had not been a bad mom, but I had been a bad son. My best friend had been encouraging me to go for months, and I finally did and began a new stage of my journey. I can say that I am somewhat better now, but not so much that I don't need therapy. Because of an insurance change three years ago, I could no longer afford to go and was going to quit, but my therapist knew that I was not ready for that, so she insisted on seeing me pro bono after that. And so, I continue to see her without paying, but I always make sure to give back by sharing things that she has been able to use to help other patients. Cheers, Russ
I’m watching this August 18th and in quarantine. So helpful. After this COVID crisis, I think lots of people should resort to Kati’s videos.
EXACTLY! That's when I started developing an interest in mental health and watching Kati's vids although I have seen one on narcisstic parents before
One of the best things my therapist did when I was still going to see her in university was not making the conversation one sided. It was so good feeling like I was just talking to someone in a conversation rather than just sitting there talking with minimal feedback (which was how I assumed it would be). Made me open up so much easier than if I felt like I was in more of a "clinical" setting (if that makes sense lol)
I miss it so much, finding another therapist like that (with that kind of natural rapport and familiarity) has been really difficult so far :/.
There is no way I would start with a therapist like that. Before I started working with my therapist, I put together a list of 5 potential therapists, and I went and interviewed them all; asking them questions about their backgrounds, how they work, what they specialized in, etc, and most importantly, got a sense of their personaliltys. Then I chose the one I ended up with. I would absolutely NOT talk about my issues until I was sure that I was comfortable with my choice as to WHO I was going to work with.
That's very clever!
This made me feel so good. I just booked my first ever session with a psychologist. I can’t wait to get some help. It’s exhausting being in my head.
Oooo Kati! Your hair is beautiful!! I want you as my therapist so badlyyyy
My therapist had a list of questions for me. It was all general stuff to get to know me. We addressed the big one “why are you here?” at the beginning but didn’t address any of my issues yet. She just wanted to get to know me as a person. Psychologically speaking, that’s the best way to build trust and get someone to like you…ask them questions about themselves and let them talk about themselves.
It's your channel you can do what ever you like with it. You make great stuff so just stick with what feels good.
So thankful for this throwback Kati video. I’m finally taking the jump into therapy and have my first appointment set for Wednesday. While I’ve read nearly every ‘first session’ article, and even seen this video before, your words bring the peace and assurance I need. Thank you for all of the work you have put into mental health awareness and access.
Thank you for this video. I have my first therapy appointment tomorrow and this helped me feel less nervous about it.
Love the new hair! I've never commented before but I have been watching your channel for a long time and now that I'm finally starting to pursue therapy for myself this video definitely helped to lessen my anxiety surrounding that, so thanks :)
I'm very much looking forward to your Thursday videos being more up in the air/whatever you want to talk about. I feel like it will give us a chance to really learn more about who you are as a person and I'm really looking forward to that!
Your videos are really helping me to realize when I spoke to my counselor on Tuesday that I didn't do it badly, but did it just right. Thank you for your wonderful videos they take away the mysterious shroud of psychology and make people seeking help like they aren't crazy.
Thanks for answering this question. That’s so me, therapy’s really awkward and I don’t know where to start even though I have plenty to talk about. Glad I’m not alone.
This is amazing. I have my first therapy appointment tomorrow and in very anxious and scared about it. This has helped me relax a little bit thank you
I think the "coffee and chat" set up is a really good one. It's kind of how I try to structure my videos. Sharing my opinion on something I've been thinking about recently and leaving it open to viewers to join the conversation. But that's also been my biggest struggle is getting viewers to communicate with me so we can have those conversations.
I'm planning to go back to therapy, have been for a while but haven't had the motivation to look for a therapist and do something about it. I really need to get on that.
Love your hair Kati 😍. This video was so helpful for me! I've recently been referred to a psychologist and have been so worried about how I'm gonna start but this gave me an idea! Thanks xx
your hair looks amazing!! also this is super helpful, thank you :D
Hey Kati, I just wanted to thank you because after watching couples of your videos, you managed to give me enough strenght and courage to seek out for help. I'm seeing a therapist really soon for the first time so this video was super helpful! Thanks again for what you are doing here!
This video was comforting and helpful. I've finally admitted to myself that I need to see a therapist but I'm still deliberately procrastinating on setting up an appointment, not knowing what to say being one of them. This makes me feel a little better about how my first appointment might go. Thank you! :)
Katie mentioned every thing I felt guilty about doing in therapy this helped so much
Planning on starting therapy soon and this helps a lot. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this video, You elevated some major concerns I was worrying about. I get easily overwhelmed and have a lot of things I want to discuss in therapy, but was very apprehensive about where to even start on day one.
I'm going to be starting therapy next month and this makes me feel a lot better! Knowing I don't have to be responsible for leading the conversation all the time is a big relief!
We will direct some new patients to your videos! People tend to have anxiety about their first appointment, and this information, I believe, will help alleviate those fears.
I’m so lucky that my mother is so supportive. She was the one who suggested therapy, because she knows I will never admit my weaknesses. We were sent a list of physiatrists and I’ll be trying a few until I find the right one. I’m really scared, but I’m so ready to start my recovery
this video came at such a good time for me... thank you.
Love the hair! You look beautiful!!
Thank you, more than you’ll ever know. ❤️
My first therapy appointment was the opposite. I just unloaded all kinds of information on the table at once! It was like a big list that I went down. But then I ran into that issue with not being sure what to say or how to start a few sessions in. I still struggle with it and feel awkward sometimes or like "Maybe I'm not doing this right 😬Wait, am I doing therapy right?! Ah!" and I've been in therapy for about a year.
Thanks for the vid. Helps to know lots of us feel this way.
PS. Love the new hair Kati ❤️
And coffee and a chat sounds like a great idea ☕️👍🏼
this was really useful for me as I'm starting counselling in February when I go back to uni, I've had my initial appointment but now I'm starting to freak out about it! And your hair looks amazing Kati xo
Thanks for helping humanity. I can tell you're kinda awesome.
Thank you so much for this. I had my first therapy appointment on Monday and although it went well I still freaked out a little after because I didn't know if it went how therapy appointments are meant to go or if I said enough or too much etc, but this has helped me feel a bit better about it, and hopefully next Monday will go well too :)
I just got out of the hospital and I’m getting put in therapy and I am so happy about getting help but I was scared. After hearing/watching this I am SO excited and less scared. Thank you so much!
thank you! i have my first therapy appointment in 10 days and it made me a little bit less stressed c:
This was actually really helpful, thanks Kati
Love the new hair cut! Also, I like the new idea for Thursday videos.
Thank you so much for your videos Kati :)
Thank you this is so helpful!
I've been seeing my therapist for about a year and whenever she brings something up that. I don't want to talk about (usually self harm related) I tell her that I don't want to talk about it and then she asks why and try's to weasel the information out of me and we end up talking about it. Then after session I feel really bad and kinda upset that she didn't respect the fact that j didn't want to talk about it
Hope you have someone that makes you comfortable. You did say your therapist weaseled stuff out of you so that seems like a negative experience. The goal of therapy is to get persons to open up and share so that the therapist can see what methods need to be applied etc but if you were not comfortable talking about certain issues, as Kati says in her video here, your therapy, your pace
today was my first one haha so great timing! It felt exactly like a first date, a good one. Lots of jitters but I felt a weight lifted off
Looking beautiful as usual and love your wall art 💜 much love💖💖
Also this has been one of your most helpful videos!!!
I start off with lots of things to talk about then I come in and start to get nervous because I feel like I said it all and I don't know what to say. But you are right, the client is in control and knowing this puts me at ease. I can say whatever I want.
love your videos kati :) keep on doing them, you're awesome
But what if I dissociate every single time I talk about my issues ?
Me too! That happens.
Thank you for your advice! 👍💯
I just discovered your channel , and find it very helpfull it's crear!!, thank you!
Hey Kati. With a little over two years of post-graduate experience under my belt, just today was I ever even told of your RUclips channel. I'm delighted to meet you (at least via RUclips). My question is whether you have a channel dedicated to the best way for us to engage with disengaged people? Right now, it feels like that's all I've got on my case load, and I am really struggling with some of them who are just so closed up. Thanks Kati!
i so wish i could have had you as my therapist
Same
Thank You a great video it helped a lot I just reached out to a therapist. I'm actually scheduling an appointment I was super scared and nervous but i reached out. Thank you
Hi Kati! Love your videos :) So I'm a student working on my master's in social work and would love to hear any tips/advice you have for new professionals!!! Maybe a series?
yes plz, great idea
Oh my god, you cut your hair AND straightened it! And it's SO beautiful! :O
The only youtube channel worth watching
I've been in therapy for a long time (7 years) and I still sometimes don't know where to start. Like Kati said, it's normal! A few years ago, I found that writing things down for my therapist before my appointment would often help, especially with the harder topics. I might just make a list with bullet points, or it might be more like a formal letter saying hey, here's what's going on. And in those situations, I give them to my therapist at the beginning of our session to let her read it, and we go from there. And it's not always big things I write down...it might be, I had a fight with a friend or I'm feeling more anxious than usual.
When I go to a new therapist I write down a list of things that I have written down when I notice them and give it to them it breaks the ice faster and you can just hand them the notes
Whatever Thursdays are the best!
this video just makes me cry bc i want to see a therapist and know its necessary but it seems so overwhelming to think about going in and having to talk about everything
thank you so much for this video
When I was looking for another therapist, initially over the phone with them. I said...I am on disability for an anxiety disorder. That was the 1st hint to them....what my issue was. Sometimes giving a therapist an idea what your struggles are before an appointment can give them a direction how they can lead you in the 1St session.
Kati I love your new hair!
Great video and thank you
I think 'Coffee with Kati' would be an awesome idea. I would love to hear you're point of view on different topics. Also, I love your videos. :)
I have my first session in 5 days and i'm nervous, binge watching these videos and trying to write a script of whats going to happen : D
I follow on Snapchat and install so I've already seen your hair but it looks awesome on you! and I think I speak for a few people when I say we love all of your videos! so it doesn't matter what you put out were going to watch them! :)
The first time I went to therapy I stayed in silence the whole 50 mins.
The second time I brought my sister with me so she could "help" me speak my mind out loud (I used to completely rely on her and I had no sense of self).
The third time my whole family came with me to the therapist's.
Then I decided to quit, because I didn't like how deep it was getting AND I felt guilty for the amount of money that my dad had to pay every session. I was very uncomfortable. But at that time, I didn't know how to communicate my feelings and I would always avoid difficult situations.
Thinking about it now, I had so much trauma without realizing... I didn't even know WHY I was there in the first place, I just felt like something was wrong. If I just had the guts to NOT quit 🙃
love your new hair cut
You're Awesome, I wish I can afford you to help a friend I have that I suspect have BPD.
hey Kati thank you so much for your videos, they have changed my life.
I was going to ask you about starting therapy, as I have booked an appointment with a therapist for next week.
I have incredible lows that are followed closely by outbursts of positivity and confidence...
I only feel I need therapy and help when I am in my low moods, but this week I am feeling confident and impenetrable, as if I don't really need therapy.
I'm committing to it because the lows are so destructive, but my question is how can I properly portay to my therapist how terrible I feel during the lows when my appointment occurs in an elevated state?
thank you for inspiring me to seek help. you're a rock star
My first appointment with my therapist she kinda told me a little about herself to kinda break the ice and then we just kinda takes about how my relationships are and then the next time she kinda gave me a topic and said tell me about this instead of a direct question
Wow wonderful this will help me
I would love coffee and chat videos!
I love your hair!
Hi, Kati. I know this video is older but It was so helpful. I’m waiting to be matched with a therapist and have no idea what to expect. Well, i kinda do now lol. Thanks :)
Hi Kat! I love your new hairdo!
Do you have any tips on adjusting to different situations? I just began college this semester and it's not going well. I know I need an education, but I hate having a roommate and I want to go home.
I think she'll have good, and probably better advice than me, but I think knowing why you're there in the first place is really useful. Once you have your goal and you know what you want out of life in general, you see the big picture and it just gives you a new perspective. I struggled with that too, and I'm now in college. That's what helps me, just remembering why I'm there in the first place. This is coming from someone who gets panic attacks, so trust me I know how it can be.
I felt the same way when I first started college! I gave it some time and tried my best to reach out and make friends on campus and in online communities! Maybe you could look into having a single room for the next semester if your university offers them! It would give you move privacy and time to yourself while also allowing for you to challenge yourself and meet new people!
If your roommate is your only problem with college, I think you should tough it out. It will teach you valuable lessons about getting along with people even if you don't want to, and learning from others in general. Changes are, too, you're probably going to have to be a roommate sometime when you get older if you can't afford a full rent payment.
I think it's a great idea!
I absolutely hated my first appointment I had yesterday, I just wanted to run away.
I want to sort things out but I just didn't feel it was right for me
Hey,how is everything now?
Ok lets say im younger then... 14 years old and i believe i have quite a few mental health problems and i haven't told anyone bcs is scared, how would i tell my parents that i want to see a therapist or something without having a panic attack, last time i told my parents that i had depression, but i had to write it down cuz i literally couldn't say anything, but we just talked about it and now it been 1 year later its worse... So idk what to do
Hii, thanks for your all amazing videos. I love these Q and A, I was wondering if you also could make some videos for Counsellors, most of the videos are for clients which is perfect, but I would highly appreciate if you could come up with some videos for Counsellors, like those that we can find in 5Min therapy in RUclips, and they are very good I am a counselor and I would love to know your tips for Counsellors. :) Good luck
I’ve been in and out of therapy a couple times.. and pretty much the first appointments were just an ‘intro’ on my life. Last time I had a fist session i remember a screen saying basic things about me like parents are divorced, has autism other things etc. and they pretty much asked me about all that. Oh and I’m 16 btw
I don t need of terapy but i need to improve my vocabulary in inglesh and you are a na tive speakers and i watch your videos beacuse your voice is amazing thank you for vlogs.
hey kati! thanks so much for your videos they're really helpful! I was wondering if there is any way for me to ask you a question directly in a way that only you can see it? I just have so many questions and don't feel comfortable asking them all publicly. Thanks again!
I think random thursdays are cool! Do what you wanna do, talk about the things you wanna talk about :)
Hey Kati.Love your new haircut;same one I got when returned home from Barcelona.
Need some advice...How can I tell my relatives their arguing and cursing at each other makes me feel bad and ill with anxiety and depression?They don't seem to care nor understand although I've asked them to stop it before.
I need some feedback about this because I feel like I'm alone struggling with all their drama and stuck in the middle of it.
Thank you.
Aha i ended up saying the same thing, i got asked what i wanted to get out of counselling and at that point i realised i had no idea. But anyway, those are great video ideas!
Is therapy different in shool ?? I'm gonna be in 9th grade and i'm gonna start therapy. I didn't know what to expect.
Thanks so much for this video it help a lot !
I'd love to see anything you WANT to create!!
Can you do videos for therapists? I’m new clinician and could use some advice on how to start and end intake and follow up sessions