“There is a type of love that is only experienced through sadness. There is a type of joy that is only experienced through grief.” Boy, that hit me hard.
@@jc-1231 Right, it's so special because the title of the movie is not the main character, but that character was able to generate the most emotional scene in the movie.
I find that combating depression is both complicated and simple. You can't just try harder. But you do need to persevere and endure. Persevere and steadfastly work through the issues, until the day arrives where you find out that you can "pull yourself up by the bootstraps". Time truly does heal all wounds, even if the scars that remain are ugly and ache.
Something that’s also great about this movie is that Riley’s parents actually hear her, when she tells them she wants to go back they don’t say “well we live here now”, they basically say “You’re not alone in mourning and missing Minnesota, we miss it too, with you”. And that’s such an important validation that gets missed in conversations alot
Yes! I feel like most parents mean well but don't realise that this is so important. Like it isn't nice that we feel these emotions but it's normal and even parents that are supposedly perfect can be sad, angry and scared. The best thing is if you don't affect others when feeling "bad" emotions and learn to get over and process "bad" emotions. You are so right!
I just realised now that joy has blue hair, Sadness's color, she's the only in one among the other emotions to have a hair color not matching her own. A clever visual clue to show that the ending is also Joy accepting that part of herself will always come from sadness.
Wow I never thought of it that way... Like, I always wondered why was her hair blue if she's entirely yellow and thus represents joy, but I never thought of this until now...
That’s exactly what I thought, when I first watched this movie I wasn’t old enough to completely understand what was going on but the thing that stood out most to me was the fact that joy was the only character multiple colours. As well as that, the blue parts of her are the most noticeable, being her eyes and her hair, they stand out a lot more than the yellow parts of her do and they’re the most important parts of her, especially her eyes. It’s an amazing character design, it literally tells you the ending of the movie, you can’t have joy without sadness, that’s why you can’t think of the character joy without her blue hair and blue eyes
You know a movie maker has talent when the "death" of an imaginary friend makes you cry. RIP Bing Bong. Your passing was a true showing of how parts of our childhood die as we mature.
He's not really dead, he's with lost memories. From my experience in my late 20's there are occasional moments when I'll remember old imaginary friends. So maybe Riley, in her 20's or even 30's will have a memory, however brief it may be, of Bing Bong.
@@stargazer1946 I hope she does. One does not have to lose all of our wonder and imagination of childhood to “become an adult”. It is my somewhat childlike view on life, even at 58, that allows me to easily find joy in life.
"What's this great big round thing coming towards me very fast? So big, and flat, and round, it needs a big, wide-sounding name like ow, ound, round, ground! That's a good name, ground! I wonder if it will be friends with me?"
My version of Bing Bong that makes me sad is (im 39 rn) when i was a teen, i would collect many favorite obscure songs and bands and keep it on an old External Hard Drive... after years it broke at around my mid 20s. I just recently remembered an old local indie band that i used to play song on guitar with... they were not popular so not even RUclips has it...just a few weeks ago i found my old CDs and i found that bands CD! I just dont have a disk drive with anything to play it...but it resparked a "Music Bing Bong". Still makes me sad thinking of all the music i used to get emotionally connected to that I wont ever be able to re-hear again 😢 DJs and artists that dont exist anymore. (same feeling when my Favorites YT playlist ends up "unlisting" or "deleting" songs I saved here.
It always hits me hard when they show that the mother is run by Sadness and the father is run by Anger, yet it's still a happy family. It shows how multi-faceted emotions really are. Sadness doesn't always mean upset, it also means compassion, empathy, understanding. Just like anger isn't always rage, it can be passion, determination, confidence. Goes for the other ones too, Fear can be cautious or strategic, and Disgust is also pride, standards, and morals. You don't need to be happy all the time in order to be whole. Your emotions don't define YOU, it's your perspective that defines your emotions.
You guys missed something. One of the things that makes this movie so brilliant is one line that most people miss. When Riley's mom tells her that they need to "put on a happy face" for her dad. That is the seed that causes everything that comes after. What makes this such an important moment is that it's so incredibly accurate to life. One innocuous, seemingly innocent, comment can totally screw a kid up. From this moment on, Riley feels like she's not allowed to be anything but happy. And that's when Joy starts trying to stifle her fellow feelings. Kids take everything to heart and they did an amazing job of showing that. I feel like it's one of the most important moments in the movie and I'm bummed I didn't get to hear you guys talk about it.
Notice how Joy is like the lead or the supervisor of everyone working on Riley’s head in this movie. With her mom, it looks like it’s Sadness. With the dad, anger. In line with what you’re saying, you can probably say that your external environment makes a big difference on your internal emotions. The dad is expected to be angry or dominating because he is some sort of entrepreneur and leads a team working in a company in San Francisco. For the mom, Sadness leads but she is way more mature than Riley’s sadness. The mom has been the support system of Riley’s family and she’s the one trying to keep the family together especially after moving to San Francisco from Minnesota. And expecting Riley to be this happy “monkey” and funny and goofy Riley at a time where it hurts and it’s pretty sad to be moving away, leaving your friends and everything else that makes your identity for good.
I agree, when I first watched this when I was a preteen and recently I watched my second time I noticed that Riley is gonna be stressed fr after that comment.
it’s actually quite clever how easily joyful memories turn to sad ones when touched by sadness, because that’s the nature of memories. you can be happy that you have these memories, but it can easily turn to sadness when you realise that it’s not like that anymore and things have changed as you grow up.
Love this. Thank you so much. It's so hard going through this. And it doesn't help that I don't talk about it. This is probably the hardest thing for me about my wife becoming ill (not terminally, thank goodness) and probably being unable to leave the house again. The memories of so many of the things we did together are now so bittersweet because we'll never have things like them again.
Very true. My mother died early and will never meet my children and although I am saddened by that loss, and that for me it won't ever be like that, I can make certain that my children grow up as happy as I did. One can learn from sadness.
Honestly that's what makes me cry in this movie is that the other emotions are also shut out, which is what makes her depressed. It's not that she's full of rage or sadness, she doesn't have anything. It's what made it feel so real.
Exactly. Like you can be depressed without haing depression. You can have depression without being depressed. I have clinical depression. Ive had intrusive thoughts since the age of 6 but always come off as the bubbly fun girl. Im loud, im silly, but im also overwhelmed by any emotion. I am okaywhen im numb. I can function with numb. When i feel its too much and I dont know how to process it which leads me to essentially just disassociate because being in my head is a LOT. Seriously, therapy is so valuble, but so is having parents and family members be supportive and helping you work through that stuff instead of just dismissing it as childish nonsense. If you dont teach kids how to handle stuff they just wont.
Noooooo! Alan’s daughter saying “her memories are yellow and blue now” 😢😭 Now *I’M* ugly crying… art giving children the vocabulary and tools to express themselves ALWAYS gets me. ❤
@@trickytreyperfected1482 I disagree, just because a film is good or complex, doesn’t mean it isn’t for kids. It absolutely counts as a kids film, it’s just a good one.
I hate that the therapist didn't want to call it a "kids film" because it relies on the idea kids media is shitty and shallow and anything barely more well made and complex isn't for them because they're too dumb to understand it
@@jazzandbunny we would LOVE to, if we could find a translator who could also translate the humor. Some of it is cultural, but dad-jokes are universal. 😂
For me, it was seeing all the aspects of Riley's personality crumbling away one by one. I remember being in that state, and seeing it expressed in such a clear way onscreen just hit something in me.
@@knowone4587 well yeah...I think most teenagers or young adults miss a time when they were more carefree, without the stress that often comes with adulthood. Or maybe you mean something else 🤷♀️
@@wehate-ku7tf hey if youre feeling depressed please get help. But please remember depression and feeling depressed is different and that's very hurtful for people with depression and not a matter to joke about. If youre actually suffering from clinical depression and is diagnosed by a professional,i hope youre doing well.
As someone with bpd a way I like to describe it to younger people who have seen inside out is the little people inside my head like to take control very quickly when anything happens. Even if it's something little, they get excited to be in control because they know the next moment someone else might take over. And sometimes no one wants to even go near my control panel- sometimes it lasts for days when someone touches my control panel at all and it gets really hard. I really love this movie. We watched it multiple times while I was in one of my treatment places as a teen. It really helps when it comes to explain what I'm going through in a visual and more simplified manner
I always cry multiple times during Inside Out but when the Therapist talked about the memories about his mother being blue because she's dead. Damn, TEARS I tell you.
I'm a 36 year old woman who lost my mum when I was 29, when he talked about his mum I realised it was the same for me and even though I was already tearing up anyway due to Riley having her parents there, I cried a bit for real then. This film always gets me though, and it's good to let it get me, it feels kind of detoxifying to have a little cry every now and then.
no matter how many times i hear the line "take her to the moon for me, okay?" or watch the scene with Riley crying and hugging her parents near the end, those two parts always make me almost cry...
When Riley breaks down at the end I feel it two ways, as a parent because it breaks m heart to see my children cry and it speaks to my inner child all the time I wanted to break down and cry
Awww well I'm going to go on a vilent killing spree to cure my self of the sham of crying at this muve. I can't help it That pore Girl is soo said! And that strange elifent thing giving up is life just to be forgotten!!!? What in earth?🗡️😔🛡️ You know what it's saying. It's saying he's worthless it's saying he needs to be left behind so even else can be happy. I don't like it it makes me sad.😔
@@elizahart661 Yeah but like psychopaths don't cry at this movie .😔 I ges I'm not one of those I have to destract myself with pain to keep from crying.
@@cedricburkhart3738 dude seriously it's okay to cry, it's a much healthier coping mechanism than self-inflicting pain! Letting out your emotions is important
My sibling is on the autism spectrum and often really struggles to identify and express their emotions. This movie has been a huge help in our communication. It helped my sibling connect with the idea that everyone has emotions inside them, and what those emotions are. Now when they get upset, I'll ask them "what emotion is inside?" And they can tell me.
@@Megaman-2407 Isn't even the media. Media doesn't give a shit if you cry. Social norms are what have dictated it for decades, not the media. The 'media" is just a scapegoat used to blame shit we don't want to blame ourselves for. WE need to grow past this bullshit, not "the media" TM
@@WalkerRileyMC isnt the media just us but in a more digusting form due to being annoynumus? Even if you force people to understand it in real life no one will know on the internet if you are truly reform or just hiding.
@@CinemaTherapyShow I honestly can't imagine what working with you must be like. It must be so wholesome and fulfilling to work on a team that is all about bringing about self-awareness, emotional growth and mindfulness through common media that people appreciate. This channel really brings me joy and helps me grounded on my conscious effort to constantly better myself. Oh by the way this is the third time I'm watching this, this time it came up in a newsletter of a blender artist I love (Andrew Price) and I was so ecstatic that someone I've never met but is a great career role model for me was also moved by this video that I decided to watch it again. Can't say I regret it, tears and all. I love your content
@@omoid1749 Holy Crap! Andrew Price talked about us in his newsletter! Alan here. I’ve watched his stuff off-and-on for years. Could you forward me that newsletter? cinematherapysolutions@gmail.com And honestly, working with us is... Fine? I guess we’re nice people? It’s a little disconnected, because we’re just talking to cameras in a basement, doesn’t feel like: This is going to be seen by millions of people. Feels more like: How can I make Jonathan laugh right now, and holy crap here I go crying again.
One of my favorite touches for the movie is that everyone but Sadness has a place in Riley's life. Disgust drives her sense of taste and self-expression, Fear keeps her aware and safe, and Anger gives her a competitive drive in sports, but Sadness has no "role" until the finale. When Sadness sits with Bing Bong and listens to him, I literally whispered to myself "oohhh, she's Empathy." Sadness lets Riley relate and understand to the rest of the world, which is such an important role to play!
Sadness had a place in her life it's just that Joy always tried to run her. And that's the point of the whole film. She kept sadness bottled up. The fact that there were no Blue orbs in core memories is what almost destroyed her. She needed to stop pretending to everything was always fine and show it
This video is 3 years old. I remember watching this video only 8 months after my dad died. And I couldn’t finish the video. But rewatching this, when Jonathan mentioned his mother and the memories around them, I just immediately broke down in tears for the first time in months, never in my life did I think two dudes watching a cartoon movie would make me ugly cry loud enough that my mother had to ask if I was okay
I used to say I need to go to the bathroom when it happened to avoid crying but I’d legit just think about it and cry god I’m crying right now thinking about it god I h8 puberty
Hanni recommended this video. She used to tell fans it's okay to feel tired and sad sometimes insteading of just telling to be happy, which i really love her for that. She seems so mature and takes care of her mental health. ❤
Toxic positivity is no joke. I'm more a realist but I had a coworker who was a preacher for positivity and optimism and one day he got frustrated by something and snapped and turned violent. Not allowing yourself to accept the full range of human emotions led to him bottling up his anger until his mind just broke and he lost control of his actions. It was honestly one of the most terrifying things I've ever seen and I am thankful when I think back that he didn't hurt anyone during his fit.
That's an anecdote with no empirical use at all. It's literally just some story about some guy you know that demonstrates nothing except what that one guy is like, a guy the rest of us will probably never meet.
@@Thy_Boss The reason I mentioned this was because he vocally told me that he believed that positivity is a choice that you can be 100% positive all the time if you just decide to be positive. What I was trying to show was, this clearly doesn't work. This guy although yes was just one dude, WAS the ONLY advocate for this movement that I've ever met and he ended up flipping out, acting erratically, getting fired from our job and then spent the next 5 months trying to make false claims to my landlord to get me kicked out of my building all because I didn't buy into his personality cult shit.
@Chinedu Atisele Thank you! Yes, I agree. I certainly also go back and forth. Personally I'm more of an optimistic realist. I believe most things will work out and will have a good conclusion but not everything is neat and tidy. Horrible things happen and we just have to learn to accept them and move on. Actually I'm watching a show atm that sums up this idea very nicely. It's called The Leftovers, and is about how people cope and grieve negative events that have ambiguous and undefined conclusions. It's a really great allegory for the fact that most things in life are ambiguous to some extent, and learning to live in that ambiguity is one of the only ways to move on and continue on the grieving process. I too think it'd be spectacular to just be able to choose to be happy, but unfortunately I have yet to meet anyone who claims they can do such a thing and who are actually able to practice their preaching.
"Im a licensed therapist and I love movies" "Im a filmmaker and i need therapy" And im a highschool student whos currently procrastinating on homework and is eating potato chips
I would point out that Bing Bong is one of the greatest characters I have ever seen on cinema. He does not only sacrifices himself for the girl he loves: in doing so, he knows she will forever forget him. His death is one of the saddest and bravest things ever. Mostly because he's half dolphin and half cat and he cries candies
Iii... wouldn't be so sure on the "forever forget" part. Bing Bong isn't a minor ordinary thing that Riley just did one day in her childhood and then moved on; she spent a long time imagining him, pretending to interact with him, drawing him, and she had fun doing so. There's a plethora of ways at least one memory of Bing Bong could sooner or later come back to her Maybe she sees a pink fluffy elephant-looking animal? Maybe she hears a tune similar to the one she made up? Heck, she could even be digging up amongst her old stuff one day and find drawings of him she may have done on paper and preserved And I'm saying this not taking into account what was said in the movie about the memory dump "erasing memories forever". Because... those were fond memories Riley made with Bing Bong; I can get not recalling a fond memory for a long time but... _forever? For the rest of her life, until the day she dies?_ We don't know that. Plus, Bing Bong got erased, but what about the _memory orbs_ of the time Riley spent with him? Do we know they're gone; that they fell into the abyss? How do we know memories can't bring back a lost imaginary person?
24:48 Honestly you two might have one of the greatest friendships on RUclips. The way Jonathan just automatically comforted Alan when he was struggling to speak was just incredible, and brought back all my crying from the rest of the video that I was just getting over. You guys are awesome.
I haven't even seen the movie, and that got me hard. It made me think of my dad, and I realized how bittersweet all my memories of him are now, just by virtue of him no longer being here.
@@KatieSeville My Grandfather too, I have soo many memories of him at Christmas. Him helping me with my mumbling and talking too fast; I'm literally crying writing this because well, grief doesn't just go away. I lost him 5 years ago and it still hurts a lot.,
Yeah, I lost my mom unexpectedly after a long battle with cancer (long story) the night after Thanksgiving last year and quarantine hasn't made it any easier. The second he started talking about his mom I got hit with thermonuclear feels. That said, hearing the analogy was really nice from a healing perspective. Oof.
My cousin used to force herself to smile, until she saw this movie. After she saw it, she broke down to her mom and confessed she had been feeling sad since her dad died. She just wanted to be the brave one, for her mom and little brother. Don't worry guys. She's doing much MUCH better now. Edit:She found this video and was mad at me for making the comment but says she doesn't care if I send her every kind reply.
Honestly, the crying moment for me isn't when BingBong sacrifices himself, but it's right before when Joy falls into the forgotten memories. She literally forgot how to be happy.
The moment for me is when Riley stands in front of the class and just can't do anything. (Worth noting, however, that Bing Bong's goodbye was originally 30 seconds long - but was cut by Pixar for ...reasons)
I remember watching the movie and the (almost) crying moment for me was when Joy started crying. Back then it was because I found it extremely moving that the representation of Joy, a character that's dedicated to happiness and that feeling, experienced a moment of genuine sadness. It shouldn't be possible. After watching this analysis, I now realize it's because I'm acting like Joy. I refuse to let myself cry and put others above myself. I convince myself I don't get to feel sad because others in my family are feeling sad. The reason I almost cried when Joy cried is because I *am* Joy
when the therapist started talking about his mum and how the memories are now blue, i just ugly cried. EDIT: I posted this a day ago and its doing numbers T_T the heck?
I've seen my grandparents pass and I know one day it will happen to my immediate parents. Honestly, I don't really know how to react to that grim thought, but unless something happens to me I know it's something that'll destroy me eventually, just like how my Mum and Dad were destroyed when theirs went. But like them I'll have to keep going, just with blue memories. For now, Sadness and Fear = Dread, right? Right...
@@conspiracypanda1200 im experiencing the same thing. Seeing my grandparents pass hit hard in the same way, now anything like this makes me so emotional
Yes...! It's refreshing to see men being emotionally honest and compassionate with each other instead of blustering and perpetuating toxic masculinity.
@@Sam-lb8xs the real Bro Code (with a REAL Bro) ist being emotionally honest to each other and share feeling. Thats a real bro, very rare, not everyone have the luck to have that
I think a reason for why the Bing Bong scene is so sad is because a lot of people can relate to eventually losing your imaginary friend. Whether it was conscious or you just forgot about them while going through life.
And losing interests, really. Years down the line you remember something that used to bring you joy and keep you afloat, and now it doesn't get you this excited anymore - and it feels like a loss
As someone with depression, I can agree. I feel better when I can make myself cry to get the stress out. When I have my episodes, it even affects me physically to where, the best I can describe is I feel my body is like a balloon. Just skin and air holding me together waiting to deflate. When I can actually be sad, it feels like I'm letting myself feel real again
What I love about this movie is it shows us the inside of Riley's mom's head, and the mom's head has sadness "in charge" To me it is kind of giving us a hint. And it shows that as a child we are all happiness and joy and that when we grow into women we start to learn compassion and that it's okay to have emotions and let sadness out too. ❤
When I heard that, it reminded me of some lyrics from a song called "Sorrow" by Sleeping at Last... "because in our great sorrow, we learn what joy means" instant sub from me as well lol
I also noticed the difference between the parents brains and Riley’s. The parents/adults all have seats and work on the control panel together with one main focus (dad has anger, mom has sadness) but Riley through most of the movie only has one emotion controlling the panel. Towards the end they begin to share the panel; which could be representative of Riley beginning to understand her emotions better.
I always figured that her parents emotions were the more mature version of hers. Her dad clearly wasnt an angry person, I think that's more his sense of assertiveness. And her mums emotion was probably more empathy than sadness. Maybe it's just me not wanting to see her parents as an angry abuser and his broken victim
@@craiglyons8946 i think you're on to something there. anger as an emotion is not inherently evil or mean, and sadness isnt always because you yourself are suffering. emotions are a very large gradient with different levels and shades to it. i really like your interpretation because it establishes that the emotions are not so one dimensional and can be represented in different contexts. anger is a good tool for knowing when something is wrong, or for when you are being unjustly treated. it is good for knowing when you feel strongly or passionately about something that you wish to change. sort of like how when you hear about someone being hurt and you feel angry on their behalf because you know they deserve better. and sadness can work the same way! your theory is amazing, and i love it
@@kigut7443 when Joy is introducing the other emotions at the beginning of the film, doesn’t she introduce anger as “liking things to be fair”? And there’s an understanding inherent in sadness that allows us to be empathetic-when things go smoothly all the time, or we feel joy, we’re caught up in that and blinded to potential problems. Sadness is reflective, it demands to be felt and makes us confront those problems we face. Sometimes that confrontation leads to Anger. Similarly, Fear folds into disgust often in the film. Fear doesn’t know what broccoli is, so Disgust rejects it. Fear doesn’t want to be outcast, so Disgust tries to align with the popular girls. It’s so interesting to dissect these nuances in the film!
As a woman who grew up with an absent father, and seeing my mom in unhealthy and abusive relationships with men, you have no idea how healing it is to see two grown men be able to talk about feelings so naturally and tearing up over family and not hiding it, but just being human. Thank you! 🙌
same here. abusive stepdad, and a good meaning, but overworking bio dad... my mom was emotionally numb and distant and spent most of our lives in severe depression also working herself to death... emotions and family connection just never was there for me.
Similar case here. Abusive, then estranged, and thankfully divorced. Seeing amazing men and fathers(including these 2 amazing men) around the world really restore the faith in humanity in me. I’m so thankful we have internet, otherwise I won’t be able to know this.
"Every happy memory I have of her is colored in blue" oh my dear, dear Jono, thank you, thank you so much for these words. My dad is going to turn 80, he's having severe depression and his life is now balanced between hospitalization and our permanent care, with my mum and sister. He is still this sweet, kindest-of-the-kind man now, but he says and does all these terrible things to himself and now every happy memory I have of him is starting to turn blue... This heals. Thank you.
Seeing these two men unashamedly cry, when our culture tries to push the idea that men shouldn't cry, is so wholesome and such a wonderful thing for them to share. Everyone is sad sometimes, everybody cries and that's okay.
Crying is a completely rudimentary communication method for infants of indicating that things aren't okay. Crying in non-infants indicates a complete failure of self-governance... a system crash. It means things are catastrophically NOT okay to the point where it can't even be communicated in a rational manner. You see someone cry, you're seeing them having a system failure... and you feel GOOD about that? That is fucked up.
I cried during the scene when she finally returned home, and she is honest to her parents. I wish I could do that but actually doubt it would get the same out come.
I like that all the characters are completely one colour. Anger is completely red, disgust is completely green but joy has blue hair implying that sadness is a fundamental part of happiness
That's not entirely true, if you take a closer look you can see that the others share some colors too. For example, Fear has a red bow, and Disgust has a purple scarf.
@@jelmerdeelen3380 of my God it makes much sense now since you can relate when you are scared of something and you really wanted to fix it, you can't because fear overcomes you so you get fustrated. And disgust is partially afraid of something she is disgusted with.
that whole part about sadness is the price we pay for love reminds me of the quote from winnie the pooh: “how lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard” 🥺
But maybe it's just them switching places because of the stress of the move? The dad is annoyed with his job and the moving vans and the mom is sad because nothing is going as planned
@@Starmadien2019 This is a cool interpretation, that maybe the different emotions "take charge" at different points in rotation and it's not necessarily taking over their personality or minds, but it's just what they're feeling at that point, and they need that primary emotion to carry them through what's going on at any given point.
I love this film because it wasn't just targeted for kids, it was for everyone. What really hit hard to me was when the islands fell. It really showed how slowly, you stop feeling when you have depression. It shows the apathy that shows up. Bing Bong also hit me hard because I have a lot of stuffed animals and other memorable objects that remind me of my childhood. When one thing gets erased its tough. It also makes me miss my childhood and feel like I'm losing my grip on the last bits of it. It even showed the distance you put between yourselves and your loved ones. When Riley stopped answering her parents and started distancing herself, it reminded me of when I did that, and when I still do these things. This was an amazing review and I hope that anyone reading ng this has a great day!
Yeah I understand that- I am at the end of my childhood and all I got from it was everyone I knew and loved growing up where horrible people and I can’t wait to leave this damned home. I know the real world is scarier but I hate it here more- my parents are not abusive but they’re inconsistent and I always felt they didn’t actually love each other- I hated it- I have abandonment issues (it was worse when I was little but it isn’t bad now, I helped myself grow and learn that people grow and move on and I have to accept that) because of situations they caused, they meant well, but I just wish they would trust me. They demand my respect and trust when they don’t give me the same. I remember in middle school I would look out the window and see the trees and bird and cry because I wish I was that free- i still wish to be free. This house doesn’t feel like home and it never has- I remember this old friend, she was immature and a narcissist and because of her behaviour I have to mature faster then i should have- she gaslighted me and manipulated me and I tried to help her, i did, she didn’t know she was like that and I hope she heeded my words. She needs the help.
I don't remember much of my childhood, it feels like a dream. I still have a lot of stuffed animals and my parents tell to let them go but I can't, I don't want to lose the last bit of my childhood I remember
I just realized that throughout this whole story joy has felt every other feeling except for sadness. Especially in this scene 12:10. If you watch the whole scene of getting bing bong out of that place, you can see that joy gets scared of the vacuum, disgusted by the broccoli, and angry at sadness stepping on the wrappers (more like frustrated, but still). She doesn't want to feel sad, but she doesn't care about feeling anything else. She only becomes sad after this when bing bong disappears. It's pretty interesting.
I remember really loving how the Mom's leading emotion is Sadness. She's probably gone through some very tough times and I felt that, but she's come out as a very balanced and empathetic person because of it.
And I love that Anger is the dad's sort of leader emotion. I mean, aside from the obvious joke, it makes sense. For most guys, our default response to some sort of obstacle in our path, like depression, is to get mad at it. Sure, it's not the healthiest way to live, but it works. If we get mad at the problem, it's easier to get it out of the way.
Its interesting you guys say this cause its actually the only part i dot like about the film. That the mother is empathetic and sensitive to others emotions but serious and shes sadness, and that the dad is this oblivious fun goofy, but kinda dumb and wuick to anger. It just feels very stereotypical father mother parenting roles, and i really hate that, especially the joke where she fantasises about the helicopter pilot, but he does something minimal and shes like swoon. Its really the only slight pernickity
@@raspberryjam3724 I don’t know if I can speak for most guys, certainly not all, but for me personally, getting angry about a problem rather than sad feels less scary. If I’m sad, the problem has control over me. If I’m mad, I’m out to kick the problem’s butt. In my life I’ve gone through a lot, and most of that suffering came from some of the people I’ve loved hurting me instead. So all of this leads to a great fear of losing control. Being angry feels (wrongly, probably) like I have the upper hand anyway.
Read this somewhere, and it's Pixar in a nutshell What if toys had feelings? What if bugs had feelings? What if monsters had feelings? What if fish had feelings? What if superheroes had feelings? What if cars had feelings? What if rats had feelings? What if robots had feelings? What if dogs had feelings? What if Scotland had feelings? WHAT IF FEELINGS HAD FEELINGS?! And each one of them hurt us deeply and makes us wonder: Pixar? Who hurt you?!
they humanise everything, i used to think how limiting our perspective is... but pixar made me realise how beautiful that is. they are excellent with feelings xD
I've watched this 3 years ago after my beloved niece passed away from child cancer. She was 4. I appreciate the explanation you guys did. Everyday was a struggle emotionally and mentally. It's okay to feel sadness for you to experience growth. The movie itself made me cry. Thank you! And thank you Hanni!❤
I'm surprised neither of them pointed out that Joy's hair and eyes are blue like sadness, that her character design is even showing us the point of movie
22:37, man, look at Riley's face when she feels that sense of relief. Maybe that's a type of "yellow and blue" emotion: Not happiness, but relief, the happiness after a sadness that has to incorporate both to really be understood properly.
I literally started crying when sadness takes over and everything flicks back on. To me, that is exactly what it feels like to have a mental breakdown. Just feeling numb all day, all of your emotions are shut down, and then something flicks on. It literally feels like sadness turning the control panel blue, you just break down and allow all of your emotions to be sad because it feels real, and safe, and raw as hell. In that moment it's okay to be sad, you feel soothed by sadness, and you get everything out. The weight isn't lifted off your shoulders, you've taken it off your shoulders and you're placing it in front of you and saying that it's okay. Everyone who worked on this movie has nothing but my highest respect.
The fact that her first strong emotional experience after her depression starts to break becomes a core memory is very familiar too. That console coming back online is RAW. More than once I immediately wished I could not feel again.
My partner suffered with what they call 'The Black Depression' before they met me. It actually culminated in a suicide attempt that failed, thank goodness. When we saw the scene where everything in Riley's head turned black and all her personality islands crumbled, they told me that it was the most accurate depiction of depression they had ever seen.
I know this is old but there was a little theory that sadness was being compelled to touch the memories during the movie because it was Riley’s need to express her repressed emotions that joy shoved to the side
I think that was confirmed by one of the novelizations-- she was compelled to touch those memories because they themselves were crying out for her to turn them sad. Which is why at the beginning she says "I don't know what's wrong with me". She had very little control over her own actions.
Sadness could feel that Riley needed her, but didn't know or understand why and was so used to Joy being in control, she wasn't ready to fill the role she was supposed to for Riley.
Inside Out is one of a handful of films to make me cry every time I watch it. It's an absolute masterpiece in human emotion exploration and development, and fully deserves every ounce of praise that it receives.
2 men not afraid to be vulnerable while talking about struggles in life. This needs to "normalized". Thank you Cinema Therapy for your content, it means sooo much and ya'll definitely are helping a lot of people out here. Keep doing your thing!
Women don't want to have relationships with me when I act vulnerable.. I've learned that being confident even if I'm not feeling it on the inside is what gets me socially accepted and fulfilled.
Meh, everybody's different. Some people wont have success being vulnerable. People will just ignore them or make them feel bad about themselves. Some do well chasing strength, others do well doing the opposite. It all depends on the context i.e. the backdrop of that person's life, the environments they're in and what's expected of them based on their day to day lives, careers, relationships and what they believe they need to be successful. Its why two people could do the exact same things aka be vulnerable and get completely different results. Vulnerability is just a trait. Its not something everybody lacks or needs to live fulfilling lives. It all depends on what I've outlined in my comment amongst other things. I can't cover every exception and/or possibility in a relatively short comment. To close, in many situations just being vulnerable might be a detriment to that person. It has to be purposeful and done to enrich or provide something that is lacking within them. Just acting vulnerable can be a formula for failure. Another reason is where the person falls socially. Somebody popular and well-respected might have people around them starved for a bit of vulnerability from them. Any little bit of vulnerability is an event and makes people feel like it is significant and important. Another less socially adept person may be vulnerable all the time and people might be tired of it. It is so constant that you come to expect it. It doesn't feel as significant. Applying a catch alll rule like "people need to do this" or " people need to do that" isn't thoughtful at all. It wouldn't actually solve the problems that are allegedly caused by a lack of vulnerability. Short version : Vulnerability isn't always the answer.
@@gothxm I understand what you’re trying to say here, but when I said “not afraid to be vulnerable”, it’s in the context of letting oneself feel all emotions and not try to deny nor mask them. Being vulnerable in the sense of allowing oneself to regulate and identify one’s emotions in dealing with negative experiences. When other people make you feel bad for being vulnerable or showing real emotions, there’s nothing wrong with you, there’s definitely something wrong with them. And I guess it’s just society in general that plays a big part of the standard of having to act “tough” or “strong” all the time, when in reality, there’s nothing really wrong with it. It’s just been the “normalized” standard. At the end of the day, feelings are what makes us human. And it’s okay to feel hurt or not to feel okay. Always having to be “strong” or act tough despite negative experiences also has its downside (aka Toxic Positivity). We all can definitely feel upset or sad about things that did not go well or right, and there’s nothing with that.
@@nnmartin94 being confident is better than being vulnerable, being emotionally stronger is better than being weak, but it doesn't mean you have to be "one". If women around you don't get that, "they" are weird and you should stay away from them.
21:00 is kind of like what happned to Ban Heesoo in Ditto. She looked back into her happy memories (with NewJeans) but then she realizes they’re gone. Her memories of them became sadness and the only way to relive their memories is by watching clips of them in the cam corder. She woke up one day and realizes that even though they’re gone, its okay, she’s okay. It’s okay to look back and mourn the loss of a loved one.
what I love about Joy's design, is that she has a little bit of color of the other emotions: she has the pink lips that recall the red of Anger, a green dress for Disgust, the purple bag she carries is simbolic of Fear (also the fact she's afraid othe emotions will "contaminate" the core memories she carries), her own yellow skin and she has two major colors of Sadness. the blue eyes and hair. it's simbolic that every emotion HAS to be felt to fully experience joy, and the blue eyes are what stand out to me the most: the fact that you NEED to see sad times and to live though sadness to be fully happy.
Not sure it’s that deep, the main character of the movie just has to be different from all the other characters, which in this case is just giving her a bit of extra color
@@Oecobius33 I’m praising the two men who are openly talking about their emotions and struggles, I don’t personally like Disney but this video here was really nice.
22:38 This moment will always make me chock up. I remember the first time I opened up to my mom about something traumatic. I was drained from keeping it in but it was the biggest relief and it felt so amazing to be able to cry to my mom about stuff again. Now we're closer than ever.
“Every happy memory i have of her is colored in blue.” That made me sob. Im so sorry for your loss. I love my mother with my whole being and we lost my brother 3 years ago this month. It makes me cry when i think of the good times because i miss him so much but i also laugh so hard thinking about the funny times. So bittersweet.
i‘m also so sorry for your loss :( but at least you have all of these beautiful memories :) my brother died one day after our birth.He wasn’t even given a chance to live.He wasn’t lucky enough.Sometimes i lay in bed,crying because i would die to know how my life would have been with a twin brother by my side.If we would have looked identical,or if he would have been tall,or how his voice could have sound or how his personality would have been like or if we would have liked the same things and so on.I just now that a part of me will always miss something,or specifically,someone in my life.And I will never,ever meet this person. I wish I would have beautiful memories of us together I could hold on,but there are no memories to remember. So I don’t know how it is to lose someone you grew up with,but I know what it’s like to lose someone you didn’t even get a chance to grew up with. In conclusion: Always be grateful that u had the chance to meet this wonderful and amazing person :) Smile when u think about him and always keep him and those memories in your heart💜 Wish u the best💜
Crying too. Lost my dad suddenly a year ago & I feel the same way about the memories. Every zany vacation memory feels bittersweet & far away. But we laugh too. Hugs to everybody in the comments here.
“There is a type of love that is only experienced through sadness. There is a type of joy that is only experienced through grief.”
Boy, that hit me hard.
Yeah, one of the best Pixar films. Coco is my most favorite, Inside Out and Onward are tied for my 2nd.
@@hikari9262 Coco is my favorite as well
yeah they worded that so well.
Same ♥
@@jc-1231 Right, it's so special because the title of the movie is not the main character, but that character was able to generate the most emotional scene in the movie.
""You just need to try harder"
Trying isn't the issue"
oh my god how to send this to my mom without sending it to her
Then just say it instead?
I would be like, ‘hey mom, I found this interesting video that taught me a lot and I’d like to show it to you’
@@AceNinjaViking yeah! That is how I would do it.
I was gonna watch this alone but I thought my sis kinda needed to hear it😂
I find that combating depression is both complicated and simple. You can't just try harder. But you do need to persevere and endure. Persevere and steadfastly work through the issues, until the day arrives where you find out that you can "pull yourself up by the bootstraps". Time truly does heal all wounds, even if the scars that remain are ugly and ache.
Something that’s also great about this movie is that Riley’s parents actually hear her, when she tells them she wants to go back they don’t say “well we live here now”, they basically say “You’re not alone in mourning and missing Minnesota, we miss it too, with you”. And that’s such an important validation that gets missed in conversations alot
Yes! I feel like most parents mean well but don't realise that this is so important. Like it isn't nice that we feel these emotions but it's normal and even parents that are supposedly perfect can be sad, angry and scared. The best thing is if you don't affect others when feeling "bad" emotions and learn to get over and process "bad" emotions. You are so right!
Yea my mom would whoop my ass if I'd "talk back" to her :/
Yeah I wish that happened more often in real life.
@@suckondeeznutskaeya haaha same. When having a different opinion makes you an ungrateful little shit.
@@ReptilianTeaDrinker well, yes???? Jajaja
Pixar films are NOT kids films; they’re animated films that are appropriate for kids. They’re engaging on SO many levels.
You can say that again!
Totally agreed
Peppa pig is for kids
Pixar is for everyone
Were. They were that way...
@@Alejandroso31Peppa is an asshole, though.
@@Alejandroso31that's why there's a distinction between TV-Y and TV-G
"Positivity is a wonderful thing, as long as it's real."
That hit me like a truck...
*Me having A date with Kageyama*
👁️👄👁️: Ohhhh........
Same doe
A truck is a wonderful thing, as long as it’s real and it hits you
Fake it till you make it baby
@@M008 hello
"And I need therapy."
"So, so much."
*Mood*
Alan's such a good guy and a good example. Jonathan here. I'm proud of him. He's doing real work right there onscreen.
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@@CinemaTherapyShow aww
Mood
@@CinemaTherapyShow that’s so nice
I just realised now that joy has blue hair, Sadness's color, she's the only in one among the other emotions to have a hair color not matching her own. A clever visual clue to show that the ending is also Joy accepting that part of herself will always come from sadness.
Wow I never thought of it that way... Like, I always wondered why was her hair blue if she's entirely yellow and thus represents joy, but I never thought of this until now...
Is it just me.. or does Joy also represent Sadness? You can't be happy without sadness. (well that's how I saw it)
Wow you really have something there. This never once occurred to me. GREAT picking up on symbolism there.
I thought it was just because yellow & blue goes well together
That’s exactly what I thought, when I first watched this movie I wasn’t old enough to completely understand what was going on but the thing that stood out most to me was the fact that joy was the only character multiple colours. As well as that, the blue parts of her are the most noticeable, being her eyes and her hair, they stand out a lot more than the yellow parts of her do and they’re the most important parts of her, especially her eyes. It’s an amazing character design, it literally tells you the ending of the movie, you can’t have joy without sadness, that’s why you can’t think of the character joy without her blue hair and blue eyes
You know a movie maker has talent when the "death" of an imaginary friend makes you cry. RIP Bing Bong. Your passing was a true showing of how parts of our childhood die as we mature.
He's not really dead, he's with lost memories. From my experience in my late 20's there are occasional moments when I'll remember old imaginary friends.
So maybe Riley, in her 20's or even 30's will have a memory, however brief it may be, of Bing Bong.
@@stargazer1946 I hope she does. One does not have to lose all of our wonder and imagination of childhood to “become an adult”. It is my somewhat childlike view on life, even at 58, that allows me to easily find joy in life.
😢
"What's this great big round thing coming towards me very fast? So big, and flat, and round, it needs a big, wide-sounding name like ow, ound, round, ground! That's a good name, ground! I wonder if it will be friends with me?"
My version of Bing Bong that makes me sad is (im 39 rn) when i was a teen, i would collect many favorite obscure songs and bands and keep it on an old External Hard Drive... after years it broke at around my mid 20s.
I just recently remembered an old local indie band that i used to play song on guitar with... they were not popular so not even RUclips has it...just a few weeks ago i found my old CDs and i found that bands CD! I just dont have a disk drive with anything to play it...but it resparked a "Music Bing Bong".
Still makes me sad thinking of all the music i used to get emotionally connected to that I wont ever be able to re-hear again 😢 DJs and artists that dont exist anymore. (same feeling when my Favorites YT playlist ends up "unlisting" or "deleting" songs I saved here.
“We’re crying but the crew is ugly crying”
that’s me. Im crew.
This comment made my day thank you
HAHAHAHA
Me too, fam. Ugly af crying
we're all the crew
big mood
"we're crying but the crew right now is ugly crying" ITS OKAY CREW IM WITH YOU
same!
yeah I was crying too lol
That was the most ive cried in a minute tbh
I cry in a cool way
same
It always hits me hard when they show that the mother is run by Sadness and the father is run by Anger, yet it's still a happy family. It shows how multi-faceted emotions really are. Sadness doesn't always mean upset, it also means compassion, empathy, understanding. Just like anger isn't always rage, it can be passion, determination, confidence. Goes for the other ones too, Fear can be cautious or strategic, and Disgust is also pride, standards, and morals. You don't need to be happy all the time in order to be whole. Your emotions don't define YOU, it's your perspective that defines your emotions.
Never thought about it like that. Cool!
That’s really cool!
I really like this spin on it, I always thought the emotions were multifaceted.
This is one of the best descriptions I've ever read about how 'negative' emotions can actually be beneficial. Good job!
beautifully said
You guys missed something. One of the things that makes this movie so brilliant is one line that most people miss. When Riley's mom tells her that they need to "put on a happy face" for her dad. That is the seed that causes everything that comes after. What makes this such an important moment is that it's so incredibly accurate to life. One innocuous, seemingly innocent, comment can totally screw a kid up. From this moment on, Riley feels like she's not allowed to be anything but happy. And that's when Joy starts trying to stifle her fellow feelings. Kids take everything to heart and they did an amazing job of showing that. I feel like it's one of the most important moments in the movie and I'm bummed I didn't get to hear you guys talk about it.
Yes! Her parents calling her their "happy monkey" all the time made her bury the sadness of being uprooted from Minnesota.
1.3K of likes and only one reply, why? Who is hiding and what?
@@afrolenniethe new movie has been/is coming out, maybe thats why!! In fact they've already made a new video about the 2nd movie 😅
Notice how Joy is like the lead or the supervisor of everyone working on Riley’s head in this movie. With her mom, it looks like it’s Sadness. With the dad, anger. In line with what you’re saying, you can probably say that your external environment makes a big difference on your internal emotions. The dad is expected to be angry or dominating because he is some sort of entrepreneur and leads a team working in a company in San Francisco. For the mom, Sadness leads but she is way more mature than Riley’s sadness. The mom has been the support system of Riley’s family and she’s the one trying to keep the family together especially after moving to San Francisco from Minnesota. And expecting Riley to be this happy “monkey” and funny and goofy Riley at a time where it hurts and it’s pretty sad to be moving away, leaving your friends and everything else that makes your identity for good.
I agree, when I first watched this when I was a preteen and recently I watched my second time I noticed that Riley is gonna be stressed fr after that comment.
2 grown men being honest with themselves and to each other while enjoying movies. I'm hooked.
Ya damn this is so precious
I subbed cause of it!
Awesome!
Random recommendation, now I’m subscribed and wishing RUclips’s algorithm had suggested sooner!
Marley IKR!
it’s actually quite clever how easily joyful memories turn to sad ones when touched by sadness, because that’s the nature of memories. you can be happy that you have these memories, but it can easily turn to sadness when you realise that it’s not like that anymore and things have changed as you grow up.
Love this. Thank you so much. It's so hard going through this. And it doesn't help that I don't talk about it. This is probably the hardest thing for me about my wife becoming ill (not terminally, thank goodness) and probably being unable to leave the house again. The memories of so many of the things we did together are now so bittersweet because we'll never have things like them again.
Very true. My mother died early and will never meet my children and although I am saddened by that loss, and that for me it won't ever be like that, I can make certain that my children grow up as happy as I did. One can learn from sadness.
Or you're looking at a situations with adult eyes, instead of naive kid ones.
and now im crying
@@Magidex i agree
Sometimes depression isnt a feeling of sadness sometimes its the inability to feel anything.
That’s probably why the control turned gray and sadness didn’t contribute anything to make it turn gray
Most definitely
When I am apathetic I miss feeling sad. I'd rather be sad than to feel nothing.
Honestly that's what makes me cry in this movie is that the other emotions are also shut out, which is what makes her depressed. It's not that she's full of rage or sadness, she doesn't have anything. It's what made it feel so real.
Exactly. Like you can be depressed without haing depression. You can have depression without being depressed.
I have clinical depression. Ive had intrusive thoughts since the age of 6 but always come off as the bubbly fun girl. Im loud, im silly, but im also overwhelmed by any emotion. I am okaywhen im numb. I can function with numb. When i feel its too much and I dont know how to process it which leads me to essentially just disassociate because being in my head is a LOT. Seriously, therapy is so valuble, but so is having parents and family members be supportive and helping you work through that stuff instead of just dismissing it as childish nonsense. If you dont teach kids how to handle stuff they just wont.
Noooooo! Alan’s daughter saying “her memories are yellow and blue now” 😢😭 Now *I’M* ugly crying… art giving children the vocabulary and tools to express themselves ALWAYS gets me. ❤
Same! 😭
that was beautiful 😊
Hello hope all is well with you ?
This film is a crash course in emotional intelligence.
1.8k with no comments 🧐🤯
Yes i have never seen this before. Where are the comments?
Ikr???
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I remember crash course from seventh fucking grade
"Sure, I cried when I watched the movie but I won't cry in a 27 minute video about the movie," I thought naïvely
we're the same, you and I
Me too! They had me bawling like a baby!
We underestimated the power of this video
Seriously.
I’m still crying as I type this freaking comment
I like that the therapist didn't want to call it a "kids film."
In all honesty, I wouldn't really consider it a kids film. I think it's a really good example of a family film.
@@trickytreyperfected1482 Exactly.
@@trickytreyperfected1482 I disagree, just because a film is good or complex, doesn’t mean it isn’t for kids. It absolutely counts as a kids film, it’s just a good one.
I hate that the therapist didn't want to call it a "kids film" because it relies on the idea kids media is shitty and shallow and anything barely more well made and complex isn't for them because they're too dumb to understand it
@@KyrieFortune hmm..
To all the Hanni/NewJeans fans who are showing up: Welcome! We're so glad you're here! 당신이 여기 있어서 정말 기쁩니다! 이 동영상이 마음에 드셨다면 다른 동영상도 확인해 보세요.
I wish you could add Korean subtitles🦭
thx🎉
@@jazzandbunny we would LOVE to, if we could find a translator who could also translate the humor. Some of it is cultural, but dad-jokes are universal. 😂
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"I could not ask where the bathroom was... in neuroscience."
This is oddly the most relatable statement of 2020.
Facts
@MOUNIA OUASSIF Haha this is also a relatable statement for 2020
@MOUNIA OUASSIF same. I'm dumb af.
Ye even tho u probably due nt know what it means either XD
@@wehate-ku7tf Hahah precisely
I cried 4 times in this movie
-Riley crying at school
-Joy crying
-Bing Bong's death
-Riley crying with her parents
For me, it was seeing all the aspects of Riley's personality crumbling away one by one. I remember being in that state, and seeing it expressed in such a clear way onscreen just hit something in me.
Me too, but I cried between those moments too ....
I was not touched by the movie. I guess I matured too early.
Weak
Since the first second of the movie I was already crying 😂
Something about grown men crying about the loss of childhood is weirdly comforting
ikr! it makes me feel validated in a way, like its ok to feel these things
@Alpha Shepherd nah.. it doesnt have to be that old.. i felt the same thing now, and im in my 20s..
Is it somehow cathartic?
Well....is it okay for a seventeen year old to want to back in childhood days ? ........waking up daily wondering things be same as earlier
@@knowone4587 well yeah...I think most teenagers or young adults miss a time when they were more carefree, without the stress that often comes with adulthood.
Or maybe you mean something else 🤷♀️
"Trying harder isn't the issue." FINALLY! Someone who gets it! We try so hard to get out of this pit we're in but nothing works and it's exhausting...
It's almost like
We tried so hard, and got so far, but in the end in doesn't even matter
"it's when your control panel is just completely broken"
yes. exactly. that's it. that's depression.
Ye and I'm experiencing it rn 😫😫
@@wehate-ku7tf hey if youre feeling depressed please get help. But please remember depression and feeling depressed is different and that's very hurtful for people with depression and not a matter to joke about. If youre actually suffering from clinical depression and is diagnosed by a professional,i hope youre doing well.
I would say PTSD rather than depresssion
As someone with bpd a way I like to describe it to younger people who have seen inside out is the little people inside my head like to take control very quickly when anything happens. Even if it's something little, they get excited to be in control because they know the next moment someone else might take over. And sometimes no one wants to even go near my control panel- sometimes it lasts for days when someone touches my control panel at all and it gets really hard. I really love this movie. We watched it multiple times while I was in one of my treatment places as a teen. It really helps when it comes to explain what I'm going through in a visual and more simplified manner
@@wehate-ku7tf embrace these emotions because they are all valid , but seek help, do not try and battle it out alone! please. Ily❤️
I always cry multiple times during Inside Out but when the Therapist talked about the memories about his mother being blue because she's dead. Damn, TEARS I tell you.
I'm a 36 year old woman who lost my mum when I was 29, when he talked about his mum I realised it was the same for me and even though I was already tearing up anyway due to Riley having her parents there, I cried a bit for real then. This film always gets me though, and it's good to let it get me, it feels kind of detoxifying to have a little cry every now and then.
Same, and my mum's still alive
I forgot just how good this movie was! And the discussion of depression and sadness just resonates with me. My gosh
Oh bro that broke me..that's how I feel with my memories of my grandmother
After that I was over ugly crying with the crew.
“abandonment issues where the parent loves the child but isnt there very much” that hit me so hard,,, i literally gasped
They litterally aniped my ass here
Same
You doing okay? I know it can be hard but you are loved, sometimes you just need to find the right people. You can do this
i still have trouble believing it when my parents say that they love me because theyve been gone for most of my life and i just feel awful about it
Brooo we twin
no matter how many times i hear the line "take her to the moon for me, okay?" or watch the scene with Riley crying and hugging her parents near the end, those two parts always make me almost cry...
Almost? I’m a mess rn bruh
When Riley breaks down at the end I feel it two ways, as a parent because it breaks m heart to see my children cry and it speaks to my inner child all the time I wanted to break down and cry
"All my happy memories of her are colored in blue" and now I'M ugly crying.
Awww well I'm going to go on a vilent killing spree to cure my self of the sham of crying at this muve. I can't help it That pore Girl is soo said! And that strange elifent thing giving up is life just to be forgotten!!!? What in earth?🗡️😔🛡️ You know what it's saying. It's saying he's worthless it's saying he needs to be left behind so even else can be happy. I don't like it it makes me sad.😔
@@cedricburkhart3738 It's ok to cry, it's meant to make you reflect on your emotions. Also please don't kill people :)
@@elizahart661 Yeah but like psychopaths don't cry at this movie .😔 I ges I'm not one of those I have to destract myself with pain to keep from crying.
i know, that part was so touching. 💙
@@cedricburkhart3738 dude seriously it's okay to cry, it's a much healthier coping mechanism than self-inflicting pain! Letting out your emotions is important
"I'm a therapist, and I love movies."
"I make movies, and I need therapy."
Is this what the yinyang is supposed to represent?
LMFAO
"It's gonna make me cry"
"I'm gonna help you through that and charge you for it"
Yes! Must be
*y e a h .*
kinda..
I can't get over the fact that joy's hair is blue just like sadness, which symbolizes that joy always comes with sadness.
Wow I did not realise that
Edit: I just noticed that may sound ironical but actually I was just like „Wow! I did not realise that!“ :')
That is an amazing way to think about it!
Oooh
and yknow that purple scarf that disgust wears? I think it shows that disgust has something to do with fear.
Oh! I didn’t catch that!!!!!😍😍😩😩
My sibling is on the autism spectrum and often really struggles to identify and express their emotions. This movie has been a huge help in our communication. It helped my sibling connect with the idea that everyone has emotions inside them, and what those emotions are. Now when they get upset, I'll ask them "what emotion is inside?" And they can tell me.
❤
thats awesome
There’s something genuinely comforting about seeing grown men cry and not be embarrassed about it
yeah the media try to force men to be numb to emotion
i know right! i love seeing this :)
Am happy they showed their emotions.
@@Megaman-2407 Isn't even the media. Media doesn't give a shit if you cry. Social norms are what have dictated it for decades, not the media.
The 'media" is just a scapegoat used to blame shit we don't want to blame ourselves for. WE need to grow past this bullshit, not "the media" TM
@@WalkerRileyMC isnt the media just us but in a more digusting form due to being annoynumus? Even if you force people to understand it in real life no one will know on the internet if you are truly reform or just hiding.
"Now we are crying, but our crew is doing the ugly crying over there"
I didn't know my name was Crew...
We are all Crew.
@@CinemaTherapyShow One of us?
@@waunke56 One of us
@@CinemaTherapyShow I honestly can't imagine what working with you must be like. It must be so wholesome and fulfilling to work on a team that is all about bringing about self-awareness, emotional growth and mindfulness through common media that people appreciate. This channel really brings me joy and helps me grounded on my conscious effort to constantly better myself.
Oh by the way this is the third time I'm watching this, this time it came up in a newsletter of a blender artist I love (Andrew Price) and I was so ecstatic that someone I've never met but is a great career role model for me was also moved by this video that I decided to watch it again. Can't say I regret it, tears and all. I love your content
@@omoid1749 Holy Crap! Andrew Price talked about us in his newsletter! Alan here. I’ve watched his stuff off-and-on for years. Could you forward me that newsletter? cinematherapysolutions@gmail.com
And honestly, working with us is... Fine? I guess we’re nice people? It’s a little disconnected, because we’re just talking to cameras in a basement, doesn’t feel like: This is going to be seen by millions of people. Feels more like: How can I make Jonathan laugh right now, and holy crap here I go crying again.
One of my favorite touches for the movie is that everyone but Sadness has a place in Riley's life. Disgust drives her sense of taste and self-expression, Fear keeps her aware and safe, and Anger gives her a competitive drive in sports, but Sadness has no "role" until the finale. When Sadness sits with Bing Bong and listens to him, I literally whispered to myself "oohhh, she's Empathy." Sadness lets Riley relate and understand to the rest of the world, which is such an important role to play!
This guy gets it :)
‼️This‼️
This made me cry damn you i just stopped
And it makes sense too as a eleven year old girl wouldnt know too much about really how to be empathise
Sadness had a place in her life it's just that Joy always tried to run her. And that's the point of the whole film. She kept sadness bottled up. The fact that there were no Blue orbs in core memories is what almost destroyed her. She needed to stop pretending to everything was always fine and show it
This video is 3 years old. I remember watching this video only 8 months after my dad died. And I couldn’t finish the video. But rewatching this, when Jonathan mentioned his mother and the memories around them, I just immediately broke down in tears for the first time in months, never in my life did I think two dudes watching a cartoon movie would make me ugly cry loud enough that my mother had to ask if I was okay
So sorry for your loss ❤
Nobody:
RUclips: do you want to feel emotions at 3 in the morning half a year after the release of this video?
Thanks RUclips!
*of course*
Yeeeees!!!!
Ok
3:21am here, just finished watching. Why is this so relatable?
As Ron said to Harry, "You are going to suffer but you will be happy about it"
YES EXACTLY
YOU'RE GOOD!
Truest words Ron spoke
I live and breathe HP tbh 😅
Wow! I've never thought about this until now!
"take her to the moon for me"
Seven words that always without fail make me cry.
"It's ok that it's not ok" 😭
I used to say I need to go to the bathroom when it happened to avoid crying but I’d legit just think about it and cry god I’m crying right now thinking about it god I h8 puberty
@@maltesers1238
Don't worry, it get worse but better at the same time.
I never cry watching movies but dayumm.. that was just a different level of sad. I had to cry.
you should listen to the song " take her to the moon for me" by moira deal torre. its based on this movie line too and it will break you even more
@@meemee6197 I probably shouldn't, but I'm gonna do it anyway.
Hanni recommended this video. She used to tell fans it's okay to feel tired and sad sometimes insteading of just telling to be happy, which i really love her for that. She seems so mature and takes care of her mental health. ❤
when did she recommend it?
@@nugget8612 She recommended this video on Phoning
newjeans?
She recommended it on phoning months ago @@nugget8612
@@gyeomibearyes
Toxic positivity is no joke. I'm more a realist but I had a coworker who was a preacher for positivity and optimism and one day he got frustrated by something and snapped and turned violent. Not allowing yourself to accept the full range of human emotions led to him bottling up his anger until his mind just broke and he lost control of his actions. It was honestly one of the most terrifying things I've ever seen and I am thankful when I think back that he didn't hurt anyone during his fit.
That's an anecdote with no empirical use at all. It's literally just some story about some guy you know that demonstrates nothing except what that one guy is like, a guy the rest of us will probably never meet.
@@Thy_Boss this comment is so pointless. At least toxic positivity was relevant to the conversation.
@@Thy_Boss The reason I mentioned this was because he vocally told me that he believed that positivity is a choice that you can be 100% positive all the time if you just decide to be positive. What I was trying to show was, this clearly doesn't work. This guy although yes was just one dude, WAS the ONLY advocate for this movement that I've ever met and he ended up flipping out, acting erratically, getting fired from our job and then spent the next 5 months trying to make false claims to my landlord to get me kicked out of my building all because I didn't buy into his personality cult shit.
@@FoxrosePettipaw
Can you tell us more ? What happened ?
@Chinedu Atisele Thank you! Yes, I agree. I certainly also go back and forth. Personally I'm more of an optimistic realist. I believe most things will work out and will have a good conclusion but not everything is neat and tidy. Horrible things happen and we just have to learn to accept them and move on. Actually I'm watching a show atm that sums up this idea very nicely. It's called The Leftovers, and is about how people cope and grieve negative events that have ambiguous and undefined conclusions. It's a really great allegory for the fact that most things in life are ambiguous to some extent, and learning to live in that ambiguity is one of the only ways to move on and continue on the grieving process. I too think it'd be spectacular to just be able to choose to be happy, but unfortunately I have yet to meet anyone who claims they can do such a thing and who are actually able to practice their preaching.
"Im a licensed therapist and I love movies"
"Im a filmmaker and i need therapy"
And im a highschool student whos currently procrastinating on homework and is eating potato chips
Nice
Me Right now
I swear you're spying on me rn
Same
Bruh if you're procrastinating for this, you better be a psychologist or a filmmaker in the future 😀 Just kidding ✌
I would point out that Bing Bong is one of the greatest characters I have ever seen on cinema. He does not only sacrifices himself for the girl he loves: in doing so, he knows she will forever forget him. His death is one of the saddest and bravest things ever. Mostly because he's half dolphin and half cat and he cries candies
As a Winnie the Pooh fan, I imagine that's what the baby of a Heffalump and Woozle would look like. XD
That's just depressing
All those heros in action movies have nothing on Bing Bong.
@@pundertalefan4391
YESSSSSSSSSSS
Iii... wouldn't be so sure on the "forever forget" part. Bing Bong isn't a minor ordinary thing that Riley just did one day in her childhood and then moved on; she spent a long time imagining him, pretending to interact with him, drawing him, and she had fun doing so. There's a plethora of ways at least one memory of Bing Bong could sooner or later come back to her
Maybe she sees a pink fluffy elephant-looking animal? Maybe she hears a tune similar to the one she made up? Heck, she could even be digging up amongst her old stuff one day and find drawings of him she may have done on paper and preserved
And I'm saying this not taking into account what was said in the movie about the memory dump "erasing memories forever". Because... those were fond memories Riley made with Bing Bong; I can get not recalling a fond memory for a long time but... _forever? For the rest of her life, until the day she dies?_ We don't know that.
Plus, Bing Bong got erased, but what about the _memory orbs_ of the time Riley spent with him? Do we know they're gone; that they fell into the abyss? How do we know memories can't bring back a lost imaginary person?
24:48 Honestly you two might have one of the greatest friendships on RUclips. The way Jonathan just automatically comforted Alan when he was struggling to speak was just incredible, and brought back all my crying from the rest of the video that I was just getting over. You guys are awesome.
"My mom is gone, every happy memory I have of her is coloured in blue"
Okay. I'm done. That's when I started crying like a baby.
Same.
Same , cause mine is gone too
@@shadanaljanabi I'm sorry for your loss 🖤
@@shadanaljanabi I'm sorry for ur loss
I'm so sorry for your loss
Jesus Christ, the therapist talking about how the memories of his deceased mother are now colored in blue almost made _me_ cry.
I haven't even seen the movie, and that got me hard. It made me think of my dad, and I realized how bittersweet all my memories of him are now, just by virtue of him no longer being here.
Almost ...., I'm crying *hard* ugly crying and now I need more tissues 🧻
@@KatieSeville My Grandfather too, I have soo many memories of him at Christmas. Him helping me with my mumbling and talking too fast; I'm literally crying writing this because well, grief doesn't just go away. I lost him 5 years ago and it still hurts a lot.,
Yeah, I lost my mom unexpectedly after a long battle with cancer (long story) the night after Thanksgiving last year and quarantine hasn't made it any easier. The second he started talking about his mom I got hit with thermonuclear feels. That said, hearing the analogy was really nice from a healing perspective. Oof.
This is exactly how I feel about my mom, him saying that broke me
My cousin used to force herself to smile, until she saw this movie. After she saw it, she broke down to her mom and confessed she had been feeling sad since her dad died. She just wanted to be the brave one, for her mom and little brother.
Don't worry guys. She's doing much MUCH better now.
Edit:She found this video and was mad at me for making the comment but says she doesn't care if I send her every kind reply.
Your comment just put a lump in my throat 🤧
@@heartnsoullove aww💙
why hello Violet,fancy seeing you here 😂
@@Anythingggg22 She is
@@bluehoodieguy7568 haha. It was an mlp Hamilton cameo for a while but I got bored of that lol
“Take her to the moon for me, mkay?”
Start violently ugly sobbing
My new headcannon is that Riley becomes an astronaut
SO WHATCHA WANNA DO, WHATS YOUR POINT OF VIEW, THERE'S A PARTY SOON, DO YOU WANNA GO? 🥰😭🤩😭🥳😭
Honestly, the crying moment for me isn't when BingBong sacrifices himself, but it's right before when Joy falls into the forgotten memories. She literally forgot how to be happy.
The moment for me is when Riley stands in front of the class and just can't do anything. (Worth noting, however, that Bing Bong's goodbye was originally 30 seconds long - but was cut by Pixar for ...reasons)
@@0ceanicify i think its cause they knew that we could already not emotionally handle it
yes this is what happens to me
That moment makes me want to cry too.
I remember watching the movie and the (almost) crying moment for me was when Joy started crying. Back then it was because I found it extremely moving that the representation of Joy, a character that's dedicated to happiness and that feeling, experienced a moment of genuine sadness. It shouldn't be possible.
After watching this analysis, I now realize it's because I'm acting like Joy. I refuse to let myself cry and put others above myself. I convince myself I don't get to feel sad because others in my family are feeling sad. The reason I almost cried when Joy cried is because I *am* Joy
when the therapist started talking about his mum and how the memories are now blue, i just ugly cried.
EDIT: I posted this a day ago and its doing numbers T_T the heck?
Same because my momma is also gone, it's been a year now...
I've seen my grandparents pass and I know one day it will happen to my immediate parents. Honestly, I don't really know how to react to that grim thought, but unless something happens to me I know it's something that'll destroy me eventually, just like how my Mum and Dad were destroyed when theirs went.
But like them I'll have to keep going, just with blue memories. For now, Sadness and Fear = Dread, right?
Right...
Saaaame aaaaah
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@@conspiracypanda1200 im experiencing the same thing. Seeing my grandparents pass hit hard in the same way, now anything like this makes me so emotional
"It's okay man, take your time." Probably the most comforting words I've heard in a long time.
Yes...! It's refreshing to see men being emotionally honest and compassionate with each other instead of blustering and perpetuating toxic masculinity.
@@Sam-lb8xs the real Bro Code (with a REAL Bro) ist being emotionally honest to each other and share feeling. Thats a real bro, very rare, not everyone have the luck to have that
Stefan Börner I stand corrected, then.
I came here to say this. That comment hit me in a way I didn’t realize I needed.
Every man should say this to their guy friends when they're trying to express their emotions. Take your time bud, I'll be here for you.
I think a reason for why the Bing Bong scene is so sad is because a lot of people can relate to eventually losing your imaginary friend. Whether it was conscious or you just forgot about them while going through life.
And losing interests, really. Years down the line you remember something that used to bring you joy and keep you afloat, and now it doesn't get you this excited anymore - and it feels like a loss
@@JaneXemylixa yeah i agree.
And the innocence that comes with being a kid. Kids are so imaginative and naive, it’s sad that we lose that.
I love when he says "This is so Phyllis from The Office" because that's literally the voice actor for Sadness!!!
Oh my god. This woman needs a hug
Ue
I KNEW it! So it is Phyllis really?!
I ruined your 369 likes
How does it already have 372 likes-
Something that just clicked for me was that the depression isn't about Sadness or Joy - it's the absence of sadness.
Wow thanks for your comment.. It really gives me a different perspective
I feel so enlightened
I believe I see your point, do you mind breaking it down a bit more?
@@gift4romvirgo because the "depressing" feeling is more of an empty feeling, rather than feeling sad, which sometimes feels heavy
As someone with depression, I can agree. I feel better when I can make myself cry to get the stress out. When I have my episodes, it even affects me physically to where, the best I can describe is I feel my body is like a balloon. Just skin and air holding me together waiting to deflate. When I can actually be sad, it feels like I'm letting myself feel real again
Riley: Gets robbed, bites her tongue, and stubs her toe.
Joy: Look on the bright side! Atleast she knows how it feels
The fact that you put robbery on the same level as biting your tongue and stubbing toe is hilarious 🤣🤣
@@shortbean0 Is it not the same?
@@shortbean0 I mean...
@@shortbean0 yeah you’re right stubbing you’re toe is worse 😭
@@sparklydancingmice yes
What I love about this movie is it shows us the inside of Riley's mom's head, and the mom's head has sadness "in charge" To me it is kind of giving us a hint. And it shows that as a child we are all happiness and joy and that when we grow into women we start to learn compassion and that it's okay to have emotions and let sadness out too. ❤
Inside Out is basically “It’s Okay to Cry: The Movie”
more like "it's okay to feel sad" and "do not block the sadness away"
Lmao this is so good. A great recap!
I suggest a series “it’s okay to not be okay”because of the similarities of this movie
This. This is good👍🏻
@@guren9193 I think the theme is similar but in terms of length and style... well.
This whole video of 2 grown a$$ men not being afraid to show emotions and vulnerability ON CAMERA is so pure. I love it.
Most refreshing indeed, peace & blessings.
emotional maturity - what most people lack unfortunately :(
I cried with them
I always cry when I watch this movie.
Yup, certainly the most beautiful aspect of this video. Btw this is also the first video of this channel I've ever seen... I like it here :)
7:55 "If you've never felt sad then you can't appreciate what joy is."
A sub has been earned.
A sub we're glad to have!
When I heard that, it reminded me of some lyrics from a song called "Sorrow" by Sleeping at Last...
"because in our great sorrow, we learn what joy means"
instant sub from me as well lol
You’ve got mine as well UwU
And here is another one.
I subscribed too!
“Every happy memory I have of her is colored in blue” that was gut wrenching 😭
I also noticed the difference between the parents brains and Riley’s. The parents/adults all have seats and work on the control panel together with one main focus (dad has anger, mom has sadness) but Riley through most of the movie only has one emotion controlling the panel. Towards the end they begin to share the panel; which could be representative of Riley beginning to understand her emotions better.
I also appreciate that neither parent has joy as the main focus.
Keen and deep observation. Love it.
I always figured that her parents emotions were the more mature version of hers. Her dad clearly wasnt an angry person, I think that's more his sense of assertiveness. And her mums emotion was probably more empathy than sadness.
Maybe it's just me not wanting to see her parents as an angry abuser and his broken victim
@@craiglyons8946 i think you're on to something there. anger as an emotion is not inherently evil or mean, and sadness isnt always because you yourself are suffering. emotions are a very large gradient with different levels and shades to it. i really like your interpretation because it establishes that the emotions are not so one dimensional and can be represented in different contexts.
anger is a good tool for knowing when something is wrong, or for when you are being unjustly treated. it is good for knowing when you feel strongly or passionately about something that you wish to change. sort of like how when you hear about someone being hurt and you feel angry on their behalf because you know they deserve better.
and sadness can work the same way! your theory is amazing, and i love it
@@kigut7443 when Joy is introducing the other emotions at the beginning of the film, doesn’t she introduce anger as “liking things to be fair”? And there’s an understanding inherent in sadness that allows us to be empathetic-when things go smoothly all the time, or we feel joy, we’re caught up in that and blinded to potential problems. Sadness is reflective, it demands to be felt and makes us confront those problems we face. Sometimes that confrontation leads to Anger. Similarly, Fear folds into disgust often in the film. Fear doesn’t know what broccoli is, so Disgust rejects it. Fear doesn’t want to be outcast, so Disgust tries to align with the popular girls. It’s so interesting to dissect these nuances in the film!
the fact Riley had someone to hug her when she was crying
I know, that was like a bullet to the heart.
Lemon Nugget yeah..
🤗
Come here lemmi give u a *virtual hug* :D
Can we all get some virtual hug, how about a virtual group hug?
As a woman who grew up with an absent father, and seeing my mom in unhealthy and abusive relationships with men, you have no idea how healing it is to see two grown men be able to talk about feelings so naturally and tearing up over family and not hiding it, but just being human. Thank you! 🙌
You're so welcome. This comment made our day!
same here. abusive stepdad, and a good meaning, but overworking bio dad... my mom was emotionally numb and distant and spent most of our lives in severe depression also working herself to death... emotions and family connection just never was there for me.
Similar case here. Abusive, then estranged, and thankfully divorced. Seeing amazing men and fathers(including these 2 amazing men) around the world really restore the faith in humanity in me. I’m so thankful we have internet, otherwise I won’t be able to know this.
I haven't even watched the video yet and this comment just made me tear up.
It's so true and I'm so sorry you went through that.
@@scythescythe884 it sucks! I hope you’re doing okay now!
"Every happy memory I have of her is colored in blue" oh my dear, dear Jono, thank you, thank you so much for these words.
My dad is going to turn 80, he's having severe depression and his life is now balanced between hospitalization and our permanent care, with my mum and sister. He is still this sweet, kindest-of-the-kind man now, but he says and does all these terrible things to himself and now every happy memory I have of him is starting to turn blue...
This heals. Thank you.
Cries over this film when suddenly: *Boss Baby Advertisement*
Really? Right in front of my salad?
MOOD
probabl not the best meme to use for this vid...
@@iellaterreur7865 wym? its a *wonderful* meme to use for this :)
Hey man boss baby has some heavy shit about sibling relationships have some respect
Hey wait a second...
"the crew in the back is doing the ugly cry"
*que faint sobbing in the background*
1.3k likes but no replies so uh-
hi
I didn't get that part. Maybe because English is my second language though.
@@Plslsl ò shit I didn’t know I got that many likes-
Hi
I just realized you replied 13 minutes ago-
💕💕💕
This movie helped me cause now everytime I get angry I imagine the tiny red block screaming and I start laughing instead lmao
I cracked up
SAME
This is so cute 😭👍
I do the same thing lmfao
TINY RED BLOCK💀😂
Seeing these two men unashamedly cry, when our culture tries to push the idea that men shouldn't cry, is so wholesome and such a wonderful thing for them to share. Everyone is sad sometimes, everybody cries and that's okay.
Crying is a completely rudimentary communication method for infants of indicating that things aren't okay. Crying in non-infants indicates a complete failure of self-governance... a system crash. It means things are catastrophically NOT okay to the point where it can't even be communicated in a rational manner. You see someone cry, you're seeing them having a system failure... and you feel GOOD about that? That is fucked up.
@@SotiCotoYou seem very distressed yourself. Are you okay?
@@SotiCotoim not reading allat LOL
@@SotiCoto What the fuck is this man waffling about
@@SotiCoto I'm sad that you're so damaged that you can't even understand the point of the video, much less the entire movie. 😢
The first time I cried during that movie was when the mom said, “You’re our happy girl.” That hit way too hard for me.
Damn. That’s probably why she was trying to not be sad, because she thought she would disappoint her parents if she was sad.
I cried during the scene when she finally returned home, and she is honest to her parents. I wish I could do that but actually doubt it would get the same out come.
Man I thought you replied to yourself 2 times
For me too
@@oreli4591 STOPP I WAS EATING NOODLES AND I CHOKED JDSGFHSD
I had to hit like after he said "if I were at a neuroscience restaurant I'd be comfortable ordering food,"
Low key just admitted to being comfortable with the presumable menu at such an establishment.
Tastes like hypothalamus!
@@dracofirex Maybe if I try some entorhinal cortex I can remember where I've put all my stuff.
@@SwordTune I feel like many people missed the brilliance in your comment. 10/10 . Damn good job :D
I like that all the characters are completely one colour. Anger is completely red, disgust is completely green but joy has blue hair implying that sadness is a fundamental part of happiness
Oh, my God, I never noticed that! Wow!
wow, that’s a very interesting observation and i’m really happy that this was brought up ♡︎
Wait oh my god that makes so much sense
That's not entirely true, if you take a closer look you can see that the others share some colors too. For example, Fear has a red bow, and Disgust has a purple scarf.
@@jelmerdeelen3380 of my God it makes much sense now since you can relate when you are scared of something and you really wanted to fix it, you can't because fear overcomes you so you get fustrated. And disgust is partially afraid of something she is disgusted with.
This is probably one of the best animated movies EVER made. I don’t think you could find a person who DIDN’T cry when watching this
“I will help you through your tears and then i will charge you for it.”
LMAOOOOOO
Comming from someone who's studying psychology,that's honestly a mood
I mean that's technically therapy
@@razzmachad5124 it's literally therapy
Therapists in a nutshell
Therapy in a nutshell.
“I’m a therapist and like films”
“I’m a film maker and need therapy”
IM DYINGGGGGGG 😂😂
✨S o u l m a t e s✨
when you see another agtuber somewhere else
@@VanillaandVinegar7subscribe OMG NOOOOOO 😭
the "and I need therapy" part.. I can relate.
I'm nothing and need therapy
I have 99 problems and this guy fixed at least 73 of them.
I have 99 problems and you ain't one😂
come back! he hearted your comment!!
Nice, needs to be at least the 3rd top comment
I have 100 problems and he fixed 74 of them
I got 99 problems and your profile picture ain't one
that whole part about sadness is the price we pay for love reminds me of the quote from winnie the pooh: “how lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard” 🥺
When you're not even watching the whole movie but you're still crying...
I think they watch the whole movie and then edit out the parts where nothing interestng is said
@@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 Theyre talking about themselves, crying even tho the video only showed a few short clips
Me tooo😭😭😭😭
Amen! 😭😭
@@cukless6849 omg I'm so stupid please ignore me 🙂💔
Has anyone else noticed that the mom is run by Sadness in this movie? That has always spoken to me.
Mum sadness and Dad anger, its very interesting.
She probably has depression and though her emotions work together sadness is in the middle seat.
But maybe it's just them switching places because of the stress of the move? The dad is annoyed with his job and the moving vans and the mom is sad because nothing is going as planned
And the father with Anger
Which may show his anger issues
@@Starmadien2019 This is a cool interpretation, that maybe the different emotions "take charge" at different points in rotation and it's not necessarily taking over their personality or minds, but it's just what they're feeling at that point, and they need that primary emotion to carry them through what's going on at any given point.
I love this film because it wasn't just targeted for kids, it was for everyone. What really hit hard to me was when the islands fell. It really showed how slowly, you stop feeling when you have depression. It shows the apathy that shows up. Bing Bong also hit me hard because I have a lot of stuffed animals and other memorable objects that remind me of my childhood. When one thing gets erased its tough. It also makes me miss my childhood and feel like I'm losing my grip on the last bits of it. It even showed the distance you put between yourselves and your loved ones. When Riley stopped answering her parents and started distancing herself, it reminded me of when I did that, and when I still do these things. This was an amazing review and I hope that anyone reading ng this has a great day!
You too!
Childhood? What's that? Jk.. Kinda but yea i get you on this
Yeah I understand that- I am at the end of my childhood and all I got from it was everyone I knew and loved growing up where horrible people and I can’t wait to leave this damned home.
I know the real world is scarier but I hate it here more- my parents are not abusive but they’re inconsistent and I always felt they didn’t actually love each other- I hated it- I have abandonment issues (it was worse when I was little but it isn’t bad now, I helped myself grow and learn that people grow and move on and I have to accept that) because of situations they caused, they meant well, but I just wish they would trust me. They demand my respect and trust when they don’t give me the same. I remember in middle school I would look out the window and see the trees and bird and cry because I wish I was that free- i still wish to be free.
This house doesn’t feel like home and it never has-
I remember this old friend, she was immature and a narcissist and because of her behaviour I have to mature faster then i should have- she gaslighted me and manipulated me and I tried to help her, i did, she didn’t know she was like that and I hope she heeded my words. She needs the help.
I like your pfp!
I don't remember much of my childhood, it feels like a dream. I still have a lot of stuffed animals and my parents tell to let them go but I can't, I don't want to lose the last bit of my childhood I remember
I just realized that throughout this whole story joy has felt every other feeling except for sadness.
Especially in this scene 12:10. If you watch the whole scene of getting bing bong out of that place, you can see that joy gets scared of the vacuum, disgusted by the broccoli, and angry at sadness stepping on the wrappers (more like frustrated, but still). She doesn't want to feel sad, but she doesn't care about feeling anything else. She only becomes sad after this when bing bong disappears. It's pretty interesting.
I remember really loving how the Mom's leading emotion is Sadness. She's probably gone through some very tough times and I felt that, but she's come out as a very balanced and empathetic person because of it.
....Fully agreed! The mum is, Most likely unintentionally, Painfully accurate.
I just thought it was cause sadness looks like a stereotypical chill mom figure
And I love that Anger is the dad's sort of leader emotion. I mean, aside from the obvious joke, it makes sense. For most guys, our default response to some sort of obstacle in our path, like depression, is to get mad at it. Sure, it's not the healthiest way to live, but it works. If we get mad at the problem, it's easier to get it out of the way.
Its interesting you guys say this cause its actually the only part i dot like about the film. That the mother is empathetic and sensitive to others emotions but serious and shes sadness, and that the dad is this oblivious fun goofy, but kinda dumb and wuick to anger. It just feels very stereotypical father mother parenting roles, and i really hate that, especially the joke where she fantasises about the helicopter pilot, but he does something minimal and shes like swoon. Its really the only slight pernickity
@@raspberryjam3724 I don’t know if I can speak for most guys, certainly not all, but for me personally, getting angry about a problem rather than sad feels less scary. If I’m sad, the problem has control over me. If I’m mad, I’m out to kick the problem’s butt. In my life I’ve gone through a lot, and most of that suffering came from some of the people I’ve loved hurting me instead. So all of this leads to a great fear of losing control. Being angry feels (wrongly, probably) like I have the upper hand anyway.
Read this somewhere, and it's Pixar in a nutshell
What if toys had feelings?
What if bugs had feelings?
What if monsters had feelings?
What if fish had feelings?
What if superheroes had feelings?
What if cars had feelings?
What if rats had feelings?
What if robots had feelings?
What if dogs had feelings?
What if Scotland had feelings?
WHAT IF FEELINGS HAD FEELINGS?!
And each one of them hurt us deeply and makes us wonder: Pixar? Who hurt you?!
What if Scotland had feelings is sending me
What if Scotland has Feelings..ohh my Merida....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What if men had feelings?
they humanise everything, i used to think how limiting our perspective is... but pixar made me realise how beautiful that is. they are excellent with feelings xD
What if the dead had feelings?
Coco
"I'm going to help you through your crying and then charge you for it."
*therapist moment*
Lol. Where's the lie?
capitalism moment
Communism moment. ^
@@lastfirst5863 Advertising in public that you have no clue what communism is 😂
@@sdigf3167 I was teasing the comment above mine. Communists always complain about capitalism, and vice versa. I guess I didn’t make that clear.
I've watched this 3 years ago after my beloved niece passed away from child cancer. She was 4. I appreciate the explanation you guys did. Everyday was a struggle emotionally and mentally. It's okay to feel sadness for you to experience growth. The movie itself made me cry. Thank you! And thank you Hanni!❤
god, i'm so sorry to hear that...i'm sure your niece is still very proud of you and loves you a lot 💗
I’m very sorry for your loss, she’s in a better place now.
I'm surprised neither of them pointed out that Joy's hair and eyes are blue like sadness, that her character design is even showing us the point of movie
Following this logic and since her dress is green, it shows the other face of disgust, the things people enjoy
@Voya oh-
XD
I don’t think that was the reason. I think they just thought it looked good...
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Don't forget how she has a blue glow
me at the beginning:
“Why is the comment section crying??”
the end:
😭😭😭
About to be me in 30 minutes
Update- too much emotional stuff so I changed it before I cried
😂😂
Exactly....😭😭😭
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So I did not cry it’s ha d for me to cry sometimes
hi jada 🕳👨🦯💨
22:37, man, look at Riley's face when she feels that sense of relief. Maybe that's a type of "yellow and blue" emotion: Not happiness, but relief, the happiness after a sadness that has to incorporate both to really be understood properly.
I literally started crying when sadness takes over and everything flicks back on. To me, that is exactly what it feels like to have a mental breakdown. Just feeling numb all day, all of your emotions are shut down, and then something flicks on. It literally feels like sadness turning the control panel blue, you just break down and allow all of your emotions to be sad because it feels real, and safe, and raw as hell. In that moment it's okay to be sad, you feel soothed by sadness, and you get everything out. The weight isn't lifted off your shoulders, you've taken it off your shoulders and you're placing it in front of you and saying that it's okay. Everyone who worked on this movie has nothing but my highest respect.
The fact that her first strong emotional experience after her depression starts to break becomes a core memory is very familiar too. That console coming back online is RAW. More than once I immediately wished I could not feel again.
Me today
"you feel soothed by sadness" What a great way to put it.
My partner suffered with what they call 'The Black Depression' before they met me. It actually culminated in a suicide attempt that failed, thank goodness. When we saw the scene where everything in Riley's head turned black and all her personality islands crumbled, they told me that it was the most accurate depiction of depression they had ever seen.
They?
@@thejoker6000 pretty sure they can mean he/she
Idk how to explain it tho
@@icywolf6892 non binary. People can use they/them pronouns
@@thejoker6000 non binary people exist. They/them people don’t identify with male or female pronouns
I know this is old but there was a little theory that sadness was being compelled to touch the memories during the movie because it was Riley’s need to express her repressed emotions that joy shoved to the side
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Get the fuck out, you didn't have to make it even better and more sad than it already was!
i never noticed this
I think that was confirmed by one of the novelizations-- she was compelled to touch those memories because they themselves were crying out for her to turn them sad. Which is why at the beginning she says "I don't know what's wrong with me". She had very little control over her own actions.
Sadness could feel that Riley needed her, but didn't know or understand why and was so used to Joy being in control, she wasn't ready to fill the role she was supposed to for Riley.
Inside Out is one of a handful of films to make me cry every time I watch it. It's an absolute masterpiece in human emotion exploration and development, and fully deserves every ounce of praise that it receives.
"we're crying but the crew is ugly crying."
I CAN HEAR IT
I need a crew cam lmfao
That's me. I'm the crew.
@@mavnalysse hey crew I’m dad
@@yippycat5303 dad you came back!
2 men not afraid to be vulnerable while talking about struggles in life. This needs to "normalized". Thank you Cinema Therapy for your content, it means sooo much and ya'll definitely are helping a lot of people out here. Keep doing your thing!
I made that comment above. U seem to have said it better
Women don't want to have relationships with me when I act vulnerable.. I've learned that being confident even if I'm not feeling it on the inside is what gets me socially accepted and fulfilled.
Meh, everybody's different. Some people wont have success being vulnerable. People will just ignore them or make them feel bad about themselves. Some do well chasing strength, others do well doing the opposite. It all depends on the context i.e. the backdrop of that person's life, the environments they're in and what's expected of them based on their day to day lives, careers, relationships and what they believe they need to be successful. Its why two people could do the exact same things aka be vulnerable and get completely different results. Vulnerability is just a trait. Its not something everybody lacks or needs to live fulfilling lives. It all depends on what I've outlined in my comment amongst other things. I can't cover every exception and/or possibility in a relatively short comment. To close, in many situations just being vulnerable might be a detriment to that person. It has to be purposeful and done to enrich or provide something that is lacking within them. Just acting vulnerable can be a formula for failure. Another reason is where the person falls socially. Somebody popular and well-respected might have people around them starved for a bit of vulnerability from them. Any little bit of vulnerability is an event and makes people feel like it is significant and important. Another less socially adept person may be vulnerable all the time and people might be tired of it. It is so constant that you come to expect it. It doesn't feel as significant. Applying a catch alll rule like "people need to do this" or " people need to do that" isn't thoughtful at all. It wouldn't actually solve the problems that are allegedly caused by a lack of vulnerability.
Short version : Vulnerability isn't always the answer.
@@gothxm I understand what you’re trying to say here, but when I said “not afraid to be vulnerable”, it’s in the context of letting oneself feel all emotions and not try to deny nor mask them. Being vulnerable in the sense of allowing oneself to regulate and identify one’s emotions in dealing with negative experiences.
When other people make you feel bad for being vulnerable or showing real emotions, there’s nothing wrong with you, there’s definitely something wrong with them. And I guess it’s just society in general that plays a big part of the standard of having to act “tough” or “strong” all the time, when in reality, there’s nothing really wrong with it. It’s just been the “normalized” standard.
At the end of the day, feelings are what makes us human. And it’s okay to feel hurt or not to feel okay. Always having to be “strong” or act tough despite negative experiences also has its downside (aka Toxic Positivity). We all can definitely feel upset or sad about things that did not go well or right, and there’s nothing with that.
@@nnmartin94 being confident is better than being vulnerable, being emotionally stronger is better than being weak, but it doesn't mean you have to be "one". If women around you don't get that, "they" are weird and you should stay away from them.
Why inside out is my favorite movie:
It's not about being happy,
It's about being okay
💗
😐
@@rustycat8782 hm?
@@sugar2cuube "being okay"...? 😓
21:00 is kind of like what happned to Ban Heesoo in Ditto. She looked back into her happy memories (with NewJeans) but then she realizes they’re gone. Her memories of them became sadness and the only way to relive their memories is by watching clips of them in the cam corder. She woke up one day and realizes that even though they’re gone, its okay, she’s okay. It’s okay to look back and mourn the loss of a loved one.
that’s a great way to put it 😮
what I love about Joy's design, is that she has a little bit of color of the other emotions:
she has the pink lips that recall the red of Anger, a green dress for Disgust, the purple bag she carries is simbolic of Fear (also the fact she's afraid othe emotions will "contaminate" the core memories she carries), her own yellow skin and she has two major colors of Sadness. the blue eyes and hair.
it's simbolic that every emotion HAS to be felt to fully experience joy, and the blue eyes are what stand out to me the most: the fact that you NEED to see sad times and to live though sadness to be fully happy.
Her hair had be changed to blue to distinguish her from tinkerbell.
She also has blue glow around her
I never knew!
Great catch and analysis!
Not sure it’s that deep, the main character of the movie just has to be different from all the other characters, which in this case is just giving her a bit of extra color
“We’re crying but the crew is doing the ugly crying.”
That got me lmao 😂
🤣🤣🤣
Me watching also ugly crying 😂😂
I was crying with them then started laughing at that 😂
This comment section feels like a safe space, that’s rare on RUclips. I hope everyone in the comments are having a wonderful day
Right back at ya 👍🏾
As to you, you wonderful person
Yep, consumerism keeps people very docile. Praise Disney.
@@Oecobius33 everyone besides you. Always gotta ruin a good moment
@@Oecobius33 I’m praising the two men who are openly talking about their emotions and struggles, I don’t personally like Disney but this video here was really nice.
22:38 This moment will always make me chock up. I remember the first time I opened up to my mom about something traumatic. I was drained from keeping it in but it was the biggest relief and it felt so amazing to be able to cry to my mom about stuff again. Now we're closer than ever.
“Every happy memory i have of her is colored in blue.” That made me sob. Im so sorry for your loss. I love my mother with my whole being and we lost my brother 3 years ago this month. It makes me cry when i think of the good times because i miss him so much but i also laugh so hard thinking about the funny times. So bittersweet.
I'm so sorry for your loss I'm sure he's in a better place rn 😔💕
(Hugs) I’m sorry
i‘m also so sorry for your loss :(
but at least you have all of these beautiful memories :) my brother died one day after our birth.He wasn’t even given a chance to live.He wasn’t lucky enough.Sometimes i lay in bed,crying because i would die to know how my life would have been with a twin brother by my side.If we would have looked identical,or if he would have been tall,or how his voice could have sound or how his personality would have been like or if we would have liked the same things and so on.I just now that a part of me will always miss something,or specifically,someone in my life.And I will never,ever meet this person. I wish I would have beautiful memories of us together I could hold on,but there are no memories to remember. So I don’t know how it is to lose someone you grew up with,but I know what it’s like to lose someone you didn’t even get a chance to grew up with.
In conclusion: Always be grateful that u had the chance to meet this wonderful and amazing person :) Smile when u think about him and always keep him and those memories in your heart💜
Wish u the best💜
Yeah that got me too - it's one of the hardest things about losing somebody.
Crying too. Lost my dad suddenly a year ago & I feel the same way about the memories. Every zany vacation memory feels bittersweet & far away. But we laugh too. Hugs to everybody in the comments here.