Therapist Reacts to INSIDE OUT
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
- Licensed Therapist Jonathan Decker examines psychology, relationships, family dynamics and more in this deep dive into Pixar's masterpiece: Inside Out.
Jonathan shares his insights from a decade of professional marriage and family therapy to examine the themes and ideas presented in Inside Out, to see what the filmmakers got right, and horribly ruined (not much, really.) Alan says some things too. His insights are of middling quality.
Also, Alan cries.
Like, a lot.
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Written by: Megan Seawright, Jonathan Decker and Alan Seawright
Produced by: Jonathan Decker, Megan Seawright & Alan Seawright
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As a woman who grew up with an absent father, and seeing my mom in unhealthy and abusive relationships with men, you have no idea how healing it is to see two grown men be able to talk about feelings so naturally and tearing up over family and not hiding it, but just being human. Thank you! 🙌
You're so welcome. This comment made our day!
same here. abusive stepdad, and a good meaning, but overworking bio dad... my mom was emotionally numb and distant and spent most of our lives in severe depression also working herself to death... emotions and family connection just never was there for me.
Similar case here. Abusive, then estranged, and thankfully divorced. Seeing amazing men and fathers(including these 2 amazing men) around the world really restore the faith in humanity in me. I’m so thankful we have internet, otherwise I won’t be able to know this.
I haven't even watched the video yet and this comment just made me tear up.
It's so true and I'm so sorry you went through that.
@@scythescythe884 it sucks! I hope you’re doing okay now!
It always hits me hard when they show that the mother is run by Sadness and the father is run by Anger, yet it's still a happy family. It shows how multi-faceted emotions really are. Sadness doesn't always mean upset, it also means compassion, empathy, understanding. Just like anger isn't always rage, it can be passion, determination, confidence. Goes for the other ones too, Fear can be cautious or strategic, and Disgust is also pride, standards, and morals. You don't need to be happy all the time in order to be whole. Your emotions don't define YOU, it's your perspective that defines your emotions.
Never thought about it like that. Cool!
That’s really cool!
I really like this spin on it, I always thought the emotions were multifaceted.
This is one of the best descriptions I've ever read about how 'negative' emotions can actually be beneficial. Good job!
beautifully said
Pixar films are NOT kids films; they’re animated films that are appropriate for kids. They’re engaging on SO many levels.
You can say that again!
Totally agreed
Peppa pig is for kids
Pixar is for everyone
Were. They were that way...
@@Alejandroso31Peppa is an asshole, though.
@@Alejandroso31that's why there's a distinction between TV-Y and TV-G
You guys missed something. One of the things that makes this movie so brilliant is one line that most people miss. When Riley's mom tells her that they need to "put on a happy face" for her dad. That is the seed that causes everything that comes after. What makes this such an important moment is that it's so incredibly accurate to life. One innocuous, seemingly innocent, comment can totally screw a kid up. From this moment on, Riley feels like she's not allowed to be anything but happy. And that's when Joy starts trying to stifle her fellow feelings. Kids take everything to heart and they did an amazing job of showing that. I feel like it's one of the most important moments in the movie and I'm bummed I didn't get to hear you guys talk about it.
Yes! Her parents calling her their "happy monkey" all the time made her bury the sadness of being uprooted from Minnesota.
“We’re crying but the crew is ugly crying”
that’s me. Im crew.
This comment made my day thank you
HAHAHAHA
Me too, fam. Ugly af crying
we're all the crew
big mood
This film is a crash course in emotional intelligence.
1.8k with no comments 🧐🤯
Yes i have never seen this before. Where are the comments?
Ikr???
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I remember crash course from seventh fucking grade
Noooooo! Alan’s daughter saying “her memories are yellow and blue now” 😢😭 Now *I’M* ugly crying… art giving children the vocabulary and tools to express themselves ALWAYS gets me. ❤
Same! 😭
that was beautiful 😊
Hello hope all is well with you ?
These two represent what I love the most about humanity. How they 'feel' the movie, how they talk so beautifully about it, how they cry, how they show vulnerability, sensitivity, and awareness...Thank you so much. As a hypersensitive person, I really needed that.
Thank you so much! That means a lot. ❤️
Andrew Tate is not a real man. These guys are.
"And I need therapy."
"So, so much."
*Mood*
Alan's such a good guy and a good example. Jonathan here. I'm proud of him. He's doing real work right there onscreen.
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@@CinemaTherapyShow aww
Mood
@@CinemaTherapyShow that’s so nice
“There is a type of love that is only experienced through sadness. There is a type of joy that is only experienced through grief.”
Boy, that hit me hard.
Yeah, one of the best Pixar films. Coco is my most favorite, Inside Out and Onward are tied for my 2nd.
@@hikari9262 Coco is my favorite as well
yeah they worded that so well.
Same ♥
@@jc-1231 Right, it's so special because the title of the movie is not the main character, but that character was able to generate the most emotional scene in the movie.
"Trying harder isn't the issue." FINALLY! Someone who gets it! We try so hard to get out of this pit we're in but nothing works and it's exhausting...
It's almost like
We tried so hard, and got so far, but in the end in doesn't even matter
You know a movie maker has talent when the "death" of an imaginary friend makes you cry. RIP Bing Bong. Your passing was a true showing of how parts of our childhood die as we mature.
He's not really dead, he's with lost memories. From my experience in my late 20's there are occasional moments when I'll remember old imaginary friends.
So maybe Riley, in her 20's or even 30's will have a memory, however brief it may be, of Bing Bong.
@@stargazer1946 I hope she does. One does not have to lose all of our wonder and imagination of childhood to “become an adult”. It is my somewhat childlike view on life, even at 58, that allows me to easily find joy in life.
This whole video of 2 grown a$$ men not being afraid to show emotions and vulnerability ON CAMERA is so pure. I love it.
Most refreshing indeed, peace & blessings.
emotional maturity - what most people lack unfortunately :(
I cried with them
I always cry when I watch this movie.
Yup, certainly the most beautiful aspect of this video. Btw this is also the first video of this channel I've ever seen... I like it here :)
"Now we are crying, but our crew is doing the ugly crying over there"
I didn't know my name was Crew...
We are all Crew.
@@CinemaTherapyShow One of us?
@@waunke56 One of us
@@CinemaTherapyShow I honestly can't imagine what working with you must be like. It must be so wholesome and fulfilling to work on a team that is all about bringing about self-awareness, emotional growth and mindfulness through common media that people appreciate. This channel really brings me joy and helps me grounded on my conscious effort to constantly better myself.
Oh by the way this is the third time I'm watching this, this time it came up in a newsletter of a blender artist I love (Andrew Price) and I was so ecstatic that someone I've never met but is a great career role model for me was also moved by this video that I decided to watch it again. Can't say I regret it, tears and all. I love your content
@@omoid1749 Holy Crap! Andrew Price talked about us in his newsletter! Alan here. I’ve watched his stuff off-and-on for years. Could you forward me that newsletter? cinematherapysolutions@gmail.com
And honestly, working with us is... Fine? I guess we’re nice people? It’s a little disconnected, because we’re just talking to cameras in a basement, doesn’t feel like: This is going to be seen by millions of people. Feels more like: How can I make Jonathan laugh right now, and holy crap here I go crying again.
My sibling is on the autism spectrum and often really struggles to identify and express their emotions. This movie has been a huge help in our communication. It helped my sibling connect with the idea that everyone has emotions inside them, and what those emotions are. Now when they get upset, I'll ask them "what emotion is inside?" And they can tell me.
❤
Hanni recommended this video. She used to tell fans it's okay to feel tired and sad sometimes insteading of just telling to be happy, which i really love her for that. She seems so mature and takes care of her mental health. ❤
when did she recommend it?
@@nugget8612 She recommended this video on Phoning
newjeans?
"All my happy memories of her are colored in blue" and now I'M ugly crying.
Awww well I'm going to go on a vilent killing spree to cure my self of the sham of crying at this muve. I can't help it That pore Girl is soo said! And that strange elifent thing giving up is life just to be forgotten!!!? What in earth?🗡️😔🛡️ You know what it's saying. It's saying he's worthless it's saying he needs to be left behind so even else can be happy. I don't like it it makes me sad.😔
@@cedricburkhart3738 It's ok to cry, it's meant to make you reflect on your emotions. Also please don't kill people :)
@@elizahart661 Yeah but like psychopaths don't cry at this movie .😔 I ges I'm not one of those I have to destract myself with pain to keep from crying.
i know, that part was so touching. 💙
@@cedricburkhart3738 dude seriously it's okay to cry, it's a much healthier coping mechanism than self-inflicting pain! Letting out your emotions is important
""You just need to try harder"
Trying isn't the issue"
oh my god how to send this to my mom without sending it to her
Then just say it instead?
I would be like, ‘hey mom, I found this interesting video that taught me a lot and I’d like to show it to you’
@@AceNinjaViking yeah! That is how I would do it.
I was gonna watch this alone but I thought my sis kinda needed to hear it😂
I find that combating depression is both complicated and simple. You can't just try harder. But you do need to persevere and endure. Persevere and steadfastly work through the issues, until the day arrives where you find out that you can "pull yourself up by the bootstraps". Time truly does heal all wounds, even if the scars that remain are ugly and ache.
To all the Hanni/NewJeans fans who are showing up: Welcome! We're so glad you're here! 당신이 여기 있어서 정말 기쁩니다! 이 동영상이 마음에 드셨다면 다른 동영상도 확인해 보세요.
I wish you could add Korean subtitles🦭
thx🎉
@@yakimanduuu we would LOVE to, if we could find a translator who could also translate the humor. Some of it is cultural, but dad-jokes are universal. 😂
👖
🦭🦭
no matter how many times i hear the line "take her to the moon for me, okay?" or watch the scene with Riley crying and hugging her parents near the end, those two parts always make me almost cry...
Almost? I’m a mess rn bruh
When Riley breaks down at the end I feel it two ways, as a parent because it breaks m heart to see my children cry and it speaks to my inner child all the time I wanted to break down and cry
"we're crying but the crew right now is ugly crying" ITS OKAY CREW IM WITH YOU
same!
yeah I was crying too lol
That was the most ive cried in a minute tbh
I cry in a cool way
same
I cried 4 times in this movie
-Riley crying at school
-Joy crying
-Bing Bong's death
-Riley crying with her parents
For me, it was seeing all the aspects of Riley's personality crumbling away one by one. I remember being in that state, and seeing it expressed in such a clear way onscreen just hit something in me.
Me too, but I cried between those moments too ....
I was not touched by the movie. I guess I matured too early.
Weak
Since the first second of the movie I was already crying 😂
24:48 Honestly you two might have one of the greatest friendships on RUclips. The way Jonathan just automatically comforted Alan when he was struggling to speak was just incredible, and brought back all my crying from the rest of the video that I was just getting over. You guys are awesome.
Seeing these two men unashamedly cry, when our culture tries to push the idea that men shouldn't cry, is so wholesome and such a wonderful thing for them to share. Everyone is sad sometimes, everybody cries and that's okay.
Crying is a completely rudimentary communication method for infants of indicating that things aren't okay. Crying in non-infants indicates a complete failure of self-governance... a system crash. It means things are catastrophically NOT okay to the point where it can't even be communicated in a rational manner. You see someone cry, you're seeing them having a system failure... and you feel GOOD about that? That is fucked up.
@@SotiCotoYou seem very distressed yourself. Are you okay?
@@SotiCotoim not reading allat LOL
@@SotiCoto What the fuck is this man waffling about
@@SotiCoto I'm sad that you're so damaged that you can't even understand the point of the video, much less the entire movie. 😢
"it's when your control panel is just completely broken"
yes. exactly. that's it. that's depression.
Ye and I'm experiencing it rn 😫😫
@@wehate-ku7tf hey if youre feeling depressed please get help. But please remember depression and feeling depressed is different and that's very hurtful for people with depression and not a matter to joke about. If youre actually suffering from clinical depression and is diagnosed by a professional,i hope youre doing well.
I would say PTSD rather than depresssion
As someone with bpd a way I like to describe it to younger people who have seen inside out is the little people inside my head like to take control very quickly when anything happens. Even if it's something little, they get excited to be in control because they know the next moment someone else might take over. And sometimes no one wants to even go near my control panel- sometimes it lasts for days when someone touches my control panel at all and it gets really hard. I really love this movie. We watched it multiple times while I was in one of my treatment places as a teen. It really helps when it comes to explain what I'm going through in a visual and more simplified manner
@@wehate-ku7tf embrace these emotions because they are all valid , but seek help, do not try and battle it out alone! please. Ily❤️
My cousin used to force herself to smile, until she saw this movie. After she saw it, she broke down to her mom and confessed she had been feeling sad since her dad died. She just wanted to be the brave one, for her mom and little brother.
Don't worry guys. She's doing much MUCH better now.
Edit:She found this video and was mad at me for making the comment but says she doesn't care if I send her every kind reply.
Your comment just put a lump in my throat 🤧
@@heartnsoullove aww💙
why hello Violet,fancy seeing you here 😂
@@lucy5935 She is
@@bluehoodieguy7568 haha. It was an mlp Hamilton cameo for a while but I got bored of that lol
This video is 3 years old. I remember watching this video only 8 months after my dad died. And I couldn’t finish the video. But rewatching this, when Jonathan mentioned his mother and the memories around them, I just immediately broke down in tears for the first time in months, never in my life did I think two dudes watching a cartoon movie would make me ugly cry loud enough that my mother had to ask if I was okay
So sorry for your loss ❤
I think a reason for why the Bing Bong scene is so sad is because a lot of people can relate to eventually losing your imaginary friend. Whether it was conscious or you just forgot about them while going through life.
And losing interests, really. Years down the line you remember something that used to bring you joy and keep you afloat, and now it doesn't get you this excited anymore - and it feels like a loss
@@JaneXemylixa yeah i agree.
"I'm a therapist, and I love movies."
"I make movies, and I need therapy."
Is this what the yinyang is supposed to represent?
LMFAO
"It's gonna make me cry"
"I'm gonna help you through that and charge you for it"
Yes! Must be
*y e a h .*
kinda..
"Sure, I cried when I watched the movie but I won't cry in a 27 minute video about the movie," I thought naïvely
we're the same, you and I
Me too! They had me bawling like a baby!
We underestimated the power of this video
Seriously.
I’m still crying as I type this freaking comment
"Every happy memory I have of her is colored in blue" oh my dear, dear Jono, thank you, thank you so much for these words.
My dad is going to turn 80, he's having severe depression and his life is now balanced between hospitalization and our permanent care, with my mum and sister. He is still this sweet, kindest-of-the-kind man now, but he says and does all these terrible things to himself and now every happy memory I have of him is starting to turn blue...
This heals. Thank you.
Thanks to Newjeans Hanni I discover this video and I totally lovin it.
Actually, I lost my cat for a week now. I always trying to be ok, like I tell my familiy and my friends that I'm okay. I'm holding my cry and always say that I'm okay so everyone won't worried about me. I want to be okay because I've been busy with collage projects, and I don't think this is the right time to be sad. And at this point when I can't feel anything, I can't find joy in my life, even doing something I like didn't help anymore, I feel like there is something wrong with me.
Then today, my favorite singer Hanni from Newjeans recomend this video, I just curious and watching it before I sleep. And this is just perfect for me, this video helps me. I'm trying to understand my feelings. I got slapped when they say "when it's okay but it's not okay". I always say that I'm okay, but the truth is I'm not okay. I feel sad because I lost my cat, my cat isn't only cat for me, it means the world and I depends a lot to my cat. So right now I'm crying hard and think that's okay to cry, it's okay to feel sad, there is no the right time to feel sad. I just want to thank you guys for making this video, and I want to thank Hanni for recommend this video to me.
Just, thankyou. I feel better now🤍
I don't know you but thanks to Hanni bringing us together, i would like to give you a big virtual hug. It's okay to feel sad, take your time to grieve and embrace your sadness. It's okay. It will pass eventually, but right now, take care of your sadness ❤❤ Wishing you all the best in life ❤❤
“I’m a therapist and like films”
“I’m a film maker and need therapy”
IM DYINGGGGGGG 😂😂
✨S o u l m a t e s✨
when you see another agtuber somewhere else
@@VanillaandVinegar7subscribe OMG NOOOOOO 😭
the "and I need therapy" part.. I can relate.
I'm nothing and need therapy
I love when he says "This is so Phyllis from The Office" because that's literally the voice actor for Sadness!!!
Oh my god. This woman needs a hug
Ue
I KNEW it! So it is Phyllis really?!
I ruined your 369 likes
How does it already have 372 likes-
21:00 is kind of like what happned to Ban Heesoo in Ditto. She looked back into her happy memories (with NewJeans) but then she realizes they’re gone. Her memories of them became sadness and the only way to relive their memories is by watching clips of them in the cam corder. She woke up one day and realizes that even though they’re gone, its okay, she’s okay. It’s okay to look back and mourn the loss of a loved one.
that’s a great way to put it 😮
"Every happy memory I have of her is colored in blue" - that was exactly what I was thinking when I first watched this movie. My father died when I was 16 and at that moment everything turned blue and it's been ever since. It's so amazing how they managed to visualize that so incredibly well.
P.S.: Yeah I know I'm not the first one talking about this line, but it hit so hard I just had to. I'm still in tears
I like that all the characters are completely one colour. Anger is completely red, disgust is completely green but joy has blue hair implying that sadness is a fundamental part of happiness
Oh, my God, I never noticed that! Wow!
wow, that’s a very interesting observation and i’m really happy that this was brought up ♡︎
Wait oh my god that makes so much sense
That's not entirely true, if you take a closer look you can see that the others share some colors too. For example, Fear has a red bow, and Disgust has a purple scarf.
@@jelmerdeelen3380 of my God it makes much sense now since you can relate when you are scared of something and you really wanted to fix it, you can't because fear overcomes you so you get fustrated. And disgust is partially afraid of something she is disgusted with.
"the crew in the back is doing the ugly cry"
*que faint sobbing in the background*
1.3k likes but no replies so uh-
hi
I didn't get that part. Maybe because English is my second language though.
@@Plslsl ò shit I didn’t know I got that many likes-
Hi
I just realized you replied 13 minutes ago-
💕💕💕
I've watched this 3 years ago after my beloved niece passed away from child cancer. She was 4. I appreciate the explanation you guys did. Everyday was a struggle emotionally and mentally. It's okay to feel sadness for you to experience growth. The movie itself made me cry. Thank you! And thank you Hanni!❤
god, i'm so sorry to hear that...i'm sure your niece is still very proud of you and loves you a lot 💗
I’m very sorry for your loss, she’s in a better place now.
I just realized that throughout this whole story joy has felt every other feeling except for sadness.
Especially in this scene 12:10. If you watch the whole scene of getting bing bong out of that place, you can see that joy gets scared of the vacuum, disgusted by the broccoli, and angry at sadness stepping on the wrappers (more like frustrated, but still). She doesn't want to feel sad, but she doesn't care about feeling anything else. She only becomes sad after this when bing bong disappears. It's pretty interesting.
I just realised now that joy has blue hair, Sadness's color, she's the only in one among the other emotions to have a hair color not matching her own. A clever visual clue to show that the ending is also Joy accepting that part of herself will always come from sadness.
Wow I never thought of it that way... Like, I always wondered why was her hair blue if she's entirely yellow and thus represents joy, but I never thought of this until now...
Is it just me.. or does Joy also represent Sadness? You can't be happy without sadness. (well that's how I saw it)
Wow you really have something there. This never once occurred to me. GREAT picking up on symbolism there.
I thought it was just because yellow & blue goes well together
That’s exactly what I thought, when I first watched this movie I wasn’t old enough to completely understand what was going on but the thing that stood out most to me was the fact that joy was the only character multiple colours. As well as that, the blue parts of her are the most noticeable, being her eyes and her hair, they stand out a lot more than the yellow parts of her do and they’re the most important parts of her, especially her eyes. It’s an amazing character design, it literally tells you the ending of the movie, you can’t have joy without sadness, that’s why you can’t think of the character joy without her blue hair and blue eyes
7:55 "If you've never felt sad then you can't appreciate what joy is."
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A sub we're glad to have!
When I heard that, it reminded me of some lyrics from a song called "Sorrow" by Sleeping at Last...
"because in our great sorrow, we learn what joy means"
instant sub from me as well lol
You’ve got mine as well UwU
And here is another one.
I subscribed too!
I am also a therapist. In my opinion, it is the most accurate portrayal of emotions especially emotional intelligence. I have used parts of the movie with many clients and I've never had one single complaint about the use of the movie. Jonathan, thank you for your insight as always, I love the channel!
Hanni saying this video opened her mind kinda reminds me of when I was just around her age, first time starting to learn about the importance of paying attention to and taking care of our emotions, how to do it, and a whole bunch of other psychological and philosophical stuff. It's one of the things that make me feel good about growing up since it allows me to get a better view of life. I don't usually watch movie reaction videos but I see you also react to several other movies I have watched before. Definitely check them out tonight to see if I missed anything :) Thank you for the informative analysis and thanks Hanni Pham for sharing this video to the people she cares about
“I will help you through your tears and then i will charge you for it.”
LMAOOOOOO
Comming from someone who's studying psychology,that's honestly a mood
I mean that's technically therapy
@@razzmachad5124 it's literally therapy
Therapists in a nutshell
Therapy in a nutshell.
"I could not ask where the bathroom was... in neuroscience."
This is oddly the most relatable statement of 2020.
Facts
@MOUNIA OUASSIF Haha this is also a relatable statement for 2020
@MOUNIA OUASSIF same. I'm dumb af.
Ye even tho u probably due nt know what it means either XD
@@wehate-ku7tf Hahah precisely
This is probably one of the best animated movies EVER made. I don’t think you could find a person who DIDN’T cry when watching this
What I love about this movie is it shows us the inside of Riley's mom's head, and the mom's head has sadness "in charge" To me it is kind of giving us a hint. And it shows that as a child we are all happiness and joy and that when we grow into women we start to learn compassion and that it's okay to have emotions and let sadness out too. ❤
Inside Out is basically “It’s Okay to Cry: The Movie”
more like "it's okay to feel sad" and "do not block the sadness away"
Lmao this is so good. A great recap!
I suggest a series “it’s okay to not be okay”because of the similarities of this movie
This. This is good👍🏻
@@guren9193 I think the theme is similar but in terms of length and style... well.
"I'm gonna make me cry, and you're going to make fun of me."
"I will help you through your tears...and then I'm going to charge you for it."
Therapy in a nutshell. 🤣🤣🤣
Pretty much why I don't even consider it, lol.
@@MezzoForte4 Therapy can be amazing, especially if you can find a free support group. Sometimes you feel like you're drowning. A therapist not only throws you a life preserver, but helps you with the first steps of learning to swim again. God knows therapy saved my life more than once.
@@MezzoForte4 lmao what do u expect? Them to do it for free? They study years and years for it, they obviously have to charge for it. But it does help a lot,
@@JorgensZelda depends on the therapist and it tends to be like other groups of people- a lot of them can be shit and it's not always a fix for someone.
Warrior Maiden while I do find the “therapy costs a lot for someone basically being a good friend to you” jokes funny, I also would like to say that these skills are not easy to be turned on and off on command, it’s a very draining job and it takes a lot of effort to learn how to healthily distance yourself from the client’s situation when you’re off work. The “I’ll be your shoulder to cry on but I’ll send a check for it” concept is funny but it’s also fair 🤷♀️
One of things I love most of my husband is that he cries during movies. Not every movie, but everyone has that thing that “hits” right. I’ve told some other ladies before, and have gotten some very negative responses. Whatever. I love that about him, and he’s all mine!
Ok i just want to say thank you. Thank you for accepting one of usmen as a man. Sadly in many relationships if a gal sees her bf / hubby cries in front of her, she leaves him. Ty for being such a wonderful support to him. Youre a bigger blessing to him than you may ever know. Either way i hope you guys have a truly epic marriage.
I remember not wanting to see this movie because it just didn't seem like a compelling film. But, I eventually watched it - it was a masterpiece. How it personified emotions was so brilliant, yet simple - that even I could understand it.
To me, Pixar is one of the few companies that still consistently makes really good movies.
"My mom is gone, every happy memory I have of her is coloured in blue"
Okay. I'm done. That's when I started crying like a baby.
Same.
Same , cause mine is gone too
@@shadanaljanabi2929 I'm sorry for your loss 🖤
@@shadanaljanabi2929 I'm sorry for ur loss
I'm so sorry for your loss
it’s actually quite clever how easily joyful memories turn to sad ones when touched by sadness, because that’s the nature of memories. you can be happy that you have these memories, but it can easily turn to sadness when you realise that it’s not like that anymore and things have changed as you grow up.
Love this. Thank you so much. It's so hard going through this. And it doesn't help that I don't talk about it. This is probably the hardest thing for me about my wife becoming ill (not terminally, thank goodness) and probably being unable to leave the house again. The memories of so many of the things we did together are now so bittersweet because we'll never have things like them again.
Very true. My mother died early and will never meet my children and although I am saddened by that loss, and that for me it won't ever be like that, I can make certain that my children grow up as happy as I did. One can learn from sadness.
Or you're looking at a situations with adult eyes, instead of naive kid ones.
and now im crying
@@Magidex i agree
I also like that Anger was the one who came up with Riley running away, and Sadness was the reason Riley decided not to. Because Anger is basically Sadness that wasn't felt, and decided to MAKE itself heard. Just gotta feel your feelings, then you can have the willpower to get out of those temporary feelings
This is one of my favorite Pixar movies and being someone that struggles with severe clinical depression and "numbness" for the last 10ish years, it's one that makes me cry the most and hardest when I watch it. I connected unbelievably strongly with what Jonathan said at 21:40 about his mom-I've never been able to put those feelings into words, and I think Jonathan hit the nail on the head. My dad died almost 9 years ago when I was in high school due to cancer. I've felt incredibly lost throughout my twenties with passions and hobbies fading away and burning out with my career (animation and filmmaking) which was once one of my passions. My dad was my greatest supporter with every one of my hobbies, and the last few years of therapy have had large spontaneous spurts of grief during random sessions. I know it's because I, and my family, have felt lost ever since we lost him. A lot of my old interests make me sad because my dad is no longer there to support me through them, and my once-happy memories of all of them have turned blue and joyless. I know that that's ok, and that it's ok to feel those sad emotions and grief, but man, I'm sitting here WFH while watching this and absolutely just started weeping for a few minutes when Jonathan said that..
I have 99 problems and this guy fixed at least 73 of them.
I have 99 problems and you ain't one😂
come back! he hearted your comment!!
Nice, needs to be at least the 3rd top comment
I have 100 problems and he fixed 74 of them
I got 99 problems and your profile picture ain't one
Something I love about cinema therapy, is that it's just a place you can go and feel genuine emotions about things you've experienced in life and it's just valid. I think we need more of that these days.
Iˋm a trauma therapist and I sometimes suggest to my clients that they watch Inside Out. That helps them get out of that stuck place of either/or and move into allowing all emotions and become whole. Thank you Pixar! And thank you guys for showing it clearly.
Something that’s also great about this movie is that Riley’s parents actually hear her, when she tells them she wants to go back they don’t say “well we live here now”, they basically say “You’re not alone in mourning and missing Minnesota, we miss it too, with you”. And that’s such an important validation that gets missed in conversations alot
Yes! I feel like most parents mean well but don't realise that this is so important. Like it isn't nice that we feel these emotions but it's normal and even parents that are supposedly perfect can be sad, angry and scared. The best thing is if you don't affect others when feeling "bad" emotions and learn to get over and process "bad" emotions. You are so right!
Yea my mom would whoop my ass if I'd "talk back" to her :/
Yeah I wish that happened more often in real life.
@@suckondeeznutskaeya haaha same. When having a different opinion makes you an ungrateful little shit.
@@ReptilianTeaDrinker well, yes???? Jajaja
"Positivity is a wonderful thing, as long as it's real."
That hit me like a truck...
*Me having A date with Kageyama*
👁️👄👁️: Ohhhh........
Same doe
A truck is a wonderful thing, as long as it’s real and it hits you
Fake it till you make it baby
@@M008 hello
gosh, three full adult men cried like a babies (me included). love this movie, and you guys are great, thank you so much for such a great show.
We love crying on this channel. Thanks for watching! :)
aww thanks hanni! hope you have a good day :) this video is awesome
Thanks for watching!
Nobody:
RUclips: do you want to feel emotions at 3 in the morning half a year after the release of this video?
Thanks RUclips!
*of course*
Yeeeees!!!!
Ok
3:21am here, just finished watching. Why is this so relatable?
Toxic positivity is no joke. I'm more a realist but I had a coworker who was a preacher for positivity and optimism and one day he got frustrated by something and snapped and turned violent. Not allowing yourself to accept the full range of human emotions led to him bottling up his anger until his mind just broke and he lost control of his actions. It was honestly one of the most terrifying things I've ever seen and I am thankful when I think back that he didn't hurt anyone during his fit.
That's an anecdote with no empirical use at all. It's literally just some story about some guy you know that demonstrates nothing except what that one guy is like, a guy the rest of us will probably never meet.
@@Thy_Boss this comment is so pointless. At least toxic positivity was relevant to the conversation.
@@Thy_Boss The reason I mentioned this was because he vocally told me that he believed that positivity is a choice that you can be 100% positive all the time if you just decide to be positive. What I was trying to show was, this clearly doesn't work. This guy although yes was just one dude, WAS the ONLY advocate for this movement that I've ever met and he ended up flipping out, acting erratically, getting fired from our job and then spent the next 5 months trying to make false claims to my landlord to get me kicked out of my building all because I didn't buy into his personality cult shit.
@@FoxrosePettipaw
Can you tell us more ? What happened ?
@Chinedu Atisele Thank you! Yes, I agree. I certainly also go back and forth. Personally I'm more of an optimistic realist. I believe most things will work out and will have a good conclusion but not everything is neat and tidy. Horrible things happen and we just have to learn to accept them and move on. Actually I'm watching a show atm that sums up this idea very nicely. It's called The Leftovers, and is about how people cope and grieve negative events that have ambiguous and undefined conclusions. It's a really great allegory for the fact that most things in life are ambiguous to some extent, and learning to live in that ambiguity is one of the only ways to move on and continue on the grieving process. I too think it'd be spectacular to just be able to choose to be happy, but unfortunately I have yet to meet anyone who claims they can do such a thing and who are actually able to practice their preaching.
The part I cried 19:48
It made me remember how I've been afraid to let sadness manifest.😢😢😢
I'm here because Hanni recommends this vid and I am satisfied! great video!
Thanks for watching!
I can't get over the fact that joy's hair is blue just like sadness, which symbolizes that joy always comes with sadness.
Wow I did not realise that
Edit: I just noticed that may sound ironical but actually I was just like „Wow! I did not realise that!“ :')
That is an amazing way to think about it!
Oooh
and yknow that purple scarf that disgust wears? I think it shows that disgust has something to do with fear.
Oh! I didn’t catch that!!!!!😍😍😩😩
Something that just clicked for me was that the depression isn't about Sadness or Joy - it's the absence of sadness.
Wow thanks for your comment.. It really gives me a different perspective
I feel so enlightened
I believe I see your point, do you mind breaking it down a bit more?
@@gift4romvirgo because the "depressing" feeling is more of an empty feeling, rather than feeling sad, which sometimes feels heavy
As someone with depression, I can agree. I feel better when I can make myself cry to get the stress out. When I have my episodes, it even affects me physically to where, the best I can describe is I feel my body is like a balloon. Just skin and air holding me together waiting to deflate. When I can actually be sad, it feels like I'm letting myself feel real again
Didn't watch this movie just saw a post on reddit about Hanni's Phoning and recommending this show. And now here I am at 8 AM just woke up and now im crying buckets.
had me tearing up to this. thank you hanni 🦭
"Im a licensed therapist and I love movies"
"Im a filmmaker and i need therapy"
And im a highschool student whos currently procrastinating on homework and is eating potato chips
Nice
Me Right now
I swear you're spying on me rn
Same
Bruh if you're procrastinating for this, you better be a psychologist or a filmmaker in the future 😀 Just kidding ✌
Honestly, the crying moment for me isn't when BingBong sacrifices himself, but it's right before when Joy falls into the forgotten memories. She literally forgot how to be happy.
The moment for me is when Riley stands in front of the class and just can't do anything. (Worth noting, however, that Bing Bong's goodbye was originally 30 seconds long - but was cut by Pixar for ...reasons)
@@0ceanicify i think its cause they knew that we could already not emotionally handle it
yes this is what happens to me
That moment makes me want to cry too.
I remember watching the movie and the (almost) crying moment for me was when Joy started crying. Back then it was because I found it extremely moving that the representation of Joy, a character that's dedicated to happiness and that feeling, experienced a moment of genuine sadness. It shouldn't be possible.
After watching this analysis, I now realize it's because I'm acting like Joy. I refuse to let myself cry and put others above myself. I convince myself I don't get to feel sad because others in my family are feeling sad. The reason I almost cried when Joy cried is because I *am* Joy
One of my core memories is of my boyfriend and I. On our first date, I had some complications which caused pain and I started crying really hard. He just held me and reassured me that I'll be okay. He also admitted to be worried about me.
Hanni recommended this video, I loved this video 💗
Thanks for coming!
Sometimes depression isnt a feeling of sadness sometimes its the inability to feel anything.
That’s probably why the control turned gray and sadness didn’t contribute anything to make it turn gray
Most definitely
When I am apathetic I miss feeling sad. I'd rather be sad than to feel nothing.
Honestly that's what makes me cry in this movie is that the other emotions are also shut out, which is what makes her depressed. It's not that she's full of rage or sadness, she doesn't have anything. It's what made it feel so real.
Exactly. Like you can be depressed without haing depression. You can have depression without being depressed.
I have clinical depression. Ive had intrusive thoughts since the age of 6 but always come off as the bubbly fun girl. Im loud, im silly, but im also overwhelmed by any emotion. I am okaywhen im numb. I can function with numb. When i feel its too much and I dont know how to process it which leads me to essentially just disassociate because being in my head is a LOT. Seriously, therapy is so valuble, but so is having parents and family members be supportive and helping you work through that stuff instead of just dismissing it as childish nonsense. If you dont teach kids how to handle stuff they just wont.
me at the beginning:
“Why is the comment section crying??”
the end:
😭😭😭
About to be me in 30 minutes
Update- too much emotional stuff so I changed it before I cried
😂😂
Exactly....😭😭😭
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So I did not cry it’s ha d for me to cry sometimes
hi jada 🕳👨🦯💨
I know this is an old video, but I think you'd be happy to know that early childhood teachers often use the inside out emotions to help young children understand and express what they are feeling. That movie was truly groundbreaking:
I loved seeing you guys getting emotional. You dont understand how validating that is.
I always cry multiple times during Inside Out but when the Therapist talked about the memories about his mother being blue because she's dead. Damn, TEARS I tell you.
I felt it so hard when he talked about that cause my mom died when I was 16 so I really related to it.
I'm a 36 year old woman who lost my mum when I was 29, when he talked about his mum I realised it was the same for me and even though I was already tearing up anyway due to Riley having her parents there, I cried a bit for real then. This film always gets me though, and it's good to let it get me, it feels kind of detoxifying to have a little cry every now and then.
Same, and my mum's still alive
I forgot just how good this movie was! And the discussion of depression and sadness just resonates with me. My gosh
Oh bro that broke me..that's how I feel with my memories of my grandmother
Something about grown men crying about the loss of childhood is weirdly comforting
ikr! it makes me feel validated in a way, like its ok to feel these things
@Alpha Shepherd nah.. it doesnt have to be that old.. i felt the same thing now, and im in my 20s..
Is it somehow cathartic?
Well....is it okay for a seventeen year old to want to back in childhood days ? ........waking up daily wondering things be same as earlier
@@knowone4587 well yeah...I think most teenagers or young adults miss a time when they were more carefree, without the stress that often comes with adulthood.
Or maybe you mean something else 🤷♀️
I consider myself very tough emotionally but around the 20 minute mark I started to genuinely feel bitter sweet not to the point of tears but to the verge of tears I watched inside out and it was nice but you explaining the meaning behind every little scene really opened my mind and allowed me to see this big truth behind life
Everything about this was so meaningful; your friendship, your willingness to cry on camera, to discuss your own experiences and those of your families. For me, Jonathan's observation about all of the memories of his mother being blue and yellow; I haven't lost my mum, but we're incredibly close and her health is dwindling, so I worry constantly about her wellbeing and how I'll cope when she's gone. It gave me a little bit of comfort to hear that interpretation of those memories, and how they'll be both happy and sad, and that's okay. It means a lot. You guys were crying and I'm sat here crying 3 years later. I really love you guys
Jesus Christ, the therapist talking about how the memories of his deceased mother are now colored in blue almost made _me_ cry.
I haven't even seen the movie, and that got me hard. It made me think of my dad, and I realized how bittersweet all my memories of him are now, just by virtue of him no longer being here.
Almost ...., I'm crying *hard* ugly crying and now I need more tissues 🧻
@@KatieSeville My Grandfather too, I have soo many memories of him at Christmas. Him helping me with my mumbling and talking too fast; I'm literally crying writing this because well, grief doesn't just go away. I lost him 5 years ago and it still hurts a lot.,
Yeah, I lost my mom unexpectedly after a long battle with cancer (long story) the night after Thanksgiving last year and quarantine hasn't made it any easier. The second he started talking about his mom I got hit with thermonuclear feels. That said, hearing the analogy was really nice from a healing perspective. Oof.
This is exactly how I feel about my mom, him saying that broke me
As Ron said to Harry, "You are going to suffer but you will be happy about it"
YES EXACTLY
YOU'RE GOOD!
Truest words Ron spoke
I live and breathe HP tbh 😅
Wow! I've never thought about this until now!
“Every happy memory I have of her is colored in blue” that was gut wrenching 😭
I cried the hardest I have in, literally years, about my dead father and dissolved family
Well done for allowing the sadness.
Sending love.
One of my favorite touches for the movie is that everyone but Sadness has a place in Riley's life. Disgust drives her sense of taste and self-expression, Fear keeps her aware and safe, and Anger gives her a competitive drive in sports, but Sadness has no "role" until the finale. When Sadness sits with Bing Bong and listens to him, I literally whispered to myself "oohhh, she's Empathy." Sadness lets Riley relate and understand to the rest of the world, which is such an important role to play!
This guy gets it :)
‼️This‼️
This made me cry damn you i just stopped
And it makes sense too as a eleven year old girl wouldnt know too much about really how to be empathise
Sadness had a place in her life it's just that Joy always tried to run her. And that's the point of the whole film. She kept sadness bottled up. The fact that there were no Blue orbs in core memories is what almost destroyed her. She needed to stop pretending to everything was always fine and show it
"take her to the moon for me"
Seven words that always without fail make me cry.
"It's ok that it's not ok" 😭
I used to say I need to go to the bathroom when it happened to avoid crying but I’d legit just think about it and cry god I’m crying right now thinking about it god I h8 puberty
@@maltesers1238
Don't worry, it get worse but better at the same time.
I never cry watching movies but dayumm.. that was just a different level of sad. I had to cry.
you should listen to the song " take her to the moon for me" by moira deal torre. its based on this movie line too and it will break you even more
@@meemee6197 I probably shouldn't, but I'm gonna do it anyway.
Anybody came here from Hanni’s recommendation??🙋♂️🙋♂️
Me🙋♂️
Hi bunnies 😂
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when the therapist started talking about his mum and how the memories are now blue, i just ugly cried.
EDIT: I posted this a day ago and its doing numbers T_T the heck?
Same because my momma is also gone, it's been a year now...
I've seen my grandparents pass and I know one day it will happen to my immediate parents. Honestly, I don't really know how to react to that grim thought, but unless something happens to me I know it's something that'll destroy me eventually, just like how my Mum and Dad were destroyed when theirs went.
But like them I'll have to keep going, just with blue memories. For now, Sadness and Fear = Dread, right?
Right...
Saaaame aaaaah
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@@conspiracypanda1200 im experiencing the same thing. Seeing my grandparents pass hit hard in the same way, now anything like this makes me so emotional
Riley: Gets robbed, bites her tongue, and stubs her toe.
Joy: Look on the bright side! Atleast she knows how it feels
The fact that you put robbery on the same level as biting your tongue and stubbing toe is hilarious 🤣🤣
@@shortbean0 Is it not the same?
@@shortbean0 I mean...
@@shortbean0 yeah you’re right stubbing you’re toe is worse 😭
@@sparklydancingmice yes
Thank you hanni for recommending this, and thanks Cinema Therapy for making such a good, heartfelt video 🥺💖
Thanks for watching! :)
I come back to this video so much. I saw this movie as a fourteen year old abuse survivor dealing with trauma and divorce. I needed Inside Out. I was lost, scared, confused, and I felt alone. This film made me feel seen. It taught me it's okay to not be okay. It taught me to let go and grieve at a scary time.
Cries over this film when suddenly: *Boss Baby Advertisement*
Really? Right in front of my salad?
MOOD
probabl not the best meme to use for this vid...
@@iellaterreur7865 wym? its a *wonderful* meme to use for this :)
Hey man boss baby has some heavy shit about sibling relationships have some respect
Hey wait a second...
2 grown men being honest with themselves and to each other while enjoying movies. I'm hooked.
Ya damn this is so precious
I subbed cause of it!
Awesome!
Random recommendation, now I’m subscribed and wishing RUclips’s algorithm had suggested sooner!
Marley IKR!
I wish I could be a part of something as wholesome and heartfelt as what you two have created with Cinema Therapy. This channel is such a beautiful example of vulnerability and compassion of the human struggle to continue living despite the tragic things in life. You guys are living the dream
I’m so glad I stumbled upon this episode.. my family moved to a different city when I was 15 and I took it a lot harder than anyone else in my family. So this movie spoke to my 15 year old self and I cried so much the first time I watched it! I had also been a pretty easy going and happy teenager, so my parents had a hard time understanding what was going on. Thank you for this!
The first time I cried during that movie was when the mom said, “You’re our happy girl.” That hit way too hard for me.
Damn. That’s probably why she was trying to not be sad, because she thought she would disappoint her parents if she was sad.
I cried during the scene when she finally returned home, and she is honest to her parents. I wish I could do that but actually doubt it would get the same out come.
Man I thought you replied to yourself 2 times
For me too
@@oreli4591 STOPP I WAS EATING NOODLES AND I CHOKED JDSGFHSD