I'm not used to seeing young, intelligent and brilliant men. This man is intelligent. I'm not talking about school degree, I'm talking about "Common sense" aka WISDOM.
@@pacisco5151 most women dont relate to you how you actually act, they just use their imagination of how they think you will act then relate to you with that false picture in their mind. this is why they are almost always wrong when the say "men..."
1. They meet you on a dating app 2. They tell you how gorgeous you are 3. They beg you to get on wattsapp 4. They talk to you for a few days they learn you are educated and well off 5. They ask you for money 3 days later 6. Truth is… you enjoy hearing them beg and reject them more! 5. Don’t let them tell you they love you on day one without telling them they are fkn strange!
I vowed if not my brother, my son or my father, its a no no. Im dating a guy I'm about to break up with cos he just turned me off asking me for money for bundles ooh my tokens,. Am so fed up with these kind of boys
Keep searching until you find the man that is an adult and can treat you as the queen you are. Don't give up until you find him. Don't settle for a a little boy.
I was fool offered money and bought things for guy was involved for 4 months. But ended up being a taker and prove the people pleaser in me. I want to believe the lesson in blessing warning me guard my heart.
Only NAKED truth is here.....I love this guy and he impacts my life in a priceless way...Still single @29years old knowing am worth and living a life full of joy....
when a guy ask me for money my heart drops like damn.... I just wanted something real or bare minimum something to pass time by but now its ruined. You asked for money its over. I cant even play with him now
I am needy, therefore I seek people who need me. That’s where I am opening myself up to be taken advantage of…… Find the source of that neediness ! wow 😮 THAT was a powerful statement!! Spared me YEARS of therapy
ushago in me some two years back made think giving money to a man often is love so i now know it was foolishness. hahaaa. I helped someone pay school fees for short courses, i footed his bills every time he took me for a date, send some cash to his village people, gave him money for rent in fact my school fees yaani call all sorts of help. The day he got a well paying job, I got no treat ,no nothing just to be paid back by him marrying another lady. wueeeh i have so much to teach other people
This man who pretended to be in love with me, happens to have asked me for a loan clamming he had an emergency which was a lie, i ended up sending him 55 k now it's almost two years he never paid back n ended up marrying my friend. He's a lawyer by profession n i feel so disappointed coz I can't report him since we never signed anywhere n he's influencial
That girl was never your friend and God will punish him for his sins against you. You seem innocent and kind. I am kind too but I NEVER give men money no matter how much I love him. My dad never took money from a woman lol
You’ll get back double what you’ve lost. Just don’t do it again, ok? I’ve done stupid stuff like that too because I really liked this guy and I lacked self esteem. Get close to Jesus, understand you are beautiful, God can give you someone who will make you forget the hurt you’ve dealt with. You’ll be okay my sister
I think Zulu is speaking about my life I went through this in the name of his family loves me and deep inside they knew their son is useless I suffered 10yrs
Thats foolishness sometimes not everything Benjamin talks makes sense kwa ground,,I was unable to access my salary for 6months and my girl used to send me something cash wakati nimekwama kabisa
Weee am just watching this now. My goodness if I remember what I went through with a guy back in 2016_2017 it was Baad. I was I Lebanon o had net this guy while back here in Kenya,so while there by i would send him money my goodness,I came back even gave him my tablet only to realize that it spoiled after two days and guess in whose hands? Another woman hands
Hello am new here and thank a lot coz you guys have really help me big for the past year 2020 UpTo 2022 I was blind not to see that the man I loved he never loved me but just wanted to use me.... keep giving him money when he was in need until the time I was in need too but he did not help me back...he is married and an having a child with him... thank God after knowing he is married I walk out from his life and am doing better with my child without him
I like the show,listening live from Wilson airport,have been coned with a man we met online he visited stayed for sometime,then he claimed that his business is stuck nimpee doo aende arudi ,till date no communication since I gave 2k only men men!!!
I was giving my bf money he ended up never giving me back my money stealing more money from me ,he said he did it because he wanted me to have to call him,he still has feelings for his ex he didnt keep a job the whole time we were together and at the end i brought him a laptop so he can go to school and get his own money he still live with me i am very emotionally stressed out. but when i tell him he say he going move he always have a problem so he cant really move he got fired and his car blew up on christmas (it really did i wasnt with him i saw the video).
Am in this situation i wld wish to quit though he has something under loan and he has refused to let it go coz he knows thats the only thing that can keep me near him is object untill we clear the loan thats the only way i can be free though i need help mentally coz i got no one i can open to coz he keep sending them away and ruin the relationship between me and them
Woi I just dated one for along tym always lending him cash nijipate tena nilie 😢ts Soo sad imgn ladies ts not worth it ..from experience Danks zulu for this
His advice seems good, get rid of those bad guys who don't improve your life and treat you well. They don't deserve you! They are bad, bad, bad, you deserve a man who you benefit from, and doesn't want to be a vampire to you.
Mr Zuma believes and knows what he is saying... I can see him speaking to me. I can feel his energy. 😂😂😂 He can not deal with the level of ignorance in women. To him it's FOOLISHNESS!
Hahaha he just knows how a man's mind thinks and knows the mind games that we can play. His advice is good... in America too, I love this interview, haha. Get rid of the bad guys unless is serves you in some way, otherwise... get rid of them!!
It felt nice to reject men for once! But it’s hard when u already were involved with him. And when u like him. But I wrote how he scammed me all over his facebook account so people can see it :)
And if a boyfriend is in need but not asking for money, but because of sympathy unamsaidia tu with the little you have is that wrong him taking the money
If you yourself help out of good will then fine but people take advantage of you.I helped someone who told me he was so hungry and had no food..out of sympathy I sent him some money...he later had guts to buy an Airtel number to insult me calling me a prostitute and that he can't stay with such a woman over his dead body....never ever symphatise with them
When you give men money they take you for granted...Ladies stop!
You also challenge their ego as providers, hence the reason they find another woman who their ego is intact.
@@xoxomacx2539 true... absolutely...
FACTS SIS!!! they act so entitled
It works both ways. You better tell men to stop giving women money too.
God's design for men is to PROTECT and PROVIDE for their wife!
I'm not used to seeing young, intelligent and brilliant men. This man is intelligent. I'm not talking about school degree, I'm talking about "Common sense" aka WISDOM.
I can imagine how much men hate him for opening our eyes😂
which men?
They do, most of them who comment are always saying that Benjamin is wrong!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Only fake men hate him. I'm a man and guess what? He fuckin inspires me. The way he changed me you can't imagine
@@pacisco5151 most women dont relate to you how you actually act, they just use their imagination of how they think you will act then relate to you with that false picture in their mind. this is why they are almost always wrong when the say "men..."
Facts sis all the way from 🇺🇸 USA
women have it bad paying 🤦🏽♀️
1. They meet you on a dating app
2. They tell you how gorgeous you are
3. They beg you to get on wattsapp
4. They talk to you for a few days they learn you are educated and well off
5. They ask you for money 3 days later
6. Truth is… you enjoy hearing them beg and reject them more!
5. Don’t let them tell you they love you on day one without telling them they are fkn strange!
Thank you for this comment
I vowed if not my brother, my son or my father, its a no no. Im dating a guy I'm about to break up with cos he just turned me off asking me for money for bundles ooh my tokens,. Am so fed up with these kind of boys
Keep searching until you find the man that is an adult and can treat you as the queen you are. Don't give up until you find him. Don't settle for a a little boy.
Telling my niece the same yesterday about not lending money to men. Told her to always say she doesn't have money even if she has.
I was fool offered money and bought things for guy was involved for 4 months. But ended up being a taker and prove the people pleaser in me. I want to believe the lesson in blessing warning me guard my heart.
Only NAKED truth is here.....I love this guy and he impacts my life in a priceless way...Still single @29years old knowing am worth and living a life full of joy....
😂😂😂 when I tell you this man is the man…I have not enjoyed an interview this much in a long time.
There is a thin boundary between love and foolishness🔥🔥🔥🔥
I know great line right? Fools 4 love, I've been guilty. It's cause we feel like there's no other real options 😢.
Oh my God,I was once a red cross in the name of love.
Thanks God I was delivered in that bondage.
That makes two of us...men out here can suck a woman dry.Thank God Zulu has our back
He is so passionate...love him!
Zulu you’re on point 👌🏻after supporting them after their lives get together they trash you and treat you like nothing. I never understand😁
Facts at it's finest
when a guy ask me for money my heart drops like damn.... I just wanted something real or bare minimum something to pass time by but now its ruined. You asked for money its over. I cant even play with him now
Zulu is the best thing that happened to Kenya
True
Absolutely!
I am needy, therefore I seek people who need me. That’s where I am opening myself up to be taken advantage of…… Find the source of that neediness ! wow 😮 THAT was a powerful statement!! Spared me YEARS of therapy
exactly
Cries😢😢 true and sad
ushago in me some two years back made think giving money to a man often is love so i now know it was foolishness. hahaaa. I helped someone pay school fees for short courses, i footed his bills every time he took me for a date, send some cash to his village people, gave him money for rent in fact my school fees yaani call all sorts of help. The day he got a well paying job, I got no treat ,no nothing just to be paid back by him marrying another lady. wueeeh i have so much to teach other people
Wah! Pole sana Irene
Pole mamiu
So sorry Irene.
Rejected and deprived of love as a child,very right
I have been in a toxic relationship for 27 years. I don't think will be lied to again i m very much carefully .im watching you from km Namibia
Self interest rules the world not love! 👏🏾
In the first place, why should he tell me his problems?
Indeed they are selfish.
Have watched this clip more than 5 times that's how i like your shows never want to miss a word🤗
Omg, this man spits some facts, this is so raw and real. This is such a golden video.
Give this man award 😂💕
Very good I believe this is nigerian man
trust me, it is all of them.
There is this guy I was talking to he told me he loved me and then asked me for money and I said no cause it happened to me before
Wow...this was an eye opener Benjamin 🔥🔥🔥🔥
God bless this man 😂 I love how passionate he is!
I was scammed from the beginning of the toxic relationship. I bought flight ticket etc
Me too sis!!!
Same 😅 he treated me horribly
true men never ask girls for money
Let's not be deceived by our hearts.
Amen
Makenzability oh my !!! Zulu your colloquial verbs gonna kill me one day ...Man you're doing marvellous 👏 I respect you.
I really believe this pre_25 thing.
Please ladies don't date anyone before you know who you are .
The world would be a better place if we looked at the positivity and defy the odds
Exactly this is what is happening in our society men are asking money from ladies mkiongea aki anakukopa ama anomba indirectly
True hata hawana haya nkt
🤣😂🤣😂In my life is only God & me I'm full singleness ✅
The problems with our ladies doesn't obey redflags they assume in the name of love and thats why they end up being hurt
True
Word!! This man is one of a kind,, thnk u soooo much.....lots of love from Uganda ♥️
This man who pretended to be in love with me, happens to have asked me for a loan clamming he had an emergency which was a lie, i ended up sending him 55 k now it's almost two years he never paid back n ended up marrying my friend. He's a lawyer by profession n i feel so disappointed coz I can't report him since we never signed anywhere n he's influencial
Sorry that happened to you . The man is no good.
That girl was never your friend and God will punish him for his sins against you. You seem innocent and kind. I am kind too but I NEVER give men money no matter how much I love him. My dad never took money from a woman lol
@@thepurplequeen256 thank you dear. Vengeance belong to the Lord. I live it all to God.
You’ll get back double what you’ve lost. Just don’t do it again, ok? I’ve done stupid stuff like that too because I really liked this guy and I lacked self esteem. Get close to Jesus, understand you are beautiful, God can give you someone who will make you forget the hurt you’ve dealt with. You’ll be okay my sister
@@gleeannsmith5232same I also lacked self esteem and did it
I think Zulu is speaking about my life I went through this in the name of his family loves me and deep inside they knew their son is useless I suffered 10yrs
😷😷😷
Same story sis. Im gone and not coming bCk. Thank you Mr Zulu
Character development nilifanywa..he he he. Actually, someone am dating asking for money its a red flag.
Run
Thats foolishness sometimes not everything Benjamin talks makes sense kwa ground,,I was unable to access my salary for 6months and my girl used to send me something cash wakati nimekwama kabisa
@@Noah-zt5zf how long have u known your girlfriend?
@@Noah-zt5zf Did you marry her yet? Or just fixed yourself and left her behind?
@@BlackPanther-lt7wr 3yrs now we fight we solve no room for break ups
This was very educative
Weee am just watching this now. My goodness if I remember what I went through with a guy back in 2016_2017 it was Baad. I was I Lebanon o had net this guy while back here in Kenya,so while there by i would send him money my goodness,I came back even gave him my tablet only to realize that it spoiled after two days and guess in whose hands? Another woman hands
Gal we must met and talk and laugh we share the same damn thing send me a request at Liz sonny fb
Wacha tuu dear mimi nimepitia ya kutosha
I somehow fell into this trap...I have spent 10k but I stopped..it's a red flag
Hello am new here and thank a lot coz you guys have really help me big for the past year 2020 UpTo 2022 I was blind not to see that the man I loved he never loved me but just wanted to use me.... keep giving him money when he was in need until the time I was in need too but he did not help me back...he is married and an having a child with him... thank God after knowing he is married I walk out from his life and am doing better with my child without him
I like the show,listening live from Wilson airport,have been coned with a man we met online he visited stayed for sometime,then he claimed that his business is stuck nimpee doo aende arudi ,till date no communication since I gave 2k only men men!!!
😂😂am sorry I can imagine that you still waiting for the his return
Only 2k na ingekua 100k si unge enda loose shukuru Mungu he shows you earlier who he is.
This happening to me bt am playing so smart theres a big red duvet soon i gonna leave
Same here😅
EXCELLENT well said I couldn't say it better my self
If he won’t let you touch his phone, don’t let him touch you!
Thanks for opening my eyes
True especially if he has money
I was giving my bf money he ended up never giving me back my money stealing more money from me ,he said he did it because he wanted me to have to call him,he still has feelings for his ex he didnt keep a job the whole time we were together and at the end i brought him a laptop so he can go to school and get his own money he still live with me i am very emotionally stressed out. but when i tell him he say he going move he always have a problem so he cant really move he got fired and his car blew up on christmas (it really did i wasnt with him i saw the video).
Get rid of him!
Oh my god, please find a better man... they exist. This man is crazy and horrible. You deserve much better than this
I salute this program ❤
Thank you from lebanon
Am in this situation i wld wish to quit though he has something under loan and he has refused to let it go coz he knows thats the only thing that can keep me near him is object untill we clear the loan thats the only way i can be free though i need help mentally coz i got no one i can open to coz he keep sending them away and ruin the relationship between me and them
i was once there nikapea mwanaume over 50k was to pay back but never did later i knew women died mysteriously i feared for my life nikaachana naye
Better make a move soonest, don't wait till it be too late.
Thank you so much Mr. Benjamin Zulu, please keep teaching us
People just say nice things to suite occasions
They saw the red flags and decided to attend the carnival lol 🚩🚩🚩🎪🎪🎪😂😂
You know what they say, “keep your friends close and your enemies closer” …so I married mine 😂
😂😂😂really
😂
😂😂😂😂😅😅😅 may God make u happy 😂😂😂
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thanks Zulu
I had one always calling and asking for man 💔💔, I am not lucky in this life of relationship 😭😭
God help me, I have always been giving 💔💔
Red dovet ilike that, and these broak men iwonder who taught them romantic loving words,they can steal your heart to death
You're Red cross with additional benefits😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thanks Zulu am so much inspired am Liz from Uganda 👏👏👏👏
Zulu you are the best.
On point
Please zulu talk to girls who go to gulf
Exactly...we go through alot
This was good. I’m American so I needed the captions to understand the English but this was solid.
They are speaking English. The captions is exactly what you can hear.
Woi I just dated one for along tym always lending him cash nijipate tena nilie 😢ts Soo sad imgn ladies ts not worth it ..from experience Danks zulu for this
😂😂😂😂😂😂 this really amazing
This has been life changing for me!
His advice seems good, get rid of those bad guys who don't improve your life and treat you well. They don't deserve you! They are bad, bad, bad, you deserve a man who you benefit from, and doesn't want to be a vampire to you.
Love this guy
Ive been corned twice and that was the end of my stupidity of love
😂❤❤❤ This was really good.. Thank you Mr Benjamin
😂😂😂😂,that is the spirit, Zulu and Mwikali keep up the good work 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.
Thank you
Yes I just had a man do that and he now says it's my fault he wants to be with someone else
U deserve better.he sounds like a narcissistic jerk who deserves no one
It is not in money alone even emotional expectations
😁😁😁😁☺️...Mwikali you have to keep confirming if Zulu is okay , otherwise 🔥 may just blaze..oh my goodnews
Came straight to this video after a talking stage borrowed money.. Such a turn off!! 🚮🚮🚮
Did you leave?
Really truth 💯 🙌 👏
PLAIN TRUTH
Aki this is soo mee,I giiiveeeee,woiiiii
Zulu this is good stuff.
True
Mr Zuma believes and knows what he is saying... I can see him speaking to me. I can feel his energy. 😂😂😂 He can not deal with the level of ignorance in women. To him it's FOOLISHNESS!
Hahaha he just knows how a man's mind thinks and knows the mind games that we can play. His advice is good... in America too, I love this interview, haha. Get rid of the bad guys unless is serves you in some way, otherwise... get rid of them!!
Am listening
Even if am in a relationship with aman he try to mention abt nikopeshe and I wll refund ,, manze tutaachana 4 sure 😂😂😂
It felt nice to reject men for once! But it’s hard when u already were involved with him. And when u like him. But I wrote how he scammed me all over his facebook account so people can see it :)
You two are funny 😂😅
Wah I have. Its not easy.. It is not easy I just want to say its bad
Wueh he is not a miracle worker
HAHAHA Thanks Benjamin Zulu
Wendaga urererwo ciana ciaku nuu? Twarira ithe..thoguo niakurerire
The title though
Someone lemme know the personality test that Zulu mentioned,
Thank you!
I got asked last werk
I dare not ask my wife for money,not even in my sick bed,that will be used against me later,I will prefer calling my sister,mostly self sufficient
This guy is talking to me😟
And if a boyfriend is in need but not asking for money, but because of sympathy unamsaidia tu with the little you have is that wrong him taking the money
No I dont think so. I always say, give the amount u r not afraid to lose
Thats how it starts...🤣🤣
He's not your husband
Yeah! Asking the same
This is wat Nzulu is calling foolishness.... If you get used to helping him out they end up expecting more n taking it as their right.
If you yourself help out of good will then fine but people take advantage of you.I helped someone who told me he was so hungry and had no food..out of sympathy I sent him some money...he later had guts to buy an Airtel number to insult me calling me a prostitute and that he can't stay with such a woman over his dead body....never ever symphatise with them
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