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My Husband Reacts To Childfree Hate Comments
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- Опубликовано: 15 авг 2024
- In today's video, Kevin will be taking a seat and reacting to some of the not so lovely comments received lately in the Diary Of The Childfree Community.
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The idea that simply having children WILL keep you warm and fuzzied and lovey dovied in your later years is hopelessly naive at best.
I whole heartedly agree!
Many people who do have children do end up dying alone it's really stupid to have a child so you can have someone to take care of you
I've worked at a service house for the elder people. And I kid you not, most of those who had children got a visit once a week at best, many way more seldomly. And the most bitter and disappointed with their lives there were the elder parents who had counted on their children always being around for them. Their children would be busy living their own family lives or (if the elder person was really old) enjoying their own retirement etc.
It's really selfish too
It's very common people with kids end up being alone.
While people who are childfree are going to be surrounded by best friends.
Apparently there is a stat and kids do generally provide a lot of support in old age. However I am conciously childless and feel that having someone at my death bed is off putting. It means someone suffers when I die. Being alone and old bothers me less than bringing someone into the world when I am unsure about their future. I do feel though that parents should be allowed to have kids they've decided to be more hopeful about the future than me! As long as they have small families we've way too many people.
We all die alone. There are no bunk bed caskets.
Very true! Can't help but imagine that visual though! 😂
Why am I thinking of the bunk couch from lego life? Only as closed caskets?
*“Is your whole personality limited to ‘look at me, I don’t have children’?”* THIS is coming out of the mouth of people that push children down people’s throats.
“Can’t wait for y’all to have children”
“When are you gonna have kids?”
“Where’s my kid, my grandson”
When am I gonna be a grandma?”
But she thinks people use this as a personality trait when our entire lives we have seen them shoving this info down OTHER KIDS’ throats. Even FORCING way too young siblings to take care of their younger siblings when it is NOT their job.
Children are Breeders whole personality that's a fact!
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If you have a conversation with someone who is a parent every word out of their mouth is about their kids... but the childfree are making our not-kid-having-ness "our entire personality"? Bonkers. Maybe having kids gives them brain damage.
Yes, I think most negative comments stem from jealousy 100%.
Facts! Otherwise no one would bother to say anything!
I agree.
Or they think they're better than you...or they think they're saving you from the horrors of your choices
Absolutely
I don't buy any of the deathbed arguments/regrets. People romanticize it all too much. Our brains often trick us by changing the way we think about the past. Like parents who are miserable spending time with their smalls children say years later these were the best moments. We also often remember only the good aspects of a relationship we left.
Most people die alone in their homes or in a hospital even when they have family. It is not like in movies or TV shows, where all the four kids and ten grandkids will travel across the country and make it just before you pass! I recently finished watching "This is us", a show I love, but I found the last episode very unrealistic. People watch it and start getting scared of dying alone...
So cool to hear this from a man’s point of view! Interesting that so much hate comes from men on this topic, so it was really great to hear your husband standing up for us and for himself in making the decision to be child free! Thank you!
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch! We are happy to hear you enjoyed it! 💛
I love the no-nonsense demolition of the dumb comments. Dismissed with the disdain they all deserve!
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I’m 32 F CF💃 furmom to two doggies and a full time registered nurse at an assisted living facility. Many of my residents have 3-5 children and never see their children or grandchildren . It hurts me to know how ignorant people can be, those who think having children will save them a fate of dying alone🤡 tsk tsk.
Like seriously I don’t know what’s worse not having children and dying alone or having children and STILL dying alone. Ya know?
Totally agree 👏
What?
Ungrateful and selfish, that's what we're called...
Sadly, having children is no guarantee of being loved. My father had 10 children, myself included. When he got sick and old, only three of us were willing to take care of him, and only two were able, as my brother lives overseas and could help for only a couple of weeks. So my sister and I took entire care of him during his last months. He called for the others in dreams and delusions, but they didn't want him to stay at their places (because nobody wants a needy, sick, old man ruining their schedules!) and only a couple of them came to pay him a brief visit. He wasn't a perfect man, but he did a good job at raising the 10 of us. He didn't mistreat us, he was loving and responsible, we all went to school and got jobs, he taught us values. He was a good father and still he passed away completely alone, because his health suddenly worsened even more and we had to hospitalize him. It all happened so fast that we couldn't even hold his hand in his last moments.
Out of 10 children only 3 of us were really present and even then nobody was with him on his deathbed.
The other 7 absent siblings have children of their own. Does that make them automatically grateful or selfless? They rejected their own father when he most needed their love and comfort. I'm childfree, yet I was there for him until the very last moment I was allowed to. That doesn't mean that I'm better than them, nor that they're better than me, it actually means nothing.
Having or not having children doesn't make a person better or worse, nor does it guarantee anything at all. People are how they are and life's very unfair, so all these haters should stop judging because there's no such thing as black and white in real life.
Life’s a bitch and then you die.
We came into this world alone and we will leave this world alone 🤷🏾♀️ I’d rather leave this world loved, doesn’t matter by who. My grandpa passed unexpectedly and we (his family by choice, not by blood) miss him so much and cared so much for him. More than his actual children.
The fact that everyone is expected to have a child is ridiculous. Especially in this climate with the divorce rate so high. Half of these families will end up in broken homes or split families eventually. That's too high a probability to raise a family in. I'd rather have no family then a broken family.
Imagine if there were poor people with kids...
@@Euro.Patriot let’s take a guess here. Since you’re leaving a bunch of negative comments you’re stuck at home as a single parent on welfare and resentful others did not choice to bring a child into that? Sad
these people think their children will care for them on their death bed. as if their own children wont have their own children.....often times children dont have time and will put you at a place where other people will clean your a**. and your "children" wont visit you. they dont even give your 200k $$$$ back that you had to use to raise your children
Oh yes totally agree that's exactly what I would do to my father
yep this is the reality for most
With so much negativity, I wonder what and how some of these people are going to teach their children 🤔
I try not to think of that. Hopefully their children know otherwise because then it just becomes and endless cycle.
The bigger their hate, the bigger their jealousy. 😉
Honestly though! It makes it so obvious! 😂
OMG i just love all his answers you are one lucky wife congrats on having an amazing and wonderful marriage🥰
Me too! Thank you so much! He's my best friend above all else too which makes all the difference!
the second one was 😂 and the response was 🤣💀
I think it’s funny how many people worry about “who will take care of you” as if we’re asking them. (meaning both as if we’re asking their opinion, and as if we’re asking them to take care of us)
I also love how people think being childfree is our whole personality. Like, bruh, we have way more personality than most people with kids because, let me tell you, the only thing that people I know who have kids talk about...is their kids.
It’s a dumb argument for them to make because because generally it stems from what they see online. In real life though, we are simply just living. In conversations, generally no one knows we don’t have kids (strangers and acquaintances) unless THEY ask us about kids.
@@diaryofthechildfree Exactly!
Love your husband reaction ❤❤❤
Me too! 😆
my mom use to tell me stories about in this one patient in the care home she works at she was dumped there by her kids they don't visit her but they send her gift's sometimes she causes my mom and her colleagues so much trouble by refusing to take medicine or going on rants where she physically/verbally assaults them so no having kids doesn't guarantee you will be taken care of in the future and that you won't be miserable it's that type of expectation that makes you miserable when you realise your kids are individuals that will start their own life once they grow up
Regarding the legacy comment. I personally have 2 things to say about that.
1) Your biological legacy is mearly a blip in the timeline of our species (not to mention our planet). In 6 generations, only 1.5 % of your biological legacy remains (unless your family engages in rather messy means to keep that percentage up).
2) You don't need biological decendants to leave a positive legacy. Look at Mozart. Mozart's family line died after 1 generation, but his legacy has endured for over 200 years.
Great points. Maybe in the middle ages the only way for the average person to leave behind something was for them to procreate. Those days are over. Having children is only one of many ways to leave your mark in this world. The person responsible for a medical breakthrough is going to leave a bigger mark than the person who just had kids.
Or Mother Teresa she had no husband and no children yet did great things and is world renowned
@@ASurfgirl Terrible example.
Childless cope.
@@Euro.Patriot I didn’t ask your opinion and it’s a great example you’re just a hater troll. Get a life
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Wait so the guy that said why do you make child free your whole character should the same be applied to people with kids with thousands of photos endless stories and posts all about their kids. Should thry get a hobby? I dont mind that but its hypocrisy.
All the people in my office who have kids only ever talk about their kids, or their pregnancies. 😂🤮
@@jenniferparker7588 What do you talk about? Your lonely parties? Getting black out drunk on a Monday? The sex you had with the 5 guys last week?
That last reply of his deserves a whole round of applause!!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Great way to end the video too, that last comment from Kelsy was on point 👍🏻🎯💯
My grandfather had 3 children. They were not his legacy. His true legacy came out after he died. So many people came to his funeral to say how he touched their lives. He was a volunteer EMT at one point and there were people who came to say that he had saved their lives. He was a nuclear engineer by trade who was part of the effort to prevent 3 mile island from going full meltdown. He is still remembered for that. His name is in college textbooks. THAT is his legacy. Not his kids.
One of the reasons that I'm not having kids is because I'm planning to take care of my dad when he is older and I need the time for that. Like I always say, kids are the ultimate time-thieves. I actually am grateful to my dad and that is why I will be there for him. But these people want me to have kids of my own so that I wouldn't be lonely on a deathbed. I prefer to help my dad so that HE wouldn't be lonely. THAT is what selflessness is. These people are so ignorant of what it means to be selfless.
Also! These people swear up and down because they have kids they are not going to "die alone".
Death and loneliness is something everyone will, in their own way, experience. Having kids or not, when you die it will be a very intimate and individual experience the same way you were born (unless you're a twin! Shout out to the twins/triplets/etc).
Having a kid because you dont want to die alone is not only selfish and traumatic for them (you want your child to watch you die) but its also a bet cause there is no guarantee your kids will be around for your last days.
The legacy comment about sueing your parents for a lack of upkeep was FANTASTIC and made me cackle so hard 😂😂❤
Happy to have made you laugh! 😁🤣🤣🤣
Love this! I had actually a pretty heated discussion with the guy who made the first comment, and then out of nowhere, he actually started talking about how having kids or not wouldn't be my choice anymore sometime soon, those were his exact words:
" Life isnt about having fun its about fufillment, and I recommend you discuss your life with a priest or any religious leader. Your purpose biologically, or if you believe in God, is either way to have children. Breaking that order means you are being selfish and affecting society for the worse. The western world will be in deep need for children in the coming years, and soon "your choice" wont matter anymore sadly. It wont just be a "choice" to not have kids whilst we are on the verge of population collapse. Like we've seen in Japan, people have been forcibly married by the state, despite it being the most developed nation in the world."
Like WTH, I thought we were talking about life in our 80s and how "we childfree people would regret not having kids then", I said there are countless people in nursing homes who are never visited by their children, and he came at me with this dystopian Handmaid's tale scenario and this news about people being married by force in Japan (which I haven't been able to verify anywhere!)
Well, that did have an effect on me, especially after Florida allowed doctors and health providers to deny people birth control and sterilization for religious beliefs, I managed to get a doctor to do a bilateral salpingectomy on me, and I'm scheduled for two months from now!
Hahahahahahaha no. What a moron. Our purpose is whatever we want it to be. 😉
The level of ignorance is hilarious at this point. I live in Japan and I have no idea where he heard the Japanese state has been forcing people to marry and have kids, but of course it's pure BS 😆
And wth does he mean by "the most developed nation in the world"?! In terms of what? Economics? Technology? Human Rights? Obviouly he has no clue what he's talking about.
One of my favorite things from hate comments, is like Kevin said, when they can't even put their name/face on their profile. If you can't stand by your words, regardless of how negative or hateful, how can you even expect us on the receiving end to take you seriously? Or anyone else for that matter? Not that we do, but if you can't stand by your words, then I'm going to assume you're just trying to get attention for yourself or are trying to feel validated in some twisted way and I just pity you 🤷♀😂
Facts! I can assume that it would be rare for these people to ever have the power to say the hateful words they spew online in person to a persons actual face.
I'm a philosphy graduate: starting the video with Socrates quote was ❣ . Thank you for your channel! It is much needed!
Your final days are just that - days. I’m not going to spend my entire life raising children I do not want so that my final days will be spent with somebody.
Important to have videos like this, because everyone dismisses women when they speak but they will respect a man's words. (As depressing as that reality is.) Unfortunately these people just keep repeating the same crap no matter how many times you take them down logically. It's chess with pigeons.
I really enjoyed listening to all of his extremely valid points. I feel bad for the children of those people that commented those hateful things.
Legacy? What about your legacy? In less than 150 years, you'll most likely be all but forgotten.
Case in point: when someone brings up legacy, ask them to name off all 16 of their great great grandparents and something about each one of them that makes them unique. When they can't, just throw up your hands and see. It's nothing personal that they're forgotten, it's just not likely in the natural order for you to remember them.
My grandfather just recently passed away. Out of the hundreds of residents at the assisted living facility, the staff told my mother that she was the only one who was actually there by his side as much as she could be.
Most of the residents hardly had any of their kids come see them.
Its very sad.
I agree with most of your points that you have made . Having kids just so you please society or so that you won't die alone is a bad idea. Like a bad bad idea. Children grow up and go on their lives ,they won't stay next to you forever . They are people just like you with their own thoughts,opinions , personality and their own uniqueness. Everyone leaves your life eventually - parents and relatives pass away ,sibilings start their own path, friends come and go ,your romantic partner/spouse can either die or split up with you ,kids grow up and leave the nest . That's why you gotta learn to make yourself happy and not always rely on others .No ,I am not denying the need of communication or developing relationships with other people.What I am trying to say is that nothing is permanent in life,even life itself and you are never 100% sure what will happen next even if you think so yourself. Being married with kids won't necessarily give you the happily ever after you so wish for yourself. Even if you are lucky enough to have your loved ones surround you in your last moments ,you have to go through your own death alone . Death isn't only exclusive to those who live until ripe old age - it takes all people and living things, doesn't matter if they are young,middle aged or old. Life is a one big cycle that you are unable to change or escape from . So it's pointless to convince someone else that they shouls choose one specific path in life - it's up to them to listen to you and take your words seriously because they can either ignore you or laugh at you . The one who said "Let's see how your life will be when you turn 80" is making assumptions - not everyone lives to be 80,people die all the time, even children and teens (sadly),life can be wonderful with or without kids. You can die anytime ,be it now ,10 minutes later,1 hour later,a day after,a month after ,a year,decade later or live until you are centerian - you can be newborn ,5 ,11,16,20,25,30,40,50 or even 102 years old when life decides it's done with you. While to a certain extent judgement and opinions are important,they aren't always the truth
Thank you both for educating these who needed the feedback. So grateful for you both ❤
Very nice answers! Humorous and deep at the same time! 😅 Fully agree on every point 👏
"You're going to die alone." I hate to break it to people, but having kids guarantees nothing. I used to be a property manager and I had a lot of elderly residents. Every month they would come into my office and get my help with their bills, mail, etc. because they didn't have anybody. Wanna guess how many of them had kids? All of them. Their kids were dead, in jail/prison, busy with their own lives, or in other states/countries. Most of them rarely heard from their kids. Some of them were crappy parents, but others were abandoned because they were old and inconvenient. Parent or not, make plans for your golden years. More than likely, you're going to need them.
I can’t agree with you more sir. Most families are screwed up these days most parents are going to have kids who want nothing to do with them when there time is up.
Have kids, don't have kids. It's no ones business, or choice, but yours and your partners. I really don't understand all the hate towards childless people. The person who thinks these people say they don't want kids for attention - Nope. People have made other's people's choice THEIR business and think they have to comment (often hatefully) on someone else's choice. I agree with this man's take on this ridiculousness.
Btw y'all are glowing❤
Awee, thank you so much!
What if one of my ancestors was a horrible person? Do I want to pass down that "legacy"? I don't even know what they did in life, which means they lived an average life at best.
That aside, some bitter people in those comments.
Raising children is a responsibility, not a choice. If you can't afford the living cost, don't have children. simple
Person A doesn’t want to and their body doesn’t belong to you, so they don’t have to. Somebody else wants to. They can if they feel like it. Nuff said.
😂😂 Love this👍🏻 Love the replies!!👍🏻💯
If this can turn into a whole playlist of videos😂that would also be great, 'cause seriously great replies!🎯I enjoyed this👍🏻
When person 1 talks shit about person 2, that says more about person 1 than about person 2... I think the negative comments or unsolicited ''constructive'' opinions are outdated, 2023 people, obviously, the definition of what is good, bad, or the definition of success is going to entirely depend on the perspective, mindset, taste, etc, it's going to depend of each individual person duh. If all CHOICES are valid why waste time judging?. Childfree by choice here, I stopped explaining my choices a while ago because sometimes is better to have peace :). I love this branding, this community and I support what you guys are doing. middle fingers for the judgy people in the comments and high 5 for you guys xoxo ♥
Dying alone doesn't even sound bad tbh
Tbh, I find it to be the preferred option.
It's not hate, it's bullying. We're laughing at you.
So you're saying that "selfless" parents like to engage in bullying towards others and laugh at them. What a lovely sentiment to teach your children which, no doubt, "betters" society. Then your kids can teach that to their kids and now you have built a "great" legacy for yourself. Knowing this, I just can't wait to add kids to the society we live in so that they can learn from your kids and become "selfless" too.
@@xfairfaeriex Wtf is this bozo yapping about?
Fed up listening to woes of people who have children...its 2023 ...there is birth control its their choice
Agreed, but they're not brave enough to make the choice. The silent truth is that a crapton of people don't want children. They have them because it's expected, their parents want grandchildren, their spouse wants one, their religion, etc. When they see childfree people, they are envious and angry. How dare we escape the trap?! We're supposed to be miserable like them!
The answers to the hate comments are way way too long. They should be short and clever. not a whole saga to answer a short simple comment…
It's very common people with kids end up being alone.
While people who are childfree are going to be surrounded by best friends they made over the years.
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My grandpa is 85 and he had 3 kids. And 4 grandchildren. Only one of his children is living that’s my dad. Out of the 4 grandchildren I’m the only one that sees him. My grandma passed in 2019. Me and my dad is the only ones he has. Your not promised anything in this awful world