Tried Jiu-jitsu thought it was too complicated and didn't like it too much.. I'm thinking about kickboxing or mabye MMA, what martial arts do you recommend?
@@hakunamatata-w3873 the best combat sport is MMA, because it's the closest thing to a real life combat scenario. you will learn wrestling, boxing, kickingboxing, jiujitsu pretty much everything.
@@hakunamatata-w3873 MMA is best by a long shot so I recommend you do that but if you want to stick to less complex things then boxing, the simplicity and effectiveness in it makes it an amazing and superior martial arts you can get good at it in a year or two if you take it seriously and is realistic in a real life scenario.
@@spacesax1 no gi is usually more realistic, with a gi you can easily grab and grapple but no one is going to wear a gi in a fight or a real life scenario
That “pick an enemy” advice actually works a lot of athletes say that they use other players to motivate them, they make up things in their head to boost their competitive fire
Kobe in hs had a list of every hs prospect ranked ahead of him, he would wait for the games he played against these teams then would outshine those players on their best attributes. Bro was a beast frfr
must be because hamza called out himself 1st lul, can we really listen to this video about not being a coward when hamza just admitted outright he is one himself??
1) Just be aware you should be more aggressive 2) Breathing: Hyperventilate right before you are supposed to be angry: doing the opposite of quiet breathing for the opposite effect too; warm rush of blood to head 3) Get loud: When you need to be aggressive, BE LOUD. And in general speak with loudness, project your voice and speak with some clarity 3.5) Just randomly shout: Do this to practice being aggressive. You'll also be more energetic, people will naturally like you more if you are energetic. 3.75) Go into this world like you go in a woman: don't be limp dick, BE HARD. You'll get respect from men and women 4) Get angry when injustice happens to you: You show you are aggressive. Most importantly, when the time comes you aren't going to generate negative thoughts about what you should've done for days after. 5)Be introspective and understand why you don't want to be aggressive: is it because of your parents shouting at you when you got angry or society (insert Joker meme here)? 6)Understand that you are competing for WOMEN 6.25) Compete in an aggressive way. Don't compete for them per se: Compete with other males FOR women.
@@1smg346 Seed retention actually helps a crapton with getting more aggressive (personally I found it so, although I still need huge improvement) . Calmness can be a great asset in tense situations actually. Try imagining something that makes you incredibly angry at that moment when you must show your more aggressive side
this is the video i needed. I've had so much regret not actually fighting back in elementary school to my bullies who were like "my friends " or some bullshit and it's really been weighing on me for all this time.
Same..except they weren’t my friends. I was underweight so I definitely would’ve lost every fight. But just by fighting back, I could’ve saved myself years of bullshit. Protect yourself.
Fr. You would always get told in school and even kindergarden "if someone bullies you just ignore them and they wont have fun anymore bullying you and eventually stop". Right thing is to punch them in the face and reclaim you respect
@@fiete9859If you are in a situation where you can't get back at them anymore because it happened years ago, then i suggest you learn to fight, get into the gym. Do weight ligting. Learn MMA, learn boxing, kickboxing, wrestling, bjj, this will heal you. After some months go by of you training or maybe a year, you will consiously and subconsiously know that everyone who hurt you in the past couldn't do shit right now because you would easily beat them up. It will give you a piece of clarity and calmness in your mind knowing if you ever would get into contact again with them and they wouldn't even dare to bully you let alone even dare to disrespect you because your are physically jacked and look strong. And even if they did try it you could beat them up easily
What a great video man. Really enjoying this second more raw channel. Very important for men. I definitely went through this myself. There’s a way out men. 💯🔥✊
anger isn't necessarily aggression; it's negative aggression. aggression is the drive to get what you want, the right way, without fear. aggression is the blade that lets you cut through and not hold back.
@@Tranquility._ yeah. i had that at some time. for like an entire month all i felt was anger. made amazing gains. became super strong and aggressive for that time frame. but i couldnt go any further. i slowly became calmer and not angry
@@Tranquility._ Maybe for you. For me personally, ive gone through a stage of negative motivation and anger at my life, to positive reinforcement and happiness, and i got a LOT more done when i was using negative reinforcement, and i was still quite happy. My point is that its different for everyone
@@baconheadhair6938 that comment was over a year ago I’ve definitely changed my mindset from then😂, I’ve also had an experience of failure that caused me to feel a lot of anger at myself and I’ve been using that anger to fuel me to make sure I don’t fail again and you’re right it does get a lot more done, it doesn’t mean im a complete moody/angry person all the time now, im still a relatively glass half full type of guy but anger is a great motivator
i was extremely passive back in my day, until recently that i thought about that being that passive wouldn't get me anywhere, so i started setting up boundaries, but in an extremely aggressive way where i'd have violent outbursts, but i would calm myself down quickly to avoid hurting anyone, but it sometimes caused minimal damage, like one time i broke my glasses (mfs fell down like 1 meter and broke tf), so my advice to you bros is to be aggressive set boundaries on what's ok and what's not, but always be mindful of your current aggression, as to not let it go out of control and potentially hurt someone, balance patience and aggression. Muah
Dude. A relief. I've been repressing this anger towards family and some narcissist people out there. In order to "beat karma" or "not being like them". But jees, now i see how much damage I've made myself doing this.
@@tuna2169 it depends on you, what you consider ok or not, Put standards for yourself, so for example i made an oath to myself that i wont ever smoke, so when someone tries to make me smoke id put my foot down and decline(politely or aggressively depending on the situation)
@@dmnC1541 i have a potential narcissist in the family. I never got aggressive to set up boundaries. Until one day, I exploded. I didn’t hurt anyone. But from that point on, they left me alone when I told them to. They didn’t constantly harass me. They actually tried to listen. Sometimes you need aggression, or people will walk all over you.
my parents never suppressed my anger by beating or shouting at me but they always kept saying things like "stay away from problems" "getting into fights will end up bad" "just let things slide we don't want problems with random people" then yea suddenly I'm having an anger problem where I'm calm no matter what and can't really act in a situation, just wanted to mention that cuz some people are probably gonna think they don't have that problem cuz their parents/teachers or whatever were nice to them I'm glad that you make videos on topics like this one! and wanted to thank you for all the help you're providing us with.
I was raised like this too since kids in my neighborhood had rich parents who would threaten to sue anyone who fought them. So the kids would say whatever bullshit they want to you, and if you tried to fight them over it, the kid's mom would call your parents threatening to get legal. Realistically the lawsuit would never be taken seriously, but confrontations at school made me worried about what financial stress I could put my parents in. I was just aware enough as a teen to know they couldn't afford a legal battle and saving up for retirement at the same time. There were basically no fights at school, and as a result many of those kids became smarmy bitches, entitled, all bark and no bite. Fucked up a lot of people's personal development. Kids around school would get with their friends and form sparring/fight clubs to get out their violent urges, so there's still hope. I think we need to be a good influence on young people around us and help them see through the bullshit that there generally aren't severe consequences to standing up for yourself, as long as you aren't looking for trouble.
I needed this. I was in highschool and had a kid spit on me because he knew I wouldnt do shit. I dont hold grudges but I definetly need to make sure something like that never happens again. Die for your respect kings. (not literally)
Yup. Don’t be a doormat. I shouldn’t have let so much shit slide either, not just with bullies. But with family as well. Turns out, when you don’t let people push you around, they’ll stop pushing you around.
Similar thing here. Happened lot of times. One time I remember when I was in year 9 was sat on same table with all the bullies in my class, they all disrespecting me, calling me every word, kicking me under table, but never did shit about it. Still fucking me up to this day with work, social groups, Etc.
@@tbj_outdoors had a lot of similar things happen. Working out and having good friends helped a lot. I have enough confidence to stand up for myself more often. Still not every time unfortunately. But it's better than doing nothing,.
But why “not literally?” In a lot of ways our fear of death and pain is what holds us back from what matters most, the respect of ourselves. There is narcissism involved, but we all have it in us.
I've experienced that feeling all my life, feeling coward, weak, scared of judgement. I know what is like to have more male aggresion because of self improvement, I've had ups and downs in my self improvement, and I know what I aim to. Letting fear guide you is the worst that can happen to you. Fuck that shit! I'm thankful for this videos, they are are a really good guide
every time I get mad at someone my eyes start to tear up my parents are the reason I'm like this and how I've bottled up emotions cause when I get mad its a problem
So 2 months in this self improvement journey of mine I have found myself getting more agressive when I should be I used to get pushed around alot and now I know when to fight back and when to completely remove a situation because it isn't worth my time in my school the lunch lines are massive usually kids used to cut me and one guy who was taller and definitely bigger than me tried cutting me and I said dude I'm Infront of u and he said did I ask and I said do I care back of the line kid. There were like 4 freshman looking at me with a super shocked face feels good man thanks hamza for helping me open my eyes.
This is me. I was reprimanded for aggression. This made me bottle it up and led me to explode every couple of years and has led me to depression and low self esteem. Been working on being assertive and disagreeable plus working out have made me feel much better
bro it’s crazy how i randomly came across this video when it was exactly what i needed at this moment in time. unfortunately i grew up in a feminine environment & listened to society’s bullshit even though i always had a feeling that this wasn’t it. you really put things into perspective & gave me more clarity now i’m definitely, consciously working towards regaining my aggression/masculinity, really appreciate this video bro 🙏🏾
Thank you man. It’s amazing to know there’s more of a psychology process and just understanding more in these senses gives you more of a stance rather than a none rational direction.
Exactly the video I was looking for. I've been passive and avoided standing up for myself for too long. It always leads to me feeling like shit the next day on reflection. Thank you for the advise.
Thank you man, ive always felt too passive and avoided conflict and never knew why. Youve really opened my mind to the reason. Now that i know the reasons i feel like i can start building my aggression
so unbelievably useful Hamza. i feel it already. i've got so much male aggression inside of me. its time for me to come to terms with it, let it out when needed, control it like fire. after i did the hyperventillating with you i got angry at an invisible entity, and starting throwing punches at it. they felt powerful. i did 26 pressups, then said some loud words. sounds spergy lol but i feel great. food for thought. its comforting to hear you validate me that it's natural, because it is. i wish to hold onto this. i will ponder more over christmas.
Yes, I would say that I am a coward because its very hard for me to brutaly honest, i rather sweep it under the rug. But as the time goes on, it accumulates and all of a sudden we have a big problem. Its better to be brutaly honest from the start. You might lose one person but you gain respect and are left with only the good ones. Being brutaly honest is something i need to improve on.
I remember growing up, I wasn’t allowed to fight in school. Not just because the school system would punish me, but because I’d actually get in trouble if I were to fight in school. I remember when I got a beating in 6th Grade for defending myself and I never got suspended. I had to let people bully me, call me names, even got beat up in the gym one time cause I wasn’t allowed to fight. So I definitely relate to this.
I was literally thinking about how I need to be more aggressive then i saw this video I always let shit slide then if someone piss me off so bad I can't control my anger and i always wanted to control that anger and use it when I get mad instead of letting slide I'm gonna start using this information thanks Hamza easy the best RUclipsr
ive noticed this type of conditioning in me as well. Becoming a better version of ourselves is less about "changing" and more about unlearning. if you're too nice chances are you have plenty of room to be aggressive and people will actually like seeing it come from you for a change
Same bro, im glad that i found this video from hamza other channel this one im going through the same thing but now im being more aggressive not in a asshole way i hope you go through this and regain that anger inshallah if no one is there im here dont be scared brother
The most inspirational thing about you man is that u were probably the worst version of a man. Lacking aggressive, not in shape, not competitive and not able to stand up to injustice. Bro but this gives a lot of people hope that u can always turn it around and all it takes is 1 decision and then sticking to it.
Dude when i get angry i feel sooo good like the confidence is off the charts and im ready for everything head on ,im unapologetic and those are so big +
I think learning how to fight really helps with having aggression. I know not all confrontations are physical but martial arts give you this feeling that no matter what happens you'll be fine. You could go up to the loud annoying guy and tell him to shut the fuck up without fear. Forget physical, most men try to avoid verbal confrontations nowadays. By being direct and bold, you'll already way more masculine than 80% of men in the western world.
Spot on. I just started to learn kickboxing this month and it's helped reignite that inner aggression and competitiveness that I was missing in my life. I'm not a confrontational person but I feel a lot more confidence in myself to project my energy more and be masculine.
Dude you are basically me in a parallel universe man, it's almost like you are the mental embodiment of my consciousness lol so freakin accurate. Thank you for making the video
Thank you for posting this video. I think it’s a cold world, the vast majority of people will know exactly what’s wrong with you, and just watch you fuck up. That is why you have to be out for yourself, and you are mandated to live for yourself. Learning things can be important, but it’s meaningless if it doesn’t benefit you.
Hamza the shouting thing I do this without knowing but whenever I shout it feels good somehow, and my family is used to it now but my mum kinda weird it out in the beginning now she doesn't mind it anymore. This is unconventional advice that does work.
Integrate your shadow, as Carl Jung said. Most men have had their aggression repressed from an early age since they were taught that all expressions of it were bad. Now they do not understand their own capacity for aggression and are actually more likely to release it in uncontrolled, dangerous ways. Conversely, the man who understands his aggression, who has integrated his shadow, is able to control it since he is aware of it, and release it as needed when it is appropriate to do so. A man who is never aggressive is not kind, he is simply weak. A man who is always aggressive is not strong, he is simply insecure. A man who understands his capacity for aggression and when to use it is powerful and the only one who can be a truly good person.
I truly needed this shit. The moment the video ended I got out of my chair, did 20 push-ups, 20 sit-ups, 20 squats, and ran about 3/4 of a mile around my neighborhood. It's not a lot but at the very least I know I just put in more work today than what most of my shitty high school friends manage to accomplish in a year. I'm not just gonna sit around and let all these guys fuck the girls I want while doing jack shit to improve themselves. Not anymore. Thank you bro. You've opened my eyes to realize the hard truth I've been too much of a pussy to deal with for so long.
forgiveness is one of the most noble human traits bro; hamza’s talking about positive masculinity and being able to have a certain amount of ‘power, strength, agility and resilience’. its having those powers yet having the self control of not using or abusing them that makes u stronger and more worthy of greatness than anyone. Just take muhammad ali’s life for example be great, be powerful, be strong, be aggressive, be resilient and hardworking but dont allow your inner masculine drive to impact your self control, your higher ideals, your responsibilities and greater goals; use them for those great and noble purposes. u can use your anger to fight for the oppressed or you can use it be the oppressor
I'm was a coward. Some guy just slapped my drink, and it spewed all over me. I reacted by taking milk and splashing it back at him, then the cafeteria threw milk, Gatorade, Arinzona, water, etc. at me. and I let it happen without defending myself. I ran, trying not to cry.
24:10 bro I've been saying this to myself for the past week and now hearing you say this has literally affirmed this thought affirmation lmaooo. Seeing other guys as the enemy has made me so determined and competitive it's insane.
Dude, you always seem to relate so much to my life. Thank you for making these it’s making a big difference in how I am thinking about my future and what I need to do to be a man.
I used to think being silent and being patient was a super power. Looking back, I just didn’t show my aggression and cut off my expression as it built up inside.
istg thank you hamza for uploading this video, this video really described me. to a whole another personal level. I was that kid who looked. calm but inside I was bottling all my shit up just to avoid altercation or any sort of confrontation to smoothen things but in reality, I was just having serious mental fog and just self reflecting on why I was a little bitch and didn't say what I really wanted to say. and this vid motivated me to confront a girl I'm interested in and we had a small misunderstanding. confronted her with a bit of aggression and she was very understanding and knew where I was coming from and it turned out to be for the better and we got to know more about each other thanks to me confronting her. THANK YOU REALLY
When we as men compete, it brings us spiritually closer. I can attest to it from life experience, that some of the closest male friendships come from fierce competitors. That much thankfully doesn’t change in our nature. It transcends whatever culture we come from.
You talk about very valid points and I relate to this video as someone who also has trauma from my school teachers (mostly the female teachers),also growing up in a home with only women and an absent,irresponsible father. That last part about competing with the guy from instagram and stuff,that’s definitely a toxic approach. Constructive content and you raise some good points.A lot of the viewers relate to those struggles.
Just found this channel, I'm glad I did. I was scared I lost you, as the videos in your main channel were losing its quality and value. But I now see what you are doing...
This is the lesson the universe has been teaching me for some time, my problem is consistency with that attitude. Feels like the snakes are much longer than the ladders, but that’s probably because I only climb a few steps before slipping and I wouldn’t slip if I didn’t let hesitation hold me back.
As a person who was bullied at home and at school their whole lives, this is a very helpful. I remember many times trying to fight back and I physically couldn't move my fists and it felt like I froze and that made me feel like shit.
theres always a fight to choose.. everywhere.. doing this kind of thing every time you go outside is gonna take a toll on your heart and give you blood pressure problems.
Hamza man, the voice thing i learned it from Optimus Prime and it is a part of my instinct to talk saying important shit and it is not like i think about it, but i act like that. Ever since i did that the class group started listening to me and now i bonded with them a lot more, but without craving acceptance.
The hard thing is balancing this out with maintaining relationships. Like it's a lot easier to show aggression with a stranger or someone you don't mind ruining a relationship with or with someone you know can handle it (like a friend), compared to a colleague or close relative. Relatives are probably the hardest, since 1. they've known you for a long time so have a relationship with you based on you normally acting a certain way and 2. in many cultures being perceived as disrespecting your elders is a big way for people to lose respect for you.
One thing i would like to add to this is the power of threatening calmness. Maybe some people already feel this but there is something dominating about someone being calm and well spoken in the heat of "battle", like you can feel their threatening aura of "if I don't shut up he is gonna kill me". This is mostly a characteristic of some leaders and authorities. But I absolutely love the faces of people when they realize they mistaked a kind and gentle person for a weak person and it backfires because the gentle guy knows how to fight back. That said I agree with a lot off stuff in the video. Anger and aggression are important feelings and can do a lot of good if used properly and if not abused.
Let me tell you why people remain calm because they simply know that they aren't in danger.Obviously people who can't control emotions struggle but you don't need to feel threaten by guy you know you can beat shit out of him whereas you should worry about people you can't handle because faking confidence doesn't help and you are really in danger in those situations.
10:25 That is true in I always sabotaged myself telling myself agression is bad but when I look back the time when I was on the right path on my own without knowing this agression is important. There has been times i shouldhave been agressive and practical but the coward inside was afraid and he should because it is right
Literally started working out hard every day trying to be more socialised too, just so I can take advantage and compete the 80% of men which are massive cowards. This is the century and easiest time to become one of the best or in the top 20% as hamza says, before decades and beyond competing would have been a lot more harder so you should take advantage of today's society we live in!
Stemming off from one the symptoms that I faced, I legit would get proper anxiety straight after I had a mini breakthrough of positive male aggression because I have just been conditioned to expect the situation to get worse
Really like the energy that you’re putting into this channel, topics like these definitely need to be explored more, I believe this is one of the major keys to actually fixing society & allowing people to be open and receptive to one another
Also the part about imagining that you are competing against the character was super helpful, I already did that before this video lol, so it’s nice to know that people have the same mindset as I do, I literally look at people at my school that are doing high-value things and I try to emulate and become better than them in every area
i reclaimed my aggression last year some guy was trespassing on my property and i yelled at him gave him a very stern warning and tbh idk why but it scared him but man it felt so healing now ik how to be a lamb and lion at once
The Holy Messenger (peace be upon him) has said: “Shall I tell you who is the toughest and strongest from among you? The one who controls himself when he is angry.” When you allow what is outside you to control what is inside you; you are a slave to whatever controls you, and then you truly are a coward.
I had/have anger issues. But I controlled it most of the time. Sad to say that most of the people around me would’ve deserved all that anger. Sometimes it’s better to let that aggression out. But you still need to control it, never take it too far.
@@therandomdickhead5744 not to other human beings my friend. rule 1: never criticise, condemn or complain. letting aggression out itself alludes to an unresolved problem in the psyche, if anybody has uncontrolled aggression they require therapy.
@@strengthandlove_ bro stop the cap. I am well acquainted with that "3 C's" horseshit; my parents were indoctrinated into it by their rich socialite friends and their rich socialite ""church"" (to use the term incredibly fucking loosely) and raised me on it, too. It served nothing but to stunt the development of me and my siblings and to instill in me a resentful, self-defeating mindset which I am only now recovering from now that I'm on my own. To those of whom may be reading this: criticism is a healthy part of any social dynamic. Never, EVER let anyone tell you you can't speak your mind. If they try to force you not to, then cut them the fuck out of your life.
@@mammothplant also the topic of discussion is male aggression; not criticism. Im sorry to hear about what your parents indoctrinated in to you. Release yourself from what was taught to them as it served nothing to them nor to you. We are not speaking of any indoctrination here either. I think you have totally the wrong idea.
I never comment on videos so me doing this is saying smhn. In any case this video and the ''sexual market is only gonna get more cut throat'' vids really changed the way I perceive self-improvement. Currently I have a cold and I still woke up early (I slept a bit late and when im sick I don't get up unless I sleep 12+ hours but I only slept 7 today) I took a cold shower, I journaled and I turned January into my no nut januray month and im proud of myself. I wanted to take a step back and thank you for the inspiration you've given me and the guidance you've given me in these dark times aka the feminine men and masculine women age
That 'penetrate the world the way you penetrate your girl' that Hamza said is a quote from 'The Way Of The Superior Man' by David Deida. A lot of good segments and lessons in the book
I've been thinking on this issue literally all my life. I was raised by a single mother, and although she curbed my angry behaviours, she also on the flip side would say things to me like "Don't be a girl", "What are you, a wimp?" Things like that when I was being a pussy. This has caused me I feel, to be able to pick and choose my moments. Its NOT a good thing to always loose control when you're angry, but you certanlly need the ability to get angry and powerful in certain circumstances - and the ability to know which option would be better in a given moment. Tl;dr: You want a balance of control and the ability to go through with the anger too if needed.
The last segment on thinking of some people as enemies is so true, like i wanna be a writer and when i would like watch these shown and animes i would get extremely jealous and aggressive the type of aggration that says i want these shit this fame and that would stimulate my imagination so much but than some shit happened and now im in a bad place mentally.
But if your aggression is towards “insubordinates” children or weak women then that’s coward too because you’re not picking on someone your own size but rather choosing to go into a battle knowing you have the upper hand and still being aggressive is VERY cowardly…
Hamza can you eventually (somewhere down the line) make a video on how to parent properly? I know it seems to be something you haven't thought about much but if you really think about it, how you parent your child(ren) shapes so much of their life and I think I speak for most people when I say I want my son/daughter to thrive and spread my knowledge and wisdom onto them. This is why I've wanted a younger brother for a large portion of my life, I want to, in a way, coach him through life, much like how people on self-improvement want to help others with their self-improvement.
I realized this recently. I was always very talkative and outgoing when I was little all the way up to like 4th grade when my parents starting having fights and getting pissed at everything. This is when I think I started to become shy. Then a couple grades later I kind of broke out of my shell again and had a teacher who hated me and constantly put me down in front of the class. Ever since I think I’ve been recovering and am now know as “the man with little words.” I’m trying me best to be more social again but it’s hard.
My parents made me try martial arts as a child to protect myself but I quit after the first lesson because the teacher was shouting a lot, using a loud voice.
Being pushed to your limits forces it out of you, learned helplessness is a thing. But at the same time that can be necessary. Once you know helplessness, there is no way you want to feel like that again.
I’ve been told not to be aggressive throughout my life as it mimicks the aggression seen in my father. I grew up abused, as my father was a drug addict, and at an early age he was murdered. I’ve been angry my whole life as it’s something that haunts me every second I live. I feel too much aggression in the sense that I always want to lash out at wrong doings yet my passiveness is almost always there at the right and wrong times. I’ve been on a journey of finding myself through my god but also through this demon that I was born with.
Another way you can repress your agression due to c-PTSD is watching somebody being aggressive (unduly) to somebody else. You may witness your father being cruel to your mother and decide never to be like that ever because you think it is totally wrong. Society will also reinforce this notion and you can claim the moral high ground by not standing up for yourself but the grief will be there buried underneath your hubris
What helps me I noticed when I want to stand up for something e.g. disagreeing with someone’s opinion or fighting back is doing it with both agression and humour. I still have problems with being a pushover but I thought that this tip may help someone.
When I was a kid I was fk wild, i did martial arts, I would not think twice before starting a fight. I went for 5 years to a strict school with high consequences on fighting. Even though I like being controlled and having the capicity to decide not to use my skills to harm anothers, I feel like that was repressed by my school, now I feel that I think too much about the situations. Its not cowardy, I don’t feel fear of getting beat up, it’s like a mental block, like im going to suffer the consequences that my school imposed many years ago. Thanks for the help Hamza
Ok this video ain't for me but still gonna watch it. Throughout my life I had to get aggressive to fight back and stand up against both parents, tbh I lose my shit when I find my alcoholic mother drinking again or when I have to go against my dad when he is drunk, my only choice is to assert myself otherwise the situation is gonna go out of control. Either when my dad was acting too aggressive himself so I had to protect my mom and little sister, or when I find my mother drunk again and I have to make sure she ain't doing anything stupid. EDIT: I'm not proud of it, but I've lost my cool with both of my parents plenty of times, I've broken doors and other furniture etc. It never happened outside of my household, cause I haven't gotten into situations outside thankfully where I had to
My family always Made me repress My anger so i grew up tryng to be a good Nice guy, i remember one day i Made something stupid to a friend cuz he was annoyng me, it ended in him punching me in the face and he squared up to me and screamed to me to punch him. I dint and he called me a bitch, i was so stressed out for that and just feel like a pussy. I am stronger than him and actually fighted with him before and won but i still regret not doing anything that day and just putting excuses cuz i din't punch him. Thanks for the video
Over protecting motherhood is the worst a man can experience in growing up
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Sadly, i experienced it
worst is a little bit extra to say.
@@muslimmetalman it's not
@@muslimmetalman still accurate tho
Martial Arts is a MUST for all men. Just knowing how to THROW A PUNCH and / or CHOCKING SOMEONE out boosts confidence x100.
Tried Jiu-jitsu thought it was too complicated and didn't like it too much.. I'm thinking about kickboxing or mabye MMA, what martial arts do you recommend?
@@hakunamatata-w3873 the best combat sport is MMA, because it's the closest thing to a real life combat scenario. you will learn wrestling, boxing, kickingboxing, jiujitsu pretty much everything.
@@hakunamatata-w3873 no gi?
@@hakunamatata-w3873 MMA is best by a long shot so I recommend you do that but if you want to stick to less complex things then boxing, the simplicity and effectiveness in it makes it an amazing and superior martial arts you can get good at it in a year or two if you take it seriously and is realistic in a real life scenario.
@@spacesax1 no gi is usually more realistic, with a gi you can easily grab and grapple but no one is going to wear a gi in a fight or a real life scenario
That “pick an enemy” advice actually works a lot of athletes say that they use other players to motivate them, they make up things in their head to boost their competitive fire
MJ esque like stuff
My enemy is more of an ideology/community than a specific person.
Bruh that’s Eggsackly what I do
Kobe in hs had a list of every hs prospect ranked ahead of him, he would wait for the games he played against these teams then would outshine those players on their best attributes. Bro was a beast frfr
“It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.”
I'm actually pretty pissed about being called a coward but I guess I'll let it slide this time
Underrated comment
Lmao
Same but he is right
😂
must be because hamza called out himself 1st lul, can we really listen to this video about not being a coward when hamza just admitted outright he is one himself??
1) Just be aware you should be more aggressive
2) Breathing: Hyperventilate right before you are supposed to be angry: doing the opposite of quiet breathing for the opposite effect too; warm rush of blood to head
3) Get loud: When you need to be aggressive, BE LOUD. And in general speak with loudness, project your voice and speak with some clarity
3.5) Just randomly shout: Do this to practice being aggressive. You'll also be more energetic, people will naturally like you more if you are energetic.
3.75) Go into this world like you go in a woman: don't be limp dick, BE HARD. You'll get respect from men and women
4) Get angry when injustice happens to you: You show you are aggressive. Most importantly, when the time comes you aren't going to generate negative thoughts about what you should've done for days after.
5)Be introspective and understand why you don't want to be aggressive: is it because of your parents shouting at you when you got angry or society (insert Joker meme here)?
6)Understand that you are competing for WOMEN
6.25) Compete in an aggressive way. Don't compete for them per se: Compete with other males FOR women.
The question how can you get angry if you are a calm guy can you help with increase aggression please?
Is there evidence for the hyperventilating technique? How does it work exactly?
@@1smg346 Seed retention actually helps a crapton with getting more aggressive (personally I found it so, although I still need huge improvement) . Calmness can be a great asset in tense situations actually. Try imagining something that makes you incredibly angry at that moment when you must show your more aggressive side
@@1smg346go fight
this is the video i needed. I've had so much regret not actually fighting back in elementary school to my bullies who were like "my friends " or some bullshit and it's really been weighing on me for all this time.
Same..except they weren’t my friends. I was underweight so I definitely would’ve lost every fight. But just by fighting back, I could’ve saved myself years of bullshit.
Protect yourself.
Fuck me, you`re speaking my mind @Athyrus01..that shit follows you for years and i cannot wait to fucking crush it
Fr. You would always get told in school and even kindergarden "if someone bullies you just ignore them and they wont have fun anymore bullying you and eventually stop". Right thing is to punch them in the face and reclaim you respect
@@fiete9859If you are in a situation where you can't get back at them anymore because it happened years ago, then i suggest you learn to fight, get into the gym. Do weight ligting. Learn MMA, learn boxing, kickboxing, wrestling, bjj, this will heal you. After some months go by of you training or maybe a year, you will consiously and subconsiously know that everyone who hurt you in the past couldn't do shit right now because you would easily beat them up. It will give you a piece of clarity and calmness in your mind knowing if you ever would get into contact again with them and they wouldn't even dare to bully you let alone even dare to disrespect you because your are physically jacked and look strong. And even if they did try it you could beat them up easily
You didn't fight back bc you couldn't, they could still beat your ass even if you tried.
What a great video man. Really enjoying this second more raw channel. Very important for men. I definitely went through this myself. There’s a way out men. 💯🔥✊
A legend supporting another legend💪
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 and?
Wow you're here too! Amazing,both of yall are legends 🤝🔥
ikr, didnt know all i have to do is shout at my parents. yk what, imma go do that rn.
update: didnt go so well. i lost my arm but it was worth it
anger isn't necessarily aggression; it's negative aggression. aggression is the drive to get what you want, the right way, without fear. aggression is the blade that lets you cut through and not hold back.
anger is still the key
@@wwefandom771 but you shouldn't use anger as your source of fuel to get u up each day cause always being angry is extremely bad for your health
@@Tranquility._ yeah. i had that at some time. for like an entire month all i felt was anger. made amazing gains. became super strong and aggressive for that time frame. but i couldnt go any further. i slowly became calmer and not angry
@@Tranquility._ Maybe for you. For me personally, ive gone through a stage of negative motivation and anger at my life, to positive reinforcement and happiness, and i got a LOT more done when i was using negative reinforcement, and i was still quite happy.
My point is that its different for everyone
@@baconheadhair6938 that comment was over a year ago I’ve definitely changed my mindset from then😂, I’ve also had an experience of failure that caused me to feel a lot of anger at myself and I’ve been using that anger to fuel me to make sure I don’t fail again and you’re right it does get a lot more done, it doesn’t mean im a complete moody/angry person all the time now, im still a relatively glass half full type of guy but anger is a great motivator
i was extremely passive back in my day, until recently that i thought about that being that passive wouldn't get me anywhere, so i started setting up boundaries, but in an extremely aggressive way where i'd have violent outbursts, but i would calm myself down quickly to avoid hurting anyone, but it sometimes caused minimal damage, like one time i broke my glasses (mfs fell down like 1 meter and broke tf), so my advice to you bros is to be aggressive set boundaries on what's ok and what's not, but always be mindful of your current aggression, as to not let it go out of control and potentially hurt someone, balance patience and aggression. Muah
Dude. A relief. I've been repressing this anger towards family and some narcissist people out there. In order to "beat karma" or "not being like them". But jees, now i see how much damage I've made myself doing this.
what kind of boundaries did you set? I can't think of stuff I encounter on a daily basis that I'd like to set a boundary on
@@tuna2169 it depends on you, what you consider ok or not,
Put standards for yourself, so for example i made an oath to myself that i wont ever smoke, so when someone tries to make me smoke id put my foot down and decline(politely or aggressively depending on the situation)
I did the same..... never looked back afterwards:)
@@dmnC1541 i have a potential narcissist in the family. I never got aggressive to set up boundaries. Until one day, I exploded.
I didn’t hurt anyone. But from that point on, they left me alone when I told them to. They didn’t constantly harass me. They actually tried to listen.
Sometimes you need aggression, or people will walk all over you.
That's why competitive sports is a must for young men and kids growing up
my parents never suppressed my anger by beating or shouting at me but they always kept saying things like
"stay away from problems"
"getting into fights will end up bad"
"just let things slide we don't want problems with random people"
then yea suddenly I'm having an anger problem where I'm calm no matter what and can't really act in a situation,
just wanted to mention that cuz some people are probably gonna think they don't have that problem cuz their parents/teachers or whatever were nice to them
I'm glad that you make videos on topics like this one!
and wanted to thank you for all the help you're providing us with.
I had a similar thing. Was angry but couldn’t act on it.
Anger can be useful, and it should be used. Just need to be careful.
I was raised like this too since kids in my neighborhood had rich parents who would threaten to sue anyone who fought them. So the kids would say whatever bullshit they want to you, and if you tried to fight them over it, the kid's mom would call your parents threatening to get legal. Realistically the lawsuit would never be taken seriously, but confrontations at school made me worried about what financial stress I could put my parents in. I was just aware enough as a teen to know they couldn't afford a legal battle and saving up for retirement at the same time. There were basically no fights at school, and as a result many of those kids became smarmy bitches, entitled, all bark and no bite. Fucked up a lot of people's personal development. Kids around school would get with their friends and form sparring/fight clubs to get out their violent urges, so there's still hope. I think we need to be a good influence on young people around us and help them see through the bullshit that there generally aren't severe consequences to standing up for yourself, as long as you aren't looking for trouble.
2 years after you said this, thanks for being relatable.
@@Fa1zulHasnain same
I needed this. I was in highschool and had a kid spit on me because he knew I wouldnt do shit. I dont hold grudges but I definetly need to make sure something like that never happens again. Die for your respect kings. (not literally)
Yup. Don’t be a doormat. I shouldn’t have let so much shit slide either, not just with bullies. But with family as well.
Turns out, when you don’t let people push you around, they’ll stop pushing you around.
Similar thing here. Happened lot of times. One time I remember when I was in year 9 was sat on same table with all the bullies in my class, they all disrespecting me, calling me every word, kicking me under table, but never did shit about it. Still fucking me up to this day with work, social groups, Etc.
@@tbj_outdoors had a lot of similar things happen. Working out and having good friends helped a lot. I have enough confidence to stand up for myself more often.
Still not every time unfortunately. But it's better than doing nothing,.
But why “not literally?” In a lot of ways our fear of death and pain is what holds us back from what matters most, the respect of ourselves. There is narcissism involved, but we all have it in us.
Indian Maratha warrior king died for his respect took the most painful torture humanity has ever seen but didn't bow before enemy, didn't quit.
I've experienced that feeling all my life, feeling coward, weak, scared of judgement. I know what is like to have more male aggresion because of self improvement, I've had ups and downs in my self improvement, and I know what I aim to. Letting fear guide you is the worst that can happen to you. Fuck that shit! I'm thankful for this videos, they are are a really good guide
Anger is one letter away from danger
every time I get mad at someone my eyes start to tear up my parents are the reason I'm like this and how I've bottled up emotions cause when I get mad its a problem
Iv always been "the calm guy" and needed to hear this when ever I got angry I felt embarrassed for being angry great vid brother.
So 2 months in this self improvement journey of mine I have found myself getting more agressive when I should be I used to get pushed around alot and now I know when to fight back and when to completely remove a situation because it isn't worth my time in my school the lunch lines are massive usually kids used to cut me and one guy who was taller and definitely bigger than me tried cutting me and I said dude I'm Infront of u and he said did I ask and I said do I care back of the line kid. There were like 4 freshman looking at me with a super shocked face feels good man thanks hamza for helping me open my eyes.
This is me. I was reprimanded for aggression. This made me bottle it up and led me to explode every couple of years and has led me to depression and low self esteem. Been working on being assertive and disagreeable plus working out have made me feel much better
bro it’s crazy how i randomly came across this video when it was exactly what i needed at this moment in time. unfortunately i grew up in a feminine environment & listened to society’s bullshit even though i always had a feeling that this wasn’t it. you really put things into perspective & gave me more clarity now i’m definitely, consciously working towards regaining my aggression/masculinity, really appreciate this video bro 🙏🏾
My Dad was abusive, and it made me not want to be confrontational and made me more passive. Thank you for the video
Hamza u changed my life . I want to thank you . Your content is worth millions and can change millions of lives
You ignore bullies and guess what they think you are weaker. Same happens in adult life. Sometimes you have to deal with it and stop being pushover
Thank you man. It’s amazing to know there’s more of a psychology process and just understanding more in these senses gives you more of a stance rather than a none rational direction.
Life is tough. Be more aggressive to succeed but don’t be violent towards others unless you’re harassed first
Exactly the video I was looking for. I've been passive and avoided standing up for myself for too long. It always leads to me feeling like shit the next day on reflection. Thank you for the advise.
Thank you man, ive always felt too passive and avoided conflict and never knew why. Youve really opened my mind to the reason.
Now that i know the reasons i feel like i can start building my aggression
so unbelievably useful Hamza. i feel it already. i've got so much male aggression inside of me. its time for me to come to terms with it, let it out when needed, control it like fire.
after i did the hyperventillating with you i got angry at an invisible entity, and starting throwing punches at it. they felt powerful. i did 26 pressups, then said some loud words. sounds spergy lol but i feel great. food for thought. its comforting to hear you validate me that it's natural, because it is. i wish to hold onto this. i will ponder more over christmas.
Yes, I would say that I am a coward because its very hard for me to brutaly honest, i rather sweep it under the rug. But as the time goes on, it accumulates and all of a sudden we have a big problem.
Its better to be brutaly honest from the start. You might lose one person but you gain respect and are left with only the good ones. Being brutaly honest is something i need to improve on.
I feel you bro. But thats fucking hard to do. At least for me
@@assassinscat9618 true
I remember growing up, I wasn’t allowed to fight in school. Not just because the school system would punish me, but because I’d actually get in trouble if I were to fight in school. I remember when I got a beating in 6th Grade for defending myself and I never got suspended. I had to let people bully me, call me names, even got beat up in the gym one time cause I wasn’t allowed to fight.
So I definitely relate to this.
@@richardjamesclemo6235 Your family seems fkd up
Authorities are just as dumb and idiotic as everyone else. Don't let them control you.
This is fuck up some people deserve to get murder
Same
I was literally thinking about how I need to be more aggressive then i saw this video I always let shit slide then if someone piss me off so bad I can't control my anger and i always wanted to control that anger and use it when I get mad instead of letting slide I'm gonna start using this information thanks Hamza easy the best RUclipsr
Good job brah
ive noticed this type of conditioning in me as well. Becoming a better version of ourselves is less about "changing" and more about unlearning. if you're too nice chances are you have plenty of room to be aggressive and people will actually like seeing it come from you for a change
I swear to God that this is the most close and relative video and words I have ever found .... my life alhamdulilah
Same bro, im glad that i found this video from hamza other channel this one im going through the same thing but now im being more aggressive not in a asshole way i hope you go through this and regain that anger inshallah if no one is there im here dont be scared brother
The most inspirational thing about you man is that u were probably the worst version of a man. Lacking aggressive, not in shape, not competitive and not able to stand up to injustice. Bro but this gives a lot of people hope that u can always turn it around and all it takes is 1 decision and then sticking to it.
Dude when i get angry i feel sooo good like the confidence is off the charts and im ready for everything head on ,im unapologetic and those are so big +
I think learning how to fight really helps with having aggression. I know not all confrontations are physical but martial arts give you this feeling that no matter what happens you'll be fine. You could go up to the loud annoying guy and tell him to shut the fuck up without fear. Forget physical, most men try to avoid verbal confrontations nowadays. By being direct and bold, you'll already way more masculine than 80% of men in the western world.
how do i get rid of that anxiety feeling that holds me back bro?
Make that 90%.
Spot on. I just started to learn kickboxing this month and it's helped reignite that inner aggression and competitiveness that I was missing in my life. I'm not a confrontational person but I feel a lot more confidence in myself to project my energy more and be masculine.
Dude you are basically me in a parallel universe man, it's almost like you are the mental embodiment of my consciousness lol so freakin accurate. Thank you for making the video
my dad taught me as a kid the day i didn't fought back is the day I'm not his son anymore
Tbh I like your longer, "unfiltered" videos more. I can just listen to it like to a podcast while at school or whatever.
Thank you for posting this video. I think it’s a cold world, the vast majority of people will know exactly what’s wrong with you, and just watch you fuck up. That is why you have to be out for yourself, and you are mandated to live for yourself. Learning things can be important, but it’s meaningless if it doesn’t benefit you.
Hamza the shouting thing I do this without knowing but whenever I shout it feels good somehow, and my family is used to it now but my mum kinda weird it out in the beginning now she doesn't mind it anymore. This is unconventional advice that does work.
Wait so your family let's you shout in the house?
This video can truly save lives Hamza. Sure as hell opened my eyes
Integrate your shadow, as Carl Jung said. Most men have had their aggression repressed from an early age since they were taught that all expressions of it were bad. Now they do not understand their own capacity for aggression and are actually more likely to release it in uncontrolled, dangerous ways. Conversely, the man who understands his aggression, who has integrated his shadow, is able to control it since he is aware of it, and release it as needed when it is appropriate to do so.
A man who is never aggressive is not kind, he is simply weak.
A man who is always aggressive is not strong, he is simply insecure.
A man who understands his capacity for aggression and when to use it is powerful and the only one who can be a truly good person.
I truly needed this shit. The moment the video ended I got out of my chair, did 20 push-ups, 20 sit-ups, 20 squats, and ran about 3/4 of a mile around my neighborhood. It's not a lot but at the very least I know I just put in more work today than what most of my shitty high school friends manage to accomplish in a year. I'm not just gonna sit around and let all these guys fuck the girls I want while doing jack shit to improve themselves. Not anymore.
Thank you bro. You've opened my eyes to realize the hard truth I've been too much of a pussy to deal with for so long.
You got this bro 💪
forgiveness is one of the most noble human traits bro; hamza’s talking about positive masculinity and being able to have a certain amount of ‘power, strength, agility and resilience’. its having those powers yet having the self control of not using or abusing them that makes u stronger and more worthy of greatness than anyone. Just take muhammad ali’s life for example
be great, be powerful, be strong, be aggressive, be resilient and hardworking but dont allow your inner masculine drive to impact your self control, your higher ideals, your responsibilities and greater goals; use them for those great and noble purposes. u can use your anger to fight for the oppressed or you can use it be the oppressor
I'm was a coward. Some guy just slapped my drink, and it spewed all over me. I reacted by taking milk and splashing it back at him, then the cafeteria threw milk, Gatorade, Arinzona, water, etc. at me. and I let it happen without defending myself. I ran, trying not to cry.
Kickboxing helped my confidence when it comes to this alot more than weighlifting because I know that If shit goes down, I know somewhat how to fight
24:10 bro I've been saying this to myself for the past week and now hearing you say this has literally affirmed this thought affirmation lmaooo. Seeing other guys as the enemy has made me so determined and competitive it's insane.
Dude, you always seem to relate so much to my life. Thank you for making these it’s making a big difference in how I am thinking about my future and what I need to do to be a man.
I used to think being silent and being patient was a super power.
Looking back, I just didn’t show my aggression and cut off my expression as it built up inside.
istg thank you hamza for uploading this video, this video really described me. to a whole another personal level. I was that kid who looked. calm but inside I was bottling all my shit up just to avoid altercation or any sort of confrontation to smoothen things but in reality, I was just having serious mental fog and just self reflecting on why I was a little bitch and didn't say what I really wanted to say. and this vid motivated me to confront a girl I'm interested in and we had a small misunderstanding. confronted her with a bit of aggression and she was very understanding and knew where I was coming from and it turned out to be for the better and we got to know more about each other thanks to me confronting her. THANK YOU REALLY
When we as men compete, it brings us spiritually closer. I can attest to it from life experience, that some of the closest male friendships come from fierce competitors. That much thankfully doesn’t change in our nature. It transcends whatever culture we come from.
You talk about very valid points and I relate to this video as someone who also has trauma from my school teachers (mostly the female teachers),also growing up in a home with only women and an absent,irresponsible father.
That last part about competing with the guy from instagram and stuff,that’s definitely a toxic approach.
Constructive content and you raise some good points.A lot of the viewers relate to those struggles.
This hits home for me. I used to have my anger repressed. Now I'm overaggressive and it feels wonderful
Don’t take it too far. Aggression is a tool. Should be used in the right circumstances
@@therandomdickhead5744 yeah easily said than done
@@DanielMOFO does it feel like an on/off switch now where you can get angry/aggressive anytime you want, even if something doesn’t trigger the anger?
@@DanielMOFO Practice. Patience. You'll get there. Just don't hurt people, neither physically nor psychologically.
@@cee20.5 try cold showers, it helped me control my anger and activate it when I need it
Just found this channel, I'm glad I did. I was scared I lost you, as the videos in your main channel were losing its quality and value. But I now see what you are doing...
Basically don't be a passenger in life.
Be the driver/leader of your life.
This is the lesson the universe has been teaching me for some time, my problem is consistency with that attitude. Feels like the snakes are much longer than the ladders, but that’s probably because I only climb a few steps before slipping and I wouldn’t slip if I didn’t let hesitation hold me back.
As a person who was bullied at home and at school their whole lives, this is a very helpful. I remember many times trying to fight back and I physically couldn't move my fists and it felt like I froze and that made me feel like shit.
theres always a fight to choose.. everywhere.. doing this kind of thing every time you go outside is gonna take a toll on your heart and give you blood pressure problems.
Hamza man, the voice thing i learned it from Optimus Prime and it is a part of my instinct to talk saying important shit and it is not like i think about it, but i act like that. Ever since i did that the class group started listening to me and now i bonded with them a lot more, but without craving acceptance.
The hard thing is balancing this out with maintaining relationships. Like it's a lot easier to show aggression with a stranger or someone you don't mind ruining a relationship with or with someone you know can handle it (like a friend), compared to a colleague or close relative. Relatives are probably the hardest, since 1. they've known you for a long time so have a relationship with you based on you normally acting a certain way and 2. in many cultures being perceived as disrespecting your elders is a big way for people to lose respect for you.
Anyone not subject to criticism or being combatted is in a bubble of safety. A lot of elders in many cultures enjoy that privilege
You can do it with respect.
One thing i would like to add to this is the power of threatening calmness. Maybe some people already feel this but there is something dominating about someone being calm and well spoken in the heat of "battle", like you can feel their threatening aura of "if I don't shut up he is gonna kill me". This is mostly a characteristic of some leaders and authorities. But I absolutely love the faces of people when they realize they mistaked a kind and gentle person for a weak person and it backfires because the gentle guy knows how to fight back.
That said I agree with a lot off stuff in the video. Anger and aggression are important feelings and can do a lot of good if used properly and if not abused.
Let me tell you why people remain calm because they simply know that they aren't in danger.Obviously people who can't control emotions struggle but you don't need to feel threaten by guy you know you can beat shit out of him whereas you should worry about people you can't handle because faking confidence doesn't help and you are really in danger in those situations.
10:25 That is true in I always sabotaged myself telling myself agression is bad but when I look back the time when I was on the right path on my own without knowing this agression is important. There has been times i shouldhave been agressive and practical but the coward inside was afraid and he should because it is right
Literally started working out hard every day trying to be more socialised too, just so I can take advantage and compete the 80% of men which are massive cowards. This is the century and easiest time to become one of the best or in the top 20% as hamza says, before decades and beyond competing would have been a lot more harder so you should take advantage of today's society we live in!
Get them gains. Mental and physical.
Lets fuck these guys up bro, Come we gonna catch the beatiful girl, But im gonna have her of course
Stemming off from one the symptoms that I faced, I legit would get proper anxiety straight after I had a mini breakthrough of positive male aggression because I have just been conditioned to expect the situation to get worse
Keep posting on this channel man, you dropping GEMS 💎💎💎💎💎
Really like the energy that you’re putting into this channel, topics like these definitely need to be explored more, I believe this is one of the major keys to actually fixing society & allowing people to be open and receptive to one another
Also the part about imagining that you are competing against the character was super helpful, I already did that before this video lol, so it’s nice to know that people have the same mindset as I do, I literally look at people at my school that are doing high-value things and I try to emulate and become better than them in every area
Less competent men equates to less competition
'Those who have swords, and know how to use them, but keep them sheathed, shall inherit the world' ~Jordan B. Peterson
i reclaimed my aggression last year some guy was trespassing on my property and i yelled at him gave him a very stern warning and tbh idk why but it scared him but man it felt so healing now ik how to be a lamb and lion at once
The Holy Messenger (peace be upon him) has said: “Shall I tell you who is the toughest and strongest from among you? The one who controls himself when he is angry.”
When you allow what is outside you to control what is inside you; you are a slave to whatever controls you, and then you truly are a coward.
I had/have anger issues. But I controlled it most of the time. Sad to say that most of the people around me would’ve deserved all that anger.
Sometimes it’s better to let that aggression out. But you still need to control it, never take it too far.
@@therandomdickhead5744 not to other human beings my friend. rule 1: never criticise, condemn or complain.
letting aggression out itself alludes to an unresolved problem in the psyche, if anybody has uncontrolled aggression they require therapy.
@@strengthandlove_ bro stop the cap. I am well acquainted with that "3 C's" horseshit; my parents were indoctrinated into it by their rich socialite friends and their rich socialite ""church"" (to use the term incredibly fucking loosely) and raised me on it, too. It served nothing but to stunt the development of me and my siblings and to instill in me a resentful, self-defeating mindset which I am only now recovering from now that I'm on my own.
To those of whom may be reading this: criticism is a healthy part of any social dynamic. Never, EVER let anyone tell you you can't speak your mind. If they try to force you not to, then cut them the fuck out of your life.
@@mammothplant development? lol dont make me laugh.
stop playing video games then.
@@mammothplant also the topic of discussion is male aggression; not criticism.
Im sorry to hear about what your parents indoctrinated in to you. Release yourself from what was taught to them as it served nothing to them nor to you.
We are not speaking of any indoctrination here either. I think you have totally the wrong idea.
I never comment on videos so me doing this is saying smhn. In any case this video and the ''sexual market is only gonna get more cut throat'' vids really changed the way I perceive self-improvement. Currently I have a cold and I still woke up early (I slept a bit late and when im sick I don't get up unless I sleep 12+ hours but I only slept 7 today) I took a cold shower, I journaled and I turned January into my no nut januray month and im proud of myself. I wanted to take a step back and thank you for the inspiration you've given me and the guidance you've given me in these dark times aka the feminine men and masculine women age
something that really helped me was barking really loud in public. I know it sounds stupid, but trust me, it fucking works.
Lol what
ill try that
Ishowspeed that you?
@@thatwaver8309 ??
That 'penetrate the world the way you penetrate your girl' that Hamza said is a quote from 'The Way Of The Superior Man' by David Deida. A lot of good segments and lessons in the book
I've been thinking on this issue literally all my life. I was raised by a single mother, and although she curbed my angry behaviours, she also on the flip side would say things to me like "Don't be a girl", "What are you, a wimp?" Things like that when I was being a pussy.
This has caused me I feel, to be able to pick and choose my moments. Its NOT a good thing to always loose control when you're angry, but you certanlly need the ability to get angry and powerful in certain circumstances - and the ability to know which option would be better in a given moment.
Tl;dr: You want a balance of control and the ability to go through with the anger too if needed.
The last segment on thinking of some people as enemies is so true, like i wanna be a writer and when i would like watch these shown and animes i would get extremely jealous and aggressive the type of aggration that says i want these shit this fame and that would stimulate my imagination so much but than some shit happened and now im in a bad place mentally.
i was literraly feeling like being on a fight while watching the video i felt exactly like the way i felt when i got bullied at school
But if your aggression is towards “insubordinates” children or weak women then that’s coward too because you’re not picking on someone your own size but rather choosing to go into a battle knowing you have the upper hand and still being aggressive is VERY cowardly…
Bro I’m using these tips! Thanks so much! So many times I’ve been pushed around, been bullied and laughed at spit on. This helps, thanks bro👊👍
I never noticed this was a new channel. Always thought I was watching it on hamza
Hamza can you eventually (somewhere down the line) make a video on how to parent properly? I know it seems to be something you haven't thought about much but if you really think about it, how you parent your child(ren) shapes so much of their life and I think I speak for most people when I say I want my son/daughter to thrive and spread my knowledge and wisdom onto them. This is why I've wanted a younger brother for a large portion of my life, I want to, in a way, coach him through life, much like how people on self-improvement want to help others with their self-improvement.
I realized this recently. I was always very talkative and outgoing when I was little all the way up to like 4th grade when my parents starting having fights and getting pissed at everything. This is when I think I started to become shy. Then a couple grades later I kind of broke out of my shell again and had a teacher who hated me and constantly put me down in front of the class. Ever since I think I’ve been recovering and am now know as “the man with little words.” I’m trying me best to be more social again but it’s hard.
It's bot good to escalate a conflict, but don't worry, 'cause when the situation with no way out arises you'll be amazed how agresssive you get
My parents made me try martial arts as a child to protect myself but I quit after the first lesson because the teacher was shouting a lot, using a loud voice.
Lol…
Bro this channel is even better than the main one
Being pushed to your limits forces it out of you, learned helplessness is a thing. But at the same time that can be necessary. Once you know helplessness, there is no way you want to feel like that again.
I’ve been told not to be aggressive throughout my life as it mimicks the aggression seen in my father. I grew up abused, as my father was a drug addict, and at an early age he was murdered. I’ve been angry my whole life as it’s something that haunts me every second I live. I feel too much aggression in the sense that I always want to lash out at wrong doings yet my passiveness is almost always there at the right and wrong times. I’ve been on a journey of finding myself through my god but also through this demon that I was born with.
Another way you can repress your agression due to c-PTSD is watching somebody being aggressive (unduly) to somebody else. You may witness your father being cruel to your mother and decide never to be like that ever because you think it is totally wrong. Society will also reinforce this notion and you can claim the moral high ground by not standing up for yourself but the grief will be there buried underneath your hubris
Excellent!!! Thank you!!!!
What helps me I noticed when I want to stand up for something e.g. disagreeing with someone’s opinion or fighting back is doing it with both agression and humour. I still have problems with being a pushover but I thought that this tip may help someone.
was a pussy, until i join the military, learn martial arts and went to gym... Now iam a alpha male with women wanting me. it is hilarious!
Your so fucking funny like stfu
Huge huge inspiration
Salute to you man! You’re RUclips channel is sick!
Honestly watching this video I got so angry because of the amount of time my anger had to be repressed and realizing how much it has screwed me
So this is where the unfiltered section went, thank you RUclips recommendations
When I was a kid I was fk wild, i did martial arts, I would not think twice before starting a fight. I went for 5 years to a strict school with high consequences on fighting. Even though I like being controlled and having the capicity to decide not to use my skills to harm anothers, I feel like that was repressed by my school, now I feel that I think too much about the situations. Its not cowardy, I don’t feel fear of getting beat up, it’s like a mental block, like im going to suffer the consequences that my school imposed many years ago. Thanks for the help Hamza
6:06 relatable that's why self improvement is the move
I am a coward. I'm watching this video to change that.
Good
Thanks bruv, I really needed this
Ok this video ain't for me but still gonna watch it.
Throughout my life I had to get aggressive to fight back and stand up against both parents, tbh I lose my shit when I find my alcoholic mother drinking again or when I have to go against my dad when he is drunk, my only choice is to assert myself otherwise the situation is gonna go out of control. Either when my dad was acting too aggressive himself so I had to protect my mom and little sister, or when I find my mother drunk again and I have to make sure she ain't doing anything stupid.
EDIT: I'm not proud of it, but I've lost my cool with both of my parents plenty of times, I've broken doors and other furniture etc. It never happened outside of my household, cause I haven't gotten into situations outside thankfully where I had to
Didn't expect you to upload on both channels at the same time
My family always Made me repress My anger so i grew up tryng to be a good Nice guy, i remember one day i Made something stupid to a friend cuz he was annoyng me, it ended in him punching me in the face and he squared up to me and screamed to me to punch him. I dint and he called me a bitch, i was so stressed out for that and just feel like a pussy. I am stronger than him and actually fighted with him before and won but i still regret not doing anything that day and just putting excuses cuz i din't punch him. Thanks for the video