I had given up on marriage after my second divorce | Saida Ahmed Rashid
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This woman is a beautiful human being inside out
I am a man who have been married for 28 years, and I will say, when you find a good man, You will see! Only weak men beat women!
👏👏
True indeed
Really
True
Mwanaume kupiga mwanamke nao hio hakuna katika dini huyo sio mwanaume kabisa hakuna kupiga Bibi why ? For what reason umpige bibiyako bt na nyinyi kina dada muheshimu waume zenu coz siku hizi mnaigiza maisha ya wazungu na kukaa hivyo hivyo bila kuolewa utakosea ALLAH utafanya zinaaa kwahio subiri mungu akupe mume wa kheri inshaa llah na maoni mingi utakao pewa hapa chunga nayo coz most of them watakusheuri usiolewe tena coz kwao kuolewa sio muhimu waeza kkaa kinyumba tuu kufanya zinaaa
What saida has said is very true there is no worst torture than silent treatment
This is one of the best interviews ever , never saw a Kenyan Somali so bold, fluent ,true keep it real Saida
Thanks for your feedback @Johns
Then you don't know Somali women in general,.. most Somali women are bold fluent and true.. stop judging our community with your narrow mind opinion
Well we are many .
Many are
Johns Athanas you Must be a narrow minded person there are a lot of Somali ladies who are bold eloquent.don’t be judgmental,just try to think outside the box
Wowww I am in awe of you!
I am not a Muslim, but I am a woman. An African woman. A mother, married but not happy. Lost my mom when I was young, I can relate, so I listened very intently!
I learned a lot!
I love what your father said, about a man who puts his hand on his wife!
Electronics, Infidelity, pornography and disrespectful spouse is my reason for divorce!
I already know I want to get divorced. And had put in my mind that I don’t want to ever get married again.
I am sorry your kids were taken away from you, but I am glad you did not give up.
You are a hero in my book! Its not easy talking about what you went through, especially coming from a culture that sees what you doing negatively!
But rest assured, you are helping thousands of people!
One thing I would add, for anyone planning to leave an abusive or unhappy marriage must have a plan👍🏽.
More power to you! Stay blessed!
Your sister from another mother😍
Thanks for your feedback on this. Wishing you well
Wow this is beautiful thank you so much ❤️
The lion of the mouse please I need to talk to you sister if you don't mind
@@hadraabdillahi9301 hi
Refusing physical mental and emotional abuse was the best decision you ever made my dear. Thank you for rescuing yourself
Those children will come looking for you when they grow up in shaa Allah don't worry
Speak on it honey,💡you are paving the way to our young Somali girls to find there voice, and take decisions.
Very true. Thanks @atieno olang for your feedback
Well done girl.
So you wish more Somali girls are divorced?
@@oyay2821 so you wish more Somalian man to be maltreating their wives? Instead of women loosing their lives in the hands of some men let women divorce their husbands and Stay alive. There's a saying "when there is life, there is hope 🙏. Well done Saida 👏 and God will continue to guide you and protect you 🙏and your children.
@oyay2821 more respect for them nothing less...
She is so so eloquent . Reminds me of jamila mohamed
Everything you talk about it’s like you are talking to about me and all that happened to me , you helped me grow
Stay strong sister, a lot of women are in desperate situations and don’t have the courage to stand up for their self.
Good wording and exactly true “”” don’t have the courage to stand up for themselves “”. If they do stand up it’s a shame on their families so they remain silent and carry on suffering and deteriorating their mental health have more children and make more mess of things there is a reason why sone don’t stand up for themselves as well no courage and scared of being alone no job no family parents support or no shelter from parents society shame struggling with less money too much too soon to handle no parents home to go and stay to clear head and make clear decisions discussing options so they just carry on with east options on auto pilot survival mode east way forward not taught how to fight just taught how to cover shame from society what other think not what your going through as a human with feelings not just because your a girl
Thanks to tell us you’re past story your life but still stay strong sister a lot of woman’s are in desperate like your situations same like u and don’t have the courage to stand up for their self
Same us men’s same like your situations today but we don’t know about the marriages always goes by lucky
Some marriages are good life love
some marriages are very bad
weather women’s or men’s 😓
Mashallah u r brave .Allah aku barik na akupe umri na furaha. Ameen
@@alilondon that is why the African government should do something about it e.g building shelters for these kind of women. These women are afraid of leaving the so called marriage 💑 because they are going to be rejected by their parents and they don't have no way else to turn to for help, hence the women remain in this 'slavery' called marriage.
One thing I know about somali women is that they are bold,strong and don't take any crap.
Saida Ahmed Rashid...your truth resonates to all females regardless of religion ,ethnicity & country!
Saida Ahmed Rashid; the real definition of strength❤
Im in love with a Somalian lady, i am a Christian and she is a moslim. We look each other so much. I love your stories
Thanks your love. Somalia lady but religioun is different you can’t married Somali lady I’m from somalia 🇸🇴
Everything we do is based on our religion, no matter what u r doing. Just it's the normal measurement we base on everything. Man,u better search about Islam, may Allah guide u Insha Allah
@@alhamdulilaahalluakbar595 Are u speaking for the Somalian tradition or in Islamic perspective?! I'm not a Somalian but I'm a Muslim, if the guy converts to Islam yet they can't get marry?
@@rsmosramos6464 only religion ✅👍🏻
@@mustafeabdi8483 ✅✅✅
You are a beautiful woman who deserves to be loved. I’m happy you are fine now. You are blessed
Love your confident Saida! Mental toucher is killing many marrages
May Allah bless you. You're a strong, beautiful woman. Keep going, sister.
My ex used to say, you have to listen to your husband. I listened to when he hit me, I listened to the silent treatment, I listened to ignoring, then I listened to myself and I divorced him.
Yu also hv a great story to tell
I pls need saida contact
I am also divorced twice. the third time one man scammed my wealth on the internet. When a woman is abused she likes any man after that. Be careful as it can cost you a lot and a woman has a lot to lose.
Sorry mum ..it seems are going through hell through relationship may God intervene.
I'm lost. Did she get married three times?
Congratulations queen ❤️I wish Amira can also take this bold step 👏
I love seeing African women finding their voices, may God bring your children back to you soon.
hhhhhh biiiq,,,,read and leran did you insult ur mama and sisters and my be ur queen ,why you coll them african ,,hh were s that name cone from who give you ,,dont call any one plz call ur tribe thanks
Don’t worry saida your kids will came to you when they are able to come back
Now saida keep learning education and skills and build yourself work earn money
Ilaahey kabaq tuko quranka aqriso duceyso Ilaahey ku tiirsanow marwalba
Waad guuleysan
Never accept abuse from your partner whether it is physically or emotional
OMG I feel your pain sister!😔
My dear God will fight for you hun. I was in the same situation couldn't see my kids or hang out with them. I got depressed coz no one understood what i was going through. People judged me wrongly and said alot about me but that's when i built my relationship with my maker. Only God made it possible for me to be re United with my kids. Am now a very happy mother and my kids happy too they are even improving their grades in school. The same God that it for me will do it for you too keep on praying,have faith and trust only him.
Thank you Saida for being bold to share your story. You are beautiful and very eloquent.
Saida, you’re amazing for standing up for yourself and paving way for others. You’re the Advocate the for young women and women in abusive relationships. This platform will build courage and confidence in many women. Thumbs up for addressing even Christians relationships.
We need more like you 🙏
Sister Saida you are a very strong,well spoken lady ,
I admire your personality and your laughter after everthing you been through.
She a very strong woman saida well done and really integrent
AFRICAN WOMEN MUST HAVE STRONG SELF ESTEEM, AND SPEAK UP. THANK YOU FOR ALL THESE INCREDIBLE STORIES. AND WONDERFUL INFORMATION. GOD BLESS AND PROTECT YOU.
I'm proud of the strength you have shown. God bless you dada
Saida we are so proud of you. You’re strong women .Allah protect your Marriage and Bring your children back to you.
My sister you're very strong lady, keep up been strong for your kids. As a man I am on your side and supporting all ladies of any city's. The smile on your face shows your clean hart.
Supporting your from London.
Masha Allah sis you are very strong keep up u taught me something ♥️
Saida, thank you for encouraging me that I can still fall in love again after a failed one
Wow! Saida I love you, you are a strong woman keep it up.
Our girls shouldn't be going through these problems I'm sorry abaayo saida you didn't deserve that my brothers please take care of our sisters don't be cowards
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True these father mother s sons brothers mahram s uncles are not showing any concern if it their own daughter then they the uncles especially they any think of their own daughter s brothers father sons mother don’t want to know or hear it
I like your confidence sister maybe somebody else will come hope so Ameen
I understand how you feel I really do. Unfortunately that’s the world we live in today. My ex wife and I separated two years ago and I went through hell. This people are pure evil “ Narcissist “ I was married for 15 years and my ex was European and we have two kids. My ex wife always treat me with silence treatment. Always provocative, self centred, always seek for validation and self approval. It was mentality draining. They make people feel worthless. This people are demonic with no empathy or feelings.
Sorry for what happened to you am also going through what you went through but I knew one day things will be better than this i pray for the best.
Find someone to share with pliz
Never mind people opinion this is your life and sharing brings healing
You are speaking for so many people ..Allah is with you !
Yes
I left my abusive husband 6 years ago. I am now 30 years old and so scared to get married again. Your story has inspired me to loosen up and move on.
But don't get married again. They will break you to the core
Same
Please never let yo hold you back
Yo ex has moved on with his life
Why hold back Yo self
Pipo are different
Learn yo lessons,work on yo self and move on
We have one life
Never give up for u are still young could be he was not your husband. For me iam 33 but soon getting married again and Iknow in Jesus name, we will make it
I understand because after a bad marital experience you get shut down emotionally, socially and physically. But you must remind yourself that good men do exist. It becomes hard to trust again. Have a open heart because you would not want your past to smudge and spoil a great marriage that is possible with someone else. Work on your mind and pray. Don't let one bad apple to spoil the rest, dispose of the bad one in order to preserve the good ones.
Marriage is forever,why rush empower yourself and that will respect you. "IAM NOT THE WEAKEST LINK" say this everyday and you will achieve alot.
I just like the strength in you,yes these are your kids!! Continue speaking out girl,you may rescue many from your community and the whole word too.
Saida you have made a way for other ladies through your story😊
Yes. Bold and necessary step
Saida I am from Eritrea I appreciate you are so strong and inspiring full of hope be happy God bless you and your children.
Very proud of you sister. Abuse is never acceptable mental and physical.
Hi Saida, I'm a Somali sister and I must say I’m proud of you. You did amazing getting out of abusive relationship and bad marriage. Building your self and being the mother they deserved for your children. Go forward abayo
Saida we are proud of you! Thank you for your testimony. You know how valuable you are.
I understand how you feeling sis. I have giving away my first born, I remarried two more time I have 3 kids, but I can’t rest with out my son.
This woman is not only beautiful but she's a rare symbol of power. All young Somali girls should emulate her.
Saida,you're just an amazing woman,you've gone through hell and back but still very strong and courageous to explain what's our sisters are going through at our backyard. I think it's high time for our communities from northern kenya to change this tradition of suppressing women's and girls and remove this obstacles between them and their future dreams. This tradition may date back centuries but has no place in 21st century.
Such a brave and beautiful lady. May God be with her.
You are not alone, the court decided that my 13 year old daughter should stay with her paternal grandmother. I am comforted that in a few years time, she will come back to me.
My daughter is also hidden away from me by her dad i cry almost everyday
Pole sana
Stay patient my Beautiful sister, indeed with God’s Will she will come back to you! She’ll yearn for you because if child needs their mothers and her heart will lead her to you! Don’t despair and don’t lose hope in God.
@@zamzamdauda9248 don’t give up sister, the prayer of the oppressed is always accepted by God! Your daughter will come in search of you because if child needs and wants their moms!
@@TheHouseofcoolstuff thanks alot dear
Mashaa Allah May Allah make it easy for u n everyone else who is passing through the same situation .
Ameeeeeen
Ameen. And ameen yaa Raabal alaameen.
Ameen Ya Rabb
Allah is an idol
I was abused in the first month of my marriage. I had to end it i was abused emotionally n psychologically it was too much for me i had to leave its depressing but i dont regret why i left i know all this will come to pass in shaa Allah 😊😊😊
insha'Allah my dear.
So soory for you
So sorry ukhty
Beautiful Saida. It takes lots of courage but l am very proud of you. All the very best.
Good to see you again Saida. Looking good and energetic. Keep winning
My school mate justus good job
Quite inspiring.
@Rehana Hassan good to see you here! ❤
So sorry saida i really fill u .people should take example from u coz they suffer alot in silence and have nothing to do only to suffer in abusive marriage
She's an inspiration to many
I admire your courage, your children will look for you when they are off age. I pray that God will bless your marriage, you will find peace and happiness in your new marriage. Continue to be empowered. God bless you 🙏
Ameen
Ameeeen🤲🏼
Amiin
This husband was a true classic Narcissist. They isolate the spouse and they create Stockholm syndrome. Unfortunately Narcissists create dysfunctional children also. May God preserve her children as they now live under the Narcissists thumb. Saida Thank you. You have done what few women let alone from your community will do. Blessings, build yourself. You are a born leader.
People òo00o08 oò
Plizzzz don't remind me about Narcissist people they are good pretenders,they are demonic
That is so true!!
What she went through is called narcissistic abuse. It is the worst you could ever ever deal with. I am a victim of this abuse and I have been in this nightmare for 6 years. The financial and the emotional abuse is the worst as well as the silent treatment. Narcissists enjoy inflicting pain on you by abandoning you and treating you like a garbage. It is very painful experience and I am still grieving. 💔😢
I dealt with that kind of abuse and he was physical too. I left . I have Iman I will get someone better inshallah 🙏🏾
Beauty and courage.You hv motivated so many Muslim women to come out and fight for their well-being.You are so brave 👏❤
Iam a Somalian lady who resides in usa but no human being can take such things Muslim or Christian physical abuse mental sychology he was a sick man he needed help he was abused when he was little probably woow she’s so brave iam proud of her
@@fadumoboru2177 I agree 💯
You're strong enough 💪 it's hard to express your past problems or currently feeling as somali girl infront of public .
You're good beutiful mother 👩.
By the waye divorce isn't shame, say no time needed!!!!!
Don't worry sister,, your children will remain yours forever,,,boran said((mataan Fula baefi in walallu))your children will be yours coz you felt the pain through passing with your in Labour pain,,,so God is with you,,,you carried them nine month's and above Labour pain then raising them,,,Allah Will be with you
Love your smile. I commend you for your courage. Stand up for yourself. Abuse of any kind is never acceptable. Falling in love again is natural. I wish you good luck and all the best for your future.
Fixing the society one case at a time! You are a wonderful, beautiful, strong lady keep caving a blueprint for all women to have a voice and choice. I celebrate you!
In deed. Thanks Lutta for your feedback
Northing make me happy like when I see women like this taking her mind freedom to all women I’s all what is needed
I’m so happy you are strong enough to speak up and encourage others who are suffering abuse to do the same. Do not be discouraged. It takes one person to make a difference. Thank you sister.
That’s true
Wow! Love her. I like the way she is able to find her voice against the retrogressive culture practices that are disadvantaging the women in her community. Am also glad that she was strong and courgeous enough to leave the narsissitic marriage.
Kudos sis!✊
Very sad to hear this,am a father of girls when I see someone mistreating them like this it doesn't sound good,but Allah has made you to overcome,now don't let the past to dictate your future Inshaallah. Being strong sometimes means being able to let go. From northern Iraq. Nagayat
Sorry
Such inspiration,may you never know pain in your relationship anymore InshAllah and may Allah bring you closer to your children and family Ameen🤲😘😘😘
Usijishushee is z cool PMP pl photo mk
Sis you are one in a million,so brave an gathered enough courage to speak on behalf of us,may Almighty Allah protect you always,be blessed
Amen
Wah!!! Such a courageous lady you are.... 😭😭😭😭 I really don't understand what's happening with this generation marriages toxic is real love life more than abusive marriage no second chance in life beloveds......... happy for you dear you have found love again!!! I know I will also find love again Amen 🤸🤸🤸🤸🤸🤸
As a Family Life Coach I have so much RESPECT for her and really Allah Reward her and her children wherever they are and her Current Husband. She has given a platform for OTHER'S who are secretly going THROUGH that.And another key point she said Such MEN'S can even try to manipulate the professional acting like his PIOUS and loving...I thank her BRAVENESS AND HONESTY.SHE HAS HELPED MANY LIVES I WORK WITH MUSLIM WOMEN'S MOST ARE IN PRISON FOR SNAPPING OUT...STAY BLESSED.
I am a young somali girl with a bright future ahead.i feel inspired Mdm Saidah...we have a culture that women have to withhold secrets of a toxic marriage with the fear of being judged or being physically abused by family members or husband. I ain't married yet buh thru you i have learned to weigh culture and what i deserve as a woman wen time comes in shaa Allah. May Allah bless you
Saida woman you ROCK. You have done well.
Oh i love u! Love the bravery and boldness! I love seeing women who survived an abusive marriage speak out and save other women trapped in such . I am also an abusive marriage survivor and i am married again and i just recently shared about it on my channel because my survival wasnt for me be silent.
As a Somali girl myself I learn so many things from your story sister. you are inspiring women and strong women keep going. Thank God almighty that you overcome the struggles and challenges. My prayers is with you insha Allah you will get your children back. May Allah almighty keep you save and blessed.
What beautiful queen. I would not want to put a scratch on such an angel. That’s my African queen
Salute siz Masha'Allah you are strong woman, Kindly reach out to Amira
Rasul s.a.w said the best person is the one who is good to his family
What about the woman? Shouldn't she be good to her family especially her hubby?
The one word that I can describe her is bold and brave
Very fantastic to hear a lady who is from my community,from the same town talking about her right ✅ my sister may God bless u and make everything easy for u,what I know a weak man is the 1 who throw hands to women so keep going your in the right trck
The Bible says we fight against spiritual wickedness in high places. These forces has agents on this earth. That man is one.
Thank God you got your self out of that trouble , you are very strong woman thanks for teaching alot of people out side there
Keep on preaching sis, it takes a lot of courage to speak up ❤️
....and you made it this far... You will go far! Mungu yu nawe.
I remember your story.
Yes
You have the right to talk about your story!
Mash'Allah very inspiring,I'm somali sister I'm proud somali and I'm proud of you, I'm a no1 survivor of this it's called Domestic abuse & violence, 🙏🏽🤲🏾🙏🏽💯👍🏽💪🏽
I salute you Saida your the people who will change tomorrow keep talking and you will change others
Thanks for being so brave I'm also going through the same but believing God for a better husband
Bambe katonda akuyambe sweetheart.
So inspiring sister. May Allah grant you happiness in your new marriage
I like that "iam a strong woman "you are indeed. God bless
Much peace to all mothers and our sisters
Waooo thats great i also divorced 3 times but right now ihave my nice handsome man and he loves me just the love dirrect from God.
Congratulations for coming out. I hope the rest will come out too and save themselves.
To come out of marriage?wholesale, mnataka kutuumiza yakhe🤣🤣,safia everyone is not the same
I feel you girl, nothing is permanent. Things will be normal. My prayer let it gooooooo
Yes. Nothing is permanent
A true woman Allah bless your marriage
Don’t stop talking about your kids .Continue updates every year this way your kids will know you still think about them and in no time they will look for you.
They will look for her anyway, no matter what. Children naturally want to know about their parents.
I hope the father will not abuse them. Men that raises they hands on women is most likely to abuse their children.
i like how proud she is, Mashalaah.
Who's the person disturbing such a beautiful soul😍
Some men out there are wicked they just want to frustrated a woman.
You are a strong woman Saida.Despite retrogressive cultural norms you have risen above that and become empowered.As a fellow woman I love your boldness and eloquence continue being a voice of reason and I know you'll inspire many Somali girls to believe in themselves despite the culture towards women in your tribe.
You are talking like white person, very amazing isn't it but again you didn't look at the mirror before calling an entire peoples culture retrogressive. This woman is from Kenyan Congolese colonized Somali region which the British carved it in to what they called Kenya and it is unfortunate and it is the reason why they are less worthy to you but let me tell this though am Somali from easterly corner on the Arabian sea am not even African and This part of Somali is not even Africa but let me assure you we are coming to free this people accupied by Kenyan Bantu Congolese time is what matters.
It's true,silent treatment hurts to the core, it's the worst form of emotional abuse.
Very true
Yeah
Im going through the same .. someone doesn't want to co - oparate through child support which I'm now thinking of going to court .
@@shikuliz4134
Pole sana dear.
It shall be well Saida
God will keep your kids safe
Saida you have really inspired us especially Somali sisters who are facing the same
Very Inspiring, you are a voice of positive change,I believe other women in your community will receive stregth from your story,well done!!!
Amazing woman. She making way for many women