schaffk we've all cheated. I'm single so I'm good. But some others are being cheated on. There is not only one they have multiple. Girls like power and they know beta males. Their easy to control. Beta males do weird stuff. Alpha males don't.
I dated a girl who would always be paranoid that I would cheat on her... it ended up she cheated. If they accuse you of it chances are they are the guilty party
Like the coach has said before in a previous video, we tend to project what's inside of us, therefore her accusations of you cheating were exactly as you mention it, her guilt and shame and insecurity blamed all on you.
Oh my goodness! This just happened to me. My ex gf would always ask me if I'm messaging other girls. I saw tinder on her phone. Broke up with her. 2 weeks later she said she's getting pretty serious with some dude from her math class. GTFOH!
Exactly. If there's a guy in your office who is paranoid that people are cheating on their expense reports, you can be sure that he's cheating on his expense reports.
Please don't make this a rule. I was never suspicious with previous boyfriends, my last ex is a pathological liar and cheater, now I became the crazy jealous girl. Like if I went mad I could protect the relationship. People are very different, every individual is a universe.
Unfortunately, I've wasted a great deal of my life with a lying cheater. They tend to hate conflict, confrontation, and drama. Yet, their very behavior is what causes those unwanted reactions! Very frustrating. They will also turn everything around on you. If you catch them in a lie or inappropriate situation, and try to talk to them about it, they will blow it back on you. Your only choices: leave or end up apologizing every time. My advice: Leave and never look back. ✌
Can be a narcissist. They lie and cheat then if you confront a narcissist they shoot it right back at you without it even registering in the brain. They'll deflect, blameshift & refocus the conversation to something completely different, by the end of the conversation / argument you'll find yourself arguing about something completely different than what you brought up, what you brought up will be forgotten and you'll be wondering how that happened...
@@R_Thomp any ideas on how I can tell the truth to someone who is too sensitive and always changes the topic? (obviously being straightforward is the only one I can think of, but I'd like to know if there's any subliminal way too)
@@Iucebowel Eric, I misread your question and thought you wanted to know how to find out the truth if someone was a narcissist. The answer to your question is to re-assert the topic of conversation and keep the focus on that topic if the person you are talking to tries to change the topic. You have to have a heightened awareness because people who tend to change the topic of conversation are pretty elusive and sneaky and they can do it without you realizing. So you have to be able to catch when that happens and point out that that person is changing the topic/ re-framing the conversation to something other than what you are saying then ask your same question again and ask the person to please answer it.
No matter how much you do to benefit them. Your self sacrifice means nothing. Your time. Your efforts. Your money. Your commitment. To a woman, this means nothing!!!!!! They'll still lie to you repeatedly and sneak around behind your back. Never trust a word thry tell you..
yeah i absolutely agree,once a cheater deciever and a hooker is always who they are... those cheater deciever and hooker will be treated on the way how they did it so that they can have also the idea on how to be cheated decieved and being hooked
but as you stated coach the best thing to do is to walk away and never look back. because that kind of craziness is full of toxicity that could drive a man into a monster.
I've learned that they can tell you you're the love of their life and still lie throughout the relationship. Even if they admit they're lying (when caught) and promise they'll stop. They won't. Worst part is you only know about the lies you found out. And that they make you believe they love you endlessly, so you don't know what to do. In the end you start asking yourself if they might be lying to themselves into thinking they love you ... Because their promised change never comes. And love is so strong, it shall conquer all. Maybe it's their nature.
People who cheat and most certainly those who have cheated more than once on one or more partners never love you completely. There love with just about anyone that comes in there lives is conditional love. "I love you as long as you make me feel special in front of others and I'm receiving more than I'm giving in this relationship." The moment they have to put in work on the relationship or you become complacent. The switch is turned on in there head to start looking for your replacement.
Sam, you are 100% on the point... the ugly reality hit me after 2 years of relation... i was obliterated, devasted , dont have enough words to describe it
my bloke told me he would never go to a prostitute as he felt they were taken advantage of and he hates womanisers....haha...found heaps of hook up sites over 20 numbers on his phone to prostitutes and text pursuing young girls....im a fool...was..
I had a 7-year relationship with a girl who cheated on her boyfriend with me who would have knew when she left me she would leave me for somebody else as well You reap what you sow
A cheater has to lie in order to get away with their cheating. You know someone is cheating if there is more than 2 people in a relationship, you, them and someone else (old or new relationship). If your new partner is not a cheater they will be single and you will never face any drama when you start a relationship with them. Sad world we live in smh. People should try being honest, you have nothing to lose. Be honest.
That is spot on. Absolutely. Stay away from any woman who is still 'kind of' involved with someone else. There is no kind of. She's going to tell you lies. Bad start, bad start.....
The very FACT that she decided to tell her bf on the phone that she was meeting another man, tells me she is a manipulative so and so. Had it done to me in a different but similar way, ex said oh a girl at college is sooo interested in me but I would NEVER betray you and anyway, she is sooooo unattractive. A few days later I got evidence he had cheated. Cheaters very often tell you what they are planning to do.. or have done.
AmethystDreaming You are so right. What they do is try to feel you out by putting out the most smallest part of the situation to try and help you feel comfortable with something that they know is or will end up wrong. This way when you begin to speculate about the frequency or types of interactions with this person, they will always go back to "I told you about him/her they are just a friend, Why would I tell you about them if I was gonna cheat or be deceitful?" It's a manipulation tactic that narcissistic and sociopathic people use.
They are so f'ed up they want you to know when they are cheating. My ex wife introduced me to the guy that she ended up cheating with under the guise of, hey this an old friend from high school and we caught up on facebook. She then kept me abreast of every time he called her, emailed her, every compliment he gave her thinking that I was cool with it just because she told me about him up front. My only mistake was trying to act like everything was ok after being accused of being over jealous all the time. Next thing I know she's having drinks with him while I'm out of town and my buddy runs right into them at a little off the grid bar. Bitch then tries to call me before my friend does. SMH Slimy ass ho! She used to pretend she was such a christian! I really hate her phony ass now.
My ex had this 'best friend' that she was hanging out with. She then said that one evening when she was hanging out with him and 2 couples they are also friends with they were playing strip poker and that everyone else was naked except her and that she said that she went home. And im like what do you mean they were naked? And she was like oh they were naked in underwear. Thats what i meant. And then she said that they had group sex in the bedroom and that she just went home before. She said that one of the guys asked her to join and she said that the friend said that she has a boyfriend and that he shouldnt force her to do anything. So the friend was the 'good guy' and now i was supposed to think what a nice guy he is. Yeah...
@@yhaniep2325 Turns out she has been having orgies with them before she was with me, while she was with me and after she was with me... so yeah she had really good friends 👌
What happened to decency? Loyalty? Honesty? Commitment? Being together as a team? Is this time we're living in now, making people so selfish and so narcissistic? If one's ego is bigger than the relationship, then it's obviously not going to work.
2023 people are selfish, been with my wife 28 years, she was always a loving caring woman and was never selfish, today she is all about herself, I never thought in a million years she would be like this, something happens to them, I have been the same person to this day, yes we get older, but that doesn't change who you are inside, at least not me
Look up the tale of the Frog and the Scorpion. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. They already proved that they can cross that line. And if they have done it multiple times with different people, then that is their NATURE. It's who they are. They won't change until their potential victims no longer fall for their deception.
I lived with a woman and she always made the motions that we should both be trusting of each other. She said that she knew that I was trustworthy and I needed to believe the same in her. She had "male friends" and I was OK with her having friends that were male; I'm a secure man. There were some strange things that happened, that made me suspicious so I left an automatic voice recorder in her car, When I listened to it, SURPRISE. She and her friend made strange porn sounds. It was over and I never told her how I found out what was going on. I went to a restaurant after the breakup that she went to sometimes with her work friends and found out that it was well known by her coworkers "how easy she was". She and I lived together for 6 years and none of her coworkers knew that she even had a boyfriend. Just because a woman trusts you does not mean that she is trustworthy.
You can only trust in yourself and your own actions which you are accountable for... Trusting women no way when they are not concerned about a mans feelings over their own.. Which they will put themselves first and do what is accommodating and comfortable for them.. It's in their nature to be this way.. Forget what you heard from anyone else!!!
She's never yours. It's just your turn. Relationships are entirely overrated. Just be single and stick with solid friendships to meet your emotional needs. And if you're lucky, you'll have a friend in which both of you can indulge your sexual needs without the strings attached. It's the best way to go. Trust only yourself 👍
Me personally I feel it is inappropriate to go out with the opposite sex while you’re in a relationship, let’s be honest my guys ain’t tryna be her friend they trying to get in those pants. In Most opposite sex friend ships some has or had attraction for the other person. You willing to put yourself in a shaky situation like that. Everything ain’t about trust. That’s a respect issue for me
fuck this is the same situation I had 14 years ago, the guy calls my girl for a coffee, I knew she had a history of cheating but then I successfully resolved that situation and things were fine for some six-seven years ... since then I was suspecting there is something but I couldn't prove. five days ago I dumped her finally and I feel so peaceful because I finally find the proof. fuck all I regret is wasted time for nothing. from the moment i told her it is over my feelings were an ambivalent mix of grief and loss with relief and freedom with the taste of freshness. as the days go by the latter slowly prevails..
As a former liar a cheater, I sometimes think can I be trusted. But I feel like when you acknowledge your issues, and seek help. I feel like you can be trusted. For me personally I know it’s wrong and I want to change it. It will be hard for my GF to trust me, however the more changed behavior I show it will help with regaining our connection and her confidence in me.
I agree with a lot of what you say! It's refreshing to see a dating coach who doesn't rely on gimmicks or "PUA" style techniques. Just logical, practical advice. Keep it up!
Wish I had heard this earlier this year. Its been a roller coaster ride for me with an " Old friend" who I fell in love with many years ago. She cheated on her husband, with me, once, 26 years ago. Then she cheated on him with other guys. Then she cheated on all her boyfriends, then she cheated on me. She lies all the time. I knew in my heart, but I was so emotionaly invested in her I couldn't break it off until now. Thanks Coach, I'm a little late, but I am reading your book like the Bible, and watching your lectures. Thank you. You are waking people up, and helping them understand and heal.
I have done it in the past, and had it done to me! I've learned my lesson and I will not do it again! If I don't want to be with someone you must leave without cheating!
Your a smart guy. I'm 61. There are a lot of young men out there that listen to you. Please have a show on young men getting fixed. Tell them as best you can about how much better there life will be. The divorce rates. Women with kids. No father. What they will pay. I never had those problems. I payed my support. I had the money. Young men today do not. Thanks.
Coach I love your brutal honesty assessments on this topic: honesty, integrity, good communication and loyalty are a few that you have mentioned! People should have some good moral compass!!
2nd email. If she is a liar, it is only a matter of time. Some people value truth and honesty above everything else, others not so much. If this girl deceived you the chances are pretty good she'll do it again. The fact that you had fish through her lies to find she was banging her ex tells you everything. Note, you said you have never lied to her....that is the difference in your characters. It will likely show up again when a tempting opportunity arises or through difficult times.
Women don’t care about you, they care about how you make them feel about themselves. There’s a huge difference between the two. I don’t blame them either, it’s in their nature and DNA. I just accept it as part of the deal.
Just broke up with my gf on these grounds, thanx coach, keep up the fire. Wish I could copy and paste the messages I sent my ex for yas to see, that she was sending to other guys on her phone, to show how I handled it. Forwarded her a screen shot I took of some of her messages confirming my suspicion's (her drug problems too). Remember guys (and girls) its not paranoia or ease dropping if your instincts are correct, in my opinion. I asked her what she would do in this situation. Among other questions so she could see it from my POV. Didn't have time to overthink or ask for too much advice other than some of coach Cory's advice. Truth is there is no perfect way to break up, it depends on the person and situation. Important part is proving to them your not a door mat. All her drug and alcohol and financial problems aside, I stuck with her as long as I did, because I value fidelity and honesty the most. When she broke those 2 things, a few times apparently, and I could finally prove it, I ended it in this manner. Looking her face to face and confronting her would leave her the advantage of "grounds for confrontation" that I wasn't going to abide her with. Some say face to face is most respectable, but she don't respect me regardless. Many women want men to fix all their problems, while they party and do whatever they want, F*** that noise! Welcome to equal rights! Hope this helps provide insight on the subject.
microphone dropper my girl did the same to me and I found texts on her phone confirming it. I forgave her the first time and then confronted her again - turned out there was more. I forgave her for that too. I confronted her once more to discover there were even more lies and that was when I ended it. Should have ended it at the first instance
@@norma3753 All I can say is it gets better. I've had a few more relationships since then and have finally found someone who I trust 100%. Just hang in there, it takes time to heal. 👍
For me its not because once a cheater is always a cheater and apparently he broke your trust which is hard to fixed it. Liar person is not worthy to invest your time.
With my most recent ex there was this one guy friend that I always had a bad feeling about, her other guy friends not so much. The guy is a beta male, overweight, mostly unattractive, but I just felt something was off with him every single time I saw him, like he had an ulterior motive or definitely wanted to be more than friends with her, no matter how much my ex gave me the "he's just a friend and I'm not attracted to him" speech. I made my ex very aware of how I felt about him and told her I didn't appreciate her wanting to see him by herself whether that meant lunch, or going to a bar, or going to shows and I didn't find those appropriate, she would whine she misses her "friend" and wants to spend time with him because she cares about him. I thought we had a very honest relationship because we always were open with each other about our concerns. When we broke up she said she "needed space, who knows what the future holds, let's talk in a few weeks" etc. I was being patient and understanding, then fast forward a few weeks after we broke up, guess who she's dating now? She literally told me that we can't talk anymore, she didn't even have the balls to tell me she was dating that guy, she was all like "it's none of your business why I'm making these choices"... I found out through a friend! I thought she was the most honest and trustworthy person I've ever been with, so I disregarded my own gut instincts and believed her from the beginning. My advice to you guys is if you have a bad feeling, don't second guess yourself! It's bittersweet because that guy she's with now is a complete chode, doormat type, so I know the relationship isn't going to last because he is a weak man and that's probably going to ruin her friendship with him and most certainly lose respect for him. Thankfully, this experience led me to finding Corey and I know I stopped courting her and became complacent, but I also know now what her true colors are, and as a result I will never allow myself to be exclusive with her again. If she wants any of my time, it'll be to hangout, have fun, and hookup, and that's it! Corey made me aware of my own weaknesses, how I would stop pursuing my purpose once I started dating a woman and eventually become complacent and soon after that end up single again, after passing up so many opportunities to meet higher quality women in the interim. Never again! Thank you Coach
Absolutely Not! Once you love yourself as well as respect yourself enough you will not give a shit about that pretty girl. You become the prize/catch and all of a sudden you become the challenge. The pretty girls with inflated Ego's now start wondering "what the fuck" why is this fearsome awesome dude not chasing me like every other guy? And when this happens she will chase you and compete for you and even place you on the pedestal.
Although I don't always agree with your videos this is without a doubt the best one I've seen on this subject..(by anyone).. Your perception is spot on. After years of putting up with this sort of sh#t from various women in my life I now have a 'zero tolerance' approach... It sorts out the wheat from the chafe very quickly and leads to a (relatively) stress free dating life. I have to say that I haven't read your book even once. Lol...... I probably will though. Keep up the good work. 👍👍
This is a mad statement as situation may arise when u tend to take the help of a lie to save any relationship...that doesn't make anyone a cheater or a liar for lifetime. You need to check his/her pattern before tagging or labelling them.
Mike Reygadas Im feeling the exact same way now, and I could be wrong about this but I also feel like she going to miss me when I'm gone because she'll never find another guy who will treat her with honesty, loyalty, faithfulness, respect and love like I treated her
TWT Mogul she doesn’t care about that if you want to keep her treat her like trash. These type of women don’t value the same things. It’s all about ego and then having control over men with their dirty vaginas
That's what women do, I met a woman, she was cheating on her husband with me, left him,we moved in together, 3 months later she was cheating on me with the guy she was with before the husband, so I didn't find out until one of her girlfriend rated her out and told me where she was the night she called me and told me she was at the hospital with her uncle who got shot, witch was a total lie, I gave her another chance, we got married, 3 years later she cheated again, she is a very insecure woman who needs male attention, guys don't trust them even if you think they would never do it to you, they lie,they make up reasons for doing what they do
Hell no ..... When me & my ex broke up for 3 month she got a ride from her ex to the airport .... I always told her you obv did things with him she always denied it .... I eventually said okay but never believed it my instinct tells me otherwise.
wow coach what an amazing concept loyalty,honesty,trust,and faithfulness.someone in my past need this video and needs to understand why the f#@$ I walked away and am never looking back .but she keeps forcing herself in my life by moving to the state I moved to sleeping with my co-workers hacking my phone,etc.
Hey guys. I read the book over 40+ times (so this is a case of thinking you know it all but then the universe says: Oh Yeah?) but I'd love to hear your thoughts about this that happened to me the other night. It really is all about respect. I was at a big social event with my girl (we're exclusive for 5 months) the other night. As we were walking along some random dude in line yells out her name and she immediately turns to him and hugs him and talks to him for a few minutes without introducing me. We finally move on and we run into this guy again an hour later. She eagerly talks to him again and acts as if I'm not even there. I read the book 40+ times so I clearly saw what was happening. He was trying to pick her up in front of me. She gave him her # and agreed to see him next week and acted as if nothing unusual happened the rest of the night. In their conversation it became clear they went out before. I didn't do anything rash as Corey says that we have no competition. I don't even blame the guy as she never introduced me as her boyfriend or said anything great about us. I have a feeling that if the exact opposite would happen (me running into my old HS flame at the same event and us exchanging #s, I wouldn't hear the end of it, truth be told I would stop it at "it was nice to run into you again have a great night" because I respect and adore my girl) I will raise this with her tonight to tell her this is unacceptable, and report back but any thoughts on this from you guys are very much appreciated. Thanks in advance! This is a great community of people solving issues.
4 years ago and I guarantee this relationship is over. You should read the book again, guess 40+ times wasn't enough for you. You need to set boundaries as this obviously bugged you and you would not act like this. If you set these boundaries and she lies or shows these traits again, she's not for you. Current trends form future events!
No. I've always dated older Ladies. Some have kids, are married, single but all older. I understand I'm the Fun guy. They want to have fun and I provide that. Big Time. I'm just about having fun right now. I'm always ready to go. No, you can't trust a liar or a Cheater. I'm single so I don't have to worry about it. If my cheating neighbor came over we would hook up. That's all.
I'm married for a year to a guy I've dated for 2 years. I've only recently realized that he has been lying to me habitually since we started chatting. i realized it after talking to my mother-in-law and when i confronted him he shut me down and to him i was acting hysterical and i don't trust him over almost anything but i kinda started to accept it because it just hurt my feelings and since we have a son of 4 months old i don't want to just get a divorce just because I'm hurt. but now the lies has boiled over to our finances and that is going to influence my son which I'll never be okay with. what do i do? how do i go about this? he says that he doesn't know why he keeps lying to me and can't help it. please i need objective advice.
Hey your story sounds similar to mine. I have an almost 2 year old daughter with him amd dont feel its worth it to seperate because im a bit unhappy but also inding it hard. He is a wonderful partner and dad in mamy ways but i find it hard to feel close with him now and my love has died down. He continued to lie after saying he will stop and i told him it hurts me. Hes been lying his whole life to avoid getting in trouble. Its like a habit for him. May i ask what happened to your situation now, did you leave or stay? Did it get better?
Omg so like my relationship . He lied about so much but the big thing was a new house he said he'd bought me and kids and he came clean he lost the house 8 months ago . But won't show any paper work to prove that he had even bought it. Together almost 3 years together im heartbroken xxx
Coffee is already too late. That chick is cheating or is about to. There is no stopping it. TELL HER NOTHING! Just walk away with no explanation at all.
Didn't work for me at all. My ex hid a guy in plain site for 7 years of our relationship. As a man you have to use what we're best at and that's our logic. No man is spending time with a woman without try to get in her paints unless he's gay or a relative
To be fair. I use to go over a woman's house I really wanted to get with but I was told she was divorcing. I wouldn't get busy unless she actually left for good. I know I'm in a minority maybe even the only one o my kind. I use to just go right in for the poke. But now I want more. I basically play recon and observe. Just getting whatever I want isn't the point. I past that stage when I was 22. But it's all about honor. I can't sell myself short just because it's what women expect of me. And mind you, she even spread a rumor I was gay hoping it would get me to be more aggressive. And once I realized that. I backed up further. I don't like being manipulated by some human trash. I should have told her husband what she was doing. This awful woman had sex with his brother his father and his parole officer. Oh and his boss. She's the kind o woman that takes what she wants. Thinks being a winner means shooting fetenyl all day long. I really feel bad for her husband. After hearing her stories which had him made as some villain of course it was obvious she was a lying piece of shit. I just felt if I told him this woman would probably manipulate him like they often do to every man. So I said nothing. It's sad cause women tell each other bout men all time. But men don't listen to each other when it comes to women. And women can hurt you if you aren't as observant as I am.
I believe you're going to tell everybody what their lifestyles about even those you think have judged yourself by their own judgment calls their life is not everyone else's so stop trying to make everybody else's life the same everybody is equally different in their relationships
No, you cant, but if u stay with them, u need to watch them like a hawk, look into phone constantly use detectives, and camras and recording devices, if she or he knows they cant lie and get away with it, they will start telling the truth, because they have to.
Then you get those cheating bf's who will in fact cheat but after the breakup claim his ex gf cheated to anyone that'll listen smear campaigning her name....
When people share their story and someone like Corey comments when learn a lot. We learn what to red flags to watch for so we can avoid many potential pains and troubles. We all spend so many years in school yet they do not teach us their self-respect and self -love.
Man, the email story you read at 13:30 I relate so much to, only my bf was the one being deceptive. He just broke up with his ex before dating me and apparently wasn't over his x cuz I later found he was still keeping in contact with her for the first year of our relationship behind my back and lying to me about it. I caught him and he finally fessed up that he still had feelings for her. Ouch. The only reason I stayed was because I was pregnant with his daughter and scared to be n my own and didn't know what to do. I tried to forgive him but it hurt me so much what he did and he never really worked hard to repair the trust. He never really ever made me feel special either...it really damaged my self esteem. It's been 3 years now and I've only got more depressed and he still lies and is a total asshole. I'm trying to figure out a plan to leave. Just don't know how yet and feeling stuck :-/
Been in the exact same spot. My ex lied to me about cheating for a year, I caught her with some really flaky crap in her phone. She admits to "having bad judgement". No bitch you cheated! She felt as long as I didn't catch her with her skirt hiked around her waist that I didn't have enough evidence. For a while that was true but enough circumstantial evidence came about to convict her twice when I started writing things down.(she was a hell of a gaslighter) She was so empty thats she didn't feel like she did anything wrong and did close to nothing to repair the trust. And when she did her efforts lasted for about 2 weeks and then she was back. I finally realized that she would never change. The last thing she did was the last straw. People reach that conclusion at different times. Keep watching these videos your opportunity will come. Good luck!
The guy I'm currently with, has cheated on every woman he's ever been with with someone from the office. Knowing that, every time he says he's going out for drinks with someone from the office, even if he says it's a guy, I can't trust him. When I voice my concerns, he tells me I'm just insecure and have trust issues, and that history doesn't always repeat itself, and that he shouldn't be punished for his past forever. I have caught him lying to me on more than one occasion about where he's been and what he's been doing, so this is not ancient history. Should I ever even bother trying to trust him?
Corey, finally a decent logical male mind, man you are a fucking legend and leader!!! You had just helped me to understand so many fucking things, god bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Really? So if a spouse cheats and lies about it and gets caught, makes major efforts to change including counseling, then once a cheater always a cheater?
Most likely they are wired to be deceivers and will have slip ups. Nothing is 100% either way but most likely you will be sleeping with one eye open the rest of your life. Who wants to deal with that. i can see maybe trying if there are kids involved but even then. If a person loves you they would not cheat point blank period. It takes to much effort and things to happen to cheat for it just to happen.
Once my car was in mechanic, my girlfriend was late to pick me up. Before she came I exercised, went to shower, dressed up very sharp and put my cologne on. When she came one hour late, I cancelled our reservation in this expensive Italian restaurant. Asked her kindly to wait me in the living room. Put those Chinese Oriental Kung Fu Pajama that was given to me as gift. I never forget her face :D She was in shock and she asked me where are we going, if its a surprise. I said 'we are going to your home, we only have time to sleep because its very late.' She was never late ever again. She was angry at first, but she got my point, she find it hillarious and she said I must be very brave and not afraid to lose her. We laughed about it after some time passed. When I don't like something I always challenge girls like this, they find it interesting. Because no men ever acts like that to them, they always tolerate everything. Thats why she will not respect you, and just like the coach says you will invite more of that behavior. If you want to gain her respect stand up for yourself, let her know what you don't like.
Question: if my SO lies about everything is it safe to assume she's cheating or would have no problem cheating? I was raised to believe a liar a cheat and a thief are one in the same. She lies and steals constantly and I just have this overwhelming feeling she's cheating as well
If she's a pathological liar like that, and you have proof that she's lying constantly, then that should be a red flag in and of itself, and you should be considering moving on because you deserve better. Her lying does not necessarily mean that she's also cheating, but like Corey Wayne says "flip a coin".
Nope. In no way shape or form is that coffee meant to be platonic experience I can say that that is just covering basis. Was there a guy? yes. Did he invite her for coffee? Yes. Is she being honest? Yes. But what I am getting from this is that the neighbor did not give her a time as of when he would be stopping by. And by telling this to her boyfriend she is covering up any potential problems that may arise if the guy happens to stop by when her boyfriend is there. I may be wrong but that's what I get from listening to this.
also I'm very honest and straight forward, my bf says I'm too honest and blunt. I'm working on tact and being more mindful. is there such as too honest.
what if your the devoted loyal woman but your man has drinks with a female customer or coworker and has cheated and lied in the past. i feel like the level of integrity that i have isn't completely there and he doesn't understand how that is disrespectful and hurtful. also he didn't come right out with this i had to ask him if he had drinks with her, but he did tell me she hit on him allot and offered her number to him even after he told her he is involved, but he wasn't straight forward with telling her no. he said he just kept saying oookay, says he through the number in the trash. btw he is a tattoo shop owner and his shop is by a bar. please help am i crazy.
The last e-mail...Dude tell them once about being late and if they make a effort to correct it then great.But if not,tell them kiss your ass and walkaway.YOUR TIME IS PRICELESS! TIME IS THE ONE THING THAT CAN'T BE REGAINED AND THE REASON WHY TIME IS SO PRICELESS,IS BECAUSE IT WILL RUN OUT.
On that last one regarding lateness...have you ever been out, alone, and had the woman your supposed to be meeting arrive TWO HOURS late, at the original meeting place (when you're in pub number 3 or 4 by that point, always telling her where you were when you moved venue), and had her only let you know she'd arrived literally 5 minutes before you left to get the last bus home...and never actually meet her???
Corey Corey Corey - U are spot in most respects - however a lot of times people become deceitful to keep the peace and have a smoother transition for a myriad of good valid reasons.....finances....jealousy....kids....nosy family......manipulative controlling partner...destructive partner etc....so u can't blanket statement that because there's a secret unless this is a clean cut scenario and she's a devious liar....just isn't the case. I lie to manipulators because they are dangerous and it is a valid time to be a liar ----- being honest with some individuals can be dangerous, costly, overwhelming.....life threatening even....sorry but there are very pertinent times to lie......you as a man must know this c'mon
The sad part fore was I knew the moment He first lied..and everytime I called his lies out..but a he habitual liar I called him ; " A serial liar "! He breathed and lied as he breathed inhale and exhale a lie.., all day long ..I put him out of my world .. totally !...I hate lies...
is good for a man to see a woman as a liar that very good. Even the woman don't do those things no more they will still look at you the same way;they feel to look at you. I was was listening to my apostle johnson when he was preaching from one of his video, he said when somebody have confident in themselves nothing will bothers them or shake them. Is like me,is like the Apostle was talking to me directly. I have big confidence in myself. Some of my pastors or people who knows me they know how correct I am before God and man. I refused to convince any body to know the truth about me no way because nothing bothers me or shake me to the sight of God.I am not looking for love or survival I am looking from God for more grace and glory that my goal and dream over my life not those minor things. great video to listening to continue to make more sir God bless you so much. me
I knew someone was lying to me again and again. I ignored it because I wanted to believe them. I’m not use to spending time with liars, so it was a weird feeling.
I’ve been with my lady almost 15 years and married 6 years with two kids, I found out 2 days ago she slept with my friend 12 years ago what should I do?
Yes, you can always trust them to be a liar & cheater.
schaffk we've all cheated. I'm single so I'm good. But some others are being cheated on. There is not only one they have multiple. Girls like power and they know beta males. Their easy to control. Beta males do weird stuff. Alpha males don't.
Lol
The only thing you can trust them on.
Great - the short answer!
If you support a cheater you re just a pile of crap
I dated a girl who would always be paranoid that I would cheat on her... it ended up she cheated. If they accuse you of it chances are they are the guilty party
nick e exactly bro. Something I went through now haha
Like the coach has said before in a previous video, we tend to project what's inside of us, therefore her accusations of you cheating were exactly as you mention it, her guilt and shame and insecurity blamed all on you.
Oh my goodness! This just happened to me. My ex gf would always ask me if I'm messaging other girls. I saw tinder on her phone. Broke up with her. 2 weeks later she said she's getting pretty serious with some dude from her math class. GTFOH!
Exactly. If there's a guy in your office who is paranoid that people are cheating on their expense reports, you can be sure that he's cheating on his expense reports.
Please don't make this a rule. I was never suspicious with previous boyfriends, my last ex is a pathological liar and cheater, now I became the crazy jealous girl. Like if I went mad I could protect the relationship. People are very different, every individual is a universe.
Unfortunately, I've wasted a great deal of my life with a lying cheater. They tend to hate conflict, confrontation, and drama. Yet, their very behavior is what causes those unwanted reactions! Very frustrating. They will also turn everything around on you. If you catch them in a lie or inappropriate situation, and try to talk to them about it, they will blow it back on you. Your only choices: leave or end up apologizing every time.
My advice: Leave and never look back. ✌
Can be a narcissist. They lie and cheat then if you confront a narcissist they shoot it right back at you without it even registering in the brain. They'll deflect, blameshift & refocus the conversation to something completely different, by the end of the conversation / argument you'll find yourself arguing about something completely different than what you brought up, what you brought up will be forgotten and you'll be wondering how that happened...
@@R_Thomp any ideas on how I can tell the truth to someone who is too sensitive and always changes the topic?
(obviously being straightforward is the only one I can think of, but I'd like to know if there's any subliminal way too)
@@Iucebowel watch videos from these RUclips channels:
- Rebecca Zung
- Common Ego
- Surviving Narcissism
- Dr. Ramani
@@R_Thomp thanks :)
@@Iucebowel Eric, I misread your question and thought you wanted to know how to find out the truth if someone was a narcissist. The answer to your question is to re-assert the topic of conversation and keep the focus on that topic if the person you are talking to tries to change the topic. You have to have a heightened awareness because people who tend to change the topic of conversation are pretty elusive and sneaky and they can do it without you realizing. So you have to be able to catch when that happens and point out that that person is changing the topic/ re-framing the conversation to something other than what you are saying then ask your same question again and ask the person to please answer it.
No matter how much you do for them no matter how much you love them...trust me they will lie to you its in there nature
No matter how much you do to benefit them. Your self sacrifice means nothing. Your time. Your efforts. Your money. Your commitment. To a woman, this means nothing!!!!!! They'll still lie to you repeatedly and sneak around behind your back. Never trust a word thry tell you..
100% true
yeah i absolutely agree,once a cheater deciever and a hooker is always who they are... those cheater deciever and hooker will be treated on the way how they did it so that they can have also the idea on how to be cheated decieved and being hooked
but as you stated coach the best thing to do is to walk away and never look back. because that kind of craziness is full of toxicity that could drive a man into a monster.
Yeah this right here. Is absolutely correct.
Same. It's gonna drive you nuts. You need to be with someone you can trust. For real.
I've learned that they can tell you you're the love of their life and still lie throughout the relationship. Even if they admit they're lying (when caught) and promise they'll stop. They won't. Worst part is you only know about the lies you found out. And that they make you believe they love you endlessly, so you don't know what to do. In the end you start asking yourself if they might be lying to themselves into thinking they love you ... Because their promised change never comes. And love is so strong, it shall conquer all. Maybe it's their nature.
Husam N sounds like you got hurt
There's no good people anymore
People who cheat and most certainly those who have cheated more than once on one or more partners never love you completely. There love with just about anyone that comes in there lives is conditional love. "I love you as long as you make me feel special in front of others and I'm receiving more than I'm giving in this relationship." The moment they have to put in work on the relationship or you become complacent. The switch is turned on in there head to start looking for your replacement.
Sam, you are 100% on the point... the ugly reality hit me after 2 years of relation... i was obliterated, devasted , dont have enough words to describe it
The worst is when they get caught and still deny it
Ex texted catfished photos of a European singer and said it was his son. Ran when caught.
That's my wife, deny deny deny, no matter what
@port nut well people are who they are, I would have never thought it at the start, I know most people don't, but I was really surprised
Once a cheater always a cheater
Song Knock that is not true
Very true
Not if you're young. Past the age of 25 or 30 you should know better.
@@ericgilbert8725 most likely ur dating a cheater
@@joec1212 everygirl ive met cheated on there man to hangout with me and they were from 27 and 30 yrs old
One of first thing my lier told to me is she won't lie to me.
strawberry fields lied then too I bet😂
Lmao same here. I got cheated on and one of the first things she ever told me is she would never cheat too. Whoops lol
Brett Hruska fuckin way she goes
my bloke told me he would never go to a prostitute as he felt they were taken advantage of and he hates womanisers....haha...found heaps of hook up sites over 20 numbers on his phone to prostitutes and text pursuing young girls....im a fool...was..
My big red flagwhen dealing with people is if they day Im a Christian. If it comes out of the blue i know they are hiding just how honest they are.
that's right. it's all about integrity and having respect for yourself your partner. and your relationship
OMGGG that is so true.
Once something happens is so hard to let it go and to forget about it
sheepgray08 Only the people who been through it will understand that
I had a 7-year relationship with a girl who cheated on her boyfriend with me who would have knew when she left me she would leave me for somebody else as well
You reap what you sow
If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.
gilbert aponte my ten year girlfriend left her ex for and now I got left for someone else lolol 😭
@@hightek669 they will. Its not if they will, its just when..
So true
Same..
Never mow another man's lawn!! Some dude mowed my lawn a few months ago and now they are engaged. And I'm happy I dodged that nasty bullet 😂
A cheater has to lie in order to get away with their cheating. You know someone is cheating if there is more than 2 people in a relationship, you, them and someone else (old or new relationship). If your new partner is not a cheater they will be single and you will never face any drama when you start a relationship with them. Sad world we live in smh. People should try being honest, you have nothing to lose. Be honest.
good advice. thank you
That is spot on. Absolutely.
Stay away from any woman who is still 'kind of' involved with someone else. There is no kind of. She's going to tell you lies. Bad start, bad start.....
The very FACT that she decided to tell her bf on the phone that she was meeting another man, tells me she is a manipulative so and so. Had it done to me in a different but similar way, ex said oh a girl at college is sooo interested in me but I would NEVER betray you and anyway, she is sooooo unattractive. A few days later I got evidence he had cheated. Cheaters very often tell you what they are planning to do.. or have done.
AmethystDreaming You are so right. What they do is try to feel you out by putting out the most smallest part of the situation to try and help you feel comfortable with something that they know is or will end up wrong. This way when you begin to speculate about the frequency or types of interactions with this person, they will always go back to "I told you about him/her they are just a friend, Why would I tell you about them if I was gonna cheat or be deceitful?" It's a manipulation tactic that narcissistic and sociopathic people use.
They are so f'ed up they want you to know when they are cheating. My ex wife introduced me to the guy that she ended up cheating with under the guise of, hey this an old friend from high school and we caught up on facebook. She then kept me abreast of every time he called her, emailed her, every compliment he gave her thinking that I was cool with it just because she told me about him up front. My only mistake was trying to act like everything was ok after being accused of being over jealous all the time.
Next thing I know she's having drinks with him while I'm out of town and my buddy runs right into them at a little off the grid bar. Bitch then tries to call me before my friend does. SMH Slimy ass ho!
She used to pretend she was such a christian! I really hate her phony ass now.
My ex had this 'best friend' that she was hanging out with. She then said that one evening when she was hanging out with him and 2 couples they are also friends with they were playing strip poker and that everyone else was naked except her and that she said that she went home. And im like what do you mean they were naked? And she was like oh they were naked in underwear. Thats what i meant. And then she said that they had group sex in the bedroom and that she just went home before. She said that one of the guys asked her to join and she said that the friend said that she has a boyfriend and that he shouldnt force her to do anything. So the friend was the 'good guy' and now i was supposed to think what a nice guy he is. Yeah...
U K So nice to be surrounded with these type of friends! yikes!
@@yhaniep2325 Turns out she has been having orgies with them before she was with me, while she was with me and after she was with me... so yeah she had really good friends 👌
What happened to decency? Loyalty? Honesty? Commitment?
Being together as a team?
Is this time we're living in now, making people so selfish and so narcissistic?
If one's ego is bigger than the relationship, then it's obviously not going to work.
Welcome to 2021 in the social media age of never being content lol
🎯
Social media is what happened to it
2023 people are selfish, been with my wife 28 years, she was always a loving caring woman and was never selfish, today she is all about herself, I never thought in a million years she would be like this, something happens to them, I have been the same person to this day, yes we get older, but that doesn't change who you are inside, at least not me
@@AlexV-NL exactly
Look up the tale of the Frog and the Scorpion. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. They already proved that they can cross that line. And if they have done it multiple times with different people, then that is their NATURE. It's who they are. They won't change until their potential victims no longer fall for their deception.
Many are damaged beyond repair
I lived with a woman and she always made the motions that we should both be trusting of each other. She said that she knew that I was trustworthy and I needed to believe the same in her. She had "male friends" and I was OK with her having friends that were male; I'm a secure man. There were some strange things that happened, that made me suspicious so I left an automatic voice recorder in her car, When I listened to it, SURPRISE. She and her friend made strange porn sounds. It was over and I never told her how I found out what was going on. I went to a restaurant after the breakup that she went to sometimes with her work friends and found out that it was well known by her coworkers "how easy she was". She and I lived together for 6 years and none of her coworkers knew that she even had a boyfriend. Just because a woman trusts you does not mean that she is trustworthy.
Sorry to hear that, I know how you feel, women are not what they used to be
Sorry bro, good choice
I think most liars are toxic. It's important to know when to let go. For health, sanity & life.
People need to stop pursing those who are already in a relationship.
Yes, but sadly people don’t mention they are in a relationship
Doesn't that excuse personal responsibility? Typical female response. Lame.
Those that are in relationships need to respect what they have...
Sadly most of the times people are in a relationship to tell the world that they are taken but behind the curtains they are single
@@osbonoam Why lame?
You can only trust in yourself and your own actions which you are accountable for... Trusting women no way when they are not concerned about a mans feelings over their own.. Which they will put themselves first and do what is accommodating and comfortable for them.. It's in their nature to be this way.. Forget what you heard from anyone else!!!
Dean Jay Nailed it bro 💯
She's never yours. It's just your turn. Relationships are entirely overrated. Just be single and stick with solid friendships to meet your emotional needs. And if you're lucky, you'll have a friend in which both of you can indulge your sexual needs without the strings attached. It's the best way to go. Trust only yourself 👍
Me personally I feel it is inappropriate to go out with the opposite sex while you’re in a relationship, let’s be honest my guys ain’t tryna be her friend they trying to get in those pants. In Most opposite sex friend ships some has or had attraction for the other person. You willing to put yourself in a shaky situation like that. Everything ain’t about trust. That’s a respect issue for me
fuck this is the same situation I had 14 years ago, the guy calls my girl for a coffee, I knew she had a history of cheating but then I successfully resolved that situation and things were fine for some six-seven years ... since then I was suspecting there is something but I couldn't prove. five days ago I dumped her finally and I feel so peaceful because I finally find the proof. fuck all I regret is wasted time for nothing. from the moment i told her it is over my feelings were an ambivalent mix of grief and loss with relief and freedom with the taste of freshness. as the days go by the latter slowly prevails..
mmmm
Alphonso Nanook That is where I’m at right now!
Did you get her back after that ?
@@Bargains20xx why would he want her back? If you're genuinely asking the question, then you have lots of reading to do
As a former liar a cheater, I sometimes think can I be trusted. But I feel like when you acknowledge your issues, and seek help. I feel like you can be trusted. For me personally I know it’s wrong and I want to change it. It will be hard for my GF to trust me, however the more changed behavior I show it will help with regaining our connection and her confidence in me.
Can you trust a liar or cheater?
The answer is Ready Set,Noooo!
I agree with a lot of what you say! It's refreshing to see a dating coach who doesn't rely on gimmicks or "PUA" style techniques. Just logical, practical advice. Keep it up!
Wish I had heard this earlier this year. Its been a roller coaster ride for me with an " Old friend" who I fell in love with many years ago. She cheated on her husband, with me, once, 26 years ago. Then she cheated on him with other guys. Then she cheated on all her boyfriends, then she cheated on me. She lies all the time. I knew in my heart, but I was so emotionaly invested in her I couldn't break it off until now. Thanks Coach, I'm a little late, but I am reading your book like the Bible, and watching your lectures. Thank you. You are waking people up, and helping them understand and heal.
shaul76239 how is it now? same thing happened to me but im 19 right now cant imagine seeing this for 26 years
Pussy must have been off the charts
I have done it in the past, and had it done to me! I've learned my lesson and I will not do it again! If I don't want to be with someone you must leave without cheating!
Your a smart guy. I'm 61. There are a lot of young men out there that listen to you. Please have a show on young men getting fixed. Tell them as best you can about how much better there life will be. The divorce rates. Women with kids. No father. What they will pay. I never had those problems. I payed my support. I had the money. Young men today do not. Thanks.
Coach I love your brutal honesty assessments on this topic: honesty, integrity, good communication and loyalty are a few that you have mentioned!
People should have some good moral compass!!
2nd email. If she is a liar, it is only a matter of time. Some people value truth and honesty above everything else, others not so much. If this girl deceived you the chances are pretty good she'll do it again. The fact that you had fish through her lies to find she was banging her ex tells you everything. Note, you said you have never lied to her....that is the difference in your characters. It will likely show up again when a tempting opportunity arises or through difficult times.
Women don’t care about you, they care about how you make them feel about themselves. There’s a huge difference between the two. I don’t blame them either, it’s in their nature and DNA. I just accept it as part of the deal.
StraightCashHomey
That is one of the stupidest generalizations I have ever heard.
It’s actually one of the most true statements typed. You obviously reacted because it’s true.
So true...
100 percent accurate
Maybe it's that the woman you find don't care about you.
The advice goes both ways - I'm a female and I'm relating to all of these guys' situations!
Just broke up with my gf on these grounds, thanx coach, keep up the fire. Wish I could copy and paste the messages I sent my ex for yas to see, that she was sending to other guys on her phone, to show how I handled it. Forwarded her a screen shot I took of some of her messages confirming my suspicion's (her drug problems too). Remember guys (and girls) its not paranoia or ease dropping if your instincts are correct, in my opinion. I asked her what she would do in this situation. Among other questions so she could see it from my POV.
Didn't have time to overthink or ask for too much advice other than some of coach Cory's advice. Truth is there is no perfect way to break up, it depends on the person and situation. Important part is proving to them your not a door mat. All her drug and alcohol and financial problems aside, I stuck with her as long as I did, because I value fidelity and honesty the most. When she broke those 2 things, a few times apparently, and I could finally prove it, I ended it in this manner. Looking her face to face and confronting her would leave her the advantage of "grounds for confrontation" that I wasn't going to abide her with. Some say face to face is most respectable, but she don't respect me regardless.
Many women want men to fix all their problems, while they party and do whatever they want, F*** that noise! Welcome to equal rights! Hope this helps provide insight on the subject.
microphone dropper my girl did the same to me and I found texts on her phone confirming it. I forgave her the first time and then confronted her again - turned out there was more. I forgave her for that too. I confronted her once more to discover there were even more lies and that was when I ended it. Should have ended it at the first instance
@@Tokioka daaam. That was me. Shit still hurts two years later.
@@norma3753 All I can say is it gets better. I've had a few more relationships since then and have finally found someone who I trust 100%. Just hang in there, it takes time to heal. 👍
For me its not because once a cheater is always a cheater and apparently he broke your trust which is hard to fixed it. Liar person is not worthy to invest your time.
With my most recent ex there was this one guy friend that I always had a bad feeling about, her other guy friends not so much. The guy is a beta male, overweight, mostly unattractive, but I just felt something was off with him every single time I saw him, like he had an ulterior motive or definitely wanted to be more than friends with her, no matter how much my ex gave me the "he's just a friend and I'm not attracted to him" speech. I made my ex very aware of how I felt about him and told her I didn't appreciate her wanting to see him by herself whether that meant lunch, or going to a bar, or going to shows and I didn't find those appropriate, she would whine she misses her "friend" and wants to spend time with him because she cares about him. I thought we had a very honest relationship because we always were open with each other about our concerns. When we broke up she said she "needed space, who knows what the future holds, let's talk in a few weeks" etc. I was being patient and understanding, then fast forward a few weeks after we broke up, guess who she's dating now? She literally told me that we can't talk anymore, she didn't even have the balls to tell me she was dating that guy, she was all like "it's none of your business why I'm making these choices"... I found out through a friend! I thought she was the most honest and trustworthy person I've ever been with, so I disregarded my own gut instincts and believed her from the beginning. My advice to you guys is if you have a bad feeling, don't second guess yourself!
It's bittersweet because that guy she's with now is a complete chode, doormat type, so I know the relationship isn't going to last because he is a weak man and that's probably going to ruin her friendship with him and most certainly lose respect for him. Thankfully, this experience led me to finding Corey and I know I stopped courting her and became complacent, but I also know now what her true colors are, and as a result I will never allow myself to be exclusive with her again. If she wants any of my time, it'll be to hangout, have fun, and hookup, and that's it! Corey made me aware of my own weaknesses, how I would stop pursuing my purpose once I started dating a woman and eventually become complacent and soon after that end up single again, after passing up so many opportunities to meet higher quality women in the interim. Never again!
Thank you Coach
Update??
Absolutely Not!
Once you love yourself as well as respect yourself enough you will not give a shit about that pretty girl. You become the prize/catch and all of a sudden you become the challenge.
The pretty girls with inflated Ego's now start wondering "what the fuck" why is this fearsome awesome dude not chasing me like every other guy? And when this happens she will chase you and compete for you and even place you on the pedestal.
Justin Anderson I
Although I don't always agree with your videos this is without a doubt the best one I've seen on this subject..(by anyone).. Your perception is spot on. After years of putting up with this sort of sh#t from various women in my life I now have a 'zero tolerance' approach... It sorts out the wheat from the chafe very quickly and leads to a (relatively) stress free dating life.
I have to say that I haven't read your book even once. Lol...... I probably will though. Keep up the good work. 👍👍
Once a lier and cheeter,always a lier and cheater!
This is a mad statement as situation may arise when u tend to take the help of a lie to save any relationship...that doesn't make anyone a cheater or a liar for lifetime.
You need to check his/her pattern before tagging or labelling them.
well I'm glad she has found a greener lawn on the other side of the fence I feel sorry for the next dude .
Mike Reygadas Im feeling the exact same way now, and I could be wrong about this but I also feel like she going to miss me when I'm gone because she'll never find another guy who will treat her with honesty, loyalty, faithfulness, respect and love like I treated her
TWT Mogul she doesn’t care about that if you want to keep her treat her like trash. These type of women don’t value the same things. It’s all about ego and then having control over men with their dirty vaginas
If someone is telling me they have people hitting on them with frequency....
That tells me all I need to know
That's what women do, I met a woman, she was cheating on her husband with me, left him,we moved in together, 3 months later she was cheating on me with the guy she was with before the husband, so I didn't find out until one of her girlfriend rated her out and told me where she was the night she called me and told me she was at the hospital with her uncle who got shot, witch was a total lie, I gave her another chance, we got married, 3 years later she cheated again, she is a very insecure woman who needs male attention, guys don't trust them even if you think they would never do it to you, they lie,they make up reasons for doing what they do
Sounds like you got what you deserved 😅😅😅
Attention seeking behaviour. She loves drama. Period.
I been with a couple of out right cheaters. One thing all cheaters have in common.
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Its your fault.
Hell no ..... When me & my ex broke up for 3 month she got a ride from her ex to the airport .... I always told her you obv did things with him she always denied it .... I eventually said okay but never believed it my instinct tells me otherwise.
Edward Johnson they fucked
Trust your instinct
I love the part explaining how you stand up for yourself towards the end of the Vid, thanks Coach your the best!
wow coach what an amazing concept loyalty,honesty,trust,and faithfulness.someone in my past need this video and needs to understand why the f#@$ I walked away and am never looking back .but she keeps forcing herself in my life by moving to the state I moved to sleeping with my co-workers hacking my phone,etc.
Offer to go for coffee with her and the other guy and see where that goes... if its off the table it's a huge red flag.
Hey guys. I read the book over 40+ times (so this is a case of thinking you know it all but then the universe says: Oh Yeah?) but I'd love to hear your thoughts about this that happened to me the other night. It really is all about respect. I was at a big social event with my girl (we're exclusive for 5 months) the other night. As we were walking along some random dude in line yells out her name and she immediately turns to him and hugs him and talks to him for a few minutes without introducing me. We finally move on and we run into this guy again an hour later. She eagerly talks to him again and acts as if I'm not even there. I read the book 40+ times so I clearly saw what was happening. He was trying to pick her up in front of me. She gave him her # and agreed to see him next week and acted as if nothing unusual happened the rest of the night. In their conversation it became clear they went out before. I didn't do anything rash as Corey says that we have no competition. I don't even blame the guy as she never introduced me as her boyfriend or said anything great about us. I have a feeling that if the exact opposite would happen (me running into my old HS flame at the same event and us exchanging #s, I wouldn't hear the end of it, truth be told I would stop it at "it was nice to run into you again have a great night" because I respect and adore my girl) I will raise this with her tonight to tell her this is unacceptable, and report back but any thoughts on this from you guys are very much appreciated. Thanks in advance! This is a great community of people solving issues.
Macio Luko hey man any updates ?
What happened?
Macio Luko she’s gonna cheat on u and u should leave man
Updates?
4 years ago and I guarantee this relationship is over. You should read the book again, guess 40+ times wasn't enough for you. You need to set boundaries as this obviously bugged you and you would not act like this. If you set these boundaries and she lies or shows these traits again, she's not for you. Current trends form future events!
Yep, 4 months and a week into this ‘relationship’ I’m finally seeing this.
I can’t express concerns. Is being together is ‘hidden’.
Bye.
No. I've always dated older Ladies. Some have kids, are married, single but all older. I understand I'm the Fun guy. They want to have fun and I provide that. Big Time. I'm just about having fun right now. I'm always ready to go. No, you can't trust a liar or a Cheater. I'm single so I don't have to worry about it. If my cheating neighbor came over we would hook up. That's all.
I'm married for a year to a guy I've dated for 2 years. I've only recently realized that he has been lying to me habitually since we started chatting. i realized it after talking to my mother-in-law and when i confronted him he shut me down and to him i was acting hysterical and i don't trust him over almost anything but i kinda started to accept it because it just hurt my feelings and since we have a son of 4 months old i don't want to just get a divorce just because I'm hurt. but now the lies has boiled over to our finances and that is going to influence my son which I'll never be okay with. what do i do? how do i go about this? he says that he doesn't know why he keeps lying to me and can't help it. please i need objective advice.
Hey your story sounds similar to mine. I have an almost 2 year old daughter with him amd dont feel its worth it to seperate because im a bit unhappy but also inding it hard. He is a wonderful partner and dad in mamy ways but i find it hard to feel close with him now and my love has died down. He continued to lie after saying he will stop and i told him it hurts me. Hes been lying his whole life to avoid getting in trouble. Its like a habit for him. May i ask what happened to your situation now, did you leave or stay? Did it get better?
Omg so like my relationship . He lied about so much but the big thing was a new house he said he'd bought me and kids and he came clean he lost the house 8 months ago . But won't show any paper work to prove that he had even bought it. Together almost 3 years together im heartbroken xxx
Liars enjoy triangulating their lovers for negative attention. If you're ever triangulated with the 'oh, he's just a guy' move on.
Coffee is already too late. That chick is cheating or is about to. There is no stopping it. TELL HER NOTHING! Just walk away with no explanation at all.
Not necessarily. I went for coffee with a gay psychologist because I wanted to talk to him about my special needs daughter.
Once a cheater always a cheater !
Leave these low tier women ALONE! No good can come from such women, you are not here to change them
NO
Never I gave her another chance in hoping she will change but when I was out of town for 3 months she was still talking to her ex partner
That answer would be a big fat NO!
Didn't work for me at all. My ex hid a guy in plain site for 7 years of our relationship. As a man you have to use what we're best at and that's our logic. No man is spending time with a woman without try to get in her paints unless he's gay or a relative
You help me alot. Going through a break up. I thank you. Buying your book.
To be fair. I use to go over a woman's house I really wanted to get with but I was told she was divorcing. I wouldn't get busy unless she actually left for good. I know I'm in a minority maybe even the only one o my kind. I use to just go right in for the poke. But now I want more. I basically play recon and observe. Just getting whatever I want isn't the point. I past that stage when I was 22.
But it's all about honor. I can't sell myself short just because it's what women expect of me. And mind you, she even spread a rumor I was gay hoping it would get me to be more aggressive. And once I realized that. I backed up further. I don't like being manipulated by some human trash.
I should have told her husband what she was doing. This awful woman had sex with his brother his father and his parole officer. Oh and his boss. She's the kind o woman that takes what she wants. Thinks being a winner means shooting fetenyl all day long.
I really feel bad for her husband. After hearing her stories which had him made as some villain of course it was obvious she was a lying piece of shit. I just felt if I told him this woman would probably manipulate him like they often do to every man. So I said nothing.
It's sad cause women tell each other bout men all time. But men don't listen to each other when it comes to women. And women can hurt you if you aren't as observant as I am.
Dam that's a sad story honestly. How can a women disrespect herself like that. Yeah stay away from toxic people Dana
I believe you're going to tell everybody what their lifestyles about even those you think have judged yourself by their own judgment calls their life is not everyone else's so stop trying to make everybody else's life the same everybody is equally different in their relationships
I'm constantly being lied to 😞.
greendayizzy :(
same girl, I'm pregnant and my NOW ex fiance is a douchebag. You don't need a liar in your life. There's better things in life to look forward to.
me too. its so painful. walk away. its what im doing rn
I'll date you because I got lied as well
Same but by the girl I was with for 5yrs 🖐🏻
NO! Just saved everyone 43 minutes.
No, you cant, but if u stay with them, u need to watch them like a hawk, look into phone constantly use detectives, and camras and recording devices, if she or he knows they cant lie and get away with it, they will start telling the truth, because they have to.
The Channel lmao got damn
who wants to live like that and sleep with one eye open. Walk away with your head high and never look back . He or She is for the streets.
Then you get those cheating bf's who will in fact cheat but after the breakup claim his ex gf cheated to anyone that'll listen smear campaigning her name....
When people share their story and someone like Corey comments when learn a lot. We learn what to red flags to watch for so we can avoid many potential pains and troubles. We all spend so many years in school yet they do not teach us their self-respect and self -love.
Man, the email story you read at 13:30 I relate so much to, only my bf was the one being deceptive. He just broke up with his ex before dating me and apparently wasn't over his x cuz I later found he was still keeping in contact with her for the first year of our relationship behind my back and lying to me about it. I caught him and he finally fessed up that he still had feelings for her. Ouch. The only reason I stayed was because I was pregnant with his daughter and scared to be n my own and didn't know what to do. I tried to forgive him but it hurt me so much what he did and he never really worked hard to repair the trust. He never really ever made me feel special either...it really damaged my self esteem. It's been 3 years now and I've only got more depressed and he still lies and is a total asshole. I'm trying to figure out a plan to leave. Just don't know how yet and feeling stuck :-/
Amethyst3313 please tell me you left that guy
So did you leave him?
Amethyst3313 😭😭😭😭😭😭 same here, I’m lost...
Amethyst3313 you leave. Dont let being alone keep you into a toxic relationship
Been in the exact same spot. My ex lied to me about cheating for a year, I caught her with some really flaky crap in her phone. She admits to "having bad judgement". No bitch you cheated! She felt as long as I didn't catch her with her skirt hiked around her waist that I didn't have enough evidence. For a while that was true but enough circumstantial evidence came about to convict her twice when I started writing things down.(she was a hell of a gaslighter)
She was so empty thats she didn't feel like she did anything wrong and did close to nothing to repair the trust. And when she did her efforts lasted for about 2 weeks and then she was back. I finally realized that she would never change. The last thing she did was the last straw. People reach that conclusion at different times. Keep watching these videos your opportunity will come. Good luck!
The guy I'm currently with, has cheated on every woman he's ever been with with someone from the office. Knowing that, every time he says he's going out for drinks with someone from the office, even if he says it's a guy, I can't trust him. When I voice my concerns, he tells me I'm just insecure and have trust issues, and that history doesn't always repeat itself, and that he shouldn't be punished for his past forever. I have caught him lying to me on more than one occasion about where he's been and what he's been doing, so this is not ancient history. Should I ever even bother trying to trust him?
Nope!
Corey, finally a decent logical male mind, man you are a fucking legend and leader!!! You had just helped me to understand so many fucking things, god bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Really? So if a spouse cheats and lies about it and gets caught, makes major efforts to change including counseling, then once a cheater always a cheater?
Most likely they are wired to be deceivers and will have slip ups. Nothing is 100% either way but most likely you will be sleeping with one eye open the rest of your life. Who wants to deal with that. i can see maybe trying if there are kids involved but even then. If a person loves you they would not cheat point blank period. It takes to much effort and things to happen to cheat for it just to happen.
You're obviously a cheater 🤣
Yea they don’t change
Once my car was in mechanic, my girlfriend was late to pick me up. Before she came I exercised, went to shower, dressed up very sharp and put my cologne on. When she came one hour late, I cancelled our reservation in this expensive Italian restaurant. Asked her kindly to wait me in the living room. Put those Chinese Oriental Kung Fu Pajama that was given to me as gift. I never forget her face :D She was in shock and she asked me where are we going, if its a surprise. I said 'we are going to your home, we only have time to sleep because its very late.' She was never late ever again. She was angry at first, but she got my point, she find it hillarious and she said I must be very brave and not afraid to lose her. We laughed about it after some time passed. When I don't like something I always challenge girls like this, they find it interesting. Because no men ever acts like that to them, they always tolerate everything. Thats why she will not respect you, and just like the coach says you will invite more of that behavior. If you want to gain her respect stand up for yourself, let her know what you don't like.
Question: if my SO lies about everything is it safe to assume she's cheating or would have no problem cheating? I was raised to believe a liar a cheat and a thief are one in the same. She lies and steals constantly and I just have this overwhelming feeling she's cheating as well
If she's a pathological liar like that, and you have proof that she's lying constantly, then that should be a red flag in and of itself, and you should be considering moving on because you deserve better. Her lying does not necessarily mean that she's also cheating, but like Corey Wayne says "flip a coin".
Short answer...NO
Epic wow this has shed so much light on my past relationship!
The only person you can trust is yourself.
Nope. In no way shape or form is that coffee meant to be platonic experience I can say that that is just covering basis. Was there a guy? yes. Did he invite her for coffee? Yes. Is she being honest? Yes. But what I am getting from this is that the neighbor did not give her a time as of when he would be stopping by. And by telling this to her boyfriend she is covering up any potential problems that may arise if the guy happens to stop by when her boyfriend is there. I may be wrong but that's what I get from listening to this.
love how you look like you are almost going to giggle at reading your some behaviours so cute ahem. Seriously great advice too thank you 👍🏻
Goddamn, that quote hit the nail in the head. Well put.
If it coils up & rattles, back off and go !
I never have dates. Pretty sad. No whistling to spoil me here.
also I'm very honest and straight forward, my bf says I'm too honest and blunt. I'm working on tact and being more mindful. is there such as too honest.
StankyJuju 11:11 No you're perfect just the way you are honesty is the master key to trust he's lucky to have someone like you from that aspect
You’re prob just a bitch
It's not what u say, but how u say it
Corey I love your face! This video helped me so much! THANK YOU!!
what if your the devoted loyal woman but your man has drinks with a female customer or coworker and has cheated and lied in the past. i feel like the level of integrity that i have isn't completely there and he doesn't understand how that is disrespectful and hurtful. also he didn't come right out with this i had to ask him if he had drinks with her, but he did tell me she hit on him allot and offered her number to him even after he told her he is involved, but he wasn't straight forward with telling her no. he said he just kept saying oookay, says he through the number in the trash. btw he is a tattoo shop owner and his shop is by a bar. please help am i crazy.
drop him. You don't want anyone who isn't honest with you
Probably cheated on you that very Night
I think its obvious he knew what he was doing and playing dumb
Why are people so deceitful? It is just so unnecessary.
If all else fails, what would James Bond do??????????????????
The last e-mail...Dude tell them once about being late and if they make a effort to correct it then great.But if not,tell them kiss your ass and walkaway.YOUR TIME IS PRICELESS! TIME IS THE ONE THING THAT CAN'T BE REGAINED AND THE REASON WHY TIME IS SO PRICELESS,IS BECAUSE IT WILL RUN OUT.
On that last one regarding lateness...have you ever been out, alone, and had the woman your supposed to be meeting arrive TWO HOURS late, at the original meeting place (when you're in pub number 3 or 4 by that point, always telling her where you were when you moved venue), and had her only let you know she'd arrived literally 5 minutes before you left to get the last bus home...and never actually meet her???
Corey Corey Corey - U are spot in most respects - however a lot of times people become deceitful to keep the peace and have a smoother transition for a myriad of good valid reasons.....finances....jealousy....kids....nosy family......manipulative controlling partner...destructive partner etc....so u can't blanket statement that because there's a secret unless this is a clean cut scenario and she's a devious liar....just isn't the case. I lie to manipulators because they are dangerous and it is a valid time to be a liar ----- being honest with some individuals can be dangerous, costly, overwhelming.....life threatening even....sorry but there are very pertinent times to lie......you as a man must know this c'mon
Amen to that!
MineAllMine lies are still lies you as a strong woman must see that coin.
U speaking straight facts my nigga straight facts
R y
This is such a feminine approach to interaction. lol
The sad part fore was I knew the moment He first lied..and everytime I called his lies out..but a he habitual liar I called him ; " A serial liar "! He breathed and lied as he breathed inhale and exhale a lie.., all day long ..I put him out of my world .. totally !...I hate lies...
I think partners lie when they are afraid of starting conflict or rocking the boat. They want to have their cake and eat it too
is good for a man to see a woman as a liar that very good. Even the woman don't do those things no more they will still look at you the same way;they feel to look at you. I was was listening to my apostle johnson when he was preaching from one of his video, he said when somebody have confident in themselves nothing will bothers them or shake them. Is like me,is like the Apostle was talking to me directly. I have big confidence in myself. Some of my pastors or people who knows me they know how correct I am before God and man. I refused to convince any body to know the truth about me no way because nothing bothers me or shake me to the sight of God.I am not looking for love or survival I am looking from God for more grace and glory that my goal and dream over my life not those minor things. great video to listening to continue to make more sir God bless you so much.
me
Short answer is no.
She was good for 6 year's then started lying and monkey branched me 😢
I knew someone was lying to me again and again. I ignored it because I wanted to believe them. I’m not use to spending time with liars, so it was a weird feeling.
Same
Same
I feel like I understand what you're saying.are you saying a woman will tell you sublimably that she cheap
That she fuk around
Wow how right you are.
I’ve been with my lady almost 15 years and married 6 years with two kids, I found out 2 days ago she slept with my friend 12 years ago what should I do?
@@wingallowingallomy3909 dump her like a hot rock.