Intro to Long Hair Community Terminology + How to Find Your Hair Type!!

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  • Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024

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  • @naturallyantonia
    @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +12

    Hey everyone, I will be trying out the SMT treatment soon and plan to film it. I forgot to mention I tried it years ago and it was a disaster, I had used Jason's Long and Strong Conditioner. The Jason's mixed with Aloe and honey left my hair weighted down and greasy. This time I'll be trying it with Aquableu tea tree oil conditioner. Curious to see what happens. My hypothesis is that it will work out better when combined with the tea tree oil conditioner. 💜 Also what is your hair type? And are there any terms you would like to add? Should I make a part two? Let me know below 👇

  • @anthonycox2374
    @anthonycox2374 3 года назад +15

    That Antonia chick is an amazing teacher!

  • @EverybodyLovesMaria
    @EverybodyLovesMaria 3 года назад +3

    "The number doesn't really look like that type but that's okay" ---- omg, I love you :) 😄

  • @bethanyrutta2377
    @bethanyrutta2377 3 года назад +3

    3BMll and hip length. Thank you! This was so helpful!

  • @lesleyelder2826
    @lesleyelder2826 3 года назад +3

    Loved it 😍 explained so easily 💗
    I have 1c, F, ii. I'm a member of the LHC and its an amazing place to be .
    Take care 🙂💕

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      Aww that's amazing Lesley! Once I leave IG I plan to be more active in there. ❤️

  • @sylviat5211
    @sylviat5211 3 года назад +7

    Funny introduction, reminded me of Austin Powers movie

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +2

      Aww thanks! Love Austin Powers, oh behave!. 🤓😉💜

  • @justjackieslonghair
    @justjackieslonghair 3 года назад +3

    Love this so much Antonia! Great introduction into the LHC! Love your videos! 💜

  • @wsfio
    @wsfio 5 месяцев назад +1

    now I know my hair type is 1BMIII and BSL! on my way to grow it out, thanks for the video

  • @berrrybat
    @berrrybat 3 года назад +2

    1AM1 and almost armpit length! I feel like I've learned so much about myself!

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      Your hair sounds beautiful! ❤️ And yay for learning!

  • @lildoseofrose
    @lildoseofrose 3 года назад +4

    So awesome thanks for this video! You explained it so well.
    My hair is armpit length but my goal is classic length. Once I achieve that, my ultimate goal is knee length.
    My hair type is 2AMII and low porosity.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      Aw you're welcome! Your hair sounds so pretty! And what wonderful goals❤️

    • @lildoseofrose
      @lildoseofrose 3 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia thank you so much! I’m a new sub & have been binging on your videos for the past 2 days. You’re so sweet and down to earth hehe Do you do hair growth challenges? Can you do one for fall/winter? Really want to grow my hair out longer & healthier 🥰🥰

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      Aww thank you so much!! I am thinking of doing a challenge for balancing hormones that could certainly impact hair growth. 💜

    • @lildoseofrose
      @lildoseofrose 3 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia omg that would be great! Can't wait to watch that once you post it. Also another random suggestion if you can do a video to talk about pre-mature gray hairs and remedies for it...I'm 31 and have tons of gray hairs and Idk what to do 😓 I have sensitive, dry, flaky scalp and the last resort is to dye it so I'm at a loss and am looking for a solution if there's any

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад

      @@lildoseofrose Hi Rose, for premature greys you can do tulsi tea rinses. I made a video on it. You can also take the supplement PABA to help with greying.ruclips.net/video/byN2P-613FI/видео.html

  • @TheGabygael
    @TheGabygael 2 года назад +2

    1a-f/m-II
    Current length: chest
    Next goal: mid back
    Ultimate goal: terminal length

  • @markybee7672
    @markybee7672 3 года назад +1

    The end was brilliant you really should do more videos of brushing and playing with your gorgeous hair

    • @166PolarBear
      @166PolarBear 3 года назад +1

      I agree, her gorgeous hair is why we guys visit her site and we love seeing it played with and brushed

  • @166PolarBear
    @166PolarBear 3 года назад +1

    It’s about time the lovely Antonia did a new video

  • @thefantasticnerd6076
    @thefantasticnerd6076 3 года назад +5

    I’ve 4c hair!!!

  • @bricemalapel5190
    @bricemalapel5190 3 года назад +1

    Hello antonia its brice the french !! Its a very interessing video . I was so fascinate by your explain hair lenght with your photo and you expérience !! Hope to see the next !!

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад

      Thank you so much Brice for all your support ❤️☺️

  • @sleepyote
    @sleepyote 3 года назад +2

    Nice video! I'm so new, I didn't even know there was a long hair community lol. I'm at armpit or bra length, and am shooting for waist or hip length. :)

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      Welcome :) Yes it's pretty cool to meet people and share progress. You got this! Thank you for sharing 💜

  • @MioHasMoe
    @MioHasMoe 2 года назад +2

    2b/c f/m iii
    Current length: waist
    Ultimate goal length:classic

  • @angelicagrills7123
    @angelicagrills7123 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for the video. I have 3B, M, III hair. I think III. Depending if I braid it when damp to protect my the ends of my curls then the braid is more II. If I just put my hair in a ponytail after it is all the way dry then it is III. I use the CGM and started to use rinses and LCO (leave in, cream, and oil) since I have low porosity. I will definitely share this video.

  • @JuliasHairJourney
    @JuliasHairJourney 3 года назад +2

    I have super long hair and four years ago had no clue what classic length was when people started asking me about that. Now my hair is upper calf length, and it is a chore to keep going, but I am doing it for my own entertainment at this point. Someone asked JJLongHair if that chart was her, and she said it was not. She mentioned it is a photo-shopped image of someone else, but I used to think it was her.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +2

      Wow your hair so long! That's incredible! Thanks for clarifying that up about the long hair chart. It looks so much like her hair. ❤️

    • @Sweetbeariesart
      @Sweetbeariesart 3 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia I only learned it recently. I am amazed by some of the recent videos she has made public again. There is one about butterflies landing in her hair. It is pretty.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      I'll have to check that one out. Her videos are always so artistic. She is the pioneer of long hair as art. ❤️

    • @rhythmicelegance4670
      @rhythmicelegance4670 3 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia Yes! I do so many of her hairstyles. Another favourite rapunzel Andrea Colson Stano aka Andrea 691 also has a beautiful blog and IG of her ornate hairstyles done on her ankle-length tresses. She recovered from a hair disaster years ago (the story which she has on her blog) and demonstrates that hair can be restored and beyond conventional lengths. She was an inspiration to me partly because of having experienced something similar, and now my hair is somewhat past classic length, very much looking forward to mid-thigh next.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      @@rhythmicelegance4670 Ah yes I'm familiar with Andrea as well. I have done her folded braids before with the claw clips. ❤️

  • @hairofanna5130
    @hairofanna5130 3 года назад +2

    Love this video😍 so basic and informative🥰💗👏🏼

  • @hairexplained629
    @hairexplained629 3 года назад +1

    Amazing video Antonia ❤️ I always look forward too see your videos, so informative and unique 😍

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      Aww thank you so much Alexandra! I enjoyed your last video. You are very informative and unique as well. 💜

    • @hairexplained629
      @hairexplained629 3 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia you're so kind 🥺 thank you 💝

  • @Savanyy
    @Savanyy 9 месяцев назад +1

    3aClll - my hair type. Curly, coarse, high density. With my hair stretched out I’m a little past bra strap length.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  9 месяцев назад

      Sounds beautiful, bouncy, curly, thick, and long! 😍💜

  • @halimahashi3884
    @halimahashi3884 3 года назад +2

    I would say my hair Is hip/tailbone and 1c when brushed and 2a when unbrushed

  • @gizsama
    @gizsama 3 года назад +1

    Beautiful video!!!💖🥰 Ty Antonia! 💗💗💗

  • @TimmyTickle
    @TimmyTickle 3 года назад +1

    Nice cameo by Christina ;)

  • @Lolalovesfood
    @Lolalovesfood 2 года назад +1

    Thanks for being you

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад

      Aww you're welcome! I love that phrase Lola, made me smile :) And thank you for being you! ❤️

  • @frubs1495
    @frubs1495 2 года назад +1

    Thankyou so much this was so helpful!!

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад

      You're welcome. Happy to hear you found it helpful ❤️

  • @larsrapunzel2297
    @larsrapunzel2297 3 года назад +1

    Still growing mine!

  • @emilyelizabeth7062
    @emilyelizabeth7062 3 года назад +3

    my hair is mid back length, but i’m 5’10 and a long torso so it is SOOO long. i always get told i should cut it but i refuse.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      I agree with you Emily, your hair sounds so long! Sorry to hear others are telling you to cut your hair. Sounds like your hair brings you joy, keep on doing what makes you happy. ❤️

    • @markybee7672
      @markybee7672 3 года назад

      Dont you dare cut it,wear it long and be proud of it, actually, keep growing to make a really bold statement

  • @davidmcgrath6977
    @davidmcgrath6977 3 года назад +1

    Beautiful long hair

  • @thegracklepeck
    @thegracklepeck 2 года назад

    Mine is somewhere between 1c and 2a. The top is more 1c but the underside is more consistently 2a if allowed to air dry. If I blow it dry it'll be more 1b-1c. Fine and a solid ii in thickness. I'm still growing out my bangs and they don't reach the hair tie yet.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад

      Sounds so so pretty. I love wavy hair. Also because you have bangs, there is a chance your hair is thicker in density, especially once they reach your hair tie. ❤️

  • @emptylotionbottle
    @emptylotionbottle Год назад +1

    I have HL 😃 it still gets stuck in my armpit though and everywhere else lol

  • @Arginne
    @Arginne 6 месяцев назад

    I’ve been waist length before but it gets so scraggly and thin at the bottoms and see through no matter what I do. My goal is tailbone but thick

  • @JOVE23
    @JOVE23 3 года назад +1

    yaaay this is super useful :)

  • @markybee7672
    @markybee7672 3 года назад +1

    On a normal day,how do you wear your hair,I'm betting its in a bun and whats your favourite way to wear it

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      Usually a bun to work. Especially now in the summer that it's been hot. On weekends or when I'm kicking back at home a braid or down. 💜

  • @Anna-LenaMusic
    @Anna-LenaMusic 3 года назад +2

    Thank you so much!!💜 It has helped me so much! My hair is 1BMll 😊
    And I have a question: 3 months ago I cut my long hair because it was very dry and had a lot of split ends. At that time I didn't care for it at all. I've changed all of that now. My hair thank me very much for this and I see a huge difference. Only when I go to sleep I can no longer put my hair together. I have almost shoulder-length hair now and don't know how to put it together to a braid or something. Can you please help me?What can I do to protect my hair? 🦋

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +2

      Your hair sounds similar to mine. :) You could do a ponytail with a scrunchie. You may also be able to do a Dutch or French braid at your length. There are satin and Silk bonnets as well, I personally do not find them comfortable, but you never know you may enjoy them.💜

    • @Anna-LenaMusic
      @Anna-LenaMusic 3 года назад

      @@naturallyantonia Thank you so so much! I‘ll wear a ponytail ☺️

  • @EmilyRTurk
    @EmilyRTurk 3 года назад +2

    Thanks for this helpful information, Antonia! When you measure the length of your hair, is it when it is wet or dry? I have 2CMII type hair (which you just taught me), so when my hair is dry, it is a few inches shorter then when it is wet. Thank you!!

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      You're welcome Emily! I typically measure dry. Since you are in the wavy/curly type I would do both. I feel like curls and waves can change so much due to humidity and other factors, where in your case, measuring wet may be better. ❤️

    • @bethanyrutta2377
      @bethanyrutta2377 3 года назад +2

      I’m curly 3B and lose 4-6 inches in shrinkage so I measure by pulling down on one curl.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing! 💜

  • @birendrapandey1651
    @birendrapandey1651 3 года назад +2

    Ur hair is amazing dear I like ur long hair.

  • @stevehughes5949
    @stevehughes5949 2 года назад +1

    Your husband's a lucky man.

  • @sumaiyarahmanmim193
    @sumaiyarahmanmim193 2 года назад +1

    I guess my hair length is in hip length...it’s 26 inches...& hair type should be 2BF|| (wavey)

  • @troebeliewoep
    @troebeliewoep 2 года назад +1

    Thanks for this video! I really really want LONG hair. My goal is to get tailbone or classic. Right now its midback, and the most long bits are touching my waist. Since the bottom is fairytale ends, what would i class it?

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад +1

      You're very welcome, thanks for watching! :)
      With layers or fairytail ends, I always consider the longest part your length. You don't want to discredit that length for all the years you spent growing ;).
      You got this, tailbone and classic are such a beautiful length. After I made this video I cut to waist and now a year later I'm approaching tailbone again. So hypothetically, you could reach tailbone in a year, of course depending on your growth rate, how much you get trimmed off, and how tall you are.
      All the best in your journey! :) 💜

  • @emptylotionbottle
    @emptylotionbottle Год назад +1

    I'm confused lol. My tailbone is actually RIGHT above where my buttcrack starts so I thought TBL was shorter than BCL. Is something wrong with me 😂😅

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  Год назад

      Nothing is wrong with you :) The bone you are referring to is the scarum, lower back and above butt. I used to think that was TBL. A lot of people confuse that with the tailbone. Tailbone is further down. If I have never taken anatomy I wouldn't have known. Hopefully that made more sense. Thanks for watching 💚🌿

  • @maxmillianvalentim6123
    @maxmillianvalentim6123 3 года назад +2

    Long hair 👏👏👏

  • @mariahhall8481
    @mariahhall8481 2 года назад +1

    Is A.C.V good for people with medium to thick hair and who wants to switch to natural haircare products? ❤️🥰

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад +1

      Absolutely🍎 it will help clear up any build up, make your thick hair look even thicker and help with shine ♥️ thanks for watching my videos and for the sweet comments!

  • @wiseguyfrank1
    @wiseguyfrank1 3 года назад +1

    I Love your videos

  • @omgiloveyou4665
    @omgiloveyou4665 3 года назад +1

    Please do the smt tutorial

  • @ishansharma3138
    @ishansharma3138 3 года назад +1

    😘your video is awesome👏

  • @laiapbazan
    @laiapbazan 2 года назад +1

    Hi Antonia

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад +1

      Hi Laia, there website has been really weird the last few years, I haven't been able to log on and when I did, it wouldn't let me post.
      A lot of the members are on the Long Hair Community Face Book group.
      ❤️

  • @LongHairCarolyn
    @LongHairCarolyn 3 года назад +1

    So cute!

  • @davidmcgrath6977
    @davidmcgrath6977 3 года назад +1

    Awesome hair

  • @tuanyiji
    @tuanyiji 2 года назад +1

    Hi, love your content and I'm a new subscriber, currently, my longest strand just reached my tailbone, I haven't had a haircut since before the pandemic so they are long, I take good care of them, never use heat/dye, I use hot oil treatment every week, and cut off the split ends whenever I see one, so the locks are very healthy, but in general, it doesn't look voluminous, do you think I should trim the ends for a few inches? I've been lurking on Instagram and I saw that many long hair beauties have the letters "SSS" on their profile, it often follows by a number like 80 or 100, the length I guess, can you tell me what exactly SSS means?

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад

      Aw thanks so much for the sweet comment and your support! Getting a trim is always a good idea for hair health, doesn't need to be drastic usually a half of inch to a inch is good for trimming but still allowing your hair to show visable growth. Whether you want thick blunt ends is totally subjective and up to you. A lot of people love having u or v shapes for the movement of hair. Always start small with trims, because you can always cut more off.
      I've never heard SSS used with hair, I'm not sure. I have seen SL meaning starting length, CL current length, and GL goal length, UGL ultimate goal length. Let me know if you find out what SSS means, now you got me curious ;)
      I wish you all the best on your journey, and congratulations on reaching tailbone! ❤️

    • @tuanyiji
      @tuanyiji 2 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia Hi, I just found out SSS somehow means Front-Top-Tips, the length of hair lol 😂 mine would be SSS 80 cm then.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад

      I would have never have guessed, thanks for the update! And wow your hair is long! ❤️

  • @TheAksutti233
    @TheAksutti233 3 года назад +1

    Amazing longhair women

  • @markybee7672
    @markybee7672 3 года назад +1

    Do you think you'll regrow your hair to classic length again ?

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад

      I may. Tailbone to classic comes pretty quick for me. ❤️☺️

    • @markybee7672
      @markybee7672 3 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia I like classic length the best, anything longer in my opinion can loose its elegance and grace as the ends can become thinner and tatty

  • @annie-eq2ye
    @annie-eq2ye 3 года назад +1

    hey girl ! my hair has been lowkey falling out in the shower like about 10-15 strands :( any tips on what to do other then biotin and any shampoo recs ????

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад

      Hey Annie, 10 to 15 strands sounds pretty normal to lose in the shower. It sounds like it's pretty abnormal for you though. I'm curious how often you wash? I noticed in the past when I would stretch my washes out I would notice more hair fall in the shower. Tips to stop hair fall, a lot of it is stress related and hormone related, make time for self care, however that looks for you, whether it's a bubble bath or going for a walk, doing yoga, art, etc. Also I always recommend getting a check up making sure your labs are good. For hormone balance I'm a fan of maca. I love teeccino maca chocolate herbal coffees. I also love vitex, DIM, and ashwagandha for hormone balance and stress relief. For shampoos Aquableu and Maple Holistics are my favs. Aquableu makes an anti thinning line and they also have a biotin line, I haven't tried their biotin line but have heard such good things about it. I love their tea tree line and lavender vanilla line. For maple holistics their winter edition mint line is one of my favs and their argan shampoo and conditioner. ♥️

    • @annie-eq2ye
      @annie-eq2ye 3 года назад

      @@naturallyantonia hey ! omg wow i am so grateful for this advice. Thank you so so so much. I will look into aquablu!!! I acc started to shower less I use to like everyday or 3-4 times but now only twice!!! Thank you tho for all this i will look into the biotin line 💓💓💓💓💓💓 I also would like to add i do sometimes have pimples and scabs on my head idk why

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      Pimples and scabs I recommend the tea tee line. Both Aquableu and Maple Holistics make a fantastic tea tree oil line. I get this too. I also like to use Selsun Blue Naturals once or twice a month to clarify my scalp, it contains salicylic Acid which is great for pimples, sebboric dermatitis, dandruff, and other scalp issues. Ohh and hair rinses, love acv and herbal rinses, I share some recipes on my channel, great for clarifying the scalp and preventing hair fall. ❤️

    • @annie-eq2ye
      @annie-eq2ye 3 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia THANK YOU SO SO SO SO MUCH. OMG. THANK YKU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART AHHHH

    • @emilphoryew9436
      @emilphoryew9436 3 года назад +2

      Supplement with inositol powder.

  • @halimahashi3884
    @halimahashi3884 2 года назад +1

    Is it possible to have mid classic length hair?

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад +1

      Do you mean when it is to the middle of your butt? That is tailbone. We could totally make mid classic length a thing though. 🙂❤️

    • @halimahashi3884
      @halimahashi3884 2 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia yh we could , be more specific haha

    • @halimahashi3884
      @halimahashi3884 2 года назад +1

      Gonna be four yr anniversary since traumatic hair cut

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад +1

      @@halimahashi3884 For sure! Let me know what your thoughts are on that length and where it would fall. :)

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  2 года назад +1

      @@halimahashi3884 I'm so happy for you. You are making so much progress and growth. 💪❤️

  • @abbiewheatley4961
    @abbiewheatley4961 3 года назад +1

    I'm so gutted about my hair 2years ago my hair was bsl ive been going backwards n forwards for last 2years I keep bleaching n dying. I managed to get to mid back beginning of this year then I stupidly bleached it again it started breaking so had to cut it again I went a darker blonde in May but got bored now its split dye pink n purple ive got over 2" of regrowth. Do you have any tips or advice on how I can grow it healthy n thickening it up its so much thinner then last year. I do take biotin hsn collagen n vitamin c x

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад

      Sounds like you are doing well taking supplements and you did a big trim which is key in thickening up the ends. To thicken up your volume you want to focus on stopping hair fall. So wearing protective styles to bed, wearing a lot of buns and braids. Also because of the bleach use, your hair will need a lot of hydration treatments. Things like leave in conditioners, hair oils, hair serums may help give your hair that extra hydration in addition to deep conditioning and hair masks. 💜

    • @abbiewheatley4961
      @abbiewheatley4961 3 года назад +1

      @@naturallyantonia my hair doesn't fall out that's the thing I hardly lose anything I think its because of the colouring and bleaching. I wear a braid to bed every night n sleep on satin pillowcase. I've currently got hair oil mask on I do alot of olaplex. Do u think I would do better if I was to give up the bleach and dye or just the bleach im sick of keep going round in circles x

    • @abbiewheatley4961
      @abbiewheatley4961 3 года назад

      Hair serums I currently use are olaplex 7 morrocan oil and I use a serum before bed by kerastase do u recommend any others

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад

      I love the rose elixir by the innate life. A lot of good oils in there. It's really concentrated so a little goes a long way and smells fantastic! ❤️

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад

      Yes, I would stop bleaching for awhile and give your hair a break.

  • @shabanadaryoush9427
    @shabanadaryoush9427 3 года назад +2

    You are so cute Antonia 😘😘

  • @rac7773
    @rac7773 3 года назад +2

    If this woman was any more sizzling, her couch would burst into flames. Lol

  • @emilphoryew9436
    @emilphoryew9436 3 года назад +2

    Not to be a downer but frankly many of the women on Long Hair Community aren't nice and treat men on their web site with contempt as if they're subhuman beings. Sure I like the web site, just not the membership. Too many man haters there. This is a warning to men who join the site. Many aren't nice and have a prejudice against men. Also be careful what you say there! Anything where you challenge one's beliefs about anything is not tolerated there and you will get quickly banned. Basically the level of tolerance and thinking there is close to zero.

    • @naturallyantonia
      @naturallyantonia  3 года назад +1

      I'm so sorry to hear you had a bad experience on the website. I haven't been active on years in the forum. I remember quite a few long haired men members. Perhaps try the Facebook long hair community groups, there seems to be an increasing number of long haired men joining., 💜

  • @birendrapandey1651
    @birendrapandey1651 3 года назад

    Hi Ma'am u r married