a lot of the time i find one becomes obssesed with the idea of another, rather than the person itself. i also understand a corralation between ones own desires and fears, and the creation of a fake character. I think we put others on a pedestal mostly because of this narrative that we find someone who completes us, and makes us whole, and that person is someone who is beautiful and loghts up the whole room and bla blah blah. I think such an idea of love is so absurd and disconnected that we find ourselves taking inspiration of narratives rather than acting as our selves, causing us to see someone as a reflection of our own wants, and not whatever they really are. i think we sometimes end up seeing others as a means to our own experience and happiness, rather than seeing them as their own experience to be adjusted to.
32 year old guy here. Obviously, girls that are just pretty (at least that’s all you know about them) should not be on a pedestal. But, again obviously, there really are some women out there that are the complete package: pretty, intelligent, level-headed, friendly, charismatic, etc. If you feel like you are deficient in one or many of these qualities, it’s hard to not see someone like this as above you, beyond you. But thats okay as long as that’s not the end of it. If you see someone on a pedestal, then start climbing. Improve yourself until you feel like you’re more on their level, then they won’t be on the pedestal anymore 👍
Truth has been spoken here. I always feel this is way too good to be true ngl, that's what my instinct always tells me, when I see a great looking gurl dm me on any social media or liking my selfies and so on, I don't want to put myself in potentially bad situations , waiting for them at least to open up more, and getting to know them better, why is this so complicated to understand this simple concept for some guys nowadays? I see so many dudes going blindly falling into that trap not even knowing who they are, that can only end up freaking disastrous, and it doesn't surprise me.
Thanks for spitting the truth. I think we all need to take a break from focusing on relationships. There are dozens of other important things to invest in. Improving your body and mind is way more satisfying and rewarding than a relationship.
You have a rare perspecitive. I know because I feel the same as I have experienced it myself, I, myself am a male at 23. I was once 15 and 18. I see your point of view on a level you don't even know. Life can have so many ups and downs. This current stage in my life, I'm just getting to the beginning of what I choose it to be. This is so intimidating for a single person of any gender, that be female or male. This video better go viral as big as the video of the boy talking about the different planes of existence. You have a rare gift to see into things not many a lot of people can do. Your power is, like i said, perspective. Your intuition is so strong within you that I think you could make a big impact in the world if you learn how to harness it and use for greatness. Thank you for whoever is reading this and have a blessed life.
Its called idealization, its part of love. Its just that some women are not capable of receiving, they simply want to give (to be the mother). This is envy in the Kleinian terms. The issue mostly is not about if someone idealizes you, but how you react to it. There is also a societal collective need to idealize women, because women are mothers. And a child needs what is called a good object, even if the object is not actually good in the real world. This is also the origin of issues with people, who have the tendency to try to turn s*th into gold. As child has no abilito to change reality, the defenses are always based in fantasy. And the bad object needs to be made into a good object as the child needs a good object.
Doesn't matter if the other person thinks and acts like they're on a pedestal. Not everyone is approachable. Most people won't give you the time of day.
I wish I could just love, be loved and have fun and a reason to fight in life. Women acting ugly just removes all that. And from what I have observed those who treat women ugly, almost lives best lives. With rare exception of actually mentally sound women, of which all of course gets take nearly in their 20s or even before that. Still have a hope that somehow there is a normal woman for me, and then when I meet her, I must not show her how much I like her. But that makes sense, because she might be ugly too, you never know till you don't live together for some time.
Instruction unclear Absolutely, you deserve a celebration worthy of a pedestal! You are nothing short of remarkable, radiating brilliance, warmth, and an unwavering strength that inspires everyone around you. Your kindness knows no bounds, your intelligence is unmatched, and your charisma lights up any room you enter. With a heart as pure as gold and a mind sharper than any sword, you elevate the spirits of everyone fortunate enough to know you. Your resilience, grace, and dedication to everything you do make you a living legend, an icon, a force of nature. If there’s anyone who deserves endless admiration and the utmost respect, it’s you-truly a rare gem in a world that often overlooks such genuine, shining souls. If I had a pedestal, you’d be on the very top, admired by all, and rightfully so!
I just found your channel a couple days ago, very happy to see one of your videos this morning. I hope you see this comment now because soon you’ll have thousands of subscribers and not have time to look at the comments !
You can draw parallels between animals and humans too that way. You see cute lion or polar bear in wild, you dont go and hug it, no matter how cute they look. Same goes with lots of cute looking fish and plants - they can also be poisonous.
As you have some experience you will see that every girls are far from being an perfect angel you imagine them to be. Heck, I'm not sure they are even close to 50% good. Treat them like a human accordingly, like your bratty sister that is full of trouble but you love her anyway.
Even if I wanted to put a woman on a pedestal, which I don't, I would first have to be visible to them. From what I've seen, women have put themselves on a pedestal and wouldn't even give 80 - 90% of men the time of day.
@@jamesd5532 The good news: it’s not the same 80/20 for every girl. You are what someone is looking for - even if you’re not what most people are looking for. That goes for everyone.
something about this feels wrong, about the people who win the olympic medals anyway, even if they are that smart or atheltic they still have flaws too right?
Only put her on a pedestal if she puts you on a pedestal. That way she won't manipulate you and you are on even ground, no pun intended. Old women and unattractive women are just as manipulate, sometimes more. Watch out.
Lmao yeah older women have just accumulated more game. But really I’d say only when you really know her. She could pretend to put you on a pedestal too. No need to go paranoid but just take your time getting to know people. And even then you never really do.
@@atticnana I've known some people for quite a long time that it's not just getting to know them past the surface, but also seeing them change over time. Nothing ever substantiated, just a lot of disappointments. If it wasn't for Bryan Johnson, I would say life is short and one should seize the opportunity when it arises.
why ? I appreciate you liking my channel and supporting it by commenting, liking and subscribing, and I appreciate you doing that, I am obviously very wise but I have a life outside those barely 20mn total of me yapping on this channel as of now, I am 100% human which means I am flawed by design, there are ugly sides of me you will never see online, and our paths are unlikely to cross in the real world, and even if we were to be on speaking terms for years, you would still never really know me. people on the internet are just people. a lot of energy goes into building up people in your mind. we are naturally attracted to light, we strive for God. search for God, nobody else will do anything for you.
I think people are tired with reality, which often is harsh. People want to live through the emotions of a romance, of meeting somebody perfect. We crave this, this is why both men and women tend to idolize person they've met, at least during initial phases of relationship. And you know what? Even if it's obvious that nobody is perfect, I feel it's worth to play on this in a relationship. It's worth to keep the fantasy going on, so the flame doesn't die off completely.
1:19 OMG she's so cute and pretty! I bet she has no flaws and would NEVER act in any way that doesn't align with my personal idea of a perfect woman!
@@alvin_row lmfao just rewatched that I can’t believe I did that on camera 🫣
I'm digging the audio quality in this one. And the message, too. Keep it up
thank you!
@@atticnana If you dont mind me asking how did you get the mic to sound like that? Is it jus the mic or did you have to edit the audio?
@@Durmomo0 its the telephone filter on fcp!
If you want to do it in general audio software you'll want to downsample and lowpass the audio. Fine tune the parameters to your liking! @@Durmomo0
@@atticnana
Jesus is the way, the truth and the life. Turn to him and repent from your sins today ❤️
A pedestal is just like respect; it is earned, not given.
a lot of the time i find one becomes obssesed with the idea of another, rather than the person itself. i also understand a corralation between ones own desires and fears, and the creation of a fake character.
I think we put others on a pedestal mostly because of this narrative that we find someone who completes us, and makes us whole, and that person is someone who is beautiful and loghts up the whole room and bla blah blah. I think such an idea of love is so absurd and disconnected that we find ourselves taking inspiration of narratives rather than acting as our selves, causing us to see someone as a reflection of our own wants, and not whatever they really are.
i think we sometimes end up seeing others as a means to our own experience and happiness, rather than seeing them as their own experience to be adjusted to.
32 year old guy here. Obviously, girls that are just pretty (at least that’s all you know about them) should not be on a pedestal. But, again obviously, there really are some women out there that are the complete package: pretty, intelligent, level-headed, friendly, charismatic, etc. If you feel like you are deficient in one or many of these qualities, it’s hard to not see someone like this as above you, beyond you. But thats okay as long as that’s not the end of it. If you see someone on a pedestal, then start climbing. Improve yourself until you feel like you’re more on their level, then they won’t be on the pedestal anymore 👍
Pilot announcements got really strange nowadays...
@@brianviktor8212 🗿
this feels like a 2016 type of vid
Try 2008 youngin
"You have to EARN that spot" - PERIOD!!!! 👏
Truth has been spoken here.
I always feel this is way too good to be true ngl, that's what my instinct always tells me, when I see a great looking gurl dm me on any social media or liking my selfies and so on, I don't want to put myself in potentially bad situations , waiting for them at least to open up more, and getting to know them better, why is this so complicated to understand this simple concept for some guys nowadays?
I see so many dudes going blindly falling into that trap not even knowing who they are, that can only end up freaking disastrous, and it doesn't surprise me.
It might look like a pretty obvious advice, but sometimes the obvious must be said. Good work!
Thank you!
Thanks for spitting the truth. I think we all need to take a break from focusing on relationships. There are dozens of other important things to invest in. Improving your body and mind is way more satisfying and rewarding than a relationship.
Being cute and pretty is worth a lot. You’ll understand someday
Exactly. An ugly dude approaching a pretty girl ain't gonna change anyone's minds
Wise words, thank you so much. I lowk really needed this. You’ve earned yourself a sub.
Thank you!
You have a rare perspecitive. I know because I feel the same as I have experienced it myself, I, myself am a male at 23. I was once 15 and 18. I see your point of view on a level you don't even know. Life can have so many ups and downs. This current stage in my life, I'm just getting to the beginning of what I choose it to be. This is so intimidating for a single person of any gender, that be female or male. This video better go viral as big as the video of the boy talking about the different planes of existence. You have a rare gift to see into things not many a lot of people can do. Your power is, like i said, perspective. Your intuition is so strong within you that I think you could make a big impact in the world if you learn how to harness it and use for greatness. Thank you for whoever is reading this and have a blessed life.
I really appreciate your comment. Thank you so much. God bless :)
Its called idealization, its part of love. Its just that some women are not capable of receiving, they simply want to give (to be the mother). This is envy in the Kleinian terms.
The issue mostly is not about if someone idealizes you, but how you react to it.
There is also a societal collective need to idealize women, because women are mothers. And a child needs what is called a good object, even if the object is not actually good in the real world. This is also the origin of issues with people, who have the tendency to try to turn s*th into gold. As child has no abilito to change reality, the defenses are always based in fantasy. And the bad object needs to be made into a good object as the child needs a good object.
Wow, that makes too much sense
Doesn't matter if the other person thinks and acts like they're on a pedestal. Not everyone is approachable. Most people won't give you the time of day.
You do a great job saying this. There 're so many men having hard time to understand it. 🙂
I feel like this channel's gonna blow up soon
I wish I could just love, be loved and have fun and a reason to fight in life. Women acting ugly just removes all that. And from what I have observed those who treat women ugly, almost lives best lives. With rare exception of actually mentally sound women, of which all of course gets take nearly in their 20s or even before that. Still have a hope that somehow there is a normal woman for me, and then when I meet her, I must not show her how much I like her. But that makes sense, because she might be ugly too, you never know till you don't live together for some time.
nobody who treats others badly feels content and happiness in their hearts, they can't even touch that
I wish I could tell my friends this in a way they would get, learning it the hard way makes it very obvious.
Thank you for pointing that out
Instruction unclear
Absolutely, you deserve a celebration worthy of a pedestal! You are nothing short of remarkable, radiating brilliance, warmth, and an unwavering strength that inspires everyone around you. Your kindness knows no bounds, your intelligence is unmatched, and your charisma lights up any room you enter. With a heart as pure as gold and a mind sharper than any sword, you elevate the spirits of everyone fortunate enough to know you. Your resilience, grace, and dedication to everything you do make you a living legend, an icon, a force of nature. If there’s anyone who deserves endless admiration and the utmost respect, it’s you-truly a rare gem in a world that often overlooks such genuine, shining souls. If I had a pedestal, you’d be on the very top, admired by all, and rightfully so!
that's a great morning affirmation to tell yourself in the mirror
first , new subscriber :3 second this is soo true ngl and also u r pretty
thank you so much!
ok, i will. *hits 'don't recommend on ur channel'*
fuck... this is real. misogyny is dehumanizing..... in both ways.
Real
Learnt this the hard way!
I just found your channel a couple days ago, very happy to see one of your videos this morning. I hope you see this comment now because soon you’ll have thousands of subscribers and not have time to look at the comments !
this is soo sweet thank you so much! :)
I understand what you're saying but I think I'm falling for you and I can't help it.
@@Nick-po5eq brother you don’t know me
you’re falling for an idea go take a run and delete your comment broski 🙏🏻 we all been there
@@atticnana He literally did the exact opposite to what you just said lol
Is that a comb filter or just the character of the microphone? Love the sound.
telephone filter on fcp :) thanks!
You can draw parallels between animals and humans too that way. You see cute lion or polar bear in wild, you dont go and hug it, no matter how cute they look. Same goes with lots of cute looking fish and plants - they can also be poisonous.
Yeah, the difference being that I'm not sexually attracted to animals and plants. lmao
@@hexagonalawareness3584 yea but people sometimes think anything cute and lovely must be also harmless. My comment was not about sexual attraction.
@@cyberdaemon Fair enough.
Girl stop spitting so many FACTS. Great vid
@@thechemical5062 Thank u
Thank you so much.
you’re welcome!
ive just put you on a pedestal
I have the opposite issue, i think the very large majority of women are barely human
As you have some experience you will see that every girls are far from being an perfect angel you imagine them to be. Heck, I'm not sure they are even close to 50% good. Treat them like a human accordingly, like your bratty sister that is full of trouble but you love her anyway.
OH YES IT IS THAT SIMPLE THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!
Ya fr girls drool boys rule 😂
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OK 10 sec in, and I think I get what she wants to say 🤔🤔🤔🤔
I should put myself on the pedestal, not the Girl 😎😎😎😎😎😎
omg you're perfect
Omg you're so cute! I feel like I should put you on a pedestal!
no simps allowed on this channel.. not for me, not for anyone. simp for yourself and become great
Chad @@atticnana
@@atticnana based beyond belief
Women have priveleges, that men don't... even if we dont put them on the table or on the chair or even on the pedestal..
and men have privileges that women dont even if they're broke what is your point
Where you've been 8 months ago 😭😭😭
The Magical Other…
lad is it odd that i’ve never had a crush before … like ever since childhood
@@sethstuffanimates8419 no
Even if I wanted to put a woman on a pedestal, which I don't, I would first have to be visible to them. From what I've seen, women have put themselves on a pedestal and wouldn't even give 80 - 90% of men the time of day.
that’s the game of nature and the nature of the game, gotta become great no way around it
You're correct. Its the 80-20 rule. 80% of women are only interested in 20% of the men.
@@jamesd5532 The good news: it’s not the same 80/20 for every girl. You are what someone is looking for - even if you’re not what most people are looking for. That goes for everyone.
something about this feels wrong, about the people who win the olympic medals anyway, even if they are that smart or atheltic they still have flaws too right?
yeah but they're literally on a podium for winning a medal lol
@@atticnana that's true
you make a great older sibling 👍
appreciate u 🙏🏻
Only put her on a pedestal if she puts you on a pedestal. That way she won't manipulate you and you are on even ground, no pun intended. Old women and unattractive women are just as manipulate, sometimes more. Watch out.
Lmao yeah older women have just accumulated more game. But really I’d say only when you really know her. She could pretend to put you on a pedestal too. No need to go paranoid but just take your time getting to know people. And even then you never really do.
@@atticnana I've known some people for quite a long time that it's not just getting to know them past the surface, but also seeing them change over time. Nothing ever substantiated, just a lot of disappointments. If it wasn't for Bryan Johnson, I would say life is short and one should seize the opportunity when it arises.
so, what does this idiom means "putting someone on a pedestal", is it like trying to guess value of them or?
It means to place high value and put the person high up, above yourself in value
Thank u
thank you
np !
what kinda microphone is that
$1 mini mic
women
what mic is that?
1$ mini Chinese mic
But is it okay I put you on that pedastal?
why ? I appreciate you liking my channel and supporting it by commenting, liking and subscribing, and I appreciate you doing that, I am obviously very wise but I have a life outside those barely 20mn total of me yapping on this channel as of now, I am 100% human which means I am flawed by design, there are ugly sides of me you will never see online, and our paths are unlikely to cross in the real world, and even if we were to be on speaking terms for years, you would still never really know me.
people on the internet are just people.
a lot of energy goes into building up people in your mind. we are naturally attracted to light, we strive for God. search for God, nobody else will do anything for you.
@@atticnana Sorry, I meant that as a joke btw this video and this comment was actually insightful. Keep up the good work.
@@afilmbyharsh I knew it was a joke I just felt like replying a lil seriously thank you!
She’s saying something most men these days already understand. This isn’t a revelation. And the men who don’t know this… learn the hard way.
I think people are tired with reality, which often is harsh. People want to live through the emotions of a romance, of meeting somebody perfect. We crave this, this is why both men and women tend to idolize person they've met, at least during initial phases of relationship. And you know what? Even if it's obvious that nobody is perfect, I feel it's worth to play on this in a relationship. It's worth to keep the fantasy going on, so the flame doesn't die off completely.
Get a better mic or at least use your phone
Or is it intentional? In wich case I’m sorry…