NPD Series |Ep 33| : Why Living With a Narcissist is Painful

Поделиться
HTML-код
  • Опубликовано: 27 янв 2025

Комментарии • 133

  • @SimiPillai
    @SimiPillai 3 года назад +68

    Absolutely Ma'am ... Extremely painful to live with a Narcissist ... And no one understands the pain other than the victim 😔😔

  • @fathimanasri9482
    @fathimanasri9482 3 года назад +30

    Mam paranjath correct aahnu.. Njanum oru victim aan... Ipo devorce aayi... Veetukar nirbandhichitt polum enik vitt poran kazhyathoru avasthayilernnu... Ennaloo ayalde koode oru samadanavumilla thanum.. At last god sahayich enik avidann poranulla vazhiyoruki... Ippozhan enik manassilayth ingnoke ulla disorders undennum njn ithile victim aanennum... 3year engne ninnuvenn enikaryula... Totally confused aayrnn njan... Nthan nte lifil sambavikunnethennaryathe... Ipo am soo free... I feel just like nte kazhuthil ninn oru kayar ooriyitta pole... Thank god😊

    • @jahfujahfu5795
      @jahfujahfu5795 3 года назад +2

      Enteth angane aayirunnu...ethYalum with my mother help i deicded to divorce him

    • @jahfujahfu5795
      @jahfujahfu5795 3 года назад

      Hiiii

    • @alfak955
      @alfak955 3 года назад +1

      Hi I want to know how got out of this , me too can’t getting out. If u can share ur experience

  • @ജിംസി
    @ജിംസി 3 года назад +34

    Dr. പറഞ്ഞത് 100% സത്യം ആണ്... ഐആം എ വിക്റിം

  • @deepanair8534
    @deepanair8534 3 года назад +25

    Lived 23 years of my life with a narcissist partner...these people will make you feel guilty...keep you powerless...they have a very decent image outside the home...while a very different person inside...I always doubts that if I'm wrong....you always give them all importance but in return they will take you for granted...your likes and dislikes doesn't matter in every aspect of life...I'm living separately for upto 4 years but life's very difficult to live in Kerala...my major concern now is about my children.. what to do... life's mess

    • @Lizmathews840
      @Lizmathews840 3 года назад +7

      Hi deepa,
      I understand the pain what you are going through , I’ve been in the same situation since last 27 years of life .
      Prayers for you & your kids .
      Fondly from USA ❤️.

    • @NazeemaTheMentor
      @NazeemaTheMentor 3 года назад

      Me too🤝

    • @achammavarghese7176
      @achammavarghese7176 3 года назад +3

      I am living with a narcissistic man for the last thirty-seven years. I can not leave him due to the culture and social stigma it creates in the life of my children.

    • @sumazach111
      @sumazach111 3 года назад +6

      നിങ്ങൾ രക്ഷപെട്ടു എന്ന് കരുതിക്കോ..ഇല്ലെങ്കിൽ നമുക്ക് രക്ഷപ്പെടാൻ പറ്റാത്ത വിധത്തിൽ എല്ലാ വിധത്തിലും കുടുക്കിയിടും....സാമ്പത്തികം, സാമൂഹികം, കുട്ടികൾ അങ്ങനെ....കയറില്ലാതെ കെട്ടിയിടും...അന്ത്യശ്വാസം വരെ അനുഭവിക്കേണ്ടിവരും നരകം...37 വർഷമായി ഞാൻ അനുഭവിക്കുന്നു.......

    • @lizykatrinapaul9219
      @lizykatrinapaul9219 3 года назад +6

      I also trapped in such a relationship for the last 33 years...Every thing Dr told, even in comments, each and everyone shared here are 💯 true in my life.. I lost my life, even my children suffering depression, sad feelings,etc... We were in Mumbai... Isolated... For me prayers are helping me to cope with the situation... One imp thing...... If I haven't gone through such an experience, I would not know such a things are happening...😭😭😭... Still cannot believe... We are going through that... O God help all narcissistic victims and children to lead a healthy living...🙏🙏🙏

  • @babithathambi4035
    @babithathambi4035 3 года назад +8

    Dr, said all are true
    It helpful me to overcome from my guil victim mindset.
    Otherwise I will put to unnecessary thinking, divertedgame of a Narcississts

  • @ramlasdreamtube9577
    @ramlasdreamtube9577 3 года назад +6

    Now i have got all answers what i am searching for last 22 yrs...one of my friend sent ur video mam... Now i am trying to watch all ur classes about Narccistic behaviour.. Very helpful.... Thank u.. May God bless u

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад

      Hi Ramla, Happy to know my videos helped.

  • @vidyav9304
    @vidyav9304 3 года назад +9

    ഞാൻ സഹിച്ചത് 14 വർഷങ്ങളാണ്.... ഒടുവിൽ ജീവൻ തന്നെ പോകും എന്ന ഘട്ടം വന്നപ്പോളാണ് കുറച്ചെങ്കിലും പുറത്ത് വരാൻ പറ്റിയത്....

  • @JyothishKaviraj
    @JyothishKaviraj 2 года назад +3

    I am a victim. It's really hard to survive the gas lighting. Pain is so terrible and OCD along with it makes it worse.

  • @mattolikal2024
    @mattolikal2024 3 года назад +11

    Yes women can be narcissist, victim of a narcissist mother.Had most of the symptoms mentioned above
    As a result, anxiety,fear and depression which lead to inability to stand up for myself.
    End up in another unhappy family life, due to inability to set limits, continued to be victim with help of mother & nasty sister.
    I had realised this before but didn’t know it’s narcissism

  • @Lekshmitalks
    @Lekshmitalks 3 года назад +5

    I am always confused if I am wrong because my partner always deny my emotions... idk stuck aan

  • @jijimoljose8535
    @jijimoljose8535 3 года назад +11

    My sister in law (brother's wife) is an overt/grandiose narcissist. She destroyed my entire family. She turned my brother against me and my husband. He didn't talk to us for 3 years now.She does emotional abuse over phone. My parents became sick because of her emotional abuse and passed away.My brother is the only son and my parents were living with them. She gave them silent treatment .After 28 years I came to know that she is narcissist. By the time my parents were gone.They never heard about the word narcissism. My brother doesn't know how malignant she is and she is isolating him and kids from us.Female narcissists are also there in our society. Few days ago I came across your channel. I was so excited to see a malayalam channel on narcissism. Nobody in my family heard about narcissism. Hope this will help them to know about narcissism. I still regrets, that I couldn't save my parents from this evil lady.

    • @deenarnc
      @deenarnc 3 года назад

      That’s so terrible!! Poor parents ☺️

    • @funandtipsmixedvideos3370
      @funandtipsmixedvideos3370 2 года назад

      ഈ pullikkariyude videos കണ്ട് ippol എൻ്റെ wife നിങളുടെ ബ്രദറിൻ്റെ wifeine പോലെ ആയ്.

    • @jijimoljose8535
      @jijimoljose8535 2 года назад +2

      @@funandtipsmixedvideos3370 Nobody can become a narcissist by watching videos.

  • @beenamoncy5
    @beenamoncy5 3 года назад +3

    👍 well correct. Thank you . God bless you 🙏

  • @meerakrishna9431
    @meerakrishna9431 Месяц назад

    100 percentage correct mam
    Painful life long

  • @vavasajitha9642
    @vavasajitha9642 3 года назад +15

    A narccisst can fool everbody including advocate, police but don't partner who knew about their personality disorder

    • @maryisaac3528
      @maryisaac3528 3 года назад

      True.indeed.never accept.in their eye theyr mr. Or mrd. Right.

    • @firdouses5522
      @firdouses5522 Год назад

      My husband can fool police constables. But mediator police knew about his personality disorder.
      My husband said to mediator police "she is a psycho."
      Then sir reacted : we talked with her for a hour. I don't feel as she is a psycho, but with your talk i feel as you are a psycho.
      😂😂😂😂😂

  • @gisnagisu1041
    @gisnagisu1041 2 года назад +1

    Hai Ma'am.. how can we know that a narcissistic person uses the mind games, mind cheating without physical attachment.. Can you please suggest some tricks that we can escape from the emotional intimacy from them.

  • @GG-dk3zm
    @GG-dk3zm 3 года назад +3

    💯 well said ma'am...
    It's all I m faced until i know about it..
    Very happy to seeing you got more subscribers because it's very painful knowing our partner is a narcissist but now I can save so much energy and emotions..now I feel so free and trying to rebuild myself..I m sure healing is very slow..but I will try my best to being myself...
    Your vedios are very helpful to manage my life know...
    Mam please do vedios about codependency in npd victim and how to overcome it..?? And it's relation to child hood..

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад +1

      Thank you for your wishes. Yes, I will do the co-dependency as an enabling behaviour asap

    • @GG-dk3zm
      @GG-dk3zm 3 года назад +1

      @@DrSusanKoruthu ❤

  • @ushaputhan6412
    @ushaputhan6412 3 года назад +2

    Great

  • @beenamoncy5
    @beenamoncy5 3 года назад +2

    Well done 👍

  • @sourav9598
    @sourav9598 3 года назад +2

    Thank you ma'am

  • @sheejabalachandran6248
    @sheejabalachandran6248 3 года назад +2

    Very true maam , Very true

  • @cupofjoe3633
    @cupofjoe3633 3 года назад +9

    28 വർഷമായി അനുഭവിക്കുന്നു. മരിച്ചാൽ മതി. കുഞ്ഞുങ്ങളുടെ കല്യാണം കഴിഞാൻ എവിടെ ലും ഇറങ്ങി പോയേനെ

  • @sindhuthomasjames3945
    @sindhuthomasjames3945 3 года назад

    Thank you, very helpful 🌹🌹

  • @mykids3798
    @mykids3798 2 года назад

    Informative😍

  • @kidsguide1811
    @kidsguide1811 3 года назад +1

    Very true.

  • @Stardust-xl8nn
    @Stardust-xl8nn 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for uploading these videos. They are really helpful. Can you make series in parenting styles and Parentification

  • @MasterSahlu
    @MasterSahlu 3 года назад +1

    Great 👏👏👏👏

  • @meerakrishna9431
    @meerakrishna9431 Месяц назад

    Correct mam

  • @tech5092
    @tech5092 3 года назад +2

    Yes mom my son is painful because of his partner

  • @sreejanair4809
    @sreejanair4809 3 года назад +2

    Madam ellam 💯 💯 sathyam anu

  • @minimathew6998
    @minimathew6998 Год назад

    Absolutely correct mam😢

  • @kavisfoodworld9512
    @kavisfoodworld9512 3 года назад +4

    Mam,what is the exact reason behind NPD?How it develops in a person ,at what age?

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад +2

      NPD can be developed through nature and nurture that is by hereditary and development and learning. It is a personality disorder that is developed since childhood and grow to its fullest in the adulthood. If childhood symptoms are treated you may be able to control this disorder.

    • @MasterSahlu
      @MasterSahlu 3 года назад

      @@DrSusanKoruthu how we can identify this decease in childhood???? It is due to changes in their brain.. How we can change absent of fear, Mercy...in their brain..

  • @mumthazmk3092
    @mumthazmk3092 2 года назад +1

    Agine sariyakiadukam mam igane ullavare

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  2 года назад

      you cannot, they themselves should come forward to change.

  • @ashrafkvsayedmohamed9974
    @ashrafkvsayedmohamed9974 2 года назад

    മേം ഇതുപോലുള്ള മൂന്ന് പേരിൽനിന്നും ഞാൻ പലതും അനുഭവിച്ചു നേരിട്ട് സംസാരിക്കണം മേം

  • @geethakoottala8548
    @geethakoottala8548 3 года назад +2

    I'm also

  • @sareenaanas7433
    @sareenaanas7433 3 года назад +4

    Fear,guilt,shame..ivayil ninnokke engine rakshappedaam?

    • @sintochan7
      @sintochan7 3 года назад +4

      മറ്റുള്ളവർ എന്ത് കരുതും എന്ന ചിന്ത മാറ്റി വെയ്ക്കുക. ഒരുത്തനെയുംപേടിക്കണ്ട... സന്തോഷം ഉണ്ടാക്കുന്ന ഏരിയ സ്വയം കണ്ടു പിടിക്കുക...

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад

      You need to undergo proper therapy to overcome these common Narcissistic victim syndrome

  • @nancysayad9960
    @nancysayad9960 3 года назад +5

    Great research ...perfect words creating no confusion.... Everything you say is 100 percent correct . keep it up mam👍👍....like your presentation very much

  • @saranyas9663
    @saranyas9663 2 года назад

    Extremely true!!!!!!

  • @husna3816
    @husna3816 7 месяцев назад

    Ithrayum kaalam enikkum manasilayinilla

  • @vincysiby6314
    @vincysiby6314 2 года назад

    Mam i face the same from my hus

  • @nissysamkutty4834
    @nissysamkutty4834 3 года назад +1

    Each and every word is 100 % correct. Wasted a lifetime.

  • @vavasajitha9642
    @vavasajitha9642 3 года назад +1

    Very true

  • @Nordicmalayalitales
    @Nordicmalayalitales 3 года назад +6

    Why NPD abuse doesn’t have a legal base in India? Other countries have it . Whats your take on BPD? Recent suicides in kerala is due to BPD’s? Why your community is not doing research in recent incident happened in Kerala?

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад

      If you are able to prove the abuses you may get legal protection. Legally it is difficult to prove not just in India, in any country.

    • @safarafahadi
      @safarafahadi 3 года назад

      @@DrSusanKoruthu One advocate told me , it is better not to mention about any kind of mental condition or illness. Then court will think of curing it. That wont be taken as a reason to detach. So without mentioning mental illness, victims can gather proofs for domestic violence.

    • @safarafahadi
      @safarafahadi 3 года назад

      @@DrSusanKoruthu Victims can obtain restraining order against abusers.

  • @rosegarden458
    @rosegarden458 3 года назад

    Enne doctor martam annu manassilakki talk cheyyunnatu.

  • @sinikurian
    @sinikurian 3 года назад +2

    Mam can u please make a talk about narcisstic children?

  • @Shemi-y1g
    @Shemi-y1g 3 месяца назад +3

    ഒറ്റക്കാണെന്നു മനസ്സിലായാൽ ഉള്ളിൽ നിന്നും ഒരു ശക്തി വരും. ഇന്ന് ഞാൻ രണ്ട് പട്ടികളെ പേടിപ്പിച്ച് ഓടിച്ചു. 😂😂😂😂

  • @navyapramod8952
    @navyapramod8952 3 года назад

    Mam iam a victim. My children also suffering.

  • @anjaliv2117
    @anjaliv2117 2 года назад

    Prandaaanu avark..ennitt aa prand nammukkum infect cheyyan shremikkum...chance undenki oodi rekshapedukka...allathe vere oru vazhiyum illa

  • @NazeemaTheMentor
    @NazeemaTheMentor 3 года назад +1

    Ma'am, please do a video on how to face them in court, living in kerala very difficult, the lawyers all handle take them as normal.

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад

      Please tune into my next video on Friday, you will hopefully get your answer.

  • @zeusgaming4335
    @zeusgaming4335 2 года назад

    Mam ente kuttikalodu enne kurichu kuttamaropikkunnu oru matterum ella the, oodi pokan thonunnu

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  2 года назад +1

      An NPD will do that to promote them as the best parent.

  • @lizdmanuel2164
    @lizdmanuel2164 3 года назад

    👌🏻💯true. How can I contact personally as you resides in Dubai

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад

      Hi Liz, Please send a mail to drsusankoruthu@gmail.com

  • @sreejashibu5352
    @sreejashibu5352 3 года назад

    I am, and mychildren are victims. But how to escape from him

  • @reenavarghese1876
    @reenavarghese1876 3 года назад +1

    100% correct

  • @sherinbonny
    @sherinbonny 9 месяцев назад

    Maam inganeyulla aalukal victmnu dangerous aano . I'm avar parayanunnathinu against reply koduthaal do they harm the victim?

    • @Malayalikada
      @Malayalikada 4 месяца назад

      Do not engage is the golden.Avarude rage kandal valare dangerous ayi thonnum..Ennum adupichu jeevikan pattumo ...so ignore..

  • @eka-lavyan
    @eka-lavyan 3 года назад +1

    how can i contact you? i need help,

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад +1

      Please send a mail to drsusankoruthu@gmail.com

  • @Soul-e6m
    @Soul-e6m 3 года назад

    Madam I myself is a narcisst...entha cheyendennu ariyilla..pls help me..

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад

      Please send a mail to drsusankoruthu@gmail.com

  • @maleificent_the_kind9563
    @maleificent_the_kind9563 3 года назад +3

    Madathinte no. Tharoo

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  3 года назад

      Please send a mail to drsusankoruthu@gmail.com

  • @rajeswaripm7847
    @rajeswaripm7847 Год назад

    Madam, kuttikalil npd kk chance undo?

    • @DrSusanKoruthu
      @DrSusanKoruthu  Год назад

      yes, they show such traits, and is called oppositional defiant disorder

  • @akhi6320
    @akhi6320 3 года назад +5

    Mam inner child healing ne patty oru video cheyyamo pls?

  • @aliceidiculay1841
    @aliceidiculay1841 3 года назад

    Dr.kuttikalil narcissistic traits undo ennu engane ariyaam? Oru video cheyyaamo?

  • @nissysamkutty4834
    @nissysamkutty4834 3 года назад +1

    Highly manipulative they are. Nobody will understand.

  • @sreedeviv3214
    @sreedeviv3214 Год назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @abkvlogs1271
    @abkvlogs1271 3 года назад

    Now i am suffering

  • @devikadevi5266
    @devikadevi5266 3 года назад +3

    അവർക്ക് വൈഫെനോട് സെക്സ് പോലും തോന്നില്ലേ മാം

  • @rithikablakshmi9512
    @rithikablakshmi9512 3 года назад

    ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @jayashreeshreedharan6631
    @jayashreeshreedharan6631 3 года назад

    Yess women also I know someone left her husband when he became sick on ventilator waiting for him to die so that she gets all his money but he survived and threw her out of house Smart😎 person

  • @neenajoseph457
    @neenajoseph457 3 года назад

    💯% correct. I think i am a victim here.

  • @ligyhariet000
    @ligyhariet000 3 года назад +2

    Very true

  • @remanichandrasekharan9286
    @remanichandrasekharan9286 3 года назад

    very true