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  • Roger and Sam discuss working with type 1 diabetes and how to stay motivated and energised as self-employed tradesmen (sorry, tradespeople).
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  • @johnrobert6012
    @johnrobert6012 11 месяцев назад +52

    Guys. 40 years as a plumber and that's the most relatable conversation ever.

    • @eldoradocraftsman3733
      @eldoradocraftsman3733 10 месяцев назад +1

      Mate, Just want I was thinking. Best vid they’ve done.

  • @marrowsandoug
    @marrowsandoug 11 месяцев назад +43

    I was a self employed flooring contractor for over 40 yrs and I sacked myself many times, but I always took myself back on again the next day 😂!!

  • @richardlove4287
    @richardlove4287 11 месяцев назад +24

    I’ve been self employed for most of my working life, I was a carpenter builder in Scotland that retired and bought a farm in Queensland, Australia. The best thing I ever did was to make enough money to be able to retire very early and then just take all the hassle out of my life. I now get up in the morning and decide to do nothing most days, it’s the only way to go.

  • @vinnysurti
    @vinnysurti 11 месяцев назад +79

    Two proper legends just having a chat ❤. Behind a successful man most often is a good woman 😘

    • @SJWardBuilders
      @SJWardBuilders 11 месяцев назад +12

      Ive definitely got the best good women she is the legend!!!

    • @shafserious2805
      @shafserious2805 11 месяцев назад +1

      You mean a moaning woman!!!!

    • @richardburns5925
      @richardburns5925 11 месяцев назад +1

      Behind every successful man is a good woman? What? Every man I've met on site has a tale to tell, a tale of divorce and financial disaster. They are all still having to work 7 days a week and basically start again at 55 and 60 year old when after a life on site, should be winding down. My pal, his wife took him for 200k, had to sell up start again. Talking to a bricklayer, wife took everything, he's left her in the house with kids, he's renting a room, has to leave all his fishing tackle in his mates lockup 15 mile away as no room for it, had a nice car, now got a 20 year old banger. They've all got tales of woe to tell, everyone of em, in fact once one starts at breaktime, they all start, she's left me credit card debts etc. One bloke told me about his ex wife, he was working his socks off 7 days and giving her money for all the bills, she never paid anything, hid all the demands, helped herself to the till over months and months at her job in the corner shop, took anything of value out of his house, cleared off to Scotland with his son! She'd been saving up all the money to leave him, left him in a right tangle!

  • @tinytonymaloney7832
    @tinytonymaloney7832 11 месяцев назад +9

    I was a workaholic when I had my own business, got to 45 and I was burnt out, my knees have gone, back is knackered, hardly ever made any money, the sort of money others seemed to make, all I ever seemed to do was pay my labour, wholesaler bills, my bills and mortgage. I could never afford a holiday. Hindsite is wonderful and we all wish we could go back and take a different route, however, we can't and have to wear the pants we were given.
    Packed it all up 20 odd years ago and worked PAYE and don't regret it. OK, I cant nip off when I feel like it, I had fixed hours. Now over 60, no mortgage just normal bills. Just watching the clock till I retire, I cant wait.😊

  • @sicr7373
    @sicr7373 11 месяцев назад +24

    I'm 59, I'm a cabinetmaker, so not strictly the building trade, but still a highly skilled trade. My one member of staff who'd worked with me for 20 years retired at 67 years of age three years ago and I've worked on my own ever since. I should mention that I've suffered from Ulerative colitis for 31 years now and can confirm that running a business in this day and age is VERY stressful, especially with also dealing with a serious chronic illness. It's a constant battle of trying to keep up with all the paperwork , getting the quotes out, and doing the actual jobs, I try and give accurate lead-times but always overrun no matter how much extra time I think I've allowed for in the quote, I'm greatful of course for ALWAYS being very busy, but a home life every now and again would be great, I'm typing this comment out now while in my workshop at 01:16 am on a Sunday which in itself should tell you a lot about being a one man band running a business in the UK IN 2023.

    • @richardburns5925
      @richardburns5925 11 месяцев назад +14

      You want a hobby. I ran my own business for 20 years as a door and furniture stripper/restorer, 6am till 10pm, 7 days a week even working Christmas day to get top side of stuff.
      All of a sudden I noticed a few pals dropping dead around the late forties early fifties mark, worked hard all their lives then drop dead. I thought there has to be more to life than this.
      I now potter about part time and work comes second not first.
      I now go fishing, riding my mountain bike or simply clear off for the day with the dog, flask n sarnies 👍

    • @paulc3749
      @paulc3749 11 месяцев назад +3

      So Cr, 💯, i can relate to all of that

    • @fabiancheeseman942
      @fabiancheeseman942 10 месяцев назад +2

      Sorry to hear this mate
      Wish I still live in uk Iwould of come help u out I want to learn a trade when I was there but know one wanted to take me on
      So I did jobs I hate so I came back to Barbados am now doing renovations as a side hustles only did 3 jobs but I love it
      Looking back and saying I did that, sorry to boring you with my story. Something will come in play and make life easier if it in happen yet

  • @johnhaydon4055
    @johnhaydon4055 11 месяцев назад +21

    Been there, done that, would never have lasted 40+ years of self employment without having a break. About 30 years ago I was burned out skint, and fed up, then a job went wrong big time because my brain was frazzled. I thought " fuck it I am not going broke while working my fingers to the bone", so I just doubled my prices pretty much. I didn't loose that much work and started making a decent wage and making ends meet. Loads of us underprice our work, or under value our skills, why?? Self employment is lonely, no one will tell you where you are going wrong, most of us are trades, not business people.

    • @dajsespokoj3884
      @dajsespokoj3884 10 месяцев назад +3

      Exactly. Very well said: we're trades not business people. I have been a plaster and builder for over 10 years now and worked so hard that sometimes I get to the point where I just don't wanna wake up the next day. But the main problem is that I don't make enough money out of it. Customers are always happy and recommend me but I don't make a decent dollar out of it. All other guys seem to drive all those nice trucks and spend time eating lunch and I am the opposite. Fuck, need to really increase what I am charging cos it seems to me that people call me for a great value for money reason. I love the job I like working hard but I definitely struggle with the business/sale part of this. Cheers

    • @pm-bg9mu
      @pm-bg9mu 10 месяцев назад

      Mate what you have said is so right
      I've been self employed for 38 yrs
      Got fuck all to show for it
      But last 8 yrs worked for a decent contractor on ok money
      But when it comes down to it
      I've got by in life (just )
      And I love the building trade
      I'm a multi trader

    • @plumbobmillionaire6246
      @plumbobmillionaire6246 10 месяцев назад

      Go for it, up your pricing. I got my wife’s family to get prices for renovations from multiple companies so I could have a starting point , kinda frown on but it’s business. Also get a good book keeper, they may have other contractors that they do the books for and may be able to give advise. There are also consultants to help grow your business.
      I’ve also straight up asked other contractors in the lumber yard about pricing and most of them are happy to chat numbers. Best of luck ,

  • @lanceblack888
    @lanceblack888 11 месяцев назад +5

    Excellent video reflecting the issues facing actual hard working people, not the usual RUclips fakesters. The millions of men watching Andrew Tate spouting nonsense should all watch this video and learn about the real world. I can relate to every point raised here. Tradesmen are not appreciated. I had a plumber round recently and he did a fantastic job for a fair price. He wants to pack it in and become a “day trader” because his knees are killing him. He’s 35. I told him: “one good plumber is worth a million ‘day traders’ - he’s helping people unlike a ‘day trader’ who’s a gambling waste of space!” Keep up the good work 👍👍👍

  • @smeghead420
    @smeghead420 11 месяцев назад +15

    Honestly your chats have changed my life Roger. I'm earning double what I did pre COVID. It's the whole self worth thing.

  • @robhawkins2492
    @robhawkins2492 11 месяцев назад +32

    Great chat to listen to. Well done Roger. Sam get yourself, Jen and kids away for a break pal. Life's to short.

  • @villaman2261
    @villaman2261 11 месяцев назад +5

    Been self employed for 42 years, hardly had any holidays in that time . Although paid my mortgage off by the time I was 40 . Now at the age of 63 started to feel my body has had enough of brick laying, plastering, plumbing , cut roofs , concreting and the rest . I have started to cut back now and only work on day rate now

  • @markfurlonger9356
    @markfurlonger9356 11 месяцев назад +3

    What a top bloke. Get yourself and family on Holiday though, it’s important. If you’re always looking for perfection you will never be happy. 99.9% of the time no one will even notice what you think could be done better 👍🏻

  • @The_Dua
    @The_Dua 11 месяцев назад +8

    I've recently become self employed and after 6 months just come back from a holiday, only thing was I was checking the plumbing at the resort 😅. I eventually managed to switch off but now I really am struggling to get motivated to get back into work.

  • @worldadventureman
    @worldadventureman 11 месяцев назад +13

    That was a really good chat that touched on many points all builders can relate to. I think for UK builders you have a lot of extra issues, horrible weather, strict regulations and laws and buildings that are a lot more complex than other countries. I've said this before when you had your chat with Robin about quoting, that the easiest way to remove much of the stress and actually increase your profits is to truely work for yourself and build and sell your own houses. Or renovate and flip, or rent and build a portfolio. With the tightening of lending, this maybe more difficult these days but its an ideal to aim for. Once I got my foot in the door and started buying and renovating my own houses pretty much all that stress fell away.

  • @accesszero4803
    @accesszero4803 11 месяцев назад +6

    Been self employed for about 14 years now , ive had enough and juat lookin to retire and throw the towel in and retire in my early 40s

    • @TheDoosh79
      @TheDoosh79 11 месяцев назад +6

      Bloody hell, same age as me and I've barely go going yet never mind retire! no house, no car, no holidays! I'll be working at my own funeral at this rate.

  • @ivpu2465
    @ivpu2465 11 месяцев назад +6

    I'm now in a period of "why ewen bother, why ewen try😢"
    Thank you for this video

  • @ColinCarFan
    @ColinCarFan 11 месяцев назад +3

    As I got older I realised more that we don't have much time on this earth and took on board the mottos "Work to Live" and "Retire as soon as you can". I then focused on the latter and retired at 61. If you absolutely love work so much that you would rather do that than have hobbies and be with family and friends, carry on working, but it wasn't for me. PS, holidays are essential!!!

    • @SkillBuilder
      @SkillBuilder  11 месяцев назад +2

      CGP
      I have seen many people retire early and die or go into decline. In the future retiring at 70 will be normal. I like work, it keeps you sharp. Once you surround yourself with retired people your point of reference is altered.

    • @wittywoo9559
      @wittywoo9559 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@SkillBuilder fixed an air lock for a guy in his 80s ended up sat down looking at his photo albums for 2hrs ... called me back for a full bathroom 😊

    • @gurglejug627
      @gurglejug627 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@SkillBuilderI can't see hardworking tradespeople going on until 70, either way there's a middle way - taking time to travel and having a change now and then as you said about your own holidays. I emigrated after seeing the corruption top to bottom in the UK - best thing I ever did, the UK (esp England) isn't a life, it's an existence.

  • @TheShinnion
    @TheShinnion 11 месяцев назад +26

    FairPlay lads, I’ve been a self employed sparky for 5 years now and I’ve had difficult start but things are going really well now. A good nights sleep is a top tip 👍

    • @staffh3815
      @staffh3815 11 месяцев назад +2

      And lots to drink😂

    • @TheShinnion
      @TheShinnion 11 месяцев назад

      @Staff H true that brother 🍺

    • @staffh3815
      @staffh3815 11 месяцев назад

      @TheShinnion I'm 3 pints deep already mate haha

  • @sanatandharma4435
    @sanatandharma4435 11 месяцев назад +7

    Brilliant chat gentlemen! I am a full time teacher and am currently renovating a house at weekends. This weekend I am so tired I have not gone to the house, it can get so monotonous. It seems to be all work and no play. My wife has filled skips, cut wood, and helped me in so many ways, she is indispensable. Although I do not have diabetes I did have a heart attack last year. Try not to be so hard on yourself, make sure you have life insurance and take care of yourself above all else. Thank you for this.

  • @w.7258
    @w.7258 11 месяцев назад +3

    "we all know there's abrasive characters on the building site, I could be one" had me in stitches, the most pleasant man you could ever hope to find on a site

  • @64gorrilla
    @64gorrilla 11 месяцев назад +9

    Been self employed for nearly 40 yrs and totally burnout ... but like roger just have to keep going and can’t resisting helping people out never worry about the money and it keeps flowing or trickling if worry about it it stops! Is it weird to enjoy the more difficult jobs to the easy ones?

  • @Oli_Hudson
    @Oli_Hudson 11 месяцев назад +83

    Take Jen on holiday ASAP! She sounds like a gem!

    • @SJWardBuilders
      @SJWardBuilders 11 месяцев назад +25

      Jen and my girls are my most precious gems and hopefully will go away in the half term holiday

    • @holdfast7657
      @holdfast7657 11 месяцев назад +7

      @@SJWardBuilders Do it. I did well as a builder, retired early, I'm sat here watching this and it's hit me hard. I now know working seven days a week, I missed a massive part of my children early years. All time you can't get back.

    • @bikerchrisukk
      @bikerchrisukk 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@SJWardBuilders Fair play Sam 👍

    • @funkeybikemonkey
      @funkeybikemonkey 11 месяцев назад +1

      Italy dude. Cheapish, the People are niceish and the place is weird enough and different enough to feal exotic. Cheep flights there too.

    • @chelps6411
      @chelps6411 11 месяцев назад +2

      Dont let Roger take Jen on holiday! :)

  • @SteveAndAlexBuild
    @SteveAndAlexBuild 11 месяцев назад +40

    What an amazing video . I can relate to so much you both talked about there . Up until June 2021 I have worked for someone else and have been told a Couple of times I’ve made a lot of money over the years ….. unfortunately for other people .
    I’m struggling with the pricing and organising and mistakes are costly .
    I worked on my own for many years until 2016 when Alex left school and wanted to work with me .
    That changed everything for me and truly blessed that I get to work with my son and best mate . We look out for each other and he more or less carries me now that my health isn’t good .
    After a hard days graft you feel tired but content, after a hard day of stress you are burnt out …. Stress ain’t fun .
    Sam get yourself off on holiday even a long weekend just to unwind you and the family deserve it .
    Thanks again for the video 🙏🏽🤜🏽🤛🏽🧱👍🏽

    • @SJWardBuilders
      @SJWardBuilders 11 месяцев назад +11

      I had the absolute pleasure of working with my dad and remember all the things he taught me, sometimes I use his old tools and get the sense his hand still guides mine

  • @AC-gm6bq
    @AC-gm6bq 11 месяцев назад +8

    Good addition to Skill Builder having that builder on the channel...

  • @adecarnally5501
    @adecarnally5501 11 месяцев назад +31

    That was a great video fellas, showing how working for yourself isn't the bed of roses that lots of people think it is.
    Having run my own business for the last twenty years or so, I still have no problem with the actual work but the stress and mither is the killer. At home in the evenings the worry of tomorrow's problems or issues (thankfully rare) with an awkward customer are always on the back of my mind. Yet the thought that keeps me going is feed the family and pay those bills. BTW, what are those 'holiday' things you talked about?

  • @anthonyknight5465
    @anthonyknight5465 11 месяцев назад +13

    Nice stuff. Videos like this will pass most folk by without leaving a mark but there'll be a couple of people who really, really needed to hear someone else chatting about that stuff.

  • @giff1669
    @giff1669 11 месяцев назад +7

    Men need to talk like this more often. And yes I said men ! Top idea for a video Roger- thank you

  • @petemoring67
    @petemoring67 11 месяцев назад +6

    What a coincidence Roger - I've just watched Robin Clevett's video on the Mental Health problems of the Self-employed - He loaded his about the same time as this one as well ........ I replied to his, so I'm going to copy a 'part' of that reply here .... Hope you don't mind 🙂 ...... "YES!! Mental Health 'is' a genuine problem but 'most' of us don't recognise it as a problem, we just assume that it's part & parcel of the job - Unpaid bills, too much work, not enough work, Loyalty to our customers even. Where we don't feel we can possibly take time OFF because we will be letting our customer down (Not realising that in MOST cases that loyalty is 'never' reciprocated) ..... Another thing is just 'Health' - We all get ill, but mostly we try and work through it, but when Mother Nature decides to give you a proper 'Kick In The Guts' there's no-one with a Safety-Net ... The DWP look on the Self-Employed as the lowest of the LOW! ..... If you get help within three months, feel privileged ... And Most S/E don't have their OWN safety-Net to last that long ... THEN! the Mental-Health Crisis REALLY Starts. Family and Friends are first! in the firing line, so you soon isolate yourself, which of course just compounds the issues" ........ There is a real MentalHealth Pandemic at present ... Compounded onto the Self-Employed by ULEZ - 15MinuteCities & LTN's - which are literally DESTROYING Businesses in general, but 'specifically' the Self-Employed who just CANNOT Swallow THOSE Bitter Pills ££££££££'s ..............

  • @johnwilde4916
    @johnwilde4916 11 месяцев назад +6

    Lad's your little chat just warmed the cockles of my heart but remember your health is everything.

  • @exactlyinfinity7116
    @exactlyinfinity7116 11 месяцев назад +1

    Never mind the holidays! Start wearing knee pads, nothing more crippling than buggered knees. Two great builders thanks for opening up.

  • @alanyoung7532
    @alanyoung7532 11 месяцев назад +3

    Being self employed is a mixed blessing indeed but generally one tends to work harder and for longer. Having to be careful with diabetes adds another level of complexity. Sam, I hope your efforts are reflected in your charges as generally speaking most people would rather pay a little more for a job well done!

  • @montedaestrada3563
    @montedaestrada3563 11 месяцев назад +6

    This is possibly the best video of yours I've seen and I'm a big fan
    As a professional maintenance engineer who worked alone for decades, and with minimal support, and where it was expected that multiple issues per day were quickly resolved within a time scale on the first visit, I understand sleeping on a problem completely. I hated wrapping calls into the next day but always resolved them after a good nights sleep.
    I used to do a full days work, go home and then study and and learn the about the individual components of the equipment involved to discover what made them work and fail. I was successful but it all meant nothing.
    There is so much I can relate to with video.
    Thank you.

  • @scottnever8732
    @scottnever8732 11 месяцев назад +5

    totally agree with everything said, well done guys 👍. I am a bricklayer and I used to love my job up until I HAD to do it. Once I had to do it to pay the bills I started to hate it. 37 years in feels too late to start anything else. Also you saying its less grief working for someone else, site work these days is run by a trade contractor under an umbrella to the main contractor, most of which have site managers that aren't trade related and higher ups who are only interested in bonuses, so us actual tradesmen(that want to do a good job) dont have the time needed.

  • @The_Dua
    @The_Dua 11 месяцев назад +10

    You guys are describing me 😅 my misses is constantly nagging me to charge more. Tbh, the customer always pays me more than what I asked for and tells me to charge more. I'm forever fixing 10 other things on the job. Thanks for your wisdom

  • @nathynopants
    @nathynopants 11 месяцев назад +3

    This is so relatable, I work with my wife and peoples attitude changes when there is a woman there, they seem less intimidated and the wife can be available for the chat so you can carry on, as regards to doing extras for free while you are there, that was a short lived albeit twice made mistake. I do fencing and sometimes they have bits that are tatty as hell that werent part of the original job and I say I can pop back when I get a spare off cut to fill that bin in. After 2 or 3 days they are hounding you to do it, despite telling them it could be 4 to 6 weeks before you get an offcut. So you end up cutting a full panel at your expense to do the job so they dont write you a bad review despite the fact they are over the moon with the initial job. I have learned to do the job I quote for and no extras as it always bites you in the arse

  • @joesmith822
    @joesmith822 11 месяцев назад +10

    Quote them a little higher than you expect you can always reduce the price at the end. You know what you need to earn each day to lead a comfortable life. Thanks Roger nice to know that from the video and comments there are people out there with the same struggles.

    • @lanceblack888
      @lanceblack888 11 месяцев назад

      Quote them higher and they may reply: “I’ll get the Eastern Europeans to do it. They quoted half your price!” I’ve had that actual conversation endless times.

  • @silky-1971-
    @silky-1971- 11 месяцев назад +6

    Interesting to hear real life stories for a change.

  • @ls28harry
    @ls28harry 11 месяцев назад +2

    The burnout got me a few years back when I realised I could never reach the carrot, the faster I ran, the faster the hamster wheel turned. Now I drift along, waiting for the inevitable.

  • @Castorconsulting
    @Castorconsulting 2 месяца назад

    I'm not a builder, I'm a self employed metalsmith but I can absolutely relate. Being self employed is hard, the fear of turning work away, the fear of no big contributed pension, that mortgage that never seems to go down...always giving the client the extra mile. Which I do, constantly over supply and under charge, especially with rising gold prices ..and then you get the "whilst I'm here could you just.." locking time for holidays is always a challenge but I can see the value in those. I'm so happy to have found this channel, it's also fantastic to see real men giving their wives the credit/respect they deserve. Can I get a Jen too?

  • @wezzabryant7284
    @wezzabryant7284 11 месяцев назад +4

    I've been a type 1 diabetic for 35 years. Also a self employed electrician for over 25 years. I totally understand this guy.

    • @wallywillis1624
      @wallywillis1624 11 месяцев назад +1

      Type 1 here to brother.

    • @hulkhogan9450
      @hulkhogan9450 7 месяцев назад

      Just watched this video and how crazy that I am a type 1 diabetic for 35 years as well and an Electrician by trade although I am in engineering now, brings its own stressses. Being a diabetic is a never ending daily battle, wears you out as well.

  • @jackrussell9811
    @jackrussell9811 11 месяцев назад +5

    wow thanks for that ,reminds me of the good days 3 blokes in a transit just chatting personal stuff , thanks also to your mate opening up about the problems with diabetes and the problems im type 2 and when your grafting it can cause problems , we all know the building is not pc bollox but its how we have always liked it probably last place we will find it didnt mind being called a daft cnut when i was young its what was known as character building , more chats like this please

  • @TheDoosh79
    @TheDoosh79 11 месяцев назад +7

    Can relate to some of this. I'm not self employed but I have been cursed with the 'people pleasing' gene, which means I will break my neck to make sure I help anyone who asks, whether that is extra hours at work or doing projects for friends and relatives, but at the sacrifice of spending any time on myself. I only seem to get motivated to do things for others, when it comes to me I can't do it as it just seems like a load of hassle. Also never been on a holiday!

    • @staffh3815
      @staffh3815 11 месяцев назад +1

      Wow u sound like me but worse at least I go on holiday 😂 at least u get to heaven 😢

  • @ianatwatersidelandscaping2236
    @ianatwatersidelandscaping2236 6 месяцев назад

    Treble your prices tomorrow less work less hassle but you will earn the same amount money, quality of life is so important. I just found this out after 30 years se, thank you for this great video.

  • @HydrOwelder5
    @HydrOwelder5 6 месяцев назад +1

    Brilliant video, with 52 years in the game You two hit it right on the head

  • @JAL110
    @JAL110 11 месяцев назад +11

    Roger love this video think you need to do more like this. Just a casual chat with different people in the building game to tell their stories and opinions. Watching this was like having 10 o’clock tea break. I can definitely relate to all the points in the conversation.👍👍👍

  • @tomsurrey2252
    @tomsurrey2252 11 месяцев назад +1

    Electrical contractor / builder, for some 50 years', born in 1951 BTW! My family always came first... apart from one year, when I was financially furked... we went to Spain. Cannot turn the clock back!!

  • @michaelmontgomery448
    @michaelmontgomery448 5 месяцев назад

    The love to help is rare, may be undervalued but certainly rewarding to your heart & God will always have your back. 😇

  • @traian23us
    @traian23us 11 месяцев назад +2

    A good night sleep, best advice ever!

  • @acash93
    @acash93 11 месяцев назад +2

    It's very cool to see the tradies' perspective the increasing proportion of elderly population and customers. It's a global phenomena

  • @harryp1876
    @harryp1876 11 месяцев назад +5

    If ever a true word was spoken well done chaps

  • @gingerelvis
    @gingerelvis 11 месяцев назад +6

    I'm not a trade (although I seem to do more renovation than my job these days) but I am self employed and can relate to everything said here. It's hard to to get right and I'm far from it. Always fighting the pricing vs what is delivered battle and without a partner to encourage me to go on holiday I just keep working because of the if your not working your not earning mentality. I often think of jacking it in and working for someone else for the stress free life with all the perks of being an employee but that comes with it's own problems. It's honest open chats like this that we need from people in the same situation to put things into perspective.

  • @andrewsproule6672
    @andrewsproule6672 11 месяцев назад +2

    Sam and Rodger.
    Really enjoyed your conversation.
    Sam who need to you easy on yourself.
    Diabetes and your family should be your number One priority. Because everyone looks after themselves.
    I work in a dialysis unit and the affect badly mange diabetes has on someone kidneys can life-changing.
    Give yourself some TLC for you and the family and take a holiday.

    • @SJWardBuilders
      @SJWardBuilders 11 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you Andrew, when I met my wife twenty years ago she really helped me get my diabetes under control and since then I have had excellent control! however poor control before that has caused serious damage to my eye sight. Im a patient at moorfields eye hospital who I hold in the highest regard. Now I try to help young type ones understand how serious a condition it is, using my life as an example of what happens with poor control and how to turn it around. Kind regards Sam Ward.

  • @derekhenry2053
    @derekhenry2053 11 месяцев назад +3

    This video hit so many bells n whistles of being self employed! Loved this thanks guys. Personally for me I work in peoples houses as if it were my own, the client/customer 99% wouldn't have a clue but I would & to stop me waking up a 2am worrying about a damn job I always go full out as close to 100% as I possible can. I do a job to a point where I physically cannot even snag myself. easy lesson to learn when you are starting out so the ghosts of the past (jobs) never come back to haunt you....

  • @richardredman3947
    @richardredman3947 11 месяцев назад +6

    One of your best videos Roger👍 I think it's the tip of the iceberg in our industry. I'm going through the whole burnout for the last year and slowly trying to work through it... so so much I could talk about on this subject...
    Listen to Uncle Roger and get your holidays booked. It doesn't matter if its half way through a job, and remember to look after yourself. You're the most valuable tool in the van! None of the other can do fu*k all if you're not fit and healthy.
    Roger I'd love to chat about the self employed industry in construction if you ever fancy?

  • @delwalker6336
    @delwalker6336 11 месяцев назад +8

    Really nice to hear how genuine you both are. I work in people's houses and I'm a sucker for an old dear. Some times i just haven't got the time with the calls booked. Thanks!

  • @HisnameisRich
    @HisnameisRich 11 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you both I'm not in the building trade but watching this makes me realise how much a lot of these things mirror my feelings. We need more of men being open in general

  • @bikerchrisukk
    @bikerchrisukk 11 месяцев назад +2

    Nice chat away from tools for a change, nice one fellas.
    I went to a customer yesterday that made me lemon cake, that was nice.

  • @dtmorris6157
    @dtmorris6157 11 месяцев назад +3

    Such a good conversation, as a business owner it felt very relatable. Thank you both!

  • @grahamcuthbert783
    @grahamcuthbert783 6 месяцев назад +1

    What a wonderful conversation, I have been self employed all my life working on a small family farm. My father tried to stop me saying that I would never earn any money, how true he was but I have forged a living with my wonderful wife and have now diversified into accommodation and camping, a lot of work, great fun wonderful people that we meet each year.

  • @colinmiles1052
    @colinmiles1052 11 месяцев назад +4

    Great video - thanks. I'm not a builder but I've worked on my own most of my working life. I do suffer from anxiety but have had some talking therapies which has helped me keep things in perspective. Being your own boss, can't beat it!

  • @user-wf9bs6di6r
    @user-wf9bs6di6r 11 месяцев назад +2

    What an absolute pleasure to just sit and listen, you speak for every self employed person out there that is so critical of Their own work.

  • @Nofanator
    @Nofanator 10 месяцев назад

    Excellent video! All so relevant!

  • @kevinernst4889
    @kevinernst4889 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you, love this 😊

  • @michaelplays2449
    @michaelplays2449 11 месяцев назад +3

    Great video Guys !!! Thanks

  • @steveowens7006
    @steveowens7006 11 месяцев назад +1

    I'm a 58 bricklayer , work 5 days a week and go to the gym 3 times a week . Dont smoke and drink very modestly.
    My days of weekend work are over ,
    I enjoy my graft and hard work was instilled into me from a very young age.
    All the best lads.

  • @ike637
    @ike637 11 месяцев назад +1

    Great chat . Loved it.

  • @davebound268
    @davebound268 11 месяцев назад +1

    Great video. Top blokes. Thanks.

  • @weeksyintheworkshop
    @weeksyintheworkshop 11 месяцев назад +1

    That was brilliant! We could do with more videos like this. So many situations in there that I recognise and great to know that its the same for other people too. Thanks Roger.

  • @Guide504
    @Guide504 11 месяцев назад +1

    Man this nailed me to the core.

  • @PhoneVidoes
    @PhoneVidoes 11 месяцев назад +5

    Work is just an annoyance that gets in the way of playing with our toys 😉 I've always used that principal.

  • @p2as33
    @p2as33 11 месяцев назад +4

    Great these chats. I work alone as a Cabinet Maker and can relate to all in the discussion and proves we all share the same experences. Good point Rodger, the job itself is not the problem, its the money and everything else !

  • @nicksmith2468
    @nicksmith2468 11 месяцев назад +1

    THANK YOU A great clip

  • @HighWealder
    @HighWealder 11 месяцев назад +2

    I remember talking to a plumber about 20 years ago who was going to start working for a large company after years of being self employed.
    Said after a full days work he had to go out in the evenings too looking at jobs and writing estimates, while his wife was ordering and picking up parts in the day, this is not even mentioning the paperwork.

  • @SiEffen
    @SiEffen 11 месяцев назад +3

    Great discussion. Get that holiday booked!!

  • @davidhardaker192
    @davidhardaker192 10 месяцев назад +1

    43 years as a self employed joiner. Now over 70 years old and running out of steam, but find it hard to give up working.

    • @SkillBuilder
      @SkillBuilder  10 месяцев назад +1

      Hi David
      Keep on going, you can slow down a bit but stopping is a killer

  • @waynefarrar3278
    @waynefarrar3278 11 месяцев назад +1

    Enjoyed that guys , Roger bang on about taking time of for holidays

  • @thetruthwillwinoneday
    @thetruthwillwinoneday 11 месяцев назад +1

    I can relate to this…..great talk lads.

  • @alexandertrifonov8188
    @alexandertrifonov8188 11 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for making this video guys! Its encouraging, thank you!🙂👍

  • @MrLeighwilliams
    @MrLeighwilliams 11 месяцев назад +2

    Can relate to all of this. I work by myself doing extensions! Can be really stressful one day and the next, the radio is on, the sun is shining and it’s the best job! Would like a clone of me to work with! Hard work finding descents people!

  • @dezbanks5063
    @dezbanks5063 11 месяцев назад +1

    Good words of wisdom Rodger

  • @colinwilson933
    @colinwilson933 11 месяцев назад +10

    Brilliant conversation guys..can relate to alot of what you talked about being self employed joiner/handyman..thank you

  • @bartlemy
    @bartlemy 11 месяцев назад +2

    Really enjoyed watching this guys- God bless you both!!

  • @lolackers8636
    @lolackers8636 11 месяцев назад +3

    Great video Guys. Decent, honest talk.

  • @faizmiah2363
    @faizmiah2363 11 месяцев назад +2

    A simple video! Yet a great listen and beneficial

  • @jeremylockey3220
    @jeremylockey3220 11 месяцев назад +7

    I agree with most of this but there is good living to be made as a self employed tradesman. If you're not earning enough to make ends meet you're probably not charging enough. And I think as we get older we are less inclined to increase our rates. Does £300 a day sound like a lot of money? once you've run your van bought your tools & paid your taxes, Pension, holidays, what are you left with?

  • @lukehanna7440
    @lukehanna7440 11 месяцев назад +5

    Interesting chat. Been a self employed carpenter builder for 16 years. I’ve got Diabetes type 1 & Autism, I find some jobs so stressful. It’s a constant juggling act, trying to keep good control of my diabetes while working. I think the biggest problem tho being self employed is it’s hard to cut off from work in the evenings & weekends & get a work life balance, my wife finds it so annoying I’m always planning jobs or doing prices & invoices etc. evenings & weekends. When I’m doing smaller jobs I try do a 4 day week & do paperwork on the 5th day.
    Not sure about the bullying tho! There’s a difference between banter & being pulled up on bad work, & actual bullying. I’ve seen young lads been made to feel really shit about themselves with constant digs & seen plenty of racism on building sites, that’s really not on! Over 500 annual suicides in the construction industry, you don’t know what people are going through, just be kind.

  • @S.Y-a-ok
    @S.Y-a-ok 10 месяцев назад +1

    Spot on mate.

  • @adrianwright6311
    @adrianwright6311 11 месяцев назад +2

    Really enjoyed this video, it brings to life the day to day challenges of your trade that I would normally look past.

  • @ryanodea5417
    @ryanodea5417 11 месяцев назад +4

    One of the best videos you've done mate. Really honest and important for people to see. Well done 🙏

  • @JamesAmos
    @JamesAmos 11 месяцев назад +3

    Great video. Great to hear even the pros struggle with this stuff, the mental weight. Thank you

  • @teejay9881
    @teejay9881 11 месяцев назад +5

    Quality, real conversation 👌

  • @elliotsmoothy4581
    @elliotsmoothy4581 11 месяцев назад +6

    Fantastically relatable video, well done. Makes me feel like im not the only one.

  • @manfat5183
    @manfat5183 11 месяцев назад +1

    Great chat , and this relates to everyone who cares about their work and business... Hopefully i can take note good to hear we all have similar struggles .

  • @Garciamrcool
    @Garciamrcool 10 месяцев назад +1

    Excellent

  • @greenvector
    @greenvector 3 месяца назад

    What a profound conversation. I really didn’t expect this. The honesty, insight and relatability from two normal blokes compared to all these stupid RUclips influencers is incompatible. Well done gents.

  • @markatchison9974
    @markatchison9974 11 месяцев назад +2

    If you're good at your job, charge for the work, & I mean 'charge'. People pay £50 an hour for the right man.
    Know your own value.

  • @markdudley1028
    @markdudley1028 11 месяцев назад +1

    Nice work lads,probably struck a chord with lots of us

  • @ForViewingOnly
    @ForViewingOnly 11 месяцев назад +3

    A very enjoyable video, lads. Some important points raised here about looking after yourself. I can relate to what Sam said about blood sugar affecting work... sometimes my productivity plummets and I can take an hour to do something that would normally take me 5 minutes. I'm aware of it but just can't take a break to get back on track. Learning all the time.

  • @Mike_5
    @Mike_5 11 месяцев назад +4

    Wise words Roger and intelligent Sam asking and looking to learn extra tips - Healthy

  • @Abidsalehuk
    @Abidsalehuk 11 месяцев назад +3

    Well done guys and i learned a lot from you Skill Builder and bricklaying steve with Alex, we wish you all the best with more happiness. keep it up.