Story 3: if I was OP I would be like ok fine and get out of the restroom and get back to my table and start changing him right there while all the customers are sitting at their tables eating their meals. Then say “Is this better!?!”
Story 3. My daughter was born in 2001, and due to postpartum depression, I ended up taking care of her the most for her first almost year. One of the areas that I enjoyed taking her was the library. Well the library did not have a changing table in the men's room, but they did in the ladies, I was able to use the counter in the men's room to change her, but I mentioned it to the library staff and they advised me to go upstairs to the admin office and mention it to them, so I did, and the response was favorable, they listened to what I had to say and said that they would look into getting them installed, and eventually they did indeed get them installed, they told me that they never really considered the need for them in the men's room but saw my point and took action.
*we have changing tables in the restrooms at work but they are located just as you enter, which in my opinion can be a bit awkward...think they need to be placed within the handicapped stall to insure a bit more privacy*
Hereditary HOAs should be illegal, and any such additions to a contract or deed should be rendered NULL and VOID. HOA membership must be voluntary at all times, and any person should be entitled to QUIT an HOA at any time without any legal cause or penalty. When a house changes hands, all HOA membership is automatically cancelled. THAT will help.
well i almost agree with you, there should ALWAYS be an exit from an HOA but there are some cases i do not think it would apply. For example i used to own a townhome so it was something like owning an apartment i had neighbors below me, and to both sides. Before i sold that home the HOA decided to replace the aging windows on all the properties, i dont think just leaving makes sense in a situation where everyone is essentially sharing the same structure. However with stand alone homes? Yes you should be able to leave if you want.
HOAs are service providers, which should put them under "The Fair Business and Services Act" which prevents you from being forced into paying for services that you don't wish to use and the right to leave the service contracts when you wish. HOAs do not abide by this law because they have twisted our legal system to allow their fascistic tyranny to thrive. Similar issue with the Squatter's Rights laws, which were created for people who found an abandoned house and made improvements to the property.
@@KameraShy well you see they put the HOA on the deed of the house, so the HOA follows the deed regardless of the owner. Presumably it is voluntary because you are (supposed to be) told upfront that the property is part of an HOA and you are supposed to have access to review the CC&R's before purchase. Personally I think joining an HOA for houses (not condos/apartments) should be voluntary and treated like a lease, wherein every year/two years/etc members are able to opt out moving forward.
@@SDarkfire500 Few places still exist where squatter's rights make sense. Pittsburgh is one of the , and a scant few properties out in the Rockies, that may or may not be on federal land are all I can think of.
Story 3: Next time, if there is an empty table nearby, change the baby there. If anyone says anything, tell them that there is no table in men's, and you are not allowed in women's, and you don't want the staff to remove your unfinished meal while you take baby home, change him, then come back to a cold meal.
Tbh if the ladies room is sign marked as "baby changing facilities" it's now a legally protected space for him to change the baby. This is one of those cases were the resturant needs to be glad that OP never realised that he could sue them for discrimination and have a slam dunk case as enforcing gendered changing facilities are a violation of a few laws. This is why alot of places have a unisex bathroom (often fitted as a disabled bathroom, as not having that can also get you sued unless you have a valid excuse not to these days) that includes these facilities.
I have a lot of respect for the woman who found her fiancé's bank statement and offered to sign a prenup on her own without him asking. Sounds like a good woman.
With respect to a man using a women’s restroom for changing an infant. When the manager insisted he leave changing the diaper he should have said he would sue the restaurant and the manager for NOT having a changing table in the Men’s restroom as required by law. This is not a new problem and has been through the courts so all the women and the restaurant were the A *oles. As leaving an infant in a soiled diaper can. be considered as child abuse.
When my son was an baby I used the woman's washroom on more then one occasion if the place did not have a change table in the men's washroom. I explained myself as I would enter the woman's washroom every time and apologized to any one who happened to use the facilities. I got called out on a few occasions and I just answered that I identified as a woman. The one time at a Burger KingI had a woman telling me she didn't care where I changed the diaper, but I couldn't do it in the washroom. I just went to a table in the restaurant a few tables away from the woman and started to change the diaper on the table. She yelled at me and I just answered out loud, you "you told me you didn't care where I changed the diaper as long as it wasn't in the washroom, for god sake make up your mind." And continued changing the diaper. I threw out the diaper in the men's washroom and informed the staff.
For the woman who said just lay out the changing pad in the men's restroom, she doesn't know that there is no flat surface in the men's restroom except for the dirty wet floor where men are walking if it doesn't have a baby changing table. Yes, women's bathrooms often have a table or counter in addition to the baby changing table but men's bathrooms often are build different.
I find this story to be the most believable so far and funniest of all, because everyone jumping on him would absolutely be on the OP's side if the gender roles were reversed so I just cannot take them seriously.
Im a european who never wanted to live in the usa but those hoa's sounds fun. Im easely bored and have a meanstreak while normally being kind. So buying a small house in a hoa without being part of it might give me a perfect reason to find true enemies i can mess with. (Edit: without being the jerk lol)
Some people have a summer home & some people have a winter home, perhaps you need to save up some money to buy a mental health home? Find an affordable house in an HOA neighborhood Get a copy of the Rules & READ Them Absolutely Totally READ them! If you think you can live within the rules but you also see room for loopholes which would make your life worth living, go ahead. But I would advise a house within your budget that you can afford to lose, because sometimes they have been known to foreclose! If you are the kind of person you describe but like harmless fun at a governments expense, I would appreciate living next door to you, for the entertainment!!! 😮😅😂❤
@marshawargo7238 i should have been clearer i ment a house ina hoa neighborhood without being part of the hoa. That would be a perfect setup to get harassed and have a good reason to let the games begin.
In my opinion, the women that were so rude were the assess. Actually, more importantly, those who think there is no need for a changing table in the men's room are even bigger assess.
It's that way in the UK too, either the disabled loos have the changing tables or we often now have family changing areas (has toilets in as well as a changing and even a breast feeding area, all in separate areas/rooms which is great especially when you have kids at different ages as you can all use the one facility)
It's not just baby changing places only in the women's toilets. When I was in a wheelchair while I was out & about. The only wheelchair disabled toilet was only accessible through the Women's toilets & none in the men's. I'm in my 40's & male.
How can you be grandfathered "in" an HOA and not be part of the HOA? Sounds like the house was actually exempt from the HOA under a grandfather clause.
"Squatter's Rights" (I think the legal term is 'Adverse Possession') are legally a thing, but far more limited than this woman thought. For one thing, the squatter has to be living in the house, continuously, for much longer than a year. (Varies by location, but usually seven years.) Second, they must be living there openly, not hiding that they are doing so. Third, they must be repairing and maintaining the structure just as a legal resident would be expected to do. And finally, the actual owner must NEVER set foot on the property, at all, for the entire seven years. To put this in perspective, if I owned a house, and someone was squatting, and I didn't go there for years, but, with just one day left before the seven years I walked up to the property line, stuck one foot over the line, touched the ground, then turned and left, the seven year timer would reset to zero.
@@fnjesusfreak Looking it up, at least in the U.S. this varies by state and can be as little as three years or as much as twenty, but seven is the average or close to it.
not quite, you would have to prove that you had visited the property and prove that you had demanded the squatters to leave. So no, just walking onto your property after 6.999 years is not good enough.
@@islandwills2778True. Though the dude's point still stands that there are quite the number of hoops someone has to jump through and pray happen that would allow them to claim ownership of a house
It varies from state to state. Even within a state, it can vary quite a big depending on the circumstances. In Texas, the statute of limitations for adverse possession ranges from three years to twenty or more years. The usual is ten years. The three year limitation is something no squatter would ever qualify for.
When my kids where infants 14 years ago, this was unfortunately not an uncommon problem, though family rooms where becoming a thing, I would announce my self outside the door and my intentions to you use the changing table, and wait until those in the washroom left before entering, then would clearly state to any lady entering what I was doing and would be clearing out when finished, this usually avoided most problems, except Karen's!
Regarding the first story, she was telling the truth *up* to OP coming back, as soon as OP came back ready for their house the *squatter* can't claim the house was abandoned. As long as the OP makes moves to show they are trying to *remove* the squatter then the house isn't marked as abandoned. Karen would have a *very* long time trying to get the house from that.
Story 2: That judge really knows how to protect and serve! And that Uber driver was a bad butt too. And anyone who cheats, pulls false PPO's, and steals cars deserve what they get.
For the changing table thing: the solution is to go to the table where they set all the food for delivery between the kitchen and eating area, and change the diaper on that counter. Explain that there is no changing table in the men's room, and they say you can't use the one in the women's room.
*state's need to do that anyway...at least how they are run currently...any example of documented abuse or over reach should be grounds by the local DA's for immediate and total irradiation of the hoa and very prompt arrest of everyone who might have been involved in approving the act itself*
Story 1: a squatter can do what that woman thought, but she needs to read those squatter laws again. Did she think that year would be long enough? I think they're typically 7 years. 1 year is never enough.
In much of Europe it's 10 years openly(as in not hiding it) living there without permission(so not a tenant or house sitter for example), maintaining it as a homeowner would, with a reasonable belief it was abandoned(which also means if the homeowner comes back and tells you to leave you have no rights to stay). Then it's down to the original owner needing to take it to court where a judge decides based on evidence if the property was actually abandoned, did the squatter fulfil all the requirements for squatters rights, etc and if all of those are met the property is legally considered the squatters after they pay property taxes for the 10 years they were squatting. If the property wasn't abandoned or there is dispute over the requirements(maybe the squatter was only there 9 years, or the original owner told them to leave 2 years in, etc) then it's still the original homeowners property and the squatter has to leave. Don't know why everyone seems to think it's this magic and easy to claim thing that let's you steal a house in 6 months, it just doesn't make sense legally.
If the inheritance is never comingled with resources of the marriage, since it isn't her inheritance and depending on the local laws it might be a non-issue. She'd have no right to it.
One thing that defeats the arguments about men being in the womens room is that womens toilets are normally individual stalls unless he is peeking over or under the doors then there is no reason for women to be worried about a man entering the room. Unisex bathrooms are the answer to this issue.
Literally this. Honestly urinals make me feel weirdly predatory. I'm bisexual and FtM, and it's so much more awkward and I feel so bad when I use the men's toilets, but using the women's toilets doesn't even though I'm admittedly more attracted to women normally. The stalls for privacy help a lot. I don't even know how cis men can deal with urinals. I feel bad for fellow bi and gay dudes, I at least can still pass as female for now and not have to deal with feeling like a creep for just existing in a restroom with urinals 😅
Or bathrooms wirh a sink and a toilet,with actual doors you can lock,and you need a special key from the ouside to open it,we have these in norway in public places.
Story 4: They have not gotten married yet, so they would not be signing a pre-nup after getting married. OP called the man her fiancee the entire story.
The weirdness is the OP was upset about money that was not hers. That was throwing me off. I had to rewind and check the story again. You generally don't comingling funds until after the marriage. I understand curiosity, but the OP was agonizing over her boyfriend's money like a spouse.
@@jamesleung0it's because they had already merged finances from the sounds of things. Him having a large amount of undeclared money can mean several things, for starters it can mean "I don't trust you" in the best circumstances (thats kindof what this was, but they worked through it). But it can also mean illegal activity which they are hiding from you. Also if filing joint taxes that you've commited tax fraud which can get you in considerable trouble.
@@cgi2002 Why would they file jointly if they're not married (either legally or common law)? Outside of those 2 types of marriage, I don't think you can file jointly in the US. Merging finances prior to marriage is the craziest idea ever. You're under no legal obligation to do so. Why would you want a girlfriend or boyfriend to have complete control of your finances (not including POA/caretaker situations)? I've seen potential marriages fall apart hours before the ceremony. There's a whole AskReddit thread about "runaway brides" stories.
@@jamesleung0 some people are crazy apparently and like the idea of sharing their finances. But then I dislike the idea of sharing in general, so I'm not a fan of this whole marriage concept.
Squatters rights should never be able to overturn a rightful homeowners rights. The fact they do is how squatting has become a rampant problem with a-holes destroying houses and getting away without consequence. If the squatter has no documentation that can be back by any legitimacy or there's obvious signs of forced entry, they should be treated as burglars and not only be removed immediately, but arrested and charged for all the damages they've done to the house.
Don't squatter's rights only apply if the owner(s) of a property are aware the squatter is on their property? I know its different from place to place, but I remember seeing a RUclips Short from a lawyer saying that Squatters have to make their actions publicly known, as well as to the person whose property they are on. Doesn't matter how long you've been there, if the real owner didn't know you were there, you aren't squatting, you are trespassing
As a dad who was at one point a single father, it’s a huge issue that many men’s rooms don’t have changing stations. Not fair really. Should have said something first though
Yeah it's genuinely really unfair to single dads, dads out with their kids, etc.. It's also sexist because it's in only women's restrooms because women are "supposed" to be carers and do all of the childrearing, which is just rubbish.
If i saw a man in the womens restroom and there was only a changing table here and he had a baby i wouldn't need any announcement I'd just mind my own business. Babies need to go to the bathroom too. Same goes for a man standing awkwardly near the sinks while you hear a little girl that's maybe 4 using the toilet. It's very apparent what is going on and is none of my business. I don't get these people who scream about how uncomfortable they are. Maybe those women should stay home.
When I lived in a college dormitory a fellow resident 's blind brother thought it was perfectly ok to use the women bathroom just because he was blind. I yelled at him that blindsness doesn't make him less than a man GET OUT
Story 1, OP made the mistake in not temporarily renting out the house while he was gone or having someone keep up on the house maintenance. He also should have put in alarms so that if someone entered illegally, it would contact local authorities.
squatters rights if i recall are 7 to 10 years in most places. Thats over half a decade without the actual owner even once showing up to make any sort of claim on it. Less than one year is not even remotely close to long enough. Not in ANY jurisdiction.
@ 16:14 Funny enough, I was using the restroom at one of my local grocery stores when I saw a man come in to change his child. (Didn’t know the gender of the child, but that’s irrelevant) I informed him there was a changing station (it was a small restroom but the changing station wasn’t inside a private stall) and he was so relieved. I imagine he didn’t find a changing station in the men’s restroom too often, but I’m not gonna assume anything. And this comment actually reminded me of this. Thanks comment number 2!
Story 3, If I was that dad, I would have told hostess you can change him, but instant I leabe this bathroom without him, I'll call cops on kidnapping and inappropriately touching a minor, as well as accessory charges against any witness left in this bathroom. You can either let me do my paremt duties or be labeled as a child inappropriate offender for life. Choice is yours, hostess.
The one time I ran into the no changing table in the men's restroom and didn't have a female relative with me I asked a staff member and she made sure the women's bathroom was empty and stood outside the door while we were in there.
Umm... in my country, the law requires at least one bathroom with handicap access in any restaurant/store. This bathroom usually also has the changing table. In bigger stores, there are usually also separate mens/womens bathrooms, but if there is only one that one has to be handicap friendly with a changing table. Thus, here, anybody can change a baby without somebody getting butthurt over it.
*hoa occupation story is how people become trip hazards to others and earn themselves there very own darwin award...at least that's how it is here in the south*
I can't get you arrested, but I can do what I did with my own squatter, block every single attempt to obtain food from the outside, keep paying the utilities but taking away the fuse from the circuit breaker that's outside the house, same with water and gas. Done this I told him, you either starve to death or leave my house, your choice, he did call police on me, but as I told the cop "I keep paying the utilities, It's not my fault if they break, nor it's my responsibility to fix them for an intruder to enjoy, also as the land owner I can ban intruders from my land, that includes delivery people." I was of course as I explained to the cop, not really blocking his access to his food, they could always come out, get the food that was left outside the property and since he is outside leave. He was out in less than 24 hours.
Throughout Europe, the restrooms are unisex, we must be a pretty prude country to have to separate everyone so we can go to the bathroom. Our own homes the restrooms are unisex, there are even some places that have smaller use that make the bathrooms universal.
There’s been some cases where there’s some creepy person puts a hidden camera in the unisex bathrooms. So I can see why separate bathrooms are better. Plus from my experience of working in a food establishment, men dirty the bathrooms far worse than woman do. Poop smeared on the walls and pee everywhere. It’s disgusting 🤢. I even saw a turd in the sink before in the mens. Like who does that!! If I was in the bathroom when this happened I would have spoken up and tell the workers “I would rather him change the diaper in her then on the table where everyone is eating. Would you rather him do that? I don’t want that baby to have to be in his dirty diaper any longer. You aren’t a good mother if you want any baby to sit in soiled diapers. Ask yourselves do you want to sit in poop all day “
@@Kelsey1442 I used to work retail, in my last job, I was supposed to clean the restrooms when the janitor was on vacation or out for a while. The women's room was so bad, littered with used tampons, even though there was a trash bin alongside the toilet, the men's room looked like a paradise compared to it. I guess that it can be accounted for because it was an arts and crafts store where women generally were the shoppers and or with their children. But there was a time when the ladies room had a bloody tampon on the floor and a trail of blood around the stalls.
@@Kelsey1442 I'm sorry to say this, but it's very easy for a man to just walk into a woman's restroom and put in shit like that anyways. I get it's less likely...but also, some women could do this as well, especially if they're getting paid
Where I live, there is a solition. There's no changing table on the men's or women's restroom. There is one on the handicap restroom, so anyone can use it.
Story #1 HOA Neighbor Squats in my house: The squatters laws are a big messed up. Rule is that if you are away for an extended time then always have someone check on your property on a regular on going basis to Avoid such a mess. Self entitled karens are such mean little fascists.
The restaurant is the a-hole for no changing room in both restrooms and for looking down on the dad for not wanting a chance for a rash to happen to the baby for the ride back
That sounds OK, but the legal consequences will be unbearable. Use the court, NOT the gun, to regain control of your property. Then, using the money from the HOA that you were awarded, hire private detectives to dig up all possible dirt on the HOA leaders and get them thrown in prison if possible. It is unlikely that you are their only victim, and get together with other victims to ruin them financially.
First story, what OP was referring to in regards to taking over ownership of the house is called "adverse possession" but generally requires many years before it becomes legal/valid. In the state I'm in, it's at least 15 years. So one year alone wouldn't have done it and OP must not have known that, which is fine in and of itself, but a lawyer would have and would NOT have given the impression that OP was in danger of losing their house. In other words, I think the story is fake because OP dun goofed with that part of it. If it were real, the lawyer would have explained adverse possession and OP would have known that it would take several years and that's something that would have been mentioned. But leaving it out gives the impression that OP was actually at risk of losing the house. Obviously someone learned a little bit about it and thought they could make a cool story out of it, but failed to learn enough about it to realize that their story wouldn't make sense because of how short the timeline was.
I mean the line about the lawyer is a little vague. The lawyer may have said something like "yeah that's a real thing but she doesn't meet the standards so don't worry." and OP just worded it badly. Then again I normally assume most of these are at least exaggerated a little.
Women's bathroom diver change: I would have announced I was coming in and the reason for me to come. But as soon as one of the complaining busy bodies used the term "cisgender" I would have said "Oh it's fine, because I identify as a Woman". At that time, by the very logic of the cisgender-stating lady said, I was therefore a Woman and they could not ask me to leave because I was A Woman and part of a protected class.
Too bad you didn't Rent out your house to your friend for 9 months. Without a legal document of rental agreement they have no rights to stay on your property. Gift two of your big male friends a ownership paper of 1% worth $1,000 in cash after 3 months and that they had to offer to sell those papers to you before they sold them to others. They can legally live in the house beside her and she will have to let them do so. Nothing the cops can do.
For the story about the guy who use the changing table in the women’s room I am blind and have mobility issues so when I go out with one of my female friends, they take me into the women’s room and it’s just for a matter of cleanliness of the bathroom and making sure I don’t call” Sit in anything or have issues with a clean bathroom, and I have never run into any issues with any patrons so whoever had problems with the sky changing his baby is a true Karen and needs to get a boot to the head
First story, adverse possession doesn't work on such a short time scale. While there is such a thing as squatters rights it doesn't really help. I can't tell you what I would do, but by the end she wouldn't have any evidence she was squatting and then I would just call the cops on a B&E.
Story 3 - If a Restaurent doesn't have a Parents room nor Access to a Parents room for a Father. Then it is okay for the PARENT to use the PARENT facilities were they are Located.
The only time it actually meant something was in early times when leaving a log cabin to rot was normal and the people that lived in it would actually make it livable, instead of breaking into someone's home and changing the locks
The changing table guy is NOT by any stretch of imagination in the wrong there. "announce his intentions?" HE HAS A BABY WITH HIM. It's clear that he is there for the BABY. I'd put the restaurant on blast for not letting him take care of his son because what could he realistically do? Leave his baby with a stranger? No. And they'd never have asked a mother to do that. Change the baby at a restaurant table? Health hazard. Change the baby in the car? Awkward and there goes his food. This is all the restaurants fault and yeah the ideal solution was to have the hostess stand there while he changed the diaper to ensure the crazy women who think he shouldn't change his baby's diaper weren't made more "uncomfortable" Those women disgust me. One even said she had kids. That means she knows how it's NOT good for the baby's skin to keep a soiled diaper on, and then she had the audacity to offer to change the diaper like that isn't the creepiest pword crap ever. No lady, you don't get to see and touch a random baby's private parts. Creep. I'd also avoid ever going back to that terrible restaurant if I were dad there. Clearly they think fathers shouldn't take care of their children and i wouldn't want to eat anywhere with such archaic views. Who knows what their views on food safety are if their views on parenthood are that outdated.
Bank statement story Once again proof that when you ASSUME something it can destroy a relationship TG in this case they talked about it and things turned out right Communication is alway important and one should not ASSUME ANYTHING until an open line of communication has been opened
In the story about the woman who found the bank statement, just to clarify, they were not married yet so yes, they can do a pre-nup. The whole way through this story all I could think is that this was a huge Red Flag. She had no reason to be this anxious about what she found because it was NON OF HER BUSINESS. Even if they did discuss finances (which I highly recommend), any money or accounts that he had prior to their wedding day is his and his alone so there is no need for him to disclose this unless he has been living off of her. That would just be wrong. Also, if they were living paycheck to paycheck and he was sitting on over $4 mil, that would be kind of shady but it seemed like they were doing ok so it was non of her business and the reasoning he gave proved that. Ladies, NEVER ask your significant other "is there something you need to tell me?" And I mean NEVER. Remember, men and women dont think the same way and they dont store information the same way. You may know the topic you wish to discuss but he doesnt. Such an open and vague question will have him scrambling through his memory to figure out what you are after and you may not like what he comes up with. I'm not saying men are dumb (I'm a man and most consider me fairly intelligent) but backed into a corner, their brains do tend to jumble a bit. The answer you get could be anything from the fact that he stepped on some of you flowers in the garden to he once killed a man to watch him bleed. You just never know and in many cases, you might not want to know. Let your brain digest this one. Say you have been together for 10 years and it has been great with little to no problems. One day, you just randomly ask "is there something you need to tell me" and he breaks down and tells you that very early in your relationship, he cheated on you with your best friend (who has also been in a blissful long term relationship since then). Remember, your relationship has been fantastic and you may think you can fool yourself into thinking you will be ok with this but you wont be. You will feel betrayed and hurt and there will be a strong urge to confront the best friend. You could potentially nuke the lives of 4 people over this and why, to what end? It wont make anyone feel better. It wont enhance anyone's life. Yes, cheating is wrong and I dont condone it in any way but it happens sometimes. The fact is, you're all in a good place right now so knowing this information would be very bad. It all could have been avoided by asking a specific question that is actually related to what you want to know rather than fishing with such a broad question. Men say whatever pops into their heads when backed into a corner and there are many things you just dont want to hear.
Story 4: The couple had not married yet. So a pre-nup can be signed. After marriage it would be called a "post-nup" which would be equally valid if signed by both parties.
About your blind girlfriend, take your parents on an outing for a day with you and her so they see how she goes about her day and how she copes with life. The problem is they have no concept of how she functions so they have to see it. That will help them and put their fears to rest.
In conservative USA, it is considered “gay” for a man to change a child’s diaper. That’s why it is nearly impossible in “red” areas to find a diaper changing station in men’s rooms. California has been trying to change this. But, business owners don’t want to spend money on it. I suggest changing baby at your table. That always gets people’s attention
@@MKWhitney That what was reported on the news. They interviewed people who said diaper changing stations in Men’s bathrooms are only for “woke” “gay” men. You can accuse me of lying all you want. It doesn’t change the fact that it was real people (not actors) being interviewed and saying these things. It’s not my opinion. I’d tell you if it was. Plus, this sentiment is all over American right-wing media. Just look it up. It’s among the biggest hurdles (the biggest one being the cost) for trying to get diaper changing stations mandated in Men’s restrooms. Again, you believe whatever you want too. I’m just going off the facts as I know them. I’ve been watching the bill in California for several years now. You are welcome to prove me wrong . . . but you have to show me hard facts and statistics. Or else, you are just wanting to believe your own version of your subjective reality.
Hi Ripe 😎⭐😺🧸, ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ The story about the father needing to change the diaper in the restaurant... More places need to provide a “family bathroom”. It's like a large handicapped bathroom, with a changing table. It's where fathers can take their daughters to the bathroom. Mothers have been taking sons into the “Lady's Room” since indoor plumbing became a thing. However fathers have to send tiny girls into the lady's restroom all alone, hoping for the best. On the job I've assisted many little girls too short to wash their hands. Hear their fathers hollering in if they're ok every minute or so. I've hollered back we're washing her hands, she's too short to reach the sink. They relax when I come out wearing a uniform with a name tag on. But nobody thinks anything about little boys being in the lady's restroom; unless they're trying to peek under the stalls, or between the door gaps, or crawl into your stall. And it's completely unfair. If every place that has restrooms had a family bathroom as well the father in this story wouldn't have had a problem. 😊 👵☮️🖖
Story 4: With all due respect why does she care if he has more money? She says she is not a gold digger but the moment she knows that he has more money than she knew she is upset he didn't say anything. Honestly... boyfriend/husband or not it is none of her business he didn't come with that to the table in the beginning of the relationship for a reason. She is not entitled to all his financials untill he is ready and neither is he for hers.
Story 4: I think th husband doesn’t need a prenup. Inherited property is normally the sole and separate property of the inheritor, even if they are married.
I am just curious but don't comfort station, toilets, have a separate area to change babies' nappies? If not, then they should have. This gentleman, whilst he should not have had to enter a female toilet to change his son, was in or at any obligation to have a female change his child. I commend him on his willingness to do that as it is quite remarkable how many men prefer not to do that necessary job! As for the "princesses" whjo were violated at his presence in a lady's area for heaven's sake the man had a baby with him and did anyone ask him WHY he was there? That would have explained everything!
Story 1: Yes technically you can claim a property that's abandoned by moving into it. However in order to do that you have to live pn the property for a minimum of 10 years in the US. In Ohio you have to openly and notoriously occupy and care for the land for 15 years, Colorado requires 18 years or 12 if there is a color of deed (basically a valid reason you would think you own the property).
And add on to that every single word in your sentence has a very specific legal definition that has to be met in order to even meet the conditions. It is extremely hard to get away with a claim of squatter's rights in order to own property in the US
@@khrishp that's because squatters rights doesn't give you possession of the property, you have to deal with the laws for adverse possession to do that.
WHEN I GO AWAY MY 81 YEAR OLD NEIGHBOR WATCHES MY HOUSE....... THE ONLY ONE I TRUST PERIOD..... THE OTHER THAT COULD HAS COPD AND DON'T GET OUT MUCH ANYMORE.
A father changing his baby in the women's bathroom is perfectly fine. No peeks through the cracks except in junior high. Honestly, after that cisgender comment, if I was him I would have declared that I was actually a trans woman to shut them up.
Story 1: Story 1: So-called "Squatter's Rights" has a time requirement that is no less than 1 full year of 100% living in the home...Karen did not satisfy that requirement. Story 3: At the hostess for saying that OP's wife should change the baby I would respond "His mother died in child birth...any other helpful suggestions?" At the person who called OP a "cisgender man" I would have looked shocked and asked "Did you just ASSUME my gender? You need to check your privilege!" I do agree with the comment that changing the diaper at the front counter...or even OP's table...would bring some attention to the lack of proper facilities for fathers with babies.
An agreement entered into BEFORE marriage or civil partnership that regulates the financial terms of separation, divorce or dissolution is called a Prenuptial Agreement An agreement entered into AFTER marriage or civil partnership that regulates the financial terms of separation, divorce or dissolution is called a Postnuptial Agreement
The problem with your thought process is that any female in that room including the hostess and the restaurant owner himself could have had the dad arrested for sexual harassment. He had no right to walk into a woman's room. There were other options about how to change the baby. No one male or female should have to feel uncomfortable while in a vulnerable situation like using the bathroom. As a mother myself I sympathize with the father's plight in wanting to change his child but he could have handled things differently than he did.
Okay now for me I've had to deal with Squires in the past and I'll tell you this right now you don't call the cops you get a gun and you forced him out of your home. Because they will never leave and they will tie you up in litigation for so long.
Men in usa need to protect themself(when married, as huge majority divorces men are left with nothing and many without support often go homeless), if you are fine in financially there is no problems.
3rd one is hard to say who is the a hole. i guess the people ordering the resturant is the a hole for not having changing table in both or having other ways for it done. here in norway the changing table is like 90-99% of the time in the one for people with wheelchairs or need to use it for other reasons but dont need a wheelchair for it. this bathroom is always more open than the others and have more space avilable.
Actually the commodes should have some type of a transfer table beside them, which those who are double amputees, where prosthetic legs aren't an option of both legs are there but unusable. It would allow those in that situation to transfer from their chair to the toilet. My late girlfriend was a double amputee and she couldn't have prosthetic legs, as her residuals never healed, and her skin would breakdown easily at the ends.
Story 3: if I was OP I would be like ok fine and get out of the restroom and get back to my table and start changing him right there while all the customers are sitting at their tables eating their meals. Then say “Is this better!?!”
Story 3. My daughter was born in 2001, and due to postpartum depression, I ended up taking care of her the most for her first almost year. One of the areas that I enjoyed taking her was the library. Well the library did not have a changing table in the men's room, but they did in the ladies, I was able to use the counter in the men's room to change her, but I mentioned it to the library staff and they advised me to go upstairs to the admin office and mention it to them, so I did, and the response was favorable, they listened to what I had to say and said that they would look into getting them installed, and eventually they did indeed get them installed, they told me that they never really considered the need for them in the men's room but saw my point and took action.
*we have changing tables in the restrooms at work but they are located just as you enter, which in my opinion can be a bit awkward...think they need to be placed within the handicapped stall to insure a bit more privacy*
Hereditary HOAs should be illegal, and any such additions to a contract or deed should be rendered NULL and VOID. HOA membership must be voluntary at all times, and any person should be entitled to QUIT an HOA at any time without any legal cause or penalty. When a house changes hands, all HOA membership is automatically cancelled. THAT will help.
well i almost agree with you, there should ALWAYS be an exit from an HOA but there are some cases i do not think it would apply.
For example i used to own a townhome so it was something like owning an apartment i had neighbors below me, and to both sides.
Before i sold that home the HOA decided to replace the aging windows on all the properties, i dont think just leaving makes sense in a situation where everyone is essentially sharing the same structure.
However with stand alone homes? Yes you should be able to leave if you want.
I do not understand how a "hereditary" HOA can even be legal.
HOAs are service providers, which should put them under "The Fair Business and Services Act" which prevents you from being forced into paying for services that you don't wish to use and the right to leave the service contracts when you wish. HOAs do not abide by this law because they have twisted our legal system to allow their fascistic tyranny to thrive.
Similar issue with the Squatter's Rights laws, which were created for people who found an abandoned house and made improvements to the property.
@@KameraShy well you see they put the HOA on the deed of the house, so the HOA follows the deed regardless of the owner. Presumably it is voluntary because you are (supposed to be) told upfront that the property is part of an HOA and you are supposed to have access to review the CC&R's before purchase.
Personally I think joining an HOA for houses (not condos/apartments) should be voluntary and treated like a lease, wherein every year/two years/etc members are able to opt out moving forward.
@@SDarkfire500 Few places still exist where squatter's rights make sense. Pittsburgh is one of the , and a scant few properties out in the Rockies, that may or may not be on federal land are all I can think of.
Story 3: Next time, if there is an empty table nearby, change the baby there. If anyone says anything, tell them that there is no table in men's, and you are not allowed in women's, and you don't want the staff to remove your unfinished meal while you take baby home, change him, then come back to a cold meal.
Tbh if the ladies room is sign marked as "baby changing facilities" it's now a legally protected space for him to change the baby. This is one of those cases were the resturant needs to be glad that OP never realised that he could sue them for discrimination and have a slam dunk case as enforcing gendered changing facilities are a violation of a few laws. This is why alot of places have a unisex bathroom (often fitted as a disabled bathroom, as not having that can also get you sued unless you have a valid excuse not to these days) that includes these facilities.
I have a lot of respect for the woman who found her fiancé's bank statement and offered to sign a prenup on her own without him asking. Sounds like a good woman.
With respect to a man using a women’s restroom for changing an infant. When the manager insisted he leave changing the diaper he should have said he would sue the restaurant and the manager for NOT having a changing table in the Men’s restroom as required by law. This is not a new problem and has been through the courts so all the women and the restaurant were the A *oles. As leaving an infant in a soiled diaper can. be considered as child abuse.
As far as the cis comment goes, maybe he could have said he was "gender fluid" and "identified" as female for the duration of the diaper change.
When my son was an baby I used the woman's washroom on more then one occasion if the place did not have a change table in the men's washroom. I explained myself as I would enter the woman's washroom every time and apologized to any one who happened to use the facilities.
I got called out on a few occasions and I just answered that I identified as a woman.
The one time at a Burger KingI had a woman telling me she didn't care where I changed the diaper, but I couldn't do it in the washroom. I just went to a table in the restaurant a few tables away from the woman and started to change the diaper on the table.
She yelled at me and I just answered out loud, you "you told me you didn't care where I changed the diaper as long as it wasn't in the washroom, for god sake make up your mind." And continued changing the diaper.
I threw out the diaper in the men's washroom and informed the staff.
For the woman who said just lay out the changing pad in the men's restroom, she doesn't know that there is no flat surface in the men's restroom except for the dirty wet floor where men are walking if it doesn't have a baby changing table. Yes, women's bathrooms often have a table or counter in addition to the baby changing table but men's bathrooms often are build different.
I find this story to be the most believable so far and funniest of all, because everyone jumping on him would absolutely be on the OP's side if the gender roles were reversed so I just cannot take them seriously.
Great point! I have been considered that before I made my above response, but you are correct.
Im a european who never wanted to live in the usa but those hoa's sounds fun. Im easely bored and have a meanstreak while normally being kind. So buying a small house in a hoa without being part of it might give me a perfect reason to find true enemies i can mess with. (Edit: without being the jerk lol)
Some people have a summer home & some people have a winter home, perhaps you need to save up some money to buy a mental health home? Find an affordable house in an HOA neighborhood Get a copy of the Rules & READ Them Absolutely Totally READ them! If you think you can live within the rules but you also see room for loopholes which would make your life worth living, go ahead. But I would advise a house within your budget that you can afford to lose, because sometimes they have been known to foreclose! If you are the kind of person you describe but like harmless fun at a governments expense, I would appreciate living next door to you, for the entertainment!!! 😮😅😂❤
@marshawargo7238 i should have been clearer i ment a house ina hoa neighborhood without being part of the hoa. That would be a perfect setup to get harassed and have a good reason to let the games begin.
In my opinion, the women that were so rude were the assess. Actually, more importantly, those who think there is no need for a changing table in the men's room are even bigger assess.
How bout mom's walking into change rooms and locker rooms at pools
In Australia, most of the disabled unisex toilets have the change tables . Much better system.
*that's how it needs to be in my opinion...*
It's that way in the UK too, either the disabled loos have the changing tables or we often now have family changing areas (has toilets in as well as a changing and even a breast feeding area, all in separate areas/rooms which is great especially when you have kids at different ages as you can all use the one facility)
It's not just baby changing places only in the women's toilets. When I was in a wheelchair while I was out & about. The only wheelchair disabled toilet was only accessible through the Women's toilets & none in the men's. I'm in my 40's & male.
You gotta be kidding... That's awful and makes no sense either.
How can you be grandfathered "in" an HOA and not be part of the HOA? Sounds like the house was actually exempt from the HOA under a grandfather clause.
"Squatter's Rights" (I think the legal term is 'Adverse Possession') are legally a thing, but far more limited than this woman thought. For one thing, the squatter has to be living in the house, continuously, for much longer than a year. (Varies by location, but usually seven years.) Second, they must be living there openly, not hiding that they are doing so. Third, they must be repairing and maintaining the structure just as a legal resident would be expected to do. And finally, the actual owner must NEVER set foot on the property, at all, for the entire seven years. To put this in perspective, if I owned a house, and someone was squatting, and I didn't go there for years, but, with just one day left before the seven years I walked up to the property line, stuck one foot over the line, touched the ground, then turned and left, the seven year timer would reset to zero.
I thought it was usually 20-25 years.
@@fnjesusfreak Looking it up, at least in the U.S. this varies by state and can be as little as three years or as much as twenty, but seven is the average or close to it.
not quite, you would have to prove that you had visited the property and prove that you had demanded the squatters to leave. So no, just walking onto your property after 6.999 years is not good enough.
@@islandwills2778True.
Though the dude's point still stands that there are quite the number of hoops someone has to jump through and pray happen that would allow them to claim ownership of a house
It varies from state to state. Even within a state, it can vary quite a big depending on the circumstances.
In Texas, the statute of limitations for adverse possession ranges from three years to twenty or more years. The usual is ten years. The three year limitation is something no squatter would ever qualify for.
Perhaps the father should have changed the baby on an empty table in the restaurant dining room.
health code violation the restaurant could have kicked him out for that.
40 years ago, I laid a blanket on the floor of the stall and changed my child. There were no changing tables at that time so you did what you could.
When my kids where infants 14 years ago, this was unfortunately not an uncommon problem, though family rooms where becoming a thing, I would announce my self outside the door and my intentions to you use the changing table, and wait until those in the washroom left before entering, then would clearly state to any lady entering what I was doing and would be clearing out when finished, this usually avoided most problems, except Karen's!
Regarding the first story, she was telling the truth *up* to OP coming back, as soon as OP came back ready for their house the *squatter* can't claim the house was abandoned. As long as the OP makes moves to show they are trying to *remove* the squatter then the house isn't marked as abandoned. Karen would have a *very* long time trying to get the house from that.
Story 2: That judge really knows how to protect and serve!
And that Uber driver was a bad butt too.
And anyone who cheats, pulls false PPO's, and steals cars deserve what they get.
For the changing table thing: the solution is to go to the table where they set all the food for delivery between the kitchen and eating area, and change the diaper on that counter. Explain that there is no changing table in the men's room, and they say you can't use the one in the women's room.
Abolish all HOA's!!
*state's need to do that anyway...at least how they are run currently...any example of documented abuse or over reach should be grounds by the local DA's for immediate and total irradiation of the hoa and very prompt arrest of everyone who might have been involved in approving the act itself*
Story 1: a squatter can do what that woman thought, but she needs to read those squatter laws again. Did she think that year would be long enough? I think they're typically 7 years. 1 year is never enough.
In much of Europe it's 10 years openly(as in not hiding it) living there without permission(so not a tenant or house sitter for example), maintaining it as a homeowner would, with a reasonable belief it was abandoned(which also means if the homeowner comes back and tells you to leave you have no rights to stay).
Then it's down to the original owner needing to take it to court where a judge decides based on evidence if the property was actually abandoned, did the squatter fulfil all the requirements for squatters rights, etc and if all of those are met the property is legally considered the squatters after they pay property taxes for the 10 years they were squatting.
If the property wasn't abandoned or there is dispute over the requirements(maybe the squatter was only there 9 years, or the original owner told them to leave 2 years in, etc) then it's still the original homeowners property and the squatter has to leave.
Don't know why everyone seems to think it's this magic and easy to claim thing that let's you steal a house in 6 months, it just doesn't make sense legally.
If you sign it after getting married, it's not a prenup but a postnuptial
If the inheritance is never comingled with resources of the marriage, since it isn't her inheritance and depending on the local laws it might be a non-issue. She'd have no right to it.
In story one, I'm surprised that the narrator didn't physically attack the HOA squatter. Right or wrong, I would have been moved to violence.
Story 4, OP's fiancee should definitely require OP to sign a prenup before getting married at the very least.
That's pretty ballsy, move into somebody's home because he went to school? WOW...
One thing that defeats the arguments about men being in the womens room is that womens toilets are normally individual stalls unless he is peeking over or under the doors then there is no reason for women to be worried about a man entering the room. Unisex bathrooms are the answer to this issue.
Literally this. Honestly urinals make me feel weirdly predatory. I'm bisexual and FtM, and it's so much more awkward and I feel so bad when I use the men's toilets, but using the women's toilets doesn't even though I'm admittedly more attracted to women normally.
The stalls for privacy help a lot. I don't even know how cis men can deal with urinals. I feel bad for fellow bi and gay dudes, I at least can still pass as female for now and not have to deal with feeling like a creep for just existing in a restroom with urinals 😅
Or bathrooms wirh a sink and a toilet,with actual doors you can lock,and you need a special key from the ouside to open it,we have these in norway in public places.
Story 4: They have not gotten married yet, so they would not be signing a pre-nup after getting married. OP called the man her fiancee the entire story.
The weirdness is the OP was upset about money that was not hers. That was throwing me off. I had to rewind and check the story again. You generally don't comingling funds until after the marriage. I understand curiosity, but the OP was agonizing over her boyfriend's money like a spouse.
She shouldn't have been snooping in the first place.
@@jamesleung0it's because they had already merged finances from the sounds of things.
Him having a large amount of undeclared money can mean several things, for starters it can mean "I don't trust you" in the best circumstances (thats kindof what this was, but they worked through it). But it can also mean illegal activity which they are hiding from you.
Also if filing joint taxes that you've commited tax fraud which can get you in considerable trouble.
@@cgi2002 Why would they file jointly if they're not married (either legally or common law)? Outside of those 2 types of marriage, I don't think you can file jointly in the US. Merging finances prior to marriage is the craziest idea ever. You're under no legal obligation to do so. Why would you want a girlfriend or boyfriend to have complete control of your finances (not including POA/caretaker situations)? I've seen potential marriages fall apart hours before the ceremony. There's a whole AskReddit thread about "runaway brides" stories.
@@jamesleung0 some people are crazy apparently and like the idea of sharing their finances. But then I dislike the idea of sharing in general, so I'm not a fan of this whole marriage concept.
Squatters rights should never be able to overturn a rightful homeowners rights. The fact they do is how squatting has become a rampant problem with a-holes destroying houses and getting away without consequence.
If the squatter has no documentation that can be back by any legitimacy or there's obvious signs of forced entry, they should be treated as burglars and not only be removed immediately, but arrested and charged for all the damages they've done to the house.
Don't squatter's rights only apply if the owner(s) of a property are aware the squatter is on their property? I know its different from place to place, but I remember seeing a RUclips Short from a lawyer saying that Squatters have to make their actions publicly known, as well as to the person whose property they are on. Doesn't matter how long you've been there, if the real owner didn't know you were there, you aren't squatting, you are trespassing
As a dad who was at one point a single father, it’s a huge issue that many men’s rooms don’t have changing stations. Not fair really. Should have said something first though
Yeah it's genuinely really unfair to single dads, dads out with their kids, etc.. It's also sexist because it's in only women's restrooms because women are "supposed" to be carers and do all of the childrearing, which is just rubbish.
If i saw a man in the womens restroom and there was only a changing table here and he had a baby i wouldn't need any announcement I'd just mind my own business. Babies need to go to the bathroom too. Same goes for a man standing awkwardly near the sinks while you hear a little girl that's maybe 4 using the toilet. It's very apparent what is going on and is none of my business. I don't get these people who scream about how uncomfortable they are. Maybe those women should stay home.
When I lived in a college dormitory a fellow resident 's blind brother thought it was perfectly ok to use the women bathroom just because he was blind. I yelled at him that blindsness doesn't make him less than a man GET OUT
Story 1, OP made the mistake in not temporarily renting out the house while he was gone or having someone keep up on the house maintenance. He also should have put in alarms so that if someone entered illegally, it would contact local authorities.
squatters rights if i recall are 7 to 10 years in most places. Thats over half a decade without the actual owner even once showing up to make any sort of claim on it. Less than one year is not even remotely close to long enough. Not in ANY jurisdiction.
Story 4 could easily be a lawsuit payment that has a nondisclosure agreement
Ripe, in the story about the hidden money, the two weren't married yet. OP said that he was her fiancee, so the are planning on getting married.
Diaper change story: In this situation I'd have changed the diaper on my table after finished eating. That would have made the point in spades.
@ 16:14
Funny enough, I was using the restroom at one of my local grocery stores when I saw a man come in to change his child. (Didn’t know the gender of the child, but that’s irrelevant) I informed him there was a changing station (it was a small restroom but the changing station wasn’t inside a private stall) and he was so relieved. I imagine he didn’t find a changing station in the men’s restroom too often, but I’m not gonna assume anything. And this comment actually reminded me of this.
Thanks comment number 2!
If your reading this your beautiful and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise
Have a great weekend, specially if you are not in an HOA ❤❤
Story 3, If I was that dad, I would have told hostess you can change him, but instant I leabe this bathroom without him, I'll call cops on kidnapping and inappropriately touching a minor, as well as accessory charges against any witness left in this bathroom. You can either let me do my paremt duties or be labeled as a child inappropriate offender for life. Choice is yours, hostess.
True. It would allow people to have more options.
The one time I ran into the no changing table in the men's restroom and didn't have a female relative with me I asked a staff member and she made sure the women's bathroom was empty and stood outside the door while we were in there.
Umm... in my country, the law requires at least one bathroom with handicap access in any restaurant/store. This bathroom usually also has the changing table.
In bigger stores, there are usually also separate mens/womens bathrooms, but if there is only one that one has to be handicap friendly with a changing table.
Thus, here, anybody can change a baby without somebody getting butthurt over it.
*hoa occupation story is how people become trip hazards to others and earn themselves there very own darwin award...at least that's how it is here in the south*
that's why most places have family bathrooms now
I can't get you arrested, but I can do what I did with my own squatter, block every single attempt to obtain food from the outside, keep paying the utilities but taking away the fuse from the circuit breaker that's outside the house, same with water and gas.
Done this I told him, you either starve to death or leave my house, your choice, he did call police on me, but as I told the cop "I keep paying the utilities, It's not my fault if they break, nor it's my responsibility to fix them for an intruder to enjoy, also as the land owner I can ban intruders from my land, that includes delivery people."
I was of course as I explained to the cop, not really blocking his access to his food, they could always come out, get the food that was left outside the property and since he is outside leave.
He was out in less than 24 hours.
Insane neighbors and psychotic HOA people are both pretty good reasons for castle laws to exist.
A Prenup signed AFTER marriage is actually called a Postnup.
The father should have asked a hostess to check and clear the bathroom for him to change the baby.
Throughout Europe, the restrooms are unisex, we must be a pretty prude country to have to separate everyone so we can go to the bathroom. Our own homes the restrooms are unisex, there are even some places that have smaller use that make the bathrooms universal.
There’s been some cases where there’s some creepy person puts a hidden camera in the unisex bathrooms. So I can see why separate bathrooms are better. Plus from my experience of working in a food establishment, men dirty the bathrooms far worse than woman do. Poop smeared on the walls and pee everywhere. It’s disgusting 🤢. I even saw a turd in the sink before in the mens. Like who does that!! If I was in the bathroom when this happened I would have spoken up and tell the workers “I would rather him change the diaper in her then on the table where everyone is eating. Would you rather him do that? I don’t want that baby to have to be in his dirty diaper any longer. You aren’t a good mother if you want any baby to sit in soiled diapers. Ask yourselves do you want to sit in poop all day “
@@Kelsey1442 I used to work retail, in my last job, I was supposed to clean the restrooms when the janitor was on vacation or out for a while. The women's room was so bad, littered with used tampons, even though there was a trash bin alongside the toilet, the men's room looked like a paradise compared to it. I guess that it can be accounted for because it was an arts and crafts store where women generally were the shoppers and or with their children. But there was a time when the ladies room had a bloody tampon on the floor and a trail of blood around the stalls.
@@timothyweers8054 I've seen a bloody tampon stuck on the wall before 😂 it just honestly depends with which one is gonna be worse
@@Kelsey1442 I'm sorry to say this, but it's very easy for a man to just walk into a woman's restroom and put in shit like that anyways. I get it's less likely...but also, some women could do this as well, especially if they're getting paid
Where I live, there is a solition. There's no changing table on the men's or women's restroom. There is one on the handicap
restroom, so anyone can use it.
But...then disabled people gotta wait to use the restroom 😞 baby changing stations should be in all bathrooms
Story #1 HOA Neighbor Squats in my house: The squatters laws are a big messed up. Rule is that if you are away for an extended time then always have someone check on your property on a regular on going basis to Avoid such a mess. Self entitled karens are such mean little fascists.
Great stories, Ripe.
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The restaurant is the a-hole for no changing room in both restrooms and for looking down on the dad for not wanting a chance for a rash to happen to the baby for the ride back
Story one theres only 1 way to take care of the squatters and thats your second amendment
Someone's speaking my language. They can't squat in a house if they're being carried out in a bodybag
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Oh yeah pop that hot air bag...fr fr
I want a sign that says, "Warning!! All trespassers will be prostituted and persecuted to the fullest extent." Might make people think twice. lol
That sounds OK, but the legal consequences will be unbearable. Use the court, NOT the gun, to regain control of your property. Then, using the money from the HOA that you were awarded, hire private detectives to dig up all possible dirt on the HOA leaders and get them thrown in prison if possible. It is unlikely that you are their only victim, and get together with other victims to ruin them financially.
Story 2, everyone is the A-hole. Mainly the resturant.
Here in Australia most baby change tables are in the disabled toilet
First story, what OP was referring to in regards to taking over ownership of the house is called "adverse possession" but generally requires many years before it becomes legal/valid. In the state I'm in, it's at least 15 years. So one year alone wouldn't have done it and OP must not have known that, which is fine in and of itself, but a lawyer would have and would NOT have given the impression that OP was in danger of losing their house. In other words, I think the story is fake because OP dun goofed with that part of it. If it were real, the lawyer would have explained adverse possession and OP would have known that it would take several years and that's something that would have been mentioned. But leaving it out gives the impression that OP was actually at risk of losing the house.
Obviously someone learned a little bit about it and thought they could make a cool story out of it, but failed to learn enough about it to realize that their story wouldn't make sense because of how short the timeline was.
I mean the line about the lawyer is a little vague. The lawyer may have said something like "yeah that's a real thing but she doesn't meet the standards so don't worry." and OP just worded it badly. Then again I normally assume most of these are at least exaggerated a little.
Women's bathroom diver change:
I would have announced I was coming in and the reason for me to come.
But as soon as one of the complaining busy bodies used the term "cisgender" I would have said "Oh it's fine, because I identify as a Woman".
At that time, by the very logic of the cisgender-stating lady said, I was therefore a Woman and they could not ask me to leave because I was A Woman and part of a protected class.
Too bad you didn't Rent out your house to your friend for 9 months. Without a legal document of rental agreement they have no rights to stay on your property. Gift two of your big male friends a ownership paper of 1% worth $1,000 in cash after 3 months and that they had to offer to sell those papers to you before they sold them to others. They can legally live in the house beside her and she will have to let them do so. Nothing the cops can do.
For the story about the guy who use the changing table in the women’s room I am blind and have mobility issues so when I go out with one of my female friends, they take me into the women’s room and it’s just for a matter of cleanliness of the bathroom and making sure I don’t call” Sit in anything or have issues with a clean bathroom, and I have never run into any issues with any patrons so whoever had problems with the sky changing his baby is a true Karen and needs to get a boot to the head
First story, adverse possession doesn't work on such a short time scale. While there is such a thing as squatters rights it doesn't really help. I can't tell you what I would do, but by the end she wouldn't have any evidence she was squatting and then I would just call the cops on a B&E.
Story 3 - If a Restaurent doesn't have a Parents room nor Access to a Parents room for a Father.
Then it is okay for the PARENT to use the PARENT facilities were they are Located.
If one had existed, OP would have used it.
I agree. If the only place that the PARENT can go to change a child is the ladies room, so be it. The problem is with the restaurant.
Calling someone a is legally a slur.
I really am surprised that I don’t hear more stories about squatters getting themselves shot by the owners.
Squatters have no rights and the idiots that came up with that madness should be in prison
The only time it actually meant something was in early times when leaving a log cabin to rot was normal and the people that lived in it would actually make it livable, instead of breaking into someone's home and changing the locks
@@samdavid5772 Do you watch Actual Justice Warrior?
The changing table guy is NOT by any stretch of imagination in the wrong there. "announce his intentions?" HE HAS A BABY WITH HIM. It's clear that he is there for the BABY. I'd put the restaurant on blast for not letting him take care of his son because what could he realistically do? Leave his baby with a stranger? No. And they'd never have asked a mother to do that. Change the baby at a restaurant table? Health hazard. Change the baby in the car? Awkward and there goes his food. This is all the restaurants fault and yeah the ideal solution was to have the hostess stand there while he changed the diaper to ensure the crazy women who think he shouldn't change his baby's diaper weren't made more "uncomfortable" Those women disgust me. One even said she had kids. That means she knows how it's NOT good for the baby's skin to keep a soiled diaper on, and then she had the audacity to offer to change the diaper like that isn't the creepiest pword crap ever. No lady, you don't get to see and touch a random baby's private parts. Creep.
I'd also avoid ever going back to that terrible restaurant if I were dad there. Clearly they think fathers shouldn't take care of their children and i wouldn't want to eat anywhere with such archaic views. Who knows what their views on food safety are if their views on parenthood are that outdated.
Once you admit to squanting they have rights. Call for breaking and entering.
In story 4, she clearly says that he's her Fiance, not married. Pre-nup applies here.
Bank statement story
Once again proof that when you ASSUME something it can destroy a relationship
TG in this case they talked about it and things turned out right
Communication is alway important and one should not ASSUME ANYTHING until an open line of communication has been opened
In the story about the woman who found the bank statement, just to clarify, they were not married yet so yes, they can do a pre-nup. The whole way through this story all I could think is that this was a huge Red Flag. She had no reason to be this anxious about what she found because it was NON OF HER BUSINESS. Even if they did discuss finances (which I highly recommend), any money or accounts that he had prior to their wedding day is his and his alone so there is no need for him to disclose this unless he has been living off of her. That would just be wrong. Also, if they were living paycheck to paycheck and he was sitting on over $4 mil, that would be kind of shady but it seemed like they were doing ok so it was non of her business and the reasoning he gave proved that.
Ladies, NEVER ask your significant other "is there something you need to tell me?" And I mean NEVER. Remember, men and women dont think the same way and they dont store information the same way. You may know the topic you wish to discuss but he doesnt. Such an open and vague question will have him scrambling through his memory to figure out what you are after and you may not like what he comes up with. I'm not saying men are dumb (I'm a man and most consider me fairly intelligent) but backed into a corner, their brains do tend to jumble a bit. The answer you get could be anything from the fact that he stepped on some of you flowers in the garden to he once killed a man to watch him bleed. You just never know and in many cases, you might not want to know. Let your brain digest this one. Say you have been together for 10 years and it has been great with little to no problems. One day, you just randomly ask "is there something you need to tell me" and he breaks down and tells you that very early in your relationship, he cheated on you with your best friend (who has also been in a blissful long term relationship since then). Remember, your relationship has been fantastic and you may think you can fool yourself into thinking you will be ok with this but you wont be. You will feel betrayed and hurt and there will be a strong urge to confront the best friend. You could potentially nuke the lives of 4 people over this and why, to what end? It wont make anyone feel better. It wont enhance anyone's life. Yes, cheating is wrong and I dont condone it in any way but it happens sometimes. The fact is, you're all in a good place right now so knowing this information would be very bad. It all could have been avoided by asking a specific question that is actually related to what you want to know rather than fishing with such a broad question. Men say whatever pops into their heads when backed into a corner and there are many things you just dont want to hear.
That restaurant could have just closed the ladies room temporarily and watched the door so the man could go in and change the diaper.
Story 4: The couple had not married yet. So a pre-nup can be signed. After marriage it would be called a "post-nup" which would be equally valid if signed by both parties.
"Squatter's rights" in my area are: "Get your a$$ out or get perforated with buckshot."
Snooping at the bank statement? Not your business at all!
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About your blind girlfriend, take your parents on an outing for a day with you and her so they see how she goes about her day and how she copes with life. The problem is they have no concept of how she functions so they have to see it. That will help them and put their fears to rest.
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Cif no changing table in the men's room. Use the hostess stand.. I'll bet they figure something out fast
In conservative USA, it is considered “gay” for a man to change a child’s diaper. That’s why it is nearly impossible in “red” areas to find a diaper changing station in men’s rooms. California has been trying to change this. But, business owners don’t want to spend money on it. I suggest changing baby at your table. That always gets people’s attention
That's a ridiculous statement.
@@MKWhitney Of course it is ridiculous. Unfortunately, it’s true :(
@@Steampunkkids it absolutely is not true, but you are entitled to your opinion.
@@MKWhitney That what was reported on the news. They interviewed people who said diaper changing stations in Men’s bathrooms are only for “woke” “gay” men. You can accuse me of lying all you want. It doesn’t change the fact that it was real people (not actors) being interviewed and saying these things. It’s not my opinion. I’d tell you if it was. Plus, this sentiment is all over American right-wing media. Just look it up. It’s among the biggest hurdles (the biggest one being the cost) for trying to get diaper changing stations mandated in Men’s restrooms. Again, you believe whatever you want too. I’m just going off the facts as I know them. I’ve been watching the bill in California for several years now. You are welcome to prove me wrong . . . but you have to show me hard facts and statistics. Or else, you are just wanting to believe your own version of your subjective reality.
For those wondering, a PPO is a Personal Protection Order...
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The story about the father needing to change the diaper in the restaurant... More places need to provide a “family bathroom”. It's like a large handicapped bathroom, with a changing table. It's where fathers can take their daughters to the bathroom. Mothers have been taking sons into the “Lady's Room” since indoor plumbing became a thing. However fathers have to send tiny girls into the lady's restroom all alone, hoping for the best. On the job I've assisted many little girls too short to wash their hands. Hear their fathers hollering in if they're ok every minute or so. I've hollered back we're washing her hands, she's too short to reach the sink. They relax when I come out wearing a uniform with a name tag on. But nobody thinks anything about little boys being in the lady's restroom; unless they're trying to peek under the stalls, or between the door gaps, or crawl into your stall.
And it's completely unfair. If every place that has restrooms had a family bathroom as well the father in this story wouldn't have had a problem. 😊
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Story 4: With all due respect why does she care if he has more money?
She says she is not a gold digger but the moment she knows that he has more money than she knew she is upset he didn't say anything.
Honestly... boyfriend/husband or not it is none of her business he didn't come with that to the table in the beginning of the relationship for a reason.
She is not entitled to all his financials untill he is ready and neither is he for hers.
Story 4: I think th husband doesn’t need a prenup. Inherited property is normally the sole and separate property of the inheritor, even if they are married.
I am just curious but don't comfort station, toilets, have a separate area to change babies' nappies? If not, then they should have. This gentleman, whilst he should not have had to enter a female toilet to change his son, was in or at any obligation to have a female change his child. I commend him on his willingness to do that as it is quite remarkable how many men prefer not to do that necessary job! As for the "princesses" whjo were violated at his presence in a lady's area for heaven's sake the man had a baby with him and did anyone ask him WHY he was there? That would have explained everything!
I ain’t saying she’s a gold digger,
But she ain’t messing with no broke ………..
Story 1: Yes technically you can claim a property that's abandoned by moving into it. However in order to do that you have to live pn the property for a minimum of 10 years in the US. In Ohio you have to openly and notoriously occupy and care for the land for 15 years, Colorado requires 18 years or 12 if there is a color of deed (basically a valid reason you would think you own the property).
And add on to that every single word in your sentence has a very specific legal definition that has to be met in order to even meet the conditions. It is extremely hard to get away with a claim of squatter's rights in order to own property in the US
@@khrishp that's because squatters rights doesn't give you possession of the property, you have to deal with the laws for adverse possession to do that.
WHEN I GO AWAY MY 81 YEAR OLD NEIGHBOR WATCHES MY HOUSE....... THE ONLY ONE I TRUST PERIOD..... THE OTHER THAT COULD HAS COPD AND DON'T GET OUT MUCH ANYMORE.
My question to the woman in the bathroom would have been what is thier opinion on breast feeding in public spaces.
A father changing his baby in the women's bathroom is perfectly fine. No peeks through the cracks except in junior high. Honestly, after that cisgender comment, if I was him I would have declared that I was actually a trans woman to shut them up.
Story 1: Story 1: So-called "Squatter's Rights" has a time requirement that is no less than 1 full year of 100% living in the home...Karen did not satisfy that requirement.
Story 3: At the hostess for saying that OP's wife should change the baby I would respond "His mother died in child birth...any other helpful suggestions?"
At the person who called OP a "cisgender man" I would have looked shocked and asked "Did you just ASSUME my gender? You need to check your privilege!"
I do agree with the comment that changing the diaper at the front counter...or even OP's table...would bring some attention to the lack of proper facilities for fathers with babies.
An agreement entered into BEFORE marriage or civil partnership that regulates the financial terms of separation, divorce or dissolution is called a Prenuptial Agreement
An agreement entered into AFTER marriage or civil partnership that regulates the financial terms of separation, divorce or dissolution is called a Postnuptial Agreement
GF vs OP's Parents story: Tell your parents that it is not like she has 5 heads and 30 arms; your gf is blind, not alien.
sounds like the restraunt opened itself up to a lawsuit down the road for not having a changing table in the mens restroom.
The problem with your thought process is that any female in that room including the hostess and the restaurant owner himself could have had the dad arrested for sexual harassment. He had no right to walk into a woman's room. There were other options about how to change the baby. No one male or female should have to feel uncomfortable while in a vulnerable situation like using the bathroom. As a mother myself I sympathize with the father's plight in wanting to change his child but he could have handled things differently than he did.
First story. I have a shot gun and a shovel. Your move...
Maybe it’s the deposit for your
First home 😊
Okay now for me I've had to deal with Squires in the past and I'll tell you this right now you don't call the cops you get a gun and you forced him out of your home. Because they will never leave and they will tie you up in litigation for so long.
Men in usa need to protect themself(when married, as huge majority divorces men are left with nothing and many without support often go homeless), if you are fine in financially there is no problems.
story 1: call the polcie get them thrown out
Maybe it’s the deposit for your
First home
3rd one is hard to say who is the a hole. i guess the people ordering the resturant is the a hole for not having changing table in both or having other ways for it done.
here in norway the changing table is like 90-99% of the time in the one for people with wheelchairs or need to use it for other reasons but dont need a wheelchair for it. this bathroom is always more open than the others and have more space avilable.
Actually the commodes should have some type of a transfer table beside them, which those who are double amputees, where prosthetic legs aren't an option of both legs are there but unusable. It would allow those in that situation to transfer from their chair to the toilet. My late girlfriend was a double amputee and she couldn't have prosthetic legs, as her residuals never healed, and her skin would breakdown easily at the ends.