The Alcoholic's Struggle-Mike Faria

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  • Опубликовано: 25 окт 2024

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  • @jaqueitch
    @jaqueitch 2 месяца назад +296

    The fact that he went out again AFTER nearly dying tells you everything you need to know about alcoholism. It is cunning, baffling and powerful.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +4

      💯💯💯

    • @tanyamcginnis742
      @tanyamcginnis742 2 месяца назад +9

      Jaywalker - been there done that! But by the grace of God and a program, I’m 4 years sober ❤ and happy joyous and free finally

    • @kristineplummer7607
      @kristineplummer7607 2 месяца назад +4

      So right. It's a vicious cycle and it's really hard to battle.

    • @danasalazar-ng6un
      @danasalazar-ng6un 2 месяца назад +5

      its demonic. life is spiritual.

    • @catwalkernyc
      @catwalkernyc 2 месяца назад

      It says more about who Mike actually is. And that nothing is what it seems.

  • @crashburn3292
    @crashburn3292 2 месяца назад +989

    I'll never forget hearing an ex-heroin addict talk about how he truly felt sorry for alcoholics. He explained; A heroin addict can avoid other addicts and avoid their dealer, but alcoholics have drinking shoved in their faces every single day, on TV, in movies, at parties, at restaurants, during the holidays, etc....and their next fix is just a short drive to the nearest liquor store away..

    • @firstlast8258
      @firstlast8258 2 месяца назад +76

      I'll drink to that

    • @Scuba_Bro
      @Scuba_Bro 2 месяца назад +47

      I never really thought of it that way. It must definitely be hard to recover with all the easy access.

    • @_dreamscape
      @_dreamscape 2 месяца назад +26

      So true 😢, so accurate a statement

    • @deadmanswife3625
      @deadmanswife3625 2 месяца назад +10

      Half the world does not drink alcohol so that's BS

    • @SpacePope420
      @SpacePope420 2 месяца назад

      I'm a recovering addict (opiates). I bought all my stuff on the Darkweb. If you give me a phone with internet, in less than an hour- I can get literally any drug in any quantity delivered to any address in 3 business days.
      And once i do it the first time, (finding a legit market, making an account, etc) it takes literally 10 minutes to order something afterwards.
      So don't feel too bad for alcoholics.

  • @Tracy-ks1vk
    @Tracy-ks1vk 2 месяца назад +498

    I am an alcoholic in recovery with 1679 days sober one day at a time. Wouldn’t wish this on ANYONE! Together, we can and do recover. Thanks for sharing, Mike ❤️‍🩹☀️

    • @freakinthegardenfreakinthe4840
      @freakinthegardenfreakinthe4840 2 месяца назад +9

      Stay strong- you got this!

    • @Geloskeelo
      @Geloskeelo 2 месяца назад +8

      Nice work

    • @Nonnew705
      @Nonnew705 2 месяца назад +7

      You rock!

    • @mddell58
      @mddell58 2 месяца назад +10

      That's so, so awesome! And, ONLY YOU really know how difficult each day was. Please ....
      NEVER throw all of those days away.

    • @surferrosa8392
      @surferrosa8392 2 месяца назад +10

      I'm at 1684 days ✌

  • @CaroleDavies2708
    @CaroleDavies2708 2 месяца назад +60

    I am 3043 days sober. Thank you Mike for sharing your story. We can recover, I wish you well with your sobriety 🙏

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +6

      I wish you the same 🙏🏽 congratulations and thank you so much for

  • @Hison-Dcarman
    @Hison-Dcarman 24 дня назад +134

    I'm a veteran, was actually addicted to alcohol and cigarettes. Alcohol and cigarettes addiction destroyed my life. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder, got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

    • @Joeyann
      @Joeyann 24 дня назад +1

      I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.

    • @MuratBasar-jm9lc
      @MuratBasar-jm9lc 24 дня назад

      Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏

    • @RodriguezGorge
      @RodriguezGorge 24 дня назад +1

      YES very sure of mycologist Predroavaro. This treatment worked for me. Helped me got rid of my anxiety and BPD.

    • @Micnesia-c1l
      @Micnesia-c1l 24 дня назад +2

      Thanks for sharing your story. That's rough I sympathize. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health. I will pray for you all.

    • @AndrewLiam-lp5cj
      @AndrewLiam-lp5cj 24 дня назад +1

      How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

  • @jackiwannapaint
    @jackiwannapaint 2 месяца назад +223

    I am an alcoholic and instead of drinking myself into an early grave I quit and havent had a drink in 40 years and became a writer and wrote 14 books

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +3

      That’s a beautiful story 🙌🏽

    • @dubaiedge
      @dubaiedge 2 месяца назад +1

      Nice.

    • @ReapingTheHarvest
      @ReapingTheHarvest 2 месяца назад +3

      That's a loooong time. Congrats! I never get much sober time under my belt unfortunately. Or if I quit one substance I just substitute it with another. At this point I've been hooked on just about everything, but opiates and alcohol are the toughest for me.

    • @pavlos8844
      @pavlos8844 2 месяца назад +1

      Amazing. May more people be like you

    • @katkohlerschwartz7386
      @katkohlerschwartz7386 Месяц назад +2

      That’s great. What types of books have you written?

  • @xreediculousx
    @xreediculousx Месяц назад +43

    I have been sober from alcohol since January 13, 2022. One of the greatest decisions of my life.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад +2

      🙌🏽🙏🏽

    • @WendyHannan-pt7ez
      @WendyHannan-pt7ez 19 дней назад +1

      Well done, good luck and have a good life. 🙏

  • @janiceg7661
    @janiceg7661 2 месяца назад +49

    I lost my husband to alcoholism after he relapsed. The shock and devastation are a daily struggle for me. Alcohol killed part of me that day too. I beg anyone struggling with whatever substance issue to get help. I learned the worst lessons of my life, you can’t love an addict sober - I loved him so completely- we met at 15…partying..hate that word now…and I learned once an alcoholic you are an alcoholic for life, so work your program to stay sober every single day. Only you can do the work, how I wish I could’ve done it for him, relieved him. God bless all addicts to find help. Thank you, Mike. ❤ Happy sober anniversary!

  • @dmxlovesmenotu
    @dmxlovesmenotu 2 месяца назад +174

    Ive been watching white underbelly since it started . I finally met MY match. Homie even comes from the same city as myself . Good luck to him and anyone else here struggling with alcoholism. It's truly a curse.

    • @fritzfxx
      @fritzfxx 2 месяца назад +5

      DMX loves you

    • @mjonez973
      @mjonez973 2 месяца назад +2

      Newark in the house

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 2 месяца назад +2

      A "curse" that can be turned into the greatest adventure of your life..."IF" you're willing to live in the solution, instead of the problem! 30 plus years of continuous, joyful living is all the evidence I need! Sincere best wishes...Mark

    • @dmxlovesmenotu
      @dmxlovesmenotu 2 месяца назад

      @@markg.4246 I mean ....I'm never bored lmao

    • @kristineplummer7607
      @kristineplummer7607 2 месяца назад

      It is a curse.

  • @jaqueitch
    @jaqueitch 2 месяца назад +227

    1585 days sober as of 8/16/2024. I finally found peace in my life.

    • @jessaddison9454
      @jessaddison9454 2 месяца назад +3

      Aww happy sober birthday tidatsxtge 16th of August 💯❤️😉 god bless you

    • @shirleyelliott9848
      @shirleyelliott9848 2 месяца назад +3

      Well done you.

    • @tanyamcginnis742
      @tanyamcginnis742 2 месяца назад +3

      Yesss I celebrated 4 years on July 6th ❤ one day at a time I have found peace and joy and purpose. Congrats!

    • @jessicadutridge9882
      @jessicadutridge9882 2 месяца назад +3

      Stop bragging. I'm an alcoholic too and I bet you got this sobriety date thing from AA. I've been to so many meetings and all that jazz. My sobriety date means nothing. It could be gone in an hour. You can't both brag a sobriety date and truly believe in the fragility of one day at a time. It's a point of pride, I understand, but you can't be both prideful of it and remain humble at the same time. I guarantee pride will work against you some way somehow. Best of luck.

    • @jaqueitch
      @jaqueitch 2 месяца назад +6

      @@jessicadutridge9882 Angry words, my friend. You don't know me at all. I hope you find peace.

  • @Parrotgirl-tattoo
    @Parrotgirl-tattoo 2 месяца назад +212

    Alcoholism is no joke. I've tried pretty much every drug. Alcohol is the one that always calls me back. I am older now & I just can't do it anymore. It feels good to be sober. You can do it Mike. ❤
    I hope you can heal yourself & heal your broken family. 🙏

    • @firstlast8258
      @firstlast8258 2 месяца назад +3

      Tots and pears 🍐

    • @binzypoo
      @binzypoo 2 месяца назад +10

      @Parrotgirl-Tattoo May I ask how old you are now? I am 55 and feel like I just cant do it anymore. I'm ready to just stop.

    • @Parrotgirl-tattoo
      @Parrotgirl-tattoo 2 месяца назад +5

      @@binzypoo ill be 50 in a couple of weeks. 🥰

    • @binzypoo
      @binzypoo 2 месяца назад +3

      @@Parrotgirl-tattoo I'm so proud of you. Lots of love from New Zealand

    • @chaoticature
      @chaoticature 2 месяца назад +3

      I'm 41 and as much as I'd like to "just stop", how does that happen?I've been to a withdrawal clinic for 5 days and went straight back. I know it the set and setting scenario but the people need proper mechanisms of care.
      I never ask for help but many of us have obviously experienced crap and the coping ways are folly.

  • @vaughnormseth3043
    @vaughnormseth3043 22 дня назад +18

    Mike's story is so raw and vulnerable and authentic. Such a beautiful human. Bravo, Sir.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 13 дней назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @mannylamont5757
    @mannylamont5757 2 месяца назад +262

    When it comes to alcohol there is no such thing as moderation. I've fooled myself with that lie plenty of times.

    • @lmcov4
      @lmcov4 2 месяца назад +28

      100%. One drink and a switch flips.

    • @My_Naginta
      @My_Naginta 2 месяца назад +14

      Yep. I can probably have a tall can and a couple shots tonight. It's going to snowball really fast though.

    • @Haddley333
      @Haddley333 2 месяца назад +13

      Well, I used to drink moderately and even then I felt like absolute garbage. Haven't touched the stuff in almost 3 weeks and its' amazing how diff i feel. I was just slowly ingesting poison.

    • @lmcov4
      @lmcov4 2 месяца назад +16

      Just keep going one day at a time. Hard times will come, depression will come, you will want to drink again. Just fight through that shit, talk to people, and remember that the bad feelings will pass. Alcohol will only make things worse.

    • @southphillylilly
      @southphillylilly 2 месяца назад +10

      That's not true. I have less than a dozen drinks a year . My husband has less than that. Neither of us have ever had an addiction to alcohol. Moderation is possible if you're not an addict and I'd say most people use alcohol in moderation.

  • @TheAnthoula14
    @TheAnthoula14 2 месяца назад +78

    I appreciate each and every person that comes on this channel, and speaks from the heart. (Not all do).

    • @Anonymous-km5pj
      @Anonymous-km5pj 2 месяца назад +1

      Yes. i also appreciate Marc for thoroughly showcasing our white priviledge.
      Sorry, that was head not heart...

    • @medokarbo
      @medokarbo 2 месяца назад

      I do too. There’s such a kinship I feel with every person on here.

  • @josephlungu7846
    @josephlungu7846 2 месяца назад +70

    Been drinking since I was 18 after finishing 12th grade. What was just a weekend thing eventually turned into an everyday after work thing when I hit my mid 20's. Now in my late 30's, as much as I convince myself I don't have a drinking problem because I get to work on time and meet deadlines, the fact that I can't resist the urge to have a drink after 5 means I surely do have a problem. This video has been so eye-opening.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @Every_Day_islike_Sunday
      @Every_Day_islike_Sunday 2 месяца назад +7

      You're a "functional" alcoholic but alcoholic none the less. I am also. And guess what? I was a functional meth user back in the 80's. The point is - our brain has changed from the poisons but it can be re-wired. Get down to the root of why you use to get through the day. Trauma is the usual culprit. Blessings to you.❤

    • @diane9247
      @diane9247 Месяц назад +2

      Oh my dear, please reach out to some kind of help. AA doesn't suit everyone, but if you ever feel utterly lost, it can save your life. You are functioning now, but the tragedy is that it gets worse and worse. 🌻🌻🌻

    • @sarahcashmore6736
      @sarahcashmore6736 Месяц назад +6

      Im the same, i do well in life but i carry this burden every day. I have drunk alcohol every single day for the last 15 years. I dont know how to stop. Ive been hooked on other drugs & stopped them eventually but alcohol has a hold. People say you have to hit rock bottom before you stop but i will never get to rock bottom as i will never let it get that bad. But i hide bottles, i hide the amount i drink but no one knows. But i know. I want to be a better person

    • @Every_Day_islike_Sunday
      @Every_Day_islike_Sunday Месяц назад +1

      @sarahcashmore6736 i think, by sharing your story, you have taken the first step! I'm not an AA person but i do know admitting it a great first leap! I'm the same kind of drinker as you. Functional but hiding as much as possible. I can tell you what works for me and i know this isn't popular, but weaning helps. The thought of having nothing gives me anxiety. So now i buy a small bottle, pint or half pint, and take a few sips when i feel overwhelmed by life. I have periods of abstinence and periods of drinking, but i drink a lot less. It's a tough road. Be gentle with yourself and don't let anyone tell you that you can't do it. A lot of addicts can't do the wean thing. Just try it. Much love to you!

  • @jeanroth159
    @jeanroth159 2 месяца назад +37

    So proud of you Mike.Your interview made me quite emotional being an alcoholic myself,thankfully sober for many years now but it's a part of my story. Your meant to be here,my friend lost her only son , cirrhosis took him,it wasent your time and I'm happy for you. Enjoy your life and your family and a new baby,how precious. Much love and keep taking care of yourself♡.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🫡✊🏽❤️‍🩹

  • @megzzay
    @megzzay 22 дня назад +13

    What an incredible, touching, inspiring story. Mike, as an adult child of an alcoholic (who died from the disease) I know that your kids will forEVER be grateful that you chose to live your life and do what it takes to stick around. I hope you find deep peace and comfort in this life.
    The fact that you have no regrets is breathtaking, in a good way.
    Congrats on your new baby!! I’m sure you are in incredible dad ✌️

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 13 дней назад +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @Hope-pp4ty
    @Hope-pp4ty 2 месяца назад +84

    Alcoholism is terrifying and painful for families.

    • @carlmorgan8452
      @carlmorgan8452 2 месяца назад +3

      Drugs and alcohol = DRAMA / 16 years clean and sober now, thanks to JESUS and CELEBRATE RECOVERY

    • @PurplePanda1233
      @PurplePanda1233 Месяц назад

      @@carlmorgan8452 I found a non religion based program and im very happy for that

    • @WendyHannan-pt7ez
      @WendyHannan-pt7ez 19 дней назад +1

      Alcohol is a family disease, every one suffers from one persons drinking . So sad.😢

  • @michaelwilliamson3551
    @michaelwilliamson3551 Месяц назад +56

    50 days 2 hours 35 minutes and 14 seconds clean and sober...

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад

      LFG 🙌🏽

    • @grifyn882
      @grifyn882 Месяц назад +1

      felicitation....57 day now...i hope you didn't relapsed

    • @dgannon4
      @dgannon4 Месяц назад

      That's great! I'm at 54 today. Stay strong. One day at a time bro

    • @batsnackattack
      @batsnackattack Месяц назад

      Don't you miss it? remember how nice that drink felt?

  • @catherinefernandez2239
    @catherinefernandez2239 Месяц назад +7

    So I sit here and cry after hearing this intelligent, loving man's story of fighting a monster. God bless him and everyone who is affected by addiction.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @MrAraag
    @MrAraag Месяц назад +16

    Thanks for sharing your story Mike.....I quit drinking in 2019, and it changed my life completely. I felt worthless, hopeless, miserable, lonely and suicidal.
    I lived for the weekend and drank because it was the only thing that made me feel good. I would wake up the following day with no phone, keys, clothes all over the floor, and having spent hundreds on booze. I'd make a fool of myself, lose days at a time, and have constant feelings of anxiety and depression.....then one day it became too much and I quit; cold turkey. Best decision I ever made.
    There's hope for everyone struggling through this addiction; I was at rock bottom, wanted to end my life, but I turned it round just like Mike and so many others on this thread. Bless all of you trying to beat this monster

  • @CGriffinGo
    @CGriffinGo 2 месяца назад +90

    Mike, you went off the deep end but miraculously found there is value in life without alcohol. Congratulations on all the new and exciting events now coming your way, especially your baby!

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +2

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @musicbrazilian7065
      @musicbrazilian7065 28 дней назад

      ​@@jerzeymikeChorei muito assistindo sua entrevista, pois eu sei o quanto na cultura portuguesa e Brasileira a figura paterna sao agressivos com os filhos. Me sinto orgulhosa de voce, sua mae e seus filhos salvaram sua vida. Que bom que voce esta na terapia. Muito obrigada por dividir sua estoria.

  • @csftw1544
    @csftw1544 2 месяца назад +125

    Going into my third weekend of no drinking. I hope anyone struggling gets through this

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 2 месяца назад +4

      You can do it, buddy! I wish you way more than luck.

    • @londondaze
      @londondaze 2 месяца назад +5

      Wow, that's great! . I hope you can find the person that you really are underneath. You still exist under the alcohol. You, the real you. I respect you for making it to a third weekend !

    • @csftw1544
      @csftw1544 2 месяца назад +3

      @@Toonces666 thank you! I appreciate this!

    • @csftw1544
      @csftw1544 2 месяца назад +2

      @@londondaze thank you so much!

    • @mkf628
      @mkf628 2 месяца назад +1

      lots are.. stay sober bro it's worth it God bless

  • @digger3578
    @digger3578 2 месяца назад +47

    As a mortician for many years, I’ve seen the coffee ground purge. That’s usually combined with lots of blood purge. This guy was super close to death.
    These images helped me moderate my drinking until I could quit.
    I’ve worked in many states. Most of these alcohol deaths were in Alaska. It’s beautiful but a bad place for a single guy with no family and a propensity for drinking.

    • @aracnadei13
      @aracnadei13 2 месяца назад +5

      Yeah, indicative of a GI bleed which could be fatal in a few minutes. Good thing he was already with medical personnel by that time.

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 2 месяца назад +5

      Thank you for this interesting comment and the valuable information.

    • @diane9247
      @diane9247 Месяц назад +1

      Yes, Alaska has a very high rate of alcoholism - lots of single men and there's the Native factor. In all regions with large Native American po[ulations, the alcoholism rate is just horrible. Such a tragedy for not only the USA, but also Canada.💖💖🌻💖

  • @lovingmydior
    @lovingmydior 2 месяца назад +42

    My goodness. Everything that’s being described I lived. I almost lost my life in dec 2023. Same exact symptoms. I quit immediately! I ended up with varices in my esophagus, went into shock, my BP was 69/34. I’m still sober but I did just have a bleed and ended up in a ventilator for five days. All because of my sick liver. I’m now almost 8 months completely sober. But I have so many health issues that I will have for the rest of my life. I haven’t finished this video. But I’m praying for him and anyone else who’s struggling. I promise you, alcohol is a lie and it’s not worth your life, your mental health and especially it’s not worth the amount of heartache it is for our loved ones to see us slowly dying. For anyone struggling, it gets better, takes a lot of work, but it’s amazing work!

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +4

      So happy you are here 🙏🏽❤️‍🩹

    • @MK-Hogan
      @MK-Hogan 2 месяца назад +3

      How long were you drinking before you developed serious illness? Asking for a friend’s wife. 😕

    • @patriciaque197
      @patriciaque197 2 месяца назад +1

      😁👍

    • @lovingmydior
      @lovingmydior 2 месяца назад

      @@jerzeymikethank you. I appreciate those words. I’m so glad I am too!

    • @lovingmydior
      @lovingmydior 2 месяца назад +3

      @@MK-Hogan 😢 hi there, just was drinking for about 10 years every day, vodka. I would try and quit but it never lasted long. It didn’t get really bad until march of last year. I was drinking day and night. I didn’t even know what day of the week it was let alone what time of the day it was. I was in literal hell. I didn’t notice major issues until fall of 2023, I ended up having major ascities, very swollen feet and I was yellow everywhere. So I drank a lot. But it was during Covid when it really picked up. I knew I was sick. I was just terrified to hear a doctor tell me that. Scariest part of my life, but I would do it again if it meant I’d be sober like I am today.

  • @tanyag7567
    @tanyag7567 2 месяца назад +41

    Thank you so much for sharing some hope. You really described the illness of alcoholism perfectly. The insanity of it all. I too couldn’t see my life without it. I must have done 50 detoxes and kept going back to it. Nearly killed me several times… but I’m now 3835 days sober.. and I keep counting the days as it’s an absolute miracle! I do have regrets. I never wanted to hurt the people I hurt over the years.. but I’m gradually making up for that and to help another person in or out of recovery helps me heal. Thanks again… all the best for the future and your new baby. Best wishes. Tanya

    • @tanyamcginnis742
      @tanyamcginnis742 2 месяца назад +4

      Pure insanity - hopeless while drinking. Now I’m 1,503 days sober - one day at a time. So grateful 🥹
      Congrats on your new life ❤
      Tanya

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 2 месяца назад +2

      The "living amends" help us heal from the hurt we caused others.

  • @svuknight
    @svuknight 14 дней назад +3

    What a great interview. I thought it would be boring. What a terrific guy. I'm twice as old as him but listening to him I feel like I've known him for a long time. He has a new soul. The gratitude part made my cry. I wish I could thank him for working so hard. Please don't ever stop progressing Mike! I feel like you will be a teacher to many!

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 13 дней назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @OG213LA
    @OG213LA 2 месяца назад +26

    Thank you for your story. It’s very inspiring. I’ve been sober for 14 months now and hearing your story makes me feel like I’m doing the right thing

    • @ellenschulz1229
      @ellenschulz1229 Месяц назад

      You are doing the right thing. Stay the course.

  • @CarleyJoy
    @CarleyJoy Месяц назад +16

    423 days sober. I work hard every day to not drink even though I rationally never want to again. Thank you Mike for sharing your story.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад +1

      🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 10 дней назад

      Stop focusing on "not drinking" and the "hard" part will be over. Our focus must be "sobriety"! ✌Mark

  • @greatlakesgirl8882
    @greatlakesgirl8882 2 месяца назад +26

    The very end of this made me so happy inside. His smile is beautiful!

  • @Everythingismeaningless344
    @Everythingismeaningless344 2 месяца назад +19

    This dude has held up physically very well for being a pretty much 40 year old alcoholic. I also still see plenty of hope and joy in his eyes. It's a tough road ahead but he definitely has all the tools to be successful with his life.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +6

      Thank you very much for your words 🙏🏽

  • @Stolimel
    @Stolimel 2 месяца назад +39

    I was never an alcoholic but in my 20’s and 30’s I drank everyday. I divorced and my ex was a functioning alcoholic that ended up passing away. I found a partner that I loved and things changed in my life. I will have a glass of wine on occasion but I can’t drink anymore. I hate the hangovers. You have to surround yourself with people that are like you have things in common that aren’t surrounded by alcohol. I even donated my kidney last year to a stranger.

  • @chaoticature
    @chaoticature 2 месяца назад +79

    Within the first 5 seconds of analysing this guys body language and eyes, I knew I was in for a similar truth bomb of an Alcoholics life journey.
    I shouldn't be excited but this is what Marc does so well. A safe space to express the real human condition.
    I've learned so much from others and expect to gather some influence yet again from this.
    I'd bite my tongue and shut up but that's a symptom of alcoholism, midnight jaw thrashing.,
    Now back to the interview haha
    I LOVE you.

    • @chaoticature
      @chaoticature 2 месяца назад +5

      Gut instinct verified after finishing watching this interview. What an inspiration!

    • @terrytownsend5583
      @terrytownsend5583 2 месяца назад +3

      Slow hand clap. EYEROLL

    • @deedeeduncan9347
      @deedeeduncan9347 Месяц назад

      What a thoughtful comment

  • @barnesrm76
    @barnesrm76 Месяц назад +12

    1 drink is too many and 20 not enough for me. I was more of binge drinker rather than an everyday drinker. But when I'd go on a binge I'd stay drunk for at least 3-5 days and sometimes a few weeks at a time. In that time I would tear the world down around me and completely destroy everything that was good in my life. Ultimately I lost everything. It took going to prison to finally realize it wasn't even close to being worth it. I 'd give anything to go back and never take that first drink.

  • @crockpot2283
    @crockpot2283 2 месяца назад +14

    I've been an alcoholic since I was about 16-17 years old, drinking anyything and everything put in front of me. Jameson was my favorite. I'm 30 now. When my wife and I got married this past December I promised her I would slow down. For myself, for her, for the family we want to have. I did for the most part, cut down to beer and was doing pretty good. Then I started sneaking the nips in, the half pints before I got home etc. The moment I realized I was hiding it I put myself into rehab that following day. 8 months clean and wouldn't change a thing. I hope anyone else out there scared or on the fence for looking for help...DO IT!!!! BUT IT HAS TO BE FOR YOURSELF!❤🙏

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      I remember hiding nips! So happy for you! You got help! And I commend you for that! 🙏🏽🫡✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽

  • @TheRexGolden
    @TheRexGolden 2 месяца назад +13

    I am fighting a years long battle as a physically sick but partially functioning alcoholic. I experience withdrawals every day. This episode tore me up in a deep way. I think I'm scared enough to fix it. Thank you Mark.

    • @diane9247
      @diane9247 Месяц назад

      Oh, with all my heart I hope you start on a sober path. Just remember how commo this is and how many millions have gotten sober and stay sober. 💖

    • @ellenschulz1229
      @ellenschulz1229 Месяц назад +2

      You can recover. As cliche' as it sounds, one day at a time. Be patient with yourself.

  • @carmelaburrone5029
    @carmelaburrone5029 2 месяца назад +15

    Wishing Mike all the best. He's truly a walking miracle. I pray🙏 he stays clean and sober and has a wonderful life.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @Tenacious1952
    @Tenacious1952 2 месяца назад +15

    Mike is such a good, sweet soul. His kids need him. I’m grateful he made it and is in a much better place. His story resonates with me as my older brother died of late stage alcoholism in Jan 2023. I witnessed the same liver and kidney failure with my brother. For family members, it’s a traumatic thing to witness. My brother’s death has left a hole in all of our hearts.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +2

      I am so sorry for your loss 💔🙏🏽

    • @dubaiedge
      @dubaiedge 2 месяца назад +2

      Yes, it's very traumatic. Was present for my 44 year old father's ruptured esophagus death back in '80 as a teenager. Bloody hospital sheets & all his agony certainly went a long way to ensure I avoided alcohol in life. The pain & sorrow shifts through the decades but never leaves, esp. those last minutes of his life where he was still conscious & saying he was scared. Best we can do is be as healthy as we can. Such a thin wisp between life & death. Good luck

    • @catwalkernyc
      @catwalkernyc 2 месяца назад

      He’s not being authentic. Sorry to say.

    • @vinzen14
      @vinzen14 2 месяца назад

      ​@@catwalkernychow would u know that?

  • @doodleartlover
    @doodleartlover 2 месяца назад +36

    Alcohol sucks. I started drinking when I was 12 and I'm still battling with it at 57. I recently did a little over a year sober...best year of my life. Until my precious mother got sick and passed away recently and I've fallen off the wagon again. God bless everyone dealing with alcoholism! 👃

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 2 месяца назад +3

      I am sorry about your sweet mother but she would want you to take care of yourself and not use her death as an excuse to hurt yourself. I am very close in age to you and have a wonderful mother too. I worry in advance about her passing and wish you strength and peace. Please stop hurting yourself.

    • @brianulery786
      @brianulery786 2 месяца назад +2

      Hang in there buddy. Hope you find your way

    • @RobertoLopez-dm4gq
      @RobertoLopez-dm4gq 2 месяца назад

      Get back on the wagon and keep going where you left off. Life is hard but we never ever give up . Learn from your mistakes and ask God for his help and you got this my brother. We are warriors with this vice but God loves and is waiting to help you . God bless you

    • @sarahcashmore6736
      @sarahcashmore6736 Месяц назад

      I always liked a drink but when i had to watch my dad die slowly it fucked me up. The pressure on my chest wouldnt go away until i had a drink, the pressure went away when my dad died but the drink didnt. Its fucking hard

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 Месяц назад

      @@sarahcashmore6736 I am sorry about your dad, Sarah! I wish you peace and strength.

  • @aimeemcallister7416
    @aimeemcallister7416 2 месяца назад +17

    Boy, what an insightful video. There is alcoholism in my family and just listening to someone who lives it really opened my eyes. Thank you.

  • @rafaelxxxmadeira
    @rafaelxxxmadeira 14 дней назад +2

    Mike, fellow Portuguese brother here. I wish you nothing but the best dude. Much respect! Grande abraço!

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 13 дней назад +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @krystallira9399
    @krystallira9399 2 месяца назад +22

    This man is a beacon of hope. I am so grateful to have listened to his story. God bless

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @NenasMund0
    @NenasMund0 2 месяца назад +43

    My brother is a Alcoholic. I see him and I see a glimpse of who he was prior to drinking. This kind of stories give me hope that one day my brother stops drinking. God continue to guide your life and your family.

    • @MrsM334
      @MrsM334 2 месяца назад

      🙏

    • @patriciaque197
      @patriciaque197 2 месяца назад

      🦋🙏🦋Only he can choose and we shall pray😊🕊

    • @Chemsci-j1v
      @Chemsci-j1v 2 месяца назад

      He guided his own life and did the recovery himself

    • @iRRichiee
      @iRRichiee 19 дней назад

      Please never give up on your brother. As long as hes alive theres always hope.

  • @SueMarie-tg7xu
    @SueMarie-tg7xu Месяц назад +5

    You can just see the good in this man. I commend him for speaking about this. I’m Portuguese myself and I know how hard it is for a man in our culture to admit he has a problem with alcohol. God bless you Mike.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад +1

      Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @olfrud
    @olfrud Месяц назад +4

    The love for his children is really apparent and heartwarming.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @jaydasolai2559
    @jaydasolai2559 2 месяца назад +11

    Congrats on getting sober. Thank you for sharing your story. Addiction is hard because it creeps up on you throughout your life. I hope you stay strong for you and your kids. They need you in this world. You seem so genuine and down to earth. I’m rooting for you!! Thanks Mark

  • @morgenmachen2400
    @morgenmachen2400 2 месяца назад +59

    Love the light in his eyes at the end of the interview

  • @user-in7cx5lz9c
    @user-in7cx5lz9c 2 месяца назад +7

    My father was an alcoholic and only stopped when he got cancer. Mike, you have the chance to and seem to be making things right in life. Make sure your kids get counseling. Even if they seem fine, their early years of what you all were (as a family) going through can/will affect them in their lives for a lifetime. The early years will shape their adult lives. Make sure they get counseling for a long time. It will be the best gift you can give them. You needed it and they will too. I promise you. Read Adult Children of Alcoholics. So glad you are doing well now. Make sure your kids are too...for their futures.

  • @nadiavillanueva7037
    @nadiavillanueva7037 20 дней назад +5

    My brother died from alcoholism and I wish I would have been more sensitive to his addiction… I truly didn’t understand 😔 & I fear now I have turned to alcohol to cope with his death… talk about full circle …. I hope everyday he forgives me

    • @ShellBAtoms
      @ShellBAtoms 2 дня назад

      No doubt he does.
      He's in complete peace and love - and forgiveness to all - right now.
      And I know he only has love for you.
      Keep in mind the beautiful soul he was.
      You two will be reunited on the other side -
      in total peace, love, and forgiveness.
      Wishing you peace in your heart and soul in the meantime.

  • @bakeraus
    @bakeraus 2 месяца назад +23

    Phoenix Mike Faria! Rise from the ashes, my man. Keep on going

  • @MrsM334
    @MrsM334 2 месяца назад +11

    What a nice guy, so glad Mike's turned his life around. Thanks Mark.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +3

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @scootertelford9873
    @scootertelford9873 2 месяца назад +13

    Mike, I know what you’re going through and I see myself in you. Brother…you’re not alone. All love.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +6

      Much love to you brother 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @Shakejunt241
    @Shakejunt241 9 дней назад +1

    I lost my cousin over suicide and in the same week I became a severe alcoholic I ruined the best relationship I had ended up going to jail a handful of times and I still have a hard time finding hope in this world. I cried so hard listening to this because it felt like someone was explaining me. I found a couple groups to go to and I hope one day I can help people with the same struggle I feel.

  • @SipsiBach
    @SipsiBach 2 месяца назад +3

    He's got a beautiful spark in his eye, wishing him all the best

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @pamelaparr2965
    @pamelaparr2965 Месяц назад +3

    One of the best interviewees. Very genuine and his smile seems very genuine. Congratulations on your sobriety! We do recover.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад

      🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽

  • @kaylirodgers413
    @kaylirodgers413 2 месяца назад +93

    Alcohol is a wonderful slave, but a terrible master

    • @Mr93sharpei
      @Mr93sharpei 2 месяца назад +11

      Alcohol is also an impossible mistress in a relationship...lost my husband April 26,2024....alcohol related liver and kidney failure...

    • @kaylirodgers413
      @kaylirodgers413 2 месяца назад +5

      @@Mr93sharpei I'm so sorry for your loss

    • @cxinthechat4276
      @cxinthechat4276 2 месяца назад +4

      That’s deep

    • @J54.
      @J54. 2 месяца назад

      You got that right! 😢

    • @Ahn-mu3db
      @Ahn-mu3db 2 месяца назад

      Wdym by wonderful slave?

  • @PhillyRoadGlide
    @PhillyRoadGlide Месяц назад +4

    The way his demeanor immediately changed when he started talking about his son was really interesting and cool

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @debblackwell7425
    @debblackwell7425 2 месяца назад +7

    That’s a huge accomplishment to stop drinking. I have a lot of friends who are alcoholics and they say it’s harder to stop drinking than drugs.
    Keep it up you got this.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @belindalouw6049
    @belindalouw6049 2 месяца назад +2

    Mike I cannot express how proud I am of you, I was married to an alcoholic for 18 years, we supported him through rehab twice. I think the main difference between you and him is that you take responsibility for your actions. God Bless you my friend, what an incredible story, what an incredible man you are🙏 I wish you all the happiness in the world❤

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @amstel5468
    @amstel5468 2 месяца назад +37

    The party ends when you wake up needing a substance just to feel normal..

    • @world_of_manny_malibu
      @world_of_manny_malibu 2 месяца назад +1

      Besides coffee tho

    • @amstel5468
      @amstel5468 2 месяца назад +2

      @@world_of_manny_malibu yep and weed never destroyed my life and left me sleeping on a park bench

    • @skillzorz101
      @skillzorz101 5 дней назад +1

      The party might end there, but hell begins around that same time.

  • @sans_souci
    @sans_souci Месяц назад +1

    The moment when he said "my gratitude for being here" hit really hard. Such a humble and reflected guy who endured so much pain. I wish you all the best for the future brother. Kind regards from Germany.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @emersonkerin7046
    @emersonkerin7046 2 месяца назад +8

    It’s really so sad to me how alcoholism can take over some of the nicest people. My uncle Don passed a way a few years ago, liver failure due to constant drinking for years. I was never the closest to him up until a few years before he passed. I still remember a few months prior to his death, my sister and I had driven to his house to grab something from him for our mom, he had us come in and sit down, talked a bit, really had a good chat with him which we never really got to experience. He passed away on his couch watching tv with a beer in his hand, no one heard from him for a bit and my grammie (his mom) had gone to pick him up one morning and found him lifeless. He was one of the funniest, nicest guys you’d ever meet, I still wish I’d got to hang out around him more and that someone could’ve done something, he was only 58 years old. It really makes me happy to hear that this guy is now doing well and is hanging in there, I’ve never been through that struggle myself but both my uncle and my dad too has struggled with alcohol, not to the extent of my uncle but my dad always tells me how serious it can get. Genuinely happy for this guy, makes me think of my uncle, I’m tearing up after hearing this man’s story.

  • @Fnaf_lover_indi
    @Fnaf_lover_indi 2 месяца назад +7

    This sounds a bit like my fiancé's story , except he didn't make it. I watched him puking blood and drink himself to death all the while refusing to stop or go the hospital. He ended up having liver failure and a stroke. He was put on life support for 2 weeks. I watched his entire family and friends say goodbye to him including his 5 year old daughter and on Valentines day the love of my life was taken off life support.
    It's been a struggle for me ever since without him. Mike you're so lucky , I wanted your story to be our story so bad. But it wasn't. I'm really happy for you. And I pray to God you continue to stay sober for your children's sake and your own. God bless. You're story really hit close to home.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      I’m so sorry 💔🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @kal22222
    @kal22222 2 месяца назад +18

    I'm over 25 years sober. I was hospitalized numerous times with doctors having to call my next of kin. My second last time in the hospital I was still lying about how much I drank. This is even after overhearing the doctor tell my brother that I might die. My last time a nurse asked me if I would talk to someone about my drinking I said sure and as soon as she left I took the IV out of my arm got dressed and left. Shortly after that I finally realized it would kill me and I haven't had a drink since. The physical withdrawal didn't last too long but the mental obsession was the tough one. Once that left I haven't had a thought about drinking since as I accept that it would kill me. Through the years it has been a journey of self discovery and self acceptance.

    • @MIForrestguy
      @MIForrestguy 2 месяца назад +2

      I also stopped when I recognized it was suicide. I sought help for the underlying trauma. I choose life and my family. Sobriety felt like being reborn.

  • @iamthelazerviking23
    @iamthelazerviking23 4 дня назад

    I’m 5.5 years sober & thank God every day I wake up clean & well. Mike, thanks for sharing your story with us. ❤

  • @SSR6464
    @SSR6464 2 месяца назад +7

    19 months sober after trying AA since 2018. Was functioning for about a decade. We don’t all make it out. Love to this man. One day at a time.

  • @joebarracuda6038
    @joebarracuda6038 2 месяца назад +17

    Good to see he made it! For many people with similar stories including myself, this hopefully will be a wake-up call before it's too late 👍🙏💪

    • @firstlast8258
      @firstlast8258 2 месяца назад

      Tots and pears 🍐

    • @jackandlill
      @jackandlill 2 месяца назад +3

      You CAN DO IT!!! You got this friend...days only come one at a time. Do your best to be where your feet are...that's what I try to remind myself each day & it has helped me! Ask for help - you deserve it! All the best!

  • @Nan-ly8zb
    @Nan-ly8zb 2 месяца назад +10

    God bless this guy. My, God…..what a story. Mark….please interview him again. 🙏💛

  • @meganeitel7541
    @meganeitel7541 14 дней назад +1

    Ivw been sober since 2018. Way to go man. You should be proud. I can't believe your story even as a recovering alcoholic I didn't almost die under your circumstances. It's a unbelievable story of finding yourself after the second chance you received and I'm glad you got the second chance to be who you were always meant to be. It's a beautiful thing. What a inspiring story.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 13 дней назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @macciddy7689
    @macciddy7689 2 месяца назад +67

    The pain from the betrayal associated with infidelity runs deep

    • @JustASmallTownGirl601
      @JustASmallTownGirl601 2 месяца назад +10

      Never being able to fully trust again, no matter how hard I try, will destroy me at some point.

    • @lifemusic1980
      @lifemusic1980 2 месяца назад +2

      Yup

    • @JamesChessman
      @JamesChessman 2 месяца назад +2

      It’s playing with fire, guys will want to destroy the guy involved in the cheating. It takes many years to find a mature perspective on everything. It’s not really an insult, people really live in their own bubble and they just do what they want, it’s not an insult to other people.

  • @katherinetreiman9480
    @katherinetreiman9480 2 месяца назад +6

    Mike has the warmest smile

  • @Tonyscalo
    @Tonyscalo 2 месяца назад +11

    I heard this quote about alcohol recovery that stuck with me. I can't remember who said it but it's "No matter how far you go, you're always the same distance from the ditch."
    Just stay away from that shit. Attempting moderation is one of the most high risk low reward (more like no reward) lifestyle choices I can think of. Such an insidious thing alcohol is.

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 2 месяца назад

      Great comment, Tony! Thanks.

  • @Mellissa_Michelle
    @Mellissa_Michelle 2 месяца назад +7

    When my 13yr old son died by suicide in 2018, I immediately went to the liquor store, drank so much that I woke up in the car with the door wide open. I was woke up the next morning by phone calls I didn’t want to answer and went through the motions, but told myself at that moment, that drinking was not the answer. If I can stop drinking, anyone can.

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 2 месяца назад +2

      I could not agree more. And I am extremely sorry for your loss.

  • @mcarrusa
    @mcarrusa 2 месяца назад +7

    This is such important testimony. Way to go, Mike! You are truly an inspiration, my man!

  • @ilovebuyers
    @ilovebuyers 2 месяца назад +13

    Alcohol is the hardest drug to quit! I have heard that so many times! I totally sympathize with anyone who’s an alcoholic! Some people can drink one drink and not drink for another month or so … some unfortunately can not even smell it! Don’t even drink once! I’m so happy you are sober! God bless!!!

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +2

      💯🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @WillS-pl8wg
      @WillS-pl8wg 2 месяца назад +2

      Benzo’s are worse.Thee worst.

    • @ilovebuyers
      @ilovebuyers 2 месяца назад

      If you know of anyone with a benzo addiction… have them try Kratom. A good quality Kratom. I know many people that have quit both alcohol and benzos by taking Kratom. I highly recommend.

    • @lmb4876
      @lmb4876 Месяц назад

      @@WillS-pl8wgYes, there are many addictions out there….I have heard tobacco is a “beast”, too. Opioids, gambling,tobacco,alcohol, eating…most of it is a symptom of something going on in your life or childhood trauma

  • @prosciutto92
    @prosciutto92 2 месяца назад +4

    Been following Mikes journey since 2020. So proud of his strides and accomplishments! He’s been given a second chance and running with it! ❤

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 thank you 🥹

  • @agev8016
    @agev8016 2 месяца назад +2

    Wow thank you for sharing your story, I honestly was so relieved you are in recovery. Most of these stories do not end positively and watching this I was expecting the worst. I am so happy you are thriving and sober. Such an inspiration.

  • @somaticjourney
    @somaticjourney Месяц назад +7

    As an adult daughter of a father who struggled with his addiction to alcohol all his life, I do feel regret on behalf of your kids...My dad passed away in May...I cried listening to your story, so glad you've made it to this point in your life...therapy helps, keep up the good work. Blessings 🌞

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @Chikara199
    @Chikara199 Месяц назад +2

    It is just so surreal listening to these heartbreaking stories. This guy could be a model, the most handsome man I think I have ever seen, and he has gone through all of this... and his kids. Much love, I hope everything works out now. Stay strong! You and your kids deserve a happy life!

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @REZNAP
    @REZNAP 2 месяца назад +5

    MASSIVE RESPECT from Providence, RI my friend

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      🙏🏽✊🏽

  • @ArtSmith-cg7uc
    @ArtSmith-cg7uc 2 месяца назад +48

    I never understood how anyone could become an alcoholic until about a year ago. I have made some huge financial mistakes, and I have become extremely depressed. All day, I am perpetually regretful, angry, disgusted, and disappointed in myself. I had two drinks about a year ago. The first two I've had since my financial mistakes. For the first time in a long time, I felt good, I felt like weight had been lifted off of shoulders, and I felt happy. I then realized how someone could get addicted to alcohol. I have made sure to stay away from alcohol at least until I've fixed this mess I've made or until my kids are adults, and I can just let go.

    • @stacynortham376
      @stacynortham376 2 месяца назад +13

      Yeah. Don't do it.

    • @leej-wp9ft
      @leej-wp9ft 2 месяца назад +7

      You don't become an alcoholic you're born one. We are alcoholics long before we take a drink.

    • @ArtSmith-cg7uc
      @ArtSmith-cg7uc 2 месяца назад

      @@leej-wp9ft K

    • @ArtSmith-cg7uc
      @ArtSmith-cg7uc 2 месяца назад

      @@leej-wp9ft K

    • @mattparr3038
      @mattparr3038 2 месяца назад

      ​@@leej-wp9ftwhat's the difference between an alcoholic and alcohol addiction, how does one know which one they are.

  • @Flamingolif3
    @Flamingolif3 2 месяца назад +17

    I'm sure my comment will get lost in the sea of well wishes and war stories, but I feel compelled to say something-
    Married my highschool sweetheart/nightmare, teen parents, 3 children, bought a house, 2 cars, 3 rabbits 18 angel fish and a German Shepherd. Drinking Budwieser like it was an Olympic sport...but functional! Cuz it matters.
    Found out the neighbor, whose 3 boys I would babysit, was pregnant. Found out on my wedding anniversary that she was pregnant by my husband. Good times. I don't know much, but I know that I can't deal with cheating. You can hit me, punch me, try to kill me, Rob me and call me THAT word.....but I will not stick around to be made a fool of. The day I found out, I went downtown and reclaimed my maiden name and moved into a hotel until I got a place and moved on. Always let the kids see their dad. He wasn't ok, and I probably shouldn't have let him see the kids as much as I did.....but after I moved, he begged me 'to come back home'....he left the woman, begged me, got angry, got back with her, lather rinse and repeat....so I knew if I took the kids away, it would've killed him. He drank constantly and ended up dabbling in whatever else happened to be available. Often I would bring him food....cuz he would 'forget'. He was in a bad place. I helped him, but all the while I too was a drunk. I had a job, I paid bills, I thought I was killin it and HE was the one with the problem. Suddenly I find myself - still working, and at this time I had 3 jobs, including working as a PCA, A lunch lady at an elementary school and overnights at a gas station.....then with the Postal Service...... I'm an equal opportunity addict and that ncludes working too much. Fast Forward 15 years - I get a call from my son, his dad ODed and had given him narcan and CPR and he was on his way to the hospital. He saved his dad's life. He left against medical advice that night. I begged him not to but he was afraid he'd get kicked out of his 'half way house' if they found out what had happened. The next morning that sober house called me. I had to tell our children that the narcan wore off, their dad got some kind of benzo for sleep and he died shortly thereafter in his sleep.
    You have that 2nd chance. I'm proud of you, you look great, you're doing all the things.... I go over it in my head and think of all the things that I coulda woulda shoulda done or said but I can't.
    Your kids don't know it yet but you are a superhero..... and you did it because of them.

    • @VeeMoraless
      @VeeMoraless 2 месяца назад +3

      ❤🙏

    • @gideonros2705
      @gideonros2705 2 месяца назад +3

      What an insane rollocoaster life! It's like you've been to war. My mom was betrayed by my father. She forgave him. Somehow, she made it work. But she was changed by that experience. I always thought that betrayal is something that can really wound you. I hope you are on a healing path for yourself.

  • @heatherowl
    @heatherowl Месяц назад +2

    Really glad to see that Mike is making the most of his new chance at life. In January 2020 I woke up to find that my boyfriend had died of complications from alcoholic liver disease overnight. It was on the floor of our home, and it looked like he had been vomiting blood until his heart stopped beating. He had so much life left to live. He had actually reduced his drinking quite a bit but decades of liver damage took him out at 46. So sad for the ones who don’t make it and so happy for the ones who do. ❤

  • @anitamartindale3585
    @anitamartindale3585 2 месяца назад +24

    Soooooo happy your sober, it's really the only way to live. I've got 24 years sober. My life was a mess before sobriety.

    • @terrig1229
      @terrig1229 Месяц назад +1

      🎉congratulations 🎉

  • @anniwunder
    @anniwunder 2 месяца назад +2

    Probably my favorite SOW interview of all times. Mike, you're an absolutely incredibly human being and inspiration! I wish you, your wife and your kids an amazing life!❤

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you so much 🙏🏽

  • @917hazel
    @917hazel 2 месяца назад +11

    Mike has a very resonate voice and tells his experiences in an honest bare bones way. I know a lot of ppl will benefit from his coming forward and being so honest about all the bodily functions that have been impacted by drinking excessively to deal with stress initially and then emotional pain.
    Great interview. Thank you Mike and Mark☀️

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you for your kind words 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @917hazel
      @917hazel 2 месяца назад

      @@jerzeymikeMike, I left another comment about de-mineralization typo-ed demonitization🥸) Anyway, as a health practitioner I have seen a mineral rich diet, stop refined foods as a regular part of diet, as part of healing addictive drinking, eating, etc. There are many layers to healing, but this is one, imho, part that often goes ignored.
      The ending to your interview is truly uplifting and your smile says it all.
      Best wishes to you.

    • @catwalkernyc
      @catwalkernyc 2 месяца назад

      Honest… not quite

    • @catwalkernyc
      @catwalkernyc 2 месяца назад

      Sometimes people just don’t understand how much they believe their own lies. The root cause is not the alcohol. It’s relationship that is his issue. Like all of us. The root cause. Stop playing the blame game Mike.

    • @917hazel
      @917hazel 2 месяца назад

      @@catwalkernyc The longer the time sober, the more clarity onevcomes to about who they are, past present future events.

  • @susanmarkovitz6855
    @susanmarkovitz6855 Месяц назад +2

    Wow Mike...When I first saw the title "The Alcoholic's Struggle" I thought they must have the wrong title because you looked so good. Clear eyes, smiling and healthy. Congratulations on your two year sobriety. You are smart, humble, and have a strong moral compass. I wish you the best in life. One day at a time.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад

      Thank you Susan 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @hillbillyrocker3257
    @hillbillyrocker3257 2 месяца назад +9

    You got this bud! When the question was asked, “Do you have regret”, you gave a great answer. I feel you need to accept the trials and tribulations of life and move forward. Accept the past and keep on keep’n on on day at a time my man. 🤙🤙🤙

    • @catwalkernyc
      @catwalkernyc 2 месяца назад

      No regrets for traumatizing his sons? Not just them but even just last year- due to his addiction which is no longer alcohol. He doesn’t regret harming women- blaming women- for his own choices.

  • @VanessaMachado-s8f
    @VanessaMachado-s8f Месяц назад +1

    One of the few people who was able to endure the pain of alcoholism. Just lost an individual that was 60 years old and after years of drinking, was not able to recovery the way Mike did. He was not offered a transplant option and ended up catching a rare infection while in the hospital. Hope Mike is able to stay on track. Thank you for your story.

  • @bigfoot7323
    @bigfoot7323 2 месяца назад +51

    Look bro, alcoholics and drug addicts can NOT drink or do drugs in moderation! Period Case Closed!

    • @paulthecpa2717
      @paulthecpa2717 2 месяца назад +4

      This is the part of AA and NA that they don’t tell you when you come in for the first time. They tell you that we have a process that works. And it does. But they can’t tell you that it involves never using drugs or alcohol again, at least at that point in time. Because you’d walk right back out the door.

    • @savannahnickel1041
      @savannahnickel1041 2 месяца назад

      Yep. It's true.

    • @jackiwannapaint
      @jackiwannapaint 2 месяца назад

      i agree. The problem with drinking in moderation is that its always on your mind--the next drink. You must quit cold turkey and no more thoughts of drinking because its going to kill you and destroy your family and thats that!

  • @pathallinan3920
    @pathallinan3920 16 дней назад +2

    I've watched this channel from the very beginning, every now and again we here stories that seem to break the mould, Mikes certainly seems to be one,

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 13 дней назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @metalmick4454
    @metalmick4454 Месяц назад +4

    Thank you once again Mark Liata, and thank you and your story in particular Mike Faria, this did wonders for me. Life can be good.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike Месяц назад

      🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @carolineallshorn291
    @carolineallshorn291 18 дней назад +2

    I'm just really proud of you ❤ Thank you ❤

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 13 дней назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @ivanestrada3468
    @ivanestrada3468 2 месяца назад +6

    This channel is such a great resource. Thank you to all the people involved

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @catwalkernyc
      @catwalkernyc 2 месяца назад

      This has been my favorite channel and interviewer for years. 🙏🏻🫵🏻✍🏻🫶🏻 grateful for him

  • @nicolewasilewski4282
    @nicolewasilewski4282 2 месяца назад +1

    Such a great story. Thank you for sharing. Ive been clean for 7 years. For several tried and tested reasons working an AA/NA program hasnt been necessary for my sobriety. Ive also done a lot of therapy. Everyones life is different, and we all deserve to find peace in a way that works for us. Best wishes on your future Mike.

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you, congratulations on your sobriety and Best wishes to you too 🙏🏽

  • @JeremyNewell-f1z
    @JeremyNewell-f1z 2 месяца назад +5

    This one spoke right to my heart Mark thank you for doing these interviews. It helps us all realize that we’re not alone even though in a world of all these people a lot of times we feel alone in our struggles but just knowing that we’re not alone does help a lot.💚💚💚

  • @conniemarlow9719
    @conniemarlow9719 2 месяца назад +2

    Mike, Praise GOD for being here to tell your story!!! May you continue to help others❤❤❤❤ Much love from East Tennessee ❤️ ❤❤❤

    • @jerzeymike
      @jerzeymike 2 месяца назад +1

      Much love and thank you 🙏🏽

  • @scottcrouse7571
    @scottcrouse7571 2 месяца назад +4

    Choosing drugs and alcohol are life changing for most people and it takes a change of life to leave them behind.

  • @TheKeltris
    @TheKeltris 2 месяца назад +2

    You are such a wonderful man with so much to offer!! I'm sorry for your battle with alcohol. You're worth more than that drink!!

  • @kimmigirl2968
    @kimmigirl2968 2 месяца назад +5

    Beautiful looking man. Wish him all the best