I'm almost 30 years older than my wife. We have been married for 10 years now and we have three amazing children as well. Life is good and getting better every day.
@@stedye I am married to a Filipina 34 years younger. We have been married and lived in a small fishing community (her home community) for going on 3 years now and we worship each other more every day. My advice: Be completely upfront, open and honest from day one. Never get too frustrated if you cannot fully understand her. Firstly, she is a woman. Second, she is from a completely different culture. Lay down ground rules regarding family, etc. Right from the start and stick to it or it will surely bring grief later on. Never, I mean never forget your initial attraction. Time can cause us to become apathetic if we fail to keep doing this. Always compare your life in your past relationship with your western ex(es). Then ask yourself: "Do I really want to go back to that?!!!".
My first Filipina wife was older than me, and we were married for 41 years; I have three children with her and two stepchildren. I now also have five grandchildren. She passed away a few years ago from cancer. We retired here in the Philippines in 2016. I now have a wife 30 years younger than I am, and everything seems incredible, as it was with my first wife. I love her very much. She takes good care of me and makes me feel blessed to have her. She has a beautiful family that she loves very much, and I do too. We are waiting for her interview appointment at the US Embassy so I can take her home to Hawaii until she receives her dual citizenship. It will take about three years for that to happen. I told her that she could retire now at her age because I have her set up with survivor benefits for the rest of her life.
Aloha. I was married to a Hawaii born Filipina three months shy of 35 years. Cancer is horrible. It has been 5 years and am looking for someone to be a part of my life. I hope to find someone soon to give more meaning to life. Congratulations for you and your wife.
For me as a Filipina age is just a number, Filipina respect older than them it's mature and very supportive. It's my first time to watch your video and this is great discussion ☺️
I'm at a point in my life where I couldn't give a rip what anyone thinks about me or anything I do. If I wanted to marry a younger woman, a much younger woman, a transwoman or even a shetland pony, if I loved her and wanted to marry her, I wouldn't let anyone or anything stop me
I could not agree more. There is a substantial age difference between me and my Pinay Princess. We are getting married in July and will live in Cebu. She is 33 and was not even born yet when I was 33 but we have so much love and respect between us. I am the only man she has ever been with so she saved her treasure for me. I will treat her like a princess every day and when I leave this earth she will never have money worries.
@Celtic Viking i do not agree. while of COURSE money is a huge attraction factor for younger women, i have spoken with MANY online. For those who are interested in foreign men it has a lot to do with the local men being mean, lazy, cheating etc. This gives the girls a very different viewpoint on what attributes are attractive. With a choice between an all too common scenario of becoming a single mom and finding an older responsible guy... well you can see. Love does indeed come into the equation. It is built on trust and respect. just my opinion.
I want to congratulate you on your marriage as I'm also on the right track with my . Filipina for getting married And I also have a big age Gap with my Filipina.
@@secretagent86 I agree with you on that. The woman I've met has said the same. Tha last Filipino she dated cheated on her so she's definitely has no interest in men in her country. And that's not to say that there's not good decent men in the Philippines. That's like saying all American men are good decent hard workers and trustworthy. That definitely isn't true. People are people. No matter what country. But as for my Filipina, she done. So I'm the lucky one.
All women want men who are settled down, mature, and financially stable. Men want women who are fun, loving, caring and devoted. Age difference does not matter. Mine is 29 years younger and we couldn't wish for anything better.
@Celtic Viking There is a 34 years age gap with my Filipina wife. We live here on less than $1000/month. 3 years now and pure love and desire for each other grows deeper every year. We are both realistic about the age difference, and have a plan for the future in that area. She is a Cebuana "province" girl and their values are very different than city girls, especially Manila.
@Celtic Viking Kevin and I are in much of the same situations. Mine is 29 years younger than me. She is from a farm 3 hours North of Dumaguete. She worked 11 years in Cebu putting in 12 hour days for 369 pesos per day (roughly $7 US dollars). She has earned my respect. Hope you aren't being too judgmental because of a bad experience. Relationships are very personal, if a heart isn't open then success is difficult. I've been building an amazing home for my inlaws. They've lived in bamboo homes for centuries without a complaint. They raise crops and work the land without machines. I'm in awe of them and have much respect. For the price of a nice meal, I can feed her family for a week. I choose to be loving and caring. You can choose your path, hope you can find love regardless of her age.
I'm going on 77 years of age, and a widower from 52 years of marriage. I loved being married and thinking why try it again. Doing my Navy days I fell in love with the Filipino peaple and as a kid grew up next to a filipino family. I have been following your channel and the Filipino Pea. If I make the move, it will be with a lady around about 38.
i am 68 this year and she is 31 and she has NO children and I am fixed, been together now 7 yrs - marrying her late this year. I was not looking for a 37 yr age gap - but shes the best fit for my needs/wants in a partner and I am one of the good guys - dont drink, no drugs, no gambling problems, no psyc worries, no cheating, no lies and I am not rich (bad divorce 10 yrs ago - she cheated)...but i am happy - careful - I have a rule that works - NO MONEY for 2 years. If they ask u or tell u stories etc...cow, brother, grandmother whatever - forget them there are 2 million others who won't ask you for anything. The 730th day (2 yrs) I happened to be in the Phills with her and I spent around $500 on her - for things she could use.. it's a good rule. MANY will take and ask and sulk and complain - walk away. RUN AWAY. Use a new email account dont give her your main account. Use a new skype account or Whatsapp etc..not your regular one. don't tell her your financial situation - just that you are comfortable, not rich but comfortable. And for gods sake have a prenup - spend the money and get one drawn up where you live - $500-$1000 check around. If she won't sign one WALK AWAY or don;t marry her. DO NOT MARRY HER!!!! $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ is all shes after and they or her AUnti or mother have been known to poison you and kill u to get your house and money. really. PRE NUP or NO Wedded Bliss. You cannot own more than 49% of any land in the phills so whatever you buy and/or build will be in her name. Just an FYI. There is a book you should read - prob find it online - called "A FOOL IN PARADISE" worth the $10 might save you $1.2M I have lived in Phills for 3 yrs - been there 28 x from Canada.
Thanks! I enjoyed watching your videos...I am planning on visiting cebu this November for about a month...I am 57 year old black man and I retiring on a year or two...I would like to find a safe, comfortable condo to rent...you are a beautiful woman jerry
I'm new to your channel & just subscribed. You should have a lot more subscribers. You're on par with the Filipina Pea in your presentation and attractiveness level. You should have 100k subs, unless you just started this channel Miss Rubeauti. PS- 20 years age gap ... that's like 'same age' in the Philippines with an Expat/Filipina relationship. Not till it's 30+ years is it considered 'Mmmm, MAYBE a LITTLE age inappropriate'!
Hi. I'm a 62 year old black American who is amazed at what I've learned in the last few years. Young Filipinas seem to adore me. At first I thought they were just looking for money. But now I know it's a lot more than money. They want someone who appreciates them for who they are. I've been having an online relationship which includes video chatting with a woman 30 years my Jr for about a year. We get along great. I plan on visiting her this September of 2022. So from what I've experienced, Filipinas do prefer men older than they are. I have a few friends that are in relationships with young Filipinas 10 to 30 years age gap, and they say the same. Thanks for informing men like myself.
Just be careful is my 2 cents. I've lived in the PH when younger and saw only fake love with almost every foreigner of any age, but especially the older less attractive guys (most). They see the man as the road out of poverty for their entire extended family. If you talk about living together with birth control in their country on a limited pension (just to make a point) see how they feel? Don't rush and never send money. Peace.
@@bobbruce4135 I appreciate your insight. Yes I have heard that Filipinas value their family and including them is important. A matter of fact, she's staying with her brother, sister in law and their kids. I haven't sent any money but have sent gifts. Flowers etc. Anyway I plan on visiting the country this September but don't plan on living there. I also have a few friends that moved to various parts of the Philippines and I plan on visiting them. They like it. But it's not for me. As far as my girlfriend I'll see where things go once I visit. Thanks again for your advice.
Hi Sammy, I've visited the Philippines three times and they love us! So enjoy your visit and the best of luck with your Filipina. I'll be in Cebu City and Dumaguete in August and September. Stay Safe brother.
@@realmercy Thanks man. It'll be a year next month that I've been video chatting with her everyday and things are going great. I never ever wanted to date anyone from any country other than the United States. I saw it as being a hassle. But being that I have a few friends there and through their wives I've met my Filipina, I've done a total 180 and can't wait to visit. Thanks again.
My wife is 26 years younger than me. She is amazing and I am so happy and lucky to have found her. We love each other very much, and we've been married 4 years and together for 6. I don't see anything changing between us. I was always one of those guys who wondered why a younger woman would marry an older guy. Now, I know. The key to an age gap relationship, more than anything else, is communication. When dating, you need to understand each other and talk about things. You shouldn't marry until you are clear in how life will work as a married couple. I lived with my wife for a year in the Philippines before we married, and I knew what life would be like with her (mostly). If you bring your Filipina to the West, be prepared for her to change and adjust to the new culture and new life. She WILL NOT be the same person. But if she is smart and strong willed, she will change in mostly good ways.
It is reassuring to hear that from you. Many of us older men have become tired of the games and disdain from the women we meet as we go through our daily lives and look forward to turning back the clock to a simpler life. Thank you for another great video. What is your personal opinion on age gaps for yourself? Take care.
Good save on this episode Rubeauti! What a shame your mic broke down. I found it interesting to hear about the age gap though. My girlfriend (Filipina) is my age but I did date an English girl 15yrs younger than myself a while ago. That was an oedipal relationship which was doomed from the start. So my experience wasn't that great back then. Maybe if she had been a Filipina it might have worked out. I find Filipina's much more mature than European women of the same age. I can actually have a great conversation with some of them that I met here in the Netherlands. In certain ways Filipina's are highly developed.
I’ve seen a few differences in age. They seem to be happy. Thats what’s important. Like you said, love matters. It overrides everything. To bad for the mic failure I’ll bet they were interesting interviews. The clips you showed with the laughing says we missed some good ones.
Age shouldn’t matter as long as it’s legal. Love is what truly matters. If you love each other, who cares what other people think, just live your own life. That’s my advice to people.
Very good video, in the US there are many large age gap relationship and I know of a few myself. Knew a 18 year old female dating a middle 40's guy, had one girl tell me when she was 18 she dated a 40 year old because he was more mature then guys her own age. Know a guy in middle 50's married a 27 year old female. Many example out there of large age gap relationships in the US. But it is not as socially acceptable as in the Philippines.
An interesting topic Rubeauti, I think a lot depends on the girls situation in life. A career girl with a good job and income is less likely to date a much older foreigner. Not all, but many of the young beauties dating older foreigners, are single moms. They have been abandoned by young Filipino guys, to struggle raising a child or children alone. An older foreign guy is seen as more mature and reliable, plus removes her daily financial struggles. She will love him for that, and the person he is, rather than for his youth or good looks.
An independent woman dates a man that is close to her age and most likely date a Filipino not a foreigner Women who date older foreigners are those who are from poor and single moms No offense
Brian P, youth or good looks will only take you so far in a relationship. Before you know it that youth and good looks fades away. I have heard on other channels once a Filipina reaches her 30's most Filipino men lose interest in them. That's especially true if they have kids. So I can see why an older foreigner would be a good catch for a Filipina in her 30's with kids.
Hi Rubeauti. Good topic. For me age does not matter if you love each other and get along and have common interests. I have talked to several girls there over the last 10 years or so and most were between 25 and 35 and they had no problem with the age gap. I do try to stay in that age range as by 25 and up the girls seem to know what direction they want to go to in life. I am currently 65 and most I chat to are 30 years younger or more. It does not bother me at all and if I happen to get in a relationship with a younger lady I won't care what others think. The only opinion that really matters is that of your partner. I would of loved to hear some the answers you were getting too bad your mic did not work maybe next time. You have a very beautiful smile. Keep smiling and stay safe
Age does matter when dating and marrying a woman or man. Not just in the Philippines around the world. If someone 70 marries a 18 year old there is nothing in common. The man gets a built in caregiver. The woman thinks she is getting security but we know all he has to do is leave the country or her area, change his phone number. Leave her with a child without support because he didn't want children. He gets everything she gets nothing. 10 to 20 years different not bad. A man 50 years older no he should know better. She is young enough to be his granddaughter.
Such an interesting video, you did a great job covering the issue. So glad you're in Manila, so many vloggers are in near Cebu or other remote province areas.
Society puts too much emphasis on age - in either direction man older / woman older - my vote is … let’s just appreciate their love and happiness for each other …. Old can be a young youthful living person - and a young person can live as a 80 yr old … let’s celebrate love , happiness, and caring for each other … age is truly just a number .. find a mate that fits you loves you and you cherish each other …. Cheers
I agree with the results of your research. I met a beautiful Filipina from Ilocos Norte, and we are in love. She is 24 years younger than me, but age does not seem to be a factor. Both of us have careers, and we were not looking for anyone, but we were surprised to find each other. We were brought together because of a family members engagement party.
Time is matter, age don't matter. Love your content, dinner sometime ? 😊💐 I was engaged Filipino in Davao, 4 years, She broke me up during COVID. Which was over 2 years. I have visited the Philippines 4 times. When we were together I was 51 she was 27.💕 Filipino girls are way more mature At a young age. I got to meet family in the province, my Experience was humbling, yet so enlighten how friendly they were. The girls don't need to worry About not understanding them. We all have self esteem issues, we are very understanding of the culture differences. Americans have very good hearts. Older and mature men are more financial secure and don't like drama. You only live once.Don't waste your life live it. I am now searching For a Filipino Girl to spend the rest of my life with. God bless
I am 33 years older than my filipina and my passion is to have the best possible marriage I can have in a marriage. I have done a lot of research in what makes a good marriage and I feel I have found a good partner.
Real simple. Primarily the people who don't approve of Age gap relationships, are old women that guys their age Don't want. Younger guys bothered that girls their age Don't want them, because they are seen as immature, unstable, not as stable, and more likely to cheat. Most other folks mind their business and live their lives, because as long as the couple is happy? And or are content in their arrangement? Everyone else can kick rocks
@@RubeautiOne of the many great qualities of the Pinay honeys, is that there are alot of things they will tolerate, as long as they get the things that they need. As long as a man is clean( showers, shaves), he is kind, respectful, accepts her children- many will likely have at least one) And helps her, helo her parents some - We have to understand that's part of the culture and often her responsibility). If , when a man meets those requirements? She will love us, appreciate us and respect us He can be old, fat, low energy. If he loves, respects and helps her? He will Never be happier. American men are used to women already having children from previous relationship, married, so to us, it's Not a flaw or mark against the women. Especially in the Philippines, where we know many men make babies and run. No fault of the women. The beautiful, sexy, devoted Pinay, and her allure is Sooooo strong? Men from Allllll over the World travel to the country to get one. Women don't travel to the Philippines for their men do they? The Pinay, her love, her warmth, her dedication? Mannnn Ohhh man if you can get one? Meet her requirements? You can Never be happier. RuBeauti? It's women like you that makes the county so well known and a destination for many of us. When I arrive, I will look you up. Even if you have to turn me down because soooo many of us want you? Have to st least try😉. Keep up the great work, we will do all we can to help you, your channel grow. I am one of many husbands, fighting for his own RuBeauti😎
@@John_Smith777 Good for you man. As long as we aren't talking about women underage? Do whatever makes you happy, And can afford. Every male-female relationship has conditions. Just how it works. The best relations? The terms and conditions are discussed, agreed to , and folks abide by said conditions, agreement. And if?- when there is any changes of heart? Honest communication fixes that Continue enjoying your life, and doing right by people as I sense that you do
My girl and I have an age also...not huge..about 18 yrs.. We've been together now right at 3 yrs and our relationship is fantastic.. She's almost 40 and I'm 57.. The age for us is just a number..doesn't bother or matter to us at all..were more mature than her being younger which helps a lot...we get along great and have a very loving faithful relationship..loving sweet beautiful filipina...
We all have our own preferences but for me I can't date and or court someone 20 years younger than me because if you really think about it what do you really and truly have in common? The younger women could make good partners but I'll much rather fall in love with someone my age than younger than me.
My wife is nine years younger and s we have many things in common due to the small age gap. We've been married 25 years and are still very much in love and happy. We don't judge other couples age differences unless it's extreme or the Filipina is under 20 years old.
When I retire in a few, my budget will be set at $5k a month and I will move around and date around until I find my other half. After I'm gone as long as she's careful she'll be set for life.
That's a good plan. With that budget you are 5X more valuable than a doctor with 5X the available time to spend with a woman. You are the "prize" my friend. 👍
have a prenup b4 you marry and bring it up early in your dating/relationship so you do not waste your time, and read "A Fool in Paradise" first...trust me.
I have learned that age difference isn't a big deal in the Philippines and I am older but easily pass for way younger and men my age can't even come close to keeping up with me but I have had an age preference for a long time !! 35 to 45 here in the USA !!! They having children or we together having children can be great thing !! And my family all easily reach 90 years old . My sister is 62 and I am 63 !! People think my sister is only 30 or 40 years old!! My Grandmother passed away on Her 100th Birthday the exact day!!
For some, age difference means something, for others it means nothing. In any case, it is difficult as the man often has to deal with Showtime TV and a life without political discussions and historical events and there is also much else the man can simply forget to discuss. If the man can handle that, it can work very well as long as there is no alcohol, partying, nightclubs, and spending money on unimportant things BUT, that is very often the case and therefore 4 out of 5 age relation gap usually go badly. Most often it is due to the man's behavior since he likes all these things except wasting money on her family and her needs for the latest fashion clothes. Anyway, there are no golden rules for making it work except trying to use common sense. Great with some pictures from Santa Fe at the end of the video, I've lived there for a long time 🙂.
Thank you for the video. My fiancé is 29 and I’m 52 and when we first met online, I asked her does the age gap matter and she said no that love doesn’t see age gap. She said that she liked older men because of security and maturity. I am going to the Philippines June 9 and she thinks I’m coming in July so I am going to surprise her. I can’t wait to see her. She also mentioned that I look a lot younger than my age so that could have a lot to do with it also. She’s amazing and I can’t wait to hold her . 🥰🥰😍❤️
Jason, I'm not trying to be a jerk here, but you seem incredibly naive and easy to take advantage of. First off, if that's you in the picture you don't look younger than 52, and of course she is going to tell you age doesn't matter..they are going to tell you what you want to hear. This whole she said this and she told me that means nothing. Sure it's possible that this girl is sincere and everything will work out but keep in mind this girl has a goal in mind and she will tell you what you want to hear and do what it takes to accomplish her goal. Maybe her goal is finding love with a decent guy, but very often it's getting money from a dumb foreigner who believes her BS or relocating to the west where she can improve her life and the situation of her family.
Jason read "a fool in Paradise" - best $10 bucks you will spend - and if things proceed further bring up a PreNup agreement if she has a problem signing one - walk away. Seriously or you will end up broke and 1/2 your pension will go to her also so that means REALLY BROKE - ok bud? be safe. I have seen more than most there lived there 3 yrs and 28 trips - I found a good one no kids and lovely human - never asked me for a penny and i didnt offer for 2 yrs...that's my rule - ZERO for 2 yrs. best of luck. YES I HAVE BEEN taken buy gold diggers and married one too - didn't know it at the time but she was an ex whore/bar girl - a beauty and so sweet... blah blah blah -
@@jasoncatron1039 true that! Someone has to be realistic and good thing your telling him straight up! he’s being fooled I suspect. Pinays are very sly and will tell them whatever they wanna hear and use them at the same time, many of these so called “trustworthy” pinays have local bfs on the side and than help them from the funds. The kano has no idea because they are in the states or not around and they assume they can trust the pinay but that’s the biggest mistake is to assume
Everyone is different. Health, success, looks, so many things. I’m in great shape. I’m 30 years older than my Filipina. It doesn’t bother her at all. But honestly I bring a lot to the table that she wants. And vice versa.
I fully agree with you. Because inside all of us, majority of the people want a real life eventually! Age gap doesn't matter if you can find true love a real long life partner.
I've been chatting to a girl from Manila.And even went over to see her for the first time back in June.I'm 20 years older than her.And for her it doesnt matter at all.As she says its the fact that she loves me for WHO i am.And shes not out for my money at all.Ands i'm hoping to go back out in November.What did make me laugh was the looks we got from some of the locals.As i'm 6ft2 and a big guy.I love people watching.Its so funny. Keep up the vlogs well done.
Hey, I like your professionalism, especially when you're apologizing for the broken mic. You have been very precise and consistent in this video. I really liked your charm and your sincerity. I subscribed to your channel to follow you more. Courage
It really boils down to maturity levels. I mean....a 79 yr old with a19 yr old is ridiculous....not impossible.....just ridiculous, but a 50 yr old with a 28 / 29 yr old is not unheard of in many parts of the world. I personally feel that when you find "The One"?...it really doesn't matter what the age gap is. Love knows no age, nor should race, or nationality,.....when you find someone whom you love, and WHO LOVES YOU....whether you have kids or not.....whether you're thick or thin......tall or short......if you love that person....and that person loves YOU!? then the rest of the world can go kick rocks!.....LoL!
@@Rubeauti Well Like I said it not impossible.....just highly unlikely....but I'm sure if you search hard enough?...and travel far enough there's gonna be the "legend" of "Old Man Billy" who lives in a cabin in the mountains somewhere...and that young womanwho comes into town tobuy goods....that looks like his DAUGHTER?...is actually his WIFE! But...since no one is willing to be shot by a rifle for being too nosy?....folks just mind their busness...so yeah I'm SURE it actually DOES happen...its just not visible to the "naked eye"...LOL!
@@Rubeauti For the right money, age is just a number, even a gap like that. But for this kind of gap, the dude is probably better off just getting a few escorts (i.e., girlfriend experiences) that he rotates.
It is ridiculous and they have no business being with each other those relationships are just mutually beneficial relationships to just using each other. I don’t believe in those big age gaps most aren’t true love
@@roninbushitoろうにん But how would you know?...how can you make that judgement?..suppose there IS true love there?..so...they should break up because YOU don't approve of their age gap?...hmm...I wonder how many more people feel this way?...I guess love truly IS blind huh? Because there are people in age-gap relationships?..that couldn't give a damm what you think or what society thinks either...they love each other and they will go to their GRAVES loving each other. and the entire world can kick rocks if they don't like it!
I personally think regardless of culture a 20 year age gap is too much for any young woman between 18-30. Also as a man myself I’d feel insecure as I’d want my woman to find me physically attractive and not want me purely for security and financial stability.
It's all about financial security. Even young men (unattractive due to height, balding, etc) find the love isn't really love like felt in Western dating. When I was young in the PH, it felt too contrived (fake). I found they had photos of old men courting, they wanted green cards to send money home, etc. One even had a hot lover she was planning to petition after getting her green card. These old guys say how happy they are. But if you look closer, they are financing their family and another extended family back home. The like being $imps. No money, no honey. But, it may be better than nothing. Peace.
I agree with you guys. Nice to see some guys being realistic. A lot of these older guys 60 and above will be elderly while these younger women will be in their 40's or in some cases younger. I think at that point the age gap will become a much bigger issue. Women are supposed to change baby diapers, not their elderly husbands diapers.
@@jasoncatron1039 You obviously never experienced the Philippines, because while that is sometimes the case, their culture is so different than the west. They adore their elders, whether they are their lolos or their husbands. That is a fact.
Kevin Price, I think Asian cultures in general respect their elders far more than here in the west. It's not a major reason why I'm trying to convince my Filipina wife to move to her hometown of Bacolod but it's one of the many reasons. I don't think there is a culture in the world where a young woman wants to be with an elderly man. I'm not saying they won't care for the husband or will look to replace him. I just think it's selfish for a man to put a woman in that situation, she will be a care taker in her 40's and a widow not long after. Unless there is a financial incentive for her it doesn't seem like a smart idea.
@@jasoncatron1039 Money is a factor in all cultures,, regardless of age. More than half of Filipinas, according to many studies look for mental maturity, stability, etc. They see that quality in older men, so they actually find the wrinkles and grey hair attractive.
Good morning to you in Manila. I'm 40 years older than my sweetheart in Mindanao. Before we met I told her she was way too young for me, and she disagreed and says you got to give me a chance. We've been together for over 4 years with a great romance. Also she's more mature than me. Hahahaha 🤣
have a prenup b4 you marry and bring it up early in your dating/relationship so you do not waste your time, and read "A Fool in Paradise" first...trust me.
Love your channel and the content you make! I'm half Filipino from my mother who is from the islands and was always curious the points of view from both women and men back in the Philippines!
Yes it is true, A older man would be a great partner for a younger Filipina Woman, As long as both have mutual respect for each other they will definitely get along well, Life is not about money but just happiness in a mutual understanding off each other, You would make a very good partner Rube
I am 9 years older than my wife and before I married her I asked if she didn't think the gap was too big. She didn't mind and now we are already married for more than 35 years and still happy together. We have a daughter of 34 and one grandchild of 4. We also know a few couples with similar age gaps that are doing fine although not all marriages are a succes but it has to do with other matters than an age gap.
Hello Rebeauti, hope you're doing well. Maturity level is more important to me than age. However, I wouldn't want to marry a 20 year old girl. Over 30 a woman has a few more life experiences, they have an idea what they want in life. What age gap would be acceptable to you? What is your age? If you don't mind answering?
My Filipina wife is 20 years younger and we are 4+ years and counting. However, my 3 ex American wives are also younger. 3, 7 and 17 years younger. Last American girl before my Filipina wife was 25 years younger.
I think it must be a choice for you to be single as it's inconceivable that no one has tried to put a ring on ur finger. Visually u are stunning and what u present in ur videos is also exceptional. I love how you cover topics and you have a good grasp of the language. I imagine that you are overwhelmed with offers to take you out of circulation and even if you like woman, there have to be lines around the block trying to get to know you. Good day to you, such a wonderful human being!
I would be interested in hearing testimonies from the widows who were in their 20s and 30s when they married men who were in their 50s and 60s. What is life like now and based on their experience, how would they counsel younger women considering marrying an older man
In my case age didn't matter!I am 60 and my wife is 30!been married 10years and have to children and life is good!!!!!I am so lucky to have her!!!!❤❤❤❤❤👍👍👍👍
I’m 63 and my filipina fiancé is 20. But everyone thinks I’m 45 years old because I workout everyday with weights and cardio and eat healthy. I have a 6 pack at age 63💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
A really intelligent and thoughtful talk Rubeauti. Thank you for the topic, my own feeling? Up to the couple, I always believe you like someone or you don't. Age might be a part of that or it might not. Take care lovely lady ❤️🥰
18-20yr old marrying men way older, lost looks, zero in common. Cmon let's keep it real. The old man is the ATM,and the girls know exactly what their doing. He gets an ego boost until the money runs out..Its no way to spend your golden years. Also note its almost impossible to divorce in the Phillipines
41 M here, I only go 8 years lower than my age or my own age when looking for a woman. I think it really comes down to each person, age is just a number. It's about compatibility and having the same mindset of working together as a team. But again, that is just me my mindset. If someone makes you happy and adds to your happiness than age shouldn't' matter.
I'm 27 years older than my filipina girlfriend and she says age gap doesn't matter and that she loves me even though we haven't met just been video chatting for 7 months and I plan on going to see her later this year and see how things go from there. I know I need to meet her and get to know her in person.
Thank you i enjoyed your vlog and i think if you love someone then age don't metter that much but make sure you provide fore her and any children you have's future when you pass away so you know they can have a good life after your gone
I stumbles onto this channel and fined the convo interesting although I’m married in the States. Here in the US, 20+ year gaps are not all that normal. Usually you will only see it if the man is wealthy! 5 year and below age gaps are considered normal and the closer to 10 years you get, the more taboo it is. My wife is only 6 years younger, so it’s not even considered an age gap. I do dined that 10 years is a goo gap if women are looking for more mature settled men.
It’s only “taboo” because older Western women try and shame men for dating younger women, because it decreases their chances of finding a partner. As a man it’s entirely up to you if you pay attention to any of that crap! 😂
It is not a flaw in our character. It is built in our biology. Men would like to go as young as possible. However at some point maturity and personality of a woman becomes more important than physical.
I know everyone seems to want to know about age gaps between a Filipina and a foreigner, but I am curious on a couple of things. Are large age gaps common when both people are native Filipino? Also, what are your personal feelings on age gaps. What would be your limit for your partner?
The biggest question in an age gap relationship is children. If she is in her 30’s she will likely want children. If you are in her 50’s, do want children at this stage of life? And will you be honest about it. If you say no, and she says she accepts that, is she being honest with you and herself? An important conversation to have during dating. Seems to get glossed over quite a bit.
How to solve video problems. Do a test recording before all recordings. When you know it works. Chances are you will be okay. If you assume everything is working. Then you will have to do it all again. That could be very embarrassing and very expensive.
i am fixed 68 now with her for 7 yrs and shes 31...i told her our 1st conversation online I am fixed - i didn;t have to right? but i am honest - so shes ok with that she doesn't want kids - she was a nanny looking after kids for 10 yrs when we met...not interested in having babys she said she has allot of neices and nephews - good enough.
As long as there is mutual respect and love, anything else matters a lot less. There used to be respect for older people in the West, but that kind of attitude is just history now. The respect you get from Asian girls is attractive to an older person. but the older western person also needs to respect the Filipina coming to him and not just play because an unwanted pregnancy, for instance, can make an already difficult life even more difficult. What other people think should not matter, and I have seen that status makes a lot of difference in poorer countries - and that having a western man on your arm raises status. There are guys here talking about 'trophy' wives, but its also a fact that a western man may be considered a 'trophy' for the Filipina, raising her status and making friends jealous. So some of the raised eyebrows and talking behind backs, while sometimes genuine surprise at an age gap, may also be jealousy at the raised status of the other and - definitely - the financial improvement in the life of the Filipina. (And this is true even if the westerner has a very modest pension with incomes being so small in many parts of the Philippines. For me, I would need a lot of evidence of love before a commitment. Sex one can purchase anywhere with a lot less risk and a lot less cost over time than happens in a marriage. Yeah, that idea may offend some, but its the plain truth. Marriage is a huge and expensive commitment (for the man! - why do we do it guys?) so you need to be more than 100% convinced that there is genuine love behind the commitment of the Filipina. If you're older, you don't know what may happen to your health, so you need to know there is the kind of love that will convert into nursing you if necessary (and - God forbid it should happen to you! - the willingness to change your diaper if you become incontinent and frail).
I'm 21 years and I'm thinking about dating a Philippine girl because I like the visiting the country and the reason why I haven't dated anyone it's because I don't want kids and I do prefer to date someone who's my age or one year older
Love matters my Filipina has not asked me for 1 penny has not hesitated in telling me that she loves me And I had to work to get her to talk to me. We are going to get married. I love this woman who is there out of my own life
I'm almost 30 years older than my wife. We have been married for 10 years now and we have three amazing children as well. Life is good and getting better every day.
Great to know Alan !Close to getting engaged with a lady where we have large age gap . What are a few keys or advice to making the marriage succeed ?
@@stedye I am married to a Filipina 34 years younger. We have been married and lived in a small fishing community (her home community) for going on 3 years now and we worship each other more every day.
My advice:
Be completely upfront, open and honest from day one.
Never get too frustrated if you cannot fully understand her. Firstly, she is a woman. Second, she is from a completely different culture.
Lay down ground rules regarding family, etc. Right from the start and stick to it or it will surely bring grief later on.
Never, I mean never forget your initial attraction. Time can cause us to become apathetic if we fail to keep doing this.
Always compare your life in your past relationship with your western ex(es). Then ask yourself: "Do I really want to go back to that?!!!".
@@Kevins-Philippine-Retirement excellent advice. I appreciate you taking the time to share with me and others who read it 🙏🏽
@@stedye I'm sure you would do the same. Best wishes to a long and meaningful life together ❤️
@@stedye do not marry her. Just live togeather and always cheat upon her with 18-20 y.o to understand that you are the stud
My first Filipina wife was older than me, and we were married for 41 years; I have three children with her and two stepchildren. I now also have five grandchildren. She passed away a few years ago from cancer. We retired here in the Philippines in 2016. I now have a wife 30 years younger than I am, and everything seems incredible, as it was with my first wife. I love her very much. She takes good care of me and makes me feel blessed to have her. She has a beautiful family that she loves very much, and I do too. We are waiting for her interview appointment at the US Embassy so I can take her home to Hawaii until she receives her dual citizenship. It will take about three years for that to happen. I told her that she could retire now at her age because I have her set up with survivor benefits for the rest of her life.
Aloha. I was married to a Hawaii born Filipina three months shy of 35 years. Cancer is horrible. It has been 5 years and am looking for someone to be a part of my life. I hope to find someone soon to give more meaning to life. Congratulations for you and your wife.
For me as a Filipina age is just a number, Filipina respect older than them it's mature and very supportive. It's my first time to watch your video and this is great discussion ☺️
Are you single or taken miss?
So money doesn’t cross your mind?
I'm at a point in my life where I couldn't give a rip what anyone thinks about me or anything I do. If I wanted to marry a younger woman, a much younger woman, a transwoman or even a shetland pony, if I loved her and wanted to marry her, I wouldn't let anyone or anything stop me
DUDE ! YOU WOULD ACTUALLY MARRY A SHETLAND PONY ?
She will tell you anything to get your $
I must warn you about the shetland pony. Their shoes doesn’t do wonders in a waterbed! 🌊
@@TRICK-OR-TREAT236 Just sayin'
@@kasperkjrsgaard1447 🤣
I could not agree more. There is a substantial age difference between me and my Pinay Princess. We are getting married in July and will live in Cebu. She is 33 and was not even born yet when I was 33 but we have so much love and respect between us. I am the only man she has ever been with so she saved her treasure for me. I will treat her like a princess every day and when I leave this earth she will never have money worries.
@Celtic Viking i do not agree. while of COURSE money is a huge attraction factor for younger women, i have spoken with MANY online. For those who are interested in foreign men it has a lot to do with the local men being mean, lazy, cheating etc. This gives the girls a very different viewpoint on what attributes are attractive. With a choice between an all too common scenario of becoming a single mom and finding an older responsible guy... well you can see. Love does indeed come into the equation. It is built on trust and respect. just my opinion.
I want to congratulate you on your marriage as I'm also on the right track with my . Filipina for getting married And I also have a big age Gap with my Filipina.
Good luck. I wish you and her the best.
@@secretagent86 I agree with you on that. The woman I've met has said the same. Tha last Filipino she dated cheated on her so she's definitely has no interest in men in her country. And that's not to say that there's not good decent men in the Philippines. That's like saying all American men are good decent hard workers and trustworthy. That definitely isn't true. People are people. No matter what country. But as for my Filipina, she done. So I'm the lucky one.
Sorry I had to be correct my comment
All women want men who are settled down, mature, and financially stable.
Men want women who are fun, loving, caring and devoted. Age difference does not matter. Mine is 29 years younger and we couldn't wish for anything better.
@Celtic Viking Fortunately, money isn't a problem.
Jim Dees,
Of course money isn't a problem. That's why she is there..or did you believe her when she said you so handsome :)
@@jasoncatron1039 of course I believe her :)
@Celtic Viking There is a 34 years age gap with my Filipina wife. We live here on less than $1000/month. 3 years now and pure love and desire for each other grows deeper every year. We are both realistic about the age difference, and have a plan for the future in that area. She is a Cebuana "province" girl and their values are very different than city girls, especially Manila.
@Celtic Viking Kevin and I are in much of the same situations. Mine is 29 years younger than me. She is from a farm 3 hours North of Dumaguete. She worked 11 years in Cebu putting in 12 hour days for 369 pesos per day (roughly $7 US dollars). She has earned my respect. Hope you aren't being too judgmental because of a bad experience. Relationships are very personal, if a heart isn't open then success is difficult. I've been building an amazing home for my inlaws. They've lived in bamboo homes for centuries without a complaint. They raise crops and work the land without machines. I'm in awe of them and have much respect. For the price of a nice meal, I can feed her family for a week. I choose to be loving and caring. You can choose your path, hope you can find love regardless of her age.
I'm going on 77 years of age, and a widower from 52 years of marriage. I loved being married and thinking why try it again. Doing my Navy days I fell in love with the Filipino peaple and as a kid grew up next to a filipino family. I have been following your channel and the Filipino Pea. If I make the move, it will be with a lady around about 38.
i am 68 this year and she is 31 and she has NO children and I am fixed, been together now 7 yrs - marrying her late this year. I was not looking for a 37 yr age gap - but shes the best fit for my needs/wants in a partner and I am one of the good guys - dont drink, no drugs, no gambling problems, no psyc worries, no cheating, no lies and I am not rich (bad divorce 10 yrs ago - she cheated)...but i am happy - careful - I have a rule that works - NO MONEY for 2 years. If they ask u or tell u stories etc...cow, brother, grandmother whatever - forget them there are 2 million others who won't ask you for anything. The 730th day (2 yrs) I happened to be in the Phills with her and I spent around $500 on her - for things she could use.. it's a good rule. MANY will take and ask and sulk and complain - walk away. RUN AWAY. Use a new email account dont give her your main account. Use a new skype account or Whatsapp etc..not your regular one. don't tell her your financial situation - just that you are comfortable, not rich but comfortable. And for gods sake have a prenup - spend the money and get one drawn up where you live - $500-$1000 check around. If she won't sign one WALK AWAY or don;t marry her. DO NOT MARRY HER!!!! $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ is all shes after and they or her AUnti or mother have been known to poison you and kill u to get your house and money. really. PRE NUP or NO Wedded Bliss. You cannot own more than 49% of any land in the phills so whatever you buy and/or build will be in her name. Just an FYI.
There is a book you should read - prob find it online - called "A FOOL IN PARADISE" worth the $10 might save you $1.2M I have lived in Phills for 3 yrs - been there 28 x from Canada.
I follow both too. Pea is my fb friend and msgs me once in awhile
I have a 20 year age gap with my beautiful Cebuana. It hasn't been an issue at all. 😊
Great content, I'll be in Cebu soon!
Thanks! I enjoyed watching your videos...I am planning on visiting cebu this November for about a month...I am 57 year old black man and I retiring on a year or two...I would like to find a safe, comfortable condo to rent...you are a beautiful woman
jerry
I'm new to your channel & just subscribed. You should have a lot more subscribers. You're on par with the Filipina Pea in your presentation and attractiveness level. You should have 100k subs, unless you just started this channel Miss Rubeauti.
PS- 20 years age gap ... that's like 'same age' in the Philippines with an Expat/Filipina relationship. Not till it's 30+ years is it considered 'Mmmm, MAYBE a LITTLE age inappropriate'!
Hi. I'm a 62 year old black American who is amazed at what I've learned in the last few years. Young Filipinas seem to adore me. At first I thought they were just looking for money. But now I know it's a lot more than money. They want someone who appreciates them for who they are. I've been having an online relationship which includes video chatting with a woman 30 years my Jr for about a year. We get along great. I plan on visiting her this September of 2022. So from what I've experienced, Filipinas do prefer men older than they are. I have a few friends that are in relationships with young Filipinas 10 to 30 years age gap, and they say the same. Thanks for informing men like myself.
Just be careful is my 2 cents. I've lived in the PH when younger and saw only fake love with almost every foreigner of any age, but especially the older less attractive guys (most). They see the man as the road out of poverty for their entire extended family. If you talk about living together with birth control in their country on a limited pension (just to make a point) see how they feel? Don't rush and never send money. Peace.
@@bobbruce4135 I appreciate your insight. Yes I have heard that Filipinas value their family and including them is important. A matter of fact, she's staying with her brother, sister in law and their kids. I haven't sent any money but have sent gifts. Flowers etc. Anyway I plan on visiting the country this September but don't plan on living there. I also have a few friends that moved to various parts of the Philippines and I plan on visiting them. They like it. But it's not for me. As far as my girlfriend I'll see where things go once I visit. Thanks again for your advice.
Hi Sammy, I've visited the Philippines three times and they love us! So enjoy your visit and the best of luck with your Filipina. I'll be in Cebu City and Dumaguete in August and September. Stay Safe brother.
@@realmercy Thanks man. It'll be a year next month that I've been video chatting with her everyday and things are going great. I never ever wanted to date anyone from any country other than the United States. I saw it as being a hassle. But being that I have a few friends there and through their wives I've met my Filipina, I've done a total 180 and can't wait to visit. Thanks again.
My wife is 26 years younger than me. She is amazing and I am so happy and lucky to have found her. We love each other very much, and we've been married 4 years and together for 6. I don't see anything changing between us. I was always one of those guys who wondered why a younger woman would marry an older guy. Now, I know. The key to an age gap relationship, more than anything else, is communication. When dating, you need to understand each other and talk about things. You shouldn't marry until you are clear in how life will work as a married couple. I lived with my wife for a year in the Philippines before we married, and I knew what life would be like with her (mostly). If you bring your Filipina to the West, be prepared for her to change and adjust to the new culture and new life. She WILL NOT be the same person. But if she is smart and strong willed, she will change in mostly good ways.
You are covering all the relevant topics. Great job :)
It is reassuring to hear that from you. Many of us older men have become tired of the games and disdain from the women we meet as we go through our daily lives and look forward to turning back the clock to a simpler life. Thank you for another great video. What is your personal opinion on age gaps for yourself? Take care.
Not just older men bro.
I'm 30.
Women here (UK) are such a disappointment.
I’m 66 and my wife who is Filipina is 40. We have been together 2 years and are growing strong
@@Rubeauti thank you! I’ll need it!
Good save on this episode Rubeauti! What a shame your mic broke down. I found it interesting to hear about the age gap though. My girlfriend (Filipina) is my age but I did date an English girl 15yrs younger than myself a while ago. That was an oedipal relationship which was doomed from the start. So my experience wasn't that great back then. Maybe if she had been a Filipina it might have worked out. I find Filipina's much more mature than European women of the same age. I can actually have a great conversation with some of them that I met here in the Netherlands. In certain ways Filipina's are highly developed.
That doesn't go the same with women with a younger man. It's all about money.
@@shirleycedillo1589 not with my English ex. It was never about money. She was crazy in all kinds of other ways 🤔😱😂
I’ve seen a few differences in age. They seem to be happy. Thats what’s important. Like you said, love matters. It overrides everything. To bad for the mic failure I’ll bet they were interesting interviews. The clips you showed with the laughing says we missed some good ones.
Age shouldn’t matter as long as it’s legal. Love is what truly matters. If you love each other, who cares what other people think, just live your own life. That’s my advice to people.
Very good video, in the US there are many large age gap relationship and I know of a few myself. Knew a 18 year old female dating a middle 40's guy, had one girl tell me when she was 18 she dated a 40 year old because he was more mature then guys her own age. Know a guy in middle 50's married a 27 year old female. Many example out there of large age gap relationships in the US. But it is not as socially acceptable as in the Philippines.
An interesting topic Rubeauti, I think a lot depends on the girls situation in life. A career girl with a good job and income is less likely to date a much older foreigner. Not all, but many of the young beauties dating older foreigners, are single moms. They have been abandoned by young Filipino guys, to struggle raising a child or children alone. An older foreign guy is seen as more mature and reliable, plus removes her daily financial struggles. She will love him for that, and the person he is, rather than for his youth or good looks.
💯 true
An independent woman dates a man that is close to her age and most likely date a Filipino not a foreigner
Women who date older foreigners are those who are from poor and single moms
No offense
Much stereotyping spoken here 😂
@@Kevins-Philippine-Retirement its called experience.
Brian P, youth or good looks will only take you so far in a relationship. Before you know it that youth and good looks fades away. I have heard on other channels once a Filipina reaches her 30's most Filipino men lose interest in them. That's especially true if they have kids. So I can see why an older foreigner would be a good catch for a Filipina in her 30's with kids.
Hi Rubeauti. Good topic. For me age does not matter if you love each other and get along and have common interests. I have talked to several girls there over the last 10 years or so and most were between 25 and 35 and they had no problem with the age gap. I do try to stay in that age range as by 25 and up the girls seem to know what direction they want to go to in life. I am currently 65 and most I chat to are 30 years younger or more. It does not bother me at all and if I happen to get in a relationship with a younger lady I won't care what others think. The only opinion that really matters is that of your partner. I would of loved to hear some the answers you were getting too bad your mic did not work maybe next time. You have a very beautiful smile. Keep smiling and stay safe
Age does matter when dating and marrying a woman or man. Not just in the Philippines around the world. If someone 70 marries a 18 year old there is nothing in common. The man gets a built in caregiver. The woman thinks she is getting security but we know all he has to do is leave the country or her area, change his phone number. Leave her with a child without support because he didn't want children. He gets everything she gets nothing. 10 to 20 years different not bad. A man 50 years older no he should know better. She is young enough to be his granddaughter.
Such an interesting video, you did a great job covering the issue. So glad you're in Manila, so many vloggers are in near Cebu or other remote province areas.
Society puts too much emphasis on age - in either direction man older / woman older - my vote is … let’s just appreciate their love and happiness for each other …. Old can be a young youthful living person - and a young person can live as a 80 yr old … let’s celebrate love , happiness, and caring for each other … age is truly just a number .. find a mate that fits you loves you and you cherish each other …. Cheers
I agree with the results of your research. I met a beautiful Filipina from Ilocos Norte, and we are in love. She is 24 years younger than me, but age does not seem to be a factor. Both of us have careers, and we were not looking for anyone, but we were surprised to find each other. We were brought together because of a family members engagement party.
Sorry the interviews were lost by the broken microphone - Always love your interviews, Rubeauti
Time is matter, age don't matter.
Love your content, dinner sometime ? 😊💐
I was engaged Filipino in Davao, 4 years, She broke me up during COVID. Which was over 2 years.
I have visited the Philippines 4 times. When we were together I was 51 she was 27.💕
Filipino girls are way more mature At a young age. I got to meet family in the province, my Experience was humbling, yet so enlighten how friendly they were. The girls don't need to worry About not understanding them. We all have self esteem issues, we are very understanding of the culture differences. Americans have very good hearts. Older and mature men are more financial secure and don't like drama. You only live once.Don't waste your life live it. I am now searching For a Filipino Girl to spend the rest of my life with. God bless
I am 33 years older than my filipina and my passion is to have the best possible marriage I can have in a marriage. I have done a lot of research in what makes a good marriage and I feel I have found a good partner.
lol loser
Real simple.
Primarily the people who don't approve of Age gap relationships, are old women that guys their age Don't want.
Younger guys bothered that girls their age Don't want them, because they are seen as immature, unstable, not as stable, and more likely to cheat.
Most other folks mind their business and live their lives, because as long as the couple is happy? And or are content in their arrangement? Everyone else can kick rocks
@@RubeautiOne of the many great qualities of the Pinay honeys, is that there are alot of things they will tolerate, as long as they get the things that they need.
As long as a man is clean( showers, shaves), he is kind, respectful, accepts her children- many will likely have at least one)
And helps her, helo her parents some -
We have to understand that's part of the culture and often her responsibility).
If , when a man meets those requirements?
She will love us, appreciate us and respect us
He can be old, fat, low energy.
If he loves, respects and helps her?
He will Never be happier.
American men are used to women already having children from previous relationship, married, so to us, it's Not a flaw or mark against the women.
Especially in the Philippines, where we know many men make babies and run.
No fault of the women.
The beautiful, sexy, devoted Pinay, and her allure is Sooooo strong? Men from Allllll over the World travel to the country to get one.
Women don't travel to the Philippines for their men do they?
The Pinay, her love, her warmth, her dedication? Mannnn Ohhh man if you can get one? Meet her requirements?
You can Never be happier.
RuBeauti? It's women like you that makes the county so well known and a destination for many of us.
When I arrive, I will look you up.
Even if you have to turn me down because soooo many of us want you? Have to st least try😉.
Keep up the great work, we will do all we can to help you, your channel grow.
I am one of many husbands, fighting for his own RuBeauti😎
Brother, I dated an American girl 30 years my junior for 4 1/2 years and you speak the truth.
@@John_Smith777 Good for you man.
As long as we aren't talking about women underage? Do whatever makes you happy,
And can afford.
Every male-female relationship has conditions. Just how it works.
The best relations?
The terms and conditions are discussed, agreed to , and folks abide by said conditions, agreement.
And if?- when there is any changes of heart?
Honest communication fixes that
Continue enjoying your life, and doing right by people as I sense that you do
My girl and I have an age also...not huge..about 18 yrs.. We've been together now right at 3 yrs and our relationship is fantastic.. She's almost 40 and I'm 57.. The age for us is just a number..doesn't bother or matter to us at all..were more mature than her being younger which helps a lot...we get along great and have a very loving faithful relationship..loving sweet beautiful filipina...
Congratulations on 6k I can see you make 100k subs before end of the year
Thank you for fixing your microphone. I had noticed on your last videos that the recording was not hearable
We all have our own preferences but for me I can't date and or court someone 20 years younger than me because if you really think about it what do you really and truly have in common? The younger women could make good partners but I'll much rather fall in love with someone my age than younger than me.
@@Rubeauti his name is Eric
My wife is nine years younger and s we have many things in common due to the small age gap. We've been married 25 years and are still very much in love and happy. We don't judge other couples age differences unless it's extreme or the Filipina is under 20 years old.
Yes, you are correct, LOVE matters, and I definitely, without hesitation, LOVE you, Rbeauti!!!
When I retire in a few, my budget will be set at $5k a month and I will move around and date around until I find my other half. After I'm gone as long as she's careful she'll be set for life.
What are you planning to spend $5k on per month?
@@tman5634 Mostly beers...
That's a good plan. With that budget you are 5X more valuable than a doctor with 5X the available time to spend with a woman. You are the "prize" my friend. 👍
Think you're talking b.s my friend.
have a prenup b4 you marry and bring it up early in your dating/relationship so you do not waste your time, and read "A Fool in Paradise" first...trust me.
It may work long as the family don't get involved, we all know it's about money
I have learned that age difference isn't a big deal in the Philippines and I am older but easily pass for way younger and men my age can't even come close to keeping up with me but I have had an age preference for a long time !! 35 to 45 here in the USA !!! They having children or we together having children can be great thing !! And my family all easily reach 90 years old . My sister is 62 and I am 63 !! People think my sister is only 30 or 40 years old!! My Grandmother passed away on Her 100th Birthday the exact day!!
Great channel, you are very engaging and make every topic fascinating. This one hits close to home as my girlfriend is 32 years younger.
15 year gap between my wife and myself. It hasn't been an issue for us.
I am 47 years old I would never try to be with a girl 20 years younger than me I don’t think that’s right
As long as my fiancée doesn't care I don't think it matters she is 34 and I am 57, I can't wait till we are married.
Love is a verb, which means it is an action, so action matters, not words.
You should do a Q&A session about yourself. Where are you from? Where do you live now? Education? Job? Etc. I am sure the story is interesting
For some, age difference means something, for others it means nothing. In any case, it is difficult as the man often has to deal with Showtime TV and a life without political discussions and historical events and there is also much else the man can simply forget to discuss. If the man can handle that, it can work very well as long as there is no alcohol, partying, nightclubs, and spending money on unimportant things BUT, that is very often the case and therefore 4 out of 5 age relation gap usually go badly. Most often it is due to the man's behavior since he likes all these things except wasting money on her family and her needs for the latest fashion clothes. Anyway, there are no golden rules for making it work except trying to use common sense. Great with some pictures from Santa Fe at the end of the video, I've lived there for a long time 🙂.
Thank you for the video. My fiancé is 29 and I’m 52 and when we first met online, I asked her does the age gap matter and she said no that love doesn’t see age gap. She said that she liked older men because of security and maturity. I am going to the Philippines June 9 and she thinks I’m coming in July so I am going to surprise her. I can’t wait to see her. She also mentioned that I look a lot younger than my age so that could have a lot to do with it also. She’s amazing and I can’t wait to hold her . 🥰🥰😍❤️
Jason,
I'm not trying to be a jerk here, but you seem incredibly naive and easy to take advantage of. First off, if that's you in the picture you don't look younger than 52, and of course she is going to tell you age doesn't matter..they are going to tell you what you want to hear. This whole she said this and she told me that means nothing. Sure it's possible that this girl is sincere and everything will work out but keep in mind this girl has a goal in mind and she will tell you what you want to hear and do what it takes to accomplish her goal. Maybe her goal is finding love with a decent guy, but very often it's getting money from a dumb foreigner who believes her BS or relocating to the west where she can improve her life and the situation of her family.
Hope that everything will work for you guys
Jason read "a fool in Paradise" - best $10 bucks you will spend - and if things proceed further bring up a PreNup agreement if she has a problem signing one - walk away. Seriously or you will end up broke and 1/2 your pension will go to her also so that means REALLY BROKE - ok bud? be safe. I have seen more than most there lived there 3 yrs and 28 trips - I found a good one no kids and lovely human - never asked me for a penny and i didnt offer for 2 yrs...that's my rule - ZERO for 2 yrs. best of luck. YES I HAVE BEEN taken buy gold diggers and married one too - didn't know it at the time but she was an ex whore/bar girl - a beauty and so sweet... blah blah blah -
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@@jasoncatron1039 true that! Someone has to be realistic and good thing your telling him straight up!
he’s being fooled I suspect. Pinays are very sly and will tell them whatever they wanna hear and use them at the same time, many of these so called “trustworthy” pinays have local bfs on the side and than help them from the funds. The kano has no idea because they are in the states or not around and they assume they can trust the pinay but that’s the biggest mistake is to assume
Everyone is different. Health, success, looks, so many things. I’m in great shape. I’m 30 years older than my Filipina. It doesn’t bother her at all. But honestly I bring a lot to the table that she wants. And vice versa.
I fully agree with you. Because inside all of us, majority of the people want a real life eventually! Age gap doesn't matter if you can find true love a real long life partner.
I've been chatting to a girl from Manila.And even went over to see her for the first time back in June.I'm 20 years older than her.And for her it doesnt matter at all.As she says its the fact that she loves me for WHO i am.And shes not out for my money at all.Ands i'm hoping to go back out in November.What did make me laugh was the looks we got from some of the locals.As i'm 6ft2 and a big guy.I love people watching.Its so funny.
Keep up the vlogs well done.
Hey, I like your professionalism, especially when you're apologizing for the broken mic. You have been very precise and consistent in this video. I really liked your charm and your sincerity. I subscribed to your channel to follow you more. Courage
I think 🤔 this very helpful and educational and good advice for us foreign men looking for a Filipina girlfriend. Thanks 😊
It really boils down to maturity levels. I mean....a 79 yr old with a19 yr old is ridiculous....not impossible.....just ridiculous, but a 50 yr old with a 28 / 29 yr old is not unheard of in many parts of the world. I personally feel that when you find "The One"?...it really doesn't matter what the age gap is. Love knows no age, nor should race, or nationality,.....when you find someone whom you love, and WHO LOVES YOU....whether you have kids or not.....whether you're thick or thin......tall or short......if you love that person....and that person loves YOU!? then the rest of the world can go kick rocks!.....LoL!
@@Rubeauti Well Like I said it not impossible.....just highly unlikely....but I'm sure if you search hard enough?...and travel far enough there's gonna be the "legend" of "Old Man Billy" who lives in a cabin in the mountains somewhere...and that young womanwho comes into town tobuy goods....that looks like his DAUGHTER?...is actually his WIFE! But...since no one is willing to be shot by a rifle for being too nosy?....folks just mind their busness...so yeah I'm SURE it actually DOES happen...its just not visible to the "naked eye"...LOL!
@@Rubeauti For the right money, age is just a number, even a gap like that. But for this kind of gap, the dude is probably better off just getting a few escorts (i.e., girlfriend experiences) that he rotates.
It is ridiculous and they have no business being with each other those relationships are just mutually beneficial relationships to just using each other. I don’t believe in those big age gaps most aren’t true love
@@roninbushitoろうにん But how would you know?...how can you make that judgement?..suppose there IS true love there?..so...they should break up because YOU don't approve of their age gap?...hmm...I wonder how many more people feel this way?...I guess love truly IS blind huh? Because there are people in age-gap relationships?..that couldn't give a damm what you think or what society thinks either...they love each other and they will go to their GRAVES loving each other. and the entire world can kick rocks if they don't like it!
@@eddieoconnor4466 it is rare there’s always an ulterior motive and u just said yourself no to too big age gaps is ridiculous don’t be a hypocrite
I personally think regardless of culture a 20 year age gap is too much for any young woman between 18-30. Also as a man myself I’d feel insecure as I’d want my woman to find me physically attractive and not want me purely for security and financial stability.
It's all about financial security. Even young men (unattractive due to height, balding, etc) find the love isn't really love like felt in Western dating. When I was young in the PH, it felt too contrived (fake). I found they had photos of old men courting, they wanted green cards to send money home, etc. One even had a hot lover she was planning to petition after getting her green card. These old guys say how happy they are. But if you look closer, they are financing their family and another extended family back home. The like being $imps. No money, no honey. But, it may be better than nothing. Peace.
I agree with you guys. Nice to see some guys being realistic. A lot of these older guys 60 and above will be elderly while these younger women will be in their 40's or in some cases younger. I think at that point the age gap will become a much bigger issue. Women are supposed to change baby diapers, not their elderly husbands diapers.
@@jasoncatron1039 You obviously never experienced the Philippines, because while that is sometimes the case, their culture is so different than the west. They adore their elders, whether they are their lolos or their husbands. That is a fact.
Kevin Price,
I think Asian cultures in general respect their elders far more than here in the west. It's not a major reason why I'm trying to convince my Filipina wife to move to her hometown of Bacolod but it's one of the many reasons. I don't think there is a culture in the world where a young woman wants to be with an elderly man. I'm not saying they won't care for the husband or will look to replace him. I just think it's selfish for a man to put a woman in that situation, she will be a care taker in her 40's and a widow not long after. Unless there is a financial incentive for her it doesn't seem like a smart idea.
@@jasoncatron1039 Money is a factor in all cultures,, regardless of age. More than half of Filipinas, according to many studies look for mental maturity, stability, etc. They see that quality in older men, so they actually find the wrinkles and grey hair attractive.
Good morning to you in Manila. I'm 40 years older than my sweetheart in Mindanao. Before we met I told her she was way too young for me, and she disagreed and says you got to give me a chance. We've been together for over 4 years with a great romance. Also she's more mature than me. Hahahaha 🤣
have a prenup b4 you marry and bring it up early in your dating/relationship so you do not waste your time, and read "A Fool in Paradise" first...trust me.
Love your channel and the content you make! I'm half Filipino from my mother who is from the islands and was always curious the points of view from both women and men back in the Philippines!
@@Rubeauti Don't stop making videos, you're giving clean and honest answers for everyone and it tears down any culture barriers too.
Yes it is true, A older man would be a great partner for a younger Filipina Woman, As long as both have mutual respect for each other they will definitely get along well, Life is not about money but just happiness in a mutual understanding off each other, You would make a very good partner Rube
I am 9 years older than my wife and before I married her I asked if she didn't think the gap was too big. She didn't mind and now we are already married for more than 35 years and still happy together. We have a daughter of 34 and one grandchild of 4. We also know a few couples with similar age gaps that are doing fine although not all marriages are a succes but it has to do with other matters than an age gap.
Hello Rebeauti, hope you're doing well. Maturity level is more important to me than age. However, I wouldn't want to marry a 20 year old girl. Over 30 a woman has a few more life experiences, they have an idea what they want in life.
What age gap would be acceptable to you? What is your age? If you don't mind answering?
My Filipina wife is 20 years younger and we are 4+ years and counting. However, my 3 ex American wives are also younger. 3, 7 and 17 years younger. Last American girl before my Filipina wife was 25 years younger.
I think it must be a choice for you to be single as it's inconceivable that no one has tried to put a ring on ur finger. Visually u are stunning and what u present in ur videos is also exceptional. I love how you cover topics and you have a good grasp of the language. I imagine that you are overwhelmed with offers to take you out of circulation and even if you like woman, there have to be lines around the block trying to get to know you. Good day to you, such a wonderful human being!
I would be interested in hearing testimonies from the widows who were in their 20s and 30s when they married men who were in their 50s and 60s. What is life like now and based on their experience, how would they counsel younger women considering marrying an older man
That is full benifits from investment and 1/2 sosial secruaty , a good living in a smaller city for sure.
In my case age didn't matter!I am 60 and my wife is 30!been married 10years and have to children and life is good!!!!!I am so lucky to have her!!!!❤❤❤❤❤👍👍👍👍
I’m 63 and my filipina fiancé is 20. But everyone thinks I’m 45 years old because I workout everyday with weights and cardio and eat healthy. I have a 6 pack at age 63💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
I'm over 30 years older than my Fiancee in Mindanao. She doesn't care. Neither do I. These are the only two opinions that matter.
Yes! I agree and I so love the Philippines. Can't wait to move there.
Can You Please organise an interview with Dawn Zulueta and
Asunta De Rossi regarding their Marriage Life with Older Men. Thank You.
Thank you Rubeauti, I gave you a thumbs up. Good information. Cheers.
Good perspective on the issue ... you did a great job on this video. Cheers.
A really intelligent and thoughtful talk Rubeauti. Thank you for the topic, my own feeling? Up to the couple, I always believe you like someone or you don't. Age might be a part of that or it might not. Take care lovely lady ❤️🥰
I am 30 and my filipina girlfriend is 13. we are happy
Pedo
18-20yr old marrying men way older, lost looks, zero in common. Cmon let's keep it real. The old man is the ATM,and the girls know exactly what their doing. He gets an ego boost until the money runs out..Its no way to spend your golden years. Also note its almost impossible to divorce in the Phillipines
If the relationship is relaying on personality and common goals the age doesn't matter 👍
@Celtic Viking I guess it's about how you are old, not how old you are, some understand some don't 👍
@Celtic Viking You don't know what a female is thinking or how she feels.
roger.b chang.. Are you still single?
@@harperseven3171 always have a nice life, sometimes single most times not 😅
@@roger.b8046 hehehe.... Seriously though...
Are you single? Or in a relationship
41 M here, I only go 8 years lower than my age or my own age when looking for a woman. I think it really comes down to each person, age is just a number. It's about compatibility and having the same mindset of working together as a team. But again, that is just me my mindset. If someone makes you happy and adds to your happiness than age shouldn't' matter.
Thank you and it’s great that you can find love at different ages.
I'm 27 years older than my filipina girlfriend and she says age gap doesn't matter and that she loves me even though we haven't met just been video chatting for 7 months and I plan on going to see her later this year and see how things go from there. I know I need to meet her and get to know her in person.
I noticed all the older men that have a younger Filipino wife say they make them feel young again🤔 I can see that.
Thank you i enjoyed your vlog and i think if you love someone then age don't metter that much but make sure you provide fore her and any children you have's future when you pass away so you know they can have a good life after your gone
My age gap between me and my fiance is 40 years I am 59 years old and I have secured her parents permission to marry her next year
I would go for an older man because of wisdom and his life experiences.
Are you single or taken?
I stumbles onto this channel and fined the convo interesting although I’m married in the States. Here in the US, 20+ year gaps are not all that normal. Usually you will only see it if the man is wealthy! 5 year and below age gaps are considered normal and the closer to 10 years you get, the more taboo it is. My wife is only 6 years younger, so it’s not even considered an age gap. I do dined that 10 years is a goo gap if women are looking for more mature settled men.
It’s only “taboo” because older Western women try and shame men for dating younger women, because it decreases their chances of finding a partner. As a man it’s entirely up to you if you pay attention to any of that crap! 😂
Nearly 20 years age gap between me and my wife. Probably make a difference when im 70 and she is 50, will it matter then for her?
I agree but I think the older person wants a friendship and companion
Thank you for posting. It has helped me feel better about love.
Hello R....interesting to see your take on this much discussed subject 😊 especially after hearing about your "10 year" rule 🙈😅
It is not a flaw in our character. It is built in our biology. Men would like to go as young as possible. However at some point maturity and personality of a woman becomes more important than physical.
I know everyone seems to want to know about age gaps between a Filipina and a foreigner, but I am curious on a couple of things. Are large age gaps common when both people are native Filipino? Also, what are your personal feelings on age gaps. What would be your limit for your partner?
For what I see in SEA, thee age gaps between locals is not that large in general compared to Asian and foreigner
The biggest question in an age gap relationship is children. If she is in her 30’s she will likely want children. If you are in her 50’s, do want children at this stage of life? And will you be honest about it. If you say no, and she says she accepts that, is she being honest with you and herself? An important conversation to have during dating. Seems to get glossed over quite a bit.
Sorry, the biggest question is MONEY. That's all. Just MONEY. You got it or you don't.
Hi Dave! Are you still single?
How to solve video problems. Do a test recording before all recordings. When you know it works. Chances are you will be okay. If you assume everything is working. Then you will have to do it all again. That could be very embarrassing and very expensive.
You could do “ voice over “ on your video.
BTW.....Congratulations Rubeauti on 6K😃👍
The only drawback I can think of, off the top of my head, is if she really really wants to have kids. And he can't or won't.
i am fixed 68 now with her for 7 yrs and shes 31...i told her our 1st conversation online I am fixed - i didn;t have to right? but i am honest - so shes ok with that she doesn't want kids - she was a nanny looking after kids for 10 yrs when we met...not interested in having babys she said she has allot of neices and nephews - good enough.
As long as there is mutual respect and love, anything else matters a lot less. There used to be respect for older people in the West, but that kind of attitude is just history now. The respect you get from Asian girls is attractive to an older person. but the older western person also needs to respect the Filipina coming to him and not just play because an unwanted pregnancy, for instance, can make an already difficult life even more difficult. What other people think should not matter, and I have seen that status makes a lot of difference in poorer countries - and that having a western man on your arm raises status. There are guys here talking about 'trophy' wives, but its also a fact that a western man may be considered a 'trophy' for the Filipina, raising her status and making friends jealous. So some of the raised eyebrows and talking behind backs, while sometimes genuine surprise at an age gap, may also be jealousy at the raised status of the other and - definitely - the financial improvement in the life of the Filipina. (And this is true even if the westerner has a very modest pension with incomes being so small in many parts of the Philippines.
For me, I would need a lot of evidence of love before a commitment. Sex one can purchase anywhere with a lot less risk and a lot less cost over time than happens in a marriage. Yeah, that idea may offend some, but its the plain truth. Marriage is a huge and expensive commitment (for the man! - why do we do it guys?) so you need to be more than 100% convinced that there is genuine love behind the commitment of the Filipina. If you're older, you don't know what may happen to your health, so you need to know there is the kind of love that will convert into nursing you if necessary (and - God forbid it should happen to you! - the willingness to change your diaper if you become incontinent and frail).
The fact is, it doesn't matter what other people think...
I'm 21 years and I'm thinking about dating a Philippine girl because I like the visiting the country and the reason why I haven't dated anyone it's because I don't want kids and I do prefer to date someone who's my age or one year older
well done u exsplan very well plus u are very easy to understand your interesting. number 1 thank you have nice day
Now I am 35 and probably visit the Philippines when I'm in my early forties, I would still feel weird if my partner was 20 years younger.
Love matters my Filipina has not asked me for 1 penny has not hesitated in telling me that she loves me And I had to work to get her to talk to me. We are going to get married. I love this woman who is there out of my own life
Thx a Ton for the Post.