Timestamps 1). Be a leader 0:35 2). Show you're available 1:10 3). Own a pet 1:40 4). Play a musical instrument 3:02 5). Show confidence and open body language 3:32 6). Don't just use small talk 4:05 7). Hang around a group of friends 4:40 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Take a shortcut. Think of yourself as a writer, a runner, a reader, a tidier, a meditator, anything you’d like to be. Start to believe in who you are on the inside, even if it doesn’t show yet on the outside. Notice yourself starting to behave in ways that reinforce that belief. It will find its way out. Just watch.
Plz ma’am, I imagined myself as a casanova & pick-up artist since childhood, I literally believed in it and yet the powers of manifestation failed me real bad. 🥲
Behavioral things I find Attractive - • not always staring at your phone • when walking, staring straight ahead • having pets • willing to do things for the enjoyment of others • not being selfish • nice to people you don’t like
I wish more people found these traits attractive. Instead they just label me as a "nice guy" and I am instantly friendzonedor I get left behind. Being nice isn't an attractive quality, anymore.
@Psych2go • not always staring at your phone - it shows that you care about stuff other than your phone • when walking, staring straight ahead - same as the phone, and I like it when people don’t act like scrolling zombies. • having pets - I like pets idk • willing to do things for the enjoyment of others - I can’t stand a selfish person. You’re not the only person in the world. • not being selfish - selfishness makes me feel like I don’t matter. • nice to people you don’t like - only being nice to people you’re attracted to but being the human equivalent of crumbs on a bed to people you don’t like is so annoying. That person could have had a horrible day, and you’re only making it worse.
Let's start with what makes someone less attractive, There was a girl at my high school who was considered incredibly attractive. She was seemingly the epitome of beauty, at least to me and every other 15-year-old boy in school. One day, I was feeling particularly ballsy, and so I decided to ask her if she wanted to hang out, perhaps go to a coffee shop or something else. I’m not really sure what chance I had, but I was hoping that I could even get a date with her in due time. We shared a couple classes together, and we even exchanged a few conversations every now and then; as far as I could tell, she seemed like a pretty legitimate person. But anyway, back to asking her if she wanted to hang out. She said no; but when she did that, she burst out into laughter, and she had this superiority complex as if I wasn’t ‘worthy’ of her time. The fact that I got rejected didn’t bother me too much, but it was the way she went about doing so, it was just plain rude, and over top was just about as repulsed by her teeth as this one girl was of me, and that’s saying something really. Not only that, but her breath was absolutely horrendous, and I would’ve even offered a piece of gum to her if she wasn’t being a complete b-. Okay, the teeth and the breath description was a joke, but you know what does make a person less attractive? A bad personality. What makes a person look attractive? Kindness and caring. I remember a woman I worked with many years ago, who I had pigeonholed as vain and superficial. I didn’t find her attractive at all. Then the AIDS epidemic hit. As many people wrestled with ignorance, fear, and homophobia, she was at the forefront of caring for the afflicted and helping people who had been abandoned by lovers, family, and friends. It became blindingly clear to me that she was beautiful.
Thank you for sharing your story. Based on what we're reading, it sounds like you found someone much more attractive when they had an awesome character. Do you think that character is more important than appearance for there to be attraction? Or maybe a balance of both?
hi!! i recently confessed to my crush after watching a million of your videos to find out if he liked me back and… it worked!!!! thank you for making these videos. if this channel didn’t exist we’d probably never be together, so thanks!!!
Hey there, even i confessed to my crush just recently. And before that he confessed to me but through a text. And when i confronted him, he said he doesn't remember. Oh my..that broke my heart. Please help me. I've liked him for so long now. But I'm confused if he likes me or not.
@@yinja3406 i think so too. But you know what, he literally wrote my name and mentioned me there. Like it can't be a mistake then. But still I'm not sure. 😭😭Such an unrequited love.
@@raphaelricardino yea, I'm gonna have to agree with you on this one. You can't just "be yourself" and expect your lover for the rest of your life to show up. What I will say, though, is to not focus on being yourself, but bettering yourself through mentors and hard work physically, emotionally, and mentally, and then you will attract those that you want.
Nah fam, that's never gonna happen. I've been myself for years and it got me nowhere lol. What we need is to keep improving ourselves. We can't stay the same.
Actually, self confidence seems kinda unattainable to me. When I go out of my comfort zone, I often end up acting like a dump. Staying silent in a social group looks boring and kinda awkward but when doing the opposite, I feel kinda weird. I like making other people laugh, but not always at me and my confusion! Have been told I'm pessimist, but really feel lost ._.
Of course, there are always people who find introversion or shyness kinda attractive… or maybe that’s just me (I’m an extroverted introvert btw). Just giving hope to u ofc :>
I love that all of these have nothing to do with the appearance, because honestly I appreciate a person more for how they behave, the little actions that make them unique. Kindness, empathy, intelligence, assertiveness, confidence and honesty are really important for me. As an experience, once I had a date with someone I met through a dating app, at first I wasn’t really attracted to him when we meet for the first time, but the whole date was so much fun and his personality was outstanding, kind, funny, assertive, honest. At the end of the date I just found him really beautiful and attractive; and of course I went on many more dates with him. Looks are just looks, and we as humans have so much more to offer, I think beauty standards and stereotypes just really limit us, we are very complex and just souls living in body.
The pet comment hit especially close to home- I’ve noticed my boyfriend almost always saves videos when I make them with my cat, and once said “That cat loves you so much,” so that tracks I also fell for him largely when I heard how gentle he was with his little brother and fell for him all over again once he got a puppy in September. I’m glad I saw this, I love him so much
1: Be a leader 2: Show you're available 3: Own a pet 4: Play a musical instrument 5: Show confidence and open body language 6: Don't use small talk 7: Hang around a group of friends
Any more tips on how to be "confident" or "flirty"? I recently got diagnosed with autism which makes it really hard to "believe in myself" and be flirtasious, because honestly i am terryfied i will seem "off" or "weird" and ruin peoples day/night out/etc.
I'm saying this from my experience, not professionally: I wouldn't recommend trying to be flirty at all, but try to find a way to engage with other people that is fun for you. The confidence part only comes from stepping out of your comfort zone and making mistakes in social interactions. There are plenty of people who will like your quirks and you are better off finding out who likes them so you don't feel like you have to hide them.
A great start would be with short, online relationship since it's better to be confident than irl. If you are respectful in your manner, I don't think you will ruin anyone life, except for Karen, but Karen have always their day ruined.
Hi I’m autistic too so we have that in common. I’m studying psychology also. Confidence 1) I find uno extremely helpful I carry a deck around everywhere. Essentially my reasoning is people suck at conversation even if there not autistic and will genuinely take any chance they can get at doing something other then having to try come up with conversation. If your on a dating app challenge someone to a uno competition most people ego gets a little inflated and it seems less scary going into something. If your at school or working with people offer a little fun after works and in breaks and if your out in the town and u end up getting someone to do something with you it’s a great place to fill the void. Gets people to relax and open up and they will appreciate you for it 2) approach people with a goal type question like “hey do you know the directions to a certain place” or “do you know to do a certain task” ask for there name once they tell you and you thank them and ask if they wouldn’t mind sharing there social media accounts with you so in the future you can keep in contact and maybe pay them back for their help. It’s so much less awkward then walking up to someone and saying hey let’s talk and since most people now days meet by having friends and then friends introducing you to more friends and so on or getting drunk and clubbing and getting into crazy and sometimes traumatic situations that create bonding moments and take away the awkward barrier for me at least that wasn’t a reality a few years ago. Granted it’s still really awkward to do this tactic but it has a higher chance of working and it’s worked for me about 60% of the time. Flirting 1) there’s actually a list of questions designed to make people open up a bit more to each other. It’s janky I’m not gonna pretend it isn’t but a list of questions on your phone once u nail down a date and getting them talking about themselves and all the wired and wonderful things they make them tick will make most people very happy. If there struggling with open ended questions that lead to a more in-depth answer then yes or no which is the gold standard, then asking hypothetical and would you rather type questions usually get past that barrier and offering information about yourself will promt questions from the other person if they don’t initiate asking questions themselves. 2) ask as many follow up questions as you can and offer up relevant information to the topic including your own experiences and stories. You can manufacture what people call flow by milking a subject dry and potentially getting a natural link to a kinda relevant but different subject which definitely makes being at ease and feeling positive feelings easier for both of you. ( yes I consider this flirting sarcasm and gentle teasing is to hard for me to get right) Also talk about memories and ask them to do the same people love stories and nostalgia. It can be dramatic like what was a moment in your life that you were most afraid or soft like tell me about what the last day of school was life (just some examples) 3) be honest don’t try to be more confident or put on a act or own a pet. Here’s the problem your not trying to pull in the most amount of people your trying to pull in the people that will love you and support you and make you better but also appreciate who you already are. If your try to hard you might find yourself with someone possibly quicker then if your with yourself but I have seen so many times it’s backfired and quickly. And it’s exhausting for you. Here is a good example if you don’t like animals there is someone that doesn’t like animals and that’s gonna be something u bond over as in “look at those suckers shelling out money to basically be in servitude to literally beats that laze around in your house rent free” And the other person being like “Omg I know right” Stay true to your interests your character be honest about your short comings as in tell them out right look I’m not very good in conversation and then maybe tell them what u can offer like but I’m great at being your personal IT guy. And share with them your insecurities and fears and your joys and successes. People are programmed no matter how hard they try not to to relate being vulnerable isn’t actually being vulnerable it’s communicating your needs and wants and encouraging others to do the same which is necessary for a good relationship and feeling seen. I would even encourage sharing that your nervous you want be a good date or your scared conversation are going to be hard you might find they relate and say “I’m so glad you said that because I am to” Finding things in common and vibing over them and sharing with that person that you like them are very important factors in making someone feel attracted to you regardless of if it’s subtle or not so if eye contact not your thing just say no pressure but I like your style and I think it would be fun to get to know you. Hopefully that helps and more importantly is tailored some what to your lifestyle x
Depends on personally types tho and also how well your able to read a room and be witty. I’d be curious to know if that cocky polite a hole is a mask and you feel like people don’t really know or respect all of you. Some friends I know play a room like that but end up stuck in a leading role but playing the preforming monkey so I’m wondering if it’s similar experience
I would just like to point out that if (like me) you are a person whom wouldn't like to have a pet in your life, the responsible thing to do is 'not' to obtain a token pet from a pet store or shelter just for the sake of appearing more attractive to potential partners. Such would be irresponsible to the pet that you would have taken on the responsibility of caring for. And such token pets don't necessarily get the level of care that a pet obtained for its own sake might get. Just a thought.
Well said. It's important that you decide to take on a pet only if you genuinely want to, and not to use the pet to attract a partner. For you personally, is there a particular reason why you personally don't want a pet?
@@Psych2go Idk about OP, but I personally don't want a pet because of all the work that I'd need to do (cleaning up after them, feeding them, etc) with what I consider to be very few upsides
@@Psych2go Well, for me there are several considerations. First and foremost, I am not confident that I would provide a pet enough attention, and the kinds of pets whom wouldn't require attention wouldn't appeal to me. Secondly, they are an expense in money, effort and time. Thirdly, hygiene, mess and smell. It is just not for me. I can enjoy animals in a non-committal one-off exposure kind of way but otherwise no.
Well now I know why my odds are at 0. I'm socially awkward, have zero self confidence, have never owned a pet, don't play any instruments, and don't have any friends to hang out with. I'm 34 and have never been on a date.
I have wept and wept and wept... and now I've turned my tears... into tears of joy... Nowdays my aura outshines others... People feel my vibe and get uplifted.
Hey Psych2go!!! I just want to say that you actually have a good life! I mean you post all these videos on the internet and it helps people. I love this channel ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for your kind words! What are some takeaways for you that you want to apply in your future? Can you tell us more about which part of the video was helpful for you? :)
Can you give us a video about signs you're not ready for love? not that your not ready to be in a relationship, but that you are not ready to be loved or experience love by or from someone?
Hi Psych2go, could you please make a video about how to make oneself irresistibly attractive when applying for a job? This also has a lot to do with psychology. It would be so very useful really...
@@1000OtherFoxes I wish it was so easy. Sometimes competence is grossly overlooked in favor of other, rather subjective qualities. I know this from vast experience.
That's a great idea for a new video! In your experience, what were some qualities that employers looked at other than, as you mentioned, competence? Could you share what they favored over competence?
@@Psych2go Well, it is more like the way one approaches the whole issue, I mean, how confident you are, how the first impression takes place, how much dynamism you show, how well you can interact with colleagues aka at which level you can work in a group, etc... there is no use being super competent if one just can't harmonize with the working environment. A somewhat less competent individual with great social or other communication skills can be easily trained further while his empathy and openness is much appreciated, whereas social skills are nearly impossible to teach to someone who is somewhat more competent but lacks them. It is complex really...
Hey Psych2Go, any tips for living a more social and adventurous life? I'm kinda jealous of other people who have that. I used to be social before, but once I entered college I just can't seem to socialise even if I wanted to and I'm envious of others who are social, adventurous and are in relationships. There's not much I can do to make my life more fun and outgoing due to commitments but any sort of help would be appreciated.
Thank you for sharing your challenge with us. This can be a great idea for a video so we'll discuss this with our team. As for having a more social and adventurous life, it doesn't have to start big. If you want to have a social life, you can start exposing yourself to places where people go that align with your interest. You can start by identifying activities or hobbies that you like that your college offers. You don't have to make it a goal to talk to everyone but it can just be one person who attends the same event. And little by little, you can start working your way to talking to more and more people while attending more events. We hope that you are able to find the social and adventurous life that you want as you step out of your comfort zone! Start small! :)
@@Ayacchi if you are the maker of this than this is art. Cute style plus the calming voice of the narrator, its practically impossible to not be relaxed
Ive been watching your video since 2020 and every single video always teach me new things about me and someone else. Sometimes i watch this kind of video and feel more motivated even tho im sad😅 but yeah just want to say that your video always helped me out with this kind of thing. U know ive been struggling to find a partner lately and then after i watched this video i just know that the thing im missing in me is my confidence so i just wanna say thank you
It feels like it’s been a while since I’ve watched your videos but I can’t watch all the recent uploaded videos bc of life and it’s time consuming or I could get overwhelmed with watching all the recent ones!!! 😢😢 I just like and add it to my playlists and sometimes watch them
I have 2 cats (Though I love ALL animals, literally) I workout, do martial arts, so I do have a fit body, I play the guitar (I also used to play piano and drums a little, I love drumming so much as well!) I'm also mostly an introvert (The 16 Personalities website said that I'm an INTJ, and it's mostly true about me) I love being alone, but I don't mind having company with my few friends, and I'm very supportive with most of the people I talk to and I try to be a leader whenever I get the chance, do you think I have a chance? Because despite all that I still believe it's not easy to find the one. I'm not trying to brag about anything sorry if anyone felt that way, I just wanted to share myself here with you all! ✨
We hope that this video was helpful for you and that it will give you the courage and the confidence you need should you choose to be in a relationship again. Could you tell us, what were some of the "standards" that you mentioned?
@@a.d.samano7873 Ugh, I hate those standards. It seems like EVERY woman has these same few standards that are almost unachievable. I can't increase my height nor change my skin color. I get instantly friendzoned or ignored by every girl I meet, despite trying something different every time. It can be frustrating but I know there are some women who are actually sane and love people for their PERSONALITY.
@@a.d.samano7873 Yeah. I noticed that all of the women I actually seem to have a shot with, already have a boyfriend (like, for real. I meet their actual BFs so I know they aren't lying). So in reality, I never have a shot to begin with. The more I think about it, the more I think dating apps are the way to go for me. Finding single women (that I'm interested in) in my social circle is *very* difficult. It seems like for every 10 women I grow attracted to, 8 of them are in a relationship already, and the other 2 just don't give me a chance as a potential partner. Online dating makes it so dang easy to find singles in your area, so I know that I actually have a chance with someone.
So cute dear Psych2go. That helps many Introverts/insecure/shy people. Encourage Power. Thx. 🌈💕🙏🏻😊 Also thanks much for the deep Research and for all those WHO are Brave and Show Honesty and Vulnurability. Soulpower. 💪🏻💝💖🌟
Fair but being honest isn’t the same thing as burdening people I mean essentially every story ever is about some poor soul having a miserable time of it and some how makes it out in the end with the insinuation it’s probably going to be back to the grind after the break. How is that any different to you have issues and sharing it to a curious soul. Also if said curious soul wants to take you on and ideally you would be happy with that arrangement if you didn’t have to consider there peace of mind then you should let them. It’s there choice after all and people generally Don’t offer people something unless they won’t you to accept.some People love helping and even need it to feel worth while in this world so you would actually be doing them a favour,
Its about being more free, and social active, you show you can value, take care of someone and you know how to express and act yourself from your insides, thats how other people notices naturally what you really mean or have to offer as a person, and let me tell you that unless the person is someone that you wouldn't want to hang with or be with either, anyone has a chance of match or value at least one aspect of you as a person, dont frame limit yourself too much or you take the risk of fake and lie to everyone and yourself, and everyone can see when you are not real.
I legit stare into everyone's eyes and smile and most of the time I'm like WHAT HAVE I DONE?! I'm not available to everyone, I just like to show people I'm paying attention when they speak. Where do people look otherwise?
Who cares? Just be yourself. The only thing you need to be attractive is you. You don't need to fit anyone else's, let alone societies mold, of what is considered "attractive". And that changes as culture and trends change. Toxic positivity in disguise right here. Life isn't about presenting an attractive or popular image. It's about learning about yourself and how to develop traits that help you grow.
Yeah, heads up, DON'T get a pet just to be more attractive and get a date. There's a reason people who own pets refer to them as their children. Owning a pet is a responsibility, a living being that'll require your attention and care, and that will suffer if you neglect them. If you pick a pet it better be because you're ready for that responsibility, not to impress others and fulfill your selfish needs.
The truth is, I really want to make a relationship work, but for whatever reason, no one finds me attracting. I've learned to love myself, but others don't feel the same towards me. I've been praying to God and hoping one day, I would get a girlfriend who accepts me at least once in my life. A girl who respects me for who I am. Kind, responsible, determined, curious, and smart. Unfortunately, that moment hasn't happened and probably won't happen in the near future. 💔
Aaah the woes of finding a partner Dating apps are hard to deal with if your not a pretty woman because the dating app is designed not to show people that don’t match a marketing image so your profile only shown to like 5 a day and it’s just a nightmare trying to get anything (in saying that there’s a dating app called boo I recommend for more interesting people) Or you need to have friends who can introduce you to more friends so the interaction is not awkward which doesn’t work if your friendship group is isolationist or not into going to mingle in big groups in loud areas (join a hobby class or group or play Pokémon go and talking to others Is playing it is kinda the only way around that aside from randomly approaching people. I guess being in an area doing something you like will attract people that like the same thing making it more likely you like each other) Or get lucky and meet someone at work or school which might as well be the lottery. (I don’t think it’s likely to meet someone kind, responsible, determined, curious and smart just heads up.) Have you ever noticed there’s types of people for example The whimsical emotional people who care about values and creating harmony with people as there main priority and therefore are extremely kind and generous and can be quite curious about who you are but then on the other hand because there so focused on the other and people in groups are proven to be more prone to dumb decision making they end up forsaking reason for the group happiness and there for sell at responsibility and concern with own goals. You can’t after all be a people pleaser and be able to break from the group in any meaningful way even if it’s heading for a train wreck. Then there’s the really smart people that have it together but they are soo blunt and unfeeling about things and there way of showing love is through letting you know what your not good at and fixing things for you but the rest of the time they can be arrogant and condescending but still very smart determined and career driven And then there’s the next kinda people that are more the socialites but they don’t see past there own hubris And then there’s the gossipers of the world that are content to do the same thing day in day out never question anything and keep the status quo alive Yeah well a lot of personality type tests out there kinda do some variation on these groups and at least from personal experience I havnt found anyone with one trait that doesn’t disappoint when it comes to another
I'm in the exact same position, except I'm starting to love myself a little less every week. I take this as a sign to try and improve myself, but it never makes me feel any better.
Thank you for sharing. In your experience, what were some strategies that helped you when you feel like you're overthinking and paralyzed because of it?
1. I have no interest in leading lol, waste of my time 2. My SZPD makes me unavailable, becuase i have no interest in relationships 3. I have a cat 4. I dont like music, annoys me 5. Very stoic, body language is just not my thing 6. I dont like small talk either 7. Groups overwhelm me, much rather be alone. Less = More
Her saying is really true coz there was a boy in my tuition whom I felt scared of bc of his looks he was unattractive I avoided him at all cost but I was surprised to find out that . That boy was a gentleman yet shy hilarious I found myself slowly falling for him I never confess to him when I found out Abt his personality i started liking him I have apologize to him for avoiding him and he being a kind hearted person forgave me yet I still feel guilty Abt that
I'm a heel pro wrestler (that's the bad guy) and that means a lot of experience in taking the lead of a joint effort. Showing availability is very important, so of course I gotta do that. I have three cats and they're all adorable, two are rescues and one was born at home. I play the harmonica, that has to count some points for the instrument part. Confidence and open body language is another thing I learned through pro wrestling. I naturally already avoid small talk, if I don't know what to say I just try to ask about the other person until they get going (everybody loves talking about their own interests). Well that's everything but the last one. I'd love to hang around a group of friends but I don't have any.
@Psych2GO when your heart starts to hurt ,when your standing and breathing what does that mean?😢 While having a backpain? And also while having a headache?😢 Cause that just happened to me right now
me: not afraid of taking the lead and im bold af, always flirty and show available with confidence. I love pets but i don't want to spend the time care about them to much, what ever i still love pets ! I love even snakes and spiders! I play Ukulele, Keyboard and sing also. i show my confidence in my tounge as ENTP personality type also match my body language everything i say. i skip small talk because boredom. only the last point :/ i don't hang around with friends because i changed my city due a new job and don't know anybody and covid forced me do stay home alone. now i try to make friends but people tell me im intimidating do my huge selfesteem and confidence in everything i do or say. dunno how i connect with other in reallife. it feels like they try to avoid me and i force them to deal with me :D. Im also curious af when meet new people but get bored fast if they talk about stuff like stars, fashion and about a show i don't care. Maybe people finds me attractive but are shy to say it out loud like me ö.ö.
7. Hang around a group of friends Me: well I'm screwed. please give me tips on how I could avoid being awkward,small talk and actually get friends that care but it almost seems impossible because I have a very strict mom that doesn't let me go out with people :((
Thank you for your feedback. What do you think we can add to our videos so that the tips in the video are easier to put into practice? What do you find difficult about this topic?
I approached my current boyfriend in 2022 because his dog was too cute to ignore. Later I learned he played the guitar, which only made him more attractive, and I guess this works.
I have one eyelid longer than other. It makes me look like I have a lazy eye. I can see perfectly fine it's just attractive mess that's what's going to worry me. Birth defects is what worries me about attractiveness.
The problem with being seen more attractive with a pet is that literally everyone does it now, so it makes no difference. I personally want nothing to do with them so couldn't care less.
Yes I got attracted and love secretly with few boys even if they are not good looking also 1 guy attracted with me at school time when I was actually ugly in look unexpectedly he understood my secret that I am fallen in love with him when a boy is really great related with his own leadership and a good thoughtful or he have those qualities which many people try to practice to get it and they have naturally.
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Timestamps
1). Be a leader 0:35
2). Show you're available 1:10
3). Own a pet 1:40
4). Play a musical instrument 3:02
5). Show confidence and open body language 3:32
6). Don't just use small talk 4:05
7). Hang around a group of friends 4:40
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
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Stop spoiling me plis im watching a movie
@@magpie1120 okay
Oh yeah, Kalimba player, so attractive. Lol
Take a shortcut. Think of yourself as a writer, a runner, a reader, a tidier, a meditator, anything you’d like to be. Start to believe in who you are on the inside, even if it doesn’t show yet on the outside. Notice yourself starting to behave in ways that reinforce that belief. It will find its way out. Just watch.
Plz ma’am, I imagined myself as a casanova & pick-up artist since childhood, I literally believed in it and yet the powers of manifestation failed me real bad. 🥲
Thank you!!!! Needed that.🥺❤😢
Be a fraud ?
@@1000OtherFoxes No fox
Amen sis. A lot of us don’t realize the power our mind really holds
Behavioral things I find Attractive -
• not always staring at your phone
• when walking, staring straight ahead
• having pets • willing to do things for the enjoyment of others
• not being selfish • nice to people you don’t like
What do you think are the reasons why you find these behaviors attractive?
I wish more people found these traits attractive. Instead they just label me as a "nice guy" and I am instantly friendzonedor I get left behind. Being nice isn't an attractive quality, anymore.
@relentless7407
That’s their problem. Nice people are getting rarer and rarer and more valuable.
@Psych2go
• not always staring at your phone
- it shows that you care about stuff other than your phone
• when walking, staring straight ahead
- same as the phone, and I like it when people don’t act like scrolling zombies.
• having pets
- I like pets idk
• willing to do things for the enjoyment of others
- I can’t stand a selfish person. You’re not the only person in the world.
• not being selfish
- selfishness makes me feel like I don’t matter.
• nice to people you don’t like
- only being nice to people you’re attracted to but being the human equivalent of crumbs on a bed to people you don’t like is so annoying. That person could have had a horrible day, and you’re only making it worse.
..... Have a pet ?? Hold my tea ...
Let's start with what makes someone less attractive,
There was a girl at my high school who was considered incredibly attractive.
She was seemingly the epitome of beauty, at least to me and every other 15-year-old boy in school.
One day, I was feeling particularly ballsy, and so I decided to ask her if she wanted to hang out, perhaps go to a coffee shop or something else.
I’m not really sure what chance I had, but I was hoping that I could even get a date with her in due time.
We shared a couple classes together, and we even exchanged a few conversations every now and then; as far as I could tell, she seemed like a pretty legitimate person.
But anyway, back to asking her if she wanted to hang out.
She said no; but when she did that, she burst out into laughter, and she had this superiority complex as if I wasn’t ‘worthy’ of her time.
The fact that I got rejected didn’t bother me too much, but it was the way she went about doing so, it was just plain rude, and over top was just about as repulsed by her teeth as this one girl was of me, and that’s saying something really.
Not only that, but her breath was absolutely horrendous, and I would’ve even offered a piece of gum to her if she wasn’t being a complete b-.
Okay, the teeth and the breath description was a joke, but you know what does make a person less attractive?
A bad personality.
What makes a person look attractive?
Kindness and caring.
I remember a woman I worked with many years ago, who I had pigeonholed as vain and superficial. I didn’t find her attractive at all.
Then the AIDS epidemic hit. As many people wrestled with ignorance, fear, and homophobia, she was at the forefront of caring for the afflicted and helping people who had been abandoned by lovers, family, and friends.
It became blindingly clear to me that she was beautiful.
So to summarize you found her less attractive because she rejected you?
People like people that like them.
Sarcasm ofc
@@alejandrovillegas433 Lol you've never met a pretty person and the more they talk/behave the less attractive they become ?
U type 2 much
I ain't reading all dat
Thank you for sharing your story. Based on what we're reading, it sounds like you found someone much more attractive when they had an awesome character. Do you think that character is more important than appearance for there to be attraction? Or maybe a balance of both?
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Most attractive person: Smiling musician surrounded by a variety of friends and pets asking you what the meaning of life is
So a Disney character?
The tone of the voice of the narrator is so soft and « posé » ❤️💙 Love it 🥰
hi!! i recently confessed to my crush after watching a million of your videos to find out if he liked me back and… it worked!!!! thank you for making these videos. if this channel didn’t exist we’d probably never be together, so thanks!!!
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Hey there, even i confessed to my crush just recently. And before that he confessed to me but through a text. And when i confronted him, he said he doesn't remember. Oh my..that broke my heart. Please help me.
I've liked him for so long now.
But I'm confused if he likes me or not.
@@yinja3406 i think so too.
But you know what, he literally wrote my name and mentioned me there. Like it can't be a mistake then. But still I'm not sure.
😭😭Such an unrequited love.
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It breaks my heart really so badly 😭
@@yinja3406 oh man, you won't know. It's still complicated. So many things happened and even idk what is actually going on.
Best way to attract someone is to simply be yourself, there is someone out there in the world that will love every single thing about you. ♡
Thats cope
@@raphaelricardino yea, I'm gonna have to agree with you on this one. You can't just "be yourself" and expect your lover for the rest of your life to show up.
What I will say, though, is to not focus on being yourself, but bettering yourself through mentors and hard work physically, emotionally, and mentally, and then you will attract those that you want.
Nah fam, that's never gonna happen. I've been myself for years and it got me nowhere lol. What we need is to keep improving ourselves. We can't stay the same.
@@righteousone5119 "" but bettering yourself through mentors""
Another good way to say you should listen to a Cult Leader.
What is beeing yourself? You are the person you want to be. You need to work on yourself everything else is delusional.
Actually, self confidence seems kinda unattainable to me. When I go out of my comfort zone, I often end up acting like a dump. Staying silent in a social group looks boring and kinda awkward but when doing the opposite, I feel kinda weird. I like making other people laugh, but not always at me and my confusion! Have been told I'm pessimist, but really feel lost ._.
Me too
Of course, there are always people who find introversion or shyness kinda attractive… or maybe that’s just me (I’m an extroverted introvert btw). Just giving hope to u ofc :>
I love that all of these have nothing to do with the appearance, because honestly I appreciate a person more for how they behave, the little actions that make them unique. Kindness, empathy, intelligence, assertiveness, confidence and honesty are really important for me.
As an experience, once I had a date with someone I met through a dating app, at first I wasn’t really attracted to him when we meet for the first time, but the whole date was so much fun and his personality was outstanding, kind, funny, assertive, honest. At the end of the date I just found him really beautiful and attractive; and of course I went on many more dates with him.
Looks are just looks, and we as humans have so much more to offer, I think beauty standards and stereotypes just really limit us, we are very complex and just souls living in body.
The pet comment hit especially close to home- I’ve noticed my boyfriend almost always saves videos when I make them with my cat, and once said “That cat loves you so much,” so that tracks
I also fell for him largely when I heard how gentle he was with his little brother and fell for him all over again once he got a puppy in September. I’m glad I saw this, I love him so much
Uh oh, that's not a good sign for me, I hate my little brother
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1: Be a leader
2: Show you're available
3: Own a pet
4: Play a musical instrument
5: Show confidence and open body language
6: Don't use small talk
7: Hang around a group of friends
By "Showing that you're available" they meant "e.g. by holding eye contact and by smiling".
@@davecullins1606 It means that you're their for them when they need you the most instead of ghosting them!
Any more tips on how to be "confident" or "flirty"? I recently got diagnosed with autism which makes it really hard to "believe in myself" and be flirtasious, because honestly i am terryfied i will seem "off" or "weird" and ruin peoples day/night out/etc.
I'm saying this from my experience, not professionally:
I wouldn't recommend trying to be flirty at all, but try to find a way to engage with other people that is fun for you. The confidence part only comes from stepping out of your comfort zone and making mistakes in social interactions.
There are plenty of people who will like your quirks and you are better off finding out who likes them so you don't feel like you have to hide them.
A great start would be with short, online relationship since it's better to be confident than irl. If you are respectful in your manner, I don't think you will ruin anyone life, except for Karen, but Karen have always their day ruined.
This will sound terrible but I found being a cocky but polite a hole to be the most productive way to attract a mate. YMMV.
Hi I’m autistic too so we have that in common. I’m studying psychology also.
Confidence
1) I find uno extremely helpful I carry a deck around everywhere. Essentially my reasoning is people suck at conversation even if there not autistic and will genuinely take any chance they can get at doing something other then having to try come up with conversation. If your on a dating app challenge someone to a uno competition most people ego gets a little inflated and it seems less scary going into something.
If your at school or working with people offer a little fun after works and in breaks and if your out in the town and u end up getting someone to do something with you it’s a great place to fill the void. Gets people to relax and open up and they will appreciate you for it
2) approach people with a goal type question like “hey do you know the directions to a certain place” or “do you know to do a certain task” ask for there name once they tell you and you thank them and ask if they wouldn’t mind sharing there social media accounts with you so in the future you can keep in contact and maybe pay them back for their help. It’s so much less awkward then walking up to someone and saying hey let’s talk and since most people now days meet by having friends and then friends introducing you to more friends and so on or getting drunk and clubbing and getting into crazy and sometimes traumatic situations that create bonding moments and take away the awkward barrier
for me at least that wasn’t a reality a few years ago. Granted it’s still really awkward to do this tactic but it has a higher chance of working and it’s worked for me about 60% of the time.
Flirting
1) there’s actually a list of questions designed to make people open up a bit more to each other. It’s janky I’m not gonna pretend it isn’t but a list of questions on your phone once u nail down a date and getting them talking about themselves and all the wired and wonderful things they make them tick will make most people very happy. If there struggling with open ended questions that lead to a more in-depth answer then yes or no which is the gold standard, then asking hypothetical and would you rather type questions usually get past that barrier and offering information about yourself will promt questions from the other person if they don’t initiate asking questions themselves.
2) ask as many follow up questions as you can and offer up relevant information to the topic including your own experiences and stories. You can manufacture what people call flow by milking a subject dry and potentially getting a natural link to a kinda relevant but different subject which definitely makes being at ease and feeling positive feelings easier for both of you. ( yes I consider this flirting sarcasm and gentle teasing is to hard for me to get right)
Also talk about memories and ask them to do the same people love stories and nostalgia. It can be dramatic like what was a moment in your life that you were most afraid or soft like tell me about what the last day of school was life (just some examples)
3) be honest don’t try to be more confident or put on a act or own a pet. Here’s the problem your not trying to pull in the most amount of people your trying to pull in the people that will love you and support you and make you better but also appreciate who you already are. If your try to hard you might find yourself with someone possibly quicker then if your with yourself but I have seen so many times it’s backfired and quickly. And it’s exhausting for you. Here is a good example if you don’t like animals there is someone that doesn’t like animals and that’s gonna be something u bond over as in “look at those suckers shelling out money to basically be in servitude to literally beats that laze around in your house rent free”
And the other person being like
“Omg I know right”
Stay true to your interests your character be honest about your short comings as in tell them out right look I’m not very good in conversation and then maybe tell them what u can offer like but I’m great at being your personal IT guy. And share with them your insecurities and fears and your joys and successes. People are programmed no matter how hard they try not to to relate being vulnerable isn’t actually being vulnerable it’s communicating your needs and wants and encouraging others to do the same which is necessary for a good relationship and feeling seen. I would even encourage sharing that your nervous you want be a good date or your scared conversation are going to be hard you might find they relate and say “I’m so glad you said that because I am to”
Finding things in common and vibing over them and sharing with that person that you like them are very important factors in making someone feel attracted to you regardless of if it’s subtle or not so if eye contact not your thing just say no pressure but I like your style and I think it would be fun to get to know you.
Hopefully that helps and more importantly is tailored some what to your lifestyle x
Depends on personally types tho and also how well your able to read a room and be witty.
I’d be curious to know if that cocky polite a hole is a mask and you feel like people don’t really know or respect all of you. Some friends I know play a room like that but end up stuck in a leading role but playing the preforming monkey so I’m wondering if it’s similar experience
I would just like to point out that if (like me) you are a person whom wouldn't like to have a pet in your life, the responsible thing to do is 'not' to obtain a token pet from a pet store or shelter just for the sake of appearing more attractive to potential partners.
Such would be irresponsible to the pet that you would have taken on the responsibility of caring for. And such token pets don't necessarily get the level of care that a pet obtained for its own sake might get.
Just a thought.
Well said. It's important that you decide to take on a pet only if you genuinely want to, and not to use the pet to attract a partner.
For you personally, is there a particular reason why you personally don't want a pet?
@@Psych2go Idk about OP, but I personally don't want a pet because of all the work that I'd need to do (cleaning up after them, feeding them, etc) with what I consider to be very few upsides
@@Psych2go Well, for me there are several considerations.
First and foremost, I am not confident that I would provide a pet enough attention, and the kinds of pets whom wouldn't require attention wouldn't appeal to me.
Secondly, they are an expense in money, effort and time.
Thirdly, hygiene, mess and smell.
It is just not for me. I can enjoy animals in a non-committal one-off exposure kind of way but otherwise no.
Well now I know why my odds are at 0. I'm socially awkward, have zero self confidence, have never owned a pet, don't play any instruments, and don't have any friends to hang out with. I'm 34 and have never been on a date.
I have wept and wept and wept...
and now I've turned my tears...
into tears of joy...
Nowdays my aura outshines others...
People feel my vibe and get uplifted.
looks attract. personality makes people stay.
so yeah looks do matter
The art style is sooooo cute!
Hey Psych2go!!! I just want to say that you actually have a good life! I mean you post all these videos on the internet and it helps people. I love this channel ❤❤❤❤
We're so glad that you find our content helpful! Thank you!! 🥰
Excelent! Bringing out my old tuba!
We couldn't find a tuba emoji so here's a saxophone! 🎷
I'm young and never had a partner before, but this helps me to know what to do in the future, thanks for all you do
Thank you for your kind words! What are some takeaways for you that you want to apply in your future? Can you tell us more about which part of the video was helpful for you? :)
4:11 Actually helps because I can slowly start to talk to someone instead of rushing things out
ur voice is asmr i’m falling asleep :)
Can you give us a video about signs you're not ready for love? not that your not ready to be in a relationship, but that you are not ready to be loved or experience love by or from someone?
That's a great idea. We'll share it with the team :)
In the meanwhile, what do you personally feel are signs that someone is not ready for love?
These things seem achievable, thanks psych!
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Being in a group gives "social proof" that you are not a creep.
unless you're in a group of creeps
Hi Psych2go, could you please make a video about how to make oneself irresistibly attractive when applying for a job? This also has a lot to do with psychology. It would be so very useful really...
Have the competence and be humble.
@@1000OtherFoxes I wish it was so easy. Sometimes competence is grossly overlooked in favor of other, rather subjective qualities. I know this from vast experience.
That's a great idea for a new video! In your experience, what were some qualities that employers looked at other than, as you mentioned, competence? Could you share what they favored over competence?
@@Psych2go Well, it is more like the way one approaches the whole issue, I mean, how confident you are, how the first impression takes place, how much dynamism you show, how well you can interact with colleagues aka at which level you can work in a group, etc... there is no use being super competent if one just can't harmonize with the working environment. A somewhat less competent individual with great social or other communication skills can be easily trained further while his empathy and openness is much appreciated, whereas social skills are nearly impossible to teach to someone who is somewhat more competent but lacks them. It is complex really...
have 10 years of experience
Thank you for being so nice!
Always!
Hey Psych2Go, any tips for living a more social and adventurous life? I'm kinda jealous of other people who have that. I used to be social before, but once I entered college I just can't seem to socialise even if I wanted to and I'm envious of others who are social, adventurous and are in relationships. There's not much I can do to make my life more fun and outgoing due to commitments but any sort of help would be appreciated.
Thank you for sharing your challenge with us. This can be a great idea for a video so we'll discuss this with our team.
As for having a more social and adventurous life, it doesn't have to start big. If you want to have a social life, you can start exposing yourself to places where people go that align with your interest. You can start by identifying activities or hobbies that you like that your college offers. You don't have to make it a goal to talk to everyone but it can just be one person who attends the same event. And little by little, you can start working your way to talking to more and more people while attending more events.
We hope that you are able to find the social and adventurous life that you want as you step out of your comfort zone! Start small! :)
Finally some content I can really relate to
Thank you! Which part of the video did you resonate with the most?
@@Psych2go every second :D
@@aadityavilassharma1802 right you are, it was a holistic enjoyment of every second
Dont know what i Like more. Advices or the animation its just so cute
Awww thank you so much!! Glad you enjoyed the visuals 🥺💖
@@Ayacchi if you are the maker of this than this is art. Cute style plus the calming voice of the narrator, its practically impossible to not be relaxed
@@romanmihalic4544 yes, I was the one doing the animation for this video! Thank you so much! And yes, Amanda's voice IS very soothing!💖💖
@@Ayacchi youre goddamn right
as an aromantic, I will make sure to do the opposite of these steps
edit: oh god I already do all this, what now
Honestly, great qualities for a friend 😊
That's ridiculous how I know the tips but I don't have any guts to just approach random woman I thought was attractive
Not ridiculous at all! Approaching someone we're attracted to can be very intimidating 😭
I love these simple but very amazing video's 🔥
Glad you like them!
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Ive been watching your video since 2020 and every single video always teach me new things about me and someone else.
Sometimes i watch this kind of video and feel more motivated even tho im sad😅 but yeah just want to say that your video always helped me out with this kind of thing.
U know ive been struggling to find a partner lately and then after i watched this video i just know that the thing im missing in me is my confidence so i just wanna say thank you
It feels like it’s been a while since I’ve watched your videos but I can’t watch all the recent uploaded videos bc of life and it’s time consuming or I could get overwhelmed with watching all the recent ones!!! 😢😢 I just like and add it to my playlists and sometimes watch them
You can always come back to them when you don't feel overwhelmed!
I learned a lot from this video as usual from your videos. One thing I learned is that I'm doing a lot of things wrong still.
What are some things that you resonated with in the video?
I have 2 cats (Though I love ALL animals, literally) I workout, do martial arts, so I do have a fit body, I play the guitar (I also used to play piano and drums a little, I love drumming so much as well!)
I'm also mostly an introvert (The 16 Personalities website said that I'm an INTJ, and it's mostly true about me) I love being alone, but I don't mind having company with my few friends, and I'm very supportive with most of the people I talk to and I try to be a leader whenever I get the chance, do you think I have a chance? Because despite all that I still believe it's not easy to find the one.
I'm not trying to brag about anything sorry if anyone felt that way, I just wanted to share myself here with you all! ✨
Such a timely video. After 4 failed relationships, I lost my confidence and due to some standards modern women put in.
We hope that this video was helpful for you and that it will give you the courage and the confidence you need should you choose to be in a relationship again. Could you tell us, what were some of the "standards" that you mentioned?
@@Psych2go their standards like:
Good looks (includes height, skin color)
Must have a high income
Must have a car
Studied at an A- League College
@@a.d.samano7873 Ugh, I hate those standards. It seems like EVERY woman has these same few standards that are almost unachievable. I can't increase my height nor change my skin color. I get instantly friendzoned or ignored by every girl I meet, despite trying something different every time. It can be frustrating but I know there are some women who are actually sane and love people for their PERSONALITY.
@@DeRez19 there are some but they are already with someone.
@@a.d.samano7873 Yeah. I noticed that all of the women I actually seem to have a shot with, already have a boyfriend (like, for real. I meet their actual BFs so I know they aren't lying). So in reality, I never have a shot to begin with.
The more I think about it, the more I think dating apps are the way to go for me. Finding single women (that I'm interested in) in my social circle is *very* difficult. It seems like for every 10 women I grow attracted to, 8 of them are in a relationship already, and the other 2 just don't give me a chance as a potential partner. Online dating makes it so dang easy to find singles in your area, so I know that I actually have a chance with someone.
I open your video to fall asleep, your voice so good
So cute dear Psych2go. That helps many Introverts/insecure/shy people. Encourage Power. Thx. 🌈💕🙏🏻😊 Also thanks much for the deep Research and for all those WHO are Brave and Show Honesty and Vulnurability. Soulpower. 💪🏻💝💖🌟
Thank you for watching! 🥰
I just got a huge dejavu watching this video.
"If you don't like pets it doesn't look too good for you"
I'm just lazy to look after pets
@@jenkathefridge3933 and I am too broke for one
@@KyleGK01 broke gang
@@jenkathefridge3933 😓
@@KyleGK01 we should probably both try to find a job 😞
Quite helpful.
However, I'm afraid to open my heart.
I can barely take care of myself and don't want to be a burden.
Fair but being honest isn’t the same thing as burdening people I mean essentially every story ever is about some poor soul having a miserable time of it and some how makes it out in the end with the insinuation it’s probably going to be back to the grind after the break. How is that any different to you have issues and sharing it to a curious soul.
Also if said curious soul wants to take you on and ideally you would be happy with that arrangement if you didn’t have to consider there peace of mind then you should let them. It’s there choice after all and people generally Don’t offer people something unless they won’t you to accept.some People love helping and even need it to feel worth while in this world so you would actually be doing them a favour,
I meant want sorry I can’t spell 😅
Thank you for sharing your thought with us. In your experience, what are some things that make opening your heart challenging?
Simply, be available. If you aren't available in the mind, you won't be available otherwise.
Its about being more free, and social active, you show you can value, take care of someone and you know how to express and act yourself from your insides, thats how other people notices naturally what you really mean or have to offer as a person, and let me tell you that unless the person is someone that you wouldn't want to hang with or be with either, anyone has a chance of match or value at least one aspect of you as a person, dont frame limit yourself too much or you take the risk of fake and lie to everyone and yourself, and everyone can see when you are not real.
can you make a video about deep conversations, how to start them and keep them going
I legit stare into everyone's eyes and smile and most of the time I'm like WHAT HAVE I DONE?! I'm not available to everyone, I just like to show people I'm paying attention when they speak. Where do people look otherwise?
Well, there is this one person I'm trying to impress. I just really hope she's the one.
Well still... Depends on people
Who cares? Just be yourself. The only thing you need to be attractive is you.
You don't need to fit anyone else's, let alone societies mold, of what is considered "attractive". And that changes as culture and trends change.
Toxic positivity in disguise right here.
Life isn't about presenting an attractive or popular image. It's about learning about yourself and how to develop traits that help you grow.
💯.
Things I’d struggle with on this list:
Make complex music
Approach people
And Finally being a leader(maybe)
Yeah, heads up, DON'T get a pet just to be more attractive and get a date. There's a reason people who own pets refer to them as their children. Owning a pet is a responsibility, a living being that'll require your attention and care, and that will suffer if you neglect them. If you pick a pet it better be because you're ready for that responsibility, not to impress others and fulfill your selfish needs.
thanks for the inform!
The truth is, I really want to make a relationship work, but for whatever reason, no one finds me attracting. I've learned to love myself, but others don't feel the same towards me. I've been praying to God and hoping one day, I would get a girlfriend who accepts me at least once in my life. A girl who respects me for who I am. Kind, responsible, determined, curious, and smart. Unfortunately, that moment hasn't happened and probably won't happen in the near future. 💔
Aaah the woes of finding a partner
Dating apps are hard to deal with if your not a pretty woman because the dating app is designed not to show people that don’t match a marketing image so your profile only shown to like 5 a day and it’s just a nightmare trying to get anything (in saying that there’s a dating app called boo I recommend for more interesting people)
Or you need to have friends who can introduce you to more friends so the interaction is not awkward which doesn’t work if your friendship group is isolationist or not into going to mingle in big groups in loud areas (join a hobby class or group or play Pokémon go and talking to others Is playing it is kinda the only way around that aside from randomly approaching people. I guess being in an area doing something you like will attract people that like the same thing making it more likely you like each other)
Or get lucky and meet someone at work or school which might as well be the lottery. (I don’t think it’s likely to meet someone kind, responsible, determined, curious and smart just heads up.)
Have you ever noticed there’s types of people for example
The whimsical emotional people who care about values and creating harmony with people as there main priority and therefore are extremely kind and generous and can be quite curious about who you are but then on the other hand because there so focused on the other and people in groups are proven to be more prone to dumb decision making they end up forsaking reason for the group happiness and there for sell at responsibility and concern with own goals. You can’t after all be a people pleaser and be able to break from the group in any meaningful way even if it’s heading for a train wreck.
Then there’s the really smart people that have it together but they are soo blunt and unfeeling about things and there way of showing love is through letting you know what your not good at and fixing things for you but the rest of the time they can be arrogant and condescending but still very smart determined and career driven
And then there’s the next kinda people that are more the socialites but they don’t see past there own hubris
And then there’s the gossipers of the world that are content to do the same thing day in day out never question anything and keep the status quo alive
Yeah well a lot of personality type tests out there kinda do some variation on these groups and at least from personal experience I havnt found anyone with one trait that doesn’t disappoint when it comes to another
I'm in the exact same position, except I'm starting to love myself a little less every week. I take this as a sign to try and improve myself, but it never makes me feel any better.
If the person you like doesn't seem interested in you DO NOT GO AFTER THEM
@@jenkathefridge3933 this
Suggestion: You've made so many videos on how to get a partner, but how about a friend?
Yes pleeeease
That's an interesting idea! If we were to make a video on friendship, what would you like to see us cover?
@@Psych2go Pretty much this but for friends instead of partners
Introverts don’t usually have a group of friends, let alone hang around with one group of any kind of people.
Something as simple as eye contact feels challenging. Always overthinking about what they see at first glance.
Thank you for sharing. In your experience, what were some strategies that helped you when you feel like you're overthinking and paralyzed because of it?
@@Psych2gotrying to find something else to talk about
I have Asperger's so I am in the same boat.
1. I have no interest in leading lol, waste of my time
2. My SZPD makes me unavailable, becuase i have no interest in relationships
3. I have a cat
4. I dont like music, annoys me
5. Very stoic, body language is just not my thing
6. I dont like small talk either
7. Groups overwhelm me, much rather be alone. Less = More
Her saying is really true coz there was a boy in my tuition whom I felt scared of bc of his looks he was unattractive I avoided him at all cost but I was surprised to find out that . That boy was a gentleman yet shy hilarious I found myself slowly falling for him I never confess to him when I found out Abt his personality i started liking him I have apologize to him for avoiding him and he being a kind hearted person forgave me yet I still feel guilty Abt that
3 out of 6. I just need some closer friends and confidece, LET’S GO
A great personality👏👏👏👍👍👍😍😍😍
Yeah, but the number one rule is always be yourself. Which doesn't work..
Pet never helped me get a date but it did get several people I was already dating to go “awwww”😍
I'm a heel pro wrestler (that's the bad guy) and that means a lot of experience in taking the lead of a joint effort. Showing availability is very important, so of course I gotta do that. I have three cats and they're all adorable, two are rescues and one was born at home. I play the harmonica, that has to count some points for the instrument part. Confidence and open body language is another thing I learned through pro wrestling. I naturally already avoid small talk, if I don't know what to say I just try to ask about the other person until they get going (everybody loves talking about their own interests). Well that's everything but the last one. I'd love to hang around a group of friends but I don't have any.
Great video!!
Would love to see you talk about disabilities and how you could improve your life even if you have one, thank you.
This can be a great topic that can be helpful for a lot of people. Thank you for sharing your idea with us.
A little late and I’m unsure if I’m early..
Well, i play on saxophone and have 2 cats and i really see im more attractive in a long-term! And thanks for the video!
That's great! Though we didn't mention it in the video, cats are great too! 😺😺
@@Psych2go 😸😸
"3. Own a pet."
Guess I'll just get used to being single then.
You can still be attractive without one! :)
@Psych2GO when your heart starts to hurt ,when your standing and breathing what does that mean?😢 While having a backpain? And also while having a headache?😢
Cause that just happened to me right now
The fact that I dont have to wait for another week to see this slap.....
You've got a nice narration voice 👍
I'm already doomed on the first one 😂
i never thought id watch this kinda content. But here i am. Watching how to be a better person lol
me: not afraid of taking the lead and im bold af,
always flirty and show available with confidence.
I love pets but i don't want to spend the time care about them to much, what ever i still love pets ! I love even snakes and spiders!
I play Ukulele, Keyboard and sing also.
i show my confidence in my tounge as ENTP personality type also match my body language everything i say.
i skip small talk because boredom.
only the last point :/ i don't hang around with friends because i changed my city due a new job and don't know anybody and covid forced me do stay home alone.
now i try to make friends but people tell me im intimidating do my huge selfesteem and confidence in everything i do or say. dunno how i connect with other in reallife. it feels like they try to avoid me and i force them to deal with me :D.
Im also curious af when meet new people but get bored fast if they talk about stuff like stars, fashion and about a show i don't care.
Maybe people finds me attractive but are shy to say it out loud like me ö.ö.
Thanks
That doggo was the ultimate wingman for my boy antoine
7. Hang around a group of friends
Me: well I'm screwed.
please give me tips on how I could avoid being awkward,small talk and actually get friends that care but it almost seems impossible because I have a very strict mom that doesn't let me go out with people :((
This might help do some small talk and then start to talk about hobbies, would you rathers, questions about phylosophy etc
@@jenkathefridge3933 i'll try my best, ty! ^_^
@@kaminorii5389 Trying your best is the only thing you can do
Can you guys do a video on how to fake confidence (possibly until you make it)?
Bro, I literally do all of the first six of these, but my crush still hardly cares about anything I do or say...
Your love videos are very difficult for me to put into practice it's just difficult topic for me
Thank you for your feedback. What do you think we can add to our videos so that the tips in the video are easier to put into practice? What do you find difficult about this topic?
I approached my current boyfriend in 2022 because his dog was too cute to ignore. Later I learned he played the guitar, which only made him more attractive, and I guess this works.
I have one eyelid longer than other.
It makes me look like I have a lazy eye.
I can see perfectly fine it's just attractive mess that's what's going to worry me.
Birth defects is what worries me about attractiveness.
Be myself isn t a good idea ? I don t want to people have a wrong image of myself (especially my crush) ... 😅
The problem with being seen more attractive with a pet is that literally everyone does it now, so it makes no difference. I personally want nothing to do with them so couldn't care less.
The thumbnail taught me I need to get a penthouse suite and a dog
Well darn I don’t have any hopes,dreams or friends. Guess I’m dying alone then 😢
if you actually didn't have hopes, you wouldn't care
nothing wrong with going out alone lol.
1:40 but what about cats ??
Cats are great too!😸
Does it have to be my friends or can I just stand next to a random group of people?
i do all of that and still no 😭
Very needy tips
Like the drawings
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
was that a 2setviolin tiger mom reference at 3:30 or am i tripping 😭
Why do you have to be a pet lover to be attractive? How about having a carrier and a place to live in?
Does anyone know the music? It’s so nice!
is it possible for you to make an hour (or more) long marathon? or perhaps a podcast
Great idea! We'll share this idea with the team :)
Yey
Yes I got attracted and love secretly with few boys even if they are not good looking also 1 guy attracted with me at school time when I was actually ugly in look unexpectedly he understood my secret that I am fallen in love with him
when a boy is really great related with his own leadership and a good thoughtful or he have those qualities which many people try to practice to get it and they have naturally.