This knowledge empowers you. The less the better. Expect more. YOU are the force behind a mans success. You brighten up his day week month! He goes into work happier and closes a deal bc he just got laid! Don’t think for a second you don’t have value. Men think they’re the only ones playing games. Take your power back.
Women naturally strategize. Women are just shamed out of it and are called "manipulative" whenever we know how to use our brains. But when a man does it he's called a "boss" or a "finesser"
Men are very emotional. They want to be top guy. Exploit that need. That's why it pays to stand out among other women in some characteristic. Be the smartest, prettiest, or most charming or at least be in the top tier. Men want to compete with other men.
@Hina B. Keep your emotions under control, if you felt like you want to smother HIM with love just understand that these are your hormones telling you you need a baby *mother instincts* get a cat or something to smother it instead of him or getting a baby for selfish/temporary needs...beware of men talking about love, it is just a trick to lure you in they have now learned thanks to romantic movies but they do not mean it or feel it the way you think they do so do not allow them to hold your emotions against you especially love but also they might willingly and purposefully drive you crazy so that you would yell in front of everyone while he's calm and this makes you the bad guy in your relationship and people won't help you when you reach out asking for help!
@@hunny585 Also, you can ACT like you are romantic and sh!t but do not feel it, as Shera said in one of her other videos "the world is a stage, play the role you want" ACT feminine, loving, and do everything that could get you your goal (luxurious lifestyle) aim higher than you actually want if you did not shoot the moon you will at least catch the stars around it 👌
Adopting a cat is a good idea for women who have nurturing qualities. Cats need nurturing and they love you as much as you love them. The more you love them, the more they love you. Animals are innocent and offer companionship and love. Loving on a fur baby helps so you don't have to try to give that motherly type of love that SheRa is discussing.
Exactly. Plants too. I have over 100 plants . I give full love and devotion to my 2lb puppy Ocean , my glorious plants and myself. For men , I play the game and never let my guard down. I’m 39, had too many heartbreaks and if I could go back in time … I would have the mentality that I have now. To the younger babes, love the spirit within , worship it like a diamond bc as soon as you do that energetically everyone around you does the same. We only have one life and it’s precious
This woman is a walking confident aware and beautiful entity. No words. Never found such real actual content with SOLID advice. Clear simple concise and effective.
You are so right i'v never heard of a queen cooking, cleaning or Babysitting. Queen Elizabeth or Queen Cleopatra never did those things, but really was the one in true power. I was married 10 years before my husband was killed. He taught me some much and how to value and love myself. He always reminded me I'm the PRIZE. The Church will definitely teach you how to be a doormat for your husband and not a QUEEN .
The church is the devil when it comes to love...too many holy women there...n thier husbands come on to me loads..I wont go church..to many randy men married to holy women
So true ... everything that you said ... they think that pleasing your husband is being a doormat ... buy you are pleasing him by leveling up and being your most feminine self ... being a doormat is usery as a slave servant wife ... being a true wife is a feminine lady who knows what. aman truely want ... the doormats gets thrown out ... the true wife get put on the pedestal 💕 ... funny, because when she got up to shift to another room so did I get up to get snacks and drinks, etc.... lol
If you feel you are very emotional and you react.. just take a walk.. breathe.. drink a glass of water or eat a healthy snack.. you could also journal it out but DONT REACT to a man.. Keep your POWER!
The one person who changed my life to 360 degree turn is Shera !! I love you frm the bottom of my heart.. whenever I get sad I just start watching your videos again n again .. you are like a mother who teaches us how to survive in this selfish and manipulative world .. thank you so much for sharing your wisdom .. my favourite RUclipsr❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Once they see crazy one or two times they’re already looking for a replacement and will tolerate you until they replace you…. She is telling the truth.
My stepmom was crazy from the beginning and my dad still married her. Men can be desperate in love too. In fact crazy women seem married more often than not
Treat him the exact way they treat you If you’re over emotional, always have a plan before doing things with him. Keep those goals in mind. If he does something wrong, we don’t care. Instead of saying “why’d u hurt me” think: how can I benefit from this, how to correct it, how to get revenge” Need love: get a dog and hobbies Write it down and throw it away
yes I really get upset when disappoints me or looks at other ladies more curvy than me ugg... I really need to do the writing thing and read it over and over. Then discuss matters in mature and calm manner from now on.
It’s so funny because I have had previous boyfriends admit to me that because I’m so calm and non chalant that they would try to purposely do things to get under my skin. It’s like dude you could set yourself on fire and i would step right over you to get to that atm debit card to withdraw all your funds out of your account before they pronounce you dead. It’s like nice try fool!
Life Ventures yep totally...I feel like some of these people just want to create drama when there is none. When men say they don’t play games or don’t like drama guess what later that night you will get a phone call from the girlfriend they have had for the last 10 years 👋
So true @ men claiming they don't want drama! This happened to me just last week, a wife called me and left a message. I haven't even met the man and already she was calling me.
cate lyn because they love drama. When a man tells me he doesn’t like or that or doesn’t do this or that they are giving you blueprints baby without fail
I agree. I cant believe grown folks 30 plus still falling head over heels in love when that feeling doesn't last. Let that feeling subside to give you time to assess these clowns LADIES.
@@tawanawilliams9618 this part is true. I wasn't really truly hurt like that until recently. I'm 30 it's been rough but I'm ready to let that emotional stuff go.. not worth it lol.
Omg really? Im a teenager myself who has been implementing this advice for YEARS (I have a secret bank account 😘🦋🔐)and I always felt u guys are so lucky U got to have relationships +memories w boys where money wasn’t on ur mind and don’t get me wrong I have those ... but when I was like 13 and under 😂😬 I guessss if I discovered shera today I wish I would have years ago 😇😇
Many women want marriage and are not prepared for it. They do not have a clue what to expect, what to do ( as a wife) . In order to be a mate to anyone, you have to work on being the best for you.
SheRa you brought me back to who I truly am after dating dusties. Dating a narcissist made me overly emotional from trauma. Now I’m detached from me emotions and I absolutely love it ❤️
and I tried to put a few ppl on game but they don’t get it...this journey is for me only ❤️❤️❤️...so I’ll receive this game with major appreciation🌹🌹🌹 You are truly a lifesaver and it’s only been 2 weeks.
I just got out of a relationship with my narcissistic husband of 13 years. The world out there is scary and full of nothing but dust so I brought myself here and I watch her videos daily. It is my medicine to the point where I am so detached.
A lot of pick-me questions on the stream today in the beginning of the video. That’s good cause perhaps your message is reaching those who need it the most now. Women need to wake up fast.
I did a change in the way I respond to his text messages. I use to text back fast at the time on the day he's coming over. Instead, I wait like an hour to text back to say I am home. He started calling my phone and text a couple times to see was I actually going to be home. lol!!
I hide my crazy well. You can’t blow up on a man every time he does something thts not his best. Showing him you can handle scenarios when things get sticky is a true wife quality. handle a problem without blowing up.
I’ve been binge watching your videos this week. While watching them I’m also laughing my heart out each time you use your favorite term (dusty). Thank you for all this million dollars worth of information you’ve been sharing with the world. You can only go higher for sharing your knowledge with us.
We are all emotional. Women operate on the emotion of fear of loss of security, etc.. Men operate on fear if not measuring up. If you use this then set the bar high by telling him how well you have been treated in the past money wise. Don't say I've never been there (to that fancy ass restaurant).
@@hellosavannah16Guy here. We want women who appreciate new experiences and show us there appreciation. You don’t have to take my advice but i’m just putting that out there.
I liked how you got back on seemingly annoyed and avoidant James, by keep reminding him you still need him for "his masculine wisdom" , by employing your feminine charm and self control. Ordinary woman would react and feel offended and would start the fight, or would run around him trying to please him, you handled it like a pro. Getting a man is not a key, having a mindset like yours to keep him, is the gold!
I been through all kinds of obsessions with people who don't care about me . I been thought to treat others how i want to be treated . It turn out to be : treat others the way they treat you .
I remember when I first watched this video! I didn’t understand it… it seem frivolous and calculated… but now… I completely understand! Your heart and your emotions are your worse enemy nowadays! That being with someone or marrying someone Bc of true genuine love??? That’ll get you fd up every single time! This is not a lie 💯
At first I thought her videos were super long but it's like hanging out with her and she is legendary ... makes me realize how much girl time I need ... you are the sum of the 5 people you are around ... this includes youtubers, lecturers, teacher, etc ... as I observe her demeanor and ways I heal my own femininity and emotions ... learning also from when she calls her husband; she calls his name, not babe and love ... and then she sung his name and calls him often when he's around, letting him know she needs him in a petty way ... so fucken feminine!💕 ... she is such a Siren !!
How not to get attached after sex: DONT SLEEP NEAR HIM WHEN IT’s DONE! Seriously we release bonding chemicals after sex which facilitates the same bonding process that happens when you give birth to your child. Either don’t let him cuddle with you after or get up and leave!
'Change the way you think about any situation you find yourself in.' Yes, it may feel almost natural to start getting upset when u call him and he doesn't pick up, but inhale, exhale and choose a different reaction. He doesn't answer ur call, then go for a walk and generate some good feels.
I also heard a Quote...it says.... "THE PRIMARY CAUSE OF UNHAPPINESS IS NEVER THE SITUATION BUT YOUR....THOUGHTS...ABOUT IT" P.S.... By: -Eckhart Tolle- ❤
Hi Shera I know this is an older video but I really do appreciate your advice! I had no idea I have made myself a “pick me” by my actions and behaviors. My man and also baby’s father tends to treat me however he wants probably because I have been really emotional and having a tendency to not control my emotions around him. Now I feel like he takes me for granted. He talks to me disrespectfully , is rude and inconsiderate of my feelings and makes rude comments about my appearance and says he is “just joking”. Yeah joking at my expense then saying I am too sensitive. From this day forward I am going to disappear and do my own damn thing. I’m going to make him wonder what the hell I’m doing.
Yasssss and once u start looking good, leave him or act so disinterested that he'll think your are cheating....and then his ass will act right. But dont slack up evem after he acts right
Your advice is music to my ears. Everything you said is exactly what my momma,grandmas,sister have been saying all along. I'm way cuter and younger then my hhubby, and the moment I quit giving a crap if he leaves me,he wants me more.
I’m 43 and I can say most of your advice is point on! Thank you for helping other ladies have their power❤️ I wish you where doing this when I was younger.. you are truly a 🎁 gift.
52 seconds in and I already agree. I'm as sweet as can be, yet I am very unemotional. This is intentional, and I always have to giggle at how it seems to throw people, especially men, just way off. 😊
I'm 18 and found out about her a few days ago! I've been binging her videos and I can confidently say I've watched over 6 hours of her and will continue to do so!
You ARE NOT FRUMPY!!!! You look 15 yrs younger than your chronological age..and absolutely gorgeous! Being super intelligent and wise only adds to the mix...x
This was a great video, I even took notes so I’ll have references when I sense I’m slipping. I highly recommend these tips for all women, because it works!
Alot of this goes deeper of why some women attract certain relationships a lot of women didn’t have a great relationship with their father and end up dating the same energy as their father, gone, not giving her attention =money and have mommy issues looking for a sergeant mother! Women who had great fathers I feel most time pick the correct man (provider and protecter)! Ur energy brings a certain man to u so I advise if u didn’t have a good father atleast act lik u did feel that energy of the ideal father and u won’t settle for paying for a man, taking disrespect or lack bc ur own daddy ur first example or should be of a man didn’t put u through that! Just think if uve always had a man with a car do u go back to a man riding the bus? Nope! Unless u being the Man U never had! Be aware of what energy ur in and attracting, lack or abundance?!
the more i listen and understand the more angry i get at the situation and having a goal is the best solution ive ever heard your channel is truely amazing thank you
wow listening to these videos has made realized how so many Mothers of the women chatting, have not taught them self love and respect for self. The loss of healthy fathers in womens lives also have taught them no strategies and to not value them selves. Men and women definition of love are different. Alot of these women are in love with Love not understanding that love. Loves itself. That's why there is so much heartbreak and misunderstanding. The mindset is women want security from a man, to protect and provide but Men will tell you a little companionship some cookie and a nice meal and to respect there me time. They just want fun occasionally which could be traveling and common interest.
I wish I was unbothered like her. Taking notes. My ex tried to gaslight me saying I'm bitter when I listed all the hurtful things he did to me and why I left him. I told him it's not bitter, it's being serious and firm about not putting myself in the way to be hurt by him again.
So true....I have two coworkers who sweat this guy.....and I don't....the guy is always at my desk in general conversation..( I say hi and bye)... and they literally come out of their work spaces when they hear him at my desk.. it's hilarious to watch
Was looking for advice but I realized in my mother already took it all in this video 😂 seems like a lot of manipulation. But I understand though. Being a honest girl gets u stepped on for real.
Ive been watching Shera for a few years... it was magic that brought me to her... this video here is the MOST conclusive on dating game in one video. Shera gave more game here than one can handle in 40 min lol. In dating or choosing a mate or developing standards.... this is the only advice any one needs. Build around this structure and you ladies can never go wrong. And as yall see... her man.. a man... cant even dispute this.
I wish I watched this video before I acted like a child that needs to be fed this weekend 😩😩😩😩😩😩 I will never cry be loud be angry and question him ever again
I really need these type of videos..I only need emotions for my son, close family and friends. This guy at my job keep telling me about what he wants to do but can’t even do the simple things like buy me lunch. I know closed mouths don’t get fed but he’s not offering to do the bare minimum but he thinks I believe he will take me on trips. He wants to text me all day at work but don’t nothing at work. He offers dinner but I told him I don’t have the time right now, so I feel like if you wanted me, you would do something now instead of outside of work.
You are so strong and honest!! I came up on your channel a few days ago and I absolutely love it!! It literally feels like your talking to me over the phone or face-to-face ! Lol..it feels so personal. I absolutely love advice!..I’m taking it and running with it!!!💯 you gamed up Shera! Your wisdom and advice is vital!♥️♥️
I love you, Your da Bomb ... you help alot of ladies. Im surrounded by females ... I be on them just like you... Some just dont learn! Bout to send them to you!!! lol
💕 I absolutely love your videos! Wish I had people like you around when I was younger! Would have saved me a lot of heartache! However, I'm absolutely grateful for all you share! 💕
This women is a legend. Salute....
Woman*
She’s a saint to me
On godddd
This "woman" not "women" 😒
And Still
You shouldn't have to be a mental patient over a man😅😅😅😅😅
hahahahahhhahaahahahhaahahahahahahahahahha yes
Right
Argh I’ve been there! 🤭
@@Paulina-wg2fv 🤣🤣🤣 and who didn't hahaha thank God we now see what we did
I’ve been a mental patient over a man before. NEVER AGAIN LOL
This knowledge empowers you. The less the better. Expect more. YOU are the force behind a mans success. You brighten up his day week month! He goes into work happier and closes a deal bc he just got laid! Don’t think for a second you don’t have value. Men think they’re the only ones playing games. Take your power back.
Amen😎
LMAO......Stop smoking and doing drugs, you are very delusional 🤣
💯💯💯💯💯
I needed this!
Perioddddd
Mirror their behavior! I always say this.... she’s on point as usual 📝👌🏾
Love June trueee
So true! They end up leaving. The best thing ever is to know the truth as a valued woman
so basically do the same stuff he do to me
Amen
What if he is mirroring me?
i feel liberated. dont ever feel attach to anyone period
Yass
Act like a lady, strategize like a man! Be smart, ladies.
The movie Steve Harvey did on this topic was trash! shera seven the real deal.
Women naturally strategize. Women are just shamed out of it and are called "manipulative" whenever we know how to use our brains. But when a man does it he's called a "boss" or a "finesser"
tips please
@@virgorisingtheory PREACH! 🙏
If you level up, your man will be scared to lose you!
WRONG!
Facts!!!💯💯💯👌
Realiest Jaz -👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿😯👏🏿 right on!
Depends on the guy but yeah it better to level up either way
@ninja lmfao
Men are very emotional. They want to be top guy. Exploit that need. That's why it pays to stand out among other women in some characteristic. Be the smartest, prettiest, or most charming or at least be in the top tier. Men want to compete with other men.
#gem
I like what you said about getting a hobby. And being happy with yourself.
"Men depend on you be emotional in these relationships so that their tricks and games can work."
Not even a minute in and dropping JEWELS. Subscribed!
Facts! I definitely learned this.
cn u explain..arw we suppose to be emotional or not?
@Hina B. Keep your emotions under control, if you felt like you want to smother HIM with love just understand that these are your hormones telling you you need a baby *mother instincts* get a cat or something to smother it instead of him or getting a baby for selfish/temporary needs...beware of men talking about love, it is just a trick to lure you in they have now learned thanks to romantic movies but they do not mean it or feel it the way you think they do so do not allow them to hold your emotions against you especially love but also they might willingly and purposefully drive you crazy so that you would yell in front of everyone while he's calm and this makes you the bad guy in your relationship and people won't help you when you reach out asking for help!
@@hunny585 Also, you can ACT like you are romantic and sh!t but do not feel it, as Shera said in one of her other videos "the world is a stage, play the role you want" ACT feminine, loving, and do everything that could get you your goal (luxurious lifestyle) aim higher than you actually want if you did not shoot the moon you will at least catch the stars around it 👌
This is the tittle. This is #FACTS
Adopting a cat is a good idea for women who have nurturing qualities. Cats need nurturing and they love you as much as you love them. The more you love them, the more they love you. Animals are innocent and offer companionship and love. Loving on a fur baby helps so you don't have to try to give that motherly type of love that SheRa is discussing.
Animals are cool... but umm.. this is advice for humans, lol.
I would much rather be with a cat than with a sack of shit who doesn't appreciate you.
Alexandria Samedi Girl her advice was put that motherly love that you are tempted to give to a man to a cat instead! Reading comprehension
Exactly. Plants too. I have over 100 plants . I give full love and devotion to my 2lb puppy Ocean , my glorious plants and myself. For men , I play the game and never let my guard down. I’m 39, had too many heartbreaks and if I could go back in time … I would have the mentality that I have now. To the younger babes, love the spirit within , worship it like a diamond bc as soon as you do that energetically everyone around you does the same. We only have one life and it’s precious
Yessss and dogs too
This woman is a walking confident aware and beautiful entity. No words. Never found such real actual content with SOLID advice. Clear simple concise and effective.
You are so right i'v never heard of a queen cooking, cleaning or Babysitting. Queen Elizabeth or Queen Cleopatra never did those things, but really was the one in true power. I was married 10 years before my husband was killed. He taught me some much and how to value and love myself. He always reminded me I'm the PRIZE. The Church will definitely teach you how to be a doormat for your husband and not a QUEEN .
That's exactly why I am not religious and don't go to church
The church is the devil when it comes to love...too many holy women there...n thier husbands come on to me loads..I wont go church..to many randy men married to holy women
So true ... everything that you said ... they think that pleasing your husband is being a doormat ... buy you are pleasing him by leveling up and being your most feminine self ... being a doormat is usery as a slave servant wife ... being a true wife is a feminine lady who knows what. aman truely want ... the doormats gets thrown out ... the true wife get put on the pedestal 💕 ... funny, because when she got up to shift to another room so did I get up to get snacks and drinks, etc.... lol
So feminine with her response to these trolls ... love it !💕 never get her out of character ... so lovely
Condolences Queen, my bf was killed in April
If you feel you are very emotional and you react.. just take a walk.. breathe.. drink a glass of water or eat a healthy snack.. you could also journal it out but DONT REACT to a man.. Keep your POWER!
Girl! I do workouts, work on my business, drink water, watch my shows, etc!
The one person who changed my life to 360 degree turn is Shera !! I love you frm the bottom of my heart.. whenever I get sad I just start watching your videos again n again .. you are like a mother who teaches us how to survive in this selfish and manipulative world .. thank you so much for sharing your wisdom .. my favourite RUclipsr❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
ARCHANA BHARDWAJ r u in India I’m in Mumbai
Agree! I've learnt so much from her.❤❤❤🙏🏿
180** 360 means you went right back to where you started
*180 degrees
She's very wise💯
"Get a cat or a dog," and "write it all down and throw it away." Such GREAT tips
Once they see crazy one or two times they’re already looking for a replacement and will tolerate you until they replace you…. She is telling the truth.
My stepmom was crazy from the beginning and my dad still married her. Men can be desperate in love too. In fact crazy women seem married more often than not
There's the pick me crazy and then there's the real crazy.
@@feliznavidad6958it really depends on the man and what he wants. Some like feminine and peaceful and some are addicted to toxicity.
@@RoxyCherryRozy Truth.
I’m crazy 🥲 wish I could take some of it back. He still with me tho so idk
Treat him the exact way they treat you
If you’re over emotional, always have a plan before doing things with him. Keep those goals in mind.
If he does something wrong, we don’t care. Instead of saying “why’d u hurt me” think: how can I benefit from this, how to correct it, how to get revenge”
Need love: get a dog and hobbies
Write it down and throw it away
You go girl- teach them!!!!
yes I really get upset when disappoints me or looks at other ladies more curvy than me ugg...
I really need to do the writing thing and read it over and over.
Then discuss matters in mature and calm manner from now on.
@@daniellamoreno3616 look at other guys too😊
It’s so funny because I have had previous boyfriends admit to me that because I’m so calm and non chalant that they would try to purposely do things to get under my skin. It’s like dude you could set yourself on fire and i would step right over you to get to that atm debit card to withdraw all your funds out of your account before they pronounce you dead. It’s like nice try fool!
Life Ventures yep totally...I feel like some of these people just want to create drama when there is none. When men say they don’t play games or don’t like drama guess what later that night you will get a phone call from the girlfriend they have had for the last 10 years 👋
So true @ men claiming they don't want drama! This happened to me just last week, a wife called me and left a message. I haven't even met the man and already she was calling me.
cate lyn because they love drama. When a man tells me he doesn’t like or that or doesn’t do this or that they are giving you blueprints baby without fail
So true S.C.! Sorry I am extra late with this response
Life Ventures it’s cool girl 😎
I agree. I cant believe grown folks 30 plus still falling head over heels in love when that feeling doesn't last. Let that feeling subside to give you time to assess these clowns LADIES.
Poker Princess now you tell me 🤦🏾♀️
Yes sis I agree OMG .maybe they have never been hurt when they were young.
That's because they surround themselves with low life jealous people..some even are family members.
@@tawanawilliams9618 this part is true. I wasn't really truly hurt like that until recently. I'm 30 it's been rough but I'm ready to let that emotional stuff go.. not worth it lol.
James is never "babe", "love", "honey' ect his just James 😎
Lol
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Great observation
I wish that I had this advice 3 years ago...actually 10 years ago!
I've been saying this! Where was she when I was 18??!!
Yassssssss 10 years ago! Would’ve been perfect!
20 years ago 🙂
20yrs ago
Omg really? Im a teenager myself who has been implementing this advice for YEARS (I have a secret bank account 😘🦋🔐)and I always felt u guys are so lucky U got to have relationships +memories w boys
where money wasn’t on ur mind and don’t get me wrong I have those ... but when I was like 13 and under 😂😬
I guessss if I discovered shera today I wish I would have years ago 😇😇
Many women want marriage and are not prepared for it. They do not have a clue what to expect, what to do ( as a wife) . In order to be a mate to anyone, you have to work on being the best for you.
I started shutting down emotions 4 years ago...and you are so right...more $$$$ flowing my way
😂
I feel so much better since the day I told myself: when you make a decision, ALWAYS put emotions last.
Doing too much is being a pick me. Good advice.
I needed this tonight.Its almost 3 am and I'm up stressing over a player.This helped me so much.Thank you I appreciate every bit of this.
girl, how did it end(
We need the 3 year follow up sis ❤
How did it go
omg please answer us
Waitingggg
SheRa you brought me back to who I truly am after dating dusties. Dating a narcissist made me overly emotional from trauma. Now I’m detached from me emotions and I absolutely love it ❤️
It helps me to maneuver better in life when making decisions
and I tried to put a few ppl on game but they don’t get it...this journey is for me only ❤️❤️❤️...so I’ll receive this game with major appreciation🌹🌹🌹 You are truly a lifesaver and it’s only been 2 weeks.
Yes! That's how it should be.
Yep, dating a narcissist will do that to ya
I just got out of a relationship with my narcissistic husband of 13 years. The world out there is scary and full of nothing but dust so I brought myself here and I watch her videos daily. It is my medicine to the point where I am so detached.
A lot of pick-me questions on the stream today in the beginning of the video. That’s good cause perhaps your message is reaching those who need it the most now. Women need to wake up fast.
Emotions make u weak I WANTS NO PARTS OF EMOTIONS
I did a change in the way I respond to his text messages. I use to text back fast at the time on the day he's coming over. Instead, I wait like an hour to text back to say I am home. He started calling my phone and text a couple times to see was I actually going to be home. lol!!
I hide my crazy well. You can’t blow up on a man every time he does something thts not his best. Showing him you can handle scenarios when things get sticky is a true wife quality. handle a problem without blowing up.
This is where I struggle
@@rwankyo3 me too
Lol when my husband leaves the house, no matter how long he’s gone o say “you’re back already” and smile.
Noted
This is the best reaction
Noted.
Stolen
That's gold 😁
I’ve been binge watching your videos this week. While watching them I’m also laughing my heart out each time you use your favorite term (dusty).
Thank you for all this million dollars worth of information you’ve been sharing with the world. You can only go higher for sharing your knowledge with us.
I love it when she says Dusty
We are all emotional. Women operate on the emotion of fear of loss of security, etc.. Men operate on fear if not measuring up. If you use this then set the bar high by telling him how well you have been treated in the past money wise. Don't say I've never been there (to that fancy ass restaurant).
Poker Princess 😒 ugh I’m mad I am just now reading this
@@highhonor106 You can choose to be happy you read this 5 months ago instead of just now 😂
To adt As if... Act as if that's just nothing to be excited about bc it has already bn done in the past
@@hellosavannah16Guy here. We want women who appreciate new experiences and show us there appreciation. You don’t have to take my advice but i’m just putting that out there.
But this may work on the lame guy who has no respect for himself
I liked how you got back on seemingly annoyed and avoidant James, by keep reminding him you still need him for "his masculine wisdom" , by employing your feminine charm and self control. Ordinary woman would react and feel offended and would start the fight, or would run around him trying to please him, you handled it like a pro. Getting a man is not a key, having a mindset like yours to keep him, is the gold!
I been through all kinds of obsessions with people who don't care about me . I been thought to treat others how i want to be treated . It turn out to be : treat others the way they treat you .
period!
Lead with treating others how you want to be treated, but continue and finish off with keeping the same energy and setting the boundary
I remember when I first watched this video! I didn’t understand it… it seem frivolous and calculated… but now… I completely understand! Your heart and your emotions are your worse enemy nowadays! That being with someone or marrying someone Bc of true genuine love??? That’ll get you fd up every single time! This is not a lie 💯
At first I thought her videos were super long but it's like hanging out with her and she is legendary ... makes me realize how much girl time I need ... you are the sum of the 5 people you are around ... this includes youtubers, lecturers, teacher, etc ... as I observe her demeanor and ways I heal my own femininity and emotions ... learning also from when she calls her husband; she calls his name, not babe and love ... and then she sung his name and calls him often when he's around, letting him know she needs him in a petty way ... so fucken feminine!💕 ... she is such a Siren !!
This video is exactly what I needed after a bad situationship! You are changing lives!
Situationship need to be CUT ✂ AT THE ROOT.
How not to get attached after sex: DONT SLEEP NEAR HIM WHEN IT’s DONE! Seriously we release bonding chemicals after sex which facilitates the same bonding process that happens when you give birth to your child. Either don’t let him cuddle with you after or get up and leave!
Don't have sex, it's easier.
Makes a lot of sense
@@orubek355 exactly
Take a fast shower after and beautify yourself to leave the room and go focus on something else. Fresh start helps not focusing on previous ventures
This works I tried it with my new guy 🤣 he calls me an asshole
'Change the way you think about any situation you find yourself in.' Yes, it may feel almost natural to start getting upset when u call him and he doesn't pick up, but inhale, exhale and choose a different reaction. He doesn't answer ur call, then go for a walk and generate some good feels.
But you shouldn't be calling him in the first place. The only time you call a man is to return his missed call.
@@dontme4132 exactly!!
@@dontme4132 yepppp!!
i cant believe i'"m learning all of this at the age 30, been doing every thing all so wrong
Don't feel bad, you're right on time.
I am older than you are and kicking myself about things I did wrong
You look 60 level up
@@teiatalks1879 On God she do!!😂😂😂😂😂
Lo Hohani 😂😭😭😭 I thought the same thing. 😂😂😂😭😭
Never too old to learn this.
I can tell you still respect James & your very mindful of what you say & act around him. That's good.
You are my subconscious i listen to you daily and you are changing my whole mindset really appreciate you Shera
I also heard a Quote...it says....
"THE PRIMARY CAUSE OF UNHAPPINESS IS NEVER THE
SITUATION BUT YOUR....THOUGHTS...ABOUT IT"
P.S....
By: -Eckhart Tolle- ❤
Facts
You have freed me from so much emotional and mental turmoil.
God bless you
Hi Shera I know this is an older video but I really do appreciate your advice! I had no idea I have made myself a “pick me” by my actions and behaviors. My man and also baby’s father tends to treat me however he wants probably because I have been really emotional and having a tendency to not control my emotions around him. Now I feel like he takes me for granted. He talks to me disrespectfully , is rude and inconsiderate of my feelings and makes rude comments about my appearance and says he is “just joking”. Yeah joking at my expense then saying I am too sensitive. From this day forward I am going to disappear and do my own damn thing. I’m going to make him wonder what the hell I’m doing.
Yasssss and once u start looking good, leave him or act so disinterested that he'll think your are cheating....and then his ass will act right. But dont slack up evem after he acts right
Watching this after a breakup lmao I’m 20 years old and I’m done w these little games. I’m definitely soaking all this advice for the future tysm mama
Girl your coaching me though my relationship🙌🙌😍😍😍😍💯💯
Your advice is music to my ears. Everything you said is exactly what my momma,grandmas,sister have been saying all along. I'm way cuter and younger then my hhubby, and the moment I quit giving a crap if he leaves me,he wants me more.
I’m 43 and I can say most of your advice is point on! Thank you for helping other ladies have their power❤️ I wish you where doing this when I was younger.. you are truly a 🎁 gift.
52 seconds in and I already agree. I'm as sweet as can be, yet I am very unemotional. This is intentional, and I always have to giggle at how it seems to throw people, especially men, just way off. 😊
You should personally mentor teenaged girls. Love this video.
I'm 18 and found out about her a few days ago! I've been binging her videos and I can confidently say I've watched over 6 hours of her and will continue to do so!
I needed this three years ago DAMN!!!
Oh thats Lauren I needed this when I was a teenager. Lol
Oh thats Lauren as long as you have a man then this applies to you. If you haven't dated since a teen then you need to get out more lol!
Same
Thank you for being so real lmao I’m 22 in a 3 year relationship & this gave me a reality check
I think this applies in all circumstances and not just relationships. Great advice.
You ARE NOT FRUMPY!!!! You look 15 yrs younger than your chronological age..and absolutely gorgeous! Being super intelligent and wise only adds to the mix...x
This was a great video, I even took notes so I’ll have references when I sense I’m slipping. I highly recommend these tips for all women, because it works!
I feel so good when I watch your videos. You’re so beautiful. It’s refreshing !
Alot of this goes deeper of why some women attract certain relationships a lot of women didn’t have a great relationship with their father and end up dating the same energy as their father, gone, not giving her attention =money and have mommy issues looking for a sergeant mother! Women who had great fathers I feel most time pick the correct man (provider and protecter)! Ur energy brings a certain man to u so I advise if u didn’t have a good father atleast act lik u did feel that energy of the ideal father and u won’t settle for paying for a man, taking disrespect or lack bc ur own daddy ur first example or should be of a man didn’t put u through that! Just think if uve always had a man with a car do u go back to a man riding the bus? Nope! Unless u being the Man U never had! Be aware of what energy ur in and attracting, lack or abundance?!
Yes this is true.. Reverse psychology def works..
Loving these back to back videos!!!
If you feel like you're gonna cry, clear your throat. it helps.
James don't want to answer no questions 😂leave that man alone.
You need your own office with sound proof doors!! Great tips!
the more i listen and understand the more angry i get at the situation and having a goal is the best solution ive ever heard your channel is truely amazing thank you
This woman has changed my dating game I used to be a pick me basica, desperado now am the shit
wow listening to these videos has made realized how so many Mothers of the women chatting, have not taught them self love and respect for self. The loss of healthy fathers in womens lives also have taught them no strategies and to not value them selves. Men and women definition of love are different. Alot of these women are in love with Love not understanding that love. Loves itself. That's why there is so much heartbreak and misunderstanding. The mindset is women want security from a man, to protect and provide but Men will tell you a little companionship some cookie and a nice meal and to respect there me time. They just want fun occasionally which could be traveling and common interest.
Companionship, cookie, a nice meal and respect me time. You just described my last "relationship" lol
I keep coming back to this video to knock some sense in myself.
I wish I was unbothered like her. Taking notes. My ex tried to gaslight me saying I'm bitter when I listed all the hurtful things he did to me and why I left him.
I told him it's not bitter, it's being serious and firm about not putting myself in the way to be hurt by him again.
Shera might tell a joke but never a lie… I watch this once a month to keep me on track.
Iam gonna download the video to listen to it everyday
So true....I have two coworkers who sweat this guy.....and I don't....the guy is always at my desk in general conversation..( I say hi and bye)... and they literally come out of their work spaces when they hear him at my desk.. it's hilarious to watch
Was looking for advice but I realized in my mother already took it all in this video 😂 seems like a lot of manipulation. But I understand though. Being a honest girl gets u stepped on for real.
Ive been watching Shera for a few years... it was magic that brought me to her... this video here is the MOST conclusive on dating game in one video. Shera gave more game here than one can handle in 40 min lol. In dating or choosing a mate or developing standards.... this is the only advice any one needs. Build around this structure and you ladies can never go wrong. And as yall see... her man.. a man... cant even dispute this.
what if you've acted crazy a few times . he gone yet keeps in touch gives money pays bills and has acts like nothing happens . No sex involved
@@brendacampbell2597 get that money 💰 and mirror his behavior
Living with a man can keep him from marrying you because he already has husband benefits.
I wish I watched this video before I acted like a child that needs to be fed this weekend 😩😩😩😩😩😩 I will never cry be loud be angry and question him ever again
Hidaya Hidaya 😂 same
Me too😅
i like the idea of finding another reason to be with a man if the 1st reason failed you. get what you can get
You make so much sense … I love that you share this content. It is amazing how messy women appear being emotionally attached- game changer thank you!
You’re like the sister I always wanted. Thank you for your videos. They help.
I really need these type of videos..I only need emotions for my son, close family and friends. This guy at my job keep telling me about what he wants to do but can’t even do the simple things like buy me lunch. I know closed mouths don’t get fed but he’s not offering to do the bare minimum but he thinks I believe he will take me on trips. He wants to text me all day at work but don’t nothing at work. He offers dinner but I told him I don’t have the time right now, so I feel like if you wanted me, you would do something now instead of outside of work.
This is exactly i need to hear. I wish i found you years ago. Thank you...thank you.
I wish I came across this channel sooner. I am learning so much. Thank you Queen 🙌🏿
You are so strong and honest!! I came up on your channel a few days ago and I absolutely love it!! It literally feels like your talking to me over the phone or face-to-face ! Lol..it feels so personal. I absolutely love advice!..I’m taking it and running with it!!!💯 you gamed up Shera! Your wisdom and advice is vital!♥️♥️
You are telling me all the things my momma forgot and it’s so great 😍😍😍😍😍😍👍🏻
James is a smart man.
Shera you have litterly changed my life. Keep helping us do better and leveling up. Thank you for all that you do.❤
I want to share your video to a couple friends but I can't youre my secret weapon💫#LOWKEYPRICELESSADVICE❣
LOVE JOY if you are a real friend you would want your friends to level up too
LOVE JOY I feel like this too! I wanna share but they aren’t gonna understand anyway sooooooo - keeping my secret
Don't throw your pearls to swine ✊
I’m so thankful I found your channel
I forgot what emotions are in dating. Savage mood.
I love you, Your da Bomb ... you help alot of ladies. Im surrounded by females ... I be on them just like you... Some just dont learn! Bout to send them to you!!! lol
I tried her advice and it 100% works
Aww he fell in love at first sight❤️. A well-trained man😆😉
THIS IS GOLD! THANK YOU, SHERA !
She looks like Lisa Ray!!! She is so dammm pretty!!!
You nailed it.
Omg!!! I need a consultation with you. Everything you described is me. I'm super sensitive,and super jealous. I be ready to fight
No man deserves that hunney act like you don't care ever realized when you stop caring about your ex he comes chasing more dont care act like you dont
After being fucked over numerous times, I simply don't give a flying fuck anymore. So this method, works perfectly for me 💰💸😂😎
This is so empowering and liberating. I feel so powerful just by listening.
We trust in shera
You are definitely right about having the goal.
💕 I absolutely love your videos! Wish I had people like you around when I was younger! Would have saved me a lot of heartache! However, I'm absolutely grateful for all you share! 💕