I'm turned 63 this year. I feel the same. I was a loner when I was younger and now I enjoy being a loner even more so. I don't make friends with those who are annoying. I read, work in my garden and exercise in my home. I'm very happy 👍🏻
I’m 63 as well and I couldn’t have said it better.I read, write, exercise, sing and do all the things that make me happy.I’ve distanced myself from negative people and have even deleted my FB account which was filled with toxic people. I’ve never been more happy than right now.
I am 65, same here i dont care what people think about me, i am happy being widowed for 8 yrs now, i do my grocery whenever i want, all my 5 children are all proffesional now and 3 of them are married,.i am happy with my life now,
1. don't care what people think 2. don't put up with assholes 3. don't have expectations of people 4. don't set complex goals 5. don't try to keep busy
Great points there. I'm well past 60 now and I do enjoy the fact that people ignore you as you grow older, it's a peaceful time and we are the privileged few who made it.
I felt ignored as a young man because I was nice. Jerks seemed to get all the attention. Don’t care what people think started years ago. I am what I am. Try not to beat myself up over past bad decisions and get on living while I can.
At my age I'm mostly just trying to emulate my dog as much as possible: -empty my bladder, etc -eat/drink something (whatever is handy) -run around a little -lie down
I retired just one year ago; no savings, just Social security, Small pension. Moving in a non-assistant "retirement" apartment, the government subsidized low income. Free bus pass, I'm single, Never married, no kids. Live on $15 a day, good health so far at 64, I just walk 4 miles 3 times a week, no car. Loving life, take it easy, take naps, do what I want to do, which is not much: I think I have the "Lazy" gene!
I'm 61 and what you're saying happened to me without realizing it at first.I don't care what people think, i stay away from assholes. I'm friendly and respect people but only if they are friendly and show respect towards me too.
@@erikramaekers63 Hi - I’m 76 and we appear to have similar life outlooks. To my discredit and over a Long period of time i have allowed negative and counterproductive actions to overtake me. In the last two years I have become aware of these actions and have taken stock of my situation and am actively trying to put into practice small but achievable strategies to realign my life as i move forward …
Yeah, I’m 63 and I’ve adopted that attitude. My saying is from the Mr. in between show if you cool with me, I’m cool with you if you’re an asshole to me I’m probably just gonna walk away and not even pay attention.
I live in Gosport down south and here it's like To many Chiefs and not enough Indians. Most people think they know it all and are just arse holes. I just ignore them and don't get involved
Yours are very people based, mine are , 1. Dont read the news, it just irritates me 2. Don't worry about money, just spend what I need as I never have to worry about a wage any more 3. Stop buying 'stuff' We declutter and get a large skip each year and just chuck, feel much freer. 4. Dont do things that could damage your health, like trying skateboard, motor cycling, jumping on things. Muscular damage can take ages to repair, months or longer. 5. Totally agree about not trying to be busy, I have some days when I am busy, like laying some block paving, other days I just chill. My goal is to do one thing a day, then the day is mine.
I really like your comment. Clearing out - "making space" I call it - is very important. It makes you feel lighter and joyful. Give away as much as you can to charity shops and associations that help people or animals. The great luxury is having very few deadlines 😃😺
I retired at 50. Over 10 years now. Made my own list like you and followed them. I’m not living “the” dream. I’m living “my” dream. Thanks for sharing. Some good advice
I’m 69 and I’m the happiest I have been since retirement. No more have to do this. Do that. Go here go there. Just being home doing what I feel like doing. I am busy. I’m out and about enjoying life. Relaxing at the coffee shop and book stores. Keeping my house clean. I love my home. Shopping reading my books cooking up delicious meals for my husband and I. Life is good.
I started cooking more during Covid. Including making many of my mom's recipes that I had stashed in a binder I had forgotten about. I'm getting better.
Enjoyed that nick ,I'm 57 and have already started some of these definitely about not caring about what people think and wasting time you with people I don't even like 😂
Hi, it’s not I don’t care, it’s who’s opinion I value and the realisation that life is too short to be upset. Smile, breath and move on, I’m still happy. Take care M.
Sorry! Opinions are an integral part of free speech. I agree it is maybe wrong to insult someone, but some people are irredeemable in their actions and words e.g. the outgoing Tory crooks.
I'm 67 and I agree with everything you've said. I'd also add that you can be your own best friend because no one stays in your life forever and it's good to create boundaries, especially with toxic and guilt tripping people etc.
I wrapped up work at 59 due to Stress and too many hours...At 60 last year i was diagnosed with Cancer and had the Surgery and Chemo which finished in June. 12 months on it has returned and my outcome does not look good atm..Moral of the Story do not put all your life in to work and if possible retire before 67 if you are a male...Good luck..
I am 59 in a month's time. Since becoming very sick and having to medically retire, I adopted these measures (+ a few more) 4 years ago - all power to you and enjoy your retirement !
Love your videos. They really hit home with me because I feel the same way. I don’t have time to suffer fools so I don’t. I’m 72 and I’m concentrating on enjoying every day no matter what that entails.
Thanks. I'm 66 and working part time (3d/wk) since January 2024. I've been an Interventional Cardiologist in a high powered practice for > 30yrs. I have (since January) elected to do office only, no interventions (no procedures, no ER, no night call, no wk-ends, no holidays etc.,) Sometimes I transiently struggle with the "guilt" of not staying full time and contributing more to my family, my patients and my practice. That being said, I can also say that I am enjoying this part of life more than I could have imagined. For the first time in over 40 years (since internship) I sleep without interruption! You seem very comfortable with your current status (retired) however I wonder if you had any of the transient tugs of doubt toward your decision in the beginning. Thanks again.
Excellent video. It's not so much being 60 or any other age but being retired and having a pension or other income that you cannot be sacked from. Pure independence.
Hello from Brazil! Watching your video and reading quite a few of the comments, I've realized that people from all over the world seem to share the same outlook on life after 60, particularly a lack of interest in other people's opinions, fruitless arguments, and putting up with assholes. I am 62 and, besides what I just said, after 60, I also decided to leave the big city life (I am from São Paulo, the biggest city in Brazil) and move to a much smaller, quieter town. I am retired now and beginning to come to terms with your item number 5, not feeling the urge to keep busy. That's the hardest for me, but I'm getting there. Thank you for this video!!
I get you Nick. I stopped working at 70. I'm 73 and like doing things: cooking, baking , working out (still have 6 pack abs and well muscled), mtn biking, walk the dog (dog walks me) 30000 steps most days, help my family out with lawn cutting. I do take a complete rest day every week. Definitely like meeting motivated younger people. Canadian winter's on its way so, I enjoy the winter as much as the spring, summer and fall. I want the prettiest corpse ever when my I pass.
I am you! I would add a sixth point if you dont mind me saying. It would be ' I dont do OPD' OPD stands for other peoples dramas. My daughter is a manager in food retail. She was telling me about staff issues she has with people phoning in and giving all sorts of reasons why they cant get to work. I told her to cut the chat short with a simple question, are you coming in or not. Dont do OPD. She told me it transformed that aspect of management. Another thing I use is JFDI. That standsfor 'just effing do it' cut the crap.
Good points! It would be best if you had also mentioned that all of them have a common root: at some point in life you became SECURE in who you are. Once you achieve that, all else follows...
Having retired 2 years ago, 60th birthday next week, this latest posting is absolutely on the nail for me. Liberating and re-affirming. Good advice all round. Keep up the good vids.
I’m 66 and at 60 was diagnosed with a cancer. Shortly after completing my treatment I was offered and took retirement. I’ve never regretted that decision. It was a catalyst for me to reevaluate my life. One of the things I did was to get rid of all the junk and unnecessary possessions I’d accumulated. If I hadn’t used or looked at something in the previous three years (excepting my wedding photos) out it went.
Very good advice. I am 61 now and I moved From Somerset England to retire in the U.S at 56 I started buying Motorcycles and going for long rides in the very quiet roads here in Connecticut. Your 3rd point is something I need to adopt. I am constantly dissapointed with people and I really need to stop because people suck mostly and I get upset with them and it ends up hurting me more than them. Great advice I shall attempt to follow some of those rules myself.
@jag1963 yeah I bought some old classic bikes I've always wanted , 49 matchless g80 54 b33 , 73 commando , 75 t160 , my dads old GL1000 , and a klr650 for the ruff stuff . 🙂
I just turned 71 this week. Over the years, my priorities have evolved. Your list is excellent. As I've gotten older, my ability to identify BS has improved a lot. However, my tolerance for BS has gone way down. Being retired, my social circle is all but gone and I'm ok with that. I'm down to immediate family (sister, wife, sons and grandchildren). I've learned to identify and avoid what I call "artificial urgency". Out of habit, we all tend to assign urgency to things that are not urgent. This has been a great stress reducer for me. There's an old country song that says, "all I have to do is live and die, I'm in a hurry and don't know why".
I would add no: 6 Stop putting your hand into your pocket for your adult children! Let them take full responsibility for their success and failures. How much time and money have they given you after 60?
This fixation on the wellbeing of children and grandchildren instead of ones own does really gets onto my nerves. These people allways apear so empty and dependent to me, as if they got no interest of their own. I mean, I am still interested in my kids, but I am not fixated on them, they never were the only thing in the whole world I really cared for..
I just turned 70 and am wrestling with this right now. I am thinking of setting aside $100k for my only grandchild’s college education. She is only 2. Her parents both work so they could figure it out but I’d like to make their life a bit easier and I can afford it.
@@sheneedsme That I totally understand and even agree with totally. We still do our best to provide for our offspring. Thats what a docent person does. But to be only interested in these babys and toddlers instead of quantum mechanics, near death experiences, politics, the classic writers, nature, dogs, cats, horses, medicine, natural healing, astronomy, astrology, philosophy - well that' s quiet another bird...
I’m 73 and only now am I realizing these truths. Especially not caring what people think of me. Most are jealous anyway. Also, and still working on it, trying not to feel guilty about not finding something to busy myself with instead of just relaxing and enjoying the life I have left.
Fellow York resident here and I 100% agree with the list and attitude. I retired at 60 and am now 64, after having had a technical career in aviation it took me 2 years to stop having the phone by my side 24/7 ready to deal with issues that were no longer my concern. I had to learn how to go to bed and get up when I feel like it and not feel guilty for not keeping to a disciplined schedule. I too just use my Google calendar to organise my life and loosely stick to it as I have learned to be flexible with things to best suit myself. The biggest thing to becoming content was accepting that I am no longer working in my past career and no longer have those responsibilities or concerns to worry about. My income is less but everything is covered and I also have less outgoings, I have learned to live with my new circumstances and to be honest I am now loving it.
At 35 I sat with a notebook to brainstorm retirement - revisiting the topic about every 5th yr - over time these ideas tweaked and changed but I always kept investing and saving, embracing my career rather than looking for something new. There is always this idea that you should be working at your passion - well that's not always possible so don't worry about it.
I turned 60 this year and I’m very lucky as I work in a company where the younger employees involve us older ones in their social events. The other evening I was walking through the town centre to meet them for drinks, and as I walked this realisation suddenly hit me, I was walking those very same streets to meet my friends for a drink when I was 20. 40 years ago…..OMG where did that time go.
That's cool. If not work, then a club you enjoy will do the same thing. I retired at 65. Miss my work mates, but decided to join a naturist club. Best thing I ever did.
I turn 60 in two days, and I applaud you and this post Nick. Every point you made is 100% so valid for how I am starting to see things in life. One thing I do now, without even thinking about it is to live life to the fullest, do what you enjoy, don't wait or waste a second thinking about whether you should do this, or do that - just do it.
Wise words and good advice as always. I have only been retired for a few months and still adjusting to a new life style. One thing i don't miss about working are the stressfull days trying to please too many people at once. The one i am trying to do is keep active and now i walk a lot more than i ever have. It will take time to reach my ideal weight, but at last it is going down. Looking forward to your next video.
@@nickjmaher I am the same, if i sit in front of my PC for too long it takes ages to start moving easily again. As soon as i get a slight pain in my thighs i know it's time to take a walk.
Great video mate. I’m an Australian approaching 60 and I like your list although number one was always something my late father who passed last year drummed into me, a la “ be a good person, stand up for yourself, do the right thing so you can sleep at night and don’t give a crap about what anyone thinks”. I have a missing youth and a few broken ones and I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks.
Absolutely spot on Nick. I retired at 67 and enjoying the freedom of not dealing with people every day. I too had goals and budgets and so relieved to be away from it all. My goals these days are to wake up and enjoy my day. I still go to the gym at 6am and enjoy my time with my new wife of just under two years. She is retiring early next week and will be enjoying time away in our caravan. Thank you for the informative video
Excellent video. I didn't realize you're English by your accent but figured it out based on the scenery. I'm American. Some of my ancestors were from Yorkshire and I still have very distant cousins there. I will be 78 in a few days and I retired at 73 because I really liked my job but it became a chore to do the work for a huge corporation. I don't have ambitious plans and do what I feel like doing each day. I'm mostly feeding my obsessive reading habit. No more must-do chores. What freedom!
I grew up in York and enjoy watching the streetscapes and hearing your accent. I've lived overseas for the past 30 years, am 55 and am retiring next year. Great advice.
I was able to retire before 60 and I don't regret the decision one bit. I have followed the same 5 rules which has kept me sane and happy. I have hobbies which I have kept up with...music, working with horses, hiking and camping. I am 69 now. Still going fairly strong despite a couple of health setbacks. Playing in a small local orchestra which keeps me on top of my violin playing and continually learning new music keeps the brain sharp. You offer great advice!
Nick! I just came upon this vid and I love it! 64 years here, and feeling pretty good, no prescriptions and not bad shape for the years. You are spot on with these ideas, I think it's easy to see that after 60, it's just clear that life has too little left to keep let these things add unnecessary stress. Even if we get many more years to come, there's certainly no value in letting negatives add to life's burdens. I will be retired soon enough, and I look forward to boosting my photography hobby, keeping my mind sharp with another hobby which is an offshoot of my career experience, and getting back to my studies in ancient Greek. Maybe I'll further a writing habit from younger days with poetry. If I found myself in your part of the world, I'd love to buy you a lunch and visit.
I really enjoyed your vid. I just turned 62 . My life has evolved spot on to your list , except I’m not retired … My small business I treated like a fun hobby , I don’t make a lot of money , but I enjoy my days working …
Thanks for this list. I am between worlds.. at 53, still working a remote 40 hour corporate gig that is high stress, but eyeing retirement, learning to relax a bit, not push so hard, and apply more "old man" wisdom in my life. I too follow the mood swings.. if i'm not feeling it.. i dont do what I had planned. I wait until it feels enjoyable to do, at least I do that approach as much as I can. Sometimes life demands otherwise! THank you for your perspective.
New subscriber here. You videos are helping me to plan and adjust to my imminent retirement. I'm just now turning 57 and I've been working now for 38 years. I know that it will be an adjustment. I will be retiring when I turn 60. My wife is retiring in 3 months after 40 years working in her job. Thank you for your advice.
Nick, you’re a straight-up wise man. I wrote a similar five-point list last year and four of the five points were identical. I retired at 51 and am 58 now so i got on to this way of thinking well before 60. Keep expectations low, dont allow negative energy people to bring you down, and be confident that you know what is best for you. Strength to ya!
Hi, I’m approaching 70 and what a great list , with you 100%. A few years back I read a hugely popular book called “the subtle art of not giving a fk” by Mark Manson, it was a game changer for me mentally. I think the hardest thing for me on your list is trying not to feel guilty not doing anything productive especially coming from an engineering background while the most liberating is not giving a damn what people think about me. 😀
You understand what matters in life, what happiness is about, and you look at the world from the right perspective. That's wisdom. Thanks for sharing it.
I think we are brothers from another mother. We are the same age, and I retired at 49. I agree with everything you said and think that the way you are living in your retirement is the way to a long and stress-free life. Before I retired, I was EXTREMELY technical and driven at my job. That time of my life was always with the goal of being able to live the style of life I have now in retirement.
Really enjoyed this video. I’m 68 and went through a huge change in my life at 65 as I went through a tough divorce. I resettled far away from where I was located and started over from scratch with little to be honest . Well in a little over 3 years I have settled in and did a huge turn around completely changing my life . I too am applying your changes . Cheers from the good old Tennessee USA 🇺🇸
I find your video inspiring. I turn 62 in a couple of months. Just before my 60th birthday I also made some serious life changes. I gave up a 45 year addiction to cigarettes, a 30+ year addiction to morphine, and a 15 year addiction to Valium. I've been clean now for almost 2 years, and I'm never going back. I've even begun a daily exercise regime. Funny how the milestone of 60 years old makes some of us awaken and reshape our lives.
Completely agree with the list. Another thing on my list, to pursue relationships that just don’t work. I don’t have the time. For instance moved to a new place… I figured quickly some neighbors are nice but nothing in common. Zero chemistry. Beyond be cordial on the street, that’s enough for me.
Hey Nick Maher, I just stumbled upon your channel and really enjoyed your manner and delivery! As an American here in Los Angeles (and an admitted Anglophile) I have made around 30 plus trips to your country and love it. Good friendships through the years that have been purposefully nurtured and plan to be back over next year!! Cheers
Thanks. Your list was what I needed for clarity on my 60th and still having a bit of trouble with most of those things right there. Your frank, yet casual, approach to them is reassuring.
Excellent list! I’ve taken up walking the repurposed rail lines around New England. Last week I took a dead dried out pine branch, sanded it, trimmed it, oiled it and now have a beautiful walking stick. Loving the Autumn walks!
Im a 55 yr old retiree living in Washington state, USA. I would enjoy just walking around town w/ someone like you, conversing about human nature and such. I too follow a similar philosophy about enjoying what precious time we have left. Cheers!
Wow! I turned 60 in March 2024 and everything your said is completely true. I retired early at age 56. Life is different now. I spent my whole life in leadership roles. Nowadays, I don't enjoy being "in charge". I volunteer at different roles but recoil from being in any leadership role. I like being a subordinate.
Thanks for this. I'm approaching 70, and thinking about several of these. I have tended to be anxious about a lot of things/people in my life (including assholes) and I've been letting that tendency lapse. I do have goals, but like you, not definitive, and "musts". Really liked the one about not worrying if you're not "feeling it" on a given day and it's OK to take the day off. Used to worry about what people might think- before realising that almost certainly nobody is thinking anything about what I'm doing on any given day. Cheers.
Loving this comment - I am 71 and totally understand where you are coming from - the problem starts when your family ( the young ones ) still think I should be racing around doing "stuff" every day. I have found the answer to that is switch the phone off - they understand now - (it took time to educate them ) - that I want to be left alone with my thoughts just for a little while at least and chill out.
Good list! At 63 myself retirement will be at 65. Many of the things you listed I have started ahead of schedule and I’ve been surprised how well it serves me at my work. Currently I am more efficient and productive than I have ever been and also feel quite satisfied and happy with my job. To genuinely quit being concerned with other peoples opinions was very liberating. It did not come easily as I lived most my working life trying very hard to satisfy most everyone around me whenever possible. It appears these last couple working years are going to be an enjoyable breeze and my retirement attitude is on track as well. Thanks for the talk 👍
All great things! I work with people and I'm constantly teaching them these things. I just turned 60 and I've been doing these things for at least the last 20 years and I'm so much happier than most of the people I know... great video and you got yourself anew subscriber!
I'm 66, was medically retired 6 years ago. I don't miss the world of work one iota. It has changed for many into a awful toxic environment. New managers straight out of Uni, no people skills. Make up for their incompetence by being abusive. Previous company I worked for 18 years. Was bought out and new aggressive management brought in. They lost their best staff who wouldn't put up with the new regime. Now I'm not stressed, don't have a lot of money partly because of being a single carer for my mentally disabled son this last 35 years. But, am much happier.
Thank you very much for the advice. Working in the medical field I was very structured. At 67 I don't have the drive or energy to be perfect or the energy especially after caring for my husband before he passed. Thank you again. This advice takes the pressure off of me 😊
In this time of opinions, I've developed a genuine love for others, that is more important than my personal opinionated opinion. I'm 68 and loving it, really. I've calmed down a lot. But still busy because, I love helping others, with my wealth of construction knowledge and action., all for no charge. So liberating, and I get a lot of thank yous and praise, which is so nice.
Really enjoyed watching your walkabout. Im 60 and still enjoying my trade as a pipefitter/plumber. I work with 18 to 68 year old tradesmen on my jobs and have a laugh every day. Since close family members and friends have been passing away with alarming frequency in the last 2 or 3 years, ive been looking a lot more at the time i have left in my life and how best to not waste it. Ive become a kid again, bought and ride a couple motorcycles and even started playing guitar again after years. Hopefully my health continues to be good as life is pretty good now. Anyway, thank you for taking us for a walk with you. Cheers from northern Ontario, Canada
I just turned 60 and I completely agree. In the last year my views have changed. I also don’t care what others think. I also don’t spent time around toxic people. Enjoy your video. Hope to see more.
I like your philosophy on life after retirement. I've been retired now for three years, and have lived by all of those things. One other thing that I've incorporated since retirement, I've been extending my gratitude to those who did make my life better during my working years. And it's those people that are the only ones I keep touch with from then. I've also mapped out my own loose tentative financial strategy for my family, and how I intend to try and help them by making their lives a little bit more comfortable. And yes, by not being so disciplined onto my daily schedule, it relaxes me. Despite being a person used to loath procrastination and who adhered to timelines and deadline. I still get things done, but I just don't stress myself out to get them done just this minute. There's no 'guilt' hanging over my head anymore. LIFE'S GOOD!
Brilliant video and have subscribed! Definitely a big thumbs up from me! I adopted this frame of mind about 10 years ago. I am 66 now and have lived in Madeira for 20 years. Since 'retirement' I have run a theatre show on the island for 10 years, been a celebrity portrait artist, written and published 14 books, I run a a quiz night at a local Irish pub once a week and 5 months ago became a RUclipsr doing art videos! My lifestyle suits me perfectly. I live in paradise, it is quiet and just the way I want it. I go out if I want to, I stay in if I want, I associate with whom I want and most importantly of all, have learned to say no. Really enjoyed listening to you! Thank you for the smile! Have a wonderful day! 💚💙
I don't queue to do anything I don't want to do anymore. I was in a supermarket and wanted to use the self service with my trolly of shopping rather than queue but madam told me only baskets for self service so I said are you going to open more checkouts then or are they just going to carry on yapping? She just said no trolleys and pointed to a daft sign so I gently pushed the trolly towards her and said you might get one if those (ladies yapping) to put that lot back because I'm not queuing and walked out. I was delighted with myself I have all day to do what I want and no one is telling me when I can or can't do it so I went to Tesco instead and uses their shop & scan 😊
Great video, thanks. I'm 61 and retired 9 months ago, am loving it, and completely agree with your 5 points. One other thing I'd add is don't put off anything you want, or want to do - life is short, just go for it!
I stopped panning my life out and setting goals and targets long ago as they were usually based on my own selfish desires and never came to fruition. furthermore over time priorities change. Take care of my money, set a coarse and keep an eye open for opportunity's...they come out of nowhere when you least expect it. Looking back now, I'm sure glad that my big plans and goals never worked out. Good video. Avoiding assholes is only possible when retired...in the workplace, you most often can't pick who you work with.
Interesting! I left emploment at 43 years of age, for some of the reasons below. But found my way out in working only connected with my passions. At 73 I run my business in the Caribbean feeling like I am 23.
I'm also in the same mindset. . . at 66 I've had it with trying to find a compatible woman to love and be loved by. Had a close relationship last year with a 68 year old woman but it only lasted 6 months . . she was quite demanding and was in a fixed routine.. to my chagrin. At my stage in life I just want to relax and do what I want, when I want and where ever I want lol.
I feel the same. I lost my husband a few years ago and don't want another relationship after him. My life is quite full enough - I took up scuba diving after he died and spent my weekends and holidays underwater. I don't think a potential partner would be happy with that and I'm not prepared to give it up. I've become selfish with my time - I don't have much time left where I can do what I want when I want and I'm going to enjoy it.
I'm 59 and still manically running 3 businesses. Don't know any different and don't have an exit strategy, money's tight, the economy is tough, no retirement in sight but we keep going until we drop!
Since my 40,s I’ve stopped visiting family who can be nasty as in 2 faced,as for friends most are gone but I easily make friends being a musician,neighbors can be real nasty I’ve no time for them now in my early 60,s health in tatters so take it easy enjoy my community garden,great place for meeting new volunteers.
I am still working two jobs I have enjoyed for the last 34 years. I just turned 60 and my attitude has always been not to care what people think. I will slow down to one job soon. I have been married for over 35 years with 4 kids and could not ask for more. We must be thankful to God for what has been given good or bad. I will work till I die because I love it. Whenever God takes me home it is fine with me. I have had a good run. That is all you can ask for.
Same here! Caring for other people’s opinion, keeping relationships that are problematic, having high achievement goals were not difficult to ditch early on. I felt guilty not being productive or not addressing my priorities in good order. It takes time to learn and adapt.
Hi Nick, I retired two years ago at age 67. Now almost 70. I totally agree with all your points. I've never seen any of your videos until this one. I have to think we'd be great friends if I lived in York. I am in Cambridge, Ontario, Canada. New subscriber. All the best.
Near 60. I have done the following: 1: Don't believe anything that government or it's affiliated corporations say. Assume they are lying to you and you will be right 99% of the time 2: I don't expend much (if any) energy trying to make more or new friends. Waist of precious time better spent on more important things. 3: I avoid any drama of family or friends if at all possible. 4: Keeping my circle of interaction with the general public to a minimum. There are too many sue happy greedy self centered people who would gladly ruin your life for a dollar. 5. More focus on preparation (personal and for close family) for what we all know is heading out way politically, financially, socially, environmentally and nationally. Most don't want to think about it let alone prepare for it. Getting older makes you see fewer days ahead than behind. So time is more valuable than money. Use it wisely.
I can't retire til 67. I'm 56 now and have already switched my career for a 9 to 5 job, my own business where I work alone. I don't want any drama, I don't chase anything, I just want the quiet life. I cannot wait to stop working
@@nickjmaher cheers Nick. I'm a barber now. The job is fine, I could do it forever, I just don't enjoy being around people! The constant chat drives me insane
The handful of people I associate with are, generally, a few years younger than myself. The downside then is that I engage in only the occasional conversation with someone who can easily understand my context. I felt that, listening to you on your walk. Cheers for having me along, mate. You have a new subscriber. Happy Holidays.
I'm turned 63 this year. I feel the same. I was a loner when I was younger and now I enjoy being a loner even more so. I don't make friends with those who are annoying. I read, work in my garden and exercise in my home. I'm very happy 👍🏻
Thanks for sharing!! As long as your happy, that’s all that matters.
Same here. 62 next and never been happier.
I’m 63 as well and I couldn’t have said it better.I read, write, exercise, sing and do all the things that make me happy.I’ve distanced myself from negative people and have even deleted my FB account which was filled with toxic people.
I’ve never been more happy than right now.
Will be 63 soon, and I'm just like you, love being by myself with myself. Can't wait to retire soon so I can avoid people more.
I am 65, same here i dont care what people think about me, i am happy being widowed for 8 yrs now, i do my grocery whenever i want, all my 5 children are all proffesional now and 3 of them are married,.i am happy with my life now,
1. don't care what people think
2. don't put up with assholes
3. don't have expectations of people
4. don't set complex goals
5. don't try to keep busy
Spot on!
In a nut shell!
Why wait until you are sixty? I did that most of my life including my military service. I would not change thing.
Thank you for summarizing.
Saved me 12 minutes and 38 seconds. Thank you!
Great points there. I'm well past 60 now and I do enjoy the fact that people ignore you as you grow older, it's a peaceful time and we are the privileged few who made it.
Thanks for your endorsement.
yeah i experience that alot ..
I felt ignored as a young man because I was nice. Jerks seemed to get all the attention. Don’t care what people think started years ago. I am what I am. Try not to beat myself up over past bad decisions and get on living while I can.
Same here. And one can learn so much just by being invisible and observing ☺️.
At my age I'm mostly just trying to emulate my dog as much as possible:
-empty my bladder, etc
-eat/drink something (whatever is handy)
-run around a little
-lie down
And have someone tickle your …. tummy! 🤣
@@nickjmaher And, literally, go around sniffing other people's arseholes! 🤣🤣
Perfect!
This is beautiful!
@chriswright6447 i thought i was just lazy! 🙂
I retired just one year ago; no savings, just
Social security,
Small pension.
Moving in a non-assistant "retirement" apartment, the government subsidized low income. Free bus pass, I'm single,
Never married, no kids. Live on $15 a day, good health so far at 64, I just walk 4 miles 3 times a week, no car. Loving life, take it easy, take naps, do what I want to do, which is not much: I think I have the
"Lazy" gene!
I appreciate you sharing your story.
my soul mate!
Hey junkpyle sounds like my life in Australia , less is definitely more , more or less.
God bless you❤❤
@@junkPyle-rv1kk yup. Good life. Simple and sweet
I'm 61 and what you're saying happened to me without realizing it at first.I don't care what people think, i stay away from assholes. I'm friendly and respect people but only if they are friendly and show respect towards me too.
Thanks for your comment.
Well said.
@@erikramaekers63 Hi - I’m 76 and we appear to have similar life outlooks. To my discredit and over a Long period of time i have allowed negative and counterproductive actions to overtake me. In the last two years I have become aware of these actions and have taken stock of my situation and am actively trying to put into practice small but achievable strategies to realign my life as i move forward …
Yeah, I’m 63 and I’ve adopted that attitude. My saying is from the Mr. in between show if you cool with me, I’m cool with you if you’re an asshole to me I’m probably just gonna walk away and not even pay attention.
I live in Gosport down south and here it's like To many Chiefs and not enough Indians. Most people think they know it all and are just arse holes. I just ignore them and don't get involved
67, and you are spot on. I worked my butt off for over 50 years and I am going to enjoy every remaining day on my terms.
Thanks for your endorsement.
Yours are very people based, mine are , 1. Dont read the news, it just irritates me 2. Don't worry about money, just spend what I need as I never have to worry about a wage any more 3. Stop buying 'stuff' We declutter and get a large skip each year and just chuck, feel much freer. 4. Dont do things that could damage your health, like trying skateboard, motor cycling, jumping on things. Muscular damage can take ages to repair, months or longer. 5. Totally agree about not trying to be busy, I have some days when I am busy, like laying some block paving, other days I just chill. My goal is to do one thing a day, then the day is mine.
I appreciate you sharing your list.
Try to make people laugh !!
@@marcellavlooijen3605 And if you don't succeed at that, laugh at your own jokes anyway! (who cares what people think)
I really like your comment. Clearing out - "making space" I call it - is very important. It makes you feel lighter and joyful. Give away as much as you can to charity shops and associations that help people or animals. The great luxury is having very few deadlines 😃😺
Love your list
I retired at 50. Over 10 years now. Made my own list like you and followed them. I’m not living “the” dream. I’m living “my” dream. Thanks for sharing. Some good advice
Great job! Thanks for your endorsement.
I love that. Not everyone has the same idea of what “living the dream” is. Staying true to yourself is so important.
Nice attitude!🙏✌️❤️
@@vickyb9918 exactly! Worst thing you can do is design your retirement to a model someone else made.
I’m 69 and I’m the happiest I have been since retirement. No more have to do this. Do that. Go here go there. Just being home doing what I feel like doing. I am busy. I’m out and about enjoying life. Relaxing at the coffee shop and book stores. Keeping my house clean. I love my home. Shopping reading my books cooking up delicious meals for my husband and I. Life is good.
I’m pleased for you. I appreciate you sharing your story.
Sounds like a lovely life!
Goals 🙌
I started cooking more during Covid. Including making many of my mom's recipes that I had stashed in a binder I had forgotten about. I'm getting better.
Enjoyed that nick ,I'm 57 and have already started some of these definitely about not caring about what people think and wasting time you with people I don't even like 😂
thats the joys of being over 50 ...i just don't care about people's opinion
Hi, it’s not I don’t care, it’s who’s opinion I value and the realisation that life is too short to be upset.
Smile, breath and move on, I’m still happy.
Take care M.
It’s best!
And they don't care about yours
I don't much enjoy it. Nothing is improving, except my financial circumstances.
I'd trade it.
If you would have been in sesspit London you would have had your phone snatched by now 😀
People are entitled to their opinion but they are not entitled to insult you with their opinion
I. Have a saying & found out that. It’s. Not the Work that,s Hard ITS The people that’s. Hard work
I appreciate you sharing your viewpoint.
I enjoy being with people who think enough to have an opinion, even when that opinion is opposite to mine 👍
Not all op-in-i-ons are born equal though! 😉
Sorry! Opinions are an integral part of free speech. I agree it is maybe wrong to insult someone, but some people are irredeemable in their actions and words e.g. the outgoing Tory crooks.
I'm 67 and I agree with everything you've said. I'd also add that you can be your own best friend because no one stays in your life forever and it's good to create boundaries, especially with toxic and guilt tripping people etc.
Thanks for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your viewpoint.
lmao you guys have given up in mid life lolol when you think every else is bad its quite possibly you guys and the company you keep
A very wise, mature and sensible attitude!.
Your comment struck a chord with me. Thanks.
@@JimmyLives1986 Cool. Nice one. Appreciate your comment.
I found that it took me a year to get decompressed from the work habit when I retired at age 70, cheers from Oklahoma.....now 77, cherishing family.
Good stuff! Cheers back.
People often on retirement think that they should feel happiness when for me the key is contentment, there’s a difference!
I wrapped up work at 59 due to Stress and too many hours...At 60 last year i was diagnosed with Cancer and had the Surgery and Chemo which finished in June.
12 months on it has returned and my outcome does not look good atm..Moral of the Story do not put all your life in to work and if possible retire before 67 if you are a male...Good luck..
Good luck to you too.
@@MrTypo-kc6ib Thanks
Best wishes to you
@@petersimpson633 Thanks Peter i appreciate that....
Wishing you the best in your health journey.
Almost 61, unmarried. People ask: "Don't you get lonely?" My answer: "Not at all. I have two girlfriends: Peace and Quiet."
Good for you.
Do the two gals come visit together !
Love that answer
😂❤
You could get their names tattooed on your knuckles. 😂
I am 59 in a month's time. Since becoming very sick and having to medically retire, I adopted these measures (+ a few more) 4 years ago - all power to you and enjoy your retirement !
Thanks for sharing! I appreciate your support.
Love your videos. They really hit home with me because I feel the same way. I don’t have time to suffer fools so I don’t. I’m 72 and I’m concentrating on enjoying every day no matter what that entails.
Thanks. I'm 66 and working part time (3d/wk) since January 2024. I've been an Interventional Cardiologist in a high powered practice for > 30yrs. I have (since January) elected to do office only, no interventions (no procedures, no ER, no night call, no wk-ends, no holidays etc.,) Sometimes I transiently struggle with the "guilt" of not staying full time and contributing more to my family, my patients and my practice. That being said, I can also say that I am enjoying this part of life more than I could have imagined. For the first time in over 40 years (since internship) I sleep without interruption! You seem very comfortable with your current status (retired) however I wonder if you had any of the transient tugs of doubt toward your decision in the beginning. Thanks again.
I’ve never heard of anyone on their deathbed saying they wished they’d spent more time at work have you?
Excellent video. It's not so much being 60 or any other age but being retired and having a pension or other income that you cannot be sacked from. Pure independence.
Thanks for your endorsement. Spot on! It’s all about freedom.
Hello from Brazil! Watching your video and reading quite a few of the comments, I've realized that people from all over the world seem to share the same outlook on life after 60, particularly a lack of interest in other people's opinions, fruitless arguments, and putting up with assholes. I am 62 and, besides what I just said, after 60, I also decided to leave the big city life (I am from São Paulo, the biggest city in Brazil) and move to a much smaller, quieter town. I am retired now and beginning to come to terms with your item number 5, not feeling the urge to keep busy. That's the hardest for me, but I'm getting there. Thank you for this video!!
Thanks for your endorsement. Enjoy the quiet.
@@mikeoglen6848 I can, except in the summer, because it gets really sweltering hot here, lol.
@@pauldeamer9581 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I get you Nick. I stopped working at 70. I'm 73 and like doing things: cooking, baking , working out (still have 6 pack abs and well muscled), mtn biking, walk the dog (dog walks me) 30000 steps most days, help my family out with lawn cutting. I do take a complete rest day every week. Definitely like meeting motivated younger people. Canadian winter's on its way so, I enjoy the winter as much as the spring, summer and fall. I want the prettiest corpse ever when my I pass.
Thanks for sharing your story. It sounds like you are living life to the full (ain’t that what it’s for?).
I am you! I would add a sixth point if you dont mind me saying. It would be ' I dont do OPD' OPD stands for other peoples dramas. My daughter is a manager in food retail. She was telling me about staff issues she has with people phoning in and giving all sorts of reasons why they cant get to work. I told her to cut the chat short with a simple question, are you coming in or not. Dont do OPD. She told me it transformed that aspect of management. Another thing I use is JFDI. That standsfor 'just effing do it' cut the crap.
Good points! It would be best if you had also mentioned that all of them have a common root: at some point in life you became SECURE in who you are. Once you achieve that, all else follows...
Having retired 2 years ago, 60th birthday next week, this latest posting is absolutely on the nail for me. Liberating and re-affirming. Good advice all round. Keep up the good vids.
Happy birthday! (for next week). Thanks for your endorsement. I’m pleased it helped.
I’m 66 and at 60 was diagnosed with a cancer. Shortly after completing my treatment I was offered and took retirement. I’ve never regretted that decision. It was a catalyst for me to reevaluate my life. One of the things I did was to get rid of all the junk and unnecessary possessions I’d accumulated. If I hadn’t used or looked at something in the previous three years (excepting my wedding photos) out it went.
Thanks forever taking the time to share your story. I hope you are recovered? Stuff can weigh us down, that’s for sure.
I got rid of my wedding photos after my divorce 🤣🤣
@@ronlanter6906 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Me too
Good choice. I need to do that. I’m overwhelmed with so much STUFFF
Very good advice. I am 61 now and I moved From Somerset England to retire in the U.S at 56 I started buying Motorcycles and going for long rides in the very quiet roads here in Connecticut. Your 3rd point is something I need to adopt. I am constantly dissapointed with people and I really need to stop because people suck mostly and I get upset with them and it ends up hurting me more than them. Great advice I shall attempt to follow some of those rules myself.
I appreciate your endorsement. What’s your favourite motorbike?
@jag1963 yeah I bought some old classic bikes I've always wanted , 49 matchless g80 54 b33 , 73 commando , 75 t160 , my dads old GL1000 , and a klr650 for the ruff stuff . 🙂
I'm so glad I came across this!
I just turned 71 this week. Over the years, my priorities have evolved. Your list is excellent. As I've gotten older, my ability to identify BS has improved a lot. However, my tolerance for BS has gone way down. Being retired, my social circle is all but gone and I'm ok with that. I'm down to immediate family (sister, wife, sons and grandchildren). I've learned to identify and avoid what I call "artificial urgency". Out of habit, we all tend to assign urgency to things that are not urgent. This has been a great stress reducer for me. There's an old country song that says, "all I have to do is live and die, I'm in a hurry and don't know why".
Thanks for your endorsement and sharing your story and views.
Alabama-I’m in a Hurry. Love that song and very appropriate to the topic.
I would add no: 6 Stop putting your hand into your pocket for your adult children! Let them take full responsibility for their success and failures. How much time and money have they given you after 60?
I appreciate your viewpoint.
This fixation on the wellbeing of children and grandchildren instead of ones own does really gets onto my nerves. These people allways apear so empty and dependent to me, as if they got no interest of their own. I mean, I am still interested in my kids, but I am not fixated on them, they never were the only thing in the whole world I really cared for..
I just turned 70 and am wrestling with this right now. I am thinking of setting aside $100k for my only grandchild’s college education. She is only 2. Her parents both work so they could figure it out but I’d like to make their life a bit easier and I can afford it.
@@sheneedsme That I totally understand and even agree with totally. We still do our best to provide for our offspring. Thats what a docent person does. But to be only interested in these babys and toddlers instead of quantum mechanics, near death experiences, politics, the classic writers, nature, dogs, cats, horses, medicine, natural healing, astronomy, astrology, philosophy - well that' s quiet another bird...
There's a wonderful poem which begins,
"Lord, let me be a burden to my children,
For long they've been a burden unto me..."😄
I’m 73 and only now am I realizing these truths. Especially not caring what people think of me. Most are jealous anyway. Also, and still working on it, trying not to feel guilty about not finding something to busy myself with instead of just relaxing and enjoying the life I have left.
Thanks for taking the time to share your experience and situation.
Fellow York resident here and I 100% agree with the list and attitude. I retired at 60 and am now 64, after having had a technical career in aviation it took me 2 years to stop having the phone by my side 24/7 ready to deal with issues that were no longer my concern. I had to learn how to go to bed and get up when I feel like it and not feel guilty for not keeping to a disciplined schedule. I too just use my Google calendar to organise my life and loosely stick to it as I have learned to be flexible with things to best suit myself. The biggest thing to becoming content was accepting that I am no longer working in my past career and no longer have those responsibilities or concerns to worry about. My income is less but everything is covered and I also have less outgoings, I have learned to live with my new circumstances and to be honest I am now loving it.
Thanks for sharing your experience neighbour.
Great advice. As long as you keep moving (exercise) and keep testing your mind to keep it sharp, you will do well.
Thanks for your endorsement. Spot on!
At 35 I sat with a notebook to brainstorm retirement - revisiting the topic about every 5th yr - over time these ideas tweaked and changed but I always kept investing and saving, embracing my career rather than looking for something new. There is always this idea that you should be working at your passion - well that's not always possible so don't worry about it.
Thanks for taking the time to comment.
I turned 60 this year and I’m very lucky as I work in a company where the younger employees involve us older ones in their social events.
The other evening I was walking through the town centre to meet them for drinks, and as I walked this realisation suddenly hit me, I was walking those very same streets to meet my friends for a drink when I was 20.
40 years ago…..OMG where did that time go.
Thanks for taking the time comment. You’re spot on about time.
So true, I had the same experience recently 😏
That's cool. If not work, then a club you enjoy will do the same thing.
I retired at 65. Miss my work mates, but decided to join a naturist club. Best thing I ever did.
I turn 60 in two days, and I applaud you and this post Nick. Every point you made is 100% so valid for how I am starting to see things in life. One thing I do now, without even thinking about it is to live life to the fullest, do what you enjoy, don't wait or waste a second thinking about whether you should do this, or do that - just do it.
Spot on! Thanks for your endorsement.
Happy Birthday for yesterday.
Wise words and good advice as always.
I have only been retired for a few months and still adjusting to a new life style.
One thing i don't miss about working are the stressfull days trying to please too
many people at once.
The one i am trying to do is keep active and now i walk a lot more than i ever have.
It will take time to reach my ideal weight, but at last it is going down.
Looking forward to your next video.
Thanks Barbara. It’s important to keep moving. I aim for 6000 steps every day. I find my feet and knees stiffen up otherwise.
@@nickjmaher I am the same, if i sit in front of my PC for too long it takes ages
to start moving easily again.
As soon as i get a slight pain in my thighs i know it's time to take a walk.
@@Barbarapape 👍
Great video mate. I’m an Australian approaching 60 and I like your list although number one was always something my late father who passed last year drummed into me, a la “ be a good person, stand up for yourself, do the right thing so you can sleep at night and don’t give a crap about what anyone thinks”.
I have a missing youth and a few broken ones and I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks.
Thanks for the endorsement. Glad you liked it!
Many of us are missing our youths. Could you have meant "tooth"?
@@robertwalker2052 haha, yes. Bloody autocorrect
From across the pond…thanks for sharing. Retiring in 79 days…can’t wait to adopt these in my daily
I appreciate your endorsement. Good luck 🤞.
Absolutely spot on Nick. I retired at 67 and enjoying the freedom of not dealing with people every day. I too had goals and budgets and so relieved to be away from it all. My goals these days are to wake up and enjoy my day. I still go to the gym at 6am and enjoy my time with my new wife of just under two years. She is retiring early next week and will be enjoying time away in our caravan. Thank you for the informative video
Thanks for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your story. Enjoy your caravan life.
Excellent video. I didn't realize you're English by your accent but figured it out based on the scenery. I'm American. Some of my ancestors were from Yorkshire and I still have very distant cousins there. I will be 78 in a few days and I retired at 73 because I really liked my job but it became a chore to do the work for a huge corporation. I don't have ambitious plans and do what I feel like doing each day. I'm mostly feeding my obsessive reading habit. No more must-do chores. What freedom!
Thanks for your endorsement and for sharing your journey.
I grew up in York and enjoy watching the streetscapes and hearing your accent. I've lived overseas for the past 30 years, am 55 and am retiring next year. Great advice.
Thanks for your endorsement. The city has changed a lot for the better in the last 30 years. I’ll keep the streetscapes coming for you.
I was able to retire before 60 and I don't regret the decision one bit. I have followed the same 5 rules which has kept me sane and happy. I have hobbies which I have kept up with...music, working with horses, hiking and camping. I am 69 now. Still going fairly strong despite a couple of health setbacks. Playing in a small local orchestra which keeps me on top of my violin playing and continually learning new music keeps the brain sharp. You offer great advice!
Thanks for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your journey and experience of retirement. You’ve nailed it!
Nick! I just came upon this vid and I love it! 64 years here, and feeling pretty good, no prescriptions and not bad shape for the years. You are spot on with these ideas, I think it's easy to see that after 60, it's just clear that life has too little left to keep let these things add unnecessary stress. Even if we get many more years to come, there's certainly no value in letting negatives add to life's burdens. I will be retired soon enough, and I look forward to boosting my photography hobby, keeping my mind sharp with another hobby which is an offshoot of my career experience, and getting back to my studies in ancient Greek. Maybe I'll further a writing habit from younger days with poetry. If I found myself in your part of the world, I'd love to buy you a lunch and visit.
Thanks for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your plans for retirement. You nailed it. I’m happy to take you up on your kind offer.
Thank you for your perspective. I've been struggling with these thoughts and am now 67. I feel better now. It's not just me. I agree with you.
Glad I could help. Thanks for your endorsement.
I really enjoyed your vid.
I just turned 62 . My life has evolved spot on to your list , except I’m not retired …
My small business I treated like a fun hobby , I don’t make a lot of money , but I enjoy my days working …
Thanks for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your story.
Thanks for this list. I am between worlds.. at 53, still working a remote 40 hour corporate gig that is high stress, but eyeing retirement, learning to relax a bit, not push so hard, and apply more "old man" wisdom in my life. I too follow the mood swings.. if i'm not feeling it.. i dont do what I had planned. I wait until it feels enjoyable to do, at least I do that approach as much as I can. Sometimes life demands otherwise! THank you for your perspective.
Thanks for sharing your story. We are “elders” not “old” 😁
New subscriber here. You videos are helping me to plan and adjust to my imminent retirement. I'm just now turning 57 and I've been working now for 38 years. I know that it will be an adjustment. I will be retiring when I turn 60. My wife is retiring in 3 months after 40 years working in her job. Thank you for your advice.
Welcome! Thanks for your endorsement. I’m pleased they are helpful.
Nick, you’re a straight-up wise man. I wrote a similar five-point list last year and four of the five points were identical. I retired at 51 and am 58 now so i got on to this way of thinking well before 60. Keep expectations low, dont allow negative energy people to bring you down, and be confident that you know what is best for you.
Strength to ya!
Hi, I’m approaching 70 and what a great list , with you 100%. A few years back I read a hugely popular book called “the subtle art of not giving a fk” by Mark Manson, it was a game changer for me mentally. I think the hardest thing for me on your list is trying not to feel guilty not doing anything productive especially coming from an engineering background while the most liberating is not giving a damn what people think about me. 😀
Thanks for the endorsement. Good book. Banishing guilt is a game changer.
Chris, buy a Ukulele and you'll do something productive, and make great pals.
@@autumn-g1n haha, you’re talking to a dyslexic with zero sense of rhythm and 23 private waltz lessons to prove it .
You understand what matters in life, what happiness is about, and you look at the world from the right perspective. That's wisdom. Thanks for sharing it.
Thank you for your endorsement.
I think we are brothers from another mother. We are the same age, and I retired at 49. I agree with everything you said and think that the way you are living in your retirement is the way to a long and stress-free life. Before I retired, I was EXTREMELY technical and driven at my job. That time of my life was always with the goal of being able to live the style of life I have now in retirement.
Thanks brother! I appreciate your endorsement and you sharing your experience.
Really enjoyed this video. I’m 68 and went through a huge change in my life at 65 as I went through a tough divorce.
I resettled far away from where I was located and started over from scratch with little to be honest .
Well in a little over 3 years I have settled in and did a huge turn around completely changing my life .
I too am applying your changes .
Cheers from the good old Tennessee
USA 🇺🇸
Thanks for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your story. I’m pleased to hear things have worked out.
I find your video inspiring. I turn 62 in a couple of months. Just before my 60th birthday I also made some serious life changes. I gave up a 45 year addiction to cigarettes, a 30+ year addiction to morphine, and a 15 year addiction to Valium. I've been clean now for almost 2 years, and I'm never going back. I've even begun a daily exercise regime. Funny how the milestone of 60 years old makes some of us awaken and reshape our lives.
Thanks for your endorsement. I’m glad it helped and thank you for sharing your experience too.
Completely agree with the list. Another thing on my list, to pursue relationships that just don’t work. I don’t have the time. For instance moved to a new place… I figured quickly some neighbors are nice but nothing in common. Zero chemistry. Beyond be cordial on the street, that’s enough for me.
Thanks for your endorsement. That’s a good point. I appreciate you sharing.
Hey Nick Maher, I just stumbled upon your channel and really enjoyed your manner and delivery!
As an American here in Los Angeles (and an admitted Anglophile) I have made around 30 plus trips to your country and love it. Good friendships through the years that have been purposefully nurtured and plan to be back over next year!! Cheers
Awesome, thank you! I appreciate your endorsement. Visit York, you won’t regret it. Romans, Vikings, ghosts, Harry Potter and great pubs!
Thanks. Your list was what I needed for clarity on my 60th and still having a bit of trouble with most of those things right there. Your frank, yet casual, approach to them is reassuring.
Glad it helped! Thanks for your endorsement.
Excellent list! I’ve taken up walking the repurposed rail lines around New England. Last week I took a dead dried out pine branch, sanded it, trimmed it, oiled it and now have a beautiful walking stick. Loving the Autumn walks!
Thanks for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your experience.
Im a 55 yr old retiree living in Washington state, USA. I would enjoy just walking around town w/ someone like you, conversing about human nature and such. I too follow a similar philosophy about enjoying what precious time we have left. Cheers!
Thanks for your endorsement. I hope we get the chance!
Wow! I turned 60 in March 2024 and everything your said is completely true. I retired early at age 56. Life is different now. I spent my whole life in leadership roles. Nowadays, I don't enjoy being "in charge". I volunteer at different roles but recoil from being in any leadership role. I like being a subordinate.
I appreciate your endorsement and thanks to you for sharing your post-retirement experience 👍
Thanks for this. I'm approaching 70, and thinking about several of these. I have tended to be anxious about a lot of things/people in my life (including assholes) and I've been letting that tendency lapse. I do have goals, but like you, not definitive, and "musts". Really liked the one about not worrying if you're not "feeling it" on a given day and it's OK to take the day off. Used to worry about what people might think- before realising that almost certainly nobody is thinking anything about what I'm doing on any given day. Cheers.
Thanks for your endorsement. You have to put your welfare first.
Loving this comment - I am 71 and totally understand where you are coming from - the problem starts when your family ( the young ones ) still think I should be racing around doing "stuff" every day. I have found the answer to that is switch the phone off - they understand now - (it took time to educate them ) - that I want to be left alone with my thoughts just for a little while at least and chill out.
30's and 40's was my worst years. I'm 59 now and life's much better.
Thanks for sharing. My 30s were the best, my 40s the worst.
Good list! At 63 myself retirement will be at 65. Many of the things you listed I have started ahead of schedule and I’ve been surprised how well it serves me at my work. Currently I am more efficient and productive than I have ever been and also feel quite satisfied and happy with my job. To genuinely quit being concerned with other peoples opinions was very liberating. It did not come easily as I lived most my working life trying very hard to satisfy most everyone around me whenever possible. It appears these last couple working years are going to be an enjoyable breeze and my retirement attitude is on track as well. Thanks for the talk 👍
Thanks for your endorsement. I’m pleased to hear you are on track.
All great things! I work with people and I'm constantly teaching them these things. I just turned 60 and I've been doing these things for at least the last 20 years and I'm so much happier than most of the people I know... great video and you got yourself anew subscriber!
Thanks for your support. I appreciate your endorsement and you sharing your experience.
I'm 66, was medically retired 6 years ago. I don't miss the world of work one iota. It has changed for many into a awful toxic environment. New managers straight out of Uni, no people skills. Make up for their incompetence by being abusive. Previous company I worked for 18 years. Was bought out and new aggressive management brought in. They lost their best staff who wouldn't put up with the new regime. Now I'm not stressed, don't have a lot of money partly because of being a single carer for my mentally disabled son this last 35 years. But, am much happier.
the young HR graduates destroyed my appetite for work, retired 30-06-2017 and happy
Thanks for taking the time to share your story.
God bless
Being the single care provider, that there is a full time responsibility. Last Plant Manager I worked for was truly super.
Thank you very much for the advice. Working in the medical field I was very structured. At 67 I don't have the drive or energy to be perfect or the energy especially after caring for my husband before he passed. Thank you again. This advice takes the pressure off of me 😊
Sorry for your loss. I’m pleased to have helped.
Good luck to you mister, the tide of arseholes seems to have risen with the internet & similar tech, wasn’t life peaceful before all that.
Good luck to you too. They certainly have more ways to reach us 😩
In this time of opinions, I've developed a genuine love for others, that is more important than my personal opinionated opinion. I'm 68 and loving it, really. I've calmed down a lot. But still busy because, I love helping others, with my wealth of construction knowledge and action., all for no charge. So liberating, and I get a lot of thank yous and praise, which is so nice.
I appreciate you taking the time to share your experience
Really enjoyed watching your walkabout.
Im 60 and still enjoying my trade as a pipefitter/plumber. I work with 18 to 68 year old tradesmen on my jobs and have a laugh every day. Since close family members and friends have been passing away with alarming frequency in the last 2 or 3 years, ive been looking a lot more at the time i have left in my life and how best to not waste it.
Ive become a kid again, bought and ride a couple motorcycles and even started playing guitar again after years. Hopefully my health continues to be good as life is pretty good now.
Anyway, thank you for taking us for a walk with you. Cheers from northern Ontario, Canada
I’m pleased you enjoyed it. Thanks for sharing your story. I appreciate you taking the time to write this comment. Take care on those motorcycles!
I just turned 60 and I completely agree. In the last year my views have changed. I also don’t care what others think. I also don’t spent time around toxic people. Enjoy your video. Hope to see more.
Thanks for your endorsement. More to come!
I like your philosophy on life after retirement. I've been retired now for three years, and have lived by all of those things. One other thing that I've incorporated since retirement, I've been extending my gratitude to those who did make my life better during my working years. And it's those people that are the only ones I keep touch with from then. I've also mapped out my own loose tentative financial strategy for my family, and how I intend to try and help them by making their lives a little bit more comfortable.
And yes, by not being so disciplined onto my daily schedule, it relaxes me. Despite being a person used to loath procrastination and who adhered to timelines and deadline. I still get things done, but I just don't stress myself out to get them done just this minute. There's no 'guilt' hanging over my head anymore.
LIFE'S GOOD!
Thanks for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your journey.
@@nickjmaher Glad to do it! Enjoy your retirement!
@@nickjmaher Glad to do it! Enjoy your retirement!
@@EvilTheOne 👍
Brilliant video and have subscribed! Definitely a big thumbs up from me! I adopted this frame of mind about 10 years ago. I am 66 now and have lived in Madeira for 20 years. Since 'retirement' I have run a theatre show on the island for 10 years, been a celebrity portrait artist, written and published 14 books, I run a a quiz night at a local Irish pub once a week and 5 months ago became a RUclipsr doing art videos! My lifestyle suits me perfectly. I live in paradise, it is quiet and just the way I want it. I go out if I want to, I stay in if I want, I associate with whom I want and most importantly of all, have learned to say no. Really enjoyed listening to you! Thank you for the smile! Have a wonderful day! 💚💙
Thanks for your endorsement 🙏. I appreciate you sharing your journey. You’ve nailed it!
@@nickjmaher You are most welcome! It is a learning curve. But it does afford me freedom! Keep it up! You are brilliant! Have a fabulous day! 🩷💚💚
@@VACreativArts1 👍
Happy for you. Thank you so much for this video.
You are so welcome! I appreciate your endorsement.
Thank you for sharing!!
Enjoy your content sir, turned 61 in June and I concur. Live and let live.
Thanks for your endorsement.
Ditto on all 5! And add 6. I don't care about social trends or fashion, I do what I like, say what I think and wears what I like.
Thanks for your endorsement and good for you!
I don't queue to do anything I don't want to do anymore. I was in a supermarket and wanted to use the self service with my trolly of shopping rather than queue but madam told me only baskets for self service so I said are you going to open more checkouts then or are they just going to carry on yapping? She just said no trolleys and pointed to a daft sign so I gently pushed the trolly towards her and said you might get one if those (ladies yapping) to put that lot back because I'm not queuing and walked out. I was delighted with myself I have all day to do what I want and no one is telling me when I can or can't do it so I went to Tesco instead and uses their shop & scan 😊
I appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and views.
Fantastic - love it
You have made me laugh. Done the same myself.
The thing I dislike the most is when I am a customer and get told no you can't do that. Really annoys me.
@@arthurgordon6072I just walked out on them... they will be the one gonna to do the extra work later on. 😂
Great video, thanks. I'm 61 and retired 9 months ago, am loving it, and completely agree with your 5 points. One other thing I'd add is don't put off anything you want, or want to do - life is short, just go for it!
I appreciate your endorsement. Spot on about life.
I stopped panning my life out and setting goals and targets long ago as they were usually based on my own selfish desires and never came to fruition. furthermore over time priorities change. Take care of my money, set a coarse and keep an eye open for opportunity's...they come out of nowhere when you least expect it. Looking back now, I'm sure glad that my big plans and goals never worked out.
Good video.
Avoiding assholes is only possible when retired...in the workplace, you most often can't pick who you work with.
Thanks for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your experience and thoughts.
Excellent. With you 100%. Not allowing stress to take over, has been transformative in my life. Especially not having expctations of people. So true.
Thanks for your endorsement. Avoid stress whenever possible.
Thanks Nick. I'm 56 and currently off work due to various things. This was such a good watch and really resonated with me. ❤
I’m pleased it helped. Thanks for your endorsement.
Mate, you look younger than 63. I'm 8 years away from where you are now, and I found this video enlightening to watch. Cheers.
I appreciate your kind words. Thanks for watching.
I’m almost 60 and retiring next year. Great advice and enjoy your retirement!
Thanks for the endorsement. You too!
I just turned 60 in August. Very informative. Thank you from the U.S.
I appreciate your endorsement.
Interesting! I left emploment at 43 years of age, for some of the reasons below. But found my way out in working only connected with my passions. At 73 I run my business in the Caribbean feeling like I am 23.
You’ve nailed it! Thanks for sharing.
No 6…..I don’t need or want a relationship…..No grief or hassles or having to be considerate
I appreciate your addition.
I'm also in the same mindset. . . at 66 I've had it with trying to find a compatible woman to love and be loved by.
Had a close relationship last year with a 68 year old woman but it only lasted 6 months . . she was quite demanding and was in a fixed routine.. to my chagrin.
At my stage in life I just want to relax and do what I want, when I want and where ever I want lol.
Spreadsheets x 5 years omg.
I feel the same. I lost my husband a few years ago and don't want another relationship after him. My life is quite full enough - I took up scuba diving after he died and spent my weekends and holidays underwater. I don't think a potential partner would be happy with that and I'm not prepared to give it up. I've become selfish with my time - I don't have much time left where I can do what I want when I want and I'm going to enjoy it.
Good mental health has close links with quality of relationships. Cultivating 'quality' relationships is important, I feel.
I'm 59 and still manically running 3 businesses. Don't know any different and don't have an exit strategy, money's tight, the economy is tough, no retirement in sight but we keep going until we drop!
I appreciate you taking the time to share your situation.
That's kinda sad.... get a hobby or 2 to enjoy... so you can look forward to retirement !
It’s gunna kill ya.
Well, something's going to get me in the end. That's the only guarantee.
I respect the people 60 above if they chose being alone or not friendly anymore coz avoiding toxic people.....am 66 yrs old friendly sometimes
I really love your list. To be honest, I’ve lived #1 and 2 most of my life, and finally learned #3 about 10 years ago.
Retired at 62 and LOVE it!!!
Thank you for providing the bonus of showing around your neighborhood.
My pleasure. More to come.
Since my 40,s I’ve stopped visiting family who can be nasty as in 2 faced,as for friends most are gone but I easily make friends being a musician,neighbors can be real nasty I’ve no time for them now in my early 60,s health in tatters so take it easy enjoy my community garden,great place for meeting new volunteers.
Thanks for taking the time to comment.
I am still working two jobs I have enjoyed for the last 34 years. I just turned 60 and my attitude has always been not to care what people think. I will slow down to one job soon. I have been married for over 35 years with 4 kids and could not ask for more. We must be thankful to God for what has been given good or bad. I will work till I die because I love it. Whenever God takes me home it is fine with me. I have had a good run. That is all you can ask for.
Thank you for taking the time to comment and share your life and views.
Same here! Caring for other people’s opinion, keeping relationships that are problematic, having high achievement goals were not difficult to ditch early on. I felt guilty not being productive or not addressing my priorities in good order. It takes time to learn and adapt.
Thanks for your comment.
Hi Nick, I retired two years ago at age 67. Now almost 70. I totally agree with all your points. I've never seen any of your videos until this one. I have to think we'd be great friends if I lived in York. I am in Cambridge, Ontario, Canada. New subscriber. All the best.
I appreciate your endorsement. I’m sure we would. Why let an ocean get in the way?
Near 60. I have done the following:
1: Don't believe anything that government or it's affiliated corporations say. Assume they are lying to you and you will be right 99% of the time
2: I don't expend much (if any) energy trying to make more or new friends. Waist of precious time better spent on more important things.
3: I avoid any drama of family or friends if at all possible.
4: Keeping my circle of interaction with the general public to a minimum. There are too many sue happy greedy self centered people who would gladly ruin your life for a dollar.
5. More focus on preparation (personal and for close family) for what we all know is heading out way politically, financially, socially, environmentally and nationally. Most don't want to think about it let alone prepare for it. Getting older makes you see fewer days ahead than behind. So time is more valuable than money. Use it wisely.
I appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and views.
I can't retire til 67. I'm 56 now and have already switched my career for a 9 to 5 job, my own business where I work alone. I don't want any drama, I don't chase anything, I just want the quiet life. I cannot wait to stop working
Thanks for your comment. I hope you get there sooner.
@@nickjmaher cheers Nick. I'm a barber now. The job is fine, I could do it forever, I just don't enjoy being around people! The constant chat drives me insane
@@TimelordUK 🥴
..at the age of 20 yrs, I for one am taking your advice....now.
Excellent! You won’t regret it.
Peace of mind is priceless. Non Duality teachings helped me immensely.
Thanks for sharing.
The handful of people I associate with are, generally, a few years younger than myself. The downside then is that I engage in only the occasional conversation with someone who can easily understand my context. I felt that, listening to you on your walk. Cheers for having me along, mate. You have a new subscriber. Happy Holidays.
thanks for subscribing, I appreciate your support. Thanks too for sharing your experience.