this is what my parents have done for me in my whole life to control and to get the pain killer for their own shame and helplessness. They have needed my fear to make themselves great and absolute.
I love how you speak, Tim and what you say is fundamental. All so very important. I just wish you could omit 2 little words: always and never. God's good blessing to you.
Love these videos. I have my phone turned all the way up on the volume . This is valuable info. Maybe ill try this on a computer instead. Thank you for these talks.
Child terrified of injections. Mother comes to her and says “I’m sick and the doctor says you have to have an injection so I can get better”. Child begs and pleads, is there not another way? “No, it has to be you and it has to be an injection”. The child cries and says she’ll do it. Mother says “It’s ok, I’m not sick, I just wanted to see if you’d do it.”That was my mother. Something like that seemingly all the time.
@aliciam ~ 😳😵😵💫.. that behaviour by your mother, even that one incident you describe, is APPALLING .. How dare she put you through that, so cruel. She must be very mentally sick. Really sorry you experienced such things. Love & healing to you 🎉❤
@@manyBlessings2all Thank you. You and @clareyan3843 have heard me. Never experienced that before. I feel a little soothed because of the two of you. It’s a real relief. Xx
Don't confuse fear with bravery. That's a critic labyrinth scheme but I can tell you my entire psychological foundation is based on fear. But I can also tell you that I experimented with fear psychological versus physical endangerment by running off a 1400 foot cliff in a four day crash course on hang gliding, I'm still here. I can tell you I almost bit the big one that dirt nap that everyone talks about. That was a solo flight what the experiment showed me I couldn't tell the difference between psychological fear versus real fear a threat to your existence. How does a person walk through life with that type of psychological conditioning you shut down you become a machine. I looked up the word intimacy because I didn't know what that was. I've never had intimacy but the few times I think someone tried to share intimacy was like the cross to a vampire something so foreign I ran from it. In fact, it was on the same level of intensity as running off a 1400 foot cliff solo.
Jesus answered and said to him, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.”” John 3:3 NKJV To be saved this is how. Please read. “For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death.” II Corinthians 7:10 NKJV U gotta feel sorry n guilty for being a sinner and desire to change. “that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.” Romans 10:9 NKJV Then literally all you gotta do is say to God with your own words you believe the gospel then boom your saved forever. U can say something like this. “dear God i repent as a sinner. i believe jesus is God, who died, buried, and ressurected, so his blood can wash away my sins. so i only trust in the blood alone to save me not my good works. Save me from hell in jesus name i pray amen”
Its exactly like jumping off a cliff - done both, YEP😳 I had the most amazing experience of becoming friends with someone who was a mess, but also into a lot if things I was into: we didnt like each other as people, but our mutual interests were fascinating. 12 months of being housemates, 6 months of swapping emails, we realised we were in love. Completely messed up 8 months figuring out how to make it work - (totally messed up thinking about sex and connection probably both of us - definitely me🤦) but we got there and we were just intuitive best mates and lovers🥰 we were also messed up CPST kids in our 30s🤦 we stuck to our coping tropes and (naturally) broke up👍👍 and very very ok about that😂 we were some epic Hollywood love story and tragic drama🙄 Im not wishing him back, but seriously looking forward to a future where I do things differently (after 25yrs of repeating the same pattern in relationships🤦🤦🤦)
False Intimacy. I had this idea that with ''Her' I would be able to open up - which I did do - then Id be all out there with niothing to hide or feel ugly about. Or whatever else . Instinct alone was not enough. I wanted to be so much better at being me. For her.
this is what my parents have done for me in my whole life to control and to get the pain killer for their own shame and helplessness.
They have needed my fear to make themselves great and absolute.
Fear was my mother’s parenting style. We were definitely afraid of her and what she would do…
Totally, me too
Same here.
I love how you speak, Tim and what you say is fundamental. All so very important.
I just wish you could omit 2 little words: always and never.
God's good blessing to you.
Love these videos. I have my phone turned all the way up on the volume . This is valuable info. Maybe ill try this on a computer instead. Thank you for these talks.
Thank you, you have made it easier to be me. Thank you.
Child terrified of injections. Mother comes to her and says “I’m sick and the doctor says you have to have an injection so I can get better”. Child begs and pleads, is there not another way? “No, it has to be you and it has to be an injection”. The child cries and says she’ll do it. Mother says “It’s ok, I’m not sick, I just wanted to see if you’d do it.”That was my mother. Something like that seemingly all the time.
SERIOUSLY NOT GOOD🤬 Im sorry for your experience 😣
@@clareryan3843 thank you. I appreciate it.
@aliciam ~ 😳😵😵💫.. that behaviour by your mother, even that one incident you describe, is APPALLING .. How dare she put you through that, so cruel. She must be very mentally sick. Really sorry you experienced such things. Love & healing to you 🎉❤
@@manyBlessings2all Thank you. You and @clareyan3843 have heard me. Never experienced that before. I feel a little soothed because of the two of you. It’s a real relief. Xx
Umm no! That's terrible
Getting her needs meet through you
Thank you ❤✨🙏😇
Don't confuse fear with bravery. That's a critic labyrinth scheme but I can tell you my entire psychological foundation is based on fear. But I can also tell you that I experimented with fear psychological versus physical endangerment by running off a 1400 foot cliff in a four day crash course on hang gliding, I'm still here. I can tell you I almost bit the big one that dirt nap that everyone talks about. That was a solo flight what the experiment showed me I couldn't tell the difference between psychological fear versus real fear a threat to your existence. How does a person walk through life with that type of psychological conditioning you shut down you become a machine. I looked up the word intimacy because I didn't know what that was. I've never had intimacy but the few times I think someone tried to share intimacy was like the cross to a vampire something so foreign I ran from it. In fact, it was on the same level of intensity as running off a 1400 foot cliff solo.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, Dan.
Well said. Thank you for sharing 😊
Jesus answered and said to him, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.””
John 3:3 NKJV
To be saved this is how. Please read.
“For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death.”
II Corinthians 7:10 NKJV
U gotta feel sorry n guilty for being a sinner and desire to change.
“that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.”
Romans 10:9 NKJV
Then literally all you gotta do is say to God with your own words you believe the gospel then boom your saved forever. U can say something like this.
“dear God i repent as a sinner. i believe jesus is God, who died, buried, and ressurected, so his blood can wash away my sins. so i only trust in the blood alone to save me not my good works. Save me from hell in jesus name i pray amen”
Thanks for sharing!!!
Its exactly like jumping off a cliff - done both, YEP😳 I had the most amazing experience of becoming friends with someone who was a mess, but also into a lot if things I was into: we didnt like each other as people, but our mutual interests were fascinating. 12 months of being housemates, 6 months of swapping emails, we realised we were in love. Completely messed up 8 months figuring out how to make it work - (totally messed up thinking about sex and connection probably both of us - definitely me🤦) but we got there and we were just intuitive best mates and lovers🥰 we were also messed up CPST kids in our 30s🤦 we stuck to our coping tropes and (naturally) broke up👍👍 and very very ok about that😂 we were some epic Hollywood love story and tragic drama🙄 Im not wishing him back, but seriously looking forward to a future where I do things differently (after 25yrs of repeating the same pattern in relationships🤦🤦🤦)
False Intimacy.
I had this idea that with ''Her' I would be able to open up - which I did do - then Id be all out there with niothing to hide or feel ugly about. Or whatever else . Instinct alone was not enough.
I wanted to be so much better at being me. For her.
Are you still with her
20:30 synthetic connection
Excelent!
Truth!!!!
31:59 Stop Hiding
What if you have all these characteristics?
Trauma
Don’t like “Pepsi”. I prefer “Coca Cola”!
I get what he means about intimacy, though.
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