Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
After this year and a 2nd break up with my ex, I now know I would always shut down when it was time to have a conflict with my ex. I have learned that the way I witnessed how my parents would fight and interact with me and my brother played a hand in my development of a fearful avoidancy attachment style. Anytime my ex would come at me in an aggressive tone, I shut down. Therapy helped me realize that I would go back to feeling lime I was just a disappointment and felt only shame because I messed up again. I never truly understood the importance or even how to look within, and I was too scared of what I would see that I buried. Learning all of this and learning how to dig within and be vulnerable with myself had me remembering my ex's words earlier this year and wondering why I couldn't do this then and prevent her from leaving. I know now that I was volatile and incredibly emotionally unavailable. Now the hard part is to not live in a state of shame and guult because of what I lost as a result of my choices. Therapy helps but its still a process and fight within myself to not allow my avoidant ways to stay around. I still get dysregulated when trying to figure it all out and have to remind myself to not try to tackle everything at the same time like I used and ause overwhelm. Thank you fir the info you pass onto us and know that it helps those trying to become better men and partners in tge long run
Good reflection bro, therapy doesn't help but all these men channels really help you to see, and once you see you can never unsee. 3:14 Women will press until they find your weak spot because that creates them many pathways. Stay stoic and if you have the words put her in her place, in a flirting way instead of escalating way. Once you see you can practice what the words should be. Let the roller coaster happen, learn to steer and drive it because your reward is great intimacy. Your relation is a never ending on/off cycle. Embrace it as one of the cylinders of the relationship engine.
Yea, I just need to get over my fears of abandonment, vulnerability/letting people in and people pleasing ways. I was weak and kept my ex at arms length, even though I didn't want to be that way, I wasn't strong enough to confront my fears and subconsciously wanted her help but never asked for it. We were both volatile but it was my unavailability that led to her leaving a 2nd time. I know I'll get through this, but it still sucks and hurts.. even though she left 9 months ago, we didnt cease all contact until August of this year and those 6 months were a roller coaster that I kept making mistakes and chasing...
For me its more difficult cause if anything I just feel worthless whenever conflict happens its not even I want to prove em wrong Im just afraid that their needs just wont be met with how inconsistently affectionate I am. Im just afraid that maybe were not truly a good fit and maybe I should just call it off for both our sakes but I wont know until I even try to have this conversation which I will do whenever I get the chance. Its not even a self doubt issue, when it comes to other things I want to think Im competent just maybe not for someone who wants to be reciprocated with their advances. Its just so painful for me feeling like Im wasting someone elses time.
So i have to force myself into negotiating things huh? What about me being me? Relationships is not a bargain. If i don't want open relationship than this is non-negotiable thing and we better to brake up because we not ment for each other. This is not a cryptonyte this is my moral values. There is nothing to be discussed. Respect me or leave. Women never ever negotiate anything so why should we? They simply demand
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
After this year and a 2nd break up with my ex, I now know I would always shut down when it was time to have a conflict with my ex. I have learned that the way I witnessed how my parents would fight and interact with me and my brother played a hand in my development of a fearful avoidancy attachment style. Anytime my ex would come at me in an aggressive tone, I shut down. Therapy helped me realize that I would go back to feeling lime I was just a disappointment and felt only shame because I messed up again. I never truly understood the importance or even how to look within, and I was too scared of what I would see that I buried. Learning all of this and learning how to dig within and be vulnerable with myself had me remembering my ex's words earlier this year and wondering why I couldn't do this then and prevent her from leaving. I know now that I was volatile and incredibly emotionally unavailable. Now the hard part is to not live in a state of shame and guult because of what I lost as a result of my choices. Therapy helps but its still a process and fight within myself to not allow my avoidant ways to stay around. I still get dysregulated when trying to figure it all out and have to remind myself to not try to tackle everything at the same time like I used and ause overwhelm. Thank you fir the info you pass onto us and know that it helps those trying to become better men and partners in tge long run
Good reflection bro, therapy doesn't help but all these men channels really help you to see, and once you see you can never unsee. 3:14 Women will press until they find your weak spot because that creates them many pathways. Stay stoic and if you have the words put her in her place, in a flirting way instead of escalating way. Once you see you can practice what the words should be. Let the roller coaster happen, learn to steer and drive it because your reward is great intimacy. Your relation is a never ending on/off cycle. Embrace it as one of the cylinders of the relationship engine.
Yea, I just need to get over my fears of abandonment, vulnerability/letting people in and people pleasing ways. I was weak and kept my ex at arms length, even though I didn't want to be that way, I wasn't strong enough to confront my fears and subconsciously wanted her help but never asked for it. We were both volatile but it was my unavailability that led to her leaving a 2nd time. I know I'll get through this, but it still sucks and hurts.. even though she left 9 months ago, we didnt cease all contact until August of this year and those 6 months were a roller coaster that I kept making mistakes and chasing...
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More men would go to therapy if it were like this. Thank you for yet more valuable information.
This came at the perfect time. Thank you
You are releasing amazing work
I like the path that question opens up. It sounds promising.
Thank you again for your videos. This video really helps, and has shown me that my concepts of manliness were way off. Such an eye opener.
WHY didn’t I find this video yrs ago BEFORE the conflict or should I say WWIII…
Great subject! Great video!
another slam dunk, Connor. thank you!
I like your content. I am a professional couselor and I will be recomending this video for ocd sexual related. Take care
For me its more difficult cause if anything I just feel worthless whenever conflict happens its not even I want to prove em wrong Im just afraid that their needs just wont be met with how inconsistently affectionate I am. Im just afraid that maybe were not truly a good fit and maybe I should just call it off for both our sakes but I wont know until I even try to have this conversation which I will do whenever I get the chance. Its not even a self doubt issue, when it comes to other things I want to think Im competent just maybe not for someone who wants to be reciprocated with their advances. Its just so painful for me feeling like Im wasting someone elses time.
So i have to force myself into negotiating things huh?
What about me being me?
Relationships is not a bargain.
If i don't want open relationship than this is non-negotiable thing and we better to brake up because we not ment for each other.
This is not a cryptonyte this is my moral values. There is nothing to be discussed.
Respect me or leave.
Women never ever negotiate anything so why should we? They simply demand
Youll forever stay miserable with this mindset, borderline victimizing yourself. Youve maybe just not had someone willing to compromise is all.