My favorite bridal shower gift to give (and this is only if I know they don't already have one) is a Costco membership. If it's someone I'm super close to, and I am in a good financial situation to do so, I get an executive membership plus an additional $100 shop card. They can stock up on household essentials like cleaning products, batteries, basic pantry staples, etc... and at the end of the year they get at least $60 back. The gift that keeps on giving 🥰
I was a MOH for a friend. Her cousin picked up the Card box and casually walked out of venue. The Bride was the only one that saw it. She was classy about it, only told me, asked me to not say anything and just continue the night. Disheartening, anger, sadness ... so many emotions. I'm getting married this month and people are telling me to be cautious with cards. Sad but its a reality to deal with. HoneyFund makes sense, 1 less thing to worry about the day of.
The two off-registry items I got were so sweet. One of my bridesmaids moved to France last year and she got me a very nice bottle of perfume. Another friend works at a jewelry store & her bf works at a winery so they got me a nice pair of earrings & bottle of champagne. About cash/checks- our coordinator hid our card box away from guests about halfway through the reception. Husband is Vietnamese so most of his family/family friends gave red envelopes and there was a LOT of money in the card box.
My brother in law got us a crossbow like a legit crossbow for our wedding bc he had a funny conversation with my fiancé about it. But didn’t tell him he would get it for him. It was a impulse buy. We sold it at a yard sale. Funny memory.
We had a ‘green back’ wedding (over 30 years ago) both of us had our own households and didn’t need anything…. Is that still a thing? Anyways, the best gift we got was my Aunties (8 of them) got together and called the hotel we were staying at and paid for a nice fruit & cheese & wine basket delivered to our hotel room at midnight, and then paid for a room service breakfast! Then they had a nice velvet bag filled with gift certificates to various restaurants/liquor store/grocery store in our area left in our room for when we got back from our evening wedding!! We weren’t taking a honeymoon except for the hotel weekend of our wedding….. really the best wedding gift ever!!
My mother has bought SO MANY crystal footed cake platters over the decades. The lady buys them in bulk when Mikasa Outlet has sales. People have come to expect them. Seriously, little sisters of previous recipients have told her they're looking forward to it.
If you’re gonna do a check, please look up HOW to do so so that the couple can actually deposit it. It is best to make it out to just one person or use OR in between the names. If you use AND, they will often need a joint account to deposit it. Most of all, DO NOT make it out to their new name. Name changes take FOREVER and we still (months later) have checks not deposited because they used our new name and the bank would not take them. Also make sure you get the name right… not only is it not very thoughtful to use the wrong name in your gift to someone, some guests darn near made it impossible for us to ever cash their check because they made it out to HusbandName AND MyName HisLastName. I will never be able to prove that I am that person because that is neither my old name nor my future name.
Oh my gosh, I am so anxious about people assuming that I’ll be taking my fiancé’s name and doing that. That OR thing would certainly be a lifesaver if people don’t listen to the kind of long winded “well actually he’s going to socially use my last name, but legally he’ll keep his own name so we’re collectively this, but...”
I just got married two weeks ago and 2/3 of the guests didn’t gift, not even a card. I just thought gifts during celebrations was a no brainier BUT I stand corrected. It’s not about the gifts but my goodness.
Would you be open to doing a video about Honeyfund? I love the idea but I tried to use it and it seemed so difficult to navigate. I also couldn’t imagine my older guests understanding how to use it.
Hi Catsandchamomile! I'd love to connect you with a registry specialist on our team to help you set it up and help you get all your guests on board! E-mail us at help@honeyfund.com
Another idea is to put a note on the card that has the registry website, that it's ok to get the item (s) on the registry at another store for less to do so, do include gift receipt. I wish I did.
I couldn't work out why I was drawn to the cream and yellow jumper in my wardrobe today...then I've seen what you're wearing and I must have been influenced by the thumbnail.
I'm literally on the registry for my best friends wedding and feeling bad that I can't afford much even though I'm a bridesmaid, maybe I should buy more, and then I got to your bit at the end. 😭 yeah. They have plenty of people who aren't college students who can lavish them with gifts. Wish it could be me but that will have to be a future day.
I know this is late, but if someone makes you their bridesmaid, they put a lot of pressure and work on you, and I'm sure they'll be thankful that you do them the service of being their bridesmaid. Sometimes the things you give aren't about money
Unfortunately nothing on my brothers registry I could afford. However I got them a voucher for the department store (here in uk it was John Lewis) so they could put it towards buying things they needed for their new home or something fun. Also you could get something like an Amazon gift card?
I like that idea, and it could help to have everyone form a line to take pics with the bride and groom. That way, you can make sure the lighting is good, and the bride and groom don’t have to do extra legwork/risk spills and falls
if it doesnt exist yet, could you make a video on what to do if you are invited to a wedding but for some reason you do not want to come/cannot come and on how to respectfully decline? i have been multiple times in the situation in which i was invited to a destination wedding that would have been combined with such organizational hassle + high expenses for me that it was easier not to come. usually those were people that i was not super close with (like work colleagues or that one friend i havent spoken to in years but for some reason i was still invited). a guide on how to respectfully decline and maybe how to still offer a gift would be very helpful!
Important detail about wedding day gifts! If the couple is moving out of state right after the wedding, please don’t bring physical gifts beyond a card to the actual wedding! My best friend was married three months ago and moved out of state right after the wedding. Their honeymoon was a stop half way to their new home in TN. People brought bulky gifts to the wedding that her parents had to ship to them. I am now preparing for the same situation. My Fiancé and I are getting married next month and will be driving across a few states to our new home in WA. I am really concerned that guests are going to bring actual gifts to the wedding. Shipping things is expensive. We are driving one car, the day after the wedding (as a road trip honeymoon), we don’t need a car full of gifts. I have move much of my clothing and personal belongings in the car because I am not moving in with my fiancé until after the wedding. I have done my best to tell guests that we are moving and would like our gifts shipped to our apartment in WA but I’m still concerned people aren’t going to care to read the paragraph at the top of the registry page. We will see.
I checked out honeyfund and other sites that register gifts. I love the layout of honeyfund and it looks great. But when I read the reviews the main issue with getting the funds once the guests pay for it. Honeyfund uses paypal as their main payment method. I can't tell if the reviews have an issue with paypal holding the funds or honeyfund holding the funds before it goes to paypal. I might still try to use the site and just not add paypal to the site. I might use the other option for services and add stripe to the site. It wouldn't look as clean as the other option but at least the guest will be diverted to my payment method off the site. I wouldn't be able to use the feature where you add items that you want but will have to just type in the items that they would be contributing too. Anyone have good feedback from a gift registry site?
Rule of thumb for me is if I didn’t ask for it I don’t want it. Sounds sassy but I hate when people regift that stupid lotion combo thing clearly no one wanted. It screams you don’t listen and you don’t care much about us. 😑
Honestly, I don't know if wedding etiquette is much different in the states as it is in Canada, but every wedding I've been to or have been in, people normally buy a physical gift from the registry to bring to the wedding/bridal shower. It's very rare that I've seen people being an actual wrapped gift to the wedding, and many just bring the card with cash so they can put it in the card box. My rule of thumb is spending $50-70 max on a gift (closer to the $50) because for my hubby and I we generally gift $300-$400 in the card. Is it more customary to bring a physical gift to the wedding in the states?
In Mormon land, where anyone and everyone is invited and it's a pretty casual affair with kids running around everywhere, yes, presents are brought to the reception. Engagements are also usually in the 3 month range, so there's not as much time for a lot of the formal stuff.
Yeah, someone on Twitter said it’s obligatory to bring a gift to the shower because it’s in the name to shower them with gifts, but some were saying if you’re invited you don’t have to bring a gift.
Yeah, someone on Twitter said it’s obligatory to bring a gift to the shower because it’s in the name to shower them with gifts, but some were saying if you’re invited you don’t have to bring a gift.
My favorite bridal shower gift to give (and this is only if I know they don't already have one) is a Costco membership. If it's someone I'm super close to, and I am in a good financial situation to do so, I get an executive membership plus an additional $100 shop card. They can stock up on household essentials like cleaning products, batteries, basic pantry staples, etc... and at the end of the year they get at least $60 back. The gift that keeps on giving 🥰
omg that's brilliant!!
What a great idea if they also live close enough to a Costco.
I was a MOH for a friend. Her cousin picked up the Card box and casually walked out of venue. The Bride was the only one that saw it. She was classy about it, only told me, asked me to not say anything and just continue the night. Disheartening, anger, sadness ... so many emotions. I'm getting married this month and people are telling me to be cautious with cards. Sad but its a reality to deal with. HoneyFund makes sense, 1 less thing to worry about the day of.
The two off-registry items I got were so sweet. One of my bridesmaids moved to France last year and she got me a very nice bottle of perfume. Another friend works at a jewelry store & her bf works at a winery so they got me a nice pair of earrings & bottle of champagne.
About cash/checks- our coordinator hid our card box away from guests about halfway through the reception. Husband is Vietnamese so most of his family/family friends gave red envelopes and there was a LOT of money in the card box.
My brother in law got us a crossbow like a legit crossbow for our wedding bc he had a funny conversation with my fiancé about it. But didn’t tell him he would get it for him. It was a impulse buy. We sold it at a yard sale. Funny memory.
We had a ‘green back’ wedding (over 30 years ago) both of us had our own households and didn’t need anything…. Is that still a thing? Anyways, the best gift we got was my Aunties (8 of them) got together and called the hotel we were staying at and paid for a nice fruit & cheese & wine basket delivered to our hotel room at midnight, and then paid for a room service breakfast! Then they had a nice velvet bag filled with gift certificates to various restaurants/liquor store/grocery store in our area left in our room for when we got back from our evening wedding!! We weren’t taking a honeymoon except for the hotel weekend of our wedding….. really the best wedding gift ever!!
My mother has bought SO MANY crystal footed cake platters over the decades. The lady buys them in bulk when Mikasa Outlet has sales. People have come to expect them. Seriously, little sisters of previous recipients have told her they're looking forward to it.
If you’re gonna do a check, please look up HOW to do so so that the couple can actually deposit it. It is best to make it out to just one person or use OR in between the names. If you use AND, they will often need a joint account to deposit it. Most of all, DO NOT make it out to their new name. Name changes take FOREVER and we still (months later) have checks not deposited because they used our new name and the bank would not take them. Also make sure you get the name right… not only is it not very thoughtful to use the wrong name in your gift to someone, some guests darn near made it impossible for us to ever cash their check because they made it out to HusbandName AND MyName HisLastName. I will never be able to prove that I am that person because that is neither my old name nor my future name.
Oh my gosh, I am so anxious about people assuming that I’ll be taking my fiancé’s name and doing that. That OR thing would certainly be a lifesaver if people don’t listen to the kind of long winded “well actually he’s going to socially use my last name, but legally he’ll keep his own name so we’re collectively this, but...”
@@notquiteasamazingjess omg same!!! the assumptions are wild!
This!!!!! I don’t want a bunch of unneeded things that I’m gonna go out of my way to return!
your hair is SO cute!!
This is a great video, because I feel like many people struggle with etiquette.
I just got married two weeks ago and 2/3 of the guests didn’t gift, not even a card. I just thought gifts during celebrations was a no brainier BUT I stand corrected. It’s not about the gifts but my goodness.
you would THINK so but nope! my mom told me that at her wedding (my parents' wedding i mean lol) few ppl gave gifts i was baffled!
My sisters wedding was the same
Congratulations!!! How was your wedding?
I get no gift, but a card, that is the least a guest can do!
Awe that’s a bummer … did your wedding involve much travel for the guests that didn’t give?
Love the new hairdo!
Would you be open to doing a video about Honeyfund? I love the idea but I tried to use it and it seemed so difficult to navigate. I also couldn’t imagine my older guests understanding how to use it.
Hi Catsandchamomile! I'd love to connect you with a registry specialist on our team to help you set it up and help you get all your guests on board! E-mail us at help@honeyfund.com
As a gift giver: I make the gift LOOK interesting by the gift wrapping/presentation of the gift
Edit: give to the couple before or after wedding
Another idea is to put a note on the card that has the registry website, that it's ok to get the item (s) on the registry at another store for less to do so, do include gift receipt. I wish I did.
FIRST!!! Also love your videos Jamie
You are utterly HILARIOUS
I love u 😂
I couldn't work out why I was drawn to the cream and yellow jumper in my wardrobe today...then I've seen what you're wearing and I must have been influenced by the thumbnail.
I'm literally on the registry for my best friends wedding and feeling bad that I can't afford much even though I'm a bridesmaid, maybe I should buy more, and then I got to your bit at the end.
😭 yeah. They have plenty of people who aren't college students who can lavish them with gifts. Wish it could be me but that will have to be a future day.
I know this is late, but if someone makes you their bridesmaid, they put a lot of pressure and work on you, and I'm sure they'll be thankful that you do them the service of being their bridesmaid. Sometimes the things you give aren't about money
Unfortunately nothing on my brothers registry I could afford. However I got them a voucher for the department store (here in uk it was John Lewis) so they could put it towards buying things they needed for their new home or something fun. Also you could get something like an Amazon gift card?
How to greet everyone without taking forever? Where do you stand after ceremony, pictures, and cocktail hour? HELP!
I saw one couple who put on a song, and during that song they speed ran taking photos with every table
I like that idea, and it could help to have everyone form a line to take pics with the bride and groom. That way, you can make sure the lighting is good, and the bride and groom don’t have to do extra legwork/risk spills and falls
if it doesnt exist yet, could you make a video on what to do if you are invited to a wedding but for some reason you do not want to come/cannot come and on how to respectfully decline? i have been multiple times in the situation in which i was invited to a destination wedding that would have been combined with such organizational hassle + high expenses for me that it was easier not to come. usually those were people that i was not super close with (like work colleagues or that one friend i havent spoken to in years but for some reason i was still invited). a guide on how to respectfully decline and maybe how to still offer a gift would be very helpful!
Important detail about wedding day gifts! If the couple is moving out of state right after the wedding, please don’t bring physical gifts beyond a card to the actual wedding!
My best friend was married three months ago and moved out of state right after the wedding. Their honeymoon was a stop half way to their new home in TN. People brought bulky gifts to the wedding that her parents had to ship to them.
I am now preparing for the same situation. My Fiancé and I are getting married next month and will be driving across a few states to our new home in WA. I am really concerned that guests are going to bring actual gifts to the wedding. Shipping things is expensive. We are driving one car, the day after the wedding (as a road trip honeymoon), we don’t need a car full of gifts. I have move much of my clothing and personal belongings in the car because I am not moving in with my fiancé until after the wedding.
I have done my best to tell guests that we are moving and would like our gifts shipped to our apartment in WA but I’m still concerned people aren’t going to care to read the paragraph at the top of the registry page. We will see.
Very nice ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
good evening ma
I checked out honeyfund and other sites that register gifts. I love the layout of honeyfund and it looks great. But when I read the reviews the main issue with getting the funds once the guests pay for it. Honeyfund uses paypal as their main payment method. I can't tell if the reviews have an issue with paypal holding the funds or honeyfund holding the funds before it goes to paypal. I might still try to use the site and just not add paypal to the site. I might use the other option for services and add stripe to the site. It wouldn't look as clean as the other option but at least the guest will be diverted to my payment method off the site. I wouldn't be able to use the feature where you add items that you want but will have to just type in the items that they would be contributing too. Anyone have good feedback from a gift registry site?
Dear Guests, Cashapp and Venmo please. 😂
No fr😂
Ive never used cashapp do they take a % out? I hate how much venmo takes😭
@@nicolerett no fee if you’re using a personal cashapp! Business cash apps take a fee.
good i am hearing wats are you saying can u send some items can great gifting items
Did you miss the whole concept of the first half of the video? Buy off the registry
@@soimsha. everything complete
Rule of thumb for me is if I didn’t ask for it I don’t want it. Sounds sassy but I hate when people regift that stupid lotion combo thing clearly no one wanted. It screams you don’t listen and you don’t care much about us. 😑
Yes! And it’s always peony scented 🤮🤮🤮
Honestly, I don't know if wedding etiquette is much different in the states as it is in Canada, but every wedding I've been to or have been in, people normally buy a physical gift from the registry to bring to the wedding/bridal shower. It's very rare that I've seen people being an actual wrapped gift to the wedding, and many just bring the card with cash so they can put it in the card box. My rule of thumb is spending $50-70 max on a gift (closer to the $50) because for my hubby and I we generally gift $300-$400 in the card. Is it more customary to bring a physical gift to the wedding in the states?
In Mormon land, where anyone and everyone is invited and it's a pretty casual affair with kids running around everywhere, yes, presents are brought to the reception. Engagements are also usually in the 3 month range, so there's not as much time for a lot of the formal stuff.
Hi Jamie I'm planning a 18th birthday party for my granddaughter and I need great ideas can u make a video plz on this topic.
She’s a wedding coodinator
Look on Pinterest. And ask your grand daughter what she likes
This is so funny because there was recently a debate on Twitter about whether or not you need to bring a gift to a shower
I thought that was the point of the shower. So the couple can get the registry gifts then and not at the wedding.
Yeah, someone on Twitter said it’s obligatory to bring a gift to the shower because it’s in the name to shower them with gifts, but some were saying if you’re invited you don’t have to bring a gift.
Yeah, someone on Twitter said it’s obligatory to bring a gift to the shower because it’s in the name to shower them with gifts, but some were saying if you’re invited you don’t have to bring a gift.
I second the not doing money in a card thing. Not all family is trust worthy🙃