How Modern Society Brainwashes You
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- Опубликовано: 19 сен 2024
- A story about modern society, feeling unfulfilled, and being addicted to self improvement.
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Topics: how modern world makes us mentally ill, why do i feel unfulfilled, modern society is weak, modern society is depressing, modern society collapse
Yes the thumbnail is insane. Watch the whole video to find out why.
Thank you.
As your subscriber I know how many times you change your thumbnails in every video
You’re a real one
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i literally experienced the same day as u explained in this video. i deleted social media as i was fed up of all those distractions, i can't decide what to do in the future. and that is the exact moment i came around this video. amazing story telling. im going to do my best to take positive steps in future 'cause of this video. thanks to you man. i cried as i could relate. to a positive future!!🥂
@@1028dash not great its cringy. but great video tho...
No wonder so many of us feel depressed, anxious and suicidal. We never feel like we're good enough.
It’s worse than that. Failure to launch, sputtering out during your youth and forcing heavy repairs to be made as you get older. Your 20s are so valuable, like liquid gold. Your 30s (ideally for building a family) are wholly dependent on your 20s, which can become a total mess via childhood trauma, drug addiction, and poor decision making. The conspiracy side of my brain tells me that this sort of generational trauma isn’t natural, it’s programmed into us via religion, tv, internet, 9-5 slavery, etc.
Embrace it, we are never done growing.
@@tactik5903 the issue is while coming to this realization may be liberating. the issue at least for me is after a few days i fall back into my thoughts and routines so easily like there are days where i feel like i have a ton of clairity but then a few days or even a day later its like i again i fall back into so many of my old habits.(but i also think its the fact that i have a lot of stress to deal with even though its small things its all stuff that combined can feel like big things which i have to deal with)
@@thewewguy8t88 start with shaving your head, see if anything changes. 😎
@@thewewguy8t88 your not alone, our society is rigged to keep us in routine, broke, slaving away at work, or school. This life, or timeline if you want to call it that, isn’t interesting enough to attach ourselves to. I know that sounds dark but it’s true, the people controlling the economy, and social norms, technology, etc. do not care about people’s needs, it’s just to create a fast paced society so we’re all distracted and miserable. It’s hard not to change, best thing to do is not worry about it, just keep learning, and have faith in a bigger picture, by that I mean God, but on this planet, it’s all self preservation.
The ones who truly were in a long relationship with self-improvement will perfectly understand this video.
Exaaaactly
For real, pushed a lot of people and fun times away because of it
me too
I sleep with self-improvement everyday bro!
im 34 now, me and my husbando are almost 20 years together and have 4 beautiful daughters together. and most important thing he's happy and so am i.
"The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves..." - Allan Watts
So true. We are so conditioned to think that to "win" in life, you must have a certain career, items, know certain people, do certain things to be "successful". But we never really question why these parameters are a measure to success. These parameters were created by other people. If you look at the animal world in it's most basic form, they don't have a societal pressure to be a certain way. They just live.
I love Alan Watts. One of my favourite quotes ever
So, we are just here for no real reason at all and "yolo" it? no,i don't think so.
*God* gave us free will and purpose.
@@kacknoobdeluxe The real reason why we pursue anything is because deep down we feel incomplete within ourselves so we always look for some goal to pursue to satisfy our sense of lack. Everything we do nowadays is basically to have some sort of a high status in the hierarchy and to seem like an interesting person in front of others. Now ofc there is nothing wrong with pursuing passions or goals, as long we are present and mindful while doing these things and ofc the most important thing to do these things because we enjoy them not for some sort of reward. The real problem is that society nowadays expects us to have high paying jobs, have a career, car, money, expensive things, social skills all these things just to fit in the norms of society and be a "normal" person. That is what the author means by this quote. That all these things don't really matter, they are just man made concepts that have consumed our entire existence. As for "god brought us here for a reason" I think that reason is to enjoy life and experience this beautiful reality through this opportunity that we were given. If you were to just give introspectivness and mindfulness a shot I think you will find all of what I said to be true, but again I can't make any assumptions. Hope this helps friend
@@kacknoobdeluxe du hast diesen Kommentar nicht geschrieben um mit zu diskutieren. Du hast diesen kommentar geschrieben weil du denkst deine meinung ist mehr wert.
Basically do self improvement in a way the suits your life and don’t let fear dictate what works for you. It’s okay to not meet the fake standards that others place around you. You must take what others say and apply it but don’t let peoples words alter your life in a way that doesn’t feel ideal for you. What works for you is already figured out..
@Shimmy Shai It's a problem because some kids didn't exactly learn those things, they needed to know so they can protect their self-worth in themselves. A lot of people are trying to self-improve, but there's factors that even stump their growth, or even grow in a way that's unhealthy for them, even dangerous. Today I just learned something about myself that shows that a combination of flawed things that I was taught, alongside my self-worth being tossed around by the opinions of others that I never asked to be treated terribly until I believed it, and the consequence of some poor decision making as a result of these factors. While I made it through grade school and other kids with problems with their own, there's things that still needs to be improved, but not in the way I currently am, holding onto now useless information I over worried, overconsumed, and etc. about. I need a new and different mindset and to learn how to commit to it to be my new present.
This video was a personal call out video for me. I want to cry at how accurate this was. My whole life for the past 3 years was obsessed with self improvement. I have a shit load of mental illness and I desperately want to claw out of the dark hole life threw me in.
I started forcing myself to workout, to only eating fruits and vegetables and water. I missed the high sugar would give me. I would meditate even when my mind would wander with intrusive thoughts. I wrote journal entries with 0 points and takeaways and I limited myself from my friends irl and on social media.
I desperately wanted to be “That Girl” the girl who has her shit together
But in reality I was fooling myself. I felt like I was trying to prove to everyone that I’m SOO independent, that I’m better, that my life has more value. I would post everything on instagram- from my workouts, my studies, my diet, my poems- just to feel like I’m “better” somehow.
I wanted to prove myself so bad and get praised (due to some childhood trauma but I’m not getting into that)
I felt -and still feel- like I’m in a race against invisible time. Like if I don’t get my life together I’ll forever be a failure.
I even went as far as switching my major twice to a more “respectable” field just for more praise and validation and now I want to cry so bad that I never once put myself first. Every single thing I’ve done was to directly or indirectly please other people. A check list of positive actions just to get a “gold star” stamped on my progress.
This video really really did it for me.
i can somewhat relate to this. i wish you the best of luck.
On the same boat... But last 6 months I slowly getting back to reality
We all try to better ourselves. It’s not your fault. Everyone has that feeling of not being better and feeling like we have everything figured out. At the end of the day we are all human. Our society pushes perfection but we aren’t made to be perfect, we are imperfect and create, craft and imagine things that seem impractical and nonsense but turn out something wonderful in the end. You are not alone.
Don't give up sister I'm in almost same situation but I'm trying my best and you should too I'm 28 now and still think it's not too late it's not late for anybody
@@braydenblocher I wish you the best luck too 😩💖
“You don’t know what you want because you have it already” that was gold right there
Listening to you and Alan Watts makes me feel so grounded. I wouldn’t even know I needed it until I hear you two!
big facts. also dont forget lao tsu and marcus aurelias and socrates etc
@@derealratos6332 Also Eckhart Tolle, David R Hawkins, Ram Dass, Carl Jung
If you die tonight, do you know where you're going? Did you know that Jesus Christ is THE Truth, the life and the only way to Heaven?
Revelation 20:15 ''Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire.''
Through Jesus Christ, God offers you a FREE gift - forgiveness. All you need to do is repent, turn away from your sins and evil ways,
from now on put your faith completely in Jesus Christ and be obedient to Him.
Biblical explanation of the Gospel:
God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why
we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go
there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but
rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam
sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23)
The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell.
Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how
high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him.
For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ
- for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day.
None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all
have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us
are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is
guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit
to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal
hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned.
No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin.
Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures,
He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever
believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16)
We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ.
''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God -
not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins
(past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him.
This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him
by reading God's Word.
So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13)
''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15)
''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19)
Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8).
Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin.
While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10).
Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.
If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6)
(John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again."
If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually.
When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance
until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14)
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36)
''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7)
If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes -
to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God.
You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace
revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son.
''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17)
''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10)
You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ.
As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so.
In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.''
''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19)
''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41)
''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body,
but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21)
''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that,
just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4)
''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God,
who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12)
Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left!
"But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32)
Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you!
Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''
Huh? What does that mean?
Alan Watt not watts.
9 things to quit for all Strong People:
1. Caring about what others think
2. Not believing in yourself
3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business)
4. Not prioritizing your health
5. Wasting your precious time
6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it)
7. Chasing meaningless relationships
8. Wasting time by scrolling social media
9. Addictions for good (if you have any - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) 🚀
Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list 💯☝
Let me know in the comments 💪
Porn, quit porn.
Thanks for that list❤️
Number 9 is the toughest to deal with for me
the only rule there is, is that we dont have any rules
just be a guy with good character
think for yourself
and get good at a skill
you don't need this complicated ass list, the simplest stuff is usually what you need the most
@@christophermotlalekgosi1922 your not alone brother.
I love your storytelling man. You're really good at turning deep lessons into stories. Especially with technology these days it's so easy to get more and more sucked into similar types of beliefs instead of conversing with people who have different beliefs and expanding our perspectives.
A few things that helped me expand my viewpoint:
- Talking to strangers almost daily
- Traveling to different countries
- Learning different languages, shows you how words actually how different meanings and ways of being expressed in different cultures
- Studying Spiral Dynamics
- Meditation for longer periods (1 hour per day or more)
Thanks for the content you put out brother.
I wish traveling to other countries would be less expensive
@@pedroroque829 depending on how and where you travel it can be quite affordable actually
Just with reading you can do all of them at once so I would recommend 💖
You actually just described the last 10 years of my life, from start to finish.
Hope you live a long and happy life
Social media and the urge for a relationship are the downfall for us in our current society. I can admit that I always feel like I needed to stay socially acceptable and I worried how people viewed me. Most of all I looked at the 1% of jock and such who easily got a relationship and felt discouraged and desperate. The one thing I started working on and still am is patience but also being your true self. If you aren’t being accepted by your crush (for example) for being yourself then you don’t need that person. They don’t value you for who you. Patience and self esteem as well as not worrying what others think of you is the key in life and I’m still working on thinking like this more. Life is what you make it and your true self is the only thing that matters.
Self-improvement becomes another form of consumption that gives us the same gratification that other forms of social media consumption do. It’s about applying what you know and carving your own path with the basic tools given to you.
I hate when I'm told to stop comparing myself to others, but yet society will still continue to do so.
Bro this video described my life to the T up to 10 mins in and then.. it kept going. This is legit the coolest video I've ever watched on youtube. A like, comment, sub, and donate to you, my good sir. You're awesome. Thank you again for this amazing content!
Wow, thank you so much Desmond! I really appreciate that!
Great you just fueled his dopamine and now he's going to expect every single comment he gets to be a sub and a dono. You just ruined his entire life
😂
This is the most serious comment I've seen on RUclips ever
Bro get a life over here sending 50$ to a random
You could not have released this at a better time, for once after watching these self help videos i feel like i actually understand, rather than having this fake idea that all i have to do is "blah blah blah". I especially love the quote "all because he had figured out, there was never anything to figure out". I have spent the majority of my rather short life trying to find meaning in absolutely everything, and now i feel as if i can finally step back a second and breathe. Thankyou🙏
Yeah. I concur
I agree
That got pretty meta towards the end lol, I loved this storytelling video, great message!
Thank you
Had this realization a few days ago. I had a sense that whatever these self-help guys were saying, were obviously beneficial to me, but I had very mixed feelings because I overconsumed every bit of information. Eventually I just subconsciously stopped because I was burnt out, and I felt an overwhelming sense of awareness between what I learned the past year, and connecting it to what I thought was brainwashing on each side of the spectrum. At first it confused me, but I then realized I didn't want to be like every self-help guy and wanted to be my own person that could wisely decide what is fulfilling in life to me.
@House Mouse Main
@House Mouse Main
This was excactly what i needed to hear, goung 34 years on the 10th, lockdown and all the news and social media is destroying my life, having anxiety and believing in conspiracy and fearing the world, i never felt like this before, it can hit anyone stay safe and take care of yourself and your mind, i fear my life and future, i need to accept i can't control everything i am stressed and depressed, tine is flying by and i stand still, thank you so much Cole!
Lockdown has been over for like 2 years now
r34💀😳
This video brought a tear to my eye. I'm a 25 year old guy.. I've had almost every realization up until you got to the part where you said that after all the self help he hadn't changed much at all.. and when you explained beyond that. I actually started shedding a tear because man.. I've been so lost lately. I've spent years hustling, building a life that may look good.. nice place, nice car.. but I've been miserable inside man. I'm finally learning what you taught in this video. I realized much of it a while ago but this brought it home in a powerful way. Thank you for this. It makes me feel less alone, and when watching it I almost felt like it was made for me.
This is a phenomenal video - while many people get wrapped up in the self improvement world with good intentions, very few end up seeing how it is simply just a different version of what they were trying to escape from in the first place 👏
This is literally my life from 20 till 27. Now at a point of just live life. There is no such thing as a life even, just Living. It is a verb. So yeah make enough money, seek or love your dreamlover, take care of your body, home and tools and do things that are enjoyable. Thats basicly life management in a nutshell.
i belive that as long as you do things that you enjoy, nothing else matter. even if you dont make money of it, its still worth more than anything
But in making money, one has to do the things which he/she doesn't enjoy
The best thing there is is making money while you relatively enjoy the work. But when thats not possible you have to accept that you need enough money and you need to do something you dont like. Just like brushing your teeth and cleaning your home. Not very likable, but necessary.
@@alainfranken7081 means it is a part of life where you have to work whether you like it or not, to get a job which you like, in the future.
@@bosongod2830 exactly
This video literally made me cry, you are by far the most mature and philosophical "self improvenemt youtuber" and I relate to you the most.
Hamza
@@fakehatti That used to be the case but not anymore
"Life" is a game we play to keep ourselves entertained and busy till we die. Just like a game, it has no purpose whatsoever but to be played. Nothing is going to happen, you're not going to be enlightened, you're not going to go to heaven or hell you're not going to achieve eternal peace or bliss. Time cannot be lost or gained because it's only your memories. You can't hold on to anything, not even your breath. So no point in struggling. When you relax in the water, you float, when you struggle you eventually tire and sink.
9:15 sent chills down my spine. Words cannot describe how much I relate to this.
Me too, I think what he described is a period most of us who watch these motivational videos go through. It has made me much more self-aware, but in the end, it hasn't really led anywhere. The key to a happy life is simple, use your time doing the things your heart desires. There is no need to prove yourself to anyone.
Am I wasting my precious time? No, I am only forging my own path.
The timing of this video is insane. I was literally on week 2/3 of this exact process. It was just last night that I had that realization that through all the new things I was doing, I was still just as fearful and angry as I had always been. Thank you for making this
I’ve been in self improvement journey for a while. This video hits so hard that I stood and start thinking for 10 mins straight
This video is a perfect story of how I took self help videos too seriously by their advice at a time. The ultimate truth is listen to everyone but follow what you feel , take life a it is and don’t bind yourself by advice from people who seem to hav achieved everything .
Excellent video... this was similar to my personal experience...I never got any of the social media - only research, lectures and instructional videos here on YT... over the past 10 years I have found that I made the right choice...
Profound message! Reminds me one of my friends who has been practicing meditation for ages. He told me once that experiencing the present moment can teach us to not just accepting what we are but how to create new perspective about what we see around us thanks to the openness. Meditation basically peels off the old filters and helps us see new possibilities as the guy in the example. Young people need content like this more than ever. Bless you man!
I can relate to this story. It’s about doing things in your life that you want to do not cause you have to. You can go on a run for the first time and hate it, but as you keep doing it, go through the suffering. It will feel like breathing and the love will be there.
Man you are the one to complete and articulate my thoughts. F**k. You are seriously the GOAT
You are at the top level and always climbing up even further, and we are following you. Thank you for serving mankind. Still learning everyday!
That is still hard for a lot, to realize there is more to life than just to making f.e. loads of money.
Awesome content!
Greetings from Germany
I don't have any real social media, and there's some downsides. You touched on this in a single sentence: I'm very disconnected from what most people do these days...
I'm glad I'm not addicted to scrolling TikTok videos, but I'm blind to our modern culture in many ways. I'm better at waiting for real rewards though.
I start by waking up and working out while listening to a video like this knowing I'll learn something and feel energized after just the first 10 mins of being up. Not long but everyday I need to tell myself here we go... and I can imagine instant gratification of scrolling makes this harder to do!
I like using French presses for coffee so I NEED to wait 5-10 minutes for my brew. And so on. I really feel waiting a small amount for small rewards, is well, rewarding in itself.
I use the social media to learn, and a little bit of normal entertainment. I find learning fun. I guess I got lucky and curiosity helped me
Be thankful for yourself, pal. You're not the sheep; you're the lone thinker with a unique mindset! Social media these days are ruining people's minds and social lives.
You aren't missing anything social media is such a waste of time unless you are actively learning something useful.
The only drawback to not being on social media is you have to work harder to stay in touch with people you don't see often. You're not in their consciousness unless you call or text them vs they could see your photos or videos on social.
I recently got suspended from my job because my mood revolved so much around other people's opinions of me that it affected my job performance and how I interacted with my coworkers. I made the conscious decision to stop relying on other people's opinions of me, and rely on my own judgement. The truth is that I have not been able to trust myself because I was bullied for being overweight and dressing in unflattering ways when I was a teenager, and I thought by listening to other people's opinions over mine, I would prevent bullying. The only reason why I did get overweight and dressed poorly was because I had SEVERE dissociation from being sexually abused when I was a kid. I was an emotional/boredom eater, and I was not even aware of how big I was getting because I was so disconnected from my body and the external world. I justified my clothes getting tighter with sizes running too small. Now I realize I can trust myself and have self awareness without having to outsource my perception to other people. I also see more reasons to maintain a healthy weight besides aesthetics.
This was such a reminder to customize our lives....This really helped me so much! Thank you Cole!
No prob, thanks for watching
Absolutely. Customize your life doesn't mean you have to be afraid to take chances but today it's such a mess that even following the "good guys" can lead you astray. It's also a level of love and positivity that needs to be shared with people in your life.
73 years old and this helped me. Starting over due to a surgery. I have been looking at online, rather clerical ways of making money, but I'm a physical dude. I know how to fix and build stuff. I'm out of my element with tech. I'll see where I end up. Thanks.
All the best sir!
The storytelling and self awareness is gettin’ better each vid. Honest a worthwhile process to struggle through to realize the absurdity in the expectations and beliefs within’ our heads alongside the trauma we’ve dealt with growin’ up. Stay skeptical and lead a life with a you you’d wanna hang around.
Also pls make an ARG it’d be so good with your editing and filming
Cole... I love you man... Thanks for making this video about me.
Love you too bro
The delayed gratification comes from Søren Kierkegaard fear and trembling. You give everything up keeping the faith that what you truly desire it will return.
I'm so thankful for my Parents taking the time to teach me how to get a healthy mind and spirit ♥ May the cosmos bless them
It feels illegal to be this early
Reported for being early
@@ColeHastings 😶hello
For real
This man is a legend. I am so thankful for your videos and everything you done for us. I lose my finacee in the accident before 3 years. It was really hard to move on. Then after some time I found your channel. I started nofap, cold showers, removed social media and guess what - I got a new life. My confidence is so high, I moved so much forward. Did a lot progress on my fitness path and life. I am enjoying now every day, every second. I put on paper things I have to do and no matter how I feel i do them all. I love life, I love living. Wish you all the best brothers and sister and thank you Cole so so much, thanks for changing my life completely. 🤗
9:34 I love the word choice of "alone" rather than "lonely".
Because despite of all these isolation, one may still feel happy and fulfilled.
What personally helped me after around 5 years of really bad depression was starting to study chaos magic, it has some really interesting points from a philosophical standpoint. In extremely simplified terms: Nothing is real, everything is permitted. I know, I know, Assassins Creed. But no, in all seriousness, at the start there is one basic rule (out of the few) and it states: A person is manipulated by their surroundings be it family, religion, culture or politics. It shows you a way to get out of that mindset. Most important of all, it is totally, 100% upfront with a couple of things. First that the reality we see is one made of opposites so for every thing you do you will see its other side. If you separate yourself from, lets say, social media, you will see more piece (this is not in the book, just something I noticed once I did it for myself). It is made of actions and reactions. You should change small things in your everyday life, choose the things that you can't fail in, and replace them with something also meaningless. Once you understand that things can be changed, you will want to change more. This in itself will at a point not be enough. You need to chase the opposites of what you believed your whole life and try it out. This will generally result in you realizing that for every bad thing stated on your original point of view there is an opposite argument on the new one that once seemed so alien to you. In no time, most of the people who try hard enough will see that there is no one valid point of view and that things are more complex then our first perception of the world. This is the point where a good part of the perceptions and manipulations regarding a persons outside influences are broken. After that it is up to you to figure out what you want and what is not for you. For me personally it is 3D animation, something I have known and have been studying for some time now. It dose not matter if it is something I will do for a job, it is just something I deeply enjoy so I will keep doing it regardless... Nothing is real, everything is permitted. (This of course excludes a lot of magical aspects from the study, if you are a stranger somewhere else and are interested in this subject, just try out Liber Null by Peter Carroll to see if its something you might be interested in... If not, who cares, It is not like you are missing anything, we are all going to die anyways, it is not like you can really fuck up at life ;) )
Excellent video! So relatable. It was quite painful to see for the first 3 quarters of video but no regrets for it because I loved the message you gave us.
P.D. You're awesome at storytelling. Keep doing videos like this for God's sake!
This is why I don’t have TikTok, Facebook, Twitter, instagram, only discord for irl friends, to me, exercise, reading books, it’s so easy to fall into this system, if you don’t have all these “trendy” apps, your an outsider, no matter what you do to help, yourself, other people who think they are right will force their opinion to you, the only thing that drives me is the fact I only have one life, I have to make the most out of it, I don’t want to deal with others stupidity, society today requests, and demands you conform to their ideal of how people should be, if you don’t your a threat to society and no one will accept you, acknowledging the fact that someone will be angry at you, no matter what you do, just live your life, and do what you enjoy
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I agree, although I only have Tumblr, Twitter, Discord and PDB (an app of personality database ofc). I'm not a huge fan of drama and overzealous trendy stuff, I'm usually scrolling to see pictures of my favorite anime and possibly fanfics made by japanese people, I cannot live without shipping characters
And I still search curse zetta characters from the world ends with you videogame, I'm stuck on the dark side of the internet until now
I perfectly understand this video because I’ve gone through all of that. But even being aware of this, it’s impossible to not feel frustrated sometimes. Now I understand that even feeling that way is normal. And yep, life is something we should enjoy while we’re still alive. There’s nothing to figure out
It will always be a struggle but a good one. Life is a gift not a prison sentence. We aren't meant to have all the answers but so many today are veering way off track and forgetting what is truly important. I'm 40 now and finally really get it.
Bro this was literally me after finding out Hamza LOL. Tbf, he has some vids talking about why I should stop watching his or any yt vids (about self imp specifically) and read books instead. Only now do I understand why.
Anyway, fantastic storytelling and editing. Keep up the good work.
I enjoyed your video very much. I never looked up to anyone in my life, because there were no role models. People were doing their own thing then trying to influence me to think like them. I never let them go inside my mind. Many times I was pushed into questioning why I was living anyway. What I learned about my life is this. I'm living it the way that I want, and no one is going to change me. No one in this world has dominion over me. I make my own decisions. I don't question my options. I take action. I complete my own goals without apologies. I never ask for permission, or feel guilt for completing anything. This is who I am. I have never needed anyone to feel complete.
This video is a reality for most of us guys into self improvement. I think I finally get the Fight Club quote 'self improvement is just masturbation'. I hope I can get to that point where I'm not doing self help out of insecurity / brainwashing. But as for now I still think staying on the self improvement path is better than not being on it so I guess we'll see. Very well written story! 🙋♂
I have been off of social media for almost 4 months now and trust me I am never going back
Social media creates this fake urgency and expectation that there is always someone expecting you but in reality nobody gives a crap about you because for them, you are entertainment and for us, they are entertainment
Cole here actually depicts a very dark reality most people don't even realize they are in and I can specially relate with this video because I was this kid for the first 20 years of my life
Thanks Cole for making this video 💯
Your self-improving ass does realize youtube is a social media right?
Still commented though
Wow, I got chills watching this! Honestly a cinematic masterpiece Cole keep it up my dude 💯🔥
"all because he figured out that there wasn't anything to figure out". That's the key to make oneself relaxed in a world of information overload. Awesome video!
Great Storytelling bro, Yea same thing happened to me when I started self improvement, this is why I believe you shouldn't take every single self improvement advice blindly until you built ur own perception of reality. Otherwise ur brains gonna be fried.
This video describes exactly what I went through for the past five years. I feel less alone now that I realize that I'm not the only one struggling with this. Thank you so much for this video!
It's always good to know we aren't alone in struggles. I love being able to impart wisdom onto others too while understanding my own mistakes.
Already feel like this will be the best one yet.
This one is really unusual. I like the plot twist, that even if you start this self-improvment journey that won't help THAT much. You still got your individual problems and feelings that only you can figure out. The path is unpredictable and you never know when you gonna feel better or when there will be bright days, when everything is easy and you get success. We just need to move on and not be afraid of expireicing goods and bads. Thank you for your work Cole, live further everyone!
every piece of content you make is a gem, thank you Cole 🙏🏽
this is some revolutionary next-level self-improvement content, good job brother!
I had no goal in life, nothing I wanted to do, right from the start. My parent kept pushing me to study so that I can graduate with a bachelor degree of any useful profession. But I couldn't care less. I only wanted to enjoy life and play.
Imagine finally waking up after I reached age 28. It is a horrifying experience. At that point, I had a sudden realization that life is short and I wanted to tryout many stuff that I only dreamt of in the past. So I changed.
But unlike many others, I didn't start at zero. Im already had a decent job in the IT industry. Pursuing whatever I wanted is easy as long as I don't aim for the top salary within my industry. However, all this won't have been possible without my parent's push.
I believe that self improvement is definitely good, as long as you don't become too obsessed with it. It might help you in the future in unexpected ways. I'm where I am now because I was pushed to where I am by my parents. I think of that as some kind of supervised self improvement and I'm certainly grateful for that.
I've said it so many times to friends, collegues, loved ones and they all seems to hate it but. Pain is a great teacher.
EXACTLY, a man’s value is NOT defined by a number like his bank account, height, etc.
So women dont look at the salary of the man?, i mean like if he earn 5 figures a month. Cuz i have the feeling that im not worthy of being loved because i dont earn more then 1k :/
@@iElia most of them look at height/ salary
It's sad this video hasn't gotten to much bigger audience yet it's very educative and eye opening. I love the value that you provide.
Keep doing the great work.
“You don’t know what you want because you have it already”
I really needed to hear that , great video ❤
Can you tell me what that is
This quote from allan watts?
@@arnasskywalker7033 yes
@@bunnyboo6295 Lol I don’t know either , i just liked the quote
Amen. We all have it.
This video has been a reflection of myself over the last few months. I hope I get deeper, ingrained and permanent understand, that all I do is temporary and that everything I do is just a momentary experience in my own reality.
Deleting my social media 4 years ago was one of the best things that I did.
Me who never used it..... (youtube doesnt realy count as i barely use it)......but shit like crapbook, never gona touch that ever
Thank you! I always find this helpful when people have new arguments trying to influence me away from my authenticity
We really do live in a world of instant gratification
I'm on year 3 of self-improvement. Daily workouts, nutritional adjustments, personal finance, reading books, traveling, and trying to meet new people. The day to day journey and process itself are the reward. Who you are right now is a collective product of all of the decisions that you've made during your previous days. It's not about chasing an end goal; it's about making the "now" that much better. I've accepted that my current situation and mental state are a byproduct of the small decisions I made yesterday. Once you condition yourself to embrace the suck so to speak, it's much easier to be/do/feel what you want as it'll be the result of internalized processes instead of the external nonsense being thrown at us every day.
The attachment to outcomes is what causes most suffering. You do not need to attain to be someone, all this will do is take you out the present moment and ruin yourself self esteem. All you can do is be you, life is about stripping everything back to the present moment and being as honest to you as you can be. Only then will you be free of unnecessary suffering
I'm 16 and this is honestly really accurate, I'm currently trying to improve myself as of now and I even went to the gym for the first time (it went pretty well) and when I was improving myself I felt that I had figured it all out but like you said "life was never meant to be something to figure out and complete but a reality to be experienced and enjoyed in every moment".
So yeah, thanks cole.👍
I really enjoyed this beautiful video, great story telling!
Excellent video Cole! I'm at this stage as well. Started as a typical gamer loner, became obsessed with self-improvement, realized that wasn't what I actually wanted, and now I just enjoy life by being present and changing my mindset. I do things I enjoy regardless of what other people think, I don't change who I am to try and impress women, I don't spend all of my waking hours trying to be rich. It's true I still work out and eat well because I genuinely enjoy it and it feels good. I'm still a lonely guy sometimes but if you're not happy with yourself you'll never be happy, in my opinion anyway. We're all gonna die one day and we don't know when. Life doesn't have to be that serious. Pursue things you enjoy, implement some discipline, be a kind and friendly person, and try to be present in each moment
This video made me watch it twice, once, just because I mindlessly watch a lot of self-improvement content and the second time to critically analyse the video to see what I agreed and disagreed with, which ended up solidifying the message for me, thanks Cole, for making me think lol.
very impressive of you to do so
I watched it twice now, the second time only listening to it audibly. It definitely solidified the message.
The title and thumbnail of this video are so misleading. They make it look like just one of those "self-help, society sucks" type rants, but this is actually one of the most beautiful videos on this platform. So brilliantly written and narrated. Thank you.
Had me in the first half. Thanks for the love
This video was very helpful, I feel relieved and suddenly my mindset switched, cause I realized I was that guy in the video, I was scared to end up as a bum and not pay my mom back for everything she's has done for me, but tbh self-improvement made me more miserable and lonely, It's been years but it's time I just have fun doing what I love even if it is scary sometimes, thank you very much for this dope video
This video will help a lot of people, thank you for doing it.
Thank you for sharing yet another, in my opinion, piece of art. Love your videos !
Dude you made me cry of happiness. I’ve been beating my ass senseless in the gym and practicing meditation and doing waking rituals and stuff but I still felt so lost. Thank you for helping me break through in the realization that I don’t need to be anyone important, and to just be me.
Wow this was a really different type of video. It was so self aware. It comments on how humans have this innate need to complete and figure out "the goal" of life. Society or other humans will exploit your need to reach a goal just so they can "reach the goal" of life.
Sometimes we forget sometimes there is no goal in life but to live it. The stereotypical goals were constructed by corporations and others to prey on us, and the reason they do it is to reach their own arbitrary goal which is not the only way to live.
Crazy
"You don't know what you want because you have it already." Damn...that one hits diffrent.
Very nice video again
I always say that I had a much clearer mind at 20 than now. I dropped out of my first degree in Philosophy, moved to an anglophone country, learned ENG to an advanced level got a degree in management, kept learning about marketing and I have never been more confused. When I was monolingual and focused on the highest expression of western conceptualisation I was healthier, happier and more self-fulfilled. It seems skills are never enough, jobs ads are essay-length, and the sense of frustration spirals down... I have been lucky enough in terms of not to become a slave to social media and the ridiculous insta BS, nor I play the game of contemporary HR wanting people details out there in the world wide web. Prioritise your health and wellbeing, because it will catch up at some point. If you think that an ingrained aspect of the systemic matrix is faulty or doesn't align with your own vision, you are in charge to create your own path in your own capacity. OWN don't be owned.
I wish I had the option of being set up in another country, food, housing, education paid for, if any natives opposed I could get mad and call them bigots and racists, have the majority of the people support me, even though I waltzed my way into THEIR country and started demanding hand outs and opportunities, taking all of that away from the native born citizens that live there, while calling them ignorant and lazy, all because I couldn’t make it in my original home country.
Deja Vu ! The start of the video was relatable to where i was a couple of years back .... sometimes the best advice you can receive is no advice ... just tune out the noise and be with yourself. Amazing Video Cole. The edit was absolutely ToP Notch 💯
So happy I was growing up during a time when the Richie Rich movie was the only available example of kids living lavish lifestyles 😂
I remember that movie well and actually enjoyed it. He didn't have to pay them to be his friends anymore. The moral of that story is deeper than just a kids movie.
You just described so many of our journeys bro! Really hit the nail! Im just realising the end of it now so thank you for what you do Cole 👏🏼🙏 legend
I think self improvement is important but more in terms of character, skills, and development of purpose and doing meaningful things with your life that you find meaningful than popularity, picking up women, and getting boatloads of money. I definitely have seen all three of those phases in my development and am currently in that third stage just finding what is meaningful to me and gonna make me turn into the man I wanna be. This video should be shown to all young men because I think we’re all struggling in this current day to find our purposes, and I think this could be that wake up call.
Just when I thought that this video is about the same old self-help stuff BAM the twist at halftime ! The most engaging video I ever saw till date.
Have you been watching me for the last 2 years? Because this has been exactly me 😂 Thank you so much Cole for your content you have been a very important part of my journey as a human being. Seeing your own growth is also so remarkable. Thank you big brother.
its been nice seeing you here for so long Charles. Happy to be here with ya
Cole Bro, I watched this video at my lowest point. I've been following you for a long time, but I haven't watched any self help vids over a year since I thought some of them are just creating BS.
However, I've always enjoyed what you've put out there for us and I admire your power of storytelling. Thanks for doing this for us, mate
I keep chasing women these days just to move on fast in my past relationship grudges. Need to break this stuff starting today, this is will be my biggest challenge. And by the way mad respect for this clip! I am noted on this topic, really hits me hard.
You got me out this before it get horrible. A couple on months later I have changed. Nothing significant but I have now started to gradually perform better at school. I am getting better at blocking other people as well at class as distractions and focus on my work. Barely talking to anyone much even with my friends. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don’t blame your parents for your misfortunes, it’s up to you to choose who you want to be.
Exactly, one of best advice in my opinion is to do what you are passion about and everythink will comes with it
On the spectrum part @13:50, it would be better to not use gray, but the whole color spectrum.
A friend of mine said to me: "My world isn't black or white. And not gray either. I prefer to see the whole colorspectrum"
This is the story of someone going through the Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, as well as spiral dynamics. Well done cole! Keep on killin it bro 😎😎
My parents were adamant that I attend University after high school rather than pursue my dream of being a rock star. Good thing I listened to them, because now I'm retiring at 53. 🙂
You can still be a rock star. Write and love music and share it on RUclips. Not ALL progress and technology is bad but like almost anything, moderate it. God bless
Thank you , most youtubers said don't be like others don't be with others but you said be like and with others but know what you are doing I can't describe it properly though. Just accepting the reality solves many thing.
This causes low self-esteem and eating disorders by comparing to other people.
Very relatable. Thanks for your videos!
I remember when I was suffering from HOCD (fear of being gay), I was suffering day and night suffering, I suffered from those thoughts for almost 2 years, yes, 2 wasted years of trauma untill I found an Old guy on RUclips who took me out of my misery by just saying "Don't try to figure out if you're gay or not, you know what you are and live life ignoring this question" after that my life has completely changed, no gay thoughts, no sexual doubts, I know I am straight and I don't need to figure it out.
this video went from dissapointment, to depression, to motivation, to depression again, and to rebirth
nice job