Since men are the gate keepers to commitment and are unsure of us after months of dating, we must also be unsure of them and restrict access to sex until they confirm through actions that they feel a connection and that they want to commit to us. If they can’t make their minds up after an appropriate time frame. We must be willing to walk away just like the men do when they feel like we aren’t a good fit.
Absolutely. No sex or kissing or other physical intimacy until you both decided, and a man shows through action and consistency , that he wants a committed relationship with you. Horniness clouds women's judgment.
I find there are men that think texting is a good way to communicate and are unwilling to compromise and have regular conversations on the phone. Building the deep roots of trust in person is essential. Finding someone aligned is challenging.
Claiming the woman is avoidant because she is introverted and needs time to open (especially when a man does not provide the emotional security she needs from the start) is clearly just an excuse to avoid progressing the relationship/commitment after enjoying physical intimacy with her. An avoidant woman would distance herself and end the relationship and this is not the case in these examples Jonathon is talking about. The men seem to have avoidant attachment style by searching for reasons to call it quits instead of building connection.
💯 you hit the nail on the head. Men think we are supposed to be these warm and vulnerable creatures from the jump and fail to see their role in making a woman feel safe to emotionally invest in them.
I think I may be more like the men described in these videos than like the women, although I’m definitely not what I would describe as a user. I think I would definitely define myself as avoidant; more so because of my childhood experience than adult experiences, but the adult experiences do play a part as well. I am totally capable of supporting myself financially and emotionally. I have had great friendships with men that have become disastrous love relationships; yet I’ve managed to maintain the friendship usually in the end. I feel so weird that the friendships feel better than the love relationships. I don’t feel the need to be ‘saved’ by a man; I’m looking for a friend/lover who can engage with maturity and don’t need me to be a ‘nurse with a purse’. Do I sound awful and jaded? I’m willing to change my outlooks and I truly want a healthy relationship that doesn’t make me want to run for the hills. I vacillate between just giving up and being good with being totally single and wishing to have a relationship that makes me feel like it’s the right situation to welcome into my life.
To the woman in the beginning saying these men were lying…what would be their motivation to do so? They’re talking with Jonathan, sharing their experiences, maybe seeking advice…and it’s not like Jonathan knows the women they’re talking about, he’s not talking to the men then going to talk to the women after. I think it says a lot about this woman, and any woman, who immediately thinks “They’re lying!!!”
The secret to minimize the feeling of being used is not to sleep with a man until you are in a committed relationship. Avoid kissing and other physical intimacy because women get attached and it clouds our judgment. Not the same for men, sex for men is just like eating a meal everyday. Get to date and see if you are compatible, do you like each other, do you see a future together etc At least 3 months, by then the ones who just want sex will remove themselves, if you chose to be a couple then at least you know it's not based on horniness 😂😂 . There is no foolproof way, but this minimizes incompatibility issues that come up first 3-6months.
No, its the poorest form of communication. Breadcrumbing A pen pal. . A healthy relationship cannot be built on texting. It seems to be an avoidant way to communicate. I like these two podcasts: Real Men Don't Text To Date---Natalie Clarice Its Impossible To Have A Texting Relationship ---Natalie Clarice.
Because for men, sex is like eating food, just another activity. Not so for women. So women need to gate keep our bodies until there is emotional connection and consistency and commitment from the man.
Women, withhold the sex and do not give in until committed, that is how you gauge how serious he is with you
Since men are the gate keepers to commitment and are unsure of us after months of dating, we must also be unsure of them and restrict access to sex until they confirm through actions that they feel a connection and that they want to commit to us. If they can’t make their minds up after an appropriate time frame. We must be willing to walk away just like the men do when they feel like we aren’t a good fit.
Absolutely. No sex or kissing or other physical intimacy until you both decided, and a man shows through action and consistency , that he wants a committed relationship with you. Horniness clouds women's judgment.
AMEN 🙏🤎💯🔥
I find there are men that think texting is a good way to communicate and are unwilling to compromise and have regular conversations on the phone. Building the deep roots of trust in person is essential.
Finding someone aligned is challenging.
I really appreciate this video today
Claiming the woman is avoidant because she is introverted and needs time to open (especially when a man does not provide the emotional security she needs from the start) is clearly just an excuse to avoid progressing the relationship/commitment after enjoying physical intimacy with her. An avoidant woman would distance herself and end the relationship and this is not the case in these examples Jonathon is talking about. The men seem to have avoidant attachment style by searching for reasons to call it quits instead of building connection.
Yes
💯 you hit the nail on the head. Men think we are supposed to be these warm and vulnerable creatures from the jump and fail to see their role in making a woman feel safe to emotionally invest in them.
I think I may be more like the men described in these videos than like the women, although I’m definitely not what I would describe as a user. I think I would definitely define myself as avoidant; more so because of my childhood experience than adult experiences, but the adult experiences do play a part as well. I am totally capable of supporting myself financially and emotionally. I have had great friendships with men that have become disastrous love relationships; yet I’ve managed to maintain the friendship usually in the end. I feel so weird that the friendships feel better than the love relationships. I don’t feel the need to be ‘saved’ by a man; I’m looking for a friend/lover who can engage with maturity and don’t need me to be a ‘nurse with a purse’. Do I sound awful and jaded? I’m willing to change my outlooks and I truly want a healthy relationship that doesn’t make me want to run for the hills. I vacillate between just giving up and being good with being totally single and wishing to have a relationship that makes me feel like it’s the right situation to welcome into my life.
To the woman in the beginning saying these men were lying…what would be their motivation to do so? They’re talking with Jonathan, sharing their experiences, maybe seeking advice…and it’s not like Jonathan knows the women they’re talking about, he’s not talking to the men then going to talk to the women after. I think it says a lot about this woman, and any woman, who immediately thinks “They’re lying!!!”
The secret to minimize the feeling of being used is not to sleep with a man until you are in a committed relationship. Avoid kissing and other physical intimacy because women get attached and it clouds our judgment. Not the same for men, sex for men is just like eating a meal everyday. Get to date and see if you are compatible, do you like each other, do you see a future together etc At least 3 months, by then the ones who just want sex will remove themselves, if you chose to be a couple then at least you know it's not based on horniness 😂😂 . There is no foolproof way, but this minimizes incompatibility issues that come up first 3-6months.
I'm not a texter so does that mean I am not a communicator?
No, its the poorest form of communication.
Breadcrumbing A pen pal. . A healthy relationship cannot be built on texting. It seems to be an avoidant way to communicate.
I like these two podcasts:
Real Men Don't Text To Date---Natalie Clarice
Its Impossible To Have A Texting Relationship ---Natalie Clarice.
Date someone your own age then.
@@bs24-7 stupid comment
If they are not into you why rush the sex ND then keep it up. Just go away.
Because for men, sex is like eating food, just another activity. Not so for women. So women need to gate keep our bodies until there is emotional connection and consistency and commitment from the man.
A little self serving ...😂 really? Sure