11 Brutal Truths Men Over 40 Need to Accept to Live Their Best Lives
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I'm good, I've just started taking collagen and it works wonders. Muscle, bones, skin and hair improved
Thank for this I've been in hard times relationships and loved ones have not been easy for me it's been a roller coaster
I’m 89 year old male. I appreciate you advice and comments on older mens dating. However, how about some advice for this age group.
Divorced an extremely toxic person after 12 yrs at 42 yrs old, with no home, just £3k and 2 young girls to bring up. I lived by the principles in this video and 20 yrs later, house paid off, career success every year, daughters doing great - it's never too late to hit that reset button.
Love this! Thank you for commenting!
Wow what a great sentence 😍 it’s never too late to hit that reset button
Trying that reset now. Wife walked out on me after 13 years with my two young kids. Turning 50 in a few days and have felt lost this last year. The house I'd been paying on for over a decade gone and she took half even though she'd never paid a single bill in the marriage and she made more than i did. Don't miss the marriage so much as the company and having my kids with me all the time. Now my weekends are just about the kids over the last year+ which leaves no time for adult socialization let alone trying to go on a date.....
@@drewengles4477 Make time for yourself so you can be perfect for your kids.
@@drewengles4477 During my reset, I spent an awful lot of time worrying about my daughters' welfare and futures as I was the only breadwinner and they were totally dependent on me. This is only natural, but I then came across a quote of Mark Twain "I've lived through many terrible times in my life.... only a few of which actually happened."
Stay strong, look after your health, and don't look too far ahead - take care of the daily successes and long term successes will take care of themselves 👍
I'm 45, after 20 years of being in relationships, I'm 3 years walking my own path. Glorious
She’s not Yours. It’s just Your Turn.
i'm 49 and quit relationships at 40. Happy days
im 40 and never got into a serious relationship. i feel like i dodged a hundred bullets
@@boogitybear2283 lol I can guarantee- nobody walked that path- clue is in the name
@@baldeagle4710 You have no idea how much hurt and pain and trouble you have avoided. Peace
Just turned 44 today 17 October 2022. My woman upped and left 2 weeks ago because the lifestyle we have was not "good enough for her'" I wish her a life that is good enough. This message was aimed for me by the universe.
Really appreciate your comment! You’ll get through it. Happy birthday!
Permit me to say, you have dodged a great bullet. She was not happy with herself and she never will be.
You will be ok. You will be stronger and wiser from this.
Have a great day Munya, and many more to go with it.
You have a great approach to deal with this.
Seneca said,
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.”
Love your videos mate.
I am 52... My girlfriend is 34... and she saved my life. Literally... I was stressed to the max, I was drinking 4 bottles of whiskey a week, my blood pressure was through the roof, I was over weight, I detested my job... I felt old and a mental wreck...
What the F^*K she saw in me I have know idea.
Now, two years on... I quit my job, we have started a business together which has been so blessed with early success, She has put me on her fitness program, I am now fit, healthy, haven't touched alcohol in three months... (although I confess I do still like my whiskey and wine), have returned to church... feeling freeking amazing and ready to put in another 52 years.
The company you keep..!
Yes!! Thank you for commenting!
Hey yes something similar happened to me....and yes can't get me out of the word now....count your blessings is a great song to have in your heart
Keep going man!
@@danieljohnson4479 one by one.
Distilled Spirits...Really age the Body.
It's shortened Millions of Lives..
I seen a guy drink himself To death earlier this Years..
Brad was early 40s...
I'm 50 and I'm starting to date a 31 girl, I hope everything turns well
I’m starting over at 47 and it’s hard, but I’m going in a direction that I’ve wanted since I was a teen. I’m focused on my health, sobriety, music, self employment and overall a balance that works for me.
“Fear gets in the way of living your best life.” Spot on.
Along with apathy and lack of direction and purpose.
Only if you let it.
Great reminders. Thanks. At 54, I have hit the reset a couple of times in the last 5 years since leaving a toxic marriage. I can relate to all of these brutal truths. It isn't just those of us over 40 that need to accept these. I wish I would have learned them at 19 instead of 49.
If anyone needs a synopsis:
1. Let go of people that aren't good for you
2. Time is precious
3. Not everyone is going to like you
4. Life isn't fair
5. Some people have it better
6. People will try to walk over you
7. You are not entitled to anything
8. Dating is complicated
9. Fear gets in the way
10. We are all going to die
11. There is no such thing as the perfect time
Watch the video. Excellent discussion of each truth. Thanks again.
Thank you very much Paul!
Thanks. I didn't want to watch the whole damn video after the first minute
Love this video. I was in a verbally abusive marriage and stayed for the kids for about 21 years. I am now 51 and living my best life with my current wife and have a great relationship with my 18 year old son and 27 year old daughter. It is never to late brothers.
Married 50 years next June and proud of the fact!!!
54 and loving the MGTOW life, left behind 80% of my family and 98% of my so called friends.
Good for you. I'm making this same decision. It takes time to get away from all toxic people. But it will happen.
I had to learn that “Life is not a longevity contest”. I had to go thru many of what you described. I’m 59, single now, have kidney cancer but I’m happier than I’ve ever been in my life. It’s all in what you expect out of life and what you think you deserve. Bottom line is we don’t really deserve much so be happy with what you have.
Very well said! Thank you very much for commenting and I hope you beat cancer!
Good luck - You have a good positive attitude on your side
Wow. What a great outlook. Go well sir - your attitude will maximise your recovery.
I'm the same age, I don't know you, but reading that you have kidney cancer really impacted me. Despite kidney cancer, I'm glad you're in a happy spot. Your comment, "It’s all in what you expect out of life and what you think you deserve. Bottom line is we don’t really deserve much so be happy with what you have" - THIS will stick with me. I wish you all the best. Thanks for sharing. Thanks for making an impact!
@@d.wayneotto1094 Thank you for the kind words.
This popped up at the right time for me just now. I’m 47 and told my wife of 19 years on Sunday I can’t do it any more. I’d waited years hoping things would change. I’d tried my best. It had been sexless and pretty emotionless for maybe 10. She just turned away and refused any kind of closeness, even hugs. I always tried initiating things but she never did. Now I’m the bad person in her eyes. I’ve robbed her of 20 years of her life according to her even though I’ve paid nearly all the bills and given her a wage from my business each month too! Guys if you’re living in a cold sexless marriage it doesn’t get better in most cases and you really need to get out ASAP regardless of family situation. My kids are now 18 and 16 and I stuck around for them but should’ve ended things years ago. I’m being as kind as I can to my wife/ex wife even though she’s giving me huge amounts of anger. My kids don’t deserve to be caught up in bitterness and certainly I don’t want them seeing it come from me. I had moved on emotionally a while ago but feared the actual doing of it in reality but I honestly feel huge relief now. I’m 5 days in and now the separation itself will get hard work and could get nasty but each day I feel calmer and more driven to finally do all the things I should’ve been doing.
Rough one Darren. Lots of men in your shoes. Thank you for commenting!
@@40OverFashion indeed but I’m moving forwards. I feel a sense of relief. It won’t be easy at times but I know I need to find who I actually am again.
Wow, same predicament
@@geraldyong3797 if you’re still in the relationship and it’s been cold and sexless for years I’d get out. I’m 6 days out now and it’s hard but I feel huge relief.
@@darrenbetts2987 thanks, but sometimes things are more complex than the forefront issues. I did invite and showed her the door, she just wouldn't leave.
50 year old here- after a 20 year marriage, I’m so glad To be away from that toxic woman. It’s as if a boulder has been removed from around my neck.
Women are toxic for a number of reasons. Men can be toxic, too. But I often wonder if women’s toxicity comes from being given so much freedom with no accountability in society, leading to her own destruction and toxicity. A man is supposed to be over a woman. Women will find problem with that statement, but they always want a man who earns more than them, is taller than them, is stronger than them. And many have said this publicly, they want a man who will call them out when they are out of line. That means the man is over her. A woman wants a man to be her rock. That means her stability. I believe so much of female toxicity has come because women are giving free rein in the world.
I turn 60 this week and I must admit it has had a strange effect on me. I am faced with my own mortality and some regret about some past decisions. Thank you for the video
Thanks Randy! Live well my friend!
60 hit me hard, too. I suddenly realized I'm running out of time, so I'm prioritizing. All The Best to you, Randy.
Have a great birthday Randy, whatever day you're celebrating it.
@@stevemccrory9130 thank you Steve
@@donschenck2466 yeah exactly how I feel. It's like the past came crumbling down on me. I guess we need to keep on moving
I'm an old guy. 69. I was happily married for 35 years. My wife just left in the morning before I got up one day and never came back. We both were 60 at the time. I never got over it. How do you do a re start at 70 years old? Who even wants to? I understand what happened to me has happened to many thousands of guys your age. I hope you can help them not end up like me.
I’m 66 divorced and doing well alone! Took awhile but I filled my life with activities that I love, hiking, biking, working out and traveling, living my best life.
It’s not a restart. It is new chapter. You get up every morning and embrace the change as well as the possibilities. It’s a new day and and you never know what it will bring. Let go of the things that no longer serve you or your peace. Holding on to the past is what makes us old.
Move to Thailand.
@@syvajarvi2289 It's not a new chapter when your contemporaries are dying. I vowed an oath before God and family never to forsake her until death parts us. It's what Holy Matrimony is about. I do not have any experience with just thinking about me and mine and letting go of my word. Sadly I am that last of the men of covenant. I can't jump into the me me generation at all. Thank you for your note though.
@@orangeandslinky it’s still a new chapter. Even in my late 40s/early 50s I have friends who have passed. Their story may have ended to a degree but I still remember them as I continue to live and create new friendships. It’s those memories that I hold onto, the rest….. I don’t look back on for very long. Life, as you know, is full of choices it’s what you do with them in the time that you have that matters.
I'm 45 and after almost 30yrs of heavy drinking I'm one month sober. Gutted I've wasted so much of my life and not reached my full potential but I'm going to make the most of what time I have left on this planet
Yes! Love this Rob! One day at a time!
Rob, you're a hero.
Dated the girl of my dreams. Fun, outgoing, extremely attractive, and sexy. Felt like we were solemates. Single man with three children. Now with her.....I felt my life was fulfilled. However the red flags were there, I just ignored them. Money missing from my wallet, dishonesty, entitlement attitude, jealousy when I spent time with my kids. I finally couldn't take it any longer. To this day I still miss her, but I'm so happy I made the decision to move on. There's a song on the radio called Gorgeous Nightmare. It always reminds me of her.
John my friend, I just separated from my wife literally because of what you just said she's a good person just not good for me and this was after 4 years of marriage, man this video is exactly what I needed to hear I'm doing well with it but this is extra assurance, THANK YOU! I'm working on becoming a Police Officer and she was dragging me down too far to keep climbing without letting go sadly she was lazy and doing nothing for herself for years, then cared about the 13 cats (yes that's correctly typed) and made our apartment unsanitary and just couldn't take it anymore so now I'm in a big apartment of my own and looking forward so again great video!
Love your comment Andre! It's hard to let go, but you have to do what's right for you.
Wise decision. That's a major upgrade in your life. Good change, good transitions.
She's "Not good enough" for you?! What does that even mean? As long as she is not abusing you verbally, cheating on you, etc. that is NOT grounds to leave them.
Edit: get rid of the cats- you are supposed to be the head of the household.
@@davidm4566 she was and EJY is correct. Also finalizing divorce in November, I've tried EVERYTHING I possibly could, you have no idea brother and then also finding out the move out cost for the apartment is $10,595 because of feline animal damage and violations, yes a little too late for me to enact head of the household. I'm in Mt new apartment now and she's in her own and that's that so thank you for your comment but you were in the wrong and incorrect, good day sir
...not really a 'good person' though was she. Just a person.
1. Not everyone is for you, and you're not for everyone.
2. Spend your time on what and who matters to you.
3. Not everyone is going to like you.
4. Life isn't fair.
5. Never compare yourself to other people.
6. Enforce your boundaries.
7. You're not entitled to anything.
8. Women are complicated.
9. Don't let fear get the best of you.
10. You will eventually die.
11. "Now" is always the best time
Nothing Stoicism doesn't teach us. Still a very good list! A+
Thanks, bro
I found a decal last winter that helped me a lot about my perspective of my self-image and public image. It says, "Life is not about FINDING yourself. Life is about CREATING yourself."
Love that!
I would add one thing; You can't save the people you love.
Whether it's their smoking habit, their continuous difficulty in romantic relationships, or just the fact that something about them makes them a shit magnet, you will never be able to move the needle on them solving their problems, even when the answers they lack seem obvious to you.
Everyone has to do their own math.
I was married for 18 years and we had 4 children. In the end she wanted relocation so she claimed domestic violence. It was the only accusation in AZ that allows for relocation with kids. Horrible to be accused of that as family court puts the burden of proof on the one being accused-unlike criminal court. We had been together for 25 years with 4 children and lived by family for years. Never a claim prior, no pics, no witnesses, no diary entry, no mention to a family member and I still have to prove I didn’t do anything. Amazing. She just wanted to hurt me by draining me Financially and by keeping my kids from me. I spent 10 years in court and spent over $250k fighting for my kids plus she got half of all my things. Women are for fun. I don’t think I would ever get serious again. I have been extremely happy for the past 8 years single.
Well I turn 60 today and I live my life the way I choose too. I selling my place after 6 yrs for twice what I paid for it and I am moving to Italy and will surround myself with the zest towards eating the best foods and enjoying the culture.
“People will always be tempted to wipe their feet
on anything with 'WELCOME' written on it”
Andy Partridge XTC.
Your statements about "waiting for the right moment" hit close to home.
In 2009, I went on a Caribbean cruise with a group of ~90 people. One afternoon I decided to ask one of the ladies out, so I wandered around the ship to see if I could find her. (~2,000 passengers. How hard could it be?) When I found her, she was having a conversation with another man who I *knew* was interested in her.
It was a less than ideal moment, but it was what I had. (What were my chances of randomly finding her twice?) So I walked up, apologized for interrupting their conversation, and asked her if she would like to see the show with me that evening. She accepted, and that's how I got my first date with my wife.
The other man had spent most of the day around her. That afternoon, he was still waiting for "the right moment" to make his move. In contrast, I took the only moment I had, and made the most of it.
Love this Karl! Thank you for commenting! Great story!
Maybe I need to change my approach. I tend to be the guy waiting for the right moment and who loses out to some other random guy coming out of nowhere.
But then, I'm also focusing on enjoying being independent and single.
Wow, this is the first time in actual read a comment that goes for more then 2 lines
Im 36 looking for a jumpstart on 40. I’ve lost over 20 lbs, I’m getting in shape, I’ve got a skin care routine, and my finances are in order. I’m gonna make my 40s awesome.
I've fired a few people in my career - in every case, they were not shocked, they knew they were in the wrong job, and they were always relieved their nightmare was over.
They always moved on to better things in roles that were suited to their skills and personalities - and I've always been happy for them. On one occasion the guy I'd just fired shook my hand in gratitude admitting he hadn't slept for days due to the stress and he accepted this was the right thing for everyone.
And yes - in my long career, I've been fired a few times and in every case I learned from it and used it to improve my career path. I learned my true limits, and stayed within them thereafter.
Getting fired is often an opportunity, if you choose to view it that way.
After almost 14 years in law I took a sabbatical for one year at 41 and moved half way across the world over 15 years ago. Met a woman and settled down, sold house and bought land in her name. Had a kid. The past less than 5 years have seen that marriage break up, she sold the land, my father died, I had some serious health problems that required an operation. Discovered our son has a chronic health condition and he's had two tumours removed. Two new bosses in three years - each with own set of ideas and agenda led to stress at work leading to stage three hypertension crisis where thought going to have heart attack. Mother died. Have just had a prostate cancer scare. All in under 5 yrs. 56. Sometimes feel like it'll never get better. One thing after the other but still get up every day and get out there. Life can be hard but then I look at people born with disabilities with their whole life a massive struggle and I think that I ain't had it so bad after all
Thank you very much for commenting! Love your perspective.
Not quite 40 but something that has followed me through life was that “you shouldn’t be rewarded for what you’re expected to do”. You’re absolutely right, we’re not entitled to anything. And if you really want to set yourself apart, take accountability and show humility.
Nothing wrong with that, but you still need people around you who will build you up, encourage you, recognize your value, and give you some kind of return on your investment. That's not entitlement, that's just compensation for taking responsibility.
I'm 48 almost 49 and have tried to find the right one, being the nice guy but just keep riding the marry go round , then just got off of it and threw in the towel. I have learned to accept that it is what it is and just move on and do my own thing. Normal relationships will never recoup what they once were in this day in time, no matter how honest, or truthful you are in todays world.
I purchased land, big house, horses, tractor, furniture.......then I got married because she wanted to. 9 years later and she filed for divorce. Now it's all hers, the courts gave it all to her because she was a victim. I became homeless, don't sign anything. Ever !.
When I got divorced in 1994, I knew it was the right decision. It was hard of course especially as we had 2 kids of 12 & 2. Now in 2022, I know that it was the right decision and now those young children are adults and both say words to the effect "how did you (i.e. me their dad) get together with mum? You are so different". We speak when we have to nowadays but live 120 miles apart so no chance of just bumping into each other.
Why keep people in your life that aren't looking to keep you in their life
Exactly!
I finally broke away from my older brother; it took decades, but I finally did it--
easier than I thought!
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@@bradford_shaun_murray sorry, dont get it.
@@TheWhitehiker will you ever talk to him again before he or you die?
@@bradford_shaun_murray I didnt break off entirely--Christmas and birthday cards.
I left my closest friend of decades because he turned into someone I don't recognize anymore. After a nasty divorce, he just turned crazy. We stood by him for years after but he kept spiraling down and turned on us, including lying and stealing from us. It got to the point that none of us could be around anymore without being dragged down to bad places, so we all left.
That’s sad to hear, My final act for the friendship that was, would be to sit down and explain or send them a letter and wish them well.
@@scottyates5758 I tried but all I got for it was more lies and blame that I was at fault for his decline and that I was making up lies about things he told me himself so I gave up.
@@FlyingTigersKMT mate, at least you gave it a shot that’s what real friends do, if he doesn’t realise what you’ve tried to do it’s on him.
Sounds like you tried your best that’s all that could be asked.
That's sad to hear. Was he abusing drugs or alcohol during this downward spiral?
@@flyinb45 not at all, that was the scary part... or... at least that I know of
Excellent John. My life and self actualization improved dramatically letting go of toxic friends, getting my self out of toxic work relationships, dramatically reducing time with toxic family members and focusing on people and situations that leverage my strengths.
I’m 59 and I did realize that my life is somewhat paradox. Even though I did chose the wrong way in probably all important decisions, my life is really good.
It’s a great problem to have buddy
At 58 yrs old, I now have the mental focus, to focus on me, it has tough days, but I wouldn't have it any other way, you just keep moving forward, until your done
Absolutely!
I'm 69,great advice,listen well all you young guys trying to deal with your selves and life.Be happy,struggling to live a life is NO fun.
Great video! So much truth in what you said. I turn 58 on the 22nd and this past year has been brutal. I lost my wife of 35 years to cancer last year and my life has changed completely. She was amazing in every way possible and it feels like a part of me is gone. But by taking it a day at a time, I'm doing good. I guess what I am saying is we have to face things head on and not let the truths beat us down or hold us back.
Hi, just wanted to say sorry for your loss ,I'm the same age and also lost my partner of 20 years 2 and a half years ago to cancer. Watching her decline left me somewhat traumatized and I've been struggling to get back on track since,all I can say is to look after yourself and give yourself a few treats and try a few new things ( I bought a motorbike) and it gets a little bit easier eventually.I realised the last thing I could do for her was to live my best life in her memory.Miss her every day. Best of luck, take care.
Have a great day on Saturday. Day at a time is the right attitude. Here, if and when you need us.
@@silverdale3207 👍👍👍
Incredibly sorry for your loss.
Re: Fear. One of my favorite quotes from Dune that has stuck with me and helped me throughout my life:
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
Love it! Thanks for commenting!
The French have a different thing they call a "little death "
I’m 55, have one brother who’s 4 years older. Aside from a few brief stints, he’s essentially been a bully to me my entire life and I have no idea why.
Recently made the decision to cut him out of my life, forever. It’s been a very positive decision for me.
Biology is overrated.
Congratulations!
I love your comment on "some people aren't good for you,& you aren't good for some people". That's a "brutal" truth I've focused on lately. Through my journey of becoming my best version I can be, the reality is that even at my best.... I'm not necessarily "IT" for that one I had the desire to be with. Some people are in our lives for just a season. It's life!
I'm 40 and have had death anxiety pretty much most of my life... Well it did stop for a long time but it's back again...But I think it's because I have already died from getting hit by a car when I was a teenager and turning 40 a few months ago kind of messed with me. It doesn't stop me from getting things done but man... Living with it on my mind so much sucks
I recognise most of what has been said here and lived a lot of it - Enjoying single life and business is good - Thank God.
Great advice, I pressed my reset button at 65 and I am enjoying my life forward.
John, did you realize that living is the leading cause of dying? It's true! Now you have to convince all those ambulance cashers on late night tv! Ha ha ha
Nice video John. Regarding fear, there is a simple acronym to explain fear: F.E.A.R. = False Expectations Appearing Real. Just wanted to share that. Steve
Very true. Recently I broke ties with a supposed good friend after years of dealing with his jealousy that he attempted to disguise with sarcastic humor. I must say I feel much happier with that toxicity removed from my life. I now wished I had blocked him many years ago when things started to really transform into a blatant one way friendship. Many of the examples and analogies you gave described his personality disorder and his selfishness to a T! Oh, and his poor wife. She’s such a kind soul. I have no idea how she hangs in.
I'm fifty five and retired and at the point of needing to re-invent my life. It seems that life changed all of a sudden and now I'm having to figure out what to do next.
That was well done. I’m encouraged by being reminded of a number of those things that, while I know them , are easy to lose sight of - Thanks
No man is worth more to anyone but himself. A very hard lesson.
All so very true. I am a bit older than 43 at 64 and somedays I think about my existence but as my daughter says we are all made of stardust (which is kinda true when you think about it) so I look up at the stars and think hey I am lucky to be here.
I find as I get older I don't care if people don't care about me.....I just want to be happy with everything I do.
Well said Jeremy!
Now is the time! Thank you, John.
There is a real danger in life where a woman keeps you down and sabotages your success, over a period of years. I realised that about 10 years ago after a near-death experience. When you split up is when you find out the kids are "hers", not "ours". Out of the other side now.
This is such a nice video. Fear is the biggest limiting factor that stops so many people to go for what their true self wants.. But fear is very important for me, especially in those cases where my dignity and self respect is at stake. Apart from that, as Mark Twain said, we worry about most of the things that don’t even occur. As I have crossed 40, I realized that my peace and contentment matter more than being cool, being hot, being the it for anyone or anybody in this world.
Much like how we should be choosing our clothes, it’s really about quality over quantity. Having a select number of close family and friends is far more fulfilling than a large number of inauthentic or worse toxic people surrounding you.
Great advice to live your best life. Being single with no kids always gives me the chance to start fresh with no baggage.
Legend. Great points, John.
Great advice John! Sometimes to live the life you want you have to let go of the people and things in your life now. It may sound selfish but it's not.
Great video! Great information! I forwarded it to the 21 year old girl I am teaching to call square dances and I told her the only thing she needed to ignore was the men's face products commercial!
Legend!! Thanks for this!! At times, I fall into the bad habit of comparing myself to others, which is so easy to do when on social media. I'm progressively learning that I am An Original who copies nobody, and I'm not meant to fit in, because I was born to stand out!!! Thanks again!! 👍🏾
Thanks for watching Michael!
Why are you even on social media? It's a feminine approval seeking platform
@@cv6176 There's way more to life than that. As a performing artist in various disciplines, I'm on social media as a business tool. I also put out a midweek motivational vlog every Wednesday.
This video is bustin' at the seams with valuable wisdom!
Topics you discussed are all there out in the open but we all need a good reminder when we’re going through a rough patch in life . Keep up the good work, will keep on supporting, have a good day.
Thank you!
John, I'm 43... That hit in the feels.... Just wow... Much love my friend... #hittingresetbutton #legend
Thanks for commenting Eric!
Just great truth and advice. All apart of better living a better life and one’s best life.
You give such good advice..I had so called friends and family that were so negative that I moved on and got new friends thru clubs etc .. life isn't a rehearsal, it's a one time event to be happy and make other people's lives better and as happy as you can assist them.
I agree. At the end of my 30’s I moved and stepped away from a lot of people. Loved them all dearly, but they were holding me back, so in some regard I’m glad a few incidents happened to propel me into moving forward without them. I’ve spent the last year or so trying to stay more focused on my goals, as trivial as they may sound to greater society. You called it focusing on your path I believe. Sadly, since I got off my path to follow the, “norms”, of society, I didn’t ever fulfill my true goal at 19/20 years old. But it’s weird because something inside me told me I had to go back and work on that goal I once had, that that was the key to the next chapter forward. And, I can say that the last year, despite all the tv lies and evil being perpetrated, was one of the best of my life yet. And, I’ve done lots of things and have had some incredible years; times I could write books about. But something about going back to this long lost goal I had as a young man has given me more rooted, deep, satisfaction than many other things I’ve achieved in life. To be honest, the last thing left for me is to meet the right girl and have a family. But at 40, that’s getting more and more daunting as time seems to slip slide away faster than ever before. I pray to God it can still happen. But, I know I’m on my path. So that’s everything right now. Luck is when opportunity meets preparedness, and I hope when opportunity strikes, my heart is fully prepared. Until then I will stay focused on my path and keep the same high levels of uncompromising discipline I have.
Great video John and I am glad you spelled it out! I once heard someone using the metaphor of relationships as a train, some people stay throughout the whole journey while others step in and out of the train. Thanks for all the great content you create and share on your channel!
You’re very welcome!
awesome video, thanks for being here
We're never too old to take the simplest advice. #12
This is so very true. Years ago, I decided to remove toxic people from my life. Life is too short to waste on toxic people.
So true ! I turn 40 next month my husband is 48 and we met 3 years ago and married at beginning of yr. We have the most amazing relationship and both had to let go of bad relationships, marriages and other people and was just enjoying life doing own thing then it all came together. I retired at 32 he is still working hopefully will in next few years. But life is short and too short to put up with BS and waste time and energy and money. I have 4 son teens to early 20s and try teaching them all these lessons now to make life easier. Find someone who shares way you think and goals. Find people who are mentally healthy and available not holding on to past experiences and excuses. I never hold him to anything someone else has done or past relationships. We love doing things together and have fun and communicate like adults. I see so many people go after wrong people when they should have listened to red flags but ignore them . Sometimes what you think you want and what you need doesn't line up and should what you needed becomes everything you want. Good luck to everyone.
Movie star/win the lottery/crypto?? How the heck did you retire at only 32?
Good advice... I learned that with my ex.. You can love the person, but you NEED TO LOVE THE RELATIONSHIP MORE THAN THE PERSON.
When I graduated business school 40 + years ago, the Dean spoke to us and said "every one of you at some point in your career will face getting fired and firing someone. The second, you will take much harder." No truer words were spoken.
Excellent focal points that we can center ourselves around to give us clarity and to be honest in our own personal sphere helps us to achieve the improvements we want to make in our lives thanks for sharing this video!
Thank you very much!
Good video and slick and sneaky segue into the ad!
So true, really gives us something to think about. Be wise with your time gentlemen
Thank you so much...this one is saved to favorites!
This is an excellent video. As you said it's nothing new or at least it shouldn't be but it deserves to be said over and often. Toxic people, relationships, and situations need to be ended.
As a 64 year old disabled retiree I've had to severely limit interaction with an older relative who believes I owe them my time, efforts, and should be available for their needs 24/7. The answer I gave was no. It wasn't easy but it was necessary. You can't sacrifice your happiness for the toxic miseries of someone else. Again, excellent video, John.
Very wise! Thanks for commenting!
@@40OverFashion Thank you for the kind words, John.
Good topic, value yourself. My perspective changed from the Golden rule to this. TREAT EVERYONE AS GOOD AS THEY LET YOU.
@@jasalvarado7019 Your change is an insightful one. I like it.
8:00 We all know we all leave this world at some point. What matters to every man is when that time approaches to a near he will want to leave with no pain, no guilt and no regret! Most of us that hit over 40 have gone through some real tough battles in life. And whether or not we got through it, the one thing every man doesn't want lingering over his head is I should have done this better or I wish I would have made that decision ......The only thing I can tell every guy out there is what ever you do you should exhaust every option before you end up feeling sorry for yourself or having any kind of regrets.(love, finance, career ect.)
I really needed to hear this today.
Thanks for your positive thoughts as always,even though it's not but it's giving a shot for my own growth-Thanks John
Great video glad you posted keep them coming thanks
Life is precious and time is priceless. Thank you.🙏🏼☺️
It really is! Thanks for watching!
The only thing your entitled to is to say no to something you don’t want
I'm 45 years old and have been married to the same woman for 27 years. She is literally my rock. We've raised two sons, have two grandchildren and we are now helping our oldest son because he had a hemorrhagic stroke at 27 years old and he's paralyzed on his right side. I am so thankful that she is so giving because I can be selfish and manipulative. I'm also thankful that I don't have to think about dating or living the single life.
I'm 40 and I feel 20 💯
Pray,smile ,eat healthy,fast 3x week ,,drink water ,and tea ,
Work out 3xweek ,have sex at least 3x week I swear I feel better than ever(no sugar no carbs btw)
The bottom line is that the only person that can have an impact on your life is you! Focus on the things you control and not on the things out of your control.
Well said Joe!
Thanks John. Thumbs up.
Excellent, and very helpful, video....Thanks!
Sound advice. At 59 years young, I still stumble. Lessons along the way.
Thanks Fred!
This is some of the best content you have put out. Gold
Thank you very much!
Being 46, your video hits home brother. Thank You for what you do!
Thanks Brian!
Do you all realize how good this dad advice is.
I will be 60 next month and I am focusing on getting healthy and fit. I hired a personal trainer and nutritionist. I'm doing this for me. When it comes to dating, I refuse to date women over 50 that wear tattoos and smoke. It's a major turnoff.
John, I liked your comment on comparison. It’s hard. However, it has been said, “comparison is the thief of joy”.
Absolutely! Well said Jeff!
Thanks John the time is now let's live our best life today's a new day