It's going to be very hard to replace me. I was kind, loving, and giving to a fault until I discovered who he really was. He witnessed something he wished he had never seen. I guarantee you he was terrified of the other side of me.
I was just discarded after 31 years of marriage. With the exception of my son he is the biggest mistake of my life. He left without warning or consideration and has refused to pay the mortgage. If I ever needed anything I had to find a way to provide it for myself. I echo your words... "5 mintues was too long". I hope you are just not surviving but thriving as well. I am done consoling myself with ice cream... and finally taking care of myself. I just got a puppy last week (he did not really like dogs) and am starting to take care of my neglected self. Hope you are doing the same survivor sister!
Could not agree more ! I was married 16 years to a covert narc , 20 years together .. and I got the power to divorce only after I got cervix cancer , HPV virus 🦠 brought by that evil ex husband! I fought both my illness and my husband and with the power of Jesus Christ, our Lord , I won the battle ! 😊🥳🙏 ❤bless you ❤
@monalisa2662 38 years married, came home from a business trip to an emptied house. No warning, not a clue it was going to happen. Dragged through the courts due to false allegations to the police, then all our friends and business associates fed lies about my behaviour. I moved on and found a new partner which triggered my ex to break in and trash my new partner's possessions - new partner was awarded a court protection order and we moved interstate to get away. I'm a man, so of course society still considers me to be the aggressor. 2 years since she left, good riddance.
You ain't then only 1. Best to tty and accept the situation and really understand they don't have your best interest unless it's in theirs! They will lie
They eventually show their true colours- could take months, could take years- and they'll never leave, the new supply will be drained until they can't take anymore
Yep,I've seen the workplace circus. He did this and that,and smears.They want to manipulate.Cant be Mr Goodbar can't be replaced. Thank you, Rebecca ❤❤
She has stalked me to the point that I've had to delete all social media because no matter what I'm screwing around. So I've been completely shut out from the world. She has made it that I am totally and completely dependent upon her for anything. I have to beg for anything I need. I have job interview tomorrow and she has said she will not give me gas money to go to interview.
My ex wife did every one of these ment. She still tried to reach out to me and contact me and text me and give me bird crumbs. But information from these videos are very helpful to keep me sound emotionally psychologically and spiritually thank you
My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. It has been 6 months. She made no attempts to come back. Only because she has shown her true colors. Saving face. I'm have moved on.
Totally, Toxic boss & toxic husband running in parallel over the last few years! Had a few so-called 'friends' thrown in. I know why I have attracted people like this & it does indeed go back to my childhood but I have worked so hard & practice gratitude every day for my many blessings that are my shield. Thanks for all you do Rebecca, appreciate you sharing your experiences & guidance & wealth of legal expertise too🙏💗
I’ve run through dozens of hot narcissist women. Mostly the same thing every time, first 6 weeks are great then they get toxic. None of them ever realized anything that would indicate remorse or growth. Really lost people. But it was good while they could hold it together, and I did enjoy being an agent of karma.
My ex GF was a narc. Beginning so lovable and great to be with, thought I found “the one” then little by little starts with small things, texting her ex despite how I felt about it multiple times, she assured me she had him blocked when we started dating. She hooked me in, then out of nowhere starting fights about the smallest inconvenience. Me not answering my phone within 5 mins of a text, me being tired and wanting to leave a party before her, me wearing an outfit she didn’t like or cutting my beard too short. It would be a full on rage no stopping it. Never happened in front of another person. She put on this face of being so sweet and innocent. Then as soon as we are home, all hell breaks loose. (She wouldn’t even do it if her roommate was home, wouldn’t raise her voice, nothing). I’d eventually react to the abuse and yell back. Then I’d breakup with her just to feel like it was all my fault. Then I’d be the one asking for forgiveness to get back together. We’d be good for a week then the cycle repeated itself. Over and over, faster and faster. Now she discarded me because she realized I wasn’t coming back after she hit me across the face. Now she’s spreading rumors and telling all my personal business to everyone she knows. And is posting things on social media with sly comments directed toward me. I’ve blocked her and her best friend who are both toxic women.
One example of a female narc in workplace: She manipulated a member of a small journal, got the job as a photographer, then felt entitled to a movie section because by some error she was allowed to write couple of articles which are extremely shallow and full of word salads without any meaning. So, she tried to devalue and push the guy out of movie section by trying to get into online argument with him, which didn't go as planned. Her online activity is also weird. She likes her own articles on social media and never shows support for her colleagues. Also, she stopped photographing the events the way journal requires and started showing off by photographing what she wants. It's only a matter of time before she gets figured out and fired.
I just left my husband. Together 11 years. He didn’t want to get married with our family and so I stupidly agreed to go to Vegas. It all went downhill from there. He’s has taken the money out of the account several times leaving me hanging since this I have not been on the account for a few years and he Venmo’s me money when he knows I need to pay my bills. Years of silent treatments and asking him over and over again to please stop just talk to me . He acknowledges it saids sorry and then a few days later the cycle begins again. I left but I’m very very broken and I don’t know where to begin. I’m trying to find work and the stress of it all is just too much to handle😭
45 years married, lies, took money, multiple affairs. Told him I was done when I found out about latest 2- yes 2 at once. Left for one of them. He has tried the nasty, the pathetic and is now trying the I want to help you with .....Nope I am DONE
yep, in almost 2 years I’m still fighting for the settlement after our divorce - he won’t release the information my lawyer has been asking for - so now I wait for a new date in court. I hope that there will be consequences for him, because the judge gave him till the end of Oktober 2023😢
@@lizapedersen8435 do you mind my asking you what State you are I in? I'm in Louisiana, and our state requires spousal support during the separation. I decided to attach lawyers this second time around because they were not honest with me about the process. They just wanted more and more money. The courts have a formula and it's ultimately in the hands of the judge. Lawyers have no influence on how much you'll get in the settlement. All they do is the actually process- paperwork, court procedures, etc. I told my son to be ex don't waste his money on an expensive lawyer,, that money would be put to better use towards my settlement, because I'm going to get that money anyways. The legal fees are gone forever. Even my narc could see the wisdom in that advice. ( * They hate losing money,,, LoL) There are lots of YT channels that will guide you thru the divorce courts. Saves you a ton of money. It takes so long to go through the divorce that you have plenty of time to prepare for each step. Good luck!
Ya, mine refused to "release the information" the first time around when I used expensive lawyers... Who don't change the outcome of the settlement whatsoever- that's decided by the courts and the judge. There's a formula that they use,, and the lawyers can't change that formula. The second time around,, I got my hands on that information that he would not release- that is bank account statements and tax returns,, I won't have to "wait" this time!! Also: I told my soon to be ex-narc that the lawyers won't change the outcome and why waste your money on expensive legal fees that you will never see again? The money is put to better use towards my settlement! Surprise surprise- he actually agreed! All the lawyers do is help you navigate the legal and court system, paperwork etc. ( can't change the outcome,, ) divorce laws are pretty cut and dry it's not like a criminal defense or anything like that,, not actually that complicated. There are lots of RUclips channels that help with divorce in your state. You can download the form straight from online. It will save you a ton of money. Good luck!
I realize now that everything was an illusion. All of it was a lie! I loved HIM way more than He LUVED me. He stole anything he could. He used me as a cover to hide his closeted sexuality. He was a woman beater. He never gave a damn about what I was going through. I Always had to figure things out on my own. Dnt make the same mistake. They're selfish demons
My father lied about reading project 2025. Last week he said he read 200 pages, but hasn't got any opinions on it yet. You don't get halfway through a book, and still not have an intimate knowledge of the plot.
The woman my ex left me for, is as lazy as he is. He called my sister he wants me back. He needs me to do the work. No contact is the path to healing. So if you can do that. I understand not everyone can do that because of children. Grey rock. The next best thing.
A narcissistic teacher wouldn't be the worst. Someone willing to manipulate you into learning so that they can have high ratings. They would probably be an engaging history teacher
🤮after 25 years…. total Covert Did EVERYTHING she says. Yup! Totally… except he didn’t come back to try to get me back…. Of course I Blocked him on everything…
Lol i left work to show those narc managers up for their lies. I tried fighting against them at first and then i decided id fuck them up better by walking away. So far they've all been sacked by the new owners, as i predicted all their schemes fell to shit. My partner tries to hoover. She fucked up a long time ago, im just here for the kids. Her bs will never work, I've seen her mask slip, i will never forget and never forgive.
40 years down the tubes, my final divorce hearing is Wednesday 28 Aug 24. I have my own apartment, she has not negotiated or communicated since she started this crap Mid-Sept last year.
Congratulations on your freedom. She'll def be back so keep everything you just heard on this video in mind. Don't fall for it. I did for a second and it was the worst mistake of my life. Those 10 minutes have cost me greatly so don't do it. You have no idea what they are capable of when they get desperate
He was seventeen years older than me, sixty. He was never going to find a younger female again to cook him dinner every night and cop the blame for the sex not working every night. Sux to be him. 😂
Not a single lawyer will ever take a case or present a case to a judge over "narcissism". It would never happen and a judge would likely side against you.
'Not a single lawyer' is pretty absolute. I wonder if settling out of court is ever an option. The covertness I speak of led to physical, emotional, and perhaps even familial pain and suffering. Many were involved. It wasn't just the narcissism itself, it put people's reputations at risk. Jobs were on the line. Careers possibly derailed. Anyways, if as you say in absolute terms 'no' lawyer will help me (including even Rebecca Zung) who I'm absolutely 'certain', would receive a huge payout from all of the lawsuits I intend to bring out, then I'll be more than happy to settle out of court...almost covertly (jk)
🎯💯% after 42 years of marriage I'm just now understanding this. Who is a gradual thing but very traumatic in all stages.I am still married to this covert, adulterous man ,too.
It's going to be very hard to replace me. I was kind, loving, and giving to a fault until I discovered who he really was. He witnessed something he wished he had never seen. I guarantee you he was terrified of the other side of me.
I told him retroactive honesty was not part of our agreement. He asked what retroactive was.
Sounds like my ex (not terribly bright) and when he would make statements like that I would say-Thank God you're pretty-LOL!
@@dancindebs1 omg ! Hilarious!!!:)
They cannot replace anyone at all
29 years married , 31 together 5 minutes was too long
I was just discarded after 31 years of marriage. With the exception of my son he is the biggest mistake of my life. He left without warning or consideration and has refused to pay the mortgage. If I ever needed anything I had to find a way to provide it for myself. I echo your words... "5 mintues was too long". I hope you are just not surviving but thriving as well. I am done consoling myself with ice cream... and finally taking care of myself. I just got a puppy last week (he did not really like dogs) and am starting to take care of my neglected self. Hope you are doing the same survivor sister!
@@monalisa2662you both showed so much courage!!! I'm stuck but I know I will be delivered from this nightmare
Could not agree more !
I was married 16 years to a covert narc , 20 years together .. and I got the power to divorce only after I got cervix cancer , HPV virus 🦠 brought by that evil ex husband!
I fought both my illness and my husband and with the power of Jesus Christ, our Lord , I won the battle ! 😊🥳🙏
❤bless you ❤
I am in this group right here as well 28 years together 20 years married
@monalisa2662 38 years married, came home from a business trip to an emptied house. No warning, not a clue it was going to happen. Dragged through the courts due to false allegations to the police, then all our friends and business associates fed lies about my behaviour. I moved on and found a new partner which triggered my ex to break in and trash my new partner's possessions - new partner was awarded a court protection order and we moved interstate to get away. I'm a man, so of course society still considers me to be the aggressor. 2 years since she left, good riddance.
Married to a covert narc 7 yrs. I was the last to know. But she did all of those things
You ain't then only 1. Best to tty and accept the situation and really understand they don't have your best interest unless it's in theirs! They will lie
The narcissistic will often completly ignore the words in an argument, and constantly ask "why are """YOU""" so angry"? I have narcissistic parents
Narcissist s are so predictable
@@loriw1189 truth be. They are so afraid of everything. That’s why they need to be the best. What happened in their childhood
Damn, you nailed it. Going through it right now in a business relationship. What you are describing is verbatim with my narc!
I'm on of a kind, I'm going to be hard to replace, she no's that but they don't care, truly evil, all about themselves 🇨🇦💪🏻
Well done. I have narcacist parents spouse an kids. Being an empath i look out for everyone. But they play games with me. Time to live my life .
Been 2 years and seems happy with new supply. I know i certainly tried hard and then tossed like trash
They eventually show their true colours- could take months, could take years- and they'll never leave, the new supply will be drained until they can't take anymore
Yep,I've seen the workplace circus. He did this and that,and smears.They want to manipulate.Cant be Mr Goodbar can't be replaced. Thank you, Rebecca ❤❤
She has stalked me to the point that I've had to delete all social media because no matter what I'm screwing around. So I've been completely shut out from the world. She has made it that I am totally and completely dependent upon her for anything. I have to beg for anything I need. I have job interview tomorrow and she has said she will not give me gas money to go to interview.
So you don't have any family or friends homes you can go to? You can't find a church or government assistance that you can ask for help?
totally. Had a narc boss at the courthouse. Can you just imagine what horrors we dealt with?
Yup. Always telling me about all the women he encounters.
My ex wife did every one of these ment. She still tried to reach out to me and contact me and text me and give me bird crumbs. But information from these videos are very helpful to keep me sound emotionally psychologically and spiritually thank you
I am dealing with all of it all at once
Seen all these tactics.. been a victim of all of them with my last relationship
Exactly what I went through.
My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. It has been 6 months. She made no attempts to come back. Only because she has shown her true colors. Saving face. I'm have moved on.
He said I guess I’ll just be alone ! ha ha I figured out that manipulation right away the victim !
I didn’t reply
Mine was also an alcoholic!
Urghhh
Totally, Toxic boss & toxic husband running in parallel over the last few years! Had a few so-called 'friends' thrown in. I know why I have attracted people like this & it does indeed go back to my childhood but I have worked so hard & practice gratitude every day for my many blessings that are my shield. Thanks for all you do Rebecca, appreciate you sharing your experiences & guidance & wealth of legal expertise too🙏💗
"TOTALLY"
Thank you for saying I’m not alone because it sure felt like it until I heard you ❤❤❤
Trying.
I’ve run through dozens of hot narcissist women. Mostly the same thing every time, first 6 weeks are great then they get toxic.
None of them ever realized anything that would indicate remorse or growth. Really lost people. But it was good while they could hold it together, and I did enjoy being an agent of karma.
That's most women in general unfortunately
My ex GF was a narc. Beginning so lovable and great to be with, thought I found “the one” then little by little starts with small things, texting her ex despite how I felt about it multiple times, she assured me she had him blocked when we started dating. She hooked me in, then out of nowhere starting fights about the smallest inconvenience. Me not answering my phone within 5 mins of a text, me being tired and wanting to leave a party before her, me wearing an outfit she didn’t like or cutting my beard too short. It would be a full on rage no stopping it. Never happened in front of another person. She put on this face of being so sweet and innocent. Then as soon as we are home, all hell breaks loose. (She wouldn’t even do it if her roommate was home, wouldn’t raise her voice, nothing).
I’d eventually react to the abuse and yell back. Then I’d breakup with her just to feel like it was all my fault. Then I’d be the one asking for forgiveness to get back together. We’d be good for a week then the cycle repeated itself. Over and over, faster and faster.
Now she discarded me because she realized I wasn’t coming back after she hit me across the face. Now she’s spreading rumors and telling all my personal business to everyone she knows. And is posting things on social media with sly comments directed toward me. I’ve blocked her and her best friend who are both toxic women.
One example of a female narc in workplace: She manipulated a member of a small journal, got the job as a photographer, then felt entitled to a movie section because by some error she was allowed to write couple of articles which are extremely shallow and full of word salads without any meaning. So, she tried to devalue and push the guy out of movie section by trying to get into online argument with him, which didn't go as planned. Her online activity is also weird. She likes her own articles on social media and never shows support for her colleagues. Also, she stopped photographing the events the way journal requires and started showing off by photographing what she wants. It's only a matter of time before she gets figured out and fired.
totally !
Sweet talk. Love bombing
I told the narcissist "female" before' I let her "go that I was irreplaceable".
Thanks!
I just left my husband. Together 11 years. He didn’t want to get married with our family and so I stupidly agreed to go to Vegas. It all went downhill from there. He’s has taken the money out of the account several times leaving me hanging since this I have not been on the account for a few years and he Venmo’s me money when he knows I need to pay my bills. Years of silent treatments and asking him over and over again to please stop just talk to me . He acknowledges it saids sorry and then a few days later the cycle begins again. I left but I’m very very broken and I don’t know where to begin. I’m trying to find work and the stress of it all is just too much to handle😭
@@1980FAZ wishing you the very best, you are due some good karma after all the crap you went through. It's coming for you🙏
Totally
45 years married, lies, took money, multiple affairs. Told him I was done when I found out about latest 2- yes 2 at once. Left for one of them. He has tried the nasty, the pathetic and is now trying the I want to help you with .....Nope I am DONE
yep, in almost 2 years I’m still fighting for the settlement after our divorce - he won’t release the information my lawyer has been asking for - so now I wait for a new date in court.
I hope that there will be consequences for him, because the judge gave him till the end of Oktober 2023😢
@@lizapedersen8435 do you mind my asking you what State you are I in? I'm in Louisiana, and our state requires spousal support during the separation. I decided to attach lawyers this second time around because they were not honest with me about the process. They just wanted more and more money. The courts have a formula and it's ultimately in the hands of the judge. Lawyers have no influence on how much you'll get in the settlement. All they do is the actually process- paperwork, court procedures, etc. I told my son to be ex don't waste his money on an expensive lawyer,, that money would be put to better use towards my settlement, because I'm going to get that money anyways. The legal fees are gone forever. Even my narc could see the wisdom in that advice. ( * They hate losing money,,, LoL) There are lots of YT channels that will guide you thru the divorce courts. Saves you a ton of money. It takes so long to go through the divorce that you have plenty of time to prepare for each step. Good luck!
Ya, mine refused to "release the information" the first time around when I used expensive lawyers... Who don't change the outcome of the settlement whatsoever- that's decided by the courts and the judge. There's a formula that they use,, and the lawyers can't change that formula. The second time around,, I got my hands on that information that he would not release- that is bank account statements and tax returns,, I won't have to "wait" this time!!
Also: I told my soon to be ex-narc that the lawyers won't change the outcome and why waste your money on expensive legal fees that you will never see again? The money is put to better use towards my settlement! Surprise surprise- he actually agreed! All the lawyers do is help you navigate the legal and court system, paperwork etc. ( can't change the outcome,, ) divorce laws are pretty cut and dry it's not like a criminal defense or anything like that,, not actually that complicated. There are lots of RUclips channels that help with divorce in your state. You can download the form straight from online. It will save you a ton of money. Good luck!
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9:40 of the video
Excellent video thank you
Totally!!!
Question would you rather lose everything and leave empty-handed or stay in a narcissistic relationship
I realize now that everything was an illusion. All of it was a lie! I loved HIM way more than He LUVED me. He stole anything he could. He used me as a cover to hide his closeted sexuality. He was a woman beater. He never gave a damn about what I was going through. I Always had to figure things out on my own. Dnt make the same mistake. They're selfish demons
My father lied about reading project 2025. Last week he said he read 200 pages, but hasn't got any opinions on it yet. You don't get halfway through a book, and still not have an intimate knowledge of the plot.
TOTALLY
The woman my ex left me for, is as lazy as he is.
He called my sister he wants me back.
He needs me to do the work.
No contact is the path to healing.
So if you can do that.
I understand not everyone can do that because of children.
Grey rock. The next best thing.
She has the house and all three dogs, not seen them for a year now
Radical acceptance… who cares…. Go LIVE YOUR Life! Keep Going everyday… Seek Joy through God and His Live and His Nature
Totally 😅😅
A narcissistic teacher wouldn't be the worst. Someone willing to manipulate you into learning so that they can have high ratings. They would probably be an engaging history teacher
My ex wife dose this to me.
T O T A L L Y !!!
I ended up having to get a pfa it has been 3 months no contact.
🤮after 25 years…. total Covert Did EVERYTHING she says. Yup!
Totally… except he didn’t come back to try to get me back….
Of course I Blocked him on everything…
Lol i left work to show those narc managers up for their lies. I tried fighting against them at first and then i decided id fuck them up better by walking away. So far they've all been sacked by the new owners, as i predicted all their schemes fell to shit.
My partner tries to hoover. She fucked up a long time ago, im just here for the kids. Her bs will never work, I've seen her mask slip, i will never forget and never forgive.
I keep the phone number so I can get her sorry text messages. I was told by a man many years ago to not marry this woman. I should of listened to him.
I could care less if he went off on a smear camping, no, would not worry one minute, cause Im over it.
Ex-boss? Pulled a gun on a co-worker! My co-worker had to slap it outa his hand! Oh yeah, Narcissistic Boss
🙏💜🌍💜🌍💜🌍💜🌍💜🙏
I'm done with the evil shit narcissists of today ahaha 😊😇🤫🤭😏👹🤠🤪😘
40 years down the tubes, my final divorce hearing is Wednesday 28 Aug 24.
I have my own apartment, she has not negotiated or communicated since she started this crap Mid-Sept last year.
What caused or led up to the divorce happening.
Congratulations on your freedom. She'll def be back so keep everything you just heard on this video in mind. Don't fall for it. I did for a second and it was the worst mistake of my life. Those 10 minutes have cost me greatly so don't do it. You have no idea what they are capable of when they get desperate
👍❤TOTALLY
He was seventeen years older than me, sixty. He was never going to find a younger female again to cook him dinner every night and cop the blame for the sex not working every night. Sux to be him. 😂
Thisss
Every time I watch one of your videos I feel the lines being blurred everywhere and start seeing narcissism in everybody. It's unsettling.
Everyone has some sort of narc trait, including you.
@@JP-ll8iy~says every narc
@idunno6480 what a ridiculously childish thing to say
In everybody? That's a bit delusional.
Like #143,yeehaaaw
Whats a dm
Direct message. Versus a response in a public forum
Hello! What's the best way to find a divorce attorney that specializes in covert narcissism in my area (NC Florida)? Thanks.
Use your big brain and google it
Not a single lawyer will ever take a case or present a case to a judge over "narcissism". It would never happen and a judge would likely side against you.
'Not a single lawyer' is pretty absolute. I wonder if settling out of court is ever an option. The covertness I speak of led to physical, emotional, and perhaps even familial pain and suffering. Many were involved. It wasn't just the narcissism itself, it put people's reputations at risk. Jobs were on the line. Careers possibly derailed. Anyways, if as you say in absolute terms 'no' lawyer will help me (including even Rebecca Zung) who I'm absolutely 'certain', would receive a huge payout from all of the lawsuits I intend to bring out, then I'll be more than happy to settle out of court...almost covertly (jk)
Blah blah. Lucky I didn’t meet his family. But, I’m sure he’ll play the victim
🎯💯% after 42 years of marriage I'm just now understanding this. Who is a gradual thing but very traumatic in all stages.I am still married to this covert, adulterous man ,too.
Allez Lesbians
What do you mean?
🤔🤔👑
Sounds like yall dealing with simps and liers in which case you messed up for choosing them. You deal with real men... this wont work on them
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