@@PaulWorldZoom not like me iam more the the Asian riceater I know them very well there a stuped rude undiszipliniert monehunter lie scammer all in all stuped idiots no way them ewer and ewer. Cheating is there target think about Ami it’s thime to go home
Oh my, beware as plenty of scammers. (This 20 year old from Cebu scammed a 67 year old man from Las Vegas, Nevada. He flew to Cebu, met her and her family, even built her parents a home so they could have decent place to lived in. The American supported the girl $400 monthly allowance, but when he’s ready to returned to Cebu, he couldn’t as the girl was 7 weeks pregnant from a Filipino married man who has children. This American called Senator Raffy Tulfo and is suing the girl.) Good luck to you all looking for partners & ❤️.
For me, just flying to Manila and go to one of the shopping malls, hang out in the food court, and they will come to you. You’re going to spend more time screening who is a Golddigger or who secretly has children. Go to Makati if you’re looking for someone that is well educated. Once you’re in Manila or Quezon City, etc., you could always use a dating app and then plan to meet the person at a Starbucks so you can make sure you’re not getting catfish or scammed, but the girls also complain to me that a lot of the western guys end up already being married at home and they’re just looking for a fling without disclosing it. You have to build mutual trust, but keep the bullshit detector on and don’t be a chump. Don’t invest more than you’re willing to lose. There are lot of really great Filipinos out there. You just have to decide if you’re looking for someone to rescue or if you’re looking for an equal partner with a close education to yours. Thank you for the video. BTW: don’t buy them an expensive iPhone just get them a refurbished Chinese smart phone for between 5,000 and 10,000 pesos. Don’t let any bleeding heart stories pull you in to sucker ville. The Filipinos will actually respect you less if you fall for an emergency story compared to if you just tell them that you understand that they’re going through a tough time but you’re sorry that you will not be in a position to help them at this time. Good luck and remember if you’re a Chump for women in the United States and Europe, you will be three times the Chump in Southeast Asia. Please be assertive, but also be kind and empathize. Thanks again for the second time for this video.
@@PaulWorldZoom thank you. You are too kind. I gained these bits of wisdom by being on the wrong end of relationships with a couple of Filipina’s and a Thai girl or two. Nothing like hindsight, in this world, my friend 😂 555
This video made me become a subscriber. I made travel arrangements to come to Cebu city in July and this video was the shot in the arm that I needed. I will be there for only 2 weeks (1st time) and I'm hoping to at least meet and start a relationship with a nice Filipina. If all goes well, I plan to return later in the year. You are so right when you say older men are marginalized in the west. I can't tell you how many TikTok videos I see where younger women refer to older guys as "creepy old men," as in "I was at the gym and there was this creepy old guy" or "I was walking down the street and this creepy old man comes up to me" as if "creepy old man" is now one word. I can honestly say I have always tried to be a decent human being and a good and faithful husband to my wife right up to the time she passed away from cancer, so it does hurt to be condemned and profiled as a "creep" simply because I'm older. Ageism is real in the west. BTW I'm an avid golfer so if you want a playing partner in mid-July, just let me know! Thanks for all you do!
John I don't know your age, but I am pretty sure that women of the same age as yourself are not pursued by men that are significantly younger. I am a single senior citizen and I have to accept that I am not attractive to a woman a generation younger than myself. The primary reason a poor Philippine woman would want anything to do with me would not be for my good looks.
Most of the other visitors on video interviews I have seen suggest you stay at least one month if you can especially after the travel costs and flight time, jet lag.
Good luck, Sir! You will be welcome with open arms in the Philippines as Filipinos are accommodating accompanied by endless smiles. You will not be lost in translation as nearly everyone speaks English. On the other hand, you’re absolutely 👍 about men being “marginalized” here (at home). Nowadays, we have plenty of entitled “witches”. I am happy you have found another soul to (hopefully) love & be with after your lost & my condolences. (Just be wary and go have an “alert & oriented x100% attitude when meeting someone, gut feelings and everything. Many of us (I am a transplant from Cebu nearly 4 decades ago) are fantastic partners, unfortunately there also are bad apples.) Go to Badian Island in south of Cebu, golf course is might. (I’ll be in Cebu same time of your travel.) No, I don’t play golf, but tennis. Safe travels ✈️.
I met my wife like most people in the USA meet their spouse. My friend had married her friend and they introduced us to each other. She was still in the PI, and I was still in the USA almost finished with my divorce, we wrote each other and finally started to call her on occasion. The calls soon became a twice a day thing, for long chats, and we became feeling close to each other. I went to the PI to meet her after my divorce was final and then came home and filed for the Fiancée visa. We have been together now for over 23 years and have been back to the PI to visit her family more than a dozen times. BTW I do listen to you at 1.25 speed and to me it sounds like normal speech.
Haha Bruce, I was smiling happily all the way to the end. The 1.25 speed made me laugh out loud. I must have wasted that Notre Dame and University of Chicago education 😆😆😆😆 love it
The “1.25” speed, haha. I met my late husband 4 decades ago via snail mail (he passed Thanksgiving of 2000, you could say my foods are to die for). This last one was via a dating site in Cali in 2018.
If you want to talk to Filipina's online, that's fine. Just don't get serious with anyone. When you land in the Phillipines just get on local Facebook dating in whatever town your in. You will have 3 dates in 30 minutes. My advice would be to bide your time and make friends with other expats. Their wives and girlfriends will gladly introduce you to women they know. That way they are kind of vetted. I've never tried going to church here in the Phillipines, but some guys say that's a great place to meet nice women.
I once placed a profile on a site with the user name "Tester", and little more than that. I think all I had was my age and general location and nothing more, not even a picture. Within a couple of hours I had about two dozen responses. Right then I knew who the scammers were.
Hi Paul. I appreciate your topics and vlogs. Been watching you for a long time now. I favor boots on the ground not only for my protection but for the ladies. It might be awhile before I get there and don't want to string anyone along or get their hopes up and then expect them to wait till I get there. Waiting I think till I arrive, checking out places to live and then finding someone local to meet is the best option for me.
That's my general thought as well, I have been to the Philippines but that was four decades ago. I plan on getting a retirement visa and setting up for a little while why I find where I am ready to go. Being from the north I would probably need to be in the hilly areas where it's a bit cooler.
One of the things I admire and respect about you, is you provide information and explain pros and cons. You give us the information and leave it to us to decide. Everyone is different in our thinking and action all we can do is take quality info which is what you provide and use our mind to make decisions. Thanks again Paul
Hey Zoomer, I'm here in Duma and waited to do the on-line thing until I got, pretty much for the reasons you mentioned, mostly what if in person I didn't like this chick in person. I did FilipinaCupid and haven't found it to be really too helpful for here in Duma, because hardly any of those girls are in that area. The one thing I think you should of mentioned for the boots on the ground options is the App "Tinder". I personally haven't used it, but from some of the more seasoned ex-pats here it sounds like it is exactly what it is in the states... and that for sure will put you in front of a lot of girls that are actually in the SAME area you are in. As for me, I did end up meeting someone via friends I met while here, but I personally am taking the slooow route so as not to be hurt or hurt others, but that's just me. Another good one dude
Anytime Paul. I signed up on one of the large apps last weekend, quickly suspended my account after a few days. Was too overwhelmed by scammers, and once that was done, I was overwhelmed by the legit ones. It became too distracting. Me personally I will just wait until I arrive.
knew I wasn't the only only one listening to you at 1.5!, we are still in that go go western mode and there you are leaning back in your chair all suntanned and relaxed
I've done it both ways, and I will say in my opinion, avoid an LDR if you expect a serious relationship. The Filipina you talk to aren't committed to a romance with someone they've never met no matter what they say, and will be having that same relationship with several other men at the same time with you. Once you're here then it's easier to meet someone. But a word to the wise, be aware that even though you meet with her, it doesn't mean she still isn't chatting or even meeting with someone else. Also, don't get it in your head that all beautiful young filipina will fall for you, an older average looking or below average looking foreigner. Most girls are looking for financial support for her, her kids, and her parents. Only a small percentage look for love. Most, not all filipina in their 20s are on these sites for a transactional short time relationship. Buyer beware.
Just don’t make my mistake-flew 8,000 miles to🇹🇭 to my “dream” girl-almost had a heart attack at BKK-40 pounds overweight -tons of make up (even w 2 months of video calling)! Ironically 20 years ago better with photos -now filters change everything!
I spent the next 5 days with her as I knew no one else in BKK-saw the Palace-Aquarium-floating market etc as you know-made an excuse why it did not work out-never told her the real truth! So I learned my lesson-slow down-see the chemistry in real and most important-see her without makeup!
You are absolutely right. I just returned and so many pretty petite Filipinas with men easily over 60. I never use dating sites. NEVER! I have always waited to meet Filipinas there. Why put myself at risk? So many possibilities. I agree do not give money over $20. I don’t have to pay for love. I also just returned from 5 other SE Asian countries. The same was available in those countries as well. I would highly recommend visiting other SE Asian countries as well. One limitation with Filipinas is their passports are weak. Malaysian women have a much stronger passport. I want a partner who can easily travel around the world
I’d still be weary of sending money for communication. How could she afford it in the first place before she met you? How many people are sending her money for cell data? You’re DEFINITELY not the only guy she’s chatting with until you get there. Remember It’s not just 5 bucks it’s 250+ pesos
I used Christian Filipina, where I met my current girlfriend (we met in person a few months ago and plan to meet again next month). It was pretty overwhelming at first. The site staff keeps suspending scam accounts, but I am sure some get through. They even contact you if you communicated with someone that slipped through. You can tell who's there to scam. I used their paid services where you have your own consultant to help you out.
Hello Paul, yes the dating sites I would say in many ways its a good way to start to learn about the Country and the people , I am sure it would be hard for a lot of people to just up and go to the Philippines if they are not well travelled. I agree its very easy to meet a lady hahaha but make sure it is a lady I have had some friends almost get caught out . The malls are very good and easy to start chatting to people as you in most cases the girls will chat that is what's so there I alway enjoy going to SM with "Good Morning Sir " you know how it is :) Thanks Paul great advice .
I've had several ask for money for family emergencies. But I have a policy. I never send anything to anyone for any reason, no exceptions. Once they figure out they're not getting a penny they usually go away.
Im still a year or two out from my exodus So I was debating not using a site to get to know someone, but waiting until boots on the ground (preferably at a anime/nerd convention) would help insure we share similar interests. Nice to know some sites may be nice for just feminine conversation as well. This has been great info again Zoom!
I'm a few more years than that away from my intended exodus and have played TTRPG's for forty tears and don't intend to stop just because I'm in a foreign country. It may help that one of my hobbies is karaoke and I have a side karaoke business.
Karoke would be a great way to involve friends and family of future Gf. Thats kind of like part of the Xpat Gamer initiative I'm creating, for Xpats and world travelers to find gaming (both on and offline) in other spaces wile also learning and enjoying the cultures they are visiting. (Think about how different a Filipino DM would be from an American one!)
I've been in BKK two days this week and Pattaya two, on to Jomtien tomorrow and Hua Hin the 20th. There are so many beautiful Thai's in the malls, 7-11's, street markets, walking, and in and around my hotel(s)- I don't personally see a need
I met my Filipina girlfriend on cupid and after several months flew to the Cebu to meet her. She was exactly the same in person. I'm coming back next month. We've had a LDR for nine months now and things are going great. However, while on cupid I had over 3 hundred contacts within the first day. Be careful several asked for money right away for various reasons. Some come right out and ask others do it discreetly. Beware of scammers!
Any tips on being in an ldr with a Filipina? Mine is great. We are around the same age and has a professional job. We are both in our early 30s. She also doesn't want to live in the US, which I was never going to bring her here anyway, outside of visiting.
Many men who have the Philippines on their mind, also have a scarcity mindset. They somehow believe they have to lock down the perfect woman in the perfect house before they ever step foot in the Philippines. I’m not a huge fan of online dating just because there are too many opportunities for scams and miscommunication. I would rather meet the woman in person.
I'm an executive with a Fortune 500 company. Every six months my company runs a background check on me and my team members. I will be hiring a private security company to run a background check of my Filipina.
I've never seen a video done on how to break up with a Filipina. Would be interested to hear stories from guys there on how they have done it. Filipina's get attached so quickly. I've heard horror stories about breakups.
I met my fiancée online. I think it is a great tool as long as you aren’t gullible. I had a few try to scam me but it was easy to spot. I have seen a lot of people that have met online and have successful marriages. Just be smart.
Hello , About six years ago I added a couple of You-Tubers to My Facebook, and right away I got probably 100 friend requests from Filipinas. Most were just trying to get some money. About five of the Ladies were very nice. One of the Ladies just wanted to be a good friend and We talked about everything. She is very Beautiful in My Eyes. I even offered to buy her gifts and She wouldnt take the money. Finally last August I got to visit Her in Person. I will be visiting Her again in June. Take care.
I am currently on 2 dating apps. One I learned from another vlogger, who is an American, and met his Filipina on a dating site. One is Christian Filipina the other is Christian dating for free. I haven’t had much success in finding my “special partner” but I have met some really nice people on both however, I have also come across a-lot of scammers.
I came to the Philippines over Christmas. (Duma) Was there several weeks, I left after that . The time I was there I never meet anyone. Well I did meet one person. I really wanted to learn more about her. Gave her my number. But she never called me back. I don’t drink or smoke, I am a very nice man. I know people will say you need to get established. Well when you don’t even get anyone to even smile or that is friendly. It’s kinda disheartening over all. I wanted to do the boots on the ground, seems it didn’t work out well. Maybe meeting someone on line is better who really knows. 50/50 I guess… lol
Hi John, here in Dumaguete it would be rare for them to actually approach you. You have to take the lead. My friends say Lee Plaza and Robinson’s is the best. Maybe online will benefit you
Both, use the dating apps, but realize that the in person experience may not be the same as online. I have done the online LDR and flew to her country. Somehow she was different than the picture in my mind. Of course she had all kinds of plan and never let me out of her sight.
Paul, I am a firm believer in boots on the ground. It is way too easy to put on a show on a phone. It is a lot harder to keep up the act for very long in person.
I met my GF on FilipinoCupid. Within 1 month of chatting and video chatting I hopped on a plane and went to meet her in manila. I rented a condo and her kids came along. We had a great week but not without its culture differences. I told the kids I’d take them to a water park. They asked if their cousin could come along and I said sure. That turned into the GF’s brother, wife, brother-in-law and 2 kids all intent on going to the water park on my dime. The weather didn’t work out so I just bought them a meal and they were on there way but not until they ALL spent the night in our little condo. I could go on but I’ll stop there. I will say we have been together for 9 months and I was just in Duma(where I met you Paul) and we had 3 great weeks of vacation. She is expensive as I upgraded her living accommodations from a studio to a 2 bedroom house. Costs me about 25kPHP a month. I did buy her a motor scooter and gave her my old iPhone and Apple Watch when I upgraded. The iPhone has so much better video than her android that I feel I benefit from that if you know what I’m sayin. We are scheduled to go to Bali for 3 weeks, this time the kids are staying with her mom. BTW I’m 63 she is 35
When I came there a year ago, I was on a dating site Pryor to getting there. I had met this 40 year old fhilipina on line. I was only going to stay for 2 weeks. I let her know up front that I was only going to stay a couple of days at different cities. She wanted to go and spend the whole 2 weeks with me, but I made it very clear that only I would stay with her in Bohol for 3 days, then visit another city, then visit another city. I will tell anyone, that you can’t get anything accomplished in 2 weeks. Make your plans for at least 3 to 4 weeks. I’m glad I was on a dating site before I came, otherwise I think I would have had a harder time trying to find the right one. Remember! Tell them what your plans are , and stick to it!
You know sometimes a guy just gets lucky: I have been married to my Cristina for 24 years this coming June. In the beginning I did just about everything wrong but it worked out. I met Cristina by mail, late 1998, exchanged letters. She never asked me for money until after we were married. I came May of 1999. Fell hopelessly in love. Three weeks later we are married. Then back to the U.S. alone and crying. I would come visit her about once a year. I got her green card in 2013, moved her to Seattle, but she could not take the cold. So here we are.
Yes you can get lucky. I have same type of story. Chatted online with my current wife of 16+ years for 6 months. We decided to get married before even meeting. So I brought a ring and on 1st visit 17 days after arrival we married. That was 2007, here we are 2023. Life is good.
@@Synfulz It is so good to hear of such a happy outcome. For me, much the same, I brought the rings. When I first came, arrived at the airport, I was so nervous and unsure. Cristina and family picked me up from the airport in Manila. On the van ride to her home I decided that I would do the marriage, if she would have me. I understood, going in, that with Cristina comes also her family. Cristina also had a six year old daughter. That was, perhaps the best part. My step daughter is now 30, and a wonderful person and a wonderful part of my life. Yes, sometimes a guy just gets lucky.
When I visited Dumaguete last month, I took a walk down the bay walk. It was not long before I was approached by a couple of ladies together. One of the ladies was very beautiful and had an interest in knowing me. We exchanged Facebook accounts and before I knew it, she was telling me how handsome I was and how much she fell in love with me at first sight. How can I believe that?
I joined FilipinaCupid a couple months back... and was only active the first month. Yes a lot of scammers. Easy to spot and move on. But I also had many conversations with a variety of filipina who seemed quite genuine. 20's, 30s, 40s, and 50s... Invaluable experience to see what filipina value, and how they change over the years. Early on in the chat bring up "How's your experience on the dating site?" Then tell them you have been contacted by a lot of scammers and you will never send money to someone on a dating site until you meet in person and get a chance to date and get to know them. Scammers disappear in seconds. I then go on to tell them while I am looking for a serious relationship, I will not commit to only chatting one person online, and that I cannot fall in love with someone online only. Establish your boundaries up front... and let those not interested bail. There are so many you should never compromise on your boundaries because one is "really cute". And lastly, I agree with you on sending load. IF you are having more serious conversations with a filipina and she is sharing her life through photos and video that is costly to them. Do not buy cards but send load directly to her number. Scammer sill collect cards and sell them.
How I was scammed by a lady. Well educated student wanted me to help her buy a smart phone. She came to my house and we had some conversation in which she swore she loves me and wants to marry. Ok I told her. I'll give you some of the amount and the rest in the next meeting. "No no I need all the amount now", so I told her that I believe I shall never see her anymore, but gave her some of the cost. And so it was. She was able to buy a smart CP, and join a pornographic site where she exposed her naked body for cash. Just remember, if you give them a smart phone, you give them a business/job opportunity. If you give them a stupid phone, you will get all the curses in the world, and you are done.
Hi Paul - In relation to your video - I meet my wife of 24 years in NY - a blind date - actually originally setup with Filipino and my wife substituted for original date - took her out to Long Island, NY restaurant “94th aero squadron” WW1 Atmosphere……….in relation to a prior video “Banking……..” We are traveling to NY this week first to Philippine Embassy on 5th to P/U “Letter of Introduction ” for SS & to Philippines international bank few blocks from Embassy to setup my wife’s SS account. Your video help us with banks doing business with SS in the Philippines. I’ll let know how it goes just in case you do another video in reference to banking. Thanks for your videos Ed
If it makes you feel any better, I watch 95% of videos on 1.5x speed. I just don't enough time not to lol. Really like your channel though. You give some really valuable info and insight.
I did what most every foreigner should avoid. I met my wife through a Filipino dating sight, married her and bought land/homes before I arrived in the Philippines. The red flags are a burning here. I sought a more mature Filipina, not one who was throwing herself at me and I did not go into the online relationship with the intent of a long term relationship. It grew, she never complained about being poor or ever needing money. I knew I was not being played, but tell that to my family. Anyway, it worked for me though I went through I did experience scammers on the site (no money changed hands), so be wary.
Thank you for some wise words and good advice. Thats why I subscribed. I was wondering if you can do a video on the gym in Dumagete (cost location and facilities) and housing. Do you have a patreon account?
I've tried the dating site thing 2 times for about 2 weeks. I think they're great for simps wanting to send money to a pretend girlfriend. Also good for men looking for a Filipina who only wants a foreigner, any foreigner, fat, bad health, no money...no problem. I think I have more to offer and that's best done in person. However I did meet a couple of older Filipinas (35+) who have remained friends (meaning I friend zoned them). They're professionals in different fields. They've been a big help showing me how business and real estate works in PH. So dating sites have been a plus for me, just not for finding "love". I did interact with 18-30 year old Filipinas (I'm 66). That was a complete mess but did help me know I prefer older Filipinas. Maybe this is the same thing Filipinas are saying, they want older men because they know more, stable, etc... I'm seeing the same with Filipinas.
I’ve tried the dating sites and they’ve always worked for me. It’s a great way of weeding out the nonsense. You specify your likes and stick to the them, remember birds of a feather flock together. Most foreigners will date the province girls …I learnt quickly i’m not that type of guy. I just wanted a educated middle class Filipina and a professional, so anything over say a banker in a large city ..I entertained. There are a plethora of educated Filipino, that really want a commitment guy. GLTA.
@@RayH- It all depends on many things really ..I was 48..and I put 43 lol ..cus I knew that the quality Filipina ..ie 25-30 say want men nearer their age. There is that age range on sites. if she fancies you ..a few years will not matter. I ideally wanted older say early 30’s but the pool is limited to quality fit Filipina by that age …baggage etc. So it takes longer…province have no preference for age but you have the complications of all that comes with a province girl ..culture/family and attitudes. For sure there’s lots of beautiful middle class Filipina…if that’s your bag, age is subjective but the younger generations are very socially driven ..depends on your outlook etc. Good luck 🤞
My 2 cents. I tried the dating sites but they were not for me. I strongly believe that a good Filipina needs to be, and indeed should be, close to her family. Therefore I have decided to pick my retirement location first and then look for a partner. I am doing a May/June scouting trip following up a February trip. Then I will decide on a location for when I return full time in the fall. To each their own. Cam
Another very good video! My gf Har and I will be there next month and I’m hoping to meet you in person. We are still working on and learning on our small RUclips channel. I’m an American who sold my mini farm in se Indiana and Har is from Ayungon and we have decided on Valencia to begin the next chapter! We have known each other for 2 years and have spent time both online and in person so as a couple who has experienced both ways of your topic today I feel you were spot on ! Keep up the good work and hope to see you soon!!
I used Filipino Cupid, and after months of talking to women I actually came here. There was three women that I really liked online. I met all three of them in person, and they were all really good people in person too. As your friend said, it's pretty easy to tell the scammers. I think you did a really good job pointing out the pros and cons.
@@albduke if their first message is hey do you want to talk on WhatsApp, I ignore them. If when I finally do talk to them on WhatsApp, they start hitting me with all their problems I block them. If she sends nudes right away, blocked. Those are just a few off the top of the head.
@@marks2517 Well I've been talking to a girl for about a year . But I'm starting to get red flags Things aren't adding up so Don't think she's gonna work out
@@albduke My advice is run. A long time ago someone told me that if you ever have suspicions about someone that you need to let them go. Either you're right, in which case you need to be free of them, or you're wrong and just overly suspicious, and they need to be free of you. Either way there's no sense of sticking around. Then again I'm just some middle-aged guy going through a midlife crisis halfway around the world, so keep that in mind when taking advice from me lol.
Hey Paul another good video with some good advice. I have been chatting to girls in the Philippines for around 20 years on many different platforms so I can see the red flags as they pop up. Some are good at hiding those red flags but sooner or later they slip up. I have a few things I do when chatting to Filipinas. First rule if they ask for money right away not happening. I have to meet in person or chat for a long time before I would send any money and then no big amounts. Like you mentioned for a load or something small like that is ok then you are not out a lot of cash if it is a scam. Second rule is a video chat is a must so you know who you are talking too. No video call is a big red flag and a deal breaker for me. Those 2 things are very important and I have other things I look for when chatting or meeting in person. Sometimes it take a while to know for sure if the one you are chatting too is real or a scammer. I have caught many in small lies and when confronted they usually have an excuse but most excuses don't make sense. Go into any online relationship with your eyes open. Take off the rose coloured glasses and just pay close attention. It is usually easy to spot the bad ones and not always easy to find the good ones. Just don't rush take one day at a time.
The main difference with dating sites in the west and say the phil’s is that you can be 40 plus and attract a younger women in the phil’s. In the west if your over 40 plus ..you’ll be ignored just by your age alone. I dated in the west all younger than myself Ie 20 years younger that I met face to face as I knew dating sites would be not preferable as to meeting in the real world for me as I’m gym junkie etc. But dating sites are entirely different in the phil’s as your “pond “ is more like a ocean. You just need to be realistic about your worth and the Filipina you aspire too, but here’s the great news …you’ll get the type of women in the Philippines. You could only have dreamt of, GLTA. Ps don’t settle for the first Filipina.
I posted a picture and profile on Filipina Cupid to see how it would go, and in a week I had 400 messages! Totally overwhelming. I felt like changing my name to "Chum" ...as in, from the movie JAWS. 😂
Hi man, don't be naive and selfish. If 400 message you , 200 of them is a single mom with 2 kids who looks for beta provider, + 20 ladyboys + 100 girls between 20 to 25 who just want a allowance from you as a boyfriend from abroad who after a sweet skype talk with your love , you jerk in front of a porn movie , while her real filipino bf burry his burrito into her pussy. Now is left 80 from that 400 who chat you and from this 80 , 40 of them they are married in the papers and separated and they need you to pay for annulment. And the rest left 40 their phone will be broke after 3 months of online love, and they ask you for a new one to " keep the love alive".
What percentage read your profile first? I am seeing only around 1% actually reading my profile. For me first it's their pictures. Then the age group they are seeking. Then if it's a match I read the profile first before adding as a favorite. Then watch to see if they read my profile.
@@RayH- I don't know, but that's an excellent approach. I don't dare Make my account visible again lol I don't want to be distracted from getting my place ready for sale So I can move out there. I'll just meet people in person
@@tryscience I agree, it's not worth the time. When you view a profile I noticed many suggested profiles last logged in weeks or months ago. Same with those added as a favorite. After a while many stop logging in. Then in some of the walk around videos you see all the women you won't find online or maybe online somewhere else. Maybe once there online may work meeting someone. I am thinking I would start out somewhere like Dumaguete at least until I become more familiar with PHP then decide what to do and where to go from there. I am considering moving at this time. Like you I'd need to get ready. My daughter is getting married in January. The earliest for me would be next year. Tough decision with the economic climate here in the US. I have spent years preparing for economic hardship here and then to start liquidating in the middle of what appears to be a collapse. I am in Wisconsin and tired of the winters. Move within the US or to PHP.
Well I suggest that if you want to use a dating site, wait until you are there. I spent the money for the 3mo subscription on Philippine Cupid and could not believe the number of scammers on there. I have been to the Philippines several times before and am moving permanently in June to retire. Some of the woman you will meet online are genuine sure, and I have made some friends I will maybe contact when I get there. But be careful, someone telling you they love you after a couple days of Chat is crazy and to me is a Yuge red flag. So pay attention guys, require a Video call early and use your head not your heart.
You bring up some great points. I think it’s a combination of wanting a “preceptor” or escort/tour guide to having a girl that sequesters you once you arrive. The other extreme is “buyer beware” and hypothetically “reading the reviews. You also must “level set” your expectations. Most likely these beautiful girls are very poor. They live in what I would consider a very rural country type of living. I lived on a farm when I was younger and our stables and work sheds come to mind. Their homes are without a modern bathroom, or modern kitchen, no air conditioning, no car, they have never traveled and stayed in a nice resort or flown on an airplane. These girls see an American or foreign man as an opportunity that they’ll never have, even with a college degree or a OFW job in another country. Also realize that if you choose to be serious and settle down with your gf and bring her to live with you in your nice condo or home rental. She will be asking for your support for her family. If she doesn’t care or if her family is not needing her support, that’s definitely not normal unless she is older and maybe a widow or working for many years to be stable. The age gap was part of my reason for coming to Philippines, I wanted a girl that’s young and beautiful at was divorced at 42 without any intention of being with a USA girl my age or in her 30’s. Why, when I knew the difference of how much more beautiful , caring and traditional that young girls are in PHL. Yes, I have to help out her family, but I also help out my mom and dad sometimes and I’m very happy to do so.
Your 1.0 speed is great. It’s built for people who need the time to process what you say and match it with the enormous life experience they collected. Otherwise known like the oldies. :). It also shows your calculated wording to ensure you stay with the values you have. It allows your listeners to process and adopt your ideas. 1.5 speed joke was a good one though. Hhhgg
Another thoughtful, common sense discussion. 👍. 80% of the scammers have little in their profile or one or two photos. For the rest, just pay attention and you can see the ‘ask’ coming. You just need to think with your big head, not your smaller one 🤣
I just finished watching this video and you mentioned some guys were commenting about your voice. I just had to let you know that your voice reminds me of John Wayne! Am I right? I bet you do a great impression! 😃
I met my wife totally by chance, in person, in HK where I had my own business and she was an OFW. I had been due to fly to Manila but my flight was cancelled at the last minute. I went back to my apartment complex, not particularly happy, and grabbed a beer from the 7-11. It was 7:45 am. There were three Filipinas sitting outside - it was their day off - and I asked them to watch my bag while I went into the shop. I started chatting to them, obviously stating that I should have been in the Philippines. Anyway, I invited them out for drinks and some food that evening on the proviso that they chatted among themselves in Tagalog. It was a pleasant evening. The following day, I bumped into her on my way back from the gym and asked her out for dinner. We dated for a couple of months, Sundays only, until I took over her employment contract because she was being treated pretty poorly. A year later she gave birth to our son and 3 years after that we re-located to the Philippines, where we have been for the past 3-4 years, with property, a business and an income. Maybe there is something that rings true about fate.
Christian Filipino is the only dating site I would say is best. However, I would suggest go to the Philippines and give it 3 months. I've never used Christian Filipino, but from people I've talked to that's where they met their gf/wife. They found no scammers there.
I have a real soft spot for the kids,if I could make a meaningful difference in the young ones educations for a reasonable dollar amount that’s a huge plus for me.
I am 2 -3 years from moving. will vacation next year there. I joined a site 2 months ago. only a week ago I paid for it. I found most of the people that contacted me after i paid seemed genuine. I actually started talking to a province girl from Leyte. Never considered that area she just had a few things in her profile that I was interested in on 3 time we were chatting she asked why I didn't video chat. Well so far so good but if your thinking of using a site maybe sign up make a profile but don't pay to read messages for a little while. Then hopefully you'll filter some of the scammers.
@@PaulWorldZoom That’s so funny 😂. Yeah I heard you say that a couple videos later after watching this one, but I couldn’t find which video I had asked you about it. I appreciate all your input on your videos. It really helps. May God bless you.
For those who intend to marry a Filipina, pls ask for a CENOMAR upfront. Certificate of No Marriage. Only legally single women will be able to marry you. Avoid legal problems in the future. Bigamy is a non-bailable offense here.
I started a profile on Christian Filipina (never joined) and had 40 hits in 2 days with no picture. A handful said they lived in the U.S. I'll be a boots on the ground guy. I ended up shutting it down.
Can't agree more, Paul. Very subjective as it depends on case to case basis. Also depends on d individual, what is his priority/intention surfing or subscribing, to d site. Like u opined, to gain more knowledge, inputs about Philippines, d cultures, d opposite sex etc, should b ok. Just do it with prudence, discretion as u can b d target of scammers or deceitful blokes. But u cannot also rule out that u might meet someone@filipina with good moral and noble attributes. Good luck. Cheers🙏🙏🙏
Thanks a lot of good advises, but I would like to add that there is many ways people has been scammed without sending money, for example they been tricked to ”invest” online, act as money launderers, drug mules, or even been black-mailed after doing explicit web-cam. If you meet them foot on the ground, there is also countless of scams IRL.
I should've waited till I got there to meet someone but I got on cupid and met someone I think she is very special I guess I'll find out when I get there. Take care
Would you say, that Pinay's are most likely the one side with unreal expectations when it comes to LDR situations? For me personally, it takes time to really know a person, not going to get "Married" on day 2!
I would like to know from the following please: Is the local (Philippines) tap water safe to drink, cook and brush our teeth with? Are diamond engagement rings the norm among Filipinos living in the Philippines or is it something new now among expats only? Thank you.
I actually only use bottled water. I do use tap water for teeth brushing. Never had a trouble. I don’t know about the Diamond ring tradition. The married FILIPINaS wear a ring but I never paid attention. I’ll check it out
People are lonely and if it brings them some joy to talk online go for it. They send money and they got the joy of giving from the heart. Giving is it's own reward even if they never meet. I prefer to wait and meet people in person. I want to See if I can take the heat and rainy season lol. Might hate the waiting in line , traffic, out of stock, hate to fall in love it could get expensive moving her with you to portugal or south america . It's doable though lol all it takes is money
New sub here...I happened to watched your interview mentioning about your career in medical industry and I got interested in exploring more of your videos. I tried dating app before like 5 yrs ago, but never had constant chat..so I quit it's not for me. Maybe...just maybe fate will bring the right man for me -I don't have to look for him.
Don't waste time and effort on line. Get your boots on the ground. Until you are ready to go to the Philippines....level up and prepare for a good honest woman you'll meet in country.
I tried the online dating stuff and I just can't shake the feeling that it's a numbers game based on pretty pictures. And in a world of artificial photo enhancement software I just feel deceived before I even click the chat button. So I'm going to Philly and see who I can meet face to face completely random, get to know the culture first hand eventhough I know i'm going to suffer because i'm a picky eater. 😆🤣 Maybe it's a cool idea to do a video about the food. Can a picky eater survive? Where would a picky eater find western food 😆 👍
The idea of being able to positively change a person's or whole family's life for a few hundred dollars a month is very appealing to me. That kind of money in the west does nothing to add to the quality of most people's lives.
Hi Paul. I just watched Calvin's video on the heat there. I'm 63 w/ heart disease and don't do well in the blazing heat. I looked at the forecast for Iloilo this week and it's 96-98F. That shut down my plans to move there. I looked at suggestions for higher altitude locations, but even those seem to have some significant drawbacks. Am I just foolish still planning on retirement in PH?
@@PaulWorldZoom Weather information is not at all consistent regarding the Philippines. Some sites basically say it's in the 90s and humid all the time and others are more like mid 80's most months and low 90s in the summer months. I simply don't want to make a mistake and be forced to stay inside like a vampire. : - )
1:46 Ummm....Australia is still part of the "Western World", even though it is "downunder"! Oh, and by the way, all a westerner needs is a "not-flat nose" to be attractive to a Filipina. The infatuation that Filipinas have with noses is extraordinary. Paul, you have a pretty good snoz, so you will look super attractive to any Filipina. My advice to anyone putting their pic on a dating site profile is to take a "profile pic", i.e. from the side to accentuate the nose!!!! Cheers.
Boots on the ground for me. I have no interest in dating sites, or wasting my time time wading thru the scammer's. I understand that guy's get lonely, but why would they be chatting up Filipinas on a dating site, with no intentions of ever traveling to the PI to meet her.? Giving her false hopes, and wasting her time, is not a nice thing to do.
I’m reminded of a person whom married his wife from the P.I.s years ago through a dating sight a successful marriage.the tail sighs are good points of a scam I would say in my wife’s country that you look over immediate family.marrying a Catholic was a plus in our particular case!r.paul sweet
I think if you are on a dating site as a guy without intent of going to said country, you are both wasting your time and also the time of women who engage with you. If you just want company, then dating sites are really not for you. It's the same thing with women who have instagram accounts just to post sexy pictures for attention and engagement. It's unhealthy behaviour for everyone involved. The question should you use dating sites comes down mostly on time. If you have 2-3 months to find a woman there, then i think waiting is better. If you only have 2-3 weeks to find a woman then you should consider using these sites or apps. Purely because at least you'll find a few women who you are actually interested in meeting.
These days with AI scams and deep fake videos, I'd only trust a real face-to-face meeting!
They are very clever
@@PaulWorldZoom not like me iam more the the Asian riceater I know them very well there a stuped rude undiszipliniert monehunter lie scammer all in all stuped idiots no way them ewer and ewer. Cheating is there target think about Ami it’s thime to go home
Oh my, beware as plenty of scammers.
(This 20 year old from Cebu scammed a 67 year old man from Las Vegas, Nevada. He flew to Cebu, met her and her family, even built her parents a home so they could have decent place to lived in.
The American supported the girl $400 monthly allowance, but when he’s ready to returned to Cebu, he couldn’t as the girl was 7 weeks pregnant from a Filipino married man who has children.
This American called Senator Raffy Tulfo and is suing the girl.)
Good luck to you all looking for partners & ❤️.
Absolutely! Great comment!
For me, just flying to Manila and go to one of the shopping malls, hang out in the food court, and they will come to you. You’re going to spend more time screening who is a Golddigger or who secretly has children. Go to Makati if you’re looking for someone that is well educated. Once you’re in Manila or Quezon City, etc., you could always use a dating app and then plan to meet the person at a Starbucks so you can make sure you’re not getting catfish or scammed, but the girls also complain to me that a lot of the western guys end up already being married at home and they’re just looking for a fling without disclosing it. You have to build mutual trust, but keep the bullshit detector on and don’t be a chump. Don’t invest more than you’re willing to lose. There are lot of really great Filipinos out there. You just have to decide if you’re looking for someone to rescue or if you’re looking for an equal partner with a close education to yours. Thank you for the video. BTW: don’t buy them an expensive iPhone just get them a refurbished Chinese smart phone for between 5,000 and 10,000 pesos. Don’t let any bleeding heart stories pull you in to sucker ville. The Filipinos will actually respect you less if you fall for an emergency story compared to if you just tell them that you understand that they’re going through a tough time but you’re sorry that you will not be in a position to help them at this time. Good luck and remember if you’re a Chump for women in the United States and Europe, you will be three times the Chump in Southeast Asia. Please be assertive, but also be kind and empathize. Thanks again for the second time for this video.
I always love your posts. Great advice and thoughts
Always a nice read and informative.
After 2 years in Manila, you are absolutely correct
@@PaulWorldZoom thank you. You are too kind. I gained these bits of wisdom by being on the wrong end of relationships with a couple of Filipina’s and a Thai girl or two. Nothing like hindsight, in this world, my friend 😂 555
This video made me become a subscriber. I made travel arrangements to come to Cebu city in July and this video was the shot in the arm that I needed. I will be there for only 2 weeks (1st time) and I'm hoping to at least meet and start a relationship with a nice Filipina. If all goes well, I plan to return later in the year.
You are so right when you say older men are marginalized in the west. I can't tell you how many TikTok videos I see where younger women refer to older guys as "creepy old men," as in "I was at the gym and there was this creepy old guy" or "I was walking down the street and this creepy old man comes up to me" as if "creepy old man" is now one word. I can honestly say I have always tried to be a decent human being and a good and faithful husband to my wife right up to the time she passed away from cancer, so it does hurt to be condemned and profiled as a "creep" simply because I'm older. Ageism is real in the west.
BTW I'm an avid golfer so if you want a playing partner in mid-July, just let me know! Thanks for all you do!
Creepy just means unattractive to them. If it was Brad Pitt suddenly they would be all over him even though he's almost 60.
John I don't know your age, but I am pretty sure that women of the same age as yourself are not pursued by men that are significantly younger. I am a single senior citizen and I have to accept that I am not attractive to a woman a generation younger than myself. The primary reason a poor Philippine woman would want anything to do with me would not be for my good looks.
Most of the other visitors on video interviews I have seen suggest you stay at least one month if you can especially after the travel costs and flight time, jet lag.
Awesome. Thanks for the invitation. I hope you like Cebu. I like it, but the traffic. Safe travels and let me know
Good luck, Sir!
You will be welcome with open arms in the Philippines as Filipinos are accommodating accompanied by endless smiles. You will not be lost in translation as nearly everyone speaks English.
On the other hand, you’re absolutely 👍 about men being “marginalized” here (at home). Nowadays, we have plenty of entitled “witches”.
I am happy you have found another soul to (hopefully) love & be with after your lost & my condolences. (Just be wary and go have an “alert & oriented x100% attitude when meeting someone, gut feelings and everything. Many of us (I am a transplant from Cebu nearly 4 decades ago) are fantastic partners, unfortunately there also are bad apples.)
Go to Badian Island in south of Cebu, golf course is might.
(I’ll be in Cebu same time of your travel.)
No, I don’t play golf, but tennis.
Safe travels ✈️.
I met my wife like most people in the USA meet their spouse. My friend had married her friend and they introduced us to each other. She was still in the PI, and I was still in the USA almost finished with my divorce, we wrote each other and finally started to call her on occasion. The calls soon became a twice a day thing, for long chats, and we became feeling close to each other. I went to the PI to meet her after my divorce was final and then came home and filed for the Fiancée visa. We have been together now for over 23 years and have been back to the PI to visit her family more than a dozen times. BTW I do listen to you at 1.25 speed and to me it sounds like normal speech.
Haha Bruce, I was smiling happily all the way to the end. The 1.25 speed made me laugh out loud. I must have wasted that Notre Dame and University of Chicago education 😆😆😆😆 love it
Totally agree with the 1.25 speed
The “1.25” speed, haha.
I met my late husband 4 decades ago via snail mail (he passed Thanksgiving of 2000, you could say my foods are to die for).
This last one was via a dating site in Cali in 2018.
1.5x all the way
If you want to talk to Filipina's online, that's fine. Just don't get serious with anyone. When you land in the Phillipines just get on local Facebook dating in whatever town your in. You will have 3 dates in 30 minutes. My advice would be to bide your time and make friends with other expats. Their wives and girlfriends will gladly introduce you to women they know. That way they are kind of vetted. I've never tried going to church here in the Phillipines, but some guys say that's a great place to meet nice women.
Great thoughts. That usually works. See them eye to eye if you can
I once placed a profile on a site with the user name "Tester", and little more than that. I think all I had was my age and general location and nothing more, not even a picture. Within a couple of hours I had about two dozen responses. Right then I knew who the scammers were.
That is funny. My friend put his on about a week ago and had dozens before he could say anything 😜
Hi Paul. I appreciate your topics and vlogs. Been watching you for a long time now. I favor boots on the ground not only for my protection but for the ladies. It might be awhile before I get there and don't want to string anyone along or get their hopes up and then expect them to wait till I get there. Waiting I think till I arrive, checking out places to live and then finding someone local to meet is the best option for me.
Thanks makes perfect sense to me. Thanks
That's my general thought as well, I have been to the Philippines but that was four decades ago. I plan on getting a retirement visa and setting up for a little while why I find where I am ready to go. Being from the north I would probably need to be in the hilly areas where it's a bit cooler.
From info I've received I would suggest Baguio which is 5k in sea level. Tagatay or Valencia are cooler areas.
One of the things I admire and respect about you, is you provide information and explain pros and cons. You give us the information and leave it to us to decide. Everyone is different in our thinking and action all we can do is take quality info which is what you provide and use our mind to make decisions. Thanks again Paul
Wow, such a nice compliment. Thanks so much for that
Hey Zoomer, I'm here in Duma and waited to do the on-line thing until I got, pretty much for the reasons you mentioned, mostly what if in person I didn't like this chick in person. I did FilipinaCupid and haven't found it to be really too helpful for here in Duma, because hardly any of those girls are in that area. The one thing I think you should of mentioned for the boots on the ground options is the App "Tinder". I personally haven't used it, but from some of the more seasoned ex-pats here it sounds like it is exactly what it is in the states... and that for sure will put you in front of a lot of girls that are actually in the SAME area you are in. As for me, I did end up meeting someone via friends I met while here, but I personally am taking the slooow route so as not to be hurt or hurt others, but that's just me. Another good one dude
Billy is the Man. I’m happy you are enjoying yourself here in Duma
You read my mind. There are lots of videos on this subject, but love your thoughts. Thanks.
Thanks for commenting. I always appreciate that
Anytime Paul. I signed up on one of the large apps last weekend, quickly suspended my account after a few days. Was too overwhelmed by scammers, and once that was done, I was overwhelmed by the legit ones. It became too distracting. Me personally I will just wait until I arrive.
knew I wasn't the only only one listening to you at 1.5!, we are still in that go go western mode and there you are leaning back in your chair all suntanned and relaxed
That made me laugh. Great
I've done it both ways, and I will say in my opinion, avoid an LDR if you expect a serious relationship. The Filipina you talk to aren't committed to a romance with someone they've never met no matter what they say, and will be having that same relationship with several other men at the same time with you. Once you're here then it's easier to meet someone. But a word to the wise, be aware that even though you meet with her, it doesn't mean she still isn't chatting or even meeting with someone else. Also, don't get it in your head that all beautiful young filipina will fall for you, an older average looking or below average looking foreigner. Most girls are looking for financial support for her, her kids, and her parents. Only a small percentage look for love. Most, not all filipina in their 20s are on these sites for a transactional short time relationship. Buyer beware.
Great points. Thank you
Just don’t make my mistake-flew 8,000 miles to🇹🇭 to my “dream” girl-almost had a heart attack at BKK-40 pounds overweight -tons of make up (even w 2 months of video calling)! Ironically 20 years ago better with photos -now filters change everything!
That's a story worth sharing. What happened next?
I spent the next 5 days with her as I knew no one else in BKK-saw the Palace-Aquarium-floating market etc as you know-made an excuse why it did not work out-never told her the real truth! So I learned my lesson-slow down-see the chemistry in real and most important-see her without makeup!
I shouldn’t laugh, but I did. Sorry. Made me smile. At least she was a girl 👍👍👍😜😜
You are absolutely right. I just returned and so many pretty petite Filipinas with men easily over 60. I never use dating sites. NEVER! I have always waited to meet Filipinas there. Why put myself at risk? So many possibilities. I agree do not give money over $20. I don’t have to pay for love. I also just returned from 5 other SE Asian countries. The same was available in those countries as well. I would highly recommend visiting other SE Asian countries as well. One limitation with Filipinas is their passports are weak. Malaysian women have a much stronger passport. I want a partner who can easily travel around the world
Great point. That has never been covered. Nice
I’d still be weary of sending money for communication. How could she afford it in the first place before she met you? How many people are sending her money for cell data? You’re DEFINITELY not the only guy she’s chatting with until you get there. Remember It’s not just 5 bucks it’s 250+ pesos
That is certainly a risk, but feels inconsequential on the whole. I get you 👍
I used Christian Filipina, where I met my current girlfriend (we met in person a few months ago and plan to meet again next month). It was pretty overwhelming at first. The site staff keeps suspending scam accounts, but I am sure some get through. They even contact you if you communicated with someone that slipped through. You can tell who's there to scam. I used their paid services where you have your own consultant to help you out.
Oh wow, they contacted me about advertising but didn’t know anything about the site. Congratulations
@@PaulWorldZoom We joke every once in a while about being one of their success stories.
Hello Paul, yes the dating sites I would say in many ways its a good way to start to learn about the Country and the people , I am sure it would be hard for a lot of people to just up and go to the Philippines if they are not well travelled. I agree its very easy to meet a lady hahaha but make sure it is a lady I have had some friends almost get caught out . The malls are very good and easy to start chatting to people as you in most cases the girls will chat that is what's so there I alway enjoy going to SM with "Good Morning Sir " you know how it is :) Thanks Paul great advice .
Thanks Shaun, all you say is so very true. The people in the malls are surprisingly friendly
I've had several ask for money for family emergencies. But I have a policy. I never send anything to anyone for any reason, no exceptions. Once they figure out they're not getting a penny they usually go away.
I understand. Good policy until you arrive
Im still a year or two out from my exodus So I was debating not using a site to get to know someone, but waiting until boots on the ground (preferably at a anime/nerd convention) would help insure we share similar interests. Nice to know some sites may be nice for just feminine conversation as well. This has been great info again Zoom!
I'm a few more years than that away from my intended exodus and have played TTRPG's for forty tears and don't intend to stop just because I'm in a foreign country. It may help that one of my hobbies is karaoke and I have a side karaoke business.
Thanks. I think either way can work. Both can be tough. Good luck
Karoke would be a great way to involve friends and family of future Gf. Thats kind of like part of the Xpat Gamer initiative I'm creating, for Xpats and world travelers to find gaming (both on and offline) in other spaces wile also learning and enjoying the cultures they are visiting. (Think about how different a Filipino DM would be from an American one!)
I've been in BKK two days this week and Pattaya two, on to Jomtien tomorrow and Hua Hin the 20th. There are so many beautiful Thai's in the malls, 7-11's, street markets, walking, and in and around my hotel(s)- I don't personally see a need
Not in Thailand. BKK Pattaya, and Hua Hin. Nice
I met my Filipina girlfriend on cupid and after several months flew to the Cebu to meet her. She was exactly the same in person. I'm coming back next month. We've had a LDR for nine months now and things are going great. However, while on cupid I had over 3 hundred contacts within the first day. Be careful several asked for money right away for various reasons. Some come right out and ask others do it discreetly. Beware of scammers!
Congratulations. Great story. Thanks
Any tips on being in an ldr with a Filipina? Mine is great. We are around the same age and has a professional job. We are both in our early 30s. She also doesn't want to live in the US, which I was never going to bring her here anyway, outside of visiting.
Many men who have the Philippines on their mind, also have a scarcity mindset. They somehow believe they have to lock down the perfect woman in the perfect house before they ever step foot in the Philippines.
I’m not a huge fan of online dating just because there are too many opportunities for scams and miscommunication. I would rather meet the woman in person.
Great point. I agree with your thinking
Great topic today Paul. You were a little more animated today than usual, that guys quaalude comments must have sped you up a bit 😉👍
Hi Scot, I get more energy after a belly laugh. That was a first. Awesome
I'm an executive with a Fortune 500 company. Every six months my company runs a background check on me and my team members. I will be hiring a private security company to run a background check of my Filipina.
I have heard of that more and more often
I've never seen a video done on how to break up with a Filipina. Would be interested to hear stories from guys there on how they have done it. Filipina's get attached so quickly. I've heard horror stories about breakups.
Watch the video on Paul’s Asian adventure, where he takes his gf out to dinner and has his friend change the locks at his place. 😂
Me too. That could be a good topic
I always listen to your videos at 2x the speed! 😄
You're the best! That is hilarious
With or without coffee?
@World Zoom: It's true. I'm glad I made you Chuckle!
@Ray H: Caffeinated and non-caffeinated.
I met my fiancée online. I think it is a great tool as long as you aren’t gullible. I had a few try to scam me but it was easy to spot. I have seen a lot of people that have met online and have successful marriages. Just be smart.
Totally agree! Thanks
Hello , About six years ago I added a couple of You-Tubers to My Facebook, and right away I got probably 100 friend requests from Filipinas. Most were just trying to get some money. About five of the Ladies were very nice. One of the Ladies just wanted to be a good friend and We talked about everything. She is very Beautiful in My Eyes. I even offered to buy her gifts and She wouldnt take the money. Finally last August I got to visit Her in Person. I will be visiting Her again in June. Take care.
Thanks for sharing!! I hadn’t heard that before
I am currently on 2 dating apps. One I learned from another vlogger, who is an American, and met his Filipina on a dating site. One is Christian Filipina the other is Christian dating for free. I haven’t had much success in finding my “special partner” but I have met some really nice people on both however, I have also come across a-lot of scammers.
I understand and wish you luck. I’ve heard about both. Good luck
I really enjoy your videos. Thanks for the insightful information.
I came to the Philippines over Christmas. (Duma) Was there several weeks, I left after that . The time I was there I never meet anyone. Well I did meet one person. I really wanted to learn more about her. Gave her my number. But she never called me back. I don’t drink or smoke, I am a very nice man. I know people will say you need to get established. Well when you don’t even get anyone to even smile or that is friendly. It’s kinda disheartening over all. I wanted to do the boots on the ground, seems it didn’t work out well. Maybe meeting someone on line is better who really knows. 50/50 I guess… lol
Hi John, here in Dumaguete it would be rare for them to actually approach you. You have to take the lead. My friends say Lee Plaza and Robinson’s is the best. Maybe online will benefit you
Both, use the dating apps, but realize that the in person experience may not be the same as online. I have done the online LDR and flew to her country. Somehow she was different than the picture in my mind. Of course she had all kinds of plan and never let me out of her sight.
Tim Lee , yes man i experience that is diferrent vibe in real
Wasn't her chatting with you much of the time. Lol
Agreed, both can certainly work. Find them, then meet them
@@GUITARTIME2024 actually I think it was her mom emailing me, no joke.
@@timlee5260 yep.
Very good advice. Beware but keep smiling.
Just keep listening. The scammers can’t remember all the lies
Paul, I am a firm believer in boots on the ground. It is way too easy to put on a show on a phone. It is a lot harder to keep up the act for very long in person.
Agreed. I think both work. Thanks
Good advice. Thanks. I'm already in the Philippines a few days hoping to meet someone nice and haven't been online yet. Taking my time. 😁
Best of luck! I know it will work out 👍👍
I met my GF on FilipinoCupid. Within 1 month of chatting and video chatting I hopped on a plane and went to meet her in manila. I rented a condo and her kids came along. We had a great week but not without its culture differences. I told the kids I’d take them to a water park. They asked if their cousin could come along and I said sure. That turned into the GF’s brother, wife, brother-in-law and 2 kids all intent on going to the water park on my dime. The weather didn’t work out so I just bought them a meal and they were on there way but not until they ALL spent the night in our little condo. I could go on but I’ll stop there. I will say we have been together for 9 months and I was just in Duma(where I met you Paul) and we had 3 great weeks of vacation. She is expensive as I upgraded her living accommodations from a studio to a 2 bedroom house. Costs me about 25kPHP a month. I did buy her a motor scooter and gave her my old iPhone and Apple Watch when I upgraded. The iPhone has so much better video than her android that I feel I benefit from that if you know what I’m sayin. We are scheduled to go to Bali for 3 weeks, this time the kids are staying with her mom. BTW I’m 63 she is 35
When I came there a year ago, I was on a dating site Pryor to getting there. I had met this 40 year old fhilipina on line. I was only going to stay for 2 weeks. I let her know up front that I was only going to stay a couple of days at different cities. She wanted to go and spend the whole 2 weeks with me, but I made it very clear that only I would stay with her in Bohol for 3 days, then visit another city, then visit another city. I will tell anyone, that you can’t get anything accomplished in 2 weeks. Make your plans for at least 3 to 4 weeks. I’m glad I was on a dating site before I came, otherwise I think I would have had a harder time trying to find the right one. Remember! Tell them what your plans are , and stick to it!
That is fair and good advice
Thank you just arrived 4 days ago currently with friends in Angeles City. Great advice
Best of luck Bill. Enjoy
You know sometimes a guy just gets lucky: I have been married to my Cristina for 24 years this coming June. In the beginning I did just about everything wrong but it worked out. I met Cristina by mail, late 1998, exchanged letters. She never asked me for money until after we were married. I came May of 1999. Fell hopelessly in love. Three weeks later we are married. Then back to the U.S. alone and crying. I would come visit her about once a year. I got her green card in 2013, moved her to Seattle, but she could not take the cold. So here we are.
That is an awesome story. I love Seattle in July, August, and September. The rest not so much.
Congratulations
Yes you can get lucky. I have same type of story. Chatted online with my current wife of 16+ years for 6 months. We decided to get married before even meeting. So I brought a ring and on 1st visit 17 days after arrival we married. That was 2007, here we are 2023. Life is good.
@@Synfulz It is so good to hear of such a happy outcome. For me, much the same, I brought the rings. When I first came, arrived at the airport, I was so nervous and unsure. Cristina and family picked me up from the airport in Manila. On the van ride to her home I decided that I would do the marriage, if she would have me. I understood, going in, that with Cristina comes also her family. Cristina also had a six year old daughter. That was, perhaps the best part. My step daughter is now 30, and a wonderful person and a wonderful part of my life. Yes, sometimes a guy just gets lucky.
@dalecs47 fantastic story. Great you gained a wonderful daughter.
I love your Vlogs, because you are not trying to sell me something. Most have an angle, good work.
I appreciate that! Thank you very much
When I visited Dumaguete last month, I took a walk down the bay walk. It was not long before I was approached by a couple of ladies together. One of the ladies was very beautiful and had an interest in knowing me. We exchanged Facebook accounts and before I knew it, she was telling me how handsome I was and how much she fell in love with me at first sight. How can I believe that?
I'm 70 she is 27.
You can’t, especially on the boulevard. Many college people there, but professionals also
I see lots of much younger women get into the cars of much older men in the U.S...on "Father's Day" holding a card!
Funny. Nice one
I joined FilipinaCupid a couple months back... and was only active the first month. Yes a lot of scammers. Easy to spot and move on. But I also had many conversations with a variety of filipina who seemed quite genuine. 20's, 30s, 40s, and 50s... Invaluable experience to see what filipina value, and how they change over the years.
Early on in the chat bring up "How's your experience on the dating site?" Then tell them you have been contacted by a lot of scammers and you will never send money to someone on a dating site until you meet in person and get a chance to date and get to know them. Scammers disappear in seconds.
I then go on to tell them while I am looking for a serious relationship, I will not commit to only chatting one person online, and that I cannot fall in love with someone online only.
Establish your boundaries up front... and let those not interested bail. There are so many you should never compromise on your boundaries because one is "really cute".
And lastly, I agree with you on sending load. IF you are having more serious conversations with a filipina and she is sharing her life through photos and video that is costly to them. Do not buy cards but send load directly to her number. Scammer sill collect cards and sell them.
Oh great. One can get good at telling
How I was scammed by a lady. Well educated student wanted me to help her buy a smart phone. She came to my house and we had some conversation in which she swore she loves me and wants to marry. Ok I told her. I'll give you some of the amount and the rest in the next meeting. "No no I need all the amount now", so I told her that I believe I shall never see her anymore, but gave her some of the cost. And so it was. She was able to buy a smart CP, and join a pornographic site where she exposed her naked body for cash. Just remember, if you give them a smart phone, you give them a business/job opportunity. If you give them a stupid phone, you will get all the curses in the world, and you are done.
You have the best stories. Highly entertaining and usually funny. Thanks for always writing
Hi Paul - In relation to your video - I meet my wife of 24 years in NY - a blind date - actually originally setup with Filipino and my wife substituted for original date - took her out to Long Island, NY restaurant “94th aero squadron” WW1 Atmosphere……….in relation to a prior video “Banking……..” We are traveling to NY this week first to Philippine Embassy on 5th to P/U “Letter of Introduction ” for SS & to Philippines international bank few blocks from Embassy to setup my wife’s SS account. Your video help us with banks doing business with SS in the Philippines. I’ll let know how it goes just in case you do another video in reference to banking. Thanks for your videos Ed
Thanks Ed, good luck and please let me know. Take care
If it makes you feel any better, I watch 95% of videos on 1.5x speed. I just don't enough time not to lol. Really like your channel though. You give some really valuable info and insight.
Haha love that.Thanks
I did what most every foreigner should avoid. I met my wife through a Filipino dating sight, married her and bought land/homes before I arrived in the Philippines. The red flags are a burning here. I sought a more mature Filipina, not one who was throwing herself at me and I did not go into the online relationship with the intent of a long term relationship. It grew, she never complained about being poor or ever needing money. I knew I was not being played, but tell that to my family. Anyway, it worked for me though I went through I did experience scammers on the site (no money changed hands), so be wary.
Oh great. Thanks for that. Appreciated
@@PaulWorldZoom I appreciate your feed back. One reason I keep coming back. I hope that I am not too wordy sometimes.
Thank you for some wise words and good advice. Thats why I subscribed. I was wondering if you can do a video on the gym in Dumagete (cost location and facilities) and housing.
Do you have a patreon account?
Thanks Pablo. Will do 👍
I don’t have a patreon account but others have asked. Thanks so much
Check out, Foreigner in the Philippines. He's in his 80s and she's in her 30s. Exactly 50 years between them. She's super cute as well.
Unbelievable. I’ll check it out
I've tried the dating site thing 2 times for about 2 weeks. I think they're great for simps wanting to send money to a pretend girlfriend. Also good for men looking for a Filipina who only wants a foreigner, any foreigner, fat, bad health, no money...no problem.
I think I have more to offer and that's best done in person.
However I did meet a couple of older Filipinas (35+) who have remained friends (meaning I friend zoned them). They're professionals in different fields. They've been a big help showing me how business and real estate works in PH. So dating sites have been a plus for me, just not for finding "love".
I did interact with 18-30 year old Filipinas (I'm 66). That was a complete mess but did help me know I prefer older Filipinas. Maybe this is the same thing Filipinas are saying, they want older men because they know more, stable, etc... I'm seeing the same with Filipinas.
These are great points. I too found happiness with a Filipina that is older (sorry Sheila). The intelligence and maturity has served us well
I’ve tried the dating sites and they’ve always worked for me. It’s a great way of weeding out the nonsense. You specify your likes and stick to the them, remember birds of a feather flock together. Most foreigners will date the province girls …I learnt quickly i’m not that type of guy. I just wanted a educated middle class Filipina and a professional, so anything over say a banker in a large city ..I entertained. There are a plethora of educated Filipino, that really want a commitment guy. GLTA.
Which age group did you decide on? I have noticed few profiles seeking men older than 50's.
@@RayH- It all depends on many things really ..I was 48..and I put 43 lol ..cus I knew that the quality Filipina ..ie 25-30 say want men nearer their age. There is that age range on sites. if she fancies you ..a few years will not matter. I ideally wanted older say early 30’s but the pool is limited to quality fit Filipina by that age …baggage etc. So it takes longer…province have no preference for age but you have the complications of all that comes with a province girl ..culture/family and attitudes. For sure there’s lots of beautiful middle class Filipina…if that’s your bag, age is subjective but the younger generations are very socially driven ..depends on your outlook etc. Good luck 🤞
My 2 cents. I tried the dating sites but they were not for me. I strongly believe that a good Filipina needs to be, and indeed should be, close to her family. Therefore I have decided to pick my retirement location first and then look for a partner. I am doing a May/June scouting trip following up a February trip. Then I will decide on a location for when I return full time in the fall. To each their own. Cam
I understand completely. That makes perfect sense
Hi Paul, To me, I believe you speak like most of the university professors, lecturers, proper pace and clearly 💎 and I like it. 👍 😉
Thanks very much nice compliment
Another very good video! My gf Har and I will be there next month and I’m hoping to meet you in person. We are still working on and learning on our small RUclips channel. I’m an American who sold my mini farm in se Indiana and Har is from Ayungon and we have decided on Valencia to begin the next chapter! We have known each other for 2 years and have spent time both online and in person so as a couple who has experienced both ways of your topic today I feel you were spot on ! Keep up the good work and hope to see you soon!!
Thanks Tom. I hope to see you 👍👍
I used Filipino Cupid, and after months of talking to women I actually came here. There was three women that I really liked online. I met all three of them in person, and they were all really good people in person too. As your friend said, it's pretty easy to tell the scammers. I think you did a really good job pointing out the pros and cons.
How do you tell the scammers
@@albduke if their first message is hey do you want to talk on WhatsApp, I ignore them. If when I finally do talk to them on WhatsApp, they start hitting me with all their problems I block them. If she sends nudes right away, blocked. Those are just a few off the top of the head.
@@marks2517 Well I've been talking to a girl for about a year . But I'm starting to get red flags Things aren't adding up so Don't think she's gonna work out
@@albduke My advice is run. A long time ago someone told me that if you ever have suspicions about someone that you need to let them go. Either you're right, in which case you need to be free of them, or you're wrong and just overly suspicious, and they need to be free of you. Either way there's no sense of sticking around. Then again I'm just some middle-aged guy going through a midlife crisis halfway around the world, so keep that in mind when taking advice from me lol.
@@marks2517 Well I'm gonna quit doing some things with her she's gonna have to step up and if she doesn't I think wi fizzle out on it own
Hey Paul another good video with some good advice. I have been chatting to girls in the Philippines for around 20 years on many different platforms so I can see the red flags as they pop up. Some are good at hiding those red flags but sooner or later they slip up. I have a few things I do when chatting to Filipinas. First rule if they ask for money right away not happening. I have to meet in person or chat for a long time before I would send any money and then no big amounts. Like you mentioned for a load or something small like that is ok then you are not out a lot of cash if it is a scam. Second rule is a video chat is a must so you know who you are talking too. No video call is a big red flag and a deal breaker for me. Those 2 things are very important and I have other things I look for when chatting or meeting in person. Sometimes it take a while to know for sure if the one you are chatting too is real or a scammer. I have caught many in small lies and when confronted they usually have an excuse but most excuses don't make sense. Go into any online relationship with your eyes open. Take off the rose coloured glasses and just pay close attention. It is usually easy to spot the bad ones and not always easy to find the good ones. Just don't rush take one day at a time.
Thanks Brian. Great to see you today and being able to catch up. You look healthy 👍👍
@@PaulWorldZoom Yeah it is all this stress free living and San Miguel light LOL
The main difference with dating sites in the west and say the phil’s is that you can be 40 plus and attract a younger women in the phil’s. In the west if your over 40 plus ..you’ll be ignored just by your age alone. I dated in the west all younger than myself Ie 20 years younger that I met face to face as I knew dating sites would be not preferable as to meeting in the real world for me as I’m gym junkie etc. But dating sites are entirely different in the phil’s as your “pond “ is more like a ocean. You just need to be realistic about your worth and the Filipina you aspire too, but here’s the great news …you’ll get the type of women in the Philippines. You could only have dreamt of, GLTA. Ps don’t settle for the first Filipina.
Excellent points. Much appreciated
Yes, i listen at 1.5 speed as well. Lay off the decaf Paul, have an espresso before filming….lol
Hilarious, love it
I posted a picture and profile on Filipina Cupid to see how it would go, and in a week I had 400 messages! Totally overwhelming. I felt like changing my name to "Chum" ...as in, from the movie JAWS. 😂
Hi man, don't be naive and selfish.
If 400 message you , 200 of them is a single mom with 2 kids who looks for beta provider, + 20 ladyboys + 100 girls between 20 to 25 who just want a allowance from you as a boyfriend from abroad who after a sweet skype talk with your love , you jerk in front of a porn movie , while her real filipino bf burry his burrito into her pussy.
Now is left 80 from that 400 who chat you and from this 80 , 40 of them they are married in the papers and separated and they need you to pay for annulment.
And the rest left 40 their phone will be broke after 3 months of online love, and they ask you for a new one to " keep the love alive".
What percentage read your profile first? I am seeing only around 1% actually reading my profile. For me first it's their pictures. Then the age group they are seeking. Then if it's a match I read the profile first before adding as a favorite. Then watch to see if they read my profile.
@@RayH- I don't know, but that's an excellent approach. I don't dare Make my account visible again lol
I don't want to be distracted from getting my place ready for sale So I can move out there. I'll just meet people in person
Haha, how can one possibly process all that. Tough to weed them out
@@tryscience I agree, it's not worth the time. When you view a profile I noticed many suggested profiles last logged in weeks or months ago. Same with those added as a favorite. After a while many stop logging in. Then in some of the walk around videos you see all the women you won't find online or maybe online somewhere else. Maybe once there online may work meeting someone. I am thinking I would start out somewhere like Dumaguete at least until I become more familiar with PHP then decide what to do and where to go from there. I am considering moving at this time. Like you I'd need to get ready. My daughter is getting married in January. The earliest for me would be next year. Tough decision with the economic climate here in the US. I have spent years preparing for economic hardship here and then to start liquidating in the middle of what appears to be a collapse. I am in Wisconsin and tired of the winters. Move within the US or to PHP.
Well I suggest that if you want to use a dating site, wait until you are there. I spent the money for the 3mo subscription on Philippine Cupid and could not believe the number of scammers on there. I have been to the Philippines several times before and am moving permanently in June to retire. Some of the woman you will meet online are genuine sure, and I have made some friends I will maybe contact when I get there. But be careful, someone telling you they love you after a couple days of Chat is crazy and to me is a Yuge red flag. So pay attention guys, require a Video call early and use your head not your heart.
Yes, agreed. How do you weed through all that. Good point
You bring up some great points. I think it’s a combination of wanting a “preceptor” or escort/tour guide to having a girl that sequesters you once you arrive. The other extreme is “buyer beware” and hypothetically “reading the reviews. You also must “level set” your expectations. Most likely these beautiful girls are very poor. They live in what I would consider a very rural country type of living. I lived on a farm when I was younger and our stables and work sheds come to mind. Their homes are without a modern bathroom, or modern kitchen, no air conditioning, no car, they have never traveled and stayed in a nice resort or flown on an airplane. These girls see an American or foreign man as an opportunity that they’ll never have, even with a college degree or a OFW job in another country.
Also realize that if you choose to be serious and settle down with your gf and bring her to live with you in your nice condo or home rental. She will be asking for your support for her family. If she doesn’t care or if her family is not needing her support, that’s definitely not normal unless she is older and maybe a widow or working for many years to be stable.
The age gap was part of my reason for coming to Philippines, I wanted a girl that’s young and beautiful at was divorced at 42 without any intention of being with a USA girl my age or in her 30’s. Why, when I knew the difference of how much more beautiful , caring and traditional that young girls are in PHL. Yes, I have to help out her family, but I also help out my mom and dad sometimes and I’m very happy to do so.
Agreed. Some really want and desire that. Others are smothered
Your 1.0 speed is great. It’s built for people who need the time to process what you say and match it with the enormous life experience they collected. Otherwise known like the oldies. :).
It also shows your calculated wording to ensure you stay with the values you have. It allows your listeners to process and adopt your ideas. 1.5 speed joke was a good one though. Hhhgg
It always makes me laugh. I never really realized it even after giving 100’s of speeches. So fun
Great video covering all aspects!
Glad you liked it! Thanks for watching
Another thoughtful, common sense discussion. 👍.
80% of the scammers have little in their profile or one or two photos.
For the rest, just pay attention and you can see the ‘ask’ coming.
You just need to think with your big head, not your smaller one 🤣
Nice Greg, sound advice
Thank you for the advice, candor and honesty
My pleasure! Thanks for watching
I just finished watching this video and you mentioned some guys were commenting about your voice. I just had to let you know that your voice reminds me of John Wayne! Am I right? I bet you do a great impression! 😃
Haha thanks so much. The Texas Twang
Paul, other great video. Love your channel.
Many thanks! Appreciated
I met my wife totally by chance, in person, in HK where I had my own business and she was an OFW. I had been due to fly to Manila but my flight was cancelled at the last minute. I went back to my apartment complex, not particularly happy, and grabbed a beer from the 7-11. It was 7:45 am. There were three Filipinas sitting outside - it was their day off - and I asked them to watch my bag while I went into the shop. I started chatting to them, obviously stating that I should have been in the Philippines. Anyway, I invited them out for drinks and some food that evening on the proviso that they chatted among themselves in Tagalog. It was a pleasant evening. The following day, I bumped into her on my way back from the gym and asked her out for dinner. We dated for a couple of months, Sundays only, until I took over her employment contract because she was being treated pretty poorly. A year later she gave birth to our son and 3 years after that we re-located to the Philippines, where we have been for the past 3-4 years, with property, a business and an income. Maybe there is something that rings true about fate.
That is so awesome. Thanks for that. Best plane cancellation ever.
Congratulations
I like your videos = keep up the good work! The only thing I would correct you on is - you say FilipinO (male) while you mean FilipinA (female).
Thanks for the info! I know I do that. Thanks so much. Appreciated
Christian Filipino is the only dating site I would say is best.
However, I would suggest go to the Philippines and give it 3 months.
I've never used Christian Filipino, but from people I've talked to that's where they met their gf/wife. They found no scammers there.
Thanks George. I usually here good things
I have a real soft spot for the kids,if I could make a meaningful difference in the young ones educations for a reasonable dollar amount that’s a huge plus for me.
True Michael. That feels great
I am 2 -3 years from moving. will vacation next year there. I joined a site 2 months ago. only a week ago I paid for it. I found most of the people that contacted me after i paid seemed genuine. I actually started talking to a province girl from Leyte. Never considered that area she just had a few things in her profile that I was interested in on 3 time we were chatting she asked why I didn't video chat. Well so far so good but if your thinking of using a site maybe sign up make a profile but don't pay to read messages for a little while. Then hopefully you'll filter some of the scammers.
Oh great. Nice to hear that experience. Good luck
Thanks for the video! Appreciate all the details. Very helpful. Just curious, you say at the end “Bob and I”. Who is Bob?
Bob is that live plant behind me on the videos 😜😜😜😜
@@PaulWorldZoom That’s so funny 😂. Yeah I heard you say that a couple videos later after watching this one, but I couldn’t find which video I had asked you about it. I appreciate all your input on your videos. It really helps. May God bless you.
For those who intend to marry a Filipina, pls ask for a CENOMAR upfront. Certificate of No Marriage. Only legally single women will be able to marry you. Avoid legal problems in the future. Bigamy is a non-bailable offense here.
Great advice. At least you know
I started a profile on Christian Filipina (never joined) and had 40 hits in 2 days with no picture. A handful said they lived in the U.S. I'll be a boots on the ground guy. I ended up shutting it down.
I understand Joe. I’ve heard it is overwhelming
A good topic maybe talk about the catholic faith in society, not to preach but a understanding how the effects everyday life
Great suggestion. Nice
Can't agree more, Paul. Very subjective as it depends on case to case basis. Also depends on d individual, what is his priority/intention surfing or subscribing, to d site. Like u opined, to gain more knowledge, inputs about Philippines, d cultures, d opposite sex etc, should b ok.
Just do it with prudence, discretion as u can b d target of scammers or deceitful blokes. But u cannot also rule out that u might meet someone@filipina with good moral and noble attributes. Good luck. Cheers🙏🙏🙏
Thanks so much. I’ve already read 3 success stories on comments tonight. So great
@@PaulWorldZoom that's great. Congrats 👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️
Thanks a lot of good advises, but I would like to add that there is many ways people has been scammed without sending money, for example they been tricked to ”invest” online, act as money launderers, drug mules, or even been black-mailed after doing explicit web-cam. If you meet them foot on the ground, there is also countless of scams IRL.
Very good points. So true
I should've waited till I got there to meet someone but I got on cupid and met someone I think she is very special I guess I'll find out when I get there. Take care
Good luck. I really hope so. Congratulations
Would you say, that Pinay's are most likely the one side with unreal expectations when it comes to LDR situations? For me personally, it takes time to really know a person, not going to get "Married" on day 2!
Great thought. Agreed
Another great video!
Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you
Hi Paul 👋.My hubby and I wanted to have a coffee with you or may lunch sometime 😊.
Sounds great! Thank you very much
I would like to know from the following please:
Is the local (Philippines) tap water safe to drink, cook and brush our teeth with?
Are diamond engagement rings the norm among Filipinos living in the Philippines or is it something new now among expats only?
Thank you.
I actually only use bottled water. I do use tap water for teeth brushing. Never had a trouble.
I don’t know about the Diamond ring tradition. The married FILIPINaS wear a ring but I never paid attention. I’ll check it out
I use Ding and load the phone myself. Even if she shares I put on enough for one month. If she uses or sells it then it waits.
Nice, I don’t know that App. Nice
Thanks again brother!
Any time! Thanks Paul
World Zoom said "If you're in the West or in Australia ..." Hey, we're west of California🙂
Good point 😜😜😜🙏
People are lonely and if it brings them some joy to talk online go for it. They send money and they got the joy of giving from the heart. Giving is it's own reward even if they never meet. I prefer to wait and meet people in person. I want to See if I can take the heat and rainy season lol. Might hate the waiting in line , traffic, out of stock, hate to fall in love it could get expensive moving her with you to portugal or south america . It's doable though lol all it takes is money
Hi Mike. I agree completely. Thanks as always
New sub here...I happened to watched your interview mentioning about your career in medical industry and I got interested in exploring more of your videos. I tried dating app before like 5 yrs ago, but never had constant chat..so I quit it's not for me. Maybe...just maybe fate will bring the right man for me -I don't have to look for him.
I wish you great luck. Give it another try. Thanks
Don't waste time and effort on line. Get your boots on the ground. Until you are ready to go to the Philippines....level up and prepare for a good honest woman you'll meet in country.
Hi Todd, some people just don’t feel comfortable approaching people and need the online experience for confidence. Your idea is sound
I tried the online dating stuff and I just can't shake the feeling that it's a numbers game based on pretty pictures. And in a world of artificial photo enhancement software I just feel deceived before I even click the chat button.
So I'm going to Philly and see who I can meet face to face completely random, get to know the culture first hand eventhough I know i'm going to suffer because i'm a picky eater.
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Maybe it's a cool idea to do a video about the food. Can a picky eater survive? Where would a picky eater find western food 😆
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I am a bit picky myself. If you like pork and chicken you will be okay. Bigger cities have western restaurants
The idea of being able to positively change a person's or whole family's life for a few hundred dollars a month is very appealing to me. That kind of money in the west does nothing to add to the quality of most people's lives.
Agreed. I thought I would take heat for saying that, but nothing yet 👍👍
Hi Paul. I just watched Calvin's video on the heat there. I'm 63 w/ heart disease and don't do well in the blazing heat. I looked at the forecast for Iloilo this week and it's 96-98F. That shut down my plans to move there. I looked at suggestions for higher altitude locations, but even those seem to have some significant drawbacks. Am I just foolish still planning on retirement in PH?
Hi Chris. This can be one of the hotter months. It is usually hot but not that hot. You can find 80 degree here
@@PaulWorldZoom Weather information is not at all consistent regarding the Philippines. Some sites basically say it's in the 90s and humid all the time and others are more like mid 80's most months and low 90s in the summer months. I simply don't want to make a mistake and be forced to stay inside like a vampire. : - )
1:46 Ummm....Australia is still part of the "Western World", even though it is "downunder"! Oh, and by the way, all a westerner needs is a "not-flat nose" to be attractive to a Filipina. The infatuation that Filipinas have with noses is extraordinary. Paul, you have a pretty good snoz, so you will look super attractive to any Filipina. My advice to anyone putting their pic on a dating site profile is to take a "profile pic", i.e. from the side to accentuate the nose!!!! Cheers.
I laughed out loud. Absolutely awesome. Great
Boots on the ground for me. I have no interest in dating sites, or wasting my time time wading thru the scammer's.
I understand that guy's get lonely, but why would they be chatting up Filipinas on a dating site, with no intentions of ever traveling to the PI to meet her.? Giving her false hopes, and wasting her time, is not a nice thing to do.
Agreed, good call
❤ I miss my old vibrating Nokia😊-SURE: Its alot of expectations !-But its not "A peace of cake" to find a girl here ! Wow :Tons of Drama coming up !❤
You think clearly. You will be fine
Hey Paul, howdy?
Were you a football player at Notre Dame?
I wish. I didn’t even remotely have the talent to play at ND. Thanks for the compliment 👍👍
I don't trust dating sites you don't know who you're talking to I old school face to face meeting
I’m reminded of a person whom married his wife from the P.I.s years ago through a dating sight a successful marriage.the tail sighs are good points of a scam I would say in my wife’s country that you look over immediate family.marrying a Catholic was a plus in our particular case!r.paul sweet
Thanks Robert. The religion is big here
Tip. Do okcupid. Not Filipina cupid. Change your language to Tagalog, and use the passport option
Nice 👍
Excellent topic. Date in asia free chat rooms, audio, and video chat. I use dia to meet friends and entertainment.
Well worth the monthly fee. Especially in the boring winter months. I love my Afghanistan Cupid 😆😆😆😜😜
No fee free
If you in America picking up co-eds your either Ted Bundy or her grades is really bad.
This one was funny funny. Ted Bundy 😜😜
I think if you are on a dating site as a guy without intent of going to said country, you are both wasting your time and also the time of women who engage with you. If you just want company, then dating sites are really not for you. It's the same thing with women who have instagram accounts just to post sexy pictures for attention and engagement. It's unhealthy behaviour for everyone involved.
The question should you use dating sites comes down mostly on time. If you have 2-3 months to find a woman there, then i think waiting is better. If you only have 2-3 weeks to find a woman then you should consider using these sites or apps. Purely because at least you'll find a few women who you are actually interested in meeting.
Nice, I hadn’t thought about the time factor. Well put