Yeah...my very first view of the first minute was that, it put me in the mind of a zoo. I think it's unnecessary...at least, this is my assessment watching the first few minutes.
A coworker once touched my hair .. without my permission it was quick and she knew immediately I was mad as hell cos I gave her the meanest look I could possibly summon without making a scene cos I was at work,she later came back to apologize tho and I told her my hair is not just hair it's my identity,pride and crown as a black woman and you only get to touch if you are my stylist or you have the same hair texture as me .......
I'm not black so I could never relate (I'm Asian), but I hate when even young kids touch my hair (it's long) because I don't know whether they washed their hands and people tend to pull harder than they think... BUT HELLO TO YOU TOO FELLOW ARMY 💜💜
Kookie Gives Me Diabetes omg that's also why people touch my hair (because it's curly and Asian girls normally have long straight hair)... But I can't believe grown ass people actually do this, if it were children it would be more understandable 😑😑 people lack self control *smh*
The tragedy is that most non-Black people are the ones who are most supportive of nautral hair, to the point that they don't even really tend to notice natural hair beyond a nice, genuine compliment. The people I know who are most critical of black women's natural hair are other black women and black men. It breaks my heart.
Fr, when I was wearing my afro out to my school (predominately white) for the first time, I got hella compliments. As my oldest brother was driving me home, he suggested that I straightened it and that the poofy hair look wasn't nice looking. Believe you me, I went in on him.
+Kendra Obika Thanks for sharing that. I'm very glad to hear that the conversation to educate our relatives who have now been conditiond into believing that the poof curly texture hair is bad and silky straight is beautiful. Educate with love. kudos to you. much love.
omg so true..just the other week I was insulted by a black man about how my hair needed to be "washed" because I was rocking my natural shrunken fro smh
people ask to touch my hair frequently but before i can reply their hand is already on me....they are mostly white but sum black people have done so as well...they usually just say "oh wow its soft" like they expected sandpaper or brillo lol
demekonrn black people's hair is soft, (trying to explain it without sounding like a ass) it's like, a baby lambs coat, I can't find anything softer than that as a example. it is a texture white people don't feel often and the majority of us find it beautiful. humans are naturally curious about beautiful things.
demekonrn Yes I get that as well and my 7 year old daughter has locks almost to her butt ppl ask is that her hair all of the time as well as can they touch her hair I teach her not to let ppl touch her hair I got a blow out a few months ago to get my ends clipped my hair is past bra strap length and a WHITE GUY came up to me and said "that looks like that my be your real hair Is it?" I replied yes it is he said " O well we can do some things then" 😑 I declined of course but I walked away like wtf?! Did he really think that I was going to fall for that crap?!
demekonrn Yes I get that as well and my 7 year old daughter has locks almost to her butt ppl ask is that her hair all of the time as well as can they touch her hair I teach her not to let ppl touch her hair I got a blow out a few months ago to get my ends clipped my hair is past bra strap length and a WHITE GUY came up to me and said "that looks like that my be your real hair Is it?" I replied yes it is he said " O well we can do some things then" 😑 I declined of course but I walked away like wtf?! Did he really think that I was going to fall for that crap?!
And I agree with Solange on that one. I remember this one time i had some cute cornrows and some white woman had the audacity to smother her wet hands in my hair as I was leaving the rest room. I was really confused as to why she thought it was okay for her to put her dirty hands in my hair and go "oh its so different".
ausafrikbabe OMG! that's just so rude. you should've had slaped her bitch ass face. I have curly hair and I don't like it when people touch my hair without permition. I feel you.
Cicilia Tuga Deaion Banks i know! It all happened so fast and i deadass still feel mad that i was so passive about it. I was only 10 though at the time and was timid af
I love curly, kinky, wavy, springy hair types. I wish I had hair like that, it just makes me so happy to see someone embracing it cause it's freaking gorgeous!
Cheyenne Callwood Well, sorry you have a hard time with it! I can sort of understand that because my hair is rather frizzy, tangly, and puffy and people touch it a lot. I just think kinky, puffy hair is really pretty because when people with that hair let it down it looks like a halo around their head!
I don't want anyone putting their nasty hands in my hair. On a spiritual level too I don't know if they're demon possessed or cursed so keep your hands away from my God-given crown of glory.
Damn right! I don't put my hands on anyone unless I have their permission. That is an invasion of an individual's personal space. No one has the right to touch you if you don't want them to whatever their reasons.
I've had unsheathed dicks in my mouth, so if someone wants to do something as benign as touching my hair, it really doesn't bother me. I'm not black, though.
I am mixed, but I do have thick hair rather than fine curls. If someone asked me can they touch my hair, I would let them, but if you stick your hands in my fro that took 3 1/2 hours to style, we have a problem.
If I know you personally and I'm OK with it..yes. BUT, I don't let people touch my hair for that exact reason. I don't want anyones dirty hands anywhere near my hair.
I don't understand if the movie has to do with white people who touch black people hair or just anybody?? because I had A WHOOOLE LOT OF BLACK WOMEN asking me to touch my hair and asked me if it was real....
Jeanica2Natural no offense but I believe you misunderstood the whole video. In the beginning they talked about how many black Americans aren't educated about their own hair.
I remember when I first transitioned. Til this day 3 years later I can't believe I didn't know what my natural hair texture looked like. I love my kinks and curls 😍😍😍
NinjaBananaSquad it does take a lot of patience and practice, it's just getting to know ur own hair. U can watchin videos those are somewhat helpful but u just still gotta figure out what works best for u and stick to it. 😊
NinjaBananaSquad what do you use? And I think ppl make it more costly than it has to be. I'm mid back length and I don't spend too much money on products. My hair type is 4a/4b .
NinjaBananaSquad agreed, why on earth should it cost me a bucket load of cash to be natural, it shouldn't be complicated and it isn't complicated. I've been natural for my years of my life than I have had chemical straightening. I think the expense that a lot of naturals experience is the constant quest to have a particular curl type or appear to have a particular curl type. Within the natural community unfortunately there seems to be a more desired curl pattern and a lot of the expense is made on products that will enhance this and enhance that. If it's curly and frizzy at the same time so be it, if it's curly and "tamed" so be it. It really doesn't matter. We have to flip the chart on society and say it doesn't matter what it looks like, what it grows like, what matters is it's healthy and society will be forced to eventually change their mind set about what's considered beautiful and acceptable. Though the self hatred was put on us we have to break the cast, every last detail of that conflicted hatred and dislike within ourselves and our communities
I'm Hispanic but I can totally relate to this. At school random people always touch my curly hair and I can say it does feel like you're being violated. They don't ask you they just do it and at times it's uncomfortable
In this video they are talking about black women. Cerrtain Hispanics are black so you could be black depends on your country. I know Puerto ricans and Dominicans are pretty much black
I remember when I was 14 and this grown woman literally put her hands through my hair from behind and pulled it because she "wanted to make sure all of it was mine" like wtf?!?
In Cambodian culture you never touch anyone's head/hair especially when they're older than you. Signed of disrespect, unless you want to get drop kicked.
I think natural black hair is fucking gorgeous. And I've honestly always wondered what the texture of really kinky black hair feels like. Would I ever go up to a stranger and ask them to touch their hair or would I run my hands through it? No way, because who the hell does that? But I do admire from afar. I'm white, but I've had two experiences with stranger touching my hair without asking. I have naturally curly red hair and maybe it's the combination of curls and red, something compels strangers to touch it. I had an old woman at my last job rake her fingers through my curls while I was helping her find something. She didn't say anything, just did it like it was nothing. And when I was at the mall several years ago I held the door open for a man and his kids and as he passed through he stepped towards me and reached for my hair. He stopped before he touched it and sort of came to his senses and commented on it, but it was still weird.
I think it has more to do with the natural curl. I am also a Caucasian woman with extremely curly hair. Growing up I have always had people give me strange looks and many asked me if I had permed my hair. I have many incidents where people have just touched my hair to see if it was real. My hair is a curly, dirty blonde that is naturally thick from heritage. I've had total strangers to friends just come up and touch my hair. When I was about 17 years old I was standing in line for lunch and I felt a tug on my hair. I went to see if I had tugged it with my purse but a woman behind me had tugged on my hair and then stared at me with wide eyes. She told me she just wanted to see if it was real. I was upset and asked her not to do it again but she started to play with my hair, even braided it a bit at the very ends where I couldn't completely feel my hair. I think when people see something they don't understand they automatically need to find out why they don't understand it. Wearing my hair naturally always gets me odd looks because I have curly, frizzy, long hair. Is it right for someone to just come up and touch your hair, no. But I do understand at times why they do it.
I have also red, curly hair. It is actually not the same cause I am white non-male person and will never experience being of color. But I know the feeling of being touched by complete strangers. On a concert I guy stepped towards me from behind and began touching my backtattoo. I was creeped out as hell!
Haha, I’m black and have always loved natural red or auburn hair, blond hair never appeals to me. it’s like I’m attracted to it and it usually comes with bountiful curls and freckles that I like too. When I was in elementary school we had one boy with red hair, I think that’s where my admiration started.
@@lorebay2593 YAAAAAAAS, freckles ftw! My mom has freckles and several of my cousins do, too, but _I didn't get them, and I'm so jealous!_ Black, btw. 😅
lol come up to me and run your grimy little fingers through my hair if you want to and I bet you catch these hands. People think it's not a big deal but you can literally ruin our hairstyle by making our hair frizzy, not to mention it's just invasive and rude. Smh people need to show some damn respect😒
I don't think it's rude if they ask. But I hate people (especially random) touching me so if they were to just touch me randomly, or ask and touch before I say anything then hell yeah I'd get pissed the fuck off lmfao. And weirded out. But I think that a lot of them just don't understand that that we can't just wet out hair and it'll be alright lmfao. Like when it's ruined, it's ruined.
I'm African, and we have been extremely brainwashed after colonialism. I'm still under mental slavery - most of us Africans still are. "If it's from the West it's the best." Finally accepting our hair seems to be happening at a faster rate in America than here because people are still clinging to weaves and wigs. I'm still trying to break free from this mental slavery and help my friends do so too but they don't seem to want to - they like preferring a crop top with ripped jeans to an African print top with jeans or an African print jumpsuit. I have a friend also trying to break away from this mental slavery and we both went natural. We are still learning what our hair can do and how to take care of it after 16 years of not seeing it before.
I think that what you're trying to do is both beautiful and hard. it's really a revolution so it will take time, but you have my full support and I hope that I will go a long way.
Amarachi Okere try black soap or bentonite clay for washing. Deep condition with Jamacian Black Castor oil or Shea butter. Seal hair with olive oil mixed with lavender. I'm in the US but chemical laden products don't work for me. The less processed the better. Just a suggestion that could work for you too.
I agree.I don't understand why people get mad when someone wants to touch their hair. If ye shall ask, ye shall be able to thy hair!lol.I ask white people if I can touch their hair all the time.Really, the ones with the curly hair. To see if it feels the same as mine!So, it is just curiosity.Go for it!😀
+classeychicforever I don't think that some people mind. It's just that you don't always know where a person's hands have been though. That's not always sanitary to let anyone just touch your hair. They may have been scratching themselves or something. Never know.
I have only had one teacher who I let touch my hair and that was when I was younger... she was a nice black lady who knew how to do biracial curly hair(my other AA teachers did not) and when I would play super hard she would put it back in its braids or ponies..... my mom knew her for years and this was ok with her, I think the lady really cared about me because she made sure I looked on point at all times😂
I don't understand why it isn't considered Beautiful. I've , at many times in my life ,wanted hair like the woman in this video. The only reason I'm glad I don't have it is because from what I've heard it seem like a lot of work compared to my just brushing my hair and leaving
You really are, more power to you! So awesome to see so many people embracing that beauty - it's only how it should be. (And should've been all along!)
Me: *wears braids/weave* White person: why don't you wear out your natural hair, you always have "fake" hair Me: *wears out natural hair* White person: I think you look better with braids/weave, your natural hair looks weird We can never win 😑
Chelsea I doubt a white person said that because they are the ones who tend to think your hair is beautiful and unique. now black women on the other hand will tell you that easy.
+Courtney Love I think I know what has been said to me thank you. Clearly you didn't grow up in Ireland when it was very discriminative and mind you, this was said to me about 6 years ago when black people were discriminated against even more than we are now. Even now due to years of bullying because of my hair, I still have insecurities about my natural hair and when I wear it out, people still say some dumbass things about it. If you're white, you wouldn't know obviously because it's white people who do that shit😑
Chelsea I'm not white. and I grew up in the south in American so yeah.... black women have always been the ones around me that have said shit about our hair ... all the "white" girls said they thought it was beautiful. idk what its like there but this video is a bunch of american girls that have nothing but self hate.
I'm not black and i hate when ppl touch my hair. Specially when i had it long. It's as if people somehow felt entitled to touch my hair just because. I personally don't indulge on anyone touching any part of me without consent.
When I was younger, maybe 8 or 10, I went to this church with more white people than I was used to. I sat next to this white girl with really long hair. I don't know what prompted me to do it but I touched her hair and kept my attention on her hair most of the time. It was as if I had no self-control (I was a strange child) and she didn't WANT me to touch it. Every time I think about it I feel horrible and every time the memory starts to compare to a dream. I'm not sure anymore how it exactly happened but this is what I remember. What I did was very disrespectful and all I can do now is go forward because I will probably never get to see her again and apologize to her face. I wouldn't know...but maybe those people feel the same way too. Especially if they were children.
You were a child & had natural curiosity. I think you should forgive yourself this transgression. :) Had you been an adult such behavior would have been out of line. When I was five, I asked my Kindergarten teacher, whom I loved, why she was fat. I hadn't yet learned that 'fat' could be used as an insult. I hadn't known any large people & was truly curious. Had I asked as an older child or an adult I would have been totally out of order, of course. I thnik her answer was something to the effect of 'because'. I took her answer at face value & that was that. Btw: I wound up shaving my head for a few years after all the 'hair attention'. As a bald chick I got zilch to negative attention. It was a learning experience.
Always natural. Had gigantic afro puffs in high school which annoyed my best friend Lille a Jamaican Hakan Chinese with bone straight butt length hair who used to get hit in the face by an afro puff whenever I turned to face her. Today in our fifties we both have boy cuts.
Wow. Idk why but I'm tearing up. Maybe I do know the reason, it's because in a society of "beautiful hair" black people aren't really excepted, and this video really opens my eyes. I'm 14, trying my hardest to grow my hair long to its full potential and not be fake to myself, and to stop trying to be someone I'm not.
"We are trying to save lives out here" lol I like that...... I remember when I was a kid my mother would ask me to fetch a comb so she could wrestle my hair and braid it. I brought her a pair of scissors instead everytime and she would gladly chop it off. I'm glad she did not force me to endure the wrestling. I ultimately made the decision to grow it out when I was about ten. And for a number of years I truly believed that I looked good only with my y hair relaxed or when I had a weave until recently. I decided to stop relaxing it, it's shorter than it's ever been because I have 4c hair and it tends to shrink and I refuse to even blow dry it. I have never been happier with my hair. I feel so free. I braid it to protect it from overdrying but not all the time. I love it natural.
If you have time, Can you explain the grading of black hair? If I'm right (I'm guessing), a 4A is the loosest curl, and becomes tighter as they progress upward? Just curious.
Kinda yea it's actually a general system for all hair types. 1 is straight, 2 is wavy (beach waves), 3 is curly (big ringlets), and 4 is kinky (Afro, tight curls). As you go up in letters (a, b, or c) the less straight and more coiled the hair is. Most black hair falls under 3b - 4c and even under all those categories everyone's hair is different and has a mix of textures! :x
I'm really curious about black women hair because I have never seen it in real life xD But I would never touch random people's hair without permission.
høløpizza In my country is very unusual to see a black person, and the only few women I've seen had their hair straight so I've never seen natural black hair in real life xD
SadvιαnilLa actually funny you mention this but I totally know what you mean, I grew up in Spain, Alicante and Madrid, and I never saw any black people while there, in Alicante, by the mid 80's I started seeing black men selling watches by the beach, very polite, nice and always smiling, me and my brother were fascinated by them. Wow I hadn't thought about that in so long!!! cheers from Canada, lol
It is just hair! I get mad when ppl touch mine but that's bc it takes time to do my hair and ppl putting their hand in my hair just isn't going to fly.
Tbh I don't mind a person or people touching my hair with my consent. People nowadays just reach out to touch my hair without asking then I'm a little pissed because 1 fact is I don't know where your hand been and is it clean? I take quite pride in my natural hair and I don't allow anything to just happen without my consent, period.
Same.... Although the there are two types people comes down to it. There's the ones who admire it and find it beautiful or unique. Then, there are the ones who thinks it's weird and unattractive. But yeah your right.
Atlantis McDaniel yup unfortunately most of the the people who I'm around (my family) find it unattractive so i haven't worn my hair out in public since it was relaxed 1 year and 5 months ago and I've been natural for about 9 months
+Atlantis McDaniel, you're right. There are two types of people everywhere. I am white and I happen to have natural frizz which looks like barbed wires. I don't do anything to my frizz like straightening or taming it. I just leave my frizz alone and stay natural. I have been like this for years. As a kid, I was called all sorts of names like "mop head," "witch," etc. Luckily, I was too thick-skinned for any insults. Then the 70s and 80s had made frizzy hair fashionable. Bedhead trend has made wild frizz acceptable. Since then, I have been getting compliments on my wild frizz.
+Meechi Lee, I am from a large white family. Out of 9, my younger sister and I are the only ones with thick frizz. We are both natural. My family find my frizz unattractive in a different way. They love frizz as fashion but they hate finding my loose hair everywhere. My family get annoyed with me, when they keep finding my hair in refrigerator, sinks, shower units, floors, etc - and hair in food. My family friend who stays with us keeps finding my hair on her milk carton, my hair stuck under her shoes, etc. When accumulated, my hair blocks the sink's hole, so all sinks in house have hair catchers. I never cook dinners at Christmas as you can guess why. I lose much hair and yet have so much growing back in place.
Like when I was younger, my hair was actually pretty tame, and actually a loose waves texture. (idek how) But by Junior High, it became a big mass of frizz like a Lions Mane sort of. xD People seemed to be fascinated by it though and compliment it and like to pet it (I didn't mind), because they thought it was so unique and different looking. xDDD it's so weird that when you were growing up you got made fun of for it, but glad those times are behind you now! Frizzy hair wasn't seen as fashionable though, so anyone else who said their hair did what mine did, always had it tamed down. xD
Oh my god I'd love that. :D It's like a double treat! I'd sit or lay down and you can take hours playig with my hair, I love that. :D Haha, ummm, my weirdness aside, I'd never touch a black person's (or anyone's) hair without asking and getting permission first. ✌️
This short film is wonderful. Being a cosmotologist I have had the opportunity to learn all types of hair. When I was in Cosmo school there was a group of five black woman. Who from the start of school all hung out together. The other nationalities in the two year long class, formed different clicks as well. I have always been what I like to call, a "social floater". Even in middle and high school, I never really belonged to one click. I had friends in all of them. When we moved out to the floor, everyone tried to stay and keep as close to their friends as possible. Because I didn't have a certain group, I would tend to float and use different stations. But I would have to say that the chairs on either side of this group of black woman were,in my opinion, the best! I learned so much from them! More than from the teacher on the care of the different types of hair that black men and woman have. I was thankfull and blessed and man! Did we have fun! After a few months, I noticed that the other girls in the class would ask me on breaks about what they had taught me. The first couple times I shared the info with them. But after awhile I started saying, "Why don't you just ask her! She knows so much more than I do!" I would receive some type of uncomfortable statement and they'd walk away. I'd always found social situations interesting but this one baffled me! So, when I got back on the floor, I asked the girls if they felt comfortable sharing with this other girl. Many of them didn't want to. Their reason was that if they shared the info, then they could take their customers in the real world. Wow! I'd not thought of that! So I asked, "Why teach me then?" What they said in different ways but all in agreement and with laughter that it was because I asked. That, and I was craZy with a capital Z! I still talk to a couple of those woman to this day. They helped me to not only learn about a different culture, but myself. They helped me find my voice. I think what we should learn from this video is that every situation and person is different and that's okay. In fact, it's better than okay. It's wonderfully our world!
It's true when I was around 7 I hated my hair I remember wishing for my hair to be straight like the other girls. Remember being upset because the people at the beauty salons didn't know what to do with my hair and I ended up leaving in tears because they would cut it as if it was straight hair leaving me with a really short haircut that made me look like a boy. The most recent incident I've had is I was at the mall and this lady stopped me and said "oh my god is your hair a wig? Can I touch it?" I told her it wasn't and that she could (embarrassed to say no) and as she touched she gave my hair one good painful yank and said "I had to make sure it wasn't a wig" would it really had made her feel good if it was a wig and watched it tumble to the ground *smh
This black guy just touch my hair one time and I told him u can't do that and he was like it's not really Ur hair it weave...:wait what !! R u mad this is my natural hair and even if it was a weave its on my head . Don't touch my hair unless u ask and when u ask I will still say no.
Rowland Marshall it matters because only black people say dumb s*** like this! Our own people are always bad-mouthing us but get mad when someone else got some s*** to say about them! #PoorExampleToNonBlacks
It was about two days ago a white girl asked "is that weave in your hair", I told her NO (because I had in a bun and I have A TON of hair) I have natural hair, but I flat iron it every now and then, I guess you can say it LOOKS kinda of fake. A couple minutes later she walked up to me again and said "are you that isn't weave?". I could tell you a number of stories of racism that I've experienced and seen first-hand.
+Instigating Hoe No, most people do not want their hair touched. The only reason most of these women are allowing is to explain their story. However, randonly, after this, don't touch them. This project was very important and very informative. Listen to the video. This was done as a project..hunny
dude it takes me hours to style my hair so do not touch it. if you ask for permission I'm going to tell you where you can touch and where you can't. otherwise Don't Touch without permission that's just fucking rude
Laergulwen Ceylon I don't know if everyone that does it is jealous but I've had a woman tell me she wished she had the volume of my hair before. So I think it may be more adoration in some cases.
It's funny I watch this bc just a few days ago this (white) girl I know said my hair looked like a birds nest. This was the 2 or 3 time I had ever wore my hair like that to school. Well I was very upset. I decided a few days later to wear it in a fro (it looked exactly like the girl @ 7:05 in the video) again and the girl same girl said "You need to fix that. Lookin like Ronald McDonald" and tried to it touch and 'fix' it. I was so mad.
Layah Williams I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. Please please please ignore that girl and anyone who has that same mentality as that ignorant girl. Don't let that bring you spirit down. Your hair is soul. Your hair is life. Remember that. You don't need to fix anything about your black beauty. Let your hair be natural and free. Much love 💜
Layah Williams don't listen to goons like that!! your hair is amazing and unique!! you don't need people like that, telling you to "fix" what naturally grows on your head, in your life. I have 3c hair, but I would absolutely die to have type 4 hair. it's gorgeous!!
Don't listen to her! She's mad because she's an ignorant, racist, basic bitch. We have to deal with people like this sometimes but that's HER issue. Black hair is beautiful and you should keep wearing it how you like just to spite her basic ass.
I think this is absolutely wonderful. Women of color have the most amazingly *beautiful* hair. However you choose to wear it, wear it with pride! Me, personally, I have issues with people touching my hair. I find it too overstimulating, too personal. Perhaps, if asked first, in a kind and respectful manner, I might would allow it; but NO ONE should have their hair touched without having given that permission. That comes down to respecting people's boundaries, something that I feel more people could benefit from learning.
So many people ask to touch my hair on a daily basis, I'm actually cool with it because it's always a conversation starter and I get to communicate with people everywhere I go 🌞
Me too! I don't know if I'd put myself on display like this but I definitely let people who ask touch my hair. I've even offered to let people touch my hair (mostly kids) when they ask questions about it. I've found that the more secure I am in myself, the less defensive and I am and there is the opportunity, like you said, to enter into a conversation and feel empowered.
It's weird because people with straight hair ask to touch the hair of a black person or someone with curly/kinky hair, but I've literally never heard or heard of a black person or someone with curly/kinky hair ask to touch straight hair.
Leyu N I've been in a school with black people for 3 years and you're experience is very different from me, I guess. 4/5 of the girls overall have asked to touch my hair or just touched it without asking.
Leyu N Because as they said in the video, it has not been common for blacks to let their hair be natural, now that is changing and people see their natural hair for the first time. :)
That makes me happy because it gives me hope that one day when I meet a black woman who wears her hair naturally maybe she'll allow me to touch her hair... 😮😍 hopefullyyyy!
As a little "white" girl with traditionally racial characteristics to my hair (flat, bone straight and lifeless) I find natural black hair to be so vibrant and vivid and beautiful. When I was about 6 or 7 I remember Tina Turner's video coming out for "What's love got to do with it". I remember standing in the bathroom as my mom fixed my hair and looking in the mirror and telling her I wanted to look just like Tina Turner when I grew up, and being completely heart broken when she informed me that it was never going to happen. I remember thinking she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. Her hair was wild and unruly, she had the most beautiful skin I'd ever seen, and that girl had legs for days, and my god could the woman sing. As an adult today, I still look at "black" women and am in awe of their beauty, whether they have a weave, cornrows, natural hair, whether they are bone thin or voluptuous, there is an elegance and a beauty to each and every one. In High school I chose to start going to an all "black" church, I was the only little white girl there. I was amazed by how vibrant and alive a Baptist church could be when I had been raised in a very reserved baptist church. I wasn't accepted there but I wanted to be. I didn't know people could be so alive with the spirit inside them, and if I had embraced my inner spirit and acted that way in the kind of church I grew up in I would have been committed. I'm not that little "white" girl that you may have just decided that I am. My daughter has wild curly hair and since she was in 3rd grade would get up and straighten her hair at 6 in the morning, while I was faced with the wishing my hair had even just a slight bit of wave to it, or enough texture that it could hold false curls. She's just as "white" as I am. We are all taught by culture and society from a young age that we need to 'fix' ourselves to be beautiful, regardless of the color of our skin. And sometimes it takes being able to recognize the beauty in others to see the beauty in ourselves. And when it comes right down to it, we just all want to belong and be accepted for who we are regardless of anything else.
Your comment was really eye opening. I am 18 years old and although I am a male, the consequences to not being submissive to society's demands are really sad. It will make it harder for you to make friends, get in relationships and even get you in trouble with your own family. The male counterpart for this problem is another thing that exists. Where I am from they call affro hair Cabello Malo (bad hair) and bone straight hair Cabello Bueno (good hair). If you have affro hair you're thought to not let it even get to a couple of centimeters before cutting it. If you let it grow, then you're immediately portrayed as a delinquent or a person with bad manners or a hobo. I no longer care about people that judge me because I decided to let my hair grow big. I don't think any less of myself because of it and that's all that matters. My point is simply this: the rules (all of the rules, not just the hair related ones) society goes by are NOT written in stone and breaking them does not make anyone a bad person. [[Sorry if this had nothing to do with your comment April, I was just inspired to write this by what you wrote]]
I'm white and when I was younger there was a black girl in my class who wore her hair in two little Afro buns and I wanted her hair soooo bad. I asked my mom to take me to get a perm, it obviously didn't look like how I wanted it. But I've always been so obsessed with African American hair and I think it's beautiful!
But I'm white and another women that I use to work with always touched my hair, brush her fingers through my hair and constantly went on about how she loved my hair, it made me feel so uncomfortable.
I transitioned my hair in 2016 and I'm never relaxing it till I die, it's so strange that even here in Africa, when they see you with natural hair, they call you a wannabe, so you mean I'm not even allowed to keep the hair that God gave me? Even some of my family members were so bothered that I wanted to keep my hair natural, they came up with things like how will you cope, who will help you make your hair, natural hair is too tough to maintain, natural hair is too expensive to keep. Thank God I stood my ground and said I'll accept whatever comes along and get used to my God given hair. Now I'm two years into natural hair and I'm very happy because I'm learning how to personally take care of my hair instead of going to the hairstylist's place every weekend and wasting money, I'm more independent, my hair has taught me a lot of patience, I feel more responsible that I'm capable of taking care of my hair and I can glorify God with what he put on my head. My hair is my crown, my beautification, my glory and I'll never come down to man made hair anymore. Now, I can look at the mirror and see my true reflection, I can see exactly how God wanted me to look.
Most of my friends (actually all) have that typically 4c kinky, soft hair. B4 I big chopped I was convinced that I was gonna get their type of hair, and then I big chopped and came to school with a wash and go and people were shocked! They were convinced that I was mixed with at least some race. Society has taught us as black women that we all have kinky 4c hair and if u have just a little loose curl ur automatically mixed. Embrace ur natural hair no matter what type. Love urself❤️
I seriously don't care about anyone touching my hair. It's just never been that serious to me. I've had bone straight, the afro and now I'm locing my hair. Hair has never been a statement to me, I just wear whatever I feel that day. I actually love when friendly people inquire about my hair and want to touch. Tbh I think this don't touch my hair attitude stems from bitterness and other internalized issues.
yes, exactly. I have a friend who has dead straight hair (she's asian) and many people, yes some are black women, come up to her and just touch her hair. She doesn't get upset about it because she understands what they're feeling. Just tell someone you don't like it and be gone with it. I think people should learn to just chill a bit, be more laid back about things y'know.
It's a difference between asking to touch my hair and a total stranger invading your personal space and patting my head like a fucking dog that's not cool at all
I don't understand why so many of my black sisters react so negatively when somebody asks them if they can touch their hair!? Well I understand if a stranger comes up and just touch it without asking, but if they ask nicely I would happily say "Go ahead!" Too many black women see this offensive when somebody wants to touch their hair, because they think white people see our hair as something weird. But most of the time that's not the case! The white folk ALWAYS was fascinated with our skin, our hair, our lips and so on. Them wanting to touch us is not a response too our "weirdness" it's because it is different and interesting to them in a very positive way. When I see a white chick with long straight healthy hair, I want to touch it too. Is it because I think it is weird? NO! It is because I think her hair is beautiful and I like to run my finger through it. I have never met a white girl reacting negatively when I asked to touch her hair, why does black women do it? Because their hair could be ruined? Well then tell those people who wants to touch it HOW to touch it without ruining it. Y'all black sisters do not help the white people exploring, understanding and excepting us, because you see everything as negative if the white folk show a bit interest in the black folk. Start to be a bit more open and happy that people show interest too us. *Difference is not something to be ashamed of and anything to hide or change, it's something to be proud of!*
Jasmin Aylea I have been thinking this for the longest time! I'm always flattered when my white friends want to touch my hair. They always give me compliments about how fluffy it is. I don't think it's an insult. If they ask, then I think it's fine. Then I tell them about my hair and they become for educated. How else will they learn?
Thank you thank you! I lived in Japan and it was very common for people to ask to touch my hair (I'm caucasian), and I know it's because they are curious simply because it's different than theirs. I think it is both flattering and beautiful for people to take an interest in our differences, and in my opinion it heals the divide. I've asked to touch other white girls' hair too, if it's different or if I think it's pretty :)
I have no problem with others wanting to touch my hair but u forget, that everyone's life experiences r different- some people r very sensitive, wounded, low self esteem,not very loving, etc- but in the end they have a right to tell others to not touch their hair-
Jasmin Aylea thank you! I was thinking the same thing why get angry about someone touching you're hair. It's hair in the end. When I have my hair natural people ask to touch it it's isn't rude they're just curious and like the girl in the video said there's nothing wrong with curiosity
This is great..however I still have a problem with people touching my hair despite their curiosity. Just something about personal space and hygiene that gets me. It especially frustrating when someone just shoves their hand in my fro that I spent an entire morning styling.
all my life my hair has been permed and relaxed and damanged. i dont even know my hair type. ive treated it not the way it should bc of society. now im 18 wanting to shave all of it off and restart with a healthy relationship with my hair. thank you for this.
do it! my hair is stronger, longer, and healthier than it ever was while it was relaxed. when I was relaxed, my hair was my biggest source of insecurity. I've been natural for 5 years now, and I'm not going to tell you it's been easy and carefree, but it has been empowering and freeing. if you decide to cut your hair, just be patient with yourself until you figure out what it needs. other people have their entire childhood to learn how to take care of their hair, we didn't get that because the hair we took care of wasn't really ours. good luck 😊
wowow im sorry but thats just ignorant. plenty of black ppl rock their curly hair not just mixed ppl. and its a shame you have to keep away your natural state which you really dont its your hair do it how you please. i hope you can be able to let your hair breathe. wish you the best of luck.
Im a mix of arab and african, and trust me,from the day a hair grew on my head my mom HATED it. I had an afro, and my mom belittled me, insulted me, made fun of me and more all for the texture of my hair. I got it relaxed and it was damaged for the next 4 years. However, now i am treating my hair right and my hair is looking as beautiful as ever, with its natural texture
I'm black and I honestly didn't think it was that big of a deal. Went to a predominantly white school and for years my hair was touched, they always asked and they were never rude.Never had an issue with it.
A big deal about touching hair, oh my gawd yall!! Call the police!! I rock a fro for the most part, had people pat my head, I don't care cause for one thing, it feels good, and yes, it is super soft. I'm not gonna make a video about the origins of black hair and crap like that. The past is the past, people need to embrace the here and now. Screw the media, rock your hair the way you want it. Be different than the rest or be with the rest. That's your choice, not the world's. Bottom line, natural is beautiful and you're beautiful. God bless!
Big RESPECT, to the sisters on both sides of the argument. I feel you both have fair points. Even the fact that you made this video is pretty awesome, because people who watch this and have any sense may realize that no matter what either side are saying they both agree, as I do, that natural black hair whether it be dredd locks, Afro or whatever, is inherently beautiful and therefore it should be respected and treasured. I'm a brother from just outside London, England, and I have been trying to encourage any sister that I meet, to keep their hair natural and claim themselves and their heritage back. At times it is a struggle cause conditioning runs deep over here. So RESPECT once again my conscious sisters, keep teaching those that don't know and those that don't know that they don't know. Peace and Love. Your brother from the same mother. GkoolB
I get a lot of comments on my hair, I love my natural hair 😍, I will never go back to relaxers no matter what. It's a beautiful thing to go outside and see almost every black woman going natural. I also try to encourage younger girls to give it a try.
I don't understand. Who in the fuck is going to a black women's hair and TOUCH it? In my 24 years of existence, I've never done that. I don't understand. That is so creepy.
My hair is natural texture and someone reached out and touched it two weeks ago. Back when it was still relaxed straight and shoulder length, a drunk white woman I barely knew sunk her fingers down to my roots and yanked. I think it was her desire to know if it was my own hair or a weave (which I never wear). You can't really blame drunkenness cause: (1) drunkenness doesn't excuse bad manners, and (2) she had been eyeing my hair while sober. I guess she felt weird simply asking me anything she wanted to know, but not half as weird as I felt with her hand buried in my hair, dammit! I'm fine with you touching my hair, but ask first. I'll answer any of your questions as long as you are courageous enough to ask them.
I have super fine straight hair. I have had curly, course haired gals ask to run their fingers through it. I have never felt invaded by people's curiosity with it. I would if some stranger randomly felt me up without my permission though. It doesn't make a person bad to ask questions & want to know about things new & different. If it did, learning curious children would be in trouble all the time. Learning about diversity & cultures is great but, ask first folks.
Yes! I hate that! At least have the decency to ask before you touch my hair, or any part of me for that matter. I am a HUMAN and have the same personal boundaries as you do. It's like people see something different and just forget that "Oh that a person with feelings and opinions too. Maybe I should treat her like I would like to be treated."
I am soooo proud of having real curly hair. I remember when I was small even two years ago, that I didn't like my skin color nor my hair and it was because people around me made feel weird and insecure because I was different but I now I think that difference is the key. And I'm fed up of people critising my hair that I just say "because you don't have ir or because you don't see it very often, does not mean that is ugly or strange" CURLY HAIR IS BEAUTIFUL and people should accept it. The fact that it has lots of volume and that it make this bouncy effect does not mean that is distracting. In my school i have been said to straight my hair and I don't do it. The fact that they told to do so, makes me not do it and feel much more proud of my hair. EVERYONE SHOULD ACCEPT DIFFERENCE!
As a 33 year old white male I find myself kind of confused by this and what the meaning really is behind it. I find many black women with natural hair to be far more attractive than those who wear odd wigs and even some who wear braids. I think black women with big full natural hair can be very attractive, but I sure as hell wouldn't go and start rubbing it or grabbing it. Maybe I am just jealous since I am cursed with balding in the family. Yes, it sucks ass... I have had many people touch my head in curiosity as to what it feels like to be shaven. It never bothered me, never made me think so deeply, but then I guess I was never mislead into thinking my hair of lack there of was not as accepted in one form or the other.
I'm a white fellow, and have long curly hair naturally. I feel like everyone with really curly hair can relate to this, black or white. I'm Norwegian, so I'm super white, yet I always felt pressured to succumb to the American "white" standards. tan skin, stick straight hair, tall, slim, light eyes, etc. so at the age of 13 I'd already straightened and fried my hair to the point of bits falling out, dyed my natural auburn hair to a blonde. I had also developed serious eating disorders, which delayed my period until I was 17, and actually started eating again. I developed severe depression, etc. even me, possibly the most white a person can get, struggles to fit the norm. but now I'm letting my hair free, and it's been curly and untreated for years. but I find people fascinate over my curly hair because it's different, and I love myself and all my curly whiteness now!
people want to touch your hair because they are curious how it feels because we don't have the same hair structure, mine is wavy and silky, somebody elses may be very curly and not so silky.
OMG this brought up a lot of feelings. Spoke directly to the last 3 years of my life. Seriously, no one wants to be touched unexpectedly; it's startling. Just ask first! Whether it's my hair or my pregnant belly. Whether you are family or a stranger. ASK FIRST that's all I want. some warning. some say in the matter. please.
I wouldn't like people to touch my hair but at the same time I like that they think it's fascinating . Going to countries with not many black women or curly hair women they will stare and touch your hair like crazy... lol its really uncomfortable
The fact that people feel SO ENTITLED to throw their hands into others hair like the line at starbucks is some sort of petting zoo never ceases to amaze me. JUST DONT TOUCH PEOPLE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT IT IS NEVER OK!!!!!!!
Personally, I don't mind if my hair is touched, as long as you ask and don't get really aggressive about it. I would be worried about whether or not it's greasy or dry or something but-if you ASK ME FIRST, it's fine. I'm newly natural and thankfully nobody's thrust their hand in my head yet. Maybe it's not long enough or smth. lol. I just hate that we teach black girls that their hair is something to be tamed... I got my first relaxer at five years old, and it's all I've known until recently. it's been a real journey.
That's the thing. people are not asking. Their just diving in without any concern for the people whom hair they are touching. Some think as the lady stated in the video that they feel entitled, privileged to touch.
Here's my two cents on it. I'm a black young woman. To me, the way a person asks whether they can touch my hair really sheds light on the "why." I understand that as someone said in this video, even many black people haven't seen their natural hair. It's relatively new that it's even socially acceptable for us to wear our hair naturally (praise God!). I know a lot of people I encounter haven't seen or felt hair like mine before. If I sense pure curiosity (and my hair is clean haha) then I'm like, "Go for it." If I sense more of a, "Your hair is so abnormal, can I touch it?" vibe then I say no. I'm not going to willingly be a display freak animal. Because sadly, some people approach the topic of my texture feeling bad for me, apologetic that I have such "unruly" hair. TL;DR Whether I allow people to touch my hair is something I choose on a case-by-case basis in the moment.
The women holding the exhibit are opening up the channels for dialogue in a positive way; changing perception one conversation at a time. Whether the intention of the onlooker is negative or positive - that's up to individual. C'mon, who isn't curious about some of those textures or hair styles?? lol The guy at the coffee shop probably thought the girl was cute and was enchanted by her look. He probably figured he had nothing to loose since he would never see her again once she walked out the door and threw caution to the wind. But that's not to say it wasn't totally invasive and weird. Not asking for permission to do so was also disrespectful and objectifying, but he was probably willing to live with that in exchange for the experience.
Thank you very much for posting this.. I work in an elementary school and there are many lovely black young girls who have lovely hair. There have been days when I see some of the girls hide their hair behind a hoodie. I tell the young ladies not to hide it, but rock it. They should be proud of how they look, and I want to encourage the young ladies. I am shocked about the articles I read in the USA about young girls being suspended for their hair. This blows my mind and I don't understand it. As educators we should embrace everyone and not make anyone feel like an outcast.
I wouldn't mind if someone asked to touch my hair, so i could say "yes" or "no". But to actually reach out and touch it, I think thats extremely rude and disgusting. Why would anyone just do that? But like one of the first ladies said, its true that we had our hair permed at such a young age that, we have no idea how to maintain it when we finally go natural. Ive been growing my hair out for 2 years now, and I've been tucking it away in braids that are too expensive!! im taking a stand, and taking them out tomorrow, and try to fiddle with it to see if I can do something with it. My mother is not going to tell me jack. (Shes one of those people who cares about society norms too much)
I'm not black, but I understand the grabbing of curly hair. People will come up behind me, grab chunks & say "Sorry I've just always wanted to do that!" That's freaking wierd.
When someone touched my hair at school, their hands would get greasy cuz of the oils and things and then they would be like ugh you need to wash your hair and tell other people not to touch my hair coz it's greasy and so I would just not put oils in my hair and it would get really dry. It was videos like these that encouraged me to be proud and embrace what I had so thank you xx
I don't have a problem when someone ask to touch my hair, but if they get aggressive and try to rake their hands through my kinks and curls then that's a problem. My cousin did that to me unexpectedly... I almost forgot who she was for a minute. lol Besides some women might think they feel like you're treating them like a pet... Just respect them instead of getting upset that they don't want their hair to be touched... it could also mean you could mess up how they have their hair set up or they just don't want you in their personal space.
I'm a black girl and this video reminds me of something that happened to me in highschool. I was sitting in class and behind me I heard a white girl say, after moments of observing the back of my head, "I would kill myself if I had that hair." Among other nasty insults. I know she knew I heard because she said it loudly as if there was nothing wrong with saying something so hurtful. And it hurt, really bad. I still remember the moment and wish I would have said something but instead I just cried later that day and from then on I was insecure about my hair.
To be honest when my hair was relaxed I enjoyed people playing in my hair. Now that I'm natural I HATE it. Like it takes so much to get my curls the way I want them and people trying to touch and play in my hair is disrupting my curls. Also if my hair is slightly still wet I don't want people touching it and be like ew, your hair is wet lol. Also when I was still in high school there was this one white boy and this black girl in my class had really beautiful curly hair and the boy literally came out of nowhere and raked his hand in her hair (from roots to tips) and he was shocked and in disgust that his hand got stuck in her hair. I was like wtf you mean she has curly hair you can't just comb straight through it and expect it to go perfectly straight through like straight hair. Like no. That's rude you don't just go up to people and start touching their hair like that.
Society will always make people feel like their never good enough. You have to be confident with yourselves not worry about other ppl opinions or stupidity
This is such an inspiration. I started perming my hair when I was about 4 and my hair was very long until I got about 10 and my hair started breaking. When I was 12 I decided to go natural. At first I felt very embarrassed about my hair but now I love it. It's been almost 3 years and a lot of times I think I should perm my hair again but then I watch videos like this and it reminds me how unique and amazing my hair is. Thank you :)
Is this something people in the US do?? How do you walk to a person you don't know and randomly touch their hair, or ask to touch it. Like, I don't know you, I don't know where your hands have been, don't touch me wtf??
For gods sake - there are wars, people starving, people with nothing. You all have houses and food on the table, stop complaining. It's just hair! I don't remember anyone saying curly hair was ugly anyway.
I'm not a petting zoo. So don't touch my hair.
agreed. 🐷🐯🐸🐍🐑🐒
tamia thank u
tamia let me pet dat head, girl.
tamia ikr
Yeah...my very first view of the first minute was that, it put me in the mind of a zoo. I think it's unnecessary...at least, this is my assessment watching the first few minutes.
DONT TOUCH MY HAIR -SOLANGE
yess
Dimez Bee lol I would be hella mad if someone touched my hair !
thats my song
Dimez Bee THAT'S MY THEME SONG
Dimez Bee 💯
I personally usually don't mind people wanting to touch my hair but it's all about consent. Ask me and I will say yes or no. That simple.
Agreed.
Hairy Knuckles Bruh that’s weird as shit that they want to touch your head. I’ve never asked someone if I can do that.
Curiosity is normal, it's just how people go about it
@@emilimilina762 well we're not a petting zoo so they'll just have to stay curious
A coworker once touched my hair .. without my permission it was quick and she knew immediately I was mad as hell cos I gave her the meanest look I could possibly summon without making a scene cos I was at work,she later came back to apologize tho and I told her my hair is not just hair it's my identity,pride and crown as a black woman and you only get to touch if you are my stylist or you have the same hair texture as me .......
I'm so appalled that people actually touch a random person's hair... like keep your hands to yourself please.
Yea it happens more than some think. It can feel very uncomfortable :3
also, nice to see ya here fellow army~
I'm not black so I could never relate (I'm Asian), but I hate when even young kids touch my hair (it's long) because I don't know whether they washed their hands and people tend to pull harder than they think... BUT HELLO TO YOU TOO FELLOW ARMY 💜💜
same, I hate people touching my hair
Abby Taz i'm not black either but I have very similar tight curls and I have the same concerns as you. I had random guys just touch my hair before O.o
Kookie Gives Me Diabetes omg that's also why people touch my hair (because it's curly and Asian girls normally have long straight hair)... But I can't believe grown ass people actually do this, if it were children it would be more understandable 😑😑 people lack self control *smh*
The tragedy is that most non-Black people are the ones who are most supportive of nautral hair, to the point that they don't even really tend to notice natural hair beyond a nice, genuine compliment. The people I know who are most critical of black women's natural hair are other black women and black men. It breaks my heart.
True
Fr, when I was wearing my afro out to my school (predominately white) for the first time, I got hella compliments. As my oldest brother was driving me home, he suggested that I straightened it and that the poofy hair look wasn't nice looking. Believe you me, I went in on him.
+Kendra Obika Thanks for sharing that. I'm very glad to hear that the conversation to educate our relatives who have now been conditiond into believing that the poof curly texture hair is bad and silky straight is beautiful. Educate with love. kudos to you. much love.
omg so true..just the other week I was insulted by a black man about how my hair needed to be "washed" because I was rocking my natural shrunken fro smh
that's mostly because they don't know about it.. mist black people just try to change it
people ask to touch my hair frequently but before i can reply their hand is already on me....they are mostly white but sum black people have done so as well...they usually just say "oh wow its soft" like they expected sandpaper or brillo lol
demekonrn black people's hair is soft, (trying to explain it without sounding like a ass) it's like, a baby lambs coat, I can't find anything softer than that as a example. it is a texture white people don't feel often and the majority of us find it beautiful. humans are naturally curious about beautiful things.
demekonrn Yes I get that as well and my 7 year old daughter has locks almost to her butt ppl ask is that her hair all of the time as well as can they touch her hair I teach her not to let ppl touch her hair I got a blow out a few months ago to get my ends clipped my hair is past bra strap length and a WHITE GUY came up to me and said "that looks like that my be your real hair Is it?" I replied yes it is he said " O well we can do some things then" 😑 I declined of course but I walked away like wtf?! Did he really think that I was going to fall for that crap?!
demekonrn Yes I get that as well and my 7 year old daughter has locks almost to her butt ppl ask is that her hair all of the time as well as can they touch her hair I teach her not to let ppl touch her hair I got a blow out a few months ago to get my ends clipped my hair is past bra strap length and a WHITE GUY came up to me and said "that looks like that my be your real hair Is it?" I replied yes it is he said " O well we can do some things then" 😑 I declined of course but I walked away like wtf?! Did he really think that I was going to fall for that crap?!
Yea
Mia Cook...u explained it perfectly
and then Solange Knowles has a song called "Don't touch my hair" 😂😂
And I agree with Solange on that one. I remember this one time i had some cute cornrows and some white woman had the audacity to smother her wet hands in my hair as I was leaving the rest room. I was really confused as to why she thought it was okay for her to put her dirty hands in my hair and go "oh its so different".
ausafrikbabe OMG! that's just so rude. you should've had slaped her bitch ass face. I have curly hair and I don't like it when people touch my hair without permition. I feel you.
ausafrikbabe Whaaat..?! Are you serious?! I would of had a VERY BIG PROBLEM WITH THAT! I WOULD OF HAD A WORD WITH HER YES HONEY 😏
Cicilia Tuga Deaion Banks i know! It all happened so fast and i deadass still feel mad that i was so passive about it. I was only 10 though at the time and was timid af
I love curly, kinky, wavy, springy hair types. I wish I had hair like that, it just makes me so happy to see someone embracing it cause it's freaking gorgeous!
I know, right?! I was talking to this girl with that hair type and she said she didn't like it! It made me feel so sad!
Cheyenne Callwood
Well, sorry you have a hard time with it! I can sort of understand that because my hair is rather frizzy, tangly, and puffy and people touch it a lot. I just think kinky, puffy hair is really pretty because when people with that hair let it down it looks like a halo around their head!
I have straight long hair but I braid it overnight damp to make it beach wavy
Vanessa Veiga I know! I hate when I see people put themselves down/put others down for having hair like that
Cheyenne Callwood I have hair like it. It's hard to deal with but I love it and wouldn't do anything far from natural
I'm an Asian in a largely black area. People ask to touch my hair since its naturally straight. It's weird too.
Jennie Nguyen I know someone exactly like you
If by "Can I touch your hair" you mean "Can I give you a head massage"
Of course 🙂 go in
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I don't want anyone putting their nasty hands in my hair. On a spiritual level too I don't know if they're demon possessed or cursed so keep your hands away from my God-given crown of glory.
Damn right! I don't put my hands on anyone unless I have their permission. That is an invasion of an individual's personal space. No one has the right to touch you if you don't want them to whatever their reasons.
JAchica11 lol you're funny 😂😂
I've had unsheathed dicks in my mouth, so if someone wants to do something as benign as touching my hair, it really doesn't bother me. I'm not black, though.
JAchica11 I told someone this and they got really upset but I was being honest
As a Native person I can't stand it when both Whites and Blacks ask to touch my hair.
I am mixed, but I do have thick hair rather than fine curls. If someone asked me can they touch my hair, I would let them, but if you stick your hands in my fro that took 3 1/2 hours to style, we have a problem.
U don't know if their hands are clean or not😕 No u can't touch my hair.
lol
If I know you personally and I'm OK with it..yes. BUT, I don't let people touch my hair for that exact reason. I don't want anyones dirty hands anywhere near my hair.
msadburns they assume we don't wash it
especially in NYC. disgusting.
I don't understand if the movie has to do with white people who touch black people hair or just anybody?? because I had A WHOOOLE LOT OF BLACK WOMEN asking me to touch my hair and asked me if it was real....
same thing happened to me at work yesterday. a black woman loved my hair so much she asked if she could touch it...I let her.
Jeanica2Natural yup me too ..
Your comment might just be the most true comment out there 😂
Jeanica2Natural no offense but I believe you misunderstood the whole video. In the beginning they talked about how many black Americans aren't educated about their own hair.
Jailyn Edwards Exactly. Please educate.
I remember when I first transitioned. Til this day 3 years later I can't believe I didn't know what my natural hair texture looked like. I love my kinks and curls 😍😍😍
I started a couple months ago. It's so hard! But I love the cute curls that are coming up 😙 I just don't know how to treat them right
NinjaBananaSquad it does take a lot of patience and practice, it's just getting to know ur own hair. U can watchin videos those are somewhat helpful but u just still gotta figure out what works best for u and stick to it. 😊
Umm Al Amin Yeah. It's definitely costly too. Every product I get doesn't seem to work well for me
NinjaBananaSquad what do you use? And I think ppl make it more costly than it has to be. I'm mid back length and I don't spend too much money on products. My hair type is 4a/4b .
NinjaBananaSquad agreed, why on earth should it cost me a bucket load of cash to be natural, it shouldn't be complicated and it isn't complicated. I've been natural for my years of my life than I have had chemical straightening. I think the expense that a lot of naturals experience is the constant quest to have a particular curl type or appear to have a particular curl type. Within the natural community unfortunately there seems to be a more desired curl pattern and a lot of the expense is made on products that will enhance this and enhance that. If it's curly and frizzy at the same time so be it, if it's curly and "tamed" so be it. It really doesn't matter. We have to flip the chart on society and say it doesn't matter what it looks like, what it grows like, what matters is it's healthy and society will be forced to eventually change their mind set about what's considered beautiful and acceptable. Though the self hatred was put on us we have to break the cast, every last detail of that conflicted hatred and dislike within ourselves and our communities
I'm Hispanic but I can totally relate to this. At school random people always touch my curly hair and I can say it does feel like you're being violated. They don't ask you they just do it and at times it's uncomfortable
They are just admiring it.
this happens to me too!
In this video they are talking about black women. Cerrtain Hispanics are black so you could be black depends on your country. I know Puerto ricans and Dominicans are pretty much black
Lulu Chance because your BLACK! Lol saf
Legit Bitxh first off Hispanic women can have tight curly hair and yes they get treated the same
I remember when I was 14 and this grown woman literally put her hands through my hair from behind and pulled it because she "wanted to make sure all of it was mine" like wtf?!?
Grabby toddler in adult woman's body.
In Cambodian culture you never touch anyone's head/hair especially when they're older than you. Signed of disrespect, unless you want to get drop kicked.
More of that Cambodian Culture please
yasssssss *drop kicks like 5 people*
I think natural black hair is fucking gorgeous. And I've honestly always wondered what the texture of really kinky black hair feels like. Would I ever go up to a stranger and ask them to touch their hair or would I run my hands through it? No way, because who the hell does that? But I do admire from afar. I'm white, but I've had two experiences with stranger touching my hair without asking. I have naturally curly red hair and maybe it's the combination of curls and red, something compels strangers to touch it. I had an old woman at my last job rake her fingers through my curls while I was helping her find something. She didn't say anything, just did it like it was nothing. And when I was at the mall several years ago I held the door open for a man and his kids and as he passed through he stepped towards me and reached for my hair. He stopped before he touched it and sort of came to his senses and commented on it, but it was still weird.
You have magnetic tresses ;)
I think it has more to do with the natural curl. I am also a Caucasian woman with extremely curly hair. Growing up I have always had people give me strange looks and many asked me if I had permed my hair. I have many incidents where people have just touched my hair to see if it was real. My hair is a curly, dirty blonde that is naturally thick from heritage. I've had total strangers to friends just come up and touch my hair. When I was about 17 years old I was standing in line for lunch and I felt a tug on my hair. I went to see if I had tugged it with my purse but a woman behind me had tugged on my hair and then stared at me with wide eyes. She told me she just wanted to see if it was real. I was upset and asked her not to do it again but she started to play with my hair, even braided it a bit at the very ends where I couldn't completely feel my hair. I think when people see something they don't understand they automatically need to find out why they don't understand it. Wearing my hair naturally always gets me odd looks because I have curly, frizzy, long hair. Is it right for someone to just come up and touch your hair, no. But I do understand at times why they do it.
I have also red, curly hair. It is actually not the same cause I am white non-male person and will never experience being of color. But I know the feeling of being touched by complete strangers. On a concert I guy stepped towards me from behind and began touching my backtattoo. I was creeped out as hell!
Haha, I’m black and have always loved natural red or auburn hair, blond hair never appeals to me. it’s like I’m attracted to it and it usually comes with bountiful curls and freckles that I like too. When I was in elementary school we had one boy with red hair, I think that’s where my admiration started.
@@lorebay2593 YAAAAAAAS, freckles ftw! My mom has freckles and several of my cousins do, too, but _I didn't get them, and I'm so jealous!_ Black, btw. 😅
lol come up to me and run your grimy little fingers through my hair if you want to and I bet you catch these hands. People think it's not a big deal but you can literally ruin our hairstyle by making our hair frizzy, not to mention it's just invasive and rude. Smh people need to show some damn respect😒
Agree, It's disrespectful towards us
I don't think it's rude if they ask. But I hate people (especially random) touching me so if they were to just touch me randomly, or ask and touch before I say anything then hell yeah I'd get pissed the fuck off lmfao. And weirded out. But I think that a lot of them just don't understand that that we can't just wet out hair and it'll be alright lmfao. Like when it's ruined, it's ruined.
I'm African, and we have been extremely brainwashed after colonialism. I'm still under mental slavery - most of us Africans still are. "If it's from the West it's the best." Finally accepting our hair seems to be happening at a faster rate in America than here because people are still clinging to weaves and wigs. I'm still trying to break free from this mental slavery and help my friends do so too but they don't seem to want to - they like preferring a crop top with ripped jeans to an African print top with jeans or an African print jumpsuit. I have a friend also trying to break away from this mental slavery and we both went natural. We are still learning what our hair can do and how to take care of it after 16 years of not seeing it before.
Just keep trying. We'll all learn together. Being natural has been amazing. I feel better because those relaxers really burned.
I think that what you're trying to do is both beautiful and hard. it's really a revolution so it will take time, but you have my full support and I hope that I will go a long way.
Nana Esi Okyere-N.
Amarachi Okere try black soap or bentonite clay for washing. Deep condition with Jamacian Black Castor oil or Shea butter. Seal hair with olive oil mixed with lavender. I'm in the US but chemical laden products don't work for me. The less processed the better. Just a suggestion that could work for you too.
right i know its the same in asia
I wear my hair natural but if someone asked me to touch my hair my only worry would be if it's dry or greasy
lol me too
Same! I give them a warning I say " your hands will be sticky / greasy " 😂
Right😂
+Das Staubkorn u could perm it but that would b really bad for ur hair
+Das Staubkorn that's unusual. Why??
You can touch my hair if you ask first
I agree.I don't understand why people get mad when someone wants to touch their hair. If ye shall ask, ye shall be able to thy hair!lol.I ask white people if I can touch their hair all the time.Really, the ones with the curly hair. To see if it feels the same as mine!So, it is just curiosity.Go for it!😀
I disagree don't touch me
Exactly! I'll gladly says yes... but I've had ppl pull my hair asking is it real?! Girl everybody isn't raised the same... CLEARLY!
Jessica B. You touch me I don't know you your going to get hit.
+classeychicforever I don't think that some people mind. It's just that you don't always know where a person's hands have been though. That's not always sanitary to let anyone just touch your hair. They may have been scratching themselves or something. Never know.
And when blacks are wearing their hair natural, some people criticize for having a smaller curl pattern. But to me , all curls are beautiful! ✨
I've had teachers ask to touch my hair, ofc all I do is smile and mentally kill them.
you are nice I told someone once he'll no! go to a petting zoo if you want to touch lol
ya you are nice I pushed this ladies arm hard for trying to pull one of my tight curls
I have only had one teacher who I let touch my hair and that was when I was younger... she was a nice black lady who knew how to do biracial curly hair(my other AA teachers did not) and when I would play super hard she would put it back in its braids or ponies..... my mom knew her for years and this was ok with her, I think the lady really cared about me because she made sure I looked on point at all times😂
+Meah Camille This is nice :)
you're pretty
are you guys kidding me? I would love your hair texture! it's so beautiful
It's sad that our hair isn't seen as beautiful in many places today.
I don't understand why it isn't considered Beautiful. I've , at many times in my life ,wanted hair like the woman in this video. The only reason I'm glad I don't have it is because from what I've heard it seem like a lot of work compared to my just brushing my hair and leaving
not until u gotta comb it LOL a struggle everytime
Yeah that is why some time we flat iron our hair for a break. Lol
Cheyenne Callwood there is a deep conditioner I know of that will help you maintain your curls and ease the frustration and cut down on do-time.
Black people are so beautiful. I love our hair.
😉😉😉😉
AmandaShuNN81 So true. My hair is fine and super straight and I have a lot of it. I'm so jealous of black girls' hair
You really are, more power to you! So awesome to see so many people embracing that beauty - it's only how it should be. (And should've been all along!)
+MinecraftNerd0816 same I love their hair texture
AmandaShuNN81 beautiful in every way ♥️
Wow there hair.... BEAUTIFUL ASF
*their
Me: *wears braids/weave*
White person: why don't you wear out your natural hair, you always have "fake" hair
Me: *wears out natural hair*
White person: I think you look better with braids/weave, your natural hair looks weird
We can never win 😑
Someone seriously said that to you 😑
+Chelsie Jones Legit 😑
Chelsea I doubt a white person said that because they are the ones who tend to think your hair is beautiful and unique. now black women on the other hand will tell you that easy.
+Courtney Love I think I know what has been said to me thank you. Clearly you didn't grow up in Ireland when it was very discriminative and mind you, this was said to me about 6 years ago when black people were discriminated against even more than we are now. Even now due to years of bullying because of my hair, I still have insecurities about my natural hair and when I wear it out, people still say some dumbass things about it. If you're white, you wouldn't know obviously because it's white people who do that shit😑
Chelsea I'm not white. and I grew up in the south in American so yeah.... black women have always been the ones around me that have said shit about our hair ... all the "white" girls said they thought it was beautiful. idk what its like there but this video is a bunch of american girls that have nothing but self hate.
I'm not black and i hate when ppl touch my hair. Specially when i had it long. It's as if people somehow felt entitled to touch my hair just because. I personally don't indulge on anyone touching any part of me without consent.
When I was younger men & women who occasionally touch my hair when it was really long. -really not okay.
When I was younger, maybe 8 or 10, I went to this church with more white people than I was used to. I sat next to this white girl with really long hair. I don't know what prompted me to do it but I touched her hair and kept my attention on her hair most of the time. It was as if I had no self-control (I was a strange child) and she didn't WANT me to touch it. Every time I think about it I feel horrible and every time the memory starts to compare to a dream. I'm not sure anymore how it exactly happened but this is what I remember. What I did was very disrespectful and all I can do now is go forward because I will probably never get to see her again and apologize to her face. I wouldn't know...but maybe those people feel the same way too. Especially if they were children.
You were a child & had natural curiosity. I think you should forgive yourself this transgression. :) Had you been an adult such behavior would have been out of line. When I was five, I asked my Kindergarten teacher, whom I loved, why she was fat. I hadn't yet learned that 'fat' could be used as an insult. I hadn't known any large people & was truly curious. Had I asked as an older child or an adult I would have been totally out of order, of course. I thnik her answer was something to the effect of 'because'. I took her answer at face value & that was that. Btw: I wound up shaving my head for a few years after all the 'hair attention'. As a bald chick I got zilch to negative attention. It was a learning experience.
+Leslie Batz Thanks. You seem cool.
+Leslie Batz. Thanks for sharing. Great story.
Always natural. Had gigantic afro puffs in high school which annoyed my best friend Lille a Jamaican Hakan Chinese with bone straight butt length hair who used to get hit in the face by an afro puff whenever I turned to face her. Today in our fifties we both have boy cuts.
I love this comment :)
That is SO adorable
Very underated comment.😂😂😂
Wow. Idk why but I'm tearing up. Maybe I do know the reason, it's because in a society of "beautiful hair" black people aren't really excepted, and this video really opens my eyes. I'm 14, trying my hardest to grow my hair long to its full potential and not be fake to myself, and to stop trying to be someone I'm not.
am 14 too. Cut my hair last year. Entering high school. Am so loving the journey
5 months later, hope it worked out for you!
"We are trying to save lives out here" lol I like that...... I remember when I was a kid my mother would ask me to fetch a comb so she could wrestle my hair and braid it. I brought her a pair of scissors instead everytime and she would gladly chop it off. I'm glad she did not force me to endure the wrestling. I ultimately made the decision to grow it out when I was about ten. And for a number of years I truly believed that I looked good only with my y hair relaxed or when I had a weave until recently. I decided to stop relaxing it, it's shorter than it's ever been because I have 4c hair and it tends to shrink and I refuse to even blow dry it. I have never been happier with my hair. I feel so free. I braid it to protect it from overdrying but not all the time. I love it natural.
If you have time, Can you explain the grading of black hair? If I'm right (I'm guessing), a 4A is the loosest curl, and becomes tighter as they progress upward? Just curious.
Kinda yea it's actually a general system for all hair types. 1 is straight, 2 is wavy (beach waves), 3 is curly (big ringlets), and 4 is kinky (Afro, tight curls). As you go up in letters (a, b, or c) the less straight and more coiled the hair is. Most black hair falls under 3b - 4c and even under all those categories everyone's hair is different and has a mix of textures! :x
I'm really curious about black women hair because I have never seen it in real life xD But I would never touch random people's hair without permission.
SadvιαnilLa so you've never seen a black person??? Or do they just have their hair flat ironed all the time
høløpizza In my country is very unusual to see a black person, and the only few women I've seen had their hair straight so I've never seen natural black hair in real life xD
Where are you from??
Hadassa Débora Spain
SadvιαnilLa actually funny you mention this but I totally know what you mean, I grew up in Spain, Alicante and Madrid, and I never saw any black people while there, in Alicante, by the mid 80's I started seeing black men selling watches by the beach, very polite, nice and always smiling, me and my brother were fascinated by them. Wow I hadn't thought about that in so long!!! cheers from Canada, lol
It is just hair! I get mad when ppl touch mine but that's bc it takes time to do my hair and ppl putting their hand in my hair just isn't going to fly.
Tbh I don't mind a person or people touching my hair with my consent. People nowadays just reach out to touch my hair without asking then I'm a little pissed because 1 fact is I don't know where your hand been and is it clean? I take quite pride in my natural hair and I don't allow anything to just happen without my consent, period.
i like it when people wanna touch or admire my hair their curiosity makes me feel special 😊💯
Same.... Although the there are two types people comes down to it. There's the ones who admire it and find it beautiful or unique. Then, there are the ones who thinks it's weird and unattractive. But yeah your right.
Atlantis McDaniel yup unfortunately most of the the people who I'm around (my family) find it unattractive so i haven't worn my hair out in public since it was relaxed 1 year and 5 months ago and I've been natural for about 9 months
+Atlantis McDaniel, you're right. There are two types of people everywhere.
I am white and I happen to have natural frizz which looks like barbed wires. I don't do anything to my frizz like straightening or taming it. I just leave my frizz alone and stay natural. I have been like this for years. As a kid, I was called all sorts of names like "mop head," "witch," etc. Luckily, I was too thick-skinned for any insults. Then the 70s and 80s had made frizzy hair fashionable. Bedhead trend has made wild frizz acceptable. Since then, I have been getting compliments on my wild frizz.
+Meechi Lee, I am from a large white family. Out of 9, my younger sister and I are the only ones with thick frizz. We are both natural. My family find my frizz unattractive in a different way. They love frizz as fashion but they hate finding my loose hair everywhere. My family get annoyed with me, when they keep finding my hair in refrigerator, sinks, shower units, floors, etc - and hair in food. My family friend who stays with us keeps finding my hair on her milk carton, my hair stuck under her shoes, etc. When accumulated, my hair blocks the sink's hole, so all sinks in house have hair catchers. I never cook dinners at Christmas as you can guess why. I lose much hair and yet have so much growing back in place.
Like when I was younger, my hair was actually pretty tame, and actually a loose waves texture. (idek how)
But by Junior High, it became a big mass of frizz like a Lions Mane sort of. xD
People seemed to be fascinated by it though and compliment it and like to pet it (I didn't mind), because they thought it was so unique and different looking. xDDD
it's so weird that when you were growing up you got made fun of for it, but glad those times are behind you now!
Frizzy hair wasn't seen as fashionable though, so anyone else who said their hair did what mine did, always had it tamed down. xD
Tbh you can touch my hair if I can touch yours!! No double standards!
Oh my god I'd love that. :D It's like a double treat! I'd sit or lay down and you can take hours playig with my hair, I love that. :D
Haha, ummm, my weirdness aside, I'd never touch a black person's (or anyone's) hair without asking and getting permission first. ✌️
that's cool, but not to strangers on the street
This short film is wonderful. Being a cosmotologist I have had the opportunity to learn all types of hair.
When I was in Cosmo school there was a group of five black woman. Who from the start of school all hung out together. The other nationalities in the two year long class, formed different clicks as well.
I have always been what I like to call, a "social floater". Even in middle and high school, I never really belonged to one click. I had friends in all of them.
When we moved out to the floor, everyone tried to stay and keep as close to their friends as possible. Because I didn't have a certain group, I would tend to float and use different stations. But I would have to say that the chairs on either side of this group of black woman were,in my opinion, the best! I learned so much from them! More than from the teacher on the care of the different types of hair that black men and woman have. I was thankfull and blessed and man! Did we have fun!
After a few months, I noticed that the other girls in the class would ask me on breaks about what they had taught me. The first couple times I shared the info with them. But after awhile I started saying, "Why don't you just ask her! She knows so much more than I do!"
I would receive some type of uncomfortable statement and they'd walk away.
I'd always found social situations interesting but this one baffled me! So, when I got back on the floor, I asked the girls if they felt comfortable sharing with this other girl.
Many of them didn't want to. Their reason was that if they shared the info, then they could take their customers in the real world. Wow! I'd not thought of that!
So I asked, "Why teach me then?"
What they said in different ways but all in agreement and with laughter that it was because I asked. That, and I was craZy with a capital Z!
I still talk to a couple of those woman to this day. They helped me to not only learn about a different culture, but myself. They helped me find my voice.
I think what we should learn from this video is that every situation and person is different and that's okay. In fact, it's better than okay. It's wonderfully our world!
That was me lol after my big chop, when my hair started gaining back it's length, I was like omg wow look what my hair does its awesome !! lol
It's true when I was around 7 I hated my hair I remember wishing for my hair to be straight like the other girls. Remember being upset because the people at the beauty salons didn't know what to do with my hair and I ended up leaving in tears because they would cut it as if it was straight hair leaving me with a really short haircut that made me look like a boy. The most recent incident I've had is I was at the mall and this lady stopped me and said "oh my god is your hair a wig? Can I touch it?" I told her it wasn't and that she could (embarrassed to say no) and as she touched she gave my hair one good painful yank and said "I had to make sure it wasn't a wig" would it really had made her feel good if it was a wig and watched it tumble to the ground *smh
This black guy just touch my hair one time and I told him u can't do that and he was like it's not really Ur hair it weave...:wait what !! R u mad this is my natural hair and even if it was a weave its on my head . Don't touch my hair unless u ask and when u ask I will still say no.
WOOOW...it nv fails, they always hv somethin crazy to say!
amen!!
Why does it matter that he's black
Rowland Marshall it matters because only black people say dumb s*** like this! Our own people are always bad-mouthing us but get mad when someone else got some s*** to say about them! #PoorExampleToNonBlacks
It was about two days ago a white girl asked "is that weave in your hair", I told her NO (because I had in a bun and I have A TON of hair) I have natural hair, but I flat iron it every now and then, I guess you can say it LOOKS kinda of fake. A couple minutes later she walked up to me again and said "are you that isn't weave?". I could tell you a number of stories of racism that I've experienced and seen first-hand.
Weird how some feel that this is ok to touch another's hair.
It's not weird ......not all people are the same hunny
+Instigating Hoe No, most people do not want their hair touched. The only reason most of these women are allowing is to explain their story. However, randonly, after this, don't touch them. This project was very important and very informative. Listen to the video. This was done as a project..hunny
dude it takes me hours to style my hair so do not touch it. if you ask for permission I'm going to tell you where you can touch and where you can't. otherwise Don't Touch without permission that's just fucking rude
Is that wrong? And I think people stare at it because they are jealous that their hair isn't as unique
No. It's definitely not jealousy.
Laergulwen Ceylon I don't know if everyone that does it is jealous but I've had a woman tell me she wished she had the volume of my hair before. So I think it may be more adoration in some cases.
It's funny I watch this bc just a few days ago this (white) girl I know said my hair looked like a birds nest. This was the 2 or 3 time I had ever wore my hair like that to school. Well I was very upset. I decided a few days later to wear it in a fro (it looked exactly like the girl @ 7:05 in the video) again and the girl same girl said "You need to fix that. Lookin like Ronald McDonald" and tried to it touch and 'fix' it. I was so mad.
Don't listen to her! Rock your hair! That person has a narrow view, that's their problem, not yours.
Layah Williams I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. Please please please ignore that girl and anyone who has that same mentality as that ignorant girl. Don't let that bring you spirit down. Your hair is soul. Your hair is life. Remember that. You don't need to fix anything about your black beauty. Let your hair be natural and free. Much love 💜
Layah Williams don't listen to goons like that!! your hair is amazing and unique!! you don't need people like that, telling you to "fix" what naturally grows on your head, in your life. I have 3c hair, but I would absolutely die to have type 4 hair. it's gorgeous!!
Don't listen to her! She's mad because she's an ignorant, racist, basic bitch. We have to deal with people like this sometimes but that's HER issue. Black hair is beautiful and you should keep wearing it how you like just to spite her basic ass.
I think this is absolutely wonderful. Women of color have the most amazingly *beautiful* hair. However you choose to wear it, wear it with pride!
Me, personally, I have issues with people touching my hair. I find it too overstimulating, too personal. Perhaps, if asked first, in a kind and respectful manner, I might would allow it; but NO ONE should have their hair touched without having given that permission. That comes down to respecting people's boundaries, something that I feel more people could benefit from learning.
So many people ask to touch my hair on a daily basis,
I'm actually cool with it because it's always a conversation starter and I get to communicate with people everywhere I go 🌞
you have really cool hair
Me too! I don't know if I'd put myself on display like this but I definitely let people who ask touch my hair. I've even offered to let people touch my hair (mostly kids) when they ask questions about it. I've found that the more secure I am in myself, the less defensive and I am and there is the opportunity, like you said, to enter into a conversation and feel empowered.
Rom Com thank you :)
Andrea Hope very true, that's exactly how I feel :)
Don't touch people without their consent. Respect people. Period.
It's weird because people with straight hair ask to touch the hair of a black person or someone with curly/kinky hair, but I've literally never heard or heard of a black person or someone with curly/kinky hair ask to touch straight hair.
Leyu N I've been in a school with black people for 3 years and you're experience is very different from me, I guess. 4/5 of the girls overall have asked to touch my hair or just touched it without asking.
Leyu N Because as they said in the video, it has not been common for blacks to let their hair be natural, now that is changing and people see their natural hair for the first time. :)
Leyu N i thinks its cuz we know how it would feel
Leyu N I have curly hair and I always like to touch straight hair tbh
black girl with hugeee hair is soooo perfect it hurts
I like when people ask me to touch my hair lol idk why
cuz ya hair is NICE girl. Work it
Me too like they usually give compliments like it's fine with me
That makes me happy because it gives me hope that one day when I meet a black woman who wears her hair naturally maybe she'll allow me to touch her hair... 😮😍 hopefullyyyy!
essennagerry When my hair grows back, you can touch it for sure
+essennagerry awe
As a little "white" girl with traditionally racial characteristics to my hair (flat, bone straight and lifeless) I find natural black hair to be so vibrant and vivid and beautiful. When I was about 6 or 7 I remember Tina Turner's video coming out for "What's love got to do with it". I remember standing in the bathroom as my mom fixed my hair and looking in the mirror and telling her I wanted to look just like Tina Turner when I grew up, and being completely heart broken when she informed me that it was never going to happen. I remember thinking she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. Her hair was wild and unruly, she had the most beautiful skin I'd ever seen, and that girl had legs for days, and my god could the woman sing.
As an adult today, I still look at "black" women and am in awe of their beauty, whether they have a weave, cornrows, natural hair, whether they are bone thin or voluptuous, there is an elegance and a beauty to each and every one. In High school I chose to start going to an all "black" church, I was the only little white girl there. I was amazed by how vibrant and alive a Baptist church could be when I had been raised in a very reserved baptist church. I wasn't accepted there but I wanted to be. I didn't know people could be so alive with the spirit inside them, and if I had embraced my inner spirit and acted that way in the kind of church I grew up in I would have been committed.
I'm not that little "white" girl that you may have just decided that I am. My daughter has wild curly hair and since she was in 3rd grade would get up and straighten her hair at 6 in the morning, while I was faced with the wishing my hair had even just a slight bit of wave to it, or enough texture that it could hold false curls. She's just as "white" as I am.
We are all taught by culture and society from a young age that we need to 'fix' ourselves to be beautiful, regardless of the color of our skin. And sometimes it takes being able to recognize the beauty in others to see the beauty in ourselves. And when it comes right down to it, we just all want to belong and be accepted for who we are regardless of anything else.
That was lovely, thanks for sharing :-)
Your comment was really eye opening. I am 18 years old and although I am a male, the consequences to not being submissive to society's demands are really sad. It will make it harder for you to make friends, get in relationships and even get you in trouble with your own family.
The male counterpart for this problem is another thing that exists. Where I am from they call affro hair Cabello Malo (bad hair) and bone straight hair Cabello Bueno (good hair). If you have affro hair you're thought to not let it even get to a couple of centimeters before cutting it. If you let it grow, then you're immediately portrayed as a delinquent or a person with bad manners or a hobo.
I no longer care about people that judge me because I decided to let my hair grow big. I don't think any less of myself because of it and that's all that matters.
My point is simply this: the rules (all of the rules, not just the hair related ones) society goes by are NOT written in stone and breaking them does not make anyone a bad person.
[[Sorry if this had nothing to do with your comment April, I was just inspired to write this by what you wrote]]
Nobody should ever touch another person's hair without permission first, that's a literal body boundary.
I'm white and when I was younger there was a black girl in my class who wore her hair in two little Afro buns and I wanted her hair soooo bad. I asked my mom to take me to get a perm, it obviously didn't look like how I wanted it. But I've always been so obsessed with African American hair and I think it's beautiful!
The second I saw this I started humming don't touch my hair by solange
I'm Australian and I never knew Americans where so obsessed with black women's hair.
But I'm white and another women that I use to work with always touched my hair, brush her fingers through my hair and constantly went on about how she loved my hair, it made me feel so uncomfortable.
Rachel J I'm from NZ and same lol
Rachel J lol...pretty stupid.
Rachel J
Now you know
Why do people think all Americans are alike?
I transitioned my hair in 2016 and I'm never relaxing it till I die, it's so strange that even here in Africa, when they see you with natural hair, they call you a wannabe, so you mean I'm not even allowed to keep the hair that God gave me? Even some of my family members were so bothered that I wanted to keep my hair natural, they came up with things like how will you cope, who will help you make your hair, natural hair is too tough to maintain, natural hair is too expensive to keep. Thank God I stood my ground and said I'll accept whatever comes along and get used to my God given hair. Now I'm two years into natural hair and I'm very happy because I'm learning how to personally take care of my hair instead of going to the hairstylist's place every weekend and wasting money, I'm more independent, my hair has taught me a lot of patience, I feel more responsible that I'm capable of taking care of my hair and I can glorify God with what he put on my head. My hair is my crown, my beautification, my glory and I'll never come down to man made hair anymore. Now, I can look at the mirror and see my true reflection, I can see exactly how God wanted me to look.
Most of my friends (actually all) have that typically 4c kinky, soft hair. B4 I big chopped I was convinced that I was gonna get their type of hair, and then I big chopped and came to school with a wash and go and people were shocked! They were convinced that I was mixed with at least some race. Society has taught us as black women that we all have kinky 4c hair and if u have just a little loose curl ur automatically mixed. Embrace ur natural hair no matter what type. Love urself❤️
don't touch my hair. it's not a fucking petting zoo. do. not.touch.my.hair.
Ashanti Pat fr tho. Every time someone would touch my hair as a kid I would say "I'm not a dog, stop"
I seriously don't care about anyone touching my hair. It's just never been that serious to me. I've had bone straight, the afro and now I'm locing my hair. Hair has never been a statement to me, I just wear whatever I feel that day. I actually love when friendly people inquire about my hair and want to touch. Tbh I think this don't touch my hair attitude stems from bitterness and other internalized issues.
Auslynn fragoso True, But these usually are the same types of people that have sex with strangers. So it pisses me off.
yes, exactly. I have a friend who has dead straight hair (she's asian) and many people, yes some are black women, come up to her and just touch her hair. She doesn't get upset about it because she understands what they're feeling. Just tell someone you don't like it and be gone with it. I think people should learn to just chill a bit, be more laid back about things y'know.
It's a difference between asking to touch my hair and a total stranger invading your personal space and patting my head like a fucking dog that's not cool at all
Bea H. EXACTLY. I've never cared either. Still don't. Never related to this to be honest.
I absolutely love all the ladies hair in this! so beautiful!
I don't understand why so many of my black sisters react so negatively when somebody asks them if they can touch their hair!?
Well I understand if a stranger comes up and just touch it without asking, but if they ask nicely I would happily say "Go ahead!"
Too many black women see this offensive when somebody wants to touch their hair, because they think white people see our hair as something weird.
But most of the time that's not the case!
The white folk ALWAYS was fascinated with our skin, our hair, our lips and so on. Them wanting to touch us is not a response too our "weirdness" it's because it is different and interesting to them in a very positive way.
When I see a white chick with long straight healthy hair, I want to touch it too. Is it because I think it is weird? NO! It is because I think her hair is beautiful and I like to run my finger through it. I have never met a white girl reacting negatively when I asked to touch her hair, why does black women do it? Because their hair could be ruined?
Well then tell those people who wants to touch it HOW to touch it without ruining it.
Y'all black sisters do not help the white people exploring, understanding and excepting us, because you see everything as negative if the white folk show a bit interest in the black folk.
Start to be a bit more open and happy that people show interest too us.
*Difference is not something to be ashamed of and anything to hide or change, it's something to be proud of!*
Wow- Awesome comment!
Jasmin Aylea I have been thinking this for the longest time! I'm always flattered when my white friends want to touch my hair. They always give me compliments about how fluffy it is. I don't think it's an insult. If they ask, then I think it's fine. Then I tell them about my hair and they become for educated. How else will they learn?
Thank you thank you! I lived in Japan and it was very common for people to ask to touch my hair (I'm caucasian), and I know it's because they are curious simply because it's different than theirs. I think it is both flattering and beautiful for people to take an interest in our differences, and in my opinion it heals the divide. I've asked to touch other white girls' hair too, if it's different or if I think it's pretty :)
I have no problem with others wanting to touch my hair but u forget, that everyone's life experiences r different- some people r very sensitive, wounded, low self esteem,not very loving, etc- but in the end they have a right to tell others to not touch their hair-
Jasmin Aylea thank you! I was thinking the same thing why get angry about someone touching you're hair. It's hair in the end. When I have my hair natural people ask to touch it it's isn't rude they're just curious and like the girl in the video said there's nothing wrong with curiosity
This is great..however I still have a problem with people touching my hair despite their curiosity. Just something about personal space and hygiene that gets me. It especially frustrating when someone just shoves their hand in my fro that I spent an entire morning styling.
Ikr! and it takes hours to do and people have the nerve to just put their hands in my hair like it's their own!
all my life my hair has been permed and relaxed and damanged. i dont even know my hair type. ive treated it not the way it should bc of society. now im 18 wanting to shave all of it off and restart with a healthy relationship with my hair. thank you for this.
do it! my hair is stronger, longer, and healthier than it ever was while it was relaxed. when I was relaxed, my hair was my biggest source of insecurity. I've been natural for 5 years now, and I'm not going to tell you it's been easy and carefree, but it has been empowering and freeing. if you decide to cut your hair, just be patient with yourself until you figure out what it needs. other people have their entire childhood to learn how to take care of their hair, we didn't get that because the hair we took care of wasn't really ours. good luck 😊
Great. same here. I'm 16 and transitioning, I don't know my hair type but I'm most likely a 4b or 4c.
ah nice im pretty sure mine is 3b or 3a but idk. and 4b and 4c hair is so beautiful 💞
wowow im sorry but thats just ignorant. plenty of black ppl rock their curly hair not just mixed ppl. and its a shame you have to keep away your natural state which you really dont its your hair do it how you please. i hope you can be able to let your hair breathe. wish you the best of luck.
Stella viura That makes me so sad to hear. I hope one day when you're old enough, you can have control back of your hair.
Natural hair is most beautiful. It's real.
i can't believe people do this??? they're not stray animals that you can pet ffs, and I doubt you would want to be pet...
Im a mix of arab and african, and trust me,from the day a hair grew on my head my mom HATED it. I had an afro, and my mom belittled me, insulted me, made fun of me and more all for the texture of my hair. I got it relaxed and it was damaged for the next 4 years. However, now i am treating my hair right and my hair is looking as beautiful as ever, with its natural texture
Fuck no you can't touch my hair.
I'm black and I honestly didn't think it was that big of a deal. Went to a predominantly white school and for years my hair was touched, they always asked and they were never rude.Never had an issue with it.
A big deal about touching hair, oh my gawd yall!! Call the police!! I rock a fro for the most part, had people pat my head, I don't care cause for one thing, it feels good, and yes, it is super soft. I'm not gonna make a video about the origins of black hair and crap like that. The past is the past, people need to embrace the here and now. Screw the media, rock your hair the way you want it. Be different than the rest or be with the rest. That's your choice, not the world's. Bottom line, natural is beautiful and you're beautiful. God bless!
that's you.
kel m 2015 post, good job smart guy xD
2016...so.
Big RESPECT,
to the sisters on both sides of the argument. I feel you both have fair points. Even the fact that you made this video is pretty awesome, because people who watch this and have any sense may realize that no matter what either side are saying they both agree, as I do, that natural black hair whether it be dredd locks, Afro or whatever, is inherently beautiful and therefore it should be respected and treasured. I'm a brother from just outside London, England, and I have been trying to encourage any sister that I meet, to keep their hair natural and claim themselves and their heritage back. At times it is a struggle cause conditioning runs deep over here. So RESPECT once again my conscious sisters, keep teaching those that don't know and those that don't know that they don't know. Peace and Love.
Your brother from the same mother.
GkoolB
I get a lot of comments on my hair, I love my natural hair 😍, I will never go back to relaxers no matter what. It's a beautiful thing to go outside and see almost every black woman going natural. I also try to encourage younger girls to give it a try.
ALLREADY OBSESSED AF with this channel, great job you did here, the right messages.
I don't understand. Who in the fuck is going to a black women's hair and TOUCH it?
In my 24 years of existence, I've never done that. I don't understand. That is so creepy.
ive heard the stories. ppl actually yank the hair too :/
My hair is natural texture and someone reached out and touched it two weeks ago.
Back when it was still relaxed straight and shoulder length, a drunk white woman I barely knew sunk her fingers down to my roots and yanked. I think it was her desire to know if it was my own hair or a weave (which I never wear).
You can't really blame drunkenness cause: (1) drunkenness doesn't excuse bad manners, and (2) she had been eyeing my hair while sober. I guess she felt weird simply asking me anything she wanted to know, but not half as weird as I felt with her hand buried in my hair, dammit!
I'm fine with you touching my hair, but ask first. I'll answer any of your questions as long as you are courageous enough to ask them.
I have super fine straight hair. I have had curly, course haired gals ask to run their fingers through it. I have never felt invaded by people's curiosity with it. I would if some stranger randomly felt me up without my permission though. It doesn't make a person bad to ask questions & want to know about things new & different. If it did, learning curious children would be in trouble all the time. Learning about diversity & cultures is great but, ask first folks.
I'm crying. Black women are beautiful!! Your hair is amazing ! Please love yourselves
Yes! I hate that! At least have the decency to ask before you touch my hair, or any part of me for that matter. I am a HUMAN and have the same personal boundaries as you do. It's like people see something different and just forget that "Oh that a person with feelings and opinions too. Maybe I should treat her like I would like to be treated."
I am soooo proud of having real curly hair.
I remember when I was small even two years ago, that I didn't like my skin color nor my hair and it was because people around me made feel weird and insecure because I was different but I now I think that difference is the key.
And I'm fed up of people critising my hair that I just say "because you don't have ir or because you don't see it very often, does not mean that is ugly or strange"
CURLY HAIR IS BEAUTIFUL and people should accept it. The fact that it has lots of volume and that it make this bouncy effect does not mean that is distracting. In my school i have been said to straight my hair and I don't do it. The fact that they told to do so, makes me not do it and feel much more proud of my hair. EVERYONE SHOULD ACCEPT DIFFERENCE!
As a 33 year old white male I find myself kind of confused by this and what the meaning really is behind it. I find many black women with natural hair to be far more attractive than those who wear odd wigs and even some who wear braids. I think black women with big full natural hair can be very attractive, but I sure as hell wouldn't go and start rubbing it or grabbing it. Maybe I am just jealous since I am cursed with balding in the family. Yes, it sucks ass... I have had many people touch my head in curiosity as to what it feels like to be shaven. It never bothered me, never made me think so deeply, but then I guess I was never mislead into thinking my hair of lack there of was not as accepted in one form or the other.
I'm a white fellow, and have long curly hair naturally. I feel like everyone with really curly hair can relate to this, black or white. I'm Norwegian, so I'm super white, yet I always felt pressured to succumb to the American "white" standards. tan skin, stick straight hair, tall, slim, light eyes, etc. so at the age of 13 I'd already straightened and fried my hair to the point of bits falling out, dyed my natural auburn hair to a blonde. I had also developed serious eating disorders, which delayed my period until I was 17, and actually started eating again. I developed severe depression, etc. even me, possibly the most white a person can get, struggles to fit the norm. but now I'm letting my hair free, and it's been curly and untreated for years. but I find people fascinate over my curly hair because it's different, and I love myself and all my curly whiteness now!
people want to touch your hair because they are curious how it feels because we don't have the same hair structure, mine is wavy and silky, somebody elses may be very curly and not so silky.
OMG this brought up a lot of feelings. Spoke directly to the last 3 years of my life.
Seriously, no one wants to be touched unexpectedly; it's startling.
Just ask first!
Whether it's my hair or my pregnant belly.
Whether you are family or a stranger.
ASK FIRST that's all I want.
some warning.
some say in the matter.
please.
I wouldn't like people to touch my hair but at the same time I like that they think it's fascinating . Going to countries with not many black women or curly hair women they will stare and touch your hair like crazy... lol its really uncomfortable
Same thing happens to blond people who go to countries with only black people.
The fact that people feel SO ENTITLED to throw their hands into others hair like the line at starbucks is some sort of petting zoo never ceases to amaze me. JUST DONT TOUCH PEOPLE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT IT IS NEVER OK!!!!!!!
Personally, I don't mind if my hair is touched, as long as you ask and don't get really aggressive about it. I would be worried about whether or not it's greasy or dry or something but-if you ASK ME FIRST, it's fine. I'm newly natural and thankfully nobody's thrust their hand in my head yet. Maybe it's not long enough or smth. lol.
I just hate that we teach black girls that their hair is something to be tamed... I got my first relaxer at five years old, and it's all I've known until recently. it's been a real journey.
That's the thing. people are not asking. Their just diving in without any concern for the people whom hair they are touching. Some think as the lady stated in the video that they feel entitled, privileged to touch.
Here's my two cents on it. I'm a black young woman. To me, the way a person asks whether they can touch my hair really sheds light on the "why." I understand that as someone said in this video, even many black people haven't seen their natural hair. It's relatively new that it's even socially acceptable for us to wear our hair naturally (praise God!). I know a lot of people I encounter haven't seen or felt hair like mine before.
If I sense pure curiosity (and my hair is clean haha) then I'm like, "Go for it." If I sense more of a, "Your hair is so abnormal, can I touch it?" vibe then I say no. I'm not going to willingly be a display freak animal. Because sadly, some people approach the topic of my texture feeling bad for me, apologetic that I have such "unruly" hair.
TL;DR Whether I allow people to touch my hair is something I choose on a case-by-case basis in the moment.
The women holding the exhibit are opening up the channels for dialogue in a positive way; changing perception one conversation at a time. Whether the intention of the onlooker is negative or positive - that's up to individual. C'mon, who isn't curious about some of those textures or hair styles?? lol
The guy at the coffee shop probably thought the girl was cute and was enchanted by her look. He probably figured he had nothing to loose since he would never see her again once she walked out the door and threw caution to the wind. But that's not to say it wasn't totally invasive and weird. Not asking for permission to do so was also disrespectful and objectifying, but he was probably willing to live with that in exchange for the experience.
Thank you very much for posting this.. I work in an elementary school and there are many lovely black young girls who have lovely hair. There have been days when I see some of the girls hide their hair behind a hoodie. I tell the young ladies not to hide it, but rock it. They should be proud of how they look, and I want to encourage the young ladies. I am shocked about the articles I read in the USA about young girls being suspended for their hair. This blows my mind and I don't understand it. As educators we should embrace everyone and not make anyone feel like an outcast.
I wouldn't mind if someone asked to touch my hair, so i could say "yes" or "no". But to actually reach out and touch it, I think thats extremely rude and disgusting. Why would anyone just do that?
But like one of the first ladies said, its true that we had our hair permed at such a young age that, we have no idea how to maintain it when we finally go natural. Ive been growing my hair out for 2 years now, and I've been tucking it away in braids that are too expensive!!
im taking a stand, and taking them out tomorrow, and try to fiddle with it to see if I can do something with it. My mother is not going to tell me jack. (Shes one of those people who cares about society norms too much)
no you can't touch my hair , I am not puppy .
I'm not black, but I understand the grabbing of curly hair. People will come up behind me, grab chunks & say "Sorry I've just always wanted to do that!" That's freaking wierd.
When someone touched my hair at school, their hands would get greasy cuz of the oils and things and then they would be like ugh you need to wash your hair and tell other people not to touch my hair coz it's greasy and so I would just not put oils in my hair and it would get really dry. It was videos like these that encouraged me to be proud and embrace what I had so thank you xx
I don't have a problem when someone ask to touch my hair, but if they get aggressive and try to rake their hands through my kinks and curls then that's a problem. My cousin did that to me unexpectedly... I almost forgot who she was for a minute. lol Besides some women might think they feel like you're treating them like a pet... Just respect them instead of getting upset that they don't want their hair to be touched... it could also mean you could mess up how they have their hair set up or they just don't want you in their personal space.
thank you! I don't know why its so hard for people to get it!
I'm a black girl and this video reminds me of something that happened to me in highschool. I was sitting in class and behind me I heard a white girl say, after moments of observing the back of my head, "I would kill myself if I had that hair." Among other nasty insults. I know she knew I heard because she said it loudly as if there was nothing wrong with saying something so hurtful. And it hurt, really bad. I still remember the moment and wish I would have said something but instead I just cried later that day and from then on I was insecure about my hair.
To be honest when my hair was relaxed I enjoyed people playing in my hair. Now that I'm natural I HATE it. Like it takes so much to get my curls the way I want them and people trying to touch and play in my hair is disrupting my curls. Also if my hair is slightly still wet I don't want people touching it and be like ew, your hair is wet lol. Also when I was still in high school there was this one white boy and this black girl in my class had really beautiful curly hair and the boy literally came out of nowhere and raked his hand in her hair (from roots to tips) and he was shocked and in disgust that his hand got stuck in her hair. I was like wtf you mean she has curly hair you can't just comb straight through it and expect it to go perfectly straight through like straight hair. Like no. That's rude you don't just go up to people and start touching their hair like that.
Don't touch me or my hair PERIOD
Society will always make people feel like their never good enough. You have to be confident with yourselves not worry about other ppl opinions or stupidity
+Saint Barbie *spoiled
+princess leon lol
This is such an inspiration. I started perming my hair when I was about 4 and my hair was very long until I got about 10 and my hair started breaking. When I was 12 I decided to go natural. At first I felt very embarrassed about my hair but now I love it. It's been almost 3 years and a lot of times I think I should perm my hair again but then I watch videos like this and it reminds me how unique and amazing my hair is. Thank you :)
Is this something people in the US do?? How do you walk to a person you don't know and randomly touch their hair, or ask to touch it. Like, I don't know you, I don't know where your hands have been, don't touch me wtf??
For gods sake - there are wars, people starving, people with nothing. You all have houses and food on the table, stop complaining. It's just hair! I don't remember anyone saying curly hair was ugly anyway.
honestly I think this "movement" is made up bs
2150yes you're made up of bs.
You, sir, have been living under a rock.
it's just a personal thing, a struggle to live with
Koolkrazykid10 I'm a girl