14: Heal the Split between Head and Heart: Inner Bonding with Margaret Paul
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- You’ve heard it before - here, and elsewhere - in order to show up in relationship, you have to be able to show up for yourself. What does it mean to actually be able to show up for yourself? On top of that, have you ever experienced a split between your head and your heart - and do you know how to heal it? I’ve heard time and time again with friends and clients - “my heart wants one thing, my head wants another?” - but being able to feel like you’re fully in alignment is not only possible - it’s required for you to be able to be fully YOU in life.
Today’s guest is Dr. Margaret Paul, psychologist and co-creator of Inner Bonding - and the author of the book “Inner Bonding”. As you’re about to find out, Inner Bonding is a straightforward practice - which we’re going to teach you how to do on this episode - that will help you heal the split between head and heart, and give you the presence that you need to show up fully in relationship - and in your life. It’s helpful for addiction and depression - as well as breaking patterns of co-dependence and jealousy in relationship.
Margaret and I discuss the following aspects of her work:
Inner Bonding is a technique in which you learn to truly connect with your feelings, your wisdom/knowing, and your higher sense of guidance - and to connect them all with each other. Not only is it helpful to be able to tune into each aspect, but it is also impactful to bring them into alignment and support with each other. The process brings about a feeling of total internal alignment and integrity.
Many people go into relationships to GET love instead of to SHARE love, and that is what makes all the difference in the world regarding relationships. Inner bonding will allow you to feel full from the inside out. Through practicing it, you can fully choose yourself - and then be able to share/create more love with your partner. If you’re seeking love from your partner, that is a recipe for eventual codependence.
In Inner Bonding, the term “Inner Child” refers to your feelings and your innocence - the core of your essence. This part of you is connected deeply to your unique potential - what you have come into the world to express. If we numb our feelings through turning to some form of addictive behavior, then we miss the huge source of internal guidance. Even a “spiritual bypass” (going to a place of spiritual connectedness BEFORE getting in touch with your inner child) can be ultimately detrimental to your being fully YOU.
Your “Inner Adult” is the part of you that is learning and growing each year of your life. This part of you is as “wise” as your years and experience. And, just as an adult is responsible for a child, that adult part of us is responsible for listening to and tending to the needs of the feeling/innocent/essence part of us.
As you will see - Inner Bonding teaches you how to access your higher guidance for wisdom BEYOND your years. Your inner adult doesn’t have to do it all alone. Through inner bonding, you can learn how to contact the part of you that is in touch with the knowing outside of the limits of your experience.
In Inner Bonding, there are only two intentions possible: the intention to protect against painful feelings through some sort of controlling behavior, and the intention to learn about loving ourselves. The latter intention occurs when we are in the loving adult stage and can connect with higher guidance, love, and wisdom. It is powerful in opening us up to a high-frequency energy level. Since most of us did not have good role models for loving ourselves, so we need higher guidance.
Why are these two INTENTIONS important in the context of relationships? If you come into a relationship feeling unworthy, disconnected, and empty, then you expect the other person to “fill you up” and give you meaning and safety - to “protect” you from these uncomfortable feelings. Frequently we also attract common levels of woundedness in a partner. As we become emptier and emptier, we become resentful and controlling to feel love and avoid pain.
The main cause of relationship problems is self-abandonment and the controlling behavior that results. This is where Inner Bonding comes in. Practicing the six steps will yield love, inner worth, shared love, growth, fun, companionship, and support. Aren’t those the things we all desire in a relationship?
What if someone says, “I’m not feeling unworthy or unloved, but I just want more sex with my partner”? If someone wants sex because that is how they create feelings of worthiness and connection, then that’s a problem. If you want sex, and your partner isn’t in the mood, and you can respond without anger and neediness, then that’s a sign you’re coming from a place of love. If you become angry and controlling, or...
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I’m so grateful I have found this process and applying it to my life. I’ve had an inner shift. Thank you Margaret💖
So many people go into relationships to get love rather than share love. Wow!
The loving action “is the sugar” we need for honest hard truth.
Thank you so much for this Neil and Margaret. So informative and enriching.
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I love this. Just discovered it!
Yep getting her book!
Love your neighbour AS you love yourself...
Love yourself then you will have enough love to love your neighbour...inner bounding!
ThankYou for this video. May I ask how many commercials should I be experiencing while watching/listening to this ?
I’m seeing constant commercials, too many.
I’m working on chores while listening and the constant commercials and some are extremely long... (Randy Jackson’s from America’s got talent, diet pill sales pitch)
Now as I’m writing this Goalie Apple Cider gummies. I hope you will understand that ppl are trying to fix their lives and anyone doing the work of helping those that need this... it’s better recieved when it’s coming from a place of others seeing this as their calling/perhaps you’ve lived a similar experience, so you’re naturally happy to help. I just wouldn’t rather not feel as if someone is profiting from the pain of others. There’s too many other videos on RUclips on this same subject. Btw... as I’m finishing this, another commercial. This is over commercialism. You gain some from a few commercials versus greed from inundating your viewers with commercials.
Now another EMF radiation coming out of ph blocker... commercial absolutely ridiculous !
You definitely should NOT have been seeing all those commercials. I had accidentally changed a setting that automatically created way too many ad breaks - sorry about that - all videos will be fixed pronto!
Awesome 👏
ThankYou Neil,
I want to thank you again and I appreciate your diligence and just being real.
Out of respect for a channel that heart fully is trying to help people and I apologize for getting a bad impression, I want to erase that comment but I also want to give you time to catch this one.Thank you again.
Shut that music off in the introduction!
Definitely stop that music
Good content. Sound is not so great.
HeartMind institute
What if your partner used to have sex with you 8 hours a day and for the last 3 years you’ve been cut down to maybe 5 times a year. You reach out with heart and love, you get mad, you reason but nothing works. Am I controlling to freak out when sex is being withheld? Also 3 years ago I caught him in multiple affairs 7+ and try to move forward. No sex puts me into full panic 🤷🏻♀️
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