Just an FYI, this video was just a review video of the brush. This is also a short view of the whole 3 minute video we actually did. If you’d like more in-depth, it’s posted on TikTok, as they let you post longer short videos. This is just a demonstration of the brush, not a hair tutorial. Thanks ❤
Just wanted to throw out a product suggestion that I use on my hair. Its called African Pride Detangle and Condition Pre-Shampoo. When used on damp-wet hair it has really amazing slip that allows your brush of choice to glide through the hair easily. Happy Detangling lol 😊
Question: that black hairbrush, is it 3 separate pieces in one handle?! 😮 can you show it better. ( I HATE brushing my hair, its painpul and a nightmare, and I can never find a good brush 😢)
"It's not a bad brush it's just not for us" THAT is a perfect way to review a product. You listed the pros and cons and you didn't bash the product, it just didn't work for her hair type and sensory needs. ❤
She may be autistic and nonverbal but Mikko is very expressive and she let's you know what she wants, likes and don't lol. She has come a long way and we're enjoying this journey.. thanks for sharing her with us!!!! I burst into tears the first time I heard her speak
i been thinking ab the video of her in the yellow dress when she didn’t like her hairstyle like every day 💀💀💀 SHE DIDNT SAY A WORD BUT the message WAS received.
@@nickiedoyle1731is it weird to feel empathy? its a sign of a lot of progress it makes sense that it would make people emotional 🤷♂️ human brain does that sometimes
@nickiedoyle1731 You do know where you can go, or do you need me to draw you a map?! Trolls are on their job. Hell, yall don't even take off for holidays! Mikko has come a long way, and she doesn't have to be my child for me to be proud of her! If you feel that you have to know a person to care about accomplishments, then you need the help.
I don't know your age. I'm 71 and that's the way my parents did us. It got to the point where I didn't speak until I was spoken to. I can't imagine your hurt and pain when growing up. I'm so sorry!!
Comments like these enrage me so bad at the folks calling people who don't want abusive "parenting" "snowflakes". They really hate children don't get abused like them and still are of the opinion they turned out right.
I sincerely think a huge part of parents who perpetuate the idea that hitting your kids is okay, are not a place in their own healing journey where they can admit to themselves that they were abused by their parents. Acknowledging abuse is incredibly difficult especially when it's from people who "love" you. I think ultimately as therapy and mental health conversations become less and less stigmatized and more parents teach emotional intelligence to their children, the fewer future instances of abuse there will be. I wish emotional intelligence was an important part of education in schools from pre-k through college. Then everyone could learn how to better manage their emotions instead of stuffing them down or lashing out destructively.
my mom gets really upset if i get upset, especially when it comes to my hair. if she gets upset with how I'm acting(ex, me groaning at her pulling too hard)then she'll start doing my hair angrily and make it worse + telling me im overreacting bc she doesn't understand me. i just got my hair washed and there was water on my face that made me feel icky, so i tried to get the towel under me but she was also trying to pull it for me herself. I couldn't bring myself to speak(i guess i sorta shut down)so i started groaning and pulling away from her, which made her grab onto me and start yelling at the water i got on the floor. im black and might be autistic(all i know is that im obviously neurodivergent but my mom says i dont have it since she didn't see it before and also that i got it from the internet??)
Once again, just thank you. Thank you for being so gentle and accommodating with her. Most of us neurodivergent people had it rough as kids due to not being “normal” which led to us feeling ostracized. So thank you for making home a safe space for her and being so kind and loving.
Frr, my mom told me I cried everyday when she did my hair, and I didn’t even have 4c or 3c hair (that would’ve been a hell for me tbh🥲🥲), my curls where a little bigger and my hair was long, but it still was very hard to brush trough it without me crying. My mom tried everything, and ended up cutting my hair a bit shorter. I liked it and it was cute so she didn’t force me to get my hair cut, but when she was done I never saw my curls again😢 I’m still sad till this day but oh well🥲 (maybe if someone got tips to get the old curl pattern back, I would appreciate that a lot, bc that’ll literally change my life😂🩷I miss my curls🙁)
I know what you mean my daughter would scream anytime she saw a comb. It was so hard when she would holler and cry that I would work her hair on sections and give her a break when she got upset. But with time and patience and trying different products it did get a lot better.
@@peligrodefrio5303Don't brush your hair. Only detangle hair in the shower using a wide tooth comb while you have conditioner in your hair. Use shampoo (or cowash which is basically like lighter weight conditioner you use as shampoo) and conditioner for curly hair without silicones and no sulfates. Curls thrive on moisture but depending on the thickness of your hair, some people need lightweight moisturizers like a spray leave in conditioner for thinner hair that gets weighed down easily and others need to strategically layer cream, then oil, then gel to lock in the moisture. Depending on the length of your hair and your curl pattern there are several different techniques on how to style your curls but I recommend not really drying your hair when you get out of the shower and then scrunching in your product to help the curls form. Many people have found success following the deva curl techniques and using their products however I haven't used them so I can't give a more informed review. If you can go to someone who specializes in cutting curly hair they will help train your hair to follow its curl pattern better over time as well. Unfortunately most of what works for you will be trial and error. The most recent brand I've had tons of success with is Pattern and it can be purchased online or in Ulta stores. Good luck, curls aren't for the faint of heart
Thank you for taking her needs into consideration AND still allowing her to have healthy, well-maintained hair. I'm austistic and didn't know for quite a while, but my hair has always been very important to me.
Not to sound any type of way but why do you thank the mother for the way she takes care of her child….? This is a newer thing people do and I find it really strange… like this ain’t your child… I understand where your coming from and I have ASD as well as my son but it’s bizarre since you don’t even know either of them
@@Iamyl4it's hard to explain but when you've had a hard childhood it just feels wonderful and refreshing seeing people live out the opposite and there's a feeling of gratitude for them sharing it
@@Iamyl4 it's because they appreciate the love and care this mother is putting into her autistic child and they are letting her know they appreciate it. It makes people happy to see a child or a pet or just any dependent living creature being well cared for by their caregivers.
She's so adorable. I'm glad that she likes her regular brush. No need to change what works for her. You're a good mother. She'll grow up strong and confident with your love.
I am 42 and I have an extremely sensitive scalp and I use that black brush. It is the only brush that doesn’t put me in tears. It is still slightly uncomfortable but it is manageable. That black brush is amazing.
Have you tried putting her hair in med sized plaits or twist? That way you dont have to comb her hair daily and you can wash her hair in the twist/plaits and make wash day easier and less painful. It may take a little longer doing 1 twist/plait at a time but, its less painful with less tension. I know she may not sit as long, but it's just a suggestion. Hope it helps.
I have thick natural hair and I always do 10 moist or dry twists with oil at night. I wear a silk bonnet and only brush and comb on wash day. The twist out is amazing when nothroomef every day. My preference though because I'm tender headed like this beautiful baby. All of the brushing and pulling could be making her scalp sore.
I love seeing moms of autistic children that are actually caring and not taking videos of their child’s autistic meltdown and just saying ‘this is what I deal with fml’ I love seeing the huge spectrum of autism, I have autism as well and I have mutism (I mainly talk but if I’m overstimulated or overwhelmed I just shut down) I don’t know how you mean she uses her hair to stim but I find stimming extremely interesting as most have their own stim. From hand flaps and finger popping to stomping and even vocal stims are so cool to me. I love learning about the brain and psychology and how it affects our day to day lives and honestly this account is perfect. ❤
Hi, loved your comment. Just wanted to share my own two cents. My sister, mother, and brother are on the spectrum. Growing up with them has taught me that the only difference between someone with autism and someone who isn't is the way they communicate, just like someone with ADHD, or impaired hearing/seeing/movement! I hate hearing about people who think those with autism are 'throwing a fit', 'overreacting', ect.. Because that isn't true. The SOLE difference is the way they communicate. They aren't 'having a meltdown'. They're experiencing sensory overload, and their reaction is THEIR way to communicate it. Just because my family's communication methods may be different, it doesn't make them less of a person with feelings, frustrations and self-esteem. By belittling someone for a part of themselves that they can't control would be like making fun of someone's accent. My brother is in a class for kids with disabilities, and many of them are nonverbal. In no way does this make it more difficult to communicate. Neurotypical people tend to forget that more than half of our communication relies on BODY LANGUAGE. My brother's favourite stim is twirling a strand of hair. He always insisted on keeping his hair long so he can do it. He also takes the chance to twirl my hair, or the dogs hair at any occasion!
@@honeysickle that’s amazing (not that they’re suffering from a mental disability but great that they have you) Me and my little sister both have autism, when she’s upset she completely freaks out and gets loud and stomps a lot while I shut down and go silent and have to go to a silent area or I will cry. Autism is a huge spectrum and while it’s rough being on that spectrum (communication issues, ableist saying it doesn’t exist, sensory overloads, etc) I love being on the spectrum because it’s brought me friends. You know the saying ‘opposites attract’? Not when you’re neurodivergent. For some reason we all kinda find each other.
@@debj5114 huh, I dunno, I do know that hair is a big part of stimming, whether it’s a nice movement (twirling hair) or a self-injurious stim suck as pulling out hair which can turn into trichtillomania if it keeps up. So it could be I dunno yet I just recently started watching this channel
This is how you treat an autistic kid! I love how you respect her despite being a small child with a mental disability. Instead of trying to make her as normal as possible, I like how you accommodate her comfort needs. We need more parents like you
@@Maria-up2yv … it’s a disability… by ‘mentally disabled’ I’m not calling autistic people stupid, but autism is classified as a mental disability. Some autistic people (and I am one) may be low support needs but it still inhibits one’s ability to function. Some autistic people may not like the term disabled (I don’t know of any but they might be out there) due to stigma, discrimination, etc, but that doesn’t change the fact that it is disabling. I have bad shutdowns that prevent me from talking, doing things, processing information etc. and this is coming from someone with low support needs. I’m completely open to hearing your reasons just to be clear. I’d just like to ask (since this is the internet) that you be generally respectful of me. I don’t mean to come off as rude or anything with this, I’m just kinda confused.
@robinthepunk autism is not just in the brain, Studies have shown that the whole body is a part of the condition. The definition of autism is changing all the time because nobody knows what it is. I'm not saying you came off as rude at all, but where I'm from it is not classified as a mental disability. But a neurological disorder. And even that will change. My nature doesn't inhibit the way I naturally function. Society does and the fact its designed by and for neurotypicals. The same way being left handed isn't inherently an impairment either despite a long time of people claiming that it was. Actually just looking now, since my diagnosis the title has actually changed from ASD to mean disorder, to ASC to mean condition. I have shutdowns and meltdowns too. But I know for a fact if I were able to live freely as I'm meant to according to my nature, I wouldn't probably feel that way nearly as much.
I have a SUPER sensitive scalp and a TON of hair trauma because of my autism. Thank you for nurturing her and being understanding. Some tips that work for me are: work in SMALL sections and detangle slowly, use lots of slippery conditioning products, and be patient. ❤ I know it's a lot, but she's lucky to have you.
She’s such a strong and brave little girl. My little sister always had trouble with getting her hair brushed because she has a lot of curls and her hair gets tangled so much in the morning. She’d always cry and could never stay still. Props to your little girl! She’s so tough.
I’m glad you’re acknowledging her sensitive scalp. Somewhat healing my inner child watching this…. My family wasn’t necessarily “abusive” when I was little, but my parents realised when I was very young that my scalp was sensitive, so they’d grab and pull me by my hair as a form of discipline. I remember my dad lifting me up by my hair if I caused the smallest of annoyance, and carry me like that to the bathroom and lock me in there. My mom on the other hand would purposely brush my hair very roughly and scold me for crying. I’m happy to know this child lives in a safe home where her weaknesses won’t be taken advantage off.
.....You're in denial. That is abuse. Don't make excuses for your abusers. I wish you all the best in life. You were just a kid. No one deserves to be physically and emotionally abused like that.
That is 100% abuse. I hate to to say that. But they intentionally caused you pain. They preyed on your weakness. Abuse can take many forms. I hope you're able to find some healing from your emotional scars. 💖
that’s still abuse as awful as it sounds, they found something they could exploit of you and used it in a negative way with the intent to knowingly cause harm. i’m really sorry that happened to you but i’m happy that you’re ok now
That sounds an awful lot like abuse. They intentionally hurt you in a way they *knew* would hurt. Also to punish a child for crying is kinda fucked up. Sorry to drop the ball on you there
I use the same exact brush. The black brush is my absolute FAVORITE. Especially if you have thick, long and curly hair. My hair is naturally curly and probably the same texture as Mikko's hair. I don't have a sensitive scalp and it took YEARS for me to find a brush that I like. I can only imagine if I had a sensitive scalp.
@@purplemuffin117 I have the brush too. Tangle Buster. I got mine for like, $10-13 at Walmart over a year ago. My daughter and I both have curly hair (3A and B on both at most defined strands), but my daughter is also neurodivergent (Unsure if it's autism or not yet as she is still being tested) and has a sensitive scalp. This brush really allows for less tears. I've tried combs, paddle brushes, bristle brushes and even other curly detangling brushes and nothing compares. We use it in the shower with conditioner and sometimes it feels like it's making the tangles and knots melt away as it glides through.
I'm very glad that you understand her and what she needs! I'm autistic, and when I was younger, brushing my hair was definitely difficult at times because of how sensitive my scalp was and still is, and my aunt would mistake the noise was bothering me instead of the actual brush itself. I can not tell you how many times it put me in tears! I'm so glad you understand her!
I'm also autistic, my scalp is EXTREMELY sensitive. I used to cry and scream during any hair treatment and my mom hadn't the patience for it. We always thought I was just overreacting, but my doctor explained that it is one of autism's characteristics and I felt so so validated… It's been almost six months since I was finally diagnosed, and it feels like I'm finally being able to understand myself better (I'm nineteen btw!)
I just got diagnosed with autism this year and no matter how old I get, I’m still going to have sensitive scalps. My mom still doesn’t have the patience for me when doing my hair, but I’m so glad I got the diagnosis.
@alita8900 I hate getting my hair done too and my scalp hurts if anyone breathes on it too hard. I used to give my mom so much trouble to get my hair done as a kid, even now as an adult putting my hair in ANY style hurts. I have so much hair in my head missing from when i cut it out due to my lack of patience . I'm wondering if i should get tested
My scalp is also extremely sensitive. Like soooo sensitive I have to use the conditioner for babies (to be specific Johnson's baby conditioner). I'm not kidding, and I have eczema which makes it worse.
It’s good you went with the original. I feel like changing brushes can be hard because when you have a brush you know how the sensory experience will be so you can at least anticipate. I sometimes hang on to things because that way I know what they will feel like and I know the way they look and that’s super comforting. Her hair is absolutely gorgeous and I am blown away by how well she tolerates brushing. That can be such an intense sensory experience.
It is incredible to see such kind and gentle parenting for nonverbal autistic children. You, ma’am, are a wonderful human. Your videos move me nearly to tears.
Sometimes I wonder how the hell we survived and became functioning adults being neurodivergent back in the day. You’re so sweet and making sure your baby is comfortable is beautiful to watch.
She's such a cutie! Even without using words you can discern her preferences and personality. You did a grand job reviewing the brush, even giving it a second attempt and making note about it just not being something that would work for your use. Love you guys and hope you have a wonderful rest of the day if you see this message!
Beautiful child. I've never been diagnosed with autism and cannot imagine her view - except that I remember as a child my hair was thick, curly, and knotted so easily, dealing with it could be a struggle and leave me in tears. Hair products have come a long way since the seventies!
Your nomal brush is my usual brush and I absolutely love it. I have very thick, very curly hair and it is a pain to detangle. That brush is the best thing I have found as well. There is a similar brush by British M with bristles that are more bendy and therefore feels more gentle, but I feel it takes longer too. This brush just gets it DONE.
@@kcat44hey! I couldn’t find anyone on here saying what the black brush is BUT I saw one on the internet called ‘KareCo tangle buster brush’. Not sure if it’s the exact same one, but it looks pretty darn close
What a patient mum! You’re so amazing! It’s so great to see you doing what works for you guys and accomodate her autism and non-verbal communication, all while taking care of her gorgeous hair. I KNOW how difficult it can be to care for. You’re an amazing mum and I’m so sure that she appreciates it more than you will ever know ❤
Your sweet baby girl is so beautiful (like her Mama) that she could wear any hairstyle and still be adorably beautiful. But those perfect curls make adult women jealous. At least this (old) adult woman. You are a wonderful Mama and your videos give hope and help to parents that are starting or in the deepest part of their journey to give their special kiddos the best life possible. Thanks for all you do for your sweet baby and all of those out there needing help. ❤❤❤
Agreed, Wet Brush has been fantastic for my hair. I'm white, though, and have very fine, straight hair, so I have no idea how well it would work for Mikko's hair.
This. I bought one for a friend with 4c hair and the moment I went through her hair with it I was in love. I bought one for my curly hair immediately. I've been using several kinds of WetBrush for mine and my kids hair for years before that because we're all on the spectrum and it made getting ready a breeze.
Not sure if it works for natural black girl hair because im white and have wavy hair rather than curly, but I have a sensitive scalp and love mine, so I absolutely agree with this suggestion if it works for her hair type and doesn't make it frizzy like mama said the unbrush did❤
Sometimes I feel like people who design detangling brushes don’t really interact with 3C texture or tighter. I’m glad y’all have a good routine for her hair, especially with her stimming with it!
Thank you. I keep seeing sponsored posts about this damn brush and they all act like it's a godsend. I'm glad to finally see an actual honest review of this brush. It just looks like a regular damn brush.
Hairdresser 24 years. I love Paul Mitchell super skinny serum for all curly hair types. And especially for kids. Ive used it on ethnic mens hair so i can brush through it, so the clippers don’t pull. I learned about this from my friend, another hairdresser , who’s hair was down past her bum and is naturally curly and ringlets. With this serum she can use a cutting comb to comb her hair with virtually no tangles. It works on wet and dry hair and you only need a little. The smell isn’t bad at all. I really think this will help you when brushing her hair. Also, right after your done washing her hair use a 100 percent cotton mens under shirt to wrap the hair in. this helps not to rough up the cuticle so theres less snarling. Love your faces!!!!!!
Use the brush that works for her. She does amazing!!! Most kids that have sensitive scalps will hardly let you touch them... And a lot of times they're not as tender headed as we think they're just annoyed with having to sit there.❤
Her with long hair is like torture. I know she needs some hair for twirling so she doesn't get upset but would a hair style with low maintenance be best. Mostly short hair style.
I’m autistic and struggled greatly with hair brushing even with very easy to work with hair. Both you and your daughter are doing so well getting through this difficult task, you’re a really lovely mother.
Honestly the ”it’s just not for us” comment is so legit. It is also to notice that if one buys a new brush they might hold it the same way they are used to holding the old one and brush patterns and the way you hold them makes a BIG difference. One should use what they are most comfortable with
Mommy I have autistic grandchildren and the way you teach and learn with your daughter is absolutely awesome. I learned new things today. Thank You for sharing 😍 May God Bless you and your family 💝🙏🏾
Thank you for being so kind in taking the time to do her hair. I don’t have curly hair but it’s thick and sometimes difficult to manage. My mom had two ways to dealing with it, straightening with no protection or a high ponytail. The way she used to brush my hair in the morning still makes me cringe. Finding the right brush for Mikko will be a journey, but you are doing everything right. Thank you
I can remember my younger sister, also autistic and more verbal now, she would grab the brush out of our hands and throw it across the room and her curls were nowhere near as thick. The patience this takes is amazing and the level of calm Mikko shows speaks volumes about how amazing you are.
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Just an FYI, this video was just a review video of the brush. This is also a short view of the whole 3 minute video we actually did. If you’d like more in-depth, it’s posted on TikTok, as they let you post longer short videos. This is just a demonstration of the brush, not a hair tutorial. Thanks ❤
Just wanted to throw out a product suggestion that I use on my hair. Its called African Pride Detangle and Condition Pre-Shampoo. When used on damp-wet hair it has really amazing slip that allows your brush of choice to glide through the hair easily.
Happy Detangling lol 😊
Ur a great mama and Ur doing great
Your both so beautiful. Your the best mom for that special precious little girl. God knows who and when. 😊
Question: that black hairbrush, is it 3 separate pieces in one handle?! 😮 can you show it better. ( I HATE brushing my hair, its painpul and a nightmare, and I can never find a good brush 😢)
She is absolutely adorable
"It's not a bad brush it's just not for us" THAT is a perfect way to review a product. You listed the pros and cons and you didn't bash the product, it just didn't work for her hair type and sensory needs. ❤
I think its more cause Tiktok has become all about Tiktok store so people lie or hype thibgs up to sell
I’m autistic and used to HATE anyone brushing my curly hair, I wouldn’t let it happen. Tangle teasers have been a game changer for me.
What does this have to do with anything?@@Fenrires
yes
@@treubakingthe comment is literally the exact topic of the video...
She may be autistic and nonverbal but Mikko is very expressive and she let's you know what she wants, likes and don't lol. She has come a long way and we're enjoying this journey.. thanks for sharing her with us!!!! I burst into tears the first time I heard her speak
i been thinking ab the video of her in the yellow dress when she didn’t like her hairstyle like every day 💀💀💀
SHE DIDNT SAY A WORD BUT the message WAS received.
Absolutely. Many people confuse non-verbal with non-communicative.
And often, silence speaks louder than words.
How weird you burst into tears hearing someone else's child talk .. maybe speak with a therapist because that's weird
@@nickiedoyle1731is it weird to feel empathy? its a sign of a lot of progress it makes sense that it would make people emotional 🤷♂️ human brain does that sometimes
@nickiedoyle1731 You do know where you can go, or do you need me to draw you a map?! Trolls are on their job. Hell, yall don't even take off for holidays!
Mikko has come a long way, and she doesn't have to be my child for me to be proud of her! If you feel that you have to know a person to care about accomplishments, then you need the help.
Mikko definitely not wanting you to switch up... Her communication skills are progressing very well!
Man I’m autistic when I was a kid if I made a sound my family didn’t like I’d get beat so badly. Thank god your doing this
I don't know your age. I'm 71 and that's the way my parents did us. It got to the point where I didn't speak until I was spoken to. I can't imagine your hurt and pain when growing up. I'm so sorry!!
Comments like these enrage me so bad at the folks calling people who don't want abusive "parenting" "snowflakes". They really hate children don't get abused like them and still are of the opinion they turned out right.
I sincerely think a huge part of parents who perpetuate the idea that hitting your kids is okay, are not a place in their own healing journey where they can admit to themselves that they were abused by their parents. Acknowledging abuse is incredibly difficult especially when it's from people who "love" you. I think ultimately as therapy and mental health conversations become less and less stigmatized and more parents teach emotional intelligence to their children, the fewer future instances of abuse there will be. I wish emotional intelligence was an important part of education in schools from pre-k through college. Then everyone could learn how to better manage their emotions instead of stuffing them down or lashing out destructively.
I’m so sorry
my mom gets really upset if i get upset, especially when it comes to my hair. if she gets upset with how I'm acting(ex, me groaning at her pulling too hard)then she'll start doing my hair angrily and make it worse + telling me im overreacting bc she doesn't understand me. i just got my hair washed and there was water on my face that made me feel icky, so i tried to get the towel under me but she was also trying to pull it for me herself. I couldn't bring myself to speak(i guess i sorta shut down)so i started groaning and pulling away from her, which made her grab onto me and start yelling at the water i got on the floor. im black and might be autistic(all i know is that im obviously neurodivergent but my mom says i dont have it since she didn't see it before and also that i got it from the internet??)
Once again, just thank you. Thank you for being so gentle and accommodating with her. Most of us neurodivergent people had it rough as kids due to not being “normal” which led to us feeling ostracized. So thank you for making home a safe space for her and being so kind and loving.
Sensory issues with hair can be such a challenge. Love the review and love seeing such a respectful relationship.
Frr, my mom told me I cried everyday when she did my hair, and I didn’t even have 4c or 3c hair (that would’ve been a hell for me tbh🥲🥲), my curls where a little bigger and my hair was long, but it still was very hard to brush trough it without me crying. My mom tried everything, and ended up cutting my hair a bit shorter. I liked it and it was cute so she didn’t force me to get my hair cut, but when she was done I never saw my curls again😢 I’m still sad till this day but oh well🥲
(maybe if someone got tips to get the old curl pattern back, I would appreciate that a lot, bc that’ll literally change my life😂🩷I miss my curls🙁)
I know what you mean my daughter would scream anytime she saw a comb. It was so hard when she would holler and cry that I would work her hair on sections and give her a break when she got upset. But with time and patience and trying different products it did get a lot better.
@@peligrodefrio5303Don't brush your hair. Only detangle hair in the shower using a wide tooth comb while you have conditioner in your hair. Use shampoo (or cowash which is basically like lighter weight conditioner you use as shampoo) and conditioner for curly hair without silicones and no sulfates. Curls thrive on moisture but depending on the thickness of your hair, some people need lightweight moisturizers like a spray leave in conditioner for thinner hair that gets weighed down easily and others need to strategically layer cream, then oil, then gel to lock in the moisture. Depending on the length of your hair and your curl pattern there are several different techniques on how to style your curls but I recommend not really drying your hair when you get out of the shower and then scrunching in your product to help the curls form. Many people have found success following the deva curl techniques and using their products however I haven't used them so I can't give a more informed review. If you can go to someone who specializes in cutting curly hair they will help train your hair to follow its curl pattern better over time as well. Unfortunately most of what works for you will be trial and error. The most recent brand I've had tons of success with is Pattern and it can be purchased online or in Ulta stores. Good luck, curls aren't for the faint of heart
Thank you for taking her needs into consideration AND still allowing her to have healthy, well-maintained hair. I'm austistic and didn't know for quite a while, but my hair has always been very important to me.
Not to sound any type of way but why do you thank the mother for the way she takes care of her child….? This is a newer thing people do and I find it really strange… like this ain’t your child… I understand where your coming from and I have ASD as well as my son but it’s bizarre since you don’t even know either of them
@@Iamyl4because it’s also common for people to neglect and mistreat their children and not consider their needs
@@Iamyl4it's hard to explain but when you've had a hard childhood it just feels wonderful and refreshing seeing people live out the opposite and there's a feeling of gratitude for them sharing it
@@Iamyl4 it's because they appreciate the love and care this mother is putting into her autistic child and they are letting her know they appreciate it. It makes people happy to see a child or a pet or just any dependent living creature being well cared for by their caregivers.
@@Iamyl4I get that but atleast they aren't chastising the fact or other things etc idk
You have the patience of an Angel. She is sooo blessed to have you.
She's so adorable. I'm glad that she likes her regular brush. No need to change what works for her. You're a good mother. She'll grow up strong and confident with your love.
I am 42 and I have an extremely sensitive scalp and I use that black brush. It is the only brush that doesn’t put me in tears. It is still slightly uncomfortable but it is manageable. That black brush is amazing.
What is it called?
@@user-vb6ky1mo9ethere's no special name from what I've seen but it's a detangler brush
@@user-vb6ky1mo9eI also use the black brush. I think I got it from Walmart but I can't remember for sure cause I've had it for years
@@user-vb6ky1mo9emine says kareco on the handle if that helps.
@@user-vb6ky1mo9etangle buster
Have you tried putting her hair in med sized plaits or twist? That way you dont have to comb her hair daily and you can wash her hair in the twist/plaits and make wash day easier and less painful. It may take a little longer doing 1 twist/plait at a time but, its less painful with less tension. I know she may not sit as long, but it's just a suggestion. Hope it helps.
That may help. ❤
My thoughts exactly... (But not my business)... Just a thought❤
Wonder would the plaits or twist interfere with her stimming? ...
I was thinking the same thing, maybe plaiting or twisting the ends of her ponytails at night. 💕
I have thick natural hair and I always do 10 moist or dry twists with oil at night. I wear a silk bonnet and only brush and comb on wash day. The twist out is amazing when nothroomef every day. My preference though because I'm tender headed like this beautiful baby. All of the brushing and pulling could be making her scalp sore.
I love seeing moms of autistic children that are actually caring and not taking videos of their child’s autistic meltdown and just saying ‘this is what I deal with fml’
I love seeing the huge spectrum of autism, I have autism as well and I have mutism (I mainly talk but if I’m overstimulated or overwhelmed I just shut down)
I don’t know how you mean she uses her hair to stim but I find stimming extremely interesting as most have their own stim. From hand flaps and finger popping to stomping and even vocal stims are so cool to me.
I love learning about the brain and psychology and how it affects our day to day lives and honestly this account is perfect. ❤
Hi, loved your comment. Just wanted to share my own two cents.
My sister, mother, and brother are on the spectrum. Growing up with them has taught me that the only difference between someone with autism and someone who isn't is the way they communicate, just like someone with ADHD, or impaired hearing/seeing/movement!
I hate hearing about people who think those with autism are 'throwing a fit', 'overreacting', ect.. Because that isn't true. The SOLE difference is the way they communicate. They aren't 'having a meltdown'. They're experiencing sensory overload, and their reaction is THEIR way to communicate it.
Just because my family's communication methods may be different, it doesn't make them less of a person with feelings, frustrations and self-esteem. By belittling someone for a part of themselves that they can't control would be like making fun of someone's accent.
My brother is in a class for kids with disabilities, and many of them are nonverbal. In no way does this make it more difficult to communicate. Neurotypical people tend to forget that more than half of our communication relies on BODY LANGUAGE.
My brother's favourite stim is twirling a strand of hair. He always insisted on keeping his hair long so he can do it. He also takes the chance to twirl my hair, or the dogs hair at any occasion!
I think Miko stims by holding part of her hair?
@@honeysickle that’s amazing (not that they’re suffering from a mental disability but great that they have you)
Me and my little sister both have autism, when she’s upset she completely freaks out and gets loud and stomps a lot while I shut down and go silent and have to go to a silent area or I will cry.
Autism is a huge spectrum and while it’s rough being on that spectrum (communication issues, ableist saying it doesn’t exist, sensory overloads, etc) I love being on the spectrum because it’s brought me friends. You know the saying ‘opposites attract’? Not when you’re neurodivergent. For some reason we all kinda find each other.
@@debj5114 huh, I dunno, I do know that hair is a big part of stimming, whether it’s a nice movement (twirling hair) or a self-injurious stim suck as pulling out hair which can turn into trichtillomania if it keeps up.
So it could be I dunno yet I just recently started watching this channel
@@RavensFur absolutely! neurodivergent people just get each other. I hope you and your sister have a wonderful day. and happy holidays!
This is how you treat an autistic kid! I love how you respect her despite being a small child with a mental disability. Instead of trying to make her as normal as possible, I like how you accommodate her comfort needs. We need more parents like you
Just to be clear, not all autistic people are mentally disabled
@@Maria-up2yv … it’s a disability… by ‘mentally disabled’ I’m not calling autistic people stupid, but autism is classified as a mental disability. Some autistic people (and I am one) may be low support needs but it still inhibits one’s ability to function. Some autistic people may not like the term disabled (I don’t know of any but they might be out there) due to stigma, discrimination, etc, but that doesn’t change the fact that it is disabling. I have bad shutdowns that prevent me from talking, doing things, processing information etc. and this is coming from someone with low support needs. I’m completely open to hearing your reasons just to be clear. I’d just like to ask (since this is the internet) that you be generally respectful of me. I don’t mean to come off as rude or anything with this, I’m just kinda confused.
@robinthepunk autism is not just in the brain, Studies have shown that the whole body is a part of the condition. The definition of autism is changing all the time because nobody knows what it is. I'm not saying you came off as rude at all, but where I'm from it is not classified as a mental disability. But a neurological disorder. And even that will change. My nature doesn't inhibit the way I naturally function. Society does and the fact its designed by and for neurotypicals. The same way being left handed isn't inherently an impairment either despite a long time of people claiming that it was. Actually just looking now, since my diagnosis the title has actually changed from ASD to mean disorder, to ASC to mean condition. I have shutdowns and meltdowns too. But I know for a fact if I were able to live freely as I'm meant to according to my nature, I wouldn't probably feel that way nearly as much.
girl damn neazr every parent treats there kids like this.. why are you acting likes she special
@@Maria-up2yvautism… is a mental disability?
She’s adorable!
I have a SUPER sensitive scalp and a TON of hair trauma because of my autism. Thank you for nurturing her and being understanding. Some tips that work for me are: work in SMALL sections and detangle slowly, use lots of slippery conditioning products, and be patient. ❤ I know it's a lot, but she's lucky to have you.
Uhh who's to say she don't already do this
@@treubakinguhh they were just trying to help by saying what works for them
@@treubakingthe weren't saying she didn't. They're sharing a tip kindly
Wait hair trauma?? Can you explain what you mean?
I think i might have that too..
Aw, don’t cry Mikko😢….she’s so precious…what a wonderful mother, God knew exactly who to give Mikko to.
I love seeing parents that are gentle and caring for kids on the spectrum. Youre doing great mama, and youre both gorgeous gorgeous girls
She’s actually so adorable 🥹
She’s such a strong and brave little girl. My little sister always had trouble with getting her hair brushed because she has a lot of curls and her hair gets tangled so much in the morning. She’d always cry and could never stay still. Props to your little girl! She’s so tough.
Such a sweetie pie. She has such beautiful hair. Those curls are stunning at every style she has it in.
I’m glad you’re acknowledging her sensitive scalp. Somewhat healing my inner child watching this….
My family wasn’t necessarily “abusive” when I was little, but my parents realised when I was very young that my scalp was sensitive, so they’d grab and pull me by my hair as a form of discipline. I remember my dad lifting me up by my hair if I caused the smallest of annoyance, and carry me like that to the bathroom and lock me in there. My mom on the other hand would purposely brush my hair very roughly and scold me for crying.
I’m happy to know this child lives in a safe home where her weaknesses won’t be taken advantage off.
.....You're in denial. That is abuse. Don't make excuses for your abusers. I wish you all the best in life. You were just a kid. No one deserves to be physically and emotionally abused like that.
That is 100% abuse. I hate to to say that. But they intentionally caused you pain. They preyed on your weakness. Abuse can take many forms.
I hope you're able to find some healing from your emotional scars. 💖
that’s still abuse as awful as it sounds, they found something they could exploit of you and used it in a negative way with the intent to knowingly cause harm. i’m really sorry that happened to you but i’m happy that you’re ok now
That sounds an awful lot like abuse. They intentionally hurt you in a way they *knew* would hurt. Also to punish a child for crying is kinda fucked up.
Sorry to drop the ball on you there
I agree with the rest, that IS abuse...😢😢 It's so f#cked, up and I'm so sorry that happened to you
I use the same exact brush. The black brush is my absolute FAVORITE. Especially if you have thick, long and curly hair. My hair is naturally curly and probably the same texture as Mikko's hair. I don't have a sensitive scalp and it took YEARS for me to find a brush that I like. I can only imagine if I had a sensitive scalp.
Does that brush have a name? i really want it ahah
I need that brush. Please give me a name.
I'd also like the name please
@@purplemuffin117 I have the brush too. Tangle Buster. I got mine for like, $10-13 at Walmart over a year ago. My daughter and I both have curly hair (3A and B on both at most defined strands), but my daughter is also neurodivergent (Unsure if it's autism or not yet as she is still being tested) and has a sensitive scalp. This brush really allows for less tears. I've tried combs, paddle brushes, bristle brushes and even other curly detangling brushes and nothing compares. We use it in the shower with conditioner and sometimes it feels like it's making the tangles and knots melt away as it glides through.
I'd like to know the name as well
I'm very glad that you understand her and what she needs! I'm autistic, and when I was younger, brushing my hair was definitely difficult at times because of how sensitive my scalp was and still is, and my aunt would mistake the noise was bothering me instead of the actual brush itself. I can not tell you how many times it put me in tears! I'm so glad you understand her!
Her curls are just so beautiful 😭
I'm also autistic, my scalp is EXTREMELY sensitive. I used to cry and scream during any hair treatment and my mom hadn't the patience for it.
We always thought I was just overreacting, but my doctor explained that it is one of autism's characteristics and I felt so so validated…
It's been almost six months since I was finally diagnosed, and it feels like I'm finally being able to understand myself better (I'm nineteen btw!)
I'm glad you got a diagnosis!! 🎉
I just got diagnosed with autism this year and no matter how old I get, I’m still going to have sensitive scalps. My mom still doesn’t have the patience for me when doing my hair, but I’m so glad I got the diagnosis.
@alita8900 I hate getting my hair done too and my scalp hurts if anyone breathes on it too hard. I used to give my mom so much trouble to get my hair done as a kid, even now as an adult putting my hair in ANY style hurts. I have so much hair in my head missing from when i cut it out due to my lack of patience . I'm wondering if i should get tested
My scalp is also extremely sensitive. Like soooo sensitive I have to use the conditioner for babies (to be specific Johnson's baby conditioner). I'm not kidding, and I have eczema which makes it worse.
It’s good you went with the original. I feel like changing brushes can be hard because when you have a brush you know how the sensory experience will be so you can at least anticipate. I sometimes hang on to things because that way I know what they will feel like and I know the way they look and that’s super comforting. Her hair is absolutely gorgeous and I am blown away by how well she tolerates brushing. That can be such an intense sensory experience.
It is incredible to see such kind and gentle parenting for nonverbal autistic children. You, ma’am, are a wonderful human. Your videos move me nearly to tears.
I’m glad to see an honest review of the brush for once!
Agreed!!!
Sometimes I wonder how the hell we survived and became functioning adults being neurodivergent back in the day. You’re so sweet and making sure your baby is comfortable is beautiful to watch.
Mikko is just stunning. Beautiful little girl. Beautiful family.
She’s soooo cute…just adorable & her hair is beautiful!
Your always the Sweetest Mom to her! Very kind and explain what your always doing. MIKKO is sooooo Pretty!❤❤😊
She did pretty well. I love how loving and considerate you are of her ❤️
MIKKO IS SUCH AN ANGEL SHES GONNA GROW UP TO BE AN AMAZIGN PERSON!!
She's such a cutie! Even without using words you can discern her preferences and personality.
You did a grand job reviewing the brush, even giving it a second attempt and making note about it just not being something that would work for your use.
Love you guys and hope you have a wonderful rest of the day if you see this message!
She is so cute I just can't get enough of your videos
awwwwww she’s so prettyyyy ❤
love mikko. she is amazing at communicating, thanks to you and the family.
Beautiful child. I've never been diagnosed with autism and cannot imagine her view - except that I remember as a child my hair was thick, curly, and knotted so easily, dealing with it could be a struggle and leave me in tears. Hair products have come a long way since the seventies!
I just love you all...every one has so much care & love ❤️ her hair is beautiful!!
Your nomal brush is my usual brush and I absolutely love it. I have very thick, very curly hair and it is a pain to detangle. That brush is the best thing I have found as well. There is a similar brush by British M with bristles that are more bendy and therefore feels more gentle, but I feel it takes longer too. This brush just gets it DONE.
What is that brush called?
@@kcat44hey! I couldn’t find anyone on here saying what the black brush is BUT I saw one on the internet called ‘KareCo tangle buster brush’. Not sure if it’s the exact same one, but it looks pretty darn close
I think the better brush causes less tearing and tearing of your daughters' hair and does wonders for her natural curls. Kudos Amen 🎉
What a patient mum! You’re so amazing! It’s so great to see you doing what works for you guys and accomodate her autism and non-verbal communication, all while taking care of her gorgeous hair. I KNOW how difficult it can be to care for. You’re an amazing mum and I’m so sure that she appreciates it more than you will ever know ❤
Thank you for the honest review. It is much appreciated
Was gonna say the same thing
Your sweet baby girl is so beautiful (like her Mama) that she could wear any hairstyle and still be adorably beautiful. But those perfect curls make adult women jealous. At least this (old) adult woman. You are a wonderful Mama and your videos give hope and help to parents that are starting or in the deepest part of their journey to give their special kiddos the best life possible. Thanks for all you do for your sweet baby and all of those out there needing help. ❤❤❤
The wet brush worked for my cousin with a very sensitive scalp
Agreed, Wet Brush has been fantastic for my hair. I'm white, though, and have very fine, straight hair, so I have no idea how well it would work for Mikko's hair.
They have a curly wet brush which is a combination of both brushes and my hair loves it
@@koyaharvey-walker3794 Oh cool I didn’t know that!
This. I bought one for a friend with 4c hair and the moment I went through her hair with it I was in love. I bought one for my curly hair immediately. I've been using several kinds of WetBrush for mine and my kids hair for years before that because we're all on the spectrum and it made getting ready a breeze.
Not sure if it works for natural black girl hair because im white and have wavy hair rather than curly, but I have a sensitive scalp and love mine, so I absolutely agree with this suggestion if it works for her hair type and doesn't make it frizzy like mama said the unbrush did❤
Sometimes I feel like people who design detangling brushes don’t really interact with 3C texture or tighter. I’m glad y’all have a good routine for her hair, especially with her stimming with it!
I love how gentle you are with her. Ik autism is hard for whoever has it. You do such a good job helping her whenever she is overwhelmed!
If Mikko can sit thru getting her hair brushed and done all the time, i can do today. She got this. I do too.
You got this sweetie! ❤
I loved my girls hair long too but they were completely relieved of these issues just by having it cut
You are doing a good job, and I'm learning. I see her as working on verbal and I see progress.
She is absolutely precious and her hair is amazing 💕
She has the most beautiful hair!
So cute!
Thank you. I keep seeing sponsored posts about this damn brush and they all act like it's a godsend. I'm glad to finally see an actual honest review of this brush. It just looks like a regular damn brush.
Hairdresser 24 years. I love Paul Mitchell super skinny serum for all curly hair types. And especially for kids. Ive used it on ethnic mens hair so i can brush through it, so the clippers don’t pull. I learned about this from my friend, another hairdresser , who’s hair was down past her bum and is naturally curly and ringlets. With this serum she can use a cutting comb to comb her hair with virtually no tangles. It works on wet and dry hair and you only need a little. The smell isn’t bad at all. I really think this will help you when brushing her hair. Also, right after your done washing her hair use a 100 percent cotton mens under shirt to wrap the hair in. this helps not to rough up the cuticle so theres less snarling.
Love your faces!!!!!!
I love that product my stylist put that on my hair as well makes my hair really really curly
Aw she's so adorable! 🥺😢 Great product evaluation and review!! ❤
She's sooo pretty 😍🤩
Mommy of the year
This is the first bad review I’ve seen of the unbrush. I’m glad that someone is finally being honest
Right?
Use the brush that works for her. She does amazing!!! Most kids that have sensitive scalps will hardly let you touch them... And a lot of times they're not as tender headed as we think they're just annoyed with having to sit there.❤
She’s so adorable 🥹
her hair is so flawless and beautiful 🫶🏾💕
The unbrush isnt really meant for all hair types like it will work on some but not all i wish people would be more honest when reviewing products
Yes I agree!!!
Her with long hair is like torture. I know she needs some hair for twirling so she doesn't get upset but would a hair style with low maintenance be best. Mostly short hair style.
That's what I was trying to say when I said Cut It off
Your love, patience and support is a life line for her
She is blessed to have such a wonderful family. Keep up the good work 😊
I’m autistic and struggled greatly with hair brushing even with very easy to work with hair. Both you and your daughter are doing so well getting through this difficult task, you’re a really lovely mother.
Bless her little heart, her hair is Gorgeous. 🌻🧁
As an adult with autism who wasn't treated so patiently it warms my heart to see how much you love your daughter ❤
It breaks my heart to see her sniffle and cry! Poor tender-headed baby! ❤
Honestly the ”it’s just not for us” comment is so legit.
It is also to notice that if one buys a new brush they might hold it the same way they are used to holding the old one and brush patterns and the way you hold them makes a BIG difference.
One should use what they are most comfortable with
YOUR DAUGHTER IS SO CUTE AND BEAUTIFUL. AND HER HAIR IS SO THICK AND PRETTY OML. YOU RAISED A LITERAL GODESS.
Your daughter is really pretty her hair is so beautiful and her eyes are really pretty
Such a precious girl! Love her!
Been watching you guys for years... such an honorable set of parents out Awesome Lord gave this baby girl...
She is perfect.
Thank you for an HONEST REVIEW on super thick curly hair❤
Thank you for the honesty! Some things don't work for some people and I'm glad you showed us your honest review and opinion. ❤
She’s so precious 😭❤
She’s so freaking adorable
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Those natural curls are so cute!!
Mommy I have autistic grandchildren and the way you teach and learn with your daughter is absolutely awesome. I learned new things today. Thank You for sharing 😍 May God Bless you and your family 💝🙏🏾
She's so beautiful. Such pretty hair.
She is adorable what a sweetheart
Beautiful hair too. Great job with her hair!
You are a good momma. Patient but firm and very loving.
She is verbal, just not always overstood. Her progress is beautiful.
Thank you for being so kind in taking the time to do her hair. I don’t have curly hair but it’s thick and sometimes difficult to manage. My mom had two ways to dealing with it, straightening with no protection or a high ponytail.
The way she used to brush my hair in the morning still makes me cringe.
Finding the right brush for Mikko will be a journey, but you are doing everything right. Thank you
She's so cute and pretty
HER HAIR IS SO PRETTYYY
I swear, you look like the right angel for such a sweetheart! I hope she progresses well and I wish you and her all the luck you need!
That review is very much appreciated!!!♥️
I can remember my younger sister, also autistic and more verbal now, she would grab the brush out of our hands and throw it across the room and her curls were nowhere near as thick. The patience this takes is amazing and the level of calm Mikko shows speaks volumes about how amazing you are.
Her hair is so pretty!
Both of you are so patient.
i love how honest you are. i’m sure you could’ve gotten commission to lie like lots of people do but you gave a REAL review.
Aww. What a cutie pie! You are a great mom! Blessings.
Her hair is beautiful!
Bless her wee heart - she tolerated that like a trooper ❤❤❤❤
she has gorgeous hair and is so adorable she is so loved i can tell ❤