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Julien and I were about to Uber over to the last day of Miami World Summit, and we were like.... we gotta get a video on South Beach and Ocean Avenue before we leave town. So shot this with just a few minutes to spare. Some fans we met on the street actually held up a bunch of cell phone flashlights to help us shoot it (thanks guys!). We were so rushed that we knew it would have an intense vibe, so made it like an "addiction intervention video". I was shocked to see how colorful Ocean Avenue can look in a video, really great place to shoot. There's a bunch of videos from Miami Summit coming on this channel soon as well - the next ones will features Julien, Max, Luke and myself going over some really intense self help topics. Hope you enjoyed this one and those ones to come! Julien thanks for having me on your channel! -Tyler
So does just "becoming aware" solve the addiction? Arent addicts aware they are addicts? Scientifically, it sounds like repetition compulsion as discovered by Sigmund Freud.
Tyler, Pappa is fucking your company's reputation up, the same way he did in the book the game. You would be better off owning the company by yourself.
Being able to recognize and admit whether you're addicted to negativity itself is half the process. Most people simply can't do it because ego takes over. Well said
In addition to this I remember watching a video from David. R Hawkins who tells us that everytime we feel stuck in any situation it means we have to let go of the secret pay off we get from this situation who's bothering us. As Eckhart Tolle said, the ego feeds on negativity to regenerate itself otherwise it can't live. I realized that in many situations to which I really wanted fixed I actually didn't want them to be fixed secretly because it was a constant stream of negativity I could plunge into to get my daily dose of negativity. The ego is really dysfonctional and it's scary to see that we feed this parasite constantly through different means. And as you said it takes a huge amount of courage and ask to become more conscious to see it happen. I also know many people who really could use it.
One of the most profound, if not the most profound, realizations that I had was that any emotion that we feel (even if it's the most "painful negative emotion") is exactly the emotion that, subconsciously, we HIGHLY BELIEVE we SHOULD BE FEELING in that moment, or else... For instance, if we're "worrying" about some upcoming event in our lives, we subconsciously believe that if we stopped worrying and overthinking and instead just became happy, that we would not be adequately preparing ourselves for the upcoming event and then we would be far more afraid, because we believe it would fuck us up while we're not ready. So, worrying in this case is a way for us to "minimize" the deep fear that we have and to "prepare ourselves" for "the battle". A great question whenever we feel something that's weighing us down is: "What if I just decided that I'm not gonna feel this way anymore?" and usually, a deeper, more intense feeling will come to the surface. And that's a great way to catch it and release it forever. :) P.S. Like all the other videos, this one was an amazing one as well :)
I found RSD 5 years ago when I joined AA. I've been sober the whole 5 years and keep seeing more and more parallels between 12 step and RSD. keep it going guys :)
Thank you for all the teachings so far. The reason I think we all get the mind going is because no mind is judged to be scary, something like death and extremely empty-feeling. Atleast I thought so, I am in groundhog day of being broke,alone and in a desolation kind of reality where everything I touch turns to dust and there are no women around when I try to sarge. I read the Dr.Hawkins book and realized my external is reflecting my internal state of deep emptiness. I dove in today, Its actually a peaceful and joyful place in reality. I am consumed by desire and approval seeking because I thought getting what I desired would save me from the desolation. One point you can touch on in future videos is thinking is just a stuck feeling trying to rationalize its presence I just understood the Letting go process a few days ago. Thank you Julien for TM.
As I read the title I felt it related to me. I'm feel that I am addicted to negative energy. I'm not exactly negative towards things going on during the day. It's primarly negatively about myself. But I am progressing out of it and getting better at it honestly. Still an amazing video thank you!
every time i get upset by something , when i get the feeling of frustration and negative energy i start to have thoughts about past conflicts that i had that have left me with the same energy. I realized that when i enter that state that i think about those events not because i am addicted to them but becasue my brain is trying to learn from the conflict to evade it the next time or finish it in my favor.
Honestly last week I came to the realization that a lot of my friends enjoy criticizing and complaint about others and it transferred on to me a bit as I found myself complaining along with them and giving into that frame. I realized it and decided I that I should do something to stop myself in my traces whenever I'm about to complain about something or someone. Low on behold you guys came up with this video. This helps a lot. Thanks guys
Thank you so much for this. I'm only 22 but I've been struggling with negative thinking and depression for a long time and what both of you said in this video really made something click in my brain. If our pain body criticizes us. We react internally. We react with justifications. The pain body likes to poke you with a negative feeling JUST for the hell of it. It doesn't care about the reasons you give it. It just wants you to respond. (Eg - hahaha that girl rejected you (pain body creates negative emotion) .. you immediately respond internally by saying "Grrr, she doesn't deserve me, she's a slut, who needs her. She's worthless.) The pain body doesn't care what you say as long as you TRY TO JUSTIFY. That makes the pain body laugh at you each time. This same approach gets transferred in the external manifestation of our life. If someone jabs us, with or without malicious intent, it makes us want to JUSTIFY ourselves immediately. We become reactive. Think of that annoying person at work or school who just says shit to get you to respond and defend yourself. If you genuinely ignore them, they get demoralised and leave you alone. But if they sense you're the reactive type and IF you react very defensively to a snarky comment they make they get delighted and think "haha I made him respond! I should keep doing this. Its fun" By reacting to comments, we become emotional and FEED the existing pain body within us (i.e. why did he say that mean thing about me? Let me find a way to think and justify this) This results in a continuous cycle of feeding the negativity within, believing in it and then confirming it when the external environment presents the SAME scenario (i.e. snarky comment) and we respond the same way. Point is, condition yourself to stop being reactive to the pain body within that propels us into negative thought patterns, justifications and endless overthinking. This would undoubtedly have a positive external manifestation in life overall. If you aren't reactive inwardly, you won't be reactive outwardly. I hope this helps.
Julien you Hit on something truly personal to me and its 100 % correct... even had the visions and all ... this is really good work you do to bring it to our generation...
Funny I thought i had overcome negative thinking but this video made me realise that it had just taken on a new form. I got rid of one thought loop, and i was much happier for time, but a new thought loop crept up on me. I realised recently how toxic some of my friends are - I saw it as an opportunity to improve my life and i was excited, but I also started dwelling on all the lost time and opportunities over the past years, and this negative thought loop became the dominant one and actually sabotaged my ability to make new friends. So I guess I'm still addicted. Thanks for the video guys, it brokr the spell.
When you can laugh at the negativity and see the joke of it all that’s when you can level up and really make something of yourself. There is really no reason to “not be negative”. We have literally no way not to be negative with all the shit that’s thrown at us on a daily basis. But with that knowledge and awareness you can recognize that the mainstream media is feeding off of our addictions and using it to profit themselves because they also have addictions for things like greed, money, power, respect, status etc. The only real way to succeed today is to live in PRESENCE and too stay focused on cultivating greater levels of PEACE, HAPPINESS and FREEDOM. Owen and Julien are playing on a different level, but they are teaching you how to get there too with all the potent and REAL CONTENT they release. Learn from what they are teaching and what’s way more important than learning it, is TESTING IT IN YOUR OWN LIFE. Just some thoughts I got from the video! Thanks RSD! You guys changed my life.
This is way to master mind , by allowing old patterns to be instead fight against it or saying it's true . Present moment can happen only when you surrender to all that it is , it's scary cause all of what you thought about yourself suffering and good parts also disolves . You want to save good parts but that can not happen if you surrender to present moment , reality is totally different from our experience in ego . Anyway this is very very helpful and great stepping stone for being in charge of your own life experience . Thanks guys I learn a lot from you , more and more every video
I got mad insight from this video relevant to my life right now, like a whole page of notes. Thanks guys. I was actually thinking "This is only partly relevant to me" at the begining, but then at around 20:00 when Julien started chatting about his destructive artist tendancies it awakened some self-fulfilling prophecies in me that I wasn't so aware of till now!
But the point that Owen made about making your state of presence something that runs on instinct might be the most insightful thing I've heard Owen say in a long time. Definitely keeps you into the moment and puts things into persective
fuck twitter. got off it 4 years ago, great decision. I also avoid facebook and instagram edit: I also do not watch any TV, or Netflix, or play video games. I don't use marijuana in any form...would recommend avoiding that shit, especially for young men
Addiction is an activity that gives a temporary pleasure but will hurt in the long run. Addiction of ignoring problems is a big one for me. I ignore them and do other things instead.
Based on that rewriting what addiction is, It is performing activities that give pleasure while masking other pressing matters that need attention and action .
Idk if anyone else can identify with this but I periodically shift from a flow state to a victim mindset. I’ll flow for a couple days then I’ll let my insecurities creep up for a couple. It’s like a cycle. I’m consistent working on accepting my imperfections and learning my true self. Hopefully the results come where I can stay in flow and presence with consistence
Albert every morning when you wake up evaluate how motivated you feel and try to identify the things (if any) that de-motivated you in the first place. Then slowly but surely cut those things out of your life. Rob Dyrdrek said that, and since practicing it myself it has helped me tremendously. It helps you regain control when you feel like you have none.
bjbdbz the Rob Dyrdek Impact Theory interview is great. I guess what de-motivates me is my inability to take action in "uncomfortable" circumstances, as well as not fostering enough self-acceptance. I'm showing improvement in both regards but the process is slow, and sometimes I grow impatient. If you don't mind sharing, what been some of your findings when you do the motivational morning exercise?
This topic is incredibly difficult for so many to grasp that the two of you literally seem crazy to most. It seems like some woo woo talk, but man, is it on point. Thank you, keep rocking out.
I can't fucking believe how lucky I am to have found out about you guys through the fucking internet.. So much value for me.. I could literally die tomorrow and not care since I am 24 and have been able to consider such ideas that you have presented me with.. Imagine what will happen to me when I meet you in person ..
HOLY SHIT i love this video, my life just got so much fucking better since the day i got awareness on this, complaining just seems so pointless once you realize the effect it has on you, thanks for clarifying this Father J, and also GOOD SHIT with upping the editing on the videos, the quality is INSANE. Much love and good vibes to you!!
Funny. I know in general i'm not really a negative person, in fact I bring great positive energy wherever I go (a lot thanks to discovering you guys a few years back, and deciding it was worthwhile to pay greater effort and attention to understanding social architecture, thx btw). This video made me second guess who I was for a moment, but upon further analysis discovering that there will always be a certain amount of negativity in ones life no matter how great of a person you become. You just have to embrace and understand it when it becomes apparent to you, it goes in levels, its how we grow.
This topic of thinking vs being present is very interesting. Since I started meditating, becoming present in social situations, I started to exhibit a bit more confidence and positive mood (not much, but the spark is there). However, my work involves a lot of thinking and thinking is good when learning skills, planning life/business goals. It all comes back to balance: balance thoughts and being in your head with being present and taking action.
Great video! @ 16:25, Just wanted to say something, at least in the case of ADD/ADHD, I would guess that drugs like cocaine DO make people more present to the moment. In my case, having ADD, I take a controlled stimulant with a chemical structure similar to cocaine, (or even coffee for that matter) and it helps to relax my anxiety which makes me more present to the moment. In fact, in all my experiences, I would say that one of the principal things that helps me to relax is coming present to the moment via an increase in dopamine levels. What increases Dopamine levels? In some therapies (Like ACT), drug and other addictions are reasoned with the addict to serve as pathways to the same good emotions that come about normally from healthy habits like eating healthy, exercising and socializing. This is meant to show the addict that they don't have to be addicted to the exact substance and perhaps through some therapy and working with inner blocks like Trauma they can come to appreciate those more healthy habits more. I think Tyler probably already knows this, I think he just got a little lost with his words for a moment. In my opinion, what it is about addictions that are debilitating is not totally the high they produce, which I believe can be called a genuine experience (and also the kinds of experiences that we all long for), but rather is the loss of the ability to be in control of oneself. From Gabor Mate's "Realm of the Hungry Ghosts" he actually talks about how, in a way, addicts brains become so habituated and wired from & to the drugs that they are literally no longer in control of themselves. This is consistent with Buddhist Philosophy, in that in one of the ways that we suffer by being born in Samsara is caused when our craving for pleasure becomes so intense that it creates karmic conditions where we are literally "psychologically reborn" in a hungry ghost realm. We would still have a human body, but our mind would be in a state of constant craving. A simplistic way to understand it would be to say that if we were to die at that moment, we would be reborn as a hungry ghost. It seems that it would follow then that an individual would be chained to that particular existence until their karma was exhausted or improved which is evidently very hard to do when one is a hungry ghost or a human with an addiction as those existences, by their nature, tend to perpetuate themselves. Buddhism emphasizes the preciousness of human birth that is "free and well favored" in that as humans we can make decisions that effect our karma positively. For example, we can engage in virtues like generosity, discipline, patience, exertion, meditation & wisdom. We can also rest in unbiased equanimity free from karma which maybe I can say is an expression of the virtue of Wisdom. I like how Tyler talks about being present to the moment- it seems very pithy-in Tantra, we talk about becoming present to the moment, and then radiating outwards which I see in RSD's general vibe and I appreciate. I also notice how this is facilitated by sexual and intimate exchange-in the words of David Deida-expressing the masculine as "depth & presence of consciousness", and appreciating the "radiance & flow" of the feminine. Great video, these are just a few thoughts I wanted to share to add some value and context to what was being discussed.
Had a very similar experience with adderall for my anxiety and adhd and mannnn that stuff was the closest thing to a magic pill I’ve ever seen, however it didn’t last for me which sucks and left me personally worse off once I Got off it but cool experience none the less! The amount of presence in the moment and just pure happiness was insane! I loved my job for once, got in amazing shape and accomplished so much crazy shit while on it - however I got off of it cuz I felt like maybe this wasn’t real ya know and just the drug?
Keep a list and add to it all week of the things you are greatful for. Your health, a bed, food, etc. And anytime you have a bad day return to that list and just read it.
addiction to unconsciousness.... thank you guys so much for showing this out so clearly and the Kleenex analogy s awesome. honest and real.....love u guys
The key thing to realise as soon as possible in life is that truth hurts and all the stuff you've been teased or shamed for are probably true because if they aren't you wouldn't care, so instead to fight those things, you have to OWN THEM and you'll know you own them when you will laugh sincerely at them, at your self for being such way, like it's the best comedy movie you've ever seen, because if it's true and you acknowledge it, it's funny how it's true, and if it's not, it's funny how one could think that. OWN IT!
i was high af watching this but i can be present and out of my head when sober too :P also i think negative thoughts can stem from the environment and whatever 'conditioning' you may have. Its night and day going from negative to positive thoughts and then it looks super weird when you see someone saying something negative! It's like 'they just don't get it'. Anyone else had this revelation?
I was taught in TC (Theraputic Community) not to "brown bag it" which is carrying over past problems into now. I now realize any acknowledgement of past that does not serve me now, is a wasted trauma emotion I put MYSELF through all to feel justified victim, and thats backward and accomplishes me nothing, im going to limit myself to venting frustrations more discreetly if just once, because despite being a private entity i think the people know how i feel, they just don't dare admit they had the ability to check all along
So I understand what you talk about. And I could nod to that I have patterns of recuring negative behaviour or thoughts. But more than that. Like I truly think that from I wake up til I go to bed I am somewhat say 80% thinking different negative stuff. So my ego runs me, and depression and anxiety stops me from pursuing things that I want, I'm conscious about that. So how do I help myself? Everything I do or think is based on fears and stuff that aren't authentic to me. It's hard to describe but what needs to be done when you know all most every part of my life is an issue. Where do I start. And what is even the practice to stop living this negative.. So much confusion
I have been addicted to a number of things, and I have mostly sorted all the negative ones out. But I disagree (at the moment) on the ground hog day thing where you said you feel tired can't be bothered at work, same sht everyday etc. I run every morning, and when I get to work I feel fresh, but after lunch around 3PM I start to feel really tired, but when I get home I feel good and go for another run. I think I get tired because I have a boring and repetitive job. I also thought I was never cut out to be a office worker. Which is why I have started a 'side hustle' so that I can get out of the office and do the shit I really want to do.
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I had no resistance, I love your ideas because I agree, is it was weird not resisting as you spoke about resisting, but then I started thinking 'oh shit I already got past this phase of living here, experiencing happiness' the problem I am concerned about now is the addiction to fun, when have I let the fun become a negative addiction, how to I know when it is too far? I am in love, I am a romantic, 'most girls are boring, I like to have just one at a time, a solid one....'am I addicted to her/them?'.../ on the other hand when I neglect her and drink, 'am I addicted to going out(fun)?'. how do I stop this cycle, 'How do I break free of the chains my emotions have have created". My heart is treacheries too my mind. Don't get me wrong, I understand the Hustle, I use hustle for myself though, monetary and fitness wise, loving and caring wise. For this reason I question some of the things you do, but agree with the mindset. but Tyler, let me ask you, where do you place your love?..., I believe, for you, it is in others; friends and fans, right? but is it selfish for you to only place it in yourself? Or is it selfish to only place it in one person that supports you...it is hard to ask this question bc/ its so vague, but here it goes.. "how do you balance dependability on other things with loving yourself, is it selfish, is it possible to do? I believe so but I do not know how? how do I love myself when hate to be so selfish, my morals tell me its okay to be selfish but my nature does not like it, are we all this way in one form or another? Bc/ no man will ever be exactly like the next one in this sense, but in another sense we all all just containers of matter floating in a space not built by us. AND if you really don't believe in God..think about that long enough and you will. And then, maybeeee, you will discover that this struggle to find our 'personnel legend, its truly different for us all. Then can we truly listen to our heart instead of ignore it, accept its feelings and thoughts, it will never betray the mind that way...I hope... "How do I get there?" must be the next question, "how do I find my Personal Legend", 'will it come with more wealth?", doubt it!! I have enough, "will it come with more women?", nahhh. OHHH shit I just figured it out, I need to find passion. shitttt Tyler...I answered my own question, Thanks bro..you really helped. what a minute, I still don't know how to get there, fuckkkk....ima go to bed think about this later! ;)
What if you know you're an addict but still not how to stop? I've started reading the Power of Now but when I've quieted my mind it feels kind of like I'm going to sleep, avoiding my problems by temporarily forgetting them, which I imagine is opposite of becoming aware.
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Julien and I were about to Uber over to the last day of Miami World Summit, and we were like.... we gotta get a video on South Beach and Ocean Avenue before we leave town. So shot this with just a few minutes to spare. Some fans we met on the street actually held up a bunch of cell phone flashlights to help us shoot it (thanks guys!). We were so rushed that we knew it would have an intense vibe, so made it like an "addiction intervention video". I was shocked to see how colorful Ocean Avenue can look in a video, really great place to shoot. There's a bunch of videos from Miami Summit coming on this channel soon as well - the next ones will features Julien, Max, Luke and myself going over some really intense self help topics. Hope you enjoyed this one and those ones to come! Julien thanks for having me on your channel! -Tyler
Hey Tyler i like the way you explore different topic, just curious to know if you have looked into DMT ?
That was me and my biz partner helping with the lighting 😂 love the video fellas, keep crushing 👊🏽
you forgot sugar and work addiction, but yeah there are infinite amounts of addictions, great vid, thanks guys!
So does just "becoming aware" solve the addiction? Arent addicts aware they are addicts? Scientifically, it sounds like repetition compulsion as discovered by Sigmund Freud.
Tyler, Pappa is fucking your company's reputation up, the same way he did in the book the game. You would be better off owning the company by yourself.
We want RSD Eckhart
What about an RSD Eeckhout? I volunteer.
He'd be doing the group kisses in the club
He happy with Kim
Being able to recognize and admit whether you're addicted to negativity itself is half the process. Most people simply can't do it because ego takes over. Well said
In addition to this I remember watching a video from David. R Hawkins who tells us that everytime we feel stuck in any situation it means we have to let go of the secret pay off we get from this situation who's bothering us. As Eckhart Tolle said, the ego feeds on negativity to regenerate itself otherwise it can't live. I realized that in many situations to which I really wanted fixed I actually didn't want them to be fixed secretly because it was a constant stream of negativity I could plunge into to get my daily dose of negativity. The ego is really dysfonctional and it's scary to see that we feed this parasite constantly through different means. And as you said it takes a huge amount of courage and ask to become more conscious to see it happen. I also know many people who really could use it.
these short clips of other teachers/speakers in the middle is really good! It helps to understand your ideas further
One of the most profound, if not the most profound, realizations that I had was that any emotion that we feel (even if it's the most "painful negative emotion") is exactly the emotion that, subconsciously, we HIGHLY BELIEVE we SHOULD BE FEELING in that moment, or else...
For instance, if we're "worrying" about some upcoming event in our lives, we subconsciously believe that if we stopped worrying and overthinking and instead just became happy, that we would not be adequately preparing ourselves for the upcoming event and then we would be far more afraid, because we believe it would fuck us up while we're not ready.
So, worrying in this case is a way for us to "minimize" the deep fear that we have and to "prepare ourselves" for "the battle".
A great question whenever we feel something that's weighing us down is: "What if I just decided that I'm not gonna feel this way anymore?" and usually, a deeper, more intense feeling will come to the surface.
And that's a great way to catch it and release it forever. :)
P.S. Like all the other videos, this one was an amazing one as well :)
This is a brilliant way to look at it and I feel that I was suspecting it was happening...
I found RSD 5 years ago when I joined AA. I've been sober the whole 5 years and keep seeing more and more parallels between 12 step and RSD. keep it going guys :)
Taylor Gavinchuk I don’t know you but I’m so proud of you, congrats on 5 years you badass!!
Thanks !!! :)
Thank you for all the teachings so far. The reason I think we all get the mind going is because no mind is judged to be scary, something like death and extremely empty-feeling.
Atleast I thought so, I am in groundhog day of being broke,alone and in a desolation kind of reality where everything I touch turns to dust and there are no women around when I try to sarge. I read the Dr.Hawkins book and realized my external is reflecting my internal state of deep emptiness. I dove in today, Its actually a peaceful and joyful place in reality. I am consumed by desire and approval seeking because I thought getting what I desired would save me from the desolation.
One point you can touch on in future videos is thinking is just a stuck feeling trying to rationalize its presence
I just understood the Letting go process a few days ago.
Thank you Julien for TM.
I am a medical student trying to find ways to improve my study habits and workplace relationships and this is very helpful.
As I read the title I felt it related to me. I'm feel that I am addicted to negative energy. I'm not exactly negative towards things going on during the day. It's primarly negatively about myself. But I am progressing out of it and getting better at it honestly. Still an amazing video thank you!
Called "self attack". It's another way for low vibration energy to get at you -Tyler
Such a dope edit Julien!
every time i get upset by something , when i get the feeling of frustration and negative energy i start to have thoughts about past conflicts that i had that have left me with the same energy. I realized that when i enter that state that i think about those events not because i am addicted to them but becasue my brain is trying to learn from the conflict to evade it the next time or finish it in my favor.
This video’s so true it hurts. Even scrolling through social media people get addicted to posts that are negative.
Tyler's sense of style has increased so much over the years haha, rock on guys!
Honestly last week I came to the realization that a lot of my friends enjoy criticizing and complaint about others and it transferred on to me a bit as I found myself complaining along with them and giving into that frame. I realized it and decided I that I should do something to stop myself in my traces whenever I'm about to complain about something or someone. Low on behold you guys came up with this video. This helps a lot. Thanks guys
Julien and Owen at it again with titles that are on point
Thank you so much for this. I'm only 22 but I've been struggling with negative thinking and depression for a long time and what both of you said in this video really made something click in my brain.
If our pain body criticizes us. We react internally. We react with justifications. The pain body likes to poke you with a negative feeling JUST for the hell of it. It doesn't care about the reasons you give it. It just wants you to respond. (Eg - hahaha that girl rejected you (pain body creates negative emotion) .. you immediately respond internally by saying "Grrr, she doesn't deserve me, she's a slut, who needs her. She's worthless.) The pain body doesn't care what you say as long as you TRY TO JUSTIFY. That makes the pain body laugh at you each time.
This same approach gets transferred in the external manifestation of our life. If someone jabs us, with or without malicious intent, it makes us want to JUSTIFY ourselves immediately. We become reactive. Think of that annoying person at work or school who just says shit to get you to respond and defend yourself. If you genuinely ignore them, they get demoralised and leave you alone. But if they sense you're the reactive type and IF you react very defensively to a snarky comment they make they get delighted and think "haha I made him respond! I should keep doing this. Its fun"
By reacting to comments, we become emotional and FEED the existing pain body within us (i.e. why did he say that mean thing about me? Let me find a way to think and justify this) This results in a continuous cycle of feeding the negativity within, believing in it and then confirming it when the external environment presents the SAME scenario (i.e. snarky comment) and we respond the same way.
Point is, condition yourself to stop being reactive to the pain body within that propels us into negative thought patterns, justifications and endless overthinking. This would undoubtedly have a positive external manifestation in life overall. If you aren't reactive inwardly, you won't be reactive outwardly.
I hope this helps.
Julien you Hit on something truly personal to me and its 100 % correct... even had the visions and all ... this is really good work you do to bring it to our generation...
This made my day, feeling down and this just what I needed..
I do have a negativity addiction. Thank you for the wisdom. 🐬
Funny I thought i had overcome negative thinking but this video made me realise that it had just taken on a new form. I got rid of one thought loop, and i was much happier for time, but a new thought loop crept up on me. I realised recently how toxic some of my friends are - I saw it as an opportunity to improve my life and i was excited, but I also started dwelling on all the lost time and opportunities over the past years, and this negative thought loop became the dominant one and actually sabotaged my ability to make new friends. So I guess I'm still addicted. Thanks for the video guys, it brokr the spell.
When you can laugh at the negativity and see the joke of it all that’s when you can level up and really make something of yourself. There is really no reason to “not be negative”. We have literally no way not to be negative with all the shit that’s thrown at us on a daily basis. But with that knowledge and awareness you can recognize that the mainstream media is feeding off of our addictions and using it to profit themselves because they also have addictions for things like greed, money, power, respect, status etc. The only real way to succeed today is to live in PRESENCE and too stay focused on cultivating greater levels of PEACE, HAPPINESS and FREEDOM. Owen and Julien are playing on a different level, but they are teaching you how to get there too with all the potent and REAL CONTENT they release. Learn from what they are teaching and what’s way more important than learning it, is TESTING IT IN YOUR OWN LIFE. Just some thoughts I got from the video! Thanks RSD! You guys changed my life.
This is way to master mind , by allowing old patterns to be instead fight against it or saying it's true . Present moment can happen only when you surrender to all that it is , it's scary cause all of what you thought about yourself suffering and good parts also disolves . You want to save good parts but that can not happen if you surrender to present moment , reality is totally different from our experience in ego . Anyway this is very very helpful and great stepping stone for being in charge of your own life experience . Thanks guys I learn a lot from you , more and more every video
I'm addicted to your videos AHHHHHHHH
I approve of this addiction... 😜
I got mad insight from this video relevant to my life right now, like a whole page of notes. Thanks guys.
I was actually thinking "This is only partly relevant to me" at the begining, but then at around 20:00 when Julien started chatting about his destructive artist tendancies it awakened some self-fulfilling prophecies in me that I wasn't so aware of till now!
But the point that Owen made about making your state of presence something that runs on instinct might be the most insightful thing I've heard Owen say in a long time. Definitely keeps you into the moment and puts things into persective
Thank you guys! Great vídeo!
Twitter was my worst addiction, a cesspool of negativity and drama
Haha, yes... Fuck Twitter! 😜
I had some good drama on it but it was an addiction nevertheless :p
fuck twitter. got off it 4 years ago, great decision. I also avoid facebook and instagram
edit: I also do not watch any TV, or Netflix, or play video games. I don't use marijuana in any form...would recommend avoiding that shit, especially for young men
Anyone remember when twitter was a place for random jokes and one liners you thought of in the shower?
Awareness alone is curative
Yep! 👌
Just watched Leo's vid on that
Leo gura !!
Addiction is an activity that gives a temporary pleasure but will hurt in the long run. Addiction of ignoring problems is a big one for me. I ignore them and do other things instead.
Based on that rewriting what addiction is, It is performing activities that give pleasure while masking other pressing matters that need attention and action .
Hi both,
That was one the single best videos you have made. Clear communication and tremendous value.
Thank you.
Love new editing style with all pictures and Eckhart and Ted videos.
Owen, your outfits and style gets better and better.
Fantastic content! Thanks for sharing!
I started this video a cynic but within 10 minutes I realized that you are actually 100% correct. I need to work on this stuff.
my goal is just being that loud and walking around and not giving a shit that people are turning around to look at and judge me
that was a very positive advice guys, thanks I mean I like a lot that the pick up community is becoming this positive force.
Idk if anyone else can identify with this but I periodically shift from a flow state to a victim mindset. I’ll flow for a couple days then I’ll let my insecurities creep up for a couple. It’s like a cycle. I’m consistent working on accepting my imperfections and learning my true self. Hopefully the results come where I can stay in flow and presence with consistence
Albert every morning when you wake up evaluate how motivated you feel and try to identify the things (if any) that de-motivated you in the first place. Then slowly but surely cut those things out of your life. Rob Dyrdrek said that, and since practicing it myself it has helped me tremendously. It helps you regain control when you feel like you have none.
bjbdbz the Rob Dyrdek Impact Theory interview is great. I guess what de-motivates me is my inability to take action in "uncomfortable" circumstances, as well as not fostering enough self-acceptance. I'm showing improvement in both regards but the process is slow, and sometimes I grow impatient. If you don't mind sharing, what been some of your findings when you do the motivational morning exercise?
this really hit home. thanks!
This is one of the most powerful videos I have seen from you guys. Great to have met you guys at Summit
This is so good, I hope Julien and Owen can do a part 2 and dive deeper into it.
Just realized that "Fight club" movie displays a selfdestructive behavior in a very attractive way. and its my favorite movie since i was 16yo
This topic is incredibly difficult for so many to grasp that the two of you literally seem crazy to most. It seems like some woo woo talk, but man, is it on point. Thank you, keep rocking out.
I love the part about switching the bracelet! 👍
Love these video clips added in, they really help
Great! Thx for watching!! 🙏
What kind of microphone do you use? amazing how it filters the wind.
wow this high vibration energy is so intense I could literally feel it from watching the video.
I can't fucking believe how lucky I am to have found out about you guys through the fucking internet.. So much value for me.. I could literally die tomorrow and not care since I am 24 and have been able to consider such ideas that you have presented me with.. Imagine what will happen to me when I meet you in person ..
HOLY SHIT i love this video, my life just got so much fucking better since the day i got awareness on this, complaining just seems so pointless once you realize the effect it has on you, thanks for clarifying this Father J, and also GOOD SHIT with upping the editing on the videos, the quality is INSANE.
Much love and good vibes to you!!
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That ladies and gentlemen is what we call brilliance
Funny. I know in general i'm not really a negative person, in fact I bring great positive energy wherever I go (a lot thanks to discovering you guys a few years back, and deciding it was worthwhile to pay greater effort and attention to understanding social architecture, thx btw). This video made me second guess who I was for a moment, but upon further analysis discovering that there will always be a certain amount of negativity in ones life no matter how great of a person you become. You just have to embrace and understand it when it becomes apparent to you, it goes in levels, its how we grow.
What an amazing setting! Love the light and the clouds, really cool!
This topic of thinking vs being present is very interesting. Since I started meditating, becoming present in social situations, I started to exhibit a bit more confidence and positive mood (not much, but the spark is there).
However, my work involves a lot of thinking and thinking is good when learning skills, planning life/business goals. It all comes back to balance: balance thoughts and being in your head with being present and taking action.
Great video! @ 16:25, Just wanted to say something, at least in the case of ADD/ADHD, I would guess that drugs like cocaine DO make people more present to the moment. In my case, having ADD, I take a controlled stimulant with a chemical structure similar to cocaine, (or even coffee for that matter) and it helps to relax my anxiety which makes me more present to the moment. In fact, in all my experiences, I would say that one of the principal things that helps me to relax is coming present to the moment via an increase in dopamine levels.
What increases Dopamine levels?
In some therapies (Like ACT), drug and other addictions are reasoned with the addict to serve as pathways to the same good emotions that come about normally from healthy habits like eating healthy, exercising and socializing. This is meant to show the addict that they don't have to be addicted to the exact substance and perhaps through some therapy and working with inner blocks like Trauma they can come to appreciate those more healthy habits more.
I think Tyler probably already knows this, I think he just got a little lost with his words for a moment. In my opinion, what it is about addictions that are debilitating is not totally the high they produce, which I believe can be called a genuine experience (and also the kinds of experiences that we all long for), but rather is the loss of the ability to be in control of oneself. From Gabor Mate's "Realm of the Hungry Ghosts" he actually talks about how, in a way, addicts brains become so habituated and wired from & to the drugs that they are literally no longer in control of themselves.
This is consistent with Buddhist Philosophy, in that in one of the ways that we suffer by being born in Samsara is caused when our craving for pleasure becomes so intense that it creates karmic conditions where we are literally "psychologically reborn" in a hungry ghost realm. We would still have a human body, but our mind would be in a state of constant craving. A simplistic way to understand it would be to say that if we were to die at that moment, we would be reborn as a hungry ghost.
It seems that it would follow then that an individual would be chained to that particular existence until their karma was exhausted or improved which is evidently very hard to do when one is a hungry ghost or a human with an addiction as those existences, by their nature, tend to perpetuate themselves. Buddhism emphasizes the preciousness of human birth that is "free and well favored" in that as humans we can make decisions that effect our karma positively. For example, we can engage in virtues like generosity, discipline, patience, exertion, meditation & wisdom. We can also rest in unbiased equanimity free from karma which maybe I can say is an expression of the virtue of Wisdom.
I like how Tyler talks about being present to the moment- it seems very pithy-in Tantra, we talk about becoming present to the moment, and then radiating outwards which I see in RSD's general vibe and I appreciate. I also notice how this is facilitated by sexual and intimate exchange-in the words of David Deida-expressing the masculine as "depth & presence of consciousness", and appreciating the "radiance & flow" of the feminine.
Great video, these are just a few thoughts I wanted to share to add some value and context to what was being discussed.
Had a very similar experience with adderall for my anxiety and adhd and mannnn that stuff was the closest thing to a magic pill I’ve ever seen, however it didn’t last for me which sucks and left me personally worse off once I Got off it but cool experience none the less! The amount of presence in the moment and just pure happiness was insane! I loved my job for once, got in amazing shape and accomplished so much crazy shit while on it - however I got off of it cuz I felt like maybe this wasn’t real ya know and just the drug?
Thank you Julian and Owen, you both help me a lot.
Awesome!!! Glad you're getting so much out of our videos! 🙏
Keep a list and add to it all week of the things you are greatful for. Your health, a bed, food, etc. And anytime you have a bad day return to that list and just read it.
Realized I am addicted to thinking. I always overthink things which eventually stops me from doing them in the end.
Huge props ma present bros >>> thanks for all you do
addiction to unconsciousness.... thank you guys so much for showing this out so clearly and the Kleenex analogy s awesome. honest and real.....love u guys
Thank you so much!!!!!
Good video man! Its the truth man w can get so addicted to our comfort zone no matter what it is.
The key thing to realise as soon as possible in life is that truth hurts and all the stuff you've been teased or shamed for are probably true because if they aren't you wouldn't care, so instead to fight those things, you have to OWN THEM and you'll know you own them when you will laugh sincerely at them, at your self for being such way, like it's the best comedy movie you've ever seen, because if it's true and you acknowledge it, it's funny how it's true, and if it's not, it's funny how one could think that. OWN IT!
Very good, golden insight
loved this guys, scenery was awesome too
Breathe! 💐
Thank You 🙏
Thank you guys. Really helpful 💕
Good video I will fight my addictions with positive habits.
i was high af watching this but i can be present and out of my head when sober too :P also i think negative thoughts can stem from the environment and whatever 'conditioning' you may have. Its night and day going from negative to positive thoughts and then it looks super weird when you see someone saying something negative! It's like 'they just don't get it'. Anyone else had this revelation?
What about being addicted to positivity? Is it healthier or just makes you even more delusional?
True I suppose lol
Thing is you ... have to be addicted not to positivity, but to contentment. This doesn't mean you shouldn't be ambicious though
You need a balance!
I don't know if it's healthier, but it's really similar to being addicted to negativity, because most often than not you are not being present.
Eckart Tolle in the video absolute amazing content ! So much value from this video thank you
I was taught in TC (Theraputic Community) not to "brown bag it" which is carrying over past problems into now. I now realize any acknowledgement of past that does not serve me now, is a wasted trauma emotion I put MYSELF through all to feel justified victim, and thats backward and accomplishes me nothing, im going to limit myself to venting frustrations more discreetly if just once, because despite being a private entity i think the people know how i feel, they just don't dare admit they had the ability to check all along
Great editing and content!
So I understand what you talk about. And I could nod to that I have patterns of recuring negative behaviour or thoughts.
But more than that. Like I truly think that from I wake up til I go to bed I am somewhat say 80% thinking different negative stuff. So my ego runs me, and depression and anxiety stops me from pursuing things that I want, I'm conscious about that.
So how do I help myself? Everything I do or think is based on fears and stuff that aren't authentic to me.
It's hard to describe but what needs to be done when you know all most every part of my life is an issue. Where do I start. And what is even the practice to stop living this negative..
So much confusion
Something tells me meditation would help.
I have been addicted to a number of things, and I have mostly sorted all the negative ones out. But I disagree (at the moment) on the ground hog day thing where you said you feel tired can't be bothered at work, same sht everyday etc. I run every morning, and when I get to work I feel fresh, but after lunch around 3PM I start to feel really tired, but when I get home I feel good and go for another run. I think I get tired because I have a boring and repetitive job. I also thought I was never cut out to be a office worker. Which is why I have started a 'side hustle' so that I can get out of the office and do the shit I really want to do.
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I had no resistance, I love your ideas because I agree, is it was weird not resisting as you spoke about resisting, but then I started thinking 'oh shit I already got past this phase of living here, experiencing happiness' the problem I am concerned about now is the addiction to fun, when have I let the fun become a negative addiction, how to I know when it is too far? I am in love, I am a romantic, 'most girls are boring, I like to have just one at a time, a solid one....'am I addicted to her/them?'.../ on the other hand when I neglect her and drink, 'am I addicted to going out(fun)?'. how do I stop this cycle, 'How do I break free of the chains my emotions have have created". My heart is treacheries too my mind. Don't get me wrong, I understand the Hustle, I use hustle for myself though, monetary and fitness wise, loving and caring wise.
For this reason I question some of the things you do, but agree with the mindset. but Tyler, let me ask you, where do you place your love?..., I believe, for you, it is in others; friends and fans, right? but is it selfish for you to only place it in yourself? Or is it selfish to only place it in one person that supports you...it is hard to ask this question bc/ its so vague, but here it goes.. "how do you balance dependability on other things with loving yourself, is it selfish, is it possible to do? I believe so but I do not know how? how do I love myself when hate to be so selfish, my morals tell me its okay to be selfish but my nature does not like it, are we all this way in one form or another? Bc/ no man will ever be exactly like the next one in this sense, but in another sense we all all just containers of matter floating in a space not built by us. AND if you really don't believe in God..think about that long enough and you will. And then, maybeeee, you will discover that this struggle to find our 'personnel legend, its truly different for us all. Then can we truly listen to our heart instead of ignore it, accept its feelings and thoughts, it will never betray the mind that way...I hope...
"How do I get there?" must be the next question, "how do I find my Personal Legend", 'will it come with more wealth?", doubt it!! I have enough, "will it come with more women?", nahhh. OHHH shit I just figured it out, I need to find passion. shitttt Tyler...I answered my own question, Thanks bro..you really helped. what a minute, I still don't know how to get there, fuckkkk....ima go to bed think about this later! ;)
Feeling the way this is put together!
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You guys are great
This seemed one of the most practically helpful videos for me that I've watched from RSD.
Awesome thanks for the info!! ✌️💯
You're welcome! 🙏
so inspirational! thank you for these amazing videos!
Thanks for watching!! 🙏
Eckhart saying "Fucked Up" :o wasn't expcting that ahah
8:48 in background: "Look. That's your daddy." :)
What if you know you're an addict but still not how to stop? I've started reading the Power of Now but when I've quieted my mind it feels kind of like I'm going to sleep, avoiding my problems by temporarily forgetting them, which I imagine is opposite of becoming aware.
Cool video ! Thanks
16:06 Love this gem of insight from Eckhart Tolle
Brilliant. I'm definately addicted to resentment and fear
Genius, thank you!!! 🙏
Great for sure!!
Really cool! Thank you :)
I totally have been.... finally realized it...
Going DEEP!
Thank you
there is maniac side in you sir julien!!
I'm addicted to RSD videos..
PURE VALUE!
What to do next now that I've accepted that I am addicted. We certainly need more elaboration on process of getting rid of this emotional addiction.
Thak you!