I think it's so smart to ask a friend if they want your opinion or if they just want you to hold space for their feelings, when a friend is complaining to me about their relationship or partner I try to come from a place of non judgment and remind them how worthy they are because that in turn will result in them making the best choices for themselves without meddling too much! ♥️
I relate to Annie @38:01 about having all these friends from her Quaker days but losing all of them. Same. I was Mormon since I was 15, and I went to BYUH (college) and then YSA (church for young adults) till 31. I met so many people who became BBFs, and I thought these people would be my friends for the rest of my life. I genuinely cared about them like brothers and sisters and would be there for them in any way, and I felt like they cared for me as well. As soon as my religious friends married or moved, friendships fizzled out, and people I considered best friends stopped talking to me or liking my post on social media etc. At 36, I have 0 friends; my only friend is my sister and our golden retriever. That's it, and to think I spent so much "quality" time on people that didn't care back about me as much as I did for them hurts. The worst part of being Mormon is that if you are not married by 30 and have kids, you are looked down on, so I deleted all my social media platforms to avoid feeling judged and to not stay "connected" with people who I cared so much about that stopped talking to me or didn't care to keep the friendship going if I tried.
18:41 I'm pretty sure Khalyla is talking about Bryan Callen. Could also be Chris Delia but her sister actually said she didn't like Callen on an episode of Tigerbelly.
I love the conversation about whether or not you should talk to a friend about their relationships. I think it’s hard for us to let go and not control someone and let them make their own mistakes.
man i never comment but i really needed this episode. feel like im at the lowest point of my life mentally and emotionally and i just really needed this. this level of emotional intelligence and self awareness is something i strive for
38:00 when Annie talks about feeling like those friendships felt like a lifetime and when you got cut off it was devastating vs. present feelings… I resonated sooo hard with that. 🤯 And with that last thought I am done healing old wounds ❤️🩹
You gotta tell people when their boyfriend sucks no matter what happens. I found out recently that a friend had been trying to, “drop hints”, that my boyfriend sucked because she didn’t want to spook me and I was like, “you should’ve just told me! How was I supposed to know?”
With these dress up episodes you are missing opportunity for photo sessions. Use for a calendar, selling signed photos, use for meet & greet promotion, playing cards.
I remember that tigerbelly episode. Bryan was a guest and asked at the end of the show why K's sister didn't like him. He wanted to talk to her about it. Then it can be about Chris. Who knows.
54:30 I love you guys. I found my way here from tiger belly but I stayed for the laughs and content. Great pod you guys rock! We're all trying to get out of our own escape rooms!
I’m so happy to see all of you guys I missed this trio. You guys help bring me clarity. Thank you for the reminder that we are all the same and it’s okay to take time to do your own thing. I love you guys so so much.🥹💕 Women are just so grounding, beautiful, and strong especially you three!
I was Posh Spice when we played spice girls. It’s so crazy how all of us who claimed a Spice Girl persona (we all fit into an archetype so naturally there was really no fighting over who got who , it was obvious… save one tussle bw Baby Spice and Ginger Spice) and even as adults, each archetype makes sense for us still. It makes me wonder which came first , the chicken or the egg…
@@clevermissfox a group of my friends who was in my one of my classes in highschool, we all named each other after the Spice Girls and I even had them in in my phone as “Sporty Spice” etc 😂😅
This is just my cheers speech to fellow slugs. Happy New Year, to everyone! Wait this year be a year of helping yourself and others. We've been through a lot during the pandemic. So we need a good year of recovery.
I'm 100% an Annie with friends and honesty. Even when friends tell you they want solutions, your honesty can still ruin things. Speaking from experience. I'd rather be honest than fake with ppl I care about though. It's just rare to find people who can handle it and be honest with themselves as well.
My high was because of you ladies I finally after 10 years of fantisizing to start a youtube channel, I finally did it!!! You and Chelcie Lynn gave the courage and my 9th video went viral. You girls mean everything to me. Truth, introspection, and Hilarity. Prue Gold a gift to humanity. 💌
I’m sure it’s been said below, but one of the highs of this year was finding this podcast! And after watching every episode, can I just say… y’all have never looked better 😍 (Yes, I’m from Texas with the “y’all”. Come back to Dallas!)
Another fantastic episode! ❤️ I especially enjoyed the discussion around women not being one dimensional. ❤️ Thank you for putting out banger after banger episodes!
Just FYI if you meet a virgin and you say eww you’re a D-bag if you say that’s hot, you’re a D-bag. Just treat each virgin, as if theyre a normal human being with an individual story that you don’t know yet. These are the same people that complain about how awful it is when they lost their virginity and they’re normalizing making it more awkward when they encounter it.
@@Novel__Notes sure…Russian Rage. But seriously I’ve been with a few v’s, some I slept with and some not and all of them said people either made them feel gross about it or made them feel like a fetish.
Fr that's why it's so annoying when em rata moans about it and acts like she's hard done by.. she also claims that blurred lines has nothing to do with her success.
Esther: for your friendship question. All you have to do is tell her that whatever is happening is happening but also add “i don’t care if you stay with him btw like that’s not the point of this convo. I’m just letting you know what i see so maybe you can recognize yourself when its happening.” Aslong as they know they can digest the info and they don’t have to take action right away you should be fine to unload on their shitty partner
Esther, you are so sweet and considerate, I agree with Jennifer Jack. Just make sure your friend knows that you aren't judging them and be honest about YOUR insecurities even bringing this up with them, because you realize your place but also wanting the best for your friend. Bring yourself to her level that way and maybe it will feel less combative. It's a hard one, but if it were me, I'd really appreciate someone saying "hey, I could be WAY off base, maybe I'm projecting some BS I don't even realize, but I've done by best to go through those possibilities and am still feeling [describe the physical feeling it causes, so she/he empathizes with you too]. I care about you so much and just want to make sure I hear how you are."
Yes, I was thinking the same but her sister said that she didn't like Callen when she watched him on Tigerbelly. Not that she actually met him. It could well be Callen though..
I knew before K read the “sweet message” it would be a chance for her to try and brag or make something about her. The insecurities are really bad lately, more so since she’s been single, and the pick me vibe is strong. Just be yourself K, you don’t need to impress anyone!
Setting boundaries after a relationship ends. Khalyla: Cut me off. Esther: You want to be cut off. Khalyla: Yeah cut me off. Like you cannot over You cannot allow me to over indulge in anything because I will.... Yeah it's no longer fun to consume What is she even saying.
Esther probably won’t see this but I want to chime in on the friend making bad life choices. I would emphasize the value you see in her when you talk to her, and that she is accepting a bad deal for her worth. When I was in an abusive relationship it was so valuable to me that my friends understood that I was coming from a good intention accepting this abusive relationship. But that I was getting a bad deal. And that I deserved someone who could care for me. When you come from a pure place of attack on the boyfriend or ex boyfriend it feels like you’re attacking your friend. The person who’s making bad life choices is probably doing so from a place of low self esteem. Try to offer a conversation that would be kind to their self esteem 💛
One of my best friends and I had to split this year because her relationship was consuming her life. He abused her, and in a particularly hateful way because she is dark skinned black woman and he is a southern white man. The abuse caused her to drink herself into oblivion and she couldn’t hold down a job for more than a month. It was really taxing on me, as her best friend, to support her without meddling. Sometimes you can’t help but say what’s on your mind though. Eventually, as he tried to really isolate her from me, our friendship turned sour. She was treating me with disdain, flaking on our plans constantly, and I had to put a boundary up. I couldn’t watch her continue to throw her life away for some racist scum. I wanted to help her elevate her life, but she was only trying to bring me down into the muck with her. I love her so much and I miss her, but sometimes you have to take a step back.
I had to pause the video and comment. I get that women seek comfort and advice from their friends when their relationships aren’t going well, but friends need to do a better job at seeing things outside their perspective. You don’t know the good things that happen in a relationship and you don’t know why her boyfriend may be that way due to trauma, past relationships, ptsd etc. Women seldom stop to think that there’s two sides of the story and you put yourself and your friend in an awkward situation because your friend no longer feels like she can talk to you AND you will slowly resent the person who she may spend the rest of her life with. Be there for your FRIEND not yourself.
On the Quantum Entanglement its like in a video game being played online....2 or more separate people in life but seemingly next to each other in the game...all sharing a charge..electricity...the mechanics make connection a little chilly.
"I see my own death while talking to you. Time is like ticking. Your wasting what I have left on this earth."
-Annie
😂
i can absolutely relate :)) we've all met that person that feels as fun as watching paint dry
I think it's so smart to ask a friend if they want your opinion or if they just want you to hold space for their feelings, when a friend is complaining to me about their relationship or partner I try to come from a place of non judgment and remind them how worthy they are because that in turn will result in them making the best choices for themselves without meddling too much! ♥️
Sage advice!
I cant believe how much i miss them in costumes with a theme! Ahhhhhh love them so much
I wish Esther had video on her spotify show
Same
Their chemistry just keeps getting better and better!!
I relate to Annie @38:01 about having all these friends from her Quaker days but losing all of them. Same. I was Mormon since I was 15, and I went to BYUH (college) and then YSA (church for young adults) till 31. I met so many people who became BBFs, and I thought these people would be my friends for the rest of my life. I genuinely cared about them like brothers and sisters and would be there for them in any way, and I felt like they cared for me as well. As soon as my religious friends married or moved, friendships fizzled out, and people I considered best friends stopped talking to me or liking my post on social media etc. At 36, I have 0 friends; my only friend is my sister and our golden retriever. That's it, and to think I spent so much "quality" time on people that didn't care back about me as much as I did for them hurts. The worst part of being Mormon is that if you are not married by 30 and have kids, you are looked down on, so I deleted all my social media platforms to avoid feeling judged and to not stay "connected" with people who I cared so much about that stopped talking to me or didn't care to keep the friendship going if I tried.
Yea I don't really have any friends either. Idk why though.
18:41 I'm pretty sure Khalyla is talking about Bryan Callen. Could also be Chris Delia but her sister actually said she didn't like Callen on an episode of Tigerbelly.
I remember that episode and I thought the same
Yup! I remember this too and people in the comments of that episode were not nice towards her sister.
The Power Puff Girls are back together! Woohoo Happy New Year!!! ❤️✨❤️
I love the conversation about whether or not you should talk to a friend about their relationships. I think it’s hard for us to let go and not control someone and let them make their own mistakes.
man i never comment but i really needed this episode. feel like im at the lowest point of my life mentally and emotionally and i just really needed this. this level of emotional intelligence and self awareness is something i strive for
things will get better and stay strong from a random person online
The Yoni egg joke is underrated lol
Esther was particularly sincere, and outspoken in this episode. I’m just sayin, I like this version of Esther a lot.
38:00 when Annie talks about feeling like those friendships felt like a lifetime and when you got cut off it was devastating vs. present feelings…
I resonated sooo hard with that. 🤯
And with that last thought I am done healing old wounds ❤️🩹
i missed esther!! such a good episode lots of words of wisdom
You gotta tell people when their boyfriend sucks no matter what happens. I found out recently that a friend had been trying to, “drop hints”, that my boyfriend sucked because she didn’t want to spook me and I was like, “you should’ve just told me! How was I supposed to know?”
With these dress up episodes you are missing opportunity for photo sessions. Use for a calendar, selling signed photos, use for meet & greet promotion, playing cards.
Great idea!
Around 19:20 the comedian she’s referring to in regards to her sister picking up a bad vibe is 100% BRYAN CALLEN
I remember that tigerbelly episode. Bryan was a guest and asked at the end of the show why K's sister didn't like him. He wanted to talk to her about it. Then it can be about Chris. Who knows.
How so? I figured Chris delia
@@federico3733 Chris is max creep. That “the Chris d’elia problem” video was insane
@Sarah what a coincidence K brought up that topic at the end of the year episode of Trash Tuesday. Nothing is a coincidence.
Why, "ew" that? lol not everyone loses it that early. 10:20
Wake and bake with banana smoothie and my favorite podcast thank y'all for everything y'all do we really appreciate it 🌞🍌😸
I really love this episode. Such a good conversation. Annie's life prosses gives me such hopes for my future. I love yall.
54:30 I love you guys. I found my way here from tiger belly but I stayed for the laughs and content. Great pod you guys rock! We're all trying to get out of our own escape rooms!
I can’t stop looking at Esther and her little toe poppin out of the stocking 😂
My high was discovering this podcast and gaining three big sisters🥹🥺
I love a themed episode with costumes ❤️
Awww the end made me cry 🥹🥂🥹
Happy New Year and I wish you all a great 2023 with positive energy 🫶
You guys are beautiful! Thank you for an entertaining year, and all the laughs. Looking forward to a successful 2023.
The real question is, did y’all complete your New Years resolution goals of learning a new skill??
I forgot about that !
Esther every 3 minutes "waaaaaait"
Wtf!!! I literally turned 30 today! How did you guys know?! And now I’m crying 😭
Love this podcast! The discussion about wanting comfort vs advice/guidance to solve a problem is a light bulb moment in my personal life!
K was talking about bryan callen i remember them talking about it on tigerbelly
Billy is one of the absolute best people to meet I heard. Just the best.
54:00 I think this is the funniest thing Esther has ever said :D
I had to rewind several times to enjoy it
Always you three please, too many guests that flop without all of you lov ❤❤
I love y’all sm you’re the podcast of the decade
Best episode yet, love the pirate queen etc discussion
I’m so happy to see all of you guys I missed this trio. You guys help bring me clarity. Thank you for the reminder that we are all the same and it’s okay to take time to do your own thing. I love you guys so so much.🥹💕 Women are just so grounding, beautiful, and strong especially you three!
Happy New Years sluggies! Best Pod ever.❤
Esther looks so cute in her outfit
Growing up, a ton of my idols were women : Sarah Connor. Ripley. Xena. Leeloo Dallas. Sporty Spice. The 90's ruled.
I was Posh Spice when we played spice girls. It’s so crazy how all of us who claimed a Spice Girl persona (we all fit into an archetype so naturally there was really no fighting over who got who , it was obvious… save one tussle bw Baby Spice and Ginger Spice) and even as adults, each archetype makes sense for us still. It makes me wonder which came first , the chicken or the egg…
Yeah not thots like Esther worships says more about how terrible her parents were at raising her.
@@clevermissfox a group of my friends who was in my one of my classes in highschool, we all named each other after the Spice Girls and I even had them in in my phone as “Sporty Spice” etc 😂😅
Happy New Year Sluggies!
🎉🌟🌹😘💕🌟🎉
This is just my cheers speech to fellow slugs. Happy New Year, to everyone! Wait this year be a year of helping yourself and others. We've been through a lot during the pandemic. So we need a good year of recovery.
Yayyy, they’re all here!
I'm 100% an Annie with friends and honesty. Even when friends tell you they want solutions, your honesty can still ruin things. Speaking from experience.
I'd rather be honest than fake with ppl I care about though. It's just rare to find people who can handle it and be honest with themselves as well.
who didn't take a day off? these baddies! ❤
Cheers to another year sluggies! 🥂
Already cannot wait for the next Esther trip to Portland. SO good.
Wanted to hear Petes ups, downs for 22 and hopes for 23
Me too !
My high was because of you ladies I finally after 10 years of fantisizing to start a youtube channel, I finally did it!!! You and Chelcie Lynn gave the courage and my 9th video went viral. You girls mean everything to me. Truth, introspection, and Hilarity. Prue Gold a gift to humanity. 💌
I’m sure it’s been said below, but one of the highs of this year was finding this podcast! And after watching every episode, can I just say… y’all have never looked better 😍 (Yes, I’m from Texas with the “y’all”. Come back to Dallas!)
love you slugs thanks for another amazing year 💗
Finally.✨a new episode✨
does seem like a while...way to start with Award Wiming Actor/Directer Billy Bob Thornton
Best episode 👌. This episode is an eye opener for me, thank you
Loved this ep! Happy new year slug tribe!! ❤
Y’all are the best and have such a wonderful dynamic! I look forward to every Tuesday because of you three ❤
I love you guys so much , thanks for this podcast 🥺
Another fantastic episode! ❤️ I especially enjoyed the discussion around women not being one dimensional. ❤️ Thank you for putting out banger after banger episodes!
I'm glad y'all posted an episode. I hope y'all enjoy the holidays despite all the work y'all gotta do. We love y'all 💖
Ester are a lot of edibles this summer hence the “wtf did I do?!” 😆 1:03:32
Is there plans for Pirate Brothel dress up day? Asking for a sailor friend...
MOS?
Just FYI if you meet a virgin and you say eww you’re a D-bag if you say that’s hot, you’re a D-bag. Just treat each virgin, as if theyre a normal human being with an individual story that you don’t know yet. These are the same people that complain about how awful it is when they lost their virginity and they’re normalizing making it more awkward when they encounter it.
Found the virgin
@@Novel__Notes sure…Russian Rage. But seriously I’ve been with a few v’s, some I slept with and some not and all of them said people either made them feel gross about it or made them feel like a fetish.
Automatic thumbs up. One of my new fav's.
The customer service letter should have been cut.
As a 23 year old i love and appreciate ya'lls advice and wisdom so much
lookin’ good, ladies. 👌🏻😘
love you guys! hope you have a great week!
Getting a job based on your looks is a privilege and something many if not most people would happily trade their monotonous or dangerous job for.
Fr that's why it's so annoying when em rata moans about it and acts like she's hard done by.. she also claims that blurred lines has nothing to do with her success.
Esther: for your friendship question. All you have to do is tell her that whatever is happening is happening but also add “i don’t care if you stay with him btw like that’s not the point of this convo. I’m just letting you know what i see so maybe you can recognize yourself when its happening.” Aslong as they know they can digest the info and they don’t have to take action right away you should be fine to unload on their shitty partner
Just watched Bad Santa and realized how attractive Billy Bob is 😂
It doesn’t make sense but it’s true
Like… he shouldn’t be as attractive as he is looking the way he does
So what I'm learning here is only guys find him attractive. Great
@@TheHiyy ... hilarious 😂😆😂
Haha Carlos’s hope for next year. So good.
Happy New Year Baddies !! One and all
I would read Esther's book list, I hope she talks about it
every time a old story is brought up esther wants to call the police hahaha always outraged
Esther, you are so sweet and considerate, I agree with Jennifer Jack. Just make sure your friend knows that you aren't judging them and be honest about YOUR insecurities even bringing this up with them, because you realize your place but also wanting the best for your friend. Bring yourself to her level that way and maybe it will feel less combative. It's a hard one, but if it were me, I'd really appreciate someone saying "hey, I could be WAY off base, maybe I'm projecting some BS I don't even realize, but I've done by best to go through those possibilities and am still feeling [describe the physical feeling it causes, so she/he empathizes with you too]. I care about you so much and just want to make sure I hear how you are."
Esther? I barely know her
she desperately wanted to read that love letter
My thoughts exactly 🙄🙄
Annie’s hope contained, ‘Like’ at least 20 times. Have a listen it’s crazy hahaha.
19:00 @bryan callen… I remember the fam on tiger belly
Yes, I was thinking the same but her sister said that she didn't like Callen when she watched him on Tigerbelly. Not that she actually met him. It could well be Callen though..
@@GhastlyCretin yea I just figured because of allegations and they haven’t had him back on the pod👌🏼
@@mrblonde2912 I think you might be right though. She might have met Callen. It could also be Chris Delia!
@@GhastlyCretin however, Chris and Bobby are on good terms, right? Bryan may not be.
You absolutely need to bring on notsoeurdite.
Billy Bob was with Laura Dern when he started dating Angelina Jolie
Thank u for posting this week. Shit is hard without something to listen to. *cough bad friends *cough😒
I love Khalyla's energy she has such a loving spirit.
Agreed❤
😂 this
Ummm…👀
Honestly what r talking bout lol
Yeah.. she loves total strangers and Bobby's money.
I knew before K read the “sweet message” it would be a chance for her to try and brag or make something about her. The insecurities are really bad lately, more so since she’s been single, and the pick me vibe is strong. Just be yourself K, you don’t need to impress anyone!
Setting boundaries after a relationship ends.
Khalyla: Cut me off.
Esther: You want to be cut off.
Khalyla: Yeah cut me off. Like you cannot over You cannot allow me to over indulge in anything because I will.... Yeah it's no longer fun to consume
What is she even saying.
Love the flapper outfits, let's bring it back!
Esther probably won’t see this but I want to chime in on the friend making bad life choices.
I would emphasize the value you see in her when you talk to her, and that she is accepting a bad deal for her worth.
When I was in an abusive relationship it was so valuable to me that my friends understood that I was coming from a good intention accepting this abusive relationship.
But that I was getting a bad deal. And that I deserved someone who could care for me.
When you come from a pure place of attack on the boyfriend or ex boyfriend it feels like you’re attacking your friend. The person who’s making bad life choices is probably doing so from a place of low self esteem. Try to offer a conversation that would be kind to their self esteem 💛
Getting close to 150k subs over there sluggiez- well deserved : )
I love Esther so much ❤
I love her more!
Billy Bob left Laura Dern for Angelina!! That was wild
One of my best friends and I had to split this year because her relationship was consuming her life. He abused her, and in a particularly hateful way because she is dark skinned black woman and he is a southern white man. The abuse caused her to drink herself into oblivion and she couldn’t hold down a job for more than a month. It was really taxing on me, as her best friend, to support her without meddling. Sometimes you can’t help but say what’s on your mind though.
Eventually, as he tried to really isolate her from me, our friendship turned sour. She was treating me with disdain, flaking on our plans constantly, and I had to put a boundary up. I couldn’t watch her continue to throw her life away for some racist scum. I wanted to help her elevate her life, but she was only trying to bring me down into the muck with her. I love her so much and I miss her, but sometimes you have to take a step back.
Khalyla, don’t fall for the “sent a note to customer service.” He knew sending it to the wrong place would get it read.
I can’t even hate watch anymore they just lie lie lie
Definitely a favorite episode of mine ❤ love you slugs
I had to pause the video and comment. I get that women seek comfort and advice from their friends when their relationships aren’t going well, but friends need to do a better job at seeing things outside their perspective. You don’t know the good things that happen in a relationship and you don’t know why her boyfriend may be that way due to trauma, past relationships, ptsd etc. Women seldom stop to think that there’s two sides of the story and you put yourself and your friend in an awkward situation because your friend no longer feels like she can talk to you AND you will slowly resent the person who she may spend the rest of her life with. Be there for your FRIEND not yourself.
59:40 meander yes 🥰 That word to really preach and just keep on surviving
On the Quantum Entanglement its like in a video game being played online....2 or more separate people in life but seemingly next to each other in the game...all sharing a charge..electricity...the mechanics make connection a little chilly.
My girls are back 🎉
Haha i feel like i am that boring person at parties
Sometimes I catch myself laughing out loud at this podcast then wonder if I’m the only guy here
This thing still exist? Crazy
Girl I cried when I turned 25 I told my girls we’re not doing SHIT for my 26th lmao
Same here
You either get older or you die. Get comfortable with it
Going back to the classics with costumes and themes 🤓 I’m so proud to know the cast for so long ❤ happy Tuesday Sluggies 🐌 the costumes look sexy 🥵😘