Swedish Death Cleaning at 65 Years Old (TURNS OUT IT WORKS!)
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Swedish Death Cleaning at 65 Years Old (TURNS OUT IT WORKS!). My parents have been decluttering for a few years now and they are really seeing the benefits of getting rid of the extra stuff they don't use.
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I tried "Swedish Death Cleaning" (and it worked!)
Thank you for watching!
Shannon,
My family is Scandinavian as well (Norwegians) and Swedes. I've never heard the tradition nor title but it's fascinating.
I was just thinking: wouldn't it be fun to take it to the next level and once you go thru what you don't want to have a family gathering where they could have what they want as a remembrance of that person, then donate what's left or not needed
Just a thought from a person who didn't get a thing from my husband's belongings when he suddenly passed after my sister in law discarded everything as she didn't like the memories. Then told everyone after the fact.
Hallo from a Swedish death cleaner!👋😀🇸🇪
Is Swedish death cleaning the book that you would suggest someone listen to first? Or would there be a different book that would be good to start out with. I’ve been following Dawn for years but I’m just not in the mindset yet. But I need to get there really quick I’m not getting any younger.
I think we can all agree here that we love Shannon's mom! And Shannon ain't so bad either. ❤
I tie a ribbon on my grandmother's old broaches and hang them on my Christmas tree every year, then pack them away again with my Christmas ornaments.
Lovely idea!
Oooo that's such a clever idea!
I love it! Clever idea!
I am Swedish. And I would like to suggest we rename this Swedish life cleaning. I do this not to help my children after my death but to improve my quality of life right now. It does serve both purposes ;-)
Hi Laura, I agree the title is very scary sounding. But I get the process and the reasoning behind it. =)
Well, if you do it to improve your quality of life right now, it's known as decluttering, or divesting.
I do it to improve my quality of life right now, but also to spare my daughters from the burden of it after I die.
I started doing this before I knew that Swedish death cleaning was a "thing," but when I first heard of it, I knew pretty much immediately what the idea was.
I don't have a problem with calling it death cleaning. When you think about the idea that you start at about 65 years of age, it's understandable that it's linked with making life easier for the loved ones you leave behind.
Hope you enjoy clutter free living.
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If you mount the brooches on a velvet background in a christmas tree shape and frame it you can use it as a christmas decoration. That what I did with my favorite ones and I look forward to seeing them at christmas
Great idea
That's brought back a nice memory; my Mum did the same with some decorative and glittery buttons many years ago.
Release pagan custom 💝
I put a few of my grandma's pins on a pretty pillow and it sit on our bed everyday. It is so pretty.
Great idea and so pretty
I’m nearly 70, and love the Swedish death cleaning, it’s my go to job for rainy days. I had a small bag of old gold jewellery from my Grandmother , Mother and Auntie. Non of it was my style, but obviously sentimental, I took it to a jeweller who bought the gold from me and I had a platinum diamond ring made which I love. My house is so much easier to look after too. Great video ladies. Xxx
Thank you Maureen for sharing! I agree it is so much easier to look after my home now that it is decluttered.
Soooooo many older people need to do this ! Too many folks think “ I paid money for this”…..well, 30, 40 years later NO wants it lol…you got your monies worth.
Our local elementary school takes jewelry donations (any kind) and before Mother's Day they put it all out on tables and let the little kids come in and pick a piece for their moms as a gift on Mother's Day. It was the sweetest idea in the world. I'm just putting it out there that maybe some readers will have such programs in their local schools.
Love your videos with your mom😄❤❤❤
Thank you! They are so much fun to make too.
Me too!!!
Hi 👋 Scandish, can I please ask you a question?
My sister died suddenly in 2012 and I had to go through all her things and decide what to do with it all. It made me realise that things don't matter at all and I started going through my things and got rid of more than half my stuff. I learned about Swedish Death Cleaning a few years later and realised that is what I had already been doing. My mum died last year and I am still going through her things. She didn't like to get rid of things as much as I did, so I feel guilty for not wanting to keep everything she had. I need to get over that, but it is hard. I love your mum, she is so lovely. Great video. Hugs from Australia
Omg..similar here..10 boxes of china and silver...I have calculated it goes back5 generations..and it's been in boxes for last two.
Also photos...going back to late 1800s...it is such a debilitating chore...but am not going to leave for others to deal with. Will sort organise and keep some and get rid of lots .
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@@rosalynne8792 Please don't throw out old photos! Digitize them first, scan or take good high res pics of them first. As someone who does some family Ancestry genealogy, old photos are rare and precious, they add so much. Sadly, they get tossed because no one labels them with names, and two generations later, no one knows who they are. Use an acid free, photo-safe pen. If you must get rid of them, first ask the extended family if anyone is doing genealogy, or donate to a local historical society.
@@micheleolson9914 yes..."why did noone label them with names"? is a question I frequently ask myself! Sigh. Fortunately, I do know a lot of them...so I will do that..and yes thnx for the tip on type of pen to use. Actually, the ones I throw away will be mostly the ones from the 70s/80s that are mine.. when we took several similar ..in case someone blinked. My nephews seem to have no interest in anything older than themselves. My son is slightly more interested. However, I do intend to organise, label etc My dad bought a "box brownie" in the 30s.. pics in album...but no labels..I know a lot of who's who though. The huge framed ones are more difficult to "store" ..about a dozen of those. I actually have most on stairwell wall..mixed with more recent ones. It is a (huge)work in progress. Digitise is not a word in my vocabulary..prefer something I can hold and see easily ...in just my lifetime photos have changed so many times... slides ( omg!.. 50s/60s) tiny black/white pics,, movies, videos, dvds. It's only a matter of time and they will change again!!! But, I will organise them...hopefully before I'm gone!!! ..then someone else can digitise( or whatever!?) them.
I am going to reorganise lots into those small containers within a bigger container...photo boxes. Especially the ones from mid 20th century.
Thanks for the tips!
@@rosalynne8792 The interest in former generations often comes when people get older. Or maybe your nephews' kids or a cousin... might develop that interest. A whole lot of fotos would be an incredible treasure then, especially with names and relations on them. I have just about a dozen fotos and you can't imagine how much I'd love to know who these people are. And who knows, perhaps you yourself find that interesting one day, once you stumbeled over an interesting story of an ancestor, die example. I got back as far as the 11th century in one branch of my family. I found professions and stories... so much to discover! It's addicting 🤷♀️
Perhaps you should take your jewelry to a jeweler. You may have serious money in that 'old stuff.'
I ended up clearing out a house I had sold. As a Realtor one never knows what you’re doing next! It was early 1990’s. The house was stuffed with stuff. In a drawer was a letter from 1954 from the ladies cousin complaining about having to clean out their aunts house (who apparently wasn’t well liked). In the letter she said I hope we never leave this kind of mess for anyone else to clear out when we die! It was an eerie, Twilight Zone moment, lol. But it stuck with me to not hang on to unnecessary stuff. The lady apparently kept buying aluminum foil. I had enough foil it lasted until 2005!! 😳
My Grandmother saved aluminum foil and pie tins which she said was something everyone that went through the Great Depression did
Maybe they were conspiracy theorists making aluminum hats 😆
Great story!
@@Sanchlingernon 😂
@@Sanchlingernon 🤣🤣🤣
The 30 yr old chair looks better than the one I bought last year. Quality counts.
The chair looked like something that would be comfortable in an assisted care setting.
Hi 👋 Lynn, can I please ask you a question?
Letting go of excess makes space for living. And makes the space easier to clean. But I'm keeping my mother's jewelry, especially the gold, diamonds and cameos. I wear mom's brooches on my coats and bulky sweaters. I sure do miss her...
Hi Denise
Denise T, it is ok to keep your mom's things, they have her essence. Use broaches on scarves, hats, on pillows as decorations and on lamp shades to remember her. I place a broach on the outside of my wallet, it was my mom's favorite. If you decide to give them to your children, they can be turned into earrings or charms for chains. What best gift than something from grandma with an inscription from her. God bless.
Hi 👋 Denise, can I please ask you a question?
@@patrickmckinley9937
Oh, go away, do! I don't think you even *have* a question for all the women you are stalking on this comment section.
I was 23 when my mother died. She had been sick for 10 years but she was only 48 when she passed away. Her mother and four sisters came over the day after she died and took literally everything she owned. Then, my father gambled our family home away. So, I inherited nothing from either of them. You are so blessed to have the joy of going through this process with your mom. I envy you so much.
I'm really sorry that happened to you. I asked my daughter if I had anything she wanted and she said she "had enough junk in her house". That hurt. Truly, I do not have junk, my house is clean, organized and actually quite sparse.
@@only1joy there is someone who will treasure it.
Your mom is beautiful and fun! You are blessed to have her and she you.
Thank you so much!
I am 65 and I finally went through my Grandmother's jewelry..what took me so long. I never wore it. It did make me feel closer to her. It feels sooooo good to be free of it. I do not want to manage anything anymore!!! I want freedom. My Family will not have to waste time going through my junk.
Love wearing my grandmother's ear " bobs"
What a beautiful mother daughter relationship!
If I’d told my mom I was doing Swedish death cleaning with her in her home I’d be in serious trouble 😂
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When I'm doing the Swedish Death Cleaning for my only child, instead of feeling sad &/or making her feel obligated to keep something, I put all the things I no longer want or use in a plastic tub. When she comes over, she can go through my "discards" without feeling like she is hurting my feelings if she doesn't want them! We can talk about some of the items of why she MIGHT want to keep them but NO pressure!! I've already released them but she's welcome to browse through them without having to burden herself! Just because we're in the thrift store, doesn't mean we need to burden our life with more junk!
Great idea!
I used to declutter with my Mom. She got rid of so much stuff before she passed. It was a precious time. Watching you with your mom brings all those memories back.
I remember my grandmother decluttering. I was sad when I went there and there were bare spots and looked unlived. Sad
We are in our 70's. We live in a 2BR condo. I give away, sell, or recycle at least 20 things each day. My husband is getting rid of piles of photos, he finally
realized he is mortal. I wear big brooches when I dress up. I sold a bunch of chokers my mother in law gave me, no one in the family wanted them. Tina
That’s a great idea, to break the job down to a number of items per day.
Where do you two come from? Just out of the blue...I see mother & daughter having fun cleaning!! So cute to watch you two! Your mom is beautiful! I am almost 73 & she looks great!!
😊 thank you
“People must’ve had really thin necks in the 50s” I just love your mom’s sense of humor!
Haha!
It's true I have a few necklaces from the 1950s and they're tiny they won't even go around your neck
I'm helping my parents declutter every now and then in different drawers and cabinets. Last weekend I helped my mum with her jewelry and small decor. It was a deja vu to watch this video! (But we actually are swedish and live in Sweden). I took a small bag of items that I really like home with me, things that my mother no longer wanted to use. What a joy for both of us that she passed those things on to me while she is still alive (and kickin'!) so that she can see me enjoying her things. And what a SPARKING JOY to send the tons and tons of unwanted things to the lokal second hand store - not having to deal with it "later on"...
Hi Anna
I love this idea. You guys are so cute. Makes me miss my mom. Wish my mom had done this because leaving her previous and beautiful things caused a lot of stress for herself and us after her passing.
I just love your mom...and you two together! After 30 years, that expensive chair was just pennies a day! LOL
Wished my mom would help clean out stuff. She told me it would be mine and my sibling's responsibility... I'm slowly getting rid of stuff, but have to be careful, because if she says it can go one day, it must go that day, or she will change her mind.
Hey Shannon and Shannon's mum 🖐 You both did a great job and your mum is getting really good at letting things go 🙌
I was doing Swedish death cleaning before minimalism became popular. I went through my entire apartment and got rid of anything I didn’t think my family wouldn’t want when I die.
I always like when you help your mum to declutter. She is so sweet and funny ❤️
The passed down stuff is the hardest or things with memories attached. I'm glad you had each other to go through it together.
I had the jewelry to leave for my daughter's in a very large purse
I accidentally donated all that when I donated clothes,shoes and purses for a program that helps women living in homeless or domestic violence shelters to have things to go to job interviews and just feel more human and confident.
Don't forget to check those places when you donate.
I don't regret the accidental jewelry donation. Accessories are nice for them too
I think if I had 2 high quality (paid a lot for) chairs I would keep them and have them reupholstered to match present decor. Or even quality slipcovers.
They just didn't use them, and they have a lot of other seating too LOL
I think it makes a big difference when you have someone with you to go through the stuff and discuss etc. to follow through.
My mom just passed away and I really appreciate she was very minimal, had her will and burial arrangements requested and paid for.
I live in the house my parents spent the last 35 years of their lives in, and when I moved in to care for them I brought my own house full of stuff. They've since passed and I'm still contending with a lot of their things pretty much on a daily basis. As I'm getting older - I'm 63 - I want to go through their things AND MINE with my son so he's not left with two houses full of - a-hem - "things" he doesn't want... this video reminded me of that, thank you! Nice job mom, the place looks great! From the southern California desert, MK 😁🏜
Hi 👋 Emmkaa, can I please ask you a question?
@@patrickmckinley9937 sure...
@@emmkaa2099 Okay Emmkaa i just want to be friendly with you but I don't think you will be okay talking here publicly. I suggest we talk about it on Email ✉️💞🙏... What do you think? 🤔🌹🌹
@@emmkaa2099 That guy, Patrick McKinley is all over this comment section asking all the women if he can ask them a question. Seems a bit creepy to me, especially seeing his second comment to you. 🤔
@@judylloyd7901 Yeah, and he's not the only one. I assure you, no further communication ensued. Teach me t'be helpful, huh? Thanks for the heads up. 😁
A Win, Win for you both! Your mom has less clutter, and Shannon doesn't have to deal with it later! 😉 Good job!
Yes! Thank you!
I got rid of 80 percent of my stuff and I feel so happy and free. Less is more is very true.
Hi Nancy
@@barrycamilo5319 who are you?
@@nancyparker2199 just wanna be a friend and get to know you
Your Mom is so much more comfortable with the camera and the decluttering now. I just finished my jewelry project, feels great.
I didn’t wear brooches and pins when I was younger but find that I do now. Fashion accessories that don’t take up much space but bring variety to my wardrobe. I love this concept and need to implement it too.
I’m at the point in my life, mid-60s, where I have begun the same process of freeing myself from possessions. I have few people to pass things on to and don’t want to leave behind the clutter for someone else to deal with after my time on earth is done. Your video today helped me see the process even more clearly. I will definitely be watching more of your videos.
Just found your channel! I am 66, my husband is 72. We have lived in our home for forty years without moving, raised our two children. Now at this point we have bought a home on a lovely river, 3 1/2 hours away. Home is about same square footage,. I am also wheelchair bound! This move seems very daunting, a large part is going to be the decluttering and purging of things. I plan to start watching your videos as I need help and encouragement! That water view and being near the grandchildren is worth it….right?😜
Hi 👋 Mary, can I please ask you a question?
Oh my goodness I’m just watching some of your older videos for motivation. I just have to say your mum is such a gem 😊 your relationship reminds me so much of my mother and myself ❤
Its great to see the beautiful relationship of mom & daughter duo! Its also great that your mom is willing to go through this journey with you, Shannon. The buttons container is also a trickle down inheritance. I have one of those buttons containers from my mom in-law, buttons from Depression & WWII era, when buttons were a luxury item. So many buttons and none of us ever use them, except periodically to look at them.
The box of buttons made me laugh! I hope you are doing well.
YES ! I have my late Mom’s button jar. I love it. I know my daughter liked it as a kid, too when my Mom had it. Maaaaybe my daughter will choose to keep that someday . Or not. Either way is FINE ! For now, it’s one of my few sentimental “knick knacks”, & I’ve placed it on my hutch.
My aunt inherited my grandmother's button jar. Some people make beautiful jewelry with those old buttons. You could RUclips it! Everything's on RUclips.
When I was little we used the buttons to play rummoli. We didn't have lots of money but we had the button jar.
I inherited my mom's buttons as well as my two grandmas' and my great aunt's. There are some beautiful, precious ones among them, many of real motherpearl, which is very expensive nowadays.
Whenever I wear a garment I love with "unworthy" buttons, I replace them with my beautiful ones. Now is the time to enjoy them!
I wouldn’t wear a broach, but it would make a beautiful Christmas ornament.
My daughter made a beautiful wedding bouquet out of old brooches, it was stunning
Hot glue broaches to a wood box to make a jewelry box to remember grandma. Or lampshade you clip them on the bottom. Just ideas i also saw them arranged in a heart in a shadow box
You and your Mom are adorable!
I am 62 and would love to have your Mom’s gorgeous hair!
Decluttering/downsizing is my absolute favourite pastime so Swedish Death Cleaning is right up my alley.
Please do more of these clean outs with your Mom. The two of you make everyone smile 🥰
Greetings from Canada.🇨🇦
Thank you Wendy! My mom decided to embrace her natural color about 5 yeas ago and now her hair looks so healthy!
I agree... Your mom has gorgeous hair! She's beautiful! 💜
You are SO lucky. My little sister, who was an organized hoarder died and my mom took a lot of her stuff, and when I moved my Mom close to where I live to drive her places(she has macular degeneration), I tried to introduce her to minimalism so that her move would be lighter(I moved her along with my husband). Now, whenever I visit her, all I can think about is how much stuff I am going to have to go through after she passes, if she dies before me. She has SO much stuff , loves to shop and I feel overwhelmed. I am a minimalist and when I die, my son will be able to get rid of my things in about an hour.
love this with your mom. I’m 66 and know how your mom feels. Plus I have all sons and they surely don’t want my things! I also quilt so that is a whole other declutter. Thanks for a daughter’s perspective!
Loved this Shannon! You and your mom are a great team and you are making huge progress in decluttering her home and inspiring us all to do some decluttering!
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Thank you so much!!
Love your moms jewellery please do a jewellery video michelle from Ireland
Hi 👋 Faith, can I please ask you a question?
@@patrickmckinley9937 What are you - some kind of internet troll? You keep asking everyone if you can ask them a question that you never ask.
What about those charities that outfit girls for prom? Those brooches would make even the cheapest dress look good and can be used on hairpieces as well. Great job ladies!
I love that idea, I will look into that.
@@shannontorrens1 il no nmm
I love how easily your mom goes along with you helping her.
Agree. I tried to help my mom but all she wanted me to do was cram more in the closets. After my parents died, emptying that house was so time consuming. And sad.
My own mom hoarded papers and trash. My brother and I tried to get rid of her worst, smelly messes over the years. She tried to hoard even when she lived
in a nursing home. She hid cookies and used tea bags amid her clothes. Tina
I read the book when it first came out. I’m 66 and decluttering too, mostly for my own sanity and to have less to take care of. Congratulations on all you’ve done!
This was a fabulous video. I'm 69 years old so a little older than your mom and I can relate to this subject/book about Death Cleaning. I haven't read all of it but it's really fantastic. I am going through this myself. I have nothing to leave anyone so I am now getting rid of a tremendous amount of things for one thing I'm sick of cleaning it and around it, but, I'm slowly getting rid of things that were sentimental as well. This is a good thing to do. It's not that I plan on kicking the bucket any time soon, lol, but, it feels wonderful, cleaner, and you don't have to be concerned that people will have to go through the piles of items in your home after your gone. So, I think no matter what age this is a good thing to consider for one's own happiness and others.
I agree it is NOT about kicking the bucket but about downsizing while you have the energy to go through everything and enjoy going through it too. =)
Kate hi Kate I am also 69 and house is full of clutter. I don't keep well low energy problems so I've hired 2 sisters to do it for me. I lost my 45 yr old daughter 😢 in April 13th 2020. It was ester Sunday and out of the blue. I have been through a weird time with not being able to concentrate to do stuff. My grand kids have helped in past but I am a hoarder and go out buying stuff and dumping when I get in. I know I must get some kind of high from it but I realise when it's time for me to depart it wouldn't be fair to leave the work to my grankids. Plus it's helping me mentally to get it done. So far my bedroom has been done which I had to move out of and go to spare room and its now cluttered. I don't spend much cash on myself so this is a wee treat for me and (grankids). Girls are coming next week to do my kitchen and dinette which is full of clutter.x I am sure u don't have my problems but it does me good to talk. Thank you for reading.xx 😃😍 ps girls are not related, got them from Google and their great. Best wishes from Scotland xx
I'm SO jealous you have your Mom so close to you. Mine passed away very unexpectedly years ago and I'm still stuck with the guilt about stuff I've inherited.
A.NC, Please don't feel guilty! Sometimes mothers cannot make up their mind as what to leave us. So it is up to us to decide. You will honor your mom by wearing, using, displaying something of hers. What better way to remember her. Also passing things on to grandchildren, like a broach turned into earrings or charm with the inscription" from grandma". Use what you can, get rid of things you do not. God bless.
Your mom and you having fun in a stressful situation is goals.
Go through stuff all the time.My late husband had a rule.... Everytime an item came into the home, an item has to go out the home....irrevelant of what item it is.If one buys new shoes....be prepared to throw either an old pair or shoes out , or another item.Very soon , one discovers that one does not need to buy anything new....unless one is going to part ways with other much loved clothing items etc.Do the same with kitchen items etc.
I love that you are helping your mom with this process. It is easier for her to ask if you want anything and if you’re not interested it can go out for donation immediately. There are things I want to ask about and end up putting it to the side waiting until I see my daughter. Great job of decluttering ladies!!!
I've seen wedding bouquets made from brooches, a great idea!
Great idea!!
Awe, look at your beautiful baby bump! Your Mom is so funny. I really like how she was prompting to see if you wanted certain pieces of jewelry but she didn't get upset when you declined. I also liked how your Mom went back and shared how her decluttering has felt and the snowball effect has encouraged doing more. I really enjoyed this video.
Thank you so much! I am so lucky she doesn't get upset when I say no to taking things.
Hi 👋 Michele, can I please ask you a question?
I've been decluttering seriously for the past year. Started in 2013. All 3of my son's are grown n families of their own. My first huge purge was when I gathered their stuff since birth n delivered it to each one of them in different states. My words to them was I've kept all this during your growth what you do with them from here is solely your decision.
Bottom line I don't want them to have the burden of going through my estate having to make decisions. They know all they have to do is ask if they want an item now.
Besides I like living with only things I need and use daily. It's so freeing..like a weight has been lifted from mine n their shoulders.
I'm only half way through and I had to stop to let you know how much I am enjoying today's video. I just love when your mom makes appearances - both because of how much fun you seem to have together, but also because I'm near her age and I so relate to her decluttering! Okay... back to your mom's closet declutter. That task is next on my personal downsizing list. ETA, and brooches! I have inherited brooches too!
Thank you! It is so great to hear you are also on this same journey. I never knew brooches were something so many people have, they must have been very popular back in the "old days" I wonder if they will make a comeback.
@@shannontorrens1 I think part of it may be that the old fabrics could stand up to heavy brooches better than the flimsier materials these days that would sag or tear.
I love them i put them on every jacket wear on rain jacket also gave to wee grandauther and bags with this flue things will never be 5he same no wee dance do not need all give to.all charthy shops love pollyx i got one girl age 42 and 5 boys scotland x my dauther says do not give me all your things and fill my house up
You are right about the flimsier modern fabrics that can’t handle brooches. I remember when I was little that lots of women wore heavy,drab, tweedy suits that were perfect for brooches.
B. Squared, those broaches make great earrings, can be used with scarves, hair, hats, wallets, chains and of course, coats. Also as decorations for pillows, on sofa or bed and Xmas trees. God bless.
i like how mum found good places for her things to go. We don't need more landfill. the energy embodied in old things deserves some respect imo
The videos that you make with your mom are my favorite. She’s so sweet and I love your chemistry together.
Thank you! =)
It was so telling when your wonderful.mum said...."it preys on her mind" I felt like grabbing her and saying....you are allowed to get rid of that burden. Your mum did so well Shannon, sentimental stuffs not easy.bi hope she feels lighter with every declutter. Xx
I agree, when she said that I thought this is why we are doing this. =)
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it's so nice to see that mother and daughter are on the same page
Your mom is so much h fun to watch! I relate to her because I am also in my mid 60s and am doing the same thing. I text my daughter and daughter in-law with photos and if they don’t want things now, those things are gone! It feels so good to live with less!
When I first came across the death cleaning book; I thought, How morbid; but it isn't at all. We keep so much stuff that only meant something to us, not some special heirloom to pass down. I did this cleaning before we moved from CA to Utah. I can't believe how much I got rid of. Thanks for sharing. I think its important to do this type of declutter.
Thank you Jan and I completely agree! It's not morbid, just a wonderful way to go through everything.
Hi Jan
Hi 👋 Jen, can I please ask you a question?
I read the book a few years back - excellent! My husband is much more attached to 'stuff' than I. I've told him that my daughters and his daughter won't want our stuff. if they love us, they'll go thru the stuff BEFORE they call the 'Get Junk' truck.
Your mom is such beautiful women. It is nice to see you collaborate with your mom.
Love ❤️ you both from Boston!.
Thank you so much!
“Your fantasy self…” Wow, that was an enlightening idea! I always think of how I want to be, but I’m not. Crazy.
Hi Marcia
Hi 👋 Marcia, can I please ask you a question?
My mother had lots of lovely costume jewelry that I hot glued around the border of a large mirror. It hangs in my hallway and I love it. It reminds me of her.😇
You have an awesome relationship with your Mom. Treasure it and never take it for granted. You are so lucky💜 Best wishes from New Zealand 💕
Thank you Anne! I feel very lucky and now that we live closer we can see each other everyday and I really enjoy it.
You are kinda my "audible" I put on your videos and listen while I clean 🙌💃💜☺ am so grateful for your channel ❤
Love that!
Aww, you’re making me miss my Mom 💗. She would have been into this as well. Thanks for the “real life” content 😊
Hi 👋 Allie, can I please ask you a question?
That was a fun video thank you for posting! My daughter started helping me clean out my house this summer. It was exciting finding things I hadn't seen in years.I probably got rid of 50% of what I had. I'm telling you my house feels so clean. I cherish those times with my daughter.
That is awesome!
I've said it before and will say it every time, I freaking love your mom.
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@@patrickmckinley9937 Basking shark. Is that what you are?
This place is already immaculate. I don't see any clutter. I understand how someone who is a minimalist might see it as clutter but really, this is not clutter to the average person.
When my Mom passed away my sister and I went thru her jewelry box and sorted out what we wanted to keep. There was a lot of costume jewelry that wasn't our style but at the time I couldn't part with it. I'm glad now I kept it because I have seen where people take bits of jewelry and create artwork with it. I am going to use them to create the first initial of both my siblings last names as well as my own. It will be original artwork using otherwise unwanted pieces. All the more special because it was our Mom's.
Just a thought for those of you who are reticent in donating/selling anything like this. You can also upcycle old tie's into cell phone holders and wristlets to name a few. Or take an old top and turn it into a pillow. Lots of ways to re-invent something you can't bear to get rid of; but make it useful.
I’m so looking forward to getting to a point where I’ve decluttered at least 30% of my “junk”. I think the idea of Swedish death cleaning is a great idea. I don’t want to leave all of my stuff for my son to go through. There are definitely a lot of things that I don’t need that I will never look at again so why keep it. Love your videos with your mom. She’s so adorable.😊💖🙏
It is the greatest gift you can leave your son.My little sister died and she left me an absolute nightmare to deal with.She was an organized hoarder.I had to deal with extreme grief AND all of her things.
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Love how you two work together and have a great relationship. Good job on the Swedish death cleaning. I've been doing it for the last 7 years. It works. I feel better with less.
I love the videos with your Mom! I am 63 years old, with 3 adult kids. The only one who would want any of our stuff, doesn’t have anymore room at her place, and still has stuff at our house! I enjoy watching your Mom declutter, she’s got such a great attitude and sense of humor!
Thank you Laura!
When I think about it everything we own is just stuff/junk we put the value in it from our memories.... we should invest in people and experiences instead of stuff....thanks for the video it was a good one.... your mom is so sweet!👍❤
Absolutely!!
MOM ! I love her ! You are so beautiful , Mom ! And you have a beautiful daughter ! I’m 61 ( pushin’ 62 !) , & my daughter turns 35 pretty soon ! Great progress today ! Really inspiring. Great job finding good places for the stuff to go ! Donating shirts to Hawaiian store, jewelry to a thrift store, selling the other jewelry, & having someone lined up to take the chairs ! Fantastic ! I’m happy to say that I pretty much have that same amount of clothes in my closet as Mom ! ( after several declutters after downsizing 2 years ago, let alone xs B4 that ). I STILL need to make another pass through my clothes & donate more !
So, wait, I've been watching the old videos of you decluttering your mom's clothes in a couple of locations and now she's down to just this in one walk-in closet?! Really?! Wow, that's amazing. I'd love to see a video of how she feels now with less and how it's made her life easier. It seemed in all the previous videos, she was saying that she would go shopping with all the space, but apparently, she didn't?! Go mom!!
People use broaches for wedding bouquets so they will sell. This is good because my daughter is a lot like yours she doesn’t want my stuff.;)
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I soooo relate to this need. I have begun the process to “keep the best and let go of the rest.” It is a slower process than anticipated, as life’s other activities take time away from decluttering time, but even SLOW progress is still progress. I have enjoyed watching the videos of you and your mother as she pares down their belongings. It is nice that she has you to laugh with her through this process. A sense of humor helps maintain a positive attitude, and keeps motivation going. Thank you for sharing your journey with those of us who are also wanting to downsize.
You are so lucky your mom lets you help her declutter. My mom can't let go, and the clutter makes it harder to clean.
New to your channel but this was a fun video! "Save the buttons"... and yet I've never, ever reused them and finally stopped saving them years ago. 😂
Hi Elizabeth
You guys are so cute! The buttons lmao, my mom has been giving my daughter little containers of buttons and beads.
Your mom is precious!
I needed this so much. Thank you. My entire world is in storage at the moment. I am going to Swedish Death Clean each and every box as it comes out of storage. So frustrated at the moment as I can't even get to the boxes as big stuff is in the way. Ok stuff just you wait! My son has already told me not to save anything for him as he will just trash or burn it. haha that sounds so harsh. He did say it with much love. His wife kept every last thing from her parents. I get it. My daughter will need to make a list.
Love the laughs you guys have together. That’s awesome your mom got rid of those chairs. I’ve been doing a major fall declutter as I’m going back to the office soon & it’ll feel good to have everything organized at home.
Hi Holly! What a great idea to declutter before going back to the office, it will feel great when you get home each day.
Yay! Just last night I was re-watching your declutter with your mom videos (for the millionth time!) They are the BEST!
Yay! Thank you! That makes me happy =)
I'm in the process of doing this! I am 65 and have inherited so much stuff, including jewelry and collected my own, but it's time to let it go!
Can't believe those chairs are 30 years old!
We have buried all four of our parents and have vowed to only leave a minimal amount for our children to have to deal with. I love the Swedish Death Cleaning concept. Shannon, I love your mom!!! I love that you are helping her do this too. Great video!!!
I love the concept of Swedish Death cleaning because it makes so much sense. I hope you are doing well.
I’m so happy,I don’t own all these beautiful things.I would never be able to part with them.Your mother is one beautiful lady!
You’re mother and you have such a wonderful energy it is fun to watch you both ,oh but I need to de clutter too thank you for the tips ,I am 71 years old and live in Tokyo 🙏🌈😃
I just have to say, I LOVE your mum's decor, especially the pretty teapot? The one on her bedside table. Just gorgeous. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much!
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Your mother is SO PRETTY! Seriously. She must have been so gorgeous when young because she is still beautiful now.