Women don't want an emotional man
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"And Jesus wept." The realest verse out there talking about the realest man I know 💯
This is what lets me know it’s okay to cry as a man. Even the strongest man we know cried. Glory to Jesus!
@@awesomegermany9586totally agree!
We aren't for the ways of this world, nor do we wish to attract the women of the worldly.
We desire women of God, those that would understand and love the character and compassion we show for others, and not consider us weak for it.
@@awesomegermany9586yes always say this
There’s a difference between a man shedding tears vs being somebody’s emotional doormat
Amen
I find women who can lose respect for someone so easily to be unattractive. If someone has such great qualities and character that you h e developed a healthy sense of respect for him, and you lose that simply because he cries, you are the problem. I don’t care what the “statistics” tell you.
Truth!
And the ones like this always act the same, they got that smug look on their face, they laugh and can’t take anything seriously. It’s actually super annoying
True we should always respect men but that doesn't mean weakness and an emotional man is something we love...
@@Missnoemit Oh look, another one who is the problem. And just like I said, always got that look on their face that makes this easy to identify.
@@Missnoemit Nobody even said that, why even bring that up in the face of what he said? Also you have a playlist called femininity 😂
These women don’t want vulnerable men, but then complain if their men can’t sympathize with their feelings because their men are emotionless. It’s weird sometimes.
No matter what, men can't win
@@JoshMcSwainWhat do you mean? You win if you can walk away from them.
@MoonDrip_5 Amen
Yeah avoid those women. A good women who would stay with you thick and thin will respect you even in vulnerable times.
They also expect men to be strong and serious yet make them laugh at the same time. 😎
I am engaged to a wonderful man of God, whom I’ve been with for 2 years. I’ve seen him cry listening to music we plan on playing at our wedding… I’ve seen him cry over his lost family, I’ve seen him cry over frustrating circumstances.
Yes. I do see him differently.
I see him more intimately even though we’re both celibate.
I feel more deeply connected to him, and I am so honored that he trusts me enough to be vulnerable around me.
This is HIGHLY attractive to me. That he’s willing to be so honest with me about his feelings.
When he cries just THINKING about me walking down the aisle, I feel SO loved. When he cries, thinking about his kids who haven’t even been conceived yet graduating and growing up, I feel so blessed for my future children, that they’ll have a dad that cares so much for them.
On the other side of things, he has helped me out of the “independent woman” mindset. He reminded ME how to be more emotionally vulnerable.
He holds me when I cry, and listens when I’m angry. Etc.
Whatever this culture has convinced these women of, is not reality.
This is beautiful, I agree it’s so attractive and shows that they care, it’s hard to tell emotions when they’re so stone faced
Exactly!!
A thousand amens!
I don't wish to call you a liar...but if only I could believe that. I've seen the opposite so much that I cannot believe such a thing exists.
I generally believe that we as men should not be emotional.
@@divinityofblackness6330 that’s just it, you HAVE been lied to… but not by me… by society … so sad to hear. Hope you find the person who teaches you how to trust ❤️
My rule is I only cry to God. Trust in people is like sinking sand.
Even worse, trusting people is like trusting a toilet that has overflowed and is still plugged up. 🚽
Facts!
Aye to be real. If I can't cry one time infront of you because you lose interest. 🏃🏿♂️💨 I'm gone! I got an everlasting love already so I'll be aight 👍🏾
👏💖
I’ve cried in front of every girlfriend I ever had and none of them ever respected less or were less attracted to me.
Leave behind people who disrespect you for being human. It’ll be easier to find someone who actually respects you that way.
Then why are they all ex-girlfriends? Hmm? 😎
Why did you break up with them?
And that’s not the reason they all broke up with you? I know they told you it was for another reason but trust me it’s because they didn’t see you as a man anymore
"Every girlfriend I ever had..." 🤡
@@CSAcrazy Who said they broke up with him?
It was disgusting to watch their response to his pain. Its one thing to be completely led by your emotions, its a whole different thing to have a heart that is Capable of processing things like, grief. Its pretty sick how a person would see that moment of (justified) vulnerability and pounce. Panels where people grade others like cattle at an auction?? Sad. Brothers, please do not guage your worth and Value on what shallow, toxic women think. Who Does God say you are and how does He see you?
Amen 👏🏽
my girlfriend encourages me to cry in her arms while she plays with my hair and rubs my back
You’re blessed bro, cherish her
Physical contact before marriage…
That's really emasculating. Man up I guess? 👀
@@AtiShard16 Is good if it doesn't become sinful activity. 😎
@@ModelJames13 Physical contact before marriage IS sinful already
My wife, ex now, laughed when telling my neighbor that I had a flashback and was the last one to the dinner table. Nearly 18 years of childhood abuse, acquiring CPTSD. Never discussed abuse with her, never cried, never knew. Then I lost it when mom died on my birthday, going through divorce and many others that brought me to my knees.
Hot take: a man who knows how to process his emotions (which, news flash, includes verbalization) is much stronger than a man who fears doing so.
"I'll never cry, or else women will never like me."
I respect men who cry
Me too but it depends on the circumstances unfortunately. Evil men can do it to manipulate, it has happened to me. But there are also evil men who never ever ever cry.. which I’ve also lost complete respect for as clearly their heart was completely closed off.
Yes absolutely. I agree, real men who can cry and not afraid to, show their emotions in a healthy way. Definitely being well aware of circumstances and the type of person
@@love7loveIt can be hard to differentiate the evil behavior from the crying after going through something manipulative and abusive, I’ve experienced that, too. But I refuse to let that stop me from caring for men who genuinely cry and choose to be vulnerable.
I hope you will pardon how long-winded this word of advice is, but man to man: Stop watching and listening to the losers online who are obviously so insecure that they need to tell men to not have emotions. Think of King David who wrote the Psalms, imagine the emotional depths of his spirit that allowed him to write poetry with such meaning. He wept and he loved. David loved Jonathan, he loved his son, he loved his people, he even loved King Saul. David's love drove him to act in a way that gave of himself. It takes much sorrow and suffering to give of yourself and to weep is to acknowledge that suffering for what it is. David also wept over his own egregious sin. Weeping shows a thing for what is, imagine if David hadn't wept over his adultery and murder, it would have shown that there was no weight to his guilt. As a man you need to learn how to weep in accordance with the proper circumstance. Crying because you dropped your ice cream is what a baby does, obviously a man shouldn't do that. But weeping when you feel alone, as if the world is collapsing around you, when you don't know what to do with yourself after all these years, when you have sinned so much that you feel weight of your guilt upon you, weep for these weighty things. Also weep for weighty things joyfully. Weep that Christ has redeemed you from your sins and that he desires to eternally love you, weep over the face of your child as you hold him for the first time, weep for these good things and do not be ashamed of them. Weep for the sufferings and the trials and do not be ashamed of your weeping. Your weeping is humility, for the prideful man keeps in his emotions until they burst forth from him uncontrollably. I would go as far to say that the man who does not feel the urge to weep when presented with good and evil in this life does not know His Father's business. Jesus wept over the tomb of Lazarus even though He knew that Lazarus would be raised. As a man of God, learn to weep.
Thank you, brother.
This was highly encouraging.
Well said.
No one says you can’t. Just don’t do it in front of women or people who rely on you or people who look up to you. It’s simple really.
@@serendipitouscometnever? His do men learn this then if it’s never shared at all?
@@jenniferwalsh1731 Men have done it and overwhelmingly agreed that it’s not been worth it in the end.
Women say they want men to be more emotional. But women also can’t control their attraction and force themselves to be attracted to someone that their body rejects or does not respond to. If you cry in front of a woman, that shows a lack of emotional control and she’ll look at you as less of a man and more of a boy.
This is just the way it is. Men are supposed to be tough and sacrifice for their families. You can’t do that if you’re crying all the time like the woman.
Not worth the risk…
I am one of those men who happen to be more on the emotional side. I'd be in this "emotionally present" or "stable" side but I will have moments of weeping, mourning, etc.
Most recent example I can give is I heard for the first time the hymn "Nearer my God to thee". Beautiful, so I pulled it up on youtube after church. I found a historical video on it and after hearing the historical context and that it was played/sung as the titanic was sinking, I'll admit I was moved. Another song that moved me was "Run to the Father" by Matt Maher. The moment Matt said "I don't have a context for that kind of love, I don't understand, I can't comprehend, all I know is I need you" hits rather hard (I'mma be honest the entire song hits hard).
Having seen clips and others like the first one played, it certainly does bother me knowing that women are (supposedly) revolted by this, will I ever find someone. I mean.....I get moved from music, songs.....I even mourn and weep for men who are lost and I pray they come to God. I can keep the faith but I do have to admit, such videos/information/news is not inspiring.
Nothing wrong with that, Brother. King David is a great example.
@@Di17227 Exactly Amen. David is a great example. David wept in front of the Lord. I often find myself weeping in worship or prayer. I do not wish, to remain hard hearted towards the Lord, nor do I wish to have a hard heart towards the lost. Love for Christ, and for the lost, is a gift from God. If I suppress that, I find myself suppressing my love to Christ and others.
It's not that you have to weep to make your prayer heard. But there is nothing wrong with weeping in front of the Lord. Weeping in prayer for the lost. God does not turn away from us, when we expose ourselves and are vulnerable in front of Him.
These are lies. Don't believe that toxic filth from television in your head. I'm a female. These attitudes most of us would find absolutely repulsive. Much love.
crying to the hymns is completely acceptable
Don't be disheartened by that - videos like the first one aren't a true reflection of reality. I'd certainly want an emotionally present guy, a guy who reflects Christ shouldn't feel like he has to suppress that side. In fact, emotional intelligence and empathy is a huge thing that many women do want. I'd want the father of my kids to have a healthy dynamic with their emotions and allowing Christ to be present in them, because I'd want my children to be okay with that. No man is weak by doing this because it's going against the grain of society's normalisation of gender tropes. There's certainly women out there like me, and trust me it isn't necessarily the minority.
I'm never falling for tht again. I'd rather cry by myself in corner with a bottle of whiskey. I dont think I'll ever trust a woman with my deep emotions.
THEN HOWW CAN YOU TRUST HER WITH YOUR KIDS?
Haven't seen the whole video but viewing crying and simply showing basic emotion like a stylistic choice that men should avoid is just sick in the head
Its not a "stylistic choice", its an obligation many men have. Yeah, sure you can cry, yeah sure you can bawl or whine or anything else, but if you want for people to rely on you, or if you want to have children that look up to you, you cant. Is it fair? Maybe not, but men certainly have their advantages in society. If you want the advantages that come with being stoic, then dont complain about having to do the work that is required.
Be the strongest person at your fathers funeral, thats what it is to be a man. An unmoving rock that others can rely on. The waves might crash down on you, the torrents of water upon your shoulders, but you stand firm.
@@BrendonCapamen 💯
@@BrendonCap Self inflicting some sort of emotional “burden” doesn’t make you a man. Nonetheless a respectable one. My father both embodies masculinity, including being more than capable of empathizing and showing emotion. Being a poor boy who worked his way to stability, his respect was earned through his ability to overcome and lead through difficulties. Not because he doesn’t *cry* lol. If you are surrounded by people who legitimately value your ability to not show emotion, that is not because the world is filled with people of that sort, or because of some biological hardwiring, that is because you have surrounded yourself with that type of people, and raised them. There is value in legitimate emotional intelligence, not playing pretend.
@@matrodr Yap Yap Yap, you perfectly understood what I was saying yet still decided to respond with something completely off topic.
"self inflicted burden" get real, life is a burden, work is a burden, family is a burden, all burdens you choose to have. Are they good burdens? Absolutely, but burdens nonetheless. No one wants man that constantly breaks down crying over how hard their burdens are, no one, not you, not your father, not anyone else.
Youre father was great because he undertook burdens uncomplainingly, and fulfilled his purpose. If your father was a crying baby all the time, no one would have taken him seriously.
Now let me ask you, how many times did you see him cry? One? Twice? Most likely no more than 3 times in your entire life, and you respect him for that. Why? Because for no matter how much hardship he had in his life, he never broke down, he never gave in, he never moaned or whined about it, he took it like a man, unflinchingly, without crying.
The world doesnt like crying men, no matter how much you lie to yourself and say that it does.
@@BrendonCap Seriously? We are continuing in the exact same topic, unless I spectacularly missed the true hidden message of your comment. I never once stated that men should be crybabies. That is not a point being anywhere here, not in this comment thread, not in this video. You’re saying that in order to be a good leader you have to be entirely stoic and removed from emotion, even to the point of not crying at your father’s funeral (or at least that’s your implication.) I’m deconstructing that and saying that the value of a man is not in their refusal to show emotion, but rather, being a good leader while expressing emotion in a healthy manner. That doesn’t mean being a crybaby, once again, I never said that. I also never once said that there aren’t things in life that are burdensome, just that this burden in particular, the burden of not showing emotion, is one that is entirely harmful. I’m not sure if you are Christian, but this is a faith based channel. The Bible has figures, such as King David, who would weep and be sorrowful, and exercise their emotion. Even if the Bible isn’t of high regard to you, don’t you think it strange that these men have been respected by tribes and civilizations all around the world for thousands of years? Don’t you think it strange that David’s psalms and his anguish would resonate so deeply with people? The world doesn’t want crybabies, you are right. People’s highest respect go to men who persevere whilst not denying their human emotion. As for my dad, I’ve seen him cry several times. He doesn’t breakdown over a hardship, but loss and grief and general sorrow does affect him. I have no doubt he would rather cry privately, but for no second does he deny showing his emotion as a man. This is also what has enabled him to show great affection towards his loved ones.
I don’t think either of us will fully agree with the other here to be honest, but I want you to know that I appreciate listening to your perspective.
It is absolutely NOT a husband's responsibility to manage his wife's emotions. That is her job. You managing her emotions is called codependency.
Well said
It’s true that only she can control her emotions but telling people that they are responsible for there emotions can be condescending. It’s true but God put us on the Earth with the purpose of making disciples. Not just pointing people to Jesus but also allowing Jesus to work through us. I think Jesus would help someone who can’t control there feelings. Saying that they have control over their feelings is almost saying that no one is going to help them with it. Because I think people should help those who are struggling.
He could have said this specific part more precisely, but it goes back to what he was saying about being a woman's rock. It's not about managing her emotions, but being steady in the face of those emotions and continuing to love and provide in the same way. All of us know that when that time of the month comes, hormones are allll over the place, and one minute she's crying, the next she wants ice cream - and there's nothing wrong with that either. We don't demonize our spouses for having emotions either, we accept them in the same way we'd hope they accept our emotions.
@@ARZiehmThank you
Women need others in order to help them regulate their emotions. Women are absolutely codependent either on each other or their husbands.
My wife wrote to herself "I'm sick of his emotional, whiney, needy bullshit" just because I ask her to be present in the relationship
Great video really appreciate hearing this
This is good. Thank you!
Yet women don't want an emotionless man either.
So much truth, praise the Lord ❤
Great stuff man!
I felt so bad when he cried 💔
Men don’t usu cry so when a man cries……. He is Emotionally Healthy🤍
A man being "in touch" with his emotions can be summed up as "Yeah, I'm not doing too well right now, but I got this. I'll be OK." That's the kind of "emotional vulnerability" most women seem to want...to know that a man does indeed feel, but that he has it under control. (Gents, unless someone has died, (that first video was messed up) save your crying for your alone time or for other trusted men. I learned this the hard way.)
Emotions are fine. The issue is when you’re overly emotional and lose your masculine frame. Cry about the real things, but not all the time. In other words, be in control
Also, I’d argue that the vast majority of secular women want a guy to be super “in touch with his emotions”. The issue is that our society has groomed men into being overly emotional. When women come in contact with this type of man, that is when they lose attraction (rightly so).
I’m speaking from personal experience on this. I’m married and have heard these ideas voiced by my wife and her best friend.
Can confirm. I used to be pretty unstable, though thanks to some strong friendships I've been growing out of it. A buddy of mine is still like that though. He questions his friendships after every disagreement or "perceived" slight. It's doesn't go over well.
I hate that the world is making men feel as though they have to suppress emotion. It’s not healthy. As a woman of God I find it very attractive when a man isn’t afraid to show emotions. It’s called being human! God gave men AND women tear ducts for a reason. Tears are healing. And if a man gets emotional while worshipping Jesus… 10/10. That is literally so attractive.
I don't care what women want.
Godly men are led by the holy spirit, not by their emotions..
Does the Spirit not have emotions?
The spirit has emotions. Emotions are good just can’t let it control you.
So the Holy Spirit and God didn’t create you with your emotions? He wants us to understand them and become emotionally mature. We can’t think we are more than human by pretending we don’t have emotions.
How about women
We have emotions
Thank you, this was usefull!
Love your content man, but I can't accept the way you say sorrows 😂. God bless
My experience with my fiancée is that since I've become more emotionally vulnerable with her we've grown closer. At first I was afraid that by being emotional I would have alienated her and she would have left. But there was one particular service we attended which brought up some unprocessed trauma from my childhood and - it derailed me. She could see that something was wrong and at first she thought she was the cause.
I knew had to be honest, which meant being vulnerable & emotional with her about it. She took it so frigging well, and I couldn't be more thankful for her. Honestly that was the moment that drew us closest. She went from being somebody I was simply attracted to, to a woman who I knew was FOR me, no matter what my past looked like, no matter how broken I may be or the mistakes I might make in the future I know she'll stand by me.
It actually took her longer to open up to me and be vulnerable and by being vulnerable wit her it enabled her to do the same with me. Everybody is different - some woman struggle to process their emotions and some men feel their emotions really deeply. That doesn't make you better or worse than anybody else, it just means you process differently. But, in saying that, it doesn't mean you don't have to learn how to handle your own emotions, because if we handle them wrongly we can seriously hurt ourselves and others.
What I will say is that you don't have to have it all figured out; but the more you figure out about yourself and your partner, the more you can support each other in a marriage.
True! Emotional expression is not emotional guidance.
Great take Isaac, glad you found a good wife.
Good stuff. I think a way to summarize is "co-regulation, not co-dependency." Just had Genesis 2 on the Bible chapter docket this morning, especially re: creation of man and woman.
Rip to his brother, his friend
Amen god bless!
I was literally just thinking about this subject over the last several days.As far as showing your emotions to women.I really think it comes down to self control.Cry,but control it.Laugh,but control it.Feel anger,but control it.Don't let it sit on you.
Love your videos!
Thank you for this Video! Some years ago i used to think that man should be this emotionless rock, that dont ever show emotions, but now ,thanks to christ, i know that this is not true. Jesus showed emotions but didnt let those emotions dictate his actions. Praise God for your wife! Praise God for godly women!
Once a woman loses respect for you, there's absolutely nothing you can do to earn it back.
how can a woman lose respect for a man? please provide examples lol
but you CAN avoid sinking even deeper and deeper in her eyes by begging her to give you just ONE more chance lel. DONT be that guy. if you must, only ONCE.
@@joseguerrero2253 Shown in the video?... Are you blind?
@@SquidCena do you think God would approve of your response ?
“God opposes the proud but blesses the humble” James 4:6
that's not true, at least not for a godly woman. It is true that earning respect back is going to be VERY difficult, but not impossible. Especially, if your boast is in Christ. There is nothing more respectable than that.
Almost never listen to what women want from other women. You don't ask a fish the best bait to use to catch it. You observe or ask other successful fishermen. Futhermore, women don't actually know what they want because very few have had to think deeply about the topic (relative to men...and the same applies to plenty of guys). Even when you find a woman who's with you long term, you better have a grip on your emotions. Even when your dad dies (one of the hardest things for most men, regardless of his and your history), you have a limited amount of time to be upset. Men are supposed to be a stabilizing and ordered force (especially in the household). It's not fair, but it's the way it is. Take longer showers and reflect in private if you have to, but shake it off before you exit the bathroom. Learned this lesson early on
These women are 1) wanting robots and 2) too worldly. I've always liked men who were willing to be kind and vulnerable. As a kid, other girls liked Sasuke, I liked Naruto. Others like Drake, I liked Josh as a kid. Suite life od Zach and Cody, Cody was always my favorite lol. Nerdy, decisive, sweet, lead well, vulnerable. Maybe I like soft hearted people but I just can't stand the fake hard and arrogant facade and those are the same guys who act on getting any girl they want with no care how they hurt feelings. I like considerate gentlemen as an adult.
What about crying on your wedding day seeing your spouse walk down the aisle?
hahaha, bruv you don't need permission to cry 😭 if you want to, let it out, one's strength is not in the act of not crying. weakness is found in being a slave to your emotions. but on your wedding day? let it out haha😂
Tbh, I would be embarrassed in a good way if that were my wedding day. hahahaha
My friend's husband cried when she came down the isle. My knee jerk reaction was, "Don't do that! Women won't be attr--wait...Nevermind! Go ahead! It's your wedding! You can cry if you want to!"
Not the manliest thing to do. 💪
@@ModelJames13 But, it is the genuine thing to do.
I think the only reason the girls rated him that lowly was because they didn't know him. They didn't have any of the emotional intimacy built up. That is why they were uncomfortable. Give a few months into the relationship. Let trust build more and then you should be able to be more emotionally vulnerable no problem. At some point in the relationship, your "weak" side will be shown anyway. It may not be about feelings at all but when she has to take care of you while you are sick. You can't try to "tough it out" while being dependent on someone else.
Exactly! That goes for all relationships friends included.
That’s exactly it. It’s like when you first start a workout regimen. You don’t begin with the heaviest weight. You build up to it over time.
Cope.
Still think it’s wild that the dude literally remembered that his best friend died recently and all they could think about was how it gave them the ick.
I don’t think that justifies their actions at all. They asked when he last cried, he told them why, and he got a little choked up, rightfully so. Their reactions still weren’t normal at all in my opinion. No one would react the same if he was a woman.
Not gonna cap I felt really mentally I’ll in the worst way. Everything in my life was affecting me. One night I had a full on panic attack. I cried out for the lords forgiveness. My mental illness started to fade away. I couldn’t take it anymore I felt attacked spiritually like my thoughts weren’t my own. Keep in mind I’m a great guy but it felt like I had an evil spirit in me. The moment I asked for forgiveness I felt a weight come off my shoulders.
The simple act of acknowledgment and asking god to forgive me opened up a way for me to fight the evil that was taking hold of me.
Thank you Isaac. I needed that.
You’re a year or so younger than me. You’ve got a good head on your shoulders good job buddy
I’ve watched the admiration in a woman’s eyes completely disappear after a single instance. Will never repeat my mistakes
I don't care what women want. How can they dictate how men are supposed to feel? Women can go through the whole range of emotions in a single day and nobody loses respect for them.
True
Jesus Christ is King.
I mean frankly even among Christian women, if there's a girl that you want to impress or are attracted to don't trauma dump on them or cry in front of them. They don't need that. I guess you can but know that it's most likely turning them off and making them lose respect for you. Our deep emotions should be processed and shared but among other men that we know very well and are comfortable being vulnerable with or with a wife.
man, not even other men. it should be normal for a man to deal with emotions alone, and i do mean DEAL with them, not repress them and escape into a mancave. a Christian man should definitely be capable of taking his emotions to God alone and coming through it genuinely comforted (2 Cor. 1:3-4). there are plenty of examples of men of God dealing with emotions alone with the Lord, not least in the psalms
You say “or with a wife” I want a girlfriend with the intentions of getting married. God made marriage so that man and women can be vulnerable with each other. Idk but is she is turned of by emotions than I don’t think the marriage would work out very well.
@@slick_RicGod works in mysterious ways and the way he works with one person may not be the way he works with another. God wants all his children to be vulnerable with each other. James 5:16 says “confess your sins to one another so that you may be healed.” Going to someone help does not mean you’re not going to God.
You shouldn't even trauma dump on people you just met or want to meet anyways. That should be reserved among friends, families, and therapists.
Emotional intelligence is something everyone should have whether than are a man or a woman. In the first clip we are using non-christian women to represent a christian standard. As a Christian woman I want my husband to be able to confide in me. I believe I am his help mate and that includes being there for him emotionally, however I understand the nuance behind it. Since christian men especially are called to lead by following God it can be a lot scarier when things go wrong and your partner is wrecked because it effects you all especially if you have kids. Godly men luckily don’t follow the standards of alpha men instead they follow Jesus’s example and he was very emotionally intelligent, sure in himself, a great leader, and still very loving/caring in everything he did. Lead with love like Jesus and follow God in everything. Don’t look to the internet especially with people who aren’t Christian for Guidance. No man should feel like they can’t be their honest self in front of their partner though. If you find opening up to be hard allow God to help you and prepare to be a Godly man and masculine according to his standard. Wishing you all the best!!!
Well I’m a very emotional, high EQ, sensitive 25 y/o guy. I get there’s a difference between controlling your emotions (which I need to work on for sure) and being an “emotional” guy, which I can’t really change and don’t want to as it goes against who I am as a person. I get in my head all the time about dating and relationships bc I’m seen as the fixer guy, I have attracted the broken girls who say I’m the best and most emotionally present person and help them heal so much, but then the relationship never lasts. I fear I am viewed as the friend more than the boyfriend by many and idk how to change this without changing who I am.
Listening to this from the gym. Tell me she’s out there Isaac.
She’s out there brother Trust in Jesus
Very strong message!! Thank you!!
Follow the Stoics when it comes to managing emotion. It will help hold you firm as you follow the creator.
Hey just a tip, be yourself with someone if they dont like you then thats okay! but be yourself you want them to know you, not someone who isnt you.
I think there is a difference between being emotionally suppressed and having emotional stability. What women really need and want is a man who is emotionally safe and overall emotionally stable.
How about men
Nice shirt
Thank you for the encouragement
9:56 wake up and listen, men
Women are made to be a helpmate therefore we are designed to help with mens’ emotions. The reason some women have a problem with this is because they can’t even handle their own. Also some men act like women when emotional and it can be a turn off. And when I say this I mean they come off as feminine like almost homosexual… (speaking from experience) But yeah men that are emotional are stronger than the ones that numb up the pain. Feeling pain is not easy but it is necessary to let it go and heal. And notice how one woman out of all of them went up to hug him. They all said they felt sorry or bad but only one comforted him.
If women don't want an emotional man, I don't want women.
At least that's what imo is the best response to all these negative "women want this, women don't want that". If some women want something that you aren't willing to give them, just like, don't do it, don't be mad at them, accept the world for what it is and accept that these women also aren't something you are truly interested in, don't chase after people you don't even like just because they look attractive and are female.
Like I'm not going to change who I am at my core just because some women want something else in a man for a relationship, fuck that, I'm either gonna find someone who actually likes ME or, if that's not possible, I'm just gonna be by myself. It's definitely better than being with someone in front of whom you have to pretend to be someone else, or you have to kill a part of yourself that you yourself don't actually see as something bad.
I don't dry as much as I used to when I was a teen, but I only get one cry a year? wow this is sick I'm actually baffled.
Men don't want drama.
"Pearly things" proceed w/caution.
She should speak for herself and stop trying to represent most women.
This is an interesting conversation that needs some cultural framing. Americans are in large part much more emotionally reserved than most parts of the world. If you look at places like Italy, Spain, Latin Americaor the Middle East you'll see men much more emotionally open. I think our ideas of emotional dysregulation are filtered through these cultural lenses. I mean Easy Asians think we're too emotionally open. It's all on a spectrum
Men that worship the Lord will open their hearts and the anointing will pour out blessings unto others!
Maybe the right way to process is that a woman has to both earn the right to your vulnerability, *and* *and* somehow prove she can handle it without becoming insecure.
That’s a tall order. Women can wrap themselves up in a little faux-masculine oyster-shell for their own safety; but it seems feeling like someone strong is looking out for them lets them be more themselves. It seems the appearance of emotional “weakness” in that relied-on person can really throw them for a loop.
Maybe that weird betrayal where she abuses your soft spots in petty arguments is like her prodding at a sore tooth she can’t leave alone.
I went to middle school with one of the girls in this video, she cried in front of the entire PE class when my friend passed her a note saying he liked her. Some people are just too full of themselves.
Interesting.
Emotional man who is a veteran, combat skills, weapons expert and brave
or
Non emotional thug who is useless at everything
For me it's way easier to suppress emotions than to release them eaven tho I am very emotional so I think that weak man are not those who cry but those who don't have courage and strength to face their feelings. Of course I am not saying you should burst out in tears in the middle of Walmart XD I am just saing that for me it's way harder and actually painfull to let emotions flow out. And it actually takes a lot of strength to do so at least for me.
And this is why I will stay single. For life. Women ain’t worth it.
13 seconds is crazy
Unfortunately, many people forgot to watch the original video where the guy was crying, that wasn't the **only** problem the guy had. He was not confident, he stuttered a few times, and a few other things that got him where he was... the crying likely played a part, but people... think about it for a second... if you saw a grown man, "not knowing him" and he started crying, how attractive/appealing would you find him, I beg of you?
If someone is in a 2-3 year relationship or you know each other more deeply then of course it's ok to cry within certain limits, but not when you first meet..
Yeah! Suppress emotions and be a psychopath.!!
Important caveat, it's not suppressing them. It's expressing them... to your MALE confidants. Share stresses... with your brothers. Question it how you may, that is how women are wired. Jesus did weep but not in front of a spouse. Look at Ahab's story - not the most righteous, but in one story he essentially threw a fit, and his wife pretty much told him to suck it up. If you'd like to test it, cry in front of your woman and see.
Why are you defending women's turn off?
I dont like people crying near me because i never know what to do to comfort them, so i just there awkwardly. But nothing to do with a mans masculinity, i think its actually an honor to be witnessing someone bare themselfes.
Take away a man’s capacity to express and be un touch with his emotions as they come and you take away his capacity to validate/comfort your emotional reactions when they come. If he taught to shame himself out of being authentic then he’ll project that same shame onto those he’s close to when they are feeling vulnerable. This principle destroys/limits the intimacy within which a hetro couple can enjoy. No good women expect men not to express human emotion
When Jesus wept it was in front of others at the news of Lazarus’s death.
I believe there is women who do appreciate men showing there emotions, but i haven’t seen it. The only I can believe is if my wife is like that.
I think that what women mean when they say that they don't want an emotional man is that they don't want an overly emotional man I think that they definitely do want the man who is on some level in touch with his emotions I think it's just the overtly overly emotional out of control unstable and dangerous men that they mean
Crying is part of regulating your emotions. Expressing your emotions is healthy no matter if you’re a man or a woman. Being in control of your emotions DOESNT MEAN you don’t express them fully, it means you don’t allow your emotions to dictate your actions. I feel what I need to feel and then I make decisions based on prayer and guidance from God. For example, being angry doesn’t mean you should take it out on someone. You can go feel your feelings and process that anger and then come back to the situation after.
I don't care I'm a emotional 22 year old virgin man especially seeing how I been bullied my whole life I asked only a couple wemon out and got turned down I only ask wemon out when I feel like there the right person for me I don't go by looks personality but I don't care about love after being single for almost 23 years I just prefer to be alone cause whenever I meet new people it's never a nice experience even just going to a grocery store I get yelled at by crazy people I don't live in a good neighborhood no good people
"Jesus Wept" The Chosen scene: ruclips.net/video/YNCoU2FsrX8/видео.html Time stamp 8:42
Personally I don’t cry infront of no one. But I dont hide that I do cry, albeit it’s extremely rare
*Ephesians 5:25 - "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her."*
People shouldn’t lose respect for those show emotion. However, that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t keep our emotions in check. We shouldn’t be ruled by them.
I’m sensitive to movies that really move me and often times I get teared up as I get older. But overall, I even try to work on that. No one needs to be a walking bag of emotions that aren’t controlled. Jesus Wept for sure, but there’s usually reasons.
They want providing golems and thats about it
I've never seen such big red flags in my life.
As a female I respect men who cry.
Liar
Depends on why you are crying like a death. Plus some guys are more sensitive and easily cry. About worrying about women? As far as me, it is more difficult for me to cry so doesn't come easily seeing I'm not as sensitive.
I would consider myself a fairly emotional man. I have had a lot of success in dating and I’ve had a lot of failures and it does stem from being too emotional. However there is hope for men like me, you don’t need to change who you are, there are good women out there who are just fine with it. And I’m with one now. She’s fit, beautiful, a few years younger than me, has a good job and an incredible personality. She has no care in the world about me being emotional. Not one care at all. In fact she will get emotional with me. We do that together 😆. But seriously. The women in these videos may be pretty but they can’t handle a man when he’s being real and raw. If she can’t handle it, get rid of her. You don’t need a woman like that in your life.
Men who don’t cry are the Toxic ones.
“I want a man who’s emotionally mature but if he shows emotions in out”
When someone close to passes away, you have every right to weep. If these "women" see this as weak, dump them and distance yourself. FYI, Jesus wept when John the Baptist was killed and when Lazerus died.
I feel bad bringing up how I feel especially because she has been through a lot this week, shouldn’t I be prioritizing her?
prioritizing her and you shouldn't be black and white. do both because you are one in Christ. prioritize Him first
speaking on your emotions matter. VERY MUCH. If she will not listen for now, talk to a friend, family etc
How does she take care of you in the relationship? Does she care about your day and what you go through?
"Follow God and his kingdom, and everything else shall be added unto you" Matthew 6:33
@@joseguerrero2253That’s not what that verses says.
In my last relationship, the girl who I was with who served and went to church all her life - any vulnerability that I shared with her she used it against me. And no I wasn't being emotional or trauma dumping, if anything I was on the receiving end of that. It's one thing to be emotional all the time and if you are that way with your woman then that's a problem. It's the fact that I couldn't even share the smallest things that I was stressed about with her because even that she would use against me. I make this comment to say that most Christian women are like this too. So many women want an empathetic man who is in touch with their feelings but they don't know what looks like and have been conditioned to view that as weakness when they see it