Avoidant Personality Disorder in a Minute
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- Опубликовано: 28 июн 2017
- "People with Avoidant Personality Disorder experience feelings of inadequacy and are extremely sensitive to what others think about them. In today’s One Minute Diagnosis video, I will talk about the clues clinicians use to recognize Avoidant Personality Disorder. Thank you for watching.” - Dr. Ben Michaelis
This is all me. It's so bad that I moved away from my parents and barely kept in contact with them and my Mom left me a voicemail that was a bit cryptic but still made me know it was important and I never returned the phone call, only to find out she died and that I had just blown that off. The worst part is, while I am so sad I wasn't there for her at the time, I'm happy that I didn't have to have that interaction. This sucks for those in the future that read this. It's really bad.
I 100% understand you. I'm really sorry, it's such a hard ting to live with.
I know exactly how you feel... youre in my thoughts
I have a lot of these symptoms but the feeling of each syptoms doesn’t stop me from socializing, during the social encounters (internally) and afterwards where I torture myself by panicking over every single action, word and movement I made. worrying about how i seemed to those around me, hating being around people because of how it makes me feel that way. I could just have anxiety and a really low self-esteem.
R Leon I think that’s called rumination/obsessive over-thinking.
I have this and it’s hell on earth
i have like 11 of these behaviors
Thank you for stopping by and watching. I would recommend you to seek out a mental health professional in your area (ideally one with expertise in Avoidant Personality Disorder) but anyone who is well trained should be able to help. Unfortunately, I know that finding a good provider can be tricky depending on where you live, so if you are having a hard time finding someone, reach out to your GP (primary care physician) and he or she will be able to direct you to the right person. I hope you connect with the right person soon!
holy moly i wasnt expecting an actual reply from you mister michaelis. Thank you alot :3
@@oneminutediagnosis lol. You should know that we dont seek
@@jonasjasikevicius8780 exactly lol
@@jonasjasikevicius8780 wat
It's a bit different to "live" with it for 41 years...
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Yay I matched all 7. Bingo!
same
Everyone has a little avoidance in them I believe
Doesn’t feel like a bingo when you actually are diagnosed with it..
Lol sameee
Sander Ananas i think OP was being extremely sarcastic.
Avpd confessional: I get slightly offended by the 'antisocial social club' shirts bc I was hoping it was a real group I could join. Antisocial one of the nearest descriptors of my avpd even though I know I'm not antisocial in the psychological term (ie wishing harm on others etc). I do wish there was a club or group for avpd people who wish to reach out
When I was six years old my stepmother left me in a doorway with a note saying not wanted ....
7 out of 7! I win the loneliness prize! 😫😫😫
About three years ago I had a turkey start hanging around. She had gotten separated from her clan. Turkeys are hatched into a clan and never separate with them until death. They don't deal with loneliness well. So for three or four weeks we were lonely together. I gave her corn and water and she would just sit with me. One day her clan came through and she was able to rejoin them. I was glad she could rejoin them, but then I was back to being lonely alone. It's still a nice memory. It's a memory that I revisit often. I don't know why I thought this story was relevant. I just felt compelled to share it with you. I'm not sure that even makes sense. I guess I just hope that you'll enjoy the story as much as I enjoy the memory.
So what's the cure? How is this treated? Gradual exposure to these fears until their overcome?
I have all that behaviors :'(
Have you ever had a job or a relationship?
Yes. 6 out of 7. Im not afraid to do new things, meet challenges, I can dive in and learn how to fix or do things. But I will avoid speaking to a lifelong true friend. It sucks.
At least you have a friend...
So it's all about /inadequacy/...
However "only enter friendships when they *know* they'll be liked" ...
Are they clairvoyant or something ?
How can you know that prior befriending someone ?
having avpd myself, it's sorta the vibes people give you, at least in my case. people that are nice and upbeat take me a little out of the shell, they make me feel comfortable and welcome, but someone close to me has to talk to them first, like my parents. people who act aloof, or don't seem to have much interest, or just strike up some small talk... those are a big no-no
I matched with some of the criteria but honestly they greatly overlap or are the results of anxiety.
To me its the anxiety itself that pushes me away from people :-/
I have avpd and I agree.
I have this!!!😲
your language is understandable
7 0f 7. my life is really crap i hate waking up every day. I am 53 and have been looking for answers for a long time,in high school about yr 9 i felt i was different to the other kids in ways but never had any idea of this back in 1983,in my own search for answers i accidentally come across AvPD,i watched several vids from several people and i found i match every time no matter how they put it,nobody believes me,it's hard,frustrating and depressing it is,i don't want to die yet but i'm tired of being here like this...hope tomorrow i may not wake up..and be in a better place.
I hope you're still fighting sir and I just wish you seek help. Virtual hugs for youu💖
I'm a job hopper because of this problem. Didn't help that I had a very mean Mexican American father and went through K-12 when most teachers were White and racist. I fear that a Uncle that died in 1974 from Cirrhosis due to alcoholism was like me. Very smart unloved but yet still very capable.
I got all 7☹️ if your diagnosis ratio is true then I have four personality disorders
what kind of help does the person need? i mean if they start quitting therepy every six months they get nowhere. and what if they dont even want the help?
Avpd is not a borderline
I got seven
Hi, i got a question, i read something about Avoidance coping which isolate by cutting the stress and fear factors. If someone change their behavior, will their avoidance personality cure itself or get better, to the point of having a normal life?
- Anyone can put a mask on for a while and even get away with convincing themselves that they are ok...but it's exhausting and eventually you come back to your Self. In my mind, you need to deal with the problem with multiple methods, figure out the causes of the personality structure, are there traumas or family dynamics which caused this and apply some dialectical behavior therapy and add some mindfulness meditation. Unfortunately most of psychology is currently very tribal about treatment choices...you're either doing CBT or psychodynamic therapy but never both.
I have tried that multiple times to pretend im fine, its so exausting that you can become worse, get extreme social anxiety and develop other things that are associated with avpd (avoidant personality disorder) but you can never be cured, you have avpd for life, no therapy or medication can cure it.
Just grow into adulthood then it'll go away
@@owenbardy9990 It's actually the opposite. As a child it's seen as shyness, but if you keep the symptoms in early adulthood you're diagnosed with avpd.
@@stefanmuller7796 Yes. I was a very shy child and teen. When I turned 20, that’s when I noticed things really worsening and I knew something was wrong with me.
5/7 did I win? ☹️
7/7. I also score 80/80 on neuroticism on the Big 5 test.
I have most of bpd too gg
What are the main distinctions with avoidant personality disorder and social anxiety?
Fred Bread social anxiety is something you have, apd is something you are...that's the easiest way to remember it. When someone has a personality disorder, the problem is structured within the very fabric of their personality...who they are...and they can be unaware of their issues because it is 'normal' to them. Ie, the narcissist doesn't know that he is a narcissist, the world just doesn't get his brilliance. Whereas, with social anxiety the personality structure is fairly normal but for this one area in one's life which they have awareness is a problem and want to fix.
i pretty much have all of those more or less, but im terrified of going to a mental health professional and actually getting diagnosed with it because theyll probably take me off testosterone (im trans and taking hrt) until im fixed
Why would they take you off that. You can go after you're fixed?
Anyway there is no cure for avpd. They will just tell you if you have it or not. There is no medicine or therapy that can cure avpd.
They'll just help you manage your thoughts behaviors and emotions in different ways. I was scared til 26 too
@@lalalajuice But it can be treated, you fuckin shart
Have you ever considered that it could be the testosterone causing this? And I had a dear friend that was F2M trans and the testosterone, in addition to the suppression of her estrogen and progesterone, completely sent her into a personality/mental health crisis
After the hormones were adjusted, he was fine. But I certainly wouldn't risk my future mental health health for anything. I may not understand what it's like to be trans, but I can't imagine that the desire to live in my chosen gender,would be worth risking my future emotional and mental health 🙏🙏
Me
Not 4 but all 7 traits are relatable
Perhaps they're just shy?
nope- its not shyness. its low self esteem. as avpd u have a deep convinced feeling to be worthless. u feel wrong all the time. thats why u remove urself from society. avoid confrontation and interaction. u isolate urself to the max. u practically forbid urself to live.
I play team sports tho
Okay. I'm 6 out of 7. Not exactly the mood lift that I look for on RUclips videos, but okay.
I had it I don't have it anymore, just to know it's something you can get rid off
How did you get rid of it?
There is no cure ...if you really have it you have it for life ...medication and therapy may help to some extent.
Then you didn't have it. You can't get rid of avpd
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Hmmmm I didn't?! , anybody who was going in class with me in ordinary school also high school thinks for sure that I am a weirdie- because I haven't talk to any of them not almost at all. Than I decided I don't want live like that, so I started to read about confidence and shyness. It was uncomfortable for me going out of my comfort zone and showing the emotions, but I did it and I am doing it still. Eventually you got stronger so its different now. The first mistake that people with avoidant personality makes... is that they thinks people refuses them but it's not true, actually we pushes them away. The reason we pushes them away because the other can accept us the much we can accept ourselves. For me the first steps was to accept I am fucked than going out of my comfort zone although mabey for the first time I will look like a clown but that is what I have to do. And keep going like it... you will surprise that people actually would be very happy to hang out with you
@@jokicback2backmvp877 sorry I haven't see your comment. Read about confidence and start act like that. Also it helps if you put in your head when I come in that room I want to get know each person in this room. So you come to every person to introduce yourself and ask them about them- in that case you haven't put youself in the center but you will meet everyone one by one--which is better. Read about confidence, for example Marie Peer videos on you tube are very good. But what help me a lot was the quotes of Will Smith and his speech about fear. Also while you are interacting with others you will see how you behave and what you need to change - so read about how to change it if you have to.
The truth is I wanted to change my self more than the air I breathe
I have this disordet but Paxil has cured me. I no longet care what other people think.
Then you didn't have it. It can't be cured
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@@lalalajuice symptoms can be relieved to the point where you dont qualify for the diagnosis anymore right? That's how it is for borderline personality and others.. you dont come into the world with this personality, you might be shy but it comes from a childhood that made that worse for you
You don't come into the world with did (Dissociative identity disorder) either, which is also uncurable. These disorders develop because of a traumatic childhood, which CAN become a part of the child, once it is a part of the child it is so for the childs entire life, because humans develop their person until they are 10. After that of course you learn things and become wiser etc but your core person has been developed. That's why good parenting is important. You can learn to live with these disorders and make your life easier if you can manage to do that, but it will always be a part of you.
@@lalalajuice okay well I feel like I can repairing myself and get help from my higher power to change some of my actions but maybe I'll just have to learn to cope.
@@lalalajuice how old are you!?
Very common amongst people of the Astrological signs Virgo, Taurus, March born Pisces and October born Scorpio and December born Capricorn.
Taurus here and positive on all criteria listed
March born Pisces here. I am a true Piscean escapist.
Astrology is not real.
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Bruh whyd u have to hit the nail on the head like that
Bullseye. AvDP.
Sooooo...all the incels on 4chan.