@@morganablackwater2017 Takes me back to the old days watching "Dynasty!" Alexis loved calling Krystal & Sammie Jo tramps, but she fk'd everyone but Jeff & the butler! For Gawd-sake, she was screwing Cecil in a hospital bed as he had his heart attack & died! Talk about the hypocrisy! ;-)
One story i've seen on AITAH, was about a son that chose not to visit his terminally ill toxic mom in the hospital because both she & OP's father cut contact with him after he found out they saved a college fund for OP's sister but not him. OP was less kicked out and more moved out for college using money he had saved for college, but they wanted him to stay to use as a personal live in maid or something and told him if he left they'd cut contact but OP was so didstant he accepted it; most of OP's family understood the favoritism and sided with OP. Fast forward 10 years his mom is terminally ill and wants to make amends with OP, but OP refuses under the pretense of knowing his mom just wanted closure
@@Guitarmonk3y If you're mostly wondering whether OP caved and visited or not, then no they kept true to their word but lost a good chunk of family who believed he was cruel for not at least granting his mom a last wish like that
@@shadowki5687that's horrible. I hate other family migled with other people's bussiness without hearing both side stories. Honestly I hate outside families who suddenly think they have the right to nose in other people's business just because they are "half blood related". Hope OP was free and cut all ties with all of them , hope OP wouldn't give a sh*t about that "family" who didn't do sh*t to help and only was there to kept stirring drama.
@@JA-im9xsnow op has no support system for when the bad times come again and they will its inevitable part of life. Set aside pride for one day say goodbye and never speak to this person again in routine a good reputation among the family would have been far wiser in the long run.
@@shanewoody4232 *Re-edited: due to accidentally mixing up and confusing this comment section story with the story that I am playing in the video right now.* My opinion of this comment section story is: Honestly, cutting ties without a word is the best way to say "goodbye." I think it is better to have no support system than a "fake support system" from half-blood-related families, especially how they jump on sides without fully hearing both sides of the full story. We never know if the half-blood-related families will suddenly do something far beyond if they have a little disagreement with the OP. Who knows if they will use the "support system" to make OP do what they want and even further threaten to cut OP off if OP disagrees with something they say or do? (And it seems kind of obvious that did happen after OP's toxic mom tried to reconnect with OP as if the mom wasn't the one who drove OP away in the first place, and how fast the families jump and immediately pick sides to pity the "mom" just because the mom is near "her death bed.") Furthermore, not every support system has to come from "blood-related relatives"; it can be "friends" or "close workers" that they can fully trust. Also, I will NEVER trust anyone who says "sorry" only when they are in their death bed, especially THEY MISTREATED YOU FOR YOUR ENTIRE FREAKING LIFE, and when they have their WHOLE LIFE to say it, they choose to say it when they are close to death. To me, it feels like people who do that only wants "closure" for themselves, so they forget every sh*tty thing they did to the victim, and so they can pass away "peacefully" without a care about the fact that they have been mistreating someone for their entire life, unless they come up with the most believable and resonable excuses in that very moment in their dead bed, but that still doesn't excuse the way they treat others with toxic behavior.
Find out the least amount of money you can give him so he can't contest the Will and add a conditional that if he did contest Will he would loose what he did inherit
Should have contested it anyways, even if your wife still cared for him, she would have been devastated to know he was only there for money. Grow a damn spine
@@DarkEinherjar we have no way of knowing when that will was made since she passed suddenly. Could have been a week ago, then I would agree, but if this was years ago, then it wouldn’t have mattered. The son doesn’t deserve shit.
First story sounds like the parents were far too lenient. No discipline, no accountability, the parents did nothing to punish him for his actions and make himself better. Even when the parents made him "pay" rent, they didn't commit to it, I bet they didn't even make him pay for the time he didn't have a job.
I was going to say this. OP is basically just bitching about the fact that they didn’t instill anything good into their own child his whole life. To me the story is a show of lack of parenting more than a “deadbeat” kid. It just sounds like the dad is coping for not raising him well enough.
So some of the things that OP said really makes me really want the other side of the story. Comments like talking about how smart his son is negatively and him keeping tabs on him and yelling at him for not applying for college. There has to be more to it. Like not letting them meet their grandson, that takes a lot.
Sure there’s a possibility something else happened or maybe cuz of the argument they had and they probably said some vile shit to each other. But I believe it’s because OP and wife did a shit job at raising him that he doesn’t understand the value of family
I mean, in other cases, maybe. But the fact that he asked for inheritance on the DAY OF his mother’s funeral? Does that not tell you all you need to know?
@@FlipflopB Think about it like this. If his dad was awful to him but he had a better relationship with his mom but he still wants to keep no contact maybe trying to protect his kid from what he went through, it would be an in and out situation. OP seems entitled and controlling.
@@hannahpatwell5435 No offence, but i just can't see this. If he had a better relationship with mum, he could still text her or visit at different locations that aren't the house but he instead went no contact. Edit: Also, regardless of relationship, if they had a good relationship then he would except to be in the will and should have waited for the lawyer to contact him, not talk about it with his father mere hours after his mum's been buried.
@@SweetLikeChocolate1101 I disagree, his mom even though she wanted to reach out followed her husband to the last letter and didn't. What does that tell you?
I think I realize were the parents went wrong when they conflated obedience with virtue. then only throwing around empty threats instead of enforcing actual consequences for misbehaving. It is no surprise the kid tuned out the way he did.
@@morganablackwater2017 many times OP said things where I thought “huh, I’d like to hear the kids side of the story”. To me it sounds like parents that didn’t raise their kid enough and are their coping with the fact that he didn’t turn out good, when it’s their fault.
imagine being one of the dense ass family members who said OP overreacted by saying what he said. OP did not overreact lol the fact that he didn't deck his son in the face is insane honestly
Um, did the dad ever get the kid therapy, maybe ask him what he wanted out of life, put him in a different school? Nope, just push, push, push. Uhhuh...
3 mins in and im already against the parents they dont sound like good people "We wanted him to be happy" no no you didnt ypu wanted him to live the life you chose for him The dad is trash. He says he was demanding inheritance the kid asked about it by his own addmission. And the fact the kid wants nothing not a thing from the father is the most telling
I get the feeling everyone is an a-hole here. This screams overbearing parents and a rebellious son. That said, it doesn't excuse the son's actions. Not at all.
Mother is the stupid here. Gave her saved money to the one that didn't deserve it, people should start taking accountability. He was not the son she deserved. Father should have contested and dragged that bastard to court. Man, i hate these kinds of stories where they had their chance to teach them a lesson but didn't.
that father is a self righteous nasty jerk. how about not project his own way of living onto his son when he was a teenager? the son wouldn't be so heartless today if the father laid down his law without giving the son the feeling he was shitty anyway. pressure enables counterpressure, so a rebellious unambitious son is the logial consequence of an overbearing condescending father without respect.
That makes him a hypocrite because he's not working and is living off of his wife's income, the same stuff that he threw in his mom's face trying to diss her
The only thing I would disagree with the parents is that they acted like the son is obligated to go to college. I'm not saying the son should be a bum but college isn't a necessity unless you're going for a career that actually requires a degree. He could build up without a degree and there's community college/trade school. The problem is he just wants everything handed to him on a silver platter.
I think this is a case of parents doing everything right to raise their kid but forgetting about the importance of discipline at a young age. I am a father myself and i realized that even do discipline can be harsh and this is coming from someone born in the 90's with grandparents on both sides different in their approach. On one side harsh and i mean really harsh discipline. On the otherside a old school yardstick about an inch thick but a lot more loved and forgiveness. You need to balance discipline and teachings. If the do good be happy have fun with your kid but if they do bad show them u really dont want to do it but explain it has to be done and the reason why. It hurts to discipline your kid but it needs to be done. If the grow up and do bad it will be a much harsher discipline from the cops then what you would do remember that. And the best time is when you can influence them when they are younger. Talk to them have fun with them.
Okay so I see a good majority of the comments are mixed. some saying the Dad could have done better but we're also not excusing the son's behavior. In all fairness the son was really just a spoiled brat. Maybe the parents were pressuring him too much but the fact that this was his reactions for everything I mean come on grow the f****** up. You don't want to go to college fine all they said was pick one work or go to school which honestly is fair. Now when he chose to quit the job that his dad got him with no backup plan. I understand the father's side on that too. Maybe the conversation could have been a little better communication is definitely a problem between the two of them. But for the sun to take all the anger out of his mother for absolutely no reason he was wrong. Now when she wanted to reach out to her son he should have encouraged her to do it he didn't have to do anything else he could have just said yeah call him simple things like that could have changed a lot but the fact that he showed up at his mother's funeral asking for his inheritance says all we need to know about him. At that point he's a lost cause and there's no saving him. Then see or speak to his mother for 6 years and here you are at her funeral the least you can try to do is revelation if you have your other living parent.
I was listening to this and was like did my dad write a reddit post besides the fact that my mom is still alive and add drugs into the equation and currently my brother lives with my parents again after his girlfriend kicked him out because he was doing drugs hardcore again he is 37
He said im sorry for everything and as a dad you say its alright and wont hold a grudge. IDK but there seems to be other stuff happening. The dad might be a narcissist, but the son deff is messed up asking for the money at that time.
I find it funny, that OP was handed a job from early age from his father. He never had the stress, responsibilities or worries of finding a job. He never went through the pain and humiliation of being jobless, or homeless at that as he kicked his son out for pointing out the obvious problem. I think it was better, that the son left the family. He went and took the fate with his own hands instead of being born in privilege like his father was. I don't think OP has any grounds to contest strength on his way for he had golden spoon on his hand to deal with.
People seem to not understand that parents influence how their children turn out. It is almost guaranteed that op and his wife were shit parents who failed to raise their son in a good way. I blame the parents because they created the monster their son has become
Pretty sure he meant the kid didn't want to go to college, trade school, military or anything. He just wanted to be a stay-at-home son. A good amount of parents start of with saying their kid needs to go to school, then starts working down the options. As lazy as he was, he had to have turned every option down.
Ngl OP and his wife failed as parents. They have only themselves to blame. It’s very clear they didn’t raise their son teaching him responsibility, integrity, honesty, the value of family, etc. Overall just didn’t raise him with good morals or how to be a good person in general
There are great people who emerged from horribly abusive environments and then there are people like OPs son who grew up in an ideal environment only to become a complete POS. Parenting is not the end all of a persons behavior and actions. You can’t make someone who is this selfish and entitled person as OPs son, into what you want them to be. This is who he is. At a certain point people have to take accountability for their own actions. All the instruction in the world can be given to one person but it’s useless if the recipient of that instruction doesn’t want to learn.
Not all the time the parents r to be blamed. Obviously, the son's current behavior and mindset came about when he starting being around the wrong kind of group at his school. It isn't farfetched. My parents nurtured my siblings and I to be good and what not, and it was the same when my younger brother started running with the wrong group. Started drinking, smoking then became disrespectful towards my parents and everyone. Graduated high school thanks to their goodwill, but with bad grades that he couldn't get into any colleges and when he got a job, got fired after straight up being disrespectful. My parents, me and my older siblings tried what we can but he still went into the wrong direction. People just loved blaming the parents when oftentimes in reality, in depends on external factors of influence and whatnot outside their control. Its not everything that can be controlled. So ill say Op did all that he can, he didn't failed his son, his son failed himself. Its not like Op did nothing towards helping his son, he tried anything to help his son to get back into the right track.
Showing up after 6 years when your mom is barely buried to ask what you gained from your dead parent isn't being a good son either, just being honest. That comes off opportunist in a major way.
It must be the European in me, but having the children that YOU (figuratively) decided to make pay rent to live in their only home is despicable. Americans have a disturbing approach to money. Not to say that the son is not a brat and in the wrong in many things, but these are two different matters.
Op your a horrible father. You yelled at him because he did not want to go to collage, by the sounds of it you did not punish him, after 3 years you did not want talk to him and the line "i could keep tabs on him" makes it look like you were a very controlling father
OP, you were better off contesting the will and disowning your loser son. But I'd try to bond with your grandson and make sure that he doesn't end up like a loser just as your son.
"My son was obedient." and "I need to punish him." makes the father the AH. I don't agree with what the son said to his mother, neither the "My wife supporting us is emasculating." but I read between the lines and can understand the don going NC. And the sons apple probably didn't fall to far from the father's tree.
Yeah, that was dumb. If it was op mad that the sun misled him up until that conversation. Then I'd be alright, that's fair. However mad cause he didn't go to college was controlling.
His son was an entitled loser. He didn’t want to go to college OR work. His parents wanted him to do something with his life and gave him every opportunity, which the son squandered.
I’m confused on this. Are you saying this cuz OP pretty much let him get away with being a little shit growing up, but the nail in the coffin for him was his son deciding not to go to college? Cuz yea why wouldn’t he yell at him? He didn’t take school seriously and grow up being an asshole, his decision was the icing on the shit cake
What career path? He has no experience nor the wish to get it and only applied for high-paying jobs. His parents were right to try and set him staright.
his son literally chose the game with only the worst decisions
I've been no contact with my relatives for about that time. No way would I pop to any funeral demanding some inheritance. What a dick.
Repeat after me, people...
ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES.
Nah
True
Actions have consequences
Actions have consequences
🎯🎯🎯💯💯💯
The Irony of the son telling his mother she just lives of her husbands salary only to live of his own wives salary
And then move on to live off his dead mother's money
😂
Hypocrisy knows no sex. ;-)
The people who call others gold-diggers... Usually are gold-diggers themselves - just unsuccessful ones
@@morganablackwater2017 Takes me back to the old days watching "Dynasty!" Alexis loved calling Krystal & Sammie Jo tramps, but she fk'd everyone but Jeff & the butler! For Gawd-sake, she was screwing Cecil in a hospital bed as he had his heart attack & died! Talk about the hypocrisy! ;-)
wow that's crazy .... her blood didn't even get cold and dude was looking for what she left behind . wild
One story i've seen on AITAH, was about a son that chose not to visit his terminally ill toxic mom in the hospital because both she & OP's father cut contact with him after he found out they saved a college fund for OP's sister but not him.
OP was less kicked out and more moved out for college using money he had saved for college, but they wanted him to stay to use as a personal live in maid or something and told him if he left they'd cut contact but OP was so didstant he accepted it; most of OP's family understood the favoritism and sided with OP.
Fast forward 10 years his mom is terminally ill and wants to make amends with OP, but OP refuses under the pretense of knowing his mom just wanted closure
I’ve seen that one before, but idk the specifics
@@Guitarmonk3y
If you're mostly wondering whether OP caved and visited or not, then no they kept true to their word but lost a good chunk of family who believed he was cruel for not at least granting his mom a last wish like that
@@shadowki5687that's horrible. I hate other family migled with other people's bussiness without hearing both side stories.
Honestly I hate outside families who suddenly think they have the right to nose in other people's business just because they are "half blood related". Hope OP was free and cut all ties with all of them , hope OP wouldn't give a sh*t about that "family" who didn't do sh*t to help and only was there to kept stirring drama.
@@JA-im9xsnow op has no support system for when the bad times come again and they will its inevitable part of life. Set aside pride for one day say goodbye and never speak to this person again in routine a good reputation among the family would have been far wiser in the long run.
@@shanewoody4232 *Re-edited: due to accidentally mixing up and confusing this comment section story with the story that I am playing in the video right now.*
My opinion of this comment section story is: Honestly, cutting ties without a word is the best way to say "goodbye."
I think it is better to have no support system than a "fake support system" from half-blood-related families, especially how they jump on sides without fully hearing both sides of the full story.
We never know if the half-blood-related families will suddenly do something far beyond if they have a little disagreement with the OP.
Who knows if they will use the "support system" to make OP do what they want and even further threaten to cut OP off if OP disagrees with something they say or do? (And it seems kind of obvious that did happen after OP's toxic mom tried to reconnect with OP as if the mom wasn't the one who drove OP away in the first place, and how fast the families jump and immediately pick sides to pity the "mom" just because the mom is near "her death bed.")
Furthermore, not every support system has to come from "blood-related relatives"; it can be "friends" or "close workers" that they can fully trust.
Also, I will NEVER trust anyone who says "sorry" only when they are in their death bed, especially THEY MISTREATED YOU FOR YOUR ENTIRE FREAKING LIFE, and when they have their WHOLE LIFE to say it, they choose to say it when they are close to death.
To me, it feels like people who do that only wants "closure" for themselves, so they forget every sh*tty thing they did to the victim, and so they can pass away "peacefully" without a care about the fact that they have been mistreating someone for their entire life, unless they come up with the most believable and resonable excuses in that very moment in their dead bed, but that still doesn't excuse the way they treat others with toxic behavior.
He is going to fail in that business and will come back begging for money.
Find out the least amount of money you can give him so he can't contest the Will and add a conditional that if he did contest Will he would loose what he did inherit
Should have contested it anyways, even if your wife still cared for him, she would have been devastated to know he was only there for money.
Grow a damn spine
I disagree... if the wife hadn't wanted to leave anything for the son, she wouldn't have.
Contesting her will would be disrespecting her final wish.
@@DarkEinherjarAgreed. Even if she knew there's no way to tell what she would do.
@@DarkEinherjar we have no way of knowing when that will was made since she passed suddenly.
Could have been a week ago, then I would agree, but if this was years ago, then it wouldn’t have mattered. The son doesn’t deserve shit.
@@DarkEinherjar thats dumb asf, that pile of crap didnt give 2 shits about her, she was just stupid.
@@jsullivan649who are you to decide what he deserves. Its the moms final wish.
First story sounds like the parents were far too lenient.
No discipline, no accountability, the parents did nothing to punish him for his actions and make himself better.
Even when the parents made him "pay" rent, they didn't commit to it, I bet they didn't even make him pay for the time he didn't have a job.
Yep
I was going to say this. OP is basically just bitching about the fact that they didn’t instill anything good into their own child his whole life. To me the story is a show of lack of parenting more than a “deadbeat” kid. It just sounds like the dad is coping for not raising him well enough.
Empty threats make you more powerless if you try to keep children disciplined
Whether this is fiction or not, this happens in real life.
My brother is exactly like the son in this
So some of the things that OP said really makes me really want the other side of the story. Comments like talking about how smart his son is negatively and him keeping tabs on him and yelling at him for not applying for college. There has to be more to it. Like not letting them meet their grandson, that takes a lot.
Sure there’s a possibility something else happened or maybe cuz of the argument they had and they probably said some vile shit to each other.
But I believe it’s because OP and wife did a shit job at raising him that he doesn’t understand the value of family
I mean, in other cases, maybe. But the fact that he asked for inheritance on the DAY OF his mother’s funeral? Does that not tell you all you need to know?
@@FlipflopB Think about it like this. If his dad was awful to him but he had a better relationship with his mom but he still wants to keep no contact maybe trying to protect his kid from what he went through, it would be an in and out situation. OP seems entitled and controlling.
@@hannahpatwell5435 No offence, but i just can't see this. If he had a better relationship with mum, he could still text her or visit at different locations that aren't the house but he instead went no contact.
Edit: Also, regardless of relationship, if they had a good relationship then he would except to be in the will and should have waited for the lawyer to contact him, not talk about it with his father mere hours after his mum's been buried.
@@SweetLikeChocolate1101 I disagree, his mom even though she wanted to reach out followed her husband to the last letter and didn't. What does that tell you?
I think I realize were the parents went wrong when they conflated obedience with virtue. then only throwing around empty threats instead of enforcing actual consequences for misbehaving. It is no surprise the kid tuned out the way he did.
Maybe... Or maybe he was bad apple to begin with
@@morganablackwater2017 seems rather reductive to think that way.
@@morganablackwater2017 many times OP said things where I thought “huh, I’d like to hear the kids side of the story”. To me it sounds like parents that didn’t raise their kid enough and are their coping with the fact that he didn’t turn out good, when it’s their fault.
imagine being one of the dense ass family members who said OP overreacted by saying what he said. OP did not overreact lol the fact that he didn't deck his son in the face is insane honestly
Um, did the dad ever get the kid therapy, maybe ask him what he wanted out of life, put him in a different school?
Nope, just push, push, push.
Uhhuh...
If it's an asian story. .. there's no therapy ... The only therapy you get is your favourite food .
3 mins in and im already against the parents they dont sound like good people
"We wanted him to be happy" no no you didnt ypu wanted him to live the life you chose for him
The dad is trash. He says he was demanding inheritance the kid asked about it by his own addmission. And the fact the kid wants nothing not a thing from the father is the most telling
I get the feeling everyone is an a-hole here. This screams overbearing parents and a rebellious son. That said, it doesn't excuse the son's actions. Not at all.
Could be quite to opposite... too lenient parents create bullies, too strict and you create mentally fragile...
Tbh bullies can be created by too leanient parents or abusive parents
Mother is the stupid here. Gave her saved money to the one that didn't deserve it, people should start taking accountability. He was not the son she deserved. Father should have contested and dragged that bastard to court. Man, i hate these kinds of stories where they had their chance to teach them a lesson but didn't.
The son is a hell spawn
that father is a self righteous nasty jerk. how about not project his own way of living onto his son when he was a teenager? the son wouldn't be so heartless today if the father laid down his law without giving the son the feeling he was shitty anyway. pressure enables counterpressure, so a rebellious unambitious son is the logial consequence of an overbearing condescending father without respect.
But the kid had a point about his mom not working
The kid doesn't work too .. he's unemployed
That makes him a hypocrite because he's not working and is living off of his wife's income, the same stuff that he threw in his mom's face trying to diss her
My wife doesn't work. She stays at home and takes care of the kids and the house. Does this mean she's in the wrong?
@@pericolotopolino7649 it does if your kids turn out like this.
Taking care of a house and kids is a job
lol homeboy lucky he didn’t get my mom, my mom use to make me choose the belt she was gonna hit me with 💀💀
Don't hold your breath on that
Change your will to leave your son a singular dollar
The only thing I would disagree with the parents is that they acted like the son is obligated to go to college. I'm not saying the son should be a bum but college isn't a necessity unless you're going for a career that actually requires a degree. He could build up without a degree and there's community college/trade school. The problem is he just wants everything handed to him on a silver platter.
“ me not taking your inheritance is the favor babe”
Ok the son coming at the mom like that is iconic in a way, but he's such an ass. Did not over react!!!!
Iconic? It’s an under appreciated job to be a Sahm. It’s harder than the vast majority of jobs & is 24/7.
The man is a good father the son is just lazy
i would take the jewellery to be reminded of my wife
il do one comment for every push up this like gets
**does a push up**
I agree with my fish
As a professional fork, I can confirm that the watermelon use giraffes
@@NedvesperecExactly.
Hmm yes the floor here is made out of floor
Poor man. 🙏🏼
I think this is a case of parents doing everything right to raise their kid but forgetting about the importance of discipline at a young age. I am a father myself and i realized that even do discipline can be harsh and this is coming from someone born in the 90's with grandparents on both sides different in their approach. On one side harsh and i mean really harsh discipline. On the otherside a old school yardstick about an inch thick but a lot more loved and forgiveness. You need to balance discipline and teachings. If the do good be happy have fun with your kid but if they do bad show them u really dont want to do it but explain it has to be done and the reason why. It hurts to discipline your kid but it needs to be done. If the grow up and do bad it will be a much harsher discipline from the cops then what you would do remember that. And the best time is when you can influence them when they are younger. Talk to them have fun with them.
Okay so I see a good majority of the comments are mixed. some saying the Dad could have done better but we're also not excusing the son's behavior. In all fairness the son was really just a spoiled brat. Maybe the parents were pressuring him too much but the fact that this was his reactions for everything I mean come on grow the f****** up. You don't want to go to college fine all they said was pick one work or go to school which honestly is fair. Now when he chose to quit the job that his dad got him with no backup plan. I understand the father's side on that too. Maybe the conversation could have been a little better communication is definitely a problem between the two of them. But for the sun to take all the anger out of his mother for absolutely no reason he was wrong. Now when she wanted to reach out to her son he should have encouraged her to do it he didn't have to do anything else he could have just said yeah call him simple things like that could have changed a lot but the fact that he showed up at his mother's funeral asking for his inheritance says all we need to know about him. At that point he's a lost cause and there's no saving him. Then see or speak to his mother for 6 years and here you are at her funeral the least you can try to do is revelation if you have your other living parent.
I was listening to this and was like did my dad write a reddit post besides the fact that my mom is still alive and add drugs into the equation and currently my brother lives with my parents again after his girlfriend kicked him out because he was doing drugs hardcore again he is 37
He should have kept 25k of his wife's will to his sons children which they will get when they turn 18
Redditors getting more creative with this one💀
Actually there is a similar case in my extended family but luckily my uncle has another kid from a previous relationship.
@@gostavoadolfos2023 alright
You know sometimes just becoz it's wild doesn't mean it's fake
@@caleclown8122 if it's wild 80% of the time it's fake, I have trust issues okay?
@@caleclown8122bro Reddit stories are more fake than the MCU😂
He said im sorry for everything and as a dad you say its alright and wont hold a grudge. IDK but there seems to be other stuff happening. The dad might be a narcissist, but the son deff is messed up asking for the money at that time.
I find it funny, that OP was handed a job from early age from his father. He never had the stress, responsibilities or worries of finding a job. He never went through the pain and humiliation of being jobless, or homeless at that as he kicked his son out for pointing out the obvious problem. I think it was better, that the son left the family. He went and took the fate with his own hands instead of being born in privilege like his father was. I don't think OP has any grounds to contest strength on his way for he had golden spoon on his hand to deal with.
It sounds like bro needed therapy desperately and never got it lmao
his pride wouldn't let him
@@Rinefi father is a prideful "A" too.
People seem to not understand that parents influence how their children turn out. It is almost guaranteed that op and his wife were shit parents who failed to raise their son in a good way. I blame the parents because they created the monster their son has become
I think it was kind of rude to yell at their kid just cause he didn’t wanna go to college a lot of kids don’t wanna go to college
Pretty sure he meant the kid didn't want to go to college, trade school, military or anything. He just wanted to be a stay-at-home son.
A good amount of parents start of with saying their kid needs to go to school, then starts working down the options. As lazy as he was, he had to have turned every option down.
The son sounds like my idiot brother
If the wife never worked where did she get the money to leave her son
Ngl OP and his wife failed as parents. They have only themselves to blame. It’s very clear they didn’t raise their son teaching him responsibility, integrity, honesty, the value of family, etc. Overall just didn’t raise him with good morals or how to be a good person in general
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There are great people who emerged from horribly abusive environments and then there are people like OPs son who grew up in an ideal environment only to become a complete POS.
Parenting is not the end all of a persons behavior and actions. You can’t make someone who is this selfish and entitled person as OPs son, into what you want them to be. This is who he is. At a certain point people have to take accountability for their own actions. All the instruction in the world can be given to one person but it’s useless if the recipient of that instruction doesn’t want to learn.
Not all the time the parents r to be blamed. Obviously, the son's current behavior and mindset came about when he starting being around the wrong kind of group at his school. It isn't farfetched. My parents nurtured my siblings and I to be good and what not, and it was the same when my younger brother started running with the wrong group. Started drinking, smoking then became disrespectful towards my parents and everyone. Graduated high school thanks to their goodwill, but with bad grades that he couldn't get into any colleges and when he got a job, got fired after straight up being disrespectful.
My parents, me and my older siblings tried what we can but he still went into the wrong direction. People just loved blaming the parents when oftentimes in reality, in depends on external factors of influence and whatnot outside their control. Its not everything that can be controlled. So ill say Op did all that he can, he didn't failed his son, his son failed himself. Its not like Op did nothing towards helping his son, he tried anything to help his son to get back into the right track.
Red flag OP is not saying everything. OP is not the good father he says he is. OP is not a good person.
Showing up after 6 years when your mom is barely buried to ask what you gained from your dead parent isn't being a good son either, just being honest. That comes off opportunist in a major way.
@@aquariusam8348 the son came asked about it and was open and honest. He clearly had a decent realtion with the mom. The dad's trash
I hope his wife sees this and feels like shit marrying someone like that
Op really fucked up letting his son walk away with that he should've constested the will the son didnt deserve anything.
I feel bad for your kids
OP inherits successful business from his own father then lectures his son about "paying his dues".
Finished the story. OP and his wife seem like terrible parents.
Yeah, OP had some strange God complex, which I presume he got when he never got humbled on as he got a working business on his lap.
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It must be the European in me, but having the children that YOU (figuratively) decided to make pay rent to live in their only home is despicable. Americans have a disturbing approach to money.
Not to say that the son is not a brat and in the wrong in many things, but these are two different matters.
A possibly fake Reddit story isn't a good gauge on how the average American deals with money.
@@kimberlyrichardson5943 I like your plan. It will set your children up for their future.
Op your a horrible father. You yelled at him because he did not want to go to collage, by the sounds of it you did not punish him, after 3 years you did not want talk to him and the line "i could keep tabs on him" makes it look like you were a very controlling father
OP, you were better off contesting the will and disowning your loser son. But I'd try to bond with your grandson and make sure that he doesn't end up like a loser just as your son.
If he gets involved, he’s going to turn that grandson into a loser just like he turned his son into a loser. Shitty dad
"My son was obedient." and
"I need to punish him." makes the father the AH.
I don't agree with what the son said to his mother, neither the "My wife supporting us is emasculating." but I read between the lines and can understand the don going NC.
And the sons apple probably didn't fall to far from the father's tree.
I bet you are like the son.
Bruh.
Horrible take
Yelling at your son because he doesn't want to go to college? Hm.
Yeah, that was dumb. If it was op mad that the sun misled him up until that conversation. Then I'd be alright, that's fair. However mad cause he didn't go to college was controlling.
His son was an entitled loser. He didn’t want to go to college OR work. His parents wanted him to do something with his life and gave him every opportunity, which the son squandered.
Maybe you missed the part where the son really wanted to get paid a high wage for basically doing nothing or the bare minimum.
It's not about college. It's about the son not doing anything with his life and expecting to leech off mommy and daddy for the rest of his life.
I’m confused on this. Are you saying this cuz OP pretty much let him get away with being a little shit growing up, but the nail in the coffin for him was his son deciding not to go to college?
Cuz yea why wouldn’t he yell at him? He didn’t take school seriously and grow up being an asshole, his decision was the icing on the shit cake
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2:15 is the only point in the story that i blame OP and his wife. Always support your childs career path.
he had no career path tho, that’s the issue. he just didn’t wanna do anything
What career path? He has no experience nor the wish to get it and only applied for high-paying jobs. His parents were right to try and set him staright.
Did you not listen to the rest of the video where the son's career path was essentially entry level work but expecting 7 figures for it?