Ann Njoroge OKAY?! I try to tell one of my friends that. She wants a man so bad bc she’s never gone long without one bc she simply doesn’t like herself and being in her own company.
I'm 18 months in, on my man fast!!! It's possible y'all and sooo worth it. If y'all only knew what a stronghold this was in my life. After years of struggling with rejection and abandonment from my parents, sexual abuse issues, lots of other childhood trauma, and not to mention heartache from several failed relationships, I never believed sexual purity was possible for me. Give that area of your life to God and He will do so much - in u, through u and for u - that He never can do as long as u're filling that God-space with a man or serial dating or even platonic guyfrieds. If u're listening to this video, if u're reading this comment it IS possible for u! I listened to Heather for years before I finally got the strength to go on a man-fast and now that I have my only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. Come on, u can do it, I'm cheering for u and praying for u. God is your strength and He has a better plan for u than any plan u can make for yourself. Love y'all. Be encouraged ♥
@@brittanyjackson6432 Awwww Brittany! I'm glad to hear u were blessed and encouraged. I will remember u in my prayers as the Holy Spirit leads me. Please come back and give me a praise report of your victory of this issue in your life. I wanna hear about it, I know it's on the horizon. God bless sweet sis ☺
@@courtneynicole767 Soo sweet!!! Thank you for your kindness and prayers. I am praying for you also. God has already been doing so much for me in this area, just need to recommit and refocus. Thanks for your encouragement. He is Able!😁🌞🌻
I been on a man fast for 2yrs and I don’t miss the confusion that came with entertaining a counterfeit. Yeah you get the hollas but don’t mean you have to entertain them.
If any of y'all do a man fast, I hope and pray that you will get a true revelation of God's perfect love for you along the way and treasure it deeply forever. I have been 8 years single by God's grace and it's been amazing! After this time, I'm so convinced that the best covenant you will ever have is the covenant you have with Jesus. His love never fails. Share that love with your future spouse and see what else God has planned for your life. God bless y'all and thanks Heather for such profound wisdom!
Hey GOITSE, thanks! I must admit, I simply prayed that God's will would be done. Before my fast, I wasn't confident about marrying a guy I was with for about 5 years although I knew what it was like to be in a relationship where we loved each other and were friends who grew up together. I struggled with a lot of doubting which I believe can put a strain on a relationship. It was something that was beautiful to me but God reassured me that He is the first and the last and that no man could ever take the place of God in my life. I had to grow in this understanding and make sure no man got in the way of my obedience to God. With that, it's been a work of the Holy Spirit and God was with me, guiding me and counseling me through it and all of the emotions that I felt along the way. Finally, one of my biggest lessons learned was, don't make your life about a marriage. Life is all about Jesus and belonging to Him while seeing His words be fulfilled is so hopeful. Marriage is a covenant agreement where God joins two people together who loves each other. With that, we need to understand the nature of the things we trust God with in our hearts and He wants to give us understanding according to truth. Especially given that we need to hope and trust in Him alone. All the best with your fast!
purple luv I was wanting to do the same girl and literally checked my email and saw this video at the right timing! Be encouraged!! We have purpose in every season of our lives!
Aresia Bryant, and purple luv you both be encouraged and stay before the Lord, we all have been there.if the enemy press it's only because you are closer to the blessing. Don't let him send either of you back into a recovery season, which will definitely put a hold on your blessing. If either of you dont follow redefinedtv with pastor flowers, please go look them up. They teach alot on this topic that I know will help strengthen you with. Blessings on blessings
The temporary is just a bandaid, dont settle. I know its tough, but it will be worth the wait. If you take the pie out of the oven too soon you gotta start the process all over again...#WeatherTheWait...It Will Be So #WorthTheWait
Confirmation...I prayed for God to reveal to me what kind of fast and he given me confirmation to do the man fast...Then I see your video pop...Eight days in🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I've been single my whole life and honestly, the more I watch things like this, the more I realize that I have missed out on NOTHING because so far every guy I have liked was outside of God's timing and we all know what it's like when that happens. XD Thank you, Jesus for not giving me what I thought I wanted!
I’m so guilty of idolatry with my ex - previous relation, it continued until he broke my heart in a million pieces 😔. 26th of this month makes it 1 year since. Wasn’t until I recommitted and seek counseling then I realized that, that’s exactly what I was doing. January of this year I started healing, and became genuinely happy. God be praised🙏. I pray The Holy Spirit heals this broken heart and replaces it with love, forgiveness and peace. I pray that if there’s anyone who’s in my heart that’s cause me to commit idolatry that he be removed in The Mighty Name of Jesus🙏. Thank you for this Heather. This really resonates with me.
I’ve been divorced since I was age 30. After 2 years, I started dating again 4 guys each giving a piece of me. At 38 I finally said no more. This is not what God wants for me. I prayed that if God does not want me to have a companion, to remove the desire I have. And I felt just that. But now I’m 43 and feeling lonely but yet scared to be in a relationship. I pray God’s WILL will be done for me and not my will. Bless you for sharing. 🥰 This touched me. I’m in tears at this time.😢
I wish I had seen a video like this in high school. I could have saved myself from a lot of future pain and stress. The cycle could have been broken much sooner. No one understands unless they’ve gone through this. It is not easy.
I changed my number exactly a year ago TOMORROW..my GOD! And you post this! GOD ALWAYS speaks to me through Heather! LORD I can't do anything but shout! NO guy from my past has access to me, and when I tell you doors started flying open for me 9 days after I did so! LORD I THANK YOU! GOD IS SO GOOD y'all I PROMISE you!
amen. I'm on a man fast until I meet my husband. I went on a man fast for the same reasons you did, Heather. after a while you just get tired of the hurt and the insanity. I'd rather wait for that equally yoked, equally dope❤
I sift through every man with extreme prejudice. Extreme! Everyone of them is treated as a plant from the enemy unless proven otherwise by his fellowship and obedience to the Spirit of God. I have zero time for trifling, get-to-know-you time-wasting dates. Once i meet someone I might like, I give them my number and talk to them. I basically test their walk with God until I see their commitment level. I leave zero margin for error. I suspend rationalisation and emotional reactions to answers. I know it sounds like a military operation 😂 and you're right, it is. Anyone who isn't from God is sent to subvert this temple and that won't be on my watch! Especially not after the Lord done took me through a man fast. No! So, Its a rather subtle affair where the man can't tell he's being sifted till at the end of conversation I hit him with the news that it won't work out between us. In essence, I just pretend to be some new ager who has zero care for anything Holy... That way, I can cut through politically correct christianese to the base of his convictions. That's My fun method for selecting a male friend that may be admitted as a God-send. Beyond that, I'd still rely on the Holy Spirit to say if they're teachable and that we can proceed with a relationship. I'm confident that with time, I'll happen to meet the right one. The Holy Spirit has told me what to look out for so I MAY not have to go very hard till I can authenticate his F&O... That's My approach.😂😂😂
It's unbelievable how on time this is.... I have been feeling the need to go on a man fast and then this video... I'm on a 40 day soul tie fast right now and I was doing food and alcohol limiting social media and find there was more needed.... This is CONFIRMATION!!!
Exactly, I broke up w my bf 2 months ago n he was my idol, I listened to him for everything n God had to split that relationship n I'm doing much better now getting to kno God more , it feels good, thank you for this video.
Imagine if she settled for less.. she would not be living her glory life and blessing us like this. Guys put God first, you have a legacy and a purpose. He will provide all in due season🙌🏻📖❤️
Reminds me of 1st Corinthians 7:34 where Paul addresses the unmarried,he says an unmarried woman's main concern is the Lord's affairs. She is to be devoted to God body and spirit. As a single person, devotion is to the Lord and not another man/woman
I've been on a man fast for 2 years. God showed me who my husband is, but that it's not the time. So I'm working on improving me and building my relationship with God. Thanks for sharing this WORD.
I'm glad I'm doing me now. But I really needed this, I've made so many mistakes with guys I've dated and some I was not even dating. Singleness is hard, I didn't not know how to stay pure. Still not married,but it's okay just to know I can make it without a man.
Wow right on time, been going thru some things with this man/grown boy smh, i finally cut it off because it was draining me so bad. I prayed to God and asked him what do i need to do. And this video popped up. Amen. Thank you Jesus.
I just got off a man fast. It was for 30 days. I'll probably keep it going. I didn't want the temptation while we are supposed to be social distancing and someone will want me to come over.
I’m only 24 (turning 25) but I feel like I’m in a weird space where all of my cousins are having babies, half of my friends are in relationships. And I can’t help but feel like I’m not moving. I’ve been focused on school and trying to get career started. And love who I’m becoming and I just want more. And I feel silly feeling like I’m not moving fast enough at 24 but it’s hard. I don’t want just ANYONE. And I thought I was on a man fast lol but I want to do it the right way 🙌🏾
Well i had two relationships and see my other comments above... i am 27 and i felt like that and sometimes I still feel like that like I am behind especially with all this talk about sex and being good in bed which I lack experience... I feel you... I even asked God of all the areas I could struggle in why this one?
deonna dyson I feel you. And sometimes I question why I have trouble in this area when I see myself to have all this amazing qualities. But I’ve really had to change my frame of thinking. Just because I don’t have it at this very moment doesn’t mean I won’t ever have it.
I really appreciate your honesty and Deonna Dyson. I feel the same and I'm 28 for a few more months. I have 2 single friends left and most have children already. But, I agree with Heather. It's better to allow God to finish processing us (or, our spouse) than to rush into disaster. I've tried manufacturing my own relationships before. Talk about a train wreck! Also, your comment about how not yet doesn't mean never is so on point! I love seeing the faith of others, it's so encouraging ❤
Even strolling on social media... everyone on my timeline is pregnant which shows they have an active guy and an active sex life lol... so i just decided that guys just dont like me and they never will....i am done trying...
This video encouraged me during my singleness. I got into the Word more and focused on God instead of obsessing over marriage. Four years later, I'm married to an amazing man who loves God and adores me. ❤ Thank you for this advice.
This is confirmation! At 10:28 on up that part spoke to me! That is exactly why my sister and I made a decision April 10th to put ourselves as a priority. So we had our Spring Break all of last week and we decided to take the time to go to the doctor and get a check up and start working on our physical man. We desire to be wives, mothers,and doing what God has called us to do and we can't be sick trying to do them. A minister I heard one time say "be the person you would want to be with." So true! Heather I ain't mad at ya, I know what I need to do and it's getting done. We're ready! 🙏🏽
Yess I needed this I have always been in relationships and since I got saved I made up my mind to be single, single. I just want to develop a relationship with Jesus however long I'm single I know God will be with me through it
I needed to hear this. The amount of time being single doesn't make a difference but it is about using that time effectively for God. May God continue to use you Heather as His vessel 🤗
She makes you wanna slap yourself for being so silly and blindly going around a mountain all this time!🤦 Then you stop and thank God for opening your eyes 😳🙌
Thank you Heather I know this is old I'm also 26 years old and struggling with the same issue relationships after relationship abuse after abuse narcissistic after narcissistic I'm really tired and desperately want to change I came across this video reminded me that God hasn't forgotten me I'm willing to do what is best for me Tired going through abusive narcissistic relationships Time to work on me and live life and Take the path to finding Jesus and establishing a awesome relationship with him Thank you so much This message really open my eye to reality
I been literally single and celibate for 10 years. But I agree its one thing to be single seeking god than single and looking for a man to fill that void. You keep it very honest and real and i appreciate that
SO TIMELY! I was just saying this on Sunday to my friend but I said "I think I need a man fast" but this is a confirmation that I do need it and let this be the beginning ! Thank-you Heather
Ghuuuurrrlll you just told my life story!!! I need to go on a man fast for real!! This video is so real. Heather you kept it real. I am struggling in my relationships and it is wasting my youth honestly. It's taking my focus away from things that really matter and the worst part is that I know the relatiionship I'm in is stagnant. Holy Spirit help me go on this man fast.
Hey Sis. If you know the relationship is stagnant and may not be God's Will for you, just leave and don't look back. Don't try to stay and rationalize anything. Move out first and work out the details later. That's the cold turkey method. God has given you strength, use it. All the best...
Wowwwwww. Conviction on 💯 😫 Thank you for sharing this. God is so good. In the midst of my toes being stepped on, I felt peace. I’m going on my man fast that the Lord has been telling me to go on for years but I’ve been hard headed and stubborn. I’m ready to go into that season no matter how long it takes or how lonely it may get/feel. It’s time ladies. No more putting our hopes, dreams, validation in a MAN
Thanks sister Heather for this video! I’ve been praying lately for the Lord to help me keep my eyes on Him and to stop wondering if every single attractive man I meet is my future husband. I had even told myself that I’m going on a fast from men in this season, and seeing your video is further confirmation that I need to do so.
deonna dyson I can relate sis. When I’ve tried to look all cute and expect guys to approach me, I’ve never been approached. But when I didn’t look for the attention and was minding my business, those have been the times I’ve been approached. I think when we become so focused on our relationship with the Lord and focused on fulfilling His purposes for our lives and accomplishing the assignments He has given us, that is when He will bring our future spouses into our lives. I think men can pick up on desperation but are attracted to women who have their own lives. I remind myself that I don’t need to be looking for a husband because Proverbs 18:22 says that “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” And not “She who finds a husband...” As women, I believe we are to work on preparing ourselves to meet our future husbands and to allow the Lord to do the work in us so that we will be blessings to them. But our first love is to be the Lord, and He is the one we need to focus on whether or not we get married to an earthly spouse.
this is so good! grateful to have come across this message. I'm in my single season and I know God is calling me to get closer to Him so he can prepare me for my husband.
...So, I can definitely relate I am there sitting, crying 😭 and praying 🧎🏾♀️ for GOD to show me, Me before I can properly give love, so I must purge😭 and pray and Get whole.
An encouraging message I needed to hear in my single season!! When God sends my guy, he will not only be for my now, but for where's God taking me to and we can grow together!! Love that!!
I’ve never been a romantic relationship but I know there some things that I need to get right with the Lord before the Lord upgrades me with certain blessings. Thank you for the reminder that those areas I need to improve upon won’t be 100% because we are all working our salvation continuously.
God bless you Heather, I'm a guy but this hit home cause I feel like I'm the one trying to reach out to my boo and she seems like non chalant. I was going to propose to her but I had stopped because throughout my times of prayer I felt like something came up to upset me and see a side of her that I wasn't cool with. I'm just rambblimg on, But I feel like I need to fast for this woman.
Wheewww! This was so needed. Currently doing a man fast and a 40 day fast and these men folk are coming out of no where left and right!!! Thank you for sharing your testimony Heather! ❤️
Thank u for this it really blessed me and it’s true I shouldn’t waste my 20s or my best years chasing no good men cus it won’t end well, I’d only being worse and more damage than before. I just wanted to say God bless u guys and your ministry it has been a blessing to me, I pray u guys continue to move up in God.
Thank you Heather! This is a video I absolutely need. Currently on a man fast. This will help my journey. Praying to God for strength, wisdom, discernment and to totally trust and rely on God, He is my all. 🙏🏾
This is so true Thank you! I never looked at that way. Marriage is for the earth but God is eternal. Amen. I really needed to see this video. I need to conquer some areas in my life before I get married. Maybe I’m experiencing all these problems with meeting men that can’t measure up because it’s not my time. Maybe God isn’t ready for me to be married. I have my career, graduated college and getting my first home. All of these things I’m accomplishing except that. Sometimes I wander but I realized all those things I depended on God for and when it comes to love I realized I went out of my self will. So maybe if we depend on God just as much as I had enough faith to ask for all the things I’m getting it can happen. This is amazing!
Sis some of us even making 6 figures do our own hair n nails...its nice to go to the shop however when times call 4 do it urself self care. Now I never lowered my standards thank God...most of the men would say...Y r in love with God...Oh well each one of us has a different journey thank God. Thank u 4 ur realness and honesty and blessing so many....
I’m 30, and God has had me on a man fast since January 8, 2019 to prepare me for the man He has for me. I need to heal from failed relationships and childhood trauma first! I idolized marriage, and need God first place in my life.
Amen sister!! I've been on a man since 2012 ans STILL fasting until GOD sends him my way. Girl you hitting all the NAILS and stepping on sooo many toes!!!But this WORD is MUCH needed! Blessings to you and your family!!
Heather, when I tell you that you went ALL the way off on this Word! When I tell you sis, that I absolutely needed this Word, and it was like water to my soul. Thank you Jesus for speaking to me what I needed, and what it seems like, so many people need right now. To God be the glory! May Jesus be our Lord, our Savior, our Husband, and our Everything!❤ And thank you for the virtual hug that you gave us at the end, that was nice!😁
My purpose is bigger than a ring !!!Having been married for 15yrs now a divorced mom of 4 at times I have found it hard to be in a single season but your messages especially this one is on time. And I blocked my backup too last year so I’m done playing. I’m going to pursue God with my whole heart, heal from my divorce and give him all of me. Man fast!!!!!
It's amazing how much true worship to God will come with Him teaching us the truth in all things. Who God is, who we are and marriage included. Finally, it's amazing how God's plans for us includes so much more than what's merely in our hearts. Thanks for sharing this!
This is so timely for me. I had an encounter with God last year literally mid-studying and in the softness of His voice, He called me to wholesome singleness and celibacy (I was already single and hadn't engaged in sexual relations but I had had very close moments where I would almost have sex). I felt a peace settle over me when I had that encounter and as if God wanted to cement His message to me, I had a call with a friend and it was as if God was speaking with so much directness to me through her and I set on listening to the Lord. I had been battling with whether I should remain celibate and wait till marriage (I am surrounded by so many peers (friends and family) who are sexually active and it made me feel so insecure and as if I was left and this was God's way of setting me apart. However, literally a few weeks later I meet this man, very worldly and very much against what God has placed in my heart and I went ahead and dated him despite us not having anything in common, anything at all and I had duped myself into thinking we are meant to be when the Spirit kept telling me no. I can tell you now that I felt as if I had lead in the pursuit and that is one thing a woman should not do, pursue a man. Needless to say, I dated him two months (still not bending to sex before marriage), didn't let go even when God told me too until God removed him from my life. Immediately after breaking up with him, I was already entertaining other men and I realised I had learnt that from him and wanted to show that I amworthy of being wanted (he is a serial dater). A few months later, through the beauty of worship, exactly one year later God reminds me of His desire for my life rn and I burst out in tears because the lesson learnt from that experience was obedience and patience in the wait. I had literally gone ahead and hurt my heart because of no patience. Anyhoo, I can now say that I am entering a man fast. Thank you for this message, Heather.
Thank you for sharing. I’m struggling right now but trying to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel. I know I want God’s best for me, but just kind of feeling low about things.
❤️❤️❤️Although this walk is not intended to be difficult, gaining control over ur mind is so stressful. Thanks for this video it definitely shed light on the dark area. I pray I immediately overcome my struggles so that I can become one with the Lord. Life is but a vapor. 🙏🏾for me
I agree with everything you said. I have the want but I refuse to settle know. I spend more time with God and tell Him "He is a right on time God", so until then I'm getting to know myself better. My likes and dislikes. Doing as God was called me. I know who God has for me will be doing for God fully and we will be growing stronger together. Until then life is too short not to live it to your fullest. Thank you Mrs. Lindsey
True focus during this season, been fasting it for a while but I am grateful for Gods grace, forgiveness and mercy. Thank God for being hidden cause he knows what to protect you from. Thanks for sharing.
Just got out of a relationship that I didn’t see it happen listen immediately I felt so so strong that I should go on a6months mans fast 🥺so this has been really helpful thank you ❤️
It is really sad to see so many women having the same issue with men. But in reality we are the problem. We are disobedient! And the consequences are that terrible awful suffering of the ungodly soul tie! We will never have peace with a man , when we make him our God! I always knew that, crazy part is that I was doing it with no idea that I was smh!
It's not just us women. It's western society. I'm quarantined in Morocco, a Muslim country where premarital sex is illegal. Therefore it's less likely to happen and men don't expect it. My cousin here married a virgin and treats her like a queen. I never had that experience in the states. I'm staying here for my manfast and Ramadan, the fasting month.
"When God chooses someone for you he chooses not just for now, but the future you". Amen!!!!
Mpho Sephiri Yessss🙌🏼
Was about to comment this untill i saw your comment. Powerful WORD!
'If you don't feel good about yourself, the LAST thing you need is a Man!'
Ann Njoroge OKAY?! I try to tell one of my friends that. She wants a man so bad bc she’s never gone long without one bc she simply doesn’t like herself and being in her own company.
“Marriage is not a graduation”- a WORD 🙌🏽💜
I'm 18 months in, on my man fast!!! It's possible y'all and sooo worth it. If y'all only knew what a stronghold this was in my life. After years of struggling with rejection and abandonment from my parents, sexual abuse issues, lots of other childhood trauma, and not to mention heartache from several failed relationships, I never believed sexual purity was possible for me. Give that area of your life to God and He will do so much - in u, through u and for u - that He never can do as long as u're filling that God-space with a man or serial dating or even platonic guyfrieds. If u're listening to this video, if u're reading this comment it IS possible for u! I listened to Heather for years before I finally got the strength to go on a man-fast and now that I have my only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. Come on, u can do it, I'm cheering for u and praying for u. God is your strength and He has a better plan for u than any plan u can make for yourself. Love y'all. Be encouraged ♥
Bless you Courtney! I needed to hear your testimony, thank you!😁
@@brittanyjackson6432 Awwww Brittany! I'm glad to hear u were blessed and encouraged. I will remember u in my prayers as the Holy Spirit leads me. Please come back and give me a praise report of your victory of this issue in your life. I wanna hear about it, I know it's on the horizon. God bless sweet sis ☺
@@courtneynicole767 Soo sweet!!! Thank you for your kindness and prayers. I am praying for you also. God has already been doing so much for me in this area, just need to recommit and refocus. Thanks for your encouragement. He is Able!😁🌞🌻
@@brittanyjackson6432 ♥ ♥ ♥
OMG it was like I was writing this comment. I'm so ready for this fast. Going to buy me a journal and take notes and really learn why I'm on this fast
I been on a man fast for 2yrs and I don’t miss the confusion that came with entertaining a counterfeit. Yeah you get the hollas but don’t mean you have to entertain them.
I almost threw something at the tv. She was speaking a WHOLE word!!!!!
😂 Yes she was!
Lol!
😂😂😂😂😅😍
God told me to start my man fast back in March, its been the best thing ever. I am more at peace than I've ever been.
Rizzo sis..we started in the same month 🙌🏻
@@mupemopatience you got this sis!!!! Imma be praying for you.
I started mine back in March too
God bless you sis! Can we stay connected and walk this thing out together ?
Rizzo thaaaank you sister ♥️♥️
I love how authentic she is.
Bria Barrows me too 😭🤎
Bria Barrows me too
If any of y'all do a man fast, I hope and pray that you will get a true revelation of God's perfect love for you along the way and treasure it deeply forever. I have been 8 years single by God's grace and it's been amazing! After this time, I'm so convinced that the best covenant you will ever have is the covenant you have with Jesus. His love never fails. Share that love with your future spouse and see what else God has planned for your life. God bless y'all and thanks Heather for such profound wisdom!
Amen.
😆 wow 8yrs!! Let me try that 😂. You're goals 👊🏾
Hey GOITSE, thanks! I must admit, I simply prayed that God's will would be done. Before my fast, I wasn't confident about marrying a guy I was with for about 5 years although I knew what it was like to be in a relationship where we loved each other and were friends who grew up together. I struggled with a lot of doubting which I believe can put a strain on a relationship. It was something that was beautiful to me but God reassured me that He is the first and the last and that no man could ever take the place of God in my life. I had to grow in this understanding and make sure no man got in the way of my obedience to God. With that, it's been a work of the Holy Spirit and God was with me, guiding me and counseling me through it and all of the emotions that I felt along the way. Finally, one of my biggest lessons learned was, don't make your life about a marriage. Life is all about Jesus and belonging to Him while seeing His words be fulfilled is so hopeful. Marriage is a covenant agreement where God joins two people together who loves each other. With that, we need to understand the nature of the things we trust God with in our hearts and He wants to give us understanding according to truth. Especially given that we need to hope and trust in Him alone. All the best with your fast!
I was just about to call the back up guy because I’m tired of waiting on Gods best - this video was beyond on time especially in this quarantine mess
purple luv I was wanting to do the same girl and literally checked my email and saw this video at the right timing! Be encouraged!! We have purpose in every season of our lives!
Aresia Bryant, and purple luv you both be encouraged and stay before the Lord, we all have been there.if the enemy press it's only because you are closer to the blessing. Don't let him send either of you back into a recovery season, which will definitely put a hold on your blessing. If either of you dont follow redefinedtv with pastor flowers, please go look them up. They teach alot on this topic that I know will help strengthen you with. Blessings on blessings
"The back up guy" 😭😭 I know the feeling.
The temporary is just a bandaid, dont settle. I know its tough, but it will be worth the wait. If you take the pie out of the oven too soon you gotta start the process all over again...#WeatherTheWait...It Will Be So #WorthTheWait
Confirmation...I prayed for God to reveal to me what kind of fast and he given me confirmation to do the man fast...Then I see your video pop...Eight days in🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I've been single my whole life and honestly, the more I watch things like this, the more I realize that I have missed out on NOTHING because so far every guy I have liked was outside of God's timing and we all know what it's like when that happens. XD Thank you, Jesus for not giving me what I thought I wanted!
I’m so guilty of idolatry with my ex - previous relation, it continued until he broke my heart in a million pieces 😔. 26th of this month makes it 1 year since. Wasn’t until I recommitted and seek counseling then I realized that, that’s exactly what I was doing. January of this year I started healing, and became genuinely happy. God be praised🙏. I pray The Holy Spirit heals this broken heart and replaces it with love, forgiveness and peace. I pray that if there’s anyone who’s in my heart that’s cause me to commit idolatry that he be removed in The Mighty Name of Jesus🙏. Thank you for this Heather. This really resonates with me.
I’ve been divorced since I was age 30. After 2 years, I started dating again 4 guys each giving a piece of me. At 38 I finally said no more. This is not what God wants for me. I prayed that if God does not want me to have a companion, to remove the desire I have. And I felt just that. But now I’m 43 and feeling lonely but yet scared to be in a relationship. I pray God’s WILL will be done for me and not my will. Bless you for sharing. 🥰 This touched me. I’m in tears at this time.😢
I wish I had seen a video like this in high school. I could have saved myself from a lot of future pain and stress. The cycle could have been broken much sooner. No one understands unless they’ve gone through this. It is not easy.
Bri Gardiner I agree with you...
I changed my number exactly a year ago TOMORROW..my GOD! And you post this! GOD ALWAYS speaks to me through Heather! LORD I can't do anything but shout! NO guy from my past has access to me, and when I tell you doors started flying open for me 9 days after I did so! LORD I THANK YOU! GOD IS SO GOOD y'all I PROMISE you!
amen. I'm on a man fast until I meet my husband. I went on a man fast for the same reasons you did, Heather. after a while you just get tired of the hurt and the insanity. I'd rather wait for that equally yoked, equally dope❤
I sift through every man with extreme prejudice. Extreme!
Everyone of them is treated as a plant from the enemy unless proven otherwise by his fellowship and obedience to the Spirit of God.
I have zero time for trifling, get-to-know-you time-wasting dates.
Once i meet someone I might like, I give them my number and talk to them. I basically test their walk with God until I see their commitment level.
I leave zero margin for error.
I suspend rationalisation and emotional reactions to answers.
I know it sounds like a military operation 😂 and you're right, it is.
Anyone who isn't from God is sent to subvert this temple and that won't be on my watch! Especially not after the Lord done took me through a man fast. No!
So, Its a rather subtle affair where the man can't tell he's being sifted till at the end of conversation I hit him with the news that it won't work out between us.
In essence, I just pretend to be some new ager who has zero care for anything Holy... That way, I can cut through politically correct christianese to the base of his convictions.
That's My fun method for selecting a male friend that may be admitted as a God-send. Beyond that, I'd still rely on the Holy Spirit to say if they're teachable and that we can proceed with a relationship.
I'm confident that with time, I'll happen to meet the right one. The Holy Spirit has told me what to look out for so I MAY not have to go very hard till I can authenticate his F&O...
That's My approach.😂😂😂
It's unbelievable how on time this is.... I have been feeling the need to go on a man fast and then this video... I'm on a 40 day soul tie fast right now and I was doing food and alcohol limiting social media and find there was more needed.... This is CONFIRMATION!!!
Exactly, I broke up w my bf 2 months ago n he was my idol, I listened to him for everything n God had to split that relationship n I'm doing much better now getting to kno God more , it feels good, thank you for this video.
Imagine if she settled for less.. she would not be living her glory life and blessing us like this. Guys put God first, you have a legacy and a purpose. He will provide all in due season🙌🏻📖❤️
Reminds me of 1st Corinthians 7:34 where Paul addresses the unmarried,he says an unmarried woman's main concern is the Lord's affairs. She is to be devoted to God body and spirit. As a single person, devotion is to the Lord and not another man/woman
I've been on a man fast for 2 years. God showed me who my husband is, but that it's not the time. So I'm working on improving me and building my relationship with God.
Thanks for sharing this WORD.
Thanks for saying this... coz I also believe I know who my husband is but we're completely not ready 😔
I'm glad I'm doing me now. But I really needed this, I've made so many mistakes with guys I've dated and some I was not even dating. Singleness is hard, I didn't not know how to stay pure. Still not married,but it's okay just to know I can make it without a man.
Same 💜
Begood&friend I can relate, and I’m so happy for you!
I so needed this!!! My GOD starting today I'm going on a man fast.
Same 😁
Wow right on time, been going thru some things with this man/grown boy smh, i finally cut it off because it was draining me so bad. I prayed to God and asked him what do i need to do. And this video popped up. Amen. Thank you Jesus.
I'm happily married but you know I watched this video from beginning to end. Love you Heather!
I just got off a man fast. It was for 30 days. I'll probably keep it going. I didn't want the temptation while we are supposed to be social distancing and someone will want me to come over.
I’m only 24 (turning 25) but I feel like I’m in a weird space where all of my cousins are having babies, half of my friends are in relationships. And I can’t help but feel like I’m not moving. I’ve been focused on school and trying to get career started. And love who I’m becoming and I just want more. And I feel silly feeling like I’m not moving fast enough at 24 but it’s hard. I don’t want just ANYONE. And I thought I was on a man fast lol but I want to do it the right way 🙌🏾
Well i had two relationships and see my other comments above... i am 27 and i felt like that and sometimes I still feel like that like I am behind especially with all this talk about sex and being good in bed which I lack experience... I feel you... I even asked God of all the areas I could struggle in why this one?
deonna dyson I feel you. And sometimes I question why I have trouble in this area when I see myself to have all this amazing qualities. But I’ve really had to change my frame of thinking. Just because I don’t have it at this very moment doesn’t mean I won’t ever have it.
I really appreciate your honesty and Deonna Dyson. I feel the same and I'm 28 for a few more months. I have 2 single friends left and most have children already. But, I agree with Heather. It's better to allow God to finish processing us (or, our spouse) than to rush into disaster. I've tried manufacturing my own relationships before. Talk about a train wreck! Also, your comment about how not yet doesn't mean never is so on point! I love seeing the faith of others, it's so encouraging ❤
Sis... are you me? Exactly how I feel!
Even strolling on social media... everyone on my timeline is pregnant which shows they have an active guy and an active sex life lol... so i just decided that guys just dont like me and they never will....i am done trying...
This video encouraged me during my singleness. I got into the Word more and focused on God instead of obsessing over marriage. Four years later, I'm married to an amazing man who loves God and adores me. ❤ Thank you for this advice.
This is confirmation! At 10:28 on up that part spoke to me! That is exactly why my sister and I made a decision April 10th to put ourselves as a priority. So we had our Spring Break all of last week and we decided to take the time to go to the doctor and get a check up and start working on our physical man. We desire to be wives, mothers,and doing what God has called us to do and we can't be sick trying to do them. A minister I heard one time say "be the person you would want to be with." So true! Heather I ain't mad at ya, I know what I need to do and it's getting done. We're ready! 🙏🏽
Congrats! I would love to follow your journey if you feel led to vlog or blog. I'm excited for you and your sister!
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Thank you! We definitely want to do that one day
Yess I needed this I have always been in relationships and since I got saved I made up my mind to be single, single. I just want to develop a relationship with Jesus however long I'm single I know God will be with me through it
I needed to hear this. The amount of time being single doesn't make a difference but it is about using that time effectively for God. May God continue to use you Heather as His vessel 🤗
well said! It really isn't about the time spent single, it's about deliverance and then serving God with those first fruits.
LOVE this message!!
I agree, fasting from men from time to time can be wise!
I agree, fasting from men from time to time can be wise!
I love how authentic Heather is
Focus: God, what do you want me to do in this season. Help me to stay on that/those matters faithfully
She makes you wanna slap yourself for being so silly and blindly going around a mountain all this time!🤦 Then you stop and thank God for opening your eyes 😳🙌
Yes! Some of things were cringeworthy. Jesus take the wheel.
Thank you Heather I know this is old
I'm also 26 years old and struggling with the same issue relationships after relationship abuse after abuse narcissistic after narcissistic I'm really tired and desperately want to change
I came across this video reminded me that God hasn't forgotten me
I'm willing to do what is best for me
Tired going through abusive narcissistic relationships
Time to work on me and live life and Take the path to finding Jesus and establishing a awesome relationship with him
Thank you so much
This message really open my eye to reality
God placed this on my heart to do this man feast and boom here comes heather linsday giving me exactly what I need
I been literally single and celibate for 10 years. But I agree its one thing to be single seeking god than single and looking for a man to fill that void. You keep it very honest and real and i appreciate that
You be checking us so well! 🤦🏾♀️😩... I needed to hear this 😩😩😩
SO TIMELY! I was just saying this on Sunday to my friend but I said "I think I need a man fast" but this is a confirmation that I do need it and let this be the beginning ! Thank-you Heather
Ghuuuurrrlll you just told my life story!!! I need to go on a man fast for real!! This video is so real. Heather you kept it real. I am struggling in my relationships and it is wasting my youth honestly. It's taking my focus away from things that really matter and the worst part is that I know the relatiionship I'm in is stagnant. Holy Spirit help me go on this man fast.
Hey Sis. If you know the relationship is stagnant and may not be God's Will for you, just leave and don't look back. Don't try to stay and rationalize anything. Move out first and work out the details later. That's the cold turkey method. God has given you strength, use it.
All the best...
This is my confirmation I literally prayed this last night and asked God what I needed to focus on I am so thankful for this answered prayer!
Wowwwwww. Conviction on 💯 😫 Thank you for sharing this. God is so good. In the midst of my toes being stepped on, I felt peace. I’m going on my man fast that the Lord has been telling me to go on for years but I’ve been hard headed and stubborn. I’m ready to go into that season no matter how long it takes or how lonely it may get/feel. It’s time ladies. No more putting our hopes, dreams, validation in a MAN
AMEN! 🙌🏽😩
Thanks sister Heather for this video! I’ve been praying lately for the Lord to help me keep my eyes on Him and to stop wondering if every single attractive man I meet is my future husband. I had even told myself that I’m going on a fast from men in this season, and seeing your video is further confirmation that I need to do so.
I still struggle with that... I wonder why I go places I never get approached by guys?
deonna dyson I can relate sis. When I’ve tried to look all cute and expect guys to approach me, I’ve never been approached. But when I didn’t look for the attention and was minding my business, those have been the times I’ve been approached. I think when we become so focused on our relationship with the Lord and focused on fulfilling His purposes for our lives and accomplishing the assignments He has given us, that is when He will bring our future spouses into our lives. I think men can pick up on desperation but are attracted to women who have their own lives. I remind myself that I don’t need to be looking for a husband because Proverbs 18:22 says that “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” And not “She who finds a husband...” As women, I believe we are to work on preparing ourselves to meet our future husbands and to allow the Lord to do the work in us so that we will be blessings to them. But our first love is to be the Lord, and He is the one we need to focus on whether or not we get married to an earthly spouse.
this is so good! grateful to have come across this message. I'm in my single season and I know God is calling me to get closer to Him so he can prepare me for my husband.
...So, I can definitely relate I am there sitting, crying 😭 and praying 🧎🏾♀️ for GOD to show me, Me before I can properly give love, so I must purge😭 and pray and Get whole.
An encouraging message I needed to hear in my single season!! When God sends my guy, he will not only be for my now, but for where's God taking me to and we can grow together!! Love that!!
I’ve never been a romantic relationship but I know there some things that I need to get right with the Lord before the Lord upgrades me with certain blessings. Thank you for the reminder that those areas I need to improve upon won’t be 100% because we are all working our salvation continuously.
I cried. Much needed. God bless you, Heather.
God bless you Heather, I'm a guy but this hit home cause I feel like I'm the one trying to reach out to my boo and she seems like non chalant. I was going to propose to her but I had stopped because throughout my times of prayer I felt like something came up to upset me and see a side of her that I wasn't cool with. I'm just rambblimg on, But I feel like I need to fast for this woman.
This truly blessed me and it was the slap in the face that I needed. I'm starting my man fast today. Thank you and God bless.
Wheewww! This was so needed. Currently doing a man fast and a 40 day fast and these men folk are coming out of no where left and right!!! Thank you for sharing your testimony Heather! ❤️
Thank u for this it really blessed me and it’s true I shouldn’t waste my 20s or my best years chasing no good men cus it won’t end well, I’d only being worse and more damage than before. I just wanted to say God bless u guys and your ministry it has been a blessing to me, I pray u guys continue to move up in God.
Thank you Heather! This is a video I absolutely need. Currently on a man fast. This will help my journey. Praying to God for strength, wisdom, discernment and to totally trust and rely on God, He is my all. 🙏🏾
This is so true Thank you! I never looked at that way. Marriage is for the earth but God is eternal. Amen. I really needed to see this video. I need to conquer some areas in my life before I get married. Maybe I’m experiencing all these problems with meeting men that can’t measure up because it’s not my time. Maybe God isn’t ready for me to be married. I have my career, graduated college and getting my first home. All of these things I’m accomplishing except that. Sometimes I wander but I realized all those things I depended on God for and when it comes to love I realized I went out of my self will. So maybe if we depend on God just as much as I had enough faith to ask for all the things I’m getting it can happen. This is amazing!
Sis some of us even making 6 figures do our own hair n nails...its nice to go to the shop however when times call 4 do it urself self care. Now I never lowered my standards thank God...most of the men would say...Y r in love with God...Oh well each one of us has a different journey thank God. Thank u 4 ur realness and honesty and blessing so many....
"marriage aint no graduation" Amen to that!!!
"You're cooking our kids!" Hahaha!! Thanks for this message Heather!♥
I’m 30, and God has had me on a man fast since January 8, 2019 to prepare me for the man He has for me. I need to heal from failed relationships and childhood trauma first! I idolized marriage, and need God first place in my life.
Amen sister!! I've been on a man since 2012 ans STILL fasting until GOD sends him my way. Girl you hitting all the NAILS and stepping on sooo many toes!!!But this WORD is MUCH needed! Blessings to you and your family!!
Boo said “Read a Book 📚 “ 😂😂 come through Heather🙌🏾
Heather, when I tell you that you went ALL the way off on this Word! When I tell you sis, that I absolutely needed this Word, and it was like water to my soul. Thank you Jesus for speaking to me what I needed, and what it seems like, so many people need right now. To God be the glory! May Jesus be our Lord, our Savior, our Husband, and our Everything!❤
And thank you for the virtual hug that you gave us at the end, that was nice!😁
My purpose is bigger than a ring !!!Having been married for 15yrs now a divorced mom of 4 at times I have found it hard to be in a single season but your messages especially this one is on time. And I blocked my backup too last year so I’m done playing. I’m going to pursue God with my whole heart, heal from my divorce and give him all of me. Man fast!!!!!
I cannot imagine what you went through! I'm praying for healing and standing with you in Jesus name!
Confirmation! Doing that now!! Thanks for your transparency. 🙌🏾🙏🏽
Sis🥰😂🔥. You’re such a high value woman. Funny yet edifying! I needed this
This is literally the video I needed to hear! Thank you !!
Going on a Man Fast!
Wow this was on time for me!!! I need to work on me, your right sis.Thank God for using you. It didn't feel good but it was confirmation.
It's amazing how much true worship to God will come with Him teaching us the truth in all things. Who God is, who we are and marriage included. Finally, it's amazing how God's plans for us includes so much more than what's merely in our hearts. Thanks for sharing this!
This really spoke to me and my situation. Thank you so much. I really needed to hear that ♥️
This was a SUPER-DUPER, AWESOME message! It is soooooo, right on time! God bless you and your family Heather!
Hugs!
I went through this over and over again! It was horrible. I'm thankful to God now!
Praise the Lord for you and your ministry Heather! We love you and are praying for God to continue to renew you and protect you.
I NEED TO WORK ON ME CAUSE I'M ALL MESSED UP FROM BAD RELATIONSHIPS.
You've got this!
This is exactly what I needed to hear! Praise God for revelation! God bless you Heather and your family❤️🙏🏽
You made me cry, thank you so much for sharing this and obeying the voice of GOD.
This is so timely for me. I had an encounter with God last year literally mid-studying and in the softness of His voice, He called me to wholesome singleness and celibacy (I was already single and hadn't engaged in sexual relations but I had had very close moments where I would almost have sex). I felt a peace settle over me when I had that encounter and as if God wanted to cement His message to me, I had a call with a friend and it was as if God was speaking with so much directness to me through her and I set on listening to the Lord. I had been battling with whether I should remain celibate and wait till marriage (I am surrounded by so many peers (friends and family) who are sexually active and it made me feel so insecure and as if I was left and this was God's way of setting me apart. However, literally a few weeks later I meet this man, very worldly and very much against what God has placed in my heart and I went ahead and dated him despite us not having anything in common, anything at all and I had duped myself into thinking we are meant to be when the Spirit kept telling me no. I can tell you now that I felt as if I had lead in the pursuit and that is one thing a woman should not do, pursue a man. Needless to say, I dated him two months (still not bending to sex before marriage), didn't let go even when God told me too until God removed him from my life. Immediately after breaking up with him, I was already entertaining other men and I realised I had learnt that from him and wanted to show that I amworthy of being wanted (he is a serial dater).
A few months later, through the beauty of worship, exactly one year later God reminds me of His desire for my life rn and I burst out in tears because the lesson learnt from that experience was obedience and patience in the wait. I had literally gone ahead and hurt my heart because of no patience.
Anyhoo, I can now say that I am entering a man fast. Thank you for this message, Heather.
Thank you for sharing. I’m struggling right now but trying to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel. I know I want God’s best for me, but just kind of feeling low about things.
Thank you so much Heather. May God continue using you as his vessel, ure a blessing to us. And I love you too.
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That top looks so beautiful on her!
Today has been confirmation from my prayer this morning! God bless you!
I appreciated this message. It was confirmation for where God has me at this moment.
I love how she say “honey let me tell you” 😂. You spoke some Words 🙌🙏❤️
❤️❤️❤️Although this walk is not intended to be difficult, gaining control over ur mind is so stressful. Thanks for this video it definitely shed light on the dark area. I pray I immediately overcome my struggles so that I can become one with the Lord. Life is but a vapor. 🙏🏾for me
“If you don’t feel good about yourself, the last thing you need is a man”
This has been me. Working on myself now.
I’m trying to do the same. It’s so hard right now. But I’m trying to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel
Devotion towards God/ Devotion towards the relationship. Omg this is so relatable. I’m here at this moment and I’m Glad I’m watching this video .
I agree with everything you said. I have the want but I refuse to settle know. I spend more time with God and tell Him "He is a right on time God", so until then I'm getting to know myself better. My likes and dislikes. Doing as God was called me. I know who God has for me will be doing for God fully and we will be growing stronger together. Until then life is too short not to live it to your fullest. Thank you Mrs. Lindsey
Thank God for someone who is honest!!!!!!!!!
True focus during this season, been fasting it for a while but I am grateful for Gods grace, forgiveness and mercy. Thank God for being hidden cause he knows what to protect you from. Thanks for sharing.
I don't usually comment a lot but this video was everything!! Heather you are preaching!!
This message is soo fire! I was led to this video just in time!
Don’t awaken love until you’re ready.
So the word says in Songs of Solomon
I needed this! Amen! Focusing on Christ! Seeking Him first and His righteousness and All these things will be unto me!
Wow, thank you, Heather. God is intentional! This is so timely. He answers prayers.
Thank you for sharing your story! It’s encouraging...I’m on a man fast now too...God bless you and your marriage.
This made me LOL in so many ways because so many things she called me out on! I loved this video. Thank You Heather!!
SPEAKING FIRE SIS!!!!
Im so glad you talked about this subject very much needed. God bless you tremendously🙏🏼👍🏽👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Just got out of a relationship that I didn’t see it happen listen immediately I felt so so strong that I should go on a6months mans fast 🥺so this has been really helpful thank you ❤️
Man fast is about your mind being free as well 🔥🙌🏻..word !
Thank you .
It is really sad to see so many women having the same issue with men. But in reality we are the problem. We are disobedient! And the consequences are that terrible awful suffering of the ungodly soul tie! We will never have peace with a man , when we make him our God! I always knew that, crazy part is that I was doing it with no idea that I was smh!
It's not just us women. It's western society. I'm quarantined in Morocco, a Muslim country where premarital sex is illegal. Therefore it's less likely to happen and men don't expect it. My cousin here married a virgin and treats her like a queen. I never had that experience in the states. I'm staying here for my manfast and Ramadan, the fasting month.