Majority of metal heads are sound as but no one thinks theyre as scary as they think they are. (I've already spotted one saying this in the comments haha) 'Im a big, scary looking dude' no you just look like a fat nerd with long hair and a beard wearing a SOAD t shirt. No one is frightened of you
This. Who are we trying to elicit obsession from and why? Choosing activities based on aesthetic (building a brand) instead of what’s really bringing us joy at the time seems deeply rooted in insecurity.
@@j.b.8984 exactly. All these people are doing is making up a fake personality (ego) and masking themselves with it. Wearing it as a suit. This whole world is just fake
I get it now! I'm a big, scary-looking dude with very visible tattoos even on my hands and face, and people are so surprised when they see me smile, which is a lot. The moment someone notices me doing or saying something kind or generous, they seem to gravitate towards me. I always wondered how, as a very socially awkward person, I've been able to effortlessly make friends. I guess I'm a walking contradiction.
Nice people in general tend to make friends easily. However they also get teased and people sabotaging them a lot which they don't do to you because you are scaring looking to them, so evil people who don't like nice people will just ignore you.
I stumbled upon this video and WOW!! although I didn’t come up with my own contradiction. Yeah well I’m kinda stoned 🤭 I enjoyed finding paper and a pen and the assignment. I’m really enjoying the comments.
This made me think of Sabrina Carpenter. She looks like she would play into the dumb blonde, super energetic, attention seeking pick me but she’s actually kind of dry and down to earth. She’s self deprecating and isn’t afraid to be critical of things, especially men. I think it makes her really interesting
It’s good to know these concepts. It just doesn’t matter. The more you learn yourself it becomes easier to navigate society. If we talking building a fan base. Yea there’s physiological things that can help. But if you prioritize being authentic you’ll be alright.
I can't define a single thing about myself that isn't a contradiction. I dance, meditate, bake, knit and I practice yoga everyday. I love wearing dresses at home and can read books for hours and hours on end. I also love shooting (airsoft guns), larp, craft gear, play video games, and listen to metal. Etc etc.
this video is soooo good on so many levels. First of all, it's not too long, but long enough to cover everything. Secondly, it explains everything in very simple ways, and finally, it even has an actual exercise / solution. Keep it up!!!
Thank you so much! The fact you took the time to be specific about what you liked in this video is so helpful for me. I appreciate you watching, glad you're here💛
I've been saying this for years. The way you articulated it was absolutely perfect, and the examples you provided were brilliant. I've always been so intrigued by when characters and people subvert expectations, because it makes them more unpredictable, challenging the beliefs you'd unconsciously formed about them and your own unconscious biases as well
Hello! I'm so overwhelmed (in a good way) with the response for this video, thank you so much for commenting and subscribing and being so constructive with your feedback. I appreciate you a lot! It inspires me to keep going 💛
Here's some feedback too, the length of the video was perfect. The way you spoke had me engaged, waiting to hear what you're gonna say next, it wasn't boring or aahh. Your humor had me chuckling so double down on that, don't ever think that this might be cringe, just go for it. The edits and the motion graphics along with your voiceover in the explanative parts of the video were helpful, easy to grasp and insightful. So keep doing what you do. Subscribed!
bruh this a comment from one of ur TikTok DMs from a while back. Never expect a response as ur videos always leave me enriched with thought, and I’m so excited to see what RUclips brings! I think I have my contradiction, but given the nature of it it may take a few years before it can be fully realized! Will be back come 2028 haha (I’m not kidding tho the power of dividends … did someone say cringe mountain? … is so cool! )
Lean into your contradictions!! Awesome visuals, editing and sound...really love that your voice isn't drowned out by the background music. I applaud how thoughtful this is.
This is very good. First time I see one of your videos, subscribed. Not too long, not too short, straight to the point, good editing, no useless repeating... Good job.
Great video you’ve summarised something I’ve been taking advantage of for such a long time as a black guy. I get a kick out of the dissonance that it triggers in people
I agree. even contradiction itself is present in this theory. Only marrying a contradicting person mostly never works but only in movie. In reality divorces happen. My wife was supper opposite of me. we never found a single common ground, not even 1 nano meter. I liked sex she didn't, I liked watching movies, she didn't, I like being loyal, she didn't, I liked to communicate and be straight forward, she liked to stay silent and expect others to do telepathy. It only lasted there was negative chemistry between us, we had chemical reactions always.
Yeah I'm sorry man, this has nothing to do with the video but the fact that you guys were completely incompatible in that case. Two people being opposites does not make them compatible.
I’m the opposite of your brother. I look like Ted Lasso without the mustache. But the amount of times I’ve heard ‘you are a dark horse!’ When people get to know me is many. I think of it as urban ninjary. It benefits me greatly that people in everyday life have no idea I’m a psychonautic BJJ black belt who wandere off into the woods alone for days at a time.
Something as simple as a smile or a laugh, or a bit of a joke, to make light of some common public situation like standing in a boring queue or squeezing past one another on a narrow sidewalk... can do exactly what you're talking about. It totally breaks us out of our modern habit of marching along, head down, nose buried in a smartphone - as we have been conditioned to do. I know this doesn't sound like doing the opposite of what others expect, but sadly in today's society it is and on the occasions I have done so I find people respond as if it's a breath of fresh air.
Great video! I was thinking about this today and then this video was suggested by YT! Contradictions definitely make people more interesting and love the personal branding pov. Thanks for sharing
there's a book called Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer, and it talks about how using some secret techniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
Great deep dive into contradictions psychology. Makes sense in some ways. I think that it really ticks people who did their work on frontal cortex, yet I feel it doesn’t work with those who didn’t. I at any case enjoyed your video & now enjoy thinking about the topic 😊
very nice content and concept of thoughts! especially social media tends to polarize opinions and it‘s very hard to stand out. but everybody you mentioned got famous before this rule of opposite (besides shrek I guess). snoop wouldn‘t be the same without the street credibility and martha stewart would‘ve been the “crazy old lady“ with her habits nowadays. I think this is more like the step to get “super famous“ that everybody will know your name
I'm very timid-looking, and I made a pair of earrings out of red can openers, and my cafeteria lady who sees hundreds of people every day started remembering me for it.
I agree with other comments on expressing how on point this video is 👌 May I add that the fact you're beautiful also adds to the pleasure of the watching. Cheers for your channel 🥂💕💜
I'm an activist, artist, and anti-corruption advocate. I will suck up, keep things to myself, and agree with the man to make people fall in love with me!
Great Start to your Long-form content ! I saw this Piece and watched/liked every single of your shorts and took notes along the way. I'll be using your advice I'm sure. Keep it up and congratulations for the big leap from your radio position.
I'm a bit over 2 metres tall, often wearing all black, long hair, big beard, metalhead. People often expect me to be dark and tough, but I'm a gentle giant who's usually pretty upbeat.
I appreciate your mission with this channel. Subscribed! Well written, I enjoyed most of the editing. My only push back as a black person is the characterization of black people being the opposite of white people. I know what you mean in terms of a literal color spectrum, but even on a surface level I don’t love delineating the two “people groups” as opposites. That’s my only pushback. Otherwise I enjoyed the video and look forward to more content
Theres actually few people more fun than a woman in her 60s in her hostel interacting with younger people and exchanging life stories and giving advice and stuff and being spontaneous 🎉
I've come to live with the burden of being very approachable. If people are gonna ask a stranger, that's me. I've been told I have a very open presentation and am easy to approach and talk to. So what contradiction should I go with?
I come across as the Grinch, i like my solitude but man everyone wants to hangout, and they get super possessive and complain if they don't see me for a few days 😂
I mean Shrek and Donkey are fictional and writers just wrote whatever they wanted. Still, I agree that sometimes opposite people can make it work. It really just depends on circumstances. In life, all relationships are based on some benefit or codependence of some kind, I think. Especially for long-term, when you see people together there's a reason. Sometimes they're related or one person is financially dependent on the other, or they work together and are forced together. A lot of people don't want to be with each other, but eventually learn to like each other. It's very complicated. Personally, I think many different personality types can make it work, but it can also work with two people that are the same. I don't understand people who say they need strong and weak personality all the time to make a relationship, especially romantic ones. I disagree you need that contrast in romantic relationshops, even though it is often promoted by society. How come with pets we like to associate with similar people but jot with romantic? I personally prefer people the same to me. I come out more when I'm with people that are similar personality-wise. American culture seems to promote sameness and oppositeness in random ways. For instance when it comes to bossy and strong women they seem to promote being with another strong and bossy man, instead of being with a softer and obedient man, which might work too, but our culture doesn't promote that. That's an example where sameness is being promoted where opposite could work. Another example is when media always shows contrast and variety of people in movies or TV showd, but in real life, similar people might have made other kinds of things happen. I guess what I'm saying is that it doesn't matter if you have a relationship that is same or different, but that they are both powerful and I encourage you to use both and not just one or the other, life is what you make of it. Anyway, I think there are various combinations of aiccessful relationships, so you can have opposites, or sames, or exact same and all combinations and still make it work. Still, it's been my observation that whatever yku pick, nothing will ever be perfect and overtime most people want out, but stay together because of commitment and maybe that's the definition of love.
Bruh the video is totally not about relationships or any 'opposites attract' stuff. It's about one's *own* opposites, not to find them in others, but to develop them *in yourself* It's about 'attraction' - not necessarily sexual even - that would develop towards you if you amplify your own opposites. She's just explaining that working on breaking expectations of the first impression you tend to induce would enrich your personality. And people would find that endearing. Nothing to do with who you should be choosing as a partner. It's quite established how important common values are for a relationship anyway. If anything, it would follow from her point that you widen your own aspects, so in turn you don't have any need to "search for opposite in others to complete you", because you already fill that role in the process yourself
@@whataboutthis10 Yeah, that makes sense, I didn't thinknof it that way. Another idea is realizing that you can be whatever you want to be and can like whatever you like and can try and give others a chance and be accepting of yourself and others in ways that are unexpected. Thanks for sharing.
You can only somewhat guess anyway. People that 'know' that are perverts at best and essentially wrong. Even 'asking others' is dubious, because it's filtered and it might be heavily influenced by what they believe you wanted to hear. It can be a start, if you have like zero clue tho. But usually we have some ideas possibly, we're just not sure how relevant they are. Maybe check stereotypes about your interests More importantly, what you can do after deciding for a 'working hypothesis' is to display the opposite and read from responses. When you're getting significant amount of unprovoked positive "I didn't expect that from you!" you're nailing it have fun)
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I work as a doctor. People expect me to have a degree, but I don't have one.
"I have two"
Double down on that plot twist
No but seriously you did make me laugh
That's a good one
😂😂
👏 love that! I’m literally obsessed
I feel like it’s a game show so I’ll play… You’re a sociopath! 😂
Metalheads are nice people cosplaying as mean people
The opposite goes for k-pop fans, but you didn't hear that from me
Majority of metal heads are sound as but no one thinks theyre as scary as they think they are. (I've already spotted one saying this in the comments haha)
'Im a big, scary looking dude' no you just look like a fat nerd with long hair and a beard wearing a SOAD t shirt. No one is frightened of you
REAL
Hippies are mean people cosplaying as nice people
@@thegeexbee No but it’s so true 🤣🤣
Don‘t long for people being obsessed with you. 😇
This. Who are we trying to elicit obsession from and why? Choosing activities based on aesthetic (building a brand) instead of what’s really bringing us joy at the time seems deeply rooted in insecurity.
that's a good reminder; thank you
@@j.b.8984 exactly. All these people are doing is making up a fake personality (ego) and masking themselves with it. Wearing it as a suit. This whole world is just fake
@@j.b.8984 I think this is meant to be lowkey about how to become famous and blow up while standing out from all the other popular content creators
They need to be obsessed their lives
Basically - lean into your weirdness and that thing society doesn’t expect of you
Basically BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF
this is exactly *not* about being your authentic self.
But that's what society tells us to be. It actively encourages individualism. We live under Neo-liberalism.
I get it now! I'm a big, scary-looking dude with very visible tattoos even on my hands and face, and people are so surprised when they see me smile, which is a lot. The moment someone notices me doing or saying something kind or generous, they seem to gravitate towards me. I always wondered how, as a very socially awkward person, I've been able to effortlessly make friends. I guess I'm a walking contradiction.
I think what's actually helping you find friends is that you're just a nice person. Simple as that. At least it sounds like it :)
Nice people in general tend to make friends easily. However they also get teased and people sabotaging them a lot which they don't do to you because you are scaring looking to them, so evil people who don't like nice people will just ignore you.
I stumbled upon this video and WOW!! although I didn’t come up with my own contradiction. Yeah well I’m kinda stoned 🤭 I enjoyed finding paper and a pen and the assignment. I’m really enjoying the comments.
This made me think of Sabrina Carpenter. She looks like she would play into the dumb blonde, super energetic, attention seeking pick me but she’s actually kind of dry and down to earth. She’s self deprecating and isn’t afraid to be critical of things, especially men. I think it makes her really interesting
This is a great example!
she’s all the things you said
Especially men? oh lawd
I remember lean beef patty, she went viral with videos of her cute and feminine face and then showing her strong body
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It’s good to know these concepts. It just doesn’t matter. The more you learn yourself it becomes easier to navigate society.
If we talking building a fan base. Yea there’s physiological things that can help.
But if you prioritize being authentic you’ll be alright.
Same thing I was thinking. I partially did the exercise and it was basically just what I already do and am.
I can't define a single thing about myself that isn't a contradiction.
I dance, meditate, bake, knit and I practice yoga everyday.
I love wearing dresses at home and can read books for hours and hours on end.
I also love shooting (airsoft guns), larp, craft gear, play video games, and listen to metal.
Etc etc.
this video is soooo good on so many levels. First of all, it's not too long, but long enough to cover everything. Secondly, it explains everything in very simple ways, and finally, it even has an actual exercise / solution. Keep it up!!!
Thank you so much! The fact you took the time to be specific about what you liked in this video is so helpful for me. I appreciate you watching, glad you're here💛
this
Slight correction: Jesse wasn't from the streets, he was born into a rich family but messed up majorly. Which is another contradiction.
I felt bad for his parents
I've been saying this for years. The way you articulated it was absolutely perfect, and the examples you provided were brilliant. I've always been so intrigued by when characters and people subvert expectations, because it makes them more unpredictable, challenging the beliefs you'd unconsciously formed about them and your own unconscious biases as well
Totally. It’s the idea of “the odd couple”, opposites that bring out each individuals opposing polarity respectfully ❤
Subverting expectations is literally how you reprogram someone’s brain from feeling like “oh this is a mundane routine day” to “oh! This is a memory!”
I'm a social nobody, near poverty, happy and have the high-deepest knowledge others only pretend at having.
Hello! I'm so overwhelmed (in a good way) with the response for this video, thank you so much for commenting and subscribing and being so constructive with your feedback. I appreciate you a lot! It inspires me to keep going 💛
Ain't it
Here's some feedback too, the length of the video was perfect. The way you spoke had me engaged, waiting to hear what you're gonna say next, it wasn't boring or aahh. Your humor had me chuckling so double down on that, don't ever think that this might be cringe, just go for it. The edits and the motion graphics along with your voiceover in the explanative parts of the video were helpful, easy to grasp and insightful. So keep doing what you do. Subscribed!
bruh this a comment from one of ur TikTok DMs from a while back. Never expect a response as ur videos always leave me enriched with thought, and I’m so excited to see what RUclips brings! I think I have my contradiction, but given the nature of it it may take a few years before it can be fully realized!
Will be back come 2028 haha (I’m not kidding tho the power of dividends … did someone say cringe mountain? … is so cool! )
Lean into your contradictions!! Awesome visuals, editing and sound...really love that your voice isn't drowned out by the background music. I applaud how thoughtful this is.
Leo! Really appreciate this comment. Credit for the visuals, editing and sound mix to my incredible editor @sainthills
This channel is better than a business degree
you’re right i can’t stop thinking of my favorite icon’s contradictions now 😭
I'm happy I gave your video a chance. Great video!
I'm so happy you gave it a chance, too - thank you! I'm really glad you're here
This is very good. First time I see one of your videos, subscribed.
Not too long, not too short, straight to the point, good editing, no useless repeating... Good job.
Great video you’ve summarised something I’ve been taking advantage of for such a long time as a black guy. I get a kick out of the dissonance that it triggers in people
I agree. even contradiction itself is present in this theory. Only marrying a contradicting person mostly never works but only in movie. In reality divorces happen. My wife was supper opposite of me. we never found a single common ground, not even 1 nano meter. I liked sex she didn't, I liked watching movies, she didn't, I like being loyal, she didn't, I liked to communicate and be straight forward, she liked to stay silent and expect others to do telepathy. It only lasted there was negative chemistry between us, we had chemical reactions always.
TELEPATHY LMFAOOOOO
Yeah I'm sorry man, this has nothing to do with the video but the fact that you guys were completely incompatible in that case. Two people being opposites does not make them compatible.
You‘re contradiction is the amount of views I’ve expected on this video…! Amazing video, can’t wait to see more 🙏
haha I see what you did there. That means a lot coming from you, thank you so much Desy! 💛
was macht desy hier 😂
This is an insanely great video.
This exercise is so great, it helped me years ago finding my first niche, networking for introverts, excited to revisit it.
Only 2 thousand subscribers?! That numbers gonna grow just like everyone’s confidence after watching this! 🎉
I love how short and sweet your videos are , not too much talking for nothing , like im watching a tiktok video , gained a new follower ❤️
I’m the opposite of your brother. I look like Ted Lasso without the mustache. But the amount of times I’ve heard ‘you are a dark horse!’ When people get to know me is many. I think of it as urban ninjary. It benefits me greatly that people in everyday life have no idea I’m a psychonautic BJJ black belt who wandere off into the woods alone for days at a time.
you're going to be a star one day.
1:38 *_"YOU LET THEM COOK, THAT'S WHAT YOU DO"_*
Best video I've seen this month. Hands down most useful.
"Dialectics in the proper sense is the study of contradiction in the very essence of objects."
I make spreadsheets by day, but I build race cars at night. I lean into this contradiction often, and honestly, people love it.
Something as simple as a smile or a laugh, or a bit of a joke, to make light of some common public situation like standing in a boring queue or squeezing past one another on a narrow sidewalk... can do exactly what you're talking about. It totally breaks us out of our modern habit of marching along, head down, nose buried in a smartphone - as we have been conditioned to do. I know this doesn't sound like doing the opposite of what others expect, but sadly in today's society it is and on the occasions I have done so I find people respond as if it's a breath of fresh air.
This deserves more views. Good job
So many of the low-number videos aren't great. Nice to find one that provides value. Keep up the good work! 😀
that wall design behind you is dope af
Great video! I was thinking about this today and then this video was suggested by YT! Contradictions definitely make people more interesting and love the personal branding pov. Thanks for sharing
Very well presented and explained. Hope to see more longform content on this channel, you've earned a new subscriber
I really like your room. Gives off a simple aesthetic vibe
Yea, like the inside of a scandanivian prison cell
hahaha thank you, unfortunately it was an airbnb. It was so minimalistic!
@@theoryofoneit reminds me of apartments my friends have in Playa del Carmen, specially with the gas underneath the kitchenette
Oh man, your apology reminded me I used to love melting my mechanical pencils into weird shapes over the Bunsen burner in Chem class 😂 good memories.
Love this. I also just started posting on my channel after 10 years building personal brands. Wishing you the best!
Your channel is amazing!! So much free game, thank you!
People think I’m mean because I hit women but I’m actually a really nice guy
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there's a book called Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer, and it talks about how using some secret techniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
Law of attraction seems to be the valid concept of positive thinking, enrobbed in a lot of bullshit to sell and make money
After 7 years of only having success sometimes with LOA and Neville Goddard, I'm definitely interested to check this out.
Ok bro
Is anything real anymore
Wouldn’t manifestation and law of attraction go together tho?
Wow, i didnt know how much i needed to see this video. Very insightful. Ill subscribe and watch your channel explode
lol I literally just watched Twins, which is an entire movie based entirely on this principle 😂
or just read unleashing your dream reality by caleb clarkson (thank me later)
heard a lot about that one, really wanna give it a try!!
@@martina937 just search it up
@@martina937 just search the name
Do not search up this book. It’s a botted comment farming searches and sales. The more you search for it, the more likely it’ll get recommended.
What?
you need a more extended version of this video, love it ❤
Great deep dive into contradictions psychology. Makes sense in some ways. I think that it really ticks people who did their work on frontal cortex, yet I feel it doesn’t work with those who didn’t. I at any case enjoyed your video & now enjoy thinking about the topic 😊
very nice content and concept of thoughts! especially social media tends to polarize opinions and it‘s very hard to stand out. but everybody you mentioned got famous before this rule of opposite (besides shrek I guess). snoop wouldn‘t be the same without the street credibility and martha stewart would‘ve been the “crazy old lady“ with her habits nowadays. I think this is more like the step to get “super famous“ that everybody will know your name
I'm very timid-looking, and I made a pair of earrings out of red can openers, and my cafeteria lady who sees hundreds of people every day started remembering me for it.
This is quite a genius branding lesson! thank you
The permanent juxtaposition. I’ve lived in this most of of my life and it’s really paid off and benefited me. Thank you for articulating it so well.
This is your first video. Wow this was amazing! I love when RUclips recommends up and coming folks.
Interesting! Love your interior by the way!
Great Title
Well Explained
and an exercise to apply it 👏👏👏
First time I've seen you and definitely excited to see more.
I agree with other comments on expressing how on point this video is 👌 May I add that the fact you're beautiful also adds to the pleasure of the watching. Cheers for your channel 🥂💕💜
I'm an activist, artist, and anti-corruption advocate. I will suck up, keep things to myself, and agree with the man to make people fall in love with me!
Great Start to your Long-form content ! I saw this Piece and watched/liked every single of your shorts and took notes along the way. I'll be using your advice I'm sure. Keep it up and congratulations for the big leap from your radio position.
Funny your brother said that, i always did the same thing. Ive had many times where people just choose another door too though😂
listening to gangster rap while crocheting is indeededly delightful, i get it
I'm a bit over 2 metres tall, often wearing all black, long hair, big beard, metalhead. People often expect me to be dark and tough, but I'm a gentle giant who's usually pretty upbeat.
This videos gonna make a whole bunch of science teachers become drug lords
Lol it's turning your shadow to your advantage in another way of putting it. Quality content! Thx
This is so enlightening! I love this perspective, thank you!! ❤❤❤
1:02 Make Icons 😭💕💞
Your videos are amazing ❤
I just wish the music wasn’t this loud so an ADHD viewer like me could focus on what you’re talking about 😅
Post Malone actually started his music career in a metal band and is a huge metal fan.
Thank you for the video, keep up the good work
Happy this video appeared on my radar. Great content!
Basically being unexpected. But thats best for war and vanity.
So beautifully done. Watching felt like being at a lecture in ancient athens
I appreciate your mission with this channel. Subscribed! Well written, I enjoyed most of the editing. My only push back as a black person is the characterization of black people being the opposite of white people. I know what you mean in terms of a literal color spectrum, but even on a surface level I don’t love delineating the two “people groups” as opposites. That’s my only pushback. Otherwise I enjoyed the video and look forward to more content
Useful for writing characters for books
This was v well done! Just subscribed and looking forward to more longer videos. I hope your channel blows up! 💖
Theres actually few people more fun than a woman in her 60s in her hostel interacting with younger people and exchanging life stories and giving advice and stuff and being spontaneous 🎉
If I’m in a room with shrek hitting the blunt won’t make the experience any scarier so yeah I’m hitting that shi
Really interesting points you brought up. Keep up the good work
Just Yin and Yang guys
Well done Spicy Dave! Well written and edited! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Breaking bad was the first thing that came to my time before you even said it
this format really suits me
Loved this! So glad recommendeds decided to cook with this one.
Bro why is she filming in a nuclear bunker
Why do you think that?
Great video. This makes me think of my love for the cartoon Courage the Cowardly Dog for some reason 😂
Wow, super supportive 🙏🏼🔥💎 Gentle, loving, white boy from the woods, that has made hard, gritty, hip-hop for 20 years
nice soundtrack choices btw
I have no fucking clue how people categorize me. But I have a LOT of contradictions.
I've come to live with the burden of being very approachable. If people are gonna ask a stranger, that's me. I've been told I have a very open presentation and am easy to approach and talk to. So what contradiction should I go with?
I come across as the Grinch, i like my solitude but man everyone wants to hangout, and they get super possessive and complain if they don't see me for a few days 😂
I am a writter, but my favorite place to write are electro raves.
You will be massive in not too much time, great vid!
there is huge risk to this… it can result in voilent conflict & toxic drama also
I mean Shrek and Donkey are fictional and writers just wrote whatever they wanted. Still, I agree that sometimes opposite people can make it work. It really just depends on circumstances. In life, all relationships are based on some benefit or codependence of some kind, I think. Especially for long-term, when you see people together there's a reason. Sometimes they're related or one person is financially dependent on the other, or they work together and are forced together. A lot of people don't want to be with each other, but eventually learn to like each other. It's very complicated.
Personally, I think many different personality types can make it work, but it can also work with two people that are the same. I don't understand people who say they need strong and weak personality all the time to make a relationship, especially romantic ones. I disagree you need that contrast in romantic relationshops, even though it is often promoted by society. How come with pets we like to associate with similar people but jot with romantic? I personally prefer people the same to me. I come out more when I'm with people that are similar personality-wise.
American culture seems to promote sameness and oppositeness in random ways. For instance when it comes to bossy and strong women they seem to promote being with another strong and bossy man, instead of being with a softer and obedient man, which might work too, but our culture doesn't promote that. That's an example where sameness is being promoted where opposite could work. Another example is when media always shows contrast and variety of people in movies or TV showd, but in real life, similar people might have made other kinds of things happen. I guess what I'm saying is that it doesn't matter if you have a relationship that is same or different, but that they are both powerful and I encourage you to use both and not just one or the other, life is what you make of it.
Anyway, I think there are various combinations of aiccessful relationships, so you can have opposites, or sames, or exact same and all combinations and still make it work. Still, it's been my observation that whatever yku pick, nothing will ever be perfect and overtime most people want out, but stay together because of commitment and maybe that's the definition of love.
Bruh the video is totally not about relationships or any 'opposites attract' stuff.
It's about one's *own* opposites, not to find them in others, but to develop them *in yourself*
It's about 'attraction' - not necessarily sexual even - that would develop towards you if you amplify your own opposites. She's just explaining that working on breaking expectations of the first impression you tend to induce would enrich your personality. And people would find that endearing.
Nothing to do with who you should be choosing as a partner. It's quite established how important common values are for a relationship anyway.
If anything, it would follow from her point that you widen your own aspects, so in turn you don't have any need to "search for opposite in others to complete you", because you already fill that role in the process yourself
@@whataboutthis10 Yeah, that makes sense, I didn't thinknof it that way. Another idea is realizing that you can be whatever you want to be and can like whatever you like and can try and give others a chance and be accepting of yourself and others in ways that are unexpected. Thanks for sharing.
how do you only have 1.6k subs??? this was fantastic
I'm short. people think of me as napoleon, full of anger. but i just want to watch a nice sunrise and be happy 😞
I am a wlaking contradiction. And this video enlightened me on some of the unwanted attention that has come my way. Thank you!
I have just come to realize that I have no clue whatsoever how people observe me. I guess that takes time.
You can only somewhat guess anyway. People that 'know' that are perverts at best and essentially wrong. Even 'asking others' is dubious, because it's filtered and it might be heavily influenced by what they believe you wanted to hear.
It can be a start, if you have like zero clue tho. But usually we have some ideas possibly, we're just not sure how relevant they are. Maybe check stereotypes about your interests
More importantly, what you can do after deciding for a 'working hypothesis' is to display the opposite and read from responses. When you're getting significant amount of unprovoked positive "I didn't expect that from you!" you're nailing it
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This video is great. You seriously have a thing for this