The enemy effect will make you magnetic

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  • Опубликовано: 24 дек 2024

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  • @glanni
    @glanni 15 дней назад +119

    I like the saying "A religion doesn't need a God, but it needs a devil."

  • @valerieterranova8130
    @valerieterranova8130 24 дня назад +135

    Hundreds of videos I’ve seen about Taylor Swift’s brand and you’re the first person to get it right.

  • @bklynmyke
    @bklynmyke 18 дней назад +69

    There's still more to it than this. It's HOW you react to your enemy. If you stand around yelling, "I hate this/them!" no one will care. You have to stand up to the/your enemy in a positive way. You can't just yell about why you hate someone/thing. You have to rise up in an inspiring way. A way that will rally people and make them root for you. They have to want to be able to picture themselves as the protagonist. People don't just root for Potter, Batman, or Swift (not a swifty). They wish they were them. They wish they had the resources and the courage to do what the person they love is doing. Oh, and BTW, I don't know why YT recommended this video, but I'm so glad they did. This was awesome!! New subscriber for sure. Can't wait to binge-watch.

    • @Kunk35
      @Kunk35 16 дней назад +3

      Great follow up to this video! Really great points!

    • @daydreamindaisy137
      @daydreamindaisy137 16 дней назад +3

      Agreed! thank you for stating this perspective =)

    • @gailscrypto1536
      @gailscrypto1536 8 дней назад +1

      totally correct - first person i thought of as an example of this was Greta the climate change protestor - who is just plain annoying and screams at people and glares at them....not uniting people at all :(

    • @lyarrastark6254
      @lyarrastark6254 8 дней назад

      @@gailscrypto1536 Greta is a good example of getting it wrong and antagonizing others.

    • @bklynmyke
      @bklynmyke 8 дней назад

      @@gailscrypto1536 Exactly! I think of the Vegan Teacher. OMG. I'm not vegan, but I respect vegans. All vegans. Except for her. If you don't know her, then you'll live longer. She literally makes me want to eat more meat. She's so gross. She compared eating meat to being raped. I'm not going to go into that, but it was directed at a specific YTer who is very sweet and kind who was raped in college. I remember I was on my way to my friend's wedding. We ended up being late because bicyclists were riding through downtown Chicago, blocking traffic. Apparently, it was some sort of demonstration. The cops blocked up the streets until the bikes passed. My friend was screaming his head off at one of the protesters. He was ignoring my friend. I tried a different approach. I asked politely, "What is this protest about? What's this for?" to which the guy just grinned this cocky, condescending smirk and said, "Critical mass." So you have a protest that no one knows what it's for, and you piss off God knows how many thousands of people in downtown Chicago. Not the way to get people to be sympathetic to your cause.

  • @joachimschmidt7662
    @joachimschmidt7662 Месяц назад +40

    Am i the only one, who feels like the moral of this, is to start our villain arc?

    • @InternetFamousYoutuber
      @InternetFamousYoutuber 4 дня назад

      I think its rather start someone else's villain arc and end it with your hero arc.

  • @TheGabe92
    @TheGabe92 2 месяца назад +423

    "Disney's enemy is growing up."
    You just explained in one sentence why Disney's Star Wars has always been doomed. I love when theories make predictions to questions they were not necessarily designed to answer.

    • @1amb1
      @1amb1 2 месяца назад +5

      interesting take - doomed how so?

    • @TheGabe92
      @TheGabe92 2 месяца назад +38

      @@1amb1 Star Wars is a story about coming of age, i.e. growing up.

    • @TheLavenderLover
      @TheLavenderLover Месяц назад +1

      They also just got busted on ground in FL for employees taking children!

    • @samuel3253
      @samuel3253 Месяц назад

      Disney's enemy is privileged white heterosexual males.

    • @NautilusXO
      @NautilusXO 29 дней назад +3

      ​@@TheGabe92 I think it's about gaining perspective and standing for what you believe in, despite temptation.

  • @stephaniemthoma
    @stephaniemthoma Месяц назад +215

    This is such a great nugget- I would say my enemy is anyone who gossips about someone with the intention of having them excluded or canceled, often with incomplete or untrue facts.

    • @TheSheKitty
      @TheSheKitty Месяц назад +12

      Yes, same
      Those people gotta be drunk in Envy do go to such extends

    • @silverkitty2503
      @silverkitty2503 Месяц назад +2

      Well enemy is perhaps flattering them with too much importance. But you are correct.

    • @kylebarrettz
      @kylebarrettz Месяц назад

      I felt that

    • @porschamarie9349
      @porschamarie9349 Месяц назад +4

      Yeah Covert Narcissist was on my list too

    • @jmkwm
      @jmkwm Месяц назад

      That happened to me in my old job a few months back. Led by a ringleader who was the queen of gossip, she turned everyone against me. She and I used to be « friends » or so I thought, and even went on holiday together once and I was very friendly with everyone else. They excluded me and stopped talking to me and then got others to think I was the one isolating myself from ALL of them. They were all older than me in their 40s. I didn’t react. Karma came when I was contacted for a new position in a more prestigious company in the same industry, with a higher pay. They were all flabbergasted when I quit. I did not give them the time of day and don’t intend to if I run into them ever again. And yes the ringleader was basically jealous of me, even though I wasn’t giving her anything to be jealous about and just being myself. She was talking about me behind my back, even to our boss and that isolation thing is the only thing that came up in my improvement areas during the quarterly evaluation lol that lady could say nothing bad about my job and was between a rock and a hard place when I quit 🤷🏾‍♀️ your enemies will make you stronger so thanks to them, my favourite haters 😘

  • @aniiidroid
    @aniiidroid 25 дней назад +121

    Hearing that taylor swift was bullied reminds me of the 30 Rock episode when Liz said she was bullied in high school and when she went back to her reunion everyone was terrified of her.

    • @twiggypie2314
      @twiggypie2314 17 дней назад +23

      Seems about 200% on-brand for her based on how she acts. Maybe it's real in her head, but more likely it's made up to appeal to an insecure audience. She had a recording/development deal with Sony Music from age 12 or 13 and spent her afternoons after school in Nashville studios before she was even a Freshman in High School. She was doing professional modeling before that.

    • @JamesRDavenport
      @JamesRDavenport 17 дней назад +6

      Thank you. Somebody else gets it. *high five*

    • @fredmercury1314
      @fredmercury1314 16 дней назад +9

      Don't tell me... _She was bullied in school because she was too beautiful?_ lol
      Narcissists tend to have an inflated sense of self-importance and a deep need for admiration and approval from others. This need for validation can drive their behaviour, leading them to seek constant attention and affirmation to reinforce their self-image.
      Maybe she was bullied. It is one factor that can lead to a person becoming a narcissist.

    • @kharma327
      @kharma327 10 дней назад +7

      I knew someone who went to school with Lady Gaga. She also talks about being bullied. He said she was very popular, already very talented, and all the guys wanted to date her.

    • @Ttttoeeen
      @Ttttoeeen 6 дней назад

      ​@@fredmercury1314 she's making money tho. The more you don't think that you're a narcissist etc, the more you get money & power. That's the rule of the world, I guess.

  • @john-vv1ln
    @john-vv1ln Месяц назад +249

    “Never attempt to win by force what can be won by deception.” --from THE PRINCE (1513)Machiavelli

    • @AstridRin
      @AstridRin Месяц назад +4

      this quote is nice I like it, but I'm curious if you could explain a bit further what it means and its relation to the video (genuinely curious on your thoughts here)

    • @john-vv1ln
      @john-vv1ln Месяц назад

      @@AstridRin Swift playing victim ideological enemy to build her brand, cause you can't win over fans by force, you feed them a narrative of some form of injustice
      Like any activists spreading climate crisis propaganda to enrich their bank accounts, like climate activist Steven G. Minister of Environment in Canada to get his party into power to justify carbon tax, Canada to be the only country in the world to have a carbon tax on top of other taxes.
      Or how about men pretending to be women so they can play in women's sports, they couldn't outright say they are men being discriminated against, deception: I'm a women because I identify as a women and they get a vocal minority to support their nonsense
      or labelling on food like all natural, natural flavors, organic, plant based, low fat, if all this is so good for you why are there so many obese ppl in America? there are many things that are banned in Europe that are still in north America food, you can't force ppl to eat junk but you can deceive them into eating junk

    • @weatheradventures
      @weatheradventures Месяц назад

      @john-vv1ln is a bot sent to sow division

    • @raemenjay
      @raemenjay Месяц назад +1

      ​@@IndicaEdennot knowledgeable enough question all things around you!

    • @StevenT-33
      @StevenT-33 Месяц назад +4

      Rat tactics. No honor

  • @phantomology404
    @phantomology404 20 дней назад +55

    This is EXACTLY how a certain someone gained popularity in germany in the 1920s and '30s.

    • @twiggypie2314
      @twiggypie2314 17 дней назад

      Lenin, Trotsky and Stalin? Communism in General?

    • @x-pilot6180
      @x-pilot6180 17 дней назад +5

      @@twiggypie2314
      Germany!?

    • @theeclectic2919
      @theeclectic2919 17 дней назад +2

      @@x-pilot6180 To be fair, there's not much difference between communism and fascism.

    • @x-pilot6180
      @x-pilot6180 17 дней назад +6

      @@theeclectic2919
      If you think that, you really don't understand history. Or political ideas!
      Communism: class struggle. Poor versus rich.
      Status: determined by money
      Fascism: race versus race.
      Status: determined by DNA.

    • @phantomology404
      @phantomology404 17 дней назад

      ​@@x-pilot6180 Just one thing, I'd like to add: There are quite a few definitions for fascism, but the most useful one (at least in my opinion) is, that fascism is a "palingenetic ulta-nationalism". Palingenesis means rebirth, because fascists always have this narrative, that once their people were great, but now they are miserable due to an internal or external enemy. And it's their goal to return to their former awesomeness.
      Those two motives are certainly not communist.

  • @FrenchCoach
    @FrenchCoach 2 месяца назад +226

    Duolingo is my enemy. The green bird needs to be stopped.

    • @theoryofone
      @theoryofone  2 месяца назад +58

      @@FrenchCoach highly specific. But I like it. We ride at dawn

    • @FrenchCoach
      @FrenchCoach 2 месяца назад

      @@theoryofone 🫡

    • @elastrorey5722
      @elastrorey5722 Месяц назад +18

      You're joking, but after a year of doing Duolingo, I realized that I hate the fact that this game almost forces me to solve exercises every day, that it nags and begs and screams at me, and punishes me when I misbehave. And it quite suits my personality, I hate being told what to do. I always did my own thing.
      It's a miracle I lasted one year.

    • @amonymous-ny6dg
      @amonymous-ny6dg Месяц назад +1

      In my opinion Duolingo is just a tool to encourage you to learn and if you no longer want to learn than just delete it, it is nothing personal

    • @luckyyt2381
      @luckyyt2381 Месяц назад +6

      Bird❌️
      Owl✔️

  • @pineutrino
    @pineutrino Месяц назад +91

    It is criminal that at the time of me writing this, you’ve only made four videos. I love these. Solid gold from start to finish. Make more! Make more!

    • @theoryofone
      @theoryofone  Месяц назад +9

      Thanks for being here from the beginning. I'm really enjoying making these and it means a lot that you're enjoying watching them!

    • @WillN2Go1
      @WillN2Go1 Месяц назад +1

      Good video, but keep in mind the enemy is a narrative device. It's a trick of the manipulator to convince you that you are afraid of something. In a story the enemy is just an embodiment of the weakness of the protagonist. The Stoic/Buddhist practice is to deal with an enemy, but not let them change who you are or what you do. Being too focused on an enemy gives that negative person a degree of control over your life. Not good. I had a horrible boss who wasn't even that good at back stabbing. One day I had the idea, instead of fighting his war -- and becoming like him -- I will, every week do something amazing. I'm sure Taylor Swift had a moment like that because she's the very definition of amazing.
      But I'm not a fan. I'm an old guy still listening to Joni Mitchell. No problem. I have deep respect for the community Swift's built with her fans. Until this video I didn't know how critical to her narrative were the mean girls, but instinctively I did. So well Done Taylor Swift. Mostly what I get from her is she's a woman with a notebook writing poetry, struggling with the things all women struggle with. Her challenge is as it is to all of us, with herself.
      But we all have some chip on our shoulder from past ill treatment. I'm almost 70 - it's still there. Almost everyday there's at least the echo of 'Oh yeah, I'll show them....' But I use it to push myself forward. Even if I had the chance I wouldn't seek out those who've wounded me and rub their noses in it. I wouldn't do that to anyone. It's cruel and a waste of time. Leo Koetke the guitarist song writer has a piece, "I guess I owe it all to Pamela Brown" because she fell in love with a guy who had a pick up truck, instead of him. His disappointment and jealousy went into his music.
      Just having the thought, what amazing thing am I going to do this week? Gets me motivated and gets something done.
      The downside? When any of us change for the better in some remarkable or different way, often the people in our lives who are used to us being a certain way can feel angry, hostile to the new changes. Often they reject us. We've upset the family, community, group....

  • @starbug345
    @starbug345 Месяц назад +21

    I learned about what OP is talking about in a journalism course in college. They say brands present you with a problem and then offer a solution. It’s similar to finding your enemy because the enemy is the problem and you are the solution, or at least the person that showcases them as a problem and not out for you or your followers best interest

  • @AnthonyHadleyJr
    @AnthonyHadleyJr Месяц назад +144

    Drake catches strays in the most unexpected places 😂

    • @theoryofone
      @theoryofone  Месяц назад +10

      @@AnthonyHadleyJr 😂😂😂

    • @jmkwm
      @jmkwm Месяц назад +8

      There’s nowhere that man is safe no more 😂😂😂

    • @lucasasselmeier7825
      @lucasasselmeier7825 20 дней назад +1

      @@jmkwmthat’s the true measure of massive fame right there. Once everyone is talking about you, that’s the peak

    • @jmkwm
      @jmkwm 19 дней назад

      @@lucasasselmeier7825 everyone was also talking about Jeffrey Epstein too 🥴 all fame is not good fame…

  • @BlueYellowGreenVc
    @BlueYellowGreenVc Месяц назад +61

    The is a good tool to help you get clear on your values. I don't particularly care about being magnetic but the opposite of things I hate is naturally the things I value most. So I'll be using this advice for that purpose.

  • @alfinenathalie
    @alfinenathalie Месяц назад +145

    Turns out my enemy is: hustle culture. The tireless energetic drain it imposes, the false dreams it dangles over peoples heads to keep them coming back, the false promise of better, the overworking, the sacrificed health and rest and time in leisure & play with loved ones, the way people dedicate their lives to being of service to the workforce only to spend much of their retirement in and out of hospital or even worse, 6 feet under without the chance to enjoy their “free” time.
    Arghhhhhh 😡

    • @amarnamarpan
      @amarnamarpan Месяц назад

      Uggh. Capitalism. I hate it. It's modern day slavery in the name of progress which ultimately makes us work harder.

    • @ultimatechallenge-ti2rc
      @ultimatechallenge-ti2rc 28 дней назад

      weak

    • @ULTIMATEINUYASHAFAN
      @ULTIMATEINUYASHAFAN 26 дней назад +2

      I feel the same, I wonder what our general enemy is in this concept.

    • @DR_1_1
      @DR_1_1 26 дней назад

      You know that comes from the mother when she first became aware she was expecting you? Believe it or not, but I haven't found any way to change that, so maybe just accept that we are not made for careers, social status, it just makes it much harder to pay a mortgage, or sustain a family...

    • @awkwardukulele6077
      @awkwardukulele6077 10 дней назад

      @@ultimatechallenge-ti2rc-says the cartoon villain 😂

  • @Akta
    @Akta 26 дней назад +123

    I'm not going to lie, I've been a bit bored of RUclips recently - there just doesn't seem to be much original content anymore, I don't know if it's just me. But this video - OMG, so good! It's the first video I've stayed completely engaged with in suchhhh a long time!! you're a brilliant creator, keep going 👏🏽

    • @andrewolesen8773
      @andrewolesen8773 25 дней назад +2

      AI content farms are flooding the platform with rehashed scripts of previously uploaded videos because AI doesn’t create original ideas it only works with the data that was fed to it while being trained. You are probably noticing the difference between a human taking inspiration from source materials and a piece of code regurgitating a blend of said source materials.

    • @CarasComments
      @CarasComments 25 дней назад +1

      @@andrewolesen8773yes, this is something I, too, have realized & is why it makes content like this so much more valid and believable. In trying to counteract AI, I’ve taken to using it as a jumping off point to go to original source material. As well, the repetitive nature of AI content regurgitation is another giveaway but I just try to use that too…as Prince said, there’s joy in repetition & I know I learn best that way. Other’s mileage will vary, of course.

    • @susandarber9942
      @susandarber9942 19 дней назад

      Choose your content, and make a break.

    • @themacocko6311
      @themacocko6311 10 дней назад

      That's what happens when the world mass produces something. It turns out to be shit.

  • @angeronasilencio9939
    @angeronasilencio9939 Месяц назад +101

    My enemy is low consciousness behaviour. I hate it when this world suffers from destruction due to its stupidity. I fight for a high vibrational world.

    • @raemenjay
      @raemenjay Месяц назад +2

      Matrix

    • @andrew9360
      @andrew9360 27 дней назад +2

      You'd like Ellen Langer's psychology research

    • @standardofexcellence
      @standardofexcellence 25 дней назад +1

      It involves stuff that took years to grasp and even though I can express it very little will understand

    • @raemenjay
      @raemenjay 24 дня назад

      @@standardofexcellence 👍

    • @Love-eg2vf
      @Love-eg2vf 21 день назад +6

      I’d be very mindful if I were you. I have spent over a decade in “spiritual” communities where this kind of language is the norm. While I agree with the premise, I’d caution you to remain aware that a lot of the beliefs that float around in such spaces are based on falsehoods. Often they end up defending and championing “low consciousness” societies while simultaneously trying to tear down the ones who are not. All due to unconscious jealousy, envy of success, etc. Try to pair this with radical shadow work to try and avoid unconscious bias.

  • @badshot1401
    @badshot1401 Месяц назад +19

    I just stumbled across your channel. Wow. Your execution of EVERYTHING (subtle humor and not too much, bloopers, and ability to connect through a screen) is absolutely perfect. If you keep it up, I will be proud to say I was in the first 10K when there is a million.

  • @alexforce9
    @alexforce9 2 месяца назад +287

    Phahahah so Taylor made her whole career on "Im not like the other girls"?! All that while being pretty, skinny, white girl?! Thats some great branding and marketing I give her that.

    • @adroitws1367
      @adroitws1367 2 месяца назад +37

      dont tell it to the fans, you will get mobbed

    • @crazyshiep4582
      @crazyshiep4582 Месяц назад +2

      yeah haha so funny, to be the punchingball for the popular girl in school :)

    • @crazyshiep4582
      @crazyshiep4582 Месяц назад +17

      Its NOT about she look, it about how she was treated... not everything is about a look.

    • @alexforce9
      @alexforce9 Месяц назад +14

      @@crazyshiep4582 Can you describe me those "other girls" but dont mention anything about how they look. Just talk about their interests and hobbies and how they act. Lets see if you can came up with anything different that "Mean girl" stereotype hahah.

    • @Domn879
      @Domn879 Месяц назад +1

      Its why I detest P!nk so much. Fake outsider. You just know she WAS the bully.

  • @zinzin7075
    @zinzin7075 Месяц назад +27

    This was insightful. I personally don’t wanna have enemies. I am all for integrating all parts of myself (internally and externally) because we are all One . Even the part that wants to have a enemy:)

    • @metal.element
      @metal.element Месяц назад +7

      Hi friend, i would encourage some more introspection about this. owning this energy in thyself is indeed an important part of that process, consider the zodiacal narrative of the 7th house, Libra, which does include how we relate to "other", enemies being included. it's not about whether you have them or not, but how you relate to them. blessings on your journey of self-discovery.

  • @verbalpercussion8186
    @verbalpercussion8186 12 дней назад +1

    I get it: Appeal to people's needs, grievances and experiences. It's super effective in marketing. Great video

  • @thepassiveincomepros5946
    @thepassiveincomepros5946 12 дней назад +1

    "People will do anything who encourage their dreams, allay their fears, confirm their suspicions, and help them throw rocks at their enemies." Blair Warren

  • @Kn0wOneNos3
    @Kn0wOneNos3 2 месяца назад +19

    So basically, stand for something and let others know it. Because if you stand "for" one thing you invariably stand "against" another thing. 🤔

  • @Harbz
    @Harbz 13 дней назад +2

    my enemy is the people who are tribalistic instead of thinking for themselves

  • @JohnM...
    @JohnM... 2 месяца назад +200

    It’s not magnetism, it’s that people who find other people magnetic, in a hysterical manner, are seriously psychologically unbalanced.

    • @tessa63627
      @tessa63627 Месяц назад

      Most of the human population is psychologically unbalanced. Mental problems are much more prevalent than most people believe.

    • @tessa63627
      @tessa63627 Месяц назад

      Most of the planet is psychologically unbalanced. Mental issues are much more common than most people believe.

    • @millie9814
      @millie9814 Месяц назад +4

      💯😂😂😂

    • @SoundBoss5150
      @SoundBoss5150 Месяц назад +29

      🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
      This can NOT be understated. The entire industry thrives on feeding into the fanatical impulses of manic personalities, especially when they start ramping up into a manic episode. It’s predatory and gross.

    • @millie9814
      @millie9814 Месяц назад +3

      @@SoundBoss5150 Wow, I had never thought of it that way, this is so true :oo

  • @gffhvhvh1253
    @gffhvhvh1253 2 месяца назад +25

    i love that you actually teach something new and useful

  • @CH-jq4lw
    @CH-jq4lw Месяц назад +19

    Loved this video: perfect length, fresh perspective, and you’re damned right.

  • @orbitforcreators
    @orbitforcreators 2 месяца назад +46

    Ok I genuinely just got it.
    I've always avoided the concept of an enemy - it's just not a thought I want to entertain.
    But your explanation made me see it in a new way. THX

    • @ayushisharma8657
      @ayushisharma8657 2 месяца назад +2

      @@orbitforcreators yeah exactly. It’s such a good take on enemy. The way she put it was just so accurate

    • @panspermiapancakes
      @panspermiapancakes 16 дней назад

      It's good to have enemies because it means you stood up for something. They are our competitors; you learn and grow through adversary against them. They could be a complete vile trash of a human, which helps you strive to be better by comparison.
      However, the celebrity worship culture and obsessive fandom that comes with it isn't healthy in the slightest.

  • @McKai5000
    @McKai5000 Месяц назад +5

    I hate apathy, exploitation, and the oppression of potential

  • @valis14
    @valis14 Месяц назад +4

    Love this. This is something I have often thought about... or rather "thought around" because I couldn't quite put my finger on, tap into it's pulse, despite my restless ruminating. Yet not only have you found it, captured this zeitgeist like a firefly in a bottle, you have also articulated it in a simplified form that's easy to process. Not only that, you've even figured out to reverse engineer an authentic version for oneself. I love that idea of constructing almost a reverse gratitude list with an itemization of dislikes and hates to figure out what you care about in a genuine way.

  • @alexkunce2002
    @alexkunce2002 2 месяца назад +71

    My enemy is destruction. I love creativity, and building, and making, and protecting history. Destruction is never the answer. My first lyrical album will be about the left-brain, dreamer side of us, about how we all deep down want to create. My second delves into an individual's mind, exploring conformity and losing yourself with age.

    • @dariazhempalukh
      @dariazhempalukh Месяц назад +2

      I love this type of music without cringy subliminal messages about hating your ex or taking drugs and alc. Go for it my dude

    • @alexkunce2002
      @alexkunce2002 Месяц назад +1

      @@dariazhempalukh Aww, thank you so much!

    • @demeritfc3655
      @demeritfc3655 Месяц назад +10

      Creation rises from the ashes of destruction.

    • @alexkunce2002
      @alexkunce2002 Месяц назад

      @demeritfc3655 I think there has been enough destruction in the world to last eons. But you have a point.

    • @jerrrdy
      @jerrrdy Месяц назад +1

      @@demeritfc3655Out of chaos comes order

  • @DerekSmit
    @DerekSmit 21 день назад +2

    I really hate it when companies charge you more for less. Like phones used to come with a headphone jack, ir blaster, replaceable battery, SD slot. Almost all of those have been removed.
    Or streaming services getting more expensive but having less content.

  • @Thrasher2020
    @Thrasher2020 6 дней назад

    Thank you so much. I'm a visual learner and this video made it so easy to remove the clog in my sink.

  • @ps-dn7ce
    @ps-dn7ce 25 дней назад +6

    This is a great insight. The enemy is the cornerstone of any pendulum, extending Zeland's thinking.

    • @alexisdiaz5357
      @alexisdiaz5357 10 дней назад

      Did not think I'd see someone talk about transurfing on here, cool!

  • @Deucely
    @Deucely Месяц назад +12

    Who would've thought that polarization would be magnetic, crazy. This whole humanity enterprise is about clearing the entropy of life. Trying to order the chaos, which by it's very nature, cannot be done, but it's fun to try regardless. So to achieve success you must find an area of reality which connects with a large group of people and then help them to order the chaos present in said area.

    • @djenkins555
      @djenkins555 26 дней назад

      That's abstract - what does that even look like in reality?

    • @Deucely
      @Deucely 25 дней назад

      @@djenkins555 Somewhere between doing the dishes and inventing the dish washer.

    • @djenkins555
      @djenkins555 25 дней назад

      @@Deucely how large of a group of people for washing the dishes or inventing something already invented?

  • @kawanglover
    @kawanglover 24 дня назад +1

    I JUST found this video. This is what I need and I subscribed immediately. God bless you. Anyway, here it is, I really hate when someone puts there all into something and they reach a point where they want to stop, and instead of persevering, they just... quit. And live the rest of their lives with that regret. What's that in a word? Anyone?

  • @PowerDreamer347
    @PowerDreamer347 8 дней назад +1

    This has been an excellent video that has deeply made me learn many important things that are very powerful. You have a new loyal fan.

  • @Pneumanon
    @Pneumanon 22 дня назад +3

    Good video. Part of the reason the enemy effect works to help you define yourself without thinking about yourself. Trying to define ourselves is really difficult, picking something and opposing that is much easier. BUT, the bigger lesson is that you need a “point of view” or a worldview. You need to figure out what you are about, and what you’re not about. If you can truly do that you will be more unique in more ways than just who you oppose, but again it is harder & takes longer to work out. Using the enemy effect is a good step toward defining yourself without figuring out your whole worldview.

  • @English.Fluency
    @English.Fluency Месяц назад +4

    You're good, I'm subscribed! My enemy is the classic education system, which made English learning so incredibly difficult to leave millions of people behind. English is "just" the most influential language, and I have a feeling that if the so-called third-world countries learned to speak English fluently, they would make their voice heard and there wouldn't be any "third" world. I may be wrong, but thanks to your video, I'll explore this idea further.

  • @eviehilliar2981
    @eviehilliar2981 2 месяца назад +22

    my enemy is anyone who chooses not to be kind - being kind is actually so easy so when people choose not to be nice, it INFURIATES ME but also ironic because it makes me want to do extremely unkind things to them

    • @dariazhempalukh
      @dariazhempalukh Месяц назад +11

      Have you considered that it actually might be a psychological trauma that you’re prolbably dealing with. Or a blockage. Idk how to say this but somebody probably shamed you into mentality of needing to be kind all the time and now you want to punish anybody who isn’t. Because you were punished and this is cyclical. It’s just usually this way, I mean I had and probably have this type of thought process rnow. It’s not bad but good to know where it’s coming from since it puts you in the same frame of always needing to be kind when in reality sometimes you just can’t.

    • @EMPANAO321
      @EMPANAO321 Месяц назад +1

      No one is perfect, all of us have been unkind at some point, even you and that is ok

    • @thesevenkingswelove9554
      @thesevenkingswelove9554 Месяц назад +3

      ​@@dariazhempalukh this is exactly how it was for me. I was shamed for being kind all the time because I was told it was bad to be rude etc and people wouldn't like me. I forced myself to be kind even when I didn't want to be. And ironically started being "unkind" to people who are mean and angry because then I could justify my anger and rage towards them

    • @dariazhempalukh
      @dariazhempalukh Месяц назад +2

      @@thesevenkingswelove9554 it’s good that you’ve noticed that. Now you can work on being less harsh with yourself abt it and be more non reactive about others behaviour.

    • @Bigdod81
      @Bigdod81 Месяц назад +2

      Be kind to yourself, don’t take projections personally, if you’re kind to manipulative people no bueno. They need to be exposed there is no room for play pretend there. It’s dog eats dog out there especially work. Be true to yourself and put people where they belong.

  • @codyrap95
    @codyrap95 Месяц назад +14

    My "enemy" is precisely this type of people who unite *against* something instead of uniting *for* what they want.

    • @ethanpintar5454
      @ethanpintar5454 Месяц назад +4

      Yeah! Let’s unite against those people who- wait…

    • @davidarthurkingsworth6583
      @davidarthurkingsworth6583 Месяц назад +1

      And what exactly do you think you are achieving this by posting this comment?
      Becoming one of them!
      "When we deal with monsters, we shall be careful about not becoming s monster ourselves"

  • @locoTuCo
    @locoTuCo Месяц назад +7

    This is pure content (a very deadly weapon if used properly) Thank you!

  • @aetheldan
    @aetheldan 14 дней назад

    Love your take on this. I've read a few politics books about mass movements and populism which talk about how this kind of cult-like fanaticism is inspired, but I never thought to apply it to pop culture figures or brands

  • @GIADALAZ
    @GIADALAZ 2 месяца назад +9

    Great video! I can’t wait to see this channel blow up.

  • @Vito-r5z
    @Vito-r5z Месяц назад +21

    They're taking advantage of several biases here. Number 1 the brain responds disproportionately to negative events. Number 2 people will band together more quickly when facing a common enemy. Number 3 people tend to seek out information that confirms what they already believe. Number 4 people will do more to avoid a loss then to pursue a gain. It looks like Taylor's handlers have carefully crafted her identity so that it triggers all of these unconscious biases. The internet algorithm's have mastered this too. They have a myriad of ways to exploit and amplify these biases. It's like the inventors of these algorithms have stated. "We can't resist our own creation"

    • @DesertSessions93
      @DesertSessions93 Месяц назад +5

      They have been practicing exactly this in the media for decades. They have plenty experience. Music, movies, TV show, news all use psychological tactics.

    • @tessa63627
      @tessa63627 Месяц назад

      Edward Bernays pioneered modern propaganda which used several psychological tactics. Very similar to what she is talking about in the video.
      I hate propaganda. So I guess he's the grandaddy of my enemy.

    • @DeltaNovum
      @DeltaNovum 24 дня назад +2

      We really need an alien invasion don't we?

  • @IndicaEden
    @IndicaEden Месяц назад +3

    Awesome video, I watched your video about contradiction as well.
    The ego loves its identity, it makes it seem alive. Hate and demonisation is how we define our ego and compartmentalise our love. Soon enough we conflate ourselves with it. But increasing self awareness and awareness of what you dislike and like can be very helpful especially compared to staying ignorant of the ego or even worse demonising it. All these good and bad value judgements are ends to means and as long as we have a body and live in a dualistic world it can’t be bypassed. I guess understanding your intentions and keep being aware of where you’re coming from is what matters.

  • @ailurii
    @ailurii 25 дней назад +6

    I wanted to watch this video but the HDR setting on the video makes me feel like I’m staring directly into a car headlight. 😭

    • @Anabchronicles
      @Anabchronicles 25 дней назад +1

      Fr I had to turn down my brightness 😅

    • @DeltaNovum
      @DeltaNovum 24 дня назад

      May want to calibrate your screen?

  • @nonsolonoiatoday
    @nonsolonoiatoday 2 месяца назад +5

    This is genious and so intuitively true, I hate that I haven't realised this by myself a long ago. Thanks for making it so obvious.

  • @Kalmzoh
    @Kalmzoh 14 дней назад

    I love you because you broadcast the logic that brews in my subconscious

  • @ahobimo732
    @ahobimo732 2 месяца назад +28

    Taylor Swift IS the cool girl.
    But I guess intelligence and incisive perception are not her fans' strong suits.

    • @TaLeng2023
      @TaLeng2023 Месяц назад +5

      If they are, they wouldn't be fanatics. They really come off as crazy.

    • @melchorbangug4431
      @melchorbangug4431 Месяц назад +2

      She is the cool girl now, but before she wasn’t.

  • @MikeD-tf7dk
    @MikeD-tf7dk 12 дней назад

    Oh my G-D! This whole thing is AMAZING.

  • @BadEnglish-y6m
    @BadEnglish-y6m 10 дней назад

    We are all alone together. Understand that & appreciate everything. Build your heaven !

  • @forgivingfrequency62
    @forgivingfrequency62 2 месяца назад +9

    Had this moment today in Uni. Saw my ex, hated on her in secret with my new classmates that I know for ½ week (so not really a deep bond) and a girl that didn't even know me, they started hating on her too, for no fucking reason, and we instantly all bonded by being evil together.

  • @dominikgruen
    @dominikgruen 18 дней назад

    best video to change the world for the better! it brings people to reflect and think about their values, which must be positive by identifying a negative value they try to work against. Saying this I am not sure if there is anyone who would say their enemy is honest people... because all dishonesty stems from trauma of suffering under dishonesty, in broad terms.

  • @peacefulpomegranate9846
    @peacefulpomegranate9846 2 месяца назад +6

    Yes this helped me with my studies. Like, for me it is to beat those who are already in the field and underestimate the first generation learners. I like when I achieve success and beat people who have better guidance and resources than me. Basically, I hate nepostism! A teacher ridiculed me for choosing science stream for higher studies, as I had no one in my family to help me with it. Now, I'm about to enter into medical field. I always remember his smirk!

  • @Tipsy_Bunny
    @Tipsy_Bunny Месяц назад +2

    Clear, engaging, and educational . . . I look forward to seeing more of your videos. Thank you!

  • @thiantran-r8f
    @thiantran-r8f 14 дней назад

    easily one of the best videos Ive watched in a long time

  • @n8works
    @n8works 24 дня назад

    Got me. I subscribed.
    My enemy is those with a disdain for human life.
    I've always thought that was the most basic one, but I'm finding more and more it is a question these days.

  • @yourlegacyfilmmaker
    @yourlegacyfilmmaker 5 дней назад

    really love how you break things down. Would love to collaborate with you in the new year

  • @Luke_Horgan
    @Luke_Horgan 2 месяца назад +6

    This is really brilliant. And very well presented. Great work!

  • @glittergoldandglam
    @glittergoldandglam 15 дней назад

    My enemy is hyperconsumption and people just filling their homes with garbage gadgets.

  • @jsal8681
    @jsal8681 Месяц назад +17

    Focusing on Hate is powerful, but ultimately flawed and misguided

    • @shhh3185
      @shhh3185 21 день назад +1

      It’s not about gate, it’s overcoming

    • @jsal8681
      @jsal8681 21 день назад

      Yes, but you don't overcome through hate. You do it through understanding. “In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him.” - Enders Game

  • @jeremiahalexander5513
    @jeremiahalexander5513 21 день назад

    Great video. It’s actually helped clear up my vision for my musical project I’m working on.

  • @marinajakovacz
    @marinajakovacz Месяц назад +1

    Everything you said is also the description of how cults and heavy manipulation work. EVERYONE, no matter how intelligent, is subject to heavy manipulation.

  • @sebastian1234hamburg
    @sebastian1234hamburg Месяц назад +2

    Never thought about this effec before! Thanks for sharing!😊

  • @blackholeson-pp9ue
    @blackholeson-pp9ue 15 дней назад

    They use duality to control those that are trapped by their own duality . Played by players, no freewill, no destiny, only a fate .

  • @MeekandMe
    @MeekandMe 13 дней назад

    Ive been a musician and artist my whole life and after failing to make it my living after 44 years im ready to try this…

  • @Lintybaybay
    @Lintybaybay 12 дней назад

    Firstly, your eyes are beautiful 🥰 secondly your content is excellent, I’m in learning and development and your personal brand deep dives are very good. I’ve subscribed 👌🏾

  • @deanc3233
    @deanc3233 25 дней назад +1

    There is no enemy. That is just a construct to create division. I agree with what you say that it does work. People love something to blame their own problems on. This way they don't have to take any personal responsibility.

  • @j.m.f.g.450
    @j.m.f.g.450 Месяц назад +1

    The best way to not bite the bait is to treat it like it didn't exist at all.

  • @Yasmin-pi5pr
    @Yasmin-pi5pr 26 дней назад

    My enemy is inconsistency.. I value perseverance. Awesome video!

  • @notjaydanbhooshan93
    @notjaydanbhooshan93 2 месяца назад +5

    It's interesting the entire video I thought for sure one name would come up who believe demonstrates this concept more than any of the names included: Kanye West. He is the definition of a personal brand, George Bush, hurricane Katrina, Taylor Swift, 50 cent, Obama, Nike, Adidas, gap, Drake, the karadashians and so many other names have all been at one time or another enemies of Ye and his cultural significance is still growing along with the list of enemies. The difference I think between taylor swift and Kanye is that ye's brand truly is Kanye where taylor swifts brand like you said is about connecting with the insecurities of her audience. But the reality is taylor is THE cool girl now, and Kanye is still Kanye.

  • @kristianingier4156
    @kristianingier4156 25 дней назад +1

    Never hate your enemy.

  • @TemiBabalola
    @TemiBabalola 11 дней назад

    This is brilliant content . This is why i am on youtube. Well done!!!

  • @alenscaria1516
    @alenscaria1516 12 дней назад

    oh I lovedd ur way of story tellin! 😄

  • @VanTuanDao-z6j
    @VanTuanDao-z6j 14 дней назад

    on a roll recently, love these videos

  • @bellypoi27
    @bellypoi27 16 дней назад

    My enemy is the low vibrational mean girls in my boyfriend friend group
    They belittle me to try and hurt me so I stop being positive and uplifting
    - if their partners start raising their vibration that means they need to change to stay with them
    - I have a strong sense of self and I take care of myself. They are insecure and are unhappy in their life, so they put me down to make themselves feel better about their horrible selves.
    They lower the vibration around them because misery loves company and they don't want people to be more successful than them. They like to have control of people.

  • @michele_michele
    @michele_michele 9 дней назад

    New subscriber! Fabulous video, well-thought-out points, very true, also funny. 👌

  • @Dr_Sofia-di6mg
    @Dr_Sofia-di6mg 23 дня назад

    "This is the opposite of gratitude journaling." 😄 Love it.

  • @angels2797
    @angels2797 Месяц назад +1

    I’ve never hated anyone, real or fictional, the way I hate Dolores Umbridge. Makes my skin crawl like no other! Guess your theory is right, our mutual hate for a shared enemy made me relate to you & like this video instantly.

  • @BeStillandKnow0000
    @BeStillandKnow0000 2 месяца назад +3

    i love your page, i'm so glad the algorithm brought me here.

  • @SoloHunna
    @SoloHunna Месяц назад

    This is amazing. Just the video I needed to validate my brand approach.

  • @winteress1214
    @winteress1214 17 дней назад

    This was a rlly great video!

  • @denizasli
    @denizasli 21 день назад

    This was exceptionally helpful.

  • @SweetSunrising
    @SweetSunrising 16 дней назад

    Opposite of gratitude journaling? I’M IN!

  • @Digildon
    @Digildon 21 день назад

    This is good point.
    Thanks for the video.

  • @heyJordanParker
    @heyJordanParker 27 дней назад +1

    Great breakdown.
    Learned a lot about Taylor Swift too - win-win, basically.

  • @focusdecorating3637
    @focusdecorating3637 20 дней назад

    Really great video thank you !

  • @landonrogers98202
    @landonrogers98202 24 дня назад

    Super good vid. Appreciate.

  • @jerm3659
    @jerm3659 29 дней назад +1

    This video was very helpful, thank you

  • @RatatatKing
    @RatatatKing 2 месяца назад +13

    Dude this is awesome, I can see your channel blowing up in the near future

    • @theoryofone
      @theoryofone  2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you! I appreciate that a lot!

  • @CrystalizeMe
    @CrystalizeMe 24 дня назад

    Influencers who make it seem like they have all the answers to sell courses that suck your time and don’t move you forward.

  • @georgetrimm319
    @georgetrimm319 24 дня назад

    how Hegelian of you to recognize the contradiction, however, also peppered with Roland barthes semiotic. well played, ToO well played...

  • @areyalunera7126
    @areyalunera7126 Месяц назад +1

    This is really sharp!!! How do this not have more view?!

  • @StudioThaler
    @StudioThaler 18 дней назад

    Great view. I never thought about that like that. Pretty cool.

  • @Di-Maccio
    @Di-Maccio 2 месяца назад +8

    Phenomenal video! Wooow! Also side note your eyes are stunning :)

  • @meidhir
    @meidhir Месяц назад +1

    Thanks! I can really use this - I suppose in anyone's narrative there are instances that help us identify our values and what to fight for. Cheers.

  • @mopsydizzle
    @mopsydizzle Месяц назад

    It's not just the enemy, it's something adversarial preventing a like minded group from advancing, and this is a slam dunk sell because typically all eyes are on the gold medalist, but the gold medalist does not do a disproportionately larger amount of common good than silver and below, let alone silver and below unified to a common goal. Almost all of the work done to any end is done by silver and below, not the sole gold medalist, and it is very easy to ply the resentment for never getting recognition that everyone else has because well, if we're being honest about the output, they deserve more of the gratitude, not less. When the amount of attention shifts toward the top dog too much, it is like a rubber band stretched tight, and it can snap or fly back the other way at a moments notice.

  • @CarasComments
    @CarasComments 25 дней назад

    I love you so much, you have no idea! This is such great info, insight….it bloody well explains a thing or 2….so thank you for bringing it to our attention & keep the great content coming. Subscribed.

  • @mangoauto8450
    @mangoauto8450 22 дня назад +1

    Teaches me to avoid any connection with brand and celebrities. Its soul eating