I feel like I've never truly lived. All that energy spent in a frozen state. I have multiple illnesses and chronic pain from decades of trapped energy. I had to move back home about 7 years ago. It's hell. I wish this on no one.
For me deep breathing exercises in the morning and when stressed do magic. Also microdosing psilocybin mushrooms are absolutely the best teacher and medicine that came on my path. Dont be to hard on yourself, self love is sometimes just self acceptance. Have a good time
Omg!!! I have been looking after a toxic father(he moved in with me due to old age). My health went to pot within months, he is a dark vortex. It is now either me having a break down or him going into a home. I made my decision.
I have this ongoing- I call it disassociation. I am very functional with my career but then when work is over or the weekends come- absolute numbness, disassociation, dazing, confusion, and lack of purpose. I've made it a joke at this point that when my weekends come I might as well be in an asylum because it feels like absolute insanity. I could venture out to clubs events parties but I DONT. Time is strange to me- time just seems to fly by without me. The strange thing is after all these years of isolation- you would think I would have energy for days for a social interaction yet minor social interactions (like half a day out and about with a friend) is absolutely DRAINING.
wow. this sounds like me. I didn't use to be this way. I have been like this after ending a relationship with a narc. I haven't been the same. I spoke up to my family after the relationship ended to call out their toxic behaviors and they basically shut me out...so I just became numb. I feel very shut down ever since.
Michele perfectly described toxic, narcissistic work places as well. Abusive superiors behave like narcissistic parents, job related abuse is worse because it's harder to switch jobs and explain why one had to leave the previous company.
yes! I left a narcissist relationship 6 years ago and started a new job that had a narc boss and absolute toxicity. I stuck it out because of different obligations. I finally start a new job july 31st. I am so grateful. I feel as though I have just been surviving for 6 years
OMG! That's EXACTLY what I've been experiencing for a year since moving back with my very toxic mother. I can't hold a job, I can't even get through daily mass without crying uncontrollably I've gained 15 pounds, my skin looks horrific, and I feel horrific. I"m losing my mind. I stay out of the house for about 11 hours a day and go there just to sleep. I close the door to my bedroom and hardly interract with her b/c I have a wall I've built to protect my heart and spirit. It's so exhausting living in that environment but I can't get out. Not enough money. It has been so hard. I'm too tired to try anymore b/c every time I do I fail.
@@aboutnoise2335 It IS! It sucks b/c your brain knows how messed up your situation is and knows what needs to be done but your body is so emotionally and physically exhausted from not only dealing with the toxicity but from reaching out and trying numerous ways of getting out. There are have been many obstacles. Since they teach us to keep quiet and they are surrounded by so many enablers/monkeys it is so hard to find anyone to trust and to ask for help. I've been praying for a miracle b/c it feels like it's the only way I will get out. I hate feeling this hopeless. I'm just out of ideas at this point. Tired of trying. So exhausted.
@@cindy7733 wow that stinks and its tough. It is exausting and its a fight for your freedom maybe look to a shelter or if you got some money maybe a motel room so you can rest up some and continue looking and searching for help. God bless you. I've been there keep on praying..Our Lord has heard you? He will make a way where there is seemingly no way. The best i can do at this time in my unfair situation is to find the work arounds and keep watchin and learning about this. Keep the focus on yourself care it makes them nutz. They litterly come U.N. glued. Keep setting boundries stick to your guns keep on recovering.
Our sister died recently and the parents made it all about them and they got nastier than ever. I used to go into the freeze response, and my other sister did, but I've been doing a lot of introspection and inner work for a few years now so I stuck up for her and told them that we're too old to deal with the same bs that they put us through as children and not interested in having anything to do with them anymore. My sister is still working on her anxiety. They're now trying to "hoover" our children unsuccessfully.
@@SirenASMR_ Our kids decided unanimously and of their own volition to have nothing to do with them after seeing what they were doing to everyone else. They're smart kids, especially so for tweens.
Crazy I have a freeze response when I get the narc rage from my wife. Every argument, Point, reason I have flys out of my brain. It’s like I’m in shock for 2-3 days. Before I can think again
I have narcissistic parents & siblings. I'm 63 years of age. I'm also the scapegoat. I am disabled & have mental health issues; I live below the poverty level. My father is dead. (Thankfully.) My mother & siblings are alive. My mother has an estate worth $25 million. She has completely left me out of her will. Please pray for my mother & siblings. Thank you❣️🎚️
Thank you so so much! When my release began 2 years ago I thought I was losing my mind. It was the most agonizing experience I’ve ever been through and it was terrifying because I had no idea what it was or how to manage it. I was writing a novel at the time, and I think my writing saved my life. It made the overwhelming feelings manageable. Thank you for sharing all of that!!
Omg, Michele, i feel so identify with this video. As a thriver from a narc family... Nothing that i could do was good enough, so i would either have an exagerated effort that would make me even more tired, or i would simply need to stay days long in bed not even knowing where to start my day or why... Little by little and with much patience, baby step by baby step i see how narcs from the past, sycopath brothers and family totally froze many of my abilities to simply... Be... So thank you!
I totally was the frozen type, but I've bottled up a lot of anger.. now I'm easily triggered.. just remembering the situations where I had to freeze, my emotions get so intense, I have no idea how I could endure it quietly
Hi can you make a video on single Narcisstic mother with single son. Their enmeshment and how it causes problems in his relationship. a video on Narcisstic mother in law and how they abuse the daughter in law. Also a video on the ability of parenting of enmeshed sons. What a child of Son husband or enmeshed son go through from its father and grandmother and this dynamics pls
This happend to me thia weekend with a "friend".. he triggerd this Freeze state.the day after i couldnt move almost..i wad totLy blocked and tyered.. i was Lucky i recodnized it as a trigger.. so in the evening i went dancing.. even when i was tyered and didnt went out for years.. but it helped me to get the energy out and helped me out of this frozen state... i had a great night. i also cut the contact with this person and his respons was totaly toxic a recodnision of what i had felt. My trigger( trauma respons )was a warning. I am greatfull for my over reacting intuition. My ptsd is also my friend. Thanks Michelle.
My mother put me in that space regularly as far back as i can remember, im grown now and channels like this have been a God send for me❤❤🙏🙏.. You remind me of Camille Vasquez too😁
Yes, i have been there, i have felt the freezing sensation, how do you fix that. does anybody know? i suppose the worst thing is, all that is lost is lost. I am a man and i grew up with a narcissistic mother and can you believe it? i married a narcissistic woman. life plays tricks man. thank you for talking about these things, take it from me many people before hearing other people express these traits were thinking they lost it. i for a long time thought i was nuts, then i heard other people saying the things i was thinking. Thank you for that. i feel a little less nuts.
I started saying to her the things that she says to me the way she says it. Mirroring back her behavior was very confusing to her. Then I told her what I was doing and she said that she never wanted to speak to me again. It’s the most peaceful my life has ever been. Oh, also I told her that she was always win/lose and never win/win. Hopefully that helps you as much as it helped me.
Hey girl I just wanted to say I used to be a regular listener years ago… Recently, I’ve found I’m again I’m dealing with a lot of crap again… more now with my parents though as opposed to with my ex who’s totally out of the picture and has been for years. You put this out at such a great time and I’m so glad it landed in my suggested. I’m glad to see you’re still doing so well and the good work of healing for yourself and others! Take care love!❤️❤️❤️
I lost my main channel so I'm using this one now. If you notice someone that used to comment on your videos missing don't worry.. I'm still here just under a different account.
I've been around narcissists my whole damn life. From my family, my ex husband, my jobs always firing me because the customers like me, my friends, and now the government with hyper inflation so no matter how much money I make I still can't pay bills nor survive. I'll be glad when I'm dead and gone. This isn't living it's just hell. Now the world governments with their greed are becoming a 2nd set of narcissistic patents
An excellent and helpful video to take away information that we can use to reregulate our own feelings. It's NOT me that causes problems in others. It was your mistreatment of me. It's the omissions more than the comissions that hurt me and are not visibly seen by most everyone. Oh how sad, but how true. It's real and the victims of narcissistic abuse are even more victimized when they speak up. 😔 😟
I was diagnosed with RA a few years ago which is an auto immune problem and wondering if this is how my body has dealt with so much "freezing" in response to trauma due to dealing with a narcissistic mother my entire life- I actually was caring for her for over 5 years after she was diagnosed with Alzheimers and it was the worst 5 years of my life - last year my narcissistic sister took her to another state to live with her saying it was her turn to care for her, it only lasted for 2 months before my sister put her in a home after getting POA over her entire estate- she promptly called me and said there would be no inheritance for me-lol, I told her I could honestly care less about the money but that she better make sure Mom was taken care of- they have both been out of my life for almost 7 months now (because I stopped ALL contact) and my RA is much better as is my attitude! Sometimes I get tempted to reach out to them then I think to myself, now why would I do that, they will only make me feel unloved and worthless! So, I don't, and life is SO much better. The other piece for me has been about forgiveness and not holding a grudge against them or anyone who has hurt me- I really am just letting it go and trusting God about everything. For the first time in my life, I really do feel love and accepted for who I am. That's because I found Jesus, accepted Him and believe in Him and read God's word every day now. Anything I need help with, I just ask the Holy Spirit and I am never alone because the Lord is with me always- He totally loves me! Amen!
That was very well explained. I had a uncle (not blood) that was very abusive. I didn't know at the time that he was a narcissist. But he was brutal. His wife and kids were terrified of him. His wife, my aunt even joined in in abusing their girls. I guess it was if you can't beat them, join them kind of thing. But everybody would be laughing one minute and one of the girls would say something completely innocent and piss off one of their parents and that got them a slap across the face. When my aunt did it, that startled me more than her husband ranting. But he always hated it that I didn't cower down to him like his wife and kids did. He hated it that I was never afraid of him. I'm not sure why, but I never was. And when he came at me, I stayed very calm even at 9 years old and quietly took my little brother by the hand and left his house after he flipped him in the air and he landed on the couch. He was yelling at us as we were leaving and I never said a word to him. I just gave him an eat crap look and kept walking. Then when I was 13 he was blasting his wife up one side and down the other calling her stupid. Then came into the bedroom where all of us girls were (I was trying to make them laugh while he was ranting), and he bolted in there and looked straight at me and said "You ready for yours???!!!" I just looked at him and said "My what?" So to save face, because I didn't cower to him or act the least bit afraid of him he said "Never mind, you're to stupid to understand." Then he slammed the door and left. I started laughing after he left. But his girls would just freeze when he started up. You could see the pure terror on their faces. My aunt has Crohn's Disease and I think it is from living with him for 60 years. They apparently went to counseling and everything is hunky dory now. But I think it's because he is old and tired and on oxygen and just doesn't have the energy to be nasty anymore. And if I never see him again, it will be too soon.
I avoid the bathroom and my body is suffering because I have to pass by someone who is always there outside the bathroom and always blames me for my constipation problems
I avoid the kitchen because I don’t want to be around her when I am trying to cook. She’s home 24 hours a day and comes out of her room anytime I go into the kitchen. It’s so incredibly annoying
Michelle, I am currently struggling with this, every time I have been successful in my life my family has become very abusing and I think, this time, they got me. I feel absolutely numb, uninterested about my life, I feel exhausted day in day out, which is putting me exactly in the position I should not be, near them, depending on them. I am an intelligent, ex lawyer, master degree, two languages, absolutely frozen, stuck in the freeze response. What’s the solution? I have found that I was so abuse that getting better and feeling happy triggers my CPTSD. Is there any way out? Healing? What should I do?
I dated a girl with freeze moment. I kissed her on the cheek she frooze. I told her that I liked her she frooze. I have allways wonder what that was. One of our first dates she told me that her parents should have divorced 20 years ago and that her brother was hospitalized. Today she avoids emotions. She is having fun and hooking up but she ALWAYS spending the night alone. She is been singel for 15 years + . She still visits her parents once a week. Feel sorry for her
What you should do is support her not feel sorry for her . Don’t expect to be physical with her . Be her friend and emotionally support her . People who have toxic parents don’t have a support system
You might not have noticed this Michele but you apologized for your arms. You were poisoned 🤢 and suffered and you apologized to us your friends your fans for it. That was not necessary. We are not looking at your beautiful arms. And saying look how gross those arms are. I'm sorry you suffered threw that. I'm sorry for you. Ok.. you are thinking about other people by makeing this video and worried about your appearance of it offends is. You are fine trust me. I'm praying for you.
I’ve been wondering if my mom is the reason for my seizures. Because of what you’re talking about with the nervous system here. I’ve found she would provoke me and I would react then I would have a seizure and later on she would say “I knew something was up” because of how I reacted. So she was saying my reaction was cuz of my seizure disorder but she was poking and prodding me and then I’d have a seizure. I also found that she would ask where I was in my menstrual cycle which I thought was weird. I honestly think she would time her poking and prodding me to be around certain times so it would look like it was my cycle causing the seizures. We shall see soon! It’s been a little over a month since I cut her out of my life. She tried putting my grandma in the middle for a bit since she likes drama but I had to send her a text that me telling her I’m not talking to her doesn’t mean to send messages via a 3rd party, it means she is out of my life and I will not have any communication with her. So I need to give it some time and see if they improve without her in my life.
Girlfriend, those video clips are a mistake. You don’t need to trigger us even more. We come to you to heal but the clip of the young man going through trauma was too much. Please don’t do this again.
I feel like I've never truly lived. All that energy spent in a frozen state. I have multiple illnesses and chronic pain from decades of trapped energy. I had to move back home about 7 years ago. It's hell. I wish this on no one.
Me too, I feel like Im living in an endless hell of choosing between abuse or homelessness
I feel you. I am also watching my life passing by... makes me cry
@@veruc_w me too
For me deep breathing exercises in the morning and when stressed do magic. Also microdosing psilocybin mushrooms are absolutely the best teacher and medicine that came on my path. Dont be to hard on yourself, self love is sometimes just self acceptance. Have a good time
Omg!!! I have been looking after a toxic father(he moved in with me due to old age). My health went to pot within months, he is a dark vortex. It is now either me having a break down or him going into a home. I made my decision.
I have this ongoing- I call it disassociation. I am very functional with my career but then when work is over or the weekends come- absolute numbness, disassociation, dazing, confusion, and lack of purpose. I've made it a joke at this point that when my weekends come I might as well be in an asylum because it feels like absolute insanity. I could venture out to clubs events parties but I DONT. Time is strange to me- time just seems to fly by without me. The strange thing is after all these years of isolation- you would think I would have energy for days for a social interaction yet minor social interactions (like half a day out and about with a friend) is absolutely DRAINING.
wow. this sounds like me. I didn't use to be this way. I have been like this after ending a relationship with a narc. I haven't been the same. I spoke up to my family after the relationship ended to call out their toxic behaviors and they basically shut me out...so I just became numb. I feel very shut down ever since.
Same
@@lightworker6298 I'm sorry this is the state for so many of us. I struggle to change but I'm having a difficult time.
I verbally fought back and then got beaten by my dad. I am 71 and still have a defense response.
Narcissists have ruined billions of lives in this universe!!!!!!!!!
Frozen. Watching life go by.
Cannot function in it.
I relate so much. Unfortunately. 💙
Yes frozen and watching life go by, I have done this practically my entire life, I can relate to you as well, you're not alone. 🤍
Same
Michele perfectly described toxic, narcissistic work places as well. Abusive superiors behave like narcissistic parents, job related abuse is worse because it's harder to switch jobs and explain why one had to leave the previous company.
yes! I left a narcissist relationship 6 years ago and started a new job that had a narc boss and absolute toxicity. I stuck it out because of different obligations. I finally start a new job july 31st. I am so grateful. I feel as though I have just been surviving for 6 years
@@colettespencer3357 - Amazing. I only lasted 4 years. 2 more and someone would have been bleeding.
OMG! That's EXACTLY what I've been experiencing for a year since moving back with my very toxic mother. I can't hold a job, I can't even get through daily mass without crying uncontrollably I've gained 15 pounds, my skin looks horrific, and I feel horrific. I"m losing my mind. I stay out of the house for about 11 hours a day and go there just to sleep. I close the door to my bedroom and hardly interract with her b/c I have a wall I've built to protect my heart and spirit. It's so exhausting living in that environment but I can't get out. Not enough money. It has been so hard. I'm too tired to try anymore b/c every time I do I fail.
I to am in this position. Now being kicked out on the streets.
I can relate, it's awful. Hang in there
@@Cindy-rc5nh Ugh....did the narc officially kick you out?
@@aboutnoise2335 It IS! It sucks b/c your brain knows how messed up your situation is and knows what needs to be done but your body is so emotionally and physically exhausted from not only dealing with the toxicity but from reaching out and trying numerous ways of getting out. There are have been many obstacles. Since they teach us to keep quiet and they are surrounded by so many enablers/monkeys it is so hard to find anyone to trust and to ask for help. I've been praying for a miracle b/c it feels like it's the only way I will get out. I hate feeling this hopeless. I'm just out of ideas at this point. Tired of trying. So exhausted.
@@cindy7733 wow that stinks and its tough. It is exausting and its a fight for your freedom maybe look to a shelter or if you got some money maybe a motel room so you can rest up some and continue looking and searching for help. God bless you. I've been there keep on praying..Our Lord has heard you? He will make a way where there is seemingly no way. The best i can do at this time in my unfair situation is to find the work arounds and keep watchin and learning about this. Keep the focus on yourself care it makes them nutz. They litterly come U.N. glued. Keep setting boundries stick to your guns keep on recovering.
Our sister died recently and the parents made it all about them and they got nastier than ever. I used to go into the freeze response, and my other sister did, but I've been doing a lot of introspection and inner work for a few years now so I stuck up for her and told them that we're too old to deal with the same bs that they put us through as children and not interested in having anything to do with them anymore. My sister is still working on her anxiety. They're now trying to "hoover" our children unsuccessfully.
Omg don’t let them damage your children
@@SirenASMR_ Our kids decided unanimously and of their own volition to have nothing to do with them after seeing what they were doing to everyone else. They're smart kids, especially so for tweens.
Crazy I have a freeze response when I get the narc rage from my wife. Every argument,
Point, reason I have flys out of my brain. It’s like I’m in shock for 2-3 days. Before I can think again
I have narcissistic parents & siblings. I'm 63 years of age. I'm also the scapegoat. I am disabled & have mental health issues; I live below the poverty level.
My father is dead. (Thankfully.) My mother & siblings are alive. My mother has an estate worth $25 million. She has completely left me out of her will. Please pray for my mother & siblings.
Thank you❣️🎚️
Sorry to hear that. There's a lot of older people in this comment thread! :/
@@metatechnologist Thank you❣️
I will pray for you.
@@colettespencer3357 THANK YOU SOOO MUCH ❣️🎚️ I WILL PRAY FOR YOU ❣️🎚️
@@terrilynch7845 💖
I'm crying and shaking while watching this. Everything makes sense now.
Yep, this is why I've had fibromyalgia for 20 years; happened after two abusive relationships.
Thank you so so much! When my release began 2 years ago I thought I was losing my mind. It was the most agonizing experience I’ve ever been through and it was terrifying because I had no idea what it was or how to manage it. I was writing a novel at the time, and I think my writing saved my life. It made the overwhelming feelings manageable. Thank you for sharing all of that!!
Omg, Michele, i feel so identify with this video. As a thriver from a narc family... Nothing that i could do was good enough, so i would either have an exagerated effort that would make me even more tired, or i would simply need to stay days long in bed not even knowing where to start my day or why... Little by little and with much patience, baby step by baby step i see how narcs from the past, sycopath brothers and family totally froze many of my abilities to simply... Be... So thank you!
I totally was the frozen type, but I've bottled up a lot of anger.. now I'm easily triggered.. just remembering the situations where I had to freeze, my emotions get so intense, I have no idea how I could endure it quietly
Ha! IBS since always.. but I'm physically healthy and I take care of my health very much
Hi can you make a video on single Narcisstic mother with single son. Their enmeshment and how it causes problems in his relationship.
a video on Narcisstic mother in law and how they abuse the daughter in law.
Also a video on the ability of parenting of enmeshed sons. What a child of Son husband or enmeshed son go through from its father and grandmother and this dynamics pls
This happend to me thia weekend with a
"friend".. he triggerd this Freeze state.the day after i couldnt move almost..i wad totLy blocked and tyered.. i was Lucky i recodnized it as a trigger.. so in the evening i went dancing.. even when i was tyered and didnt went out for years.. but it helped me to get the energy out and helped me out of this frozen state... i had a great night.
i also cut the contact with this person and his respons was totaly toxic a recodnision of what i had felt. My trigger( trauma respons )was a warning. I am greatfull for my over reacting intuition. My ptsd is also my friend. Thanks Michelle.
Great topic Michelle, thank you. I've been stuck in freeze damn near my whole life, it fxcks with my motivation and can make you feel really stuck.
Thank you for a great description of the freeze response. Yes, This is exactly what happens.
My mother put me in that space regularly as far back as i can remember, im grown now and channels like this have been a God send for me❤❤🙏🙏.. You remind me of Camille Vasquez too😁
Yes, i have been there, i have felt the freezing sensation, how do you fix that. does anybody know? i suppose the worst thing is, all that is lost is lost. I am a man and i grew up with a narcissistic mother and can you believe it? i married a narcissistic woman. life plays tricks man. thank you for talking about these things, take it from me many people before hearing other people express these traits were thinking they lost it. i for a long time thought i was nuts, then i heard other people saying the things i was thinking. Thank you for that. i feel a little less nuts.
@@alcedo_kf Like you said, not many favors. Even just talking about it helps though. Thanks for that,
I started saying to her the things that she says to me the way she says it. Mirroring back her behavior was very confusing to her. Then I told her what I was doing and she said that she never wanted to speak to me again. It’s the most peaceful my life has ever been. Oh, also I told her that she was always win/lose and never win/win. Hopefully that helps you as much as it helped me.
Wow this is so timely!This along with the Reactive Abuse is extremely difficult to deal with..
Hey girl I just wanted to say I used to be a regular listener years ago…
Recently, I’ve found I’m again I’m dealing with a lot of crap again… more now with my parents though as opposed to with my ex who’s totally out of the picture and has been for years. You put this out at such a great time and I’m so glad it landed in my suggested. I’m glad to see you’re still doing so well and the good work of healing for yourself and others! Take care love!❤️❤️❤️
I lost my main channel so I'm using this one now. If you notice someone that used to comment on your videos missing don't worry.. I'm still here just under a different account.
Glad to still have you!!!!!
I've been around narcissists my whole damn life. From my family, my ex husband, my jobs always firing me because the customers like me, my friends, and now the government with hyper inflation so no matter how much money I make I still can't pay bills nor survive. I'll be glad when I'm dead and gone. This isn't living it's just hell. Now the world governments with their greed are becoming a 2nd set of narcissistic patents
An excellent and helpful video to take away information that we can use to reregulate our own feelings. It's NOT me that causes problems in others. It was your mistreatment of me. It's the omissions more than the comissions that hurt me and are not visibly seen by most everyone. Oh how sad, but how true. It's real and the victims of narcissistic abuse are even more victimized when they speak up. 😔 😟
Thank you. I always suspected that FREEZE responses where learned from abuse. You can learn this as an adult too.
I spend 35 years of my age managing with my narcassist parents.
Profoundly true.
I was diagnosed with RA a few years ago which is an auto immune problem and wondering if this is how my body has dealt with so much "freezing" in response to trauma due to dealing with a narcissistic mother my entire life- I actually was caring for her for over 5 years after she was diagnosed with Alzheimers and it was the worst 5 years of my life - last year my narcissistic sister took her to another state to live with her saying it was her turn to care for her, it only lasted for 2 months before my sister put her in a home after getting POA over her entire estate- she promptly called me and said there would be no inheritance for me-lol, I told her I could honestly care less about the money but that she better make sure Mom was taken care of- they have both been out of my life for almost 7 months now (because I stopped ALL contact) and my RA is much better as is my attitude! Sometimes I get tempted to reach out to them then I think to myself, now why would I do that, they will only make me feel unloved and worthless! So, I don't, and life is SO much better. The other piece for me has been about forgiveness and not holding a grudge against them or anyone who has hurt me- I really am just letting it go and trusting God about everything. For the first time in my life, I really do feel love and accepted for who I am. That's because I found Jesus, accepted Him and believe in Him and read God's word every day now. Anything I need help with, I just ask the Holy Spirit and I am never alone because the Lord is with me always- He totally loves me! Amen!
Yes, I have this experience but with adult kid.
So what should we do to CONNECT with that ENERGY lying beneath the surface?
Another great video.
Been on freeze for 30 years
Thank you. I've been searching for this. I saw freeze response daily and you cleared this up for me.
Great video, as usual.
Thank you.
That was very well explained.
I had a uncle (not blood) that was very abusive. I didn't know at the time that he was a narcissist. But he was brutal. His wife and kids were terrified of him. His wife, my aunt even joined in in abusing their girls. I guess it was if you can't beat them, join them kind of thing. But everybody would be laughing one minute and one of the girls would say something completely innocent and piss off one of their parents and that got them a slap across the face. When my aunt did it, that startled me more than her husband ranting.
But he always hated it that I didn't cower down to him like his wife and kids did.
He hated it that I was never afraid of him. I'm not sure why, but I never was.
And when he came at me, I stayed very calm even at 9 years old and quietly took my little brother by the hand and left his house after he flipped him in the air and he landed on the couch. He was yelling at us as we were leaving and I never said a word to him. I just gave him an eat crap look and kept walking.
Then when I was 13 he was blasting his wife up one side and down the other calling her stupid. Then came into the bedroom where all of us girls were (I was trying to make them laugh while he was ranting), and he bolted in there and looked straight at me and said "You ready for yours???!!!" I just looked at him and said "My what?" So to save face, because I didn't cower to him or act the least bit afraid of him he said "Never mind, you're to stupid to understand." Then he slammed the door and left. I started laughing after he left.
But his girls would just freeze when he started up. You could see the pure terror on their faces.
My aunt has Crohn's Disease and I think it is from living with him for 60 years.
They apparently went to counseling and everything is hunky dory now.
But I think it's because he is old and tired and on oxygen and just doesn't have the energy to be nasty anymore. And if I never see him again, it will be too soon.
I avoid the bathroom and my body is suffering because I have to pass by someone who is always there outside the bathroom and always blames me for my constipation problems
I avoid the kitchen because I don’t want to be around her when I am trying to cook. She’s home 24 hours a day and comes out of her room anytime I go into the kitchen. It’s so incredibly annoying
This!! Thank you so much 🙏🙏
Like.the hair color change
my narcissistic mom said to me that not until I find help and let her have me on medication and act crazy will I be successful
Michelle, I am currently struggling with this, every time I have been successful in my life my family has become very abusing and I think, this time, they got me. I feel absolutely numb, uninterested about my life, I feel exhausted day in day out, which is putting me exactly in the position I should not be, near them, depending on them. I am an intelligent, ex lawyer, master degree, two languages, absolutely frozen, stuck in the freeze response. What’s the solution? I have found that I was so abuse that getting better and feeling happy triggers my CPTSD. Is there any way out? Healing? What should I do?
I dated a girl with freeze moment. I kissed her on the cheek she frooze. I told her that I liked her she frooze. I have allways wonder what that was. One of our first dates she told me that her parents should have divorced 20 years ago and that her brother was hospitalized. Today she avoids emotions. She is having fun and hooking up but she ALWAYS spending the night alone. She is been singel for 15 years + . She still visits her parents once a week. Feel sorry for her
What you should do is support her not feel sorry for her . Don’t expect to be physical with her . Be her friend and emotionally support her . People who have toxic parents don’t have a support system
You might not have noticed this Michele but you apologized for your arms. You were poisoned 🤢 and suffered and you apologized to us your friends your fans for it. That was not necessary. We are not looking at your beautiful arms. And saying look how gross those arms are. I'm sorry you suffered threw that. I'm sorry for you. Ok.. you are thinking about other people by makeing this video and worried about your appearance of it offends is. You are fine trust me. I'm praying for you.
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Thank You Michele
And good luck with the poison ivy
I’ve been wondering if my mom is the reason for my seizures. Because of what you’re talking about with the nervous system here. I’ve found she would provoke me and I would react then I would have a seizure and later on she would say “I knew something was up” because of how I reacted. So she was saying my reaction was cuz of my seizure disorder but she was poking and prodding me and then I’d have a seizure. I also found that she would ask where I was in my menstrual cycle which I thought was weird. I honestly think she would time her poking and prodding me to be around certain times so it would look like it was my cycle causing the seizures. We shall see soon! It’s been a little over a month since I cut her out of my life. She tried putting my grandma in the middle for a bit since she likes drama but I had to send her a text that me telling her I’m not talking to her doesn’t mean to send messages via a 3rd party, it means she is out of my life and I will not have any communication with her. So I need to give it some time and see if they improve without her in my life.
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What is freeze state mean?
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Girlfriend, those video clips are a mistake. You don’t need to trigger us even more. We come to you to heal but the clip of the young man going through trauma was too much. Please don’t do this again.
There was a warning at the start
I closed my eyes and just listened. It worked.